Is Revenge More Bitter Than Sweet?
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- What happens to our brains when we seek revenge? Here's why revenge might actually leave you feeling worse, rather than better.
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The Complicated Psychology Of Revenge
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"A few years ago a group of Swiss researchers scanned the brains of people who had been wronged during an economic exchange game. These people had trusted their partners to split a pot of money with them, only to find that the partners had chosen to keep the loot for themselves. The researchers then gave the people a chance to punish their greedy partners, and for a full minute, as the victims contemplated revenge, the activity in their brains was recorded."
Make No Mistake, Revenge is (Bitter) Sweet
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"Deep, dark and sometimes overwhelming, the human compulsion to seek revenge is a complex emotion that science has found incredibly hard to explain. Despite popular consensus that "revenge is sweet," years of experimental research have suggested otherwise, finding that revenge is seldom as satisfying as we anticipate and often leaves the avenger less happy in the long run."
The Paradoxical Consequences Of Revenge
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"People expect to reap hedonic rewards when they punish an offender, but in at least some instances, revenge has hedonic consequences that are precisely opposite to those that people expect. Three studies showed that: (a) one reason for this is that people who punish continue to ruminate about the offender, whereas those who do not punish "move on" and think less about the offender, and; (b) people fail to appreciate the different affective consequences of witnessing and instigating punishment."
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revenge satisfaction may not last long, but regrets of not taking revenge do.
Video : Revenge is Ice Cream.
Me : I live in a very hot desert.
Trust me. Ive taken revenge, and I still relish the satisfaction of taking it till this day......
yea but you're still bitter
its not regret per se, you just think that if you get revenge you will feel better
Whenever i think of the time I took revenge, i feel euphoria
I can only speak for myself, but I have found revenge, justified revenge, feels great. No regrets.
We're the Millers anyone? Ah fuck it
damm..right...
You went full SJW, man. NEVER go full SJW..
I would like to revenge some people but I don`t want to be punished for it in the the afterlife.
@@ryder4482 an eye for an eye and the world goes blind
Revenge, for when karma takes to long.
Artifical Karma
Karma only happens when their impulse to do what they did was ultimately harmful to them.
What if you are karma?
karma means action just do it
naw, we are the karma, ya know? 😎😎
It’s not about revenge, it’s about serving justice. If someone ruins your social life, destroys your dignity, and makes you feel like nothing. Then I can assure you you’ll find a way to get your revenge soon and it will be great. Because it’s justified.
that makes no sense. why would doing nothing make anyone feel better. Revenge should be a relief of bottled up emotions.
Yeah Revenge can be put end or cause cycle same goes to forgiveness. Balance is important.
Truth. Anyone who says otherwise is obviosly delusional or mentally challenged.
It depends on how it's done.
thats false. Releasing anger actually makes us angrier in the long run and their are studies to prove it. Catharsis only works if you find a positive way to do it
thats the trap.
you think it will make you feel better.
but
it doesnt relief, in the best circusntances you will feel justified, but the emotions are still there.
believe, I already gone through that.
I've always heard that revenge is a shallow thing, but I've had revenge, and it feels AWESOME.
Lmao
L
I go with it just few moments later😈
Retribution is a must!!
YOU FEEL POWERFUL,EUPHORIC,LIGHT HEADED,ADRENALINE,FULL OF ENERGY,IT FEELS LIKE SEX....is soooo pleasurable....but when you comedown of that high....you feel shame
@@ElMundoDeSam95 I have taken revenge and would totally recommend it
So, revenge is only satisfying if the target of said vengeance actually admits their mistake; otherwise it'll just make you more angry.
actually it's better when they don't admit their mistake, it give me reason to torture them more :D
+psycho puss lol
@@andreas125670 edgy
Yeah and make you more angrier if he lie as a victim and victim blaming. That escalates me for taking revenge.
@@andreas125670 It just goes to show that everyone is a little bit of a sadist whether they want to admit it or not. Fact.
