How to Fight Your Procrastination Anxiety (and Win!)
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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Why We Procrastinate and How to Fix it: • Why We Procrastinate a...
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article on how to stop procrastinating with ADHD: bit.ly/28Mfxlo
how the cycle starts: bit.ly/28MYY7w
amazing awesome funny comic about it: bit.ly/28LCeVE
"The Show Must Be Go"
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Anyone else procrastinating rn?
Yup, 3-4h every night since 2014 i think
RUclips: an addiction
Anna Hart Me
Anna Hart an adhd RN yes! I have such a hard time charting! the only thing that helps is putting a show on my phone that I've already seen a thousand times.
I am
I have finals in...4 days. And I can't focus, I can't work, I can't do anything but being distracted !!! TT-TT I'm fucked.
Does anyone else become crippled with anxiety and fear?? I've spent the last two days sitting on a bean bag binge watching to shows ignoring everything I need to do. I now can't breathe when I think about my to do's lol.
Yeah, overwhelm is an issue for us. Gonna do an episode about it next month!
Timer! Set 15 minutes and only do that much. Then take a break and congratulate yourself on getting that one thing done!
Sianbob Pang Haha that just happened right now XD
Yes, and now I basically only go places when I absolutely have to. Luckily I work from home lol
Ignoring everything is easier thank thinking about things you need to do, which start to accumulate because you keep leaving them until the last moment (not on purpose) This happens to me all the time, and I'll just start watching youtube videos, or Netflix, and then start sleeping bad, and having anxiety attacks because of the stress of those things. So you're not alone there.
"You don't need to finish. You only need to start"
- An ADHD Coach
And that’s the hardest part
@@Dancestar1981 Decide in 2 seconds to just do it. 👍
@@johnroekoek9864 even if i do so, i lose the motivation to continue whatever it is im doing
@@nightcrawler2126 and this is very frustrating when it's the sink full of dishes. I have no dishwasher so it is REALLY difficult 🤣
@@nightcrawler2126 Yeah. Pushing yourself to do something it possible, but it's so easy to stop again
I remember in school realizing that for me, I used "self care" as an excuse to procrastinate, when real self care meant forcing myself to do homework. That took care of my mental health WAY more than my go to excuse of "taking a quick break to take care of myself," which usually meant playing video games in a state of panic while I tried to not think about how much homework I had to do.
Relatable. During virtual school the timetable was still basically the same so I was just like ‘ah yes, I’ve spent two hours watching stuff I’ve seen before instead of school work, it must be break time!’
OMG?? LITERALLY SAME. I was like, "I just love myself too much, so I can't force myself to do things I know I don't like (school works, mostly)." And.. of course, the results aren't good. Self love? Nah.
Too real
didn't have to be called out man
You described perfectly what I’ve been experiencing my whole life. I always thought self care was going the things I wanted
*Adds to "Watch Later"*
BuyASkateboard same
Hhshahahaha i have like 1000 videos in "Watch Later"
Damn too real
*then forgets about it
😭😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Inattentive ADHD brain here! I was supposed to start studying 5 hours ago! I decided I would get started after coffee, then after breakfast... then after this youtube video and that youtube video... then after cutting my hair because I found a cool tutorial video... I'll study after this video :)
Chloellabip LOL 😂 this is totally me also, right down to the haircut!
I was supposed to start studying yesterday
Dude, I speak to myself about an outline on how much I need to get done if I am to survive this assignment. Tell yourself that it is the only way, Believe it. That works for me
Sammmee
Reads familiar!
I keep a "done" list instead of or conolimentary to a to-do list and it keeps me pretty motivated like crossing things off but filling a page with things I've completed makes me want to do more...my own feedback loop
This seems like a good idea!
Trello is GREAT for this! I use it as the administrative assistant for a buddhist temple, lots of random little tasks to take care of, and the "done" list never gets purged -- once every few months when the donkey doo starts hitting the fan I scroll through it to remind myself that I *do* actually do things...sometimes. :)
Selby Lilley nice!
