I admire that you did what was best for you, and gave yourself time to process it. Glad you were able to remain friends + can't wait for the juicy Q+A!
This was not the break up video I was expecting, but I am pleasantly surprised this is how you're sharing it with us. Honestly, this was refreshing - you can really see your personal growth recently and you look so genuinely happy and positive. Break ups SUCK but they really do teach you so much about yourself and life in general.
You’re not the break up video girl you’re a normal girl in her 20’s who lives and learns. Everything happens for a reason. Always. Always. Always. You don’t owe anyone anything ever. Remember that. Love you forever ❤️
She's almost 30, stop making excuses for her. She could have been dating a guy that had a good job and a career, but she chose him instead. She needs to date better guys.
dont ever fee bad or like you owe anyone anything. You're allowed to have a private life and take time for yourself. As long as you're happy, that's what matters!!!!
I think you made a great decision to process the breakup before telling us about it. It shows a lot of maturity about the situation and awareness of Miles also. Glad you two are still great friends!!
watching this breakup video vs the christian breakup video (what? like 2 years ago?) just shows how insanely mature and how much you've grown since then GO U NIKKI
I do feel like most long term relationships kind of start feeling like how you guys started to feel. I’ve been married since I was 19 and I’m 26 now and if I said there weren’t times we just felt like friends or roommates I’d be lying. I think that’s kind of how it gets when you’re with someone for a while and always around them. My husband gets on my nerves like crazy sometimes. I think it’s easy for people to end relationships because the honey moon phase is over. (I’m not saying this regarding you and Miles because clearly we don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship) but sometimes when you start feeling that way about someone, maybe being bored or whatever, that’s when you gotta spice it up. This video just made me think of that because I’ve gone through it numerous times with my hubby. It’s different also because I’ve committed to him as in marrying him. Just saying relationships are hard and I get where you’re coming from. Thanks for being honest with us, we love you ❤️
SarahAnn I agree! I’ve been with my guy for 8 years. Sometimes you have to stop and remember to appreciate the one your with. Finding someone you can live with their “flaws” is important for a lifelong relationship!
Yes! You have to CHOOSE to love each other every day. And some days it takes a lot more convincing than others ahah. But that’s a long term relationship for ya
Marina M for sure. And you’re SUPPOSED to be with your best friend! Thats the goal in my opinion. When you’re young is when you choose who you grow old with. Who you can tolerate for years to come 😂
Gurl you didn't even owe us a breakup video (although I'm sure you felt that way with all of our questions). But what a lovely and respectable way to handle this. I'm glad you have each other as friends. ❤️
i highly love the fact that you waited to tell everyone like yeah it was obvious that y’all broke up but the way you waited to tell everyone because you didn’t want the attention makes you such a real and genuine person. i love you nikki ❤️
Loved you guys together...the chemistry, the wit, the aesthetic, etc. But alas, it was only a bird's eye view. You never know what the future holds. Wishing you both the best individually. ❤
Even though it was obvious, you owe no one an explanation. You have the right to a private life and to do what's best for you. Keep being you, you are great Nikki!! Much love!!
I broke up with my bf when Nikki broke up with C, now she broke up the same month I broke up with my other bf too. Nikki, contact me to organize our next brake up, pls.
Never feel like you owe anyone an explanation for what you do in your life, especially those who have no part of it (as much as us fans are a part of it in a way). Total respect to you both for keeping amicable, there's no better feeling than that and being able to keep your best friend! Keep being you! 😍🤩
I went back and re-watched your break up video like 3 times this past spring and it helped me soooo much with my break up. Thank you so much for always being real and honest with us
Girl, I have a ton of respect for you for keeping the breakup private for as long as you did. It speaks so much on your character, especially since most people give away every personal life detail on social media. I'm happy to hear that you're both doing well as individuals and that life is good. Sending nothing but love your way!
During your very public break up I was going through a divorce. I appreciate that you basically helped me through that. You’re not obligated to tell us anything...unless you and Bradley Cooper finally realize you’re meant to be lol. Love from Texas 🙌🏽✨❤️
Girl !! We kind of got the clues but I feel like you did an amazing job explaining you don’t owe us anymore you don’t have to either way because we’ve been there as in we go threw a break up and we keep it to ourselves and it’s so okay !! May you guys be the way that you are now and don’t let anything or anyone tell you differently we love you & were here to LISTEN & not question you 🥰😘
Sooo much respect for you girl. I won't lie, I was so curious, but I think it's so admirable of you to wait and allow yourself and the other person to process things before sharing it with the world. And that's amazing that you guys figured out how to maximize your friendship by taking away the relationship aspect. So happy for you!
To be honest your breakup video was the first video I watched from you but I just related to it a lot at the time and all it lead me to do was go and watch all your other videos!
