When I was 16, I was having recurrent fevers and unexplained symptoms and was consequently being seen by an infectious disease doctor. The doctor took one look at me and said, “if your fevers were higher, maybe we’d care about them. Stop looking for answers for your symptoms and see a counselor to learn how to cope with them.” Two years and many doctors later I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.
Oh my god, I had the same thing happen to me! Except he wanted my fevers to be higher AND last longer. My mom was like, "Then she'd be dead??" Obviously didn't return to that doctor; eventually got diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder.
A pediatrician was considering testing my baby for iron deficiency. I had heard that if a pregnant mother is deficient then sometimes the baby might also be. So I told him “I was iron deficient during the pregnancy”. He just looked at me blankly and said “this isn’t about YOU” Did he really think I was saying that just to talk about myself? 🙄
and even so, then what! how rude of him. and even if you DID worry about yourself, why would that be bad? this is soooo hurtful, when sbd assumes sth out of their opinionated mind :/ hugs
That is concerning in multiple ways. My kids' Drs always get a rundown on my health because maybe of my issues increase their risks of those issues. I don't tell them things I deal with that wouldn't impact my kids' risk factors. Same goes for other family medical history. Mine is just more extensive, with higher risk factors and the earlier detected, the better chance of effectively managing disease/symptoms. Drs have actually thanked me for being in a typed up list I carry with me of my health issues. I need to type up an updated list of other family history that could affect the kids since there's now more to list. Until recently, there wasn't enough to need a list outside of my issues. These things are important. It's good to know what to list and what not to if you can, but if I doubt, let the Dr know. Knowing medical history can help Drs know what to look for sometimes long before they otherwise would. That Dr was rude to shut you down that way. It's concerning that you were blown off like that. Even if your concern wasn't an issue for whatever reason, that should have been explained. When treating children, especially when they can't communicate for themselves, the concerns of their parents/adult should be listened to and reasoning behind why the concerns are or are not concerning to the provider explained. Also, when to come back in if things change should be explained. Raising kids is sometimes scary, especially when they can't communicate what they are experiencing. It's hard sometimes to know what to do on your own.
Actually, due to my pregnancy, one of my twins had a vit D deficiency, and the other twin had an iron deficiency. I had both iron and vit d deficiency myself. So, that is very weird. Some doctors scare me like they don't know things they should.
After I’d had my first child, I’d torn pretty badly. They sent for the doctor to sew me up. He was one of the most horrible medical individuals I’ve ever encountered. It was excruciatingly painful even after injections, and I screamed a few times and cried non stop. He stopped part way through and sighed heavily at me and said “just stop crying. I’m not going to give you any more anaesthetic.” It took an hour. At one point my husband had to leave the room as he was so upset and couldn’t handle seeing me like that. It had been a horrendous birth (I was induced, much of it was shock I think), but the hour that monster spent hurting me was the worst part of it. He didn’t even do a half-decent job and I had ongoing pain and problems for 18 months afterwards because of his butchery. By the time he’d finished, I was exhausted and emotionally numb, and my newborn had fallen asleep without being fed or me having more than a few seconds with her. They put me in an otherwise empty ward and kicked my husband out, telling him he could come back in the morning. I just half-lay there in this strange room in silence, my newborn swaddled asleep next to me, crying alone. I’ll never forget his callousness. That’s the thing these kind of doctors forget - to them, we’re just another annoying patient they have to deal with and they probably make 50 snarky comments a day without thinking of it. For us as the patient, we NEVER forget that cruel comment. It stays with us. It affects us. Imho
If you were just another patient, he would have given you something. Your real crime was being a woman. Women are seen as being overly hysterical in our society even in the medical field, and they are often ignored because of this.
RUclips must not have liked my comment. It wasn't just because you were an annoying patient. It's because you were a woman and the healthcare system has a history of treating women as being overly hysterical about everything. Women will come in after a heart attack and be told it's just a panic attack. You could probably go into the ER with a severed arm and be treated as hysterical when you say it's just a scratch. Society has a problem with treating women as being hysterical about everything.
Can't be critical of sexism within the healthcare system on RUclips apparently. Sorry they treated you like just another hysterical woman. Women deserve better than they get.
Ooh, ooh! I’ve got one. Therapist told me I made up my childhood SA. I was explaining to her how as a trauma response, I blocked out many memories of it, and sometimes struggle with self doubt due to that. I explained the doubt. I was not *currently* feeling any, I just asked her for advice on how to move past that. And she agreed with the doubt! She said that because I was unwilling to talk with her about it in depth, I was faking it. When I tell you one therapy session set me back years of work, I mean it. What a horrible thing to say to a vulnerable teen who trusted you enough to be sobbing on your floor about the most traumatic experience in his life. Her words still stick with me.
You literally got the therapist from the “therapist: [____] doesn’t exist, it can’t hurt you [____]: “ meme In all seriousness though really sorry that happened to you, it sounds like that therapist passed with chatgpt or smth, surely a therapist would know at least the basics of how trauma works…
@@froggycolouring My parents didn’t believe me either for a good while. It’s not entirely their fault. When they first learned of it, I was forcibly exposed through somebody I thought I could trust telling the school counselor, who was then legally obligated to tell my parents. They told me that they would have to take me for a virginity test (which are inaccurate and would be very retraumatizing) and take me to the police (despite it having been nearly a decade at that point and me not having enough memory of his face to possibly put a man behind bars. And also retraumatizing.) and I didn’t want to believe it was real either, so I sort of played “unsure” with it. Like maybe it happened, maybe it didn’t. I had been over that phase for a long while by the time I began to see this therapist though, and my parents knew this. Still, I’m wondering if maybe she was told upfront I was lying.
I know you've probably already heard this and don't need some internet stranger telling you but it did happen, you're the person it happened to so you know best. I struggle a little around doubt whether my trauma happened or not and personally it helps me to try distract from the topic entirely or talk with someone I trust, if you don't have either of those, it might also help to try focus on the growth you've made with that struggle. I hope your well, you're cared about, even if it's by a silly internet stranger.
Short story. I had a miscarriage at 19. The dr basically said your levels have dropped and youre probably just having a miscarriage. I cried and was devastated. He walked right out. If it wasnt for the older male nurse who sat by my side explained everything and sweetly called me ladybug, who soften the blow i dont know what id had done. ❤
That's horrific. 'probably "just"'. that must have been completely devastating. I don't understand why some doctors have no empathy or ability to relate to their patients. So glad someone caring was there for you.
@@emilycook4051 I'm so sorry to hear that. Some doctors may brush you away and think it's nothing. But when you've set yourself up for a life with a little one, and prepared yourself emotionally and physically, the loss and grief is immense. Keep taking care of yourself and find a new doctor if you can .💔 You didn't deserve this.
If I was a doctor and you had a miscarriage, I would of said “If you wanna try again for a baby, I would recommend this” and than give you things that could help you out, Like don’t stress to much,Don’t over work, Live with someone you trust, Don’t go up and down the stairs without help things, Try and eat food for the baby and you to enjoy things like that
I'm paramedic myself and during my formation I had to assist at a surgery preparation, a woman had a dead baby in her belly and couldn't deliver it naturally. The doctor was very rude to the patient who was mumbeling the whole time. I recognized the patient was just praying in Arabic and spoke the prayer with her. The doctor just yelled at us both to calm down. I was near to quit my job!
What a mercy you were there to care for her heart and soul as well as her medical needs. If only more people realized that is also a vital part of the job especially in such sad situations. I don't know if I could handle it (one of many reasons I'm not a medical professional) but even then it's not hard to ask if the person would like a clergy member to speak to or someone else who can offer compassion and care.
How incredibly rude and infuriatingly disrespectful. I hope you reported him to a higher-up! This is exactly why diversity, equity and inclusion sessions should be mandatory in so many occupations. I'm very glad you were there for her. Stressful times like that don't need to be made worse by uncaring a-holes :/
Went to a GYN when my periods suddenly stopped at 34, along with horrible hot flashes and night sweats, severe fatigue, and more. I told him it all felt like my hormones were way out of whack and I was worried it was premature ovarian failure. His response was “you’re too young for that,” “you’re just overweight and that can mess with things,” “you’re not in your 20s anymore, you aren’t going to feel the same,” and my favorite “this is normal aging.” He refused to even test for anything. Ten months later, many useless appointments later, another doctor finally diagnosed me with, shock, premature ovarian failure as part of a larger polyendocrine autoimmune disorder, also affecting my pancreas, my adrenals, and my thyroid. Yeah, there was a lot of hormonal things out of whack. I hate going to doctors, and go in anxious about being believed every time. Because I’ll be damned if I’m going to be blown off as a fat woman hysterical about aging ever again.
I saw a cardiologist in my 20's once when I was having heart palpitations and high blood pressure and he said the EXACT SAME THING "oh you're too young for that" and then he did nothing further and just told me to lose weight and exercise more even though I was currently working two highly physical demanding jobs.
Once I was at the hospital, not for me but for my mother. I was 10. the doctor was doing some tests and I asked how they were going. he ignored me. I asked again and he ignored me not even looking at me. I asked again a bit louder wondering if maybe he hadn't heard me. he got to his feet, looked me dead in the eye, and said "Is this YOUR visit?" I said no. then he said "then shut up and stop making this about yourself" my mother got up so fast and started yelling at the doctor. then she got her purse took my hand and said "if this is how you treat children then who's to say you won't treat your patients that way? needless to say, we will NOT be coming back." what made me so confused was that he had a certificate on his wall for some college that as well as medical degrees he also had a degree in child phsychology. My mother told the hospital what he said to me and they gave us a different doctor.
Genuine question: why were you in the room not waiting outside or waiting at home? I thought at first you had to translate for her. Smells parentification to me or something similar. Just food for thought. What the doc said was of course wrong. All the best..
@IM_HIM495 you get offended? Here in my country kids can legally be alone at home age 10 and it is psychologically damaging to bring the child to a medical appointment especially when they are old enough to understand. This is not done here and if children are with them they wait outside. Speaks volumes that you not only consider it normal but went on to attempt to offend me. The child ought to remain a child and not be dragged into responsibility nor should it distract the doctor. Even children of for example deaf parents who may attend here - it's considered unwise and counts as parentification. Please educate yourself about it. 🙏
About 12 years ago I had a doctor tell me-"you're a hypochondriac, that's your problem." At the time, I was going through a very stress filled time, my anxiety was raging, and my upper left chest felt "hollow" (best description I could come up with) and I would wake up in the middle of the night with a sharp pain just under my left clavicle. The doctor finally agreed to do an EKG. Results in his words- totally normal. I looked at the EKG. I'm no doctor, but I knew it wasn't. Luckily, my insurance at the time allowed me to make appointments with specialists without a referral. I went to a cardiologist. The first thing I did was hand him the EKG results and told him "Dr. __________ told me this is normal." The cardiologist looked at it and almost immediately said "He said this is normal." I said "Yes. He also told me I was a hypochondriac." The cardiologist sat very quietly for a minute and then said, "I've known Dr. _______ for a number of years. Previous to this I'd always considered him to be competent. Clearly that isn't the case. I assure you, you will have the quality of care here that you should have received from him. Let's start with a new EKG and when that's done you can tell me all that's been going on." Ending the long story. Determined I have an irregular electrical path in my heart. It was being exacerbated by the stress in my life. Cardiologist had me do a stress test and an echo. ECG showed my heart was healthy and I had an excellent heart blood fraction- slightly above normal. The stress test, which the Cardiologist watched showed my abnormal electrical flow became normal during exercise and how long it stayed that way depended on the frequency of my exercise (that last part was from a 30 day heart monitor test). What I found out two years later from one of the cardiologists nurses was while I was having that first EKG in his clinic he'd called Dr. _______ and berated him, called his actions and words unprofessional bordering on incompetent, his lack of empathy disgusting, and questioned his abilities as a doctor. He also filed a report about this with State Medical Board.
@@deltalima6703 Never went back to him. The day he told me I was a Hypochondriac I found a new doctor. The thing is. A part of me had been thinking that it was all in my head. If I hadn't had a general idea of what a normal EKG should look like, I probably would've gone back.
When I was 17, I was very depressed. I went to the pediatrician's office and they made me do a PHQ, the doc came in and said "your answers point strongly towards MDD, but I don't get that when I'm talking to you, you seem like a happy young girl! Are you sure you filled this out correctly?" This lead me to downplay my own depression and not get treatment. In the same visit she also congratulated me for losing a lot of weight when I was actually suffering from an eating disorder
Nah she knew what she was doing. Honestly, if you feel depressed the. You probably are depressed. It's 9 times out of ten because its a basic yet strong feeling. You'll know. And seriously shes a horrible people reader. Does she not know people act differently around people?
//TW I had similar with a psychologist once. I was talking about suicidal thoughts, I had told her about them before. Her answer was "if you really wanted to kill yourself, you would have done it already" Like, wtf? They tell people to seek help for suicidal ideation, but when you do you are met with this??
I loss my daughter at 6&half mths and the main nurse came in and said that is what happens to unwanted babies. I screamed at her letting her know she was wanted as I threw everything I could put my hands on at her. She avoided me the rest of the time I was in hospital. That was 39 yrs ago and I am still hurt by her words. Some people are just nasty as.
What a horrible nurse! Clearly she should not be in the ward. I think she’s lucky you didn’t drop kick her out the window. I applaud your restraint on that one. I’m so sorry you had to hear that. Did she think she was helping?! I just don’t understand why on earth anyone would say that to a woman in the middle of a miscarriage.
How could she just assume that?!?? What an awful thing to say!! I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my daughter at full term 2.5 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her
I am so sorry that happened to you. Please know that you deserved care and professionalism . Thank you for sharing this, I pray you have found peace after your loss.
10:42 “you can’t tell someone what their mood is” *THANK YOU* !! I have had people around me try to tell me what I’m feeling and it’s so annoying/frustrating.
My doctor was listening to my chest with a stethoscope that had some kind of electronic amplifier on it. He had forgotten to turn it on, so he couldn't hear anything at first and said "So, how long have you been dead?" before explaining and switching it on. Was hillarious.
😂 I found this hilarious cause family and doctors always have issues taking my heartbeat cause they can't find it in my wrist so I'm usually the one saying I'm dead
I suffered a corneal abrasion while swimming in a pool. The chlorine made it even more painful. I went to the local ED. I couldn't open my eyes without pain and gushing tears. While waiting to see the doctor, one of the staff people got my info. She asked if I had insurance. I said my card was in my wallet. Without opening my eyes, I took out my wallet and pulled out the insurance card. She said, "Wow, you'd make a really good blind person." I burst out laughing. She profusely apologized. I knew what she wanted to say which was "that was impressive without looking."
I have a weird little habit I do periodically... I pretend I'm blind so I can see just how screwed I am... come to turn out that my family have a genetic condition that can lead to blindness but you can't exactly test for until damage is visible. Can't remember what it's called but it's something I have to be mindful of once I get to my 50s or so...guess I'm genuinely practicing... I think I initially started it as a challenge because of watching criminal minds and seeing victims unable to get around their own homes in complete darkness...thought I'd like to be a little prepared for something highly unlikely to happen to me
I once offered to "give a hand" to a man with no arms. I immediately said, "oh! What a stupid thing to say!!!" He was very kind and told me it was okay. I was genuinely trying to be helpful as I saw him struggling to open a door. Sometimes intentions are kind and innocent, but words can come out all wrong and make you sound like a heel.
I self-admitted myself to the ER for mental health reasons. When I was asked how I planned on hurting myself, I said "Most likely with pain pills". The nurse looked at me and he said "Oh that's the WORSE way to do it, organ failure is miserable". I honestly find it hysterical when I think back on it. P.S. I'm also doing better now
My mom didn’t take my OD attempt seriously because I took Tylenol (I hadn’t taken nearly enough to mess myself up, but I did puke the next morning. It wasn’t until she happened to mention it to my pediatrician, who was VERY concerned, that she realized it was something serious. Oh, Mom!
@@sarahprice659 this is why i think people should be forced to take a class or even years of learning how to know when to take something serious verses when to take not as serious
One story I have about mental health is that someone close to me tried to kill themselves following someone else's suicide and the doctor said "are you proud of yourself" as well as making remarks about the person's relaxed pose (after overdosing on multiple substances) as well as saying that asking for therapy is too much from free healthcare
Dr Mike thank you so much for the way you described "patching people together" in a positive way. My late husband was critically ill the last 18 months of his life, in and put of hospitals and multiple weekly doctor visits and he repeatedly said whatever it took to give him one more day with me was worth it.
I had a gynaecologist suggest I get pregnant to cure my ovarian cyst. I was 15 at the time. When I was 17 and he diagnosed me with endometriosis he again suggested I could get pregnant to fix it, then handed me a pamphlet about endo that said that while some people experience less pain while pregnant that is generally temporary and it can be harder to get pregnant. Even if getting pregnant was a reliable guaranteed cure for either condition, there is no scenario where recommending teen pregnancy is ok.
Damn , this is something I jokingly told my girlfriend (she's 18, and her parents don't allow her to get treatment for it - hopefully she can move in with me this year and get the help she needs), never would have thought that an actual doctor has such unconventional ideas
Dang, my PCP when I was younger was so much better at handling this. She went over all the sane options and we decided to start me on hormonal contraceptives. She also volunteered to have a stern talk with my parents if they had an issue with it, but luckily that wasn't a problem.
@@alexreitlerI know you were joking, but joking about potentially very life threatening serious issues may make a lot of people ruminate in depression rather than alleviate the load. It's really sweet that you want to help her, and very appreciated, but damn her parents are trashbags. Not allowing treatment for very painful conditions your child has is FUBAR. She is still their own blood..... no matter if she's an adult. You are the son or daughter of someone all your life. Age doesn't erase fraternal bonds....
A few years ago, I went to the ER for uncontrollable vomiting (I was projectile vomiting stomach acid) and abdominal pain. I couldn't hold down water and was very dehydrated. When I am vomiting like that, everything hurts. It feels like I've done 100 ab crunches. The ER doctor came in and saw on my chart that I had gastroparesis (paralyzation of the stomach - so a lot of my food doesn't digest and will come up and/or will rot in my stomach because it's not moving normally, andfi you can imagine having the worst stomach flu you have ever had - it's kinda like that) and will come back up, even days later. He also saw me vomiting into a basin with bright red blood in my vomit because my throat was so irritated from all of the acid. First, he thought I was a drug seeker, even though I'm still vomiting and my blood pressure was super high from the pain, and then he told me that GP didn't hurt after half listening to my symptoms. I was in horrible pain and was miserable but, even though I was sick enough to be in the ER, I had to advocate and fight for myself because I did NOY want that in my chart. He didn't even really want to examine me until I said somthing about it. I asked him if nerve damage in the knee hurt (keep in mind, I keep vomiting, no meds on board yet) and he replied yes. I asked him if nerve damaged in someone's back would hurt and again, he said yes. I asked him, then why wouldn't GP hurt if it's vagus nerve damage? He looked at me for a few minutes and replied,"I've never thought of it like that before. " I wanted to facepalm but he did order me meds after that. I know doctors get a lot of drug seeking patients - but they shouldn't judge who comes into the ER. Drug addicts can still have emergencies too. I just don't like to be labled a drug seeker because of my chronic illness and autoimmune issues. Sorry for the novel but it just bothers me to this day, and if I Have to go to the ER, I always go to the same one, who has all of my records. I don't doctor shop or go to different ERs and I really don't like to fight for medical care when I'm sick enough to go to the ER but I learned early on that you have to advocate for youself.
Ive had one of these attacks on a few different occasions, and they are HELL. good on you for advocating for yourself. The first time, I was in so much pain, I was begging my mom to stop it. She called 911, but by the time they arrived the pain was gone and I was on the floor feeling near death. My temp was super low and so were my blood pressure/pulse. After that fiasco I just wanted to stay home and sleep so i refused medical care. Ive never went to the hospital for it, but if it happens again Im taking inspiration from your story and advocating for myself. thanks ❤
As a nurses aide in hospice and a surgical technologist, it breaks my heart for you having to have gone through something like that. Shame on that Doctor!! 😡
GP doesn't hurt?? What Crackerjack box did that idiot get his license out of? o_O I have gastroparesis too, and the first twenty-some times I ended up in the ER, everyone up to the janitor was constantly asking me how "my pain" was, and I've had doctors express surprise that I didn't have really bad gut cramps. :/ I'm lucky because mine *doesn't* hurt -- early on I'd get some muscle soreness from vomiting, but those muscles are apparently a lot stronger now, lucky me -- and used to drive me nuts trying to convince them I was just there for the nausea, not for pain. One time I (once again) told everyone and the janitor that I wasn't in any significant pain, and the doctor had me shot up with dilaudid anyway -- he apparently didn't believe me. :( If your idiot and my idiot could, like, put their brains together in a blender, puree it for a minute or two, and then give half back to each, they might actually be competent physicians. (Once I was compos mentis again, I complained to the hospital ombudsman, and after a board investigated, I got a nice apology letter and they zeroed out my bill for that visit. So yay?)
I was already going to comment before I read what you said about addiction - I've had friends with GP, and it sounds horrific (hearing about any doctor telling a patient with obvious symptoms that they aren't in pain makes my blood boil - I was told the same thing before my congenital spine defect was diagnosed and when my gallbladder was failing). Having to explain your condition in minute detail and advocate for yourself in an ER is something a person who is actively throwing up should never have to do. Anyway: I'm one of the chronically ill folks who lost my pain meds between 2015 and 2018. I ended up living off leftover pain meds and falling straight into actual, legitimate drug abuse (benzos and opioids). Thank you so much for showing the empathy that you did to addicts. It genuinely means a lot. I understand being accused of being an addict simply for having a medical condition, too. I experienced that constantly from 2012-2018 (my addiction issues began in 2019), and I wouldn't wish being perceived as an addict/being treated the way 95% of medical professionals treat addicts on anyone.
Yup! Had this exact GI issue myself and its like satans flaming boot repeatedly kicking your stomach. Brutal. I've also been dismissed as a drug seeker because OTC painkillers werent strong enough to deal with endo pain. I get that few people understand how debilitating the pain is but how do they not understand that this is a recurrant issue with no end in sight and the pain is NOT being managed when it does flare??? All I'm gona wana do now is go to a pharmacy and take an unhealthy cocktail of everything i can cause you guessed it! I am indeed after painkillers!! For my chronic pain!!! Which leaves me so incapacitated that i lose motor function!!!! Which means i create a lot of mess!!!!! That i cant clean up because im in pain!!!!!!!! UGHHHHHHH I'm sorry you went through that. We deserve better.
I had a miscarriage and the NP at the hospital told me not to cry "because it wasn't really a baby" and "we aren't sure you even really pregnant. Sometimes people just naturally have high pregnancy hormones." When the doctor came in later he was shocked and said, "no you were definitely pregnant." He was very kind. She was not.
I’m glad you at least had that doctor who was there for you instead of just that shitty nurse spreading misinformation of your own medical emergency to your face
I'm so sorry. People are incredibly insensitive about miscarriage, even people who work with them all the time! I am currently miscarrying and at my ultrasound last week afterwards the nurse comes in and congratulates me and does her whole spiel about genetic testing and what to expect etc etc. I just looked at her. I have other children and I've heard the speech before so I just sat there sort of glaring, wondering when she was going to wake up and realize I was losing my baby. It took her entirely too long to realize she had made a terrible mistake. She was very apologetic, but seriously? How hard is it to read the chart?
