@CoachMelannie can you maybe do a video in this: Related to flirting and approaching a girl, applying all the tips you give, I have this problem: When in a club or pub or wherever, and you see a girl you like, it is kind of easy to apply these things, like making eye contact etc... But I do not want to do this and then there's a positive reaction and I go up to the girl, but in the back of my mind I worry about the possibility that she's already in a relationship. That's keeping me from doing these things. I don't want to "hit" on a girl and she's already got a boyfriend, and maybe the boyfriend is present in the place, I don't want to pick a fight or make a fool of myself. How do I handle this? I don't want to make eye contact etc and the boyfriend sees this because there's bound to be trouble. And I have found some girls that are already taken do play along with the flirting. This is a very difficult one for me and this is the only reason for me is not to try and approach girls. I hope I explained properly, but I think you will understand where I'm coming from.
Excellent video, thank you for the previous video and the book recommendation called hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest. I must say it s excellent
Yes, unfortunately, older and married women seem to love me. I'm not looking to get in the middle though. I'm still hoping for a full life. I want real & long term.
Some women, no matter how "taken" like to flirt because they think of it as a fun game between you, and would never cheat. Some like to feel attractive still, because tey don't get that from their husband anymore... and those may cheat. But you have it backwards. You're off limits to *her*, and if she doesn't respect that, she has auto-disqualified. I would never touch a taken woman because what she will do WITH you, she will do TO you.
The "being funny" one is so true. I am not funny at all and I've had some girls laugh at everything I say. Its almost annoying. That's usually how I know.
First and second question I mean. The third was once How big is your house? What neighbourhood/ postal code? (They're looking for you to live in a gated community driving a C Class and wearing Armani suits to work.
@@RobertStewart-i3m I've actually known a few chicks who prefer divorced men, & farmers Mind you....they want horses & a hobby farm. No livestock unless it's automated.
I honestly am able to truthfully say that I have never heard a single one of those questions from a woman ever. The questions I have heard repeatedly were missing from the list: "Don't you have somewhere else to be" "Will you excuse me i have to go do.. " "Will you buy me..." And the favorite, "what do I need to do to get rid of you"
2:20 A woman won't even look at you, must less talk to you, UNLESS she finds you somewhat attractive. Unless, of course, she wants to ''use'' you for something, but that's another subject.
It's true that women don't tend to go up to guys and ask them out, though it does happen. What they WILL do is remove as many obstacles as possible so YOU ask them out. If a woman is making it possible for you to easily ask her out by giving lots of openings, that's a clue, bro!
@@daveowens271 No women don't approach men because they might be rejected and they don't know how to handle it, even though they've been dishing it out for years.
@@daveowens271 Women can't handle rejection. Men are hardened by it. That's why they want you to make the first move - so they can reject you without getting rejected themselves.
Your trumpet quality was debatable, but the excitement and enthusiasm in your enjoyment of said trumpet was precious! Your joy and positivity are contagious!
Flirting and Turkey. I'll be listening carefully for any of these questions a lady may ask me. Thank you for a good video. My family and I normally have turkey for Thanksgiving and on Christmas Eve as well. However, I have had Cornish hens for Thanksgiving supper back in 2015. I cooked them in crock pots with broth, chopped up vegetables such as carrots, potatoes, and onions. It was just like the Easter meal us troops had during the Desert Shield/Desert Storm Persian Gulf War in 1991 when they served up a Cornish hen to each of us at the base I was at. I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Thank you for your support! I hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving as well! That Cornish hen story is cool to hear! I've never actually tried it before. Thank you SO much for your support and kindness! God bless 🙏
Another strange one. Even I, an old, southern nerd, have been asked a few of these questions. I always figured it was just polite conversation, like variations on the marriage question. "I saw your wife, the other day". I come back with "That was my sister". Which is was. And she comes with "Oh. My friend told me you were married". Fishing for info. I thought nothing of it, because, as one of the discarded men, I can't assume it's interest. After all, they deserve better. Pure and simple, a lot of us have been told we're not worth the effort, so we let it push us to become better, in other areas, and to doubt any possible attraction. If it ever is a signal, we're not listening.
Regarding your comment::,,,:not the video... I'm always looking back and saying to myself......"damn......she was interested....i had a:90% shot" At the time I knew 0
They can ask away…….. I don’t date or mess with them anymore. Not for the past 15 years. I appreciate my home, vehicles etc too much to give it to some golddigger
@@marcpavlik - Id rather find a life partner, but I would need us to have our own places... If we're having an argument, we both have our own spaces to go to to cool off, and if we were to break up, neither of us ends up homeless.
Guys, unless you know through your experiences, if she seems to be flirtatiously looking at you, then be consciousness of your surroundings. She's very likely looking at someone else. I've saved myself from 100s of potentially embarrassing situations by maintaining situational awareness.
What does it mean when she asks, "How many girlfriends have you had?" Or, "How many women have you lived with?" If a woman I barely know asks me those questions, I run.
It's to see if you're preselected meaning other women want you or to be in your circle. Most women want men that other women want. To them it represents value.
