Signs Your Ex Is Ready To Get Back Together

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  • @mzj-gc9ic
    @mzj-gc9ic 3 года назад +736

    I was torn and broken about my ex
    I did no contact. I found myself and met someone better. After one year my ex reached out saying all she thinks about is me. I told her ive met someone and moved on. She breaks down crying saying she's never going to give up. I lovingly tell her ill always cherish our time together. No contact works but its about finding yourself and loving yourself
    Thanks coach Lee!

    • @psimpson67
      @psimpson67 3 года назад +13

      Happy Mothers Day to all the Mom's

    • @gabbymontoya2085
      @gabbymontoya2085 3 года назад +32

      Hoping this will be me soon I’m ready to get over it

    • @shann6987
      @shann6987 3 года назад +31

      See how the tables can turn....her lost

    • @RedRanger_
      @RedRanger_ 3 года назад +23

      I’m at 6 months rn and I’m torn. I want her back and if she comes back I’ll be ecstatic but if I’m able to find someone new and loving I’ll be happier

    • @gabbymontoya2085
      @gabbymontoya2085 3 года назад +4

      @PROSPER VILLA well busted out with the tears too much toxicity is never a good thing You have to be careful whom you choose

  • @99craziichick
    @99craziichick 3 года назад +442

    I didn't only get my ex back.... I got over my ex unintentionally lmfao. Thanks coach. I respect myself more now because of you

    • @OJaman-fw9nx
      @OJaman-fw9nx 3 года назад +1

      Would you please share your experience?

    • @99craziichick
      @99craziichick 3 года назад +55

      @@OJaman-fw9nx sure. He broke up with me ten months ago. Said he apparently lost feelings smh. So I told him I had to delete his number and his fb and he said he understood. Then Went in to no contact for 9 months . He got a new gf in like a month or earlier I don't know. And then he randomly messaged me a week ago asking me how I'm doing lol. And he tried to keep the conversation going. What you need to do is stay in no contact like coach Lee says and don't post as much. Just keep it on the down low. But idc you deserve someone who sees your value and doesn't need to be with someone else just to see how much you mean to them. You're awesome. Work on yourself and move on babe ❤️

    • @ChrisPBacon-nd7qe
      @ChrisPBacon-nd7qe 3 года назад +14

      @@99craziichick awsome story we us dumped shall triumph!

    • @tercsi1
      @tercsi1 3 года назад +5

      @Jojo Amber ..amazing! I told my fiance 2 and a half weeks ago ...before going to no contact...you start talking or seeing anyone else its over.( see my situation is different I've been with my fiance 4 years, we just got engaged this past Christmas...he breaks up just to be dramatic. He's a drama queen, he never means it)

    • @amandawest9867
      @amandawest9867 3 года назад +4

      So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly

  • @Karina_Engr
    @Karina_Engr 3 года назад +431

    1. 2:03 they reach out: text, call, email, return stuff*
    2. 3:53 sharing, being vulnerable, being emotional
    3. 5:23 reminiscing and telling you about those memories
    4. 7:18 asking about you, your feelings, thoughts, how you're doing, miss me?, future talk
    5. 8:40 meeting in-person
    *none of these signs mean any guarantees
    No matter what, watch the whole video so you get the warnings of each item.
    Good phrases to say, "I may be open to getting back together."
    Take it slow, don't spent too much time on the first meetup, let them come to you.
    Stay "casual and polite."

    • @ihcnutchi
      @ihcnutchi 3 года назад +2

      Thanks!

    • @rakys666
      @rakys666 3 года назад +2

      I got all 5 with an additional bonus point in 4.5 to tell me he is depressed and he can't be what I need. Also point 5 is in 2 months time, I doubt it will ever happen. Time to move on

    • @Karina_Engr
      @Karina_Engr 3 года назад +16

      So my ex did all of these things to varying degrees, from the video but he said clearly he doesn't want a relationship because of his behaviors. He's essentially turned into a party/druggie/fuckboi. He's moving, new job, etc. etc. So I'm healing and moving-on. It just wasn't meant to be him. He needs to heal his traumas, phobias, and overall mental health.

    • @Revolution-tl5wo
      @Revolution-tl5wo 3 года назад +17

      The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.

    • @JKNat9004
      @JKNat9004 Год назад +5

      I'm seeing (No. 1) he's reaching out via text, and (No. 2) sharing vulnerable emotional information about his family and friends. I think he wants me around for emotional support more than any romantic feelings.

  • @yvonneelmasri6900
    @yvonneelmasri6900 3 года назад +250

    I hope all of you are completely healed and over your ex by the time they come back. If they don’t see your value the first time around then they definitely don’t deserve you. The pain will stop over time I promise and then you can open the door to meet someone who doesn’t need NC to see how amazing and beautiful you are!

    • @amandawest9867
      @amandawest9867 3 года назад +1

      So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly

    • @mikec3883
      @mikec3883 3 года назад +3

      It is not always that simple. Couples may break up for different reasons such as bad timing, trust issues, misunderstandings, etc.. I was taken from my ex who happens to be my best friend against my will and she knows I still love her and we are working towards full reconciliation with babysteps as time goes by. I want to go to Sweden with her.

    • @phoenixapril4759
      @phoenixapril4759 3 года назад

      Thanks maybe I’m healing…

    • @Iam-God-g1t
      @Iam-God-g1t 3 года назад

      @@amandawest9867 if he/ she could flip a switch that west she is narcissistic, mine flipped 3 times / different people

    • @happicynthia1982
      @happicynthia1982 3 года назад

      Thank you for this.

  • @Daveybaby2888
    @Daveybaby2888 3 года назад +29

    First thing that needs to be done is look at yourself and correct your issues. In the end it doesn’t matter what others do it’s what you’re doing

  • @mairweee
    @mairweee 3 года назад +240

    These 5 signs are indeed true! That’s how we eventually got back together. I’m still here bc I like hearing Coach Lee’s advice, and providing support for those are you struggling with a breakup. It is one of the hardest things you could go through, but these videos helped me get my ex back!