First time commenter over here: I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 14 and got put on medication at 15. The medication or medications got much stronger once I was 18 and "legal". I had a persistent feeling of overwhelming tiredness and fatigue, and my skin was pale white with a very blue undertone. At 23 years old I ran 300 metres to get on a tram and fainted due to the physical effort I made. Turns out I have an inborn heart defect that caused 80% percent of my tiredness. I had my surgery on Christmas Eve in 2021. I will never forgive my doctors, but I do want to forget.
When I was 21, I suffered a miscarriage. After the obstetrician told me, I obviously burst into tears. He sighed and then uttered the most callous question of all! "What are you crying for? You are young enough to have another". Not what you want to hear at a time like that! Some Dr's should never have gone into the medical field!
Of all medical professionals, OB-GYNs ought to be the most compassionate about patients experiencing miscarriage because it's literally part of their specialty and happens so often.
Unfortunately, the training regarding the emotional side of things is pretty much non-existent for many healthcare providers (with the exception of psychiatrists).
@@DoriZuza They shouldn't need training to show empathy/understanding, especially as an OBGYN as they deal with highly emotional people pretty much on a daily basis
@@nanamoo2008 I wholeheartedly agree that this is not how things SHOULD be. I’m describing how things ARE in real life so that hopefully people will know and be slightly better prepared to handle these awful situations made worse by unempathetic people (and believe me there’s lots of them).
I have had some bad doctors, but worst I've personally had, was when I was attending rehab after I was paralysed, and as part of my team I had a psychologist. The first time I saw her, I sat there and explained how I became paralysed and she said "I'm surprised you haven't committed suicide already, I would've if I was you" - that broke me
Had the same thing happen, i was quite young, maybe 10 something like that, but instead she said that to my mum... Best way to make a mum very stressed about her child mental health.
I’m a teacher and I’ve heard the bladder comment while getting an ultrasound. Many of us do not get guaranteed lunch breaks, and we cannot use the restroom while we have a classroom full of students, so we hold our bladder the entire workday. One of my colleagues got a kidney stone in her mid twenties, and the doctor said that he sees many kidney stones in teachers and nurses for this reason.
What's interesting was I had undiagnosed anxiety as a kid but my teachers wrote in my report cards, "Anxious bladder" because I'd go to the bathroom just before recess but before class begins again I'd want to go to the bathroom again out of the worry that I'll need to go during class and miss something or not be allowed. As an adult I still got it but now it's worse because I also developed IBS on top of it...something heavily influenced by anxiety and stress lol. I could NEVER work a job that doesn't allow a bathroom break every 30 mins. Ps, yes I've been tested repeatedly for diabetes but going 28 years strong without despite having a strong family history of it and having PCOS and being obese...its remarkable I still haven't developed it yet
I was a substitute teacher last year, and I always went to the bathroom when I had a break, like during specials or lunch. I am very sorry not everyone gets those breaks
Elementary special education teacher... sometimes I make it through a whole work day and then realize I held my pee all day. I try to drink a whole 50 oz water bottle a work day. So I usually really have to go by the end. I know it's not healthy but I don't have time to do it during the day
In February 2020 just as covid started I already had a bad cough. In the middle of the night a coughing fit caused my entire back to lock up and hurt so intensely that I almost passed out. I called an ambulance and in the hospital they asked if everything was alright with my pee (to rule out my kidney hurting), told me it was most likely lumbago that just needed to be monitored, gave me some pain meds for the night and told me to get those same pain meds prescribed by my doctor the next day. My regular doctor wasn't available so I saw a new one. My pain meds had already worn off so I was extra cranky that day but that doctor not only insisted that my pain was caused by my kidneys and refused to elaborate (when I already knew that it wasn't my kidneys) but also PUNCHED ME IN MY ALREADY HURTING BACK! I collapsed to the floor crying and then he finally prescribed me the pain meds. I reported that doctor but nothing came of it. I never saw him again.
So to add something positive... I had the same primary physician from age 4-20. Small town too, so I'd see him at church, around town, etc. I'm 26, just left my ex-husband, kids and i just moved back in with my parents. I come down with bronchitis, so I of course go to see him. He diagnoses me and gives me a prescription, then asks me "So what happened? Are you ok?" I tried to blow him off but he sincerely cared. He was the first person who told me that what I had been experiencing was abuse. ❤️
That's amazing humanity and perception. I'm touched that he cared about you like this. I hope you are able to find any help you may need to work through the abuse you experienced.
@@chyndb I'm guessing it's because most of the comments on this video are about really awful personal experiences. @smalltowngirl78 I really appreciate this, thank you. I also like that the video had some positive and funny things added too. Hope everyone has a nice day.
My GP follows my mom on fb and likes her posts, so she sees when mom posts about a nature walk we both have, and mom jokes that the doc can see me going out and getting air.
When I inquired about a hysterectomy after a decade of agony from endometriosis and my first loss, my gyno refused it as an option because, "my future husband might want children someday." I also have seizures and the combo makes the odds of me ever carrying to term nearly impossible, which she knew at the time.
🤦🏼♀️ my future husband can get in the boat and row, or he’s not going to be my husband anyway. What does a hypothetical MAN have to do with your uterus?! Girl, I’m so sorry you head to even deal with that. I hope you got the care you needed.
@@RuaLuithnire When I went to a an OB/GYN to inquire about getting sterilized after Roe v. Wade was overturned, I had already prepared my answer if I was asked that: "Then I'd get a different husband." As you said, not sure what a non-existent, purely hypothetical man has to do with this. Thankfully, my doctor just asked me if I was sure that's what I wanted, (a few more times than I felt was truly necessary), but still better than being 2nd to a man who doesn't even exist.
@@OhWellBananas depending on how this next presidential election goes, I’m getting my tubes tied and they best better take me seriously. I hope I get a doctor like you had.
“It’s just normal female issues and pain.” -it was an autoimmune disease. “You’re depressed? Just go for a walk.” -I have an autoimmune disease which impacts my brain. I exercise regularly. I just love having my issues dismissed. 🙄. This is partially why I don’t trust doctors and I’ll google how to “fix” myself before I see any doctor
Honestly, you are better off with Google anyway.... I went in to the doctor and they pulled up a screen, asked if I had a smartphone, told me to take a picture and then to Google it. I had frozen shoulder. Instead of just explaining what it was, or how I got it, (especially since I actively use my shoulders and I had Googled that prior when my mom suggested it and I ruled it out because it didn't sound like it 😂😅) he just said "Google it". Doctors today seem to be very rushed and don't listen. That's just one example. I spent most of 2023 in various hospitals and different specialists and my primary, and physical therapy, and it just... I gave up. I just don't even care anymore. I don't have the energy to keep going to these appointments to not even be able to find the issues, fix the issues, be told to Google, just be sent to another specialist, etc.
I had a similar situation when I had a miscarriage. I went to get my ultrasound to check on the baby, and the be doctor performing the exam didn’t hear the heart beat. So she stopped the exam and just said. “It looks like there is no baby anymore, you should go now.” I was only 20 at the time. I left the room in complete shock, my boyfriend saw me crying without understand and I just wanted to go home. My mom got crazy when I told her that story, we went to my gynecologist and she told me to seek other hospitals for the exam because she didn’t like the way the doctor treated me.
When i was 16, i was in the hospital for suicidal ideation. The doctor at the time told me that i was being very selfish. That honestly made me feel worse and more suicidal. The worst part was i lived in an abusive household at the time. My attempt was basically a cry for help.
I had a nurse like that; she was stitching me up and asked how I could be selfish enough to do that to my mother. My mother was my primary abuser at the time. I'm so sorry and I hope you're somewhere safe and doing better
i had a psychiatrist tell me that i was ‘too sensitive to discipline’ and ‘couldnt handle proper discipline’ after describing the abuse i went thru as a child, which contributed to my persistent depressive disorder diagnosis at age 16. that was the only time i saw her, and i made sure to do better research into medical professionals after that
Good for you! Don't settle for less than a team that works for you. I work in corporate strategy, and it's all about the customer. We'd all be better off if we remembered that when going in to meet with yet another white coat. I say that, and yet I'm intimidated and flustered too (which is why I have to keep & take notes). FWIW - when I was diagnosed with depression in my 40's, having realized I'd had depression on and off most of my life (also not helped by an emotionally & physically abusive, violent childhood)... my oldest sister sent me the book "Choose to be Happy." Needless to say, we don't have much of a relationship now, if at all, for a million other but similarly tone-deaf actions.
@@melissascott6112 oh my god, those people just… I have an absolute fear of ever talking about my abusive childhood for that exact reason “breath out the trauma and breathe in Jesus,” 🙄 “at some point you just have to choose to get over it and not care about it anymore,” and similar comments from supposed therapists and self proclaimed devout christians. They wonder why people are leaving their house of bs (the pronounce it worship, though) in droves. It just terrifies me and disgusts me.
That is horrific, “too sensitive to discipline” does not explain the bruises, the blood, being sworn at and thrown into things, it doesn’t explain the emotional wounds, it doesn’t even touch anything sexual that may have happened. It is absolutely clueless. I am so sorry someone said that to you. I’m sorry you had to hear that. I’m even more sorry people treated you as less than human as a child and then this jag off did the same. Ugh. I am terrified of being told that after hearing it from a few therapists. The number one thing that will stop me in my tracks and send me to an entirely different clinic/health system all together is any mention of religion in their bio. You can be whatever religion you want or nothing at all. I do not care. That choice you’ve made for yourself doesn’t need to be part of my care, but if you’ve gone as far as to put it in your professional bio, it’s going to get shoved down my throat. That is where I have gotten every single bit of the “you were just a bad kid,” “you’re the problem, not your childhood,” “that’s just what old ladies do.” I seriously wish none of us had to go through any of this. There is no reason for it. Sometimes, I feel like some of these folks picked the wrong career, they became doctors or therapists because they thought it would get them rich. They need to go into some other profession that does not involve working with the public.
I actually had a urologist (at the University of Minnesota) “jokingly” tell me that if I masturbated, it would make me go blind. I wanted to raise serious concerns with him about a range of topics like postcoital dysphoria, but after that frat joke I wasn’t in the mood 🤷♂️😳
Damn, I'm with you there. Though at the same time if they were treating you around the time your song went viral I'd say by frat boy standards they were showing a lot of restraint. Either way, yeah, I'd see another doctor.
Not said to me but my Mom (I was eight at the time) "She's faking it to get out of school." I was hospitalized two days later for being underweight. I was 40 lbs and had Type One Diabetes. Doctor was apparently the best endocrinologist in the whole state at the time and specialized in helping kids with diabetes. ER Doctors said that if my Mom bought be in even a day later I would've died. That Endocrinologist got fired and it turns out this wasn't the first time she said this to a parent but I was just the one that broke the camels back.
@@Congiary I argued that the symptoms probably did align with depression, and in that case it was not an irrational diagnosis. Doctors go for the most likely option based on the symptoms to the least likely, and a psychiatrist who diagnoses you with depression is probably not going to suspect something that's that far off their specialty. Still, they probably should have checked something though, but depression like symptoms can have SUCH a wide range of causes that it's probably really not productive to discard them
I was in the hospital post suicide attempt, and an older lady nurse stepped in with the most stern expression I'd ever seen. She started asking me "so why did you do it?" and telling me that she had suffered a far worse life than I could ever imagine. I was 16 and unable to breathe or speak through my drug overdose. Only after she was done berating me did she give me an oxygen mask 🙁
That is horrifying I am so sorry you had to go through that. How dare she say those things to you? In the worst time of your life she berated you and made it all about herself. I am so so sorry you had to endure that and I hope you’re doing better ❤️
That is absolutely horrifying that she said those things *knowing* you couldn't even respond. I kinda feel like she thought you'd think "oh, maybe my life really isn't so bad." But probably what you heard was, "I'm better than you."
That was terrible and she should never had said anything like that to you - especially while withholding medical care! I hope you never deal with anything like that again, but if you do you or a family member can insist on speaking to the hospital's patient advocate. Best wishes for you going forward. ❤🩹
At a mental health wing in a hospital, Doctors have actually suggested to MY PARENTS in FRONT OF ME, that I might be faking it for "attention", and I have friends who have had that experience more than once. It's scary how far behind the medical and publics view of mental health is
like why on earth would someone a fake mental health issue for attention esp at a hospital Infront of a doctor and their parents??? and even if so, that's still a sign of a mental health issue?? like 😭😭 some people just have such privileged lives and can't imagine the struggles that others less fortunate go through because they're so close minded 💔 I hope you're doing better now and are getting the help you need ❤️
@@asparagus420you'd be surprised how much of a fad it is to fake mental illnesses, but even still this person's experience was unacceptable for the doctor to say such a thing
@@MsAnxiety Agreed, doesn’t give them an excuse as a first thought in their mind. But yeah, people out there on TikTok fake illnesses, mental and/or physical, and it really is a problem.
My pediatrician asked if I was depressed and then laughed. I decidedly didn’t tell her I have been. Looking back, I wonder if she was nervous, but it definitely didn’t help me trust her. I finally got diagnosed with depression when I turned 29.
At 24 years old I found myself suddenly in the hospital. I had a nurse come into my hospital room saying okay we have to get you up and moving around. Mind you I was in a hospital with a DVP and shortness of breath. My mom who is a retired nurse said “I don’t think so seeing she is on heparin shots and we are waiting on the results from her scan”…. Literally minutes later the doctors came in and they rushed me to emergency surgery… I had PE in my lung and they were worried it was going to go into my heart. That nurse is lucky my mom was there. My mom also made sure that nurse was never on my rotation for the rest of the time I was there
Here's a fun one: "It's all in your head." I was 21 at the time, knee was swollen and red, I couldn't walk and was in a wheelchair and crutches. Every day was intense pain. This kept happening and I had to move to a large city to be diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis. I remember what my nurse told me from my bone density scan: "You should have a few dark spots on your bones and that'll tell us if there's something wrong." Everything below my neck was basically dalmation mode from the amount of spots that I had. Years later, I'm 31 this year and I have it managed incredibly well but I'm still incredibly livid at that doctor for seeing the state I was in and telling me it was all imagined.
Went to the doctor for a swollen knee and got an MRI. There was a report in my online records afterward. I messaged my doctor and asked how it was going to be treated. He messaged back "with weight loss. " I am overweight but the report listed some problems *_and the problem started after my knee was accidentally struck with a metal bar which i had told him and was also in the report_* I messaged back a few things: "My knee was hit with a metal bar." "I want the same treatment that the skinny people I see at the medical center would get." "Would your doctor prescribed a 500 calorie a day diet if you got hit in the knee with a metal bar?" About half an hour later, I got a call from the Sports Medicine Department to schedule an appointment. Edit for clarity
My brother was having shooting pain from his chest down his left arm after he would get hit in the left chest when he was in his 20’s. He was in college, doctor told him he needed a vacation. Finally found an MD when he finished school that MRI’d his chest and foot(similar pain there). He was sent to a surgeon who removed the largest Schwannoma from his brachial plexus region he had ever seen.
I’ve heard “It’s all in your head” and “you just want attention/drugs” for YEARS whenever I complained about severe, unexplained chronic pain. Turns out I have fibromyalgia.
For YEARS I was told by multiple doctors that I was too young for the symptoms that I was complaining about. I now know that I have had a genetic condition since birth that caused all of those problems and no I wasn't too young for it. It took 10 years of fighting to finally get my diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and I sometimes think that I wouldn't be as sick as I am if doctors had listened to me when I was younger.
I went back to school in my late twenties and finally had insurance again so I went in and asked to get my cholesterol checked. The doc at first was like "you don't need that, you're too young". I looked him straight in the eye and said "My mom had a heart attack at age 50 and both my uncle and grandfather on her side died of sudden heart attacks in their 50s. You are checking my cholesterol" The doctor agreed, checked my cholesterol and put me on medication right away. Just because something is statistically unlikely, doesn't mean impossible.
I read this comment and was confused for a second thinking I wrote it without remembering. That is extremely parallel to my experience as well. I was constantly told that for so long and all I could think when the they would say that to me was "If chronic pain had an age restriction I wouldn't be dealing with it, now would I?!"
After speaking to some friends, I suspect that I may have this as well...I've got a new doctor, so don't trust him, and don't know how to broach the subject. How did you finally see a geneticist to this diagnosis?
I have had one good experience which is rare in a hospital setting. After telling the sleep disorder doctor about my immense sleeping, he was actually taking me seriously and when my carer at the time went “does this have smth to do with her BSL? I heard ppl with prediabetes get fatigued.” And the doctor frowned and responded “BSL has nothing to do with her condition.” Even later when i was diagnosed, the doctor said “it must’ve been tough for people to treat ur hypersomnolence like it doesn’t exist. It does and I hope people take you more seriously.” Well, people don’t but I still appreciated her words to this day.
When I had my ectopic pregnancy in 2015, I asked them to double check where it was if that was possible. The gynaecologist sat me down and said “what do you want me to do, take your insides out and search for the cells that way?” To which I asked if she had ever lost a child. She told me no but that she brought back a child once. Then later on she said to me “Im just the gynaecologist, not the mother of a dying child” and then walked out of the room. She got reported but nothing ever came of it
I hate how often bad doctors are reported, but nothing is done. I was abused and assaulted by mine, then I was called a liar when I reported it. That doctor faced no consequences.
I understand that doctors and specialists make a lot of money, but there are other jobs that do that too. How can you go into the medical field, especially gynaecology with no regard for people! I hope she has learnt from this, and I truly hope you are able to recover. I am so sorry you went through this.
My husband was in the hospital dying and they told me to prepare for his final expenses. Like he was a bill and not a human. He ended up making it but it was a horrible experience.
A gynecologist told me that I didn't love myself because I had gone without shaving and even recommended therapy. I had told her that I suffered from very bad boils every time I shaved and I had even apologized in advance, but she didn't listen or care and assumed that I didn't love myself. I was young and it affected me a lot at the time.
Girl this upsets me. 😢❤ YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SHAVE 😫😭 I’m married and these discussions with my partner were the most healing thing ever far more then therapy 😫🥺❤️ “it’s just hair” was literally so comforting I get ya
My grandfather had suffered with chronic abdominal pain for a while and lost a lot of weight without trying. He kept going to his GP and was constantly getting turned away. On his final visit to the GP he was told “Mr Harding, your problem is you’ve lived too long”. I say final appointment because a week later he was dead. He had cancer in his stomach which spread everywhere AND leukaemia. He was 76 and could’ve lived much longer if he’d been seen.
I've had that "you're not depressed, it's just your personality" one before too. I've also had "There's a thing on the MRI that we only see in people who have had a stroke but you're too young to have had a stroke" (I was 27). A year later, another MRI and another Doctor tells me I have indeed had a mini-stroke.
i recently developed painful breast lumps (well "recently" I've had them for a year now) and every doctor I've been to so far (several different obgyns) refused to do any testing, I got ONE to palpate(?) and do an ultrasound but they all said, even the one who admited there are lumps palpable and visible on the ultrasound "it can't be cancer, you're too young to have cancer". not a single one wanted to do a blood test. I also called every breast cancer clinic I can realistically reach and they've all told me they're not taking new patients.
@@jessicaj2990As someone with a blood cancer, I can tell you there are YOUNG people with breast cancer. Males and females. The youngest one I've seen, I believe, was 15 years old. I've seen 20-somethings in with all manner of cancer: breast, ovarian, pancreatic, bone, blood, etc. etc. etc. Cancer knows no age boundaries. I wish you all the best. 😊 To the doctors who say this, if these patients are "too young" to have cancer then why do we have children's cancer hospitals?
I’ve had a newborn patient have seizures, and after multiple tests found a stroke, which likely happened in the womb from mom’s high blood pressure. “Too young for a stroke” is such bs! But not only do doctors not believe patients, they also don’t believe when nurses report findings to them. The first Pediatrician didn’t believe me that this particular newborn was having a seizure. He and his resident were laughing at me saying I didn’t know the difference between a seizure and a startle reflex. I called another doctor over ASAP, and we ran the baby to NICU for IV insertion and phenobarbital.
"If you're not going to look at me then you don't deserve to be here." - a mental health rehab center I was at for PTSD and AvPD caused by severe child abuse. The lady who said that proceeded to leave me threatening voicemails after I refused to go back to the program. I let my therapist listen to the voicemails and she was horrified. My therapist had to call the rehab center for me and tell them that I wasn't going back. She also reported them.
@@Nope-w3c Thank you, that place in general was pretty crappy. Though, I live in the middle of nowhere so my options are limited. Luckily, I ended up doing better with a service dog and going on disability.
I had hyperemisis. First Obgyn said welcome to pregnancy when I told I was throwing up 10 plus times a day. I would eat to throw up as the dry heaving hurt so much. I was dry heaving 20 plus times. It got worse. Second Obgyn (my brother called and begged him to take me as he wasn’t faking new patients) saved my life. Immediately admitted me to hospital for dehydration. Put me on two anti-vomit meds.
As a divorced woman, I really appreciate that Dr. Mike doesn’t apologize. One time someone asked “do I say I’m sorry or congrats?” I laughed and said “congrats” (but that might not be the best response for many people)
Recently an acquaintance that lives next door told me they're moving and same thing so I wasn't sure what to say, didn't know them other than a chat or two for sugar, and said sorry you have to move we'll miss you! Cause I genuinely did not know what to say, definitely learned from Mike on this one
I don't know, I think in a lot of cases saying "I'm sorry" is probably the safest response to give. If the person is happy to be out of the marriage then they're less likely go get upset at you for misjudging it as a bad thing; while someone who is upset/depressed over their divorce are much more likely to be offended by such a misjudgement and may as well get upset by someone asking if it's good or bad. Happier people are generally more understanding and forgiving than upset people.
I think "Are you okay?" would be acceptable. In those circumstances you can be okay with the transition but having problems otherwise. Maybe support other than emotional could be helpful.
as a mortician i agree. we once had a lady come into the funeral home, stating her husband had died. she wasn't in tears nor did she look sad in any way, so instead of the usual "i am sorry for your loss" i asked her how she felt about her husband's death and she was actually glad and happy, because he was an abusive alcoholic c*nt. having had a father like this throughout my whole childhood, i completely understood why she was happy. it wasn't a loss for her at all.
I was an RN and had an older patient who had just undergone a lumpectomy. The doctor came in to tell her and her family the results and it was positive for breast cancer and that the patient would need a mastectomy. Of course, the patient began to cry and the family members were all highly emotional. The doctor then told the patient, “I don’t know why you’re so upset. It’s not like you’re using them anymore.” Then he left with a shocked and pissed off patient and family.
When I was 13, my psychologist told me: "Did you ever consider that your mother don't love you because you are just unlovable?" I never went back, I straight up refused to go back into this doctor's office.
I will never forget the time I went to the doctor with my mom when I was about 16. The doctor was surprised that the person with me is my mother because she looked very young and I was a bit taller than her (people often thought she was my sister) So for some reason the doctor said "Wow! How old were you when you had him, 12?" I think both of our jaws hit the floor hearing that She had me at 20, which admittedly is pretty early, but man what an insane thing to say LOL. I don't think either of us were offended, just surprised
They can & do grow back. I'm not saying that is what happened with you. But it can & does happen often enough To have it checked out . If you want to know if yours have grown back. I would suggest that you find and get an appointment with a "Good" Ears, Nose & Throat Doctor. That should answer that question. Along with any other questions that you may have. Good Luck !!!