Oh, An ex-girlfriend asked me early in our relationship "If we had a baby, what would you name it if it was a boy" ? I was like Uhhh, I don't know She replied "I"VE GOT the perfect name". I just said Ok. Then she said " HOW ABOUT IF IT WERE A GIRL"? I was like Uhhhh I don't know. " then replied "I'VE GOT THE PERFECT NAME". My gut was sayin "We're outta here". I then broke it off and left
So she was telling you she wanted kids and saw you as a long term mate that she "might" want to marry and have kids. I don't see a problem with her wanting that and letting you know that.
@paulsmith5611 Probably timing. He seems to have left that out. If someone I know for say 2 months or less would say that to me, I would run. Or maybe he doesn't want children, that is not so unusual.
i haven't watched yet but I am pretty sure if you make it through 11 questions with a gal and neither one of you are scared off then you're prolly golden for whatever the next step is...
1) Are you my type? Lady, I don't even know you 2) How do I stay fit? I work for a living 3) Who taught me how to be funny? Rejection and pain 4) Can I add you on my social media? Not NO, but hell NO! Do I look like a movie waiting to be made? 5) Why don't I have a girlfriend? Refer back to answer #3 6) Have I ever thought of settling down? Been there done that, now I'm free! 7) Have I ever been in love? Refer to #3 and #6 8) What kind of girl do I usually go for? Ones that give me some peace and quiet 9) Am I seeing someone right now? No, please refer to #8 10) Do I come here often? Probably not too much anymore, I don't like games involving 21 questions. 11) Why are you standing there asking me questions with your arms folded? You're dismissed, go on about your business and let me get back to my coffee. All this may work in the middle of Montana after church services, but in the real world it's more like minding your own business in a bar and having some little girl walk up to you and say, "Buy me a drink!" How much money do you make? Are you at least 6' tall? Do you own a business? The sheen coming off those rose colored glasses or contacts is making me ill.
@@larsjeger4346 You're almost as good at projection as a woman is. Mr. Cranky here lost his wife last year. I never want to go through any of the hoops, games, or any of that stuff women call dating these days. I had a unicorn, and I will honor her memory until I die and join her. So believe what you want, but, there isn't anything between the lines, just empty spaces. So go ahead and make up whatever you want. By the way, what degree in psychology do you have?
Do random people really ask you to buy them drinks? That sounds rude as hell to me. I know we are built differently here in Europe but I would definitely see that as rude. I don't even know that woman, how can she ask me such a thing? I may buy drinks for friends but for a complete stranger, that is madness.
"Can I add you on social media?" is a red flag for me. I dont want to be stalked online by a woman extrapolating relationship information from whatever I post online.
So, a while ago, when I was still in high school, I participated in the school performance. One where the audience had to buy their tickets. I had bought two for my parents. I had been in a band before when I still attended music school, as pianist and part time singer. But the piano really is my thing, when it comes to music. I do prefer playing alone and getting to choose what I play. So I played two pieces from Einaudi as a solo act. I was motivated to attend because it was my final year at high school (+the school itself actually closed down this year), plus, a really good friend of mine attended too and had done so multiple times. It went really well. I got quite a few compliments afterwards. There was also this girl who approached me and asked about how I played and technique and such. In hindsight… yeah that could’ve been a question of initiation. But it flew right over me. You know, being autistic makes ‘normal’ social situations tough to read, but this…? I’m used to seeing/picking up pieces of a conversation differently, which leads to not really understanding one another(‘s intentions). The double empathy problem. A difference in preferred communication styles. Autism tends to come with literal thinking, so when someone asks me about the piano, my mind goes ‘Ah, she’s interested in playing the piano’. Talking about the piano=My thinking being in the piano-realm. And in my mind, it’s not ‘Maybe there’s more to it than the piano’. For all I knew it was politeness. That’s basically my assumption all the time. But she specifically approached me after the performances were done, to inquire about how *I* played the piano. My parents seemed to have picked up on it infinitely better than I did. I’m not too good at gauging people’s intentions and all the social subtext and such. This may be one of those cases where it’s really obvious from the outside… but… I wouldn’t know for certain. So… uh, yeah. Not really much use in lingering on that. It’s all ifs and maybes in my mind. I guess I really have to try and keep my mind sharp.
I often miss social cues as well. Difficult to gauge how much to talk/how much to listen. I usually am "a really good listener", and they vent and then it's over, or they ask questions and I answer, but go into a little too much detail and then they seem scared to speak with me again. But after overthinking so many interactions, now I often wonder "why is she approaching me?" or "why is she so kind to me?", and then worry every bit of the encounter to death - did that mean she likes me? should I approach her next? should I ask her on a date?
@@jayayyyyy I definitely often have the tendency to think of what are likely coincidences or just kindness to perhaps alludes to something more. But my ignorant little companion called 'Brian' wouldn't know. And I relate to often being a bit of a sponge in conversation, whilst occasionally saying a lot/go on a bit of a tangent when a topic of conversation genuinely interests me (that way, I don't have to deal with small talk). Such actually interested conversation can give energy, rather than just taking it. I definitely don't intuitively know what kind of ratios of talking vs not talking are generally to be accepted. If you don't talk enough, you can come across as quiet, mysterious (good or bad way) and perhaps even creepy. But too much and you're overbearing and creepy in a different way. Yeah... Normal social situations can be difficult enough as is. Unless they're with fellow autistic people, a lot of the time. Edit: From my point of view, the girl in the story wouldn't have alluded to much. That's my view on the matter anyway. Perhaps it's sort of based on some self doubts here or there. I know that I'm probably going to come across as weird. But I do own it, for the most part. I don't try to appeal 'to the masses'. I think that the my authentic self probably won't be thaaat attractive to many but it will probably be attractive to people who may be a good match. But yeah, any situation where I can't decipher what undertone there may have been, I kind of throw all of those situations on the 'it's probably nothing much' pile. Which does mean that I don't initiate and probably don't try to reciprocate a girl's approach properly. As far as I knew, the girl from this comment was simply interested in the piano. To me, _that_ seems logical. But such subtleties always end up being less subtle to an outsider looking into the situation, so I trust my parents' judgments.