Wow, I've done this too! Making to do lists gives me a lot of anxiety, to the point that I avoid doing any of it. When I write down what I've done, I feel accomplished and motivated instead
such a great idea! sometimes, i want to share an achievement, but it's too small for someone to relate. i will try to do this.
its 2 am and I have an assignment due tomorrow. My solution to this problem is obviously procrastinating by watching videos about procrastinating.
Lunare Flowers So me, I have gained a lot of knowledge though from doing that at least!
I'm watching this video to procrastinate
epicsquidy123 yeah me too basically just trying to fall asleep but you know adhd fam lmao
epicsquidy123 hahahahahaha me too hahahahaha shit
lol
Me too 😐
Hey checking in on you 3 years later. How's your life going?
I'm supposed to prepare my presentation now, but instead, I procrastinated, then I hated myself for it, then I knew it's because of my ADHD, then I go to RUclips to find videos on how to stop procrastinating, then I watched your video or videoS........ 2 hours had gone by then....
I know this is an old answer but damn that's me right now!! I also have a presentation due and I really don't want to do it lol.. but at the same time, I want to do it so I can just get it over with already, lol.
Can I just say how much a relate to this rn
Goddam are you spying on me 🤣 That is exactly how I am right now
Same
Same its like I want to do it while the deadline is still far away but the only preparation I do is just inside my head worrying about this and that and I just end up hyper focusing a day before the deadline because of adrenaline. ;;
I love "start badly" - such a good point. I've started doing things like challenging myself to write the worst thing I can think of: my "perfectionism" over finding the very worst thing is much lower. Once I've started, seeing tangibly how I can improve what I've done so far is much easier.
When I get a new journal I scribble the ugliest thing I can on the first page, because I know I'll never want to ruin the journal by putting down less than perfect thoughts at the beginning.
soooooooo trueee. I remember high school literally doing this. procrastinating because of stress, getting more stressed, procrastinating more, etc. I wish I could've been diagnosed then
how did you manage to pass? please i need some tips.
This is me rn!!! Please send tips!
Not diagnosed until the tender age of 40 struggled my whole life
I like how I'm procrastinating by watching this video and then I don't pay attention to the video because I'm thinking about getting medication for my ADHD
Wyy is this happening to us how do we cure it😭😭
I'm not diagnosed with adhd but so much on this channel helps me so much! Thank you!
Rosey Morearty same
This channel helped me realise I might have ADHD and I'm still not diagnosed but damn her videos help! 😍😍😍
This channel helped me with a lot of day to day tasks even though I don't have ADHD or I'm pretty sure I don't
I don't have ADHD for sure but I always had an issue with focusing and getting things done. I'm very slow and dislike deadlines. This helps me so much!
@Anny's World If your doctor was confused, that's a problem. Not all people with ADHD are hyperactive. There are subtypes.
I really want to thank you for this channel. I've spent most of my life thinking that I was worthless because I had lots of issues doing things that were extremely simple for other people or being told that I wasn't good enough. Things like getting to sleep and doing a 15 question sheet of homework were a chore and I had terrible social anxiety. I didn't even know that these things could be partially attributed to my ADHD. I'm sure other people have felt the same way, so please keep being fabulous :D
I'm exactly the same way, I know I have anxiety but I wonder if I have ADHD....
@@brooklynyte anxiety and adhd work hand in hand and its terrible bro
@@brooklynyte me too
same it's terrible
Same, I've known I have ADHD since I'm 16 and I didn't know until some weeks ago that THAT had so much to do with everything.
"Simply getting started reduces anxiety"
Usually the moment I start is my moment of peak anxiety- feels like touching a hot stove (emotionally!) :(
Like I see how little progress I've made and my heart jumps, the flight response kicks in...
I want to try this "associate positivity with The Thing" but how?? (@3:52)
SAAAAMEEEE
One idea would be to buy a bag of chocolate kisses and eat one every time you finish an assignment or task.
For positive association: play some relaxing music or a long ambience video in the background while you study. I personally love listening to the Harry Potter sound track while I do my homework (remember that the music you pick should probably not have any words). You can also try watching some youtube immediately after you get some studying done to reward yourself. I sometimes like to dress up in fancy clothes when I need to do something that I've been procrastinating on because it makes the experience new and also a little more interesting.
I don't know what's worse, the shame or the fear. : /
Me too 💀
This video explains my life
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS mine as well! how weird is that... ;)
mine too, sadly...
