@@BrittanySimon haha typo! Yes Russel* he's so remarkably intelligent, his vocabulary is excellent and he's so good at interviews. When he met the Dalai Lama it was amazing - His Holiness was taking the complete piss out of him! 🤣
The thing is. It isnt an attack. It’s a state of tantrum. Literally a state of lost control. I’ve dealt with it. It is in that moment, when I feel the flood of extreme. I have to stop and realize I’m only hurting myself and the ones I love. That was my first goal. Don’t hurt anyone AND myself
My craziest moment, people broke into my house during this. They ransacked the home and broke into my sisters room. I stopped panicking and ran out. I had a butter knife from my frozen chicken dinner. I lost three teeth. My older sister heard me and fought. My parents heard us and came out with a gun.
Disclaimer, this is an oversimplified overview: Do you know about the neuroscience of bpd? Studies have shown that people with this diagnosis have an overactive amygdala (fight/flight centre) and an underactive prefrontal cortex (rational thinking part) which is why they can't think their way out of emotional reactions as easily. It's also what happens when you've experienced early trauma and many people are getting rediagnosed with complex ptsd. So what you've probably done, Brittany, by rigidly adhering to dbt principles and your other values and practices, is strengthen the helpful neural connections in your brain while letting the less helpful ones die off. So every time you're using the techniques you're giving your prefrontal cortex a workout that helps it calm down the amygdala, and not letting it take over.
He refused to use trans peoples pronouns and has been shown to have misunderstood some pretty basic academic theories. He isnt great regardless of his audience
@@101spacemonkey He protested against the government forcing people to use the preferred pronouns of gender non binary people. I’m sure that he as a clinical psychologist has nothing but sympathy for people with gender dysphoria or mental disorders. I’ve never heard him say anything that could be considered disparaging towards trans people. Him protesting bill c 16 was about freedom of speech.
@@101spacemonkey JBP starts by addressing people as they choose to present themselves, if there is an issue he’s open to addressing it. He’s against government FORCING what a citizen says. If a person suffers consequences for how they misuse a person’s pronouns, that’s fine in his view, JBP is against when the government is in charge of defining it.
@@101spacemonkey here's the thing you aren't understanding. You can't make the government make strangers be nice to you, especially if you are an off-putting person yourself. You may not see it this way, but demanding by force of law that people respect your pronouns is that demand that people be nice to you by government force. That's an absurd privilege that no one else gets, for good reason. Edit: grammar and youtube doesn't like the word sh*t for some reason.
I swear, one of the first things I did for myself when I started to recover from the worst of my mental illness was to make my bed every. Single. Morning. I was about 21 and I had only ever made my bed after I washed my sheets. It’s also funny to be reminded of the “clean your room” thing because I’m in the middle of the Big Declutter of 2021 now that I’m done with college and I can actually ..... live my life without deadlines hanging over my head all of the time 🥴
Honestly same, I cant even tell people how helpful cleaning my room everyday was for my mental health because of the huge “clean your room” meme that has become of Peterson’s book. I know it sounds silly but I don’t know what to tell ya other than it freaking helped me 100%. After my bed was made I no longer wanted to spend my entire day in it because it would mess it up, I also felt my mind clear in a clean environment. (Also, I’m aware he said “clean your room” as both a metaphor and tangible advice). I wish you nothing but good luck in this new period of your life 💓
"Before I became a mother-- before I become a mother." Freudian slip alert. Brittany's got a 2-year-old running around out of shot 👀 On the real, though, the point you made about people being unwilling to get better from their mire/mental illness was spot on. I find it strange when people put their diagnosis in their twitter bios, for example, because it's like... Your hold on this thing is so tight that it's literally the first thing you tell people about yourself ??? I think particularly when people are lacking in identity - _real identity_ - they'll hold onto anything - to the detriment of their actual growth, sadly.
I would say that some people do it to find a sense of community. For example, I put in my twitter bio, along with my other hobbies, that I have ASD. I know it's not everything about me, but being neurodivergent largely impacts my life.
Wow, I noticed something incredibly profound. At the moment when JP brings up leading people to water you walked looking for your own water. This is what Carl Jung termed as synchronicity. So truly wonderful to see this caught on camera. Motivates me to read more Jung
I am a subscriber of yours even since your channel used to be all about BDSM. I've seen you progress and easily remember a video where you said you've found your inner peace. Girl, I'm very proud of you. I have BPD and listening to someone who understands it really helps. Please, never stop educating people about it. I was properly diagnosed with BPD about 3-4yrs ago. I'm sooooo glad you're talking about it. Thank you. xoxo
You are a treasure! I suffered from extreme bouts of mania and depression all the way through my early twenties and jordan peterson helped me get through it. You are doing great work here, new subscriber here!
"The descriptors fit me so perfect it makes me feel seen" ...that describes my own inner thoughts perfectly, as I am just discovering my own borderline. Appreciate you being a voice for us 💚
Wow, thank you so much for this video. This hits right at home and it's good to know it won't be like this forever. Healing is the goal. Plus, I feel you about not wanting to have kids because of bpd. And it sounds like you have quiet bpd. Most people with bad outer borderline can't even hold down a job. But it sounds like you've got a head on your shoulders girl! I'm glad to see you thriving and getting better. So much love!!! 💖
Still binging your old videos while I do my SAHM stuff. Loved the line “sometimes we enable people long enough to just keep them alive” - reminds me of my mother. I enabled her constantly just to make sure she survived. She quickly passed away once the enabling from me finally stopped. Makes me wonder if enabling is always bad? Interesting thing to think about.
What you said about the (over) identification with BPD is so true. Thank you for speaking about this, and it's incredible to hear your success in recovery
This video spoke to me so, so much. Ive had the same kind of journey, I realised after an ego death incident about 5 years ago that my life was only gonna get better if I accepted that it was all up to me. I stopped telling myself I was just lost, someone or something else was gonna save me and said, I can make it happen, I can do anything as long as I focus on what is real and the power within me. Im about to accept my first job, and although I'm happy about it it's also set me off, so I was looking for some Jordan Peterson videos and came across this! It's incredible hearing someone who else who has survived! All of my respect to you 🖤
I recently watched his video, it's very insightful to hear your findings. Knowing how you tackle your goals in order to become a better person everyday is a joy to watch! Btw, can you do an update on the shroom situation? I've been looking into it but I love to hear your thoughts on the matter before I explore myself :)
Please do make a video on your borderline journey - I found you because my cousin has bpd and I was looking for some personal resources to help me understand her. Finding you was amazing 💜
that could've been worded better, "I used to be very against Jordan Peterson, but then when I received therapy for my mental illness I found him to be a lot more reasonable" :D
Brittany, I’ve been a subscriber for a while now and was just recently diagnosed with BPD. I’ve been in a deep hole for a while now since being given a diagnosis. The information you share in this video is the exact thing I needed to hear at the exact time I needed it. I’m just beginning DBT and hoping for the best but this is motivation to try harder. Thank you so much!
