ABOUT THE D&D ONE, I feel like there NEEDS to be a session zero where you not only get to meet everyone's character but also the people. See how they play, act, roleplay, and set boundaries. Please as a DM, do your players a favor by having a session zero with everyone.
I feel like leftists do not talk about Russian colonialism nearly enough. I’ve heard many say they stand with Ukraine but be completely unaware that Ukraine is not the first nor will it be the last
Maybe in America, but here in Europe every country think that that they're probably the next country to be taken. So Russia is talked about a lot. the problem is that while plenty of people talk about Russia because they feel threatened, they don't think Israel will attack us (minority of Muslims in west Europe and Islamophobia is prevalent) so every non leftist kinda just ignore the genocide (even some leftists actually).i guess center of interest really depends on what the people are afflicted by in that area
US leftists are stuck on the US idea of black/white race, combined with "only Europe did colonialism" (ask Japan about that, buddy), and you end up with people who literally do not understand or care that pale skin doesn't stop you from being victims of colonialism. And some of them are tankies so they're pro-Russia because the US hates it so it must automatically be great! /s
i just learned that im allergic to mosquitoes. apparently mosquitoes bites aren’t supposed to itch and be painful for days and swell up. my whole body is covered in scars from mosquito bites lol
As someone from the UK I'm really worried about the violent, racist, and anti-immigrant riots that are happening right now. No one I know from the leftist spaces I'm following are talking about them.
For the Billie eilish one. Didn't she wear baggy clothes to avoid sexualisation as a minor ? I feel like her style wasn't pertaining to some cultural thing but more of a view of her own body image and presentation. The way a woman dresses as always been under severe scrutiny so I can't help but have a slight feeling that the opinion is influenced by (internalized) misogyny. It's not like she was wearing a kanzu or a dashiki, they were just baggy clothes
And that clothing style is Black American culture the examples given in the original commenters post were African culture. So yes it is still appropriation.
How normal people come out: Hey, I’m gay/lesbian/bi/trans/etc How I came out: I um uh… so you know how there’s rainbows? And uh.. and like rainbows… and you know the movie Mulan? So like the rainbow… and you know the character Shang?? Insert like forty minutes of me trying to come up with the words to say “I’m bi” and a very confused sister
Basically me to my parents about demisexual: Hey mom? You know how there's gay people? Well- you also know how there's lesbians? [At the time I still used she/her and the such] well, there's something called asexual- I'm sort of that but you know demigods are only part god? So demisexual is basically asexual but part kinda like demigod and you don't start feeling stuff until you get to know them and become friends for awhile. [I still have not come out to them as demi boy but I believe the signs have been crystal clear enough]
As a D&D player, that DM is at fault for not stopping that player in that skit from stomping on that druid's animal companion. how the fuck do you just let that slide. I thought the skit was about how female-presenting people are often treated like shit in TTRPG spaces. This is why, at my table, you WILL NOT be allowed to intentionally kill or break something that is part of another player's character. that's an instant boot from the table in my book. you just don't do that. (yes i know it's a fictional skit but still)
@@tankiegirl I’ve played that class before and it’s so fucking easy to not be edgy, idk why it is known as *THE* “edgy class” hell, wizards have necromancers, there are also oath breakers and grave clarics
Hey! If you go are in a homophobic/transphobic place, but have a book that is visibly queer, you can use paper bags and tape to make a cover! If anyone asks, just say you don't want the cover to get scratched.
The DND one infuriated me. I had a player who refused to fight NPCs with literally no purpose other than to be fought. He kept trying to “talk it out” with level one bandits and stuff. Eventually he stopped showing up and no one missed him.
Yikes. Yeah, it’s one thing to have a passive character, trying to talk things out at first, and have that be a character flaw in need of an arch and growth. But another thing to just ruin all plans in D&D in the name of “no violence ever”. Like hun…it has a fighting system, lol.
also guitars (and bass guitars)! rivers cuomo's guitar looks really cool in my opinion and if i did play guitar i would definitely put as many stickers as humanly possible on it.
Thinking about the time I tried passing better by mimicking the boys around me, but most of them were black, so I accidentally started imitating them in a way that was n o t ok for me to imitate as a white person, so I just stopped talking bc I didn't want to appropriate and I felt so bad 😭
Had to have a whole talk with my (partially really conservative, partially liberal) family about politics which boiled down to me saying I do not feel the need to tolerate intolerant people and that yeah I get angry when conservative people use arguments which I know are factually incorrect. But got told that that's my opinion and that's their opinion and that I'll not be happy in life if I end friendships over political differences. Some solid opinions were explained to me but majority I felt were just "just let it go and accept their opinion (even if it's based on misinformation and lies)". Oh well...
