I hate cats, so because i see them and dont want to deal with them being Ferrell its my right to take them cats out they are over populated everywhere. Before you come at me i have 2 dogs and 2 leopard geckos. I love my lizards and dogs. Cats i hate
Avicii R.I.P I think he payed for it but since it’s two of them he wanted to to get half of the money back cause I guess he wanted her to pay for half and him also pay for half
i’m dating a girl who has cheated on me and dated my best friend and made out with one of my other friends, she’s sweared she’s changed but then she would spend more time around my friends than me. and constantly cancel our plans together; not once had i done anything unloyal to her. There are times where i’m extremely happy with her then remember everything she has done. Also at times incredibly happy only to find out someone has been flirting with her and she has never told me; i feel i can change her i’m not giving up on her just yet.
Samita Sarkar absolutely! I was able to sit in a teaching seminar with Angelou while touring Wake Forest University as a teen. Her inspirational speech still rings in my mind to this day, as an almost 40 year old. ❤️
As sad as it is, I remember dating a guy, who would be more than happy to make me spend money on his stuff(clothes, shoes etc.) but every time I had to borrow even a small amount from him(£10) he would keep on asking for money back 😒. Moral of the story, some men are down right douchebags.
Katia Florit gtfo, he wanted her to have the abortion without talking about it and told her she HAD to get an abortion, so at that point it's on him. Not to mention him cheating on her, and probably living in her house rent free since he kept showing up at her door crying
"The doctor was VERY impressed when I told him my clairvoyant nipple story." *"I am VERY impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story."* "Thank you." *"You're welcome."* LMAO. 6:11
Ladies and gentlemen, even though it is extremely hard, always listen to the red flags, and take pause. People and relationships tell you exactly what they are.
I love how this is made with humor added to make it less depressing. I'll never forget the scene where doctor repeats 'I am very impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story" . Pure gold, someone deserves a trophy for that!
Maybe because you, as a woman, should realise the baby will be in you not in him. Might take two to tango but in the end, you should make 110% sure YOU care for yourself.
Well, it sort of is the girls responsibility to take her pill. If guys could be made tempoarily infertile by a pill also, I would gladly take it, but until that is invented, its the girls responsibility.
I never understood why super intelligent and attractive young women stay with complete d-bags like that... This gives me a bit more perspective. Ladies, don't put up with crap like that, ever. There are some guys, and even other ladies, that can treat you a LOT better! Anna, thank you for sharing your story.
Girls are just young humans like everyone else no matter how “pretty” or “smart” they are and they, like everyone else, have to figure everything out on their own. No one is taught the stuff that really matters like self respect, self awareness, relationship skills, healthy relationships, self care, mental health skills, etc. And schools just teach basic sex ed which is basically just mechanics and contraception - oh yeah, and abstinence (which works really great (massive sarcasm) for young people who are lonely and inexperienced at “life” - which are most young people. EDIT: abstinence absolutely DOES work great in fact I TOTALLY TOTALLY recommend it as being the best thing for girls AND guys. What I was trying to say here is that young girls / women if they’re lonely (and MOST IMPORTANTLY: ALONE - WITH NO ONE TRULY HELPFUL, SAFE, AND USEFUL TO TALK TO) and sad and insecure and scared and worried about life and the future too easily give into all the unthinking except for one thing single minded jerks around them trying very persistently to get in their pants, who the women let into their lives and they give into sex with to keep around a jerk because it feels like life would be even more lonely without the jerk. When really, the women have more, real, and better options that they’re unaware of (or at least maybe drowned out amidst all the noise of the social pressure to be in a “couple”) that are so much better: 1) single life and work on yourself first to feel whole and fulfilled with yourself and your life / career / work / goals, 2) boyfriend who is good for you and vice versa and not bad - ie: a healthy relationship, 3) being in a healthy relationship with mutual respect, positivity and growth AND abstinence (the best option because that way you’re really taking care of each other (and potentially the other not yet born human/s involved) in that there’s no worry of unwanted / unplanned pregnancy).
@@thealbanianlorg6542 abstinence actually works great as long as you keep yourself busy, especially with things that give you meaning. Sports, running, reading volunteering..... The last two in particular can help you figure out all the things you say are missing from school. Volunteering or being part of a healthy group helps you make healthy attachments and navigate relationships of all kinds; if you are not alone you will not go desperately searching for sex and relationships you are not ready for. And if you are truly that horny, work and exercise work like a charm at getting rid of all that pent up energy. So you see, there are plenty of ways to practice continence and not become a slave to your desires, especially when you are not ready for the consequences.
True, I used to always think that women are cruel for having abortions, but now I realize that the only reason why women have abortions is that they don’t want their kids to not have a father or they might not have enough money to take care of a child also that the baby isn’t a actual baby it’s only a fetus
Yeah! I agree. Abortion isn’t the only answer, but sometimes, women really can’t afford or properly care for a child. I’m glad somebody in the comment section mentioned that...
My god she is the most professional and least pretentious short film maker that I know. What an inspiration. Not to mention, you’ve gone through to much and you’re still stronger than most people. Power to you Anna ❤️❤️! You’re talented, beautiful, inspirational, wonderful, and so much more. I can’t wait to see where life takes you.
+Chente Guerrero It wasn't a baby yet. Study health education before making such comments. Either way, as a male who will never understand what it's like to be in the body of a female or ever run the risk of getting pregnant, you have absolutely no room and no place to talk or to judge. That choice remains with the woman and the woman only, unless both partners agree they're ready physically, emotionally, and financially to handle such a responsibility.
Honestly I’ve seen kids hated and abused by both parents who didn’t want them, and the foster system while I (who was also a child) couldn’t do anything. The mental trauma that comes out of that is horrible and I think you did the right thing when you realized you couldn’t give them a good life.
@@blurryink115 Not alive, especially not with how early it happened. You might have a case if it was later but at that point it was only a clump of cells. There wasn’t even a brain yet but if you have any reputable studies that suggest otherwise please share them. After all, we learn more about the world more and more everyday and it’s important to stay up to date. If I missed anything I would like to take it into consideration.
@@falkenlaser No, for making her own educated choices, standing up for herself and earning self-respect and self-love through one of the hardest moments of her life. :)
Vpo She didn’t “stand up” to her boyfriend when he demanded she get an abortion against her will, and she was only offered one “choice” at the abortion clinic that she didn’t even want in the first place (and slightly regretted right after going through with it). So unless you can point out otherwise, nowhere did she “stand up for herself”, nor did she “make her own educated choices.” Her “choice” to abort was ultimately made by someone else, and she was only “educated” on one choice.
that cut at 4:59 at "without atleast talking th--" to you in the clinic made me so upset, cuz it really does be like that sometimes; youre trying to have a convo with someone and next thing you know youre alone making a difficult choice
Anna is the big sister of RUclips. I’m so sorry for what happened with your sister but thank you for taking that and creating this and sharing your wisdom to us
Forgiving an asshole of a boyfriend was my problem too. He also got me pregnant...(from non consensual sex) he also cheated. I kept leaving him and be kept coming back! How many times do you need to break up with someone for them to get the picture? Finally got a restraining order. Best decision of my life. Now I'm married to a great, loyal, gentle man and I just finished my masters degree. Sometimes its hard to leave an abusive relationship people, it takes on average 7 tries...its ok forgive yourself. It took me 40 tries. Even if he isnt physically abusive they can be emotionally or verbally or just controlling. It's still abuse. Believe in yourself and just keep telling yourself you deserve better. There is a light at the end of the dark dark tunnel.
@@JoelLinus first of all your sentence didn't make sense. second of all, it isn't any of his business if she kept the baby or not because that's private, and it doesn't concern him.
often when someone is in an abusive relationship, be it mental or physical, they will stop talking to their friends and even family. You're so focused on your relationship that you have little to no time to manage other people. I speak from experience; I barely talked to my closest friends for like 1 1/2 to 2 years because of my abusive relationship
Well from what i understand from the story, she moved to work as a background and follow her dreams, maybe her friends were far away from her and couldn't see her condition. Or she just couldn't bring herself to talk to them about it
thank you for being brave enough to share this story....so many women are ashamed and never talk about it and in turn they never heal....it follows them around and dictates what they do.
If you haven't read her book yet, I promise you it's full of many more raw, powerful stories and life lessons like this. It's definitely worth your time and money.
I watched this for the first time 5 years, at the time I appreciated the story and message. I went through the exact same thing just a month ago and I’ve been feeling so much shame. Coming back to it has healed that shame a little bit , thanks Anna x
“7 days pregnant” means that she isn’t pregnant yet. It’s like 1 week before conception usually, or implantation. It would make more sense if she said she 3 weeks pregnant, if that’s what she meant. Lol.