    • @denisaa.2695
      @denisaa.2695 3 года назад +2

      I want to hear your story also

    • @mairweee
      @mairweee 3 года назад +20

      @@OJaman-fw9nx Our story is very complex and unique. I'll start off by saying we've been together for almost 5 years. One day he just waited for me to come home from work in my room and I walked in on him saying he wanted to talk about "us." Completely shocked and unexpected. He said he felt like we weren't growing anymore as a couple and he didn't know if he could see himself with me, he needed to figure himself out and "work on himself" as he has disappointed and hurt me many times in the past. (I broke up with him a year prior bc of that) but he kept pushing to come back into my life and prove to me that he changed. Anyways, completely shocked and hurt, I begged, I pleaded, I was so depressed. Didn't eat, called sick into work bc I couldn't stop crying. It was a horrible experience because throughout those 5 years we've never ever had time truly apart. I did all the mistakes of texting him here and there after that.. I eventually got tired of myself being sad and changed my mindset, journal my thoughts every day, started working out, and eating healthier and most importantly did the NO CONTACT RULE. I truly thought I would never hear from him again bc after all the begging and pleading, it sounded like he didn't want anything to do with me anymore. But the no contact rule I think changed the dynamic. It took close to 2 months of complete no contact until he reached out to me. He was very talkative over text, asked about my holidays, tried to flirt, and bring up old memories to connect again. I couldn't believe how well it worked. I hope this gives you guys some light.

    • @mairweee
      @mairweee 3 года назад +1

      @@denisaa.2695 I replied to Sushi P's comment you are welcome to read.

    • @denisaa.2695
      @denisaa.2695 3 года назад

      @@mairweee Thanks!

    • @tracywilliams3309
      @tracywilliams3309 3 года назад +3

      Will I still get them back if I blocked them on all social media platforms? Except text.

  • @thefieldreportsoldier
    @thefieldreportsoldier 2 года назад +36

    I went no contact for over 40 days a second time, we ran into each other Friday night. Before you know it, He was hugging me, He told me he missed me too. Everything I learned from Coach Lee's advice has help steer me on this course and still is. Thank You Coach Lee

  • @denoc817
    @denoc817 Год назад +40

    "Do not chase after happiness, it is always in you."

  • @fitforfreelance
    @fitforfreelance 2 года назад +12

    They see you've been working out and eating healthy. You're in great shape, feeling and looking confident. They ask if you want to get together and you're just like maybe, but you've got a bunch of other people and things to consider now, so you're not pressed. Life is good!

  • @miffs9209
    @miffs9209 3 года назад +45

    Not all superheroes wear capes!
    Thank you coach lee, i have moved on but I'll still watch your vids to support u

  • @hyp3rs3fu39
    @hyp3rs3fu39 Год назад +16

    Actually,the long story short is that you need to give them the breakup and work to improve yourself(for you,in the first place) and if they ever really care about you and you still got a chance,they will reach out to you.And waiting for that first message,or whatever it seems to me like the hardest part of all of this.I wish you all goodluck with your breakup,better days to come!

  • @BackeB
    @BackeB 3 года назад +51

    Here’s my little story I had a solid plan, no contact, and my spirit grew stronger. It was a shorter relationship, and it was also a distance relationship for a couple of months in the end. Everything felt good, no disagreements and no arguments at all. Only sunshine and flowers to the end. Then she wanted to end it for some confusing reasons (to say the least). Anyway I reached out to her now after a couple of months. Turns out the reason for our breakup was a re-connection with her ex, and she couldn’t be honest about that. My point is don’t have your hopes too ramped up, sometimes things are more blunt than we think.

    • @BackeB
      @BackeB 3 года назад

      @@cctf7057 Is this by any chance your number? I doubt he would spend his time whatsapp’ing with clients for free, considering he works as a dating coach:)

    • @texazpitbullramirez6565
      @texazpitbullramirez6565 2 года назад +9

      You were the rebound

    • @BackeB
      @BackeB 2 года назад +4

      @@texazpitbullramirez6565 Indeed I was, my friend.

  • @michaelod324
    @michaelod324 3 года назад +46

    I have to be completely honest, I was going through a pretty bad break up with my ex, I started following Coach Lee's advice and I went in no contact radio silence for 2 weeks, to my surprise my ex reached out and asked me on a date. Who knew that there is pretty significant strength in taking a step back and leaving a ex alone for a while.

  • @lnzprazak2711
    @lnzprazak2711 3 года назад +914

    Sign #1, you've moved on. Lol

    • @AliceBrazilLlamas
      @AliceBrazilLlamas 3 года назад +8

      True!

    • @audrey242424
      @audrey242424 3 года назад +79

      Yeah they come back when you literally give up on the idea of them completely. It like sends some kinda radar off in them

    • @eduardocardona6608
      @eduardocardona6608 3 года назад +73

      @@audrey242424 One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.

    • @dshbhkt6186
      @dshbhkt6186 3 года назад +3

      Xacly 😂😂😂

    • @katbak8742
      @katbak8742 3 года назад

      😂💗

  • @99craziichick
    @99craziichick 3 года назад +77

    You the best relationship coach hands down

  • @springkhloris7660
    @springkhloris7660 3 года назад +27

    You are truly the best coach . It has helped me to be a stronger & happier person. NC is not a game it’s a self healing process, where you get your confidence back and be the amazing person you are again. Thank you so much !

  • @cwigg7728
    @cwigg7728 2 года назад +8

    Thank you for reassuring me of what I’ve felt for awhile now. She reaches out to me for no real reason. She sends me selfies and videos of herself. She sends pictures of fond memories we shared together. There is no logical reason for her to be doing this, but it’s been happening. I’ve been in no contact for a long time, and only respond to her texts…I never reach out to her.
    To watch this all play out almost step by step as you’ve described in your videos is awesome. No contact works. I haven’t gotten her back yet, but if these past months are any indication…I’m well on my way. Thank you so much Coach Lee.

  • @juliet3227
    @juliet3227 3 года назад +35

    Woow...its midnight over here in Africa & this video just popped up.
    I've got to watch this. Thank you LEE.

  • @pb_demeanour4830
    @pb_demeanour4830 3 года назад +38

    Day by day you keep motivating me to get better and better and one day I'll come back to this comment and tell how I got her back cuz of you. Thanks once again Coach Lee!❤️

  • @S4Lfilms1
    @S4Lfilms1 3 года назад +24

    It's crazy....but why exes who break up with and leave us.....never think about us, want see us, and etc ....when we're broke down, torn , hurt and really miss.....They seem to wait until you healed, can live without them, finding yourself, start being happy with yourself.....It's scary to trust someone that has badly hurt you before.... Because heart-break 💔hurts bad and that's something I wouldn't want to go through again

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад +1

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..

    • @S4Lfilms1
      @S4Lfilms1 3 года назад +1

      @@kehindebabarinde774 😂😂😁

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

  • @princesshabesha332
    @princesshabesha332 3 года назад +55

    I just watched some other video on no contact and came back to this as this is so much better with excellent explanation. I feel better when I watch you. Pushing thru nc and it has been only been 10 days and struggled a lot today. Just watching your videos to keep me sane. Thank you!

