What your dad did with the bride price is exactly what a lot of Binis do in payment of bride price. It signifies that they aren't selling thier daughters into marriage but would accept a little as culture demands for the bride price while the rest is handed over back to the man to ensure that he takes very good care of their daughter as the queen that she is in the family and to his new home as husband and wife.
I know an igbo guy based here in South Africa, he married a colored lady (it's not colored people's tradition here in SA to pay bride price). The igbo guy insisted on paying. And on their church wedding, the ladies parents gifted them with an envelope and inside was all the money the guy paid as bride price for their daughter. With a note written "please take care of our baby girl".
What your father did brought tears in my eyes, so emotional I love that. My father is very considerate, whatever that will make me happy is what he will do. His concern will be exactly what your father said to your husband. I am looking forward to my beautiful day. Thanks for sharing Neze😊.
Her old video came up and I watched. I just don’t understand how a woman can be so beautiful and even have a perfect voice and accent too Whatever your bridal price was, it wasn’t enough and it can never be enough you’re a true rare discovery and that’s why good things are always following you like this
I don’t really care for the scrapping of bride price but what I advocate for is consideration and conscience. The man is often young, starting out in life and is trying to find balance yet you’re bringing list that cost 2 million to satisfy...that’s wickedness. My own list upset me to my bone. Before the list could even be dealt with, the price of fish had to be negotiated and the starting price was 800k....FOR FISH??, should I talk about the drinks? They clearly used me to open wine shop. If my dad was alive, it wouldn’t have happened. Ridiculous. You’re trying to build a long lasting, loving relationship between two families not trying to make a quick buck.
Finally!!! 🙏🏿😌😌 Someone actually says a bride price amount! You know how many videos I've watched and where they're supposed to give how much the groom paid, but they never say how much. They just go over a couple of items on the list. Thank you.
Bride Price is part of our Culture, and shouldn't be scrapped but 'the list' should be reviewed.Women are practically sold in the name of bride price.The 'price' of a bride can never be' paid in 1 day.Thanks for your view on this sensitive topic 👍
Imo state is expensive and even varies from village to village... Mine was monitised.. Some money though. It's not about family, it's the umunna that produce the list. your parents have little or no say.. They will not even allow them to come close except their own person items. My dad did exactly what your dad did for the bride price..
As an Anambra woman, only the traditional and white weddings are expensive. Three hundred thousand naira can buy the items on the list. I have heard about high bride price in certain parts of Imo State but I don't know how much it is. Can someone let me know please?
This bride price issue I think is peculiar with African countries although the price and details vary from country to country, state to state to state, community to community. In my time, my dad and mum helped influence the list to be slashed for my hubby and the same was done for my sisters. As for the bride price, my dad asked the groom to bring whatever they have and ended up taking only a naira note from the bundle then returned the money because he said he isn't selling his daughters besides nothing you bring can equate the value of his daughters.
Bride price is part of our culture and I support for it to be continued as our culture is what makes us unique.We cannot forget who we are because of westernisation. I loved this video so much.Thank you beautiful Neze
great video. much insight. I'm American and found Nigerian women. she's amazing. love your culture and traditions. it will be helpful in my negotiations with her uncle. happy to pay any price. because yes her upbringing is important and to not only honor her head of household for that but her for the treasure she is. keep the tradition. you can't buy her . she is priceless. and it does make you see that and respect her more.
Neze peperempe! This is a whole "fly" look....love it. Thanks for talking about the exorbitant igbo bride price, I'm igbo myself and feel it's actually unnecessary to bill grooms that way. Ur father is a very wise man, I like the way he handled the paying of bride price. So many men end up resenting not just their in laws, but even their wife coz of the very steep bride price they paid. My first marriage, I ended up going to court here in America, rather than fulfilling tradition, I regretted it though....the marriage did not end well and my dad denied knowing I was married, after all the man never came to see him. Long story short, there's a reason why that tradition was put in place, let's adhere to it. I don't think scrapping it is a good idea. Udo 🥰
You are right: IMO and Abia State and some areas in Delta, Rivers are Expensive and a long process. Enugu, Anambra, Ebony state are cheaper and the process is not long.
The bride price issue is the same in many african countries..we do so in Zimbabwe as well u will marry a corpse if u ddnt pay bride price when the woman was still alive.the difference with your ibgo list is we dont buy things for anyone other than the father and mother of the bride.Also our bride price is not too exorbitant.
