I love what Ester teaches. So many couples get lazy in their relationships and then wonder why there is no spark or fun there. If you didn't engage each other with playfulness and passion when you were dating, you would have never gotten married. Want more connection in your marriage? Then work to engage each other like you did when you were dating. Have your own interests. Figure out what excites you in life. Fully engage in life and that will help ignite your relationship in a new way.
I had been searching for the answers to some questions. Esther Perel has either provided me with those answers or the questions I need to ask myself and my partner. Thank you Esther.
I naturally get immensely bored with routine in regards to workout, recipes, work, etc. Sex is an important aspect of life in my opinion and i can’t wait to have a partner who shares this sense of playfulness and creativity :)
you are a very talented smart Motivational Speaker . you are a very intelligent and Thought provoking woman in your deep thoughts and deep understanding . Best Regards
"You see them [our partner] at a distance." I love this observation Esther has made after traveling to so many countries and talking to so many couples. And this question: Tell me how you were loved and I'll tell you how you love. Mic drop!
I was raised the same way; unfortunately, I chose to marry someone who perpetuated that life, it wasn't safe to be playful and I never learned how until I finally left him and met my current husband. I was 40. Better late than never!
I still don't know what it is and I'm 31. the problem is when you didn't feel safe in your childhood, how can you ever feel safe to explore life when you're a young adult?
@@angelalopez7704 I am 40 and I keep it positive after being in abusive and selfish relationship. I had learned and prefer to stay single until that special person comes to my life.
@@8scatterbrain8 watch motivational video, get therapy, you deserve to be happy. push yourself to be surrounded by caring people, and be positive so you attract good vibes.
"The true voyage of discovery isn't just about looking for new landscapes but looking with new eyes" - Marcel Proust. Esther Perel is the queen of erotic intelligence.
I would have answered I'm more drawn if the partner seems receptive, have a positive attitude towards me, playful...so when she said that most people answered "when they see their partner talking to other people, how other look at and getting slightly jealous", I was like wuuuut? This sounds more like a turn off
I remember when I was married and I’d be working and she would say,”if you want sum you better hurry up before I go to sleep!” I always felt so rushed. And once I’m there it was hurry up!😆 No romance at all. Divorce!
@Guardian Angel I asked it to ESME but surprisingly I encountered to you.This is a nice surprise.:) And I wanna add that Bosnian and balcanic persons are so smooth and cool.hello :)
It is always good to understand the basis for a problem, in order to overcome it. The problem that brings us here is well represented, and I am thrilled with Esther's explanation, but I am still interested in some practical examples that can be followed to achieve the resumption of erotic desire. How do I go about reawakening the erotic? Are there any instructions, other than texting, to help get the passions in a 34 year marriage flowing? Maybe I missed them?
Coming from a 28 year old in an amazing 4 year relationship with someone. Talk, talk, talk. Research things. Exploring and discovering new things (sexual) is so amazing. I am blessed to be able to be completely honest with my husband. I know there is nothing I can say that he will respond with anything negitave. and vise versa. He had one initial preference and it led to others. Which led to, what else is out there that we don't know or understand. what do other people do. So we simply started googling.. fetishes.. some are really weird and not for us and some are normal. we discuss them, maybe try and ask after how it made each other feel. and eventually your brain starts creating your own ideas. #1 open, honest discussion.. and it's not just sex.. it becomes life
Tom Colby She does say a lot of instructions, try listening again, please? There a lot of questions and doings you can onky answer. There is no universal ... Every person has their own answers! :-)
this makes sense. i've always been super picky because i like to have my potential partner have a "persona" so to speak. i love my beau, he makes me laugh. :D
+literatious If you have a mouse with left-click capabilities, then you my friend, do not have to do anything. If you're too lazy to skip forward then you are doomed
If youve been with the same partner X years and the sex is boring DONT BE MONOGAMOUS geez. Its a stupid repressive culture based on selfishness, control and insecurity.
I don't believe in cheating or hurting peoples feelings. I don't believe in blind sex with anyone. I don't think we need to reserve our intimacy for just one person though.
I like her, and her ideas. But where the rubber meets the road, this will fall flat in most cases. Women, for whatever reason, who don't want to have real passion in the relationship, simply won't do it. There's no leverage in today's society that will make them change. And the man will be left with his hopes in his hands. Waste of life.
I love what Ester teaches. So many couples get lazy in their relationships and then wonder why there is no spark or fun there. If you didn't engage each other with playfulness and passion when you were dating, you would have never gotten married. Want more connection in your marriage? Then work to engage each other like you did when you were dating. Have your own interests. Figure out what excites you in life. Fully engage in life and that will help ignite your relationship in a new way.
i like girls that want to have fun, to hell with boring people! XD
the kamasutra is a good book
Every single word she says is pure gold, thank you so much for this ❤❤❤
1:21 starts
I wanted to like but I think 69 likes is appropriate
I had been searching for the answers to some questions. Esther Perel has either provided me with those answers or the questions I need to ask myself and my partner. Thank you Esther.
It's all about play, non-violent communication and presence. yes
I naturally get immensely bored with routine in regards to workout, recipes, work, etc. Sex is an important aspect of life in my opinion and i can’t wait to have a partner who shares this sense of playfulness and creativity :)
wouldnt it be fun to get tied up and licked? lol
you are a very talented smart Motivational Speaker . you are a very intelligent and Thought provoking woman in your deep thoughts and deep understanding . Best Regards
"You see them [our partner] at a distance." I love this observation Esther has made after traveling to so many countries and talking to so many couples. And this question: Tell me how you were loved and I'll tell you how you love. Mic drop!