I've always believed that before any other type of relationship, the most valuable one is the friendship one. When all else fails, a friend is the last thing we should lose. That's how we all start with at some point, all added intimacy beyond that is a bonus, but friendship is the root of all relationships. 🙏
Yup my sister has had the same experience in a way. My sister and this guy tried dating several times and it never worked, and finally they ended it and lived separately for a bit. But they realized they work together AMAZINGLY as best friends, and are even back to living together (although that's more to do with my sister's current finacial situation, but then I guess that's even more proof of their friendship). So yea! Sometimes you think you're really into a guy, and maybe you are attracted to them and such, but then you slowly realize that the expectations of a romantic relationship are way heavier than that of best friends, and at the end of the day you really just jive with their personality, but aren't really compatible romantically.
I definitely don’t think you’re the break up girl. We all are going through relationships and breakups. We just aren’t all having to deal with it as a big RUclipsr. You’re allowed to go through this stuff, and if anyone tells you any different, they can kick rocks.
Low key wish Miles would be more into social media or start his own RUclips. I really enjoy his personality. Glad you guys are still friends and wish you both all the happiness 💕
You are not the breakup video girl...we all go through breakups etc. Thank you for being yourself, for always being genuine and just know that love will come at its time. Enjoy life and focus on you! ❤
So proud of you - woman to woman ❤😊 you dealt with it so wisely and maturely, and it's important to gracefully let go of things that aren't meant for us - expectations can be so tricky, have you ever read "The 5 Love Languages"? It's incredibly insightful - for example, my husband is a Pisces and his love language is "acts of service" so since I know that about him, I have to take his acts of service towards me as demonstrations of his love...whereas I might miss those demonstrations if I only consider what he does in *my* love language to be showing his love toward me. And mine are "quality time" and "words of affirmation" - mine are more focused on verbal communication, whereas his are more focused on non-verbal. So he puts a little extra effort in showing me love in my language, and I give a little extra effort in showing him love in his, and we're both considerate of the other's "native" language, so to speak, so we aren't missing those demonstrations of love either 😊 Sorry for the long comment LOL that book has just been integral in my understanding regarding relationships and communication, and it's a short easy read so that's awesome too LOL
I think this is really important for couples to understand, may help couples avoid mitigate a lot of heartache and confusion. I also think learning to acceot people for who they are is integral to having a successful relationship. I know that it took me years to fully accept somethings about my boyfriend, but out relationshio is better for it, and I am so much happier.
Omg, thank you so much girlfriend for sharing this. I’m just reading through comments ( liking the ones I agree with since I have nothing better to do lol) and your explanation of love language was extremely insightful. Your example of your relationship reminded me of my mine. The meaning of love is different in my ex’s perspective and mine. I thought it meant we’d never mix well, but if you can have a healthy relationship than maybe he an I can too. He’s still patiently waiting for me... Im going to check out that book you recommended. Hopefully learn a bit more about myself... I figured I caused us issues or we just didn’t mix but this definitely making sense now. Sorry for the long rant haha. Just wanted to say thank you.
@@TravelsWithLari You're most welcome beautiful! You are absolutely right, even when people have completely different love languages, it doesn't mean the relationship won't work. It may take more work to communicate and figure each other out, yes, but a lot of times complete opposites match better than those who are more similar, it just totally depends on the people involved! Best wishes in your relationship, love, and I hope you find the book as insightful and priceless as I have! 😊❤
Nikki you are utterly amazing♡ I love watching your growth and how your personality just shines through! You're going to find your person but theres never any rush! You know you have a whole network of support backing you up!! Love you Nikki and always wishing great things for you♡♡
First off, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone just know that. Relationships are hard for sure and even harder when everyone wants to know what’s going on. I think your video did so good because we look for someone to relate to, and it’s amazing when it’s someone we look up to. I don’t comment on your videos too often, but I wanted to let you know that watching your last breakup honestly helped me with a breakup that I went through. We all go through breakups. You’re not the breakup girl. I’m sure it’s not easy having this in the public eye, but just know that this video will probably help someone out there, like your last one helped me❤️ Thank you Nikki❤️
I'm glad you took time for yourself and please dont ever feel that you owe anyone an explanation, the most important thing is that you are doing good 💓You are Awesome 🍍🍍
This is very cool Nikki, I akways saw true love between the two of you but love isn't only romantic. This is awesome that you still good friends... We love Miles too. Cheers to you handling this like a pro and putting yourself first. 😉😜😘💕
Sometimes a person is right for right now- and they are the person you need for now, but that time eventually passes. Both of you guys will go on and find your special somones for life, and the past relationships helps you be the person you needed to be.
Hello Nikki, as a guy somehow I really enjoy your videos. I became aware of you from way back when in cringemans videos, I’ve been “following” you ever since (& not him anymore) & admire & appreciate your success & I also think you thoroughly deserve it all x So I have a genuine & serious question for you!?! (And it’s this).............. do you think that your social media status is somehow contributing to your relationship issues? I mean you could absolutely bag any guy you wish for many many reasons & as a guy I guess that could be a little intimidating! Anyway you are beautiful & Myles is cool AF so I wish you both the best in whatever & wherever go,...........Merry Christmas x
You don’t owe any one the details, an explanation or anything. It’s your life. Share what you want. Don’t share what you don’t want to. You don’t owe your subscribers anything. Personal stuff sucks and sometimes you need to go through it yourself offline.