It depends on you as a person. The more people break you, the more satisfied you become once you take revenge on them. Revenge is like a high too. It makes you feel like you satisfied. Especially when that person deserved it. It's like your empathy levels drop and fear, insecurities, sadness all drop. Then anger comes along and then you extract revenge. Honestly it's sweet. Especially if you were really hurt.
Not for me though...
I'm a firm believer in revenge and it always makes me feel good to see someone who's hurt me suffer
For me it’s the opposite
It's the best feeling
Based
Revenge is Virtue
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Nah, revenge just gives me the warm and fuzzies inside.
you're so bitter
@@freedomdividendnews5042 nobody asked your opinion
if you're not going to crush your enemies completely then don't do anything
Machiavelli
big factsssss
Sometimes you gotta disregard morality and get even.
The day I get to smack around my middle school bully for nearly driving me to suicide is the day my shoulders get their proper relief.
I'd rather destroy their lives.
Actually, try to deatroy their lives like the first commenter here suggessted. Its smarter and gives you peace of mind of no retribution. Read laws of power too!
Couldn't this just mean people who dwell on their anger are overwhelmingly more likely to enact revenge, and not that revenge makes them feel angry longer?
damn, I never think it like that
I was also curious if that was the case. I'd be curious if that angle has been tried yet
It is not about revenge, it is about retribution!
ok boomer
That's a pretty simple take spoiled boy!@@freedomdividendnews5042
@@freedomdividendnews5042 L much?
I don't care what anyone else says. "Moving on and forget" seems impossible in some cases. You carry around this giant wound and you feel powerless. Revenge (as long as it's legal) empowers you. I believe in Karma but sometimes it needs your help.
I felt really good actually. I would highly recommend getting revenge.
yea but you're still bitter and angry towards them
Bro stfu seriously
Yep revenge is so sweet I can’t get enough of it
I feel terrible when I get revenge...
But you will always caught in loop of revenge and that is unstoppable.
A girl hit me in the face for taking my ball back from her, I didnt do anything at school. I wound up fighting her over the summer, but I still feel pissed off because she couldn't fight, and she has the nerve to still brag about how she "whooped my ass". Someone please hold my earrings a second time. 😂😂😂
Im surprised didnt hit back ._.
Njumkiy In my school both the victim and the person who hit you get OSS. In better words, any type of fighting isn't allowed, even if it is provoked. I'd rather not deal with the retarded staff.
That stupid, should allow self defense
ok.
If the people who she brag to knows you or her and knew that she couldn't fight then everyone know she is just babbling rubbish. I personally know that I can go further beyond to give people permanent damage but I chose not to, yet they love to talk trash or brag but I try to keep my cool as long as they don't cross the line :)
Honestly once i take revenge i feel satisfied and moved on with my life not taking revenge keeps you mocked and bullied forever there are some instances that you need to teach them the lesson.
Studies are flawed. Revenge is sweet. Especially when it's undetected.
Never have I seen such true and wholesome words
Letting things go is only okay for minor offenses (and it's stressful to be bitter about every single thing). However, revenge feels immensely gratifying. It feels like closing a loop or balancing a karmic scale in your life. It helps immensely with the process of closure and which is important for emotional healing.
It can go completely out of hand if you don't have any foresight and leave loose ends. In such cases you are just making the situation even worse. Mental and emotional clarity are absolutely necessary to close the loop.
It depends on what happened and how big the situation is. I mean, ill get a hell of a lot more joy from brutally murdering the guy who killed my family than beating up the guy who took my wallet. Get what im saying?
Revenge feels amazing, in my opinion.
100% agreed
😈
yet you're still bitter Ben. Still have anger towards the person you got revenge on
@@freedomdividendnews5042 4 *YEARS AGO* bruh
Yesss it is
This would be true is the other person you hated was an actual person with feelings, but often the people you want to ruin, it's because they are an animal sociopath who screwed you over. These people can't feel any remorse for what they did to you, and wouldn't care if they ruined your life. This is why it hurts to put a human in pain, but you feel nothing but relief from destroying a colony of ants invading your home with chemicals, because some people are only out there to cause you misery.
