I recommend to prioritize Muslims that are with their pious and on their Deen, instead of wealth first. Also a lot of shy insincere guys get skipped because they're "boring" compared to those who show remnants of a "bad boy". Just putting things into perspective to whom it may concern. May Allah grant you the most pious Husband.
JazakAllahu Khairan, Sheikh Assim, for shedding light on this crucial topic. It’s disheartening to see such a lack of empathy and support in a relationship, especially concerning acts of worship like Hajj and Umrah. A loving and righteous spouse should strive to help their partner fulfill such noble obligations. May Allah soften our hearts, guide us to fulfill our duties, and strengthen the bonds of kindness and mutual understanding in our marriages.
MashaAllah beautifully explained by the shaikh, may Allah grant him khair. This are the type of men who drives their wives out of the door to work and free mix austagfirullah.
Facts they look for a son in law just like him so his daughters can suffer in silence with abuse oppression injustice just like her mom Circle of abusive trauma traditions
@@star-el3ly it’s jealous a lot women only have children to control the husband stop him from leaving emotionally blackmail Gain power over him They treats the children like burden maid and slaves around the home as adult take there income to gain more money Eventually if the kid is smart they’ll Become independent mentally emotionally financially and leave the narcissistic psychopath parents
99% are in sex marriages when it bday valentines anniversaries Eid couples forefill eachother rights For intimacy Otherwise it’s a avoidance marriage ignore avoid the spouse send her to her parents during the holidays Go to the gym, out with the boys any excuse to act like a single bachelor with zero responsibilities
I agree but something about this is very questionable like there must be reason for him to refuse and has notting to do with money which we clearly don't know about it unless we hear from both sides
@@brightnessunknown9605 the only reason is that he thinks that he doesn't need to spend his money on haj and Umrah because those are not obligated on every muslim. And belive it or not many people who have money also see themselves as poor. They are constantly thinking about how to save more money. And I have seen many rich people like that. The only reason is he wants to save money.
@@daizz5500اَللّٰهُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ O Allah, I seek Your protection from anxiety and grief. I seek Your protection from inability and laziness. I seek Your protection from cowardice and miserliness, and I seek Your protection from being overcome by debt and being overpowered by men
@@daizz5500The comment above yours is not wrong though. There may indeed be a reason, but who knows for sure? But we still should not make assumptions as if one knows about another like a fact. Allah warns us not to guess on each other. Which is done a whole lot online these days. May Allah forgive us all.
It’s called sex marriage , not married because of religion, not because he wanted to get to jannah (half his Deen) get reward for doing Islamic rights by doing his duty hajj or umrah These relationships end after the honeymoon faze and become avoidance marriage divorced after the children become young adult
@@piqueny8872yeah and most of them abuse the power and authority that's given to them. By yelling "WiFe sHoulD OBEYYYY husBanddd" .. but never think about their own responsibilities. They only remember their rights.
@@iiiiiiaaaandidiwinnnneo karma with those types of husbands there children grow up hating resenting them for oppressing there mother, and vis versa if a wife is nasty to the husband the children favour him
i really feel disgusting to b in such relationship where there is no empathy n love for partener very calculative kind of people will ruin their n others life..
Many muslim husbands even saying their only obligation is food and clothes,for family,and using quranic verses and hadis for making the wives and childrens life difficult,as islam gve very value for women,bt they were misinterpreting for their benefits and saying its islam
He is a full fledged Gold digger. If you can't fulfill your wife's dream then why you've married her. Marriage is not like a robotic contract, that I will fulfill my obligations towards you, you'll fulfill your obligations towards me and life will go on. Nooo!! You've to do a lot extra...may be more from one side and may be a little from other side, This is how a relationship bonds.
@@AbdullahiAbdikarim-y8d the problem with that is him having the ability to do so but not doing it. It’s his Wife and the fact that it’s even Hajj which has great benefits.
@@AbdullahiAbdikarim-y8dhajj is an obligation upon every muslim but women cannot go to hajj without a mahram. so it is an issue if he essentially prevented her from doing so
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi Wabarkatuhu. Some men don't want to pay the zakat for their wife's ornaments. Is she allowed to earn too pay her zakat or can she demand from her husband if he can afford.