What I basically wanted to say was: In this leftist bubble, conservatives are often depicted as people you cannot reason with at all or you should try to "convert". Am I in the wrong for thinking that I just want to coexist with conservatives, but don't accept their opinions if I think it's factually/emotionally/logically bs? Like I could coexist with them if politics don't come up, but the "it's just dark humor why are you jumping straight into a political argument and yeah the fact that I only make such jokes about minorities isn't political at all" people really rile me up. I'm trying to figure out everyone's opinion here while at the same time trying to look outside "our echo-chamber", but at the same time I kinda already believe this. I'm trying to attempt to convince myself that I'm open to changing my mind for the sake of people I hold dearly that say I need to be more open, but I think at the same time that I then fall into the "tolerating intolerance isn't tolerance" trap. Because people say in the future I eventually will need to be more open about who I befriend regardless of political mindset but in the end, politics is all about how we see people, people's actions and people's rights, and I'm honestly simply not open to befriending someone who I know wants certain people to have less rights than others based on arguments that most of the time are debunkable and founded on prejudice.
You don't have to be tolerant of intolerant people. There are people of all political opinions that will have a principled conversation and treat you with a basic level of respect.
about the tiktok at 11:55 , (relevant info: i am white, transmasc and autistic) the idea that the solution is for people to mask doesnt seem like it will work to me, and while ive found masking in certain ways has been helpfull for me in not doing certain microaggressions related to specific social cues but i feel like its not really the best solution for white tears, mostly because not everyone can reliably mask and i feel like "i cant control my facial expressions reliably" is less of an excuse and more a facet of the problem that needs to be accounted for in order for the solution to reliably work if that makes sense, i like the solution of just leave though because i personally have very emotional reactions to things and in the past thats whats works the best for me, it does often get seen as sort of rude though so i like to follow up with a text message or if possible in the moment explain why im leaving but its very hard because most often im in a fight or flight response. I also want to bring up that for alot of people including myself masking involves playing into social hierarchy and could make some situations worse, pre transition the way i would mask was to act very pitiable and meek, fawning to the maximum kind of thing, and based on personal experience sometimes leaving is seen as less socially acceptable than white tears is if someone is in an environment where the norm is to be racist and ableist and the person is playing into hierarchy with themself in the white woman section. i can see how this could lead to white women tears(intentional or not) being what they default to in a moment of panic. because of this i think an essential part of avoiding doing white tears as a white autistic person is being able to recognize the ways you play into hierarchies in your masking and have an alternative thing planned for situations where that could hurt people of color. but idk for certain, this is a conversation im really interested in personally and i would love to hear what people think about this!
I just came out to my sibling (I have been worrying about that for like two years). And it went great :) We had a 1 hour conversation. Of Which like 59 minutes were spent talking about the quality of different buttons (the ones that don't make a click sound are really shit in our opinion), Linux (Linux>>>>>>>>>>) and other tech stuff lol
Really disagree on the Billie eilish thing. Can we collectively stop fighting about culture and style and fashion things and move on? Nitpicking people’s style is not gonna help end racism, cultures mix, it’s human nature, isolating “black” things to black people and “white” things to white people is doing nothing but making people upset. Of course blatant appropriation and such is bad but imo this is just over the top and driving people away from the community. As someone who lives in Europe and was raised here, this has never been that much of an issue in my country. There isn’t an established community here compared to the black community of the US, but we have similar ethnic groups and aside from occasional appropriation there is no such issue with separating cultures for the sake of respect here. Personally I used to feel like due to being white I had no right to feel bad about myself, being born an autistic child, diagnosed only at 16 and having resulting trauma from being treated absolutely horribly throughout my entire childhood + feeling like an alien. I have worked on these internal biases but people who say things like these occasionally bring such feelings back and kinda make me feel bad abt my skin color (don’t argue with me on this. This is my perception and telling me it’s wrong is not gonna do anything). I don’t want anyone else to feel this way, ESPECIALLY new people in leftist spaces, so I disagree with this nitpicking of cultural stuff.
2:45 - 8:34 No hate to this person but I don't agree with her takes AT ALLLLLL, like I get where she's coming from but I feel like she's way off the mark with her criticism. First of all, the way a person dresses and the music that they make doesn't have to match. Their whole existence doesn't have to be tied to just one aesthetic and pushing people into boxes like this is really fucking weird. And you could argue that this creator doesn't mean to imply that, but then why bring it up twice? It's clearly bothering her. Second of all, yes baggy clothes are iconic to the black scene, especially to the rap scene, but they don't belong to just black people or rappers. We all have a right to fashion ourselves however the fuck we want to, and it doesn't have to be a statement or anything, aside from the fact that you like that style and wearing it makes you feel good. She wasn't appropriating the culture, she was appreciating the culture, and those are very different imo. As well, Billie is known to have had body insecurities in her teens, so she wore baggy clothing to hide her body as well, and this is well known. I know some people will bring up all her chains and rings, but if you listen to her interviews at the time you'll know that 99% of them were gifts from her friends and family, because they knew she likes the look of them. Again, appreciation, not appropriation. Third, the fact that she started to overcome her body dysmorphia and started embracing her femininity is a great and wonderful thing. I think that deciding to wear corsets in response to all the people that shamed her body after they found out why she wore baggy clothes is really fucking brave, and a big fuck you to all of those people. Why white femininity? Well...she is white. And more than that, she was asked to write a song for the Barbie soundtrack, so marketing wise it just made a lot of sense to lean into that vibe. Tbh it worked great, and it was on a topic that was very near and dear to her heart. If the switch bothered you, it says more about you than about her. Fourth, in the scale of things, her femininity era was really a blip in her career, propagated by the opportunity to overcome some personal insecurities and to market the Barbie movie. When she felt like that chapter was closed, she returned to her default, alternative style clothing. Because whether you like it or not, alternative has always been what Billie has been about, and coming out has very little to do with it, aside from affirming once again to her audience that this is who she is. She's having fun with styles and forms of expression and the people that make a big deal out of that are the fucking weirdest to me. Who has so much time to be upset about how other people dress, when they're not hurting anybody (aside from your imaginary offenses, sorry not sorry) and doesn't INTEND to hurt anybody either? Gurl if it bothers you turn the phone off, we out here. ( + Tbf I don't know Billie's exact phrasing here, but saying that the rap scene has issues is not wrong whatsoever. If you take offense to that, it's because you don't wanna admit it to yourself.) Also as an aside, criticising someone's music while you're trying to criticize someone's actions make you look biased, it's not a great look. You're addressing the artist, not the art, stick to that message. So, yeah, that's all I had to say. That clip really grinded my gears.