That's a fascinating take, I also see it's often something more out of self-interest and domination. First; people think they can get a benefit out of the and they will happily take it, second people are in a position authority and feel that they have they to abuse you, and last (in my personal opinion) they feel somewhat threaten by you, whatever you triggered their insecurities, you hurt their ego, or they felt attacked by you. I don't personally believe that everyone that does ruin you are sociopaths, that term is very misused way too often, people generally don't have a lot of empathy to others that are not in their group, they're very indifferent because they don't know you and they don't care because you're not really a part of their life. That's why a lot of people tend to internalize and sometimes justify certain behavior on other. Don't get me wrong, I could agree with you that some people sociopaths and can be borderline narcissist, but again that seems to be very rare, at least in my observation.
"My name is Inigo Montoya, you killed my father, prepare to die."
That should be the standartised procedure when you're getting revenge on someone.
Well said Sir.
Iñigo *
I've always felt great about revenge, and every time I've got it I was very happy that I did it.
Me too. I've had revenge in some form or another, and I never had any negative feeling after.
yet you're still bitter towards them which is the only reason you're happy in getting revenge
Indeed, when a guy banged my head into a chair because of a dare, I chased him down and banged his head into a chair as well. That was the most satisfying feeling ever. Looking back 14 years later, I am proud of myself that I didn't let him get away.
@@freedomdividendnews5042 bruh wtf why are u in every comment
@@KK-ke7cp sorry :,(
Without the very real threat of vengeance, people will disrespect you and view you as a doormat. Revenge is a good thing.
Short term satisfaction, long term dwelling= Exactly how I feel. I took revenge and I stand by it for 100%. But it keeps me up at night... I cant get over how cruel people can be an still have flashbacks . Glad to hear that this is a normal reaction
maybe the problem is the fact there was no actual revenge on these studies, since what was "lost" was so little, and the "punishment" might have not been sitisfying
Revenge fills in the gaps that justice fails to.
Excellent quote
"Revenge is fools game"
-Arthur Morgan, 1899
Indeed RIP Mr. Morgan
The only one would be happy with revenge is 😈👹
Because he success dragging people to hell by plotting people to take revenge
Morgan who !?
If you want revenge, you will have to kill your enemy, so he can`t come back and harm you again.
Maquoavelo,nice book
When I learned that my childhood bully had died of an overdose I came in my pants. I’ve never felt better than that moment.
Tricked my bully into choosing the wrong thing to study. Pretty damn satisfied! XD Tackling a girl that said something nasty to me - don't regret it! Some people might say I have a bad way of solving problems, but I can't remember ever feeling guilty for revenge, although I often feel bad for bad things I did to others without any reason
What do you mean by "tackling"?
I always forgive but never forget
Retribution is a most!!
Revenge is the sweetest thing, you don't need science to know that...
Yep I agree ☝️
I hate it the sweetest thing for me is to do nothing
Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves. - Confucius
XHellXGeistX LOL I'm sure that's what Confucius meant. ^_^
+XHellXGeistX lol that's not what he meant XD
One grave for the target, one grave for you. :)
"2 corpses in one grave" I bet nobody will get this
One grave for the target and one grave for any witnesses. ;)
Study doesn’t count when someone : steals physically hurts you : or damages property.
This is the BIG DIFFERENCE!
I think it is a dominance and submission thing. When you take revenge you are reasserting some measure of control and trust over the individual. When they back down and admit their mistake, then control and some element of trust has been reestablished.
I don't think that's always the case; when someone takes a revenge, that trust over the individual is dead and is will stay dead. Plus what I've heard most people who seek revenge are usually already terrible people or worse. What do you think on that?
They say, living well is the best revenge, and I believe it. After my now ex cheated on me, my bitterness and anger twisted up my insides tight. A buddy of mine said go on a fabulous vacation and send him a postcard saying, "Having a wonderful time, glad you're not here." It took a few years and I went traveling alone. I never sent him a single post card, though I bought tons of them. I chuckled each and every time because I WAS having a wonderful time and I was glad he wasn't around to mess up my fun.
