The Entirety Of Our Relationship Was Riddled With Abuse
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- Опубликовано: 9 сен 2024
- Today, our guest Linda Dylan, a survivor of domestic violence, shares her powerful story. Watch as she recounts her inspiring journey of finding the courage to leave an abusive relationship, all while prioritizing the safety and wellbeing of her children and herself.
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Being married to a narcissist is no joke. So glad you escaped his abuse
I didn't even know about it until I found out about narcissism on youtube didn't even learn about it while I was a psych major
@@LeahDyson-kq4bd😢
Yep!! Its hell!!
There’s is one thing for sure , it’s called be Single , be happy , be the decision maker, enjoy your freedom
I married a narc and the
More I watch these the more I want to be alone! I just started dating!
And this is why it'll ALWAYS be BETTER & BEST to ALWAYS remain happily single and childfree!
Kind of weird to say that in response to a woman that had to re start her life and already had kids... the point is to learn about bad relationships and learn what healthy ones look like
@LeahDyson-kq4bd That's what she learned from the video, in these times the safest option is to stay single and child free. The world has changed.
You pick bad men. That's on you. I'm sorry but it's true.
@ashleykathryn9038 yeah, if you pick bad men. There is accountability is a thing. No doubt these are bad men but someone is picking them while others pick good men and have wonderful married lives. I said what I said
Children are the greatest gift life can give.
If you talked to another narc about that incident, they would say you started it too. They stick together. Anytime i told my narc mother about the red flags that would pop up on guys i dated, she'd take their side. 😡
Not the one I'm getting divorced from. He would say that's awful and he deserves to be dragged for treating any woman like that. He has a great heart let him tell it. Especially when new supply believes his lies of how horrible the previous woman was. They feel sorry for him and tell him wow your heart is so big 😮. Terrifying it is
Demonic. Its evil.
This is so true!
Yes they are so sick!!! I cute off my uncle because of it!!
They all do the same. I was married to one for 36 years. Until I escaped. I knew if, I didn't. I would be dead on the next beating. Thank you for telling your story so similar to mines. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so glad you got away safely, and can now live a much better life
32 years. Felt I was close to being the next dead wife on the 5 o'clock news. Got out.
I've been through it. Luckily I escaped aged 27, with my 2 little daughters. We were lucky to survive.
❤glad you survived 🙏🏽
In my experience, as the daughter of a narcissist: they'll say and do whatever they can to get a reaction out of people. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them. If you're married to them, leave without telling them and don't go back.
Never go back as they get worse! My ex did!!!
This woman was born to be a teacher 🗣️
She is more radiant in her old age than she was in her 20s 30s. There is so much to gain from escaping.
Abusing her over not being able to nurse the baby!!! psychopathic
I went through the same I couldn't produce enough milk but he wouldn't let me buy formula
They are!!!
Typical narcissist. I been through someone similar. God bless you ❤
I was married once. Verbal & emotional abuse, sexual abuse, controlling behavior, name calling, isolating behavior. He never hit me but he'd throw things. Refused to help with most home chores though he did work. I was scared of him. I finally got fed up & left after 8 rotten years. Have never been tempted to try marriage again. No way
i swear they keep ramping up the emotional abuse and wait for you to make the first move, they think it gives them permission to beat the shit out of you OR they call the cops immediately and play victim. heinous shit
How do we all have the same story and still aren't believed
Facts. My gaslighting narc ex too.
My abuser would abuse me emotionally and verbally then he would say it was my fault and then he would grab the phone and acted like the victim and tell the police that I needed to leave and when he was the one abused me.
"The only real power your abuser has over you is your silence". 💜💜💜
I was married an narcissist and experienced all of the things you speak about we were Catholics too. My exhusband tried to kill me he got a witchdoctor to put a spell of death on me but my good Lord saved me. I am still battling with him re settlement . He took all the money out of our accounts. I cN relate to everything you are saying. I was the bad one. He hated me.. I was 45years in the marriage I am out of it now 6years i am nearly 74years old.
You are my contemporany I am 73 going to 74, I live the same like you in my marriage, he hated me also, 30 years ago I was in my 40s, a hug to you.
My ex husband was verbally abusive. I have no doubt it would have turned into violence if I hadn’t left. He would get so angry! The name calling and criticisms and the “this is all your fault.”