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Bride price payment is definitely a thing in the Ghanaian culture but it’s normally not a very long list, some families’ list are sometimes even just one page. But as usual, you’ll get some patents trying to take advantage of the situation. I don’t think it should be completely scrapped off but those long lists should definitely be considered and reviewed. Btw what your dad did was awesome ❤️
I’m all for the bride price. It’s our culture. I think living outside Nigeria has made me appreciate it more. People here just live together and have children and claim “we are in love.” Some get married in front of two people and their pets. When a man is willing to marry you, it’s not just telling you, it’s about showing you the extent he will go to have you. It’s about showing others the extend he will go to have you. Where your treasure is lies your heart. On that note, I do want to say that I hate exorbitant bride prices. Let it be enough to make him sweat a little but don’t open a shop on his head. Times are hard o. Great content. I love your hair.
@@leadanon127 you must be an AA thank you for calling our culture a shit but that is the big difference between and marriage and yours if you are not single parent.
I feel the whole bride price thing reduces women to a commodity. I am not in support of anyone paying anyone 'on my head'. A family celebration in the form of the traditional marriage is reasonable. Anything beyond that is a big no for me.
There is a difference between a woman you pay her bride price and the one that just pack into your house. I am an igbo man and I respect my wife till tommorow it is our culture I see women that move to their husbands house as cheap and without value.
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I can relate... I am from Abia state and the first day I told my husband were I’m from he has to prepare himself ooo. My husband’s friends till date still teases me that he spent all his savings just to marry me. The list was much because he’s from Enugu state but my Dad intervened and majority of the items was monetised cos the bride price payment and traditional marriage was same day.The fight was not funny especially my mother in law that wanted her son to marry from their state. I saw fire staying with her for two years but thank God I’m not with her anymore
Applied in full force oo! Men don’t appreciate ‘kindness’. What I like about bride price from your neck over the woods is the fact that your m egg n don’t like to re- visit that subject any time too soon , needing to recover ( as in marrying a second ). Bride price in my culture is very cheap and I feel being that cheap. devalues the woman in that ‘ the man didn’t sweat to get you . I am from Ghana and I look at the lobola paid in Southern Africa, with envy
Monetization of the bride price is the problem. It is mostly done based on greed. What’s wrong with 2k bride price and a list of three to five inexpensive items that the groom can buy. That aside, well done on your channel and videos. They are very helpful.
There's nothing wrong with our culture. however, some families think that's a way to recoup what they spent in the training and or rearing of their daughters, which is wrong. No. Nezenwa, in Anambra, the list is generally not as long at all. In many Anambra towns, the list is the same for every girl no matter how educated or not, and in some the pride price cannot go higher than a fixed amount. Yet, in some other Anambra towns, the pride price could be any amount (ridiculous), but what's actually paid is fractions. In-laws are generally seen as part of the families not customers or source of enrichment. Your dad's last act was priceless, and that's how fulfilled people do it.😁
Its the same in the southern part of Ghana, some families are very moderate but others charge depending on the educational background of the bride .There are instances where the church gives out the list
Bride price is different from the list. Bride price is just a token & shouldn't be scrapped...The list is where the issue is. The items on the list should be reduced drastically. I am from Imo State. People should know that marriage list is not the same in the whole state. Every village & family have theirs. Some are not that expensive as people say or assume.
Hey, I'm from South Africa and the bride price we call it Magadi/Lobola is IMPORTANTER 🤣than anything, that's the actual marriage!!! You can't have a proper wedding celebration without doing that first step,should you decide to do otherwise it will be considered taboo.
Haha absolutely sis... it's extremely IMPORTANTER 😆 but only with us Africans, it's not a big deal with the whites and coloured people here in South Africa.
Thank you so much for this very informative video explaining in detail the Igbo bride price process, I am a foreigner from New York city otherwise known as Onyeocha or Oyinbo😄I will be marrying an igbo woman from Delta state so this video was perfectly explained the process I will be undertaking by God's grace...U have a new subscriber🙌🏽
The "idea" of bride price is a good tradition and it should be symbolic. A man should show he is capable of taking care of his wife in front of her parents and extended family. The list however should be adjusted or adjustable so every man can marry without begrudging his wife or her family.
