faking mental illness
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- Опубликовано: 5 июл 2022
- Do you know anyone who uses mental illness like it's a quirky trend? Do you have a friend that pretends to have a disorder just for attention? This week, Ben delves into the Gen Z urge to make light of mental illness online from making a caricature out of ADHD to faking Tourette's. Ben gets to the bottom of why exaggerating mental illness online has become so popular.
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so my friends were talking about mental illnesses and one of my friends said "ew adhd is so weird i'm so glad i'll never have it" and then a week later she says to me (she was self diagnosing) "i think i have adhd every time someones talking to me i always start dancing and talking to myself when they are talking" and then the girl dropped on the floor and started faking a seizure and saying "my adhd!! it's coming!!" like miss girl what
Thats not quite adhd works lol 🤦
I would have hit her bc that sounds dumb as hell lmfaooo.
how did you not burst out laughing
@@heartsfromgreta3690 i very much did burst out laughing
LMAO WHAT 😭😭😭
What’s so crazy is your adhd doesn’t just “kick in” it’s a psychological disorder that impacts all of your brain functions at ALL TIMES, yes it presents differently, some days you struggle more than others but it never just “kicks in”🤦🏼♀️
That's why it sounded so weird!!
omg thank you i have adhd but i have friends who fake it and it legit is so fucking annoying bc she is like "my teacher came up to me and my adhd kicked in" i died
exactly!! these people r so annoying
FR THO and I have tourettes and when I say that people are always like "Bffr" or "Yeah right, then why aren't they going off right now? 😐" 🥹
Edit: ik this was a while ago but it doesn't help much that people are always faking things like this so people don't actually believe it when someone actually diagnosed with tourettes tells anyone🤦♀️
@@solyaismyqueen Their brain cells are so burned that can't even work normally.
adhd is not always just being hyper or forgetful. it’s laying in bed procrastinating for hours because the tasks are too hard. it’s not being able to keep a job because you get bored with it. so much more than people really know.
I just recently learned about the symptom of procrastination with adhd. There's so many things about adhd that no one knows. I hope there's more awareness in the future.
wait procrastinating is an adhd thing?? i thought i was just lazy
@@dorianhelenius3331 definitely not lazy! We're all just doing our best with what we have.
Executive dysfunction is the absolute worst symptom of ADHD. Since I started meds it's so much better.
@@GreenEyeCatto I've had issues with that too when I was dating someone. What meds helped you with that symptom? I think there's only meds for men.
I’m autistic and to see people faking mental illnesses is disgusting. Thank you Ben for making this video
Exactly the same here, I’m autistic as well and people faking the struggles that I go through on a daily basis is honestly sickening to me. Hope you’re ok, fellow internet stranger 😊
it really is, some people are faking their autism to and think its trendy and stuff but its a disorder not a trend (btw im not saying that you are faking im just saying others are!)
@@NJ.contains whats your opinion on people who self diagnose autism. I have done a few years worth of research about how I could be autistic. Ive tried to tell my parents about it but they just laughed about it and never actually considered it and since im under 18 i cant really go get a diagnosis without a parent present. I wear ear defenders at school + at home/anywhere else that I can/need
@@dumpst3rbath As an autistic person I think you should recognize what symptoms of autism you relate to the most and find ways or coping skills to help with them.
@@dumpst3rbath I mean I dont have it but I have to cousins who have it really bad, they come over a lot, but my sisters daughter (my niece) doesn't have it so bad but she has it, like for my cousins they cant speak right and get words confused and for my niece she's chill and stuff but she acts different around kids, but years of research could most likely mean you have it but remember that their are different levels to it yk, im sorry I cant say much since I dont actually have it but I just grew up with people that have autism
My mom thought I had ADHD for a while
She went to see a doctor and turns out I was just a weird kid who never payed attention to anyone.
what
@@missselenam5586 I'm confused on why you're confused.
@@justapers0n913 I’m confused as to why you’re confused on why I’m confused
@@missselenam5586 you just said what and I don't understand why
@@justapers0n913 I was just a little confused as to why it was told and whether it was a joke
Always remember children,
Just because u relate to a video abt mental illnesses doesn’t mean u have it
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Lmao fr tho kids be like "IM MENTALLY ILL
THANK YOU
If it’s actually in depth and very detailed with professionals, *THEN* you can actually check it out.
@@-Tia- exactly
I had a girl in my school who would fake tourettes constantly and make random sounds and phrases, but then when class started she wouldn't make a sound. No Sarah, you do not control them for two hours until lunch.
And then when secondary school started she went back to normal and pretended that it never happened.
It makes me so upset when I see people fake mental illnesses and the "symptoms" because as someone who really struggles with ADHD and an anxiety disorder I so wish I didn't have it. Like I used to lay in bed crying when I was younger because I just wanted to be neurotypical and not struggle anymore, and I definitely don't have it as bad as some other people. So it just sucks that people use it for attention, especially since kids who actually have it often get overlooked and bullied.
LITERALLY.I was having a rlly bad tic attack in class ( not Tourettes just tics idk) and I got bullied for it and told I was "attention seeking" yet all these girls at my school get to make fun of mental illnesses and its fine.
@@thewomenwiththepearlearrin4127 Yeah, there are so many people that just disrespect other people that are just "different", it probably all comes from sigma. When they use your weaknesses for laughs and giggles it's like, dude, you think I don't feel anything?
There was a really long period in my life, like a year and a half, where I had ticks every day every hour almost every minute and there have been certain words or sounds that "trigger" me for a long time where I feel REALLY uncomfortable and anxious and want to "shake it of" with some kind of weird action, and these triggers also amplified my ticks.
So I was just at school, when the classes got first merged and almost half of my classmates went to gymnasium and there were a lot of new classmates and some of these I shouldn't have trusted from the very start. I don't want to put labels on people but there is a certain pattern that I noticed that makes for a bingo checklist/starter pack/archetype of a drippy tik-tok vaper teen who listens to braggy Russian rap in portable speakers(I'm from Latvia), insult each other as a joke, disrespect teachers and just are being inappropriate and usually are the bullies and sometimes drink energized drinks and/or have expensive stuff(sometimes) and talk in some teen slang and there were like at least 5 people I know that match all/most of this and there's nothing wrong with people having fun, listening to rap(I listen to rap myself a lot, but usually not that type of rap), vaping or making silly tik-tok videos or drinking energetics or anything(even though energized drinks and vape are not good for one's health, but I mean, it's none of my business), and I don't say these things are directly correlated with each other, it's just usually that these thing coincide with bad behavior, but, yeah, there are many nice people who do something of this, but usually you can just feel the vibes of toxicity coming from a person when they just talk. It's nothing about any of these activities, just when they talk the way they talk you know they are capable of bullying.