Peťánka Z. Don't say sadly PRIDE IN OUR ADHD
Itsmeizzy Bee: But I don't have ADHD... :D
When I was in a dorm, I did my best work in the "abandoned stairwell."
Everyone said it was abandoned because it was so far in the back of our building that nobody used it. But, because of my anxiety and ADHD, they re-nicknamed it "Poptart's Place" because Poptart is my nickname and I was ALWAYS in there!
Love this so much
yeah I know :D reading a book on the stairs is brilliant!
+Pauline Brus Right?!?! But I wouldn't just be reading or studying in there. Sometimes I'd go and watch movies, RUclips, etc. Once, I was really tired and my roommates were being loud in my room so I went to the stairwell and took a nap! It was awesome!
LOL Poptart. That's adorable!
I have done much studying in my car for this same reason.
My problem with rewards is that within 5 minutes I have talked myself into needing that reward right now so I will feel better and will get the job done.... But it doesn't and I have to think of a new reward... and so on.....
Yeah rewards don't work for me... I'll tell myself I have to finish these 10 pages in half an hour to get this reward. 20 minutes later I'm 2 pages in and I'm like okay I have to finish at least 5 pages. Then at the half hour point I've read 3 pages and I'm like okay I'll get a reward this time and then the stress of not getting through my goal makes me feel demotivated and not want to finish the task and I just give up on the entire endeavour and watch RUclips videos for the rest of the day and then fast forward 3 months to my exam and I'm like I had all semester, what have I done?!
Try breaking the task down further so you reach the reward sooner and giving yourself multiple rewards throughout.
Yeah, rewards don't work for me. I'm just like "but I could just have it now" and I mean who can argue with that flawless logic?
@@lindseysquire8417 I also find it far too easy go just give myself the promised reward, regardless of getting the task done. What works for me is to pair the pleasant thing, i.e. the reward, with the unpleasant task. Watching a RUclips video while I do the dishes. Sitting down with a nice cup of coffee or tea, and a couple of cookies, while I do the reading or writing I'm supposed to do. Depending on the task, it can be hard to figure out what to pair with it - can't drink a cup of coffee while pushing a lawnmower, for example, or concentrate on a video ... but a loud radio (if it won't cause problems with your neighbours) might work!
I also realized its just a constant battle. ADHD brain can't get trained to lower anxiety for the next task or the task after. It just starts from scratch. That is why it is such a challenge for me at least. Its like a repeating cycle the second you forget to jump right into it.
*Is still procrastinating the day before a test even tough it's testweek*
same
I, severely, had this problem in University. Traditional studying never worked me but I would try and find the people in my class that were always ahead and interested in the class. I would leach off of their interest in the subject and then just talked to them about it. It made studying more about connecting with someone else than just studying. Little games and roundabout ways of learning have always worked better for me. You got this!
I have admission tests for colleges starting in one month! aaaaaaaaaa
I came to this video because I have 10 hours till my exam and I haven't gotten anything done yet D: but it helped a lot actually, I'll start now
Marit Damen I have exams this week, but I still haven't studied yay more f's and d's
How to know you have adhd : start watching this video go *hmm I'm bored* then scroll in the comments and type then scroll up and start watching again but immediately go find I new video
my life in a nutshell almost all of the time
yep reading the comments right now
yep...I have it.
Lol!!
Sammenememeeee *realizes that they are not listening to the video while scrolling through comments* OH WAIT IT ENDED LOL
I was wondering about ADHD. I believe I have it... have always had it? I got horrible grades in school but tested gifted. Anyway, your videos and the research I've done, explain A LOT. Liken why my house is ALWAYS chaotic, why I always take on more projects than I can EVER handle and, why I find it hard to say no to people. Thank you so much for making me feel "normal" and helping me iron out my wrinkles, so to speak.
“terrified of listening to your voicemail” Had to laugh at that one. I have 19,102 unread emails.
Voicemail and email when I'm feeling overwelmed and sensitive argggghhhhhh................... when I'm balanced and calm a breeze!
I actually read the important stuff, or at least sometimes try not to procrastinate and avoid doing it...