2 things: 1, i don’t know nor have i ever heard about the clip with her talking about the rap scene (i’m not much of a billie eilish follower), but saying that it has problems is kinda weird considering other things because everything has issues, especially media, so it point that out specifically is kinda strange, but idk maybe it fits in what they were talking about in the interview?? and 2, the blaccent is a pretty clear indication of her style being from black people and you didn’t bring it up at all.
@@cottagecore_rose For the first thing, again I haven't seen it either so I'm just gonna stop us both from speculating on this point. Second, Billie does not have a blaccent. If she ever had a phase or a moment in an interview from what I understand her brother snapped her out of it. We all had phases when we were teens, I don't think it's a bad thing as long as she's not doing it now, which from what I've seen she hasn't been. Furthermore, you say "her style being from black people" like it's a bad thing. It's not. In fact, it'd kind of be impossible for her style to not be inspired by it even if just the tiniest bit. I just don't see the issue, she's not harming the culture in any way. And to put in a bit of background, a lot of people forget but Billie was one of the celebrity minors Drake is known to have been texting in the past. Who knows wtf he told her, but she's not doing it now.
2:45 the reason she dressed like that was to avoid being sexualized while she was still a minor. she feels like she can dress more comfortably now that she's an adult
4:46 wasnt billie eillish dressing in baggy clothes cus she was a minor woman with a large chest living under the patriarchy? i mean yall saw the internet's reaction when she went outside in a tanktop for the first time also for the last one. im not gonna mask my autism and pretend i understand everything or even anything thats going on and thus burn myself out to high hell. i will be respectful if i do misunderstand something but i wont pretend to understand something when i dont,
That whole clipped bugged the crap out of me. white people pretending to be black is a problem, i'm not going to argue that point. But "dressing as you sound"? what? I've seen time and time again progressives twisting themselves into new forms of policing gender and self expression.
On a related note to the dnd one i did run a one shot with some friends where i told them all privately to be problem player and then tossed them into a simple adventure. It was hilarious.
With my fam in a new state for a vacation right now, and been happy to actually get to experience community and to forage a lot. 🥺👍🏻 I got to play with a snail on a morning walk, found some pine needles already dried and then soaked by the rain, and loads of rocks and seashells. Been crafting like crazy and it feels so good.
Anyone spend money on things that make them happy via parent resources because you know you won’t be able to do so once on your own and want nice things to use for that time like physical media and toys?
Depends on the budget you want (if you're working with something small get loads of cardboard, you can do almost everything with cardboard, it's just not very durable) if you're working on your own wigs for the first time don't buy mesh and everything, get one that's the right color and pretty long,styling it takes time but everyone can do it. If you need more advice on specific stuff either reply to the comment with your question or I can give you a mean to reach out to me (not a professional but I like to think I'm decent)
@@LyoHaliotis I don't think any of that should be done, yet. Simple cosplay to start. A character that peoeple might not even realize you are cosplaying. But it gets you in the groove. Just certain clothes and some accessories maybe.
@@Denerierax I think a cosplay should make you feel proud of having done it so that you don't give up after the first, but it really depends on the person making it. Working EVA foam is effective at getting people hooked on cosplay and my goal is to create more crafting addicts to share tips with. My best memories about cosplay is con crunch with a few friends so I might just be a bit too extreme, but I don't want the og Commenter to feel like they have to go small because they're starting, moreso if they're good with their hands and have a few tools. Depends on them in the end
13:32 This. Like if I get mad at someone and wanna stand up, I have to take into account if that could put my friend, a POC, in danger and not do it if it does. Their safety is more important. Emotional regulation skills help with this a lot, along with actively paying attention to what puts POC in danger and working to keep that away from them. Edit: Also, I am femme presenting and use she/he, so fall into the “white woman” category in terms of how people often view me. Still applies even tho aim NB because I’m female and white.
i come asking for advice yet again: i’ve been meaning to do a little more reading aside from the books i can’t yet afford. how do you actually find your sources? when doing critical research, how do you find sources that are actually reliable instead of stumbling upon pages and pages of short and condensed articles from bigger magazines and blogs? (follow-up question: i’ve seen multiple tiktoks on these compilations including this one that mention fashion in black culture. do you guys have any further reading you’d recommend?)