  • @eduardocardona6608
    @eduardocardona6608 3 года назад +21

    One interesting aspect of no contact its that when you really moved on and stop caring about your ex and the energy you gave her , its not longer there, she will sense it and if she still cares, she will reach out even if she is with someone else. Thats why when you really moved on and focus on new things and girls, outnowhere here she comes. Thats why you have to let them go to get them back and the clue its stop wanting them back and be really done with her. The scarcity energy you are transmitting will go back to you, even if you are not reaching out and even if she blocks you and she doesnt know anything about your life. I know its sounds weird but theres some disturbance on the force when you stop investing emotional energy on someone. Thats why they came back when you moved on. So be careful on just going no contact, stop waiting for her to come back and assume she wont, so you start faster to move on and let her go completely, thats when she can feel and realize your are not longer missing her and caring about her. Expecting, wishing and wanting, signals scarcity to the universe, so start having, being and doing to signal Abundance.

    • @amandawest9867
      @amandawest9867 3 года назад

      So my ex girlfriend/fiancée left me pretty much 2 months ago...I love her so, so muc and obv I’m in love with her but she left me March 27th and on may 1 I heard she’s in a relationship...so your saying there’s a chance? That she’ll come back? And if so how long do u think or any words of advice/ your thoughts on what may happen bc I want her back!

    • @eduardocardona6608
      @eduardocardona6608 3 года назад +1

      @@amandawest9867 Your best option is to leave her alone. Dont reach out, dont initiate contact, dont stalk her in any social media, dont like her Photos or status, dont watch her stories, dont talk to her friends or family members or stalk them on social Media. Act like she doesnt exist. And start to move on slowly. I can assure you if you leave her completely alone and act like she is death. Eventually she can come back. But if she comes back dont take her back that easily, Remeber she dump you and dated someone else very fast so she is sleeping with some other guy right now as we speak. So you cant trust her anymore. If she comes back, dont treat her as before, treat her like its the first time you met, just ask her out and hang out and have fun like when you started dating and let her prove to you, you can trust her, she has to earn another chance with you. So in other words, she has to be friends with benefits first while you date other girls, never take a girl back that easily because she already sleeped with other man. It can take months before she can come back but if you do what I say to you, she will. But dont wait around, continue with your life and date other girls, that will make it easier and time will go faster and when you least expect it, here she comes.

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      @@amandawest9867 +121

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      @@amandawest9867 3878

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      @@amandawest9867 0024

  • @amy47578
    @amy47578 3 года назад +10

    Hello Coach Lee.
    My husband and I are legally separated and have four kids. We've been married for over 23 years. I would like to work out our differences and fix our marriage. He's on the fence. You don't talk about couples who are married with children very much. That's a whole different situation. There are parenting things and things about our house that sometimes need discussion. Other things that that I can't discuss publicly. It gets complicated and no contact really can't be done for too long. Would you please add married couples with kids into what you talk about when you're giving your scenarios? I love watching your videos. They're really helpful. Thank you.

  • @suzannestammer3829
    @suzannestammer3829 3 года назад +33

    I'm experiencing all these signs from my ex, and though I know that ultimately I would like to reunite, I also know what I'd need from him to be able to move forward toward eachother again. It's tough however knowing when and how to frame my needs & expectations if things start to progress.

    • @BeautyandtheBarista
      @BeautyandtheBarista 3 года назад +3

      Exactly the same

    • @matthewcollins3204
      @matthewcollins3204 Год назад

      Once you're 100% sure and ready you can trust yourself to be committed, vulnerable and liberated together. Maybe with a bit of a new script and new lessons and perspectives of each other. But know your worth and know when to bow out gracefully if there's been no accountability or progress shown through actions. You deserve better. I'm in a similar boat myself.

  • @AJLove779
    @AJLove779 2 года назад +8

    Hi Coach Lee, ALL 5 were mentioned to me this past weekend..speaking of the past, regrets walking out, feels he has to learn how to handle situations better, says he only loves me and I'm his soul mate and wife/queen. He says he has to get the ring and that no one knows him like I do. That's all I can remember but he said don't be surprised if I show up at your door. It has to move slow and I'm still doing a No Contact....

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад

      How’s it going now

  • @brett4027
    @brett4027 3 года назад +10

    So the first 4 have happened and I’m hoping soon the 5th. Might be hard with her rebound but I can only hope. Thank you for this, this gave me comfort and just a little more hope I can be with her once more and show the changes I had to make to be hers. Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there❤️

    • @amandawest9867
      @amandawest9867 3 года назад

      So if my ex got into a relationship a month after she left me...what would u say or suggest? Because I’m so in love with her and want her back badly

    • @brett4027
      @brett4027 3 года назад +1

      @@amandawest9867 just no contact man😔 it’s all you can do and work on yourself. In a year I felt like I’ve had 3 years of growth inside 1 year. I did hear back from her after a year and we were talking for a bit but then her bf told her to stop and I haven’t heard from her in 2 months almost 3. Is what it is I guess

  • @hill600
    @hill600 2 года назад +6

    Coach…. I was so intent on getting them back. Now they want me back but It’s not the same. I’ve detatched from them and just don’t really feel the same as I once did. My healing journey has been a great one and honestly this no contact is great for my own sanity and maintenance of self-respect!

  • @niwasazuke
    @niwasazuke 3 года назад +18

    New uploaded video from you Coach Lee is very therapeutic specially during this pandemic. It helps a lot

  • @waynesalisbury
    @waynesalisbury 3 года назад +6

    Coach Lee is the pastor and every one listen

  • @MoonLight-gb2eh
    @MoonLight-gb2eh 3 года назад +49

    I have 5 out of 5. We just went out and later on the day they texted me that they had lots of fun. I can sense that we both also wanted to kiss. Idk what will happen, I had already started making peace with never being with them again. But there's little strange signs.

    • @digitallocations1423
      @digitallocations1423 3 года назад +2

      For your own good start dating other people. Then you can lose the unhealthy attachment and see them for who they really are.

    • @Denimchicken.
      @Denimchicken. 3 года назад +4

      That is amazing I’m happy for you should have kissed!! Sounds like things are good on your end. And that’s good for you!

    • @DTHUNDERDK
      @DTHUNDERDK 3 года назад +3

      Stay away...

  • @madelinemassey9354
    @madelinemassey9354 3 года назад +10

    I am two months NC a month after the break up happened.
    None of the signs have happened yet but I noticed but I’ve noticed most people who attract their ex’s back no longer want them by the time the ex comes back around. The other people felt like moving on and then there’s no chance of getting back together with th ex because they either find someone better or they simply give up. I’m not someone who wants to make myself give up and that’s why i refuse to move on from something I worked to maintain. There are people who have gotten their ex back without losing the feeling of wanting them back, right?

    • @madelinemassey9354
      @madelinemassey9354 2 года назад +7

      Update: i no longer simp for my ex and have eyes for someone better. That’s what time does sometimes and it can even make you cringe at comments like this🤷‍♀️

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад

      @@madelinemassey9354 Thankyou for update. Hope everything is going well.