Found this video randomly, you're great and I'm definitely subscribing. I I really love your honesty and what you say about recovery; so many people want to normalise dwelling on it but they don't yet want to normalise recovery, cause recovery ain't easy. I think what JBP means when he says BPD is the female equivalent to antisocial behavioural disorder is simply referring to what he said about toddlers not being socialised properly by that age, for whatever reason - that women tend to go down the BPD route and men tend to go down the antisocial route, which he would most likely put down to differences in our affinity for certain personality traits.
I need more people in my life who tell me to “suck it up” the way you do. I just really enjoy your videos for that reason. It gets me out of my negative head space I’m too inclined towards.
I'm not educated on any of this don't know the difference between a lot of the mental disorders even said in this video but I definitely know I'm anti-social meeting new people gives me anxiety like no other don't think I'm borderline but then again have no true idea of all the things that make people borderline Definitely good to watch and learn things even if some are not always related to you. Great video btw
I really was thinking about this deeply last night... I have a struggle with being an artist and feeling if my art is not good enough, then I am not good enough. And when I start to like my work, I get very happy, go on a little walk, come back and immediately hate it. My ego is threatened by other artists that are the same age as me (even tho we have completely different styles.) It feels absolutely ugly so I have to find out what’s the root of this ugly, low self esteem I have. I self sabotage myself back into depression constantly and (it very much shows). And I know it’s an “artist” thing almost but tbh it’s a mental health thing for me. I’m not a confident person in most of my things (and it def shows with how I act. I’m a limp dick for the most part with an attitude at times). But I know deep down something from my childhood was missing. I feel something I had once (my endless positivity and enthusiasm) was sorta crushed. I want to rediscover that part in me for the new versions of myself. I wanna get back into therapy, but I can’t afford it just yet. I’ll keep searching though because I definitely need it.
I would love for you to make a video getting more in depth with your real experience with bpd. This channel has been nothing but healing for us who have gone through the struggles of this condition.❤️ So much love brittany!
Really cool to see your perspective on his talks. Your channel hopefully will only grow leaps and bounds from here! Great to see how far you’ve come based on your own description. Best of luck to your continued health and much love coming your way!
Wow this is powerful 💪Thank you for being brave to speak the truth about the mental health industry & the normalization of staying ill instead of getting healthy ❤
9:14 This is very important. 9:26 I know people who have that problem, they refuse to take steps to get better because of it. And when people close to them try to help in their recovery, they perceive it as an attack on their identity and become defensive and hostile.
Your commentary was beautiful and your humility made it shine . You will help so many with your views . As you said to another they will also " feel seen ". So impressed with what you said and even more so , how you said it . A blessing on a hill .
Amazing video as always! Kinda unrelated but I wanted to ask, have you watched Bojack Horseman? (comedy animated show on Netflix) I personally love the show, it's gotten a ton of praise for being a realistic and hard-hitting look at mental illness+life struggle, while also being totally goofy and light-hearted at times. I think it'd be so interesting to hear your perspective/opinion on the show
I haven't yet been diagnosed with BPD, however had long suspected it was something I might have had. I've been seeing different psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists and they seem to also believe BPD is more than likely what I've got. It's really difficult for me to have friendships, not because I'm bad at it, but because someone can be doing something with me for literal hours and we're having a great time, second they want to have a break, my anxiety goes through the roof and I assume they're only stopping because they don't like me, despite the fact we'd just spent hours together having a good time.. I'll then get overly upset, constantly seek validation from them and ultimately appear clingy. A lot of the time I'll also switch my feelings toward them.. i'll go from caring about someone deeply, to thinking they're the worst person in the world for simply wanting a couple hours of break.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 I honestly couldn't tell you. I'm guessing it's because its only been recently, so they might want more information before making a diagnoses.
Just a quick note but I've noticed that councillors, therapists and psychiatrists will bend over backwards to NOT diagnose women with NPD. I think this is a fundimental flaw as I personally know several female narcissists who either have been diagnosed BPD or depressed or some other shit. When if you know them day to day it's very blatantly narcissism and I don't know why this is. My theory is that narcissism is considered "evil" or malignant while BPD is not, BPD is viewed more like you can't take responsibility because you're not in full control. And people want to ascribe this kind of "loss of responsibility" onto women SO FUCKING BAD. And tbh I expect many women want that so they don't have to take accountability. I mean who wouldn't? It seems to be instinct to try to shrug off responsibility onto something else. Just a little observation that I find very interesting in the BPD, NPD debate
This is tricky, because narcassitic personality disorder is not just your friend being narcaccistic. It's a much deeper set of beliefs. I can behave narcasitically for sure, but that's more out of insensitivity and ignorance at times. I don't believe I'm actually superior. And if you just assumed well he's NPD because he's being narcassitic now, you would have conpletely been on the wrong course for treatment simply because I happened to be narcacistic in a moment. It just goes deeper than being seen as narcassitic or not. You're not wrong! I just don't think you're completely right either. It's a complicated one.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 I'm talking about how professionals will bend over backwards to NOT diagnose women with NPD. While in my own life I have seen egregious examples of female narcissism
100% relate to having a toxic, romantic relationship with my depression. In the midst of being in that lowest of lows, the depression made me believe that not only that there was no hope for me, but also that sick self loathing mindset is for the best, even better than those people that "pretend" to be so happy. Still now, I get little doses of that immense black hole and feel some sort of guilt for doing better. It's so interesting how the disease called depression will transform a mind. How you'll yearn for that "humbling", ceaseless self-hatred.