Thank you Nezeville for a complete and concise video on a proper explanation of the differences in the list, the bride price and the dowry. I have shared this video among my Jamaican 🇯🇲🌴 people for the purposes of education, knowledge and pleasant experience. The Introduction will be our engagement party to our guests with the serious responsibility of the beginning of the marriage rites. My Igbo partner who is not thrilled about the traditions of his culture, I will insist that he wouldnt have anything to worry about any exorbitant and exploitive family here, as Jamaicans are not familiar with African marriage rites as I know it. It's in my best interest to implement a suggested way to handle what should be negotiable without the greed and resentful payments of the bride's list. Preemptively, a list will be produced that is fair and equitable. In fact I will want the family (not extended) to borrow the traditions of the yorubas and give back some of those monetised gifts. My partner will be marrying into a good family who will not take such horrible advantage. But I insist as my rights of passage, I will use the very wisdom of your dad in respect of the payment of this time honoured tradition to make the minimal bride price amount to be paid after the amount will have been already offered. I am so thankful to God that I have this opportunity to set the proper standards of traditions that must by all account be seen as a gift and a token of appreciation. It will be seen as great lesson learned as we celebrate this in my home town of Bristol England 🇬🇧 Blessings to you 🙏 🙌 ❤ 😊
Yeah, I agree there should be a say the how much she want her bride price should tbe because I feel like the high bride price make man feels like it’s a way to treat the women any type of way because they have paid for that they have all control
No No...plz do not scrape bride price . It is a symbolic lbo culture for a marriage , however it should not be exploitative nor valued/ fixed according to educational or economic value potentials of the bride. It is only a cultural or traditional symbolic fulfillment of our marriage rites or system. Thank you.
Neze, bride price is never the problem in anyway! In 2020 I paid #500 for my wife n total cost was 250k. For proper marriage according to guidelines with without traditional marriage. N culturally I am legally married to her other things are choices but I gave them 450k cus I am in abroad. I think the list for the family is the problem from some Igbo people.my woman is from Enugwu state.
Honestly I don't like embarrassment, let me go and respect myself; I'm not yet ready for all these extravagant list... I'm not yet ready, let me find my feet first..
Lastly this is why alot of Nigerian men abroad are not dating Nigerian women here. Sadly alot are so westernized they have lost the root, culture and Traditions.
I am loving this conversation 😂 i cant believe I haven't found your page before. I'm a young lady from imo state living in South Africa. So my dad follows tradition to a certain extent but he is never the type to follow tradition if he doesnt agree with it. As an only daughter my father loves me beyond measures and he always wants my happiness first. So that mess of uncle's who have never done anything for me saying something my father can even tell them to shut up😂 I see my dad doing the same thing I'm his egg so my father wouldn't want a man to think he bought me after everything my father has done for me. my future husband wont ever be able to afford everything my father's done for me. especially as a only daughter studying law and a beautiful hard working girl at that😂😂
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Imo and Abia states need to make necessary amendments to the bride price and the list, just like their Anambra brethen whose list is reasonable. Discussion about this bride price and listings need to carry-on because many Imo and Abia women may most likely be single. It needs to reviewed to encourage future generations to get married without any stress and complications. I am for traditional marriage, but let us not make it harder than life's journey. My humble recommendations. Thank you for giving orientation about the Igbo cultural traditional marriage.
That dowry/bride price does it mean that men pays double in Imo state because I know that in Anambra state it just once that any man pay which is the bride price.
Hahahahaha am from the south western part of Cameroon, and the bride price culture from my place is exactly similar to the igbos. Cam hear them ''my daughter is a medical doctor in the US, my daughter went to school in the UK, my daughter is an engineer, my daughter is a civil servant'' like you can die of laughter in such events.
Bride price is a very important aspect of marriage in my country to be specific Sierra Leone, and it varies from tribe to tribe( we dont have a specific amount to be paid as bride price) it all depends on the family you are marrying into. Some can be reasonable, and others can be something else. Nowadays, things are gradually changing and westernising. Another point to note is that I think it is a conventional practice across West Africa. A bride price can come in the form of cola nut or other traditional items based on request from the bride's family.
Very informative. Thank you for sharing. Can you tell me what factors cause a bride price to fluctuate? If education level increases the price, does things like age decrease the price? Also does the bride-to-be always know what her father or family set the bride price at or does that remain unknown to her?