I just delete emails at that point. If I haven't read them yet and the world hasn't blown up there is nothing in there I really need.
Most of us do
I seriously connected with you on a spirutual level when you said you're terrified of listening to your voicemail, I don't listen to calls for fear I'm going to have to commit to a task or I forgot something haha! 😂 so glad I found your channel! I was diagnosed with ADHD inattentive and I'm trying to figure it all out! :)
Snap!
Hey I just wanted to say thank you. I've been binging your videos for the past couple days. I live in an area where people still argue whether ADHD is a real thing or not. I found myself crying during a few of your videos because I finally heard someone describing the things I go through on a regular basis as if I was saying them to someone. Knowing that there are other people out there like me is different than hearing someone talk about a similar perspective. Thank you so much!
I have noticed and love the way you edit your videos and how they cater perfectly to people with ADHD because your video clips usually dont last more than 5-6 sec at max to keep your viewers attention. Well done!
I always beat myself up for being lazy, I find it incredibly difficult to get things done early and never able to stick to a routine. However, if there is anything urgent that needs to be done, I can work really hard. It's like you said, addicted to an adrenaline rush to get things done.
It can really take a toll on your confidence when you feel like you are unable to adapt the way most other people do. I have two kids and I constantly feel like I am failing them with my inability to focus on one thing. Late or rushed lunches, unsigned memos, often times late for school, burned dinners, half made baby blankets and scarfs, missed deadlines to sign up for activities, etc. I can be a fun mom, and we can laugh at my mess ups, however, I am unable to be an example of routine and therefore setting them up to struggle through adulthood themselves.
People already judge mother's enough, it is oftentimes tough being judged for something I can't control. Working in rush mode or being unorganized.
I LITERALLY JUST NEEDED THIS
Uem Z me too
I've had ADHD since I was 6 years old (I'm 23 now) and this video was hands down one of the best I've ever seen. It's positive, helpful and very real haha. So thank you and much love! You have a new fan!
woohoo! :D Welcome, new brain!
So I was on meds in school for ADHD and I thought that maybe it was just some kind of "Put her in a bubble she is ADHD and drug her" I have been watching these videos tonight and I am having a lot of what you call "Come to Jesus moments" its like everything she is saying is my life. Like I haven't done the dishes and even though I put it on my list of 20 things that need to be done today...it like the 20 other things don't get done. Its not procrastination either its like there is to much to do so I just cant do it......I dunno.
I feel the same way, ab having many things to do and actually doing NONE of it.. I just start feeling so so bad, unmotivated, just empty and cant even think ab doing it. My body becomes rlly heavy and I’m numb. I’m not diagnosed with ADHD but I’d like to test for it bc I’m relating to many videos I’ve watched.. But anyway I have an advice, smt rlly obvious but we often forget it - don’t quit. I try telling it to myself every day. Hope that helps to anyone with the same problem :)
Just discovering this channel. I was seeking help since our son has been diagnosed w/ ADHD-C. I started trying to learn more about it since I was diagnosed 10 years ago (at the tender age of 40) but did not really do much research to understand what was happening. These videos have been invaluable, extremely helpful and very emotional as I learn why my childhood and adulthood have been so hard. My first marriage was destroyed for, among other things, us not knowing how to work with ADHD-C. Anyway, THIS video and the Dopamenu video are the first where I decided to implement the suggestions. That was yesterday. Today was the first test. Our blog to keep friends/family updated is something I enjoy but procrastinate posts to the point that many are just not relevant by the time I finish.
"Start Badly" - I did that today. Turns out the bad start was not so bad that I had to let my perfectionism take control. I started out badly on purpose and the post was completed and published within 20 minutes.
We love this channel...even though it has created an emotional mess in me for the last week. But, you have helped me already with our son. And with me...I am seeking a therapist to again explore medication AND to help deal with this flood of memories, realizations and emotions.
This channel, how it is presented, the information in it and the compassion has made me feel "supported" like a support group. I have never experienced this level of "you are not alone" from any previous support group. I don't want to be dramatic, but this channel has given me life and hope. And optimism that I have a chance to not mess up dealing with this the way my parents unknowingly did. Thank you.