Husband isn't obliged to pay zakat on wife's behalf, if he pays, it will be huge favor on wife, otherwise Islamically he can refuse,,, if the woman is housewife, then she can pay from her savings or from her inheritance money or by selling some portion of jewellery that she owns
I have been asking my husband for 5 years and still waiting. We can afford it. I can wait because I want to go but can’t but don’t know what his excuse will be on the day of judgement.
Lol, he will not be questioned on the day of judgment, because it's not obligatory on him, you women feel so entitled to husband's money, while Islamically husband isn't even obliged to pay for medical expenses of wife if she falls sick according to Hanafi and Shafai School of Fiqh...
@@sarahloves9186 ah your are THAT kind of entitled wife, you earn your own money and still want his to go Umrah that explains it all, no wonder he didn't take you to Umrah yet LOL.
Very dumb husband if you ask why not send her to the most beloved of places to Allaah and reap endless rewards unimaginable profit. If the wife's hajj is accepted he will get the same reward for facilitating it. Misplaced priorities no?
Essellamu Aleykum we rahmetullahi we berekathu! I have followed you 4 a long time and you are my favourite shayk/schoolar whos advise and interpertation I follow and gives most sense for me according to my limited knowledge in the fiqh. May Allah reward you jannat firdeus, Amin! I would try to ask one question in hope thst you would give me a correct opinion/answer. I now blod from anywhere thsn privae parts dosen't invalidated wudu. It is a bit emberessing but i feel your reply woul benefit many.But what about small shavi g cuts from private areas such as penis and testicles. Does this invalidated wudu?
I dont know why sheikh is sayjng taking wife to umrah or hajj is not an obligation. Of course it is, she cant work and has no money and this is one of the pillars of islam. He will answer on the day of judgement. If he isnt taking her, that means he isnt going himself which he is also sinful for
Lol, first of all, if wife doesn't have enough money under her ownership to go to hajj, then hajj isn't even obligatory for her, just like Zakat isn't obligatory for every single Muslim,,, Secondly man will not be questioned on the day of judgment for not doing something that he isn't obliged to...
@AwAn2207 OK the woman should stop cooking and cleaning, since that's not obligated either. Let's do the bare minimum😊. And u do answer for things that are highly recommended sunnahs, not just obligations
Lol the guy says the sams thing as sheikh. How to call him a man-child 🤦 He is talking about islamic standard, not about desires like most of you from here. A man isn't obliged to do that stuff to his wife and she isn't obliged to do many things for him. Period. Above that people can build on their relationship to come closer to eachother
It's called marrying someone for money and regretting it as your judgement was clouded because of the financial capabilities of the man. Now she has the right to shut up, try to change him or divorce him.
Counseling session 110 dollar per hour 😮sheik i know religion people makes money of from religion.. but shouldt that come hearth and free..religion is free not to make money from it..
The wife chose the rich over the religious, which is popular nowadays Men nowadays are just little boys,how they are getting married?Sisters please choose wisely.Come on ,that person you will live with ,for your own happiness please,choose wisely
@@musprodev It doesn't matter these days, rich or poor man. same problems. I know a lot of women that didn't go for the money she just went for the din and was hopeful that Allah would provide, you would think these religious men who got a righteous wife who was not materialistic would treat them well. Nope. Treated like crap all the same. So if that's the way it is these days, there is no guarantee that a man is going to have good character, might as well go for the money. At least if you get divorced a father with money can pay for kids school, needs etc, whereas a man with limited means cant pay for anything or do very little.
@sbinti1152 that's complete baseless if he really was religious like a practicing Muslim he would definitely treat his wife right, and I'm not talking about those who pray and people think they are good , and problems only accur if people follow their ego instead of going for a solution there is a reason why majority of women are in Hell the biggest reason according to the prophet Muhammed peace be upon him is their ungratefulness towards their husband!