But all RUclipsrs think they have to share the break of the marriage all that stuff I look at it as this way if they broke up that's their business their need to talk about it. It's like when you go to work and you break up with somebody you're not telling your whole company. I broke up with my wife or broke up with my boyfriend you don't say that. The whole time I've been on RUclips never once told people I broke up with somebody the most of time I don't put them in the videos
Welp we already knew that. We just wanted to hear you say it 😂😂 but I hope you’re relived to have addressed the elephant! 🐘 Makeup or not you are beautiful!
MacyKitty2 I was wondering if maybe he had to be off her social media due to some music thing he has in the works or something. I’m glad she finally gave some clarification!
Nikki you will find your significant other. He wasn't for you. But I'm confident that you find that person and be happy for eternity. You are a person with a beautiful heart. Inside and out. I hope you have a nice day.
For the q&a: do you guys still have the “benefits” part of the relationship 🥰😛... or just totally friends. Have you guys talked about if one of you starts dating etc if you’ll still be friends?
you seem so much stronger and yourself now! I respect how well you have approached the whole situation. Watching your other break up video I literally cried with you because i could feel how sad you were. I am so happy for you and all the progress you've made :)
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Happy that everything’s good between you two, shown that you’ve grown as a person for not jumping on here and talking about it when it happened, so proud ❤️
I just assumed you guys weren’t together cause he disappeared off the vlogs. I am happy that you guys are still friends though, not every relationship is meant to be forever and embrace what you had and what you still have. Lots of love, loving your vlogmas!!
Love you Nikki you’re the exact opposite of cringe❤️ Sorry if this is an invasive question but when you say ‘emotionally process’ do you mean that it might’ve been difficult for you two while being friends for a bit because you’re still physically attracted to each other? Completely understand if you don’t want to answer💜
Ily, I’ve literally been dwelling this weekend on my break up that ended a month ago. This video and your positivity gives me so much comfort and support. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I’m so glad y’all are good. Being friends with an ex can be a really great thing.
Much respect for you. I think it's a good idea to process your breakups minus people's opinions. And I can totally see you guys being friends. BTW you are slaying vlogmas.
Honestly I thought it was obvious that you and Miles broke up, and I always had a feeling that you two were still friends. Anyways I'm glad you're both doing well 😁
I found your channel from your infamous break up video and it helped me through my first big break up. I recently went through another break up this year in July and I referenced back to your video again. Needless to say I’m glad that first video exists and I enjoy the raw talking videos like the ones you’ve been doing lately.
I was actually hoping that this was the situation, and the reason why you have been silent. I'm so glad that you have stayed friends! You look so happy about it! probably this is the best possible ending for you. Sending you all the hugs Nikki, love you !!!
Do not ever let it get you down!!🍍🍍🍍 Nikki B..it does not matter...if someone walks from you,they're not your destiny.. God knows your heart like no one else.( Even better than you do). God has someone for you, perfect for you! You're a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart and you just focus on yourself and Max. We all love you and none of this matters..what matters is that you're happy with someone that deserves you.. it will happen at the right time
I know this is supposed to be serious but....I’ve been staring at this white monster ornament for 10 minutes now...so, uh what were you saying again 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about your relationships. ❤️ your videos... It's awesome that yall can be adult enough to still be friends and not have the drama but still support each other!
I think it’s great that you let things sit for a while and let yourself process it all. Relationships are such a strange things, everyone gets so caught up with projections of what they think the other person should be. People need to remember to allow space for each other as individuals within those relationships. There’s no magical way to make relationships work, it’s a choice to do it because it’s what you want. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes there’s situations where two people just grow apart. It’s so stigmatized when people break up like somebody did something horrible to cause it. They need to know why it happened and that answer has to be wrought with tension when it often times is just that two people don’t mesh. You’ve just got to focus on the ideas of who you are and your core values through it all to get that little nugget of knowledge from it. Relationships teach us so much about ourselves!
I totally respect you not jumping to tell someone you broke up! My very first boyfriend we were on and off for months after driving everyone crazy with the will they won’t they! Like you said, you still were processing, still trying to figure out what you guys were going to do
We appreciate this video but just because you’re a vlogger doesn’t mean you HAVE to tell us everything. We love you always and wish you nothing but positivity and happiness. Xoxo. #TeamNikkiB 😘💋
My husband & I dated for 2 years then we were absolute best friends for a couple years + now we’ve been married 7 years! Sometimes you just need time apart to grow as a person + figure out what you want/need to make yourself happy first. So much respect for not using your relationships for views & stuff like a lot of creators do. It’s refreshing to see someone who is so raw + real like you are. 💓✨
Kyle if you don’t mind me asking. How did you manage that? I feel like I’m going through something similar but it’s weird because how do you remain best friends with someone you are in love with? Like what if they find someone else later but you still love them... it’s almost like a double heart break.