Tw demanding Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break
Living on ibuprofen while on vacation with my fam where we have daily activities and lots of walking/mire walking than my usual. 😭 Been doing okay, and as long as I don’t forget my meds to help my GI issues I am not debilitated.
Yall am I the only one that is slightly confused with the “white gays acting like the opposite gender but black thing”? I feel like it is valid with some people but a lot of times that I’ve observed, at least with white gay guys, they act like white women more- like there are definitely ppl that do act like what yall r talking about but I feel like there are more that just act like the opposite gender of the same race Ykwim? Idk. Also I feel like with the Billie eilish thing, I understand what yall are saying but at the same time, how come her style has to mach her music-? Like there are SO MANY ARTISTS who dress COMPLETELY DIFFERENT from what you think they would based off of their music, so I feel like that specific part of the argument makes no sense. Idk, if someone could explain it better please do bc I’m having a hard time and I want to understand it better.
I should get my original account unbanned here. It's so annoying to have to get up and go to my computer just to leave comments here every day. Since I'm gonna be here regardless, it would be much appreciated.
@@_kandi_enthuziazt Eh. I don't expect people to say the same things everytime. They've done studies where basically they would give people tests, a lot of the questions basically said the same thing, but they were worded differently, and people would answer the questions differently.
sooo you’re just ban evading? that’s a good way to get banned a second time lol. plus you’re kinda rude in some people’s replies, don’t think that’ll help either
ABOUT THE D&D ONE, I feel like there NEEDS to be a session zero where you not only get to meet everyone's character but also the people. See how they play, act, roleplay, and set boundaries.
Please as a DM, do your players a favor by having a session zero with everyone.
Session zero is almost necessary with a new group
I feel like leftists do not talk about Russian colonialism nearly enough. I’ve heard many say they stand with Ukraine but be completely unaware that Ukraine is not the first nor will it be the last
this!!!
Maybe in America, but here in Europe every country think that that they're probably the next country to be taken. So Russia is talked about a lot. the problem is that while plenty of people talk about Russia because they feel threatened, they don't think Israel will attack us (minority of Muslims in west Europe and Islamophobia is prevalent) so every non leftist kinda just ignore the genocide (even some leftists actually).i guess center of interest really depends on what the people are afflicted by in that area
US leftists are stuck on the US idea of black/white race, combined with "only Europe did colonialism" (ask Japan about that, buddy), and you end up with people who literally do not understand or care that pale skin doesn't stop you from being victims of colonialism. And some of them are tankies so they're pro-Russia because the US hates it so it must automatically be great! /s
@@LyoHaliotis eh, but that’s more fear of Russia vs acknowledging its colonial wrongdoings.
I am proud to announce I've changed my name in honor of this comment section.
i just learned that im allergic to mosquitoes. apparently mosquitoes bites aren’t supposed to itch and be painful for days and swell up. my whole body is covered in scars from mosquito bites lol
Oof. Ya, I have this on a small scale. They get all dark pink and big, then itch for a few days, and usually leave little dark or tan spots.
I finally got a library card!!! Access to so many more books!!
ooo i’m so excited for you!! i love libraries so muchh
yay, nice! :3
8:27 omfg I didn't even know this was happening, genuinely mind-boggling how people really view disabled people, and especially disabled Palestinians.
As someone from the UK I'm really worried about the violent, racist, and anti-immigrant riots that are happening right now. No one I know from the leftist spaces I'm following are talking about them.
Most Communists have been posting about it
Example: ruclips.net/user/postUgkxLI-uRlM0-BfD7fB7BPX7RWWTVGI_4-Q2?si=xvqYN4BVgZDg5OKw
For the Billie eilish one. Didn't she wear baggy clothes to avoid sexualisation as a minor ? I feel like her style wasn't pertaining to some cultural thing but more of a view of her own body image and presentation. The way a woman dresses as always been under severe scrutiny so I can't help but have a slight feeling that the opinion is influenced by (internalized) misogyny. It's not like she was wearing a kanzu or a dashiki, they were just baggy clothes
Yeah that’s what I was thinking
yeah she said before that it was because she was insecure
I don’t get that either, it was nothing cultural at all, it’s just a clothing style?
And that clothing style is Black American culture the examples given in the original commenters post were African culture. So yes it is still appropriation.
@@alheiye It's incredibly racist to say baggy clothes is a black people thing.
How normal people come out: Hey, I’m gay/lesbian/bi/trans/etc
How I came out: I um uh… so you know how there’s rainbows? And uh.. and like rainbows… and you know the movie Mulan? So like the rainbow… and you know the character Shang??