@@sbinti1152 doesn't matter?Bro go outside please and look at the Real World,most women choose rich men over righteous men,and I didn't say all of them
@@sbinti1152 i know many religious brothers and sisters who are happily married, only bc disaster faced those bc of their own doing doesn't mean everyone else is like that!
Sheikh please be careful with audio quality people will forgive bad video quality or bad editing or stuttering But never bad audio I know there's probably a good reason for this you were probably somewhere but be careful
@@aminashehu8628 OH HOLD UP yeah I can see how what i said can be misinterpreted I am speaking strictly from a content creation standpoint, i mean that people will watch a video with bad editing or video quality, but not bad audio they will click off I assume sheikh wants as many people to watch the videos so that they can benefit so i felt like this is moderatly useful advice
I'd never give up my part-time job for any man. The thought of not having my own bank account with a little money in it from my earnings makes me ill. These women who have nothing, not even a penny to their name, can't even buy a pack of tissues without asking someone else.
@CherryBomb-u2i agreed only smart people will understand this, Islamically a men has to provide for his wife clothes food house which is obligatory anything else is voluntary like paying for her hajj, car , jewelry or any other luxury thing, many people have the false concept of he has to provide for literally anything which is baseless but if he loves her he would but any smart women would not totally depend on her husband alone but should have some backup in saving from fam or whatever ....
I'm a new revert and I'm just wondering, is there a 'pro' to getting married? In almost every video I've watched I've heard the Islamic scholars speak about women, women and more women. They speak about them, their rights, and what a man is obliged to do for them/to them. It's very rarely the other way around. But my question... beside marriage being half our/my Deen, what 'pro' is their in getting married if I have all the responsibilities as a man, and I'm obliged to do so, whereas... she's not obliged to fulfill her "motherly" roles... cooking, cleaning, being a nurturing figure within our home, and promoting peace. If she's not obliged to do any of that... why get married? Why add to life's stressors? Again, I'm a new revert, so please take it easy. Note: A while ago I also heard a Sheikh speak about women give up so much, what do women give up that is so great that men don't?
Pros would be that she: gives birth to your children and raises them, that sexual intercourse with her is permitted, that she should be a source of peace for you, and that she also fulfils her part in running the household. The woman must listen to her husband about what is legal and the husband's rights are more important than those of the father. She may only leave the house with the husband's permission and only let people in who the husband approves of. So she manages the inner life, so to speak, and your job is to finance the outer life. Of course there are many other rights and duties that have nothing to do with payment (both should be nice and loving to one another, etc.) and it is a natural predisposition for both to fulfil their fitra.
@@GutsZet Great points, but all of what you've just pointed out a man gets without putting a ring on her finger... Sex isn't appealing once you've had it time and time again... I don't know anyone whose married for sex. Kids can come from man and girl being boyfriend and girlfriend. Women listen to those they deem worthy of being listened to... so irrespective if they're Muslim sisters or not, be a man worthy of respect and the obedience of women. She manages my inner life? I don't know what you mean. My brother, assuming you're a man... I've built myself up with the help of my creator... I do not need nor want to teach a woman how to manage the inner workings of my life... it's simply put, a waste of my time. So again... why do I need to get married? In my previous life (Kafir), I got all that without giving a woman the title of wife... why would I need to do that now to get some of what I previously got... You get me?
Brother, here's my answer to clear your confusions: The biggest reason we, as Muslim men, need to marry is so that we can protect ourselves from all evil (masturbation, sex outside of marriage aka 'Zina', etc.). If we are sure we can protect ourselves from these sins, we are not obliged to marry. But if we know that we will fall into these heinous sins (Zina, masturbation, haram relations, etc.) then we must marry, even if the women who are available to us for marriage are not good for out suiting (for whatever reason). For the top most reason, we marry for ourselves, not for society. Moreover, internet is filled with feministic speeches of Imams that only talk about what men need to do for women in marriage in Islam. Don't fall for algorithm's tricks.