I find our lives very similar in many ways. I grew up in a similar cultural environment and we are not too similar in age. As a result I have a lot of the same interests as you, heck I even have similar tastes and sense of humor. Hearing you talking about BPD and healing has helped me beyond words. You inspire me to get help and to be gentle and understanding with myself. When you talked about the different versions of you (eg. default, bdsm, etc) I struggle with this big time. I will get to the point I try 20 things on in 20 different styles until I panic and just give up and push the panic away. I put on my I don't give a F what people think attitude (even though all I do is give all the Fs what everyone thinks) I feel like I disassociate and tell myself people don't think about you even a quarter as much as you think they do. I had a question, even though I have BPD I don't lack insight unless I'm having a manic episode. Though after I can see what led me there and how I was escalating the situation. Was your experience similar? I hear it both ways from others, probably due to the spectrum of BPD. I'd still love to hear your perspective on insight and BPD. Love you 😍💗
I'm not in the other side of borderline yet My interpersonal skills are great my emotional intelligence is pretty high . . .I dnt have mania or blow ups anymore .... much of the biggest problematic behaviours are resolved but I CANNOT get on the other side of this deep, deep depression that affects my quality of life.
Dang dude I’m impressed. I’m a little older than you but I hope to get as far along as you have gotten. Was recently diagnosed and I’m feeling more encouraged
Wow. Coming here after relapse recovery and... for the most part he's spot on. (Never thought I'd say that.) And I'm actually glad he admitted that he didn't know everything. Not a lot admit that, and even fewer are willing to treat bpd. It's a little refreshing. (Diagnosed in 2011) Also. Can't recommend DBT enough. Saved my life tbh.
When I saw the title for this video I was so skeptical - I thought you were going to try to pick apart JP’s clinical analysis and be a pseudo psychologist... but that’s not what you did at all! You are very impressive and intelligent, thoughtful about what really matters. Great job.
Is there a way to watch your earlier reaction to Dr. Peterson? P.S. I'm new to the channel but I'm so glad you're doing better now. More power to you!!
I like to think that starting out for people like you and I we can only save ourselves, but eventually when skills and bases are built, saving yourself should hopefully eventually mean saving others actively. I think that's our destiny in a way, to save others. But for us misfit toys, we gotta start with ourselves.
I think I'm meant to help people along their journey but not save them, they gotta do that themselves♡ I think when I'm old I'll be like Uncle Iroh, able to share wisdom as I gain it but I'll learn to keep a distance and allow others to do their thing🥰
You are absolutely incredible. I think in order to make motherhood happen, you'll need an incredibly strong network of mothers to support you along the way, and to care for the kids if you need time to recover or if your symptoms flair up
I appreciate this video and the insight and experience you've shared here. But I can also be quite shallow, so I'll just say that I love your outfit. Anyway, glad to see you doing so much better. Keep up the good work and stay healthy. I hope your life will keep going uphill.
I am curious what you would say about my situation. I am 51 years old I was told I had traits of bpd for Yeats years by psychiatrist saw for depression and then bipolar type 2. None of them explained what it was or told me what to do about it. So I ignored it for most of my 40's. Before 40 I had the traits but I would say I fit the quiet borderline. So no one not even me knew what was happening. I recently tried dbt with a new therapist . I found dbt to be completely overwhelming and so daunting it took me 2 months to even start the workbook. I only got through the first chapter and when I looked at the next exercise again not just overwhelmed but very triggering with the actual trauma that happened when I was 4 to 5 years old. What makes it worse is I am living with my mum I can't support my self financially on my own. My mum was part of the trauma by abandoning me at 4 or 5 leaving me with my toxic father and stepmother. Now am trying to get better but living with my mum might be why I am struggling. She refuses to learn about bpd or seek support for herself. I have accepted that I can't force her to do that. I would like to leave and try to tackle things without her enabling be to be dependant on her. I am still trying to work on the bpd through a great workbook by Dr Daniel Fox who specialises in bpd. He has a RUclips channel. Do you think I can get better still living with my mum on disability with no ability to work. It is so hard to unlearn all of this at my age all the people I keep seeing who rave about dbt are young people who haven't had this intrenched in them for so long. I am going back to my cbt therapist end of July. I trust her so much I think she can help me better while working on this workbook with me. What do you think?
As someone else living with BPD, I don't have one triggering traumatic event. I believe I was formed by smaller events that on the surface may not be so traumatic but when put together created something. So sometimes looking for "the event" just isn't beneficial. But this is my case, just showing there is variety.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 the reclassification is complex ptsd which means trauma over time or repeated events compared to a one off that can cause PTSD
Is there a good argument for making that change? There seems to be an obvious (though maybe changeable) social connotation which accompanies that change. If you tell people that "they are broken because of trauma," it may be easier for people to choose not to actually address their issues in a constructive way. Instead they may choose to accept this uncritically and believe their life will be wallowing in their past traumas instead of doing the hard work of personal and mental reformation.
I self treated BPD 5 years ago inside my own home in a single evening. I lost "the anger" that night that kept me almost exclusively emotionally numb from everything but my fear of getting in trouble, major bodily trauma, or fear of death. I began to mature over time much faster than what is normally capable of a person with BPD. I think a big part of this was going out into the world after "self treatment" and having positive social interaction. This happened when I was 30 by the way. The only problem with my method of treating BPD, was that without having the emotional capacity to deal with any of the psychologically traumatic situations in my life upto then, now that I no longer had this anger based numbness, I was literally thrust into a situation where I was overwhelmed from suddenly dealing with everything I never had the feelings to process up until that point in life. Some of this was repressed childhood abuse memories, some of it was the stress of going to war as an US Army Infantryman in the Iraq war. I left the work force for years after this to process all of these things and try to mature.
Hey Brittany, I’ve started reading philosophy and am currently reading Plato: Early Socrates Dialogues, my first philosophy book, it’s great so far and I’m taking a lot of notes, but I get confused very often, there are so many big words I don’t know, and some concepts just don’t make any sense to me. Is it okay if I watch video essays on the books while or after I am reading them, or would it be better to just form my own opinions on the readings even if I feel like they are wrong?
I don't know whether I agree that it's our duty to be well adjusted for our fellow human beings, this notion that we're broken and have no redeeming qualities and we must "recover" I reject that. I've been in therapy for a couple of years. It's been helpful and I’m working to improve myself, however I must also say that a lot of my positive traits are due to living with BDP or surviving it. I say this because a lot of BPD people feel like they have zero value unless they heal and become “normal”. That’s wrong. BPDs are resilient, empathetic with other people who suffer, passionate, romantic, inventive and courageous. It’s about channeling those emotions into positive things, of course grounded in reality. So the hell with that.