So as a example of hyper focus, i’ve binge watched this videos, they’re very helpful and make me feel less alone. In one video you mentioned “not paying your bills, not because you don’t have the money, just because you’re anxiously putting it off”, then in this video that’s kinda the main focus of my procrastination is debt and financial stuff, things that require waiting on the phone, chasing down the right phone number to get things done or really just being terrified about actually paying the bills.
I have watched all of your videos multiple times, and I consume a lot of content to assist with dealing with ADHD as an adult diagnosee. You always hit the nail perfectly on the head but this video is a step above even your standards. Thank you for these tips, I'm confident they will help greatly.
Thank you so much, I worked extra hard on this one! It's a personal struggle lol
Something I've found that can really help is to never give yourself the CHANCE to procrastinate. My most successful semester was set up so I could go straight from class to a nearby room where I'd study the next day's material for a few hours. I'd get a brief break as I talked to people/etc after the class was over, to rest my brain, and then I'd go study.
Same goes for doing things you want to do. If you sit down and open up youtube it's really hard to stop(case in point, this post), but if you just open up your word document or whatever FIRST, you'll find it easiest to keep going on it. And if you need a break, don't do it on your computer! Get up and go outside or make a cup of coffee or ANYTHING that doesn't break your workflow in that particular spot! Sooner or later you'll HAVE to come back to your PC, and then you're already started and wow, it's a lot easier to slide right back into what you were doing!
You are saving me so much. I wish I'd learned these things when I was in school. College was so tough. Now work and adult life is a challenge, but I'm growing a lot this year, in part due to what you're teaching me. THANK YOU JESSICA
Oh, wow, I wish this video existed when I was still in school. I don't even have adhd, but you perfectly described how I feel about being anxious about just having something to do...I never realized that that was the case, but now that you mention it.... I still think this is super helpful as I try to make my way through adulting, though...I'm constantly procrastinating paying bills, buying groceries, cleaning my apartment, etc... Thanks for the tips!
when you get distracted while watching her video so you have to watch it twice over XD
Hahah us ADHDers
I got diagnosed this week with ADHD at 21 years old so I'm watching videos and doing more research and I have to say I have never related more to a video oh my god it's kind of amazing to see some of my struggles so clearly explained when I had such a hard time thinking "why am I like this?" and getting so frustrated with myself because I didn't understand why I did things that made me feel worse and not 'just' being able to do it. Also interestingly I have learned a lot of the tips over time before I was diagnosed and it has been helpful, but to be able to specifically name it and find solutions has been really nice
You're describing the IDENTICAL the work cycle I've had since second grade. And also coping tactic you describe helps me immensely (thank you thank you thank you thank you psychologist...I want to give this woman free legal work for life.
My anxiety literally spikes whenever I get new mails on my work email.
I was diagnosed with ADHD seven years ago, and it was only when I discovered your channel in the last few months that I've realized that nearly every mental struggle I've had in my life has been related to my ADHD. It doesn't help that I was labeled as gifted in my school system about the same year (being labeled as gifted in school can be harmful to anyone, but especially to ADHD brains). I spent seven years thinking my problems with things like procrastination were because I was defective. Finding your channel was like a miracle. You've helped me so much, Jessica. This is why I want to go into the field of children's therapy: as a kid, I despised therapy. I now know that I am a very introverted person, and that I may even have social anxiety. I didn't know how to express that, though, and due to my anger management issues, I would end up screaming and having meltdowns, which only reinforced the need for therapy in the eyes of the adults in my life (I was going for anger management).
So, do you take medication that helps? I'm trying to help someone I love get a diagnosis. He has a plan to do something, the next day, he waits until the last minute to do it and then beats himself up for not starting earlier in the day. He gets really frustrated in traffic when he is anxious.
It's just unreal how much this women speaks my life into these videos . I would say one of the hardest issues for adhders is anyone in their life that doesn't have it understanding or even wanting to understand anything about the condition . I'm 32 I turn 33 in a couple months and I have learned more from watching these videos or I guess I would say I have gotten so many confirmations about everything I though about adhd from 32 years experience with it . Absolutely no one in my life even the people I know that have it ,have the knowledge they should have about this topic , they are so oblivious to how truly debilitating it can be and how many ways it can effect your life . I wish I could just force the knowledge into my loved ones heads so they could slightly understand what it's like being inside my head .
