@@professorfoxtrotyeah… not interested in anyone’s son. Thanks though 😂 I think I’ll be just fine without them. It seems like you’re implying that humans must reproduce or die. I’m not interested in reproducing either. Plenty of other people are having way too many kids.
Gotta love the irony that a mother, the female parent, wants a son because she's interested in monster trucks and wrestling more than "girly" things, but cannot fathom a world where she could share those interests with her daughter because "girls don't like that stuff"
Mom is right. Girls don't like monster trucks. Feminists simply want to ruin the childhood of every boy by taking away their rocketships and their dreams. This is because feminists are resentful of their life choices.
@@professorfoxtrotanother comment longer than four words and still no fucking sense. Is your source "trust me"? What choices? Category "The mysteries of mankind", as my people say.
i think thats whats always weirded me out the most about the whole concept of gender reveals, cuz parents will use that info to dictate what life they think theyre gonna have based on nothing but their genitals, just weird
Yeah that very much read to me as "I don't care enough about my daughter to notice any of her interests" Possibly a combination with the expectation that every woman and girl is supposed to be into fashion and makeup, thus they don't register as "proper interests" to the mom
@@pineapplepapercrafts Exactly like she couldn't have bought her some new makeup sets or maybe some limited edition stuff cause clearly she has the money to do it with her buying a whole car
The "doing ___ for my kid so they don't accept your son/daughter doing ___" trend started off actually cute and healthy. The earliest videos I saw of that trend were things like "taking my daughter on tea dates so she doesn't accept your son doing the bare minimum" or "teaching my son to journal when he's upset so he doesn't take his emotions out on your daughter." It doesn't have to be gross, but boy moms made it that way
Yes I remember that too! It was mainly from dads spending quality time with their daughters to teach them to expect more from their future partners. It was refreshing to see and then the boy-moms just took it over 😑
I remember that! I think the trend could have been such a cute and healthy thing about teaching HEALTHY coping skills. Things like " teaching my kid how to control they emotions in a healthy way, so they don't take it out on other people" or " teaching my child that violence in relationships isn't healthy, and communicating it important "
Bet you, the daughter whose mum bought her male twin a car has more interests than fashion and makeup (still amazing interests) but doesn't pay enough attention to her to know that.
Even so! The cheapest used car is 15,000 that compared to 300 bucks is wild. And maybe if she went out with her daughter to buy makeup or clothes then her daughter wouldn’t be upset.
My mother had three daughters, no sons. Our house was full of pink and flowers, we read anne of green gables, and watched princess movies. I had fairy print wall paper and polly pockets. My mom reviled in the girlyness. It makes me so sad how much we put down little girls. Little girls are delightful. Running in the backyard in a princess dress and muddy feet. Tea parties with apple juice. Dolls playing out royal dramas. Girlhood is so precious. Let's celebrate it more. Edit- so this was supposed to be a run little post. A tribute to my childhood. Because people are just kind of mean to little girls, cuz misogyny ya know, but I have now been called both transphobic and not transphobic enough in the replies lmao. Just goes to show you that if someone is intent on not liking you they'll find a reason. All the more reason to just enjoy your day and have a silly goofy time not being a dick.
It always makes me smile a little whenever I read someone else’s wildly different experience with girlhood. I was the tomboy, who ran around in cargo shorts and tees with a pocket knife at six and making little spears and forts in the back yard with my best friend (another girl). We played dragons and princesses where I was the loyal dragon who kept her, the princess, safe to go on adventures with, and lions because we were both little girls and lioness hunt. It was a lot of fun, growing up where the neighborhood wasn’t finished so we could ride our bikes down to half built lots in the summers, and put up little structures. I don’t have any siblings, and I don’t have kids (though I do want them, one day) but I can’t… imagine valuing any child over another to this… very odd extent. I’m slightly paranoid I might do something wrong because I am still a tomboy, and I know some of my brashness is because my mom’s one as well. I wouldn’t ever mean to not allow a kid of mine to love pink or what have you. And would work really hard to not do that to my kids because it would be awfully unfair to them as people.
@@CrisjolaOh! I was also a tomboy(I mean I did end up being trans ftm but... Still)! I remember being made fun of for being friends with almost exclusively other tomboys or boys, and running around outside looking for things in the dirt since I lived on a sheep ranch and there were plenty of things laying around
@@irishalchemyI love Orca whales and a classmate loved penguins so when we played tag i would specifically target him and pretend to be hunting down my prey. Dont think he had any idea.
i don’t have kids but i nanny a ton. these kind of parents are absolutely terrifying. why are you thinking about your sons future partner when he’s not even capable of viewing another person in that light? it’s absolutely WILD.
@@professorfoxtrot I am a parent. I agree with Margaret. Small children need to be taught how to care for themselves emotionally and physically before you even start to think about how to teach them to behave in partnerships. Not to mention, setting expectations for future relationships is not the same as teaching children how to respect and be respected.
I was babysitting for a family, and the mom got her son a fake sink so he could wash fake dishes. NOT because she didn't want him to be impressed by a future partner, but because "more little boys should know how to wash dishes."
@@clowneryAscended Teach your son how to cut wood, use a lawn mower, hunt etc. Dishes? Jesus. The reason why so many of these boys are confused about their actual gender is because these woke parents try to feminize them.
It's so concerning how the teenage boy who spent his birthday with his girlfriend has been telling her that he has a bad home life, and the mother dismisses it as "attention seeking." Even if he WAS lying for attention, she should be deeply disturbed that her own kid needed attention so badly that he was lying about abuse. But the fact that she's immediately dismissed it as ridiculous and then launched into a story about him being disrespectful for not spending his birthday with her makes it obvious that he wasn't lying.
@@SelfdestructingwiiSigmund Freud, psychoanalyst most famous for his Oedipus complex, a phenomenon where kids have an attachment to the parent of the opposite sex and dislike towards parents of the same sex In this case, it's expressed by moms who have an unhealthy attachment to their sons and disregard their daughters (or any little girl in their lives)
There are few things quite as disheartening as a boy mom whose internalized misogyny is mercilessly wielded against any woman she comes into contact with, whether it be the young woman in love with her son, or even the daughter(s) she may have
It’s not internalized misogyny. This needs to stop being used as a reason because it’s not. Women are inherently threatened by other women and need to actively pursue not being that way towards other women. Women are naturally clicky, and dislike outsiders. Nothing to do with misogyny. This is seen in almost every single culture.
How weird is it that the first woman talks about her children only in the context of view they benefit her. She loves her children because they reflect all versions of herself, but she especially loves her son because of how much he loves her
Most people who have kids have them for selfish reasons (want a mini me, want to continue their family line/hand down their name, want to prove how good a parent they'd be, want something to love them) but most people aren't comfortable having that conversation.
I honestly find her far scarier than the "I hate my sons future wife" type. Getting unconditional love is so vital when you're a little kid, and those girls are being raised to believe that they aren't worthy of it unless they provide complete, uncritical worship. Which is a horrible pattern for future relationships.
@@hospitable_ghosti don't think there is a non-selfish reason to have kids. It's not like you can ask them if they would like to be a person. I think people need to recognize and accept that and then try to be as selfless as possible and do right by the people they choose to bring into this world.
@@kalipw0210 them the onus of selfishness is on the person who force you. Anyone who wants children, whether their own or grandchildren, for the sole benefit of someone to love or love them, without considering the consequences of ab*sing them when they don't turn out the way they want, that's selfish. Not calling you selfish, but the person who forced you definitely is. I hope you had decided in entering parenthood to do the best you can/could to ensure they grow up to be well adjusted, secure, good people. Much love to you ✌️💗
One of my favorite stories about how I was raised without strict gender boxes is this: When I was younger, I spent ages in the garage with my dad, helping him with his tools and helping him build. Wanna know what we were building? A stable for my toy horses who I played dress up with
Glad you have supportive parents that give you access to all kinds of experiences and merge your interests and theirs so you can have a good relationship. I hope to give our children this. We are a 2 mom home and strive to let them lead the way in what they are interested in and how they are comfortable expressing themselves.
My son and I did make up the other day and after we made him look like Pikachu he asked me to give him a moustache. He wanted to wear a moustache of black makeup.
It reminds me when I was still the first one to be born in the family ( later on my cousin was born, he wasn't born until 2008) they still bought me gifts that would be doll houses or barbies or little kitchen to play with or castles and other days a red bycicle or a spiderman atv, it was like a motor thing vehicle for kids that had to be charged, I was the coolest girl in my grandma's village with that, also my childhood bedroom was yellow and blue, loved it, it was a nice change for a bedroom for a girl to not be pink just because. I did like Pink as a kid but I also liked those colors and they let me decorate the room. When I was older and we moved to Spain with my parents my new bedroom was white with beautifully painted flowers on the drawers and nightstand table. I love how genderless my childhood was.
I’m so tired of this rhetoric of “girls have attitudes, blah blah blah” I have seen women in my family treat their teenage daughters like slaves. They are thrown into survival mode and then told they have attitudes if they dare try to stand up for herself. And there are so many mothers out there that are borderline threatening to their son’s girlfriends. It’s so…icky.
Huh, that’s basically my life, I try to stand up for myself, attitude, I try to ask a simple question, attitude, yeah, my mom just LOOOVES me doesn’t she😅
Honestly, people tell me I'm lucky to have a boy, but I can't fucking wait to try for a girl and teach her all the self autonomy, confidence, and assertiveness I needed nurtured as a kid. I can't even wait to deal with an attitude cause I'll know I gave her a safe space to have a voice
the car vs $300 gift card one actually makes me so angry i had to pause and get up and rant to myself about it multiple times 😭 the fact that she can't see the clear favoritism she's displaying, the fact that she can't see whats so different about an entire fucking car and 300 buck gift card is honestly concerning. and the going car shopping with the son too; she made an active effort to find out what kind of car he would be interested in, what he would use, and she made it into a bonding activity for the two of them, but she can't bother to show the same level of care and effort for her daughter. my immediate thought was like you said - she could have taken her daughter shopping with a budget in the same price range as the car. now they both recieve an equal gift, you're supporting your daughter's interests as well as your son's, and you've given her a special bonding experience for just the two of you as well. like its astounding how she didn't thinkk of this??
I’m pretty sure op said it was a $10,000 car aswell. But also pretty sure op was a male. Hence why they didn’t care to ask what the daughter wanted or was interested in. The whole story is wild!
@@Allama1000 Good lady lord that is *insane* to me. The fact that she had the gall to post about it as if she wasn't sure whether it was favoritism!!??
"Raising my son so that every time he has a girlfriend, he's thinking about/comparing her to me" is.... just... so completely disgusting. I think the discussions I've had with my son about the prospective future and partner(s) he might have mainly circulate around "Make sure you find someone who respects your boundaries and communicates with you, and you have to work on how to communicate with others. if you decide to marry someone that's up to you, but if you do end up with someone, find someone who makes you happy first and foremost. someone where the love you share drives you both to be better people, because you are always aiming to grow together". Like.... I don't give a fuck if your future partner is vegan? I care that you have a solid love that feeds you in a life that so often starves you of things you need.
(we always phrase it as an if and remind him that it is perfectly fine if he chooses not to be in a relationship, or if he ends up in a poly situation like myself; whatever the situation, we just want him sending good into the world)
Also, in these types of videos the sons look like they're around 3 years old. And the average age gap between spouses in most of the world is 2 years. Which means these moms are insecure about 1 year olds
The pick-me girl to emotionally incestous boymom pipeline is so real and crazy. I think women who are insecure don't like that they can see themselves in their daughters, not to mention the fact that society has taught women to value themselves by the metric of male attention/affection/protection they can get for so long that these women project that onto their own children even to the point of getting jealous over hypothetical future competition for their son's attention. Honestly it's all just so gross, I think people should get therapy before having kids so they don't do shit like this.
therapy might not help some individuals. also a lot of it is society then. female worth based on male approval/attention/protection/love etc. also what about moms favoring tomboys over girly girls? is it they view girly as a threat? so pathetic!
My Mom has definitely never left the 1980s feminism era… Honestly, therapy hasn’t helped her see the problem and I don’t think she will change. She has always vilified anything feminine, and so has my Dad, interestingly enough my Dad hates hands on parents all together but ESPECIALLY hates girl Dad’s and women in general. One is misogyny personified and the other is internalized misogyny personified. It’s just as weird, real and crazy as it sounds. 🙄
I'm very worried about these kids. How will these moms react if their children realize they're gay, or trans, or literally anything other than cis and straight? I would hope they'd still love and accept them, but it concerns me how gendered all of these are.