I think you should combine the thoughts. Take the good from BPD and remove the bad. That's recovery. We never lose what we learn from being sick, only gain the wisdom to know the difference between being sick and learning from our sickness.
But what about the people who have some disorders and have to take medication for the anxiety and the disorders for the rest of their life does that mean that having a child no matter what would be a bad choice for them
No, not at all. I will never cure my Borderline, so I have to extra prepare to be a mom. There will be challenges that I will have that are specific to my disorder. We can only ever do our best.
I appreciate your response for this particular video of his, especially because years back I criticised this exact video. I did not change my mind though, him saying bordeline is the female version of anti-social disorder is simply wrong, men can have this disorder as well, so it doesn't make any sense. There are a lot of other instances where he seems totally oblivious of contemporan psychology and how psychology has developed over the years. He seems stuck in this Jungian school of thought(analytical psychology)and even though this type of approach helped the evolution of psychology today, most of it is outdated and plain wrong. It's not about being offended, it's about the fact that this man is a fraud, yet he is considered a respectable source of information by many, especially conservative young men that see women as inferior. Their twisted belief system is supported and confirmed by Jordan's videos on the topic and his supposedly deep speeches fools those who are naive to think he is some sort of intelectual authority...yup, still a no for me.
I'm not here agreeing with him, but I am acknowledging as a man living with BPD, certainly here on youtube, for everyone one video by a male on the topic there is probably 4 or 5 female videos. Which is fine, but it obvious there is a big difference in who is talking about.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 A disparity in diagnosis is not necessarily due to a disparity in suffering. There are many conditions which have been gendered due to the way they've been studied, which has affected the way those conditions are spotted and diagnosed. For example, both adhd and autism have been primarily studied with young male subjects, which means that a lot of women don't get diagnosed until later in life than their male counterparts because a lot of signs and symptoms present different in girls vs boys.
This man is a fraud? He literally helped more people with his lectures than almost any other person I can think of in modern society. If you look at other people's youtube channels at his size, you will never find a comment section more positive and supportive than Jordan Petersons. If you don't like him, that's fine, but calling a man helping ppl sorting out their lives a fraud is so weird. There is more than one way to Rome, and the path Jordan picked seems to help many people figure out their ambitions and goals for themselves. A man who set out to do good, speaking what he believes to be true, should not be labeled a fraud even if u disagree with everything he says. Even if you are far to the left on the political specter, there are things you should agree with as they are so basic and obvious they must be true. Like being able to keep ur own bedroom in order before u set out on a mission to save the world. How can someone deny that, and how can someone be triggered by such a statement. If you can't keep yourself above water, how are you going to save anyone else? Being a political ideologue is so poisonous to the mind. You should never hate someone who makes people's lives better. Trying to deny that Jordan is a high-level intellectual is just dishonest. The man is incredibly articulate. My mother tongue is not English, so excuse me if I typed anything wrong.
I think this is the best video you've made. Thanks for your insights and motivation. Looking forward to your in depth borderline video. Side note, super hot outfit.
Jordan calling it the female ASPD was hilariously dumb. it’s over diagnosed in women for reasons like this, and ASPD is under diagnosed in women for similar assumptions.
I just want to say you are not "a borderline", you may be a person with a particular disorder, but that does not define you. You are so much more than that. But I am truly grateful for your insights and the work you are doing.
Idk if women encourage that kind of outfit but quality long-term men will disregard you immediately. Adding to that if you're common to one night stands, good men can sniff that out as well. Maybe nobody else will tell you but long term relationships are out of reach in like 5 maybe 10 years so.
“Moving on doesn’t mean you forget about things. It just means you have to accept what’s happened and continue living.” - Ezra Scarlet
Brittany have you ever watched Tussel Brand's channel on RUclips? I'd be interested to know how you view his social commentary and arguments.
@@vyvii3293 Russel Brand? Yes ♡ I do watch him. I enjoy his content.
@@BrittanySimon haha typo! Yes Russel* he's so remarkably intelligent, his vocabulary is excellent and he's so good at interviews. When he met the Dalai Lama it was amazing - His Holiness was taking the complete piss out of him! 🤣
The thing is. It isnt an attack. It’s a state of tantrum. Literally a state of lost control.
I’ve dealt with it. It is in that moment, when I feel the flood of extreme. I have to stop and realize I’m only hurting myself and the ones I love.
That was my first goal. Don’t hurt anyone AND myself
My craziest moment, people broke into my house during this.
They ransacked the home and broke into my sisters room.
I stopped panicking and ran out. I had a butter knife from my frozen chicken dinner. I lost three teeth. My older sister heard me and fought. My parents heard us and came out with a gun.
Disclaimer, this is an oversimplified overview:
Do you know about the neuroscience of bpd? Studies have shown that people with this diagnosis have an overactive amygdala (fight/flight centre) and an underactive prefrontal cortex (rational thinking part) which is why they can't think their way out of emotional reactions as easily. It's also what happens when you've experienced early trauma and many people are getting rediagnosed with complex ptsd.
So what you've probably done, Brittany, by rigidly adhering to dbt principles and your other values and practices, is strengthen the helpful neural connections in your brain while letting the less helpful ones die off. So every time you're using the techniques you're giving your prefrontal cortex a workout that helps it calm down the amygdala, and not letting it take over.
Thanks lol
I was about to go off on my Neuro rant too but now I dnt really have too haha
I have a bloody bad headache too
Thank you so much for sharing this - what an interesting and useful bit of info.
“Don’t judge a person by their audience” is so extremely important and 100% encapsulates how I feel about JBP
He refused to use trans peoples pronouns and has been shown to have misunderstood some pretty basic academic theories. He isnt great regardless of his audience
@@101spacemonkey Which basic academic theories?
@@101spacemonkey He protested against the government forcing people to use the preferred pronouns of gender non binary people. I’m sure that he as a clinical psychologist has nothing but sympathy for people with gender dysphoria or mental disorders. I’ve never heard him say anything that could be considered disparaging towards trans people. Him protesting bill c 16 was about freedom of speech.
@@101spacemonkey JBP starts by addressing people as they choose to present themselves, if there is an issue he’s open to addressing it. He’s against government FORCING what a citizen says. If a person suffers consequences for how they misuse a person’s pronouns, that’s fine in his view, JBP is against when the government is in charge of defining it.
