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@@acm3047 I decided to not mention that since the parakeet is there in multiple episodes earlier, once I go over the episode copycat I might reference when it first appears 😊
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i feel so bad for brandy, i totally understand her wanting to isolate herself after what happened, but it's good to see that she and chilli are slowly reconciling.
@@connie12345 It would be nice, but I don't really see Bluey as the kind of show that would give everyone happy endings just for the feel goods. (if that makes sense.) I have a feeling she's going to get involved with the girls more if she's going to be a returning character.
In terms of Chili’s miscarriage- in the episode Sheepdog, we see Bluey tell Wendy that she thinks Chili wishes she didn’t have children, and we see Wendy immediately say how that isn’t true. In the episode Sticky Gecko, we see Chili tell Bluey that Wendy made her five lasagnas when Bluey was born. I think based on those two instances, plus many other small details in the show, it’s very clear that Wendy was involved with Chilis miscarriage and was a friend to comfort her. I think she’s such a good neighbor, and the fact that the show subtly tells us the story is really beautiful
Low key gave me chills, I didn’t really think to correlate the sheepdog line with that at all. I’ve seen the sticky gecko thing discussed before but this sheepdog thing was incredible. Thank you for sharing
This episode hit close to home because cancer at a young age took away my ability to have any children of my own. I had someone just laugh it off and told me I can always adopt. It made me never want to talk about it again. It also hurts when people are like, you wouldn't know until you have your own kids like it's some sort of gated secret community. I worked in professional childcare for almost two decades and helped my mother raise my 3 (decade younger) siblings after the divorce, but I guess I don't know about raising children because I didn't birth any of them. Yeah, it makes you bitter. It makes you feel like a failure at life. Brandy had every right to isolate herself for those 4 years.
It’s so hard reading stuff like this because no one should have to go through all the things you have, cancer at a young age, being under valued via your feelings and not being taken seriously because you didn’t get the same chance in life as others. I’m so sorry you had to go through something like this, stay strong, even if it feels like your alone, know that you have others that love and support you 💙
I mean, yeah, its rude to laugh about it as if its nothing but…the point still stands: you could always adopt. I mean, unless you think you wouldnt be able to love an adopted children just the same or not feel like a real mother (which its possible,idk, never adopted tbh)
@Maenk90 it's still a rude and insensitive thing to say. It still undervalues and minimizes the very really feelings someone with fertility issues is experiencing. Also, depending on where you live, adoption is too expensive and, therefore, not a viable option.
I want to make a special point about why Brandy could choose not to adopt. I've read accounts from children that were adopted by people who hadn't processed the trauma of being infertile. These people, now grown, sadly could tell growing up that their parents considered them to be the "second choice" - that their parents were disappointed that their children weren't biological. Infertile people/couples can adopt successfully, but they MUST completely process the trauma and grief of being unable to create the biological family they'd initially hoped for. Infertility sufferers should seek grief therapy, because their grief is the grief of never being able to create the family they initially wanted.
I think society places too much emphasis on blood quantity in terms of what makes a family. I think a lot of this trauma people feel in the first place is because of this insane emphasis and pressure put on women to bear children, children of their "own" like its a key factor to being a woman. I get really sick when I see people constantly saying "child of my OWN" as someone who doesn't have a "mother of my OWN". I've never really heard someone say, "Yeah I want a mom of my OWN" the way parents label kids. Adopted kids being treated like a hand-me-down you begrudgingly accepted. I hope some day people can move past this blood-relative obsession, where family is what youre born into. My mom is my mom, and I'm her daughter. She didn't carry me as a fetus but she carried me as a toddler, a child, teen, and even now she still carries me as an adult.
@mzamnesia7190 right. Processing the grief before adopting would also help this issue. Many people who end up having kids by blood don't want them and so those kids end up in foster care, so having a family that does want them but has also processed their own issues, will also prevent those issues from affecting the child. Generational trauma can pass down if the parent hasn't been able to reconcile or heal in any way. Resulting in the Chile developing that as well. However for some people it's not an obsession with having blood relations. Some people just want to have that experience of carrying and birth, even with how hard and painful it can be. So for some it hurts emotionally, especially for afab women. But once able to move past that grief. And heal, they may decide either to adopt, or to not have kids at all. It varies person to person and situation I think. For example for you, I'd say if for example your mother had this grief, I don't know what her history was and I won't demand you to tell me as that's personal to her. But I'd imagine if she adopted you simply because of the second option deal, and hadn't processed her grief. It could have affected you negatively in your growth. But like you said she was able to care for you and love you the same. So I'd imagine we'd want that for adopted children. A safe environment, especially if they came from troubled homes already. But that is my view on it based on my understanding of families and family trauma as well as child development
@@Its_Asteria I think as generations keep talking more and more and spread awareness of the difficulty maybe it will become less traumatic over time. things like miscarriages happen all the time, sporadically, for like no reason, and with the subject of bodily autonomy being so big right now the subject of women experience is popping. A lot of pressure is put on women to have babies, carry babies, etc etc and it starts from the time they're born to "be moms". Its no wonder people like my mom feel like less when they can't carry a baby. I feel terrible she had gone through that, but her whole life she knew she wanted to "Be a mom" which is wild to me, because i NEVER experienced that feeling. she eventually WAS able to have my little brother, but whenever she talked about us she never called my bother "her own". It was always just "my kids" and she'd even say "We had our daughter--" instead of saying adopted. I never felt like a transplant or "not hers". I hope women get the healing they need, and its unfair so many feel like they were robbed of something when the alternative is just as beautiful. i love my mom so much
@@mzamnesia7190I don't think it's just about women feeling pressured to have babies. Some people just want to start their own family, with their own genes and family bloodline. Personally for me, I would want my child to be related to me, and have some of my qualities.
@@mzamnesia7190I think that's why it can also be heart breaking. Sorry if my take on this is childish, not experienced in talking about these types of complicated deep subjects.
Love this episode for all the illustrated reasons, but it always slays me that even when Bingo is possessed by the cheetah onesie, she still puts her helmet on when she rides her bike.
I think that's great. Not only should children be prepared for the real world, to be able to handle it and be prepared to leave a positive impact in their adult wake, but despite even the parents in Bluey not wanting their kids to really hear/be burdened with these, it's realistic for, if not kids to hear at least of them around where they live, those issues/topics/anything are likely somewhat prominent in the household.
The fact that there are people thinking Chili swapped Bingo and that Bingo is actually Brandy’s daughter surprises me. Just because they both look alike doesn’t mean Chili would stoop so low to kidnap Bingo and claim she’s her daughter. We even see a brief photo of Chili pregnant with Bingo in Puppets!😭 God I hope the 20 minute long special involves Brandy, I love her so much 😭
For real though, my older and younger siblings both look SO much like our aunt while I ended up a near spitting image of our mom. Genetics are funny like that
Wow, that’s certainly a… theory 😂 I have my mom’s hair, but my face shape is so similar to my aunt (dad’s sister). Family resemblances just work like that sometimes. I do enjoy hearing about the buckwild ideas some of the fans have, lol.
I was born with an intersex condition that makes me infertile and my mother made sure I knew that as soon as I knew where babies come from. I didn't fully understand at at the time, but the older I got, the more I realized she did that so I had the time to process it. As an adult, it's still hard, but I've had 20+ years to sit with it. Onsie still hits me hard.
I love that bandit is the one who gives the advice that helps Bluey, "become on with your onesie" because that's what chili and Brandi had to do, accept themselves. Since he had to watch the toll it took on them, and maybe even had some worries about his fertility, he is the one with the outside perspective able to help guide them
I love the idea that the creators were learning everything about real red heelers and, seeing the fertility problems, decided to use that as an inspiration and excuse to put it in the show instead of just leaving it be. As an artist, I like to call that informed creativity, and I find things like that so so important, it's how you go from making stuff that's just good, to making stuff that's great
Couldn’t agree more, it’s so special when they use the breeds to help build their characters, some people believe it’s the reason behind Mackenzie’s anxiety with him being a border collie. It’s super small but it’s little details like that, that make the show extra special 😊
As a 24 year old man who has no connection to this topic, I shouldn't feel the need to cry the entire duration of the video.... But the score and writing is just so emotionally gripping, and the storytelling so genuine, my roommates ended up crying with me. Keep up the great analysis of this awesome series!
Thank you so much for telling me this buddy, you just made my day to know that the video was able to convey the feelings bluey was showing on screen enough for you to cry as well as your roommate 💙😊
With the adoption thing, I would also love adoption to be included in the show! But I don’t quite think is should be Brandi who adopts. Everything you said in the video is absolutely spot on! But there is also how finding out could make the child feel. Adopted children of infertile parents can often feel like they’re a parents last choice, and that if their parents could have children they wouldn’t think twice about them. In addition, the adults in these situations can sometimes find it difficult to actually connect with and love their adopted child- whether still grieving or still holding on to what could have been, an adopted child can sometimes just act as a reminder that it wasn’t meant to be. The biggest motivating factor for adoption should always be to give a child a home, not to fill a gap in your own heart!! For the sake and sanity of all involved parties, don't adopt unless adoption is what you wanted to begin with
I think there is an adopted character in the show (Missy from pirates) as canonically her mom is an entirely different breed but I see your point completely, I just wanted to share a cool fact
Yeah theres obviously something wrong of that mindset of "adopting a child doesn't make it yours" Because, just because you are related by blood, it doesn't mean anything. Your just blood related, and you're bio kids can disown you when they grow up. Again, just because you aren't blood related, it doesn't mean you're any less family. Their still yours despite not sharing dna
I'm so happy that Brandy says "Next time I visit" when lying on the grass with Chilli. It's such a small line but it's so impactful because you know she will at the very least try to spend more time with her sister and nieces.