Tre Bell honestly at first it was tough, we even both dated different people during that time. But we realized that through every change in our life we always called on one another + we’re there for each other no matter what. We didn’t talk a lot about our relationships we were in at the time, but still had respect for the others relationship. We’ve always been really close & we knew at the time we wanted different things in life. We matured a lot over those 2 years we weren’t together, but we also knew if we were meant to be together then it would happen. Anytime something major happened in our life during those times we realized that we would always rely on each other & no matter what we didn’t want to lose the connection we’ve always had so we broke off our relationships bc it wasn’t fair to our SOs & gave ourselves about 4-5 months to be single & find out what we truly wanted & eventually it led us to being together & we haven’t left each other since. Within a year of being back together we had two amazing little boys & got married. It was like at the point we ended up back together it’s like it’s what was meant to happen. Everything fell into place perfectly + our relationship was so different than it was before, but so much better. We had both grew up & matured so we knew how to love each other fully + not let anything else come in the way.
I was about to say this. I have a feeling Nikki’s love language is acts of service... Edit to say my husbands is acts of service and that doesn’t make any body hard to love or be with but it is hard for someone like me (physical touch) to really understand how that speaks to love. So I would have your next partner find out theirs as well and kind of discuss expectations together to get a better understand of how best to communicate your feelings. It works well for us to remind each other hey...I need a hug from you, I need you to make dinner to show me you care. And because I love him I’m more than happy to do that now that I understand he doesn’t just want a servant. When he’s trying to show love he does the dishes or something and I’m like back the eff of my dishes and gimme kisses. Hey that rhymed. Okay karen out.
@@nikkiblackketter I honestly think it is amazing to discuss what yours and your next partners love language is. It has helped SO MUCH..we literally had to sit down and go...ok so this is MY love language and what I would like from you and he did the same and it has worked out so well.
@@kareningram5692 that book was amazing. Wish I have read it before my first relationship. Watching Spanish dramas and Disney movies during childhood have had a bad impact of how I was seeing love and how I was expecting a man to behave. Biggest mistake is..he should know this. No, he shouldn't, he is not a mind reader. Communication is key. I show my love through services and sometimes is very hard when the person next to you expects love by receiving a lot of kisses and hugs, but he is also a man of service. Hope you will understand. I meant that my first boyfriend was expecting lots of kisses, hugs, touch, but I have never felt any love from him. We were ok, but he never kissed me by surprise, the help was just when I needed it and asked for me, no 'you look amazing', except when we were in bed. Maybe it was because we were young and never discussed about our languages of love...
Almost two weeks late but I'm so happy you two are friends and most importantly, that you're happy. My boyfriend and I broke up in October, and we've been able to remain friends and talk almost every day still!
I admire that you did what was best for you, and gave yourself time to process it. Glad you were able to remain friends + can't wait for the juicy Q+A!
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This was not the break up video I was expecting, but I am pleasantly surprised this is how you're sharing it with us. Honestly, this was refreshing - you can really see your personal growth recently and you look so genuinely happy and positive. Break ups SUCK but they really do teach you so much about yourself and life in general.
Agreed!
You’re not the break up video girl you’re a normal girl in her 20’s who lives and learns. Everything happens for a reason. Always. Always. Always. You don’t owe anyone anything ever. Remember that. Love you forever ❤️
She's almost 30, stop making excuses for her. She could have been dating a guy that had a good job and a career, but she chose him instead. She needs to date better guys.
Yes ♥️
Omg Chuck shut up
dont ever fee bad or like you owe anyone anything. You're allowed to have a private life and take time for yourself. As long as you're happy, that's what matters!!!!
Jen!!! Love you!!!! Random but my two favorite ladies. Yessss!
Girl, I thought the same thing! You never need to explain something this personal to anyone. We love you no matter what!
The reason it gets the most views is:
For the ladies: It’s something real & raw they can relate to.
For the gents: There’s hope.
epicbehavior AND because the followers from the guys side watches too to get a full perspective!
kelly0395 yep
So basically she’s saying there’s still a chance
Gross
Hope for what?
I think you made a great decision to process the breakup before telling us about it. It shows a lot of maturity about the situation and awareness of Miles also. Glad you two are still great friends!!
Yes! I totally agree!
watching this breakup video vs the christian breakup video (what? like 2 years ago?) just shows how insanely mature and how much you've grown since then GO U NIKKI
I do feel like most long term relationships kind of start feeling like how you guys started to feel. I’ve been married since I was 19 and I’m 26 now and if I said there weren’t times we just felt like friends or roommates I’d be lying. I think that’s kind of how it gets when you’re with someone for a while and always around them. My husband gets on my nerves like crazy sometimes. I think it’s easy for people to end relationships because the honey moon phase is over. (I’m not saying this regarding you and Miles because clearly we don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship) but sometimes when you start feeling that way about someone, maybe being bored or whatever, that’s when you gotta spice it up. This video just made me think of that because I’ve gone through it numerous times with my hubby. It’s different also because I’ve committed to him as in marrying him. Just saying relationships are hard and I get where you’re coming from. Thanks for being honest with us, we love you ❤️
SarahAnn I agree! I’ve been with my guy for 8 years. Sometimes you have to stop and remember to appreciate the one your with. Finding someone you can live with their “flaws” is important for a lifelong relationship!
Ashlynn Eckert absolutely! I agree!