Ham, ham, and more ham. My grandparents had a small restaurant in Oklahoma and they would order hams from Virginia. In the 1950s and 1960s sometimes I would go with them to pick up a couple of boxes of hams at the train station. Each box had 4 hams and that ham would melt in my mouth. But now to serious business...occasionally I have met a couple of ladies where I was less interested in the first one I had contact with and more interested in her friend. I haven't been able to find a tactful way to include the friend more when the first lady is dominating the conversation and attention.
As a focused nerdy boy I now realise that all the girls I liked gave me these signals, I totally missed all the signals. Crazy how life really is once you have a clear view on things.
Mind games don't work on me either. The only women who ever had success with me were the very direct type. But there is a fine line between direct and outright crazy. Be careful with the crazy.
Flirting, please include time stamps to each tips or topics. I would like to know why women can't be upfront and show interest and ask the men or person out they're interested in? What type of person they reject? What if you're interested in dating the women, why do they still reject guy and not give the person a chance? What are they really looking for in a person? What's if you have already expressed your feelings and asked them out and they reject you? What if you've known they were single and asked them out and they reject you and you noticed them out with someone else or hear from someone they are seeing someone. What if they're already with someone else or you find out afterwards asking them out that they are texting someone else and smiling at work. Why do women judge if a guy or a person is caring, nice, helpful and supportive person and be willing to be there whenever for the people who he cares for family, friends, colleagues and other people and yet still ignore and reject him without getting to know the person and the behaviour. Why are women going for bad behaviour guys? What type of person do they want to date? What qualities attractive women
If you are asking why women can't be direct in their communication on whether they are interested in you; the answer is simple: they want to encourage you to ask them out. They don't want rejection so if they don't ask you directly , they can fool themselves into believing they still have a chance with you. If they directly ask you and you say no, then that is final. They want to be chased and they want the man to ask them giving them the power to dictate the terms of the relationship. Women do not do direct as a rule. Some do, most don't
@@marklittle8805 "If they directly ask you and you say no, then that is final." Well, not really. The scenario is relatively rare. So it may not occur to the guy that she might be serious. In that case, if she comes back later after a "no" she may actually get somewhere after he's devoted a bit of thought to the problem. Even when women try, they don't try very hard. And some men think too much about things.
Turkey has the right macros for me but good Lord are you beautiful and I could listen to you read the phone book I love your voice so much. Do you record audiobooks?
The only one I've ever been asked is the social media one. Many times all I ever became is just a friend. A few times I got blocked or I blocked them and that was the unhappy ending to the story.
It's obviously too late for me but guys take my word for it. I know sometimes it seems better but God said "it is not right for man to be alone" it doesn't get easier with age.
It seems obvious that it was Paul's calling to be single, and that was his conviction. He felt more useful to God's kingdom remaining single rather than marrying. Still, not all are called to be single. To answer to your question, and in context to Paul's opinion on marriage, he said he would prefer that men remained single because of the trouble that comes with marriage, and in order for single people to fully dedicate themselves to God. Paul is not giving a command from himself, nor is he relaying a command from God. He's also not condemning anyone who chooses to marry. Remember that Paul was able to see the Lord Jesus Christ in a vision, and he was led by the Holy Spirit. I'd say he had quite a lot of sound teaching.
I had a lady I worked with who she and I became good friends, I was with someone and never took a chance since I was in a relationship, but when I got off of the relationship she came up to me and asked for my number which I gave it to her, a few days later I asked her out for like coffee as a friend and she turned me down, it was very confusing to me so I stopped talking to her and when I saw her at work I would walk away, to avoid her.
*If she’s asking about your future plans or whether you’re seeing someone, she’s likely gauging her chances with you. Don’t overthink - just respond confidently and see where the conversation flows.*
Coach Melanie is probably the best looking girl/woman out of all the different ladies who have a dating channel. If she's the coach, who's the assistant coach? It's like hockey. You have one Head Coach and also an assistant coach.
1 turkey, 1 chicken, 1 hammmm. I'm flirting with calories since I don't know when, why is it sweet potato casserole comes with pecans? Hey man, pass the gravy and keep the stuffing coming. -a parody of a G. Thoroughgood song.
These r difficult for me as I don't pickup on social ques very well making me shy seeming I also work in a factory where we all have to wear hair nets but the girl I am attracted to makes the rosters for 3⃣ rooms we are both trained in all 3 rooms however she's always putting us near one another and if we are down on ppl in a room she always asks me and acouple other people (usually the few females in the factory) to go with her to the next room so idk
Id be asking ok is it prank T.V.? Cuz im the kinda guy you don’t see even if Im very tall No women are interested in me soooo What you’re talking about Willis? Beside got tired of beeing rejected so I quit the game
No one asks me these. To be honest, they are always ask some weird things and act weird or say hi in a weird manner. To be honest each girl who wanted something from me was a weirdo.