The incredible thing is - and this is a testament to the talent of the writers - the Bluey crew can completely gut us and make us think in only a maybe ten minute episode. So many writers can’t accomplish this no matter how long they’re given to accomplish the task.
@@princesspikachu3915 my point still stands. I see 11 minute runtimes on Disney plus for some so I did a fast estimate in my head. If you wanna quibble about details fine, but that’s what you choose to focus on? That I overshot my estimate? Not the actual point of my post? Weird but okay.
If that's impressive, try giving the first few seasons of Thomas & Friends a try (Preferably Seasons 1-7). Many people love them and their episodes are only 4 minutes and 30 seconds long
I’m 19, and know I’ll never be able to have my own biological kids. I know I can still father adopted children, and theres other alternatives. The reality is I can never be a biological father to anyone. That Bluey episode made me sad, but also helped me to begin to accept that about myself. It is such a special show.
I've heard some people say "if Brandy wants a child so badly, why doesn't she adopt?" A good question but some people don't understand its not the same thing for some people
It's also not financially feasible for some people even if they do want to. There are so many different reasons why adoption is out of the question for some. It's not as easy as going to a shelter and picking out a dog/cat to take home.
It's a lot to be failed by your body, can really get under your skin, but, unless your adopting an older kid, it is very much the same, babies don't become special just cause they're related to you, and you're worse off getting pregnant, you could die, your baby could be mishandled by doctors, my brother is severely disabled, adopted babies are already all in one piece, it just feels like you're sacrificing so much just for the baby to look different, I've been through so much hell cause of mental disabilities and oblivious parents making psychos in my life, and it makes me feel like people want to sleep walk into parenting and hurt everyone around them in their pursuit, having a kid instead of adopting makes rusk for all sorts of problems, it just feels so dangerous and ignorant, and I don't want to be antagonistic, but the knife can be twisted in so deep when things go wrong and they do, and you ignore another kid in the process just to get one that you prefer the look of, it just feels shallow, and wrong Can you tell me what the other perspective is, I don't quite understand where those people are coming from
I'm convinced people think adopting a human child is the same as adopting a pet from a shelter, or as easy as Disney cartoons make it out to be. Adoption is a very long, expensive, and complicated process that not everyone can afford. It also does not heal the wound of not being able to conceive your own children, and is not meant to- you adopt for the sake of the child, not merely as a consolation prize for infertility.
and there are a lot of requirements that you have to be able to require for the countries you want to adopt in some countries they can refuse you a child if you are single or queer and you need a lot of money to adopt
I get the financial and other technical difficulties of adopting and all the hoops couples are expect to jump through to adopt;and I'm going to sound heartless when I say this: if someone thinks an adopted child isnt their "own" child, thats a shit mentality IMO. Technically speaking, yes, adopting and carrying a child to term are who way different things and processes-- but what I see from these peoples arguments is they dont see an adopted child as "their" child and it honestly just disgusts me. If someone thinks an adopted child isn't "their own" child, please dont adopt. Please dont have step kids--because they're the type of parent to treat a step kid different from their birthed one because "they're not my OWN child". Whether or not you birthed a human deciding if its "your" child is just a shit take, but thats my 2 cents.
You mention a "bird" in the video--this is a swallow, specifically. There have been different associations with swallows throughout the ages, being considered a connection to the resurrection within Christian symbolism, or, perhaps more poignantly, as the Romans once viewed them as the souls of departed children.
adopting is difficult sometimes to,my best friend couldn't have kids of her own ethier,so she adopted kids,but for whatever reason things went wrong when the adoption center re took back the kids and took her to court,I think the kid's bilogical mother wanted her kids back,which is a real downer for my best friend since she was doing a fantastic job on raising them,she evenually got second chance for adopting 2 kids,a boy and a girl and she loves them very much
It's a shame because setting aside the dream of having your "own child" adoption isn't as simple as going to the orphanage and picking a kid. You need approval and harder for most, money. It's important because the well-being of the child being adopted is important, but those same necessary qualifications are also what stops many from getting adopted at all. It's sadly "easier" to be able to get pregnant and birth your kids, because you don't have anything standing in the way of you getting them, it's about being sure you're fit enough to keep them. Adopting parents have to be fit to both get AND keep their children and love or the want to have a child in your life sadly isn't enough. It's not as simple of an option as people think and that's taking out the insensitive notion that "they just don't want a kid that's not biologically related." Which, no matter what it's valid to have that want for biological children as long as it doesn't effect how you treat children you adopt or children others choose to adopt. You aren't an evil person for wanting that for yourself, so long as you make sure that if you choose to and are able to adopt a child that you can see them as yours and give them the love they need and deserve.
There's also the fact that the desire to reproduce is one of the basic instincts of every living being, even for non-sentient plantlife. Having that normal, natural ability permanently ripped away from you is gut-wrenching in a way that's impossible to describe, and was never a wound adoption was meant to fix. In fact, many adoption agencies warn against rushing into adoption for that very reason, because it gives parents a skewed idea of what the process actually entails. The fact that there are people in this comment section with the audacity to act like people who wanted their own biological children are just being selfish and invalidating adoption somehow is beyond absurd. It's on par with going up to a grieving widow during the funeral and telling her to just get over it and get a new husband, or else she's invalidating everyone whose ever remarried after losing their spouse.
There are parents out there in the world who gave birth to their bio kids, who aren't fit to be parents themselves. "Every kid deserves parents, but not all parents deserves parents"
As someone who has suffered from infertility for over 5 years now, this brings me to complete tears. If you have not been through it, you just can't fully understand. Tens of thousands of dollars, hundreds of shots, so many meds and supplements, countless blood draws, loss of control of hormones, physical pain, emotional pain, countless Dr. appointments and so many sleepless nights crying only to continue crying in the car on the way to work, resentfulness towards loved ones and friends and always pretending that you're okay is only the tip of the iceberg when fighting this battle. Thank you for covering this. To anyone going through this, please remember that you are not alone, it is hard for everyone and you are strong!
“Some things aren’t meant to be” is incredibly hurtful to me. It’s basically another “everything happens for a reason”. I might be alone here, but neither make me feel any better. I know people mean well, but it’s still heartbreaking
Same. I got diagnosed as a type one diabetic and that single moment destroyed many paths for me. I wanted to be a soldier more than anything else. It feels worse to know your body is such a reject you can't even get a chance.
I feel like an episode where Brandi is babysitting for Chilli (and I swear, the Disney+ subtitles are beginning to regularly spell her name Chilli now, but I swear I saw spellings as Chili in earlier seasons' episodes) that opens with optimism for a fun day with the girls, but quickly devolves into Brandi realizing the sacrifices that need to be made in her lifestyle to incorporate children. In the end, I think the episode would end at the beginning of her next babysitting stint, showing that Brandi hasn't changed her whole life, but is making easy changes to help her life be more open for her nieces. The challenge is writing the children's story with a game that pushes Brandi's living style (décor, choice of furniture, etc.) to the limit, with something breaking being the climatic point for both storylines, where the kids realize they need to realize that the rules someone gives you at their house is important, but Brandi realizes that the way she styles her home is prone to damage with children around, and in effect, how different her life would be taking care of children every day. The resolution showing that Bluey and Bingo are more prepared to follow the lead, and Brandi making small adjustments to her life to make space for her nieces.
I think a better argument to counter the “Why don’t infertile couples just adopt?” one would be “A kid who’s adopted does not need to carry the emotional baggage of their new parents.” Adoption is a tricky process, mostly due to obtuse laws, but in part also because I think we focus too much on the parents and not the children. There’s both this weird idea that adopted children are “mere replacements” for biological children AND that they’re “not like the real thing” (actual way I’ve seen people describe them!) which is even more disgusting.
My best friend and I were just talking about this episode recently, we can both relate despite not knowing our fertility status. We feel like we can’t ever have children despite wanting them for a myriad of reasons; financial, feeling like schools in the US are not safe, I’m unwed, etc. This episode breaks my heart and makes me cry because I’ve had to come to terms that it’s likely not going to happen, even if it’s by my choice because I’m scared of bringing a child into a world that feels like it’s ending.
You shouldn't let your children go to public school for numerous reasons. They're liberal indoctrination centers and all they do is brainwash them. They're not learning anything useful. Public school didn't help me, it set me back. Also, if you vote Democrat you are part of the problem, it's your fault the world is a disaster. So you have no one to blame but yourself.