Jessamine90 she said that she was 7 days pregnant not 7 days after implantation, plus how would they know that, they only know an estimate based on how much hcg is in your blood
Women, I swear, when we love someone: We see the red flags, we ignore. We see the pics, we ignore. We hear our friends and family members say they do not trust him/her, we ignore. And then years later, we realise it ourselves. Let's live and learn from our mistakes.
Yeah, that's what not having self-control gets you. When the pheromones click and the geometry is appealing, you'll find any excuse to make it work, because ultimately the future offspring are more valuable than either of the parents. When you find yourself inexplicably attracted to someone, it's a sign of a good genetic fit, which USED to count for something.
Magic Power I went through that. Then when it suddenly all clicked (luckily only 5 months into the relationship) I felt like such an asshole to break it off so suddenly, leaving the guy I was with feeling clueless. I gave it my all the explain the things I felt and why I did what I did without hurting him, but of course he couldn't even hear me. He got so ridiculously angry that I felt scared. He turned into a person I'd never seen before. I didn't know what he'd do, but luckily he got through it. I still hate that I hurt him, but I know we weren't good together, especially after I saw the scary person he can become, and the irrational things he says and does. I know other guys who have experienced heartbreak and they did not at all react in the way he did.
As a 19 year old who has had an abortion and has been involved with toxic older men, I really needed to see this today❤️and I’m definitely going to be more careful with birth control and look after myself mentally
Never feel bad about your decision to have an abortion. At 19 you aren't ready to be a mother, go and enjoy your life, then maybe in 10 years from now you might be ready for motherhood.
I’m so sorry but honestly condoms and abstaining is the better option. Don’t let an older man take advantage of you and especially your youth! Focus on your career and goals and travel and learn something new ! Not everything has to be about a boy or sex or abortions . Wait for the right one . Speaking as a 28 year old woman who has never had an abortion but saw the effects with my friends and I made that choice on purpose . No kids as well because condoms have saved my life and abstinence 🙏♥️ much love and good luck
This story needed to be told. I am happy you told it. Some many woman get caught up in unhealthy relationships and lose themselves. I am glad you shared your journey .
Isn’t that the definition of selfish? Does what’s best only for yourself. And she didn’t ‘learn’ a proper lesson at all. The lesson should be don’t continuously overlook all the flaws of an awful man just because you’re attracted to him. Instead her lesson is that you should be fine still dating toxic narcissistic people but just don’t get pregnant from doing it which absolutely moronic
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 I´m sorry you feel that way. I hope you learn that doing what´s best for yourself is completely fine and not selfish as long as you still consider other people. Selfish is seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for other. But because she considered what a life the baby would have (which is the opposite of selfish), she concluded to have a abortion.
@@Jb-gj5zy Isn't that "selfishness" exactly what she's promoting here? Why are you doublespeaking? Damage control is not consideration. And this is not mainly a birth control issue.
It’s moving because she chose abortion despite not wanting one in the first place, and only chose it because her shithead boyfriend demanded she abort and the doctor basically shoved the pill in her face without ever asking her if she wanted to do it?
All these comments are mainly silly but this story touched me so much. Everything down to the boyfriend, the nipples hurting, and wanting to be a mother but wasn’t the right time. We need more videos like this. Thank you 💜
I would have been touched if she had given the baby to someone who IS ready for a baby, but can't have one. 1 in 7 couples struggle with infertility and 1 in 10 women are infertile. With men infertility can be fixed for the price of a play boy, a cup, and a turkey baster. For women it costs AT LEAST 4,000.00. It often doesn't work the first time and most other ways are 11,000.00 at the minimum for IVF. Plus most people want more than one kid and the waiting lists for the 4k one has waiting lists that go on for YEARS. Also there is the medications and not one part of it is covered by ANY insurance unless they are forced to and even then they often don't pay. She was selfish and she didn't make the decision herself. Her boyfriend made it for her.
Sarah Cridelich she does NOT have to go through all the pain and complications of pregnancy and childbirth just to give the child to someone else. there are already millions of kids in orphanages that need families, but, sadly, won’t ever have one.
@@thechosenone9769 you know how many babies turn into adults without ever being adopted? Have you lived through the foster care system or in a children's home. Do you know how many of those babies will grow up and get raped, abused, murder, or commit suicide? Before you go blaring your "adoption is a choice" bullshit just look into the life of a child who has been given up for adoption. Most of them turn into adults and are never adopted. Try looking up the story of the couple who adopted all siblings and abused them and even after DCF investigated them, they allowed the couple to have the children. The couple drugged the children and drove off a cliff killing all of them. So those children suffered a life time of misery and were murdered. There's adoption. So every time a child in the system is raped, abused, or murderd and you're still pushing "there's adoption", that blood of those children will be on your hands.
@@mellocheers9062 you know, first you would have to define at which point a clump of multiplying cells, much like a tumor that can also grow teeth and hair, is a baby. Much like cutting off a mole. Is the mole a part of your body like a arm or leg? Just a clump of cells, but you wouldn't call it an arm or a leg yet. Just like a clump of cells is not a baby. Maybe stop imagining it as a full term baby. I am talking legal abortion. Not riping a full term living being out of a uterus and throwing it at a wall and calling it an abortion. If you have never been that child clinging to their blanket wishing for death than having a full grown adult crawl into your bed time and time again to take your innocence than you can not praise adoption. If you have never been that starving child sleeping on the cold floor as your guardian buys designer clothes with the money they got from the state that was supposed to pay for you care, than you can not praise adoption. Never forget the little boy who died cold and alone in a park after his mother grew frustrated with him, smacked his head which hit a wall, left the child bleeding and seizing all night, dumped him, and said some black guy took off with the child. She clearly stated she wasn't ready for him and now because of abortion bans and abortion shaming many more actually alive and feeling living beings will be forced to actually suffer. People have abortions because they are not capable parents and if cutting out a clump of cells is blood on my hands for a few seconds instead of ENTIRE LIFE TIMES of misery, pain, self loathing, and suicide attempts, then so be it.
Here’s my abortion story I was 11 I had been raped by someone and if I was to young have a baby and if I was to give birth i would have passed away do to it. And I needed to have the abortion.
You were my oldest daughters age and i understand why you had to have one . Its not your fault. I am pro life but i get certain situations. I'm not going to judge you but i think women who just get abortions for just not wanting a child that's ridiculous. Give it up for adoption to a woman who wants a baby and can't have one
Luis Gonzales polyamorous relationships can be beautiful and fulfilling, it may not be your thing, but don't be rude to those who love differently than you.
He was upfront about it on the first date. Anna, I'm sorry this turned out badly for you, but you should have taken his word at face value and then left him alone.
I love Anna for she expresses her thoughts clearly no matter what the subject. With confidence, without shame and with high confidence in what she does!
That here, what you did. Putting this out there. It's brave. Bringing the dark into the light its not easy. It takes courage to share such a raw personal story. Thank you! Because there are a lot of us that still are trying to come out into the light
Thank you for speaking out about your own experiences with abortion. I hope this helps open more people's eyes to the reality that any girl out there can find themselves in a situation like this. Abortion is never an easy choice, but sometimes, it's the right one.
No it's not . If you really don't want to risk pregnancy, then you wouldn't be having sex. Killing is never the right choice. Could at least give the baby up for adoption. Not your life to take.
Yes I like Kpop don't sue me thank you you just implied if you life isn’t perfect you should die. Nice. If your problem is the foster care system then advocate for that, not abortion. Guess what. Abortion has been legal for almost 50 years and those issues still exist so hows abortion working out? Also foster care and adoption are two different things love. Perhaps you should learn the difference between the two before using it to excuse abortion. Js.
I hate How he treated the pregnancy on her Like If it weren't for the sperm that swam out of YOU she wouldn't be People are so ignorant When it comes to things like this
"If it weren't for the sperm that swam out of YOU she wouldn't be" No, it is her body, thus her responsibility to take care of it. She thought that "the universe give her a break" and that she would not get pregnant. Teenagers and immature people think like that. People are so ignorant When it comes to things like this. However, on the other hand, they were in a relationship.BUT, she was on the pill, implying they never wanted kids at that time. Going off the pill (or forgetting in this case) was her responsibility. Why, I must remember to take my pills otherwise I die next week. Not taking your pill = possible pregnancy (and men walking out as it was never agree upon...consent remember?)
SsoulBlade I agree that she has to take responsibility for her body, but even the those methods can always fail, even if it doesnt happen often, and it is possible to make a simple mistake like forgetting the pill once. So he has to deal with that better than "just abort it" and "pay me back". Its on both of them.