I don't have questions anymore
You answered it all
Repeat now the big issue
To change my anxieties deeply
I wasn't loved at home. I was controlled and ignored alternatively. I didn't know what love was like until I was in my late 20s.
I was raised the same way; unfortunately, I chose to marry someone who perpetuated that life, it wasn't safe to be playful and I never learned how until I finally left him and met my current husband. I was 40. Better late than never!
It'll be never for me, but at least I understand why.
I still don't know what it is and I'm 31. the problem is when you didn't feel safe in your childhood, how can you ever feel safe to explore life when you're a young adult?
@@angelalopez7704 I am 40 and I keep it positive after being in abusive and selfish relationship. I had learned and prefer to stay single until that special person comes to my life.
@@8scatterbrain8 watch motivational video, get therapy, you deserve to be happy. push yourself to be surrounded by caring people, and be positive so you attract good vibes.
When do you feel most drawn to your partner? (Where both edge and comfort meet)
"The true voyage of discovery isn't just about looking for new landscapes but looking with new eyes" - Marcel Proust. Esther Perel is the queen of erotic intelligence.
I would have answered I'm more drawn if the partner seems receptive, have a positive attitude towards me, playful...so when she said that most people answered "when they see their partner talking to other people, how other look at and getting slightly jealous", I was like wuuuut? This sounds more like a turn off
pure bliss of knowledge !
I really like your videos :-) They are so valuable! 🥰
I remember when I was married and I’d be working and she would say,”if you want sum you better hurry up before I go to sleep!” I always felt so rushed. And once I’m there it was hurry up!😆 No romance at all. Divorce!
I'm single but still watching this
are you turkish?
@Guardian Angel I asked it to ESME but surprisingly I encountered to you.This is a nice surprise.:) And I wanna add that Bosnian and balcanic persons are so smooth and cool.hello :)
@Guardian Angel I don't understad.Can you explain it in details?
@Guardian Angel but this is not about our discussion.:) Is it?
@Guardian Angel hey.I just use this nickname because I like it and we are talking on this in vain.please stop :)
she's best when she's not reading lines
Thank U Esther! I really learn and feel a lot through your videos
What a Fine Woman. Bravo.
This makes
Complete sense
It is always good to understand the basis for a problem, in order to overcome it. The problem that brings us here is well represented, and I am thrilled with Esther's explanation, but I am still interested in some practical examples that can be followed to achieve the resumption of erotic desire. How do I go about reawakening the erotic? Are there any instructions, other than texting, to help get the passions in a 34 year marriage flowing? Maybe I missed them?
Coming from a 28 year old in an amazing 4 year relationship with someone.
Talk, talk, talk. Research things. Exploring and discovering new things (sexual) is so amazing. I am blessed to be able to be completely honest with my husband. I know there is nothing I can say that he will respond with anything negitave. and vise versa. He had one initial preference and it led to others. Which led to, what else is out there that we don't know or understand. what do other people do. So we simply started googling.. fetishes.. some are really weird and not for us and some are normal. we discuss them, maybe try and ask after how it made each other feel. and eventually your brain starts creating your own ideas. #1 open, honest discussion.. and it's not just sex.. it becomes life
I hear ya! I wonder what's happened in a year since you posted.
Tom Colby She does say a lot of instructions, try listening again, please? There a lot of questions and doings you can onky answer. There is no universal ... Every person has their own answers! :-)
damn that intro was long
You are able to fast forward, are you not?
So well put and understable.
Does having a sexy accent help at all?
My lover’s accent is beautiful!
Amazing and surprising insights
So good thank you esther great information
Fantastic!
How boring to study love it takes all the magic out of it
I need your help with my marriage. How can I contact you
this has helped me alot thanks :)
Excellent. And Belgian :)
she also has Polish roots!
phoenix rising cd
16:29 erotic blocks
Great stuff!
So good.
Wonderful
amazing
17:45 If predictability kills the erotic, how do you explain a BDSM scene?
Pleasure comes before sex
this makes sense.
i've always been super picky because i like to have my potential partner have a "persona" so to speak. i love my beau, he makes me laugh. :D
Why do I have to watch 2 minutes of logo wirh crap music?
+literatious If you have a mouse with left-click capabilities, then you my friend, do not have to do anything. If you're too lazy to skip forward then you are doomed
LOL! Bravo comment!
Thank you pal! I didnt have to do it! :)
Yep
she has a point, for like guys tease us, it could simple things like send a pic of your best victoria secret doesnt even have to be on.
that would take me no time at all!
I love you
i love tits
EXCELENT
Must learn erotic intelligence 🤘🏻🤘🏻
You're an excellent speaker but everything you say doesn't seem to apply to me.
What are the reasons behind why mean are dominant in bed
i like boobs, lets talk lol
Probably fun to watch with someone
Hi love you god why can’t my wife see what you srr
wya
If youve been with the same partner X years and the sex is boring DONT BE MONOGAMOUS geez. Its a stupid repressive culture based on selfishness, control and insecurity.
yourtub don’t fe.k around, be straight, break up, then do the next relationship better. Idc if this is not popular, it’s real.
I don't believe in cheating or hurting peoples feelings. I don't believe in blind sex with anyone. I don't think we need to reserve our intimacy for just one person though.
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Sex Sells, right Esther?
I like her, and her ideas. But where the rubber meets the road, this will fall flat in most cases. Women, for whatever reason, who don't want to have real passion in the relationship, simply won't do it. There's no leverage in today's society that will make them change. And the man will be left with his hopes in his hands.
Waste of life.
KeyLimeLemon4U nevermind
KeyLimeLemon4U I'm a woman I do want spark....feel More like the guy I'm with is too lazy to do anything
Women have a higher sex drive and desire that men
Interesting, in my life's scope, the opposite has been true.
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