And, not surprisingly, nowhere is it addressed that there are distinct personality differences between people who seek revenge and those who don't.. I'm guessing the moods of those vengeance seeking individuals would be dramatically worse if they were instructed to let it slide, rather than take revenge. I mean, there's no immediate gratification for being vengeful, but the knowledge that you've potentially impacted long term events is mighty satisfying. That'll teach 'em!
That phrase was made by people who have revenged someone and are afraid of being revenged back.
If you've taken revenge on someone and you still don't feel satisfied or you feel worse than before, you obviously haven't done a good enough job. The best advice I can give is get them back at least ten fold, then everything will seem blissful
I don’t think you’re understanding that we are different in this situation. The worse the revenge is, the worse I feel. Some people just don’t like revenge, it might even be unhealthy for me.
If I could cook up payback in a spoon, put it in a syringe and main line it, I would. Blissful? No! Euphoric.
My grandfather abused my mom her entire young life.
She got her revenge by abusing him in his elder years, when he was empaired and living with us. This lasted for 7 years, then the bastard died.
I shed no tears for him, some people deserve to suffer.
Amen
That's a fucked up situation to live through
No one ever said there's pleasure in contemplating revenge. The pleasure is in the actual result of revenge and it does feel good. If you feel like standing in some sort of moral highground and not exact revenge that's your choice but it doesn't change the fact.
For me, revenge always felt great. I know I was able to get back at that person and now it was even
I don't need to hear his shit, I know revenge is good because you get justice done
Taking revenge is an absolute necessity for me regardless of what anyone says about the benefits of forgiveness.
Agreed....
Totally agreed
They should know that their actions were not acceptable. Gotta keep them in their place. If they gave us us pain, might as well return it back to them.
@@josephdave711Yeah. Guilty people should know Pain. Revenge is sweet especially if justified.
@@kendivedmakarig215 true, I'll agree to that.
I always feel satisfied when someone gets what they deserve. An eye for and eye is fair
that's also in the teaching of Islamic Justice.
I feel bad for you.
Karma handles revenge for me
it's real like god, right
Svetlin Nikolov ...As long as the person who is in the wrong believes it.
+Svetlin Nikolov well, it kind of works, you know those whole "think your way to success" things? though they try to put a bunch of pseudo science into it, it's really just a matter of your brain picking up on what you are thinking about, like if you were to learn a new word, it would suddenly seem much more common than it used to, it's also intensified by the internet's advertisement nature being geared towards what you search. so if you do bad things, you think about bad things, and you focus more on the bad things being done back to you. you won't be "punished" any more than the person next to you, but you will think you are. so karma works to a degree.
its a made up story but in an alternate universe it isnt.
bull shit, lier, karma is an illusion to help the weak like you, just by you thinking of Karma, that somehow life will handle things it means you are thirsty for murder or prolong suffering or what ever, you are sick. you are true EVIL.
Bullshit video.
Whenever someone did something wrong to me and i took "revenge" it felt awesome for long time even until now, if i ever think about those events.
In fact, lately a person i really trusted and loved betrayed the shit out of me, lied to me and in general played me, and whenever i imagine taking revenge (lol cringe) it feels AWESOME.
ok ;)
+Catbug “v.” xD.
@@aloysiusdevadanderabercrombie8 How?
I know revenge makes some people feel great but it makes u feel worse because youll lose your humanity, bringing more people to come after you and the people you love and be in a lonely life. The only way to end it is stop hurting each other in a bad way and learn to forgive.
if u did your revenge plan perfectly u feel happy😎
I was bullied when I was a junior high school student. I am still abused by my mother. God will punish them. I am just doing my best to be strong. If I punish them, I will be the perpetrator. I love myself no matter what. Happiness is our birthright. I am always thinking about things that make me happy. ALWAYS.