And so I had two of these shameless girls that fill the whole bingo and they were just casually minding their own business and doing the sound that triggers me unintentionally(I mean intentionally but not to bully me, because they didn't know yet), I knew it was not their fault, but I kind of wanted to nicely, non-intrusively let them know so they stop and everyone's fine and I'm just different, but I should've known that it doesn't work like that, especially with angry teens, especially unfamiliar people, especially this bingo checklist girls and that it's risky, but I did that and then they just started doing it INTENTIONALLY to bug me. I realized what a mess I've done, because if I wouldn't let them know they would've done it like 100 times rarer. But they didn't know it didn't just annoy me, they made me feel horrible and they laughed at my tics getting stronger(I involuntiarly stretched my mouth in a kind of a smile, but like open teeth and looked more like I was suffering, my hands were shaking 'round, my shoulders were twitching, when I sat down my foot was swiftly knocking/stomping on the ground and it all was UNCONTROLLABLE(mostly) and I annoyed people and was getting tired of movements that I can't even stop and feeling like a shard of glass because I looked so awkward with that stupid stretched face and sometimes could uncontrollably laugh from awkwardness/anxiety like I'm being watched and it makes me nervously laugh(some kind of stress protection mechanism I guess) and I felt like I have no release), and all this time they were constantly asking why I do that BUT didn't let me answer, and there were more classmates joining in triggering me and even the most "goody two shoes" classmates would just judge me and stare at me and ask all these questions which is fine as long as they don't start to intentionally trigger me, laugh at me, which they did sadly. None of them called me names though, well at least that made things better by not getting worse. And they just didn't let me concentrate on lessons and I would just heavily breathe and stop what I was doing to calm down and they said I was dramatizing and yeah it did look really freaky on the outside(me just jumping from a little sound), but I couldn't help myself and it was pretty much real.
I talked to a teacher and then we talked with these girls and asked them to stop(because directly talking to them without the teacher involved did nothing) and they were asking for forgiveness and looked really sorry(even though without the teacher they didn't care at all, were just smiling and not thinking of it much) and so I forgave them under a condition that they'll stop doing that(because otherwise it's pointless) and they made a promise and we even did that hand gesture making a handshake with our pinkies like we're agreeing on piece.
But not that long after they started doing it again like nothing has happened, I felt like I couldn't trust anyone and it was just painful and I didn't get them. It took so much time to make them stop, they didn't. Quarantine just saved me from them(probably the only good thing about quarantine), but then over time my tics gone away and some triggers changed and we moved to the 9th grade and these girls and some boys(the main bullies and some boys that didn't bully) just dropped out of grade 8 because they were just so bad at studying and they really didn't care about school, and they just still were coming to me sometimes and trying to trigger me by the same methods as a softer joke kind of than then and way rarer even though we're not even in the same class anymore but I just felt nothing anymore because triggers change over time and tics have ended, so it would be fitting for me to proudly and dramatically sing at their face: "I've become so numb, I can't feel you there, become so tired, so much more aware, I'm becoming this, all I want to do is be more like me and be less like you(very relatable and fitting song for this situation in my life I think, it resonates, it comforts, it fits with the second part too because I felt like I was being influenced by these kind of bingo checklist people and accidentally hurting other people because I was getting used to insults and percieving them as jokes and it hurt me so much that I was accidentally subconsciously getting influenced by people I didn't like at the very start with things I hate and avoid immediately and know but over time stopped even noticing, and my parents don't even insult each other as a joke, so just the people that aren't even my friends, but aquintances just affect me so much, I usually distance myself from these kind of people, even when I have no other choice, I'd rather be all alone, by myself, I have really good friends though that aren't toxic and I feel like myself and don't feel like I have to pretend to have fun with them because they're not toxic and I actually have fun with them, can trust them and feel comfortable around them, I know that this song is about something else though looking at the verses, but I like these songs that are made to interpret how you want in multiple ways and they're always relatable, not just slightly, but very strongly and yeah, it hurt me that I hurt other people not trying to be rude)".
So four words to choke upon, bullies: "Look at me now" and other four words to choke upon: "How you like that?", but I'm not mad at them anymore and honestly I think bullies make me stronger.
Oops, this comment got way bigger than I expected, but I hope that's okay that I wrote a whole essay, someone will read this.
There’s a girl at my school who is also my friend with Tourette’s syndrome and she is so sweet and kind and it makes me so angry to see people pretend to have it and make fun of her for it. I was new at my school and I sat with my cousin because he was the only person I knew, but after about a week I couldn’t stand the people who he would sit with because every time the girl would make an involuntary noise(usually triggered by loud noises) they would say something along the lines of “hey, [the girls name] there’s no need to yell your battle call” and eventually I ended up sitting with her because she would usually eat alone at lunch. After a while we became pretty good friends and I learned that she’s just a normal girl and that she’s not any different from anybody else. Another thing that makes me angry is that people will say her trigger word (muffin) just to make her feel bad about herself. To anybody reading this, thanks for taking your time to read this and I hope you have an amazing and blessed day
one of my really good friends has Tourette’s, thank god nobody’s made fun of them for his tics
Illnesses hit the nicest people :(
My friend has Tourette’s and on the first day of school the “pick me girls” were already faking it ani I said “STOP FAKING TOURETTES AMD ADHD” and they said “well you don’t know that I don’t have it. OKAY?”
I don’t have Tourette’s but I have seen so many people at my school fake it and it’s so annoying
1. No no no. No bless us, bless your friend and you for being so kind. 2. I hope she isn’t bullied anymore
I do have a story of someone faking a mental illness. For the story, my friend introduced me to someone that claimed to be her best friend since kindergarten (let’s call her Allie instead of her real name). As I became closer to Allie she started talking about very scary things like harming herself, and depressing thoughts. After around 2 weeks I took it seriously and contacted the counselor. The counselor had a meeting with her and Allie said that she faked having depression. Her faking it got me sent to the principals office and nearly suspended. To anyone who reads this (even if it is Ben), thank you for your time and stay safe! 😁
you almost got suspended for reporting someone to the counselor for depression who was actually faking it?
@@sunkisses_ yea, the girl told the counselor that I was tryna spread rumors about her having depression 💀 and that got me sent
@@FlowerBoy24 really?? bruh you were just tryna help her wasn't you're fault she turned out to be faking mental illnesses
@@sunkisses_ ikr 💀 I was so confused
Who gives a shit about morals anymore.
I will never understand what neurotypicals mean when they say “Im sO aDhD” or “iM sO OcD”, Funny how people never claim to have things like dyspraxia (which isn’t very rare at all, Im diagnosed with it) and always the very stigmatised disorders
Edit : i dont support fdc , not the mindset of this comment , cry louder incels
because dysphraxia isnt "fun" or doesnt have any "fun quirks" to it. thats what they want, they want the quirkiness of adhd and its hyperfixations or ocd's quirkiness and "silliness" its so weird
@@mellohighh Yeah I suppose, Although some people might think of it as “clumsy bad co-ordination uwu” or something
@@Flyingsearat yeah, i guess so. its why you dont see people fake things like it though, theres not a "fun quirkiness" to it unlike the others (not that there is, having diagnosed adhd since 5 its horrible, i mean like in their eyes)
@@mellohighh Yeah
As someone with OCD, I hate when people pretend they have it, but it's also such a big concept with different "types."