Right? My boy was in the phase of wanting to wear princess dresses. I had it out with hubby bc he was like I hate it and we are condoning it. Quite frankly I don’t care what brings my son happiness that’s not my business unless it’s hurting someone other than that it’s our job to make sure he knows it’s cool to love what you love. I would never want my child to think they need to hide who they are in their home and from me. I’m their safe place this is where they can express all of those feelings. I don’t think these kids will feel like they can be themselves with the odd dynamic these Moms are creating. Bizarre
From speaking to friends and seeing responses from people in the LGBT community, sometimes they completely cut their kids off and sometimes they pretend it isn't happening and just shut down anytime it's brought up. Lots of resentment that their "sons" aren't fitting the mold.
At least one of these moms immediately downgraded her trans daughter to the same, non-human level of her cis daughters, and continued to god-worship her cis son. It was equal treatment but still awful considering how she treated the girls anyway….
As a biological female who has had gender affirming surgery I will say it only gave my mother something else to love my brother more for. That he was “normal” while her “daughter” who was always less than him was the undesirable tomboy. Not sure how those mental gymnastics worked with her but I don’t speak to my mother or my brother so I can safely say most of us just find new families. It’s hard to do that when your self worth is literally that your parents should have aborted you if they didn’t want you but it’s the cards a lot of us were dealt so gotta keep moving forward.
The "This is why God gave me boys" one. I, a girl in theory, told my mom exactly that same thing, many times, over a couple of decades. I used to have fantasies at my grocery store job of taking Mom shopping and making sure I took all the heavy bags. This isn't a gendered thing. This is just a "kid to a hardworking parent" thing
It because they never had attention when they were girls so they getting that from a male is like everything to them.. like am sorry that you were uninteresting and boring when you was a kid..
That one really stuck with me. Why did she gender that interaction?? It was so bizarre! Does she not want to help her own parents? It makes me wonder if a lot of these women were raised in heavily misogynistic households because I just can't think why you would think that unless that's what you think about yourself.
I, a girl, was also that kid that really wanted to help my parents. I always tried to carry all the shopping bags to the car and into the house. It embarrassed my mum because ppl would look at her and she'd say "she won't let me carry anything!" I gave both my parents foot massages throughout childhood of my own volition, I did laundry on a consistent basis, and washed up. When we moved house, I did a lion's share of the packing and carrying. I also threw tantrums and made messes and defied my parents, but I definitely respected how hard they worked. They each worked full time and had 6 kids to feed. I was the youngest, the baby, so I definitely wasn't parentified. Because of the love they gave me, I felt the urge to try to ease their burdens. And still I plan on taking care of them when they become too old to care for themselves. It's not hard: give your kids love and they will return it to you. Love and respect aren't gendered.
Growing up as an only child (until 13) I was already suspicious that my mom didn't want a girl - but then she had two sons with her second husband, and i watched them get everything thing they wanted handed to them while I was dismissed and given just the basic essentials. Pretty sure she knew about her second husband abusing me too but blamed me for it because I wore tank tops. I'm okay, I cut them off, NC.
The mom in the AITA post who said her daughter 'doesn't really seem to have any specific interests'... For one, she mentioned soon after that her daughter is into fashion and make-up. But also, I feel like whenever parents aren't up to date on their childrens' interests, it's because they've on a consistent level not asked about their interests, not paid attention to them or straight up mocked them for the interests they have. At some point you stop telling your parents what you're into, because they barely react to it at all anyway.
Exactly. What do parents expect? Child: "Mom, look, I found this really awesome book!" Mom: "That book is for fat anti social nerds. Read what you want, but I'd never read that"
They got it all backwards lol... Teaching my son to cook and clean so their future partner doesn't have to take on most of the workload. Every man I have dated has expected ME to do all the cooking and cleaning, pretty much anything to do with the household. We're not gonna be doing that over here!! He's gonna learn 1, how to take care of HIMSELF but also take on 50% of the household duties because that's what's FAIR. If it wouldn't be acceptable do it to a roommate or friend, why tf would you treat your partner that way???
fr its terrifying how many parents just dont teach their kids how to survive on their own, my culinary class in high school had boys who couldnt even turn on an oven and regularly cross-contaminated foods (raw meat/eggs, using the same knife and cutting board or utensils) and simply did not care to try like cooking and cleaning somehow arent essential life skills?? like mommy isnt always gonna be there to cook ur food and wipe ur ass 🤦♂️ idk how those kids are gonna function
@st4rz.of.perdition FOREAL!!! I've had to teach my (now husband) about cross contamination, how long foods are supposed to keep in the fridge, and basic cleanliness(i.e: you can't just rinse off a utensil or dish and put food you're going to eat on it. You need to wash with soap and warm water to prevent from getting sick!)
then his future partner(s) would be impressed w/ him because he knows these tasks. it's weird the moms dont want him impressed w/ future gfs/wives. they should know how to cook, clean etc even if they remain single.
Yeah this is how the trend started and then it turned into this weird hateful thing which sucks bc teaching your kids how to cook and clean is obviously so important and they’ve twisted it into hatred for someone who doesn’t exist
That little boy talking about taking care of his mother was so sweet! But news flash. Little girls speak like that too. Little kids see grown-ups struggle and will want to help. And think they can fix our problems. It's a sweet thing.
I just recently discovered that I’ve shrunk since I was measured last 🙈, my eldest said that it was okay because she is still growing and she will help me reach things!
When my dad was asked, "who gives this woman's hand away to this man in marriage today?", he said, "My daughter is not a possession to be given away, but I do offer my blessing to this union and express my joy to be gaining a son". I LOVED it and was so proud of him for saying that!!! ❤❤
My mom is totally a toxic boy mom. She always preferred my brother over me and my sister. Which is hilarious because we were pretty neglected as kids. My brother doesn’t bother going to the supervised visits anymore and my sister just feels obligated to at this point. Once they hit 18, i doubt they’ll see her more than like once a year. Which is just the reality of having a toxic, abusive, and narcissistic mother lol
I'm sorry, Kat. My mom suffered from CPTSD so growing up with her was brutal, but now she got years and years of help and going no contact with her narssasistic mother (my grandmother is the literal devil), we have a healthy relationship. My dad on the other hand, I'm going no contact with. The emotional and verbal abuse both my sister and I get from him is absolutely astonishing. So it's been... A year and 4 months now? Haven't spoken to him. I'll let him die alone because I never asked to be born. I'm not going to put up with his shit when we've done nothing wrong. He dug his own lonely grave all himself.
@@professorfoxtrot bro are you like, okay??? why are you scanning this comment section for what im assuming youre seeing as annoying women you need to correct. go for a walk or something
About the mum that bought her son a car and her daughter a gift card. My brothers didn't knew what to get me for my 18th birthday so instead of giving me a gift card they took me shopping and set a budget for me. We got pizza together and it was so nice and also just a fun bonding moment that showed that they cared. We never had a close relationship but that was such a fun day (I ended up buying Lego btw)
The boy mom with the twin gifts that were so unequal brought to my mind the husband who has lived with their wife forever but still can’t figure out what to get her for her bday so just gets a gift card (then expects to be congratulated for remembering). To me, it clearly shows that the mom has paid so much more attention to her son. That lack of interest and understanding took me right back to every bday and Xmas with my mom. I feel so much for these kids.
Not only is a son’s love for his mother different from that for his partner, a grown man’s love for his mother is different from a little boy’s love for his mother. Whether he has a partner or not. His partner is not “stealing him” from you.
So there was this reddit post where this woman basically complained about her daughter and said she wished she should give her up. Meanwhile, she talked up her son, talking about how they whispered secrets, cuddled, etc. She also said that the son never went through terrible twos. She acted as if her daughter was the devil for...acting like a kid. She talked about how her son told her to send the daughter to her room. She refused therapy for herself because clearly, she wasn't the problem. It was really gross and sad. The ages of the kids in the story were like five and four or something.
Interesting how that mom is so glad she has a boy to take care of her in her old age when it's women who are more likely to be in caretaker roles. Not that anyone should have kids with the expectation that they'll take care of them in their old age.
The birthday story hit so hard. It was weird to hear the parents perspective of a situation where they make the kid responsible for the parents emotions
My parents wanted daughters and they got them. They got the pretty princess, dress loving girl in my sister and...me. Who was interested in bugs and lizards and playing in the mud. Which turned into fixing shit, video games, comic books..etc. My mom used to joke "Did they accidentally give me a boy?" 🙃 Gender is so stupid
You just described my daughter but she’s also into princess dresses. You’ll often find her in a mud puddle dressed as belle or Elsa or helping her Mama build something with her hot pink tools lol. Yay for strong girls who broke the mold when they were born.
That is such a valid view, I would love to add my "No gender just frog" sticker here, but can not because well we are not on WhatsApp but just know that it is really cute and dismissing the idea of gender is so valid, not everything is black and white...(even though not everyone agrees:))
The "our child is lying about our home life" at 9:30 is a thing my abusive parents did, too. They don't like anyone spilling the family secrets about the toxic environment. Then they act shocked when their kid doesn't want to hang out with them.
Whenever I had bruises as a kid I had to lie like I fell on concrete or I fell from my bike it’s disgusting. Edit At times they don’t trust us so they lie to other people or let us stay at our home.
Yup. My evil mother did the same thing when I said anything to my friends parents about the bullshit she would pull on me... Like throwing me out of the house because she's angry at whatever. Ever slept on a roof at the city high school at night when you're 12???? Hmmm I bet she wonders why I quit talking to her years ago.
i think it's funny how these kinds of moms don't want daughters because they don't want to deal with any girly things, but like...they themselves like these stereotypically masculine things, so isn't that in itself proof that not all girls are one way? and besides, even as someone who isn't all that into girly things (even before i transitioned i was into stuff like monster jam, if anything i've been more comfortable with feminine things since i came out as transmasc lmfao), i would still love to do "girly" things with any kids i wanted to have, it just seems so sweet and wholesome to be able to braid their hair or play dolls with your kid, even if it's something you would never be interested in, why wouldn't you want to make those memories of pure happiness with your kid, no matter what it is you're doing? if anything that's way more precious than the weird ownership they think they have over their sons, thinking other women are "competition" in some weird gross incesty way
It's the internalized misogyny. Anything considered stereotypically "girly" is also considered weak, empty, uninteresting, surface-level, vain, etc. They are in denial of those parts of themselves because it is a trait of the "perfect woman object" that men have invented and which is inherently dehumanizing
@@KingOfGaymesthey didn't, it's still here. Looks like it's just filtered out of main comment page, but i can see it on "most recent" one. They seem to have left this comment section tho 😛🫱
"what did my hypothetical daughter ever do to you?" LITERALLY. These women are picking fights with hypothetical women who may or may not ever enter their son's lives... it is psychotic and the reason mother in laws have such a bad reputation.
I was the youngest girl in a family of 6, and only two of us were boys. To this day, 32 years in my life, the difference between how my mom treated me and my sisters is starkly contrasted to how she treats my brothers. They are damn near holy in comparison. You said emotional 1nc3st, and it struck a chord in me that just reminded me of my childhood and how my mother favors my brothers. Even to this day, that behavior has trickled into her relationship with her grandsons where she is openly favoring the grandchildren who are boys, and ignoring the grandchildren who are girls. I now have just one daughter of my own, and I work ceaselessly to give her a life where her presence is valued, appreciated, and respected. I could never imagine putting a child above another just because of their gender.
The giving away your daughter ritual is called 'kanyadaan' in hinduism and it perfectly translates to girl donation. I've always found it weird but hey, divided by religions and cultures, united by misogyny
@@unknownperse I never specified what that ritual signifies because honestly it doesn't make the name of it any less weird and misogynistic. Maybe be less rude
@@FIRXFLY well maybe read scripture instead of judging your culture through the lense of rumours and fellacies and also search the word daan in those scriptures Sanskrit isn't as simple as you think it is so better get a translated version
Getting a used car where the wheels are actively falling off is like $3 grand in the US. A car that is actually safe to drive would be about 10 grand at the very least (and that is with amazing haggling skills). I think the daughter not speaking to her mother for giving her only $300 is more than justified to just move out and cut ties at that point
UHG THE MOM WITH THE TWINS AND THE CAR KILLED ME. It really reminds me of one of my own stories. My moms side of the family has a yearly family get together, this includes granparents, aunts/uncles and several cousins. The year when my mom and bio-dad divorced bio-dad got my brother(6m) a Nintendo DS for Christmas. Since he had gotten such a nice gift I was also very excited to see what I had gotten because up to this point we had been treated pretty equally. For me (who just turned 11 that day because Christmas is also my birthday) bio-dad gave me a framed stock photo of a horse in a toster box, and a note about how he wasn't sure what to get me anymore because I "was a woman now" (I had gotten my first period like two months before this) When I started crying (overstim/overwhelm + the clear unfairness of the gifts) my step-dad called me a brat for thinking it wasn't fair. My mom at least saw that this was fucking wierd so she decided that calling him to ask him what he was thinking was a great idea. This quickly devolved into an hour long screaming match where he agreed to mail us the money to buy me one (at this point I just wanted to curl up and die for causing a scene at Christmas and ruining it for everyone). My poor brother thought it was his fault and tried to make it right by giving his gift to me (i explained why i was upset when i calmed down and he realized that none of that was his fault). When I did end up getting my own my brother and I ended up switching DSes because I picked out a red one, and he had gotten a blue one (I liked blue more than red and he liked red more than blue so it was an easy choice lol).