  • @diddikiti6328
    @diddikiti6328 3 года назад +11

    My ex and I are back. 2 weeks no contact. She is sleeping by my side right now. Infact , she contacted me and chatted , IM WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS THIS WEEKEND, GIRLS WEEKEND OUT , I WILL COME TO YOUR HOUSE ON MONDAY , I WANT US TO TALK. thanks coach Lee. We have said all the things she wouldn't even open up to saying time when I was begging for 1 week. 2 weeks no contact and she came out straight. This is so lovely.

    • @diddikiti6328
      @diddikiti6328 3 года назад

      @@joymary7035 can't unjust stop being stupid and stop painting the image of nigeria sonbad? When will u people just stop?

    • @jamie-r2034
      @jamie-r2034 Месяц назад

      I know this is an older comment but we just did the same thing after 12 years. The day she said she wanted a break, I quietly left and said ok. Within days, our daughter texted me saying that mom has been sad & depressed. After 1 week we saw each other at our daughters school event. it was weird but we kept it simple, talked, and I said my peace which was something like "You know I love you & time away is helping me to find myself. I can now see some things that I need to work on that I realized I was doing. If we ever gave it another real chance, it would have to be a SLOW progression with nothing but communication." I told her not to answer or anything but since communication was our issue, I'm trying to express what I was feeling. I kept it simple, short & sweet. I truly think that life, kids, work, adult stresses, etc were our focus and we lost us in the process. This gives both of us time to breathe, heal, and make changes for the better. She gave me a huge hug before I left again which she hasn't done in years. Regardless what happens, I'm using this to grow and become better for either someone else someday or for our family to flourish. No contact is weird because for YEARS we texted/talked everyday and to go from that to nothing, it was tough.

  • @EndorphinDolphin333
    @EndorphinDolphin333 2 года назад +5

    I've been patient doing no contact/smart contact with my separated wife for what seems like a month now. In the beginning it seemed like she hated me and she even told me that. She couldn't even look at me or say a word to me. But just the last couple days she has been giving me most of these signs. Listen to Coach Lee.

  • @Revolution-tl5wo
    @Revolution-tl5wo 3 года назад +5

    The problem is that all of my exes are either Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment styles, pathological narcissists, or both- and the abject cruelty of the way they end the relationship is an absolute dealbreaker to my ever letting them into my life again, no matter how good the rest of it might have been or how sorry they may claim to be. My second problem with this type of coaching is that it constantly tells the discarded partner to suppress their own needs to express our justified hurt and anger at the way we were dumped; along with our justified demand for amends and reparations for harms done. Every one of your videos that I've listened to keeps telling the dumpee to shove that all under the rug, then when the ex comes back, "don't act mad at them because they might have a feeling they don't like and go away again." Um, what right does that person have to comfort or convenience after what they did? Why should it be considered normal for them not to have to suffer pain or face any consequences for their actions, and why should we not get to require that they make it right? It's been very useful listening to these and going No Contact, because as I've done so I've realized what I'm simply not going to put up with, and if getting an ex back means having to accept the treatment I got on their way out and act like it never happened, no ex is worth that. In other words, these videos are basically signs to move on and find someone better. The unfair, unbalanced nature of getting back someone who left simply isn't worth it.

  • @gordon12121212
    @gordon12121212 3 года назад +14

    The ex called me the other night and she admitted she was depressed after telling me personal things she has done since our breakup. It was kind of bitter-sweet. Maybe she is starting to realize how much her life sucks without me? 🤷‍♂️ I don't mean to sound full of myself, im simply humoring the idea for my own self-esteem 😁

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад

      So what did you do?

    • @gordon12121212
      @gordon12121212 Год назад

      @@bbc20231 shi.. I forgot this even happened 😂 I moved on. I see how much happier I am without her. Dodged a bullet 😃

  • @edwardchace9923
    @edwardchace9923 3 года назад +9

    We really need a video on how to deal with long distance break ups. Especially this pandemic, couples getting separated by going to their home countries.

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

    • @dianemelnyk62
      @dianemelnyk62 Год назад +1

      I agree. I fell in love online with an fb friend I had for years. We really were good for each other and loved each other deeply. But he was jealous of things that he thought I was doing, but I never was. He just stopped talking to me. But I know he is still watching everything I do on social media. I went no contact after of course, I had pleaded my case....
      It's hard to know if there are any signs except his occasional liking one of my posts. I asked him block me but he has not. All very frustrating from a 1200 mile distance.

  • @angelaajbudzfbdeleon1695
    @angelaajbudzfbdeleon1695 3 года назад +8

    Ouch no any signs of these at all 😭😞6mos NC no nothing. Thank u coach Lee.. I know he is happy without me in his life.

    • @JorDel_1111
      @JorDel_1111 3 года назад +6

      Watching with psychosomatic fever 🤒 Finally blocked ex today & got this fever for excessive stress & crying 🤧
      Still I'm positive sis
      Don't lose hope
      Be happy
      Smile😊
      Laugh😂
      Coz Life is Beautiful ❤️

    • @angelaajbudzfbdeleon1695
      @angelaajbudzfbdeleon1695 3 года назад

      Yeahh well it feels like everyday it's just someway need to live alone. 😞

  • @denisaa.2695
    @denisaa.2695 3 года назад +2

    He called me for some unimportant thing, shared his life, told me he stopped smoking, asked about my family, told me about his. He liked a photo of me, he watches all my stories. He also asked how I’ve been. But I was the one to break no contact by wishing him Happy Easter. He wished me Merry Christmas first, that’s why I texted. We texted all day and the next day called. He also liked photos of my family members for the first time. I take these as good signs. I’ll wait to see how he behaves in person, we are meeting this week.

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @kelddsrx
    @kelddsrx 3 года назад +8

    My ex did all of those things. We had a great first meeting but now he ghosted me. I feel like I've started to do the right things (NC) way too late and now, eventho he still likes me, he just lost so much respect for me because I chased him for so long and didnt have any boundaries.

    • @tercsi1
      @tercsi1 3 года назад +3

      @Kelly Di I have the same fears. It's been 20 days no contact. Not sure I will make it because I made all those pleading ,crying for over 2 weeks...plus we argued alot. Something tells me if I contact him now we will get back together but I don't want it like that anymore that was part of the problem he used breakups as a trigger for me..if I reach out first I'd be making the same mistakes

    • @kelddsrx
      @kelddsrx 3 года назад

      @@tercsi1 try staying in NC until you think differently about everything.. took me a whole year to get there but yeah.. stay strong

    • @tercsi1
      @tercsi1 3 года назад +1

      @@kelddsrx thanks so much. But I will try to contact him in a few days. Our situation is different I ghosted him before him breaking up with him and his bday passed during that time and I didnt even call him. But it's because he said some very nasty words to me under his breath. He became fed up and broke up but I think it was just out of a fit of anger. I think with time it will pass

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @matthewbarrett176
    @matthewbarrett176 3 месяца назад +1

    You are spot on, my ex displaying all these signs after 2 months of no contact.