My friend introduced me to someone online who “had D.I.D.” They would ‘switch’ alters every sentence was a new font that showed it was a new person and they where going between 5 different people in like 2 minutes. Now I don’t have a degree in this: BUT MY MOTHER DOES. And I’ve found an interest in learning about D.I.D. And so it’s pretty obvious that they where faking.
Oof -lunar
Dude that's so messed up
Oh my god, switch between 5 alters within 2 mminutes...that hurts just thinking of it😂. That would cause so much mental pain
i've never understood why some people always wanna seem different in some way like why do they feel like mental illnesses is a perfect answer to seem "quirky"????
literally
my arch nemesis faked depression to get me to give her a pet in adopt me and when I didn't give it she said she was gonna get covid and die
@@gachaversecentralproductio4034 That’s funny that’s like 3rd Grade gaslighting 😂
Fr and ADHD depending on the severity can get messy. Like impulsive behavior that can lead to decisions that can be self damaging and life changing.
People used to be like "Eww you have mental illnesses/disorder? Haha go d!e" and harrash and bully us and now they're like "Im AuTiStIc, UwU iM So QuiWrCkY" like shut up its not funny and most people with mental illnesses are feeling bad for having those diagnoses
When I saw Ben posted about this I smiled. I have Tourettes (Tics but I have many vocal Tics so I say Tourettes instead) and seeing so many ppl faking it made me so upset. Also fun fact when ppl think of ppl with Tics/Tourettes, they think of random cursing for no reason. In reality that's called Coprolalia and only about 10-20% of ppl with Tourettes have it.
I don't wanna sound like the person who self diagnosed themselves but I actually have tourette's and one time I decided to record a time where my tics were bad and I posted it in tiktok and I got comments saying stuff like "you're faking" and my sister saw that video and she said to me the next day "why did you fake your tics to be so extreme" and I wanted to scream. My tics have been like that ever since and SHES seem them and she STILL thought they were "to extreme"
I had a really bad blinking tic where i would constantly blink every few moments, and I have a throat tic where i will make a tiny sound, I think it is small enough though so that you need too be like RIGHT next too me like very close too hear though, thank goodness, and no one really said anything about them, it was awhile ago but i think i got some comments about the eye blinking tic? I can’t remember.
(I am dumb, forgot i had gotten diagnosed with tourettes)
Yeah, not all Tourette’s is vocal, I knew a guy who had Tourette’s. He took meds, so he didn’t tic a lot, but he did do this thing where he like spread his hand and then balled his fist occasionally. I asked him about it (I thought he did it on purpose, I didn’t find out until I saw “take meds” written on his arm, asked him about it, and he was like “oh it’s to remind me to take my meds for my Tourette’s”) and he told me about his Tourette’s. I’m sure he wasn’t faking because 1. He never went out of his way to talk about his tics or tell other people, 2. His older brother confirmed it too me, when reminding him to take his meds(his brother reminded him and I was like “for his Tourette’s?” And he said “yeah”) 3. He didn’t want to show people his tics.
Also, I knew a kid with autism (I believe you can have tics with autism lemme know if I’m wrong) who did this thing were he’d scrunch up his nose repeatedly. I found this to be annoying (at first I didn’t know he couldn’t control it) and told him so. (I get that can be perceived as rude but i personally believe I was allowed to express that, I never made fun of him I just said “why are you doing that? It’s annoying.” And he said it’s a tic)
@@german-swedish-americanvin6164 I take meds for my Tourette’s too! I haven’t heard other people who do, cool to know there’s someone else out there. :) he seems cool
what about when you mirror someone else’s tics?
The thing with neurodivergence isn’t just having the symptoms, it’s the severity.
THANK YOU
FR THANK YOU OMDS
“My ADHD kicked in” the reason I hate this is because it doesn’t go away and come back, it’s always there you just won’t nodes it as much some times
Hi! Person with ADHD and bipolar disorder here, When Ben was first talking about how people misuse ADHD and OCD in phrases and situations I would also like to mention how much bipolar disorder is misused. There are usually two ends of the spectrum of how people see it, one side is “oh they are insane and can’t be trusted” while the other is “I’m totally bipolar, I woke up in such a good mood this morning now I’m miserable 🤪“ I wish people could see a common ground when looking at bipolar disorder because as someone who is diagnosed, I think it’s used in the completely wrong way, it’s very different from both of the stereotypes. Make sure you know what your saying before you actually say it. Bipolar disorder is a REAL mental illness that REAL people struggle with and isn’t a word to throw into random sentences. Anyways, thanks for listening to my rant 😅
Yessssss omg!! I’m also diagnosed with both ADHD and Bipolar and I could not agree more!! It’s exhausting honestly.
yep! the people who claimed to be sO BipOLaR actually get mad at me. my coworkers told me "how come one day you do amazing and seem happy to be here and the next you are so sluggish and don't talk?" i responded with
"well i really am trying here, but i have ocd, anxiety, and depression and all that comes up and down in phases and when i get manic i tend to be super energetic and productive but depression makes me only want to sleep"
they just think i'm lazy. i haven't been officially diagnosed with bipolar but my therapist said it's likely and i got on a mood stabilizer that helps. they don't even know what it's like, and i wish people would stop acting like it's so casual
I don’t have bipolar but my uncle does.. it’s honestly disgusting to me when people say their “so bipolar right now” when they have no idea what it’s like
Not sure how other bipolar people are but my uncle can be hard to be around sometimes and can be really angry and aggressive it’s kinda scary :/
I have adhd and I kinda ranted about it too at the top of the comments so seeing someone else rant makes me happy I take 30 mg Adderall:)
@@_almond__ definitely not everyone haha, I'm a super sweet outgoing person so being bipolar can look different in everyone. I think it depends what other factors play into how you are during manic and depressive episodes. I know I personally dont get angry during manic episodes but I can get annoyed really easily and have a shorter temper if that makes sense.
Honestly, as a person with diagnosed ADHD it's so funny to just watch what neurotypical people think ADHD is like...
Like no Becky, ADHD is not getting distracted by the speck of dust that just flew by you.
Edit: because I got a few comments about it I'm not saying getting distracted by a speck of dust doesn't mean you don't have ADHD. I'm saying you're taking one symptom of ADHD and saying you have it
Ikr 💀
I also have it and my nerotypicle friend thinks she has every problem I have like I said I have ticks sometimes and she was like ONG I GOT DIAGNOSED WITH TOURETS
@@maddieplayz5766 💀💀💀💀💀
fr 💀
ya its where did that come from? why wasnt there more dust? what is dust? where does dust come from? oh shit i was talking! wait was i (diagnosed with severe ADHD)
As someone with DID, it sucks so much when people fake it. I've had a friend who faked it, and her "switches" would be staring off into space for a few seconds, looking around, and saying "I switched, I'm *name*". Actual switches take time; around 30-90+ seconds. It takes even more time to ground, and more to figure out who you are, where you are, and what's going on. We're lucky to not always have full amnesia in between switches, but we still have some. People faking disorders really pisses me off.