I think the mom with twins in this video did a good job with the gifts based on her reasoning but she could've done a shopping spree of more than 300$ with the daughter instead of the gift card BUT in ur case they did you dirty I mean Nintendo DS vs a framed stock photo is crazyy if ur dad didn't know what to get you he could've asked and ur step dad is wrong for calling you a brat for it
Your dad hates you girl. Please watch out for men like him. You being 11 means literally nOTHING. You having your period means LIterally NOTHING ( because you are still a little girl who can't drink go out at night or drive a car, so you having that don't mean you are a women. He is already seeing you as a women which is a big red uncomfortable flag. You don't talk about that at all.). He is a weirdo for even bring up that you a women now bullshit because he has a women that he married so how does he not know what his wife would have liked if she was young like you. Your mother kinda and brother are saving your family connection and love. Your dad will be brushed off or glossed over to seem like you guys just have a complicated dad but he is fxcking awful. Stay away from him, he don't deserve your love or time. You need to understand that this is soo.. weird.
@acehern I will admit I probably had a knee jerk reaction due to my own experience, I rewatched that portion of the video again and while the title makes them seem like they would be more similar the situations are different
@angelheart5584 overall I think we are (all things considered!) He's living with his GF (and cat!) and im living with my husband (and dog and cat and snake!). My brother came up for a visit recently for his 18th birthday and we got lunch at ihop! (Its a long story but my family lives everywhere now and I kinda like that more, it's less stressful. If it was just me and my brother in the same area I would still be stress free I am referring to the rest of them lol)
All those moms favoring their sons and expecting them to grow up to take care of her are likely in for a big disappointment. The way societal pressures and gender roles lead to most caregivers being women aside, raising a son who thinks he's more special than everyone else isn't exactly the way to teach the empathy and respect of others that would end up with any kind of caregiver, let alone a good one. He is not even going to visit her in Shady Pines.
I am a palliative care doc and work with a lot of older people nearing end of life, which is when their care needs are the greatest. Very often, it’s a daughter caring for them and a lot of times these daughters tell me that it’s the sons that were the Apple of the parents’ eyes but are absent when needed the most. It’s heartbreaking.
The thing about the nutcracker made me laugh, since it reminded me of the proud mom I saw at the theater, crying her heart out in happy tears while she watched her son dance the male lead role in that exact ballet.
I live in a city where a major ballet company will give any child-any gender, any race, doesn’t matter if they need mobility aids-a role in the company of their yearly Nutcracker, as long as that child can get to the rehearsals. The last time I went, I was one of the few people in the audience who didn’t have a family member on stage!
i was the first baby girl born since my dads older sister. when the family found out they were expecting a girl the joy and unconditional love was unwavering. i had one older brother and i did everything that he did, only i was wearing princess dresses and tiaras the whole time.
16:13 That's wild… “my daughter didn't express a care for freedom or a strive for being independent- so I figured she wanted to be a pretty trophy wife.” Am I understanding that she didn't explicitly say she wanted a car/ anything?
a 300$ gift card sounds like a cool gift on its own without anything to compare it to, but then a car basically tops just about any gift, i don't think the favoritism could get much more obvious it's wild how she says the daughter doesn't have any hobbies, but like...fashion and makeup are hobbies?? just because it's something traditionally feminine doesn't make it not a hobby, it's something you do in your spare time so wtf else would it be?
@@jasperjazzieand makeup is expensive. The last face paint palette I bought was $120+ tax. I also had to buy specific brushes for it so it was around $200. $300 for somebody that's really into fashion + makeup that's almost nothing
@@rosariojailene i hadn't even really thought about it, i consider myself into clothes but the stuff i get tends to not cost that much so i've never rlly been aware of how much things cost lmfao,, that's insane though that it costs so much, and in that case it's even worse, the mom could easily have just put aside the same amount of money she spent on the car and gave it to her to go clothes shopping or even offered to take her to her favorite shops or whatever, but it's clear she wouldn't care enough to. i get not everyone has money to blow like that but if that were the case you wouldn't be gifting a car, so i feel like she could have afforded it
Bruh no teenager should get a $10,000 car. It’s not like they couldn’t afford to get them each a $5000 car at that point. Wild. Insanity. That’s more than 33x as much as they spent on her. That’s so far beyond favoritism. Like I would get it if it were like he gets a car on his 18th birthday and you’ll get one on yours…but like they’re twins. You already know everything in their life is inequal. That poor girl is going to grow up resenting her own twin bc of the favoritism when it’s not either of their fault but just how they were raised 😭
The thing that pisses me off the most, is the fact that so often the negleted daughter will stick around the mother on daily basis even as an adult, taking care of her parents, while being totally taken for granted for everything she does, while the favored son will be nowhere to be seen and still he'll receive all the unconditional love the mother has to share. It feels nearly like it can't be completely subconscious. The negleted child will work so hard to get the attention they never had, while the pampered on will keep having good things coming to them and their life will be successfull. It's like sabotaging the life of one of your child's while sponsoring the other to the maximum. I need to note tho, that there's the phenomenon of "daddy's girls", it's not just the mums showing favoritism like this. It looks like the parents will favor the child that reminds them less of themselves and more the one who's going to grow up to be someone they'd date... which is so disturbed on it's own way.
I will always say in these videos, I wonder what these moms will do if their son is gay or trans. There might not be a girl replacing the mom. I think they would like explode.
@@sava-smthIf kiwi has the choice she would take rocketships and racing cars away from little boys. Men are the future of our civilization. They created the industrial revolution and modern medicine - we should be elevating them not trying to tear them down.
That happened to my girlfriends boy mom. My wonderful trans girlfriend is going through absolute craziness with her boymom bullsh--. I'm actually considering writing something up this week on a text to both her parents for how they've been treating her and how they are the reason behind her depression. I'm rolling up my sleeves, and I'm about to go to town.
As a mother, I love these videos just because you give everyone the best parenting advice. I wish every parent could know the parenting skills you know, and you don’t even have kids 😂
This might just be in my head, but I have noticed that a lot of people who don't think they would be good parents or are scared to have kids bc they are scared to mess up (like the Queer Kiwi) actually have the exact amount of care and self-awareness needed to be a successful and loving parent, and often people having kids for no real discernable reason are highly underprepared and lack that self-reflection that makes someone a capable parent
@@NettylSpryngs Well often advice is easy to say but harder to do. I know the psychological harm emotional disregulation can have on a child. For that reason I probably won’t have my own children because I know I wouldn’t be able to handle the emotional toll raising a child for *years* would take.
@@abccba4889 That's totally understandable. I guess my point is that that decision shows a high level of responsibility and empathy, which are also important traits in parenting, not that it necessarily helps with whatever circumstances influence the choice not to have kids. I don't know if that was any clearer tho 😭 I'm ngl I've had like 4 or 5 hours of sleep in the last 3 days, so I probably am not articulating my thoughts the best at the moment
In a way, these moms are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. When they raise their sons to idolize their mothers as the ideal romantic partner, they are going to look for a partner who acts like a mother to them, and in turn they are kind of "replacing" their mother with this new partner
right and then when adult women inevitably do not want to mother their grown partners (which these mothers know) he will come running back to mom because no other woman treats him as well, which is exactly what mom wants. setting unrealisitc expectations for her son that never being held accountable and everything being done for you is the norm, then the adult son realizes it is not realistic and struggles in his adult relationships. he doesn't learn to love women for who they are, he learns to love women for what they can do for him, which is exactly how mom feels about son, she only loves him for what he can do for her. such a self fulfilling prophecy.
the story about the birthday, as a mom i totally get wanting to spend your child’s birthday with them. labor and birth is a huge event and spending that day with your child is special. that being said it’s selfish to force or guilt your child into spending time with you, he’s growing up. eat a piece of cake with him when he comes home and talk about his day! to ruin his day is lunatic behavior.
i’m a fraternal twin, and my parents have ALWAYS given me and my brother equivalent gifts, even when they weren’t the best parents to either of us. even when we were young we always had a split birthday cake, and although i thought it was annoying back then, i understand now that it was just their way of treating us as equals with the money they had. a car vs a gift card is an extremely clear choice to be cruel and i hope her daughter realizes it’s not her fault her own mom treats her that way
something so powerfully toxic online parent about "am i a terrible mom? please be kind" she's practically begging people to give her an echo chamber and give her no criticism
I can't tell whether or not these "boy moms" are narcissists who chose their sons as the golden child for their toxic lifestyles. Or if they all just settled for partners they didn't actually love, and the initial parenting bond was just the strongest love they've ever actually felt and so have to project that being mutual.
My Mom is definitely in the second one. I feel like that’s the most common… I would go as far to say it’s probably 60/40 at least, with the mother settling for a less than ideal partner on top.
i don't have any kids but my grandma(rest in piss) was an ABUSIVE boy mom, who raised by dad, and ABUSIVE "girl" dad(i'm a trans dude). they should have taken notes from my mom's parents, they gave three sons and one girl and they're so chill about it. one of my uncles is adopted too and they treat him no differently. he's also a welder and really cool, just thought i'd add that
@@SarastistheSerpent So if I understand your position correctly, there is a situation in which a grandmother would want to inflict their grandchildren with a mental illness?
5:02 In these types of videos, the sons usaly look around 3 years old. And the age gap between spouses in most of the world is 2 years. So these moms are fighting actual babies.
I love your videos, Kiwi. Your videos always cheer me up even if it’s topics like toxic boy mums. And I really appreciate that you write your own CCs and not only the auto-generated ones
I’m a twin and even tho were identical (I’m a cis woman) my twin is trans so he’s my twin brother. My mom always treated our older brother much better than us and my twin better than me. As I’m the girl and the youngest (only by a minute, but that counts to her) this literally happened to me except she said the car was both of ours but then only let my twin have it and there wasn’t even a measly 300$ gift card for me. That mom sucks and so does mine. And even tho I’m the only construction worker and have no interest in stereotypical “girly” things, I’m still treated the same so I doubt her interests were a real factor in it, it’s just misogyny plain and simple
I'm a daughter who had a little brother but my mom was normal and treated us equally. From the way she loved and raised us to our gender roles. I can't fathom the hatred a "boy mom" might have created between our sibling bond, because my brother is literally my best friend. It's so sad that a lot and boys and girls are raised to compete with each other
God, that story about the twins is heartbreaking. It was bad enough as a younger child always being an afterthought (e.g. my older sister got a car and a huge party for her high school graduation, while I got a $5 piece of costume jewelry and a reheated takeout pizza), but I can't even imagine how much worse it would be if it was my LITERAL TWIN.
MY EXPERIENCE WITH A CRAZY BOY MOM AS A TEEN GIRL I’m 16 and I got my first boyfriend (I was his first too) this year, 2023. His mom is like this. He was 17 and I was 15 when we got together. She FLIPPED OUT about the age gap (her and her controlling angry and abusive husband and her have a 8 year age gap and met when she was 19.). He’d tell me things about home that I totally believe and his mom told me how he is lying to impress me. She at one point was like “he says things like how you love him more than I do and that isn’t true at all” and I said “I never tell him things like that, that’s manipulative. He says those things on his own” and she goes “yeah I know you don’t but still” Another time she told me how he lies for attention about how his home life is too. His mom tells him everything like he is her therapist and cries to him all the time. His sister who is a year younger than I am would get jealous when he would do anything for me. Like girlfriend level like she would cry when he would touch me or do sweet things for me. IT WAS SO CONCERNING We broke up because he was toxic because of his insane incest-y family and because he was a reflection of his family. They wanted me to conform to their standards and lives but were so toxic and awful that the LAST thing I want it “acceptance” into their family. They refuse change but need it. I feel really bad for all his future girlfriends and for him as a person. I realize as a person that I bring more to the table and deserve more than that. For anyone in the shoes I was in: He won’t pick you over her She isn’t going to change. She hates your position, not you. Therefore nothing but changing your relationship will change how she treats and thinks of you. Good luck and please leave. Save yourself the heartbreak. Anyways, much love and care. 😊 Ps: if you want I’ll tell you more or if you want to talk about anything I’d be happy to.
I taught kindergarten for fifteen years. We took the kids to The Nutcracker one year. The best reaction was from a little boy who was totally sports-obsessed and generally traditionally masculine. He leaned over the balcony and had his mouth hanging open the whole time like it was the most medical thing he ever saw. His mom said he asked Santa for the movie that year.
My mom hated the color pink when she had me. She doesn’t anymore, but she just got me cute little blue, yellow, or green outfits as a kid. She always put a bow in my hair to stop strangers from thinking I was a boy because of the blue, but most of those yellow or green outfits were girly and had flowers and stuff. There is definitely a middle ground that these boy moms are acting like doesn’t exist.