Insert like forty minutes of me trying to come up with the words to say “I’m bi” and a very confused sister
fool
@@Denerierax?
Basically me to my parents about demisexual:
Hey mom? You know how there's gay people? Well- you also know how there's lesbians? [At the time I still used she/her and the such] well, there's something called asexual- I'm sort of that but you know demigods are only part god? So demisexual is basically asexual but part kinda like demigod and you don't start feeling stuff until you get to know them and become friends for awhile.
[I still have not come out to them as demi boy but I believe the signs have been crystal clear enough]
@@luminousmistakes honestly that’s a kinda good way to explain it loll
@@luminousmistakes I hate the "demi" things, cause its just like. ITs unnecessary. it doesn't need to be a term.
As a D&D player, that DM is at fault for not stopping that player in that skit from stomping on that druid's animal companion. how the fuck do you just let that slide. I thought the skit was about how female-presenting people are often treated like shit in TTRPG spaces. This is why, at my table, you WILL NOT be allowed to intentionally kill or break something that is part of another player's character. that's an instant boot from the table in my book. you just don't do that. (yes i know it's a fictional skit but still)
If I was playing at this table I would probably never play D&D again (or just not have that guy play again)
"Edgy Rogue goes to stomp on your squirrel friend, enable PVP"
@@tankiegirl I’ve played that class before and it’s so fucking easy to not be edgy, idk why it is known as *THE* “edgy class” hell, wizards have necromancers, there are also oath breakers and grave clarics
@@user-bl1te8bh9c Rogues and Bards end up with busted skills so players that want to be disruptive can get the dice to fall in their favor
Ya, unless there is a way to revive or fix it and you can “punish” them via stupid side quests to do so, ya.
Hey! If you go are in a homophobic/transphobic place, but have a book that is visibly queer, you can use paper bags and tape to make a cover! If anyone asks, just say you don't want the cover to get scratched.
The DND one infuriated me. I had a player who refused to fight NPCs with literally no purpose other than to be fought. He kept trying to “talk it out” with level one bandits and stuff. Eventually he stopped showing up and no one missed him.
Yikes. Yeah, it’s one thing to have a passive character, trying to talk things out at first, and have that be a character flaw in need of an arch and growth. But another thing to just ruin all plans in D&D in the name of “no violence ever”. Like hun…it has a fighting system, lol.
Things you can sticker
Binders (school binder)
Papers
Books
Bottles (like perfume, etc)
Headphones
Laptop, computers, iPhone, iPads
You.
Reusable water bottle
Suitcase
Fridge
Guitars + guitar case
Lamps
Buckets
That is true. All of those are capable of putting stickers on.
also guitars (and bass guitars)! rivers cuomo's guitar looks really cool in my opinion and if i did play guitar i would definitely put as many stickers as humanly possible on it.
be careful putting stickers on yourself! the adhesive can be extremely itchy if you have sensitive skin
School id cards too, assumably
Stop signs. Trash cans. Laundry baskets. Walls. Railroad arms. Telephone poles. Flag poles. Lamp posts. Fences. A Trumpie's car. Phone case. Wallets. Soda machines. Any vending machines. Pet's food bowls.
List goes on.
the hell, even I don’t like my gender, what are they trying to one-up me on?
1:29 okay but I definitely needed to hear this one
Same mannn
Most of us wont see 2030 if we keep destroying the planet and trying to start WW3.
I just put on trans tape for the first time :D It’s kinda itchy, but it makes me look flatter than I was (although binders usually work better for me)
Oo good job! Make sure to be extremely careful when taking it off though, I know it causes blisters if you remove it bad
Thinking about the time I tried passing better by mimicking the boys around me, but most of them were black, so I accidentally started imitating them in a way that was n o t ok for me to imitate as a white person, so I just stopped talking bc I didn't want to appropriate and I felt so bad 😭
Had to have a whole talk with my (partially really conservative, partially liberal) family about politics which boiled down to me saying I do not feel the need to tolerate intolerant people and that yeah I get angry when conservative people use arguments which I know are factually incorrect. But got told that that's my opinion and that's their opinion and that I'll not be happy in life if I end friendships over political differences. Some solid opinions were explained to me but majority I felt were just "just let it go and accept their opinion (even if it's based on misinformation and lies)". Oh well...
What I basically wanted to say was: In this leftist bubble, conservatives are often depicted as people you cannot reason with at all or you should try to "convert". Am I in the wrong for thinking that I just want to coexist with conservatives, but don't accept their opinions if I think it's factually/emotionally/logically bs? Like I could coexist with them if politics don't come up, but the "it's just dark humor why are you jumping straight into a political argument and yeah the fact that I only make such jokes about minorities isn't political at all" people really rile me up. I'm trying to figure out everyone's opinion here while at the same time trying to look outside "our echo-chamber", but at the same time I kinda already believe this. I'm trying to attempt to convince myself that I'm open to changing my mind for the sake of people I hold dearly that say I need to be more open, but I think at the same time that I then fall into the "tolerating intolerance isn't tolerance" trap. Because people say in the future I eventually will need to be more open about who I befriend regardless of political mindset but in the end, politics is all about how we see people, people's actions and people's rights, and I'm honestly simply not open to befriending someone who I know wants certain people to have less rights than others based on arguments that most of the time are debunkable and founded on prejudice.