Edit: I just now realized I used the wrong term; I have OSDD-1b, not DID (oops)
as someone who also has DID, i can agree with this, it takes so long and stuff and when ppl fake it, it pisses me off too!
Okay so storytime. I have diagnosed ADHD, Autism, and very very possible social anxiety. (when I was getting my tests done for the other two the testers both said I show a bunch of signs of social anxiety but I was never diagnosed.) Anyways, I have an IEP and am allowed to chew gum in class, have fidgets, don't need to be timed on tests because it stresses me out A LOT, etc. Some day after a class some girl came up to me and asked about why I could have that stuff and I explained about my disorders. She walked away and the next day she came up to me and said, "I probably have autism." I asked why and she said something along the lines of, "Because I looked up the symptoms and one said about staying in your room alone a lot and I'm ALWAYS in my room." I was confused and asked if that was her only symptom and she said yes. I told her that it was very unlikely she had autism if that was her only symptom. She got very angry and never talked to me again.
i can really relate to the timing stuff with school tests, it’s so weird when people get mad at me for getting extra time because of my adhd
hello! i have autism too and one time some random friend i had kept making fu of me for being sutistic so sge decided to keeo saying to me "AUSTISM GIRL".
@@KawaiiSkyLovezCinnamoroll thats so mean, thats why im so scared of telling people i have autism.
people are so mean
@@rirules ik. i wish god can get rid of all of those rude ppl.
I hateeee timed tests, I do so badly at them when I work myself up over it (sorry if this is mildly off topic/only relating to a small thing you mentioned that isn't the main focus).
That girl is wacky, she shouldn't have gotten so upset. I remember when I first heard about Autism (due to a talk about it at our school) I though some of the things could relate to me and earched it up in my own time, but then figured I was just fooling myself or whatnot and didn't really think about it again (that is, until my dad talked to me about getting a test because multiple people who deal with kids said I'm likely to have it adkhfks- never got diagnosed though because of my moms being overprotective about nothing being "wrong" with me).
I’m so happy that Ben touched on this because it genuinely makes me so angry . I’m personally diagnosed with anxiety and misophonia , both of which are hard to live with . When kids get scared and say stuff like “ I’m having an anxiety attack “ or anything like that , it makes me so mad. Like yes anxiety is common but not every feeling of anxiety is an anxiety attack. And the other way around , having an anxiety attack doesnt mean you have anxiety. A lot of them don’t understand that not every person shakes when having anxiety . Like usually we don’t shake violently like how they fake it . They also don’t understand the other symptoms that can come with anxiety , which are not fun at all. For example , anxiety can come with social anxiety, which is something I also have and it effects me a lot and it’s not fun in any way shape or form . And it also annoys me bc they don’t know the different between being nervous/afraid and being anxious . Also when people fake mental illnesses to seem cool - like bruh what ?-
i have misophonia as well and it is actually ridiculous how many people don’t even take into account that it exists
i can barely eat with others bc it is literally triggering to hear and no one takes it seriously
@@naur6683 frrrrrr and it sucks bc since it’s not a very known disorder my parents don’t know what it actually feels like when I hear certain sounds and they get mad at me cause I “wear headphones too much “ but wearing headphones is the only thing I can do
@@Pinkinthenight09 same it’s sucks
ik! it’s so frustrating! i’m diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ADHD and autism, people will be like ugh it’s my ADHD when they forget a word and i’m like? what? or people will feel anxious and say their having a panic attack. it’s like yeah you can have that feeling but that’s way different than being diagnosed with anxiety, it is so frustrating
social anxiety and depression has literally ruined my fucking life and seeing people try to get it or pretend to have it is so annoying like hhshahahaggshaghahhshsd c bxnc ndndnnsnsjdjwiwieiJSHSISGSHWIQ i want to rip their heads off and then my own😍😍
This is so true! As a sufferer of social anxiety, I hate how nowadays it is glamourized and seen as something to flex about. Also, people think having anxiety is just shaking your hands. Anxiety sucks and it makes life and day-to-day tasks difficult. I'm so happy you discussed this.
Yeah I also have social anxiety. I do shake my hands but it’s much worse. I have trouble even doing something as simple as going to the store. It sucks
same
it really doea suck. having one of those days is tourture
I was at a mental hospital and I was there for having visual and auditory hallucinations. There was this girl who named all the reasons she was there. Then she asked me. I don’t like talking about it, so I told her because I trusted her. As soon as I said hallucinations, she said “oh yeah me too.” She might have been struggling with that, but the fact that she only remembered until I said it was kinda suspicious to me, because it was such a big problem in my life that I myself could never forget. After that, she made a big deal about dealing with hallucinations and would stare off into the distance and act like she was in a trance or something when people would talk to her. There was one time she did this and people were coming up to her and trying to comfort her and I was too, but people were pushing me out of the way. I got so mad and frustrated because it felt like she was making fun of me and mocking me, but also people pushing me out of the way made me mad because she was getting attention for acting like me, but when I tried to comfort her people pushed and ignored me even though I was the one dealing with this. I’m sorry for ranting, but I just hate thinking about this.
That's awful!!
its always the ones naming every trendy disorder there is. you just know their lying💀nd its always enthusiastic too😭
but i get you honestly. not to be like her but ive had psychosis since childhood which affects me still and ppl claiming to have it when they dont is infuriating. its not a fun quirky illness. its not fun spending your teen years in the mental hospital. its not fun at all having an illness that will guide you to kys. your feelings are valid nd reasonable. i feel like you need to vent. if so, im a great listener.
@@ivy2828LITERALLY like they’re smiling while telling me their disorders like um ..?
Faking disorders really can hurt others. I've been tested for ADHD twice because everyone that knows me is certain that I have it, including my therapist and even my mom who homeschooled me from kindergarten - high school (if anyone could tell, it would be her). The tests came back negative both times because they showed spikes in depression, anxiety, and a few other disorders, and the (student) psychologist said that depression and anxiety can cause ADHD symptoms, which is true. But ADHD can also cause anxiety and depression, which is most likely my case. They are so cautious about it because there are so many people coming out and saying that they have ADHD, and it's being over-diagnosed. My point is: people faking it or self-diagnosing themselves with ADHD makes it much harder for people who actually have it to get diagnosed.
Coming from someone who has ADHD tics OCD and anxiety it's really hurtful when someone fakes these things because they don't know how it really feels to have to deal with them
I have BP depression and anxiety, I met someone who fakes DID its really sad
@@JizzEnjoyer I get a feeling you were not diagnosed by a doctor.
