How good it is to see that this video has hit the spot for many of you. Either stirring up memories of years gone by - or by stirring up alternative suggestions. I really appreciate your efforts - and your sharing of both the above. Take care. Dee
I just came across your video with admiration! We all have those moments of self pity, I ask the Lord to pick me up, shake me out and stand me back down. And to put a song in my heart. All of us have so much to be thankful for, just look around, there is always someone worse off. Love from Canada 🇨🇦. Oh and I Love your frost pattern on your windows, so beautiful! Thanks for sharing your insight and I agree with the young ones being such a help to us.
Oh Dee. You’re so resilient and you always lift me up to a higher level after I’ve watched and listened to you. I’m kind of alone. But I feed lot of outside critters and my 2 cats. My grandchildren…except the oldest who has some issues…have forgotten all about me. Busy I guess. Living life. But…as an only child…I have learned to amuse myself. Most times. I’m having a collywobbles kind of day. Yes….very cold here…and have meditated on love and warmth (and much rain out to California)…..and food and shelter to the homeless humans and non humans all over this world. I’m a tad concerned about the next 4 yrs…but I think I’ll be gone soon. You sitting by the window. I did that…had a red rocking chair as a child…watched the snow falling…making sure cats (in our garage) were fed and warm, my dogs were inside with me…and my mom always was cooking and baking and cleaning. Dad always working. My mom was not like your mom. Seems I was always in the way when I asked if I could help. She had very little patience for me…but I know she fed me, clothed me and made sure I bundled up, during the very rare times she allowed me to go out and play in snow. I’m grateful…for so much..for you, especially Dee. My old body is hurting ..and I’ve had heating pad on my shoulders and back today. I even shoveled snow two days ago. And that’s why I’m hurting I think. You take care. I needed this. At bedtime. Even tho you’re just starting your day. Thank you. Much love and hugs to you and Myschka. Please…both of you take care…stay warm.❤️❤️❤️🌟🌟🌟🤗🤗✌🏻🙏🏻 Ps: We’re due for more snow in Jersey, USA tomorrow. Ugh. Love the way it looks. But must shovel deck and a pathway to the cat food. Even birds are eating a lot more birdseed. Brrrrrrrr. 🥶
I understand your feeling that your grandchildren have forgotten you. I suspect they just don't realize how lonely you are, and how much it would brighten your days to see them. May I suggest that you make a "project" out of sending them a monthly reminder that you are thinking of them. People still like to receive mail. Then, when you are in your last days, you will be able to feel good that they had your emotional support, even in their adulthood. I wish my maternal grandparents had done this for me. It would have reminded me that I was still part of their world, and would have prompted me to spend more time interacting with them.
Morning Dee looking at your windows took me back to my childhood when the inside of the windows we're frozen,and like you said we just got on with it .Thank you for this morning have a good day .
Nice reminder of my own childhood. I am 71. We went from the warmth of the kitchen into the unheated bedroom, put a red handkerchief over the lamp to make it LOOK warm... and my immune system has been top all my life. Never catch a cold etc, unlike many children now... and the ice flowers at the window were so very beautiful. Thank you for this rememberance - from Germany. 😊
@ruthkanth1041 My pleasure - I used to get dressed in the morning under my bed covers - same at night! Slept with clothes on the bed so that I could just grab them - and added extra warmth. D
@Cheshirelass my grandma used to hear a karge stone in the woodfired oben, then pur a towel around and placed it into my bed before bedtime. We have so much to be thankful today, really.
Good morning Dee. You have talked yourself round today in your own video. Sending hugs. It’s good to practice gratitude, but sometimes there’s a feeling that can’t be shaken and needs ironing out. We’re all human. Hope you have a lovely day, and get back in the warm with Myschka - he’s probably wondering why you’re sitting out in the cold! 🌹🌹🌹
He is probably thinking I am barmy! I hope that your day is a good one. I agree about the ironing out - or is it sometimes an acceptance of some wrinkles? D
Hi Dee I have never seen frost on a window pane . I thought it was your winter garden 🤔 Its extraordinary in its beauty only for you to appreciate ❤ before it disappears in form . Your love for your past childhood memories will be your greatest joy in times challenging . The beauty of life is all around you in nature with lovely memories . You have friends who listen to you. X
I haven’t heard the word moan used like that in years. My Scottish parents used it. My mother told me her brothers sang Mona Lisa to her as Moan A Lisa because she was a moan! I came to the states as a child . I think bringing ourselves back to gratitude really does help but a good moan once in a while keeps things from building up inside.
Hi Dee…it’s hard not to get down now & then…just listening to the news makes you feel down & now it’s too cold to relieve stress by gardening…but we have to look forward to the spring! ❤☕️🪴
Good morning from frosty Kent. I can easily fall into my self-pity story, and I am so fond of this quote which speaks to me, "I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself". - DH Lawrence I love birds so much so this quote really speaks to me so It is a regular part of my readings. Actually the "Whistling of Birds" is a really beautiful short story about winter and spring.