Yes! You have to CHOOSE to love each other every day. And some days it takes a lot more convincing than others ahah. But that’s a long term relationship for ya
Marina M for sure. And you’re SUPPOSED to be with your best friend! Thats the goal in my opinion. When you’re young is when you choose who you grow old with. Who you can tolerate for years to come 😂
Yes. Agreed!
I think friendship is a beautiful relationship.
Shoutout to the fans that respect your privacy and don’t constantly ask where man is even though it’s obvious he’s not around anymore ☺️🤗
Gurl you didn't even owe us a breakup video (although I'm sure you felt that way with all of our questions). But what a lovely and respectable way to handle this. I'm glad you have each other as friends. ❤️
You are definitely not “the breakup video girl”
I think you keep things real and are incredibly genuine. 🤗
i highly love the fact that you waited to tell everyone like yeah it was obvious that y’all broke up but the way you waited to tell everyone because you didn’t want the attention makes you such a real and genuine person. i love you nikki ❤️
1:14 girl you will never be known or remembered for just that “break up video” love the FUDGE out of you ❤️
A RUclipsr with no clickbait ❤️
thank the gods!! 😍
A rare gem!
Glad y’all remained friends and that you’re happy❤️
Loved you guys together...the chemistry, the wit, the aesthetic, etc. But alas, it was only a bird's eye view. You never know what the future holds. Wishing you both the best individually. ❤
Brandy very well said! Agreed hope Nikki is happy 😊
I admire your vulnerability. ♥️ thanks for staying strong
Even though it was obvious, you owe no one an explanation. You have the right to a private life and to do what's best for you. Keep being you, you are great Nikki!! Much love!!
I broke up with my bf when Nikki broke up with C, now she broke up the same month I broke up with my other bf too. Nikki, contact me to organize our next brake up, pls.
Melissa Galván being desperate enough to date you must be suicidal
Never feel like you owe anyone an explanation for what you do in your life, especially those who have no part of it (as much as us fans are a part of it in a way). Total respect to you both for keeping amicable, there's no better feeling than that and being able to keep your best friend!
Keep being you! 😍🤩
Don’t ever break up with us Nikki!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Sami’s TattooRemovalChannel *screaming*
@CHB2 all straight dudes want a date with Texas beauty Nikki Blackketter. And the gay ones want her for a bff(or so I'm told).
@@rubyred93chevI love Nikki 💓🤩😍
Good for you guys very adult break up. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Nbd
Do a video on your creepy DM's 🤣
That would be very entertaining to watch!
Jessica Fougere dear lord PLEASE
Please do it would be so funny!!
I wanna see that lol
I went back and re-watched your break up video like 3 times this past spring and it helped me soooo much with my break up. Thank you so much for always being real and honest with us
Would you and Miles be willing to do a light hearted couples-Q&A-style “Exes Q&A”? Now THAT would be some damn content
lol, yea I'm sure he'd be down to do stuff like that actually 😂
Hell yes lmao looking forward to it😂
Yes!!!!! 😍
Girl, I have a ton of respect for you for keeping the breakup private for as long as you did. It speaks so much on your character, especially since most people give away every personal life detail on social media. I'm happy to hear that you're both doing well as individuals and that life is good. Sending nothing but love your way!
I thrive to have this maturity in all of my relationships. Loved this 💛
During your very public break up I was going through a divorce. I appreciate that you basically helped me through that. You’re not obligated to tell us anything...unless you and Bradley Cooper finally realize you’re meant to be lol. Love from Texas 🙌🏽✨❤️
Whoops I meant Bradley Martyn! Anyway, happy holidays girl ☺️✨
Girl !! We kind of got the clues but I feel like you did an amazing job explaining you don’t owe us anymore you don’t have to either way because we’ve been there as in we go threw a break up and we keep it to ourselves and it’s so okay !! May you guys be the way that you are now and don’t let anything or anyone tell you differently we love you & were here to LISTEN & not question you 🥰😘
Sooo much respect for you girl. I won't lie, I was so curious, but I think it's so admirable of you to wait and allow yourself and the other person to process things before sharing it with the world. And that's amazing that you guys figured out how to maximize your friendship by taking away the relationship aspect. So happy for you!
To be honest your breakup video was the first video I watched from you but I just related to it a lot at the time and all it lead me to do was go and watch all your other videos!
omg, same here. after watching her break up video I gained so much respect for her and starting following her
I've always believed that before any other type of relationship, the most valuable one is the friendship one. When all else fails, a friend is the last thing we should lose. That's how we all start with at some point, all added intimacy beyond that is a bonus, but friendship is the root of all relationships. 🙏
I’m glad you took your time and kept your relationship not as public as before. Here for you always! 💜
Yup my sister has had the same experience in a way. My sister and this guy tried dating several times and it never worked, and finally they ended it and lived separately for a bit. But they realized they work together AMAZINGLY as best friends, and are even back to living together (although that's more to do with my sister's current finacial situation, but then I guess that's even more proof of their friendship). So yea! Sometimes you think you're really into a guy, and maybe you are attracted to them and such, but then you slowly realize that the expectations of a romantic relationship are way heavier than that of best friends, and at the end of the day you really just jive with their personality, but aren't really compatible romantically.