You don't have to be tolerant of intolerant people. There are people of all political opinions that will have a principled conversation and treat you with a basic level of respect.
about the tiktok at 11:55 , (relevant info: i am white, transmasc and autistic)
the idea that the solution is for people to mask doesnt seem like it will work to me, and while ive found masking in certain ways has been helpfull for me in not doing certain microaggressions related to specific social cues but i feel like its not really the best solution for white tears, mostly because not everyone can reliably mask and i feel like "i cant control my facial expressions reliably" is less of an excuse and more a facet of the problem that needs to be accounted for in order for the solution to reliably work if that makes sense,
i like the solution of just leave though because i personally have very emotional reactions to things and in the past thats whats works the best for me, it does often get seen as sort of rude though so i like to follow up with a text message or if possible in the moment explain why im leaving but its very hard because most often im in a fight or flight response.
I also want to bring up that for alot of people including myself masking involves playing into social hierarchy and could make some situations worse, pre transition the way i would mask was to act very pitiable and meek, fawning to the maximum kind of thing, and based on personal experience sometimes leaving is seen as less socially acceptable than white tears is if someone is in an environment where the norm is to be racist and ableist and the person is playing into hierarchy with themself in the white woman section. i can see how this could lead to white women tears(intentional or not) being what they default to in a moment of panic.
because of this i think an essential part of avoiding doing white tears as a white autistic person is being able to recognize the ways you play into hierarchies in your masking and have an alternative thing planned for situations where that could hurt people of color.
but idk for certain, this is a conversation im really interested in personally and i would love to hear what people think about this!
I just came out to my sibling
(I have been worrying about that for like two years).
And it went great :)
We had a 1 hour conversation.
Of Which like 59 minutes were spent talking about the quality of different buttons (the ones that don't make a click sound are really shit in our opinion), Linux (Linux>>>>>>>>>>) and other tech stuff lol
@@Raymond.the.commie.raccoon44 azjkdkdfkk congrats that’s so exciting!!
Really disagree on the Billie eilish thing. Can we collectively stop fighting about culture and style and fashion things and move on? Nitpicking people’s style is not gonna help end racism, cultures mix, it’s human nature, isolating “black” things to black people and “white” things to white people is doing nothing but making people upset. Of course blatant appropriation and such is bad but imo this is just over the top and driving people away from the community.
As someone who lives in Europe and was raised here, this has never been that much of an issue in my country. There isn’t an established community here compared to the black community of the US, but we have similar ethnic groups and aside from occasional appropriation there is no such issue with separating cultures for the sake of respect here.
Personally I used to feel like due to being white I had no right to feel bad about myself, being born an autistic child, diagnosed only at 16 and having resulting trauma from being treated absolutely horribly throughout my entire childhood + feeling like an alien. I have worked on these internal biases but people who say things like these occasionally bring such feelings back and kinda make me feel bad abt my skin color (don’t argue with me on this. This is my perception and telling me it’s wrong is not gonna do anything).
I don’t want anyone else to feel this way, ESPECIALLY new people in leftist spaces, so I disagree with this nitpicking of cultural stuff.
2:45 - 8:34
No hate to this person but I don't agree with her takes AT ALLLLLL, like I get where she's coming from but I feel like she's way off the mark with her criticism.
First of all, the way a person dresses and the music that they make doesn't have to match. Their whole existence doesn't have to be tied to just one aesthetic and pushing people into boxes like this is really fucking weird. And you could argue that this creator doesn't mean to imply that, but then why bring it up twice? It's clearly bothering her.
Second of all, yes baggy clothes are iconic to the black scene, especially to the rap scene, but they don't belong to just black people or rappers. We all have a right to fashion ourselves however the fuck we want to, and it doesn't have to be a statement or anything, aside from the fact that you like that style and wearing it makes you feel good. She wasn't appropriating the culture, she was appreciating the culture, and those are very different imo. As well, Billie is known to have had body insecurities in her teens, so she wore baggy clothing to hide her body as well, and this is well known.
I know some people will bring up all her chains and rings, but if you listen to her interviews at the time you'll know that 99% of them were gifts from her friends and family, because they knew she likes the look of them. Again, appreciation, not appropriation.
Third, the fact that she started to overcome her body dysmorphia and started embracing her femininity is a great and wonderful thing. I think that deciding to wear corsets in response to all the people that shamed her body after they found out why she wore baggy clothes is really fucking brave, and a big fuck you to all of those people.
Why white femininity? Well...she is white. And more than that, she was asked to write a song for the Barbie soundtrack, so marketing wise it just made a lot of sense to lean into that vibe. Tbh it worked great, and it was on a topic that was very near and dear to her heart. If the switch bothered you, it says more about you than about her.