Well l grew up on the late forties and fifties and would never say it was ok We were cold l remember chilblains were common. I turn on the central heating to keep warm. No virtue in suffering unnecessarily. Of course I'm aware that I'm fortunate and l feel sympathy and love for people in difficulties. I feel it is a disgrace that people are having to choose between heating or eating in our country.
Thank you Dee it looked very cold out of your window the snow has gone from here I leyland now , have a good day, sending you love and all good to you. Linda xxx
Good morning Dee. It’s a good idea to practice gratitude. I’m not perfect at it but I do frequently think I’m extremely fortunate to have a roof over my head. Even though our home is tiny I realise there are many people who are in far worse situation unfortunately.
Thank you Dee. I am layered up also. I don't enjoy the cold. It makes me sad to hear what people go thru like the fires, tornados and wars and their suffering! I am grateful! Take really good care Dee and everyone!
Good morning Dee, I can see that Jack Frost has paid you a visit and has beautifully painted your windows using his paint brush. Like you, I grew up having to be resilient, no central heating and just a fire. We also didn’t have a bathroom, just a freezing, spider ridden outside toilet 🚽 😢. My Mum used portable paraffin heaters around to keep our bedroom warm and good old hot water bottles at the bottom of my bed because the cold cotton sheets would be a shock to the body! I miss those days but not the outside toilet. We also couldn’t open our windows because Mum used a special cling film type of double glazing to keep out the cold. It’s so easy now that we have the luxuries we dreamed of, to forget the hardships we endured and that others still do. I’m constantly thinking how I would have considered my life and three inside toilets now from the perspective of that little girl I once was. Cuddle Myschka for me and look after yourself xx
I worked for a lady in her 60's recently who had lost her husband to cancer, she has family close, but just by little things she said she would let slip that she missed having her partner around, i've said to her that she is a lovely person, easy to talk to and she is still attractive. If i were single and she would have me i would definitely love to share my life with her, i've not said that last part to her(even typing it feels a little creepy!!) but i'm just so suprised that she isn't flooded with offers, but i've never met anyone through a computer or dating site and i would be VERY WORRIED about doing so as you hear such bad stories. She does go to activities and on holidays and i really hope she will find a GOOD MAN, she is very kind and deserves a companion.
Your frosty windows certainly are beautiful, Dee ❤ We have daily reminders of our privilege in my country, but we still have those moments of feeling sorry for ourselves.
I think we all have days like this. I feel humiliated when I have a pity party. But some days are just difficult. We still have our own supply of sunshine inside us. Bless you.
You are so right ,we have become soft. I am in my 70s and do not like the way the world is becoming. Like you I lived in a house with outside toilet and water in the yard in a tap., a large range for cooking . Love to you and best wishes for year ahead.
Thanks for the reminder 😊❤ I am in America, Arkansas to be exact. I teach sewing, cooking and nutrition classes and I thought it important enough to get my degree to teach such skills.🙏🏼
Thank you for that timely reminder Dee. There are always others who are worse off. Unfortunately, the cold affects me very much as I have very poor circulation and a heart problem so I have to try and keep warm. I only have the heating on am and pm but have invested in an electric over blanket for when I’m sitting down. It really helps and costs very little. Between times I go out every day for a walk, a coffee with a friend or try to busy myself around the house. It’s lovely to see that today there is some sunshine here. Take care. 😊
Hi Dee 🤍 I’ve been following you for a while now, and I really admire the content you create. You often tackle deep and meaningful topics, which is why I wanted to share an idea for a potential video that’s very close to my heart. At 17, I’m starting to become more independent and take time for myself, but I sometimes feel guilty or sad when I see my mom being bored or alone while I’m away, for instance, when I go to the gym. I’m scared that by focusing on my own needs, I won’t spend enough time with her and might regret it later. I think this feeling of balancing independence while not wanting to "leave our loved ones behind" is something many people, especially those with strong family bonds, can relate to. Maybe you could address this topic in a future video? For example, how to find a balance between taking care of ourselves and being there for our loved ones, and how to manage the fear of regretting the time we don’t spend with them. Thank you in advance if you decide to talk about it, and thank you for always sharing inspiring content! Wishing you lots of success in everything you do. With admiration, Inès
Hi Dee, when I’m feeling down sorry for myself I ask God to help direct my thoughts and forgive me. I too have a lot to be grateful for and I don’t take that for granted, but we all have those days chin up my friend. Tomorrow is always better.❤
Good morning Dee! I just wanted to say i usually listen to your videos in my phone through my headphones. This is the first time I have your video playing on TV in crystal quality and actively watching it, I just want you to know you are so beautiful!! I was taken aback you are so pretty! Love your videos!
