These 4 Words May Be Upsetting To You

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  • Опубликовано: 11 июн 2024
  • In this video we're talking all things trigger words. Words that perhaps may make you emotionally triggered, or emotional triggers rather. Let's be real, we can all get triggered from time to time. Perhaps our boss calls us sensitive, or a friend calls us needy or says we demand too much attention. Any of these things can easily trigger us. But the reality is, these things are often times needed as a human being! In this video I'm talking you through 4 common emotional trigger words, and also why we need them. Any other words trigger you? Or any other triggers that I missed? Support the community and drop them in the comments. Remember we are never alone.
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Комментарии • 122

  • @SusieQ78
    @SusieQ78 2 года назад +28

    I have a few…1)”you are over thinking it all“ . 2) “what were you thinking!”

    • @KittyKatt_Luna80s
      @KittyKatt_Luna80s 2 года назад +2

      Here was mine - "It's not Rocket Science". My ex used to use that phrase whenever I was struggling to keep up with him - I was forced to do whatever HE wanted to do ALL the time. The phrase was used to insult my intelligence. 😞 He made me out to be stupid.

  • @toni2309
    @toni2309 2 года назад +55

    For me personally, a lot of the "overreacting" and "being sensitive" was emotional dysregulation from ADHD and sensory processing disorder. By others, these things seemed to be things I should just not have, or be able to control.

    • @TheSarahmns
      @TheSarahmns 2 года назад +3

      me too. rejection sensitivite dysphoria also gets the worst out of me.

    • @lv9265
      @lv9265 2 года назад +4

      Living with executive dysfunction is exhausting and has often been the reason for my meltdowns. It's hard to live when you have to force yourself to complete the easiest task and when your focus, working memory and dopamine get depleted so fast compared to what is "normal" and "expected".

    • @alicewonder6500
      @alicewonder6500 2 года назад +1

      Totally 💗 I’m a HSP empath as well and our nervous systems are dysregulated as HSPs 🤙🏼

  • @ChantelleF
    @ChantelleF 2 года назад +28

    My son does not like to be called weird. He prefers the word different. He's a highly sensitive person like me and I love that about him.

    • @stoneyvowell1239
      @stoneyvowell1239 Год назад +3

      I learned to embrace the word "weird". I used to not like it much, now I consider it a compliment.

  • @madelinehonness8978
    @madelinehonness8978 2 года назад +8

    When I overreact I’m reacting to othe things that I’ve kept my mouth shut when I should have reacted .

    • @jane-cn6nd
      @jane-cn6nd 2 года назад

      I understand that. I try not to bring other feelings into the current situation 🤍

  • @kimberlytooma9145
    @kimberlytooma9145 2 года назад +16

    “You need to try harder” is one for me…I am only 41 and have been super healthy my whole life until about 3 years ago. I’ve always been the one to take care of my husband, and two severely disabled, medically fragile, total care kids that both require 24 hour nursing (that’s always been me). Well, after 18 years of doing all that by myself…the lifting wheelchairs, medical equipment, the boys, therapies, cooking, cleaning, literally every little thing for all three of them (even cutting my husbands food into bite sized pieces for him😳). About three years ago my body just started to hurt, everywhere especially my spine. I’ve gone to specialist in all different areas. The short of it, I had to have a total thyroidectomy, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and I needed to have cervical spine surgery bc of severe spinal stenosis, spinal cord compression and three completely crushed discs🤯 the cervical spine surgery became an emergency when I woke up one morning and could not lift my legs to walk. I’m 4 months post op and bc my husband thought I’d be back to the way I used to be after about 8 weeks (the surgeon said minimum of one year and I will not be able to go back to the way I was doing things before) I now “need to try harder” bc he’d like to have his life back the way it was and him “doing all this isn’t his deal, he goes to work and makes money, that’s his deal and I do all this” talking about take care of our oldest son (we lost our youngest right before Christmas 2018) and the indoor stuff. Uuuuuuuggghhhhh 😤 makes me crazy!