My bio brother 'loved' my mother while also verbally and physically abusing her. She disowned him when she found out that he SA-ed me several times when I was 11. Didn't pass Go, didn't collect $200, told him to get tf out of our lives and don't come back. She could tolerate him abusing her, because she felt like she deserved it 'cause she spanked us when we were little, but she put her foot DOWN when it came to him abusing me. She tried so hard to prevent his mistreatment of me, but she had no idea how far he had already went the few times she wasn't looking. But alllll that time, he claimed he loved his mother and his 'baby sister' dearly. Acted like the model son whenever someone outside the house was around. It was horrendous. As soon as we were alone, he'd tell our mother how much he hated her and wished she was *gone,* if you get my meaning. He thought he could get away with anything because Mom tolerated his abuse and his father (our bio father, who I've disowned years ago) enabled his behavior. No, sons do not love their mothers more than daughters do. Abuse and hatred are not gender-specific behaviors. He abused her, meanwhile I'm still around and would trade my life for my mother. These 'mothers' who favor their children because of some INSANE fanfiction they made up in their heads, as well as enable and encourage their sons awful behaviors, boggle my mind. My mother disowned her own son to protect me. I doubt any of these mothers would do anything close to that if, horrifically, they were put in the same position.
im a boy and benefit from favoritism. I got a 3d printer and other stuff for christmas a few years back when my older sister just got a bunch of little stuff. i was grateful and happy for the 3d printer but then a felt guilty that i was happy about it when i knew i got a far better gift than my sister. i tried talking to my parents about this but they brushed it off. i dont want to benefit from favoritism but at this point theres nothing i can do about it and i feel awful. my sister is 22 and lives in another state now so its mostly over, but everytime my parents provide something good for me, i still feel a twinge of guilt
That gift card story hits home. I remember my brother getting a motorcycle for Christmas one year and I got a pair of shoes. My parents told me they were glad I wasn’t as expensive as him. It really hurt.
9:26 "he lies to her about his home life for attention"/"he tries to convince her his home life is awful" is a MASSIVE red flag in this whole schtick. anyone who's been raised by an abusive narcissist has had front row seats to this kind of bs. personally, i tried reaching out for help *once*, and cps got involved. after a few months, my parental figure pulled me out of therapy and then made me write emails to "admit that i lied for attention" to my school counselor, the dean, and my two closest friends. long story short, if someone is degrading their kid like this, keep your fuckin' eyes peeled for who's the REAL p.o.s.
I mean a person who would cancel any celebration of a child on their birthday because they feel slighted is likely to be a complete peach to live with /s
25:31 The implication that a daughter wouldn't do that for her is crazy. When it comes to love it holds no gender. My sister has carried my mom up the stairs when she couldn't go up on her own. The reason is because she loves her dearly and wants her to do well but apparently to this lady it's something that's not possible 💀
Yo idk if youve been seeing these shorts or not but I've been seeing a lot of video of women doing a back and forth with themselves complaining about their husband not doing stuff around the house correctly or at all. It's an interesting topic and I hate seeing them, I feel you're perfect for discussing these weaponized incompetence apologists
“Pick her over me.” And that’s the problem, parents should never be in competition with their children’s partners. Those are two different kind of love and relationships. There is room for both!
Dude, my mom is great and isn't as toxic as these moms but she sitll has some boy mom tendencies. Whenever someone was pregnant she would say "better hope its a boy they're easier to raise" like omg they're easier for you because you made me grow up fsater and take up adult tasks instead of my two older brothers. They were easier because you didn't get mad at them for everything, they were easier because you adultified your child daughter and took her innocent behavior and put negative connotation behind it.
My mother in law is constantly saying how glad she is that she had three boys cus they're easier to raise. 🙄 Like, no hun, you just didn't fully parent any of them or help them to emotionally mature while under your roof
"LINGER IN THOSE LANKY TEENAGE HUGS?!?!?!?!" thats gross. Its like those pervy uncles who start to hug their nieces when they are going though puberty, saying "youve gotten so big. Youll be a heartbreaker for sure"
14:00 Parents helping their sons with wealth building (buying cars, down payments, cosigning) but neglecting to do the same for their daughters is actully so common it's scary.
My son was stillborn, so I don’t get to raise him, but I was so excited to teach him all kinds of life skills so that some day he would be self sufficient enough to be in a partnership and engage in relationships with people because he wanted to, not because they fulfilled a need he hadn’t been empowered to fulfill for himself. His sister is going to learn all kinds of skills and as much self respect as I can empower her to have so she has the inner strength to withstand potential MILs like these ones if she finds a person she decides is worth it, and the confidence to know she’s worth better if her partner caters to toxic parents. My son and daughter both deserve(d) to be taught that they are worth being loved and respected, and I’m going to make sure that if any of my kids friends have a parent like these ones, they have the opportunity to learn that they deserve love and respect from the people in their lives whenever they’re spending time at our house.
@@NadiraJamal thank you for your compassion. My son’s 2nd birthday is on Dec 24, so even just a simple comment like that goes a long way at this time of year.
@overlordfemto7523are you blind or intentionally ignorant? Stillborn meant the baby was fully formed, but was born asleep. Learn to use Google before you speak. So insensitive.
@@professorfoxtrotLook who obviously hasn’t owned a pet!!! By the way loved reading through your misogynistic comments on our lord and savior Kiwi’s other videos. Screw off and get a life.
My relationship with my son is the most beautiful, powerful, inspirational and pure thing that I have experienced. But thats just cause he's my only child. These women are so creepy.
The whole birthday story is crazy to me. Where I'm from, New Year's Eve is a big deal and traditionally a family holiday, but when I was 15 my friends decided to throw a party, and my family and I had a deal that we will have a family dinner on January 1st evening. And that's how we've been doing it ever since - everyone gets to have the fun they want, a chance to sleep, and then we also have a family dinner and exchange gifts. I have also had my birthday twice for a while now - one with friends, one with family, and some years I even have a third celebration with my friends who live in another city! It hurts literally no one, and it's an opportunity to get more fun and celebrate your relationships with more people!
Something I’ve noticed about toxic boy moms. A lot of them tend to have only ONE son. An extra is they’ll have multiple girls. I think that adds to their twisted projection. Seeing him as a “diamond” in the “rough”.
i think something that these boy moms miss, specifically when it comes to the whole "teaching my son to cook so he's not [insert whatever here]" is like... it is SO close to the point. we should try to raise kids, regardless of gender, to be good people. we should show them how to have a healthy relationship, both romantic and not, and should "raise them for a future relationship" in the sense that we give them the skills needed to be able to set boundaries and have good, strong, and stable relationships
Little girls are not that simple yk? I was in princess dresses chasing down frogs in the mud and muck as a child. As an adult, I’m in overalls fixing up machinery while in a full face of makeup. Women at all ages, especially girlhood, are so complex.
when you said "if your kids are giving you conditional love than you are giving them conditional love" i have never related to words more. i will see my mom do such sweet things for my brother and know that she would NEVER do anything like that for me, and i know that because of that i treat her a lot worse than my brother does
pick-me girl to toxic boy mom to monster-in-law is such a real pipeline
Those criticizing the mothers will die without sons 😅
@@professorfoxtrotok?
@@professorfoxtrotI don't want a son 👍👍
@@digimonalvatrax2738 Nor are you deserving of one. Let your family name fade away.
@@professorfoxtrotyeah… not interested in anyone’s son. Thanks though 😂 I think I’ll be just fine without them. It seems like you’re implying that humans must reproduce or die. I’m not interested in reproducing either. Plenty of other people are having way too many kids.
Gotta love the irony that a mother, the female parent, wants a son because she's interested in monster trucks and wrestling more than "girly" things, but cannot fathom a world where she could share those interests with her daughter because "girls don't like that stuff"
Mom is right. Girls don't like monster trucks. Feminists simply want to ruin the childhood of every boy by taking away their rocketships and their dreams. This is because feminists are resentful of their life choices.
@@professorfoxtrotyour generalized, weak AF arguments are boring and very telling. Take your ball and go home.
@@professorfoxtrotanother comment longer than four words and still no fucking sense. Is your source "trust me"? What choices? Category "The mysteries of mankind", as my people say.
this is exactly the mindset trap my best friend is falling into during the early part of her pregnancy 🙃
i think thats whats always weirded me out the most about the whole concept of gender reveals, cuz parents will use that info to dictate what life they think theyre gonna have based on nothing but their genitals, just weird
The mom: "my daughter doesn't have any interests"
Also the mom: "she's into make-up and fashion"
tHoSe aReNT iNTreSts!!,,1!1!! THOSE ARE GIRLLL THINGS >:( !1!!!1!,,,
Yeah that very much read to me as "I don't care enough about my daughter to notice any of her interests"
Possibly a combination with the expectation that every woman and girl is supposed to be into fashion and makeup, thus they don't register as "proper interests" to the mom
Right like makeup and fashion are interests. 🙃 also I get giving two different gifts. But make the monetary value semi equal wow.
@@oracledba123 Yeah that makes sense ah good ol misogyny we love her
@@pineapplepapercrafts Exactly like she couldn't have bought her some new makeup sets or maybe some limited edition stuff cause clearly she has the money to do it with her buying a whole car
The "doing ___ for my kid so they don't accept your son/daughter doing ___" trend started off actually cute and healthy. The earliest videos I saw of that trend were things like "taking my daughter on tea dates so she doesn't accept your son doing the bare minimum" or "teaching my son to journal when he's upset so he doesn't take his emotions out on your daughter." It doesn't have to be gross, but boy moms made it that way
Yes I remember that too! It was mainly from dads spending quality time with their daughters to teach them to expect more from their future partners. It was refreshing to see and then the boy-moms just took it over 😑
I remember that!
I think the trend could have been such a cute and healthy thing about teaching HEALTHY coping skills.
Things like " teaching my kid how to control they emotions in a healthy way, so they don't take it out on other people" or " teaching my child that violence in relationships isn't healthy, and communicating it important "
Right! I remember a mother got her son flowers because she heard that the first time most men get flowers is at their funeral.
@duyguecemertan8521 okay, that one is so cute, but also very sad
Just a side note - why did you only give examples of "teaching my son..." and no "teaching my daughter..." 😆
Bet you, the daughter whose mum bought her male twin a car has more interests than fashion and makeup (still amazing interests) but doesn't pay enough attention to her to know that.
Even so! The cheapest used car is 15,000 that compared to 300 bucks is wild. And maybe if she went out with her daughter to buy makeup or clothes then her daughter wouldn’t be upset.
Stop hating the boy for getting a car.
@@professorfoxtrot they said 'mum' , no one is blaming the child here.
@@LanaTheHedgehog the mum is awesome. The girl is a nasty and ungrateful little shrew.
@@professorfoxtrot if that's your opinion, sure. sounds like you're projecting now and idc
My mother had three daughters, no sons. Our house was full of pink and flowers, we read anne of green gables, and watched princess movies. I had fairy print wall paper and polly pockets. My mom reviled in the girlyness. It makes me so sad how much we put down little girls. Little girls are delightful. Running in the backyard in a princess dress and muddy feet. Tea parties with apple juice. Dolls playing out royal dramas. Girlhood is so precious. Let's celebrate it more.
Edit- so this was supposed to be a run little post. A tribute to my childhood. Because people are just kind of mean to little girls, cuz misogyny ya know, but I have now been called both transphobic and not transphobic enough in the replies lmao. Just goes to show you that if someone is intent on not liking you they'll find a reason. All the more reason to just enjoy your day and have a silly goofy time not being a dick.
It always makes me smile a little whenever I read someone else’s wildly different experience with girlhood. I was the tomboy, who ran around in cargo shorts and tees with a pocket knife at six and making little spears and forts in the back yard with my best friend (another girl). We played dragons and princesses where I was the loyal dragon who kept her, the princess, safe to go on adventures with, and lions because we were both little girls and lioness hunt.
It was a lot of fun, growing up where the neighborhood wasn’t finished so we could ride our bikes down to half built lots in the summers, and put up little structures.
I don’t have any siblings, and I don’t have kids (though I do want them, one day) but I can’t… imagine valuing any child over another to this… very odd extent. I’m slightly paranoid I might do something wrong because I am still a tomboy, and I know some of my brashness is because my mom’s one as well. I wouldn’t ever mean to not allow a kid of mine to love pink or what have you. And would work really hard to not do that to my kids because it would be awfully unfair to them as people.
@@CrisjolaOh! I was also a tomboy(I mean I did end up being trans ftm but... Still)! I remember being made fun of for being friends with almost exclusively other tomboys or boys, and running around outside looking for things in the dirt since I lived on a sheep ranch and there were plenty of things laying around
@@CrisjolaMy best friend and I used to play Lions! You just brought back such a visceral memory of us "hunting" other unsuspecting kids.