@@meow6074 how
@@meow6074 you're right I wasn't I was diagnosed by a pedeatrition
@@JizzEnjoyer that’s a doctor!
(I have ADHD don't kill me for "assuming" lol) it usually just happens during math or pretty much just school, but also just forgetting things lol. I wouldn't stop in the middle of a dance to look at a tissue on the ground lmao
I would tbh 💀
@@indeeditiscirro I mean if the tissue was in a random place at school yeah 😭😭😭
For me im less "oh look at that random thing thays been there for a week" than i am "MOVEMEMT must look and stare and forget world" lol
Basically ADHD stands for attention disorder deficit disorder I was diagnosed at the young age or 7 in the first grade and the videos people make just pain my brain. The part of zoning out does happen and we can't really help it at times lol the videos of people doing this are just 😭😭 your ADHD can't just "kick in" it's always just there making you distracted or making you forget stuff. And sometimes people get mad because we don't function the same.
I had a crappy friend a while ago who faked DID ( like everyone on tiktok apparently) I eventually connected the dots after doing some research because i wanted to be a good friend i figured out that she was obviously faking and she had no interest in telling anyone but me about it and she would only come to me when she needed or wanted something. For example here, in case you didn’t know DID basically develops usually once you are in your late teens or as an adult as a result from extreme childhood trauma starting at a young age (usually under the age of like 10-12) and I mean EXTREME like physical,mental, emotional abuse, you name it. Your brain comes up with these alternate personalities (alters) and each usually splits up memories to keep you from having the mental burden of all of this trauma at once always on your mind. She was obviously thinking that she was being clever (she also used dream smp members as her “alters”) but she would just “switch” every little while and she would just go “oh i switched now im (insert Minecraft RUclipsr/streamer name here)” she would even put on shitty accents for some of them. After doing my research i found that people who really have DID take between 30-90 seconds to fully switch and it is a stressful and draining thing, you can’t just immediately bounce back to where you were in a conversation. That is just some stuff and I need to go to bed, just needed to tell that to someone because all of my friends know her and even though she hates me now for setting my boundaries against her it feels wrong to share any personal info about her life she gave me in that time, fake or not.
first of all.. you’re a GREAT FRIEND and SHE DOESNT DESERVE YOUUUUUUU,, u did great by setting boundaries and stuff, im really hoping she gets the help she needs bc DID clearly isnt it idfk maybe she craves attention or sumn? idk BUT ANYWAYYY you’re very cool
Another thing I would like to add from my own research, is when they do switch they usually can’t even remember what they were previously doing for obvious reasons so when people switch immediately and just start talking like normal or have their alters talk to each other it becomes fairly obvious that it’s fake. Plus majority with it don’t even realize they have it, and a lot end up believing they just have memory loss. You also can’t be diagnosed until a certain age, and it’s very difficult to get a diagnosis for less then like 1% of people actually have it.
@@idk4721 yeah, i mentioned the whole “you cant be diagnosed until 18 by law” she responded with “well that dosent matter i know that i have it i found all the information on google and i dont need a legal diagnosis”
honestly being a fan of the RUclipsrs in the DSMP is just a red flag in general 🥰🤭
@@noria5711 nahhhh 💀 you right tho
no hate to you ben but “multiple personalities disorder” (MPD) is now called “DID” (dissociative identity disorder) :)
THIS ^^
its not real 💀
@@missviktoriya u fr?💀💀😭
@@missviktoriya it is but lots of people fake it but people do actually have it
@@missviktoriya yes it is what💀
As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD and lives in America, I believe my full cost just to get in was around 200 dollars or so. After that there’s usually a payment for every visit (which usually depends on your salary) . 2000 dollars is ridiculous D:
I think the overall cost for having adhd and being diagnosed 6 or 7 yrs ago it has cost 7 or 8 thousands dollary doos
I have OCD, and I hate when people fake it, but also it's a very big disorder with multiple "types." I try to understand when people say they are "so OCD," because it could show different in them than it does in me.
I had this “friend” who self-diagnosed themselves with adhd and she drove me insane besides the fact that she would slap me across the face everyday and sexually harassed me she blamed everything on adhd
what the hell. I have a friend who has ADHD and he never does any of that. I hope you're not friends with her anymore, that's horrible
@@onyx243 I went through a lot because of her but I got away from her and yes most people who have adhd aren’t like that
@@justgingy5806 good to hear you're not around her anymore :)
Ik this is rlly late, but as someone with DIAGNOSED adhd this makes me SO SO upset. I’m so sorry you went through that
@@LuLuIrene thank you
ppl saying "my ADHD kicking in" in a TikTok video makes it seem as if it isn't a constant problem in their life :( so annoying bc mental illness isn't something that you can turn off or on. it's all day, every day. not just the "quirky" parts.
And you can get tics sometimes I do I have ADHD
I think that I have tourette syndrome for almost two years now, and in those two uears I have never said "I have tourette syndrome" to anyone because I feel like I may be called a faker and asked for proof. Those people who fake mental health are hurting people who actually struggle with it, and has have to put up with being embarrassed by it.
Also because so many people fake tourette syndrome, it has become a joke in my class a few times :( (btw reminding a person with tourette syndrome makes it worse)
I'm confused, you "think" you have tourette's syndrome or were you diagnosed? Just want to know
not only is it cringy, but when other people fake things (in my case, adhd) it makes other people less inclined to believe you when you legitimately have the disorder. Tried to tell my OWN MOTHER that i had been diagnosed with adhd and she said “you’re only saying that because it’s the new trend” like what
I got ADHD and this thing it's like dislexia but like with numbers 😑 someone said I was faking and my response was "IM LITERALLY IN THE LEARNING DISABILITY CLASSES THEY TESTED ME HOW WOULD I GET IN THERE IF IT WASN'T TRUE" LIKE BRO PEOPLE LIKE TICKS AND ROSES AND OTHERS MAKE IT SO HARD 😭, love you ben pop off king
Me and my ‘friend’ were talking about a RUclipsr who had an eating disorder and she really said ‘EaTiNg DiSoRdErS aRe NoT tHaT bIg A dEaL’ as she still fakes having OCD
drop her!!
How does she fake OCD? I'm curious, as someone with it.
@@nerdyreadergirlyt2392 she will always say crap like no it has to be perfect when she’s doing something but every other sign doesn’t line up like when I’m “taking too long” she’ll say it doesn’t have to be perfect
Drop her😭
@@BarbraMiller29 Ughh. When they think it's just about perfectionism you *know* they're faking it. 🤦♂
i was diagnosed with tourettes when i was about 4 or 5 yrs old and when i first started telling people about it most people would say oh i have that aswell! im now in year 7 but i started teling people in yr 3 because i was kinda scared to tell people ig and at first people kinda bullied me subconsiously. they would tell me that they have it aswell and then try to reanact what i look like when i do tick. i usually only tick when i get anxiety so yea and im very insecure of it but not as much anymore. also im a rlly big fan
the reason why diagnosing mental health issues is such a process and so hard to get a diagnosis is because unlike the medical things you listed in this video, a mental health diagnosis isn’t black and white and requires the doctor to gather and pour over A TON of information. i just was hospitalized again and had my bipolar 1 diagnosis confirmed again and that alone was a process and i’ve had that diagnosis on the books for almost 5 years, it was because he wanted to rule out a misdiagnosis. i ended up walking out with a generalized anxiety diagnosis, adhd diagnosis and a bipolar 1 diagnosis with my diagnosed ocd in remission.