The "how are you still single" question is not a great one. It feels like an accusation or a slap in the face when asked. I mean I have been asked that question and it just kinda made me instantly sad and depressed and I just said "well I guess that I am just not good enough," and that was the end of that. I can't talk for all men, but myself and the guys I know don't like this question.
In my experience 100% of the time the women is just being friendly and neighborly they don't want you or are attracted to you unless your tall thin or athletic are famous extremely good looking drive a very nice car or have a lot of money if your just average looking and have a regular job there just being nice so just say high nice talking to have a nice day and leave it at that don't bother pursuing or even thinking about them because all relationships fall apart in the first three months and it's always your fault so guys don't fall for it just stay single and take care of yourselves
Interesting stuff, lovely hostess.However, I go by the Paul Simon song: I am a rock, I am an island, and a rock feels no pain and an island never cries.Yes, cynical I know, but after a long term relationship finished and many failed short term ones, going to retire and listen to my Smiths records as refuge for the rest of my life😢😢
I never had any woman to ask any of these questions that's in this video I haven't dated anyone in just over 30 years now and I'm now 53 be 54 in January I'm not shy I told to a woman no problem just it seems I'm never there type because of this I just stop dating all together I been a over the road truck driver for 26 years now I live in Phenix City,AL
What ever they say it translates to how much money can I sliver off this guy and does he have a friend I can move on with when Ivr milked him for everything.
How has she got your social media if you’ve only just met her or seen her in a coffee shop, bar or gym???? These videos are always for guys that have known or work with the girl what about random girls you’ve only just clapped eyes on?
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Flirting! And your trumpet sounded like a hen trying to impersonate a Rooster
@CoachMelannie can you maybe do a video in this:
Related to flirting and approaching a girl, applying all the tips you give, I have this problem:
When in a club or pub or wherever, and you see a girl you like, it is kind of easy to apply these things, like making eye contact etc... But I do not want to do this and then there's a positive reaction and I go up to the girl, but in the back of my mind I worry about the possibility that she's already in a relationship. That's keeping me from doing these things. I don't want to "hit" on a girl and she's already got a boyfriend, and maybe the boyfriend is present in the place, I don't want to pick a fight or make a fool of myself. How do I handle this?
I don't want to make eye contact etc and the boyfriend sees this because there's bound to be trouble. And I have found some girls that are already taken do play along with the flirting. This is a very difficult one for me and this is the only reason for me is not to try and approach girls.
I hope I explained properly, but I think you will understand where I'm coming from.
@@fbekker1838 i feel you brother
Prefer fish. Pescatarian. 😅
Were you on short bus?
Excellent video, thank you for the previous video and the book recommendation called hidden techniques for manifesting women zorlest. I must say it s excellent
I hate being flirted with by married women. It's like they're saying " look what is off limits to you"
You have a naive world view (in a positive way)
As if a married woman is out of reach
@toddr9871 My wife cheated on me the entire time I was married. It hurts bad & I'm not trying to do that to someone
Yes, unfortunately, older and married women seem to love me.
I'm not looking to get in the middle though.
I'm still hoping for a full life.
I want real & long term.
Some women, no matter how "taken" like to flirt because they think of it as a fun game between you, and would never cheat. Some like to feel attractive still, because tey don't get that from their husband anymore... and those may cheat. But you have it backwards. You're off limits to *her*, and if she doesn't respect that, she has auto-disqualified. I would never touch a taken woman because what she will do WITH you, she will do TO you.
Thanks!
You're very welcome! Thank YOU for your kindness and support! God bless 🙏
The "being funny" one is so true. I am not funny at all and I've had some girls laugh at everything I say. Its almost annoying. That's usually how I know.
In Dallas it was "What do you do? What do you drive?" - Gold digger central.
I've gotten those questions on dates like first and second ones. They're everywhere
First and second question I mean.
The third was once
How big is your house?
What neighbourhood/ postal code?
(They're looking for you to live in a gated community driving a C Class and wearing Armani suits to work.
@@RetroCaptainfunny thing about those types of "guys" is they wouldn't be able to survive without us "peasants".
@@RetroCaptain I wear overalls. But I'm divorced so there's that
@@RobertStewart-i3m I've actually known a few chicks who prefer divorced men, & farmers
Mind you....they want horses & a hobby farm.
No livestock unless it's automated.
I honestly am able to truthfully say that I have never heard a single one of those questions from a woman ever. The questions I have heard repeatedly were missing from the list:
"Don't you have somewhere else to be"
"Will you excuse me i have to go do.. "
"Will you buy me..."
And the favorite, "what do I need to do to get rid of you"
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The only one I've ever heard is "how are you still single?" But they weren't interested in me. They just wanted to know why. Go figure.
@@jimfischione2743
Tell them you're sorting through the trash, that's why.
@@jimfischione2743I just respond "Why wouldn't you date me?"
Consider going to places with a better class of women. Those ones have no manners at all.