@@101spacemonkey here's the thing you aren't understanding. You can't make the government make strangers be nice to you, especially if you are an off-putting person yourself. You may not see it this way, but demanding by force of law that people respect your pronouns is that demand that people be nice to you by government force. That's an absurd privilege that no one else gets, for good reason.
Edit: grammar and youtube doesn't like the word sh*t for some reason.
I swear, one of the first things I did for myself when I started to recover from the worst of my mental illness was to make my bed every. Single. Morning. I was about 21 and I had only ever made my bed after I washed my sheets. It’s also funny to be reminded of the “clean your room” thing because I’m in the middle of the Big Declutter of 2021 now that I’m done with college and I can actually ..... live my life without deadlines hanging over my head all of the time 🥴
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Honestly same, I cant even tell people how helpful cleaning my room everyday was for my mental health because of the huge “clean your room” meme that has become of Peterson’s book. I know it sounds silly but I don’t know what to tell ya other than it freaking helped me 100%. After my bed was made I no longer wanted to spend my entire day in it because it would mess it up, I also felt my mind clear in a clean environment. (Also, I’m aware he said “clean your room” as both a metaphor and tangible advice).
I wish you nothing but good luck in this new period of your life 💓
For me it was dishes. Always doing dishes. Repetitive tasks are more helpful than people realise
Woahhh that harness!!
Its stunning. She has such great style.
@@vyvii3293 omg thanks girl!
"Before I became a mother-- before I become a mother." Freudian slip alert. Brittany's got a 2-year-old running around out of shot 👀
On the real, though, the point you made about people being unwilling to get better from their mire/mental illness was spot on. I find it strange when people put their diagnosis in their twitter bios, for example, because it's like... Your hold on this thing is so tight that it's literally the first thing you tell people about yourself ??? I think particularly when people are lacking in identity - _real identity_ - they'll hold onto anything - to the detriment of their actual growth, sadly.
Exactly, what and how people share on social media is telling. It's interesting what parts of ourselves we cling to and try to protect.
I would say that some people do it to find a sense of community. For example, I put in my twitter bio, along with my other hobbies, that I have ASD. I know it's not everything about me, but being neurodivergent largely impacts my life.
Wow, I noticed something incredibly profound. At the moment when JP brings up leading people to water you walked looking for your own water. This is what Carl Jung termed as synchronicity. So truly wonderful to see this caught on camera. Motivates me to read more Jung
That's also called Mirroring a person.copying what they say or do subconsciously.
I am a subscriber of yours even since your channel used to be all about BDSM. I've seen you progress and easily remember a video where you said you've found your inner peace. Girl, I'm very proud of you. I have BPD and listening to someone who understands it really helps. Please, never stop educating people about it. I was properly diagnosed with BPD about 3-4yrs ago. I'm sooooo glad you're talking about it. Thank you. xoxo
Thank you so much, girl! Happy health :)
Often when living in denial the truth is an attack. I imagine BPD to be a similar situation
You are a treasure! I suffered from extreme bouts of mania and depression all the way through my early twenties and jordan peterson helped me get through it. You are doing great work here, new subscriber here!
"The descriptors fit me so perfect it makes me feel seen"
...that describes my own inner thoughts perfectly, as I am just discovering my own borderline. Appreciate you being a voice for us 💚
Wow, thank you so much for this video. This hits right at home and it's good to know it won't be like this forever. Healing is the goal. Plus, I feel you about not wanting to have kids because of bpd. And it sounds like you have quiet bpd. Most people with bad outer borderline can't even hold down a job. But it sounds like you've got a head on your shoulders girl! I'm glad to see you thriving and getting better. So much love!!! 💖
Still binging your old videos while I do my SAHM stuff. Loved the line “sometimes we enable people long enough to just keep them alive” - reminds me of my mother. I enabled her constantly just to make sure she survived. She quickly passed away once the enabling from me finally stopped. Makes me wonder if enabling is always bad? Interesting thing to think about.
Dope video. It's great to hear your joy. "Make Friends with people who want the best for you" Jordan Peterson
What you said about the (over) identification with BPD is so true. Thank you for speaking about this, and it's incredible to hear your success in recovery
This video spoke to me so, so much. Ive had the same kind of journey, I realised after an ego death incident about 5 years ago that my life was only gonna get better if I accepted that it was all up to me. I stopped telling myself I was just lost, someone or something else was gonna save me and said, I can make it happen, I can do anything as long as I focus on what is real and the power within me.
Im about to accept my first job, and although I'm happy about it it's also set me off, so I was looking for some Jordan Peterson videos and came across this! It's incredible hearing someone who else who has survived! All of my respect to you 🖤
I recently watched his video, it's very insightful to hear your findings. Knowing how you tackle your goals in order to become a better person everyday is a joy to watch! Btw, can you do an update on the shroom situation? I've been looking into it but I love to hear your thoughts on the matter before I explore myself :)
Yes ♡ For sure, I'll make a video on it.
Please do make a video on your borderline journey - I found you because my cousin has bpd and I was looking for some personal resources to help me understand her. Finding you was amazing 💜
Coming soon!
that could've been worded better, "I used to be very against Jordan Peterson, but then when I received therapy for my mental illness I found him to be a lot more reasonable" :D
Brittany, I’ve been a subscriber for a while now and was just recently diagnosed with BPD. I’ve been in a deep hole for a while now since being given a diagnosis. The information you share in this video is the exact thing I needed to hear at the exact time I needed it. I’m just beginning DBT and hoping for the best but this is motivation to try harder. Thank you so much!
You got this girl! Do your steps and it'll all help down the road. I believe in you♡
Thanks, that means a lot!
Found this video randomly, you're great and I'm definitely subscribing. I I really love your honesty and what you say about recovery; so many people want to normalise dwelling on it but they don't yet want to normalise recovery, cause recovery ain't easy. I think what JBP means when he says BPD is the female equivalent to antisocial behavioural disorder is simply referring to what he said about toddlers not being socialised properly by that age, for whatever reason - that women tend to go down the BPD route and men tend to go down the antisocial route, which he would most likely put down to differences in our affinity for certain personality traits.
I need more people in my life who tell me to “suck it up” the way you do. I just really enjoy your videos for that reason. It gets me out of my negative head space I’m too inclined towards.