Oh, great catch up with you! Yes on becoming soft and I also feel so blessed with my situation. I know it can all change in a second but I will not “dwell” on it. Well, I’ll try. The sharing of knowledge between generations is a brilliant topic as well. I’ve been wanting to teach my granddaughter how to cook simple meals for herself and not order delivery$$$$$$$. Slowly but surely, I see that with the budgets becoming more challenged is pushing the young to sites like Pinterest to develop an interest in healthier food and developing some sort of a shopping and cooking plan. Fingers crossed. By all means make use of your Polar cover and extra socks. Love to you and Myshka.
Thank you for presenting real life experience. It is fantastic. This Full Moon in Cancer is bringing up a lot of things buried and not healed. It’s light brings the shadows into focus. Bring in the LIGHT! 🙏🪷
Absolutely. the moon was so beautiful last night - I spent ages looking at it and pondering about it. I didn't get out to film this one, but I did two last year. Bring in the light - and let's do our bit to keep it shining. D
What a beautiful painting Jack Frost has left for you there! It's just hard sometimes when it's cold and grey outside. I can relate here in Northern Ontario, Canada! The winds whipping up this afternoon and I'm bundled under a throw blanket❤
Yes I well remember the coal fire in one room and some ice on windows in others. I got up the other day to a frozen condensate pipe and no heatint and was fit to be tied. The first thing that popped up was a post from local homeless team who were out night before in freezing cold bringing food, clothes and conversation to poor souls on the street. Brought me back to earth big time. - Frances
Hi Dee, I was brought up in a farmhouse with coal fires and no central heating. I think that central heating, when on too high, can make you sluggish. I hate the cold but I feel sharper - I’m a bit of a wuss nowadays though if it’s too cold! 🤣🤣xxx
I think there's nothing wrong with self pity, or even asking for pity from friends or loved ones, as long as one doesn't get stuck in it, or relies on it too much. We all have limited resources, physical and mental, and feeling pity may mean we've overextended ourselves or there's some kind of imbalance going on. I believe adressing the underlying reasons for those feelings and dealing with them, instead of just telling ourselves to be stronger, is a more kind and sympathetic way to treat ourselves (and we deserve the kindness we give to others).
@firefly-pd9ho We do very much deserve the kindness we freely give to others. I believe it comes down to self awareness, knowing our body. If we just need a prod in the ribs to get us going - we know we can do it as we basically have the energy, the ability to do things and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. However there will be times when that self awareness tells us to tune in to how we are feeling - what we need, what could well be essential at that time is to hunker down and simply be - and allow ourselves to recover. D
I agree, I think there is a place for allowing yourself to feel what you feel and being compassionate to yourself when you’re feeling low. And not getting stuck in it as you say. ❤ thanks for your perspective
Hi Dee it's human nature I guess and we have to talk ourselves round which you have done ❤ big love as always from Scotland ❤ where we have had NO snow whatsoever only hard frosts and the next 5 days are double figure temperatures 🎉
Absolutely! A good old dose of positive self talk - and even a bit of self nagging and reminding goes a long way. Warmer here today - so no frosty conservatory! D
Oh please make a recording in it!! My Dad would say, Now now. Eyes front. Shoulders back. Chin up. Never let the b@st@rds get you down! And, Worse things happen at sea! I can also make a meal front nowt much. And I remember ice on the insides of windows and no heating. Just the coal boiler. I wonder if you can still buy liberty boddices?? Myschka will like the log burner. Jolly cold missus. Wrap up. We can also have a cup of tea....to my eternal gratitude ❤ Beautiful outside!
Gratitude is so important. But I wonder if it’s always necessary to talk ourselves out of how we feel. There will always be someone with 2 broken legs when you are ‘lucky’ enough to have only broken one. It doesn’t mean our one leg doesn’t hurt like hell and is making life hard and miserable. It’s definitely easier to bear any suffering in a functioning, stable country, but suffering and feeling a bit sorry for yourself sometimes - is it always something we should talk to ourselves about. I’ve left a literal war zone, ended up in a country with awful racism and then came to the UK. I was homeless, on my own, spoke little English and was petrified. Now I have a housing association flat, lovely neighbours, good friends and enough to eat and drink and access to medical care. I am hugely grateful to this country and the wonderful people in my life. But there are times where I allow myself to feel sad and that this is not how my life should have been. I will have a duvet day or two, and watch rubbish on tv and just do nothing . I’m heartbroken for those in Israel, Gaza, Afghanistan, Sudan, Syria and Yemen and those in the Californian fires. Life for the people there is horrific. I wish it would all just stop. But their suffering - does it have to stop us feeling our own🤔. Sorry for the loooong post and please don’t feel you have to answer Dee. They are just my thoughts on gratitude from the perspective of growing up in a conflict and ending up in leaving two countries. I feel ok about self pity sometimes. Life has and is still often very tough. Take care and look after yourself lovely Dee❤
Thank you for your post - please never feel a need to apologise, especially for sharing your story and your feelings. Take care - D I hope you don't mind, but have copied a reply to someone this morning. - We do very much deserve the kindness we freely give to others. I believe it comes down to self awareness, knowing our body. If we just need a prod in the ribs to get us going - we know we can do it as we basically have the energy, the ability to do things and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. However there will be times when that self awareness tells us to tune in to how we are feeling - what we need, what could well be essential at that time is to hunker down and simply be - and allow ourselves to recover. D
oh ps.....I bought some crampons for my boots, and what a difference! Usually, I just sit out any icy conditions. But I am well enough to do the school run now, and I want to do it. And the ice won't shift itself. So Mohammed must go to the mountain. They're not expensive, and make me steady on my feet. Advice from my daughter in law. However, if you get the spikey ones, be careful of your flooring, when you come indoors!! All I need now is some goggles for the snow blindness, and I'm fit for travel!!! 🤣🤣
@@margaretmcgregor5686 thanks Margaret. I am.....but still being careful. I can't be as cavalier as I was when younger.....but in my head, I'm still 25!! I hope you are well too xx
Glad you are feeling better. I had thought about looking into getting crampons. On a similar note - I remember that my parents used to have plastic overshoes to protect their shoes in wet weather. Maybe I should get some of those and a plastic fold up rain hood - remember those? Take care. D
I've never felt inferior to men having been a career woman, but I now see life differently. Every day I walk past scores of lonely women over 60 aimlessly wandering round charity shops and wonder - why there are so few men doing likewise? Then the penny dropped: it really IS a man's world - THEY get to decide to end a relationship on a whim or go off with someone younger and we women just have to cope with the fallout that relegates us to a life of singledom in old age. We need to take our power back, ladies, and do the dumping!!!