I got too anxious after the video ends because now I could not procrastinate anymore. Thankfully there is a comment section and replies to comments by procrastinating people. ADHD community is so supportive, we always look after each other. ❤❤
The trick I have found to never be later is instead of setting the time for myself to leave the home, setting myself an alarm to when I need to start getting prepared to leave (usually 15 minutes before the time I think I would need to leave at!) Which brings me to fool myself into urgency of leaving while I still have time to prepare, maybe put on makeup or make myself some tea for the road XD Well, hope that helps somebody else!
Ooh! I have done this with clocks in the house. I used to set all of my clocks fast, but like at random amounts of time like seven or twelve minutes fast, no orderly five or ten minutes. And all clocks were set differently so I never actually knew what time it was. That way when I looked at a clock I'd get stressed which would motivate me to hurry and actually leave. My husband eventually ended this practice, because it is kind of insane and annoying for the people who have to live with me, but it did actually work. For a good long while I was never late.
Now I am late all the time because all of the clocks in the house read the correct time : ( , except in my car where the time is still fast by who knows how much, because my car is my kingdom and my husband's correct time has no power here.
Been wanting to do a very important task since last week and I end up procrastinating it every morning. Anxiety with ADHD is no joke
4 years later and this is still helpful and will be helpful for millions of brains out there. Thank you!
The information in this channel really hit the spot for me. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 7, and my mom didn't want to "drugged" me. Therefore I've been struggling with almost everything in life specially at work. I feel like I can't get up to speed with my current job, and I often feel inferior due to a lack of skill learning. I just booked an appt to get myself evaluated at 25, hoping to get some focus and stop being a mess.
She reminds me of a main character on a Disney channel show
Joe Richards yes she has cute face and voice
Most relatable video ever! This is everyday for me. 😭 The book Driven to Distraction is excellent - a very worthwhile read.
Thank you for making these videos!!!
I usually have to take a day in between watching your videos, even though they're like 5 minutes they have had such an impact on my life. I feel like a spotlight gets shined on a specific memory or incident in my life. Thank you for everything you do 🥊
I needed all this, your TED talk, journal video, all of it.
sometimes I start and I try really I do and let me tell you all I have to do is study but my brain is like : nope I won't concentrate right now
and other times most of the time actually I don't even feel like doing it even after I start
I started counseling because I was tired of this constant cycle of utilizing anxiety and stress to get things accomplished. I didn’t want to live my life this way, and I’ve learned that stress and lack of stress is not a binary situation, it’s okay for there to be shades of gray in this subject. I’m so grateful I’m taking the steps necessary now to be productive. For my sake and for what I want to achieve.
“And can actually sleep the night before its due” that hits hard. Always the last minute im finishing stuff, crying cuz i dint have the time and i cant ever just let it go and do it later after that point i HAVE TO PERFECT IT and i end up never sleeping
I've never felt more offended by something I 100% agree lol. You described everything, we fear the outcome wont be good enough so we get anxiety to do it, and then it snowballs into us trying to forget it exists. Tricky little thing this ADHD
Love your channel. I spent many years thinking I was defective and not liking myself. Some days I still do. You help to normalize ADHD and provide lots of ways to cope. Unfortunately, right now I am using your channel to procrastinate.🙃
YEEES the encouragement I needed at the right time to get started on that stupid cover later!
Thank you
Your sense of humor is making me fall in love with you.
Thank you! You just won another subscriber. The fact, that every single logical part is separated by a cut makes your video much easier to focus on, especially for a person with ADHD
Literally everything she said about not wanting to do a task was just so on point correct. My grades have been so heavily impacted by my ADHD and its making my parents get sad.
I feel like I could bite nails with the amount of anxiety I'm feeling right now because of the procrastination I'm doing... Also right now. This vid is helping though, thanks :)
Thank you for everything. A lot of the Videos you post explain something most of us have felt completely alone with for a long time, every time I watch one I feel a little easier knowing there's more people going thru it. Thanks again
😭 Got me again...
I'm 48 and I found out I might have ADHD 2 days ago, watching your channel, I'm now convinced of it. No wonder my life has been so miserable for so long!
bless you john, hope you're doing better since diagnosis?