_I am going to post more than one post as my posts are immediately blocked_ "but even the those methods can always fail" My issue is not with the method *that fails.* In that case I am 100% behind the female. My issue is her *forgetting* to take it *multiple times.*
"forgetting the pill once" If I forget my child in the car and they perish because of heat, is forgetting, that leads to a pretty bad situation, negligence? Yes it is. And no, I am not comparing the 2 events, I am looking at the forgetting part that is supposed to prevent a bad situation.
I think I owe women [who have had abortions] an apology. I used to be pro life, but now that I think of it, the ONLY reason why I was like that was because of emotion, ignorance, and internalized sexism.
@@vincentfrimpong4249 I disagree, it's just a blob. Would it be better to just let it pass when it couldn't feel anything, when you couldn't feel anything than to have it grow up in a loveless home, possibly abused maybe in a bad financial situation meaning that they'd be hungry and have dirty clothes, possibly knowing that your not wanted, not needed an accident that couldn't be rectified? What if the mother was a young girl? Do you except a 13/14 year old to go through that? What if their a rape victim? It's not murder.
oh my god I didn't know you had such a terrible experience.. so well filmed, it's incredible how real it felt :/ thank you very much for sharing such a horrible painful story with the world, I can see it helping a lot of girls! Glad you were able to finally leave him, I hope this doesn't still haunt you..
I'm sorry you went through something like this, Anna. But as always I'm so proud of you for overcoming difficulties having learnt a new lesson. You're one of the most inspiring people I can think of.
This is the greatest, most honest, most powerful short film I've ever seen from you. Awesome job with this one, Anna. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you wouldn't be you if you hadn't.
I felt like crying that you went through this. You're an amazing beautiful strong woman Anna Akana. Thanks for sharing something so personal and intimate with us. I hope your story helps someone who needs to hear this. May huge blessings go your way three fold, Spiritually, Mentally, and Physically.
I know amazing mothers who don't have the right person or didn't for a long time and still made it, despite all the hassle and financial problems. Those are strong women.
Anyone who is willing to kill their child to protect their own convenience is the FURTHEST thing from a good mother. She needs to really repent for killing her own child before she can hope to be a good mother
Hannah Li ....what an absolutely absented minded thing to say. First off this RUclipsr is very well off. And feeding a baby is very inexpensive, especially since they drink only your breast milk for a while which is free. Everyone can afford to feed a baby (especially if they can afford birth control). Second let's pretend that in some crazy world they literally couldn't afford to feed the baby. Then you find a way for that baby to survive, you give it up for adoption, sacrifice your own meals, do whatever you have to do. If I had clairvoyant powers and knew one year from now you will be stranded on a deserted island with very little to eat, should I *MURDER* you to save you from your future suffering? Or should I look for other options that would spare you from your future suffering?
This was so beautifully written and produced i really loved this as a story about safety, abortion, self love and letting go of bad people. This story really hit me and It's hard to talk about your flaws so I'm so proud that you were open about what you did wrong, and what you did right for yourself.
this hurts so much, but helps so much too, sometimes I think im alone in this in the recovery from the hurt of being cheated on, of being pregnant and getting an abortion, its the worst pain... You don't value yourself anymore, its so strange how much of this i related too, this gave me a few tears and some well needed advice, thank you so much
i didn't know about this part of your life. you're strong. i mean, you made, i think, the right (and difficult) choice and you told about this us, your audience. it literally made me cry. thank you for telling your story
The production values, story arc, and sensitive way this is presented are so 'next level'. You and your crew did such a good job on this. I hope it won some kind of award. It sure deserves it.
udhwsewbcjefbcjekrbcf this is making me tear up. My mom went through something very similar. She fell in love with someone she knew wasn't gonna marry, and accidents happened and she got pregnant. She was young and didn't have the financial needs or the partner to have a child with. She has never directly told me the words "I had an abortion", but she told me killing a life inside her was the worst day of her life. She told me this because even though she said it's something she would never want to relive and it's far from easy, it was necessary for her to do so she could live a better life. And she does. I'm glad to say her sacrifice gave her the opportunity to meet my dad who she's still with today, and have me and my brother grow up in not a perfect family, but a much better one than what could of been. It was really hard for her to tell me that story. Even today she can't outright say the words of what she had done. But she told it to me so I could know that the people who say it's simple and easy have no idea what they're talking about and if I got myself into that situation, that there's always another choice. edit: there's some people that are using my story to say that abortion is either 100% evil or the answer to everything. Please don't, it's neither. My mom is pro-choice. Her abortion is actually the reason she still is today. Her point was it was hard for her, but she's glad she did it. It was her decision. She told me this so I could know the costs of both sides. Both sides can end painfully, and both sides have the potential to end well, but her path was just a little more successful than what would of probably happened. Seriously, she was in a really bad place to have a kid. It's not black and white. Either way, no one should force you to keep or abort your baby, it's your choice. Please don't twist my story.
DADADA You completely missed the point of the story that she went on to find a good father for her children and raise a family from a more healthy and secure place than crippling poverty that shortens life expectancy of both mother and child.
Please stop twisting my words. My mom felt awful afterwards, but she doesn't regret her choices. If her child developed into a full person it could of died from a number of different factors because of the environment she was in or grow to be a very damaged person. She told me this story so I could know how life could turn out for her. She trusted her gut, and her life is better because of it. That's just the facts. While what is considered alive is a rocky road, I personally don't think a baby is truly human-ish until later pregnancy. Believe what you want to believe, but don't twist my words. My mother did what she did and she has a better life because of it. It was hard, but she doesn't regret it. It is a huge moral issue, I don't disagree. But please don't use my mother's story to guilt trip others into choosing an option that could be a huge mistake. If you disagree with me, fine. But please stop arguing. What has happened has already happened, and I told my story to show what could happen, not force my opinion down someone's throat. It should be their choice to get an abortion or not
I loved this. It was somewhat eye-opening in terms of self-love and not romanticizing a toxic person/relationship. And she was soo sweet. Overall great job and relatable story. Congratz and thank you for sharing this with us! ^^
That "are you going to pay me back for your half of the abortion" made me SO angry! Thank you for sharing this and making this, you do such incredible work!!
Minishcat I think it is more the timing of the question that is despicable. She is in physical pain and emotional distress about a life changing decision and his reaction is so callous. It shows how disengaged he was towards her and her well-being.
My mom was 16 when she found out she was pregnant. She had a boyfriend who was five years older than her. When she told him he was happy they later had a baby (my mom was still 16) and that baby was me. They later got married when I was two. I know it’s hard for young teenagers to decide especially if the dad is not the best person. I will support you on any choice you make. I may be young but I know what it’s like. My dad is from Mexico so he came to America illegally. When I was two he went to Mexico to see his family for a week. The government ended up keeping him there. My dad owns his own business so he made a lot of the money my mom worked to but she didn’t get a lot of money. So when my dad was in Mexico we were extremely poor my mom barely having enough money to feed us. I don’t really remember any of this since I was so little I remember getting things for Christmas and for my birthday. I would’ve never believed we were poor. My mom told me about this a few years ago because I asked about it. She said she would put my Christmas presents and my birthday presents on layaway for a whole year. She would work and work just to get me presents. We could finally get my dad back four years later. I was six when he came back. I SUPPORT YOU!
.... This made me so depressed. I have a 2 1/2 year old son. Me and my ex planned for him. But once the relationship fizzled my ex stopped having interest in our son. I wanted to be in a relationship where my child would be wanted.but I ended up with a relationship where I enjoy every moment with my son. He is wanted and cherish by me. I don't need my ex to have a family. So he can continue to ignore us. And I will live my best life with my son
I relate to what you said. Im a single mom of a 7 year old precious gorgeous girl and the fact that I wanted her is all that matters. I’ve told her that her dad *did* want her and planned her nursery out and was excited when we would talk about her - which is true - but he just wasn’t a good person. He was a drug trafficking abusive manipulative person. I tell her that I will one day find her a good dad because that’s what she deserves. She’s 7 now and sometimes I wonder if that will happen or not since I’m still single but I figure it’s hell of a lot better than being in an abusive relationship. Anyway my daughter is ok and she never asks about her “sperm donor” anymore. I don’t know how else to put it as I don’t consider him a “dad” in any sense. Anyway she is loved and happy by me, her grandma and her uncles and aunt and that’s all that matters :)
@@user-zj1dd4ky6b yes :) thank you. I'm currently engaged to a wonderful man who loves me and loves my son like his own. My ex still hasn't seen his son. Sometimes you have to go through hardships to find your happily ever after :)
Man this made me cry so much I just turned 22 and 19 weeks pregnant and I thought about getting an abortion but I couldn’t do it I couldn’t live with myself I respect Anna so much for being able to share her story.