She is Right!! Extreme danger after you leave!!!
One day I’ll open up and tell my abuse story. It’s a very hard story to tell and very extensive.. but one day.
Or don't. Leave that mfr in the past
@@shitneyb5562 we have a baby together so it’s hard to 🤣
@@Mimmiiq or.... hear me out.... 🧤🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🔪🪚☠️ Oh no, he had a random heart attack
@@shitneyb5562 he’s in jail so he’s getting what he deserves 🤣❤️
@@shitneyb5562 well he’s in jail so he’s getting what he deserves
Sweet lady, you DID NOT deserve this!!! I admire how reflective & composed you are while talking about such trauma. My narc discarded the family. I carried shame about “being left” for soooo long. Now, I realize him leaving could’ve saved our lives.
"The guy is not the solution". Perfectly said. Ladies, it's time to de-center men. Note: I said DE-CENTER men.. not hate them, not harm them, not destroy them. Rediscover and fall in love with YOURSELF. Make YOURSELF the top priority. Make decisions based on YOUR OWN best interest, and no one elses. That is empowerment, and we deserve nothing less.
What about children? THEY are the FIRST priority yet women continually choose the man
I've taught my kids that you better never put your hands on a woman or I will have them arrested and support the woman totally. 21:59
Mama YES
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Me too!!!
Although these videos are about abuse of females by males, the opposite also happens. I too taught my sons the same. But wouldn't you know it, my eldest son ended up marrying a woman who became increasingly narcissistic ( she has an actual diagnosis of NPD now) and physically abusive as she aged. It's taken him 10 years to see her behavior for what it is, even with counseling and therapy. She would fire every marriage counselor they saw because she didn't like what they told her. Finally divorcing after 18 years.
Writing your book would have been cathartic for you and others will learn so much from you and all the other victims of violence in relationships. Victims who speak up are heroes.
This is heartbreaking. My mother was a victim of domestic violence, but in the 70s here there was nowhere for her to go and take my sisters.
Still isn't
@@shitneyb5562 no women's refuges or similar where you are?
Edited to add: there's a women's centre just up the road from me that does a lot, including help women escape. There are no men allowed in the building. It's right next to the kindergarten and primary school. I was picking the twinnies up from kindergarten one day and a man wanted to donate baby clothes etc to the women's refuge but couldn't go on to the property as an unknown male and asked me if I could take it in for him. I did ofc.
@@charlottegrace6656 oh that's sweet. Yeah we have places like that, but they're ALWAYS full to the brim. The number of people they can help at any one time is a fucking travesty. DV centers all over the state
...just telling women to find a good hiding spot for their car. Middle of the winter, fleeing DV, kids in the damn car, this is happening every single day. It is revolting.
All this, because some limp dick jerkwad can't control his emotions like a toddler.
@@shitneyb5562 jeez I had no idea :(
After I made my plan… I put sleeping medication in his dinner ( roast beef with gravy and mashed potatoes . Added it to the gravy ) once he passed out I grabbed some stuff packed my car and left…. Left my phone off so it cant be located ….. got a new burner phone the next day….
Lmaooooo
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So smart. I’m glad you got away.
That is genius! Good for you, I'm glad you got away.
Smart.
I grew up in violence…I repeated the same thing…. I ran away from him ! He’s dead now too
Same. Grew up in violence and married a violent man. Just got out with my life.
Did he died?
@@alyngrace123 yes he died in 2018 at only 57 years old!
Almost 30 years....I am still being stalked.
Be safe.
I really believe there are no coincidences. That was divine intervention that brought her brother into the restaurant where she worked. Also, abusive people are reeeeally good at placing guilt on the victim leaving the victim to think they have to 'try harder' to fix the relationship. Also that bit when she mentioned the look on his face while strangling her, that he looked like he had thought about it before - there is research that he likely did. Thank you Linda for sharing your story to help others.
I was sexually assaulted by my 1st husband and I did't realize it until years after being divorced too..These topics are so important to speak of all of these domestic violence you story is so similar to mine.
I started writing the book and it’s hell!!!!! Absolute hell!
Give you life to Jessus and you will walk in light and truth , no man could twist your reality, you will find yourself , you will find power, you will become wise , you will heal . God bless you !!