@@HaydenHayden-rd9pn check out almadrastu al umarriyah on the rights of men over their wives. They have a whole playlist on both the rights of men and women over their spouses. And as for you talking about girlfriend and boyfriend, and obviously that is haram. Anyhow just check those videos, cause it seems like you need to understand the whole picture not just get some pointers.
you can call him. you can just google his number. I have called him before so the number on google is correct. You will need credit though because you will be calling internationally otherwise it wont go through
May this type of man never approach me
آمين
@@tinkeringtim7999 ameen
I am already here in your reply. Hahaha
@@katungiyassin9947 the best of you are the ones best to their women 😊
I recommend to prioritize Muslims that are with their pious and on their Deen, instead of wealth first. Also a lot of shy insincere guys get skipped because they're "boring" compared to those who show remnants of a "bad boy". Just putting things into perspective to whom it may concern. May Allah grant you the most pious Husband.
JazakAllahu Khairan, Sheikh Assim, for shedding light on this crucial topic. It’s disheartening to see such a lack of empathy and support in a relationship, especially concerning acts of worship like Hajj and Umrah. A loving and righteous spouse should strive to help their partner fulfill such noble obligations. May Allah soften our hearts, guide us to fulfill our duties, and strengthen the bonds of kindness and mutual understanding in our marriages.
@@0xjumlad ameen Ameen
@@0xjumlad آمين
MashaAllah beautifully explained by the shaikh, may Allah grant him khair. This are the type of men who drives their wives out of the door to work and free mix austagfirullah.
Some men don't even care for their own daughters
Facts they look for a son in law just like him so his daughters can suffer in silence with abuse oppression injustice just like her mom
Circle of abusive trauma traditions
Same for mothers
@razamughal4582 True. Some people give birth but are stone hearted for their own kids
@@star-el3ly it’s jealous a lot women only have children to control the husband stop him from leaving emotionally blackmail
Gain power over him
They treats the children like burden maid and slaves around the home as adult take there income to gain more money
Eventually if the kid is smart they’ll Become independent mentally emotionally financially and leave the narcissistic psychopath parents
Unfortunately, I have to agree with everyone here 😕
Marriage does not mean only S×X Marriage means fulfilling each other's desires and loving each other
99% are in sex marriages when it bday valentines anniversaries Eid couples forefill eachother rights
For intimacy
Otherwise it’s a avoidance marriage ignore avoid the spouse send her to her parents during the holidays
Go to the gym, out with the boys any excuse to act like a single bachelor with zero responsibilities
The main thing a man wants from a woman is sex, sandwich and silence if he is really honest.
Feel sorry for the wife...standards n character of some muslim men is zero.
I agree but something about this is very questionable like there must be reason for him to refuse and has notting to do with money which we clearly don't know about it unless we hear from both sides
@@brightnessunknown9605 the only reason is that he thinks that he doesn't need to spend his money on haj and Umrah because those are not obligated on every muslim. And belive it or not many people who have money also see themselves as poor. They are constantly thinking about how to save more money. And I have seen many rich people like that. The only reason is he wants to save money.
Some are Muslims by name some jummah Muslims
I’ve come across elder men who refuse to go to hajj or umrah yet they’re follow the 4 wives concept
@@daizz5500اَللّٰهُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ
O Allah, I seek Your protection from anxiety and grief. I seek Your protection from inability and laziness. I seek Your protection from cowardice and miserliness, and I seek Your protection from being overcome by debt and being overpowered by men
@@daizz5500The comment above yours is not wrong though. There may indeed be a reason, but who knows for sure? But we still should not make assumptions as if one knows about another like a fact. Allah warns us not to guess on each other. Which is done a whole lot online these days. May Allah forgive us all.
That man doesn't love his wife 😢
It’s called sex marriage , not married because of religion, not because he wanted to get to jannah (half his Deen) get reward for doing Islamic rights by doing his duty hajj or umrah
These relationships end after the honeymoon faze and become avoidance marriage divorced after the children become young adult
Love lol, he does not even like her or respect her.
Sex marriage is the best
@@piqueny8872yeah and most of them abuse the power and authority that's given to them. By yelling "WiFe sHoulD OBEYYYY husBanddd" .. but never think about their own responsibilities. They only remember their rights.