@@lanaandthewhale I had my official diagnosis interview last week... But the doctor now wants to do a joint ADHD/ASD diagnosis!
All this sounds like a lot of work...
i know i feel that too, but we gotta start somewhere
EDKsurly what's wrong with work? work has wonderful rewards and isn't always terrible. in fact with an attitude adjustment, most work can be bearable if not engaging and even enjoyable.
Just do as she says break it down int small bite size manageable pieces and take your time. Weather it be fast or slow or take some of the advice and forget the rest. Its important to remember that adhd is on a spectrum so there is no one size fits all solution. So don't be afraid to create your own.
If you see it as work.. it will be work
saving this to my watch later playlist.
Thank you for speaking at a pace that works for me, so I can type and retain at the same time
Timestamps:
1:54 - 1st step
1:58 - 2nd step
2:09 - 3rd step
2:20 - 4th step
2:29 - 5th step
2:58 - 6th step
3:06 - tips
This video inspired me to stop freaking out and check my voicemail for the first time in almost 3 months. So thank you!
Thank you so much for your videos! They truly give hope and make me feel like I am not alone in struggling with this. I’m sure I’m not the only one, but I have had ‘Driven to Distraction’ sitting on my bookshelf for well over a decade and barely made it past the first chapter. (As I write, I think now it may be easier to get through on Audible - may have to try that) Anyways, thank you so much for your videos - I have on more than one occasion had tears brought to my eyes during your videos because it is so reassuring hearing you talk about and normalizing things I have been dealing with forever, and helping me understand why.
I’ve just been diagnosed with adhd at 34. Your channel actually inspired me to get checked since i relate so much to your content. I’ve been struggling a lot with motivation and not being able to follow through with the million things that i want to do. I just wanna thank you for your valuable content and how it’s making me understand myself more and not feeling too bad that i’m struggling because i now understand why. Taking meds, along with finding out how to navigate through my neurodivergence has given me hope that things will actually improve for me.
I'll try using these tipps next time I have something that needs to be done on time. If I remember it. If I dont freak out before its too late anyway. Sigh..
PS: I feel so happy, whenever I see, there is a new video. You're perfect for that. Your voice is so nice to listen to, you're so nice to look at and the background music is so nice as well. Uhm. I should stop now, because I ran out of different words to describe things that are nice. Shit. Again. Okay, bye.
I took two hours to outline the steps and was too tired to even start...
Your videos and just your RUclips channel as a whole are so helpful, whether they actually help me overcome any of the challenges that come with ADHD at the very least they make me feel better about myself just being reminded that other people have the same struggles
Realized a couple of weeks ago that I (probably) have ADHD, and I'm so grateful for videos like this. They're helping me review my life and spot all the crutches I've developed for managing the condition. I'm absolutely a last minute adrenaline junkie, and figuring out how to build a better coping system is SO HARD. I am so, so grateful for all the work you've done and continue to do on this channel. Thank you.
Oh my god, I can relate on absolutely everything, even the voicemail thing!
If I've never mentioned it before let me mention it now; I love you.
This was me in grade school and high school. I ALWAYS waited until the last minute to get started on a project, and I never felt the need to really study for a test. The worst part about it is that I NEVER got anything lower than an A on those projects (and usually never a thing worse than a B on tests), so I never really had to deal with the negative consequences of procrastination other than the stress, and so I just kept on doing the same old song and dance.
My first semester in college kicked my ass and made me realize that I actually had to learn better habits. I'm slowly getting better at starting projects further in advance, and breaking them up into smaller tasks really helped.
These are the only strategies that have ever helped me work around my issues with task-related fears and task-completion. Thank you so, so much.
I used to battle my thoughts before jumping into a task. Now I just jump into it with both feet which I find myself in the middle of whatever I'm trying to accomplish. That works. No time for thoughts if you just do it.
I'm glad you wrote this. Thanks.
I'm so happy I found your channel!!!!!
I have spent over 12 hours agonizing about a 4 second voicemail.
I finally got there. It was fine.
Im 20, from Brazil and I was just diagnosed with adhd. Thank you so much for all the knowledge you're share, I was pretty much lost before I found your tedtalk. You rock!!! Keep going, you shine!