@@Nezeville didn't have to even deal with a brides list. Wife's family said we're not poor and we have everything we want and need. They were more concerned about how our marriage will be. Thank god
My boyfriend is from imo state he have sister's and he is telling me that he is not a tradition man so no traditional marriage because there are ladies out there that just want the man to see their parents and that's all
My wife’s bride price was 750k cfa in Cameroon and the list of things to be purchased which is not part of the bride price amounted to about 650k cfa, my father in-law was not ready for it to be slashed, that wasn’t pleasant as slashing oF brideprice is even part of the process even if the groom has it all
The problem in Igbo marriage is that it shows greed and eventually enslaves the bride eventually. If the woman eventually cannot stay with the man she will not be able to leave as she and her family cannot afford to return the money and gifts. Thankfully some states like Anambra have stepped into it to reduce the slave trade.
The igbos and their long lists three of my uncle's married ibo ladies and believe they have to pay through their nose you know what I meant, the ibos should find a way to minimize their marriage list
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What your dad did with the bride price is exactly what a lot of Binis do in payment of bride price. It signifies that they aren't selling thier daughters into marriage but would accept a little as culture demands for the bride price while the rest is handed over back to the man to ensure that he takes very good care of their daughter as the queen that she is in the family and to his new home as husband and wife.
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I know an igbo guy based here in South Africa, he married a colored lady (it's not colored people's tradition here in SA to pay bride price). The igbo guy insisted on paying. And on their church wedding, the ladies parents gifted them with an envelope and inside was all the money the guy paid as bride price for their daughter. With a note written "please take care of our baby girl".
It shouldn't be scraped, its part of our culture but it should be moderated. I loved this video.
What your father did brought tears in my eyes, so emotional I love that. My father is very considerate, whatever that will make me happy is what he will do. His concern will be exactly what your father said to your husband. I am looking forward to my beautiful day. Thanks for sharing Neze😊.
Her old video came up and I watched.
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I don’t really care for the scrapping of bride price but what I advocate for is consideration and conscience. The man is often young, starting out in life and is trying to find balance yet you’re bringing list that cost 2 million to satisfy...that’s wickedness. My own list upset me to my bone. Before the list could even be dealt with, the price of fish had to be negotiated and the starting price was 800k....FOR FISH??, should I talk about the drinks? They clearly used me to open wine shop. If my dad was alive, it wouldn’t have happened. Ridiculous. You’re trying to build a long lasting, loving relationship between two families not trying to make a quick buck.
Your father gesture created a strong and powerful platform for the marriage to work and last.
Finally!!! 🙏🏿😌😌 Someone actually says a bride price amount! You know how many videos I've watched and where they're supposed to give how much the groom paid, but they never say how much. They just go over a couple of items on the list. Thank you.
Bride Price is part of our Culture, and shouldn't be scrapped but 'the list' should be reviewed.Women are practically sold in the name of bride price.The 'price' of a bride can never be' paid in 1 day.Thanks for your view on this sensitive topic 👍
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Imo state is expensive and even varies from village to village...
Mine was monitised.. Some money though.
It's not about family, it's the umunna that produce the list. your parents have little or no say.. They will not even allow them to come close except their own person items.
My dad did exactly what your dad did for the bride price..
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Same here
As an Anambra woman, only the traditional and white weddings are expensive. Three hundred thousand naira can buy the items on the list. I have heard about high bride price in certain parts of Imo State but I don't know how much it is. Can someone let me know please?
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This bride price issue I think is peculiar with African countries although the price and details vary from country to country, state to state to state, community to community. In my time, my dad and mum helped influence the list to be slashed for my hubby and the same was done for my sisters. As for the bride price, my dad asked the groom to bring whatever they have and ended up taking only a naira note from the bundle then returned the money because he said he isn't selling his daughters besides nothing you bring can equate the value of his daughters.