@@iiiiiiaaaandidiwinnnneo karma with those types of husbands there children grow up hating resenting them for oppressing there mother, and vis versa if a wife is nasty to the husband the children favour him
Jazak Allah ho khairan sheikh great advice
i really feel disgusting to b in such relationship where there is no empathy n love for partener very calculative kind of people will ruin their n others life..
Many muslim husbands even saying their only obligation is food and clothes,for family,and using quranic verses and hadis for making the wives and childrens life difficult,as islam gve very value for women,bt they were misinterpreting for their benefits and saying its islam
Why on earth would a rich man not take his wife to Hajj. Divorce him.
Some people are extremists without knowledge
So many man of Indian Muslim never give any money to wife .Malay man will give though they have a working wife .I m from Malaysia .
He is a full fledged Gold digger.
If you can't fulfill your wife's dream then why you've married her.
Marriage is not like a robotic contract, that I will fulfill my obligations towards you, you'll fulfill your obligations towards me and life will go on.
Nooo!! You've to do a lot extra...may be more from one side and may be a little from other side, This is how a relationship bonds.
Very true
i think that marriage does not have any love in it. this is why he is saying this.
*اللهم آمين🤲🏼Allahuma Ameen*
❤ ماشااللہ ص آمین یا ربّ العالمین ❤
What kind of man is that, what most people pray for 😭
for flexing, and formality. i didn't intend to suudzon but in the most people around the world are like that.
He isn’t doing anything against sharia I think u can’t have problem with him
@@AbdullahiAbdikarim-y8d the problem with that is him having the ability to do so but not doing it. It’s his Wife and the fact that it’s even Hajj which has great benefits.
@@VSniper_Entry yeah
@@AbdullahiAbdikarim-y8dhajj is an obligation upon every muslim but women cannot go to hajj without a mahram. so it is an issue if he essentially prevented her from doing so
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi Wabarkatuhu.
Some men don't want to pay the zakat for their wife's ornaments. Is she allowed to earn too pay her zakat or can she demand from her husband if he can afford.
Husband isn't obliged to pay zakat on wife's behalf, if he pays, it will be huge favor on wife, otherwise Islamically he can refuse,,, if the woman is housewife, then she can pay from her savings or from her inheritance money or by selling some portion of jewellery that she owns
She has to pay using her jewellery.
I have been asking my husband for 5 years and still waiting. We can afford it.
I can wait because I want to go but can’t but don’t know what his excuse will be on the day of judgement.
Lol, he will not be questioned on the day of judgment, because it's not obligatory on him, you women feel so entitled to husband's money, while Islamically husband isn't even obliged to pay for medical expenses of wife if she falls sick according to Hanafi and Shafai School of Fiqh...
@ ah your THAT kind of husband well that explains it all.
And by the way I earn my own money LOL
@@sarahloves9186 ah your are THAT kind of entitled wife, you earn your own money and still want his to go Umrah that explains it all, no wonder he didn't take you to Umrah yet LOL.
@@omarmohammad220 uhm LOL we’ve been 3 times and may Allah SWT reward him immensely for that kind gesture to his wife 🤲🏼
@@sarahloves9186 so you have been waiting for 5 years but been to Umrah 3 times? LOL get better at lying.
jazakAllah
Very dumb husband if you ask why not send her to the most beloved of places to Allaah and reap endless rewards unimaginable profit. If the wife's hajj is accepted he will get the same reward for facilitating it. Misplaced priorities no?
Essellamu Aleykum we rahmetullahi we berekathu! I have followed you 4 a long time and you are my favourite shayk/schoolar whos advise and interpertation I follow and gives most sense for me according to my limited knowledge in the fiqh. May Allah reward you jannat firdeus, Amin! I would try to ask one question in hope thst you would give me a correct opinion/answer. I now blod from anywhere thsn privae parts dosen't invalidated wudu. It is a bit emberessing but i feel your reply woul benefit many.But what about small shavi g cuts from private areas such as penis and testicles. Does this invalidated wudu?
No it's not.
No.