I definitely don’t think you’re the break up girl. We all are going through relationships and breakups. We just aren’t all having to deal with it as a big RUclipsr. You’re allowed to go through this stuff, and if anyone tells you any different, they can kick rocks.
She keeps dating the wrong guys, she's almost 30.
Never clicked so fast in my life
Jackelyn l me too
Jackelyn l sammmeees
Lmao, we all knew it. We just wanted to know WHY it happened.
Same hah
Haha same here
I came here so fast I almost broke my back!
MeeMee Love 🤣
MeeMee Love 🤣🤣
MeeMee Love your comment truly made me laugh. 🤣
Low key wish Miles would be more into social media or start his own RUclips. I really enjoy his personality. Glad you guys are still friends and wish you both all the happiness 💕
Lol when anyone starts with “what had happened was... “
Peace and Love
You are not the breakup video girl...we all go through breakups etc. Thank you for being yourself, for always being genuine and just know that love will come at its time. Enjoy life and focus on you! ❤
So proud of you - woman to woman ❤😊 you dealt with it so wisely and maturely, and it's important to gracefully let go of things that aren't meant for us - expectations can be so tricky, have you ever read "The 5 Love Languages"?
It's incredibly insightful - for example, my husband is a Pisces and his love language is "acts of service" so since I know that about him, I have to take his acts of service towards me as demonstrations of his love...whereas I might miss those demonstrations if I only consider what he does in *my* love language to be showing his love toward me. And mine are "quality time" and "words of affirmation" - mine are more focused on verbal communication, whereas his are more focused on non-verbal.
So he puts a little extra effort in showing me love in my language, and I give a little extra effort in showing him love in his, and we're both considerate of the other's "native" language, so to speak, so we aren't missing those demonstrations of love either 😊
Sorry for the long comment LOL that book has just been integral in my understanding regarding relationships and communication, and it's a short easy read so that's awesome too LOL
I think this is really important for couples to understand, may help couples avoid mitigate a lot of heartache and confusion. I also think learning to acceot people for who they are is integral to having a successful relationship. I know that it took me years to fully accept somethings about my boyfriend, but out relationshio is better for it, and I am so much happier.
Omg, thank you so much girlfriend for sharing this. I’m just reading through comments ( liking the ones I agree with since I have nothing better to do lol) and your explanation of love language was extremely insightful. Your example of your relationship reminded me of my mine. The meaning of love is different in my ex’s perspective and mine. I thought it meant we’d never mix well, but if you can have a healthy relationship than maybe he an I can too. He’s still patiently waiting for me...
Im going to check out that book you recommended. Hopefully learn a bit more about myself... I figured I caused us issues or we just didn’t mix but this definitely making sense now. Sorry for the long rant haha. Just wanted to say thank you.
@@TravelsWithLari You're most welcome beautiful! You are absolutely right, even when people have completely different love languages, it doesn't mean the relationship won't work. It may take more work to communicate and figure each other out, yes, but a lot of times complete opposites match better than those who are more similar, it just totally depends on the people involved! Best wishes in your relationship, love, and I hope you find the book as insightful and priceless as I have! 😊❤
Nikki you are utterly amazing♡ I love watching your growth and how your personality just shines through! You're going to find your person but theres never any rush! You know you have a whole network of support backing you up!! Love you Nikki and always wishing great things for you♡♡
First off, you don’t owe an explanation to anyone just know that. Relationships are hard for sure and even harder when everyone wants to know what’s going on. I think your video did so good because we look for someone to relate to, and it’s amazing when it’s someone we look up to. I don’t comment on your videos too often, but I wanted to let you know that watching your last breakup honestly helped me with a breakup that I went through. We all go through breakups. You’re not the breakup girl. I’m sure it’s not easy having this in the public eye, but just know that this video will probably help someone out there, like your last one helped me❤️ Thank you Nikki❤️
I'm glad you took time for yourself and please dont ever feel that you owe anyone an explanation, the most important thing is that you are doing good 💓You are Awesome 🍍🍍
This is very cool Nikki, I akways saw true love between the two of you but love isn't only romantic. This is awesome that you still good friends... We love Miles too. Cheers to you handling this like a pro and putting yourself first. 😉😜😘💕
Sometimes a person is right for right now- and they are the person you need for now, but that time eventually passes. Both of you guys will go on and find your special somones for life, and the past relationships helps you be the person you needed to be.
Hello Nikki, as a guy somehow I really enjoy your videos. I became aware of you from way back when in cringemans videos, I’ve been “following” you ever since (& not him anymore) & admire & appreciate your success & I also think you thoroughly deserve it all x
So I have a genuine & serious question for you!?! (And it’s this).............. do you think that your social media status is somehow contributing to your relationship issues? I mean you could absolutely bag any guy you wish for many many reasons & as a guy I guess that could be a little intimidating!
Anyway you are beautiful & Myles is cool AF so I wish you both the best in whatever & wherever go,...........Merry Christmas x
omg this was the craziest notification I ever got I almost stopped breathing
You don’t owe any one the details, an explanation or anything. It’s your life. Share what you want. Don’t share what you don’t want to. You don’t owe your subscribers anything. Personal stuff sucks and sometimes you need to go through it yourself offline.