Listen, I had mono last year and also had my tonsils taken out as a kid. Besides my lymph nodes under my chin being swollen as hell, having an entire mouth full of afts, and sooo much throat pain i could barely speak or eat, i also had ridiculously inflamed tonsil areas! I saw several doctors and ot was a nightmare because even though i tested negative for strep they didnt even refer me to get tested for mono. A doctor later said about my tonsils that if i hadnt had them removed they would have been almost touching with how swollen everything was. And then he told me i still didnt have mono because the fever had been for only a few days and he gave me antibiotics (mono is a virus) and it still frustrates me to think about. The antibiotics helped, but apparently if you take antibiotics and its actually mono, you can develop a sort of full body rash. Guess what i got a few days later? The antibiotics did help somehow but i wish i was taken more seriously. Anyways. Tl;dr: there can be remaining tonsil tissue, they may grow back a little, and they can still have problems
I will always recommend getting a second opinion on brain tumors. Even it they’re verifiably benign. My best friend’s mother had a benign brain tumor that wasn’t growing or anything however, because of where it was, the brain surgeon she had first seen basically gaslit her all to hell and told her it was completely psychosomatic. Within a month of her getting a second opinion she had to undergo a 12 hour brain surgery to remove it because it was in an area of her brain that was disrupting her motor-function, balance and hearing as well as giving her such bad migraines the only thing they could do for her at that point was snowball her with opioids and let her sleep it off. Everything resolved once she had the tumor removed. I am not a doctor and this may sound anecdotal but if you’re told its benign but you are having legitimate symptoms- get a second opinion. Surgery is a last resort as it should be but your quality of life also matters 100%
My aunt had a tumour in her 20s that would cause mild seizures, like sometimes she would be mid-conversation and suddenly what she was saying made no sense. First doctor she went to didn't even do any tests, just said it was all in her head 😑 Finally found a second doctor, immediately got her an MRI.
Had a lump in my neck that no one was taking seriously, was causing me issues but no one believed it because they all said it was 'just an enlarged lymph node'. Demanded to get it removed. While in surgery (localized anesthetic, so I was awake), the surgeon was telling me how he thought this surgery was a waste of his time, and if he didn't find the lump in ten minutes he would close me up and send me home without removing anything. Then he goes 'ah, there it is. Hmm... It's a lot bigger than I thought. Better send it in for a biopsy.' Turns out it was a tumor 👍 did I ever get any sort of apology for the way I was treated? Absolutely not. Oh, and they told me it was a tumor when I came in to get my stitches removed. I hadn't had any sort of call or anything, had no idea they were going to tell me anything. I was sitting, waiting for the nurse or whatever to come and snip the stitches, some doctor comes in and sits down and goes 'well, turns out it is a tumor', starts into this explanation of what kind of tumor etc, and I'm just like... Ehm... Who are you, what are you talking about, do you even have the right person? And he goes, 'oh, no one told you?'. Overall a terrible experience where no one seemed to know how to behave properly or how to follow any sort of procedure, and the internal communication was apparently non-existent.
@@LizIsHauntedMiddleton yes, it was benign, fortunately! I was referred to a different hospital after and they did take me seriously, so it ended well. I've had two check-ups to make sure it was all removed properly and not growing back (apparently the surgeon hadn't even bothered to check he had removed all of it, the specialist I was seeing afterwards was appalled at the lack of information in the report), and everything is fine.
My mom has crippling back pain. She did an MRI and we then went to talk with a specialist doctor. Turns out her back is fine. When she then asked why her pain is still there, He said her pain could be "imaginary"... He saw my mom limp inside the room. Absolute disgusting behaviour
Pancreatic inflammation can mask as back pain because it’s so far back in the body. Do take it seriously. My mom had back pain for years and we found out it was a cancer mass blocking her bile duct that caused her pancreas to harden. We really only found it cause her liver got inflamed and while scanning that they found the mass
I love how the comments have become a continuation of it. So, heres mine: Im deathly allergic to eggs, the whole egg. All of them. I can't even touch the shells. I've been like this my whole life. I have learned how much and when I can handle eggs in food, but I was told by my pediatrician I'd never be able to have medications with any egg proteins. It's a battle with some people every year eith the flu vaccine, but this story is when I was sent for emergency surgery because of acute appendicitis. The nurses in the ER told me to make absolutely sure when I transferred to stress not to give me propofol. I did. My surgeon said "Oh, we've had people allergic before with no reaction. You'll be fine." I even explained that I am a SEVERE case. He was hearing none of it. Thankfully, the nurse that was getting me prepped not only knew it was my first surgery but saw the stark fear at his callousness. She fetched the anesthesiologist, who was expecting to side with the surgeon, and went "nope! No propofol for you!" after he heard my reaction was anaphylaxis. There was a LOT wrong with that surgeon, but that interaction stuck with me above them all.
In this case, the doctor is the patient. I used to be the lab manager for an independent lab and collection facility. During the pandemic, 80% of what we did was take samples amd run tests for COVID-19. I was called to the front because this guy was yelling at the woman who worked the front desk saying that we were trying to give him the wrong test. He screamed, "I am a doctor! I know what I'm talking about! And the airline clearly requires a NAAT, not a PCR?" I shot back, "You mean a nucleic acid amplification test, which is a category of molecular testing that includes polymerase chain reaction?" "Um, well, um..." "You are a medical doctor, I am molecular scientist. Stop yelling at my staff; you are not allowed to speak to anyone here except me. I might be still willing to take your sample personally, run your PCR which is a type of NAAT, and give you the results in time for your flight." The amount of doctors during the pandemic that had no clue what they were talking about regarding COVID-19 was truly staggering.
Drs are usually just very specialized diagnosticians. I didn't realize what a difference it made until I was getting my PhD. I was taking a plant pathology diagnostic clinic for the first time. There is a big difference is knowing the how and why of something, and how to run experiments to help determine something that is completely unknown, and following a procedure to make a diagnosis and then recommendation. Drs follow known quantities for an end result, and the result is what matters. Scientists follow unknown quantities and how you get to the end result means everything. We are doing very different things with very different goals. It's interesting, and slightly concerning, that we all tend to put Drs/scientists in the same category, when they are surprisingly removed from each other.
@@lemonlimesnoutI worked in hospital labs too and experienced the exact same. They're very good at some things but when it comes to tests and sample types they don't know what they're doing. The number of angry phone calls I got only to have to turn them around to go get the right sample or reprint the test request :\
@@lemonlimesnoutThey may well not know a lot about lab tests, they are only vaguely covered in both nursing and medical school. They both know a lot about gaging the implications of the results and how it will impact care decisions.
An ophthalmologist once said to my mom that what I needed was a psychiatrist for my attention seeking, since there was nothing wrong with my eyes. A week later I was having surgery to fix a retinal detachment
I'd love to have you as a doctor! your friendly and almost bubbly personality makes you very personable and your sense of humor would put me at ease. as someone who has SEVERE anxiety when it comes to doctors due to several horrible interactions, I find it much easier to open up and feel comfortable with a doctor who makes an effort to treat me like a real, individual person as opposed to just another name on a piece of paper that they need to get out of the exam room as quickly as possible. more doctors should be like you!
Depression being personality made me fondly remember my old psychiatrist’s quip “I can’t medicate you out of a sh*tty situation” when I wanted to up my bipolar meds because of bad work situation. I’ve kept that in mind when I have depressive episodes and ask myself if it’s the disease or if there’s actually situational changes I should be making. Miss that guy - I moved it off state so couldn’t see him anymore, but he genuinely cared.
Best psych I ever had ask “do the others make you talk about your past?” When I said yes, she said “stop. It happened. Get over it. Don’t focus on it you can’t change it.” It totally shook me because I had been so bitter about it. She moved on pretty quick to the hospital so I hope she’s still changing lives. ❤
@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198 That's actually REALLY BAD, it's very important to talk about your past and understand your trauma. What they should have done was help with possible ruminating, in which you are on a cycle of talking about trauma, etc in hopes of understanding, etc
@@sphinxwidgetyep. These clinicians need to be trauma-informed. Your past stays with you. Trauma literally damages the brain and embeds itself in your nervous system. You can’t just “get over it” in an instant. On the other hand, JUST talking about the past without doing proper healing work is likely to keep you stuck. But it’s important to acknowledge what you experienced and how it affected you, so that you can move forward.
True. I've had that happen many times. That said, having a doctor hit on me (also happened more than once) was really, really disgusting. Being accused of drug-seeking behavior when you're legitimately in pain is another fun one.
@@melissascott6112 I had a doctor be super duper creepy during a pelvic and breast exam during my pregnancy. And my second pregnancy, I never had a pelvic or breast exam. I think he was taking advantage of me not knowing it wasn't necessary.
@@pcbassoon3892 Report the incident. I imagine if the doc has many reports, it will be looked at seriously. And don't be ashamed, just try to save others. (No expertise, just my instinctive response)
I had jaw and back pain, and fatigue, reduced strength and motion, doctors kept telling me it was nothing or back muscle. The other day after years of discomfort, i was stretching and pulled a bit too much, my jaw and shoulder made a cracking noise and I've been feeling okay since. My theory is that it they were mildly dislocated and pushing in a nerve as most pain and discomfort have been gone since.
One of the worst doctors I ever got referred to was a pain management specialist who had received relevant medical files about my health conditions but didn't read them. Instead, he questioned me about my medical history, kept asking me "How do you KNOW you have that", and then started asking me some of the questions one would use to diagnose anxiety. Unfortunately for him, I was in my fourth year of my honours degree in psychology, and my specialization was personality and behaviour disorder diagnosis, so I knew exactly where he was going with these questions. I listed off all of the diagnostic criteria for anxiety and how I didn't meet it, and then told him to focus on the reason I was there: pain management.
What exactly WAS he trying to do, because now I want to be aware of it in case it ever happens to me. I'm really curious, if you're okay with telling me what he'd asked or what his intentions were. Was it just to get money? Idk
@@Creepergirl7794. Honestly, I don't know what his intentions were. I'm in Canada where a lot of services are paid for by our national health insurance, although not all services are fully covered. Money could have been the reason. This was when the DSM-IV was in use rather than the DSM-V, and a lot of the questions seemed like re-worded versions of the diagnosis for General Anxiety Disorder and Hypochondriasis (it's been removed in the DSM-V but was previously classified as a type of anxiety disorder) It was long enough ago that I can't remember the exact questions, but because our in class work involved diagnosing patients based on case studies we were given, I had a good chunk of the DSM-IV memorized.
So much assumption goes towards everything being psychosomatic with women! What that says to me when a doctor leads toward anxiety is they are lazy more than anything. It is unreal the level of disregard that we are treated with.
@@juliethomas3523 I've heard of people going to a psych ward and being treated like they were inhuman and less than: threatened by workers and other patients (whether with violence or rape), told they're "crazy" if they try to tell someone or ask for help, refused the ability to talk to anyone outside of the facility because "they're unstable", that kinda stuff. it makes me scared to even tell anyone my problems because I don't want it to happen to me. I have suicidal thoughts and I s/h, but is it better to tell someone and run the risk of going to an abusive psych ward, or keeping it to myself??
Took my son in to the doctors , I was seen by a new doctor. My son was 13 at the time and had a severe case of acne. He had gotten a lump on his neck and I wanted it checked out.The doctor took a look and said ,”well it’s either a boil or a very aggressive malignant tumor. “ My son looked like he was going to faint , and when I told the doctor ,” What the hell were you thinking?” He replied that he felt strongly that we should be honest with children. Told me too but let’s see first if it’s cancer before we scare the kid. Thank goodness it wasn’t cancer but I had to deal with a terrified child for a week while we waited for the test results.
7:07 I went into the ER for spotting while pregnant (20 weeks) after a car accident. They did an ultrasound, admitted me to keep an eye on me, and while I laid in pain cramping a doctor came in and said with a happy jovial tone "I suppose you know by now your baby's dead" I didn't know. It was my first miscarriage. Years later it's still a gut punch to think about
I’m 28 weeks, very much not a fan of being pregnant at all over here and I would have gone medieval on that doctor. That is devastating and I’m so sorry you went through that. That’s excruciating to hear how someone could be so callous and unprofessional.
I was told twice by two techs that I was hallucinating when all the staff knew I wasn't. It was when I saw one of them smile, getting pleasure out of seeing me cry. It only happened for a second but that look is branded in my memory. When I pointed it out, they did nothing but sedate and restrain me while I freaked tf out. They acted like they were just following protocol but no one listened to anything I said. They put the sedative in both my thighs. When I tried to stand up in the morning, the pain shot through my thighs and I collapsed. A nurse asked me if I was alright. My dad, who's a sleep tech, told her to get out and he helped me get back up. Really messed with my head for a while, it still does. I hate going to the ER, and being admitted to pysch against your own will sucks. Half of the time they just treat you like a homeless person, and the other half of the time they make your doubt yourself and make your problems worse.
In a PSYCH WARD they tried to convince you that you're hallucinating? That's utterly disgusting. What horrible people. They sound like they were high on their own power, which means this was probably a pattern and they needed to be fired and never work in the field again. Absolutely horrible.
@@RedDotShark18 getting legal action for psych care is VERY hard… my husband (soldier) was obviously abused in a hospital… and they refused to assist VA, lawyers, military you’d be surprised
I went to the doctor's office for a checkup on my meds when she started nagging me about how I feel about school. I have autism and get burntout really easily, especially when it comes to mindlessly following orders that have nothing to do with my future life (American school system) she said that I should be happy to be in school because girls in other countries can't go. Btw, I literally attempted about a month or so later because my life felt like it had no purpose and I was just around to be a mindless puppet performing tests.
After seeing my doctor for chronic diarrhea, he literally told me that I was just overweight and should stop going to the fridge every half hour. When I told him I ate like a squirrel, he said "Well something's not adding up", implying that I was lying. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there thinking "Yeah, something's not adding up. Why do you think I'm here?" I was later diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Doing research, it was thought at the time that about 25% of Celiacs present as overweight with difficulty losing weight. (Research since suggests that that number may be much higher.) Had he suggested that as a possibility at the time, he could have saved me years of severe GI problems. I'm happy to report that after a number of similar issues were reported on the then-fledgling RateMDs, he went into research.
I come from a family of overweight people with Celiac. I'm sad to say your experience is not abnormal. The rest of us are overweight due to sleep apnea (or both)...we don't have sleep apnea because we're overweight, it's a face/throat structure issue that starts with puberty, every time. The absolute refusal to believe that we can't lose weight despite trying is so damn detrimental. Of course enough of us have been diagnosed in the past decade it's easy to try the diet to see if it's Celiac, and if that doesn't work, or it only addresses the GI issues, you hound the doctor for a sleep study.
I was overweight and struggling because I ate the same food as my roommates and even exercised more than them. My doc told me to eat healthier and exercise even more. I asked for a Celiac panel, and she said “I doubt you have that, but alright”. Been diagnosed since it came back positive! On a gluten free diet, I lost 50 lbs. Never went back to that doctor.
I was both gaunt and yet still overweight when I was diagnosed Coeliac. Now finally absorbing nutrients, and coupled with the loss of a family member, my weight swelled. I had a doctor suggest that maybe I should start eating gluten again to help lose weight. She was kinda joking, but let's just say I don't really go back to the dr anymore.
Mom waited a year for her Crohns diagnose, she got so weak she had to go on all fours from bed to bathroom at times. Her first doc had said its definitely not Crohns, not even a possibility.
Thank you for specifying different types of brain tumors. I had a rare 'benign' brain tumor that was actually life threatening and required multiple brain surgeries and radiation. When I tell people it was not cancerous, they automatically assume I'm unharmed even though I've dealt with more treatments than most cancer patients.
One of my best friends has Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia. He has a “benign” brain tumor that is inoperable. He’s had the lifetime limit of radiation, and now it’s just a ticking time bomb. I’m so sorry you went through that.
I once had a huge cyst growing inside my jaw bone. For a couple of weeks, different specialists and clinics kept trading me between each other, without really explaining to me what was happening. Then I saw one guy who just casually said "yeah so we're gonna have to book you in for surgery before your jaw breaks. You should hear from someone within the next couple of months". And then he immediately left with no further explanation. Turns out, the guy was very busy that day and was rushing through his appointments. And he wasn't gentle about dropping that info on me. So I left the clinic in tears, thinking my jaw could break at literally any moment. And until I got that call, I was afraid to even chew food too hard. I was eventually told by a different guy, that my cyst was like 6cm long, and was slowly eroding my jaw bone to make room for itself to grow. It had likely been forming for years before it was found, and might have eventually grown large enough to break my jaw... Key words being *might* and *eventually* . The few months it took before I could get it cut out, weren't gonna be enough time for it to reach that point. Which is information that would have gone a long way towards calming my fears, if that other guy had bothered to actually tell me that in the first place
I have so much respect for you!! I've been following your channel for years now, especially when I'm anxious about certain things and the way you explain them really helps me calm down and understand things better!! It has also helped me ask my doctors as many questions as I want to, to really understand my body without feeling guilty or awkward about it.
When I was little, my mom once took me to the ER for a heavy cough. The doctor didn't check me and instead kept insisting I was faking. After he got tired of my mom arguing with him, he just had me transferred to another hospital. The transfer paperwork was blank, so the doctors there had to start my check up all over, in which they found I had very low blood oxygen, so much so that apparently I shouldn't be alive today. I was hospitalized for a week. A couple of doctors at the new hospital showed my mom the blank paperwork and kept insisting that she needed to sue and even offered to be witnesses, but my mom was too worried about me to worry about court proceedings, so eventually she opted not to sue as she felt it would be too much work.
I'm glad you mentioned Dysthymia. I was finally diagnosed with chronic Dysthymia a few years ago, after years of being told things like "You're not depressed, you're just being lazy," or "You don't have anything to be stressed about, you're just tired." Even now I get people brushing it off and coming up with their own theories because they've never heard of Dysthymia, and therefore it isn't real.
I'm a therapist with Dysthymic Disorder and ASD, finding out those things (at 30) were, on top of CPTSD, part of what pushed me toward counseling as a profession. Just knowing what's "wrong" and why I've struggled my entire life made a huge difference. Being able to tell clients "no, this probably isn't going to go away, but we can make it manageable" is, I hope, empowering for them the way it was for me.
My sympathy to anyone dealing with this, but I can't help but wonder if a chronic folate deficiency is to blame. You can't rely on blood tests to tell if your levels are good. I have a friend who has persistently struggled with depression who has started taking 2mg of methylfolate a day and has noticed an improvement.
I got diagnosed with a depressive disorder that now I think would be called Dysthymia as well (just like Asperger's is now just ASD as well), and a few weeks ago I was at my GP to get a referral for mental healthcare, and even though my diagnoses are in my file, he made me explain my symptoms explicitly. Which is fine, whatever, so I told him about my diagnoses and that my depression had been bad for a long time now, so I felt like structural support in the form of therapy and/or medication would be necessary. And when I was done, he goes 'well, that doesn't sound like depression, sounds more like Dysthymia' and I'm like... My dude?! Dysthymia IS depression?! Wtf are you on about? He gave me the referral in the end, but he very clearly for some reason did not believe I am depressed, even though I have literally been diagnosed with depression 🤪
Not to mention dysthymia presents with things like chronic fatigue sometimes which is another layer on top of "I'm not lazy my brain is literally telling me I'm about to drop from exhaustion even with a normal sleep schedule".
I have Dysthemia, probably had it my whole life, and I constantly have to tell people that I just don't have the same energy as they do. I'm like constantly tired and I can't work full time because of it. I once discussed with my sister why I can't look after my nephew when I have an appointment with my psychiatrist f.e. the next day. She never understood it until I told her about the spoon theory and she finally understood my struggles. The explanation alone takes away so much energy already. I also have several other diagnoses that I'm constantly working on or bettered already. Several started in my childhood and teen years. Not even talking about my physical pains etc. I trained for a new job the last two years and in a month at the age of 40 I start a new part time job helping teens and young adults with mental health problems. I'm scared sh*tless but I've never felt like I've been on the right path until now. It's so important for me because I know how helpless I felt back then.
Actually, yes, an enlarged bladder truly is a real thing. My daughter used to postpone peeing for prolonged periods of time, and later on, while being treated at Cleveland Clinic for multiple issues, including a severe, antibiotic resistant UTI, the urologist told her that she absolutely had to set timers to start training herself to go pee every two hours throughout the day, and allow her bladder to start returning to normal size before she did permanent damage to the stretch receptors. Though the textbooks tell us that the urge to urinate begins by the time we have 200-350 ml of urine in the bladder, and that max capacity is around 500 mL for a female and 700 mL for a male, for many women with a habit of putting off urination while busy, it can become much larger. On multiple occasions, my daughter has overflowed the tophat in the hospital with a single episode of urination - they hold a full liter. Also, at least four different times, when they have cathed her, they got more than TWO LITERS, very rapidly. She never felt the urge to pee without at least 600-800 mL. The urologist at CC told us that this happens often in busy women who frequently hold it for prolonged periods of time when they feel too busy, and that as the bladder size increases, the stretch receptors lose sensitivity. She told her that if she did not start retraining her bladder very soon, the stretch receptors would stop working, and she would lose feeling and likely become incontinent while still fairly young. I remember one hospital stay in which she was having urinary retention due to a neuro problem, but could not get the nurse to listen to her. She was so full that her kidneys were throbbing , AFTER peeing 300 mL in the tophat, and was begging them to cath her because she could not get relief. The first nurse told her that it was impossible that she was retaining, or there would not be 300 mL in the tophat. This was during shift change, so when the new nurse came in, we tried again to get help. She rolled her eyes and told us that it was impossible for her bladder to still be full. So, I asked if she would be willing to use the bladder scanner, to prove it. She was shocked to see that the scanner showed about 700 mL still in the bladder. She was even more shocked ten minutes later, when she did an in/out cath, filled TWO one liter containers, and overflowed the second one all over the bed! The 300 in the tophat was just overflow from bladder spasms. We have had similar experiences MANY times over the years, in multiple hospitals - and frequently they refuse to even scan the bladder, until we ask for the nursing supervisor or get her urologist on the phone. As an RN, I am appalled at how many docs and nurses will not listen to what the patient knows of her own body from years of experience. As a Mama Bear, I get seriously tired of watching my daughter suffer while they arrogantly argue, when they could just check and learn something. I get that they only know what they have been taught - but we all have to remember that there is always plenty that we do not yet know.
this is also why it’s so important for teachers to allow children to use the restroom whenever they need to and not just “if you have time during lunch”! this can happen so young and it’s devastating!
I was told off by the nurse with the next following sentence: “you’re not the urgent case” while i was in the most horrifying pain that no one should ever experience in their lifetime, well apparently because i was dismissed as “not the urgent case” i require a surgery now, go figure. 🤔🙄
I had a cervical biopsy on March 17 one time, and the doctor looked up from between my legs and said “I bet you never thought you’d get pinched *there* on St. Patrick’s Day.” The med student who was observing looked at me like “Oh, God, this guy’s gonna end my career before it even starts.”
When they tell you before a cervical biopsy "Its just a pinch" I wanted to say "Imagine your balls being "pinched" like this, and see if you wouldn't cry too"...They cut into a very sensitive body part with no anesthetic. Doctors are often dicks.