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Bride price is part of our culture and I support for it to be continued as our culture is what makes us unique.We cannot forget who we are because of westernisation. I loved this video so much.Thank you beautiful Neze
great video. much insight. I'm American and found Nigerian women. she's amazing. love your culture and traditions. it will be helpful in my negotiations with her uncle. happy to pay any price. because yes her upbringing is important and to not only honor her head of household for that but her for the treasure she is. keep the tradition. you can't buy her . she is priceless. and it does make you see that and respect her more.
yes in uganda it is the same. paid bride price means you are married
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Neze peperempe! This is a whole "fly" look....love it. Thanks for talking about the exorbitant igbo bride price, I'm igbo myself and feel it's actually unnecessary to bill grooms that way. Ur father is a very wise man, I like the way he handled the paying of bride price. So many men end up resenting not just their in laws, but even their wife coz of the very steep bride price they paid. My first marriage, I ended up going to court here in America, rather than fulfilling tradition, I regretted it though....the marriage did not end well and my dad denied knowing I was married, after all the man never came to see him. Long story short, there's a reason why that tradition was put in place, let's adhere to it. I don't think scrapping it is a good idea. Udo 🥰
The bride price in Igbo land is not the same everywhere. I think Imo is more expensive
You are right: IMO and Abia State and some areas in Delta, Rivers are Expensive and a long process. Enugu, Anambra, Ebony state are cheaper and the process is not long.
The bride price issue is the same in many african countries..we do so in Zimbabwe as well u will marry a corpse if u ddnt pay bride price when the woman was still alive.the difference with your ibgo list is we dont buy things for anyone other than the father and mother of the bride.Also our bride price is not too exorbitant.
Nice to Hear about your culture. I don't know too much about Zimms
P.S It's *Igbo.
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I have heard a situation like this in my village in Cameroon
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Awww...very thoughtful of your Dad
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Bride price payment is definitely a thing in the Ghanaian culture but it’s normally not a very long list, some families’ list are sometimes even just one page. But as usual, you’ll get some patents trying to take advantage of the situation. I don’t think it should be completely scrapped off but those long lists should definitely be considered and reviewed. Btw what your dad did was awesome ❤️
I’m all for the bride price. It’s our culture. I think living outside Nigeria has made me appreciate it more. People here just live together and have children and claim “we are in love.” Some get married in front of two people and their pets. When a man is willing to marry you, it’s not just telling you, it’s about showing you the extent he will go to have you. It’s about showing others the extend he will go to have you. Where your treasure is lies your heart.
On that note, I do want to say that I hate exorbitant bride prices. Let it be enough to make him sweat a little but don’t open a shop on his head. Times are hard o.
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@@leadanon127 you must be an AA thank you for calling our culture a shit but that is the big difference between and marriage and yours if you are not single parent.
I feel the whole bride price thing reduces women to a commodity. I am not in support of anyone paying anyone 'on my head'. A family celebration in the form of the traditional marriage is reasonable. Anything beyond that is a big no for me.
I 100% agree
There is a difference between a woman you pay her bride price and the one that just pack into your house. I am an igbo man and I respect my wife till tommorow it is our culture I see women that move to their husbands house as cheap and without value.
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I can relate... I am from Abia state and the first day I told my husband were I’m from he has to prepare himself ooo. My husband’s friends till date still teases me that he spent all his savings just to marry me. The list was much because he’s from Enugu state but my Dad intervened and majority of the items was monetised cos the bride price payment and traditional marriage was same day.The fight was not funny especially my mother in law that wanted her son to marry from their state. I saw fire staying with her for two years but thank God I’m not with her anymore
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No, Anambra only take one thousand naira or nothing as bride price.In Garbon, bride price is over three million naira equivalent.
What about when they are married an American
Applied in full force oo! Men don’t appreciate ‘kindness’. What I like about bride price from your neck over the woods is the fact that your m egg n don’t like to re- visit that subject any time too soon , needing to recover ( as in marrying a second ). Bride price in my culture is very cheap and I feel being that cheap. devalues the woman in that ‘ the man didn’t sweat to get you . I am from Ghana and I look at the lobola paid in Southern Africa, with envy
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Monetization of the bride price is the problem. It is mostly done based on greed. What’s wrong with 2k bride price and a list of three to five inexpensive items that the groom can buy.
That aside, well done on your channel and videos. They are very helpful.
There's nothing wrong with our culture. however, some families think that's a way to recoup what they spent in the training and or rearing of their daughters, which is wrong. No. Nezenwa, in Anambra, the list is generally not as long at all. In many Anambra towns, the list is the same for every girl no matter how educated or not, and in some the pride price cannot go higher than a fixed amount. Yet, in some other Anambra towns, the pride price could be any amount (ridiculous), but what's actually paid is fractions. In-laws are generally seen as part of the families not customers or source of enrichment. Your dad's last act was priceless, and that's how fulfilled people do it.😁
Its the same in the southern part of Ghana, some families are very moderate but others charge depending on the educational background of the bride .There are instances where the church gives out the list
Bride price is different from the list. Bride price is just a token & shouldn't be scrapped...The list is where the issue is. The items on the list should be reduced drastically.