Congrat's on the baby! I'm 22 weeks pregnant today with twins! I guess you are quite far along by now! Oh you don't wanna have a abortion at 19 weeks. Baby can feel pain at that stage and the procedure is breaking baby into pieces. Best to do it before 9 weeks to avoid that procedure and get the drug one which basically gives you a miscarriage which tbh is better than pulling parts off a baby. I've had a abortion at 8 weeks pregnant 6 years ago.. It was twins. Horrible time. I don't regret it tho. I'm really thankful i spotted it early enough for the drug abortion and early enough that the baby cannot feel pain.
Jessi Jones I actually ended up giving birth already 2 weeks ago at 28 weeks she was a preemie but she’s everything to me I’m so glad I didn’t get an abortion!
I have always respeted you, but wow, I have reached a whole new level of RESPECT, capital letters. You haven’t had it easy but you’ve always kept it positive and you have such a deep sense of life, so much love for you and everything you do! ❤️
That made me cry. To experience soemthing like that is horrible and you have been through so much you didnt deserve that. You are defentinly someone i look up to.
“I can barely afford to feed my 3 cats” same girl same
Rose Valentine i have 2 cats and always feel myself not good enough for them bc they constantly ask for food
I got 2 cats they get a bowl of dry food and 2 pouches a day and the fat chunk is like second breakfast helloooooo? FOOOD
I HAVE 12 FRICKIN CATS...but I love them❤😂
I buy "Sainsbury's cheapo cat food - more purrs for your penny."
I hate cats, so because i see them and dont want to deal with them being Ferrell its my right to take them cats out they are over populated everywhere. Before you come at me i have 2 dogs and 2 leopard geckos. I love my lizards and dogs. Cats i hate
Once they cheat, you leave.
You right.
As fast as possible.
correct
KawaiiHugs 21 yes! If he really loved you he wouldn’t have cheated on you.
@Todd Jones and still, if they cheat, ya leave.
That guy really lives up to his name
HAHAHAHAAHAHHAHAYA
true
I burst into laughter when I heard his name
Lol hahahahahhahhahah
Yup
this is shot better than most movies. your hard work is very much appreciated Anna
agreed
Yea, right??? She has this yt original youth and consequences and it's my favorite yt film.
Y your dp look like a sadness
I swear a smiley face in that kind of situation is probably the biggest slap in the face you could get.
Atria Wulf sorry for them to assume that a baby is a good thing.
A. Smith its not that. Its situational.
Atria Wulf that’s exactly what I was thinking
A. Smith Exactly
Pregnancy test - ( ˘ ³˘)❤ Ey Yo, u bouta get ur life ruined :)
"Have you thought about a way to pay me back for my half of the abortion?" OMG THIS IS A WHOLE NEW LEVEL OF DOUCHEY
"Have you thought about the way you're going to pay me back for cheating on me all those times bruh
k user it’s expensive to get an abortion so that’s probably what he was talking about
Avicii R.I.P I think he payed for it but since it’s two of them he wanted to to get half of the money back cause I guess he wanted her to pay for half and him also pay for half
She went through all that mess, pain and suffering which comes from abortion, alone. But he was fine, drinking his beer. Why would she owed him?
I wanted to punch him!
This should literally be a Netflix film I NEED more
Hey its Lola Try Jane the Virgin!
Hey its Lola holy crap yes plesse❤️ Bit there is Jane the virgin witch is amazing still not done with it 😂❤️
Very true I’d watch for sure!!
More like a netfilx SERIES.
Hey its Lola omg ikr
*Is no one talking about the fact she mixed pickles with Mac and cheese*
I KNOWWW
Pregnancy delight.
Don’t knock it until you tried it!
It kinda sounds good. Don't judge meh
@@lilybatterham6050 sounds gross
The worst part about a toxic relationship is that there are times where you are so happy
Tate S.T and the best part of being in a good relationship is that you are happy all the time! 😊
Tate S.T Amen to that.
i’m dating a girl who has cheated on me and dated my best friend and made out with one of my other friends, she’s sweared she’s changed but then she would spend more time around my friends than me. and constantly cancel our plans together; not once had i done anything unloyal to her. There are times where i’m extremely happy with her then remember everything she has done. Also at times incredibly happy only to find out someone has been flirting with her and she has never told me; i feel i can change her i’m not giving up on her just yet.
I hope every thing that is good comes your way
thanks
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." -- Maya Angelou, words to live by!
Love doesn't hurt- Oprah
when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
right?
Samita Sarkar absolutely! I was able to sit in a teaching seminar with Angelou while touring Wake Forest University as a teen. Her inspirational speech still rings in my mind to this day, as an almost 40 year old. ❤️
Samita Sarkar Don't piss on my back and tell me it is raining. lol
''Love''
''Whole.''
''Discovery.''
*''SuperCaliFragilisticExpialidocious''*
Dude thats how you spell it! Idk why i didnt search it up
lol
me
Even though the sound of it is something quite atrocious.
Ha lol
once i thought i was pregnant than i remembered i’m a virgin ..💀
🤣
Girl same. (it's a long story)
I literally think the exact same thing 😂😂😂
JANEEE THE VIRGIN
Why have I thought this too
“And dating this guy who we’ll call dick”
I connected to that on a spiritual level
Hahaha me thoooo
Ha.
N A Then you are mighty pathetic.
Me to girl me to
My heart broke when he asked you to pay for “your half” of it.
she paid her halff when she had to abort he child. smh :(
Half is right. That's what my partner and I have worked out. Abortion and birth control are expensive.
As sad as it is, I remember dating a guy, who would be more than happy to make me spend money on his stuff(clothes, shoes etc.) but every time I had to borrow even a small amount from him(£10) he would keep on asking for money back 😒. Moral of the story, some men are down right douchebags.
Natasha MOST men are downright Douches
Katia Florit gtfo, he wanted her to have the abortion without talking about it and told her she HAD to get an abortion, so at that point it's on him.
Not to mention him cheating on her, and probably living in her house rent free since he kept showing up at her door crying
"The doctor was VERY impressed when I told him my clairvoyant nipple story."
*"I am VERY impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story."*
"Thank you."
*"You're welcome."*
LMAO. 6:11
LMAOOO
so funny
Glitch Bookworm Lmao
I CACKLED
What’s clairvoyant nipple????? (Sorry... I’m innocent)
Ladies and gentlemen, even though it is extremely hard, always listen to the red flags, and take pause. People and relationships tell you exactly what they are.
That guy looks like he's abiut to sing Somebody That I Used To Know.
He looks like doctor strange
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
lmao
maybe more like "country road"
nOw YoUR jUsT sOMeBoDY tHaT i UsED tO KnOW
SomEboDYeEEeEeeeEEEeeeEe
I love how this is made with humor added to make it less depressing. I'll never forget the scene where doctor repeats 'I am very impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story" . Pure gold, someone deserves a trophy for that!
Guy always blames girl when it comes to pregnancy. Like, it takes 2 to be pregnant bruh.
Maybe because you, as a woman, should realise the baby will be in you not in him. Might take two to tango but in the end, you should make 110% sure YOU care for yourself.
Dude not always! Most guys I've met WANT kids (probably because 3/4 of my town are Christians)
Phuong Nguyen true.
Well, it sort of is the girls responsibility to take her pill. If guys could be made tempoarily infertile by a pill also, I would gladly take it, but until that is invented, its the girls responsibility.
"it takes 2 to be pregnant bruh" But if she wants to kill the kid its "her body her choice". So which one is it?
I never understood why super intelligent and attractive young women stay with complete d-bags like that... This gives me a bit more perspective.
Ladies, don't put up with crap like that, ever. There are some guys, and even other ladies, that can treat you a LOT better!
Anna, thank you for sharing your story.
The joke's on you, not the young women. They enjoy it.
Daddy issues...
Girls are just young humans like everyone else no matter how “pretty” or “smart” they are and they, like everyone else, have to figure everything out on their own. No one is taught the stuff that really matters like self respect, self awareness, relationship skills, healthy relationships, self care, mental health skills, etc. And schools just teach basic sex ed which is basically just mechanics and contraception - oh yeah, and abstinence (which works really great (massive sarcasm) for young people who are lonely and inexperienced at “life” - which are most young people.
EDIT: abstinence absolutely DOES work great in fact I TOTALLY TOTALLY recommend it as being the best thing for girls AND guys.
What I was trying to say here is that young girls / women if they’re lonely (and MOST IMPORTANTLY: ALONE - WITH NO ONE TRULY HELPFUL, SAFE, AND USEFUL TO TALK TO) and sad and insecure and scared and worried about life and the future too easily give into all the unthinking except for one thing single minded jerks around them trying very persistently to get in their pants, who the women let into their lives and they give into sex with to keep around a jerk because it feels like life would be even more lonely without the jerk. When really, the women have more, real, and better options that they’re unaware of (or at least maybe drowned out amidst all the noise of the social pressure to be in a “couple”) that are so much better:
1) single life and work on yourself first to feel whole and fulfilled with yourself and your life / career / work / goals,
2) boyfriend who is good for you and vice versa and not bad - ie: a healthy relationship,
3) being in a healthy relationship with mutual respect, positivity and growth AND abstinence (the best option because that way you’re really taking care of each other (and potentially the other not yet born human/s involved) in that there’s no worry of unwanted / unplanned pregnancy).