I think people often forget how infertility isn’t just solved by adoption, as there are other emotional and sometimes physical aspects of it to grapple with. I myself have never wanted children and I still don’t, but when I found out I was infertile, I burst into tears and later went through a period of emotional pain. Not exactly over not being able to have children, but from the idea that my body didn’t work the way it was meant to, that something was wrong with me-something that causes other symptoms that are physically and emotionally painful as well. And while I don’t think I’ll change my mind on having children, it did affect me to realize that if I ever did, my choices for how to go about having kids had already been made for me. It’s a complex topic, and I think it’s often why “just adopting” doesn’t always work to make people who are infertile feel better. Anyway, I adored this video, this episode is easily one of my favorites, for all the same reasons. That scene by the door, of Bingo looking so much like Brandy, always gets me emotional too ❤
I would love to share this to Facebook and tag my sisters, both of whom struggled with infertility and both handled it very, very differently. My youngest sister became an advocate for miscarriage awareness, while the older of my younger sisters suffered in silence. One Christmas, the first with my first born, she was going through a miscarriage, and no one knew. Both have their rainbow babies now, so i don't know how they would take it. Even though my wife and I didn't struggle (at all) with either of our children, knowing a few close family and friends that have ruined us watching this episode. My wife swears she won't watch it again. She will, she loves it, but it hit so hard. I am sharing this video to non-Bluey fans, trying to convert them. Excellent work, thank you for your efforts
I just had my first child. Was watching Bluey to get ready for the upcoming cartoons I’ll be watching with him and saw this. I couldn’t imagine how this could feel because I have my child now. But I know it has to be difficult. It’s not something adoption can just fix. There is a reason she didn’t visit for 4 years. It’s hard knowing you just can’t experience it. As hard as pregnancy is, the experience is something so many people wish for yet can’t have. My heart goes to anyone in this situation. Also don’t use adoption as a coping strategy. Take your time to grieve then reconsider if adoption is a good idea. You don’t want to adopt a child and accidentally hurt them when your trying to heal.
dang, the little mailbox tilt and fix is such a great tiny little detail of continuity that they absolutely did not have to remember to do and I love it
Thanks for bringing up the buildup to this episode in Big Play, when I realized Big Play predated Onesies' first broadcast by a year and that was Brandy's actual first appearance I lost my mind with excitement, that's so immensely cool
This one hurts. The same week I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, my partner at the time was diagnosed with Factor 5 Leidan Thrombosis (think the opposite of hemophilia, her blood clots TOO much). So I could barely walk, and she had a blood clot go to her lungs and nearly kill her. The blood clots enter the womb as well and effectively make her sterile. Two miscarriages later truly broke us. But why did it have to be her, too?
Me, a 27yo male never planning on having children, never seen Bluey, but this is genuinely really heartbreaking. I didn’t realize kids shows were willing and able to focus on such a deep and difficult struggle that some folk have to live through, and how it can we can support them.
I almost started crying on the bus watching this. Six years into infertility and it’s hell so it’s great that awareness is being spread even through kid shows
I’m glad that you brought up that adoption is not always a solution. I experienced infertility and ended up adopting. But I was lucky. It was NOT an easy process. It was lengthy and expensive. Just the cost alone is prohibitive for most people. It’s also hard for LGBTQ+ people as a lot of private agencies are faith-based and will only work with married heteronormative couples. And it took about three years from start to finish. Actually, more than four years if you count the time between the placement of my child and when his adoption was finalized.
People don't realize how expensive adopting is. I know someone who spent $30k on trying to adopt but it never ended up happening because of complications. It's expensive to have kids but you usually have insurance to help.
I remember when making this video I had a whole minute explaining how expensive it is that I scrapped, however after this has been posted and seeing similar comments on it, it totally feels like I should have went through and addressed it
This show gives me so much hope for the future. I lost my 13 wk old baby in the most painful, traumatic way and there are days where I can't even sit in the shower without being thrown back to that night. Bluey gives me so much hope that one day I will be able to hold my beautiful babies and love them so much. I dont think the creators of this show fully understand just how impactful it is 😅 I can't wait to watch this show with my kids someday 💕 for now though, I'll just take notes from Bandit and Chili lol
I've had some... interaction... with this issue too, can relate big time to Brandy. I really appreciate the phrase "it's just not meant to be" relating to Brandy, as it explains the situation to kids perfectly. It doesn't put the emphasis on some kind of repair for it or pressure Brandy to have kids to be allowed into their lives. Letting it just be what it is, *is* the best kind of grace for all the parties involved.
I've had 3 miscarriages and major infertility in between each one I had. I resonated with Brandy and have isolated myself from people I love and care about that have kids for this reason. I don't mean to. I love them. I love those kids' faces and silly personalities. It just hurts too much. When Bandit and Chili held hands in that balloon scene during the kids' play, I cried for a good 20 minutes. 😞 I'm so grateful for this show and never thought I would be so drawn to the in depth storytelling in a kids show.
Everyone assumes infertility, but some people just aren't good at relationships and can't that way either. Im a guy but I always wanted kids. I pictured getting married at 25 having some fun, traveling, etc then have kids at 30. I recall being crestfallen on my 30th birthday that I wasn't in a realtionship. I didn't see my nieces that often either, because I was trying to setup dates and put myself out there. It hurt both ways. But luckily when I was 33 I met the love of my life, who was a little older than me. We didn't have time to travel the world together, but we had both traveled as single people, so we went straight to starting a family after we were married. Life doesn't always work out how you expect. I'm glad I invested a lot of time bettering myself to get in a relationship. But I can sympathize.
I've been through a miscarriage recently. I don't want a child and didn't want one then, yet I still felt so distraught. I was still crying and grieving even though I didn't know until the miscarriage happened. Bluey really helped me get through it. Brandy especially comforted me.
In under 2 years I've had 3 miscarriages, my most recent one being less than a month ago. This episode and this video made me ugly cry. I'm glad that this topic is finally being covered with grace. I've been seeing family and friends having children with little ease while I've been struggling to the point I've been avoiding said friends and family. Although I want a family more than anything, this most recent loss I've been traumatized and the thought of pregnancy terrifies me. While I'm getting my emotions in order I'm now looking at surrogacy/adoption.
i havent finished the video yet, but i wanted to say as someone who’s having to face potential infertility right now, the upsetting part isn’t that i cant have children who are born from me. the upsetting part is that i cant experience pregnancy. i daydream constantly about what pregnancy would be like for me and my partner, how exciting it would be to see and feel the progress of our baby growing. for people who don’t care for pregnancy, it can be hard to grasp that some people really really want it. think about how many surrogates there are. people who choose to be pregnant over and over without keeping the kids, because pregnancy is something they enjoy. it can be devastating to have that dream taken away from you.
Plus you'd think that the person having birthed a child would remember And if she "can't have the thing she wants and there's nothing she can do" she clearly didn't and can't have a child etc
man, this video made me cry! i may or may not be infertile. my partner and i are both trans men, which means we can never conceive a child just the two of us. because i'm on HRT, it's unclear if i'll be able to carry a child or not, let alone all the societal complications that come along with being a pregnant man. the more we look into surrogacy, adoption, or fostering, the more complicated it becomes, and it really makes me wish that just starting parenthood was as simple as it is for other people who can conceive a child on their own. i have a deep fear of my children somehow being taken away from me, or them feeling like i'm not their parent, just because we may not share a genetic bond... it's not as simple as "just adopt" and i wish people wouldn't say that when they have no understanding of what it's like to go through this, and so i really, really appreciate you addressing that in your video
Very nice deep dive, dude! It really goes to show just how well made this episode is, and how it truly stands out from the rest (even amongst Camping and Sleepytime). Also, thanks a million for the shoutout! That really made my day :)
there is a small detail that is probably intentional that I see no one ever mention. Chilly says that there is nothing anyone can do to make the onesie fit. It can also relate that when people have infertility issues, they try to get medical help, and while there are case where they can do something, sometimes there is nothing anyone can do. Which is probably the case with brandy. I also find the fact they use onsies specifically kind of symbolic since it's a full body clothing and people whit infertility issues that want kids can feel like there is something wrong with their entire body. But that one might be a stretch.
Recently lost my uterus because of endometriosis. I know I can’t have children and didn’t ‘want’ children right now. However anytime I think about it and how my choice to have children has all but vanished. It’s really really hard and I’m struggling so hard and I feel like no one is understanding how hard this has hit me. I don’t know how much more I can take with no one understanding. Everyone brings up adoption but how do they not understand my pain?
the new movie of blue called "the sigh" show's brandy having a baby, showing infertility doesn't mean incapable of being pregnant, it just means it's harder
This episode makes me feel all sorts of ways. I have PCOS, and am really the only one in my immediate family with the condition, leaving me isolated. I know having children may be harder, and have higher chances of miscarriages, which sucks as both my mom and my grandma had no issues in terms of fertility or miscarriages. My grandma had one by choice, and I’m the oldest of four. Its scary knowing I may never be able to mother my own children and my brothers presumably will. But the episode helps, in ways I’ll probably appreciate the older I get.
This episode hits too close, my sisters are both fertile and able to have children. I'll most likely never have the chance. I've found the most amazing man in the world that will make an amazing father, and I've spent years planning my parenting plan. I found out in highschool I have a less than two percent chance of conceiving if that. I had names picked out. We'll adopt, I've had time to grieve the children I'll never have and want to provide my warm home to someone who needs me more than an imaginary child. If I get the chance I will take hold with an iron grip, but until that miracle happens, the ghosts of giggles will be all I have. Sorry this was depressing, thank you for covering this.
Thank you for bringing up the adoption point! Adoption is not a fix for infertility and not the end all, be all solution! If anything, adoption can just be a band-aid fix and can even harm the child being adopted as they will figure out that they were only adopted because of the original children the adopted parents wanted and could have a feeling of inferiority growing up if not handled correctly. You should want to adopt because you're emotionally and mentally ready. Nobody should be pressured to adopt especially after an emotional and mental event as learning you're infertile especially because adoption is not something simple either.
This episode is masterful. A lot of people choose Sleepytime as there favorite but this one and Baby Race are the reasons I even watched Bluey. The perfect balance of a fun kids episode with Bingo running wild and the important message of how some things aren't meant to be is amazing. I had a similar issue for a while and also isolated myself from my family for a long time, so this one cut deep. To see such unique and important messages on Bluey is prolly why I have to fight back tears every few episodes 😅.
When my doctor told me I couldn’t have kids I became depressed and had a lot of bad thoughts. I’m very lucky to be pregnant with my first but I would never wish that feeling on anyone.
Personally an episode of brandy meeting a guy who has his own kids from a prior marriage would be amazing. She'd be excited to now be a mother but nervous because she'd never done it before and he could be nervous to give love another try.