  • @ashlieelizabeth8170
    @ashlieelizabeth8170 3 года назад +16

    One of your fans commenting again...I just love you. I've been with my man for a while now. But I still watch you because you make me feel good and I absolutely love your teachings/advice! Not just for relationships only, but for dealing with friends and family as well. You make me feel good! Thank you Coach Lee! ❤

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад +1

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @josephroberts7374
    @josephroberts7374 3 года назад +2

    All your videos are good, but this one was especially spot on, especially in regards to what specific things that one's ex is sharing with them.

  • @ernieTrujillo
    @ernieTrujillo 3 года назад +9

    Hello Coach Lee, your videos have helped me to cope with me recent breakup. I cant thank you enough.

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @sallywong106
    @sallywong106 3 года назад +6

    I have all these signs. Then we had the utmost intimacy and I lost my cool. He is in the stage before possible reconciliation where he is doing stuff to discourage me to be back together. Extreme hot and cold. I live with him and it's hard.

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @brianbrino4310
    @brianbrino4310 3 года назад +12

    Thank you Coach Lee, but I don’t want her back! I have found a new Love!
    If you have videos of how to conquer completely a new Love I will much appreciate it! Thank you for your wonderful effort and knowledge you have been awesome with your kindness and advice!👏👏👏👏👌👍✌️

  • @ih4t3ub1tch
    @ih4t3ub1tch 2 года назад +5

    12:32 answers my question. Thanks, Coach Lee

    • @jaybone172gaming6
      @jaybone172gaming6 2 года назад

      Exactly where I am too. She rang and messaged me out of the blue and wanted to see me after 5 weeks of no contact whatsoever (3 weeks beforehand where she reached out semi-regular) and the chemistry and attraction was definitely still there, we ended up kissing and she messaged me the following day. I now need to let her come to me at her pace and not show too much eagerness, which she would have expected me to.

    • @cherryt1790
      @cherryt1790 2 года назад

      Same here

  • @estefanymedrano96
    @estefanymedrano96 3 года назад +9

    Coach lee thank you for helping me go through this ❤️ I am back. Greetings from Peru 🇵🇪

  • @raeleecrouch7865
    @raeleecrouch7865 3 года назад +21

    Thank you so much, Coach Lee! I didn’t think no contact would work because my ex is very stubborn, but I was so shocked when he reached out within a week! I learned to trust the process and more importantly, trust myself. Now we have an even stronger and healthier relationship and we appreciate each other more than ever. You have helped me become a stronger person and guided me through what seemed like the impossible. I really can’t thank you enough.

  • @TheGhanem112
    @TheGhanem112 3 года назад +10

    Coach Lee can we book an Emergency call?

  • @EmoJoshSavesTheWorld
    @EmoJoshSavesTheWorld 3 года назад +10

    Coach Lee, my ex has exhibited almost all of these signs. We’ve hung out twice and both times were great. Things were heading towards getting back together until some guy she’d been seeing casually got jealous and asked her out. At some point she told me to not give up on her and to try again the next time she’s single and that it’s just “bad timing” and she “wants to see what happens” with the new guy. She also said she’s forgiven me for everything, that all our old issues were practical and no longer exist, and that a new relationship could work. But if she really feels this way, then why be with the new guy? Does she not want to hurt his feelings?
    I don’t know if I should continue being friends and try to win her from him or if I should go no contact and refuse friendship. It hurts seeing them together knowing he’s the only thing keeping us apart.
    It’s important to know we’ve been broken up 1 1/2 years and this is her fourth back to back rebound she’s been in so it’s safe to say she’s pretty much over the breakup.

    • @texazpitbullramirez6565
      @texazpitbullramirez6565 2 года назад +20

      Yeah move on she just using you

    • @cf4718
      @cf4718 2 года назад +10

      Run away from her. She is playing with you.

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад +3

      Bro I had a girl she started getting close with a friend , when I called her out she dumped me and was later in a relationship with this friend week later. I was 💔 - 18 month passes she gets in contact we fool around a few times . The guy calls me later saying I can have her back - I said nope she’s yours.
      These girls just use others to make current man jealous.

  • @presley4845
    @presley4845 3 года назад +3

    Coach Lee,best!
    He left behind other things and carry some to settle with his long time girl friend, got her vehicle and came with it to my home, showing off, started contacting me every day, then allover a sudden, he went on and off, now he appears to check in the house and drives back to his girlfriend, am getting stronger and hopeful, but will never ask him when he will come back coz have gathered all the pieces he tore and am moulding myself back.Thx Coach Lee

  • @madisonstephenson5486
    @madisonstephenson5486 3 года назад +2

    Needed this! He’s exhibiting 4, if not 5, of these signs!

  • @phouathao1853
    @phouathao1853 3 года назад +9

    Hi Coach Lee. I have a question: will an ex-boyfriend come back if he never put much in the relationship. Also when he is self-centered, avoidant, and values independence and slef-love.

    • @rohinijyestha1146
      @rohinijyestha1146 3 года назад

      Same case

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 года назад +3

      Short answer: No

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 года назад +8

      Why would want someone as bad as him back to your life????? Please stay away from him and move on

  • @joemorris3165
    @joemorris3165 3 года назад +34

    Been broken up for year now and never had any signs so I think it is pretty much over. Like Coach said, not everyone gets back together

    • @NomadUrpagi
      @NomadUrpagi 3 года назад +1

      Bro i am month 15-16 she posts sad breakup pictures now for 3 months already but she still didn't contact me. Man, does she seripusly think if i saw ir i would have to contact her first even if she broke up with me? No bitch, if you are hurting, it is on you to contact me first to restore the good relationship we had. I think she is too socially conditioned not to write first no matter what.

    • @joemorris3165
      @joemorris3165 3 года назад +3

      Did the no contact for over a year and she never contacted me and not one word from her so that pretty much tells the story that she is not interested in me and has moved on

    • @joemorris3165
      @joemorris3165 3 года назад +2

      You are right. Some people want to be forgotten and thus move on to some one new. I will try to move on and hopefully meet someone better.