Yep. I gave up boys and tried girls, so much better
@@thealbanianlorg6542 abstinence actually works great as long as you keep yourself busy, especially with things that give you meaning. Sports, running, reading volunteering..... The last two in particular can help you figure out all the things you say are missing from school. Volunteering or being part of a healthy group helps you make healthy attachments and navigate relationships of all kinds; if you are not alone you will not go desperately searching for sex and relationships you are not ready for. And if you are truly that horny, work and exercise work like a charm at getting rid of all that pent up energy. So you see, there are plenty of ways to practice continence and not become a slave to your desires, especially when you are not ready for the consequences.
*i am very impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story.*
lilsims build actually this was the original comment
Hey it’s Liberty Wayne
This one was made two months ago and the other one was made three months ago.
Cutie Kitty Paws oh. Never mind then 😂
Nadia Marie I love ur profile picccccc
That’s how I actually found out I was pregnant
I thought this was going to be one of those dramatic short films this was actually pretty funny and meaningful
“I don’t believe in monogamy “ RUN LADY RUN
Katie siobhan what is that
its having only one partner
@kuoky hahaha what ..bruh you realize you're on the internet... where you can literally instantly find the definition of any word ..ya lazy
@kuoky ya lazy
No man is
I like how this doesn’t shame women for getting abortions and understanding that sometimes there isn’t really a happy choice
Momma Chimichanga I totally agree!
True, I used to always think that women are cruel for having abortions, but now I realize that the only reason why women have abortions is that they don’t want their kids to not have a father or they might not have enough money to take care of a child also that the baby isn’t a actual baby it’s only a fetus
Yeah! I agree. Abortion isn’t the only answer, but sometimes, women really can’t afford or properly care for a child. I’m glad somebody in the comment section mentioned that...
@@sodaboi2154 They can always give the child to someone who wants one.
@@sodaboi2154 adoption
My god she is the most professional and least pretentious short film maker that I know. What an inspiration. Not to mention, you’ve gone through to much and you’re still stronger than most people. Power to you Anna ❤️❤️! You’re talented, beautiful, inspirational, wonderful, and so much more. I can’t wait to see where life takes you.
And Inanna Sarkis?
IT DOESNT TAKE MUCH TO MAKE A BABY AND APPARENTLY DOESNT TAKE MUCH TO KILL ONE EITHER. So how is she strong? Power to her!?
Joe Pasarell it's not
Men: Take your birth control
Women: No, haha. Pay me child support
well said
Such an amazing film
So killing a baby is amazing?
+Chente Guerrero It wasn't a baby yet. Study health education before making such comments. Either way, as a male who will never understand what it's like to be in the body of a female or ever run the risk of getting pregnant, you have absolutely no room and no place to talk or to judge. That choice remains with the woman and the woman only, unless both partners agree they're ready physically, emotionally, and financially to handle such a responsibility.
Donnarynn Nightshade yes it is life idiot if inside your body is life you idiot
If she was broke she should’ve have never gone in to relationship 💁🏻♂️common sense
Donnarynn Nightshade and yeah I did go to health school how about you??
OKAY RUclips I FINALLY WATCHED THIS ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?! ITS BEEN IN MY RECOMMENDED SINCE LIKE 10 YEARS AGO AAAAAAAA
Hazel Blu omg same
Jesus christ sameeee
Ikr
Lol
how old are u??😂
Honestly I’ve seen kids hated and abused by both parents who didn’t want them, and the foster system while I (who was also a child) couldn’t do anything. The mental trauma that comes out of that is horrible and I think you did the right thing when you realized you couldn’t give them a good life.
@@blurryink115 Not alive, especially not with how early it happened. You might have a case if it was later but at that point it was only a clump of cells. There wasn’t even a brain yet but if you have any reputable studies that suggest otherwise please share them. After all, we learn more about the world more and more everyday and it’s important to stay up to date. If I missed anything I would like to take it into consideration.
She's such a strong person...
so strong! so selfish! what a role model!!
For caving into what her boyfriend wanted?
doctrinamscio selfish? Is this a hate comment or a supportive comentario where you made a typo?
@@falkenlaser No, for making her own educated choices, standing up for herself and earning self-respect and self-love through one of the hardest moments of her life. :)
Vpo She didn’t “stand up” to her boyfriend when he demanded she get an abortion against her will, and she was only offered one “choice” at the abortion clinic that she didn’t even want in the first place (and slightly regretted right after going through with it).
So unless you can point out otherwise, nowhere did she “stand up for herself”, nor did she “make her own educated choices.” Her “choice” to abort was ultimately made by someone else, and she was only “educated” on one choice.
that cut at 4:59 at "without atleast talking th--" to you in the clinic made me so upset, cuz it really does be like that sometimes; youre trying to have a convo with someone and next thing you know youre alone making a difficult choice
She never had to go through with it.
@@tyronesmith6921 i dont think she wanted the kid tbh tho
Anna is the big sister of RUclips.
I’m so sorry for what happened with your sister but thank you for taking that and creating this and sharing your wisdom to us
So did this all happen with her sister?
Big sister of youtube. Perfect👏😍
Shreya P No. With Anna. But her sister commited suicide.
Gunda Leine Oh so dis all happened wid anna! Are the characters real!?
Forgiving an asshole of a boyfriend was my problem too. He also got me pregnant...(from non consensual sex) he also cheated. I kept leaving him and be kept coming back! How many times do you need to break up with someone for them to get the picture? Finally got a restraining order. Best decision of my life. Now I'm married to a great, loyal, gentle man and I just finished my masters degree. Sometimes its hard to leave an abusive relationship people, it takes on average 7 tries...its ok forgive yourself. It took me 40 tries. Even if he isnt physically abusive they can be emotionally or verbally or just controlling. It's still abuse. Believe in yourself and just keep telling yourself you deserve better. There is a light at the end of the dark dark tunnel.
Dhynasah Çakir Glad you are in a better place now
You kept the baby?
@@tyronesmith6921 that's none of your business.
@@lemonlimes3699 And your kind of response neither
@@JoelLinus first of all your sentence didn't make sense. second of all, it isn't any of his business if she kept the baby or not because that's private, and it doesn't concern him.
I really like the big wooden door at the begging for forgiveness part. That is a nice door
nmuire246 i thought i was the only one that noticed. people these days tsktsj no appreciate for such architecture
Fabulous.
I like that door. Thats a nice door.
If not one gets this reference i will be so disappointed 😂
Has anyone had an abortion? What are your thoughts after?
ayo same tho
Where the hell were her friends?
@Suffer No Fools she clearly said she had friends who had gotten abortions
Suffer No Fools what do her friends have to do with HER story?
often when someone is in an abusive relationship, be it mental or physical, they will stop talking to their friends and even family. You're so focused on your relationship that you have little to no time to manage other people. I speak from experience; I barely talked to my closest friends for like 1 1/2 to 2 years because of my abusive relationship
sorry, I was getting mcdonalds xx
Well from what i understand from the story, she moved to work as a background and follow her dreams, maybe her friends were far away from her and couldn't see her condition. Or she just couldn't bring herself to talk to them about it
The moment all of the women rushed toward Anna and held her hair back was so jarring. I was not at all expecting tears, this is beautiful.
When I watched this 2 years ago i didn’t like how she got rid of her baby now 2 years later I’m in the same situation and I understand
Whatever choice you make, I’m sure it’s the best decision for you and that baby. Stay strong💙
I wish the best for you. Whatever choice you make/made, I'm sure it is the best. Stay strong
You grow and change as you experience life. It happens. I hope you are well.
Whenever it happens to you...
@@videoupload6898 Yeah I hope she is OK.
thank you for being brave enough to share this story....so many women are ashamed and never talk about it and in turn they never heal....it follows them around and dictates what they do.
One like isn't enough for how good this is!
Andrew Power take 1700 i guess lol
Whoa! I didn't expect such a generic comment to get so many likes. Thanks for commenting, I never would have known otherwise :-)
What about 3.2K
what about 3.6K
Andrew Power h
*i am very impressed by your clairvoyant nipple story*
Copied comment🙄🙄
I hate when people copy comments
This one isn’t copied because it’s 3 months ago not 2
lol
"I wasn't going to get pregnant. I already lost my sister, surely the world would give me a break" damn Anna
@@HinduBoy Let us know after you get pregnant and lose a sister.