For real. Crap like family guy and American dad really poison the well. It gives adults the impression that animation cant be thoughtful or meaningful.
I know this is my fourth comment, please bear with me, but I love how you have grown in the past six months! I think one of the reasons for your quick success was not just because of your content, but because to worked hard to integrate yourself into the Bluey community, and because you have built your own community yourself which you took time to display at the end of this video with the fan art. It is very wholesome! Please keep it up!
First! And btw, I feel bad for Brandy and I understand her intentions of isolating herself after she knew what is wrong with her. Tho I'm very happy she built up more confidence and decided to visit Chilli, which gives us this wholesome episode.
We are having a hard time conceiving. My sister's first daughter EVERYONE said looked just like me when I was young (and honestly, I could see it too). It was very difficult for me for a lot of reasons, though I never closed myself off from the relationship for the kids' sake. Right now, she's having a hard time trying to get them back (state took them but the case is still open). A LONG time - starting literally a month after my miscarriage of my only ever confirmed pregnancy - they would ask if we would adopt them instead, and when I finally had the mental capacity to agree to it, she changed her mind. I can't handle that again and stepped completely out of the picture after that (not out of their lives, just out of the adoption picture) and it still hurts regardless, but I can't mentally be strung around like that given my own struggles. My mother in law once asked why I wouldn't adopt them and I admitted that I wanted to be a mom, not just a forever aunt. And she (having 2 kids, mind you) said, "I'd love to be a forever aunt." Which really felt invalidating. Them pointing out that Chili's child Bingo looked like Brandy, her aunt, literally reminded me of that conversation between me, my sister, her daughter, and family and does make it feel less alone.
My mom and aunt had a very similar dynamic. My aunt is infertile, and although she wanted to adopt, her husband didn’t want to, so she had to give up on her dream. She has tons of nieces and nephews though so there’s plenty of children in her life to love, but she was never able to have her own. I’ll never intrude on what it was like for her to never have her dream, that doesn’t seem like an area I should intrude on in her life but I feel this gives a clue of what she went through, and I just feel terrible for her.
id love to see Brandy adopt a kid that is in Bingo's class at kindie. it would be a great piece of development for her, but also showcase some of the difficulties of adoption from both angles. and i think it would be super sweet to see them a few times in a series growing closer in their relationship. or,, honestly just having her babysit for the first time, because thats really scary the first time you are left in charge of a relatives kid. i imagine it as something similar to the moral of Octopus, that there are many ways to play the same game and make it fun, there are many ways of looking after kids that can be fun for them.
I think Brandi would be a great way to create a discussion about adoption especially of adopting a child of a different race (breed for the show’s purposes) and how to navigate it
When I was ~12 social workers and foster parents forced me to take period blockers. My therapist barely mentioned that they might have a negative reaction with my other medication. My dad on the other hand immediately began to ask for a second opinion and turns out they had a high chance to worsen my depression and... make me infertile. I took them on and off for a month until my dad threatened to sue. I'd keep them in my mouth, pretend to swallow, and then spit them out. For the past 3 years I've had the thought in my head that I may be infertile and it's terrified me. The odds are so low and logically it makes no sense, but it still scared me. A few months ago I had a breakdown about that and my boyfriend reassured me that even if I wasn't able to have children he'd still love me. Something about that calmed me. I don't worry about that anymore, but still. That estrogen is aggressive and I can't imagine a future where I'm not a mom. The way you broke this down was so... beautiful. To imagine the pain these women are going through and to be able to put it into words through a "kids" show. Sorry for this comment being all over the place I'm a bit emotional lol (Yes I know I'm 15 and that I'm too young blah blah. I know that. I know very well that I probably won't have kids until I'm 25, but that doesn't mean that I can't worry. I'm a hormonal young woman, that's what we do. We worry and men bring us back to earth. It's a beautiful co-existence :) ok emotional and personal rant over)
I don't know what has me bawling more. The episode or the deep dive. I've never heard such a good understanding of the pain of infertility. I'm aunt brandy and I wonder exactly what bluey ask her mom. I was adopted I don't want to adopt. I can't even look at my family and hear she looks like you.
whenever watching bluey, i always remember that these characters are supposed to reflect an experience that a lot of people had. then i realized- onesies is my episode! i was the bingo of my family, my mom had a miscarriage before having my older sibling and was lucky enough to get two kids. it was hard for her and i love that i can really see my family in such a cute and emotional show :)
My mom is currently watching the entire series from season one to the final season so this is going to be a surprise to for me when she sees this episode!
Thank you for making this video. I haven't watched Bluey but looked up characters suffering infertility and came across your video. It helps me feel seen.
From what we have seen now from Dragon, Bingo and Brandy both have similar markings as Chilli and Brandy's mom. Also, speaking from my own life, I have a niece who looks more like I did at her age than her mom (my sister) did, so I agree that Bingo actually being Brandy's daughter is a little unbelievable.l
You know what I think no one asks, how has Brandy tried to have children of her own? Does she have a partner we have never seen or heard of? If so, how has this affected them and their relationship with Brandy? Is Brandy single and she tried other options for kids of her own? I guess until she is featured in more episodes, we will never know. Great work on analyzing this great episode. Fantastic work.
I am so hyped for the video on Calypso. Meg Washington is my absolute favorite singer songwriter of all time. Her song Batflowers is legitimately what I wish I could have shown myself last year when I felt my life had no direction or purpose. I could gush on and on about her but I'm so excited for you to dive into the character she plays. Your content is so wonderful and insightful, and I'm positive it'll be amazing
I hope in future episodes we see brandy again and I hope she adopts a kid. The brandy episode made me cry hell this video is making me cry. Poor girl:(
This scene deeply moved me. A lot of times, the focus is alway centered on the women that have to deal with infertility, but there’s almost no mention or discussion of how it affects the man in a relationship. While my wife and I struggled to just get pregnant, I had to deal with trying to put on the brave face and be the rock for her as she struggled with the realization that, without medical assistance, we would almost likely never have a child. It’s almost impossible to describe to others the utter feeling of hopelessness that seeps through a man, and how just seeing commercials for simple baby products is intensely triggering, or hearing his wife crying her eyes out about how she’s so sorry that there’s something wrong with her that she can’t give ME the family that we dreamed of, it hurts on a level that I wish no man ever has to understand. I’m eternally grateful that, through medical science, we were able to have a child, who is a perfectly healthy and a lively two year old that we both love unconditionally.
just finished, and this made me cry all over again. i adore brandy as a character so much, and you offered some perspectives on her that i hadn’t even considered before (it made me emotional all over again) this has to be one of my favorite videos of yours, thank you for covering this episode 🥹💖
i have an aunt who basically gifted her daughter to a friend of hers who's infertile. the friend is like a sister to all my aunts. and she has taken care of my cousin since she was v little. she's got a room in both of their houses and most of her birthdays are in the friend's house
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what about the blue parakeet sitting on the table wasn't that reference to ep where Bluey deals with the death of a wild parakeet
@@acm3047 I decided to not mention that since the parakeet is there in multiple episodes earlier, once I go over the episode copycat I might reference when it first appears 😊
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i feel so bad for brandy, i totally understand her wanting to isolate herself after what happened, but it's good to see that she and chilli are slowly reconciling.
I really hope we see more of Brandy in the future.
@@AngelusNielsonbut my tears aren't ready to come out
#justice for brandy
True. Hope to see Brandy with an adopted child tho 🩵
@@connie12345 It would be nice, but I don't really see Bluey as the kind of show that would give everyone happy endings just for the feel goods. (if that makes sense.) I have a feeling she's going to get involved with the girls more if she's going to be a returning character.
In terms of Chili’s miscarriage- in the episode Sheepdog, we see Bluey tell Wendy that she thinks Chili wishes she didn’t have children, and we see Wendy immediately say how that isn’t true. In the episode Sticky Gecko, we see Chili tell Bluey that Wendy made her five lasagnas when Bluey was born. I think based on those two instances, plus many other small details in the show, it’s very clear that Wendy was involved with Chilis miscarriage and was a friend to comfort her. I think she’s such a good neighbor, and the fact that the show subtly tells us the story is really beautiful
Low key gave me chills, I didn’t really think to correlate the sheepdog line with that at all. I’ve seen the sticky gecko thing discussed before but this sheepdog thing was incredible. Thank you for sharing
That sure makes her struggle in Baby Race a lot more interesting too
@@BatSnakegirl I wonder if Coco’s mom knew aswell. Her and Chili seemed to have some sort of connection
Wendy deserves more credit.
Sheep dog, do you mean a poodle? 😭💀
This episode hit close to home because cancer at a young age took away my ability to have any children of my own. I had someone just laugh it off and told me I can always adopt. It made me never want to talk about it again. It also hurts when people are like, you wouldn't know until you have your own kids like it's some sort of gated secret community. I worked in professional childcare for almost two decades and helped my mother raise my 3 (decade younger) siblings after the divorce, but I guess I don't know about raising children because I didn't birth any of them. Yeah, it makes you bitter. It makes you feel like a failure at life. Brandy had every right to isolate herself for those 4 years.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and the person that told you that was rude.
It’s so hard reading stuff like this because no one should have to go through all the things you have, cancer at a young age, being under valued via your feelings and not being taken seriously because you didn’t get the same chance in life as others. I’m so sorry you had to go through something like this, stay strong, even if it feels like your alone, know that you have others that love and support you 💙
I’m so sorry for what happened, just know it’s not your fault and your not a failure. You’re very strong and special and important. Hugs 🤗
I mean, yeah, its rude to laugh about it as if its nothing but…the point still stands: you could always adopt. I mean, unless you think you wouldnt be able to love an adopted children just the same or not feel like a real mother (which its possible,idk, never adopted tbh)
@Maenk90 it's still a rude and insensitive thing to say. It still undervalues and minimizes the very really feelings someone with fertility issues is experiencing. Also, depending on where you live, adoption is too expensive and, therefore, not a viable option.