You DO realize how many religions people are abusive or abused right? In fact, in this very story, her abuser was using their religion to gaslight and guilt trip her. Jesus said he helps those who help themselves, so stop spouting "give your life to Jesus" like that's all you have to do to solve every problem. 😡
Strong smart Woman ❤so glad you escaped those abusers and got your babies with you,such loving mom God bless you and your Children 🙏 🙏
Thank you. You're brave and wonderful.
Yes! The only real power your abuser is your silence. I’m so glad my friend opened up to me. I believed her as I watched and saw her go from confident to dependent.
Excellent, thanks for sharing. So sorry for the hell you lived😮
Thank you for shining a light on various forms of abuse. It’s good to see you so radiant and sharing your story after all you’ve been through. God bless you 🙏🏿💖
Thank you for telling us.
So heartbreaking, she seems like such a sweet kind hearted soul. And the kids 🥺 so glad they all got out!
I've never heard of religious abuse. Thank you. I certainly went through that. My mom was especially abusive on the way to church. Yelling. Cursing. I loved attending, but she wanted to make it difficult for me. That's why. They'll really do this if they know you're chosen & they're going to church to be fake.
I believe this is something that will be spoken about more & more. I recall talking to a Christian 'sister ' about my husband beating me. She showed no compassion & said if I were a submissive wife it wouldn't happen. That's CRAZY!
@@danilaroche1156 I'm sorry to hear about that woman's lack of empathy towards you.🙁 I've had this conversation with religious women too & yes, it's their attitude. I've never married. Don't think I want to be either.
My mom would pinch me really hard if, I slept during service at church. I was only 5 years !! Abusive mothers do not fight for you 😭🙏💕
@@hopesanchez3501 I'm so sorry. & Ppl wonder why kids don't want to go to church. I've seen & heard of parents doing that so many times.😢
So many fake people in this world!! 🤢
I thought it was my fault too. The Lord opened my eyes that it wasn't. I also got counsel from My Sisters' Place.
'The guy is not the solution. The kiddos being happy is not the solution.'
Wow! Linda Dylan is a truly remarkable woman! Beautiful, intelligent, courageous, resilient and amazingly giving of herself to others. How wonderful that she wrote this book, and that she has endeavored to help others by educating herself on domestic and intimate partner violence / abuse and then sharing that knowledge with others while working to help those in these vicious cycles of indoctrination, mind-control, cult-like groupthink, and all other means that work to deny individuals their sovereignty and their human rights. Blessings to her, and her children, as they continue to grow and thrive in the years ahead -- and the same to all those she is trying to help to break these patterns of abuse. ❣🌟🙏☮
It says in the Bible that just like a woman supposed to submit to her husband a husband is supposed to submit himself to his wife. He's supposed to treat his wife with the upmost respect. I'm so sorry for what you went through. 14:16
You are such a beautiful person, and thank you, because of your story I realize i have been through Religious abuse too by my mother thank you for sharing your experience, and you are amazing for being so brave and becoming strong enough to help inspire others!😃😃
Those poor babies
My mom cant leave my dad, he makes her work until 70, controls their money, he is on disability and hasnt worked in 20 years
The only way to break free is to leave and never look back..
Well done on pushing forward!
Powerful testimony
I got away from a boyfriend and years later a spouse who physically abused me. It's interesting that God gave me strong intuition they were violent. I denied the abuse too, till I couldn't deny it anymore. P.S. God doesn't want anyone abused. He'd rather you be divorced than dead. Amen
You are so beautiful, powerful, strong, wise. I am so proud of you for leaving him and getting your strength power back 💪🏻🫂💖💓💝💗 May you live healed, healthy, happily, empowered, safe, well, away from sorrow. You are doing amazing for guiding other women. 🙏🏻💖🤗
I am glad you got away from him thankgod .I also got away from my abuser in my early 30s and I’m so thankful I did thankyou for sharing your story I’m sure it will help a lot of people ❤❤❤
Yes leaving is the most dangerous time. Poor Mica miller from NC was abused 😮😢
Omg!! That’s so scary!
Wish your book was available in digital format would love to read
Narcissists don't go to thearpy😄I'm sorry if that seems snarky-but that isn't logical. I'm so glad to hear that there are people out there who were good enough to help you, especially your brother who hadn't seen you in a long time. Those are your blessings! We all suffer (some more than others) but the thing to recognize is the support that spirit gives you in these unexpected "packages" (blessings).