@@gl15col To be fair, the "It's just a pinch" that most medical professionals use *before* a procedure is meant to work off the placebo effect to reduce the pain without medication. If someone *believes* it should just feel like a pinch, it will hurt less. This obviously doesn't excuse anyone who tries to use that to critique showing discomfort. That's just horrible behavior. But the intent when saying it isn't to be mocking, it's meant to relieve pain and discomfort.
Actually it’s been proven both anecdotally and I believe there was a study I saw on it too - that patients who were told they would experience MORE pain than the level of pain the procedure was, actually felt LESS pain because they felt they were “more prepared” for the pain than those that were told the actual average pain level the procedure was rated and also experienced less pain then people who were told the procedure would hurt LESS than it actually did.
@@KeterMalkuth I definitely understand the reasoning of setting up expectations, however I am so used to people downplaying pain that if anyone (doctor or not) informs me of how minimally painful something will be I just instinctively brace for agony, lol
Positive interaction: I have great veins... every time I donate blood the nurses get so excited... The best one was a very gleeful "OMG look at those beauties... let me see the other arm... OMG spoiled for choice!!" it kinda made my day 😊
Omg same! But I really dislike needles so I get freaked out. Theyre so good they call their other nurse friends “Come look at this girl’s beautiful veins!” I’ll have 3-5 nurses looking as I’m about to sob 😂
I get the opposite reaction. As a A negative I was a quartet donor, my arm veins are not visible and collapse very easily so I would get "Are you sure you want to donate?". My favorite was the person who offered to testify that there was no way I would do IV drug use as she as a professional could barely find me veins, there would be know way an addict needing acid could hit one.
I’m the exact opposite 😅 One time they had to stick the needle halfway through my arm, and I’m not even overweight. It was way better with the other arm though thankfully, still really deep though.
Me too! I have great veins apparently. One of my doctor friends loves squishing the ones in my hands as they are quite prominent when the blood is flowing well 😂
I once had a psychologist rant to me during my appointment about a professional complaint (to the licencing body) he had received, saying that it was all "made up" and how "annoying" the patient he thought had made it was...... I had actually made the complaint
That happened to my sister. She had a miscarriage, and the doctor gave her a prescription for contraceptives because she "didn't want to see her back here," at the hospital. It was a planned pregnancy. She's quite young to be a mother by modern standards, but she's an adult. Totally inappropriate.
When I was a teenager my doctor put that I was hot in my files. I was 14. I found out later after I had them transferred elsewhere. That's not the worst thing that has ever happened with a doctor, but from an early age, I learned not to trust male doctors because of the way I was treated after going through puberty early (about 12 years old).
Curious to know the actual wording. Maybe the note read "well-developed 14 year old female." I wonder if a 14 year old girl would misinterpret that. Also, 12 is not early for puberty.
Here in Germany, every man I met in professional contexts, like doctors, teachers, or university employees, was super professional and never behaved inappropriately. I only ever had issues with a few men I met in a private/personal context or on the streets and a lot of people online, but otherwise, my experience with men is relatively positive.
A friend while i was in high school was having regular fainting spells. She went to the drs and he said she was making it up and just doing it for attention. I went to a new dr about my fibromyalgia. I was telling him about my fibro and he smirked and said 'oh yes. It seems to be flavour of the month right now'. I told him the name of the specialist who diagnosed me, who is one of the top rhumatologists in the state. The look on his face was golden.
I get that doctors should be a bit skeptical of people diagnosing themselves (unless they're telling you about a diagnosis they got from another doctor) but anyone who just dismisses an issue on the assumption that the patient is making things up should not be a doctor. I was not formally diagnosed with epilepsy until I was like 19, ten years after I had started exhibiting seizures, because when my mom told the doctor he said I'd probably grow out of it. Even if that was the case, it's not okay to say that a 9 year old having seizures is no big deal. Granted I don't have the convulsive type and it's mostly triggered by a lack of sleep, but it's still worth investigating and possibly medicating. She got bounced around to so many places that wouldn't see me for various reasons, and when I finally got to a family doctor in my late teens she mentioned it and the doctor interrupted her to ask why we hadn't gotten me diagnosed before referring us to a local neurologist
I had the same thing happen to me after my fibro diagnosis. I want even looking for that. The Dr did the testing extensively, 23 vitale of blood, to rule out everything else. Pcp didn't believe this Dr so another round of test I went through. I have small veins that like to roll so blood draws are very hard.
After treating my ectopic pregnancy I had to go back to the clinic twice a week for awhile to get blood drawn & make sure the pregnancy had ended successfully. I cried each time and the doctor was reminding me of things to look out for (a speech I had heard every single time I was there), paused mid speech to ask me if my husband was abusing me because I was “too emotional for the situation” and then berated me for not listening to her speech and made me repeat back to her the things to look out for. Got pregnant with my rainbow baby, was a few weeks before my due date and my Dr wanted to do a cervical check. Just routine, not for any specific reason. Mid-check she goes “I’m just gonna…” and proceeds to strip my membranes without consent. Wasn’t something I wanted at all. I was like “hey, that’s hurts and I’m uncomfortable with this” She laughed at me and said “well honey, birth is uncomfortable.” Didn’t end up speeding up labor like she hoped, just made me spot for awhile which, as someone who had lost a baby prior, was very distressing. Never went back to either of those places
Can you do a video talking all about borderline personality disorder, I have it and find I can never find accurate information to tell people because google always has the negatives saying how terrible we are…
Had a friend lose twins that were born prematurely. One of the nurses just offered to wash her hair after the ordeal, purely as a kind gesture. I figured it was good to hear a heartwarming story after so many downer comments.
@@Roxannexoxoxo One of the heartbreaking things is, while there are definitely bad nurses and doctors, some of those 'lacking compassion' used to be the kindest and sweetest people but years of not being able or even ALLOWED to do enough (in reference to under/uninsured) that they break. Or they build a wall. The medical field will rip your heart to the tiniest shreds if you wear it on your sleeve and you simply will not survive that line of work. It's terrible, but that's how it works elsewhere. Customer Service is another industry that turns people in hollow shells of who they used to be.
I have CRPS in my whole right arm. The pain is so excruciating that one day I went to emerg in hopes of them giving me something, anything to help with the pain. I explained to the ER doctor why I was there and I told him that I have severe hypersensitivity to any kind of touch to my right arm. He looked at me and said “well, I have to anyway “and proceeded to grab me by the wrist. My arm is also in a sling. The pain was so severe that I grabbed the doctor’s arm with my good arm. I was crying and apologizing and was shaking and confused. I am terrified of hospitals ever since. Full on PTSD now.
I'm really sorry that happened to you and that it was so traumatizing for you. Unfortunately, that sort of thing is done because there are people out there who will fake almost anything to get access to pain killers. Without knowing more about the situation its hard to really judge the doctor in that situation. Seeing a sling is definitely going to be concerning and require a more ginger response, but "grabbed" is so vague its hard to know whether it was done gingerly or violently. I know its really not what you wanted him to do in that moment but he could have actually been looking for your reaction to him grabbing your wrist to see if you actually have the condition you claimed. Unless the ER is attached to a hospital that you regularly go to, they don't have access to your medical files. So unfortunately provoking a response can sometimes be the quickest way to determine what is actually occurring. As Dr Mike pointed out as well in his comment about his boxing match, providing an evaluation of a patient's status without actually investigating is not usually a good thing. And providing strong pain killers sadly falls under that umbrella as well because of how easily abused they are. I hope you're able to go back to another hospital in the future if you ever need one. Not all doctors, hospitals and situations are the same
@@alexsis1778 sure, but saying "well, i have to anyway" and just going for it isnt exactly the most tactful way to go about 'testing' whether or not they were faking.
@@alexsis1778it's not just about faking it. The intensity and location of the pain can tell the doctor a lot about what might be going on. For instance, if somebody has belly pain, you will want to poke their belly. If you poke the lower region and they want to punch you, then you know it's likely appendicitis 😂
I was an airborne infantryman in the army. During an airborne op, I got dropped into the tree line, got stuck, and fell out of the tree real awkward. About forty feet but with an uninflated parachute catching on stuff so idk how hard I hit but I couldn’t hold my purple knee straight that was the size of a softball, and my hip and back kept spasming. It was a training event and my unit opted to prioritize “life limb and eyesight” of fake, training injuries over stuff that wasn’t deemed actual “life limb and eyesight” but still injuries. As a result I didn’t get seen until almost 24 hours later and an excruciating ride on the metal floor of a military vehicle. I get to a clinic, officer comes in and doesn’t even lay a hand on me. Listens to me talk for maybe 30 seconds and recommends NSAID’s. I am deadly allergic to NSAID’s. I was given an NSAID by a medic at camp MacCall after telling him I was deadly allergic to NSAID’s and he had to give me an epipen and take me to a civilian hospital shortly after. I have medical tags with my dog tags clarifying this. Her response? I was exhibiting drug seeking behavior and she was going to recommend me for USMJ. I called her bluff as I wanted treatment at this point bad and knew the evidence in my favor was substantial. She had me sent back to the field with zero follow up. Ruined any prospect of a military career as it took years to get treatment and recover and now I’m a disabled veteran.
@@fightinamrah I’m doing great these days but people should know and I take every opportunity I’ve got to talk about healthcare problems in the army. Especially airborne. I’m a mechanical engineer now but if someone can’t do a desk job and got screwed over like that, they’re in trouble. Soldiers shouldn’t be fighting battles with their leadership
@@13fyrefli I just like to let people know. Now that the DoD is purposefully burying TBI data related to weapons we use and I’m older with kids, I’m more concerned with giving people a full picture of military service before they decide what they want to do with their life
My husband was in the Navy on a small boy. During training off the coast of Africa, the seas were rough and he ended up slamming his knee into the deck plate of the ship. He had shattered his patella. They iced it and gave him Ibuprofen. He ended up PCSing and cross rating from the ship and sent to Italy, where we met. Our Watch Commander was a B**** and hated my husband because he was a fleet returnee so she made him stand 12hr+ of post every shift. Eventually his knee gave out and he had to have surgery at the Naval Hospital. They opened him up scraped a bunch of stuff and closed. He ended up getting an infection from the stitches which they weren’t suppose to be using anymore. A couple yrs later after getting out, still suffering from the pain, he got an x-ray done at a VA stateside finding out they never removed any of the shattered bone pieces and only created more scar tissue. He gets a decent comp for it but what good does that do when you can’t freaking walk! 😤
I was diagnosed with Lupus at the ripe old age of 14. Due to my circumsdtances, I qualified for for disability payments through the SSA and some services through Medicaid. I don't take any of that for granted... I know there are others who aren't able to get the help they need. Anyway, one day I was at my primary care physician's office. After my exam, she turned to me and said, "Don't you think you've used enough of the disability payments? You should really stop having this pain and let someone else use these services. Plus, you should really stop being depressed." It was such a hurtful and bizarre statement, I didn't know what to do. She was quite cold and hateful. I turned to her and said, "You don't know what the hell you're talking about. You just lost yourself a patient." I left and never went back.
That was the right thing to do, and you don't have to make excuses for being qualified for those services. You're valid and also is valid to get some sort of help.
I didn't know that by telling someone to simply "stop having pain" and "stop being depressed" would instantly cure the issue..... I'm glad you stood up for yourself, and never went back!
So being disabled at 14 is an uplifting experience? And she had no clue how SSDI works obviously. You using your benefits does not deny anyone else any assistance they qualify for. She’s either a fool or completely biased and hateful.
unfortunately, you probably gave that medical practice exactly what they wanted, I'm sure they were losing money, having you as a patient, because of low Medicaid reimbursement....her attack may've even been planned & purposeful...which is not to say you shouldn't have left, but I'm not sure you 'stuck it to them,' as much as we wish you had...unless you reported the witch, & got her in trouble
I went in for my 40 week check up with my first baby. He checked my cervix and said I was only at a one and that I might not dilate more because I had a “lousy cervix” 😂 I discontinued my care with him so fast and found a different office to take me. It was kind of hilarious to call and ask if they were accepting new patients and when they asked my due date I had to say “today”. They laughed so hard when I told them my last OB diagnosed me with a lousy cervix! Long story short, I had a 9lb baby vaginally a few days later. My cervix was a rockstar! 😂🎉
I actually had my gynecologist say something that made me feel a lot better during my very first appointment with her. She told me "I'm sure you're very important to the people in your life, but your vagina is not special to me" and as someone who's never been to a gynecologist before, it made me laugh and really relaxed me
I had a male gyno who I went to for a pap and when he touched my leg I jumped and said I hate these things they’re so embarrassing and his response was some women like this..I guess he thought I was a cold fish or something like I’m supposed to enjoy a Pap smear!
during my first pap smear the doctor told me i had an "unusually forward leaning uterus". i asked if that was bad and she told me "no but if you ever got pregnant you would be HUGE" 😭
I had post concussion syndrome and had described some symptoms of confusion to my doctor. His response was, "I wouldn't tell people about that. They'll think you're crazy."
Your "you´re good" diagnosis immediately made me remember that my friend was in a car accident with her two little kids in the backseat (another driver had a heart-attack and rammed them from behind). The paramedics only asked the two children if they were fine and that was it. NO check up, nothing. And these were children.
One time I went to a gynaecologist who asked if I ever considered plastic surgery in my labia. I asked if anything was medically wrong with it and she said no, it just could look prettier. Yeah, thanks. I’ve never thought my labia was not “pretty” 😂
My gyno said at our first appointment "well this shouldn't be awkward since Ive already seen you naked." 😅 like fair enough cause he delivered me but it caught me so off guard
When I was in the hospital for chronic knee pain a few years ago. I was put in a room with a bunch of medical supplies like tensor bandages, crutches, etc. I was using the blanket to wrap around above my knee to try to help with the chronic pain. I was just super desperate to stop my pain. Anyway, a doctor or a nurse or whomever it was came in to grab something. She straight up told me that it would work better around my neck. While pointing to the blanket. It was very upsetting especially because I do struggle with persistent depressive disorder. And in the past including back at that time I did struggle with suicidal thoughts and tendencies. I'm just glad I wasn't in there alone. But neither my friend nor I caught her name as she was in and out very fast and it was very unexpected. I was also very upset because I have a very unfortunate knee issue and nothing can fix it. It happened when I was only 18 and I'm 23 now. But back at that time, I was trying to apply for the MAID (Medical Assistance In Dying) program. Because I have no options to help or fix my issue. I was just wanting to die, due to it all and losing a huge part of my life. I wish that person would have thought before she said what she said to me.
This happened while my mom was pregnant with me, so this story is all second hand from my parents. I don't know how far along in the pregnancy my mom was, but one day my parents went in for an ultrasound and the doctor told my mom there might be something wrong with my brain and I might be mentally disabled. My parents started crying. They were a young couple and I was their first kid, they say the whole time they were at the ultrasound they had been giggling and pointing at the monitor, telling the doctor how happy they were about me, what my name was etc. After telling them my brain looked off, the doctor turned to my distraught parents and said "so you gonna abort the baby or what?" My mom still cries any time she talks about it, she says it took everything in her not to scream and slap the doctor.
Actually, a number of doctors who see that a baby may be disabled suggest abortion. Evil. They think they can just erase a life that might be something remarkable and beautiful. They don't know the future!
Doctors truly are so insensible regarding pregnancy and abortion! The fact that abortion exists doesn't mean everyone wants it! Specially if the baby is wanted the mere suggestion will sound horrific to the parents.
When I was about 13 and suffering from symptoms of hypothyroidism, which I didn't know I had at the time, some doctor told my mom, with me in the room, that girls my age often make things up for attention, referring to my complaints of feeling unwell and depressed. I actually hated undue attention as an introverted kid and I just hid my symptoms after that because I was embarrassed by what he said. Untill I had an impacted bowel from the horrible chronic constipation and my mom had to rush me to the hospital in the middle of the night. Didn't get diagnosed till I was 27, but definitely suffered all the symptoms since I was a pre-teen.
I genuinely don't understand how often I've heard of doctors saying this. Like, either they're right... and that's indicative of a problem right there, the kid probably needs the attention... or, as seems to be common, they're wrong and they miss an important diagnosis. Awful.
The worst thing I had a doctor say to me was when I got a brain scan. I was told i had a pineal cyst, but she didn't explain what it was. I asked a couple questions like "is that what could be causing my migraines?" She looked so annoyed and told me, "if I knew you were going to get caught up on that, I wouldn't have even told you about it." Anyway, my neurologist explained it days later. My migraines are because of previous concussions.
The 1st doctor's response should have been "my ego won't allow me to say I don't know so I'll make my ignorance seem like your problem instead of mine."
When I was 16, I was having recurrent fevers and unexplained symptoms and was consequently being seen by an infectious disease doctor. The doctor took one look at me and said, “if your fevers were higher, maybe we’d care about them. Stop looking for answers for your symptoms and see a counselor to learn how to cope with them.” Two years and many doctors later I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.
The frustration is real! Wish we could report idiots like that. Glad you stayed in it hope you got true treatment
Oh my god, I had the same thing happen to me! Except he wanted my fevers to be higher AND last longer. My mom was like, "Then she'd be dead??" Obviously didn't return to that doctor; eventually got diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder.
Well, it wasn’t an infectious disease. Rheumatology isn’t his speciality.
@@Sniperboy5551 Mine was a rheumatologist.
What is the condition you were diagnosed with?
A pediatrician was considering testing my baby for iron deficiency. I had heard that if a pregnant mother is deficient then sometimes the baby might also be. So I told him “I was iron deficient during the pregnancy”. He just looked at me blankly and said “this isn’t about YOU”
Did he really think I was saying that just to talk about myself? 🙄
and even so, then what! how rude of him. and even if you DID worry about yourself, why would that be bad? this is soooo hurtful, when sbd assumes sth out of their opinionated mind :/ hugs
That is concerning in multiple ways. My kids' Drs always get a rundown on my health because maybe of my issues increase their risks of those issues. I don't tell them things I deal with that wouldn't impact my kids' risk factors. Same goes for other family medical history. Mine is just more extensive, with higher risk factors and the earlier detected, the better chance of effectively managing disease/symptoms. Drs have actually thanked me for being in a typed up list I carry with me of my health issues. I need to type up an updated list of other family history that could affect the kids since there's now more to list. Until recently, there wasn't enough to need a list outside of my issues. These things are important. It's good to know what to list and what not to if you can, but if I doubt, let the Dr know. Knowing medical history can help Drs know what to look for sometimes long before they otherwise would.
That Dr was rude to shut you down that way. It's concerning that you were blown off like that. Even if your concern wasn't an issue for whatever reason, that should have been explained. When treating children, especially when they can't communicate for themselves, the concerns of their parents/adult should be listened to and reasoning behind why the concerns are or are not concerning to the provider explained. Also, when to come back in if things change should be explained. Raising kids is sometimes scary, especially when they can't communicate what they are experiencing. It's hard sometimes to know what to do on your own.
What an idiot.
Actually, due to my pregnancy, one of my twins had a vit D deficiency, and the other twin had an iron deficiency. I had both iron and vit d deficiency myself. So, that is very weird. Some doctors scare me like they don't know things they should.
Your twins decided to min/max their intake 😮@@OneMoreDayNParadise
After I’d had my first child, I’d torn pretty badly. They sent for the doctor to sew me up. He was one of the most horrible medical individuals I’ve ever encountered. It was excruciatingly painful even after injections, and I screamed a few times and cried non stop. He stopped part way through and sighed heavily at me and said “just stop crying. I’m not going to give you any more anaesthetic.” It took an hour. At one point my husband had to leave the room as he was so upset and couldn’t handle seeing me like that.
It had been a horrendous birth (I was induced, much of it was shock I think), but the hour that monster spent hurting me was the worst part of it. He didn’t even do a half-decent job and I had ongoing pain and problems for 18 months afterwards because of his butchery.
By the time he’d finished, I was exhausted and emotionally numb, and my newborn had fallen asleep without being fed or me having more than a few seconds with her. They put me in an otherwise empty ward and kicked my husband out, telling him he could come back in the morning.
I just half-lay there in this strange room in silence, my newborn swaddled asleep next to me, crying alone. I’ll never forget his callousness.
That’s the thing these kind of doctors forget - to them, we’re just another annoying patient they have to deal with and they probably make 50 snarky comments a day without thinking of it. For us as the patient, we NEVER forget that cruel comment. It stays with us. It affects us.
Imho
I think you need to talk to an attorney about this.
@@TN-rf7nt Too long ago now…I’d have no chance
If you were just another patient, he would have given you something. Your real crime was being a woman. Women are seen as being overly hysterical in our society even in the medical field, and they are often ignored because of this.
RUclips must not have liked my comment. It wasn't just because you were an annoying patient. It's because you were a woman and the healthcare system has a history of treating women as being overly hysterical about everything. Women will come in after a heart attack and be told it's just a panic attack. You could probably go into the ER with a severed arm and be treated as hysterical when you say it's just a scratch. Society has a problem with treating women as being hysterical about everything.
Can't be critical of sexism within the healthcare system on RUclips apparently. Sorry they treated you like just another hysterical woman. Women deserve better than they get.
Ooh, ooh! I’ve got one. Therapist told me I made up my childhood SA. I was explaining to her how as a trauma response, I blocked out many memories of it, and sometimes struggle with self doubt due to that. I explained the doubt. I was not *currently* feeling any, I just asked her for advice on how to move past that. And she agreed with the doubt! She said that because I was unwilling to talk with her about it in depth, I was faking it. When I tell you one therapy session set me back years of work, I mean it. What a horrible thing to say to a vulnerable teen who trusted you enough to be sobbing on your floor about the most traumatic experience in his life. Her words still stick with me.
You literally got the therapist from the “therapist: [____] doesn’t exist, it can’t hurt you [____]: “ meme
In all seriousness though really sorry that happened to you, it sounds like that therapist passed with chatgpt or smth, surely a therapist would know at least the basics of how trauma works…
@@froggycolouring My parents didn’t believe me either for a good while. It’s not entirely their fault. When they first learned of it, I was forcibly exposed through somebody I thought I could trust telling the school counselor, who was then legally obligated to tell my parents. They told me that they would have to take me for a virginity test (which are inaccurate and would be very retraumatizing) and take me to the police (despite it having been nearly a decade at that point and me not having enough memory of his face to possibly put a man behind bars. And also retraumatizing.) and I didn’t want to believe it was real either, so I sort of played “unsure” with it. Like maybe it happened, maybe it didn’t.
I had been over that phase for a long while by the time I began to see this therapist though, and my parents knew this. Still, I’m wondering if maybe she was told upfront I was lying.
I’m Sorry I hope you are doing better
I know you've probably already heard this and don't need some internet stranger telling you but it did happen, you're the person it happened to so you know best.
I struggle a little around doubt whether my trauma happened or not and personally it helps me to try distract from the topic entirely or talk with someone I trust, if you don't have either of those, it might also help to try focus on the growth you've made with that struggle.
I hope your well, you're cared about, even if it's by a silly internet stranger.
@@samjefferies8407 Thank you. I read something that really helped once. People who haven’t been SAed don’t fixate on whether it happened like this.
Short story. I had a miscarriage at 19. The dr basically said your levels have dropped and youre probably just having a miscarriage. I cried and was devastated. He walked right out. If it wasnt for the older male nurse who sat by my side explained everything and sweetly called me ladybug, who soften the blow i dont know what id had done. ❤
Thats heartbreaking.