I dont know why sheikh is sayjng taking wife to umrah or hajj is not an obligation. Of course it is, she cant work and has no money and this is one of the pillars of islam. He will answer on the day of judgement. If he isnt taking her, that means he isnt going himself which he is also sinful for
Lol, first of all, if wife doesn't have enough money under her ownership to go to hajj, then hajj isn't even obligatory for her, just like Zakat isn't obligatory for every single Muslim,,, Secondly man will not be questioned on the day of judgment for not doing something that he isn't obliged to...
@AwAn2207 OK the woman should stop cooking and cleaning, since that's not obligated either. Let's do the bare minimum😊. And u do answer for things that are highly recommended sunnahs, not just obligations
@AwAn2207 Guys, i found the narcissistic man-child...
no he doesnt answer????No sin if you miss mustahabb
Lol the guy says the sams thing as sheikh. How to call him a man-child 🤦
He is talking about islamic standard, not about desires like most of you from here.
A man isn't obliged to do that stuff to his wife and she isn't obliged to do many things for him. Period.
Above that people can build on their relationship to come closer to eachother
Its called oppression
It's called marrying someone for money and regretting it as your judgement was clouded because of the financial capabilities of the man.
Now she has the right to shut up, try to change him or divorce him.
@@Salkatonand how should you know? Dont come to judge so fast!
Counseling session 110 dollar per hour 😮sheik i know religion people makes money of from religion.. but shouldt that come hearth and free..religion is free not to make money from it..
sheikh doesnt make money from religion..only from counselling
is hi counselling from economics?no ,religion base subjects: whit out religion no counselling
its can be anything marriage, ocd etc
These things have started since women started to nitpick in everything saying i am not obliged etc....
$110 half an hour counselling sessions😂
"prophet is nur"(going against consensus of four imams and following sufi superstitions)
The wife chose the rich over the religious, which is popular nowadays
Men nowadays are just little boys,how they are getting married?Sisters please choose wisely.Come on ,that person you will live with ,for your own happiness please,choose wisely
@@Bekhruz0202 this is also right. This happens to some who choose Rich over Deen
@@musprodev It doesn't matter these days, rich or poor man. same problems. I know a lot of women that didn't go for the money she just went for the din and was hopeful that Allah would provide, you would think these religious men who got a righteous wife who was not materialistic would treat them well. Nope. Treated like crap all the same. So if that's the way it is these days, there is no guarantee that a man is going to have good character, might as well go for the money. At least if you get divorced a father with money can pay for kids school, needs etc, whereas a man with limited means cant pay for anything or do very little.
@sbinti1152 that's complete baseless if he really was religious like a practicing Muslim he would definitely treat his wife right, and I'm not talking about those who pray and people think they are good , and problems only accur if people follow their ego instead of going for a solution there is a reason why majority of women are in Hell the biggest reason according to the prophet Muhammed peace be upon him is their ungratefulness towards their husband!
@@sbinti1152 doesn't matter?Bro go outside please and look at the Real World,most women choose rich men over righteous men,and I didn't say all of them
@@sbinti1152 i know many religious brothers and sisters who are happily married, only bc disaster faced those bc of their own doing doesn't mean everyone else is like that!
Sheikh please be careful with audio quality people will forgive bad video quality or bad editing or stuttering
But never bad audio
I know there's probably a good reason for this you were probably somewhere but be careful
What do you mean by be careful and people won't forgive?
@@aminashehu8628 OH HOLD UP
yeah I can see how what i said can be misinterpreted
I am speaking strictly from a content creation standpoint, i mean that people will watch a video with bad editing or video quality, but not bad audio they will click off
I assume sheikh wants as many people to watch the videos so that they can benefit so i felt like this is moderatly useful advice
@@dexnacorn7807 Lol you were so dramatic 🤣🤣🤣
@@aminashehu8628 hah yeah i can see that
Why be completely depended on your husband's money?? If your educated and your spouse isn’t fulfilling your needs, try to find a job.
If your spouse is not willing fulfil their responsibility, divorce him.
A woman can earn on her own but that is a voluntary act for her role as female.
Shes not obliged to work...
I'd never give up my part-time job for any man. The thought of not having my own bank account with a little money in it from my earnings makes me ill. These women who have nothing, not even a penny to their name, can't even buy a pack of tissues without asking someone else.