I want to make a special point about why Brandy could choose not to adopt. I've read accounts from children that were adopted by people who hadn't processed the trauma of being infertile. These people, now grown, sadly could tell growing up that their parents considered them to be the "second choice" - that their parents were disappointed that their children weren't biological. Infertile people/couples can adopt successfully, but they MUST completely process the trauma and grief of being unable to create the biological family they'd initially hoped for. Infertility sufferers should seek grief therapy, because their grief is the grief of never being able to create the family they initially wanted.
I think society places too much emphasis on blood quantity in terms of what makes a family. I think a lot of this trauma people feel in the first place is because of this insane emphasis and pressure put on women to bear children, children of their "own" like its a key factor to being a woman. I get really sick when I see people constantly saying "child of my OWN" as someone who doesn't have a "mother of my OWN". I've never really heard someone say, "Yeah I want a mom of my OWN" the way parents label kids. Adopted kids being treated like a hand-me-down you begrudgingly accepted. I hope some day people can move past this blood-relative obsession, where family is what youre born into. My mom is my mom, and I'm her daughter. She didn't carry me as a fetus but she carried me as a toddler, a child, teen, and even now she still carries me as an adult.
@mzamnesia7190 right. Processing the grief before adopting would also help this issue. Many people who end up having kids by blood don't want them and so those kids end up in foster care, so having a family that does want them but has also processed their own issues, will also prevent those issues from affecting the child. Generational trauma can pass down if the parent hasn't been able to reconcile or heal in any way. Resulting in the Chile developing that as well. However for some people it's not an obsession with having blood relations. Some people just want to have that experience of carrying and birth, even with how hard and painful it can be. So for some it hurts emotionally, especially for afab women. But once able to move past that grief. And heal, they may decide either to adopt, or to not have kids at all. It varies person to person and situation I think. For example for you, I'd say if for example your mother had this grief, I don't know what her history was and I won't demand you to tell me as that's personal to her. But I'd imagine if she adopted you simply because of the second option deal, and hadn't processed her grief. It could have affected you negatively in your growth. But like you said she was able to care for you and love you the same. So I'd imagine we'd want that for adopted children. A safe environment, especially if they came from troubled homes already.
But that is my view on it based on my understanding of families and family trauma as well as child development
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I think as generations keep talking more and more and spread awareness of the difficulty maybe it will become less traumatic over time. things like miscarriages happen all the time, sporadically, for like no reason, and with the subject of bodily autonomy being so big right now the subject of women experience is popping.
A lot of pressure is put on women to have babies, carry babies, etc etc and it starts from the time they're born to "be moms". Its no wonder people like my mom feel like less when they can't carry a baby.
I feel terrible she had gone through that, but her whole life she knew she wanted to "Be a mom" which is wild to me, because i NEVER experienced that feeling. she eventually WAS able to have my little brother, but whenever she talked about us she never called my bother "her own". It was always just "my kids" and she'd even say "We had our daughter--" instead of saying adopted. I never felt like a transplant or "not hers". I hope women get the healing they need, and its unfair so many feel like they were robbed of something when the alternative is just as beautiful. i love my mom so much
@@mzamnesia7190I don't think it's just about women feeling pressured to have babies. Some people just want to start their own family, with their own genes and family bloodline. Personally for me, I would want my child to be related to me, and have some of my qualities.
@@mzamnesia7190I think that's why it can also be heart breaking. Sorry if my take on this is childish, not experienced in talking about these types of complicated deep subjects.
Love this episode for all the illustrated reasons, but it always slays me that even when Bingo is possessed by the cheetah onesie, she still puts her helmet on when she rides her bike.
Lol safety first
XD She's a practical cheetah.
That "Why can't she just have what she wants?" line KILLS me every time.
I have a long history of bad relationships and mistakes I've made.
Everyone does, i know the feeling.
Idk what it is, but stay strong sister💪💪
@@poizn1 Thank you, but I'm physically male. But as a nonbinary person, I'll take "sister" as well... :P
That one had me nearly crying
I love Bluey for talking about “adult” topics without dumbing it down.
I think that's great. Not only should children be prepared for the real world, to be able to handle it and be prepared to leave a positive impact in their adult wake, but despite even the parents in Bluey not wanting their kids to really hear/be burdened with these, it's realistic for, if not kids to hear at least of them around where they live, those issues/topics/anything are likely somewhat prominent in the household.
The fact that there are people thinking Chili swapped Bingo and that Bingo is actually Brandy’s daughter surprises me. Just because they both look alike doesn’t mean Chili would stoop so low to kidnap Bingo and claim she’s her daughter. We even see a brief photo of Chili pregnant with Bingo in Puppets!😭 God I hope the 20 minute long special involves Brandy, I love her so much 😭
Wait. There’s going to be a 20 minute special? Hooray! ❤🎉
@@rubytook8067 yep, there’s gonna be a small Easter egg from the episode where Bingo and Lela tried to stop bugs from crossing the slip and slide
For real though, my older and younger siblings both look SO much like our aunt while I ended up a near spitting image of our mom. Genetics are funny like that
Wow, that’s certainly a… theory 😂 I have my mom’s hair, but my face shape is so similar to my aunt (dad’s sister). Family resemblances just work like that sometimes. I do enjoy hearing about the buckwild ideas some of the fans have, lol.
My sister looks a lot like my aunt did when she was young, and my niece looks like my preschool pictures
I was born with an intersex condition that makes me infertile and my mother made sure I knew that as soon as I knew where babies come from. I didn't fully understand at at the time, but the older I got, the more I realized she did that so I had the time to process it. As an adult, it's still hard, but I've had 20+ years to sit with it. Onsie still hits me hard.
This episode of Bluey is called:
"How to fucking destroy people emotionally"
Facts
Literally made me bawl my eyes out😭😭 im going through this exact time in my life as brandy.. it definitely hurts relating to this
I love that bandit is the one who gives the advice that helps Bluey, "become on with your onesie" because that's what chili and Brandi had to do, accept themselves. Since he had to watch the toll it took on them, and maybe even had some worries about his fertility, he is the one with the outside perspective able to help guide them
Nice. I was wondering if there was something more to that.
8:42 “while bandit is busy being mauled by bingo” is the most ABSURD sentence I have ever heard
I love the idea that the creators were learning everything about real red heelers and, seeing the fertility problems, decided to use that as an inspiration and excuse to put it in the show instead of just leaving it be. As an artist, I like to call that informed creativity, and I find things like that so so important, it's how you go from making stuff that's just good, to making stuff that's great
Couldn’t agree more, it’s so special when they use the breeds to help build their characters, some people believe it’s the reason behind Mackenzie’s anxiety with him being a border collie. It’s super small but it’s little details like that, that make the show extra special 😊
As a 24 year old man who has no connection to this topic, I shouldn't feel the need to cry the entire duration of the video.... But the score and writing is just so emotionally gripping, and the storytelling so genuine, my roommates ended up crying with me. Keep up the great analysis of this awesome series!
Thank you so much for telling me this buddy, you just made my day to know that the video was able to convey the feelings bluey was showing on screen enough for you to cry as well as your roommate 💙😊
With the adoption thing, I would also love adoption to be included in the show! But I don’t quite think is should be Brandi who adopts.
Everything you said in the video is absolutely spot on! But there is also how finding out could make the child feel. Adopted children of infertile parents can often feel like they’re a parents last choice, and that if their parents could have children they wouldn’t think twice about them. In addition, the adults in these situations can sometimes find it difficult to actually connect with and love their adopted child- whether still grieving or still holding on to what could have been, an adopted child can sometimes just act as a reminder that it wasn’t meant to be.
The biggest motivating factor for adoption should always be to give a child a home, not to fill a gap in your own heart!! For the sake and sanity of all involved parties, don't adopt unless adoption is what you wanted to begin with
Adoption almost never happens in Australia. The wait lists are enormously long and basically they pick only People who tick every box perfectly.
I didn't know this that makes Brandy's (Brandi?) story all that much sadder omg. @letsburn00
I think there is an adopted character in the show (Missy from pirates) as canonically her mom is an entirely different breed but I see your point completely, I just wanted to share a cool fact
Yeah theres obviously something wrong of that mindset of "adopting a child doesn't make it yours"
Because, just because you are related by blood, it doesn't mean anything. Your just blood related, and you're bio kids can disown you when they grow up. Again, just because you aren't blood related, it doesn't mean you're any less family. Their still yours despite not sharing dna
I'm so happy that Brandy says "Next time I visit" when lying on the grass with Chilli. It's such a small line but it's so impactful because you know she will at the very least try to spend more time with her sister and nieces.
Bandit finding a clever loophole in the game to allow himself to just lay in the driveway and play on his phone for a bit is too relatable.
The incredible thing is - and this is a testament to the talent of the writers - the Bluey crew can completely gut us and make us think in only a maybe ten minute episode.
So many writers can’t accomplish this no matter how long they’re given to accomplish the task.
The episodes aren’t 10 minutes long dude. They’re more like 7 to 7 1/2 minutes long.
@@princesspikachu3915 my point still stands. I see 11 minute runtimes on Disney plus for some so I did a fast estimate in my head.
If you wanna quibble about details fine, but that’s what you choose to focus on? That I overshot my estimate? Not the actual point of my post? Weird but okay.