It isn't always the women who are rejected. Maybe the men find better things so do in their old age - and isn't the life expectancy for men shorter than for women. Just tossing in a couple of options there... and some women actually like bargain hunting? D
Is it healthy to punish yourself for being moanie? It’s good to acknowledge that you’re going through things, instead of shaming yourself for becoming soft? I’m sure I’m seeing it the wrong way, don’t fall into a puddle of self pity but sometimes it’s okay to say “this is tough”
Sometimes we do need to be able to just say things are tough. I didn't feel I was punishing myself - rather than reminding myself that I am resiliant by reflecting on times past! Was back in the warm straight after recording! D
Welcome - and thanks for subscribing. I wrote sort of the opposite of procrastinating - ruclips.net/video/Qa8WuqkjFso/видео.html Have added your request to my list. D
Oh lovely! I’ll have a listen whilst I’m procrastinating instead of writing my assignment 🙈 I love that you mentioned Resilience in your video, that word is underrated. We need to be resilient to be able to grow and succeed, like a rose. Many thanks and God bless you
How good it is to see that this video has hit the spot for many of you. Either stirring up memories of years gone by - or by stirring up alternative suggestions.
I really appreciate your efforts - and your sharing of both the above. Take care. Dee
I just came across your video with admiration! We all have those moments of self pity, I ask the Lord to pick me up, shake me out and stand me back down. And to put a song in my heart. All of us have so much to be thankful for, just look around, there is always someone worse off. Love from Canada 🇨🇦. Oh and I Love your frost pattern on your windows, so beautiful! Thanks for sharing your insight and I agree with the young ones being such a help to us.
Oh Dee. You’re so resilient and you always lift me up to a higher level after I’ve watched and listened to you.
I’m kind of alone. But I feed lot of outside critters and my 2 cats. My grandchildren…except the oldest who has some issues…have forgotten all about me. Busy I guess. Living life. But…as an only child…I have learned to amuse myself. Most times.
I’m having a collywobbles kind of day. Yes….very cold here…and have meditated on love and warmth (and much rain out to California)…..and food and shelter to the homeless humans and non humans all over this world.
I’m a tad concerned about the next 4 yrs…but I think I’ll be gone soon. You sitting by the window. I did that…had a red rocking chair as a child…watched the snow falling…making sure cats (in our garage) were fed and warm, my dogs were inside with me…and my mom always was cooking and baking and cleaning. Dad always working. My mom was not like your mom. Seems I was always in the way when I asked if I could help. She had very little patience for me…but I know she fed me, clothed me and made sure I bundled up, during the very rare times she allowed me to go out and play in snow.
I’m grateful…for so much..for you, especially Dee. My old body is hurting ..and I’ve had heating pad on my shoulders and back today. I even shoveled snow two days ago. And that’s why I’m hurting I think.
You take care. I needed this. At bedtime. Even tho you’re just starting your day.
Thank you. Much love and hugs to you and Myschka. Please…both of you take care…stay warm.❤️❤️❤️🌟🌟🌟🤗🤗✌🏻🙏🏻
Ps: We’re due for more snow in Jersey, USA tomorrow. Ugh. Love the way it looks. But must shovel deck and a pathway to the cat food. Even birds are eating a lot more birdseed. Brrrrrrrr. 🥶
Take care - keep safe and warm. D
I understand your feeling that your grandchildren have forgotten you. I suspect they just don't realize how lonely you are, and how much it would brighten your days to see them. May I suggest that you make a "project" out of sending them a monthly reminder that you are thinking of them. People still like to receive mail. Then, when you are in your last days, you will be able to feel good that they had your emotional support, even in their adulthood. I wish my maternal grandparents had done this for me. It would have reminded me that I was still part of their world, and would have prompted me to spend more time interacting with them.