2:20 A woman won't even look at you, must less talk to you, UNLESS she finds you somewhat attractive. Unless, of course, she wants to ''use'' you for something, but that's another subject.
she'll talk to you after you've paid your bill. That way they can see what kind of wallet you have in your hands.
Some are shy
It's true that women don't tend to go up to guys and ask them out, though it does happen. What they WILL do is remove as many obstacles as possible so YOU ask them out. If a woman is making it possible for you to easily ask her out by giving lots of openings, that's a clue, bro!
Bingo. Unfortunately the comments are filled with trolls or guys who are oblivious to remembering what has been said to them for more than 2 minutes.
@@daveowens271
No women don't approach men because they might be rejected and they don't know how to handle it, even though they've been dishing it out for years.
@@daveowens271
Women can't handle rejection. Men are hardened by it. That's why they want you to make the first move - so they can reject you without getting rejected themselves.
@@daveowens271
Right...
Women will mark their territory without claiming ownership.
@@ChrisLichowicz Haha that's an interesting visual, maybe not go there again
Why am i still single? Because every girl i approached when i was young and virile answered with"I HAVE A BOYFRIEND
Then you hear them compliant. Where are all the good men ?
Your trumpet quality was debatable, but the excitement and enthusiasm in your enjoyment of said trumpet was precious! Your joy and positivity are contagious!
Flirting and Turkey. I'll be listening carefully for any of these questions a lady may ask me. Thank you for a good video. My family and I normally have turkey for Thanksgiving and on Christmas Eve as well. However, I have had Cornish hens for Thanksgiving supper back in 2015. I cooked them in crock pots with broth, chopped up vegetables such as carrots, potatoes, and onions. It was just like the Easter meal us troops had during the Desert Shield/Desert Storm Persian Gulf War in 1991 when they served up a Cornish hen to each of us at the base I was at. I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. May God richly bless you. 🙏
Thank you for your support! I hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving as well! That Cornish hen story is cool to hear! I've never actually tried it before. Thank you SO much for your support and kindness! God bless 🙏
Good video. I like the info
...and great voice. Soft yet clear.
Keep up the great work. 🤗
(We did fried chicken this year...lol)
Thank you, Coach Melanie!
Thanks for letting me know when it is time to run.
Another strange one. Even I, an old, southern nerd, have been asked a few of these questions. I always figured it was just polite conversation, like variations on the marriage question. "I saw your wife, the other day". I come back with "That was my sister". Which is was. And she comes with "Oh. My friend told me you were married". Fishing for info. I thought nothing of it, because, as one of the discarded men, I can't assume it's interest. After all, they deserve better.
Pure and simple, a lot of us have been told we're not worth the effort, so we let it push us to become better, in other areas, and to doubt any possible attraction. If it ever is a signal, we're not listening.
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It took me a long time to learn these lessons. Turns out, women have been hitting on me for a long time. Especially married women.
Regarding your comment::,,,:not the video...
I'm always looking back and saying to myself......"damn......she was interested....i had a:90% shot"
At the time I knew 0
@easterbeast843 exactly!
Helpful thanks 🎉
They can ask away…….. I don’t date or mess with them anymore. Not for the past 15 years. I appreciate my home, vehicles etc too much to give it to some golddigger
Based AF. Peace is more valuable than a piece 😄
Lol you don't have to get married numb nuts.
Agreed. 19 years and counting. All alone and better off.
@@marcpavlik - Id rather find a life partner, but I would need us to have our own places... If we're having an argument, we both have our own spaces to go to to cool off, and if we were to break up, neither of us ends up homeless.
Don't marry them.
Guys, unless you know through your experiences, if she seems to be flirtatiously looking at you, then be consciousness of your surroundings.
She's very likely looking at someone else.
I've saved myself from 100s of potentially embarrassing situations by maintaining situational awareness.
What does it mean when she asks, "How many girlfriends have you had?" Or, "How many women have you lived with?" If a woman I barely know asks me those questions, I run.
It means she thinks you’re a player.
Wise, very wise!
She ist testing your confidence
Stage 4 CLINGER
It's to see if you're preselected meaning other women want you or to be in your circle. Most women want men that other women want. To them it represents value.
Dang she called me out on the married women part 😂
If anyone's waiting for me to make a move, they'll be waiting a very long time. Please, for both our sakes, find somebody else.
Oh, An ex-girlfriend asked me early in our relationship "If we had a baby, what would you name it if it was a boy" ? I was like Uhhh, I don't know She replied "I"VE GOT the perfect name". I just said Ok. Then she said " HOW ABOUT IF IT WERE A GIRL"? I was like Uhhhh I don't know. " then replied "I'VE GOT THE PERFECT NAME". My gut was sayin "We're outta here". I then broke it off and left
Cute smile and giggle
I would run too in that case.
So she was telling you she wanted kids and saw you as a long term mate that she "might" want to marry and have kids. I don't see a problem with her wanting that and letting you know that.
@paulsmith5611 Probably timing. He seems to have left that out. If someone I know for say 2 months or less would say that to me, I would run. Or maybe he doesn't want children, that is not so unusual.
Good call.