Please talk about: How to do simple things without being told. I need help with this, and I know part of it has to do with my ADHD
I like to do my studying/homework sitting in my parked car. Never realized working in unusual places was an ADHD thing. :)
I honestly spent my whole life feeling like there was something wrong with me because I couldn't get anything done when everyone else around me didn't struggle in the same way. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive type) and your videos are soo relatable! I feel so understood 🥺🥺
You are amazing. This is exactly how I feel and I've never heard it put so succinctly. I work from my car, at the park, on a swinging hammock chair, at an outside desk, in an Italian restaurant - but never at my desk which I bought just for work :). Anxiety as motivation is absolutely what I use to get things done and I didn't think I could use anything else besides stress as a motivator. I will try the method of starting a bit earlier. Chunking up the tasks doesn't seem to work for me - since it's not the actual task but starting the task that seems to be the problem. Love the idea of writing gibberish as I'm trying to write a novel on the side and that's not happening. Love your channel. You speak my thoughts. Thank you.
Yay for neuroplasticity!
I love your videos, they are very helpful to help me deal with my adult add. I just wish you would speak slowly🙈🙈 I have to watch each video like 3 times to understand. thank you though, keep posting!!!
Wendy Rodriguez You cant slow down the speed of the video in its settings
Just realized that your video editing is genius! Having you jump around the screen is so useful for concentration
I'm 50 yrs old DX at about 30 and you have helped me explain sooo many things that I've been " getting in trouble for my entire life" thank u.
Can u plz make a vid on how to tell someone u think u have adhd
Cuz if I just told someone they would think I'm just making an exuse for getting distracted or lazyness
Talk to a guidance counselor, disability officer, and/or your parents about getting tested. Be persistent and they will eventually give in. It took me 19 years to get diagnosed and I wish I had gotten it sooner so I would have had time to develop strategies to combat it. The earlier you can get diagnosed the better.
If you need help coming up with what to say/how to say it let me know and I'm more than happy to help with that. Stay strong and have a great day!
+bulldoggamer thx! U2!☺️😋 but ya can u plz tell me a way to tell them cuz ya know I don't want them to think I'm making exuses
No matter what you say there is a chance it will sound like a bunch of excuses. But i would say something along the lines of: (person you are addressing) i've been struggling as of late with paying attention, getting work done, ect. I suspect i may have ADHD and i would like to get tested so if it is the case i can develop the tools i need in order to succeed. I know you may not like the idea but getting tested will be beneficial in the long run and would really help put my mind at ease.
"Actually sleep the night before it's due" :'-) Maybe one day.
Watching this video again five years later, this advice is again incredibly helpful! I've creeped back into those old procrastination/anxiety habits and it's good to remind myself that there are words for it, and steps I can take to improve the issue.
Watching your videos always helps me to get into a better, more motivated mood and actually help myself get over my walls of awful and start something (usually studying for my certification exam), no matter the topic. thank you queen you're the best :)
Love it. Can i have some exemples of rewards for starting a task?
One day I was feeling gross and really needed a bath, so I said to myself that I would only take a bath after I was done with my work. I finished a day of tasks in 3 hours. hahahahahahaha I do these kind of things..
I love watching (and re-watching) Glee and Star Trek and rehearsing for whatever show I'm in. During the school year, I'm given a lot of homework. #collegelife So, after I get one subject done I will reward myself either with 1 episode of Glee/Star Trek or 30 mins of self rehearsal time! ;)
Hope that helped!
+Leba Groppo that is funny. thanks
+Hannah Rose i like to play the sims, maybe that could be my reward. thanks
+ClassicGlamDoll Whatever works for you!!! You are welcome!!!
this is the reason I am 32 years old and don't drive! No one understands that I can't overcome it!
This is for me the single most personally relevant and useful piece of content I’ve ever watched. This is all me. All of it. Jeez!
I love your videos! Thank you for all this amazing info. I’m not sure that I have or don’t have ADHD but I have forms of what you speak of in every video. I love knowing that you’ve created a safe place to listen in and relate to what I’ve been dealing with all my life. Thanks again!!!😊❤️