But all RUclipsrs think they have to share the break of the marriage all that stuff I look at it as this way if they broke up that's their business their need to talk about it. It's like when you go to work and you break up with somebody you're not telling your whole company. I broke up with my wife or broke up with my boyfriend you don't say that. The whole time I've been on RUclips never once told people I broke up with somebody the most of time I don't put them in the videos
Navkiran T agreed!!
I think it was & is very mature how you handled everything All valid reasons not that you need validation. Love you Nikki!! 💕
I actually don't mind that you didn't broadcast and that you waited. I just respected you wanted to just move on and be happy! :)
I'm so glad this breakup went the way it did. Cudos to both of you for being mature about it. Glad you two are still friends. ❤
I'm a loser. I havent clicked on anything so fast. I love miles and I love how you've remained friends! ♡♡
Chelsea Greene same lol
yes you are
Haha same here
Loved my man Miles, but I fully respect your decision
Marcos Sabino oh thank fucking god you respect her decision, that probably meant so much to her
wait you're NOT wearing make up?. damn you're beautifull
Welp we already knew that. We just wanted to hear you say it 😂😂 but I hope you’re relived to have addressed the elephant! 🐘 Makeup or not you are beautiful!
MacyKitty2 I was wondering if maybe he had to be off her social media due to some music thing he has in the works or something. I’m glad she finally gave some clarification!
Nikki you will find your significant other. He wasn't for you. But I'm confident that you find that person and be happy for eternity. You are a person with a beautiful heart. Inside and out. I hope you have a nice day.
For the q&a: do you guys still have the “benefits” part of the relationship 🥰😛... or just totally friends. Have you guys talked about if one of you starts dating etc if you’ll still be friends?
you seem so much stronger and yourself now! I respect how well you have approached the whole situation. Watching your other break up video I literally cried with you because i could feel how sad you were. I am so happy for you and all the progress you've made :)
I would have been fine without an explanation given the past but I’m glad to see how you’ve grown from it
love you Nikki! Sending you all the hugs 💜
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Who knows what the future holds life is surprising ...
I’m glad you are happy! You are so beautiful inside and out, you deserve to smile 😊💕
Who else likes the video 15s in after Nikki turns on the cam with no makeup? #rawfootage
Happy that everything’s good between you two, shown that you’ve grown as a person for not jumping on here and talking about it when it happened, so proud ❤️
I just assumed you guys weren’t together cause he disappeared off the vlogs. I am happy that you guys are still friends though, not every relationship is meant to be forever and embrace what you had and what you still have. Lots of love, loving your vlogmas!!
Love you Nikki you’re the exact opposite of cringe❤️ Sorry if this is an invasive question but when you say ‘emotionally process’ do you mean that it might’ve been difficult for you two while being friends for a bit because you’re still physically attracted to each other? Completely understand if you don’t want to answer💜
Ily, I’ve literally been dwelling this weekend on my break up that ended a month ago. This video and your positivity gives me so much comfort and support. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I’m so glad y’all are good. Being friends with an ex can be a really great thing.
You’re super self aware Nikki. I also love how you don’t peg your identity on a relationship.
Love that you all are still friends. Some great things definitely came out of your relationship!!💕💖💞
Spoken like a classy, mature, respectful lady!
Much respect for you. I think it's a good idea to process your breakups minus people's opinions. And I can totally see you guys being friends.
BTW you are slaying vlogmas.
Never clicked on a video so fast in my life!!
Miss miles Hope's he stops by in a video
Totally makes sense girl. Glad you did things right by you and him. As long as you're happy that's what matters! 😊
My heart stopped when I saw my notification.
Honestly I thought it was obvious that you and Miles broke up, and I always had a feeling that you two were still friends. Anyways I'm glad you're both doing well 😁
Best breakup video ever- case closed. Glad you guys are still friends ❤️
I found your channel from your infamous break up video and it helped me through my first big break up. I recently went through another break up this year in July and I referenced back to your video again. Needless to say I’m glad that first video exists and I enjoy the raw talking videos like the ones you’ve been doing lately.
I was actually hoping that this was the situation, and the reason why you have been silent. I'm so glad that you have stayed friends! You look so happy about it! probably this is the best possible ending for you. Sending you all the hugs Nikki, love you !!!
Listen to me friend, you are NOT the breakup girl! We love you no matter what! BIG HUGS!!!
Do not ever let it get you down!!🍍🍍🍍 Nikki B..it does not matter...if someone walks from you,they're not your destiny..
God knows your heart like no one else.( Even better than you do). God has someone for you, perfect for you! You're a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart and you just focus on yourself and Max. We all love you and none of this matters..what matters is that you're happy with someone that deserves you.. it will happen at the right time
I know this is supposed to be serious but....I’ve been staring at this white monster ornament for 10 minutes now...so, uh what were you saying again 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable about your relationships. ❤️ your videos... It's awesome that yall can be adult enough to still be friends and not have the drama but still support each other!