@@irishalchemy haha! I’m glad I could! :D It was always a ton of fun.
@@irishalchemyI love Orca whales and a classmate loved penguins so when we played tag i would specifically target him and pretend to be hunting down my prey. Dont think he had any idea.
i don’t have kids but i nanny a ton. these kind of parents are absolutely terrifying. why are you thinking about your sons future partner when he’s not even capable of viewing another person in that light? it’s absolutely WILD.
I can tell you don't have kids.
@@professorfoxtrot that is the first thing they said. Of course you can tell
Not as terrifying as the moms castrating their boys because they like the colour pink
@@professorfoxtrot I am a parent. I agree with Margaret. Small children need to be taught how to care for themselves emotionally and physically before you even start to think about how to teach them to behave in partnerships. Not to mention, setting expectations for future relationships is not the same as teaching children how to respect and be respected.
@@wendyjohnson4345nobody is doing that.. why do you weirdos always make up stuff to scare yourselves?
I was babysitting for a family, and the mom got her son a fake sink so he could wash fake dishes. NOT because she didn't want him to be impressed by a future partner, but because "more little boys should know how to wash dishes."
What a horrible mother.
@@professorfoxtrothow??
Also little kids love mimicking their parents. I had a little grocery cart I could push around and it was sooooo fun for no reason 😂
I also got my dad’s old blackberry when it broke and I thought I was SO COOL pretending to make phone calls and poke all the buttons.
@@clowneryAscended Teach your son how to cut wood, use a lawn mower, hunt etc. Dishes? Jesus. The reason why so many of these boys are confused about their actual gender is because these woke parents try to feminize them.
It's so concerning how the teenage boy who spent his birthday with his girlfriend has been telling her that he has a bad home life, and the mother dismisses it as "attention seeking." Even if he WAS lying for attention, she should be deeply disturbed that her own kid needed attention so badly that he was lying about abuse. But the fact that she's immediately dismissed it as ridiculous and then launched into a story about him being disrespectful for not spending his birthday with her makes it obvious that he wasn't lying.
I feel like he’s talking about emotional abuse which from that statement from the mother. Probably is happening.
And then she immediately decides to take away his gifts. Clearly taking things away is not out of the ordinary. Who knows what else she’s withheld.
I feel for the poor boy.
His mother was probably doing more damage than just emotional abuse 😔❤️🩹
Every day, Freud is justified in his grave, and I'm upset about it
Same Bestie, Freud should never be right 😔
I have no clue who freud is, who is freud?
@@SelfdestructingwiiSigmund Freud, psychoanalyst most famous for his Oedipus complex, a phenomenon where kids have an attachment to the parent of the opposite sex and dislike towards parents of the same sex
In this case, it's expressed by moms who have an unhealthy attachment to their sons and disregard their daughters (or any little girl in their lives)
@@sophieasha9069 ah, thank you for this explanation fellow internet user.
Freud was right about women.
There are few things quite as disheartening as a boy mom whose internalized misogyny is mercilessly wielded against any woman she comes into contact with, whether it be the young woman in love with her son, or even the daughter(s) she may have
Mom doesn't want her son to marry a leftwing floosie.
It’s not internalized misogyny. This needs to stop being used as a reason because it’s not. Women are inherently threatened by other women and need to actively pursue not being that way towards other women. Women are naturally clicky, and dislike outsiders. Nothing to do with misogyny. This is seen in almost every single culture.
Internalized misogyny
Dumbest thing I’ve ever heard
It’s not internalized they literally are misogynistic
Gotta hope those sons don’t grow up to have that hate in their hearts too…
How weird is it that the first woman talks about her children only in the context of view they benefit her. She loves her children because they reflect all versions of herself, but she especially loves her son because of how much he loves her
Most people who have kids have them for selfish reasons (want a mini me, want to continue their family line/hand down their name, want to prove how good a parent they'd be, want something to love them) but most people aren't comfortable having that conversation.
I honestly find her far scarier than the "I hate my sons future wife" type. Getting unconditional love is so vital when you're a little kid, and those girls are being raised to believe that they aren't worthy of it unless they provide complete, uncritical worship. Which is a horrible pattern for future relationships.
@@hospitable_ghosti don't think there is a non-selfish reason to have kids. It's not like you can ask them if they would like to be a person. I think people need to recognize and accept that and then try to be as selfless as possible and do right by the people they choose to bring into this world.
@@kels3518Welp, there are some of us that were forced into motherhood for many, many various reasons. Don't try speaking for everyone...
@@kalipw0210 them the onus of selfishness is on the person who force you. Anyone who wants children, whether their own or grandchildren, for the sole benefit of someone to love or love them, without considering the consequences of ab*sing them when they don't turn out the way they want, that's selfish. Not calling you selfish, but the person who forced you definitely is. I hope you had decided in entering parenthood to do the best you can/could to ensure they grow up to be well adjusted, secure, good people. Much love to you ✌️💗
One of my favorite stories about how I was raised without strict gender boxes is this:
When I was younger, I spent ages in the garage with my dad, helping him with his tools and helping him build. Wanna know what we were building? A stable for my toy horses who I played dress up with
Glad you have supportive parents that give you access to all kinds of experiences and merge your interests and theirs so you can have a good relationship. I hope to give our children this. We are a 2 mom home and strive to let them lead the way in what they are interested in and how they are comfortable expressing themselves.
That's absolutely beautiful
My son and I did make up the other day and after we made him look like Pikachu he asked me to give him a moustache. He wanted to wear a moustache of black makeup.
that's so SWEET op!!!!!!!
It reminds me when I was still the first one to be born in the family ( later on my cousin was born, he wasn't born until 2008) they still bought me gifts that would be doll houses or barbies or little kitchen to play with or castles and other days a red bycicle or a spiderman atv, it was like a motor thing vehicle for kids that had to be charged, I was the coolest girl in my grandma's village with that, also my childhood bedroom was yellow and blue, loved it, it was a nice change for a bedroom for a girl to not be pink just because. I did like Pink as a kid but I also liked those colors and they let me decorate the room. When I was older and we moved to Spain with my parents my new bedroom was white with beautifully painted flowers on the drawers and nightstand table. I love how genderless my childhood was.
I’m so tired of this rhetoric of “girls have attitudes, blah blah blah”
I have seen women in my family treat their teenage daughters like slaves. They are thrown into survival mode and then told they have attitudes if they dare try to stand up for herself.
And there are so many mothers out there that are borderline threatening to their son’s girlfriends. It’s so…icky.
Well do the women in your family realize they’re doing that?
Huh, that’s basically my life, I try to stand up for myself, attitude, I try to ask a simple question, attitude, yeah, my mom just LOOOVES me doesn’t she😅
Honestly, people tell me I'm lucky to have a boy, but I can't fucking wait to try for a girl and teach her all the self autonomy, confidence, and assertiveness I needed nurtured as a kid. I can't even wait to deal with an attitude cause I'll know I gave her a safe space to have a voice
@Emogurrrrrllll BRO THATS EXACTLY HOW IT IS WITH MY MOM!!??
the car vs $300 gift card one actually makes me so angry i had to pause and get up and rant to myself about it multiple times 😭 the fact that she can't see the clear favoritism she's displaying, the fact that she can't see whats so different about an entire fucking car and 300 buck gift card is honestly concerning.
and the going car shopping with the son too; she made an active effort to find out what kind of car he would be interested in, what he would use, and she made it into a bonding activity for the two of them, but she can't bother to show the same level of care and effort for her daughter.
my immediate thought was like you said - she could have taken her daughter shopping with a budget in the same price range as the car. now they both recieve an equal gift, you're supporting your daughter's interests as well as your son's, and you've given her a special bonding experience for just the two of you as well. like its astounding how she didn't thinkk of this??
It honestly disgusts me.
Make it through a 'Just boy mom's' video without rage pausing challenge: impossible
@@yourfisharemine lmao honestly
I’m pretty sure op said it was a $10,000 car aswell. But also pretty sure op was a male. Hence why they didn’t care to ask what the daughter wanted or was interested in. The whole story is wild!
@@Allama1000 Good lady lord that is *insane* to me. The fact that she had the gall to post about it as if she wasn't sure whether it was favoritism!!??
"Raising my son so that every time he has a girlfriend, he's thinking about/comparing her to me" is.... just... so completely disgusting. I think the discussions I've had with my son about the prospective future and partner(s) he might have mainly circulate around "Make sure you find someone who respects your boundaries and communicates with you, and you have to work on how to communicate with others. if you decide to marry someone that's up to you, but if you do end up with someone, find someone who makes you happy first and foremost. someone where the love you share drives you both to be better people, because you are always aiming to grow together". Like.... I don't give a fuck if your future partner is vegan? I care that you have a solid love that feeds you in a life that so often starves you of things you need.
(we always phrase it as an if and remind him that it is perfectly fine if he chooses not to be in a relationship, or if he ends up in a poly situation like myself; whatever the situation, we just want him sending good into the world)
You should want your son not to turn into a girl
Also, in these types of videos the sons look like they're around 3 years old. And the average age gap between spouses in most of the world is 2 years. Which means these moms are insecure about 1 year olds
@@unngjerde5064 Real mothers don't turn their sons into fembois
@@professorfoxtrotreal moms don't project their understanding of gender roles on their kids 🫡
The pick-me girl to emotionally incestous boymom pipeline is so real and crazy. I think women who are insecure don't like that they can see themselves in their daughters, not to mention the fact that society has taught women to value themselves by the metric of male attention/affection/protection they can get for so long that these women project that onto their own children even to the point of getting jealous over hypothetical future competition for their son's attention. Honestly it's all just so gross, I think people should get therapy before having kids so they don't do shit like this.
therapy might not help some individuals. also a lot of it is society then. female worth based on male approval/attention/protection/love etc. also what about moms favoring tomboys over girly girls? is it they view girly as a threat? so pathetic!
My Mom has definitely never left the 1980s feminism era… Honestly, therapy hasn’t helped her see the problem and I don’t think she will change. She has always vilified anything feminine, and so has my Dad, interestingly enough my Dad hates hands on parents all together but ESPECIALLY hates girl Dad’s and women in general.
One is misogyny personified and the other is internalized misogyny personified. It’s just as weird, real and crazy as it sounds. 🙄
I'm very worried about these kids. How will these moms react if their children realize they're gay, or trans, or literally anything other than cis and straight? I would hope they'd still love and accept them, but it concerns me how gendered all of these are.
Right? My boy was in the phase of wanting to wear princess dresses. I had it out with hubby bc he was like I hate it and we are condoning it. Quite frankly I don’t care what brings my son happiness that’s not my business unless it’s hurting someone other than that it’s our job to make sure he knows it’s cool to love what you love. I would never want my child to think they need to hide who they are in their home and from me. I’m their safe place this is where they can express all of those feelings. I don’t think these kids will feel like they can be themselves with the odd dynamic these Moms are creating. Bizarre
From speaking to friends and seeing responses from people in the LGBT community, sometimes they completely cut their kids off and sometimes they pretend it isn't happening and just shut down anytime it's brought up. Lots of resentment that their "sons" aren't fitting the mold.
i think thats the least of the problem
At least one of these moms immediately downgraded her trans daughter to the same, non-human level of her cis daughters, and continued to god-worship her cis son. It was equal treatment but still awful considering how she treated the girls anyway….
As a biological female who has had gender affirming surgery I will say it only gave my mother something else to love my brother more for. That he was “normal” while her “daughter” who was always less than him was the undesirable tomboy. Not sure how those mental gymnastics worked with her but I don’t speak to my mother or my brother so I can safely say most of us just find new families. It’s hard to do that when your self worth is literally that your parents should have aborted you if they didn’t want you but it’s the cards a lot of us were dealt so gotta keep moving forward.
The "This is why God gave me boys" one. I, a girl in theory, told my mom exactly that same thing, many times, over a couple of decades. I used to have fantasies at my grocery store job of taking Mom shopping and making sure I took all the heavy bags. This isn't a gendered thing. This is just a "kid to a hardworking parent" thing
I have one of each and they both say wonderfully sweet things to me. It's definitely not gendered, they just repeat how we speak to them.
It because they never had attention when they were girls so they getting that from a male is like everything to them.. like am sorry that you were uninteresting and boring when you was a kid..
Kiwi simply hates boys and the mothers who love them. This is due to resentfulness arising from poor life choices.
That one really stuck with me. Why did she gender that interaction?? It was so bizarre! Does she not want to help her own parents? It makes me wonder if a lot of these women were raised in heavily misogynistic households because I just can't think why you would think that unless that's what you think about yourself.