I'm not educated on any of this don't know the difference between a lot of the mental disorders even said in this video but I definitely know I'm anti-social meeting new people gives me anxiety like no other don't think I'm borderline but then again have no true idea of all the things that make people borderline
Definitely good to watch and learn things even if some are not always related to you. Great video btw
I really was thinking about this deeply last night...
I have a struggle with being an artist and feeling if my art is not good enough, then I am not good enough. And when I start to like my work, I get very happy, go on a little walk, come back and immediately hate it. My ego is threatened by other artists that are the same age as me (even tho we have completely different styles.) It feels absolutely ugly so I have to find out what’s the root of this ugly, low self esteem I have. I self sabotage myself back into depression constantly and (it very much shows).
And I know it’s an “artist” thing almost but tbh it’s a mental health thing for me. I’m not a confident person in most of my things (and it def shows with how I act. I’m a limp dick for the most part with an attitude at times). But I know deep down something from my childhood was missing. I feel something I had once (my endless positivity and enthusiasm) was sorta crushed. I want to rediscover that part in me for the new versions of myself.
I wanna get back into therapy, but I can’t afford it just yet. I’ll keep searching though because I definitely need it.
I would love for you to make a video getting more in depth with your real experience with bpd. This channel has been nothing but healing for us who have gone through the struggles of this condition.❤️ So much love brittany!
Really cool to see your perspective on his talks. Your channel hopefully will only grow leaps and bounds from here! Great to see how far you’ve come based on your own description. Best of luck to your continued health and much love coming your way!
Wow this is powerful 💪Thank you for being brave to speak the truth about the mental health industry & the normalization of staying ill instead of getting healthy ❤
9:14 This is very important. 9:26
I know people who have that problem, they refuse to take steps to get better because of it. And when people close to them try to help in their recovery, they perceive it as an attack on their identity and become defensive and hostile.
Your commentary was beautiful and your humility made it shine . You will help so many with your views . As you said to another they will also " feel seen ". So impressed with what you said and even more so , how you said it . A blessing on a hill .
Amazing video as always! Kinda unrelated but I wanted to ask, have you watched Bojack Horseman? (comedy animated show on Netflix) I personally love the show, it's gotten a ton of praise for being a realistic and hard-hitting look at mental illness+life struggle, while also being totally goofy and light-hearted at times. I think it'd be so interesting to hear your perspective/opinion on the show
I have not seen it ♡
Bojack horseman is the piece of fiction that has touched me on a soul level harder than any other piece of fiction
I’m like he said. I struggle implementing solutions.
I haven't yet been diagnosed with BPD, however had long suspected it was something I might have had. I've been seeing different psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists and they seem to also believe BPD is more than likely what I've got.
It's really difficult for me to have friendships, not because I'm bad at it, but because someone can be doing something with me for literal hours and we're having a great time, second they want to have a break, my anxiety goes through the roof and I assume they're only stopping because they don't like me, despite the fact we'd just spent hours together having a good time.. I'll then get overly upset, constantly seek validation from them and ultimately appear clingy. A lot of the time I'll also switch my feelings toward them.. i'll go from caring about someone deeply, to thinking they're the worst person in the world for simply wanting a couple hours of break.
Just curious, if you agree and psychiatrists seem to agree, why has their been no diagnoses?
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 I honestly couldn't tell you. I'm guessing it's because its only been recently, so they might want more information before making a diagnoses.
Just a quick note but I've noticed that councillors, therapists and psychiatrists will bend over backwards to NOT diagnose women with NPD. I think this is a fundimental flaw as I personally know several female narcissists who either have been diagnosed BPD or depressed or some other shit. When if you know them day to day it's very blatantly narcissism and I don't know why this is.
My theory is that narcissism is considered "evil" or malignant while BPD is not, BPD is viewed more like you can't take responsibility because you're not in full control. And people want to ascribe this kind of "loss of responsibility" onto women SO FUCKING BAD. And tbh I expect many women want that so they don't have to take accountability. I mean who wouldn't? It seems to be instinct to try to shrug off responsibility onto something else.
Just a little observation that I find very interesting in the BPD, NPD debate
This is tricky, because narcassitic personality disorder is not just your friend being narcaccistic.
It's a much deeper set of beliefs. I can behave narcasitically for sure, but that's more out of insensitivity and ignorance at times.
I don't believe I'm actually superior. And if you just assumed well he's NPD because he's being narcassitic now, you would have conpletely been on the wrong course for treatment simply because I happened to be narcacistic in a moment.
It just goes deeper than being seen as narcassitic or not.
You're not wrong! I just don't think you're completely right either. It's a complicated one.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 i'm fully aware of that I'm not saying this lightly at all
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 I'm judging on long term patterns of behaviour
@@basedcentrist3056 I'm just a bit confused, you're the one determing they are narcaccistic or you're talking about others diagnosing that?
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 I'm talking about how professionals will bend over backwards to NOT diagnose women with NPD. While in my own life I have seen egregious examples of female narcissism
Oh my god I feel like you live in my head! I actually wanted to ask you this! So glad you answered it, Thanks xx
No symptoms for the years... that made me cry but like of joy
Congrats on recovery, keep up the good work.
Thank you🥰
100% relate to having a toxic, romantic relationship with my depression. In the midst of being in that lowest of lows, the depression made me believe that not only that there was no hope for me, but also that sick self loathing mindset is for the best, even better than those people that "pretend" to be so happy. Still now, I get little doses of that immense black hole and feel some sort of guilt for doing better. It's so interesting how the disease called depression will transform a mind. How you'll yearn for that "humbling", ceaseless self-hatred.
every episode I come to appreciate your existence more and more. i'm so glad we are alive at the same time!
I find our lives very similar in many ways. I grew up in a similar cultural environment and we are not too similar in age. As a result I have a lot of the same interests as you, heck I even have similar tastes and sense of humor. Hearing you talking about BPD and healing has helped me beyond words. You inspire me to get help and to be gentle and understanding with myself. When you talked about the different versions of you (eg. default, bdsm, etc) I struggle with this big time. I will get to the point I try 20 things on in 20 different styles until I panic and just give up and push the panic away. I put on my I don't give a F what people think attitude (even though all I do is give all the Fs what everyone thinks) I feel like I disassociate and tell myself people don't think about you even a quarter as much as you think they do. I had a question, even though I have BPD I don't lack insight unless I'm having a manic episode. Though after I can see what led me there and how I was escalating the situation. Was your experience similar? I hear it both ways from others, probably due to the spectrum of BPD. I'd still love to hear your perspective on insight and BPD. Love you 😍💗
I'm not in the other side of borderline yet
My interpersonal skills are great my emotional intelligence is pretty high . . .I dnt have mania or blow ups anymore .... much of the biggest problematic behaviours are resolved but I CANNOT get on the other side of this deep, deep depression that affects my quality of life.