I have severe OCD and ADHD. Due to irrational fears and intrusive thoughts, I was extremely scared throughout middle school. I couldn’t pay attention to my teachers, and was harshly criticized for it. It hurts me that something that i’ve struggled with for years is now being used as a quirk.
This makes me so happy, as someone with depression, anxiety and possible DID and PTSD it makes me so angry when people fake it cause none of them are quirky. I have a sister with ADHD and my mom has multiple mental illnesses so it boils my blood when people are using mental illness for clout. Like when people say they’re so OCD cause they like being organized. Especially the “ADHD kicking in” cause, it’s not like that. When my sister gets distracted she isn’t aware that she’s distracted (I’m not sure if this happens to everyone with ADHD cause it might be diff) so she ends up crying about how she tries to pay attention but somehow can’t.
She is EXTREMELY hyperactive so she’s always doing something to keep her busy. (Playing, drawing. Etc. ) so for people saying when they’re distracted they have ADHD is disgusting.
And I also wanted to say thank you for talking about the DID part. I obviously don’t know but I might possibly have it. And the people who fake it are.. disgusting. Every alter has their own thing, memory, etc. Just like my alter, Moon. She has her own personality, feelings and thoughts. So thank you for bringing light to that aswell and for other disorders that people fake. Thank you
as someone who is in the process of getting diagnosed with adhd and shows every symptom for it, i can confirm that that’s how it is (at least for me) when i get distracted as well. especially when trying to work on things like school work it can get very overwhelming when you’re trying your hardest to focus but just can’t. i cry over it a lot too lol, your sisters not alone
as someone diagnosed professionally with DiD I fully get the pure anger behind ppl who fake it its such a horrible disorder its not fun its never fun never will be expecially not with *how its caused* so I fully understand thatt
OCD is a real bitch because it often comes with intrusive or violent thoughts. “Do this X amount of times or something bad will happen to your family”. My sister has it and she has some things she just does that piss me off a little bit and I tell her to try to say shut up to it. She often “I can’t” or denies doing the thing she did. She’s guilty of how her brain is wired, which is a horrible horrible thing
As someone with ADHD,most of the time I get distracted I don't notice until someone reminds me,but I sometimes notice it by myself. But other people experience different things. So idk buttons my experience.
Literally exactly, remember that one trend called something like “insomnia makeup” and some people are faking insomnia at my school, as someone who has insomnia It’s not something you want to have. (Ik this was kinda off topic but it just bothers me sm)
people r so annoying hope ur alright ml
I remember years and years ago when everyone said they had insomnia lmao. I don’t have insomnia but I have parasomnia and it’s definitely not fun
As someone with adhd and a personality disorder (both professionally diagnosed) I cannot stand people like this. It is so hard to go through my day and trying to focus when everything is running through my head at once. I cry myself to sleep most nights not knowing who I am and not knowing myself, it is such a struggle and the fact that people fake these things to seem “cool” or “quirky” is so irritating. It’s honestly so obnoxious when I meet someone who is faking a disorder.
I have Tourette’s adhd and anxiety (all diagnosed by a neurologist) and I hate to see people fake things like this for clout and when people reveal that they have stuff like this and try to spread awareness but then are accused of faking it while they believe the people who fake it and use it for clout it fucking disgusting and offensive and most of the time plain out rude😕😕😕😕😕😕
Edit: My brother also has ADHD and ODD my friend has OCD many other friends with autism my friend has depression and my dad has ADHD and even though he was never diagnosed with it my mom believes he has autism, so I’m sure if my parents saw this or my brother there would be a serious fight in any comment section in these types of videos when they mock or fake a disorder or disability like I’m not even kidding bro 💀💀💀
Haha, I walked into the psychologists office to figure out if I had a diff disorder, walked out knowing I had ADHD no questions asked have no clue how they diagnosed me so fast but- anyways for example personally some things that I do that are part of it are sometimes im completely unhinged ill be dancing/ embarrassing myself in public I have no care of what anyone says but my normal conscience is like wth, also im very jumpy and cant sit still or wait patiently to talk, I lose everything so much and its really annoying like if I put something down I take a pic of it so I remember where. Also I have a mood where I just am argumentative and will talk back to anyone even adults, im overly emotional and idk the word just cant calm down. Also my memory is like an ant. From watching your videos ive seen you do display some of the symptoms but I dont know you personally, You should check it out !!
I have ADHD and this does sometimes happen too me! The dancing… I feel like a look like I am tiktok dancing, I DON’T EVEN LIKE TIKTOK! Also the mood swings, ADHD does sometimes help bring those out, I am WAYY too sensitive and I do have anger issues as well, BAD COMBO
@@Kin_fe Bhahaha yess when I dance people question if its a TikTok dance millennials are like "Is ThAt ThE lAtEsT TrEnd" and its just so funny. Yea I totally understand you tho I am really similar to those swell
As a person with adhd and dyslexia I find it very annoying when someone fakes a disability for fame and attention or for jokes Mocks and laughs 😢
i agree the most of this. just do remember that faking a mental illness IS a sign of mental illness. factitious disorder deserves treatment just as much as any other disorder + faking/attention seeking is often a sign of childhood neglect.
I got diagnosed with ADHD this last year and it is so weird seeing people pretend to have it because it just doesn’t act like the way they think it does. It is actually so bad that I didn’t know I had it because I thought that ADHD was the caricature of it that people portray and I don’t act like that. People gotta stop saying they have it just bc they space out or forget something
its so great that ben is talking about this because i have autism , anxiety and depression (yes im diagnosed) i hate it when people act like this for clout its just terrible and i feel very bad for the people who actually have these disorders. thank you for reading this.
Thank you ! I have ADHD inattentive type, I’m the spaced out and not paying attention during conversations is a daily thing i do. I really appreciate you for saying this because it’s way worse than a speck of dust floating by or just forgetting one thing one time, it’s forgetting my keys getting back to the house and putting on sock and getting a water and still leaving my house without my keys and having to go back in again for the keys but I’ll probably forget them two more times😂 it’s a thing i have to readjust my life to help myself remember things. And it’s definitely harmful to think that adhd is just us being ditzy for fun???
I did an essay for school on this topic and I am so glad Ben talked about this cause it really is crazy and makes me so mad, as a person with diagnosed mental illness it just gives us a bad name and is just so weird, there was this one kid I used to be freinds with that got excited that she was diagnosed with depression and I was litterally like wtf, that is def a not good thing like you really wanna sacrifice your mental health for people to feel bad for you? It makes no sense.