@CherryBomb-u2i agreed only smart people will understand this, Islamically a men has to provide for his wife clothes food house which is obligatory anything else is voluntary like paying for her hajj, car , jewelry or any other luxury thing, many people have the false concept of he has to provide for literally anything which is baseless but if he loves her he would but any smart women would not totally depend on her husband alone but should have some backup in saving from fam or whatever ....
I'm a new revert and I'm just wondering, is there a 'pro' to getting married? In almost every video I've watched I've heard the Islamic scholars speak about women, women and more women.
They speak about them, their rights, and what a man is obliged to do for them/to them. It's very rarely the other way around.
But my question... beside marriage being half our/my Deen, what 'pro' is their in getting married if I have all the responsibilities as a man, and I'm obliged to do so, whereas... she's not obliged to fulfill her "motherly" roles... cooking, cleaning, being a nurturing figure within our home, and promoting peace.
If she's not obliged to do any of that... why get married?
Why add to life's stressors?
Again, I'm a new revert, so please take it easy.
Note: A while ago I also heard a Sheikh speak about women give up so much, what do women give up that is so great that men don't?
Pros would be that she: gives birth to your children and raises them, that sexual intercourse with her is permitted, that she should be a source of peace for you, and that she also fulfils her part in running the household. The woman must listen to her husband about what is legal and the husband's rights are more important than those of the father. She may only leave the house with the husband's permission and only let people in who the husband approves of. So she manages the inner life, so to speak, and your job is to finance the outer life. Of course there are many other rights and duties that have nothing to do with payment (both should be nice and loving to one another, etc.) and it is a natural predisposition for both to fulfil their fitra.
@@GutsZet Great points, but all of what you've just pointed out a man gets without putting a ring on her finger...
Sex isn't appealing once you've had it time and time again... I don't know anyone whose married for sex.
Kids can come from man and girl being boyfriend and girlfriend.
Women listen to those they deem worthy of being listened to... so irrespective if they're Muslim sisters or not, be a man worthy of respect and the obedience of women.
She manages my inner life? I don't know what you mean.
My brother, assuming you're a man... I've built myself up with the help of my creator... I do not need nor want to teach a woman how to manage the inner workings of my life... it's simply put, a waste of my time.
So again... why do I need to get married? In my previous life (Kafir), I got all that without giving a woman the title of wife... why would I need to do that now to get some of what I previously got...
You get me?
Brother, here's my answer to clear your confusions:
The biggest reason we, as Muslim men, need to marry is so that we can protect ourselves from all evil (masturbation, sex outside of marriage aka 'Zina', etc.). If we are sure we can protect ourselves from these sins, we are not obliged to marry. But if we know that we will fall into these heinous sins (Zina, masturbation, haram relations, etc.) then we must marry, even if the women who are available to us for marriage are not good for out suiting (for whatever reason). For the top most reason, we marry for ourselves, not for society.
Moreover, internet is filled with feministic speeches of Imams that only talk about what men need to do for women in marriage in Islam. Don't fall for algorithm's tricks.
To have sex, because we can't get it anywhere else, and not everyone wants to die a virgin
@@HaydenHayden-rd9pn check out almadrastu al umarriyah on the rights of men over their wives. They have a whole playlist on both the rights of men and women over their spouses. And as for you talking about girlfriend and boyfriend, and obviously that is haram. Anyhow just check those videos, cause it seems like you need to understand the whole picture not just get some pointers.
Its a one sided question.
The wife has definitely been doing things to make the husband develop this attitude.
Saying the has “definitely” been doing something wrong without evidence of this is wrong.
yes could be cuz i’ve never seen such a man this stingy. Men’s heart is easy to change by women’s actions. be it in a good way or this way.
LoL
When to declare someone dead in Islam if he is not found
Can anyone share his contact number.. How can i contact him?? I am from India.. Plzz help
If you have questions you can ask on his website...
You have my condolence.
you can call him. you can just google his number. I have called him before so the number on google is correct.
You will need credit though because you will be calling internationally otherwise it wont go through