    • @larag1764
      @larag1764 2 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry others are dumping their sh!t on you. That's not fair. I was diagnosed with ME/CFS in 2014 after months of barely doing more than moving from bed to couch and back. You need time to grieve for a long list of losses. Take care xx

  • @toni2309
    @toni2309 2 года назад +23

    Thank you so much for saying this. I find that people will sometimes shame others for having needs and emotions. I hate it. I often get the "you have a problem, you need help" but like... in a way that is basically saying "you are reacting wrong" and not in a way that means you should be listening to your feelings and understand your needs. Apparently others see my needs as wrong, my reactions and emotions as wrong and think I need a therapist "to become normal" or something.

  • @julias3968
    @julias3968 2 года назад +31

    Thank you for sharing this! I've had some of the same trigger words and would like to add "lazy" as another one. I found out I have ADHD in 3rd grade and before getting diagnosed I often heard "why are you so lazy" and other variants. It's not that I don't want to do somethings or don't care, it's that I have executive functioning challenges preventing me from getting started without help. I know more about ADHD now and how to help myself get "unstuck" when I need it but still have to remind myself "I'm not lazy" often.
    Edit to add: Another one I saw in the comments is "try harder" which I also heard. A different version of it I heard was "You're not trying"/"you're not trying hard enough". Because of my ADHD I have to try twice as hard just to keep up with neurotypical people. Also just because someone isn't succeeding doesn't mean they aren't trying.

    • @roshanrahealer
      @roshanrahealer 2 года назад +3

      Instead of, "lazy," you're resting from the overactive mind that sucks away your fuel. :) I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until last year, after I turned 37. I hated, "lazy," and, "stupid," so much, I started to obsess about learning. It doesn't hurt that I'm naturally curious. What people don't realize is a passionate attention on something can help ADHD people excel later in life if they acknowledge their needs. Overwork only burns us out.

    • @siennaprice1351
      @siennaprice1351 2 года назад +7

      Another trigger word people shouldn’t use about people like that, especially those with physical disabilities, is stupid. I’m totally blind, and I have CPTSD and I’m on the autism spectrum. And it’s not right to call people like us stupid.

  • @BroonParker
    @BroonParker 2 года назад +2

    Consider the opposite of these four areas. A lack of attention to your world and an insensitivity to others? Not reacting or relating to people's genuine needs, including your own? Failing to feel anger when anger is necessary to protect oneself or make necessary change? When the world around you wants to drive you back into yourself, that's when something's really wrong.
    Great little video, Kati. Really useful to me at least.

    • @_maia_m
      @_maia_m 2 года назад

      I love this perspective! It helps to put it upside down, and see it from another angle!

  • @tiffanyspins9250
    @tiffanyspins9250 2 года назад +12

    Love this video! 💜 I do have a trigger word that I'd add and that word is 'lazy.' I suffer from major depressive disorder and the amount of times I've felt judged for being lazy is astronomical.

    • @nikkimckay860
      @nikkimckay860 2 года назад

      Tiffany spins .I so can understand and relate to this comment because I have depression too and I get called lazy /unmotivated and unsociable and unhelpful

  • @danielroy8232
    @danielroy8232 2 года назад +2

    OMG I AM SO TRIGGERED RIGHT NOW

  • @maliollyoxenfree1820
    @maliollyoxenfree1820 2 года назад +1

    I love this video. I found you on "Where my moms at?". I love how the RUclips rabbit hole brings me to places I need to be in life. From Joe Rogan to "WMMA?" to your channel. Now I listen to your podcast and watch your videos🥰 You are such a big help.

  • @janetslater129
    @janetslater129 2 года назад +9

    "Resiliant" Yes, I know Kati, you have explained this many times and the use of bridge statements and whatnot. However, that has become a word that has really irritated to me since my trauma. It's because it sounds so positive for a situation that had me so damn scared, and the mental hell I was put through afterwards, resulting in PTSD. I don't see myself as being resiliant. I was doing what I had to do to try and save my dad, and to get through the mental hell I was put through afterwards. I really wish that there was a better word for one being able to come back after a trauma.

    • @lv9265
      @lv9265 2 года назад +1

      I agree with you, it sounds almost celebratory. I don't wanna be told that I should celebrate that I survived. I don't want praise for going through something like this, something that nobody should have to go through.