If they do , it's usually only once, in order to manipulate the spouse. They will invent some reason to " therapist shop", so they might see several different ones, but rarely if ever the same one twice. A competent therapist would usually spot and confront a genuine NPD in the first couple of sessions with them.
I feel like I have so much to say but I can't find the words....I feel frozen. I wish I could say I'm strong enough to leave but I'm in such a fog I can't think clearly. We have been together for 8 years, married for 4. He has been addicted to drugs and is a mean alcoholic. He is finally "sober." I used to think the problems were the substances. Now I understand that he is a narcissist. I didn't even know my mother was a narcissist as well. I'm so broken and need to leave but I'm stuck. I fear I can't do this on my own. I fear what will happen if I do take my kids and go. I've tried breaking up with him and he refuses. He says he will never let me go....So at this point I'm numb and barely keeping my head above water. My children deserve a better mom. One who isn't so messed up and I feel so guilty that I can't just be normal. Jesus please help me.
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I used to hear “you want to push my buttons?!” All the time. Lived on pins and needles a lot of the time. I’m convinced he is bipolar because there was a cycle. Although he would say that it was me that created the cycle! Well I’ve been remarried for 7 years now and I had not one argument that whole time. Meanwhile my ex has been arrested for DV at least twice.
God set me free my children turned against me he told lies after lies about me but some of them as come back. I am now in ministry working for the Lord..
My dUghter is a narcissist and it is dangerous to be near a narcissistic person.They are great as long as they get what they want..but when they don't,the veil drops..they will put you in harms wY and hurt ypu physically,emotionally , financially.
I tangled with a narcissist. He was my coach. Bad, bad man.
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Thank you ❤
I'm glad you got away.I'm shocked at how bad the resources are in the states for abused women.It's much better in the uk
There's always some foreigner telling us how much better it is where they are than in the US. NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. What a superior sounding snob you are. 👃
Mental health professionals have done a disservice to people dealing with narcissists/sociopaths. I’ve noticed they keep saying that we can’t self diagnose our disordered relationships. These people have to be “professionally diagnosed”. Huh?! When are the disordered going to go to a mental health professional to get diagnosed?! Also, these professionals usually become flying monkeys for the disordered as the disordered lie so thoroughly and are so charming.
The professionals need to write books, go on TV, RUclips, etc on how spot the symptoms and how to safely get away from the disordered.
Love this but the music causes bad anxiety
Hate the music. A reason I don't listen to their videos very much. Too much noise pollution.
All i wanted as a woman is that someone from my household cook a meal for me. I cooked for everyone for 20 years and not once that they offered to do the same for me even thi i told them i wish they do it at least once. The only time they cooked was the bbq for other people coming to our home.
I can relate . It’s hard for me to understand why I stay. You’re so brave.❤ I am Catholic too. I don’t know where I would go .** I’m on disability because I had a nervous breakdown because of an incident involving police that had nothing to do with me. Of course he blamed me. 😮 I wanted to unalive him. 😢 I love Monk. ❤Girl you are telling my story. Good for you sweetheart! I love your story because I love that you were brave . ❤
Whoa, he sounds like a psycho
I was happy when I learned that no religion has anything to do with God.
Thank you for this. Ive seen my sexless relationships to narcissists and psychopaths for 31 years as embarrassing other than the abuse bc they denied me sex but I see now thats been a blessing considering what they can do to us sexually. I could never handle children, my body was too sick. So yes, a true blessing. No more shame.
I enjoy the videos but the music in the background is too much noise pollution. I only watch part of a video at a time because of that.
No matter what when children are involved like in this story when the father was holding the child. To push a person holding a child is absolutely a child endangerment act and that is a felony.
Afraid of everything!!!
It's a real Shane thay the bully's don't get a taste of there own medicine!!
Kids are so traumatized!!! Years of hell!!!
More than a narcissist a psychopath
I was sexually abused by him too.
Was he under the influence of the Catholic Charismatic movement by any chance, during your troubles??
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Dorian, not good. These dudes move on to new victim asap.
💯💯🚩. A BIG NARCISSIST
Did he tell God that he wanted to kill his wife?😡
Almost 30 years....I am still being stalked.
Yep!!!!!