Based on what I see from your comments, I think you'll get there and when you do it'll be great!
💜 thanks
Dang dude I’m impressed. I’m a little older than you but I hope to get as far along as you have gotten. Was recently diagnosed and I’m feeling more encouraged
Wow. Coming here after relapse recovery and... for the most part he's spot on. (Never thought I'd say that.) And I'm actually glad he admitted that he didn't know everything. Not a lot admit that, and even fewer are willing to treat bpd. It's a little refreshing. (Diagnosed in 2011)
Also. Can't recommend DBT enough. Saved my life tbh.
Peterson is right. Set your boundaries and help only if you see the person is willing to help themselves. It's hard but possible. ❤
When I saw the title for this video I was so skeptical - I thought you were going to try to pick apart JP’s clinical analysis and be a pseudo psychologist... but that’s not what you did at all! You are very impressive and intelligent, thoughtful about what really matters. Great job.
DB > DBZ
Not afraid to admit I'm down with quite a bit of GT, either.
Is there a way to watch your earlier reaction to Dr. Peterson?
P.S. I'm new to the channel but I'm so glad you're doing better now. More power to you!!
It's private now. Most of my older content is private. Sorry ♡
@@BrittanySimon no need to be 💖 thank you for the reply 🙏🥰
I like to think that starting out for people like you and I we can only save ourselves, but eventually when skills and bases are built, saving yourself should hopefully eventually mean saving others actively.
I think that's our destiny in a way, to save others. But for us misfit toys, we gotta start with ourselves.
I think I'm meant to help people along their journey but not save them, they gotta do that themselves♡ I think when I'm old I'll be like Uncle Iroh, able to share wisdom as I gain it but I'll learn to keep a distance and allow others to do their thing🥰
I've have some baddd temper tantrums in my early 20s
Ugh.
You are absolutely incredible. I think in order to make motherhood happen, you'll need an incredibly strong network of mothers to support you along the way, and to care for the kids if you need time to recover or if your symptoms flair up
100% I am Middle Eastern and have great sister-in-laws. We believe in family being there for each other for those moments :)
This video was everything. Thank you for sharing your heart and your soul. Gratitude. ❤️
I appreciate this video and the insight and experience you've shared here. But I can also be quite shallow, so I'll just say that I love your outfit. Anyway, glad to see you doing so much better. Keep up the good work and stay healthy. I hope your life will keep going uphill.
Excellent in sharing this. Thank you.
I enjoyed this video so much! Thank you for sharing
This really resonated with me. Thank you.
He looks like a bond villain with that lighting lmao
I am curious what you would say about my situation. I am 51 years old I was told I had traits of bpd for Yeats years by psychiatrist saw for depression and then bipolar type 2. None of them explained what it was or told me what to do about it. So I ignored it for most of my 40's. Before 40 I had the traits but I would say I fit the quiet borderline. So no one not even me knew what was happening. I recently tried dbt with a new therapist . I found dbt to be completely overwhelming and so daunting it took me 2 months to even start the workbook. I only got through the first chapter and when I looked at the next exercise again not just overwhelmed but very triggering with the actual trauma that happened when I was 4 to 5 years old. What makes it worse is I am living with my mum I can't support my self financially on my own. My mum was part of the trauma by abandoning me at 4 or 5 leaving me with my toxic father and stepmother. Now am trying to get better but living with my mum might be why I am struggling. She refuses to learn about bpd or seek support for herself. I have accepted that I can't force her to do that. I would like to leave and try to tackle things without her enabling be to be dependant on her. I am still trying to work on the bpd through a great workbook by Dr Daniel Fox who specialises in bpd. He has a RUclips channel. Do you think I can get better still living with my mum on disability with no ability to work. It is so hard to unlearn all of this at my age all the people I keep seeing who rave about dbt are young people who haven't had this intrenched in them for so long. I am going back to my cbt therapist end of July. I trust her so much I think she can help me better while working on this workbook with me. What do you think?
What is your opinion on the idea that EUPD/BPD should be reclassified as a (response to trauma)?
As someone else living with BPD, I don't have one triggering traumatic event. I believe I was formed by smaller events that on the surface may not be so traumatic but when put together created something.
So sometimes looking for "the event" just isn't beneficial. But this is my case, just showing there is variety.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 the reclassification is complex ptsd which means trauma over time or repeated events compared to a one off that can cause PTSD
Is there a good argument for making that change? There seems to be an obvious (though maybe changeable) social connotation which accompanies that change. If you tell people that "they are broken because of trauma," it may be easier for people to choose not to actually address their issues in a constructive way. Instead they may choose to accept this uncritically and believe their life will be wallowing in their past traumas instead of doing the hard work of personal and mental reformation.
This is so encouraging you've just given me the motivation to get better
I self treated BPD 5 years ago inside my own home in a single evening. I lost "the anger" that night that kept me almost exclusively emotionally numb from everything but my fear of getting in trouble, major bodily trauma, or fear of death. I began to mature over time much faster than what is normally capable of a person with BPD. I think a big part of this was going out into the world after "self treatment" and having positive social interaction.
This happened when I was 30 by the way. The only problem with my method of treating BPD, was that without having the emotional capacity to deal with any of the psychologically traumatic situations in my life upto then, now that I no longer had this anger based numbness, I was literally thrust into a situation where I was overwhelmed from suddenly dealing with everything I never had the feelings to process up until that point in life. Some of this was repressed childhood abuse memories, some of it was the stress of going to war as an US Army Infantryman in the Iraq war. I left the work force for years after this to process all of these things and try to mature.
Damn this video just hits.