I am from Imo State. People should know that marriage list is not the same in the whole state. Every village & family have theirs. Some are not that expensive as people say or assume.
Hey, I'm from South Africa and the bride price we call it Magadi/Lobola is IMPORTANTER 🤣than anything, that's the actual marriage!!! You can't have a proper wedding celebration without doing that first step,should you decide to do otherwise it will be considered taboo.
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Haha absolutely sis... it's extremely IMPORTANTER 😆 but only with us Africans, it's not a big deal with the whites and coloured people here in South Africa.
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Thank you so much for this very informative video explaining in detail the Igbo bride price process, I am a foreigner from New York city otherwise known as Onyeocha or Oyinbo😄I will be marrying an igbo woman from Delta state so this video was perfectly explained the process I will be undertaking by God's grace...U have a new subscriber🙌🏽
True talk but it also depends on the family. Some families are greedy while some do understand and consider .
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The "idea" of bride price is a good tradition and it should be symbolic. A man should show he is capable of taking care of his wife in front of her parents and extended family. The list however should be adjusted or adjustable so every man can marry without begrudging his wife or her family.
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Thank you Nezeville for a complete and concise video on a proper explanation of the differences in the list, the bride price and the dowry.
I have shared this video among my Jamaican 🇯🇲🌴 people for the purposes of education, knowledge and pleasant experience.
The Introduction will be our engagement party to our guests with the serious responsibility of the beginning of the marriage rites.
My Igbo partner who is not thrilled about the traditions of his culture, I will insist that he wouldnt have anything to worry about any exorbitant and exploitive family here, as Jamaicans are not familiar with African marriage rites as I know it. It's in my best interest to implement a suggested way to handle what should be negotiable without the greed and resentful payments of the bride's list. Preemptively, a list will be produced that is fair and equitable. In fact I will want the family (not extended) to borrow the traditions of the yorubas and give back some of those monetised gifts.
My partner will be marrying into a good family who will not take such horrible advantage. But I insist as my rights of passage, I will use the very wisdom of your dad in respect of the payment of this time honoured tradition to make the minimal bride price amount to be paid after the amount will have been already offered.
I am so thankful to God that I have this opportunity to set the proper standards of traditions that must by all account be seen as a gift and a token of appreciation. It will be seen as great lesson learned as we celebrate this in my home town of Bristol England 🇬🇧 Blessings to you 🙏 🙌 ❤ 😊
This is our tradition and I love it, and u must fulfill it if u intend to marry an Igbo girl,our girls are precious and beautiful
Yeah, I agree there should be a say the how much she want her bride price should tbe because I feel like the high bride price make man feels like it’s a way to treat the women any type of way because they have paid for that they have all control
Nne I support bride price, is our culture.
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No No...plz do not scrape bride price . It is a symbolic lbo culture for a marriage , however it should not be exploitative nor valued/ fixed according to educational or economic value potentials of the bride.
It is only a cultural or traditional symbolic fulfillment of our marriage rites or system. Thank you.
Neze, bride price is never the problem in anyway! In 2020 I paid #500 for my wife n total cost was 250k. For proper marriage according to guidelines with without traditional marriage. N culturally I am legally married to her other things are choices but I gave them 450k cus I am in abroad. I think the list for the family is the problem from some Igbo people.my woman is from Enugwu state.
Honestly I don't like embarrassment, let me go and respect myself; I'm not yet ready for all these extravagant list...
I'm not yet ready, let me find my feet first..
Lastly this is why alot of Nigerian men abroad are not dating Nigerian women here. Sadly alot are so westernized they have lost the root, culture and Traditions.
My husband is Nigerian and he is absolutely paying a bride price for me here in US.