    • @Jo-whoknowshowmany
      @Jo-whoknowshowmany 2 года назад

      Strong or courageous maybe?

    • @janetslater129
      @janetslater129 2 года назад

      @@Jo-whoknowshowmany Not for me. To me, there was nothing strong or courageous about my trauma. I just did it.

  • @WRP03608
    @WRP03608 2 года назад +7

    Great advice. The Police Song "Don't Stand So Close To Me" comes to mind when you speak about the small of your back.

  • @siennaprice1351
    @siennaprice1351 2 года назад +1

    Not only do I have CPTSD and autism, but I’m totally blind. I’ve heard people tell me that I’m just saying that I’m blind for attention, and that I’m not blind. But I really am blind, I’m just using an accessible feature on my phone to help me type and stuff because I’m blind. I’ve also heard people saying that I was overreacting. I’ve been told that I was sensitive, which this one makes me mad to the point where if I find myself reacting emotionally to certain situations, I get mad at myself for it, and I pressure myself to hide it. People have even been mad at me for not truly communicating how I feel.

  • @epiclexi1234
    @epiclexi1234 2 года назад +5

    hey Kati! thanks again for another great video with lots of information. I'm a psychologist with BPD and for as long as I can remember I have been watching you on RUclips and you've always been an immense source of motivation and inspiration for me. when I was first diagnosed, watching your videos on BPD really helped me navigate such a difficult situation. I've always wanted to make videos to be the "Kati" for other people, awareness is so important. its shocking to most people to learn this stuff, that's why we hear so many people say "my life changed when I started therapy". I understand in a lot of countries mental health treatment is expensive, so your videos are even more important to that population. all this to say, thank you Kati!!! keep doing what you're doing!!! 🥰

  • @tiller6750
    @tiller6750 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for making this video, Kati. Your comments around Anger were so enlightening to me. I had never really thought about "Anger arrives second," but it does! Whenever I get angry, that anger is always covering for something else. I am going to be thinking about this idea well into the future.

    • @larag1764
      @larag1764 2 года назад

      I recently read Brene Brown's newest book 'Atlas of the heart' and she describes it SOOOO well !

  • @gjop-xm2xe
    @gjop-xm2xe 2 года назад

    Why the heck would anyone come up from behind and put there hands on you and think it’s ok .this is a great video

  • @kaitoshion6982
    @kaitoshion6982 2 года назад +1

    I’ve heard you describe the typical reactions to these descriptions, then describe these words as boons, benefits, superpowers. I understand that these words have negative connotations. We can embrace them as helpful things, but that doesn’t change the negative effects they can produce anyway. Long story short: it’s good if we find methods to use these as boons, but it may be maladaptive to glorify them too much.

  • @PaigeSquared
    @PaigeSquared Год назад

    Subscribed, thanks for speaking in layman's terms!
    When I started trying to heal, I was eager to learn how to face my anger in a *healthy way,* other than stuffing it, but the question never seemed to be directly answered. I finally get it!! The way to approach our own anger is to give it attention (but not fuel), to identify the primary feeling; it's the primary feeling that *really* needs worked through. I think the primary is often shame, or fear.
    Anger feels like its own thing entirely, perhaps because of the energy. I have problems feeling "justified anger," and usually it turns inwards.
    Of course, I can see this easily in others and not myself.

  • @user-yp6ho5or3t
    @user-yp6ho5or3t 2 года назад +4

    For me it was my employer constantly mentioning how "fragile" I was. This as I was struggling with PTSD. It just made things worse.

  • @DrThereseMascardo
    @DrThereseMascardo 2 года назад +3

    Oooh I love the insight you shared about attention! Why is it such a bad thing? Attention is something we are wired to need.

  • @lancesalmon4000
    @lancesalmon4000 2 года назад

    Trigger words always trigger many things in people,,,like people who were abused as children usually have slot of trigger words,trigger smells,trigger touch,trigger sensations.. excellent subject,thank you kati.