If that's impressive, try giving the first few seasons of Thomas & Friends a try (Preferably Seasons 1-7). Many people love them and their episodes are only 4 minutes and 30 seconds long
I’m 19, and know I’ll never be able to have my own biological kids. I know I can still father adopted children, and theres other alternatives.
The reality is I can never be a biological father to anyone.
That Bluey episode made me sad, but also helped me to begin to accept that about myself. It is such a special show.
Sending you love
I've never dealt with infertility nor have I been close with someone who is experiencing it, and it makes me cry. It's that emotional.
I've heard some people say "if Brandy wants a child so badly, why doesn't she adopt?" A good question but some people don't understand its not the same thing for some people
It's also not financially feasible for some people even if they do want to. There are so many different reasons why adoption is out of the question for some. It's not as easy as going to a shelter and picking out a dog/cat to take home.
It's a lot to be failed by your body, can really get under your skin, but, unless your adopting an older kid, it is very much the same, babies don't become special just cause they're related to you, and you're worse off getting pregnant, you could die, your baby could be mishandled by doctors, my brother is severely disabled, adopted babies are already all in one piece, it just feels like you're sacrificing so much just for the baby to look different, I've been through so much hell cause of mental disabilities and oblivious parents making psychos in my life, and it makes me feel like people want to sleep walk into parenting and hurt everyone around them in their pursuit, having a kid instead of adopting makes rusk for all sorts of problems, it just feels so dangerous and ignorant, and I don't want to be antagonistic, but the knife can be twisted in so deep when things go wrong and they do, and you ignore another kid in the process just to get one that you prefer the look of, it just feels shallow, and wrong
Can you tell me what the other perspective is, I don't quite understand where those people are coming from
I'm convinced people think adopting a human child is the same as adopting a pet from a shelter, or as easy as Disney cartoons make it out to be. Adoption is a very long, expensive, and complicated process that not everyone can afford. It also does not heal the wound of not being able to conceive your own children, and is not meant to- you adopt for the sake of the child, not merely as a consolation prize for infertility.
and there are a lot of requirements that you have to be able to require for the countries you want to adopt
in some countries they can refuse you a child if you are single or queer and you need a lot of money to adopt
I get the financial and other technical difficulties of adopting and all the hoops couples are expect to jump through to adopt;and I'm going to sound heartless when I say this: if someone thinks an adopted child isnt their "own" child, thats a shit mentality IMO. Technically speaking, yes, adopting and carrying a child to term are who way different things and processes--
but what I see from these peoples arguments is they dont see an adopted child as "their" child and it honestly just disgusts me. If someone thinks an adopted child isn't "their own" child, please dont adopt. Please dont have step kids--because they're the type of parent to treat a step kid different from their birthed one because "they're not my OWN child". Whether or not you birthed a human deciding if its "your" child is just a shit take, but thats my 2 cents.
I think Auntie Brandy was thinking her younger niece looked like the baby she lost, but mom quickly shifted her thoughts to “like you.”
You mention a "bird" in the video--this is a swallow, specifically. There have been different associations with swallows throughout the ages, being considered a connection to the resurrection within Christian symbolism, or, perhaps more poignantly, as the Romans once viewed them as the souls of departed children.
Yet another amazing touch to this episode, thank you so much for sharing this with me, that’s such an incredible detail 💙
I get the feeling that the "SHE'S GONNA EAT ME!" Line is a reference to the Lion King where Pumbaa says the same thing
Ooooh! Maybe !
adopting is difficult sometimes to,my best friend couldn't have kids of her own ethier,so she adopted kids,but for whatever reason things went wrong when the adoption center re took back the kids and took her to court,I think the kid's bilogical mother wanted her kids back,which is a real downer for my best friend since she was doing a fantastic job on raising them,she evenually got second chance for adopting 2 kids,a boy and a girl and she loves them very much
It's a shame because setting aside the dream of having your "own child" adoption isn't as simple as going to the orphanage and picking a kid. You need approval and harder for most, money. It's important because the well-being of the child being adopted is important, but those same necessary qualifications are also what stops many from getting adopted at all.
It's sadly "easier" to be able to get pregnant and birth your kids, because you don't have anything standing in the way of you getting them, it's about being sure you're fit enough to keep them. Adopting parents have to be fit to both get AND keep their children and love or the want to have a child in your life sadly isn't enough. It's not as simple of an option as people think and that's taking out the insensitive notion that "they just don't want a kid that's not biologically related." Which, no matter what it's valid to have that want for biological children as long as it doesn't effect how you treat children you adopt or children others choose to adopt. You aren't an evil person for wanting that for yourself, so long as you make sure that if you choose to and are able to adopt a child that you can see them as yours and give them the love they need and deserve.
There's also the fact that the desire to reproduce is one of the basic instincts of every living being, even for non-sentient plantlife. Having that normal, natural ability permanently ripped away from you is gut-wrenching in a way that's impossible to describe, and was never a wound adoption was meant to fix. In fact, many adoption agencies warn against rushing into adoption for that very reason, because it gives parents a skewed idea of what the process actually entails.
The fact that there are people in this comment section with the audacity to act like people who wanted their own biological children are just being selfish and invalidating adoption somehow is beyond absurd. It's on par with going up to a grieving widow during the funeral and telling her to just get over it and get a new husband, or else she's invalidating everyone whose ever remarried after losing their spouse.
@@sarahvonsydow1998the end part of what you said REALLY contextualizes it.
There are parents out there in the world who gave birth to their bio kids, who aren't fit to be parents themselves.
"Every kid deserves parents, but not all parents deserves parents"
As someone who has suffered from infertility for over 5 years now, this brings me to complete tears. If you have not been through it, you just can't fully understand.
Tens of thousands of dollars, hundreds of shots, so many meds and supplements, countless blood draws, loss of control of hormones, physical pain, emotional pain, countless Dr. appointments and so many sleepless nights crying only to continue crying in the car on the way to work, resentfulness towards loved ones and friends and always pretending that you're okay is only the tip of the iceberg when fighting this battle.
Thank you for covering this.
To anyone going through this, please remember that you are not alone, it is hard for everyone and you are strong!
“Some things aren’t meant to be” is incredibly hurtful to me. It’s basically another “everything happens for a reason”. I might be alone here, but neither make me feel any better. I know people mean well, but it’s still heartbreaking
Same. I got diagnosed as a type one diabetic and that single moment destroyed many paths for me. I wanted to be a soldier more than anything else. It feels worse to know your body is such a reject you can't even get a chance.
I never caught the symbolism of Bluey reaching out to Chilli and Brandy reaching out to Bingo running away, I'm misty eyed right now....
I feel like an episode where Brandi is babysitting for Chilli (and I swear, the Disney+ subtitles are beginning to regularly spell her name Chilli now, but I swear I saw spellings as Chili in earlier seasons' episodes) that opens with optimism for a fun day with the girls, but quickly devolves into Brandi realizing the sacrifices that need to be made in her lifestyle to incorporate children. In the end, I think the episode would end at the beginning of her next babysitting stint, showing that Brandi hasn't changed her whole life, but is making easy changes to help her life be more open for her nieces. The challenge is writing the children's story with a game that pushes Brandi's living style (décor, choice of furniture, etc.) to the limit, with something breaking being the climatic point for both storylines, where the kids realize they need to realize that the rules someone gives you at their house is important, but Brandi realizes that the way she styles her home is prone to damage with children around, and in effect, how different her life would be taking care of children every day. The resolution showing that Bluey and Bingo are more prepared to follow the lead, and Brandi making small adjustments to her life to make space for her nieces.
i love that omg
In 'the sign' we figure out she's (Brandi) pregnant, but I think that would be such a good idea for seeing Brandi set up her house for the baby!
I think a better argument to counter the “Why don’t infertile couples just adopt?” one would be “A kid who’s adopted does not need to carry the emotional baggage of their new parents.”
Adoption is a tricky process, mostly due to obtuse laws, but in part also because I think we focus too much on the parents and not the children. There’s both this weird idea that adopted children are “mere replacements” for biological children AND that they’re “not like the real thing” (actual way I’ve seen people describe them!) which is even more disgusting.
My best friend and I were just talking about this episode recently, we can both relate despite not knowing our fertility status. We feel like we can’t ever have children despite wanting them for a myriad of reasons; financial, feeling like schools in the US are not safe, I’m unwed, etc. This episode breaks my heart and makes me cry because I’ve had to come to terms that it’s likely not going to happen, even if it’s by my choice because I’m scared of bringing a child into a world that feels like it’s ending.
You shouldn't let your children go to public school for numerous reasons. They're liberal indoctrination centers and all they do is brainwash them. They're not learning anything useful. Public school didn't help me, it set me back.
Also, if you vote Democrat you are part of the problem, it's your fault the world is a disaster. So you have no one to blame but yourself.
I think people often forget how infertility isn’t just solved by adoption, as there are other emotional and sometimes physical aspects of it to grapple with. I myself have never wanted children and I still don’t, but when I found out I was infertile, I burst into tears and later went through a period of emotional pain. Not exactly over not being able to have children, but from the idea that my body didn’t work the way it was meant to, that something was wrong with me-something that causes other symptoms that are physically and emotionally painful as well. And while I don’t think I’ll change my mind on having children, it did affect me to realize that if I ever did, my choices for how to go about having kids had already been made for me. It’s a complex topic, and I think it’s often why “just adopting” doesn’t always work to make people who are infertile feel better.
Anyway, I adored this video, this episode is easily one of my favorites, for all the same reasons. That scene by the door, of Bingo looking so much like Brandy, always gets me emotional too ❤
I'm Aunt Brandy. Thought I was finally ready to watch this, made it 6 mins. I'll have to come back.