I had a similar experience a few months ago at 19. Worst heartbreak I’ve experienced and I felt really invalidated
That's horrific. 'probably "just"'. that must have been completely devastating. I don't understand why some doctors have no empathy or ability to relate to their patients. So glad someone caring was there for you.
@@emilycook4051 I'm so sorry to hear that. Some doctors may brush you away and think it's nothing. But when you've set yourself up for a life with a little one, and prepared yourself emotionally and physically, the loss and grief is immense. Keep taking care of yourself and find a new doctor if you can .💔 You didn't deserve this.
If I was a doctor and you had a miscarriage, I would of said “If you wanna try again for a baby, I would recommend this” and than give you things that could help you out, Like don’t stress to much,Don’t over work, Live with someone you trust, Don’t go up and down the stairs without help things, Try and eat food for the baby and you to enjoy things like that
I'm paramedic myself and during my formation I had to assist at a surgery preparation, a woman had a dead baby in her belly and couldn't deliver it naturally. The doctor was very rude to the patient who was mumbeling the whole time. I recognized the patient was just praying in Arabic and spoke the prayer with her. The doctor just yelled at us both to calm down. I was near to quit my job!
What a mercy you were there to care for her heart and soul as well as her medical needs. If only more people realized that is also a vital part of the job especially in such sad situations. I don't know if I could handle it (one of many reasons I'm not a medical professional) but even then it's not hard to ask if the person would like a clergy member to speak to or someone else who can offer compassion and care.
Wow, that's awful. I'm so glad you were there for her, but that doctor should NEVER have acted like that in such a traumatic situation...
How incredibly rude and infuriatingly disrespectful. I hope you reported him to a higher-up!
This is exactly why diversity, equity and inclusion sessions should be mandatory in so many occupations. I'm very glad you were there for her. Stressful times like that don't need to be made worse by uncaring a-holes :/
Every blessing to you for tending to that patient by praying with her at such a painful time.
Spiritual hugs! Thanks for being awesome! Prayers for you and that woman. I believe that she's never forgotten your kindness. ❤
Went to a GYN when my periods suddenly stopped at 34, along with horrible hot flashes and night sweats, severe fatigue, and more. I told him it all felt like my hormones were way out of whack and I was worried it was premature ovarian failure. His response was “you’re too young for that,” “you’re just overweight and that can mess with things,” “you’re not in your 20s anymore, you aren’t going to feel the same,” and my favorite “this is normal aging.” He refused to even test for anything.
Ten months later, many useless appointments later, another doctor finally diagnosed me with, shock, premature ovarian failure as part of a larger polyendocrine autoimmune disorder, also affecting my pancreas, my adrenals, and my thyroid. Yeah, there was a lot of hormonal things out of whack.
I hate going to doctors, and go in anxious about being believed every time. Because I’ll be damned if I’m going to be blown off as a fat woman hysterical about aging ever again.
Who doesn’t and I’m scared to go to the dentist
My gawd… stay away from any shot, you know what I mean…
I saw a cardiologist in my 20's once when I was having heart palpitations and high blood pressure and he said the EXACT SAME THING "oh you're too young for that" and then he did nothing further and just told me to lose weight and exercise more even though I was currently working two highly physical demanding jobs.
i'm sad and sorry you had to go through that
Been there! It’s ridiculous! It’s also an amazing feeling when someone actually listens and says they believe you and actually runs tests! 🤯
Once I was at the hospital, not for me but for my mother. I was 10. the doctor was doing some tests and I asked how they were going. he ignored me. I asked again and he ignored me not even looking at me. I asked again a bit louder wondering if maybe he hadn't heard me. he got to his feet, looked me dead in the eye, and said "Is this YOUR visit?" I said no. then he said "then shut up and stop making this about yourself" my mother got up so fast and started yelling at the doctor. then she got her purse took my hand and said "if this is how you treat children then who's to say you won't treat your patients that way? needless to say, we will NOT be coming back." what made me so confused was that he had a certificate on his wall for some college that as well as medical degrees he also had a degree in child phsychology. My mother told the hospital what he said to me and they gave us a different doctor.
That’s so messed up. He should’ve lost his job right then in there. Thankfully your mother stood up for you
Genuine question: why were you in the room not waiting outside or waiting at home? I thought at first you had to translate for her. Smells parentification to me or something similar. Just food for thought. What the doc said was of course wrong. All the best..
@@j.3069 it's cause he is literally 10 years old and plus there is absolutely zero harm in the kid being in the room with the mom you weirdo
@IM_HIM495 you get offended? Here in my country kids can legally be alone at home age 10 and it is psychologically damaging to bring the child to a medical appointment especially when they are old enough to understand. This is not done here and if children are with them they wait outside. Speaks volumes that you not only consider it normal but went on to attempt to offend me. The child ought to remain a child and not be dragged into responsibility nor should it distract the doctor. Even children of for example deaf parents who may attend here - it's considered unwise and counts as parentification. Please educate yourself about it. 🙏
@j.3069 it's mentally damaging for a child to be at a medical appointment? Are you mentally okay😭
About 12 years ago I had a doctor tell me-"you're a hypochondriac, that's your problem." At the time, I was going through a very stress filled time, my anxiety was raging, and my upper left chest felt "hollow" (best description I could come up with) and I would wake up in the middle of the night with a sharp pain just under my left clavicle. The doctor finally agreed to do an EKG. Results in his words- totally normal.
I looked at the EKG. I'm no doctor, but I knew it wasn't.
Luckily, my insurance at the time allowed me to make appointments with specialists without a referral. I went to a cardiologist. The first thing I did was hand him the EKG results and told him "Dr. __________ told me this is normal." The cardiologist looked at it and almost immediately said "He said this is normal." I said "Yes. He also told me I was a hypochondriac." The cardiologist sat very quietly for a minute and then said, "I've known Dr. _______ for a number of years. Previous to this I'd always considered him to be competent. Clearly that isn't the case. I assure you, you will have the quality of care here that you should have received from him. Let's start with a new EKG and when that's done you can tell me all that's been going on."
Ending the long story. Determined I have an irregular electrical path in my heart. It was being exacerbated by the stress in my life. Cardiologist had me do a stress test and an echo. ECG showed my heart was healthy and I had an excellent heart blood fraction- slightly above normal. The stress test, which the Cardiologist watched showed my abnormal electrical flow became normal during exercise and how long it stayed that way depended on the frequency of my exercise (that last part was from a 30 day heart monitor test).
What I found out two years later from one of the cardiologists nurses was while I was having that first EKG in his clinic he'd called Dr. _______ and berated him, called his actions and words unprofessional bordering on incompetent, his lack of empathy disgusting, and questioned his abilities as a doctor. He also filed a report about this with State Medical Board.
Competent, empathetic doctors are The Best.
Next appointment with that first doctor must have been awkward.
@@deltalima6703 Never went back to him. The day he told me I was a Hypochondriac I found a new doctor.
The thing is. A part of me had been thinking that it was all in my head. If I hadn't had a general idea of what a normal EKG should look like, I probably would've gone back.
Was it a bundle branch block? Had a cardiologist tell me I just needed more confidence. I was symptomatic at the time.
i have met so many amazing cardiologists since i have a congenital heart defect. They are always so sweet and kind
When I was 17, I was very depressed. I went to the pediatrician's office and they made me do a PHQ, the doc came in and said "your answers point strongly towards MDD, but I don't get that when I'm talking to you, you seem like a happy young girl! Are you sure you filled this out correctly?" This lead me to downplay my own depression and not get treatment. In the same visit she also congratulated me for losing a lot of weight when I was actually suffering from an eating disorder
Nah she knew what she was doing. Honestly, if you feel depressed the. You probably are depressed. It's 9 times out of ten because its a basic yet strong feeling. You'll know. And seriously shes a horrible people reader. Does she not know people act differently around people?
@@googleyoflolz9930 yeah, masking, it's a thing...
Seriously? It's so not uncommon for people with depression to "put on a happy face", how did the doctor not know that? I'm so sorry.
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I had similar with a psychologist once. I was talking about suicidal thoughts, I had told her about them before. Her answer was "if you really wanted to kill yourself, you would have done it already"
Like, wtf? They tell people to seek help for suicidal ideation, but when you do you are met with this??
@@hollyhell3772 Oh my god. That doctor needs to lose her license.
I loss my daughter at 6&half mths and the main nurse came in and said that is what happens to unwanted babies. I screamed at her letting her know she was wanted as I threw everything I could put my hands on at her. She avoided me the rest of the time I was in hospital. That was 39 yrs ago and I am still hurt by her words. Some people are just nasty as.
omg unbeliveable
What a horrible nurse! Clearly she should not be in the ward. I think she’s lucky you didn’t drop kick her out the window. I applaud your restraint on that one. I’m so sorry you had to hear that. Did she think she was helping?! I just don’t understand why on earth anyone would say that to a woman in the middle of a miscarriage.
How could she just assume that?!?? What an awful thing to say!! I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my daughter at full term 2.5 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her
Oh I'm so sorry.
I am so sorry that happened to you. Please know that you deserved care and professionalism . Thank you for sharing this, I pray you have found peace after your loss.
10:42 “you can’t tell someone what their mood is”
*THANK YOU* !! I have had people around me try to tell me what I’m feeling and it’s so annoying/frustrating.
"annoying/frustrating" if you yourself dont know what you feel how can other people 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@yurilopes420 annoying and frustrating is not an emotion. It’s an experience. Emotions are happy, sad, angry, etc.
Yeah it is.
I've had people tell me what I was THINKING because I have an autism diagnosis.
@@eyenpersu5248 jerks.
My doctor was listening to my chest with a stethoscope that had some kind of electronic amplifier on it. He had forgotten to turn it on, so he couldn't hear anything at first and said "So, how long have you been dead?" before explaining and switching it on. Was hillarious.
😂
😂 I found this hilarious cause family and doctors always have issues taking my heartbeat cause they can't find it in my wrist so I'm usually the one saying I'm dead
It was a funny moment 😂😂😂
If that happened to me, I would tell that to my mom right away and then we will laugh together 😂😂😂
Lmao this is pretty funny, I love when people in a serious profession can still throw some humor in when appropriate lol
Reminds me of the time that my pe teacher had a problem finding my pulse for class so we joked that I was dead
I suffered a corneal abrasion while swimming in a pool. The chlorine made it even more painful. I went to the local ED. I couldn't open my eyes without pain and gushing tears. While waiting to see the doctor, one of the staff people got my info. She asked if I had insurance. I said my card was in my wallet. Without opening my eyes, I took out my wallet and pulled out the insurance card. She said, "Wow, you'd make a really good blind person." I burst out laughing. She profusely apologized. I knew what she wanted to say which was "that was impressive without looking."
Infuriating
@@bottle3124 I don't see what's so infuriating. She made him laugh in a time of great distress.
I have a weird little habit I do periodically... I pretend I'm blind so I can see just how screwed I am... come to turn out that my family have a genetic condition that can lead to blindness but you can't exactly test for until damage is visible. Can't remember what it's called but it's something I have to be mindful of once I get to my 50s or so...guess I'm genuinely practicing...
I think I initially started it as a challenge because of watching criminal minds and seeing victims unable to get around their own homes in complete darkness...thought I'd like to be a little prepared for something highly unlikely to happen to me
I once offered to "give a hand" to a man with no arms. I immediately said, "oh! What a stupid thing to say!!!" He was very kind and told me it was okay. I was genuinely trying to be helpful as I saw him struggling to open a door. Sometimes intentions are kind and innocent, but words can come out all wrong and make you sound like a heel.
@@KMx108 if that were me with no arms, I'd probably have answered 'if only you could' 😂
I self-admitted myself to the ER for mental health reasons. When I was asked how I planned on hurting myself, I said "Most likely with pain pills". The nurse looked at me and he said "Oh that's the WORSE way to do it, organ failure is miserable". I honestly find it hysterical when I think back on it.
P.S. I'm also doing better now
Yeah no this nurse was right, med overdoses are not it
Sometimes you have to laugh simply so you don't cry! How awful! (and glad you're doing better)
My mom didn’t take my OD attempt seriously because I took Tylenol (I hadn’t taken nearly enough to mess myself up, but I did puke the next morning.
It wasn’t until she happened to mention it to my pediatrician, who was VERY concerned, that she realized it was something serious. Oh, Mom!
@@sarahprice659 this is why i think people should be forced to take a class or even years of learning how to know when to take something serious verses when to take not as serious
One story I have about mental health is that someone close to me tried to kill themselves following someone else's suicide and the doctor said "are you proud of yourself" as well as making remarks about the person's relaxed pose (after overdosing on multiple substances) as well as saying that asking for therapy is too much from free healthcare
Dr Mike thank you so much for the way you described "patching people together" in a positive way. My late husband was critically ill the last 18 months of his life, in and put of hospitals and multiple weekly doctor visits and he repeatedly said whatever it took to give him one more day with me was worth it.
I had a gynaecologist suggest I get pregnant to cure my ovarian cyst. I was 15 at the time. When I was 17 and he diagnosed me with endometriosis he again suggested I could get pregnant to fix it, then handed me a pamphlet about endo that said that while some people experience less pain while pregnant that is generally temporary and it can be harder to get pregnant. Even if getting pregnant was a reliable guaranteed cure for either condition, there is no scenario where recommending teen pregnancy is ok.
This is messed up.
I would of reported him
Damn , this is something I jokingly told my girlfriend (she's 18, and her parents don't allow her to get treatment for it - hopefully she can move in with me this year and get the help she needs), never would have thought that an actual doctor has such unconventional ideas
Dang, my PCP when I was younger was so much better at handling this. She went over all the sane options and we decided to start me on hormonal contraceptives. She also volunteered to have a stern talk with my parents if they had an issue with it, but luckily that wasn't a problem.
@@alexreitlerI know you were joking, but joking about potentially very life threatening serious issues may make a lot of people ruminate in depression rather than alleviate the load. It's really sweet that you want to help her, and very appreciated, but damn her parents are trashbags. Not allowing treatment for very painful conditions your child has is FUBAR. She is still their own blood..... no matter if she's an adult. You are the son or daughter of someone all your life. Age doesn't erase fraternal bonds....
A few years ago, I went to the ER for uncontrollable vomiting (I was projectile vomiting stomach acid) and abdominal pain. I couldn't hold down water and was very dehydrated. When I am vomiting like that, everything hurts. It feels like I've done 100 ab crunches. The ER doctor came in and saw on my chart that I had gastroparesis (paralyzation of the stomach - so a lot of my food doesn't digest and will come up and/or will rot in my stomach because it's not moving normally, andfi you can imagine having the worst stomach flu you have ever had - it's kinda like that) and will come back up, even days later. He also saw me vomiting into a basin with bright red blood in my vomit because my throat was so irritated from all of the acid. First, he thought I was a drug seeker, even though I'm still vomiting and my blood pressure was super high from the pain, and then he told me that GP didn't hurt after half listening to my symptoms. I was in horrible pain and was miserable but, even though I was sick enough to be in the ER, I had to advocate and fight for myself because I did NOY want that in my chart. He didn't even really want to examine me until I said somthing about it.
I asked him if nerve damage in the knee hurt (keep in mind, I keep vomiting, no meds on board yet) and he replied yes. I asked him if nerve damaged in someone's back would hurt and again, he said yes. I asked him, then why wouldn't GP hurt if it's vagus nerve damage? He looked at me for a few minutes and replied,"I've never thought of it like that before. " I wanted to facepalm but he did order me meds after that.
I know doctors get a lot of drug seeking patients - but they shouldn't judge who comes into the ER. Drug addicts can still have emergencies too. I just don't like to be labled a drug seeker because of my chronic illness and autoimmune issues. Sorry for the novel but it just bothers me to this day, and if I Have to go to the ER, I always go to the same one, who has all of my records. I don't doctor shop or go to different ERs and I really don't like to fight for medical care when I'm sick enough to go to the ER but I learned early on that you have to advocate for youself.
Ive had one of these attacks on a few different occasions, and they are HELL. good on you for advocating for yourself. The first time, I was in so much pain, I was begging my mom to stop it. She called 911, but by the time they arrived the pain was gone and I was on the floor feeling near death. My temp was super low and so were my blood pressure/pulse. After that fiasco I just wanted to stay home and sleep so i refused medical care. Ive never went to the hospital for it, but if it happens again Im taking inspiration from your story and advocating for myself. thanks ❤
As a nurses aide in hospice and a surgical technologist, it breaks my heart for you having to have gone through something like that. Shame on that Doctor!! 😡
GP doesn't hurt?? What Crackerjack box did that idiot get his license out of? o_O I have gastroparesis too, and the first twenty-some times I ended up in the ER, everyone up to the janitor was constantly asking me how "my pain" was, and I've had doctors express surprise that I didn't have really bad gut cramps. :/ I'm lucky because mine *doesn't* hurt -- early on I'd get some muscle soreness from vomiting, but those muscles are apparently a lot stronger now, lucky me -- and used to drive me nuts trying to convince them I was just there for the nausea, not for pain.
One time I (once again) told everyone and the janitor that I wasn't in any significant pain, and the doctor had me shot up with dilaudid anyway -- he apparently didn't believe me. :( If your idiot and my idiot could, like, put their brains together in a blender, puree it for a minute or two, and then give half back to each, they might actually be competent physicians. (Once I was compos mentis again, I complained to the hospital ombudsman, and after a board investigated, I got a nice apology letter and they zeroed out my bill for that visit. So yay?)
I was already going to comment before I read what you said about addiction - I've had friends with GP, and it sounds horrific (hearing about any doctor telling a patient with obvious symptoms that they aren't in pain makes my blood boil - I was told the same thing before my congenital spine defect was diagnosed and when my gallbladder was failing).
Having to explain your condition in minute detail and advocate for yourself in an ER is something a person who is actively throwing up should never have to do.
Anyway:
I'm one of the chronically ill folks who lost my pain meds between 2015 and 2018. I ended up living off leftover pain meds and falling straight into actual, legitimate drug abuse (benzos and opioids).
Thank you so much for showing the empathy that you did to addicts.
It genuinely means a lot.
I understand being accused of being an addict simply for having a medical condition, too. I experienced that constantly from 2012-2018 (my addiction issues began in 2019), and I wouldn't wish being perceived as an addict/being treated the way 95% of medical professionals treat addicts on anyone.
Yup! Had this exact GI issue myself and its like satans flaming boot repeatedly kicking your stomach. Brutal.
I've also been dismissed as a drug seeker because OTC painkillers werent strong enough to deal with endo pain.
I get that few people understand how debilitating the pain is but how do they not understand that this is a recurrant issue with no end in sight and the pain is NOT being managed when it does flare??? All I'm gona wana do now is go to a pharmacy and take an unhealthy cocktail of everything i can cause you guessed it! I am indeed after painkillers!! For my chronic pain!!! Which leaves me so incapacitated that i lose motor function!!!! Which means i create a lot of mess!!!!! That i cant clean up because im in pain!!!!!!!!
UGHHHHHHH
I'm sorry you went through that. We deserve better.
I had a miscarriage and the NP at the hospital told me not to cry "because it wasn't really a baby" and "we aren't sure you even really pregnant. Sometimes people just naturally have high pregnancy hormones." When the doctor came in later he was shocked and said, "no you were definitely pregnant." He was very kind. She was not.
That Nurse is absolutely awful, I'm sorry for your loss.
The NP really needs a good lesson in empathy.
@@midnightaurora9483 NP stands for nurse practitioner, not a doctor.
I’m glad you at least had that doctor who was there for you instead of just that shitty nurse spreading misinformation of your own medical emergency to your face
I'm so sorry. People are incredibly insensitive about miscarriage, even people who work with them all the time! I am currently miscarrying and at my ultrasound last week afterwards the nurse comes in and congratulates me and does her whole spiel about genetic testing and what to expect etc etc. I just looked at her. I have other children and I've heard the speech before so I just sat there sort of glaring, wondering when she was going to wake up and realize I was losing my baby. It took her entirely too long to realize she had made a terrible mistake. She was very apologetic, but seriously? How hard is it to read the chart?
First time commenter over here: I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 14 and got put on medication at 15. The medication or medications got much stronger once I was 18 and "legal". I had a persistent feeling of overwhelming tiredness and fatigue, and my skin was pale white with a very blue undertone. At 23 years old I ran 300 metres to get on a tram and fainted due to the physical effort I made. Turns out I have an inborn heart defect that caused 80% percent of my tiredness. I had my surgery on Christmas Eve in 2021. I will never forgive my doctors, but I do want to forget.
When I was 21, I suffered a miscarriage. After the obstetrician told me, I obviously burst into tears. He sighed and then uttered the most callous question of all! "What are you crying for? You are young enough to have another". Not what you want to hear at a time like that! Some Dr's should never have gone into the medical field!
Of all medical professionals, OB-GYNs ought to be the most compassionate about patients experiencing miscarriage because it's literally part of their specialty and happens so often.
Unfortunately, the training regarding the emotional side of things is pretty much non-existent for many healthcare providers (with the exception of psychiatrists).
This is disgusting!! Zero empathy displayed
@@DoriZuza They shouldn't need training to show empathy/understanding, especially as an OBGYN as they deal with highly emotional people pretty much on a daily basis
@@nanamoo2008 I wholeheartedly agree that this is not how things SHOULD be.
I’m describing how things ARE in real life so that hopefully people will know and be slightly better prepared to handle these awful situations made worse by unempathetic people (and believe me there’s lots of them).
I have had some bad doctors, but worst I've personally had, was when I was attending rehab after I was paralysed, and as part of my team I had a psychologist. The first time I saw her, I sat there and explained how I became paralysed and she said "I'm surprised you haven't committed suicide already, I would've if I was you" - that broke me
😳she sure was a psychologist like who say this to their patient ?Wtf and please dont take that to your heart please keep going in life *hugs!
I would have reported her like wtf.
Had the same thing happen, i was quite young, maybe 10 something like that, but instead she said that to my mum...
Best way to make a mum very stressed about her child mental health.
She should get fired 😤
unfortunetly most people are unaware of how heartless a woman can be
I’m a teacher and I’ve heard the bladder comment while getting an ultrasound. Many of us do not get guaranteed lunch breaks, and we cannot use the restroom while we have a classroom full of students, so we hold our bladder the entire workday. One of my colleagues got a kidney stone in her mid twenties, and the doctor said that he sees many kidney stones in teachers and nurses for this reason.
Had a teacher who'd had four.
Countless other health issues.
Passed in her 40's.
What's interesting was I had undiagnosed anxiety as a kid but my teachers wrote in my report cards, "Anxious bladder" because I'd go to the bathroom just before recess but before class begins again I'd want to go to the bathroom again out of the worry that I'll need to go during class and miss something or not be allowed.
As an adult I still got it but now it's worse because I also developed IBS on top of it...something heavily influenced by anxiety and stress lol.
I could NEVER work a job that doesn't allow a bathroom break every 30 mins.
Ps, yes I've been tested repeatedly for diabetes but going 28 years strong without despite having a strong family history of it and having PCOS and being obese...its remarkable I still haven't developed it yet
I'm a teacher. Sometimes, I'd have to hold in my urine until my hands tingled (not tinkled). ⛲️
I was a substitute teacher last year, and I always went to the bathroom when I had a break, like during specials or lunch. I am very sorry not everyone gets those breaks
Elementary special education teacher... sometimes I make it through a whole work day and then realize I held my pee all day. I try to drink a whole 50 oz water bottle a work day. So I usually really have to go by the end. I know it's not healthy but I don't have time to do it during the day
In February 2020 just as covid started I already had a bad cough. In the middle of the night a coughing fit caused my entire back to lock up and hurt so intensely that I almost passed out. I called an ambulance and in the hospital they asked if everything was alright with my pee (to rule out my kidney hurting), told me it was most likely lumbago that just needed to be monitored, gave me some pain meds for the night and told me to get those same pain meds prescribed by my doctor the next day.