Tis a gift to be simple tis a gift to be free - tis a gift to come down where we ought to be! Thanks Dee!
Morning Dee looking at your windows took me back to my childhood when the inside of the windows we're frozen,and like you said we just got on with it .Thank you for this morning have a good day .
You too. D
Thank you. Its true, we must focus on gratitude 🙏🏼 for our blessings. Have a nice day 🌸❤️🌹👍🏻💜💐 ☕️
for me, it's less an issue of self-discipline and more the acceptance of unfortunate situations that allows me to move on and appreciate the good.
Nice reminder of my own childhood. I am 71. We went from the warmth of the kitchen into the unheated bedroom, put a red handkerchief over the lamp to make it LOOK warm... and my immune system has been top all my life. Never catch a cold etc, unlike many children now... and the ice flowers at the window were so very beautiful. Thank you for this rememberance - from Germany. 😊
Which part of Germany are you from? I have family there too.
@ruthkanth1041 My pleasure - I used to get dressed in the morning under my bed covers - same at night! Slept with clothes on the bed so that I could just grab them - and added extra warmth. D
@Cheshirelass my grandma used to hear a karge stone in the woodfired oben, then pur a towel around and placed it into my bed before bedtime. We have so much to be thankful today, really.
Sorry my mobile always produces wrong English.
Good morning Dee. You have talked yourself round today in your own video. Sending hugs. It’s good to practice gratitude, but sometimes there’s a feeling that can’t be shaken and needs ironing out. We’re all human. Hope you have a lovely day, and get back in the warm with Myschka - he’s probably wondering why you’re sitting out in the cold! 🌹🌹🌹
He is probably thinking I am barmy! I hope that your day is a good one. I agree about the ironing out - or is it sometimes an acceptance of some wrinkles? D
@ a bit of both, probably!
Thank you for sharing the incredible, beautiful frost on your window, Dee! I enjoyed hearing your thoughts, too.
Hi Dee
I have never seen frost on a window pane .
I thought it was your winter garden 🤔
Its extraordinary in its beauty only for you to appreciate ❤ before it disappears in form .
Your love for your past childhood memories will be your greatest joy in times challenging .
The beauty of life is all around you in nature with lovely memories .
You have friends who listen to you. X
Wow, thank you. Take care D
? Without heating except in the room we lived and ate in the ice was on the inside……. we took it for granted!
@@joysedgwick812 Absolutely! D
I haven’t heard the word moan used like that in years. My Scottish parents used it. My mother told me her brothers sang Mona Lisa to her as Moan A Lisa because she was a moan! I came to the states as a child . I think bringing ourselves back to gratitude really does help but a good moan once in a while keeps things from building up inside.
Hi Dee…it’s hard not to get down now & then…just listening to the news makes you feel down & now it’s too cold to relieve stress by gardening…but we have to look forward to the spring! ❤☕️🪴
I was raised to 'put on another layer' too. Have a wonderful day madame.
Very needed today Dee. I'm in pain today and feeling a bit woe is me. Thank you for the uplifting message.
You will get through this - when right for you. D
Good morning from frosty Kent. I can easily fall into my self-pity story, and I am so fond of this quote which speaks to me, "I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself". - DH Lawrence I love birds so much so this quote really speaks to me so It is a regular part of my readings. Actually the "Whistling of Birds" is a really beautiful short story about winter and spring.
I have made a note of that to look it up. Thanks. D
There are so many homeless here where I live. You’re absolutely right we need to appreciate what we have ❤😊
So sad - so many resons for it to have happened. D
Well l grew up on the late forties and fifties and would never say it was ok
We were cold l remember chilblains were common. I turn on the central heating to keep warm. No virtue in suffering unnecessarily. Of course I'm aware that I'm fortunate and l feel sympathy and love for people in difficulties. I feel it is a disgrace that people are having to choose between heating or eating in our country.
Thank you Dee it looked very cold out of your window the snow has gone from here I leyland now , have a good day, sending you love and all good to you. Linda xxx
Good morning Dee. It’s a good idea to practice gratitude. I’m not perfect at it but I do frequently think I’m extremely fortunate to have a roof over my head. Even though our home is tiny I realise there are many people who are in far worse situation unfortunately.
Good morning! Very true. D
Thank you Dee. I am layered up also. I don't enjoy the cold. It makes me sad to hear what people go thru like the fires, tornados and wars and their suffering! I am grateful! Take really good care Dee and everyone!
You too. D
Deepest gratitude to Dee for ur amazing channel nd videos!!
My pleasure D
Thank you, this was incredibly refreshing and reminded me to take a deep breath and stop worrying unnecessarily for a moment
You're so welcome! D
Good morning Dee, I can see that Jack Frost has paid you a visit and has beautifully painted your windows using his paint brush. Like you, I grew up having to be resilient, no central heating and just a fire. We also didn’t have a bathroom, just a freezing, spider ridden outside toilet 🚽 😢.