Fourth, in the scale of things, her femininity era was really a blip in her career, propagated by the opportunity to overcome some personal insecurities and to market the Barbie movie. When she felt like that chapter was closed, she returned to her default, alternative style clothing. Because whether you like it or not, alternative has always been what Billie has been about, and coming out has very little to do with it, aside from affirming once again to her audience that this is who she is. She's having fun with styles and forms of expression and the people that make a big deal out of that are the fucking weirdest to me.
Who has so much time to be upset about how other people dress, when they're not hurting anybody (aside from your imaginary offenses, sorry not sorry) and doesn't INTEND to hurt anybody either? Gurl if it bothers you turn the phone off, we out here. ( + Tbf I don't know Billie's exact phrasing here, but saying that the rap scene has issues is not wrong whatsoever. If you take offense to that, it's because you don't wanna admit it to yourself.)
Also as an aside, criticising someone's music while you're trying to criticize someone's actions make you look biased, it's not a great look. You're addressing the artist, not the art, stick to that message. So, yeah, that's all I had to say. That clip really grinded my gears.
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When keeping it woke goes wrong: criticizing a literal child for dressing in a way to avoid sexualization.
It's just a black woman using her race to justify her internalized misogyny and homophobia
2 things: 1, i don’t know nor have i ever heard about the clip with her talking about the rap scene (i’m not much of a billie eilish follower), but saying that it has problems is kinda weird considering other things because everything has issues, especially media, so it point that out specifically is kinda strange, but idk maybe it fits in what they were talking about in the interview?? and 2, the blaccent is a pretty clear indication of her style being from black people and you didn’t bring it up at all.
@@cottagecore_rose For the first thing, again I haven't seen it either so I'm just gonna stop us both from speculating on this point.
Second, Billie does not have a blaccent. If she ever had a phase or a moment in an interview from what I understand her brother snapped her out of it. We all had phases when we were teens, I don't think it's a bad thing as long as she's not doing it now, which from what I've seen she hasn't been.
Furthermore, you say "her style being from black people" like it's a bad thing. It's not. In fact, it'd kind of be impossible for her style to not be inspired by it even if just the tiniest bit. I just don't see the issue, she's not harming the culture in any way.
And to put in a bit of background, a lot of people forget but Billie was one of the celebrity minors Drake is known to have been texting in the past. Who knows wtf he told her, but she's not doing it now.
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WHICH POKEMON.
which fucking pokemon. answer, Fiend!
@@_kandi_enthuziazt I know! Was it Snorlax? IT was probably snorlax...but what if it wasn't...I need to know!
Sorry sorry I was eating lunch good gods
It’s Marill
@@Captain_0f_Cr0wswater mouse :D
2:45 the reason she dressed like that was to avoid being sexualized while she was still a minor. she feels like she can dress more comfortably now that she's an adult
And the dnd tiktok is a prime example as to why session 0’s are important
Hahah, when I want my wardrobe to show people I’m Queer, I just stop masking and I wind up giving “Goof Troop Dads On Vacation With Glitter”
Someone teach me how to print my own stickers. I just think it would be cool
"3 Ways to Make DIY Stickers | Using Stuff You Have At Home!" by ashley diy may help you
@@LyoHaliotis thx!
I'm having a hard time watching these videos rn, but since I'm early for once, I'll leave this here as fodder for the algorythm
FROM THE RIVER TO THE SEA!!
Palestine will be free!
4:46 wasnt billie eillish dressing in baggy clothes cus she was a minor woman with a large chest living under the patriarchy? i mean yall saw the internet's reaction when she went outside in a tanktop for the first time
also for the last one. im not gonna mask my autism and pretend i understand everything or even anything thats going on and thus burn myself out to high hell. i will be respectful if i do misunderstand something but i wont pretend to understand something when i dont,
That whole clipped bugged the crap out of me. white people pretending to be black is a problem, i'm not going to argue that point. But "dressing as you sound"? what? I've seen time and time again progressives twisting themselves into new forms of policing gender and self expression.
On a related note to the dnd one i did run a one shot with some friends where i told them all privately to be problem player and then tossed them into a simple adventure. It was hilarious.
Dnd really just is whatever your table wants it to be
With my fam in a new state for a vacation right now, and been happy to actually get to experience community and to forage a lot. 🥺👍🏻 I got to play with a snail on a morning walk, found some pine needles already dried and then soaked by the rain, and loads of rocks and seashells. Been crafting like crazy and it feels so good.
Anyone spend money on things that make them happy via parent resources because you know you won’t be able to do so once on your own and want nice things to use for that time like physical media and toys?
unrelated to my last comment, but anyone have any tips on how to cosplay and finally defeat my self hatred in multiple regards
start with something small. a character that just has clothes, maybe die your hair with temporary dye. Small things.