I’m just about to start meds for anxiety and it absolutely infuriated me when people do things like “omg I’m having a panic attack! I have such bad anxiety! 😍😝😋😘” And they’re just a little anxious or worrying. Like Becky being anxious a bit doesn’t mean that you have full on anxiety as a mental illness. I get it’s common and easy to fake but gosh. Thanks for touching on this
my fully diagnosed friends with ADHD (some with autism or both) say I act a lot like I have ADHD/autism and that I should get tested.
I just say:
*your parents may be rich but mine aren't*
Thank you for bringing awareness to this Ben! I love your videos and just wanted to let you know you make so many people happy :)
Hi! I’m diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. I have been since around 3 (as my mum teacher that works with a lot of special Ed kids- she cought it early) I didn’t really get why I was different than others so seeing people make light of things that I not only struggled with but couldn’t understand. Mental illness is only “quirky” until it becomes ugly- The same people who did this won’t every understand having gross teeth because you keep forgetting, or hate the feeling of water. They won’t understand why you repeat yourself because when you would go on tangents as a kid everyone would ignore you by stopping talking and just waiting for you to be done. They won’t understand but they can capitalize. It’s painful to see.
I actually do have ocd and insomnia and oh my god it makes me sososo upset when people just say things like, 'Ughh I'm so ocdddd' or 'my insomnia kept me up last night I couldn't sleepppp'
I spend hours a day obsessing and stressing over not turning the lights off in perfect order, we aren't the same.
Ma'am, you went to bed at 1230 am. I went to bed at last Tuesday. we aren't the same.
As me actually being diagnosed with ADHD, I am very angry at the behavior of these people because I was diagnosed as a little kid and actually have papers, just cruel.
Ben puts such a big smile on our faces and I appreciate that a lot. I hope we try to make you smile as much as you make us smile through the screen. I hope you know that you make a lot of people happy :)
I made the likes 111- and yeah-
I’m seriously diagnosed with anger issues and I see so many people use it to be quirky, it’s gross, it’s so bad to the point if someone actually has a mental illness no one would believe them because there’s so many others faking it
I am pretty sure I have ADHD, I have looked at the symptoms and I have seen those in my behavior repetitively. But I don’t go around saying I have it. There’s lots of disorders that are commonly used as a clout source, like anxiety, ADHD, tourettes and OCD. I’ve also seen ones about Autism and Depression. It’s really sad that this is what society has come to.
Its so nice to see both sides to ben, his crazy funny side and his more serious side. All of his videos are so enjoyable to me and I like the family friendly channel and the more adult or mature audience channel. (benoftheweek & Drama Mama)
idk if this is off topic at all, but i have had seperation anxiety disorder (i didnt self diagnose it) and when my parents didnt know i had it, they just said i was shy and that i was acting depressed. they basically just made fun of me by saying i was acting like this because of tiktok or because of my phone or whatever. i started hating anything that had to do with the word depressed, just because everyone who saw me stick to my parents or my friends, decided that i had depression
i've seriously never understood why people have any desire to fake a disability, when i was a kid i used to deny having a disability throughout my entire childhood, and there are people literally faking it???? (Btw my disability is not life-threatening or anything its just a bunch of tumours that cause adhd, gross motor delays, eyesight and hearing problems, skin deformitities, etc.) It hurts to see people using other peoples problems for clout.
I've seen this especially for maladaptive daydreaming, which I struggle with a LOT. No, it's not cute and quirky, it's a compulsion and addiction that ruins your life. People don't know the difference between maladaptive and immersive and it's really annoying
As a person who actually has mental illnesses (having ADHD anxiety and being on the spectrum) I’m triggered by people faking it
(Before you ask yes it was diagnosed by a psychiatrist I’ve been to therapy for 3 years and I take medicine for it)
Same. I also had adhd and anxiety. The people faking this stuff is just so annoying like just stop dude it’s not funny it’s not cool and some people struggle with the stuff that they are faking everyday and your just faking it or making fun of it or whatever they do and it’s just ugh so annoying
Same I have Adhd and Anxiety diagnosed by a medical professional and its incredibly hard to deal with I just wish I could go back to normal 😓
@@Valentino016awh,I'm so sorry that you feel that way. We all wish we could get rid of our mental illnesses sometimes but in the end just know that it makes you unique and you'll get through it ❤️
This is a great video, and I’m so glad you support everyone! Just so you know, it used to be called multiple personality disorder, but now it’s called dissociative identity disorder, based off of other symptoms of the disorder, thanks!
As someone who got diagnosed as a child with a mental disorder, it annoys me so much when people fake it. It’s a real struggle, and it impacts someone’s life so much. It just angers me
As someone with Tourette’s syndrome, it pisses me off so much to see someone fake it and pretend it’s quirky and cool when it’s actually frustrating and humiliating. I have the physical tics rather than the verbal ones. Sometimes it gets so bad that it is physically painful depending on the tic. And to see someone joke about a daily struggle that you can’t cure or hide is draining. Especially when at the end of the day they get live life normally. Tourette’s is so misunderstood and seen as funny but it’s a constant thorn in my side that gets in the way of everything. I’m so blessed that I don’t have it as bad as others but there needs to be awareness for this.
"The three faces of eve" is a good movie example of the downfalls of having D.I.D. but back then they called it multiple personality disorder. Edit: the movie is based on the real events of a real lady named eve.
I've been diagnosed by medical professionals since I was like 5 with ADHD and I struggle in School quite a bit and I really hope that doesn't lead my mom or dad to make me take meds. Bc It was something I was born with a don't want to be a complete different person bc of some drugs.
Nobody IS adhd.. but some people HAVE adhd.. including me.
It annoys the hell outta me when "normal" people says that they have adhd just because they get distracted once, or that they have ocd because they are pedantic. They have NO idea about what those diagnoses really are about. Ocd is NOT funny at all to deal with.. it's torture! I also hate when people say they're depressed or have anxiety just because they're sad or worried for a little while.
i have social anxiety and i’ve seen people fake it. it makes me mad because like for example you have to share something in class but it is to hard because you’re to nervous, or just forget what to say. that has happened to me before and everyone started laughing at me and seeing people fake it! like no!
i have ADHD, autism, BPD, bipolar, PSTD, anxiety, and DID(specifically OSDD). im not able to get diagnosed because of my parents but i have done MONTHS of research before even labelling myself with them, and even then its hard to be comfortable using those labels. its not pleasant to find out you may have any sort of disorder and even though i coped with humor i cried SO much when finding out any of those. i cant avoid most of those disorders since ADHD, autism, anxiety, BPD, and bipolar run in both sides of my family. i dont get angry when someone says theyre self diagnosed because i am too but i dont like it when someone says theyre self diagnosed after doing little to no research because its a very stressful thing to experience and do but most times they reduce it to a fun title. ik this was a rant but this is my experience and opinion
lmao bpd isn’t genetic…
There’s no way in hell you can accurately self diagnose 7 fucking disorders. Chill out
waking up is a nightmare.