Babe you got this! 💜
You are our boo. Keeping it real and honest is the real deal. Life happens.
I think it’s great that you let things sit for a while and let yourself process it all. Relationships are such a strange things, everyone gets so caught up with projections of what they think the other person should be. People need to remember to allow space for each other as individuals within those relationships.
There’s no magical way to make relationships work, it’s a choice to do it because it’s what you want.
Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes there’s situations where two people just grow apart. It’s so stigmatized when people break up like somebody did something horrible to cause it. They need to know why it happened and that answer has to be wrought with tension when it often times is just that two people don’t mesh. You’ve just got to focus on the ideas of who you are and your core values through it all to get that little nugget of knowledge from it. Relationships teach us so much about ourselves!
I just don’t understand how none of these relationships work for you your f’n awesome
clicked so fasttttttttt
Right 😂
Hahaha same I just got on RUclips to see what’s new and was nottttt expecting!! V happy
You will never be known as “the breakup video girl” that’s Taylor Swift’s title lol!
I totally respect you not jumping to tell someone you broke up! My very first boyfriend we were on and off for months after driving everyone crazy with the will they won’t they! Like you said, you still were processing, still trying to figure out what you guys were going to do
We appreciate this video but just because you’re a vlogger doesn’t mean you HAVE to tell us everything. We love you always and wish you nothing but positivity and happiness. Xoxo. #TeamNikkiB 😘💋
My husband & I dated for 2 years then we were absolute best friends for a couple years + now we’ve been married 7 years! Sometimes you just need time apart to grow as a person + figure out what you want/need to make yourself happy first. So much respect for not using your relationships for views & stuff like a lot of creators do. It’s refreshing to see someone who is so raw + real like you are. 💓✨
Kyle if you don’t mind me asking. How did you manage that? I feel like I’m going through something similar but it’s weird because how do you remain best friends with someone you are in love with? Like what if they find someone else later but you still love them... it’s almost like a double heart break.
Tre Bell honestly at first it was tough, we even both dated different people during that time. But we realized that through every change in our life we always called on one another + we’re there for each other no matter what. We didn’t talk a lot about our relationships we were in at the time, but still had respect for the others relationship. We’ve always been really close & we knew at the time we wanted different things in life. We matured a lot over those 2 years we weren’t together, but we also knew if we were meant to be together then it would happen. Anytime something major happened in our life during those times we realized that we would always rely on each other & no matter what we didn’t want to lose the connection we’ve always had so we broke off our relationships bc it wasn’t fair to our SOs & gave ourselves about 4-5 months to be single & find out what we truly wanted & eventually it led us to being together & we haven’t left each other since. Within a year of being back together we had two amazing little boys & got married. It was like at the point we ended up back together it’s like it’s what was meant to happen. Everything fell into place perfectly + our relationship was so different than it was before, but so much better. We had both grew up & matured so we knew how to love each other fully + not let anything else come in the way.
6 months seems to be the good processing zone, like for Liza and David.
Nikki this is a really mature, relatable and video. We love you so much and I'm happy it ended well and you guys are still friends.
Thank you for opening up 🥺❤️
Love you beautiful ❤️
I think you need you to read the "5 love languages" amazing books for married couples and singles
I have! I think it's great, I learned so much from it!
I was about to say this. I have a feeling Nikki’s love language is acts of service...
Edit to say my husbands is acts of service and that doesn’t make any body hard to love or be with but it is hard for someone like me (physical touch) to really understand how that speaks to love. So I would have your next partner find out theirs as well and kind of discuss expectations together to get a better understand of how best to communicate your feelings. It works well for us to remind each other hey...I need a hug from you, I need you to make dinner to show me you care. And because I love him I’m more than happy to do that now that I understand he doesn’t just want a servant. When he’s trying to show love he does the dishes or something and I’m like back the eff of my dishes and gimme kisses.
Hey that rhymed. Okay karen out.
Yes! I took the online test. My love language is quality time & acts of service.
@@nikkiblackketter I honestly think it is amazing to discuss what yours and your next partners love language is. It has helped SO MUCH..we literally had to sit down and go...ok so this is MY love language and what I would like from you and he did the same and it has worked out so well.
@@kareningram5692 that book was amazing. Wish I have read it before my first relationship. Watching Spanish dramas and Disney movies during childhood have had a bad impact of how I was seeing love and how I was expecting a man to behave. Biggest mistake is..he should know this. No, he shouldn't, he is not a mind reader. Communication is key. I show my love through services and sometimes is very hard when the person next to you expects love by receiving a lot of kisses and hugs, but he is also a man of service. Hope you will understand. I meant that my first boyfriend was expecting lots of kisses, hugs, touch, but I have never felt any love from him. We were ok, but he never kissed me by surprise, the help was just when I needed it and asked for me, no 'you look amazing', except when we were in bed. Maybe it was because we were young and never discussed about our languages of love...
Wow shows volumes your growth. Happy that you guys are still friends and mature about it. You're a beautiful person inside out❤
Almost two weeks late but I'm so happy you two are friends and most importantly, that you're happy. My boyfriend and I broke up in October, and we've been able to remain friends and talk almost every day still!