How about this situation? A guy just broke up with his girlfriend and another girl says you’ll have another girlfriend soon
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That's because she was stalking you, patiently waiting for your girlfriend to screw up.
i haven't watched yet but I am pretty sure if you make it through 11 questions with a gal and neither one of you are scared off then you're prolly golden for whatever the next step is...
Great video, "flirting" / "club"
Flirting video sounds good😊
1) Are you my type?
Lady, I don't even know you
2) How do I stay fit?
I work for a living
3) Who taught me how to be funny?
Rejection and pain
4) Can I add you on my social media?
Not NO, but hell NO! Do I look like a movie waiting to be made?
5) Why don't I have a girlfriend?
Refer back to answer #3
6) Have I ever thought of settling down?
Been there done that, now I'm free!
7) Have I ever been in love?
Refer to #3 and #6
8) What kind of girl do I usually go for?
Ones that give me some peace and quiet
9) Am I seeing someone right now?
No, please refer to #8
10) Do I come here often?
Probably not too much anymore, I don't like games involving 21 questions.
11) Why are you standing there asking me questions with your arms folded?
You're dismissed, go on about your business and let me get back to my coffee.
All this may work in the middle of Montana after church services, but in the real world it's more like minding your own business in a bar and having some little girl walk up to you and say, "Buy me a drink!" How much money do you make? Are you at least 6' tall? Do you own a business?
The sheen coming off those rose colored glasses or contacts is making me ill.
Mr cranky says leave me alone, but reading between the lines deep down he wants the love and attention he pretends to reject
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You're almost as good at projection as a woman is.
Mr. Cranky here lost his wife last year. I never want to go through any of the hoops, games, or any of that stuff women call dating these days. I had a unicorn, and I will honor her memory until I die and join her. So believe what you want, but, there isn't anything between the lines, just empty spaces. So go ahead and make up whatever you want.
By the way, what degree in psychology do you have?
Do random people really ask you to buy them drinks? That sounds rude as hell to me. I know we are built differently here in Europe but I would definitely see that as rude. I don't even know that woman, how can she ask me such a thing? I may buy drinks for friends but for a complete stranger, that is madness.
True dude
@@Ragnar452
Go to Miami, Texas, California, just about any metropolitan city in the U. S. Very true here in the states
"Can I add you on social media?" is a red flag for me. I dont want to be stalked online by a woman extrapolating relationship information from whatever I post online.
Ditch the social media crap its fake look at me bs
@bravoA-su8xm it's a quagmire of quicksand
So, a while ago, when I was still in high school, I participated in the school performance. One where the audience had to buy their tickets. I had bought two for my parents. I had been in a band before when I still attended music school, as pianist and part time singer. But the piano really is my thing, when it comes to music. I do prefer playing alone and getting to choose what I play. So I played two pieces from Einaudi as a solo act. I was motivated to attend because it was my final year at high school (+the school itself actually closed down this year), plus, a really good friend of mine attended too and had done so multiple times. It went really well. I got quite a few compliments afterwards. There was also this girl who approached me and asked about how I played and technique and such. In hindsight… yeah that could’ve been a question of initiation. But it flew right over me. You know, being autistic makes ‘normal’ social situations tough to read, but this…? I’m used to seeing/picking up pieces of a conversation differently, which leads to not really understanding one another(‘s intentions). The double empathy problem. A difference in preferred communication styles. Autism tends to come with literal thinking, so when someone asks me about the piano, my mind goes ‘Ah, she’s interested in playing the piano’. Talking about the piano=My thinking being in the piano-realm. And in my mind, it’s not ‘Maybe there’s more to it than the piano’. For all I knew it was politeness. That’s basically my assumption all the time. But she specifically approached me after the performances were done, to inquire about how *I* played the piano. My parents seemed to have picked up on it infinitely better than I did. I’m not too good at gauging people’s intentions and all the social subtext and such. This may be one of those cases where it’s really obvious from the outside… but… I wouldn’t know for certain. So… uh, yeah. Not really much use in lingering on that. It’s all ifs and maybes in my mind. I guess I really have to try and keep my mind sharp.
I often miss social cues as well.
Difficult to gauge how much to talk/how much to listen.
I usually am "a really good listener", and they vent and then it's over, or they ask questions and I answer, but go into a little too much detail and then they seem scared to speak with me again.
But after overthinking so many interactions, now I often wonder "why is she approaching me?" or "why is she so kind to me?", and then worry every bit of the encounter to death - did that mean she likes me? should I approach her next? should I ask her on a date?
@@jayayyyyy I definitely often have the tendency to think of what are likely coincidences or just kindness to perhaps alludes to something more. But my ignorant little companion called 'Brian' wouldn't know.
And I relate to often being a bit of a sponge in conversation, whilst occasionally saying a lot/go on a bit of a tangent when a topic of conversation genuinely interests me (that way, I don't have to deal with small talk). Such actually interested conversation can give energy, rather than just taking it.
I definitely don't intuitively know what kind of ratios of talking vs not talking are generally to be accepted. If you don't talk enough, you can come across as quiet, mysterious (good or bad way) and perhaps even creepy. But too much and you're overbearing and creepy in a different way. Yeah... Normal social situations can be difficult enough as is. Unless they're with fellow autistic people, a lot of the time.