  • @isobeltotten4402
    @isobeltotten4402 2 года назад +1

    getting angry in situations where it is called for is very difficult for me because I learned to always blame myself for conflicts to make it feel more under control...now when i express anger i find people automatically try to make me less angry, thinking that like a lot of people i have trouble controlling my anger, when i actually experience it as a positive emotion compared with the shame i always used to feel in situations where i was being treated badly.

  • @jane-cn6nd
    @jane-cn6nd 2 года назад +21

    Thank you for explaining anger as a second emotion. It helps to understand where the anger is coming from and how to explore why we feel it 🤍

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  2 года назад +4

      You're welcome, thanks for watching!

    • @nikkimckay860
      @nikkimckay860 2 года назад +1

      Jane. I can understand and relate because I sometimes struggle with my anger I get angry easily sometimes with someone or something

  • @staceyruwoldt9158
    @staceyruwoldt9158 2 года назад +1

    'Baby' and 'Sook' are my trigger words 💕 Cause when I was little as young as 7 year old and still learning about myself and, my emotions I had befriended someone then who I didn't know was so nasty and....
    ..could change like the wind

  • @Jo-whoknowshowmany
    @Jo-whoknowshowmany 2 года назад +2

    Kati, I can't believe your teacher said that. That is appalling and such a projection of his own stuff. Women can protect themselves, we have the same natural ability to, in various ways, this was his gender issue. After many years I have learned to get angry when it's needed, and to try and find ways to express it healthily. Really good vid, thank you.

  • @MickieMuellerStudio
    @MickieMuellerStudio 2 года назад +1

    This was so helpful! I heard all of these as a kid. In my current household we all have diagnosed mental health conditions and are in therapy, sometimes we ask each other, “is this an overreaction?” Or “am I being too sensitive?” You’ve framed these terms in such a helpful way, I’m going to keep this in mind moving forward. Another one I would add is lazy. I was often called lazy as a child when in reality I was struggling with both physical and mental health. I had undiagnosed hypothyroidism, PTSD, and probably depression, so what looked like laziness on the outside was me actually trying as hard as I could. I carry a lot of shame surrounding being called lazy that I’m now working through as an adult. I believe that people generally don’t want to be unable to carry out everyday tasks, it feels terrible. Looking beneath the surface of “lazy behavior” could really help find the source and maybe get people help.

  • @larag1764
    @larag1764 2 года назад

    Hands up all those who get HANGRY 🙌
    Thnx for reminding us to be curious as to 'why is this happening', rather than shaming ourselves. So sick of being told by family, work colleagues, etc I'm 'too sensitive', not to be angry or that I'm an empath as if I chose it !!! Hi from Australia 🇦🇺 xx

  • @MorgynGreyWolfASMR
    @MorgynGreyWolfASMR 2 года назад

    I feel all of these. anger is by far the most triggering even hearing the word or thinking about can send me into a panic. I have grown up around toxic anger. I don't know what healthy anger is and what it looks like

  • @bobgalida5713
    @bobgalida5713 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Kati!! Being another HSP, I know all too well how emotions can overwhelm a situation. Thru therapy, I’m becoming better able to “maintain”, instead of allowing myself to go overboard with reactionary behavior.
    You’re very good at conveying your message dear lady, and you are appreciated! :)

  • @marencalma13
    @marencalma13 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Katie, for sharing with us all this information. It's pure gold, just like you. You are a blessing. 🙏💖🌟

  • @RhonGHill
    @RhonGHill 2 года назад +7

    Thank you for this video. All these words were told to me as a kid and as adult, it made feel like it was something wrong with me but thank you again! Now I know that these words are not bad…just helpful.

    • @105C09
      @105C09 2 года назад +1

      Same here. I was in an abusive home with two alcoholic narcissistic parents and a brother who was worse than the adults.

  • @juicer67
    @juicer67 2 года назад +3

    Such a helpful video for an HSP like myself. Thank you, Kati.

  • @gosiakidd5646
    @gosiakidd5646 2 года назад +1

    Precious reminder to self as this video resonates with me a lot. Thank you!