I, a girl, was also that kid that really wanted to help my parents. I always tried to carry all the shopping bags to the car and into the house. It embarrassed my mum because ppl would look at her and she'd say "she won't let me carry anything!" I gave both my parents foot massages throughout childhood of my own volition, I did laundry on a consistent basis, and washed up. When we moved house, I did a lion's share of the packing and carrying. I also threw tantrums and made messes and defied my parents, but I definitely respected how hard they worked. They each worked full time and had 6 kids to feed. I was the youngest, the baby, so I definitely wasn't parentified. Because of the love they gave me, I felt the urge to try to ease their burdens. And still I plan on taking care of them when they become too old to care for themselves. It's not hard: give your kids love and they will return it to you. Love and respect aren't gendered.
Growing up as an only child (until 13) I was already suspicious that my mom didn't want a girl - but then she had two sons with her second husband, and i watched them get everything thing they wanted handed to them while I was dismissed and given just the basic essentials. Pretty sure she knew about her second husband abusing me too but blamed me for it because I wore tank tops.
I'm okay, I cut them off, NC.
Jesus Christ that's awful mate, hope that things are better now that they're gone 💚💚
I've been free of them for about a year now and I've never been happier! Thanks ❤
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I’m happy to see you’re far from them now 💕
Congrats! ❤
Great job, I am so proud!
You say "boy mom" I say "Immature mother who sees their daughter(s) as nothing but competition"
These hateful harpies just hate men
The mom in the AITA post who said her daughter 'doesn't really seem to have any specific interests'... For one, she mentioned soon after that her daughter is into fashion and make-up. But also, I feel like whenever parents aren't up to date on their childrens' interests, it's because they've on a consistent level not asked about their interests, not paid attention to them or straight up mocked them for the interests they have. At some point you stop telling your parents what you're into, because they barely react to it at all anyway.
Exactly. What do parents expect?
Child: "Mom, look, I found this really awesome book!"
Mom: "That book is for fat anti social nerds. Read what you want, but I'd never read that"
_that_🔼
that right there is how my own parent responded to me getting into animation, and art.
it cut kinda deep...
Exactly. You can only put yourself out there so much when you're met with disinterest.
They got it all backwards lol...
Teaching my son to cook and clean so their future partner doesn't have to take on most of the workload.
Every man I have dated has expected ME to do all the cooking and cleaning, pretty much anything to do with the household.
We're not gonna be doing that over here!! He's gonna learn 1, how to take care of HIMSELF but also take on 50% of the household duties because that's what's FAIR.
If it wouldn't be acceptable do it to a roommate or friend, why tf would you treat your partner that way???
fr its terrifying how many parents just dont teach their kids how to survive on their own, my culinary class in high school had boys who couldnt even turn on an oven and regularly cross-contaminated foods (raw meat/eggs, using the same knife and cutting board or utensils) and simply did not care to try like cooking and cleaning somehow arent essential life skills?? like mommy isnt always gonna be there to cook ur food and wipe ur ass 🤦♂️ idk how those kids are gonna function
@st4rz.of.perdition FOREAL!!!
I've had to teach my (now husband) about cross contamination, how long foods are supposed to keep in the fridge, and basic cleanliness(i.e: you can't just rinse off a utensil or dish and put food you're going to eat on it. You need to wash with soap and warm water to prevent from getting sick!)
then his future partner(s) would be impressed w/ him because he knows these tasks. it's weird the moms dont want him impressed w/ future gfs/wives. they should know how to cook, clean etc even if they remain single.
sexism. they still expect women to know just bc were women.@@st4rz.of.perdition
Yeah this is how the trend started and then it turned into this weird hateful thing which sucks bc teaching your kids how to cook and clean is obviously so important and they’ve twisted it into hatred for someone who doesn’t exist
That little boy talking about taking care of his mother was so sweet! But news flash. Little girls speak like that too. Little kids see grown-ups struggle and will want to help. And think they can fix our problems. It's a sweet thing.
I just recently discovered that I’ve shrunk since I was measured last 🙈, my eldest said that it was okay because she is still growing and she will help me reach things!
When my dad was asked, "who gives this woman's hand away to this man in marriage today?", he said, "My daughter is not a possession to be given away, but I do offer my blessing to this union and express my joy to be gaining a son".
I LOVED it and was so proud of him for saying that!!! ❤❤
Love this. Giving your blessing to the union just sounds leagues better than giving your daughter away.
My mom is totally a toxic boy mom. She always preferred my brother over me and my sister. Which is hilarious because we were pretty neglected as kids. My brother doesn’t bother going to the supervised visits anymore and my sister just feels obligated to at this point. Once they hit 18, i doubt they’ll see her more than like once a year. Which is just the reality of having a toxic, abusive, and narcissistic mother lol
Your brother is probably better at sports though
I'm sorry, Kat. My mom suffered from CPTSD so growing up with her was brutal, but now she got years and years of help and going no contact with her narssasistic mother (my grandmother is the literal devil), we have a healthy relationship. My dad on the other hand, I'm going no contact with. The emotional and verbal abuse both my sister and I get from him is absolutely astonishing. So it's been... A year and 4 months now? Haven't spoken to him. I'll let him die alone because I never asked to be born. I'm not going to put up with his shit when we've done nothing wrong. He dug his own lonely grave all himself.
@@professorfoxtrotew, why are you spying on kids?
@@SarastistheSerpent Why are you trying to groom kids?
@@professorfoxtrot bro are you like, okay??? why are you scanning this comment section for what im assuming youre seeing as annoying women you need to correct. go for a walk or something
"keep his balls empty"... I just barfed inside my mouth a bit
I was eating and almost actually did cause I choked
Sounds like she took those disgusting wedding vows that went viral awhile back and made them into a mantra for what her baby boy deserves
😨
Brotha eughhhh
About the mum that bought her son a car and her daughter a gift card.
My brothers didn't knew what to get me for my 18th birthday so instead of giving me a gift card they took me shopping and set a budget for me. We got pizza together and it was so nice and also just a fun bonding moment that showed that they cared. We never had a close relationship but that was such a fun day
(I ended up buying Lego btw)
The boy mom with the twin gifts that were so unequal brought to my mind the husband who has lived with their wife forever but still can’t figure out what to get her for her bday so just gets a gift card (then expects to be congratulated for remembering).
To me, it clearly shows that the mom has paid so much more attention to her son. That lack of interest and understanding took me right back to every bday and Xmas with my mom. I feel so much for these kids.
girls want a car and can drive too duh!
Not only is a son’s love for his mother different from that for his partner, a grown man’s love for his mother is different from a little boy’s love for his mother. Whether he has a partner or not. His partner is not “stealing him” from you.
10/10 would sleep with a man whos mother threatens to do the same to me that I do to him. Please ma'am. Right this way
"I'll do to you what you do to him 😤"
Promise? 👀
/J
Get on your knees Jessica 😂
My bisexuality....
*yes*
@overlordfemto7523 i was not abused as a child
@overlordfemto7523 I'm sorry you don't love women lmao
So there was this reddit post where this woman basically complained about her daughter and said she wished she should give her up. Meanwhile, she talked up her son, talking about how they whispered secrets, cuddled, etc. She also said that the son never went through terrible twos. She acted as if her daughter was the devil for...acting like a kid. She talked about how her son told her to send the daughter to her room. She refused therapy for herself because clearly, she wasn't the problem. It was really gross and sad. The ages of the kids in the story were like five and four or something.
Yeah, I remember that, super disturbing and super gross
Interesting how that mom is so glad she has a boy to take care of her in her old age when it's women who are more likely to be in caretaker roles. Not that anyone should have kids with the expectation that they'll take care of them in their old age.
The birthday story hit so hard. It was weird to hear the parents perspective of a situation where they make the kid responsible for the parents emotions
My parents wanted daughters and they got them. They got the pretty princess, dress loving girl in my sister and...me. Who was interested in bugs and lizards and playing in the mud. Which turned into fixing shit, video games, comic books..etc. My mom used to joke "Did they accidentally give me a boy?" 🙃 Gender is so stupid
You just described my daughter but she’s also into princess dresses. You’ll often find her in a mud puddle dressed as belle or Elsa or helping her Mama build something with her hot pink tools lol. Yay for strong girls who broke the mold when they were born.
"Gender is so stupid" What other facts are "stupid"? Gravity? Aging? How about.... Deal with it.😆
@@professorfoxtrotAgeing IS stupid lol, I'm sick of it
That is such a valid view, I would love to add my "No gender just frog" sticker here, but can not because well we are not on WhatsApp but just know that it is really cute and dismissing the idea of gender is so valid, not everything is black and white...(even though not everyone agrees:))
@@professorfoxtrotcomparing something social like gender to concrete things like gravity and aging is crazy
The "our child is lying about our home life" at 9:30 is a thing my abusive parents did, too. They don't like anyone spilling the family secrets about the toxic environment. Then they act shocked when their kid doesn't want to hang out with them.
And they assume they’re so good at the ab*se, that the child will grow up and continue to tolerate it, so gross
“What happens in this house, stays in this house”, my husband heard that a lot as a kid. It makes me so sad
Whenever I had bruises as a kid I had to lie like I fell on concrete or I fell from my bike it’s disgusting.
Edit At times they don’t trust us so they lie to other people or let us stay at our home.
Yup. My evil mother did the same thing when I said anything to my friends parents about the bullshit she would pull on me... Like throwing me out of the house because she's angry at whatever. Ever slept on a roof at the city high school at night when you're 12???? Hmmm I bet she wonders why I quit talking to her years ago.
i think it's funny how these kinds of moms don't want daughters because they don't want to deal with any girly things, but like...they themselves like these stereotypically masculine things, so isn't that in itself proof that not all girls are one way?
and besides, even as someone who isn't all that into girly things (even before i transitioned i was into stuff like monster jam, if anything i've been more comfortable with feminine things since i came out as transmasc lmfao), i would still love to do "girly" things with any kids i wanted to have, it just seems so sweet and wholesome to be able to braid their hair or play dolls with your kid, even if it's something you would never be interested in, why wouldn't you want to make those memories of pure happiness with your kid, no matter what it is you're doing? if anything that's way more precious than the weird ownership they think they have over their sons, thinking other women are "competition" in some weird gross incesty way
It's the internalized misogyny. Anything considered stereotypically "girly" is also considered weak, empty, uninteresting, surface-level, vain, etc. They are in denial of those parts of themselves because it is a trait of the "perfect woman object" that men have invented and which is inherently dehumanizing
I just had to deal with my mom and brother both acting like toddlers so seeing this is kinda ironic
Women are not designed to be feminists and die alone.
@@professorfoxtrotthere's one among us two who will die alone and it's not me
@@sava-smththey deleted their comment 👀
@@KingOfGaymesthey didn't, it's still here. Looks like it's just filtered out of main comment page, but i can see it on "most recent" one. They seem to have left this comment section tho 😛🫱
"what did my hypothetical daughter ever do to you?" LITERALLY. These women are picking fights with hypothetical women who may or may not ever enter their son's lives... it is psychotic and the reason mother in laws have such a bad reputation.
"I'm not saying my girls don't love me." Maybe they shouldn't.
I was the youngest girl in a family of 6, and only two of us were boys. To this day, 32 years in my life, the difference between how my mom treated me and my sisters is starkly contrasted to how she treats my brothers. They are damn near holy in comparison. You said emotional 1nc3st, and it struck a chord in me that just reminded me of my childhood and how my mother favors my brothers. Even to this day, that behavior has trickled into her relationship with her grandsons where she is openly favoring the grandchildren who are boys, and ignoring the grandchildren who are girls.
I now have just one daughter of my own, and I work ceaselessly to give her a life where her presence is valued, appreciated, and respected. I could never imagine putting a child above another just because of their gender.
Does your mom realize she does that?
The giving away your daughter ritual is called 'kanyadaan' in hinduism and it perfectly translates to girl donation. I've always found it weird but hey, divided by religions and cultures, united by misogyny
GIRL DONATION?! Idk how to react to that, its hysterical and horrifying at the same time
It's not girl donation is the giving of gotra so maybe get some knowledge
@@elizakarnopp8921 yeah, that was my reaction when i realised it
@@unknownperse I never specified what that ritual signifies because honestly it doesn't make the name of it any less weird and misogynistic. Maybe be less rude
@@FIRXFLY well maybe read scripture instead of judging your culture through the lense of rumours and fellacies and also search the word daan in those scriptures Sanskrit isn't as simple as you think it is so better get a translated version
Getting a used car where the wheels are actively falling off is like $3 grand in the US. A car that is actually safe to drive would be about 10 grand at the very least (and that is with amazing haggling skills). I think the daughter not speaking to her mother for giving her only $300 is more than justified to just move out and cut ties at that point
“toxic gossip train” is all i can think about 💀
Aaaaaalll abooaaard the toxic boy mom train
not really the same thing at all. im not sure why youre thinking about it
Me listening attentively to the stories, but also watching the plushies in their slow declines.
Exactly what I needed after three excruciating hours in a class with the worlds worst professor
Women need to be trained not to be feminists
Exactly! I just had maths.