My regular doctor wasn't available so I saw a new one. My pain meds had already worn off so I was extra cranky that day but that doctor not only insisted that my pain was caused by my kidneys and refused to elaborate (when I already knew that it wasn't my kidneys) but also PUNCHED ME IN MY ALREADY HURTING BACK! I collapsed to the floor crying and then he finally prescribed me the pain meds.
I reported that doctor but nothing came of it. I never saw him again.
So to add something positive... I had the same primary physician from age 4-20. Small town too, so I'd see him at church, around town, etc. I'm 26, just left my ex-husband, kids and i just moved back in with my parents. I come down with bronchitis, so I of course go to see him. He diagnoses me and gives me a prescription, then asks me "So what happened? Are you ok?" I tried to blow him off but he sincerely cared. He was the first person who told me that what I had been experiencing was abuse. ❤️
I am glad he pushed just a little bit, and was able to help you. The good ones like this are rare breed these days.
That's amazing humanity and perception. I'm touched that he cared about you like this. I hope you are able to find any help you may need to work through the abuse you experienced.
Am I missing something cause I don’t see anything for before you said so to add something positive….?
@@chyndb I'm guessing it's because most of the comments on this video are about really awful personal experiences.
@smalltowngirl78 I really appreciate this, thank you. I also like that the video had some positive and funny things added too. Hope everyone has a nice day.
My GP follows my mom on fb and likes her posts, so she sees when mom posts about a nature walk we both have, and mom jokes that the doc can see me going out and getting air.
When I inquired about a hysterectomy after a decade of agony from endometriosis and my first loss, my gyno refused it as an option because, "my future husband might want children someday." I also have seizures and the combo makes the odds of me ever carrying to term nearly impossible, which she knew at the time.
"future husband" will have better brains and more empathy... and be fine with adoption if children are to be part of the family.
🤦🏼♀️ my future husband can get in the boat and row, or he’s not going to be my husband anyway. What does a hypothetical MAN have to do with your uterus?! Girl, I’m so sorry you head to even deal with that. I hope you got the care you needed.
@@katehenry2718 exactly what I was thinking
@@RuaLuithnire When I went to a an OB/GYN to inquire about getting sterilized after Roe v. Wade was overturned, I had already prepared my answer if I was asked that: "Then I'd get a different husband."
As you said, not sure what a non-existent, purely hypothetical man has to do with this. Thankfully, my doctor just asked me if I was sure that's what I wanted, (a few more times than I felt was truly necessary), but still better than being 2nd to a man who doesn't even exist.
@@OhWellBananas depending on how this next presidential election goes, I’m getting my tubes tied and they best better take me seriously. I hope I get a doctor like you had.
“It’s just normal female issues and pain.” -it was an autoimmune disease. “You’re depressed? Just go for a walk.” -I have an autoimmune disease which impacts my brain. I exercise regularly.
I just love having my issues dismissed. 🙄. This is partially why I don’t trust doctors and I’ll google how to “fix” myself before I see any doctor
My daughter and her Dr. google stuff together. In the exam room. I like older nurses, they know it all. If I break my arm then ya Dr.
Honestly, you are better off with Google anyway.... I went in to the doctor and they pulled up a screen, asked if I had a smartphone, told me to take a picture and then to Google it. I had frozen shoulder. Instead of just explaining what it was, or how I got it, (especially since I actively use my shoulders and I had Googled that prior when my mom suggested it and I ruled it out because it didn't sound like it 😂😅) he just said "Google it". Doctors today seem to be very rushed and don't listen. That's just one example. I spent most of 2023 in various hospitals and different specialists and my primary, and physical therapy, and it just... I gave up. I just don't even care anymore. I don't have the energy to keep going to these appointments to not even be able to find the issues, fix the issues, be told to Google, just be sent to another specialist, etc.
Cushing’s?
I completely relate! I was told the same and I’m like I’m literally in school to teach yoga.. I do.. daily lol
@@shannonstibor6967 that's insane. Our drs. Would rather get in there and operate than try to help you if you can be without operating.
I had a similar situation when I had a miscarriage. I went to get my ultrasound to check on the baby, and the be doctor performing the exam didn’t hear the heart beat. So she stopped the exam and just said. “It looks like there is no baby anymore, you should go now.” I was only 20 at the time. I left the room in complete shock, my boyfriend saw me crying without understand and I just wanted to go home. My mom got crazy when I told her that story, we went to my gynecologist and she told me to seek other hospitals for the exam because she didn’t like the way the doctor treated me.
When i was 16, i was in the hospital for suicidal ideation. The doctor at the time told me that i was being very selfish. That honestly made me feel worse and more suicidal.
The worst part was i lived in an abusive household at the time. My attempt was basically a cry for help.
What a jack🍑
That's so awful! That doctor should have been fired! I hope you're somewhere safe/doing better now :'(
😂
I had a nurse like that; she was stitching me up and asked how I could be selfish enough to do that to my mother. My mother was my primary abuser at the time.
I'm so sorry and I hope you're somewhere safe and doing better
@@ms.mckenna.brooksDavarsk0096 what the hell is your problem.
i had a psychiatrist tell me that i was ‘too sensitive to discipline’ and ‘couldnt handle proper discipline’ after describing the abuse i went thru as a child, which contributed to my persistent depressive disorder diagnosis at age 16. that was the only time i saw her, and i made sure to do better research into medical professionals after that
Good for you! Don't settle for less than a team that works for you. I work in corporate strategy, and it's all about the customer. We'd all be better off if we remembered that when going in to meet with yet another white coat. I say that, and yet I'm intimidated and flustered too (which is why I have to keep & take notes). FWIW - when I was diagnosed with depression in my 40's, having realized I'd had depression on and off most of my life (also not helped by an emotionally & physically abusive, violent childhood)... my oldest sister sent me the book "Choose to be Happy." Needless to say, we don't have much of a relationship now, if at all, for a million other but similarly tone-deaf actions.
i JUST want to talk to her 🔫
Crazy women right here@@melissascott6112
@@melissascott6112 oh my god, those people just… I have an absolute fear of ever talking about my abusive childhood for that exact reason “breath out the trauma and breathe in Jesus,” 🙄 “at some point you just have to choose to get over it and not care about it anymore,” and similar comments from supposed therapists and self proclaimed devout christians. They wonder why people are leaving their house of bs (the pronounce it worship, though) in droves. It just terrifies me and disgusts me.
That is horrific, “too sensitive to discipline” does not explain the bruises, the blood, being sworn at and thrown into things, it doesn’t explain the emotional wounds, it doesn’t even touch anything sexual that may have happened. It is absolutely clueless. I am so sorry someone said that to you. I’m sorry you had to hear that. I’m even more sorry people treated you as less than human as a child and then this jag off did the same. Ugh.
I am terrified of being told that after hearing it from a few therapists. The number one thing that will stop me in my tracks and send me to an entirely different clinic/health system all together is any mention of religion in their bio. You can be whatever religion you want or nothing at all. I do not care. That choice you’ve made for yourself doesn’t need to be part of my care, but if you’ve gone as far as to put it in your professional bio, it’s going to get shoved down my throat. That is where I have gotten every single bit of the “you were just a bad kid,” “you’re the problem, not your childhood,” “that’s just what old ladies do.”
I seriously wish none of us had to go through any of this. There is no reason for it. Sometimes, I feel like some of these folks picked the wrong career, they became doctors or therapists because they thought it would get them rich. They need to go into some other profession that does not involve working with the public.
I actually had a urologist (at the University of Minnesota) “jokingly” tell me that if I masturbated, it would make me go blind. I wanted to raise serious concerns with him about a range of topics like postcoital dysphoria, but after that frat joke I wasn’t in the mood 🤷♂️😳
Ayyy ma man tay!❤
ur at ur limits that's why you glasses right now
Dude, that's gross for a doctor to say!
Also, Tay, I love seing you in the comments, you write pretty insightful stuff
Damn, I'm with you there. Though at the same time if they were treating you around the time your song went viral I'd say by frat boy standards they were showing a lot of restraint. Either way, yeah, I'd see another doctor.
@@tweetycheeky8741I come from a whole family of people who wear glasses...mind you, we also all live in a rather boring County.
Not said to me but my Mom (I was eight at the time)
"She's faking it to get out of school."
I was hospitalized two days later for being underweight. I was 40 lbs and had Type One Diabetes.
Doctor was apparently the best endocrinologist in the whole state at the time and specialized in helping kids with diabetes.
ER Doctors said that if my Mom bought be in even a day later I would've died.
That Endocrinologist got fired and it turns out this wasn't the first time she said this to a parent but I was just the one that broke the camels back.
I was diagnosed with depression at 12. We moved, and I saw a new doctor. Turns out I actually had kidney failure.
Ah yes. Must be that new kind of depression, the one that only affects your kidney.
@@voidtectonic...you know a lot of pathologies have depression like symptoms right?
@@kfkkfk7995You know it could have been resolved with a simple urine test, right?
@@Congiary you know that was not the point I made right?
@@Congiary I argued that the symptoms probably did align with depression, and in that case it was not an irrational diagnosis. Doctors go for the most likely option based on the symptoms to the least likely, and a psychiatrist who diagnoses you with depression is probably not going to suspect something that's that far off their specialty. Still, they probably should have checked something though, but depression like symptoms can have SUCH a wide range of causes that it's probably really not productive to discard them
I was in the hospital post suicide attempt, and an older lady nurse stepped in with the most stern expression I'd ever seen. She started asking me "so why did you do it?" and telling me that she had suffered a far worse life than I could ever imagine. I was 16 and unable to breathe or speak through my drug overdose. Only after she was done berating me did she give me an oxygen mask 🙁
How horrific!! I hate that these people work in medicine.
That is horrifying I am so sorry you had to go through that. How dare she say those things to you? In the worst time of your life she berated you and made it all about herself. I am so so sorry you had to endure that and I hope you’re doing better ❤️
That is absolutely horrifying that she said those things *knowing* you couldn't even respond. I kinda feel like she thought you'd think "oh, maybe my life really isn't so bad." But probably what you heard was, "I'm better than you."
That was terrible and she should never had said anything like that to you - especially while withholding medical care! I hope you never deal with anything like that again, but if you do you or a family member can insist on speaking to the hospital's patient advocate. Best wishes for you going forward. ❤🩹
Why did you do it? No way you could’ve experienced something that was worth taking your own life over, right?
At a mental health wing in a hospital, Doctors have actually suggested to MY PARENTS in FRONT OF ME, that I might be faking it for "attention", and I have friends who have had that experience more than once.
It's scary how far behind the medical and publics view of mental health is
You weren't depressed. You were and are seeking attention. You're quite obviously alive. Prove me wrong, and you right by killing yourself
like why on earth would someone a fake mental health issue for attention esp at a hospital Infront of a doctor and their parents??? and even if so, that's still a sign of a mental health issue?? like 😭😭 some people just have such privileged lives and can't imagine the struggles that others less fortunate go through because they're so close minded 💔 I hope you're doing better now and are getting the help you need ❤️
@@asparagus420you'd be surprised how much of a fad it is to fake mental illnesses, but even still this person's experience was unacceptable for the doctor to say such a thing
@@MsAnxiety Agreed, doesn’t give them an excuse as a first thought in their mind. But yeah, people out there on TikTok fake illnesses, mental and/or physical, and it really is a problem.
Honestly the worst cases of this type of behavior comes from Mental health 'doctors' and 'nurses'
Especially in children.
My pediatrician asked if I was depressed and then laughed. I decidedly didn’t tell her I have been. Looking back, I wonder if she was nervous, but it definitely didn’t help me trust her. I finally got diagnosed with depression when I turned 29.
At 24 years old I found myself suddenly in the hospital. I had a nurse come into my hospital room saying okay we have to get you up and moving around. Mind you I was in a hospital with a DVP and shortness of breath. My mom who is a retired nurse said “I don’t think so seeing she is on heparin shots and we are waiting on the results from her scan”…. Literally minutes later the doctors came in and they rushed me to emergency surgery… I had PE in my lung and they were worried it was going to go into my heart.
That nurse is lucky my mom was there.
My mom also made sure that nurse was never on my rotation for the rest of the time I was there
Here's a fun one:
"It's all in your head."
I was 21 at the time, knee was swollen and red, I couldn't walk and was in a wheelchair and crutches. Every day was intense pain. This kept happening and I had to move to a large city to be diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis. I remember what my nurse told me from my bone density scan: "You should have a few dark spots on your bones and that'll tell us if there's something wrong."
Everything below my neck was basically dalmation mode from the amount of spots that I had. Years later, I'm 31 this year and I have it managed incredibly well but I'm still incredibly livid at that doctor for seeing the state I was in and telling me it was all imagined.
Everything you think is all in your head... sounds important but is complete nonsense lol
@@DefileOdds Mental problems are all in your head! *Doesn't make them any less important.*
Went to the doctor for a swollen knee and got an MRI. There was a report in my online records afterward. I messaged my doctor and asked how it was going to be treated. He messaged back "with weight loss. " I am overweight but the report listed some problems *_and the problem started after my knee was accidentally struck with a metal bar which i had told him and was also in the report_*
I messaged back a few things:
"My knee was hit with a metal bar."
"I want the same treatment that the skinny people I see at the medical center would get."
"Would your doctor prescribed a 500 calorie a day diet if you got hit in the knee with a metal bar?"
About half an hour later, I got a call from the Sports Medicine Department to schedule an appointment.
Edit for clarity
My brother was having shooting pain from his chest down his left arm after he would get hit in the left chest when he was in his 20’s. He was in college, doctor told him he needed a vacation. Finally found an MD when he finished school that MRI’d his chest and foot(similar pain there). He was sent to a surgeon who removed the largest Schwannoma from his brachial plexus region he had ever seen.
I’ve heard “It’s all in your head” and “you just want attention/drugs” for YEARS whenever I complained about severe, unexplained chronic pain. Turns out I have fibromyalgia.
For YEARS I was told by multiple doctors that I was too young for the symptoms that I was complaining about.
I now know that I have had a genetic condition since birth that caused all of those problems and no I wasn't too young for it. It took 10 years of fighting to finally get my diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and I sometimes think that I wouldn't be as sick as I am if doctors had listened to me when I was younger.
I went back to school in my late twenties and finally had insurance again so I went in and asked to get my cholesterol checked. The doc at first was like "you don't need that, you're too young". I looked him straight in the eye and said "My mom had a heart attack at age 50 and both my uncle and grandfather on her side died of sudden heart attacks in their 50s. You are checking my cholesterol" The doctor agreed, checked my cholesterol and put me on medication right away. Just because something is statistically unlikely, doesn't mean impossible.
I have EDS too! I’m sorry you had to go through that
I was just diagnosed with EDS in the last year. It’s amazing all the off hand comments from doctors over the years and point RIGHT at it!
I read this comment and was confused for a second thinking I wrote it without remembering. That is extremely parallel to my experience as well. I was constantly told that for so long and all I could think when the they would say that to me was "If chronic pain had an age restriction I wouldn't be dealing with it, now would I?!"
After speaking to some friends, I suspect that I may have this as well...I've got a new doctor, so don't trust him, and don't know how to broach the subject. How did you finally see a geneticist to this diagnosis?
I have had one good experience which is rare in a hospital setting. After telling the sleep disorder doctor about my immense sleeping, he was actually taking me seriously and when my carer at the time went “does this have smth to do with her BSL? I heard ppl with prediabetes get fatigued.”
And the doctor frowned and responded “BSL has nothing to do with her condition.” Even later when i was diagnosed, the doctor said “it must’ve been tough for people to treat ur hypersomnolence like it doesn’t exist. It does and I hope people take you more seriously.”
Well, people don’t but I still appreciated her words to this day.
When I had my ectopic pregnancy in 2015, I asked them to double check where it was if that was possible. The gynaecologist sat me down and said “what do you want me to do, take your insides out and search for the cells that way?” To which I asked if she had ever lost a child. She told me no but that she brought back a child once. Then later on she said to me “Im just the gynaecologist, not the mother of a dying child” and then walked out of the room.
She got reported but nothing ever came of it
I just wanna TALK...
Definitely just talk. Wtf is wrong with people? I'm so sorry you went through that❤.
I hate how often bad doctors are reported, but nothing is done. I was abused and assaulted by mine, then I was called a liar when I reported it. That doctor faced no consequences.
Should have been fired fr
I'm really sorry you experienced this. It SHOULD BE HER that should know where it is to label it ectopic.... 🤦🏽♀️
I'm sorry for your loss 🥺🫶🏽
I understand that doctors and specialists make a lot of money, but there are other jobs that do that too. How can you go into the medical field, especially gynaecology with no regard for people!
I hope she has learnt from this, and I truly hope you are able to recover. I am so sorry you went through this.
My husband was in the hospital dying and they told me to prepare for his final expenses. Like he was a bill and not a human. He ended up making it but it was a horrible experience.
god I am so sorry. I hope he is doing much better today. Prayers to you ❤
People really suck. I thought I just misread that and it was supposed to say funeral!
A gynecologist told me that I didn't love myself because I had gone without shaving and even recommended therapy. I had told her that I suffered from very bad boils every time I shaved and I had even apologized in advance, but she didn't listen or care and assumed that I didn't love myself. I was young and it affected me a lot at the time.
That's not even an uncommon issue with shaving. What a horrible person
I hated myself more when I used to shave ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it makes no sense
Girl this upsets me. 😢❤
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SHAVE
😫😭 I’m married and these discussions with my partner were the most healing thing ever far more then therapy 😫🥺❤️ “it’s just hair” was literally so comforting I get ya
Having hair is WAY MORE self loving and WAY MORE attractive!!!! You are not a prepubescent child, you are an ADULT!
as a labor nurse this is WILD to me. I don’t care if you’re shaved, bush, made a cute design, whatever. A vagina is a vagina 🙃
i’m so glad you have subtitles on your videos because my friend is half deaf and finds it very very useful, thank you.
My grandfather had suffered with chronic abdominal pain for a while and lost a lot of weight without trying. He kept going to his GP and was constantly getting turned away. On his final visit to the GP he was told “Mr Harding, your problem is you’ve lived too long”. I say final appointment because a week later he was dead. He had cancer in his stomach which spread everywhere AND leukaemia. He was 76 and could’ve lived much longer if he’d been seen.
That must have been incredibly frustrating, I'm sorry for your loss!
Sounds like a lawsuit to me
Doctors are honestly developing extreme habits of turning patients away the last few years... even when you explain the symptoms.....
The apathy of this a-hole. I'm so sorry for your loss, Marie.
@@Joemamasisneor it is.
I've had that "you're not depressed, it's just your personality" one before too.
I've also had "There's a thing on the MRI that we only see in people who have had a stroke but you're too young to have had a stroke" (I was 27). A year later, another MRI and another Doctor tells me I have indeed had a mini-stroke.
"What do you have to be depressed about?"
i recently developed painful breast lumps (well "recently" I've had them for a year now) and every doctor I've been to so far (several different obgyns) refused to do any testing, I got ONE to palpate(?) and do an ultrasound but they all said, even the one who admited there are lumps palpable and visible on the ultrasound "it can't be cancer, you're too young to have cancer". not a single one wanted to do a blood test.
I also called every breast cancer clinic I can realistically reach and they've all told me they're not taking new patients.
@@jessicaj2990As someone with a blood cancer, I can tell you there are YOUNG people with breast cancer. Males and females. The youngest one I've seen, I believe, was 15 years old. I've seen 20-somethings in with all manner of cancer: breast, ovarian, pancreatic, bone, blood, etc. etc. etc. Cancer knows no age boundaries.
I wish you all the best. 😊
To the doctors who say this, if these patients are "too young" to have cancer then why do we have children's cancer hospitals?
A stroke can happen even to kids, what did the doctor Mean?!
I’ve had a newborn patient have seizures, and after multiple tests found a stroke, which likely happened in the womb from mom’s high blood pressure. “Too young for a stroke” is such bs! But not only do doctors not believe patients, they also don’t believe when nurses report findings to them. The first Pediatrician didn’t believe me that this particular newborn was having a seizure. He and his resident were laughing at me saying I didn’t know the difference between a seizure and a startle reflex. I called another doctor over ASAP, and we ran the baby to NICU for IV insertion and phenobarbital.
"If you're not going to look at me then you don't deserve to be here." - a mental health rehab center I was at for PTSD and AvPD caused by severe child abuse. The lady who said that proceeded to leave me threatening voicemails after I refused to go back to the program. I let my therapist listen to the voicemails and she was horrified. My therapist had to call the rehab center for me and tell them that I wasn't going back. She also reported them.
Well, she was half right. You didn't deserve to be there, you deserved better.
That's awful!! Hope you are doing better somewhere else.
@@sunmudoes Thank you, I am. That incident was around four years ago. I ended up on disability but I'm doing a lot better than I was.
@@Nope-w3c Thank you, that place in general was pretty crappy. Though, I live in the middle of nowhere so my options are limited. Luckily, I ended up doing better with a service dog and going on disability.
That sounds like the opposite of mental health rehab to me
I had hyperemisis. First Obgyn said welcome to pregnancy when I told I was throwing up 10 plus times a day. I would eat to throw up as the dry heaving hurt so much. I was dry heaving 20 plus times. It got worse.
Second Obgyn (my brother called and begged him to take me as he wasn’t faking new patients) saved my life. Immediately admitted me to hospital for dehydration. Put me on two anti-vomit meds.
it good the new doc doesn't fake with new patients, just the old ones.
As a divorced woman, I really appreciate that Dr. Mike doesn’t apologize. One time someone asked “do I say I’m sorry or congrats?” I laughed and said “congrats” (but that might not be the best response for many people)
Recently an acquaintance that lives next door told me they're moving and same thing so I wasn't sure what to say, didn't know them other than a chat or two for sugar, and said sorry you have to move we'll miss you! Cause I genuinely did not know what to say, definitely learned from Mike on this one
I agree! I'm really looking forward to my divorce being final. That was a rough time I'm so glad is at an end.
I don't know, I think in a lot of cases saying "I'm sorry" is probably the safest response to give. If the person is happy to be out of the marriage then they're less likely go get upset at you for misjudging it as a bad thing; while someone who is upset/depressed over their divorce are much more likely to be offended by such a misjudgement and may as well get upset by someone asking if it's good or bad.
Happier people are generally more understanding and forgiving than upset people.
I think "Are you okay?" would be acceptable. In those circumstances you can be okay with the transition but having problems otherwise. Maybe support other than emotional could be helpful.
as a mortician i agree. we once had a lady come into the funeral home, stating her husband had died. she wasn't in tears nor did she look sad in any way, so instead of the usual "i am sorry for your loss" i asked her how she felt about her husband's death and she was actually glad and happy, because he was an abusive alcoholic c*nt. having had a father like this throughout my whole childhood, i completely understood why she was happy. it wasn't a loss for her at all.