  • @krisd4742
    @krisd4742 2 года назад +2

    Love your videos, best whises ✌♥️

  • @lororie
    @lororie 2 года назад

    *"You're so weird" is an easy way to identify and negatively express identification of differences (or concepts we don't want to face, such as "being weird" for being vulnerabe)
    *"You hold grudges" "you need to let it go" is one I encounter a lot as a dismissive tactic when others do not want to acknowledge an unresolved conflict
    *"Drop it" "beating a dead horse" "you made your point" are all phrases I've encountered in lieu of more honest responses such as "I understand, but I disagree with you" "I'm not interested in this topic" "I don't want to express anything that might lead to conflict"

  • @placeofperrie2675
    @placeofperrie2675 2 года назад +1

    Brilliant video, thank you ❤

  • @bretmaples
    @bretmaples 2 года назад

    You have no idea how much of my childhood you just explained. Made me think a lot. Thank you.

  • @MrBerniemcgovern
    @MrBerniemcgovern 2 года назад +2

    Love your work and honesty. Sending productive and exhilarating vibes!

  • @AdrianColley
    @AdrianColley 2 года назад +2

    This was really informative and entertaining.

  • @safiyyahzaman2334
    @safiyyahzaman2334 2 года назад

    This was extremely helpful Kati. Thanks alot for the video. ❤️

  • @CharlesStacyII
    @CharlesStacyII 2 года назад

    Thanks Katie this one was Very helpful!

  • @christophergreen3809
    @christophergreen3809 2 года назад

    I grew up in a family where my boundaries were not respected. Whenever I complained about it, I was criticized for being "sensitive", "touchy", a "pansy", etc. I had to endure a lot of ridicule because I had no choice. Not the best way to be raised.

  • @DrachenSkorpion86
    @DrachenSkorpion86 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for speaking about this. Since I was a kid I never understood why wanting attention should be a bad thing. In my opinion everyone who says oder does something just wants attention.

  • @Zahra.alturabi
    @Zahra.alturabi 2 года назад

    Thank you was really important 💙💙

  • @raekazmi324
    @raekazmi324 2 года назад

    Kati, just wanted to let you know that you are amazing. I am from Pakistan and have been watching your videos for years and you have helped me so much in so many quizzes and exams. Thank you ❤️

  • @santaskiddo7503
    @santaskiddo7503 2 года назад

    outstanding video Kati!! thanks

  • @cindyc
    @cindyc 2 года назад

    Thank you, Katie 🤗❤️

  • @Corruptedhope
    @Corruptedhope 2 года назад

    Almost all of the sad thing, even just looking at crying and all of the very weak, WEAK trigger words make me cry A LOT, like a cup of tear. I feel like I have depression though I never got diagnosed with it. But I do have some anxiety and some thoughts that I can’t control, though I never got bored of the favorite thing I love like gaming, though it is shown to decrease depression, but idk. There’s about 25% chance of having depression in me in my opinion.

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay860 2 года назад

    Kati morton.thank you for doing this video and shareing stop saying that 4 emotional trigger words I am very 1# sensitive at times and also become very 2# angry over the smallest of things like something that's happened or something that was said to me or I did or said to someone I get angry it is upsetting I also overreact towards something or someone I appreciate you so much and your video Kati sending love 💟

  • @gracegregory3818
    @gracegregory3818 2 года назад

    I can’t stand being told I’m dramatic. There is a reason why someone is being dramatic. It is communicating something deeper without using words.

  • @knotheadusc
    @knotheadusc 2 года назад

    Very useful and insightful video. Thanks very much.

  • @victoriacank7801
    @victoriacank7801 2 года назад

    I hate the word 'issues'. when someone says I have mental health 'issues' it makes it feel like mental ill health isn't real and Im just having 'issues'. I always ask people involved in my care to say mental ill health instead.
    I also find (and have been told) that people avoid using the word 'sectioned' and use 'detained' under the mental health act instead, when talking about being in hospital. Personally I prefer sectioned, as detained makes me feel like ive done something wrong and am in prison!