Depends on the budget you want (if you're working with something small get loads of cardboard, you can do almost everything with cardboard, it's just not very durable) if you're working on your own wigs for the first time don't buy mesh and everything, get one that's the right color and pretty long,styling it takes time but everyone can do it. If you need more advice on specific stuff either reply to the comment with your question or I can give you a mean to reach out to me (not a professional but I like to think I'm decent)
@@LyoHaliotis I don't think any of that should be done, yet. Simple cosplay to start. A character that peoeple might not even realize you are cosplaying. But it gets you in the groove. Just certain clothes and some accessories maybe.
@@Denerierax I think a cosplay should make you feel proud of having done it so that you don't give up after the first, but it really depends on the person making it. Working EVA foam is effective at getting people hooked on cosplay and my goal is to create more crafting addicts to share tips with. My best memories about cosplay is con crunch with a few friends so I might just be a bit too extreme, but I don't want the og Commenter to feel like they have to go small because they're starting, moreso if they're good with their hands and have a few tools. Depends on them in the end
@@LyoHaliotis Good explanation. I hate you
thank you for the video!
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good job for not dying for an entire year
HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎉 🎈🎁🎂
Happy birthday comrade :)
@@majiwarusentosen HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! 🎉
Happy Birthdayyyyy!!!!!!! Hope its been and continues to be a good one :3
12:58 I literally love them sm for thinking of intersectionality
Can you help for my newborn daughter and my sister who is sick with cancer? 💔🙏🇵🇸
1:26 saving this! :D
13:32 This. Like if I get mad at someone and wanna stand up, I have to take into account if that could put my friend, a POC, in danger and not do it if it does. Their safety is more important.
Emotional regulation skills help with this a lot, along with actively paying attention to what puts POC in danger and working to keep that away from them.
Edit: Also, I am femme presenting and use she/he, so fall into the “white woman” category in terms of how people often view me. Still applies even tho aim NB because I’m female and white.
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i just got a n3w b3d :3
beds are stupidly expensive and I hate it
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@@_kandi_enthuziazt that does not surprise me.
@@D34D_G1RL_WALK1NG well, at least you got one now
@@Denerierax y3p!! :p it’s a loft b3d so i hav3 a littl3 saf3 spac3 und3r
i come asking for advice yet again:
i’ve been meaning to do a little more reading aside from the books i can’t yet afford. how do you actually find your sources? when doing critical research, how do you find sources that are actually reliable instead of stumbling upon pages and pages of short and condensed articles from bigger magazines and blogs?
(follow-up question: i’ve seen multiple tiktoks on these compilations including this one that mention fashion in black culture. do you guys have any further reading you’d recommend?)
Wikipedia sources
1:35 THE COLDPLAY IN THE BACKGROUND-
10:32 'Squibbles... no😔'
Tw demanding Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break
b-but i don’t want them to like my gender??????
im home from school time to get fanfic writing >:]
jst woke up ouigh. i love polo fromnthe friends we left behind he's so pretty - 🥧+💡
2:22 bro absolutely went off
Guys! I’m in Florida right now yay! Where should I go first? Anime store or Arts store?
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@@Denerierax huh?
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Living on ibuprofen while on vacation with my fam where we have daily activities and lots of walking/mire walking than my usual. 😭 Been doing okay, and as long as I don’t forget my meds to help my GI issues I am not debilitated.
Quick I need to settle something with a friend: All Muscle Mike or Skinless Jim? Please give input
Skinless Jim
skinless jim.
what does that mean tho??
Skinless jim
Skinless jim, I'm curious to see where this goes
awwww :33333 i saw my dog :333 she's adorable i love her - 🥧+💡
Yall am I the only one that is slightly confused with the “white gays acting like the opposite gender but black thing”? I feel like it is valid with some people but a lot of times that I’ve observed, at least with white gay guys, they act like white women more- like there are definitely ppl that do act like what yall r talking about but I feel like there are more that just act like the opposite gender of the same race Ykwim? Idk. Also I feel like with the Billie eilish thing, I understand what yall are saying but at the same time, how come her style has to mach her music-? Like there are SO MANY ARTISTS who dress COMPLETELY DIFFERENT from what you think they would based off of their music, so I feel like that specific part of the argument makes no sense. Idk, if someone could explain it better please do bc I’m having a hard time and I want to understand it better.
I should get my original account unbanned here. It's so annoying to have to get up and go to my computer just to leave comments here every day. Since I'm gonna be here regardless, it would be much appreciated.
@@_kandi_enthuziazt Yup. Did it. Let's hope it works.,
good luck!
@@_kandi_enthuziazt Eh. I don't expect people to say the same things everytime. They've done studies where basically they would give people tests, a lot of the questions basically said the same thing, but they were worded differently, and people would answer the questions differently.
@@_kandi_enthuziazt That's okay. You don't need to understand it.
sooo you’re just ban evading? that’s a good way to get banned a second time lol. plus you’re kinda rude in some people’s replies, don’t think that’ll help either
The Billie Eilish one, damn imagine being so weak 💀
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1:23 Where do you get one of these???
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Watching some more dream smp vods rn so i probably won’t be commenting for now
First! Can I get a pin?📍