Edit: From my point of view, the girl in the story wouldn't have alluded to much. That's my view on the matter anyway. Perhaps it's sort of based on some self doubts here or there. I know that I'm probably going to come across as weird. But I do own it, for the most part. I don't try to appeal 'to the masses'. I think that the my authentic self probably won't be thaaat attractive to many but it will probably be attractive to people who may be a good match. But yeah, any situation where I can't decipher what undertone there may have been, I kind of throw all of those situations on the 'it's probably nothing much' pile. Which does mean that I don't initiate and probably don't try to reciprocate a girl's approach properly. As far as I knew, the girl from this comment was simply interested in the piano. To me, _that_ seems logical. But such subtleties always end up being less subtle to an outsider looking into the situation, so I trust my parents' judgments.
Few weeks later, fall in love with her and get married.
Few years later, she divorces you and takes you to court for child support…
Flirting video. Yes please.
Ham, ham, and more ham. My grandparents had a small restaurant in Oklahoma and they would order hams from Virginia. In the 1950s and 1960s sometimes I would go with them to pick up a couple of boxes of hams at the train station. Each box had 4 hams and that ham would melt in my mouth. But now to serious business...occasionally I have met a couple of ladies where I was less interested in the first one I had contact with and more interested in her friend. I haven't been able to find a tactful way to include the friend more when the first lady is dominating the conversation and attention.
my issue with conversations is that i have no content to discuss
As a focused nerdy boy I now realise that all the girls I liked gave me these signals, I totally missed all the signals.
Crazy how life really is once you have a clear view on things.
Mind games don't work on me either. The only women who ever had success with me were the very direct type. But there is a fine line between direct and outright crazy. Be careful with the crazy.
Flirting, please include time stamps to each tips or topics. I would like to know why women can't be upfront and show interest and ask the men or person out they're interested in? What type of person they reject? What if you're interested in dating the women, why do they still reject guy and not give the person a chance? What are they really looking for in a person? What's if you have already expressed your feelings and asked them out and they reject you? What if you've known they were single and asked them out and they reject you and you noticed them out with someone else or hear from someone they are seeing someone. What if they're already with someone else or you find out afterwards asking them out that they are texting someone else and smiling at work. Why do women judge if a guy or a person is caring, nice, helpful and supportive person and be willing to be there whenever for the people who he cares for family, friends, colleagues and other people and yet still ignore and reject him without getting to know the person and the behaviour. Why are women going for bad behaviour guys? What type of person do they want to date? What qualities attractive women
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If you are asking why women can't be direct in their communication on whether they are interested in you; the answer is simple: they want to encourage you to ask them out. They don't want rejection so if they don't ask you directly , they can fool themselves into believing they still have a chance with you. If they directly ask you and you say no, then that is final. They want to be chased and they want the man to ask them giving them the power to dictate the terms of the relationship. Women do not do direct as a rule. Some do, most don't
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So in other words, they can dish it out, but can handle it themselves.
@@marklittle8805 "If they directly ask you and you say no, then that is final." Well, not really. The scenario is relatively rare. So it may not occur to the guy that she might be serious. In that case, if she comes back later after a "no" she may actually get somewhere after he's devoted a bit of thought to the problem.
Even when women try, they don't try very hard. And some men think too much about things.
Turkey has the right macros for me but good Lord are you beautiful and I could listen to you read the phone book I love your voice so much. Do you record audiobooks?
The only one I've ever been asked is the social media one. Many times all I ever became is just a friend. A few times I got blocked or I blocked them and that was the unhappy ending to the story.
What if you love the dating coach lady !?!?!?! Your hair is outrageously beautiful ! Sorry, had to say it.
It's obviously too late for me but guys take my word for it.
I know sometimes it seems better but God said "it is not right for man to be alone" it doesn't get easier with age.
Who should we listen to? God... or Paul? (Rhetorical question)
It seems obvious that it was Paul's calling to be single, and that was his conviction. He felt more useful to God's kingdom remaining single rather than marrying. Still, not all are called to be single.
To answer to your question, and in context to Paul's opinion on marriage, he said he would prefer that men remained single because of the trouble that comes with marriage, and in order for single people to fully dedicate themselves to God. Paul is not giving a command from himself, nor is he relaying a command from God. He's also not condemning anyone who chooses to marry. Remember that Paul was able to see the Lord Jesus Christ in a vision, and he was led by the Holy Spirit. I'd say he had quite a lot of sound teaching.
Some of us can lead purposeful, fulfilling lives on an island.
Thank you! I hope you had a Wonderful Thanksgiving! Good advice!
Hey Coach, Flirting. Turkey for thanksgiving.
I had a lady I worked with who she and I became good friends, I was with someone and never took a chance since I was in a relationship, but when I got off of the relationship she came up to me and asked for my number which I gave it to her, a few days later I asked her out for like coffee as a friend and she turned me down, it was very confusing to me so I stopped talking to her and when I saw her at work I would walk away, to avoid her.
Thank you for confirming it's never happened.
Chicken. Super Thanks!
Hey Mel … love that blue , suits you 💯 ❤ it ….
One of my coworker lady friends told me that I ‘m a pretty cool person.
Thanks for the info and video. Flirt
I have a girlfriend and these questions were asked of me and I love it
*If she’s asking about your future plans or whether you’re seeing someone, she’s likely gauging her chances with you. Don’t overthink - just respond confidently and see where the conversation flows.*
Thank you.