I would love to share this to Facebook and tag my sisters, both of whom struggled with infertility and both handled it very, very differently. My youngest sister became an advocate for miscarriage awareness, while the older of my younger sisters suffered in silence. One Christmas, the first with my first born, she was going through a miscarriage, and no one knew. Both have their rainbow babies now, so i don't know how they would take it.
Even though my wife and I didn't struggle (at all) with either of our children, knowing a few close family and friends that have ruined us watching this episode. My wife swears she won't watch it again. She will, she loves it, but it hit so hard.
I am sharing this video to non-Bluey fans, trying to convert them. Excellent work, thank you for your efforts
I just had my first child.
Was watching Bluey to get ready for the upcoming cartoons I’ll be watching with him and saw this. I couldn’t imagine how this could feel because I have my child now. But I know it has to be difficult. It’s not something adoption can just fix. There is a reason she didn’t visit for 4 years. It’s hard knowing you just can’t experience it.
As hard as pregnancy is, the experience is something so many people wish for yet can’t have. My heart goes to anyone in this situation.
Also don’t use adoption as a coping strategy. Take your time to grieve then reconsider if adoption is a good idea. You don’t want to adopt a child and accidentally hurt them when your trying to heal.
"Less is more" is a saying Bluey seems to follow to a tee, and I'm all here for it!
dang, the little mailbox tilt and fix is such a great tiny little detail of continuity that they absolutely did not have to remember to do and I love it
Thanks for bringing up the buildup to this episode in Big Play, when I realized Big Play predated Onesies' first broadcast by a year and that was Brandy's actual first appearance I lost my mind with excitement, that's so immensely cool
This one hurts.
The same week I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, my partner at the time was diagnosed with Factor 5 Leidan Thrombosis (think the opposite of hemophilia, her blood clots TOO much).
So I could barely walk, and she had a blood clot go to her lungs and nearly kill her.
The blood clots enter the womb as well and effectively make her sterile. Two miscarriages later truly broke us.
But why did it have to be her, too?
Me, a 27yo male never planning on having children, never seen Bluey, but this is genuinely really heartbreaking. I didn’t realize kids shows were willing and able to focus on such a deep and difficult struggle that some folk have to live through, and how it can we can support them.
I almost started crying on the bus watching this.
Six years into infertility and it’s hell so it’s great that awareness is being spread even through kid shows
I’m glad that you brought up that adoption is not always a solution. I experienced infertility and ended up adopting. But I was lucky. It was NOT an easy process. It was lengthy and expensive. Just the cost alone is prohibitive for most people. It’s also hard for LGBTQ+ people as a lot of private agencies are faith-based and will only work with married heteronormative couples. And it took about three years from start to finish. Actually, more than four years if you count the time between the placement of my child and when his adoption was finalized.
People don't realize how expensive adopting is. I know someone who spent $30k on trying to adopt but it never ended up happening because of complications. It's expensive to have kids but you usually have insurance to help.
I remember when making this video I had a whole minute explaining how expensive it is that I scrapped, however after this has been posted and seeing similar comments on it, it totally feels like I should have went through and addressed it
@@Pugly you're fine, people can look things up themselves
This show gives me so much hope for the future. I lost my 13 wk old baby in the most painful, traumatic way and there are days where I can't even sit in the shower without being thrown back to that night. Bluey gives me so much hope that one day I will be able to hold my beautiful babies and love them so much. I dont think the creators of this show fully understand just how impactful it is 😅 I can't wait to watch this show with my kids someday 💕 for now though, I'll just take notes from Bandit and Chili lol
I've had some... interaction... with this issue too, can relate big time to Brandy. I really appreciate the phrase "it's just not meant to be" relating to Brandy, as it explains the situation to kids perfectly. It doesn't put the emphasis on some kind of repair for it or pressure Brandy to have kids to be allowed into their lives. Letting it just be what it is, *is* the best kind of grace for all the parties involved.
I've had 3 miscarriages and major infertility in between each one I had. I resonated with Brandy and have isolated myself from people I love and care about that have kids for this reason. I don't mean to. I love them. I love those kids' faces and silly personalities. It just hurts too much. When Bandit and Chili held hands in that balloon scene during the kids' play, I cried for a good 20 minutes. 😞 I'm so grateful for this show and never thought I would be so drawn to the in depth storytelling in a kids show.
Everyone assumes infertility, but some people just aren't good at relationships and can't that way either. Im a guy but I always wanted kids. I pictured getting married at 25 having some fun, traveling, etc then have kids at 30. I recall being crestfallen on my 30th birthday that I wasn't in a realtionship. I didn't see my nieces that often either, because I was trying to setup dates and put myself out there. It hurt both ways. But luckily when I was 33 I met the love of my life, who was a little older than me. We didn't have time to travel the world together, but we had both traveled as single people, so we went straight to starting a family after we were married. Life doesn't always work out how you expect. I'm glad I invested a lot of time bettering myself to get in a relationship. But I can sympathize.
I've been through a miscarriage recently. I don't want a child and didn't want one then, yet I still felt so distraught. I was still crying and grieving even though I didn't know until the miscarriage happened.
Bluey really helped me get through it. Brandy especially comforted me.
In under 2 years I've had 3 miscarriages, my most recent one being less than a month ago. This episode and this video made me ugly cry. I'm glad that this topic is finally being covered with grace. I've been seeing family and friends having children with little ease while I've been struggling to the point I've been avoiding said friends and family.
Although I want a family more than anything, this most recent loss I've been traumatized and the thought of pregnancy terrifies me. While I'm getting my emotions in order I'm now looking at surrogacy/adoption.
i havent finished the video yet, but i wanted to say as someone who’s having to face potential infertility right now, the upsetting part isn’t that i cant have children who are born from me. the upsetting part is that i cant experience pregnancy. i daydream constantly about what pregnancy would be like for me and my partner, how exciting it would be to see and feel the progress of our baby growing. for people who don’t care for pregnancy, it can be hard to grasp that some people really really want it. think about how many surrogates there are. people who choose to be pregnant over and over without keeping the kids, because pregnancy is something they enjoy. it can be devastating to have that dream taken away from you.
The theory that Bingo is Brandy's child is ridiclous considering Bingo looks pretty much exactly like Chili with her fur patterns.
Plus you'd think that the person having birthed a child would remember
And if she "can't have the thing she wants and there's nothing she can do" she clearly didn't and can't have a child etc
I was watching this episode with my students during dismissal….was in total tears ❤
man, this video made me cry! i may or may not be infertile. my partner and i are both trans men, which means we can never conceive a child just the two of us. because i'm on HRT, it's unclear if i'll be able to carry a child or not, let alone all the societal complications that come along with being a pregnant man. the more we look into surrogacy, adoption, or fostering, the more complicated it becomes, and it really makes me wish that just starting parenthood was as simple as it is for other people who can conceive a child on their own. i have a deep fear of my children somehow being taken away from me, or them feeling like i'm not their parent, just because we may not share a genetic bond... it's not as simple as "just adopt" and i wish people wouldn't say that when they have no understanding of what it's like to go through this, and so i really, really appreciate you addressing that in your video
Very nice deep dive, dude! It really goes to show just how well made this episode is, and how it truly stands out from the rest (even amongst Camping and Sleepytime).
Also, thanks a million for the shoutout! That really made my day :)
OMFG ITS BEN!!! Thanks buddy, it’s so awesome to see you here and you giving me such praise 😊
@@Pugly *laughs because his name is Ben*
there is a small detail that is probably intentional that I see no one ever mention.
Chilly says that there is nothing anyone can do to make the onesie fit.
It can also relate that when people have infertility issues, they try to get medical help, and while there are case where they can do something, sometimes there is nothing anyone can do. Which is probably the case with brandy.
I also find the fact they use onsies specifically kind of symbolic since it's a full body clothing and people whit infertility issues that want kids can feel like there is something wrong with their entire body. But that one might be a stretch.
Recently lost my uterus because of endometriosis. I know I can’t have children and didn’t ‘want’ children right now. However anytime I think about it and how my choice to have children has all but vanished. It’s really really hard and I’m struggling so hard and I feel like no one is understanding how hard this has hit me. I don’t know how much more I can take with no one understanding. Everyone brings up adoption but how do they not understand my pain?
the new movie of blue called "the sigh" show's brandy having a baby, showing infertility doesn't mean incapable of being pregnant, it just means it's harder
This episode makes me feel all sorts of ways. I have PCOS, and am really the only one in my immediate family with the condition, leaving me isolated. I know having children may be harder, and have higher chances of miscarriages, which sucks as both my mom and my grandma had no issues in terms of fertility or miscarriages. My grandma had one by choice, and I’m the oldest of four. Its scary knowing I may never be able to mother my own children and my brothers presumably will. But the episode helps, in ways I’ll probably appreciate the older I get.
This episode hits too close, my sisters are both fertile and able to have children. I'll most likely never have the chance. I've found the most amazing man in the world that will make an amazing father, and I've spent years planning my parenting plan. I found out in highschool I have a less than two percent chance of conceiving if that. I had names picked out. We'll adopt, I've had time to grieve the children I'll never have and want to provide my warm home to someone who needs me more than an imaginary child. If I get the chance I will take hold with an iron grip, but until that miracle happens, the ghosts of giggles will be all I have. Sorry this was depressing, thank you for covering this.
Thank you for bringing up the adoption point! Adoption is not a fix for infertility and not the end all, be all solution! If anything, adoption can just be a band-aid fix and can even harm the child being adopted as they will figure out that they were only adopted because of the original children the adopted parents wanted and could have a feeling of inferiority growing up if not handled correctly. You should want to adopt because you're emotionally and mentally ready. Nobody should be pressured to adopt especially after an emotional and mental event as learning you're infertile especially because adoption is not something simple either.