My Mum used portable paraffin heaters around to keep our bedroom warm and good old hot water bottles at the bottom of my bed because the cold cotton sheets would be a shock to the body! I miss those days but not the outside toilet. We also couldn’t open our windows because Mum used a special cling film type of double glazing to keep out the cold. It’s so easy now that we have the luxuries we dreamed of, to forget the hardships we endured and that others still do. I’m constantly thinking how I would have considered my life and three inside toilets now from the perspective of that little girl I once was.
Cuddle Myschka for me and look after yourself xx
Thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts! I really appreciate it - those outside loos were quite something compared with indoor plumbing. D
I worked for a lady in her 60's recently who had lost her husband to cancer, she has family close, but just by little things she said she would let slip that she missed having her partner around, i've said to her that she is a lovely person, easy to talk to and she is still attractive. If i were single and she would have me i would definitely love to share my life with her, i've not said that last part to her(even typing it feels a little creepy!!) but i'm just so suprised that she isn't flooded with offers, but i've never met anyone through a computer or dating site and i would be VERY WORRIED about doing so as you hear such bad stories. She does go to activities and on holidays and i really hope she will find a GOOD MAN, she is very kind and deserves a companion.
I guess what will be for her, will be. D
@@Cheshirelass i really hope She finds a lovely kind companion, (that is the main thing 'a companion') if there's any justice she will.
I’ve learnt a lot from you and thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
I'm so glad! D
Beautifully frosted windows Dee, reminds me of my youth also! We survived all of it!!
Thanks Dee..i definitely needed to hear yr wonderful and wise words today...
Lovely video along with beautiful frost on the windows!
Your frosty windows certainly are beautiful, Dee ❤
We have daily reminders of our privilege in my country, but we still have those moments of feeling sorry for ourselves.
Think we all do - is it human nature I wonder? Sounds like a discussion for ove a cuppa! D
Be thankful, be thankful be thankful.
Thank you for your wisdom Dee ❤ enjoy your beautiful winters day on the other side of the world. Love from an Aussie gal 🥰
Hope you aren't too hot! Take care D
I think we all have days like this. I feel humiliated when I have a pity party. But some days are just difficult. We still have our own supply of sunshine inside us. Bless you.
You are so right ,we have become soft. I am in my 70s and do not like the way the world is becoming.
Like you I lived in a house with outside toilet and water in the yard in a tap., a large range for cooking . Love to you and best wishes for year ahead.
Thanks for sharing!! I hope that the year ahead is a good one for you too. D
Thanks for the reminder 😊❤ I am in America, Arkansas to be exact. I teach sewing, cooking and nutrition classes and I thought it important enough to get my degree to teach such skills.🙏🏼
That is awesome! Such skills are so vital for our ability to survive and thrive in this world of ours. D
Thank you for that timely reminder Dee. There are always others who are worse off. Unfortunately, the cold affects me very much as I have very poor circulation and a heart problem so I have to try and keep warm. I only have the heating on am and pm but have invested in an electric over blanket for when I’m sitting down. It really helps and costs very little. Between times I go out every day for a walk, a coffee with a friend or try to busy myself around the house. It’s lovely to see that today there is some sunshine here. Take care. 😊
You take care too. It's good when we settle to a way of coping that suits us isn't it? Glad that you have some sunshine. D
Those heated blankets are lifesavers!
Hi Dee 🤍
I’ve been following you for a while now, and I really admire the content you create. You often tackle deep and meaningful topics, which is why I wanted to share an idea for a potential video that’s very close to my heart.
At 17, I’m starting to become more independent and take time for myself, but I sometimes feel guilty or sad when I see my mom being bored or alone while I’m away, for instance, when I go to the gym. I’m scared that by focusing on my own needs, I won’t spend enough time with her and might regret it later.
I think this feeling of balancing independence while not wanting to "leave our loved ones behind" is something many people, especially those with strong family bonds, can relate to.
Maybe you could address this topic in a future video? For example, how to find a balance between taking care of ourselves and being there for our loved ones, and how to manage the fear of regretting the time we don’t spend with them.
Thank you in advance if you decide to talk about it, and thank you for always sharing inspiring content! Wishing you lots of success in everything you do.
With admiration,
Inès
Thank you Ines - I will certainly add your suggestion to my list. It can certainly cause difficulties. D
Your thoughtfulness is to be admired.
Hi Dee, when I’m feeling down sorry for myself I ask God to help direct my thoughts and forgive me. I too have a lot to be grateful for and I don’t take that for granted, but we all have those days chin up my friend. Tomorrow is always better.❤
We do - so long as we have our own way of handling such days - things are ok. D
Good morning Dee! I just wanted to say i usually listen to your videos in my phone through my headphones. This is the first time I have your video playing on TV in crystal quality and actively watching it, I just want you to know you are so beautiful!! I was taken aback you are so pretty! Love your videos!