  • @charismaw1040
    @charismaw1040 3 года назад +6

    He was open to conversation. He was curious about a situation, but I wasn’t ready to share so I said we should talk about it in person. He was open to it and said he’s all ears. Now I don’t hear anything. I’m confused. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Bossman21-
      @Bossman21- 3 года назад +1

      He wants you to reach out

    • @digitallocations1423
      @digitallocations1423 3 года назад +1

      Please don't reach out. He doesn't care about you, but he'll contact you when he's at risk of losing yoy to another man. It's like they have a sixth sense for this. Destroying your potential relationships before they even happen.

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      Mine did something similar. We were supposed to meet and she dissapeared.
      I think it is because they still feel and they don't trust themselves (i could be wrong of course)

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      @Wee Brew is that the good man?😅

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад +1

      @@omokheowaabdulhameed4181 Is he the good man everybody talks about?
      Then no thanks, I'd prefer a lady. Hot if possible 😅

  • @merovingianfrench8526
    @merovingianfrench8526 3 года назад +3

    I'm getting my emergency break up kit next week... 😭 i can't do this alone. Hopefully Coach Lee will be having one on ones soon.

  • @aniballugo555
    @aniballugo555 3 года назад +1

    Very useful message for staying the course and not spoil potential opportunities!!

  • @kittyrivera31
    @kittyrivera31 3 года назад +8

    Coach Lee I'm loosing motivation to get back together. Im feeling so disappointed I think I'm giving up

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @VictorChidera-hx8tq
    @VictorChidera-hx8tq 7 месяцев назад

    I woke up this morning to my ex text to me around, 2am this morning. She thanks me for the experience we had together and she thanks me for the relationship. I'm happy but i don't know what to do or how to reply. It's been 30 days of no contact.
    I just want to thank coach Lee really, it's been very difficult during no contact. I broke down crying many times but i knew my worth. Humbly, i was the most attractive physically but i still want her because she showed me what true love means, she was with at my lowest, even when i became homeless

  • @diordiva8
    @diordiva8 3 года назад +5

    My ex didn't want anything to do with me after our break up he pretty much hated me. I went no contact. Then he reached out to make sure "I moved on". Then 6 weeks after he reached out he wanted to be friends. We decided to be "cool". Then he contacted me a week later to ask me something about his email account which was clearly an excuse to talk to me. He says he doesn't want anything romantic that all we will ever be is friends. He shows emotion though because he still brings up things from the past and tries to argue with me. I won't argue. I just don't want to. We broke up because he cheated and I did some mean things to him after the break up because I was hurt. I know I hurt him and I know he's a bit scared of me. He hurt me too but I forgave him. I love him and I want him back but I just want him to stop playing these games. I know he misses me that's why he contacts me but he won't admit it. He says he cares about me but he will never be with me again. Will he come back?

  • @Babudrevik
    @Babudrevik 3 года назад +1

    My ex did all of this and is still confused ... :( He broke up with my at the end of May, saying he's not in love. But then he wanted to hang out all the time, constantly texting me, even telling me he misses me after I told him I no longer wanna hang out with him, since he's confused. Now it's been 6 days since he last contacted me all of a sudden, I have not reached out and I'm moving on. This has never happened before, we've been on and off for almost 2 years now and the max amount of days he hasn't contacted me were 2-3 days. But he knows where to find me, I decided I'll only take him back if he can show me and prove to me he changed and he's serious. I'll focus on my work, hobbies, family and friends. :)

  • @nanbanjinchannel5716
    @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад +7

    One month ago.
    Me: leave me alone, don't message me again.
    She starts crying (she sense the lost).
    I told her: friends meet.
    She: what about tea together?
    Me:ok
    She stops crying and starts sending me smileys while chatting (she got me, she is happy again)
    She recognizes she is scared of meeting me and falling in love with me.
    Next day, she is gone again. One month and counting.

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      @@irenamelia1647 yes, but only if that's the good man, otherwise I won't. That's the good man you know right?

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      @@irenamelia1647 But, he is the good man right? How good? 🤔🤔

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      @@irenamelia1647 nah..I prefer a good woman. But a truly good one😅

    • @nanbanjinchannel5716
      @nanbanjinchannel5716 3 года назад

      @@irenamelia1647 you know a good man?? Really good ?

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours

  • @gabbymontoya2085
    @gabbymontoya2085 3 года назад +2

    I’m here just out of curiosity confident that he will NEVER BE ready ... and that’s ok I’ll never see him again

  • @beez2013
    @beez2013 3 года назад +7

    Coach lee is the best at this !!!thank you so much

  • @alliecat6342
    @alliecat6342 4 месяца назад

    Can’t believe me and my ex bf got back together last night! He left the rebound woman he was with for 2 months and is now talking marriage with me! His rebound had oral herpes but he tested negative!! 🎉

  • @fatcat2245
    @fatcat2245 3 года назад +6

    Need help, my ex said that in the future in 6 months then we can maybe try again but she’s constantly active on Instagram, feeling like she just wants to party this summer and then come back

    • @Denimchicken.
      @Denimchicken. 3 года назад +2

      I would ask if this is a break up or just a break.
      I’m sure if you knew you would quicker better yourself knowing that there’s a future for you two and I think you should do no contact make them miss you.

    • @Ricardo-sh6pz
      @Ricardo-sh6pz 3 года назад

      Seems like she would like to do her thing. Doesnt have to be a bad thing, maybe this is a goof opportunity for you to take a breather too and the space does you better.. idk about 6 months tho

    • @FoodNerds
      @FoodNerds 21 день назад

      I know it’s hard and painful but let her just party. Maybe you deserve something better?

  • @AngelicaAndge-ee3uj
    @AngelicaAndge-ee3uj Год назад +2

    You’re amazing ..you explain everything so well and easy to understand

  • @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO
    @KenRFoxNashvilleSEO 3 года назад +4

    Awesome and even better, accurate information

  • @keepgrowing9941
    @keepgrowing9941 3 года назад +5

    Good morning, Coach Lee. Its 7:29 AM here, JWU, and here i am, saying PRESENT. 😊😊😊

  • @jessicadavis4163
    @jessicadavis4163 3 года назад +9

    My ex hurt me in the worst way I think a person could hurt another human being. At least in my eyes. But, we have since reconciled. We still love separately, but I do spend a lot of time w him and my kids. I’m at a point where I stand my ground and set up boundaries and basically said if you ever dare try hurting me again, I will be so content walking away and never speaking to him or looking back again. I do not chase him. I’m the one he chases now. Never going through that mess again! I almost feel silly I’m even giving him the time of day, but I can’t help loving him. It’s definitely better than it’s ever been which is amazing!

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @ChieloOsabel
    @ChieloOsabel 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much
    I keep on playing ur videos everyday
    It helps me it helps my emotions

  • @JorDel_1111
    @JorDel_1111 3 года назад +2

    Here comes *Handsome* & *Intelligent* 🧠🤓 Coach Lee !