I was an RN and had an older patient who had just undergone a lumpectomy. The doctor came in to tell her and her family the results and it was positive for breast cancer and that the patient would need a mastectomy. Of course, the patient began to cry and the family members were all highly emotional. The doctor then told the patient, “I don’t know why you’re so upset. It’s not like you’re using them anymore.” Then he left with a shocked and pissed off patient and family.
What a horrible thing to say. He probably doesn't use his testes anymore either, but that's no reason to cut them off.
WHAT???
I’ve been reading all the stories in the comments. This is the only one that made me gasp out loud.
WTF
Intrusive thoughts won
When I was 13, my psychologist told me: "Did you ever consider that your mother don't love you because you are just unlovable?"
I never went back, I straight up refused to go back into this doctor's office.
WTLF
Terrible
How the hell did that 'psychologist' even their degree? I'm studying psychology and I cannot imagine anyone like that choosing to go into that field
I'm so very sorry for any pain that horrible comment cause
I really wonder how some people get into healthcare when they’re so awful
I will never forget the time I went to the doctor with my mom when I was about 16. The doctor was surprised that the person with me is my mother because she looked very young and I was a bit taller than her (people often thought she was my sister)
So for some reason the doctor said "Wow! How old were you when you had him, 12?" I think both of our jaws hit the floor hearing that
She had me at 20, which admittedly is pretty early, but man what an insane thing to say LOL. I don't think either of us were offended, just surprised
You’d be surprised how many doctors have said to me during an exam “looks fine, your tonsils aren’t swollen”
I had my tonsils taken out 12 years ago
They can & do grow back.
I'm not saying that is what happened with you.
But it can & does happen often enough To have it checked out .
If you want to know if yours have grown back.
I would suggest that you find and get an appointment with a "Good" Ears, Nose & Throat Doctor.
That should answer that question. Along with any other questions that you may have.
Good Luck !!!
I mean, they're right. Your tonsils *aren't* swollen.
Well they were right then weren't they? 🤣
Some people have no idea what they're talking about obviously 🤣
Listen, I had mono last year and also had my tonsils taken out as a kid. Besides my lymph nodes under my chin being swollen as hell, having an entire mouth full of afts, and sooo much throat pain i could barely speak or eat, i also had ridiculously inflamed tonsil areas! I saw several doctors and ot was a nightmare because even though i tested negative for strep they didnt even refer me to get tested for mono. A doctor later said about my tonsils that if i hadnt had them removed they would have been almost touching with how swollen everything was. And then he told me i still didnt have mono because the fever had been for only a few days and he gave me antibiotics (mono is a virus) and it still frustrates me to think about. The antibiotics helped, but apparently if you take antibiotics and its actually mono, you can develop a sort of full body rash. Guess what i got a few days later? The antibiotics did help somehow but i wish i was taken more seriously. Anyways.
Tl;dr: there can be remaining tonsil tissue, they may grow back a little, and they can still have problems
I will always recommend getting a second opinion on brain tumors. Even it they’re verifiably benign. My best friend’s mother had a benign brain tumor that wasn’t growing or anything however, because of where it was, the brain surgeon she had first seen basically gaslit her all to hell and told her it was completely psychosomatic. Within a month of her getting a second opinion she had to undergo a 12 hour brain surgery to remove it because it was in an area of her brain that was disrupting her motor-function, balance and hearing as well as giving her such bad migraines the only thing they could do for her at that point was snowball her with opioids and let her sleep it off. Everything resolved once she had the tumor removed. I am not a doctor and this may sound anecdotal but if you’re told its benign but you are having legitimate symptoms- get a second opinion. Surgery is a last resort as it should be but your quality of life also matters 100%
My aunt had a tumour in her 20s that would cause mild seizures, like sometimes she would be mid-conversation and suddenly what she was saying made no sense.
First doctor she went to didn't even do any tests, just said it was all in her head 😑
Finally found a second doctor, immediately got her an MRI.
I’m having an MRI soon to check for a pituitary tumor.
They’ve said it’s almost always benign.
I think the advice of a second opinion is a great one.
Had a lump in my neck that no one was taking seriously, was causing me issues but no one believed it because they all said it was 'just an enlarged lymph node'. Demanded to get it removed. While in surgery (localized anesthetic, so I was awake), the surgeon was telling me how he thought this surgery was a waste of his time, and if he didn't find the lump in ten minutes he would close me up and send me home without removing anything. Then he goes 'ah, there it is. Hmm... It's a lot bigger than I thought. Better send it in for a biopsy.' Turns out it was a tumor 👍 did I ever get any sort of apology for the way I was treated? Absolutely not. Oh, and they told me it was a tumor when I came in to get my stitches removed. I hadn't had any sort of call or anything, had no idea they were going to tell me anything. I was sitting, waiting for the nurse or whatever to come and snip the stitches, some doctor comes in and sits down and goes 'well, turns out it is a tumor', starts into this explanation of what kind of tumor etc, and I'm just like... Ehm... Who are you, what are you talking about, do you even have the right person? And he goes, 'oh, no one told you?'. Overall a terrible experience where no one seemed to know how to behave properly or how to follow any sort of procedure, and the internal communication was apparently non-existent.
oh wow, that is awful !!!! That is pure negligence!!!!! 😠
I hope you are alright now and that it wasn't cancerous!
Wow. Just a bunch of numbers to them, and not a real person. I hope you're no longer see that practice.
@@charleelastname4262 it turned out to be benign, and I've had two check-ups since and all seems to be fine! Good luck to you 🤞🍀
@@LizIsHauntedMiddleton yes, it was benign, fortunately! I was referred to a different hospital after and they did take me seriously, so it ended well. I've had two check-ups to make sure it was all removed properly and not growing back (apparently the surgeon hadn't even bothered to check he had removed all of it, the specialist I was seeing afterwards was appalled at the lack of information in the report), and everything is fine.
My mom has crippling back pain. She did an MRI and we then went to talk with a specialist doctor. Turns out her back is fine. When she then asked why her pain is still there, He said her pain could be "imaginary"... He saw my mom limp inside the room. Absolute disgusting behaviour
Pancreatic inflammation can mask as back pain because it’s so far back in the body. Do take it seriously. My mom had back pain for years and we found out it was a cancer mass blocking her bile duct that caused her pancreas to harden. We really only found it cause her liver got inflamed and while scanning that they found the mass
Yep, the good ol all in your head bs. Funny how it's only ever in women's head NOT men.
I love how the comments have become a continuation of it. So, heres mine:
Im deathly allergic to eggs, the whole egg. All of them. I can't even touch the shells. I've been like this my whole life. I have learned how much and when I can handle eggs in food, but I was told by my pediatrician I'd never be able to have medications with any egg proteins. It's a battle with some people every year eith the flu vaccine, but this story is when I was sent for emergency surgery because of acute appendicitis.
The nurses in the ER told me to make absolutely sure when I transferred to stress not to give me propofol. I did.
My surgeon said "Oh, we've had people allergic before with no reaction. You'll be fine." I even explained that I am a SEVERE case. He was hearing none of it. Thankfully, the nurse that was getting me prepped not only knew it was my first surgery but saw the stark fear at his callousness. She fetched the anesthesiologist, who was expecting to side with the surgeon, and went "nope! No propofol for you!" after he heard my reaction was anaphylaxis.
There was a LOT wrong with that surgeon, but that interaction stuck with me above them all.
In this case, the doctor is the patient. I used to be the lab manager for an independent lab and collection facility. During the pandemic, 80% of what we did was take samples amd run tests for COVID-19.
I was called to the front because this guy was yelling at the woman who worked the front desk saying that we were trying to give him the wrong test. He screamed, "I am a doctor! I know what I'm talking about! And the airline clearly requires a NAAT, not a PCR?"
I shot back, "You mean a nucleic acid amplification test, which is a category of molecular testing that includes polymerase chain reaction?"
"Um, well, um..."
"You are a medical doctor, I am molecular scientist. Stop yelling at my staff; you are not allowed to speak to anyone here except me. I might be still willing to take your sample personally, run your PCR which is a type of NAAT, and give you the results in time for your flight."
The amount of doctors during the pandemic that had no clue what they were talking about regarding COVID-19 was truly staggering.
I work at a hospital lab and same. Doctors and nurses don't know what they're doing. :/
Drs are usually just very specialized diagnosticians. I didn't realize what a difference it made until I was getting my PhD. I was taking a plant pathology diagnostic clinic for the first time. There is a big difference is knowing the how and why of something, and how to run experiments to help determine something that is completely unknown, and following a procedure to make a diagnosis and then recommendation. Drs follow known quantities for an end result, and the result is what matters. Scientists follow unknown quantities and how you get to the end result means everything. We are doing very different things with very different goals. It's interesting, and slightly concerning, that we all tend to put Drs/scientists in the same category, when they are surprisingly removed from each other.
Please tell me you delayed his results.
@@lemonlimesnoutI worked in hospital labs too and experienced the exact same. They're very good at some things but when it comes to tests and sample types they don't know what they're doing. The number of angry phone calls I got only to have to turn them around to go get the right sample or reprint the test request :\
@@lemonlimesnoutThey may well not know a lot about lab tests, they are only vaguely covered in both nursing and medical school. They both know a lot about gaging the implications of the results and how it will impact care decisions.
An ophthalmologist once said to my mom that what I needed was a psychiatrist for my attention seeking, since there was nothing wrong with my eyes. A week later I was having surgery to fix a retinal detachment
I'd love to have you as a doctor! your friendly and almost bubbly personality makes you very personable and your sense of humor would put me at ease. as someone who has SEVERE anxiety when it comes to doctors due to several horrible interactions, I find it much easier to open up and feel comfortable with a doctor who makes an effort to treat me like a real, individual person as opposed to just another name on a piece of paper that they need to get out of the exam room as quickly as possible. more doctors should be like you!
Depression being personality made me fondly remember my old psychiatrist’s quip “I can’t medicate you out of a sh*tty situation” when I wanted to up my bipolar meds because of bad work situation. I’ve kept that in mind when I have depressive episodes and ask myself if it’s the disease or if there’s actually situational changes I should be making.
Miss that guy - I moved it off state so couldn’t see him anymore, but he genuinely cared.
Best psych I ever had ask “do the others make you talk about your past?” When I said yes, she said “stop. It happened. Get over it. Don’t focus on it you can’t change it.” It totally shook me because I had been so bitter about it. She moved on pretty quick to the hospital so I hope she’s still changing lives. ❤
DAMN I wish someone had said that to me. It's always... "well, let's try this one" and "I'm not comfortable taking you off X"
@@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198that sounds like the worst psych in the universe fr
@yoshiyajoshuakiryu3198
That's actually REALLY BAD, it's very important to talk about your past and understand your trauma. What they should have done was help with possible ruminating, in which you are on a cycle of talking about trauma, etc in hopes of understanding, etc
@@sphinxwidgetyep. These clinicians need to be trauma-informed. Your past stays with you. Trauma literally damages the brain and embeds itself in your nervous system. You can’t just “get over it” in an instant.
On the other hand, JUST talking about the past without doing proper healing work is likely to keep you stuck. But it’s important to acknowledge what you experienced and how it affected you, so that you can move forward.
There is nothing more awful then when a doctor tells you "you're fine" when you know you aren't.
True. I've had that happen many times. That said, having a doctor hit on me (also happened more than once) was really, really disgusting. Being accused of drug-seeking behavior when you're legitimately in pain is another fun one.
@@melissascott6112 sheesh
@@melissascott6112 I had a doctor be super duper creepy during a pelvic and breast exam during my pregnancy. And my second pregnancy, I never had a pelvic or breast exam. I think he was taking advantage of me not knowing it wasn't necessary.
@@pcbassoon3892 Report the incident. I imagine if the doc has many reports, it will be looked at seriously. And don't be ashamed, just try to save others. (No expertise, just my instinctive response)
I had jaw and back pain, and fatigue, reduced strength and motion, doctors kept telling me it was nothing or back muscle. The other day after years of discomfort, i was stretching and pulled a bit too much, my jaw and shoulder made a cracking noise and I've been feeling okay since. My theory is that it they were mildly dislocated and pushing in a nerve as most pain and discomfort have been gone since.
One of the worst doctors I ever got referred to was a pain management specialist who had received relevant medical files about my health conditions but didn't read them. Instead, he questioned me about my medical history, kept asking me "How do you KNOW you have that", and then started asking me some of the questions one would use to diagnose anxiety. Unfortunately for him, I was in my fourth year of my honours degree in psychology, and my specialization was personality and behaviour disorder diagnosis, so I knew exactly where he was going with these questions. I listed off all of the diagnostic criteria for anxiety and how I didn't meet it, and then told him to focus on the reason I was there: pain management.
What exactly WAS he trying to do, because now I want to be aware of it in case it ever happens to me. I'm really curious, if you're okay with telling me what he'd asked or what his intentions were. Was it just to get money? Idk
@@Creepergirl7794. Honestly, I don't know what his intentions were. I'm in Canada where a lot of services are paid for by our national health insurance, although not all services are fully covered. Money could have been the reason. This was when the DSM-IV was in use rather than the DSM-V, and a lot of the questions seemed like re-worded versions of the diagnosis for General Anxiety Disorder and Hypochondriasis (it's been removed in the DSM-V but was previously classified as a type of anxiety disorder) It was long enough ago that I can't remember the exact questions, but because our in class work involved diagnosing patients based on case studies we were given, I had a good chunk of the DSM-IV memorized.
@@artisticsword Interesting :)
So much assumption goes towards everything being psychosomatic with women! What that says to me when a doctor leads toward anxiety is they are lazy more than anything. It is unreal the level of disregard that we are treated with.
@@juliethomas3523 I've heard of people going to a psych ward and being treated like they were inhuman and less than: threatened by workers and other patients (whether with violence or rape), told they're "crazy" if they try to tell someone or ask for help, refused the ability to talk to anyone outside of the facility because "they're unstable", that kinda stuff. it makes me scared to even tell anyone my problems because I don't want it to happen to me. I have suicidal thoughts and I s/h, but is it better to tell someone and run the risk of going to an abusive psych ward, or keeping it to myself??
Went to the GP at 16 for depression caused by bullying and they said I was too young to have depression. 14 years later and still depressed
Took my son in to the doctors , I was seen by a new doctor. My son was 13 at the time and had a severe case of acne. He had gotten a lump on his neck and I wanted it checked out.The doctor took a look and said ,”well it’s either a boil or a very aggressive malignant tumor. “ My son looked like he was going to faint , and when I told the doctor ,” What the hell were you thinking?” He replied that he felt strongly that we should be honest with children. Told me too but let’s see first if it’s cancer before we scare the kid. Thank goodness it wasn’t cancer but I had to deal with a terrified child for a week while we waited for the test results.
Yeah, I'm all for honesty towards children. Also, I'm a huge fan of not traumatising the hell out of them.
There’s a difference between being honest and being an arsehole…
7:07 I went into the ER for spotting while pregnant (20 weeks) after a car accident. They did an ultrasound, admitted me to keep an eye on me, and while I laid in pain cramping a doctor came in and said with a happy jovial tone "I suppose you know by now your baby's dead"
I didn't know. It was my first miscarriage. Years later it's still a gut punch to think about
I cannot imagine how you felt. That is absolutely so wrong…. Im so sorry you suffered through that.
Oh my God, that’s terrible 😞 I hope you’re ok x
That’s AWFUL 😭
I’m 28 weeks, very much not a fan of being pregnant at all over here and I would have gone medieval on that doctor. That is devastating and I’m so sorry you went through that. That’s excruciating to hear how someone could be so callous and unprofessional.
@@a.person501 thank you💕
I hope you have an easy pregnancy and a healthy baby❣️
I was told twice by two techs that I was hallucinating when all the staff knew I wasn't. It was when I saw one of them smile, getting pleasure out of seeing me cry. It only happened for a second but that look is branded in my memory. When I pointed it out, they did nothing but sedate and restrain me while I freaked tf out. They acted like they were just following protocol but no one listened to anything I said. They put the sedative in both my thighs. When I tried to stand up in the morning, the pain shot through my thighs and I collapsed. A nurse asked me if I was alright. My dad, who's a sleep tech, told her to get out and he helped me get back up. Really messed with my head for a while, it still does. I hate going to the ER, and being admitted to pysch against your own will sucks. Half of the time they just treat you like a homeless person, and the other half of the time they make your doubt yourself and make your problems worse.
That's grounds for legal action
I am horrified for you and your family
In a PSYCH WARD they tried to convince you that you're hallucinating? That's utterly disgusting. What horrible people. They sound like they were high on their own power, which means this was probably a pattern and they needed to be fired and never work in the field again. Absolutely horrible.
@@safaiaryu12 My experiences even at psych emergency have been that the staff are callous, dismissive, and uncaring. I agree with you.
@@RedDotShark18 getting legal action for psych care is VERY hard… my husband (soldier) was obviously abused in a hospital… and they refused to assist VA, lawyers, military you’d be surprised
I went to the doctor's office for a checkup on my meds when she started nagging me about how I feel about school. I have autism and get burntout really easily, especially when it comes to mindlessly following orders that have nothing to do with my future life (American school system) she said that I should be happy to be in school because girls in other countries can't go.
Btw, I literally attempted about a month or so later because my life felt like it had no purpose and I was just around to be a mindless puppet performing tests.
After seeing my doctor for chronic diarrhea, he literally told me that I was just overweight and should stop going to the fridge every half hour. When I told him I ate like a squirrel, he said "Well something's not adding up", implying that I was lying. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there thinking "Yeah, something's not adding up. Why do you think I'm here?" I was later diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Doing research, it was thought at the time that about 25% of Celiacs present as overweight with difficulty losing weight. (Research since suggests that that number may be much higher.) Had he suggested that as a possibility at the time, he could have saved me years of severe GI problems. I'm happy to report that after a number of similar issues were reported on the then-fledgling RateMDs, he went into research.
I come from a family of overweight people with Celiac. I'm sad to say your experience is not abnormal. The rest of us are overweight due to sleep apnea (or both)...we don't have sleep apnea because we're overweight, it's a face/throat structure issue that starts with puberty, every time. The absolute refusal to believe that we can't lose weight despite trying is so damn detrimental. Of course enough of us have been diagnosed in the past decade it's easy to try the diet to see if it's Celiac, and if that doesn't work, or it only addresses the GI issues, you hound the doctor for a sleep study.
Personally, I'm horrified he went into research. Doctors are not scientists. And this one seemed particularly unobservant.
I was overweight and struggling because I ate the same food as my roommates and even exercised more than them. My doc told me to eat healthier and exercise even more. I asked for a Celiac panel, and she said “I doubt you have that, but alright”. Been diagnosed since it came back positive! On a gluten free diet, I lost 50 lbs. Never went back to that doctor.
I was both gaunt and yet still overweight when I was diagnosed Coeliac. Now finally absorbing nutrients, and coupled with the loss of a family member, my weight swelled. I had a doctor suggest that maybe I should start eating gluten again to help lose weight. She was kinda joking, but let's just say I don't really go back to the dr anymore.
Mom waited a year for her Crohns diagnose, she got so weak she had to go on all fours from bed to bathroom at times. Her first doc had said its definitely not Crohns, not even a possibility.
Thank you for specifying different types of brain tumors. I had a rare 'benign' brain tumor that was actually life threatening and required multiple brain surgeries and radiation. When I tell people it was not cancerous, they automatically assume I'm unharmed even though I've dealt with more treatments than most cancer patients.
One of my best friends has Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia. He has a “benign” brain tumor that is inoperable. He’s had the lifetime limit of radiation, and now it’s just a ticking time bomb. I’m so sorry you went through that.
I once had a huge cyst growing inside my jaw bone. For a couple of weeks, different specialists and clinics kept trading me between each other, without really explaining to me what was happening.
Then I saw one guy who just casually said "yeah so we're gonna have to book you in for surgery before your jaw breaks. You should hear from someone within the next couple of months". And then he immediately left with no further explanation.
Turns out, the guy was very busy that day and was rushing through his appointments. And he wasn't gentle about dropping that info on me. So I left the clinic in tears, thinking my jaw could break at literally any moment. And until I got that call, I was afraid to even chew food too hard.
I was eventually told by a different guy, that my cyst was like 6cm long, and was slowly eroding my jaw bone to make room for itself to grow. It had likely been forming for years before it was found, and might have eventually grown large enough to break my jaw... Key words being *might* and *eventually* . The few months it took before I could get it cut out, weren't gonna be enough time for it to reach that point. Which is information that would have gone a long way towards calming my fears, if that other guy had bothered to actually tell me that in the first place
Wow, I hope it's out by now, and that you're doing fine. Glad you caught it in time before anything terrible happened. God bless and be safe
@@nachoramirez1308 Thank you 😊 I did get it cut out, so all is good now
I have so much respect for you!! I've been following your channel for years now, especially when I'm anxious about certain things and the way you explain them really helps me calm down and understand things better!! It has also helped me ask my doctors as many questions as I want to, to really understand my body without feeling guilty or awkward about it.
When I was little, my mom once took me to the ER for a heavy cough. The doctor didn't check me and instead kept insisting I was faking. After he got tired of my mom arguing with him, he just had me transferred to another hospital. The transfer paperwork was blank, so the doctors there had to start my check up all over, in which they found I had very low blood oxygen, so much so that apparently I shouldn't be alive today. I was hospitalized for a week. A couple of doctors at the new hospital showed my mom the blank paperwork and kept insisting that she needed to sue and even offered to be witnesses, but my mom was too worried about me to worry about court proceedings, so eventually she opted not to sue as she felt it would be too much work.
I'm glad you mentioned Dysthymia. I was finally diagnosed with chronic Dysthymia a few years ago, after years of being told things like "You're not depressed, you're just being lazy," or "You don't have anything to be stressed about, you're just tired." Even now I get people brushing it off and coming up with their own theories because they've never heard of Dysthymia, and therefore it isn't real.
I'm a therapist with Dysthymic Disorder and ASD, finding out those things (at 30) were, on top of CPTSD, part of what pushed me toward counseling as a profession. Just knowing what's "wrong" and why I've struggled my entire life made a huge difference. Being able to tell clients "no, this probably isn't going to go away, but we can make it manageable" is, I hope, empowering for them the way it was for me.
My sympathy to anyone dealing with this, but I can't help but wonder if a chronic folate deficiency is to blame. You can't rely on blood tests to tell if your levels are good. I have a friend who has persistently struggled with depression who has started taking 2mg of methylfolate a day and has noticed an improvement.
I got diagnosed with a depressive disorder that now I think would be called Dysthymia as well (just like Asperger's is now just ASD as well), and a few weeks ago I was at my GP to get a referral for mental healthcare, and even though my diagnoses are in my file, he made me explain my symptoms explicitly. Which is fine, whatever, so I told him about my diagnoses and that my depression had been bad for a long time now, so I felt like structural support in the form of therapy and/or medication would be necessary. And when I was done, he goes 'well, that doesn't sound like depression, sounds more like Dysthymia' and I'm like... My dude?! Dysthymia IS depression?! Wtf are you on about? He gave me the referral in the end, but he very clearly for some reason did not believe I am depressed, even though I have literally been diagnosed with depression 🤪
Not to mention dysthymia presents with things like chronic fatigue sometimes which is another layer on top of "I'm not lazy my brain is literally telling me I'm about to drop from exhaustion even with a normal sleep schedule".