If you haven't read her book yet, I promise you it's full of many more raw, powerful stories and life lessons like this. It's definitely worth your time and money.
Says another underage libtard without a clue. Let me take your wise advise.
What’s the book?
Kai King trashh
So, this was a TRUE STORY?
On a side note that kitten was the most adorable little thing ever
Jesslynn 👍
I watched this for the first time 5 years, at the time I appreciated the story and message. I went through the exact same thing just a month ago and I’ve been feeling so much shame. Coming back to it has healed that shame a little bit , thanks Anna x
This is so well made! Well done Anna, you never fail to impress us.
ikr? Gurl gotta make her own movie soon!
Shes so talented i wish the whole world could see that.
I think the whole world IS seeing that
Malia Intikhab '
Maliha Intikhab
Asian girls looking for white guys trying to improve their race
But they just got losers
Hahahaha😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
7 days pregnant?? That's a spectacle!
Most women don't know until they're at least 6 weeks or missed period
“7 days pregnant” means that she isn’t pregnant yet. It’s like 1 week before conception usually, or implantation. It would make more sense if she said she 3 weeks pregnant, if that’s what she meant. Lol.
@@anaquot She said exactly what she meant, what the doctor told her. It was 7 days after the implantation.
@@Jessamine90 Ah. yeah I rarely hear people speak of pregnancy that way.
I was thinking the same thing like damn she’s fast, knew she was pregnant before they even had conception
Jessamine90 she said that she was 7 days pregnant not 7 days after implantation, plus how would they know that, they only know an estimate based on how much hcg is in your blood
Women, I swear, when we love someone:
We see the red flags, we ignore.
We see the pics, we ignore.
We hear our friends and family members say they do not trust him/her, we ignore.
And then years later, we realise it ourselves. Let's live and learn from our mistakes.
Yeah, that's what not having self-control gets you. When the pheromones click and the geometry is appealing, you'll find any excuse to make it work, because ultimately the future offspring are more valuable than either of the parents. When you find yourself inexplicably attracted to someone, it's a sign of a good genetic fit, which USED to count for something.
Magic Power Girls* do that. Women know better.
Magic Power what?
Magic Power I went through that. Then when it suddenly all clicked (luckily only 5 months into the relationship) I felt like such an asshole to break it off so suddenly, leaving the guy I was with feeling clueless. I gave it my all the explain the things I felt and why I did what I did without hurting him, but of course he couldn't even hear me. He got so ridiculously angry that I felt scared. He turned into a person I'd never seen before. I didn't know what he'd do, but luckily he got through it. I still hate that I hurt him, but I know we weren't good together, especially after I saw the scary person he can become, and the irrational things he says and does. I know other guys who have experienced heartbreak and they did not at all react in the way he did.
Magic Power exactly ... ❤️
As a 19 year old who has had an abortion and has been involved with toxic older men, I really needed to see this today❤️and I’m definitely going to be more careful with birth control and look after myself mentally
Never feel bad about your decision to have an abortion. At 19 you aren't ready to be a mother, go and enjoy your life, then maybe in 10 years from now you might be ready for motherhood.
rochelle123ist thank you ❤️
I’m so sorry but honestly condoms and abstaining is the better option. Don’t let an older man take advantage of you and especially your youth! Focus on your career and goals and travel and learn something new ! Not everything has to be about a boy or sex or abortions . Wait for the right one . Speaking as a 28 year old woman who has never had an abortion but saw the effects with my friends and I made that choice on purpose . No kids as well because condoms have saved my life and abstinence 🙏♥️ much love and good luck
@@rochelle123ist lol tell that to the 13 year olds that take responsibility
Sooooo you killed your baby just so u didn't have to take responsibility? Its amazing what girls will do in today's world to ruin someone's life
This story needed to be told. I am happy you told it. Some many woman get caught up in unhealthy relationships and lose themselves. I am glad you shared your journey .
but seriously--this was pretty heavy.
Indeed...
This is a case of "History is written by its victors."
HE NOT EVEN THAT THICC THO
Esmirna Sanchez ikr-
its the white thing.... jello fever lol jk
Probably a casting issue
Exactly
Lol right? His butt was foster than mine and that's saying something
I don’t understand how someone could see her as selfish. She made the best choice for herself, and learned from her mistake.
Isn’t that the definition of selfish? Does what’s best only for yourself. And she didn’t ‘learn’ a proper lesson at all. The lesson should be don’t continuously overlook all the flaws of an awful man just because you’re attracted to him. Instead her lesson is that you should be fine still dating toxic narcissistic people but just don’t get pregnant from doing it which absolutely moronic
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 I´m sorry you feel that way. I hope you learn that doing what´s best for yourself is completely fine and not selfish as long as you still consider other people. Selfish is seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for other. But because she considered what a life the baby would have (which is the opposite of selfish), she concluded to have a abortion.
@@Jb-gj5zy Isn't that "selfishness" exactly what she's promoting here? Why are you doublespeaking?
Damage control is not consideration.
And this is not mainly a birth control issue.
Is this her personal story? Either way it's moving as heck and I wanna read that book now
Army
Holly Wilson oml
Holly Wilson yeah this ain’t the right time for that sis
It’s moving because she chose abortion despite not wanting one in the first place, and only chose it because her shithead boyfriend demanded she abort and the doctor basically shoved the pill in her face without ever asking her if she wanted to do it?
Moving or motivating
All these comments are mainly silly but this story touched me so much. Everything down to the boyfriend, the nipples hurting, and wanting to be a mother but wasn’t the right time. We need more videos like this. Thank you 💜
I would have been touched if she had given the baby to someone who IS ready for a baby, but can't have one. 1 in 7 couples struggle with infertility and 1 in 10 women are infertile. With men infertility can be fixed for the price of a play boy, a cup, and a turkey baster. For women it costs AT LEAST 4,000.00. It often doesn't work the first time and most other ways are 11,000.00 at the minimum for IVF. Plus most people want more than one kid and the waiting lists for the 4k one has waiting lists that go on for YEARS. Also there is the medications and not one part of it is covered by ANY insurance unless they are forced to and even then they often don't pay. She was selfish and she didn't make the decision herself. Her boyfriend made it for her.
Sarah Cridelich she does NOT have to go through all the pain and complications of pregnancy and childbirth just to give the child to someone else. there are already millions of kids in orphanages that need families, but, sadly, won’t ever have one.
@@thechosenone9769 you know how many babies turn into adults without ever being adopted? Have you lived through the foster care system or in a children's home. Do you know how many of those babies will grow up and get raped, abused, murder, or commit suicide? Before you go blaring your "adoption is a choice" bullshit just look into the life of a child who has been given up for adoption. Most of them turn into adults and are never adopted. Try looking up the story of the couple who adopted all siblings and abused them and even after DCF investigated them, they allowed the couple to have the children. The couple drugged the children and drove off a cliff killing all of them. So those children suffered a life time of misery and were murdered. There's adoption. So every time a child in the system is raped, abused, or murderd and you're still pushing "there's adoption", that blood of those children will be on your hands.
Hosenda Likento every time you say adoption is a bad choice, the blood of those unborn babies will be on *your* hands.
@@mellocheers9062 you know, first you would have to define at which point a clump of multiplying cells, much like a tumor that can also grow teeth and hair, is a baby. Much like cutting off a mole. Is the mole a part of your body like a arm or leg? Just a clump of cells, but you wouldn't call it an arm or a leg yet. Just like a clump of cells is not a baby. Maybe stop imagining it as a full term baby. I am talking legal abortion. Not riping a full term living being out of a uterus and throwing it at a wall and calling it an abortion. If you have never been that child clinging to their blanket wishing for death than having a full grown adult crawl into your bed time and time again to take your innocence than you can not praise adoption. If you have never been that starving child sleeping on the cold floor as your guardian buys designer clothes with the money they got from the state that was supposed to pay for you care, than you can not praise adoption. Never forget the little boy who died cold and alone in a park after his mother grew frustrated with him, smacked his head which hit a wall, left the child bleeding and seizing all night, dumped him, and said some black guy took off with the child. She clearly stated she wasn't ready for him and now because of abortion bans and abortion shaming many more actually alive and feeling living beings will be forced to actually suffer. People have abortions because they are not capable parents and if cutting out a clump of cells is blood on my hands for a few seconds instead of ENTIRE LIFE TIMES of misery, pain, self loathing, and suicide attempts, then so be it.
Girls and women need this story, thank you Anna.
Here’s my abortion story
I was 11 I had been raped by someone and if I was to young have a baby and if I was to give birth i would have passed away do to it. And I needed to have the abortion.
Damn, that's sad.