This episode is masterful. A lot of people choose Sleepytime as there favorite but this one and Baby Race are the reasons I even watched Bluey. The perfect balance of a fun kids episode with Bingo running wild and the important message of how some things aren't meant to be is amazing. I had a similar issue for a while and also isolated myself from my family for a long time, so this one cut deep. To see such unique and important messages on Bluey is prolly why I have to fight back tears every few episodes 😅.
This hits more closer to home than ever, now that my brother-in-law and his partner are expecting their first child.
I never noticed Chilli regret the "you" comment at the beginning of the episode before. That makes this whole episode that much sadder. TT_TT
When my doctor told me I couldn’t have kids I became depressed and had a lot of bad thoughts. I’m very lucky to be pregnant with my first but I would never wish that feeling on anyone.
Personally an episode of brandy meeting a guy who has his own kids from a prior marriage would be amazing. She'd be excited to now be a mother but nervous because she'd never done it before and he could be nervous to give love another try.
This so much yes!
i love that a bluey epsiode will be titled “chickens” but the actual plot of the episode is depression and being homeless
Literally baby race, sleepytime, flat pack. Like how would I know this episode was gonna be that deep!?
ugh this episode makes me cry so much
I love how Bandit essentially just hides to stay out of the crazy behind playing dead by the car and staying there.
That episode with Bingo trapping them in the car reminds me of Steven King’s Cujo.
Or Jurassic Park
This is why I think hating kids show is a red flag. Bluey has more emotional depth than 90% of the "adult" shows out there.
For real. Crap like family guy and American dad really poison the well. It gives adults the impression that animation cant be thoughtful or meaningful.
I know this is my fourth comment, please bear with me, but I love how you have grown in the past six months! I think one of the reasons for your quick success was not just because of your content, but because to worked hard to integrate yourself into the Bluey community, and because you have built your own community yourself which you took time to display at the end of this video with the fan art. It is very wholesome! Please keep it up!
I look forward to Brandy meeting the rest of the family. I would love to see how she’d interact with them.
I really like this episode. I really hope we see her in another episode.😢
Omg yess! We need more brandy
First! And btw, I feel bad for Brandy and I understand her intentions of isolating herself after she knew what is wrong with her. Tho I'm very happy she built up more confidence and decided to visit Chilli, which gives us this wholesome episode.
When both pairs of sisters are dancing, you can see bandit nodding his head and jamming out too 🥹
We are having a hard time conceiving. My sister's first daughter EVERYONE said looked just like me when I was young (and honestly, I could see it too). It was very difficult for me for a lot of reasons, though I never closed myself off from the relationship for the kids' sake. Right now, she's having a hard time trying to get them back (state took them but the case is still open). A LONG time - starting literally a month after my miscarriage of my only ever confirmed pregnancy - they would ask if we would adopt them instead, and when I finally had the mental capacity to agree to it, she changed her mind. I can't handle that again and stepped completely out of the picture after that (not out of their lives, just out of the adoption picture) and it still hurts regardless, but I can't mentally be strung around like that given my own struggles. My mother in law once asked why I wouldn't adopt them and I admitted that I wanted to be a mom, not just a forever aunt. And she (having 2 kids, mind you) said, "I'd love to be a forever aunt." Which really felt invalidating.
Them pointing out that Chili's child Bingo looked like Brandy, her aunt, literally reminded me of that conversation between me, my sister, her daughter, and family and does make it feel less alone.
I saw a double rainbow for real life after it stormed really bad. I took a photo of them. My daughter got really excited about seeing it.
My mom and aunt had a very similar dynamic. My aunt is infertile, and although she wanted to adopt, her husband didn’t want to, so she had to give up on her dream. She has tons of nieces and nephews though so there’s plenty of children in her life to love, but she was never able to have her own.
I’ll never intrude on what it was like for her to never have her dream, that doesn’t seem like an area I should intrude on in her life but I feel this gives a clue of what she went through, and I just feel terrible for her.
id love to see Brandy adopt a kid that is in Bingo's class at kindie.
it would be a great piece of development for her, but also showcase some of the difficulties of adoption from both angles.
and i think it would be super sweet to see them a few times in a series growing closer in their relationship.
or,, honestly just having her babysit for the first time, because thats really scary the first time you are left in charge of a relatives kid. i imagine it as something similar to the moral of Octopus, that there are many ways to play the same game and make it fun, there are many ways of looking after kids that can be fun for them.
I think Brandi would be a great way to create a discussion about adoption especially of adopting a child of a different race (breed for the show’s purposes) and how to navigate it
The bird that flys by is a swallow!! Swallows are a metapbor for motherhood :)
WHAT!? Dang I wish I knew that before I made this video that’s so freaking cool! Thanks for sharing that buddy, lowkey chilling symbolism
@@Pugly I'm glad you got to see it! And yeah my mother has two swallow tattoos :) there's a lot of symbolism
When I was ~12 social workers and foster parents forced me to take period blockers. My therapist barely mentioned that they might have a negative reaction with my other medication. My dad on the other hand immediately began to ask for a second opinion and turns out they had a high chance to worsen my depression and... make me infertile. I took them on and off for a month until my dad threatened to sue. I'd keep them in my mouth, pretend to swallow, and then spit them out. For the past 3 years I've had the thought in my head that I may be infertile and it's terrified me. The odds are so low and logically it makes no sense, but it still scared me. A few months ago I had a breakdown about that and my boyfriend reassured me that even if I wasn't able to have children he'd still love me. Something about that calmed me. I don't worry about that anymore, but still. That estrogen is aggressive and I can't imagine a future where I'm not a mom. The way you broke this down was so... beautiful. To imagine the pain these women are going through and to be able to put it into words through a "kids" show. Sorry for this comment being all over the place I'm a bit emotional lol
(Yes I know I'm 15 and that I'm too young blah blah. I know that. I know very well that I probably won't have kids until I'm 25, but that doesn't mean that I can't worry. I'm a hormonal young woman, that's what we do. We worry and men bring us back to earth. It's a beautiful co-existence :) ok emotional and personal rant over)
I don't know what has me bawling more. The episode or the deep dive. I've never heard such a good understanding of the pain of infertility. I'm aunt brandy and I wonder exactly what bluey ask her mom. I was adopted I don't want to adopt. I can't even look at my family and hear she looks like you.
whenever watching bluey, i always remember that these characters are supposed to reflect an experience that a lot of people had. then i realized- onesies is my episode! i was the bingo of my family, my mom had a miscarriage before having my older sibling and was lucky enough to get two kids. it was hard for her and i love that i can really see my family in such a cute and emotional show :)
When Bluey yells ‘She gonna eat me’ it’s a reference to The Lion King
My mom is currently watching the entire series from season one to the final season so this is going to be a surprise to for me when she sees this episode!
Thank you for making this video. I haven't watched Bluey but looked up characters suffering infertility and came across your video. It helps me feel seen.
From what we have seen now from Dragon, Bingo and Brandy both have similar markings as Chilli and Brandy's mom. Also, speaking from my own life, I have a niece who looks more like I did at her age than her mom (my sister) did, so I agree that Bingo actually being Brandy's daughter is a little unbelievable.l
You know what I think no one asks, how has Brandy tried to have children of her own? Does she have a partner we have never seen or heard of? If so, how has this affected them and their relationship with Brandy? Is Brandy single and she tried other options for kids of her own? I guess until she is featured in more episodes, we will never know.
Great work on analyzing this great episode. Fantastic work.
I am so hyped for the video on Calypso. Meg Washington is my absolute favorite singer songwriter of all time. Her song Batflowers is legitimately what I wish I could have shown myself last year when I felt my life had no direction or purpose. I could gush on and on about her but I'm so excited for you to dive into the character she plays. Your content is so wonderful and insightful, and I'm positive it'll be amazing
"She's gonna eat me" is also a line from the Lion King.
Pumba says it to Timoan when nala is chasing him. I think it's a Disney nod. 😊
I cant even watch the scene of bingo leaving in this episode it always makes me cry.
I hope in future episodes we see brandy again and I hope she adopts a kid. The brandy episode made me cry hell this video is making me cry. Poor girl:(
This scene deeply moved me. A lot of times, the focus is alway centered on the women that have to deal with infertility, but there’s almost no mention or discussion of how it affects the man in a relationship.
While my wife and I struggled to just get pregnant, I had to deal with trying to put on the brave face and be the rock for her as she struggled with the realization that, without medical assistance, we would almost likely never have a child. It’s almost impossible to describe to others the utter feeling of hopelessness that seeps through a man, and how just seeing commercials for simple baby products is intensely triggering, or hearing his wife crying her eyes out about how she’s so sorry that there’s something wrong with her that she can’t give ME the family that we dreamed of, it hurts on a level that I wish no man ever has to understand.
I’m eternally grateful that, through medical science, we were able to have a child, who is a perfectly healthy and a lively two year old that we both love unconditionally.
just finished, and this made me cry all over again. i adore brandy as a character so much, and you offered some perspectives on her that i hadn’t even considered before (it made me emotional all over again)
this has to be one of my favorite videos of yours, thank you for covering this episode 🥹💖
I went and saw Bluey’s Big Play back in June. It was so good and I ended up getting teary eyed. Daughter and husband enjoyed it too.
i have an aunt who basically gifted her daughter to a friend of hers who's infertile. the friend is like a sister to all my aunts. and she has taken care of my cousin since she was v little. she's got a room in both of their houses and most of her birthdays are in the friend's house
That's super cut at the beginning just made me bawl. Thank you for your comment explaining the negative side of "why can't you just adopt".