Revenge makes me feel great, satisfied, almost sexual. Unfortunately I haven't got a super weapon like the death star or starkiller base to have my ultimate revenge
Well yeah if you test it on something trivial like bad sportsmanship I bet it sucks. But if someone say, broke my windows, stole my radio, and slashed my tires it sure would feel great to crush their whole car in a scrap yard compactor while they watched. Mwahahahahahaha.
justice always makes you feel satisfied, to say it keeps you angry is stupid af
Whatever these studies say instead of me reminiscing about the original offence all I think about is how great my scheme was that got the bad guy back.
Most often revenge offers me a way to move on if the original offense is so great that I can't help feeling resentment if I don't get justice.
It depends on how bad the did of the other party was. Vengeance can actually be very sweet and allow mental stability in some cases.
Revenge is still a wonderful thing in my book.
if there's no revenge, that son of the bitch will keep doing the same shit with the other people.
so the greatest joy on doing revenge is not about feeling good seeing them in pain, but prevent them for doing it to the others.
It's quite the opposite
Its all about Seeing them in pain
Seek peace with him, as people do not expect to get and giving them new insights
Destroy their lives, their personal lives, their finances, their careers. Laugh as you slowly ruin them and they end up on the streets.
Scott Velez that's just pure gold!
Revenge is not just for the immediate feeling, it is a purpose. It is to be studied, analised. Done correctly. It is a delicious desert.
i revenged someone qwho betrayed me in agario and it felt AWSOME..... still does
Dpseudoscience news. No numbers, no survey, no polls, no science.
+Saltofpetra - you do know they don't do the research? They read works from others who done the research they just share the information with everyone.
yet you still think about it. your bitterness is showing
@Sandy Lorenzo if you're over your enemy then why would you still be proud of your revenge and stooping down to their level? That is proof you're not over it.
@Sandy Lorenzo congrats. You're no different than the people you hate
"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."
- Oscar Wilde
Anytime somebody does some shit that rubs me the wrong way I have to make them feel how they made me feel
so are you telling me that killing my rapists was a bad idea and I'll feel bad or guilty for it? yeah right. I couldn't be happier if that ever happen. I've wasted so many years trying to convince myself I'm over it, they said time heal wounds but mine has been hurting now just as bad as 20 years ago.
Revenge puts my mind at ease I hate knowing I lost
I've always had revenge within me. Born....with vengeance in my heart. Not so much for myself, but moreso for the weak/ innocent. I've done terrible things, that came from a good place. When I've taken revenge against someone for wronging me, it's instant gratification. Followed by emptiness. When it's exacted on the behalf of the innocent/weak....gratifying and satisfying. No emptiness.....
I find that when people are annoyed at you, the best thing to do is laugh at them, because you feel better an it just annoys them more (don't do this to friends or anyone you like)
Bad advice
@@KK-ke7cpwhy???
When I was a child I sometimes sought revenge from someone ho had hurt me in some way. But it never made me feel better. Instead, I found myself feeling sorry that I had done anything in return. Consequently I gave up on revenge at an early age
You are a coward not to get your revenge done.
+musardus you say coward, some people say high road
+aywancfc some people say naive
@@musardus You are pa pathetic selfish fool.
I have taken revenge when a person banged my head for no reason and taking revenge on him by smashing his head on a chair was the most satisfying feeling ever. Even when I look back 14 years later, I feel happy that he didn't get away.
I remember once while I was coming driving out from a supermarket car are realised that a big truck was about to block the street. I put reverse and went into the supermarket. When I was passing next to another car the driver insulted me, presumably for the odd turn I had made. I ignored him and went out from the supermarket using another exit. A few minutes later I saw the car of the person that had insulted me stuck behind the truck with no possibility of getting out. It felt so good to see him there (and still does). I guess I didn't feel bad because didn't seek revenge; it just came down from the sky :)
we have lunch boxes and thermos drinks back then in school and someone keeps drinking my drink. Out of anger, and desire for revenge, I put ipecac on my drink. That day, the one person stealing my drink was revealed and was throwing up, retching. I feel he deserves it.