I am so sorry for you, hope you are doing fine❤️
Unicon girl I am now, thank you
You were my oldest daughters age and i understand why you had to have one . Its not your fault. I am pro life but i get certain situations. I'm not going to judge you but i think women who just get abortions for just not wanting a child that's ridiculous. Give it up for adoption to a woman who wants a baby and can't have one
@@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 there are already too many children up for adoption. Many women want babies, not children. They're hypocrites.
This is amazing
I said this as it ended and scrolled down to write just that, took the words out my mouth haha
She's not just amazing, she's brave.
Crack! 🔥
It truly is amazing
Lucyyyy I love u
"What are you doing tonight?"
"Hopefully, u."
I DIED
Elliott Walker you forgot.the question mark, which implies more of a desire than a demand
Bro who else thought they were watching Netflix
Kacey Jade me lol
Kacey Jade me
Kacey Jade oml me
me lmao thought i was watching a movie clip for a cool min
Kacey Jade me
Guy says he doesn't believe in monogamy: Okay I'm sure this guy will be loyal.
Polyamory just cheats everyone involved out of a healthy relationship, that's why it's grooooss
@@muralmarshall5044 what? Stop dissing people who follow consensual sex with multiple partners. Cheating isnt polyamory.
Lol have fun with being someone's perpetual side piece 😂
Luis Gonzales polyamorous relationships can be beautiful and fulfilling, it may not be your thing, but don't be rude to those who love differently than you.
He was upfront about it on the first date. Anna, I'm sorry this turned out badly for you, but you should have taken his word at face value and then left him alone.
I love Anna for she expresses her thoughts clearly no matter what the subject. With confidence, without shame and with high confidence in what she does!
"smiling face, smiling face, smiling f#$@ing FACE."
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That here, what you did. Putting this out there. It's brave. Bringing the dark into the light its not easy. It takes courage to share such a raw personal story. Thank you! Because there are a lot of us that still are trying to come out into the light
Thank you for speaking out about your own experiences with abortion. I hope this helps open more people's eyes to the reality that any girl out there can find themselves in a situation like this. Abortion is never an easy choice, but sometimes, it's the right one.
No it's not . If you really don't want to risk pregnancy, then you wouldn't be having sex. Killing is never the right choice. Could at least give the baby up for adoption. Not your life to take.
Jackie A. Contraception such as condoms , diaphragms , ect are the right choice not tearing the limbs off an innocent child that never had a chance
Yes I like Kpop don't sue me thank you you just implied if you life isn’t perfect you should die. Nice. If your problem is the foster care system then advocate for that, not abortion. Guess what. Abortion has been legal for almost 50 years and those issues still exist so hows abortion working out? Also foster care and adoption are two different things love. Perhaps you should learn the difference between the two before using it to excuse abortion. Js.
Good comment despite whatever the haters are saying ❤️
jackie-If killing the baby is such a "hard choice" than how do you explain legalized baby-killing (abortion) being so LUCRATIVE???
I've been watching Anna since 2013, and this by far, was one of her top best
agreed!
Same, and I couldn’t agree with you more.
I don't know, her advertising is pretty great. ;-)
I hate
How he treated the pregnancy on her
Like
If it weren't for the sperm that swam out of YOU she wouldn't be
People are so ignorant
When it comes to things like this
"If it weren't for the sperm that swam out of YOU she wouldn't be"
No, it is her body, thus her responsibility to take care of it.
She thought that "the universe give her a break" and that she would not get pregnant. Teenagers and immature people think like that.
People are so ignorant
When it comes to things like this.
However, on the other hand, they were in a relationship.BUT, she was on the pill, implying they never wanted kids at that time. Going off the pill (or forgetting in this case) was her responsibility. Why, I must remember to take my pills otherwise I die next week.
Not taking your pill = possible pregnancy (and men walking out as it was never agree upon...consent remember?)
SsoulBlade I agree that she has to take responsibility for her body, but even the those methods can always fail, even if it doesnt happen often, and it is possible to make a simple mistake like forgetting the pill once. So he has to deal with that better than "just abort it" and "pay me back". Its on both of them.
_I am going to post more than one post as my posts are immediately blocked_
"but even the those methods can always fail"
My issue is not with the method *that fails.* In that case I am 100% behind the female. My issue is her *forgetting* to take it *multiple times.*
Because she forgot to take it many times *that* is *negligence* on her part. Not the man.
"forgetting the pill once"
If I forget my child in the car and they perish because of heat, is forgetting, that leads to a pretty bad situation, negligence? Yes it is.
And no, I am not comparing the 2 events, I am looking at the forgetting part that is supposed to prevent a bad situation.
This was literally beyond eye opening.
I think I owe women [who have had abortions] an apology. I used to be pro life, but now that I think of it, the ONLY reason why I was like that was because of emotion, ignorance, and internalized sexism.
if you change your opinion like that based on someone elses feelings then you are an idiot and unprincipled
Yasmine Metayer pro life isn’t because of sexism it’s about one’s life
the only question is if the unborn child is a life or not, the inconvenience of the mother doesn't change anything, murder is murder
@@vincentfrimpong4249 I disagree, it's just a blob. Would it be better to just let it pass when it couldn't feel anything, when you couldn't feel anything than to have it grow up in a loveless home, possibly abused maybe in a bad financial situation meaning that they'd be hungry and have dirty clothes, possibly knowing that your not wanted, not needed an accident that couldn't be rectified? What if the mother was a young girl? Do you except a 13/14 year old to go through that? What if their a rape victim? It's not murder.
No. Dont change yourself to a pro choicer
oh my god I didn't know you had such a terrible experience.. so well filmed, it's incredible how real it felt :/ thank you very much for sharing such a horrible painful story with the world, I can see it helping a lot of girls! Glad you were able to finally leave him, I hope this doesn't still haunt you..
Was this based on a true story?
NO ITS FROM A BOOK, READ, JESUS
its a true story the book is about her life???
yup, the book is about her life :D
I take that back then i did not know that.
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I'm sorry you went through something like this, Anna. But as always I'm so proud of you for overcoming difficulties having learnt a new lesson. You're one of the most inspiring people I can think of.
Juliana Motta read the description
This is the greatest, most honest, most powerful short film I've ever seen from you. Awesome job with this one, Anna. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you wouldn't be you if you hadn't.
I felt like crying that you went through this. You're an amazing beautiful strong woman Anna Akana. Thanks for sharing something so personal and intimate with us. I hope your story helps someone who needs to hear this. May huge blessings go your way three fold, Spiritually, Mentally, and Physically.
When you find the right person, you will be an AMAZING mother
Jasmine Scholz she has the right person. Watsky
I know amazing mothers who don't have the right person or didn't for a long time and still made it, despite all the hassle and financial problems. Those are strong women.
Anyone who is willing to kill their child to protect their own convenience is the FURTHEST thing from a good mother. She needs to really repent for killing her own child before she can hope to be a good mother
I suppose she could have had the baby and have it starve to death because she didn't have enough money to feed it.
Hannah Li ....what an absolutely absented minded thing to say. First off this RUclipsr is very well off. And feeding a baby is very inexpensive, especially since they drink only your breast milk for a while which is free.
Everyone can afford to feed a baby (especially if they can afford birth control).
Second let's pretend that in some crazy world they literally couldn't afford to feed the baby. Then you find a way for that baby to survive, you give it up for adoption, sacrifice your own meals, do whatever you have to do.
If I had clairvoyant powers and knew one year from now you will be stranded on a deserted island with very little to eat, should I *MURDER* you to save you from your future suffering? Or should I look for other options that would spare you from your future suffering?
This was so beautifully written and produced i really loved this as a story about safety, abortion, self love and letting go of bad people. This story really hit me and It's hard to talk about your flaws so I'm so proud that you were open about what you did wrong, and what you did right for yourself.
This has got to be one of my favourite shorts you’ve made to date. So powerful and all the range of emotions ugh! Wonderful job, Anna 💕
Wow, that was supercalafragilisticexpialidocious! Thank you for the vulnerability and telling your story in such a beautifully produced short story
I am, too, very impressed with your clairvoyant nipple story.
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Rianne Show , I so did not have that. Had to wait for my missing period. I laughed when I heard her talk about that
this hurts so much, but helps so much too, sometimes I think im alone in this in the recovery from the hurt of being cheated on, of being pregnant and getting an abortion, its the worst pain... You don't value yourself anymore, its so strange how much of this i related too, this gave me a few tears and some well needed advice, thank you so much
You said exactly what I wanted to say
you got an abortion? what happened? :(
Meg _ did you regret your abortion 😕
Meg _ my name is Meg
“The view is great from that high as horse”
SOMEONE MAKE YOUR BOOK INTO A MOVIE RIGHT NOW
She just started doing it herself. Didn't you watch?
i didn't know about this part of your life. you're strong. i mean, you made, i think, the right (and difficult) choice and you told about this us, your audience. it literally made me cry. thank you for telling your story
His name fits him real well😂 and also there will always be players everywhere😕
The production values, story arc, and sensitive way this is presented are so 'next level'. You and your crew did such a good job on this. I hope it won some kind of award. It sure deserves it.