  • @PimDSLRProductions
    @PimDSLRProductions 3 года назад +2

    I broke the no contact (I know stupid) and of course, made it worse. She was angry as hell and said that I proofed that I did not change and looked like a stalker. She said that she wants no contact in the coming time and wants to focus on other things, study, etc. And final that I could wait if I was so much better and changed and that she will contact me in the future if she thought ''that it had any use''. So now all the power is in her hands and I am really angry at myself. What now? She has all the power.

  • @user-bu3qe2jg4s
    @user-bu3qe2jg4s 3 года назад +11

    6 weeks now that we last spoke and nothing yet :(
    I’m starting to give up now

    • @SPCBRAWLERZ
      @SPCBRAWLERZ 3 года назад +1

      Sorry for your loss. If that person left you, that is THEIR loss.
      Improve on yourself and show your 'revenge' on social media on living up your life and improving yourself.
      And dont call the number, that's a scam.

    • @BayOrca
      @BayOrca 3 года назад

      Don’t wory, I’m doing this for years. You gotta be saying “I can do this all day”

    • @TheArgella
      @TheArgella 3 года назад

      my ex reached out on day 68. he thought i was angry and would not respond. stay strong :)

    • @tracywilliams3309
      @tracywilliams3309 3 года назад

      Thanks for the encouragement you guys.

    • @kungfukenny1540
      @kungfukenny1540 3 года назад

      @@TheArgella update

  • @kubydu8486
    @kubydu8486 3 года назад +5

    Thank you Coach Lee! Watching Your videos has not only helped me become secure with myself but has given me a strong mental foundation on which to act on in the future!
    I cannot thank you enough!

  • @philiph886
    @philiph886 3 месяца назад +1

    What if you had a short time apart, and they dont reach out, but is willing to see you. Have fun, intimate conversations about our lives, and everytime i leave we have long hard passionate hugs and kiss

  • @RayRay-lm8po
    @RayRay-lm8po 3 года назад +6

    So I'm in no contact at the moment, it's been a week and half. I went to pick up some coffee and ran in to my exs best friend, she asked me to brake contact and " be a man about it and fight for her". I am tempted to reach out however I know I shouldn't. The thing that sets it apart is that my exs anti is pushing my ex to stay away. What should I do. I don't want to loose her but I am panicking.

  • @mollasima3251
    @mollasima3251 2 года назад +1

    What if your ex has done all of this and begged for you back, you go back with them for 3 months living together, etc. only to find out that everything they've told you is a lie - like literally everything about them is a lie and they suddenly admit it was a lie. ???

  • @NoFoxGivenWaitWhat
    @NoFoxGivenWaitWhat 3 года назад +4

    Thank you coach lee i needed that. But how does the point "seeing you" it work on a long distance? Lets say 400miles same continent

  • @TheShellybaybee
    @TheShellybaybee 3 года назад +1

    WhT I don’t understand about society.. why is everyone upset with their ex? Sometimes situations happen, misunderstandings and just life. Not every ex is an enemy

  • @christianmanreal4021
    @christianmanreal4021 3 года назад +5

    Coach lee can i ask a question.,
    Why my girlfriend still keeping all things i gave to her? Even our promise ring?
    Can you do video with this? Thank you 😊

  • @cbudha4384
    @cbudha4384 3 года назад +8

    Thanks coach Lee me and my ex are back togther happy like never before after 3 months of no contact. The no contact rule is powerful if u apply it correctly thanks marn

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to the man, who help me bring back my Ex lover few days ago,,,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results,,,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..,,,

    • @agbordaniels
      @agbordaniels 3 года назад

      Did you contact him first or you did first?

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

  • @Idontknowhoiamanymore
    @Idontknowhoiamanymore 3 года назад +4

    It’s my birthday and I’m 40 days in no contact. I don’t think I’m getting a message today. It hurts . I don’t even want her back as a gf, but I don’t like pretending someone I care about doesn’t exist anymore. If we were short term I would get it. But how can someone just discard me after years of love and intimacy. But i refuse to break NC no matter how much this hurts.

    • @jem9978
      @jem9978 3 года назад +2

      Happy Birthday

    • @Idontknowhoiamanymore
      @Idontknowhoiamanymore 3 года назад +1

      @@jem9978 thank you!!

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 года назад

      @@Idontknowhoiamanymore Happy Birthday

    • @jahnj2523
      @jahnj2523 3 года назад +1

      Ps happy birthday. Sometimes no contact from them is better, trust

    • @Idontknowhoiamanymore
      @Idontknowhoiamanymore 3 года назад

      @@SJ-nw1ym thank you 🙏🏾

  • @katiakay
    @katiakay 3 года назад +2

    You are so positive and real.

  • @mountaingoat1982
    @mountaingoat1982 3 года назад +5

    Hi coach lee and everyone, a question from Ireland 🇮🇪.
    My ex girlfriend broke up with me around 7 months ago, I tried to remain in contact for a few months post breakup only to be told to “move on” and that “I was wasting my time messaging her”
    I did as she said and have been in no contact for 4 months and not contacted her at all, she hasn’t reached out to me once either!
    What do I do to get her back?!?

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to the man, who help me bring back my Ex lover few days ago,,,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results,,,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..,,,

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @shubamnaik2470
    @shubamnaik2470 3 года назад +1

    Hey there. I have been in break up for 3 weeks. She was is relationship before that for one month . I had been in no contact for a week then she started reaching out to me. So I responded her normally and closed the conversation. Then she started reply my whatsapp status . I used to reply normally. And close the conversation from my end. She used to do video calls with me. For 2 weeks. Then she started getting the old things back. Then my mom called her and pleeded to get back together. Then she called me and we spoke normally. Slater next day she found me talking to someone else and got jellous and started acting obbsed for the name of the person

  • @noahmathews8523
    @noahmathews8523 3 года назад +5

    So she came over tom my house on Sunday and kissed me and said she wanted to start talking slowly but then Tuesday she got extremely made at me what do I do. She also said she has been thinking a lot but I don’t know.

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @ririsharon4652
    @ririsharon4652 Год назад +1

    It's going to be two months since we broke up. Few weeks of NC (given up counting). He reached out to me twice in a span of 5 days during NC. It was always about work. When i respond his next message will be very distant. I got tired and lashed out at him a day ago. I'm feeling terrible now. I just wish i have the strength to move on and find someone who matches my energy.

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Год назад

      ririsharon4652, give it time! You're doing great. You may discover that you do love her. I recommend Coach Lee's Workshop.
      I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

  • @NoOne56488
    @NoOne56488 3 года назад +4

    I'm confused at what my ex wants, we have been together 15 years and have 2 kids and we still talk about the normal things. This first week was hard for me, but i admitted to her i was in the wrong with it all which i was and I'm getting help. When she broke it off with me a week ago She said she doesn't love me, she said she doesn't feel the need to be in a relationship but she doesn't hate me and still cares for me..im so confused...