Oh gosh - you are so very kind. Thank you. D
Thank you so much. I love and need your advice! Take care! 🙏
So lovely to see you this morning Dee.
Thank you. D
Good reminder to look at the mug half full
I love your videos Dee they are so relaxing yet relatable 💕🤍
Oh, great catch up with you! Yes on becoming soft and I also feel so blessed with my situation. I know it can all change in a second but I will not “dwell” on it. Well, I’ll try. The sharing of knowledge between generations is a brilliant topic as well. I’ve been wanting to teach my granddaughter how to cook simple meals for herself and not order delivery$$$$$$$. Slowly but surely, I see that with the budgets becoming more challenged is pushing the young to sites like Pinterest to develop an interest in healthier food and developing some sort of a shopping and cooking plan. Fingers crossed. By all means make use of your Polar cover and extra socks. Love to you and Myshka.
Thanks - and I hope that you enjoy sharing your skills with your granddaughter. That is wonderful. D
Thank you dear Dee. ❤
Have a nice bun and hot drink in front of log burner. 😍❣️
That sounds great! D
Thank you for presenting real life experience. It is fantastic. This Full Moon in Cancer is bringing up a lot of things buried and not healed. It’s light brings the shadows into focus.
Bring in the LIGHT! 🙏🪷
Absolutely. the moon was so beautiful last night - I spent ages looking at it and pondering about it. I didn't get out to film this one, but I did two last year. Bring in the light - and let's do our bit to keep it shining. D
What a beautiful painting Jack Frost has left for you there! It's just hard sometimes when it's cold and grey outside. I can relate here in Northern Ontario, Canada! The winds whipping up this afternoon and I'm bundled under a throw blanket❤
Keep warm and snug. D
Yes I well remember the coal fire in one room and some ice on windows in others. I got up the other day to a frozen condensate pipe and no heatint and was fit to be tied. The first thing that popped up was a post from local homeless team who were out night before in freezing cold bringing food, clothes and conversation to poor souls on the street. Brought me back to earth big time. - Frances
Frances - that post doesn't remove the fact that you had a problem that was affecting you - especially in the cold weather. D
@Cheshirelass True but made me grateful I was inside a house and the heating could be fixed. - Frances
Hi Dee, I was brought up in a farmhouse with coal fires and no central heating. I think that central heating, when on too high, can make you sluggish. I hate the cold but I feel sharper - I’m a bit of a wuss nowadays though if it’s too cold! 🤣🤣xxx
I know the feeling - but layered up I feel fine. D
I think there's nothing wrong with self pity, or even asking for pity from friends or loved ones, as long as one doesn't get stuck in it, or relies on it too much. We all have limited resources, physical and mental, and feeling pity may mean we've overextended ourselves or there's some kind of imbalance going on. I believe adressing the underlying reasons for those feelings and dealing with them, instead of just telling ourselves to be stronger, is a more kind and sympathetic way to treat ourselves (and we deserve the kindness we give to others).
@firefly-pd9ho We do very much deserve the kindness we freely give to others. I believe it comes down to self awareness, knowing our body. If we just need a prod in the ribs to get us going - we know we can do it as we basically have the energy, the ability to do things and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. However there will be times when that self awareness tells us to tune in to how we are feeling - what we need, what could well be essential at that time is to hunker down and simply be - and allow ourselves to recover. D
I agree, I think there is a place for allowing yourself to feel what you feel and being compassionate to yourself when you’re feeling low. And not getting stuck in it as you say. ❤ thanks for your perspective
Hi Dee it's human nature I guess and we have to talk ourselves round which you have done ❤ big love as always from Scotland ❤ where we have had NO snow whatsoever only hard frosts and the next 5 days are double figure temperatures 🎉
Absolutely! A good old dose of positive self talk - and even a bit of self nagging and reminding goes a long way. Warmer here today - so no frosty conservatory! D
Oh please make a recording in it!! My Dad would say, Now now. Eyes front. Shoulders back. Chin up. Never let the b@st@rds get you down! And, Worse things happen at sea! I can also make a meal front nowt much. And I remember ice on the insides of windows and no heating. Just the coal boiler. I wonder if you can still buy liberty boddices?? Myschka will like the log burner. Jolly cold missus. Wrap up. We can also have a cup of tea....to my eternal gratitude ❤ Beautiful outside!
Not so parky this morning, though liberty boddice would still be welcome! D
You're beautiful, Grandma!
Thank you! D
Oh, please you're welcome, Grandma.