"Revenge is a dish best served cold..." *unsheathes bat'leth* "...and it's VERY cold in space."
No amount of punishment will change the past we think that through revenge we might change it or at least be rid of the pain. Vengeance must be pragmatic you set clear goals what you want to achieve through it, teach a lesson or give everyone a warning not to mess with you otherwise it has no point and any pointless violence and hurt is bad, just let the shit go if you do not actually stand to gain anything from it.
you guys should ask messed up kids who killed bullies or techears....ask them if they felt good after revenge
Doing nothing at all is just letting the wrongdoers get away with it.
It's good when you get a person that has done something bad to you, but it's not a good thing if you're thinking about revenge, it eats you up inside. In other words it's a double edged sword
Revenge when done right is always sweet.
I took revenge. It was incredible. I feel like I can move on now,
Revenge is great. Iv'e gotten soooo much of it. Even in games. Like on Warcraft back in the day, I got kicked from a once great guild because of someone else's actions. They forgot to remove one of my characters that had bank access. I robbed it clean. Over 300,000 gold worth of items sold on the auction house. I was set for life and the guild fell apart with fighting and drama. They never figured out who that alt belonged to. It was awesome and I'm still proud of it. They kicked the wrong guy. :D It wasn't in real life but it's still my favorite. There's no feeling like hitting the bad guy twice as hard as they hit you.
Revenge: If i burn you burn with me.
I don’t believe in revenge although I believe in retribution and justice
How else are bad people going to learn to stop being bad? They have to be punished.
@3:19
the best revenge is to seek peace with the person.
I don't think you came to the correct conclusion. The best revenge is to get an apology - an acknowledgement of wrongdoing.
Today i took revenge from my co-worker. I felt amazing. Though i used revenge to teach her a lesson. Last night the upsetting and degrading feeling kept me awake and restless. Today i felt light and more focused. (No regrets).
I almost had my best friend's abusive (now ex) boyfriend jumped after he threw her by the throat at me into a couch. I had people more than willing to get my revenge for me. The only reason I didn't use my connections is that she begged me not to. So I called the cops on him at every opportunity whenever I knew he hurt her. She did manage to get out and for that I am endlessly grateful. But I must have called a dozen times. I still hate that fucker for everything he did to my best friend.
The reason she didn't want you to get revenge for her is mostly because the law would probably be on his side. In addition, pre-meditated motor has even more severe consequences. If it wasn't for this I'm pretty sure she wouldn't care less.
Oh... Baby I couldn't disagree with you more.... Revenge saved me from killing myself after cheating.
Revenge could be putting someone in their place after being a shit to you.
Revenge is the best feeling you can experience 🤣🤣🤣
Jules: wait is revenge ice cream
Me: mmmmhhmm ice cream, time for revenge
best revenge is not doing anything at all?!!!! yeah what if what happend to batman parents happend to you what would you do? move on and not doing anything while the killer is out there still alive drinking vodka?!!! revenge is judgement and justice that youre the one that decide retribution where public law cant do
Everyone is sadistic
We just keep it in check.
Did they take disposition into account? Maybe the people who took revenge in those experiments held onto their anger because they were predisposed to holding grudges, whereas the people who get over their anger more quickly are less likely to take revenge because they expect to get over it anyway.
I still feel bad about my old bully's, even 10 years later I want them to suffer as I did..
They probably have, karma take cares of it self, just focus on letting go and moving forward.
revenge is worth it when u see the person who did you wrong mad, angry or crying feels great
For you, but for me? Not so much.
Yea
My housemate dented my fridge and sink basin, scratched my plates and bowls, blunted and chipped my knives and broke my coffee plunger and put it back in the cupboard. Then after I lost it, she asked if maybe I was focusing on things that wasn’t very important, so I damaged most of the belongings she had in the kitchen and put them back. I said nothing. She’s scared of me now and so she should be.
I dont take revenge. I only administer the punishment.
Revenge is effen GREAT… when it’s warranted.. No regrets..and I have my closer
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