Makes me want to buy the book even more, you are putting so much effort in everything you’re doing wow 💓
Amine S you really should buy the book because it was so good I finished reading the book in one day
Is this her real life story or her sister?:(
Her own.
Go on, then.
Amine S will a
udhwsewbcjefbcjekrbcf this is making me tear up.
My mom went through something very similar. She fell in love with someone she knew wasn't gonna marry, and accidents happened and she got pregnant. She was young and didn't have the financial needs or the partner to have a child with. She has never directly told me the words "I had an abortion", but she told me killing a life inside her was the worst day of her life. She told me this because even though she said it's something she would never want to relive and it's far from easy, it was necessary for her to do so she could live a better life. And she does. I'm glad to say her sacrifice gave her the opportunity to meet my dad who she's still with today, and have me and my brother grow up in not a perfect family, but a much better one than what could of been.
It was really hard for her to tell me that story. Even today she can't outright say the words of what she had done. But she told it to me so I could know that the people who say it's simple and easy have no idea what they're talking about and if I got myself into that situation, that there's always another choice.
edit: there's some people that are using my story to say that abortion is either 100% evil or the answer to everything. Please don't, it's neither. My mom is pro-choice. Her abortion is actually the reason she still is today. Her point was it was hard for her, but she's glad she did it. It was her decision. She told me this so I could know the costs of both sides. Both sides can end painfully, and both sides have the potential to end well, but her path was just a little more successful than what would of probably happened. Seriously, she was in a really bad place to have a kid. It's not black and white. Either way, no one should force you to keep or abort your baby, it's your choice. Please don't twist my story.
DADADA You completely missed the point of the story that she went on to find a good father for her children and raise a family from a more healthy and secure place than crippling poverty that shortens life expectancy of both mother and child.
Please stop twisting my words. My mom felt awful afterwards, but she doesn't regret her choices. If her child developed into a full person it could of died from a number of different factors because of the environment she was in or grow to be a very damaged person. She told me this story so I could know how life could turn out for her. She trusted her gut, and her life is better because of it. That's just the facts. While what is considered alive is a rocky road, I personally don't think a baby is truly human-ish until later pregnancy. Believe what you want to believe, but don't twist my words. My mother did what she did and she has a better life because of it. It was hard, but she doesn't regret it. It is a huge moral issue, I don't disagree. But please don't use my mother's story to guilt trip others into choosing an option that could be a huge mistake. If you disagree with me, fine. But please stop arguing. What has happened has already happened, and I told my story to show what could happen, not force my opinion down someone's throat. It should be their choice to get an abortion or not
Wow that's deep, tough past, actually tough life :/ .
Your acting is on POINT Anna ;).
is this a real life story of her?
JEDGIN MOROE Yeah same question?
Her sister passing is true, not sire about her getting pregnant
It's real. It's an excerpt from her book.
I loved this. It was somewhat eye-opening in terms of self-love and not romanticizing a toxic person/relationship. And she was soo sweet. Overall great job and relatable story. Congratz and thank you for sharing this with us! ^^
Pergernarnet??
fruitoson preganenate??!?!?!
Can I get pergenat with using a Luigi board?
Pregananant*
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Pragananent
That "are you going to pay me back for your half of the abortion" made me SO angry! Thank you for sharing this and making this, you do such incredible work!!
Why should the man have to pay for all of it?
Minishcat he doesn't but it's his fault too
Why not? I think its enough whats happening with your Body (and Health) and he didn't used a condom... so Why not
Minishcat I think it is more the timing of the question that is despicable. She is in physical pain and emotional distress about a life changing decision and his reaction is so callous. It shows how disengaged he was towards her and her well-being.
That's exactly what I meant!! What is money when your partner is going through such pain because of something that involves both of you!
My mom was 16 when she found out she was pregnant. She had a boyfriend who was five years older than her. When she told him he was happy they later had a baby (my mom was still 16) and that baby was me. They later got married when I was two. I know it’s hard for young teenagers to decide especially if the dad is not the best person. I will support you on any choice you make. I may be young but I know what it’s like. My dad is from Mexico so he came to America illegally. When I was two he went to Mexico to see his family for a week. The government ended up keeping him there. My dad owns his own business so he made a lot of the money my mom worked to but she didn’t get a lot of money. So when my dad was in Mexico we were extremely poor my mom barely having enough money to feed us. I don’t really remember any of this since I was so little I remember getting things for Christmas and for my birthday. I would’ve never believed we were poor. My mom told me about this a few years ago because I asked about it. She said she would put my Christmas presents and my birthday presents on layaway for a whole year. She would work and work just to get me presents. We could finally get my dad back four years later. I was six when he came back. I SUPPORT YOU!
StarzAG Channel This sounds eerily like what happened to my friend.
Did your mom finish highschool?
StarzAG Channel that is so beautiful
inkie pinkie same
Your moms storie is not bad it unique
I remember back in the day when I was super anti abortion. This totally changed my world back then.
@@tyronesmith6921 you just love being hurtful
@@izabellecurry903 riiiite cus I'm the one taking babies lives. Forgot
@@tyronesmith6921 I've never taken one in or out of this world be respectful and dont assume.
@@tyronesmith6921 and its right*
@@izabellecurry903 lol you dont make sense
.... This made me so depressed. I have a 2 1/2 year old son. Me and my ex planned for him. But once the relationship fizzled my ex stopped having interest in our son. I wanted to be in a relationship where my child would be wanted.but I ended up with a relationship where I enjoy every moment with my son. He is wanted and cherish by me. I don't need my ex to have a family. So he can continue to ignore us. And I will live my best life with my son
LadyofTruth I hope you and your boy are safe and doing well. You’re strong as hell.
I relate to what you said. Im a single mom of a 7 year old precious gorgeous girl and the fact that I wanted her is all that matters. I’ve told her that her dad *did* want her and planned her nursery out and was excited when we would talk about her - which is true - but he just wasn’t a good person. He was a drug trafficking abusive manipulative person. I tell her that I will one day find her a good dad because that’s what she deserves. She’s 7 now and sometimes I wonder if that will happen or not since I’m still single but I figure it’s hell of a lot better than being in an abusive relationship. Anyway my daughter is ok and she never asks about her “sperm donor” anymore. I don’t know how else to put it as I don’t consider him a “dad” in any sense. Anyway she is loved and happy by me, her grandma and her uncles and aunt and that’s all that matters :)
@@user-zj1dd4ky6b yes :) thank you. I'm currently engaged to a wonderful man who loves me and loves my son like his own. My ex still hasn't seen his son. Sometimes you have to go through hardships to find your happily ever after :)
I hope you guys are well🥺❤️
This is powerful
Man this made me cry so much I just turned 22 and 19 weeks pregnant and I thought about getting an abortion but I couldn’t do it I couldn’t live with myself I respect Anna so much for being able to share her story.
Congrat's on the baby! I'm 22 weeks pregnant today with twins! I guess you are quite far along by now!
Oh you don't wanna have a abortion at 19 weeks. Baby can feel pain at that stage and the procedure is breaking baby into pieces. Best to do it before 9 weeks to avoid that procedure and get the drug one which basically gives you a miscarriage which tbh is better than pulling parts off a baby.
I've had a abortion at 8 weeks pregnant 6 years ago.. It was twins. Horrible time. I don't regret it tho. I'm really thankful i spotted it early enough for the drug abortion and early enough that the baby cannot feel pain.
Jessi Jones I actually ended up giving birth already 2 weeks ago at 28 weeks she was a preemie but she’s everything to me I’m so glad I didn’t get an abortion!
Wow. I wish you and your preemie baby a great journey!
Skyler Smith how is she? What's her name?
Congrats btw!!
It's_Chloe_ 23 she’s still good she’s 44 days old now still in the NICU her name is Violette pronounced like Violet
When you immediately make a romance novel in your mind.
I have always respeted you, but wow, I have reached a whole new level of RESPECT, capital letters. You haven’t had it easy but you’ve always kept it positive and you have such a deep sense of life, so much love for you and everything you do! ❤️
10 minutes felt 2. This was captivating, funny, AND touching. Thanks Anna :)
SMOL CONGRESS OMG I KNOW ITS NOT THE SAME CAT BUT THAT KITTEN IS ADORABLE
The amount of courage to share this. I love you, Anna.
She read this excerpt when she visited my university! It's really cool to see it all dramatized this way.
That made me cry. To experience soemthing like that is horrible and you have been through so much you didnt deserve that. You are defentinly someone i look up to.