Gratitude is so important. But I wonder if it’s always necessary to talk ourselves out of how we feel. There will always be someone with 2 broken legs when you are ‘lucky’ enough to have only broken one. It doesn’t mean our one leg doesn’t hurt like hell and is making life hard and miserable. It’s definitely easier to bear any suffering in a functioning, stable country, but suffering and feeling a bit sorry for yourself sometimes - is it always something we should talk to ourselves about. I’ve left a literal war zone, ended up in a country with awful racism and then came to the UK. I was homeless, on my own, spoke little English and was petrified. Now I have a housing association flat, lovely neighbours, good friends and enough to eat and drink and access to medical care. I am hugely grateful to this country and the wonderful people in my life. But there are times where I allow myself to feel sad and that this is not how my life should have been. I will have a duvet day or two, and watch rubbish on tv and just do nothing . I’m heartbroken for those in Israel, Gaza, Afghanistan, Sudan, Syria and Yemen and those in the Californian fires. Life for the people there is horrific. I wish it would all just stop. But their suffering - does it have to stop us feeling our own🤔. Sorry for the loooong post and please don’t feel you have to answer Dee. They are just my thoughts on gratitude from the perspective of growing up in a conflict and ending up in leaving two countries. I feel ok about self pity sometimes. Life has and is still often very tough. Take care and look after yourself lovely Dee❤
Thank you for your post - please never feel a need to apologise, especially for sharing your story and your feelings. Take care - D
I hope you don't mind, but have copied a reply to someone this morning. -
We do very much deserve the kindness we freely give to others. I believe it comes down to self awareness, knowing our body. If we just need a prod in the ribs to get us going - we know we can do it as we basically have the energy, the ability to do things and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. However there will be times when that self awareness tells us to tune in to how we are feeling - what we need, what could well be essential at that time is to hunker down and simply be - and allow ourselves to recover. D
oh ps.....I bought some crampons for my boots, and what a difference! Usually, I just sit out any icy conditions. But I am well enough to do the school run now, and I want to do it. And the ice won't shift itself. So Mohammed must go to the mountain. They're not expensive, and make me steady on my feet. Advice from my daughter in law. However, if you get the spikey ones, be careful of your flooring, when you come indoors!! All I need now is some goggles for the snow blindness, and I'm fit for travel!!! 🤣🤣
Good for you 👍 so glad you are feeling better ❤
@@margaretmcgregor5686 thanks Margaret. I am.....but still being careful. I can't be as cavalier as I was when younger.....but in my head, I'm still 25!! I hope you are well too xx
Glad you are feeling better. I had thought about looking into getting crampons. On a similar note - I remember that my parents used to have plastic overshoes to protect their shoes in wet weather. Maybe I should get some of those and a plastic fold up rain hood - remember those?
Take care. D
@Cheshirelass haha I do. We called the overshoes galoshes. We would never be seen dead in them! 🤣🤣
@@amanitamuscaria7500 Yes! But parents used - and didn't get soggy shoes. D
I've never felt inferior to men having been a career woman, but I now see life differently. Every day I walk past scores of lonely women over 60 aimlessly wandering round charity shops and wonder - why there are so few men doing likewise? Then the penny dropped: it really IS a man's world - THEY get to decide to end a relationship on a whim or go off with someone younger and we women just have to cope with the fallout that relegates us to a life of singledom in old age. We need to take our power back, ladies, and do the dumping!!!
It isn't always the women who are rejected. Maybe the men find better things so do in their old age - and isn't the life expectancy for men shorter than for women. Just tossing in a couple of options there... and some women actually like bargain hunting? D
Sorry to hear you’re feeling your gender is at a disadvantage. I also struggle with my mood when I’m between relationships
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Is it healthy to punish yourself for being moanie? It’s good to acknowledge that you’re going through things, instead of shaming yourself for becoming soft? I’m sure I’m seeing it the wrong way, don’t fall into a puddle of self pity but sometimes it’s okay to say “this is tough”
Sometimes we do need to be able to just say things are tough.
I didn't feel I was punishing myself - rather than reminding myself that I am resiliant by reflecting on times past! Was back in the warm straight after recording! D
@ good, not judging you for doing what you need to do It just seems people lack self compassion, thanks for the great content 💕
@@betpierce609 No problem - thank you. D
Hi, I’m a new subscriber 🙂 really enjoying watching your videos. Can you make a video about procrastination?
Welcome - and thanks for subscribing. I wrote sort of the opposite of procrastinating - ruclips.net/video/Qa8WuqkjFso/видео.html
Have added your request to my list. D
Oh lovely! I’ll have a listen whilst I’m procrastinating instead of writing my assignment 🙈 I love that you mentioned Resilience in your video, that word is underrated. We need to be resilient to be able to grow and succeed, like a rose. Many thanks and God bless you
@@keepcalm914 resilience is essential - and the sooner learnt the better. Now get on with your asignment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! D
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Far too many homeless people 🌎💞🙏💞
There really are. D
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When is your birthday ?!
15th! Gosh - what a year it has been! D
@ happy early birthday love!!!
One more thing Dee. Thanks for telling us about Donna Ashworth. Been reading a bit. Loved that poem about JOY. 💕
I love your videos Dee they are so relaxing yet relatable 💕🤍 you always say exactly what I need to hear!
ur so prettyyy omg🩷
You are too kind!! D
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