I have Dysthemia, probably had it my whole life, and I constantly have to tell people that I just don't have the same energy as they do. I'm like constantly tired and I can't work full time because of it. I once discussed with my sister why I can't look after my nephew when I have an appointment with my psychiatrist f.e. the next day. She never understood it until I told her about the spoon theory and she finally understood my struggles. The explanation alone takes away so much energy already. I also have several other diagnoses that I'm constantly working on or bettered already. Several started in my childhood and teen years. Not even talking about my physical pains etc.
I trained for a new job the last two years and in a month at the age of 40 I start a new part time job helping teens and young adults with mental health problems. I'm scared sh*tless but I've never felt like I've been on the right path until now. It's so important for me because I know how helpless I felt back then.
Actually, yes, an enlarged bladder truly is a real thing.
My daughter used to postpone peeing for prolonged periods of time, and later on, while being treated at Cleveland Clinic for multiple issues, including a severe, antibiotic resistant UTI, the urologist told her that she absolutely had to set timers to start training herself to go pee every two hours throughout the day, and allow her bladder to start returning to normal size before she did permanent damage to the stretch receptors.
Though the textbooks tell us that the urge to urinate begins by the time we have 200-350 ml of urine in the bladder, and that max capacity is around 500 mL for a female and 700 mL for a male, for many women with a habit of putting off urination while busy, it can become much larger. On multiple occasions, my daughter has overflowed the tophat in the hospital with a single episode of urination - they hold a full liter.
Also, at least four different times, when they have cathed her, they got more than TWO LITERS, very rapidly. She never felt the urge to pee without at least 600-800 mL.
The urologist at CC told us that this happens often in busy women who frequently hold it for prolonged periods of time when they feel too busy, and that as the bladder size increases, the stretch receptors lose sensitivity. She told her that if she did not start retraining her bladder very soon, the stretch receptors would stop working, and she would lose feeling and likely become incontinent while still fairly young.
I remember one hospital stay in which she was having urinary retention due to a neuro problem, but could not get the nurse to listen to her. She was so full that her kidneys were throbbing , AFTER peeing 300 mL in the tophat, and was begging them to cath her because she could not get relief. The first nurse told her that it was impossible that she was retaining, or there would not be 300 mL in the tophat. This was during shift change, so when the new nurse came in, we tried again to get help. She rolled her eyes and told us that it was impossible for her bladder to still be full. So, I asked if she would be willing to use the bladder scanner, to prove it.
She was shocked to see that the scanner showed about 700 mL still in the bladder. She was even more shocked ten minutes later, when she did an in/out cath, filled TWO one liter containers, and overflowed the second one all over the bed! The 300 in the tophat was just overflow from bladder spasms. We have had similar experiences MANY times over the years, in multiple hospitals - and frequently they refuse to even scan the bladder, until we ask for the nursing supervisor or get her urologist on the phone.
As an RN, I am appalled at how many docs and nurses will not listen to what the patient knows of her own body from years of experience. As a Mama Bear, I get seriously tired of watching my daughter suffer while they arrogantly argue, when they could just check and learn something. I get that they only know what they have been taught - but we all have to remember that there is always plenty that we do not yet know.
this is also why it’s so important for teachers to allow children to use the restroom whenever they need to and not just “if you have time during lunch”! this can happen so young and it’s devastating!
That's terrible. They do this with women in labor too. We know nothing
:(
Your daughter isn’t a teacher is she? We’re basically expected to do that.
What a great lesson.
I was told off by the nurse with the next following sentence: “you’re not the urgent case” while i was in the most horrifying pain that no one should ever experience in their lifetime, well apparently because i was dismissed as “not the urgent case” i require a surgery now, go figure. 🤔🙄
I had a cervical biopsy on March 17 one time, and the doctor looked up from between my legs and said “I bet you never thought you’d get pinched *there* on St. Patrick’s Day.” The med student who was observing looked at me like “Oh, God, this guy’s gonna end my career before it even starts.”
When they tell you before a cervical biopsy "Its just a pinch" I wanted to say "Imagine your balls being "pinched" like this, and see if you wouldn't cry too"...They cut into a very sensitive body part with no anesthetic. Doctors are often dicks.
@@gl15col To be fair, the "It's just a pinch" that most medical professionals use *before* a procedure is meant to work off the placebo effect to reduce the pain without medication. If someone *believes* it should just feel like a pinch, it will hurt less.
This obviously doesn't excuse anyone who tries to use that to critique showing discomfort. That's just horrible behavior. But the intent when saying it isn't to be mocking, it's meant to relieve pain and discomfort.
Actually it’s been proven both anecdotally and I believe there was a study I saw on it too - that patients who were told they would experience MORE pain than the level of pain the procedure was, actually felt LESS pain because they felt they were “more prepared” for the pain than those that were told the actual average pain level the procedure was rated and also experienced less pain then people who were told the procedure would hurt LESS than it actually did.
@@KeterMalkuth I definitely understand the reasoning of setting up expectations, however I am so used to people downplaying pain that if anyone (doctor or not) informs me of how minimally painful something will be I just instinctively brace for agony, lol
Positive interaction: I have great veins... every time I donate blood the nurses get so excited... The best one was a very gleeful "OMG look at those beauties... let me see the other arm... OMG spoiled for choice!!" it kinda made my day 😊
XD really treating them an early chrismas there.
Omg same! But I really dislike needles so I get freaked out. Theyre so good they call their other nurse friends “Come look at this girl’s beautiful veins!” I’ll have 3-5 nurses looking as I’m about to sob 😂
I get the opposite reaction. As a A negative I was a quartet donor, my arm veins are not visible and collapse very easily so I would get "Are you sure you want to donate?". My favorite was the person who offered to testify that there was no way I would do IV drug use as she as a professional could barely find me veins, there would be know way an addict needing acid could hit one.
I’m the exact opposite 😅 One time they had to stick the needle halfway through my arm, and I’m not even overweight. It was way better with the other arm though thankfully, still really deep though.
Me too! I have great veins apparently. One of my doctor friends loves squishing the ones in my hands as they are quite prominent when the blood is flowing well 😂
I once had a psychologist rant to me during my appointment about a professional complaint (to the licencing body) he had received, saying that it was all "made up" and how "annoying" the patient he thought had made it was...... I had actually made the complaint
what the hell?! so not the right time or place to do that
Surprised you continued to see him
@@jackiekjono Not everyone has much of a choice, because insurance can have really weirdly specific requirements for exactly who you see.
Was it an anonymous complaint or did he actually know it was you? I’m sorry that happened
i had a professor who did this! so much worse with a psychologist
That happened to my sister. She had a miscarriage, and the doctor gave her a prescription for contraceptives because she "didn't want to see her back here," at the hospital.
It was a planned pregnancy. She's quite young to be a mother by modern standards, but she's an adult. Totally inappropriate.
When I was a teenager my doctor put that I was hot in my files. I was 14. I found out later after I had them transferred elsewhere. That's not the worst thing that has ever happened with a doctor, but from an early age, I learned not to trust male doctors because of the way I was treated after going through puberty early (about 12 years old).
surely he's now been fired, right?
@@DominoClockworkhopefully…
He said you were, "hot" ?
What did you see the Doctor for?
Curious to know the actual wording. Maybe the note read "well-developed 14 year old female." I wonder if a 14 year old girl would misinterpret that.
Also, 12 is not early for puberty.
Here in Germany, every man I met in professional contexts, like doctors, teachers, or university employees, was super professional and never behaved inappropriately. I only ever had issues with a few men I met in a private/personal context or on the streets and a lot of people online, but otherwise, my experience with men is relatively positive.
A friend while i was in high school was having regular fainting spells. She went to the drs and he said she was making it up and just doing it for attention.
I went to a new dr about my fibromyalgia. I was telling him about my fibro and he smirked and said 'oh yes. It seems to be flavour of the month right now'. I told him the name of the specialist who diagnosed me, who is one of the top rhumatologists in the state. The look on his face was golden.
I told a rheumatologist that I had fibro, and he said "Oh, did they decide that that's actually a thing now?"
To be fair you could get a doctor to diagnose anything if you have the money.
I'm surprised online how often I read of doctors who seemingly just assume patients are malingering. I sometimes get that vibe at the hospital too.
I get that doctors should be a bit skeptical of people diagnosing themselves (unless they're telling you about a diagnosis they got from another doctor) but anyone who just dismisses an issue on the assumption that the patient is making things up should not be a doctor. I was not formally diagnosed with epilepsy until I was like 19, ten years after I had started exhibiting seizures, because when my mom told the doctor he said I'd probably grow out of it. Even if that was the case, it's not okay to say that a 9 year old having seizures is no big deal. Granted I don't have the convulsive type and it's mostly triggered by a lack of sleep, but it's still worth investigating and possibly medicating. She got bounced around to so many places that wouldn't see me for various reasons, and when I finally got to a family doctor in my late teens she mentioned it and the doctor interrupted her to ask why we hadn't gotten me diagnosed before referring us to a local neurologist
I had the same thing happen to me after my fibro diagnosis. I want even looking for that. The Dr did the testing extensively, 23 vitale of blood, to rule out everything else. Pcp didn't believe this Dr so another round of test I went through. I have small veins that like to roll so blood draws are very hard.
After treating my ectopic pregnancy I had to go back to the clinic twice a week for awhile to get blood drawn & make sure the pregnancy had ended successfully. I cried each time and the doctor was reminding me of things to look out for (a speech I had heard every single time I was there), paused mid speech to ask me if my husband was abusing me because I was “too emotional for the situation” and then berated me for not listening to her speech and made me repeat back to her the things to look out for.
Got pregnant with my rainbow baby, was a few weeks before my due date and my Dr wanted to do a cervical check. Just routine, not for any specific reason. Mid-check she goes “I’m just gonna…” and proceeds to strip my membranes without consent. Wasn’t something I wanted at all. I was like “hey, that’s hurts and I’m uncomfortable with this” She laughed at me and said “well honey, birth is uncomfortable.”
Didn’t end up speeding up labor like she hoped, just made me spot for awhile which, as someone who had lost a baby prior, was very distressing.
Never went back to either of those places
that is fair consent is key
That's awful I'm so sorry that doctor did that. I hope all is going well for you and your rainbow baby ❤
This is horrific. I’m so sorry. 😢
Can you do a video talking all about borderline personality disorder, I have it and find I can never find accurate information to tell people because google always has the negatives saying how terrible we are…
Look up professor Sam Vaknin. He's a psychologist/researcher who actually educates on personality disorders
Had a friend lose twins that were born prematurely. One of the nurses just offered to wash her hair after the ordeal, purely as a kind gesture.
I figured it was good to hear a heartwarming story after so many downer comments.
Thanks for Sharing this!!!
Love this. For some reason most medical professionals lack compassion. Especially if you’re uninsured or underinsured
@@Roxannexoxoxo
One of the heartbreaking things is, while there are definitely bad nurses and doctors, some of those 'lacking compassion' used to be the kindest and sweetest people but years of not being able or even ALLOWED to do enough (in reference to under/uninsured) that they break. Or they build a wall. The medical field will rip your heart to the tiniest shreds if you wear it on your sleeve and you simply will not survive that line of work.
It's terrible, but that's how it works elsewhere. Customer Service is another industry that turns people in hollow shells of who they used to be.
@@tobiastwynholme9532 or perhaps they were always hollow
Bless
I have CRPS in my whole right arm. The pain is so excruciating that one day I went to emerg in hopes of them giving me something, anything to help with the pain. I explained to the ER doctor why I was there and I told him that I have severe hypersensitivity to any kind of touch to my right arm. He looked at me and said “well, I have to anyway “and proceeded to grab me by the wrist. My arm is also in a sling. The pain was so severe that I grabbed the doctor’s arm with my good arm. I was crying and apologizing and was shaking and confused. I am terrified of hospitals ever since. Full on PTSD now.
I'm really sorry that happened to you and that it was so traumatizing for you. Unfortunately, that sort of thing is done because there are people out there who will fake almost anything to get access to pain killers. Without knowing more about the situation its hard to really judge the doctor in that situation. Seeing a sling is definitely going to be concerning and require a more ginger response, but "grabbed" is so vague its hard to know whether it was done gingerly or violently. I know its really not what you wanted him to do in that moment but he could have actually been looking for your reaction to him grabbing your wrist to see if you actually have the condition you claimed. Unless the ER is attached to a hospital that you regularly go to, they don't have access to your medical files. So unfortunately provoking a response can sometimes be the quickest way to determine what is actually occurring. As Dr Mike pointed out as well in his comment about his boxing match, providing an evaluation of a patient's status without actually investigating is not usually a good thing. And providing strong pain killers sadly falls under that umbrella as well because of how easily abused they are.
I hope you're able to go back to another hospital in the future if you ever need one. Not all doctors, hospitals and situations are the same
@@alexsis1778 sure, but saying "well, i have to anyway" and just going for it isnt exactly the most tactful way to go about 'testing' whether or not they were faking.
@@alexsis1778it's not just about faking it. The intensity and location of the pain can tell the doctor a lot about what might be going on. For instance, if somebody has belly pain, you will want to poke their belly. If you poke the lower region and they want to punch you, then you know it's likely appendicitis 😂
@@alexsis1778I'm not even the original commenter but I wanted to thank you for your detailed and empathetic response.
I was an airborne infantryman in the army. During an airborne op, I got dropped into the tree line, got stuck, and fell out of the tree real awkward. About forty feet but with an uninflated parachute catching on stuff so idk how hard I hit but I couldn’t hold my purple knee straight that was the size of a softball, and my hip and back kept spasming.
It was a training event and my unit opted to prioritize “life limb and eyesight” of fake, training injuries over stuff that wasn’t deemed actual “life limb and eyesight” but still injuries. As a result I didn’t get seen until almost 24 hours later and an excruciating ride on the metal floor of a military vehicle.
I get to a clinic, officer comes in and doesn’t even lay a hand on me. Listens to me talk for maybe 30 seconds and recommends NSAID’s. I am deadly allergic to NSAID’s. I was given an NSAID by a medic at camp MacCall after telling him I was deadly allergic to NSAID’s and he had to give me an epipen and take me to a civilian hospital shortly after. I have medical tags with my dog tags clarifying this.
Her response? I was exhibiting drug seeking behavior and she was going to recommend me for USMJ. I called her bluff as I wanted treatment at this point bad and knew the evidence in my favor was substantial.
She had me sent back to the field with zero follow up. Ruined any prospect of a military career as it took years to get treatment and recover and now I’m a disabled veteran.
As a former combat medic I really feel sorry for you!
@@fightinamrah I’m doing great these days but people should know and I take every opportunity I’ve got to talk about healthcare problems in the army. Especially airborne. I’m a mechanical engineer now but if someone can’t do a desk job and got screwed over like that, they’re in trouble. Soldiers shouldn’t be fighting battles with their leadership
I’m so sorry this happened to you. 😢
@@13fyrefli I just like to let people know. Now that the DoD is purposefully burying TBI data related to weapons we use and I’m older with kids, I’m more concerned with giving people a full picture of military service before they decide what they want to do with their life
My husband was in the Navy on a small boy. During training off the coast of Africa, the seas were rough and he ended up slamming his knee into the deck plate of the ship. He had shattered his patella. They iced it and gave him Ibuprofen. He ended up PCSing and cross rating from the ship and sent to Italy, where we met. Our Watch Commander was a B**** and hated my husband because he was a fleet returnee so she made him stand 12hr+ of post every shift. Eventually his knee gave out and he had to have surgery at the Naval Hospital. They opened him up scraped a bunch of stuff and closed. He ended up getting an infection from the stitches which they weren’t suppose to be using anymore. A couple yrs later after getting out, still suffering from the pain, he got an x-ray done at a VA stateside finding out they never removed any of the shattered bone pieces and only created more scar tissue. He gets a decent comp for it but what good does that do when you can’t freaking walk! 😤
1:31 has your face always been this hedious?
FR 💀
I was diagnosed with Lupus at the ripe old age of 14. Due to my circumsdtances, I qualified for for disability payments through the SSA and some services through Medicaid. I don't take any of that for granted... I know there are others who aren't able to get the help they need. Anyway, one day I was at my primary care physician's office. After my exam, she turned to me and said, "Don't you think you've used enough of the disability payments? You should really stop having this pain and let someone else use these services. Plus, you should really stop being depressed." It was such a hurtful and bizarre statement, I didn't know what to do. She was quite cold and hateful. I turned to her and said, "You don't know what the hell you're talking about. You just lost yourself a patient." I left and never went back.
That was the right thing to do, and you don't have to make excuses for being qualified for those services. You're valid and also is valid to get some sort of help.
I didn't know that by telling someone to simply "stop having pain" and "stop being depressed" would instantly cure the issue.....
I'm glad you stood up for yourself, and never went back!
I can strongly endorse the walk on on the doctor method. Used it several times myself.
So being disabled at 14 is an uplifting experience?
And she had no clue how SSDI works obviously. You using your benefits does not deny anyone else any assistance they qualify for. She’s either a fool or completely biased and hateful.
unfortunately, you probably gave that medical practice exactly what they wanted, I'm sure they were losing money, having you as a patient, because of low Medicaid reimbursement....her attack may've even been planned & purposeful...which is not to say you shouldn't have left, but I'm not sure you 'stuck it to them,' as much as we wish you had...unless you reported the witch, & got her in trouble
I went in for my 40 week check up with my first baby. He checked my cervix and said I was only at a one and that I might not dilate more because I had a “lousy cervix” 😂
I discontinued my care with him so fast and found a different office to take me. It was kind of hilarious to call and ask if they were accepting new patients and when they asked my due date I had to say “today”. They laughed so hard when I told them my last OB diagnosed me with a lousy cervix! Long story short, I had a 9lb baby vaginally a few days later. My cervix was a rockstar! 😂🎉
Some people are just a**holes and shouldn't be in that profession. Midwives can be a great resource to turn to when doctors have let you down.
If your cervix wasn't doing what it's natural purpose, then lousy would be appropriate. You overreacted.
with?! wow!
@@residentevil2928 clearly she didnt since her cervix was fine when she gave birth? mind your own, guy
Your cervix held a baby to term. That doctor is a schmuck.
I actually had my gynecologist say something that made me feel a lot better during my very first appointment with her. She told me "I'm sure you're very important to the people in your life, but your vagina is not special to me" and as someone who's never been to a gynecologist before, it made me laugh and really relaxed me
I would laugh at that too. It’s a much faster way of saying “I’ve seen them all, you can’t shock me, it’s fine. It’s all good.” 🧡🧡🧡🤣😂🤣
My mom worked in a woman's office for years. She always assured me that one vagina looks like another lol
My mom worked in a woman's office for years. She always assured me that one vagina looks like another lol
I had a male gyno who I went to for a pap and when he touched my leg I jumped and said I hate these things they’re so embarrassing and his response was some women like this..I guess he thought I was a cold fish or something like I’m supposed to enjoy a Pap smear!
@@Shopgirl1 gross!
during my first pap smear the doctor told me i had an "unusually forward leaning uterus". i asked if that was bad and she told me "no but if you ever got pregnant you would be HUGE" 😭
I had post concussion syndrome and had described some symptoms of confusion to my doctor. His response was, "I wouldn't tell people about that. They'll think you're crazy."
😮hat a nob!
Your "you´re good" diagnosis immediately made me remember that my friend was in a car accident with her two little kids in the backseat (another driver had a heart-attack and rammed them from behind). The paramedics only asked the two children if they were fine and that was it. NO check up, nothing. And these were children.
One time I went to a gynaecologist who asked if I ever considered plastic surgery in my labia. I asked if anything was medically wrong with it and she said no, it just could look prettier.
Yeah, thanks. I’ve never thought my labia was not “pretty” 😂
That's horrific!
Enraged. That's 100% sexual harassment
My gyno said at our first appointment "well this shouldn't be awkward since Ive already seen you naked." 😅 like fair enough cause he delivered me but it caught me so off guard
Omg that's horrible of them!
“Oops my foot slipped from the rest and kicked you in the nose. It’s okay, plastic surgery is always an option, right?”
When I was in the hospital for chronic knee pain a few years ago. I was put in a room with a bunch of medical supplies like tensor bandages, crutches, etc. I was using the blanket to wrap around above my knee to try to help with the chronic pain. I was just super desperate to stop my pain. Anyway, a doctor or a nurse or whomever it was came in to grab something.
She straight up told me that it would work better around my neck. While pointing to the blanket.
It was very upsetting especially because I do struggle with persistent depressive disorder. And in the past including back at that time I did struggle with suicidal thoughts and tendencies. I'm just glad I wasn't in there alone. But neither my friend nor I caught her name as she was in and out very fast and it was very unexpected. I was also very upset because I have a very unfortunate knee issue and nothing can fix it. It happened when I was only 18 and I'm 23 now. But back at that time, I was trying to apply for the MAID (Medical Assistance In Dying) program. Because I have no options to help or fix my issue. I was just wanting to die, due to it all and losing a huge part of my life.
I wish that person would have thought before she said what she said to me.
WTF?? What is wrong with that nurse/doctor??
This happened while my mom was pregnant with me, so this story is all second hand from my parents. I don't know how far along in the pregnancy my mom was, but one day my parents went in for an ultrasound and the doctor told my mom there might be something wrong with my brain and I might be mentally disabled. My parents started crying. They were a young couple and I was their first kid, they say the whole time they were at the ultrasound they had been giggling and pointing at the monitor, telling the doctor how happy they were about me, what my name was etc. After telling them my brain looked off, the doctor turned to my distraught parents and said "so you gonna abort the baby or what?"
My mom still cries any time she talks about it, she says it took everything in her not to scream and slap the doctor.
That’s so awful oh my god :(
WHAT!?
WHO SAYS THAT.
Actually, a number of doctors who see that a baby may be disabled suggest abortion. Evil. They think they can just erase a life that might be something remarkable and beautiful. They don't know the future!
OMG!!! How dare he say that to your mom?!!!!!
Not then, not now and not ever would it that be acceptable!!!
Doctors truly are so insensible regarding pregnancy and abortion! The fact that abortion exists doesn't mean everyone wants it! Specially if the baby is wanted the mere suggestion will sound horrific to the parents.
When I was about 13 and suffering from symptoms of hypothyroidism, which I didn't know I had at the time, some doctor told my mom, with me in the room, that girls my age often make things up for attention, referring to my complaints of feeling unwell and depressed.
I actually hated undue attention as an introverted kid and I just hid my symptoms after that because I was embarrassed by what he said. Untill I had an impacted bowel from the horrible chronic constipation and my mom had to rush me to the hospital in the middle of the night. Didn't get diagnosed till I was 27, but definitely suffered all the symptoms since I was a pre-teen.
I genuinely don't understand how often I've heard of doctors saying this. Like, either they're right... and that's indicative of a problem right there, the kid probably needs the attention... or, as seems to be common, they're wrong and they miss an important diagnosis. Awful.
The worst thing I had a doctor say to me was when I got a brain scan. I was told i had a pineal cyst, but she didn't explain what it was. I asked a couple questions like "is that what could be causing my migraines?"
She looked so annoyed and told me, "if I knew you were going to get caught up on that, I wouldn't have even told you about it."
Anyway, my neurologist explained it days later. My migraines are because of previous concussions.
Wow, what a b***h. It's your body and you have every right to know what's going on.
The 1st doctor's response should have been "my ego won't allow me to say I don't know so I'll make my ignorance seem like your problem instead of mine."
2:18 OMG So brutally unnecesary... yet if the nurse felt the need to say it... i cant imagine the smell