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Wow, your father is a wise man
I love d tradition
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I am loving this conversation 😂 i cant believe I haven't found your page before. I'm a young lady from imo state living in South Africa. So my dad follows tradition to a certain extent but he is never the type to follow tradition if he doesnt agree with it. As an only daughter my father loves me beyond measures and he always wants my happiness first. So that mess of uncle's who have never done anything for me saying something my father can even tell them to shut up😂 I see my dad doing the same thing I'm his egg so my father wouldn't want a man to think he bought me after everything my father has done for me. my future husband wont ever be able to afford everything my father's done for me. especially as a only daughter studying law and a beautiful hard working girl at that😂😂
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Very true everything needs to be properly done when it comes to tradition
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In Uganda, in my Buganda culture we take stuffs as gifts of appreciation but there's one particular item(omutwalo)I really can't phrase it in English that a man is supposed to pay to the bride's dad but this comes after a talk (groom and the dad)then they agree so,after all the gifts are paid, the boy goes to the girls dad and gives him that price,at times they simplify it by asking for a bible,Quran,mother mary portrait, a water tank,etc but the other gifts are just for appreciating the parents upon bringing up a beautiful daughter. This includes for the high class:sofas, dinning table,cows goats,solar,TVs, sacks of sugar,salt,soap,bread,blue band,tomatoes, onions,meat one whole cows leg and etc but for low earners,you fix your budget as long as you give clothes to the Mum,dad,Aunt and brother and a chicken to your brother because in our culture it's your brother that hands you over for marriage traditionally.
Otherwise due to the spices and ingredients that have been copied and added to our people,marriage is being left for rich people which is so absurd. After watching these functions on TVs,people have alot of fear wondering which gifts to take but for myself, am returning to the way back tradition where only five people came inside the house gave the little they had and took the girl. But also back in the days Alcohol was part of the dowry unlike these days of turning so much to Jesus 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬
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In my culture the bride price is given to the woman. I am an Ewe from Ghana
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Imo and Abia states need to make necessary amendments to the bride price and the list, just like their Anambra brethen whose list is reasonable. Discussion about this bride price and listings need to carry-on because many Imo and Abia women may most likely be single. It needs to reviewed to encourage future generations to get married without any stress and complications. I am for traditional marriage, but let us not make it harder than life's journey. My humble recommendations. Thank you for giving orientation about the Igbo cultural traditional marriage.
That dowry/bride price does it mean that men pays double in Imo state because I know that in Anambra state it just once that any man pay which is the bride price.
Hahahahaha am from the south western part of Cameroon, and the bride price culture from my place is exactly similar to the igbos. Cam hear them ''my daughter is a medical doctor in the US, my daughter went to school in the UK, my daughter is an engineer, my daughter is a civil servant'' like you can die of laughter in such events.
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Bride price is a very important aspect of marriage in my country to be specific Sierra Leone, and it varies from tribe to tribe( we dont have a specific amount to be paid as bride price) it all depends on the family you are marrying into. Some can be reasonable, and others can be something else. Nowadays, things are gradually changing and westernising. Another point to note is that I think it is a conventional practice across West Africa. A bride price can come in the form of cola nut or other traditional items based on request from the bride's family.
Very informative. Thank you for sharing. Can you tell me what factors cause a bride price to fluctuate? If education level increases the price, does things like age decrease the price? Also does the bride-to-be always know what her father or family set the bride price at or does that remain unknown to her?
Getting married in Nigeria this month and the bride list is the scariest thing.
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@@Nezeville didn't have to even deal with a brides list. Wife's family said we're not poor and we have everything we want and need. They were more concerned about how our marriage will be. Thank god
Then when they are married the groom takes that emotion, unloving disdain, Grudge, unloving relationship from father in law on the wife.
Most husband beat their wife
My boyfriend is from imo state he have sister's and he is telling me that he is not a tradition man so no traditional marriage because there are ladies out there that just want the man to see their parents and that's all
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It is like business the girl family are doing.
My wife’s bride price was 750k cfa in Cameroon and the list of things to be purchased which is not part of the bride price amounted to about 650k cfa, my father in-law was not ready for it to be slashed, that wasn’t pleasant as slashing oF brideprice is even part of the process even if the groom has it all
The problem in Igbo marriage is that it shows greed and eventually enslaves the bride eventually. If the woman eventually cannot stay with the man she will not be able to leave as she and her family cannot afford to return the money and gifts. Thankfully some states like Anambra have stepped into it to reduce the slave trade.
I don’t like their high bride price at all.In ONITSHA Anambra state ,the pride price is 35k
The igbos and their long lists three of my uncle's married ibo ladies and believe they have to pay through their nose you know what I meant, the ibos should find a way to minimize their marriage list
Sis, it is not in all Igbo land, it depends on the state.
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