@@professorfoxtrotI'm hunting you for sport
@@professorfoxtrotok
I must know more! Why are they the worst professor?? 😄😄
UHG THE MOM WITH THE TWINS AND THE CAR KILLED ME.
It really reminds me of one of my own stories.
My moms side of the family has a yearly family get together, this includes granparents, aunts/uncles and several cousins.
The year when my mom and bio-dad divorced bio-dad got my brother(6m) a Nintendo DS for Christmas. Since he had gotten such a nice gift I was also very excited to see what I had gotten because up to this point we had been treated pretty equally.
For me (who just turned 11 that day because Christmas is also my birthday) bio-dad gave me a framed stock photo of a horse in a toster box, and a note about how he wasn't sure what to get me anymore because I "was a woman now" (I had gotten my first period like two months before this)
When I started crying (overstim/overwhelm + the clear unfairness of the gifts) my step-dad called me a brat for thinking it wasn't fair.
My mom at least saw that this was fucking wierd so she decided that calling him to ask him what he was thinking was a great idea. This quickly devolved into an hour long screaming match where he agreed to mail us the money to buy me one (at this point I just wanted to curl up and die for causing a scene at Christmas and ruining it for everyone).
My poor brother thought it was his fault and tried to make it right by giving his gift to me (i explained why i was upset when i calmed down and he realized that none of that was his fault).
When I did end up getting my own my brother and I ended up switching DSes because I picked out a red one, and he had gotten a blue one (I liked blue more than red and he liked red more than blue so it was an easy choice lol).
I think the mom with twins in this video did a good job with the gifts based on her reasoning but she could've done a shopping spree of more than 300$ with the daughter instead of the gift card
BUT in ur case they did you dirty I mean Nintendo DS vs a framed stock photo is crazyy if ur dad didn't know what to get you he could've asked and ur step dad is wrong for calling you a brat for it
Your dad hates you girl. Please watch out for men like him. You being 11 means literally nOTHING. You having your period means LIterally NOTHING ( because you are still a little girl who can't drink go out at night or drive a car, so you having that don't mean you are a women. He is already seeing you as a women which is a big red uncomfortable flag. You don't talk about that at all.). He is a weirdo for even bring up that you a women now bullshit because he has a women that he married so how does he not know what his wife would have liked if she was young like you. Your mother kinda and brother are saving your family connection and love. Your dad will be brushed off or glossed over to seem like you guys just have a complicated dad but he is fxcking awful. Stay away from him, he don't deserve your love or time. You need to understand that this is soo.. weird.
@acehern I will admit I probably had a knee jerk reaction due to my own experience, I rewatched that portion of the video again and while the title makes them seem like they would be more similar the situations are different
The way your younger brother had more emotional (and just basic) intelligence than a GROWN MAN is very telling. Wow. How you're both doing ok.
@angelheart5584 overall I think we are (all things considered!) He's living with his GF (and cat!) and im living with my husband (and dog and cat and snake!). My brother came up for a visit recently for his 18th birthday and we got lunch at ihop! (Its a long story but my family lives everywhere now and I kinda like that more, it's less stressful. If it was just me and my brother in the same area I would still be stress free I am referring to the rest of them lol)
All those moms favoring their sons and expecting them to grow up to take care of her are likely in for a big disappointment. The way societal pressures and gender roles lead to most caregivers being women aside, raising a son who thinks he's more special than everyone else isn't exactly the way to teach the empathy and respect of others that would end up with any kind of caregiver, let alone a good one. He is not even going to visit her in Shady Pines.
I am a palliative care doc and work with a lot of older people nearing end of life, which is when their care needs are the greatest. Very often, it’s a daughter caring for them and a lot of times these daughters tell me that it’s the sons that were the Apple of the parents’ eyes but are absent when needed the most. It’s heartbreaking.
"raising a son who thinks he's more special than everyone else": That's exactly how we got Trump and others like him.
The thing about the nutcracker made me laugh, since it reminded me of the proud mom I saw at the theater, crying her heart out in happy tears while she watched her son dance the male lead role in that exact ballet.
I live in a city where a major ballet company will give any child-any gender, any race, doesn’t matter if they need mobility aids-a role in the company of their yearly Nutcracker, as long as that child can get to the rehearsals. The last time I went, I was one of the few people in the audience who didn’t have a family member on stage!
i was the first baby girl born since my dads older sister. when the family found out they were expecting a girl the joy and unconditional love was unwavering. i had one older brother and i did everything that he did, only i was wearing princess dresses and tiaras the whole time.
16:13 That's wild… “my daughter didn't express a care for freedom or a strive for being independent- so I figured she wanted to be a pretty trophy wife.”
Am I understanding that she didn't explicitly say she wanted a car/ anything?
Being a trophy wife is an honour. Men do not value shrill feminists.
Would mom even have noticed, had she said anything?
a 300$ gift card sounds like a cool gift on its own without anything to compare it to, but then a car basically tops just about any gift, i don't think the favoritism could get much more obvious
it's wild how she says the daughter doesn't have any hobbies, but like...fashion and makeup are hobbies?? just because it's something traditionally feminine doesn't make it not a hobby, it's something you do in your spare time so wtf else would it be?
@@jasperjazzieand makeup is expensive. The last face paint palette I bought was $120+ tax. I also had to buy specific brushes for it so it was around $200. $300 for somebody that's really into fashion + makeup that's almost nothing
@@rosariojailene i hadn't even really thought about it, i consider myself into clothes but the stuff i get tends to not cost that much so i've never rlly been aware of how much things cost lmfao,, that's insane though that it costs so much, and in that case it's even worse, the mom could easily have just put aside the same amount of money she spent on the car and gave it to her to go clothes shopping or even offered to take her to her favorite shops or whatever, but it's clear she wouldn't care enough to.
i get not everyone has money to blow like that but if that were the case you wouldn't be gifting a car, so i feel like she could have afforded it
the car was $10,000. it wasnt a cheap car and no way op would treat their daughter to anything that expensive. clear favorites.
btw this comes from a reply op made on the original post. so if you ask for the source: op themselves.
@@MythologicaYT This makes everything even worse
Bruh no teenager should get a $10,000 car. It’s not like they couldn’t afford to get them each a $5000 car at that point. Wild. Insanity. That’s more than 33x as much as they spent on her. That’s so far beyond favoritism. Like I would get it if it were like he gets a car on his 18th birthday and you’ll get one on yours…but like they’re twins. You already know everything in their life is inequal. That poor girl is going to grow up resenting her own twin bc of the favoritism when it’s not either of their fault but just how they were raised 😭
"We accept the love we think we deserve" I love you so much perks of being a wallflower
The thing that pisses me off the most, is the fact that so often the negleted daughter will stick around the mother on daily basis even as an adult, taking care of her parents, while being totally taken for granted for everything she does, while the favored son will be nowhere to be seen and still he'll receive all the unconditional love the mother has to share. It feels nearly like it can't be completely subconscious. The negleted child will work so hard to get the attention they never had, while the pampered on will keep having good things coming to them and their life will be successfull. It's like sabotaging the life of one of your child's while sponsoring the other to the maximum.
I need to note tho, that there's the phenomenon of "daddy's girls", it's not just the mums showing favoritism like this. It looks like the parents will favor the child that reminds them less of themselves and more the one who's going to grow up to be someone they'd date... which is so disturbed on it's own way.
"People accept the love they think they deserve" is one of the most emotionally intelligent things I've ever heard anyone say.
I will always say in these videos, I wonder what these moms will do if their son is gay or trans. There might not be a girl replacing the mom. I think they would like explode.
@@talyyyylouiseeee7108 Kiwi just hates successful mothers.
@@professorfoxtrot"sucsessful" as wanting to be their toddler's girlfriend. We have different understanding of success. Mine's better
@@sava-smthIf kiwi has the choice she would take rocketships and racing cars away from little boys. Men are the future of our civilization. They created the industrial revolution and modern medicine - we should be elevating them not trying to tear them down.
That happened to my girlfriends boy mom. My wonderful trans girlfriend is going through absolute craziness with her boymom bullsh--. I'm actually considering writing something up this week on a text to both her parents for how they've been treating her and how they are the reason behind her depression. I'm rolling up my sleeves, and I'm about to go to town.
@@professorfoxtrot Men wouldnt exist without women, they have to come from somewhere. Men dont just spontenously appear out of thin air.
As a mother, I love these videos just because you give everyone the best parenting advice. I wish every parent could know the parenting skills you know, and you don’t even have kids 😂
This might just be in my head, but I have noticed that a lot of people who don't think they would be good parents or are scared to have kids bc they are scared to mess up (like the Queer Kiwi) actually have the exact amount of care and self-awareness needed to be a successful and loving parent, and often people having kids for no real discernable reason are highly underprepared and lack that self-reflection that makes someone a capable parent
@@NettylSpryngs Well often advice is easy to say but harder to do. I know the psychological harm emotional disregulation can have on a child. For that reason I probably won’t have my own children because I know I wouldn’t be able to handle the emotional toll raising a child for *years* would take.
@@abccba4889 That's totally understandable. I guess my point is that that decision shows a high level of responsibility and empathy, which are also important traits in parenting, not that it necessarily helps with whatever circumstances influence the choice not to have kids. I don't know if that was any clearer tho 😭 I'm ngl I've had like 4 or 5 hours of sleep in the last 3 days, so I probably am not articulating my thoughts the best at the moment
It's terrible dating advice to tell mothers not to love their sons while promoting them to be trans. What is wrong with you?
@@professorfoxtrot what are you talking about
In a way, these moms are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. When they raise their sons to idolize their mothers as the ideal romantic partner, they are going to look for a partner who acts like a mother to them, and in turn they are kind of "replacing" their mother with this new partner
right and then when adult women inevitably do not want to mother their grown partners (which these mothers know) he will come running back to mom because no other woman treats him as well, which is exactly what mom wants. setting unrealisitc expectations for her son that never being held accountable and everything being done for you is the norm, then the adult son realizes it is not realistic and struggles in his adult relationships. he doesn't learn to love women for who they are, he learns to love women for what they can do for him, which is exactly how mom feels about son, she only loves him for what he can do for her. such a self fulfilling prophecy.
I did horrible at an audition just now, this genuinely made me feel better
Bet you didn't do as awfully as you think you did 💛
I’m a AFAB Gen Xer. I’m very grateful to my parents who thought that gendering toys was silly, and let me play with whatever I liked.
Oh cool!! A Gen Xer!!! 😁😁I'm a late Millenial 🫡
@overlordfemto7523 Glad to see you're still here boosting the algorithm. 💋👌✨️
@overlordfemto7523 LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL. Try using correct grammar next time you go Trolling.
@@wrantingwriter2921i know right lol theyre in every comment. at least this video has more interactions under it!
@overlordfemto7523is gen x a synonym for woman now? I guess everyone born between 1965 and 1980 is a woman. 🤷🏽
the story about the birthday, as a mom i totally get wanting to spend your child’s birthday with them. labor and birth is a huge event and spending that day with your child is special. that being said it’s selfish to force or guilt your child into spending time with you, he’s growing up. eat a piece of cake with him when he comes home and talk about his day! to ruin his day is lunatic behavior.
It sure is a good way for her to push her son further away!
On the car vs card issue, OP responded to some comments before deleting the account entirely - the car cost TEN FUCKING THOUSAND DOLLARS 💀💀💀
Please tell me they realise they were in the wrong
@@pandaseal1611they, indeed, did not.
20:59 So like, can we talk about the fact that that one lady had her baby in a headlock. That was weird.
Wrestling your toddler you know normal things normal people do 👍
i’m a fraternal twin, and my parents have ALWAYS given me and my brother equivalent gifts, even when they weren’t the best parents to either of us. even when we were young we always had a split birthday cake, and although i thought it was annoying back then, i understand now that it was just their way of treating us as equals with the money they had.
a car vs a gift card is an extremely clear choice to be cruel and i hope her daughter realizes it’s not her fault her own mom treats her that way
something so powerfully toxic online parent about "am i a terrible mom? please be kind" she's practically begging people to give her an echo chamber and give her no criticism
it makes my head and heart hurt to see moms basically say their daughters aren’t worth having in comparison to their sons.
I can't tell whether or not these "boy moms" are narcissists who chose their sons as the golden child for their toxic lifestyles. Or if they all just settled for partners they didn't actually love, and the initial parenting bond was just the strongest love they've ever actually felt and so have to project that being mutual.
Mostly the second one, sometimes the first, sometimes both
My Mom is definitely in the second one. I feel like that’s the most common… I would go as far to say it’s probably 60/40 at least, with the mother settling for a less than ideal partner on top.
i don't have any kids but my grandma(rest in piss) was an ABUSIVE boy mom, who raised by dad, and ABUSIVE "girl" dad(i'm a trans dude). they should have taken notes from my mom's parents, they gave three sons and one girl and they're so chill about it. one of my uncles is adopted too and they treat him no differently. he's also a welder and really cool, just thought i'd add that
This is a very nasty and resentful view of your grandmother. Why would they want their kids to become trans?