Thanks for touching on this topic Ben. My mom has anxiety (yes, diagnosed) and even has bad panic attacks where she has to be rushed to the ER. It makes me so happy that you’re talking about this because faking these types of things or throwing around terms is not good. ❤️
i was hanging out with my friends at lunch like outside of the doors and my friend was like "ew anxiety is so discusting like everyone in my family has it but i dont cuz im PERFECT" and then a week later- we were in class and we walked over to that one friend and she was crying and we asked her whts wrong and she sad "my mom yelled at me because i was so anxious this morning.." and she stood up and we all hugged her and she pushed us off her and said "sorry guys that was my anxiety.." LIKE GIRL...WHATTTTT?!
As a kid who suffers from ADHD and is doctor diagnosed it’s very offensive to me edit: thanks for the confidence boost Ben 🙃 I also kinda have social angziety
I’ve seen so many people do this, and I was excited to see Ben say something about it!!
the boys in my class would always say "Look at me I'm autistic!" then do something dumb while I'm just sitting there with ADHD and ASD then I look at then as to say "are you actually dumb? that's so rude to people who are actually autistic" and my friends can see this, once my friend saw me getting annoyed from it and said "oh hey (my name) have you been drawing anything new in your sketch book?" and I looked at her and said "Oh yeah!" and started to show her my new drawings I did
i have (now diagnosed) depression and all i have to say is, it really isn't a fun and cool thing to have. when i was way younger (10 and a "weird kid" with like 3 friends) i will admit i faked it. then it kicked me in the ass and threw me to the ground. having the experience of saying "guys im so depressed 🥀💔💔💔🥀🥀" to not brushing my teeth for a week because i physically cant get myself to and isolating myself from everyone absolutely SUCKS.
Both my brothers have adhd and when you said how much money the test cost I was like, “ no wonder we poor.” They also get medicine for it. My older brother has to have two adhd medicines and he also take medicine for tourettes.
Me: Being diagnosed with very bad anxiety and depression, being put on the highest dose of my medication. Also me: Why would you want to fake this-😭
Ben tysm for talking about this. As someone who struggles with mental illness, I really appreciate it. I have gone to many therapists for what people say, “just being organized and forgetting everything and worrying about life” when it’s much more than that! People seem to really not care about people who really have these disorders that suck. I hope these people learn what they are doing wrong.
I hate when people fake this stuff, because I have functional movement disorder and it can really hurt me and I feel SUPER embarrassed when I'm around people and do it.
Just subscribed to drama mama today and it is so relaxing, relatable, it hooks you, and talks about real issues
you know its a good day when ben uploads
every wenseday mama! 🤪
@@piqachu yes amanaamanamamanmaammamamas
@@piqachu he also uploads every saturday on his main
My cat died the day he posted this
@@monoghoul lol
I literally cry myself to sleep sometimes wishing I was “normal”. I’ve been diagnosed with a lot of disorders including adhd and ocd. And where I live it’s so common to joke about and it genuinely upsets me. I nearly had a meltdown in class years back because I was severely overwhelmed and my teacher would not let me move or use my fidget toys I use to regulate myself. I’ve mostly come to terms with having these conditions but like it’s not theirs to joke about. I joke about it to cope not because it’s funny Brenda. Thank you Ben
I have diagnosed ADHD and I have always hated this trend becuse they try to take all of the spot light over something they don’t have and it makes other people think that other people with diagnosed adhd seem like we don’t really have it
Self diagnosis is valid if you've done proper research. I'm self diagnosed as an autistic person because I've done research and my therapist says a lot of my experiences align with autism. I still don't tell many people about this (mainly my parents) because people think I think I'm autistic for a trend. I self diagnosed for comfort and I'm learning to deal with my symptoms that align with autism. I will most likely never get a legal diagnosis because it's not only sexist and im afab but I'm an adult. Diagnosing an adult is difficult because after 17 years of life I have only been unpacking my masking for a year now. Also rights wise, there are people wanting to sign a law that makes it so autistic people can never receive gender affirming care. I am trans and this is vital for my well being.
I have diagnosed ADHD, and it is so hard to live with. It makes me soo upset seeing my friends forgetting something and saying “omg I’m so adhd lol”
Feel for you my dude on the discussion! Getting diagnosed with the trifecta - diabetes epilepsy anxiety/depression... it hasn't been the smoothest ride the past 5 10 yrs but yea i get it, ppl need to stop faking these kind of things, not cool! Much 🤙keep on keepin' on man
I know a person who fakes i think DID, Tourette’s and depression. They said something along the lines off “im going through a period of depression and I might have ticks. I also have DID so sorry if I act quirky” now I like to believe people who say this but its so blatantly for attention. I’ve known them for I think 9 years and not once have I ever seen them display any symptoms of these disorder they supposedly have. They are simply doing it for attention and so are the people Ben are talking about.
DRAMA MAMA is literally the best Podcast that exists
Ben with a Gucci bucket hat is just pure bliss.
our host was writing something, a massive vent dump in here and had a mental breakdown while writing it and remembering all of it, it was too much for her to handle and i had to come in and front for a little bit while she cooled off and relaxed in headspace. I read it all and i understand why she would trauma dump like that speaking that it often gets to be too much for her brain to comprehend. Thank you so much for making this video addressing different therapy sites and the ways to tell if someone is faking a disorder and why it isnt okay to do so. Sincerely, TheSupportSystem -Iris
Glad ur talking abt this, just something that's happening me rn and has been happening since like summer break, I twitch a lot, my head twitches, or it goes to the left by it own really quickly and it honestly hurts, and people acuse me of faking tics which is horrible and sad to know that people think so, but it's hard to know what my problem is since there's hundredsssss of symptoms
Im not sure if you'll see this ben, but you podcast always puts a smile on my face keep up the good work
DRAMA MAMA has so much DRAMA
As someone with Tourette’s it’s harmful when people fake because when you DO have it you’re fakeclaimed and “called out” for something that causes you difficulty every day. I’m glad you brought it up Ben
I remember there was this girl who claimed she had OCD because she couldn't stand the look (she was exaggerating) of her Google doc not being in the middle. And she didn't like that someone plaited her hair not in the middle.
And I was like you do not have OCD, and she kept arguing that she did just because she had a preference to set up a Google doc.
I actually have OCD and it sucks when people do this. My OCD is the cleanliness type; if I don't wash my hands every 5-10 minutes my skin feels so dirty that the only way to get rid of the feeling is to either wash my hands or claw at my hands. If something unclean touches me it causes me panic and stress, because I feel absolutely filthy. This isn't really the cleanliness type, but I also get random thoughts in my brain like "touch all your fingertips together until they feel right or your best friend will die" and others like that. It really sucks, and it sucks when people fake it.