I'm so glad ♡
Loving your content. Just wanted to say that. Sending love and light to you and yours 💜
Hey Brittany, I’ve started reading philosophy and am currently reading Plato: Early Socrates Dialogues, my first philosophy book, it’s great so far and I’m taking a lot of notes, but I get confused very often, there are so many big words I don’t know, and some concepts just don’t make any sense to me. Is it okay if I watch video essays on the books while or after I am reading them, or would it be better to just form my own opinions on the readings even if I feel like they are wrong?
Whichever decision you make will be the right one ♡
Form a wrong opinion! But keep exploring it, because that's the only path to forming the right one!
I would recommend Dr Gregory Sadler on RUclips.
I don't know whether I agree that it's our duty to be well adjusted for our fellow human beings, this notion that we're broken and have no redeeming qualities and we must "recover" I reject that. I've been in therapy for a couple of years. It's been helpful and I’m working to improve myself, however I must also say that a lot of my positive traits are due to living with BDP or surviving it. I say this because a lot of BPD people feel like they have zero value unless they heal and become “normal”. That’s wrong. BPDs are resilient, empathetic with other people who suffer, passionate, romantic, inventive and courageous. It’s about channeling those emotions into positive things, of course grounded in reality. So the hell with that.
I think you should combine the thoughts. Take the good from BPD and remove the bad. That's recovery. We never lose what we learn from being sick, only gain the wisdom to know the difference between being sick and learning from our sickness.
That's a cool looking outfit!
Thanks!
@@BrittanySimon you're very welcome!
Nothing more dangerous then a little bit of knowledge.
So happy for you! 💪🏼
Great video and such an epic ending!
Hey Britanny, have you watched Arcane and can you comment on it?
I think its a great series, humanising all different kinds of humans
Thanks for being a great example!
A Borderline ? You’re not a diagnosis
There was no little song at the end credits. :(
Sorry!!!!😭😭😭
But what about the people who have some disorders and have to take medication for the anxiety and the disorders for the rest of their life does that mean that having a child no matter what would be a bad choice for them
No, not at all. I will never cure my Borderline, so I have to extra prepare to be a mom. There will be challenges that I will have that are specific to my disorder.
We can only ever do our best.
@@BrittanySimon I think one thing I would be scared of is my disorders some how being passed on to the baby if I decide to have one
@@conradkorbol thank you
What a time to find u again xx
It's your two year mark! I hope you're maintaining!
Thank you. 😊
Radical idealisation and devaluation of people, sounds like your tendancy to adress a number to people, based on your philosophy.
I appreciate your response for this particular video of his, especially because years back I criticised this exact video. I did not change my mind though, him saying bordeline is the female version of anti-social disorder is simply wrong, men can have this disorder as well, so it doesn't make any sense. There are a lot of other instances where he seems totally oblivious of contemporan psychology and how psychology has developed over the years. He seems stuck in this Jungian school of thought(analytical psychology)and even though this type of approach helped the evolution of psychology today, most of it is outdated and plain wrong. It's not about being offended, it's about the fact that this man is a fraud, yet he is considered a respectable source of information by many, especially conservative young men that see women as inferior. Their twisted belief system is supported and confirmed by Jordan's videos on the topic and his supposedly deep speeches fools those who are naive to think he is some sort of intelectual authority...yup, still a no for me.
I'm not here agreeing with him, but I am acknowledging as a man living with BPD, certainly here on youtube, for everyone one video by a male on the topic there is probably 4 or 5 female videos.
Which is fine, but it obvious there is a big difference in who is talking about.
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 A disparity in diagnosis is not necessarily due to a disparity in suffering. There are many conditions which have been gendered due to the way they've been studied, which has affected the way those conditions are spotted and diagnosed. For example, both adhd and autism have been primarily studied with young male subjects, which means that a lot of women don't get diagnosed until later in life than their male counterparts because a lot of signs and symptoms present different in girls vs boys.
This man is a fraud? He literally helped more people with his lectures than almost any other person I can think of in modern society. If you look at other people's youtube channels at his size, you will never find a comment section more positive and supportive than Jordan Petersons. If you don't like him, that's fine, but calling a man helping ppl sorting out their lives a fraud is so weird. There is more than one way to Rome, and the path Jordan picked seems to help many people figure out their ambitions and goals for themselves. A man who set out to do good, speaking what he believes to be true, should not be labeled a fraud even if u disagree with everything he says. Even if you are far to the left on the political specter, there are things you should agree with as they are so basic and obvious they must be true. Like being able to keep ur own bedroom in order before u set out on a mission to save the world. How can someone deny that, and how can someone be triggered by such a statement. If you can't keep yourself above water, how are you going to save anyone else? Being a political ideologue is so poisonous to the mind. You should never hate someone who makes people's lives better. Trying to deny that Jordan is a high-level intellectual is just dishonest. The man is incredibly articulate. My mother tongue is not English, so excuse me if I typed anything wrong.
I think he realizes he has a couvert bunch of bpd traits,it seems like he avoids the topic maybe cause of the stigma of a bpd clinician...
I think this is the best video you've made. Thanks for your insights and motivation. Looking forward to your in depth borderline video. Side note, super hot outfit.
Jordan calling it the female ASPD was hilariously dumb. it’s over diagnosed in women for reasons like this, and ASPD is under diagnosed in women for similar assumptions.
"quite insightful"!!! That's like saying Usain Bolt is a fairly decent runner.
hmmmm. good video. you are making good effort!
I try :)
Love you, Brit ❤️
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Respect 11:50 ish
11:35 🙌
Good got damn you’re gorgeous. And a spitting image of my ex. Including the bpd…let me focus lol
I just want to say you are not "a borderline", you may be a person with a particular disorder, but that does not define you. You are so much more than that. But I am truly grateful for your insights and the work you are doing.
Good job
Good luck to you
I thought every SJW skreetching in public had some issues. So i guess they might have Borderline, now it all makes sense. ^^
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Idk if women encourage that kind of outfit but quality long-term men will disregard you immediately. Adding to that if you're common to one night stands, good men can sniff that out as well.
Maybe nobody else will tell you but long term relationships are out of reach in like 5 maybe 10 years so.
Oh are you Jewish? I think I get it.
Thanks Dr Peterson!
@@thecanadianborderguard5215 lmaooo fuck that one got me
Brittany you are beautiful!
woooooo! good video.
Here's an idea: stop referring to yourself in the third person. It's not cute, it's not funny, it's childish and unappealing.
Thank god you had someone to pay for you. If you would have been born into some upbringings you would have had to just get on with life.
Love you, Brit ❤️