@@professorfoxtrotwhy wouldn’t they?
@@SarastistheSerpent So if I understand your position correctly, there is a situation in which a grandmother would want to inflict their grandchildren with a mental illness?
@overlordfemto7523good for her then
@overlordfemto7523L comment
5:02 In these types of videos, the sons usaly look around 3 years old. And the age gap between spouses in most of the world is 2 years. So these moms are fighting actual babies.
Weak men are produced by feminism.
@@professorfoxtrotyou're so weak you pee yourself at the mention of periods
I love your videos, Kiwi. Your videos always cheer me up even if it’s topics like toxic boy mums. And I really appreciate that you write your own CCs and not only the auto-generated ones
Toxic feminists are resentful
@@professorfoxtrotoboboo looks like your parents didn't loved you 🥺
OH MY GOD SHE DOES
I’m a twin and even tho were identical (I’m a cis woman) my twin is trans so he’s my twin brother. My mom always treated our older brother much better than us and my twin better than me. As I’m the girl and the youngest (only by a minute, but that counts to her) this literally happened to me except she said the car was both of ours but then only let my twin have it and there wasn’t even a measly 300$ gift card for me. That mom sucks and so does mine. And even tho I’m the only construction worker and have no interest in stereotypical “girly” things, I’m still treated the same so I doubt her interests were a real factor in it, it’s just misogyny plain and simple
I'm a daughter who had a little brother but my mom was normal and treated us equally. From the way she loved and raised us to our gender roles. I can't fathom the hatred a "boy mom" might have created between our sibling bond, because my brother is literally my best friend. It's so sad that a lot and boys and girls are raised to compete with each other
Can we talk about how Kiwi’s earring game is ALWAYS on point? Like she is rocking those Toy Story earrings!
Her earrings are as crazy and kooky as her
Yesss i make earrings and would die if she wore them
Freud having a field day with these women
God, that story about the twins is heartbreaking. It was bad enough as a younger child always being an afterthought (e.g. my older sister got a car and a huge party for her high school graduation, while I got a $5 piece of costume jewelry and a reheated takeout pizza), but I can't even imagine how much worse it would be if it was my LITERAL TWIN.
imagine toxic beige boy moms
She's just mad at mothers are serving their purpose.
@@professorfoxtrotoh, a man sure knows everything about a woman's purpose, sure buddy
@@sava-smthKiwi is a resentful feminist who hates men.
@@professorfoxtrot are you a bot? You just said that under other comment
You aware you helping qiwi by feeding algorithm, right?😂
@@sava-smth Only stating the obvious. Kiwi hates men and needs to shave her pits.
MY EXPERIENCE WITH A CRAZY BOY MOM AS A TEEN GIRL
I’m 16 and I got my first boyfriend (I was his first too) this year, 2023. His mom is like this. He was 17 and I was 15 when we got together. She FLIPPED OUT about the age gap (her and her controlling angry and abusive husband and her have a 8 year age gap and met when she was 19.).
He’d tell me things about home that I totally believe and his mom told me how he is lying to impress me.
She at one point was like “he says things like how you love him more than I do and that isn’t true at all” and I said “I never tell him things like that, that’s manipulative. He says those things on his own” and she goes “yeah I know you don’t but still”
Another time she told me how he lies for attention about how his home life is too. His mom tells him everything like he is her therapist and cries to him all the time.
His sister who is a year younger than I am would get jealous when he would do anything for me. Like girlfriend level like she would cry when he would touch me or do sweet things for me. IT WAS SO CONCERNING
We broke up because he was toxic because of his insane incest-y family and because he was a reflection of his family. They wanted me to conform to their standards and lives but were so toxic and awful that the LAST thing I want it “acceptance” into their family. They refuse change but need it.
I feel really bad for all his future girlfriends and for him as a person. I realize as a person that I bring more to the table and deserve more than that.
For anyone in the shoes I was in:
He won’t pick you over her
She isn’t going to change. She hates your position, not you. Therefore nothing but changing your relationship will change how she treats and thinks of you.
Good luck and please leave. Save yourself the heartbreak.
Anyways, much love and care. 😊
Ps: if you want I’ll tell you more or if you want to talk about anything I’d be happy to.
The Jiniret slowly falling in the background was so funny to me for absolutely no good reason. Also the outfits on them were adorable!
I taught kindergarten for fifteen years. We took the kids to The Nutcracker one year. The best reaction was from a little boy who was totally sports-obsessed and generally traditionally masculine. He leaned over the balcony and had his mouth hanging open the whole time like it was the most medical thing he ever saw. His mom said he asked Santa for the movie that year.
My mom hated the color pink when she had me. She doesn’t anymore, but she just got me cute little blue, yellow, or green outfits as a kid. She always put a bow in my hair to stop strangers from thinking I was a boy because of the blue, but most of those yellow or green outfits were girly and had flowers and stuff. There is definitely a middle ground that these boy moms are acting like doesn’t exist.
My bio brother 'loved' my mother while also verbally and physically abusing her. She disowned him when she found out that he SA-ed me several times when I was 11. Didn't pass Go, didn't collect $200, told him to get tf out of our lives and don't come back.
She could tolerate him abusing her, because she felt like she deserved it 'cause she spanked us when we were little, but she put her foot DOWN when it came to him abusing me. She tried so hard to prevent his mistreatment of me, but she had no idea how far he had already went the few times she wasn't looking.
But alllll that time, he claimed he loved his mother and his 'baby sister' dearly. Acted like the model son whenever someone outside the house was around. It was horrendous. As soon as we were alone, he'd tell our mother how much he hated her and wished she was *gone,* if you get my meaning. He thought he could get away with anything because Mom tolerated his abuse and his father (our bio father, who I've disowned years ago) enabled his behavior.
No, sons do not love their mothers more than daughters do. Abuse and hatred are not gender-specific behaviors. He abused her, meanwhile I'm still around and would trade my life for my mother. These 'mothers' who favor their children because of some INSANE fanfiction they made up in their heads, as well as enable and encourage their sons awful behaviors, boggle my mind. My mother disowned her own son to protect me. I doubt any of these mothers would do anything close to that if, horrifically, they were put in the same position.
im a boy and benefit from favoritism. I got a 3d printer and other stuff for christmas a few years back when my older sister just got a bunch of little stuff. i was grateful and happy for the 3d printer but then a felt guilty that i was happy about it when i knew i got a far better gift than my sister. i tried talking to my parents about this but they brushed it off. i dont want to benefit from favoritism but at this point theres nothing i can do about it and i feel awful. my sister is 22 and lives in another state now so its mostly over, but everytime my parents provide something good for me, i still feel a twinge of guilt
That gift card story hits home. I remember my brother getting a motorcycle for Christmas one year and I got a pair of shoes. My parents told me they were glad I wasn’t as expensive as him. It really hurt.
9:26 "he lies to her about his home life for attention"/"he tries to convince her his home life is awful" is a MASSIVE red flag in this whole schtick. anyone who's been raised by an abusive narcissist has had front row seats to this kind of bs.
personally, i tried reaching out for help *once*, and cps got involved. after a few months, my parental figure pulled me out of therapy and then made me write emails to "admit that i lied for attention" to my school counselor, the dean, and my two closest friends.
long story short, if someone is degrading their kid like this, keep your fuckin' eyes peeled for who's the REAL p.o.s.
I mean a person who would cancel any celebration of a child on their birthday because they feel slighted is likely to be a complete peach to live with /s
@@justine8387 can confirm from personal experience. it's *fantastic* /s
25:31
The implication that a daughter wouldn't do that for her is crazy. When it comes to love it holds no gender. My sister has carried my mom up the stairs when she couldn't go up on her own. The reason is because she loves her dearly and wants her to do well but apparently to this lady it's something that's not possible 💀
Yo idk if youve been seeing these shorts or not but I've been seeing a lot of video of women doing a back and forth with themselves complaining about their husband not doing stuff around the house correctly or at all. It's an interesting topic and I hate seeing them, I feel you're perfect for discussing these weaponized incompetence apologists
“Pick her over me.” And that’s the problem, parents should never be in competition with their children’s partners. Those are two different kind of love and relationships. There is room for both!
Dude, my mom is great and isn't as toxic as these moms but she sitll has some boy mom tendencies. Whenever someone was pregnant she would say "better hope its a boy they're easier to raise" like omg they're easier for you because you made me grow up fsater and take up adult tasks instead of my two older brothers. They were easier because you didn't get mad at them for everything, they were easier because you adultified your child daughter and took her innocent behavior and put negative connotation behind it.
My mother in law is constantly saying how glad she is that she had three boys cus they're easier to raise. 🙄 Like, no hun, you just didn't fully parent any of them or help them to emotionally mature while under your roof
"LINGER IN THOSE LANKY TEENAGE HUGS?!?!?!?!"
thats gross. Its like those pervy uncles who start to hug their nieces when they are going though puberty, saying "youve gotten so big. Youll be a heartbreaker for sure"
14:00 Parents helping their sons with wealth building (buying cars, down payments, cosigning) but neglecting to do the same for their daughters is actully so common it's scary.
My son was stillborn, so I don’t get to raise him, but I was so excited to teach him all kinds of life skills so that some day he would be self sufficient enough to be in a partnership and engage in relationships with people because he wanted to, not because they fulfilled a need he hadn’t been empowered to fulfill for himself. His sister is going to learn all kinds of skills and as much self respect as I can empower her to have so she has the inner strength to withstand potential MILs like these ones if she finds a person she decides is worth it, and the confidence to know she’s worth better if her partner caters to toxic parents. My son and daughter both deserve(d) to be taught that they are worth being loved and respected, and I’m going to make sure that if any of my kids friends have a parent like these ones, they have the opportunity to learn that they deserve love and respect from the people in their lives whenever they’re spending time at our house.
Sending hugs if you’d like them ❤
@overlordfemto7523 genuinely what is wrong with you
@@NadiraJamal thank you for your compassion. My son’s 2nd birthday is on Dec 24, so even just a simple comment like that goes a long way at this time of year.
@@melsoft121I’m so glad. ❤
@overlordfemto7523are you blind or intentionally ignorant? Stillborn meant the baby was fully formed, but was born asleep. Learn to use Google before you speak. So insensitive.
My cat died a few days ago and this post made me feel better so thank you❤
RIP Whiskers, Whiskers was a good kitty 🫡
How you holding up? Losing a loved one is never easy
One of my childhood cats disappeared recently and I miss her sm, rip mani, you were a gift. ❤
I hope you're doing okay, I've never felt the same pain as losing a pet. I hope they went peacefully and painlessly 🕊❤
It's a pet, not a son.
@@professorfoxtrotLook who obviously hasn’t owned a pet!!! By the way loved reading through your misogynistic comments on our lord and savior Kiwi’s other videos. Screw off and get a life.
My relationship with my son is the most beautiful, powerful, inspirational and pure thing that I have experienced. But thats just cause he's my only child.
These women are so creepy.
The whole birthday story is crazy to me.
Where I'm from, New Year's Eve is a big deal and traditionally a family holiday, but when I was 15 my friends decided to throw a party, and my family and I had a deal that we will have a family dinner on January 1st evening. And that's how we've been doing it ever since - everyone gets to have the fun they want, a chance to sleep, and then we also have a family dinner and exchange gifts.
I have also had my birthday twice for a while now - one with friends, one with family, and some years I even have a third celebration with my friends who live in another city! It hurts literally no one, and it's an opportunity to get more fun and celebrate your relationships with more people!
Something I’ve noticed about toxic boy moms. A lot of them tend to have only ONE son. An extra is they’ll have multiple girls.
I think that adds to their twisted projection. Seeing him as a “diamond” in the “rough”.
When i was younger i liked picking up snakes AND princess dresses. It's truly a combo move
i think something that these boy moms miss, specifically when it comes to the whole "teaching my son to cook so he's not [insert whatever here]" is like... it is SO close to the point. we should try to raise kids, regardless of gender, to be good people. we should show them how to have a healthy relationship, both romantic and not, and should "raise them for a future relationship" in the sense that we give them the skills needed to be able to set boundaries and have good, strong, and stable relationships
Little girls are not that simple yk? I was in princess dresses chasing down frogs in the mud and muck as a child. As an adult, I’m in overalls fixing up machinery while in a full face of makeup. Women at all ages, especially girlhood, are so complex.
In a really harsh day off my period, so a queer kiwi video coming out is just what I needed. Glad for the boymum topic, Lmao.
Ewww
@@professorfoxtrotaww someone is afraid of girls' cooties? Little pee pee boy is scared of periods and unshaved pits look look he peed himself!
when you said "if your kids are giving you conditional love than you are giving them conditional love" i have never related to words more. i will see my mom do such sweet things for my brother and know that she would NEVER do anything like that for me, and i know that because of that i treat her a lot worse than my brother does