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      +12138780024⏯️⏯️💕💕

    • @elizabethmalis9035
      @elizabethmalis9035 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @djj8696
    @djj8696 3 года назад +4

    Coach can you talk about why you say no contact is less affective after 4 months? could this be situational. And also talk about ex posting every day on social media being a complete different person.

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

    • @habibaahmad2011
      @habibaahmad2011 3 года назад

      Wh'tsapp him for help

  • @lidyatheauditor57
    @lidyatheauditor57 3 года назад +10

    I love your videos and advices. Thank you Coach Lee!

  • @gregg3987
    @gregg3987 3 года назад +2

    My last in person interaction with my ex she mentioned how her mom and dad stayed separated until they died. We just got our divorce decree yesterday. She is not giving up on the idea that we can never be together again. Just wants to be friends. I messaged her this morning and told her she knows how I feel about her and that being just friends probably won't work. I reinitiated no contact. I hope I did the right thing?

  • @kimberlybrooks8459
    @kimberlybrooks8459 2 года назад +3

    My ex is doing all of these things now. I’m starting to see some remorse in his face now. He hurt me so bad but he did apologize for betraying me and cheating on me.

    • @jacqui8392
      @jacqui8392 2 года назад +1

      How you getting on now?

    • @kimberlybrooks8459
      @kimberlybrooks8459 2 года назад +1

      @@jacqui8392 I’m getting on much better now. He really hurt me and he is still trying to find his way back by calling me every other day or so. Saying things like he’s my husband etc… I don’t have time for his games. I was hoping that he could just give a sincere apology and then he can move on without the guilt

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад

      @@kimberlybrooks8459 How are you getting on - did you guys get back together?

    • @kimberlybrooks8459
      @kimberlybrooks8459 Год назад +1

      @@bbc20231 Hi, I’m getting along well now. We are back together now. He came back and gave a sincere apology and made many promises. He has come through with all of his promises so far and I pray he continues on the right path. We are happy and I am taking it slowly day by day

    • @bbc20231
      @bbc20231 Год назад +1

      @@kimberlybrooks8459 I’m so happy for you . Just like you said before I am too receiving a lot of calls and guilt talk but wish they would be sincere and just apologise.

  • @derrickbailey4125
    @derrickbailey4125 3 года назад

    Thankyou coach Lee! 4 out of 5 isn't bad at all,but she definitely does 4 of those signs!!!!!

  • @jermainerobinson7098
    @jermainerobinson7098 3 года назад +5

    I am thinking if you have to observe their behaviour and play something of a game to get them back are they for you? If it can’t happen naturally then are they for you only you can Answer that question. When you met them you met them naturally no role-playing no gameplaying no observing that’s my way of seeing things. I will say coach Lee knows what he’s talking about.👏🏾🥂

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      It really work for me ,I got my ex lover back within 24hours,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      You can get in touch with him right now on WhatsApp for quick results,,,,

    • @kehindebabarinde774
      @kehindebabarinde774 3 года назад

      +1:3:2:1:7:5:4:8:7:4:7..,,,

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      I can recommend you to a man who help me bring my ex back he can also help you

    • @preciousimoni4282
      @preciousimoni4282 3 года назад

      He helped me few days ago he does a perfect work I'm am assuring you, you gonna testify

  • @JKalllday
    @JKalllday 3 года назад +2

    What if you’re in a civil Union or married and went on a break? I find it harder to do no contact because they think no matter what we’re not really over so the effort to make it work when we come back together isn’t 100% and the same issues arise… How do you make someone value you when you’re already legally bound?

  • @ethanbezuidenhout4083
    @ethanbezuidenhout4083 3 года назад +5

    Hi Couch Lee
    Your videos have helped me a lot. It's been five months since me and my ex broke up and spoke. It was her birthday on Friday and I kept wondering if I should wish her happy birthday. I am actually still wondering if should make contact with her. Please help!!!!

    • @SPCBRAWLERZ
      @SPCBRAWLERZ 3 года назад +1

      I'm not a coach but maybe I can help. Ask yourself this young one.
      Did you end it or the other person?
      Who was in the wrong?
      How bad was the breakup?
      Reflect and then ask yourself this...
      Did she cheat or backstab me in a way that really hurt me?
      Did she violently lash at me verbally or hit me?
      If you say yes to one of the 4, [DO NOT wish her a happy b day.]
      If you did any of the 4, look at [ ].
      If no, then go ahead, but do not expect an outcome of a conversation or even a reply.
      She will get your message, unless she blocks you, but no guarantee she will even reply.
      Wish you well.

  • @lilly3969
    @lilly3969 3 года назад

    My ex and I broke up two months ago, next Monday. He told me from the moment we broke up he's wanted to stay my best friend. He wants me to stay in his life forever and he's completely genuine about it because when I say something about him needing space or asking if he does, he says he doesn't want space and he's worried that I won't be around anymore. We've talked every day and he's been the one reaching out first 90% of the time. He is completely the same to me as he was when we were together (we were together for 3 and a half years). He tells me about things going on in his life, he still wants to see me, he still wants me there in every aspect. The first month was pretty difficult but we definitely have the intimacy and the connection between each other and I have this really deep intuition, a feeling he will realize my worth and that I am the one. He's going through a HUGE life change, moving away after college for work and everything (We're both 21). so... I'm working on myself but letting some time pass, I'm not closing my opportunities or anything but I am for sure taking some time.

  • @troyelam8978
    @troyelam8978 Год назад +3

    Does the coach have any videos regarding the steps to take to get your ex back once you to have reinitiated contact, and you’re basically hanging out and dating again? At what point do you go from just casually dating and having fun and getting to know each other again, to where you actually start talking about re-entering the relationship? Does the person who was dumped ever bring that up or is that always something you have to wait until the dumper finally mentions?

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  Год назад +2

      That’s in my Emergency Breakup Kit at myexbackcoach.com/ebk

  • @BeautyandtheBarista
    @BeautyandtheBarista 3 года назад +1

    He contacted me, said he was wrong, said I am perfect for him. But we aren't back together? Why doesn't he want to be with me if he says these things?

    • @Ms7of8
      @Ms7of8 3 года назад +3

      He's being duplicitous. That's why. If he really wanted to be with you, he would.

    • @claudettecote3553
      @claudettecote3553 3 года назад +3

      Probably cause he feels guilty and is working out his issues

    • @SPCBRAWLERZ
      @SPCBRAWLERZ 3 года назад +1

      I think he needs time to figure out how he would approach you.