It'd be nice if women asked me these questions. Hasn't happened yet.
Interesting signs, but I will like to know how to respond to those questions she will ask??
If you put your hand on her desk and she puts her hand on yours you’re in.
Coach Melanie is probably the best looking girl/woman out of all the different ladies who have a dating channel. If she's the coach, who's the assistant coach? It's like hockey. You have one Head Coach and also an assistant coach.
Good topics very nice
I never understood attraction. I never really had a "type." That's why i feel love is syth
My type is an honest woman. That’s my type
@AndyMcVay types are nothing in the end. We are better off alone
1 turkey, 1 chicken, 1 hammmm. I'm flirting with calories since I don't know when, why is it sweet potato casserole comes with pecans? Hey man, pass the gravy and keep the stuffing coming. -a parody of a G. Thoroughgood song.
You sound very cute playing your little trumpet
I've been watching too many Gilstrap & Humor Bagel videos - I thought she was covering up a fart
These r difficult for me as I don't pickup on social ques very well making me shy seeming I also work in a factory where we all have to wear hair nets but the girl I am attracted to makes the rosters for 3⃣ rooms we are both trained in all 3 rooms however she's always putting us near one another and if we are down on ppl in a room she always asks me and acouple other people (usually the few females in the factory) to go with her to the next room so idk
Gotta return some video tapes
Id be asking ok is it prank T.V.? Cuz im the kinda guy you don’t see even if Im very tall
No women are interested in me soooo
What you’re talking about Willis?
Beside got tired of beeing rejected so I quit the game
Girls will ask what you do or how much money do you have? Another one “is that your car?”
Greater 🎉
I’m not sure if I’ve ever been asked these in my 40 years of living 🙁
Turkey for Thanksgiving, Chicken for Christmas!
Chicken, Turkey and Ham can be good or bad, depending on how they are prepared/cooked. Juiciness preferred over dryness any day.
Umm, yeah. 🙄
Oh your Thanksgiving question: Yes. Beef is best, but yes otherwise
Not one of these have I been asked and Im young and fit
Turkey. My sister had a feathered fiend so mean that people ate it to make sure it STAYED dead.
Great show thank you. Chicken lol
of course chicken and turkey are different but very good taste on both of them, like ‘em the same in its own way!
Ugh, I get none of these questions! Wahhhhhhh! Time for lipo!
I don't have that kind of love from any woman I gave up it's depressing and sad but I am alone and always will be whatever it is what it is
Turkey and ham. This is the first time I heard "hitting on you" used in a positive way. I thought it was a euphemism for sexual harassment.
If I never had a GF before and I'm 64 what should I do? Maybe I should just give it up.. 😂 Robert
No one asks me these. To be honest, they are always ask some weird things and act weird or say hi in a weird manner.
To be honest each girl who wanted something from me was a weirdo.
The "how are you still single" question is not a great one. It feels like an accusation or a slap in the face when asked. I mean I have been asked that question and it just kinda made me instantly sad and depressed and I just said "well I guess that I am just not good enough," and that was the end of that. I can't talk for all men, but myself and the guys I know don't like this question.
Fitting
Ham! And flirting.
I had none of these said to me 😔😔
Given those choices i would say Ham. But my family went a whole other route and we had homemade beef noodles.
Flirting, please
I wish I had better people skills.
I had people skills, then the world went to sh*t. I figured it was better just to mind my own business afterwards.
Flirting..😊
Can you add breaks for each bullet point please?
Good afternoon
In my experience 100% of the time the women is just being friendly and neighborly they don't want you or are attracted to you unless your tall thin or athletic are famous extremely good looking drive a very nice car or have a lot of money if your just average looking and have a regular job there just being nice so just say high nice talking to have a nice day and leave it at that don't bother pursuing or even thinking about them because all relationships fall apart in the first three months and it's always your fault so guys don't fall for it just stay single and take care of yourselves
Seems like "whats your type" and "what kind of girl do you go for" are the same question. Perhaps im just nitpicking...lol
Trick questions, just like a police interrogation. Did you answer the same way twice?
Interesting stuff, lovely hostess.However, I go by the Paul Simon song: I am a rock, I am an island, and a rock feels no pain and an island never cries.Yes, cynical I know, but after a long term relationship finished and many failed short term ones, going to retire and listen to my Smiths records as refuge for the rest of my life😢😢
I never had any woman to ask any of these questions that's in this video I haven't dated anyone in just over 30 years now and I'm now 53 be 54 in January I'm not shy I told to a woman no problem just it seems I'm never there type because of this I just stop dating all together I been a over the road truck driver for 26 years now I live in Phenix City,AL
What ever they say it translates to how much money can I sliver off this guy and does he have a friend I can move on with when Ivr milked him for everything.
I get more offers of married women? So they are the last ones I’d ever trust!
"What kind of woman?" Unfortunately, it seems that they were all poor choices :-( Maybe the next one will be different!
Flirting & Ham
Flirting
I am new bess in it one whovhave in it any time were I want
How has she got your social media if you’ve only just met her or seen her in a coffee shop, bar or gym???? These videos are always for guys that have known or work with the girl what about random girls you’ve only just clapped eyes on?
So I have not been hit on before 😢