  • @stephss
    @stephss Год назад

    Hey, this was very validating. Ty. My question is, how do us female presenting people deal with aggression from others...and tell them that its fear, not anger..... And they are disrespectful from the get go? How can we find safety with people who don't respect us? Boundaries? My neighbour is freaking me out, and I figure he isn't a danger...i hope; but the harrassment is tough. I'll look though your videos..i thought this would be a good place as it relates to this video. Ty again, and take care. 💌

  • @user-si1tq5lf6y
    @user-si1tq5lf6y 2 года назад

    My trigger is when people call me complicated. It makes me feel like I am hard to understand and love.

  • @nikkimckay860
    @nikkimckay860 2 года назад

    Oh I can definitely relate so much to attention and wanting and needed attention coming across to some people as needy and attention seeking behaviour I can definitely also relate to overreacting towards something someone said or something someone did everything in this video relates to me 😢

  • @perrystalsisworldofbiology767
    @perrystalsisworldofbiology767 2 года назад

    I'm seriously triggered by the words "Robbie Williams". Sends me into a rage.

  • @DesMowadeng
    @DesMowadeng 2 года назад +2

    I think there is a lot of great info and examples in this video of words that people struggle with and often become offended by.
    What you explained here was words people are uncomfortable with that cause a reaction or them to be offended. Something entirely different from being triggered as someone with PTSD to words and phrases because they serve has a reminder of our trauma. Trigger should never be used for anything other than in relation to that. Doing so causes it to lose its meaning and importance, rendering it nothing more than a buzz word.

    • @vrutti3457
      @vrutti3457 2 года назад +1

      People can be triggered by many things. Not all are related to PTSD.

    • @DesMowadeng
      @DesMowadeng 2 года назад +2

      @@vrutti3457 never said they couldn't but triggers as the biological response to trauma get minimized when flippantly using triggered for simply expressing appropriate emotions like anger or justifiable offense.

    • @TheSarahmns
      @TheSarahmns 2 года назад +1

      @@DesMowadeng but if you study basic psychology you'll know everyone has been through trauma, that's why everyone has their own triggers

  • @Moontherion
    @Moontherion Год назад +1

    In a toxic relationship I heard these all the time when I was learning to set up boundaries with too much of these. I thank my therapist for helping me through it. I still expect people to explode when I need to set a boundary, and being surprised that most people are happy or at least okay with it.
    It has been years since anybody has told me I'm too much of any of these.

  • @somebodysomeone3964
    @somebodysomeone3964 2 года назад

    I don't have primitive outbursts. I don't express anger. I'm broken.

  • @ClandestineGirl16X
    @ClandestineGirl16X 2 года назад +3

    Love your videos Kati thank you

  • @sanyaneema3917
    @sanyaneema3917 2 года назад

    some other trigger words that I heard our adamant defensive emotional and victim

  • @wandasilver3914
    @wandasilver3914 2 года назад +1

    Have you ever thought about doing a video on emotional wounds from past friendships! Also I have a friend how is very introverted. I am concern because it seems like she doesn’t want to socialize at all. She doesn’t respond to text messages about 99 % of the time! I don’t really understand because I normally have the urge to socialize a few times a week in the morning! Can you do a video on friendships and what is normal especially after being hurt in other relationships. It seems like we have have been hurt in our relationships at one point in our lives.

  • @GiraffesEatStuff
    @GiraffesEatStuff 2 года назад +1

    I've never really had bonds where we were open about anything personal, or any sort of intimacy, but I kind of appreciated what you said about communication and connection. I feel like being restricted against building that or against talking made hell so much worse. And it's felt like the most intense liberation since I became more open throughout the years. And maybe whatever I'd feel instead of anger in such cases would be helped by communication and bonds. If anything I did replicate that help and communication by myself. And I really relate to being excessively sensitive about things - the emotions just became separate when I couldn't really allow that vulnerability or part of me for a few years.
    I've noticed recently that my fear of intimacy and my difficulty trusting kind of went unnoticed for me. Everything from bonds/friends, doctors, disclosing 'personal' information, and anything s'ual kind of had more direct panic and other reasons to be too unbearable. I'm kind of at a loss on how to trust another person or share intimacy tbh now that I'm noticing this - *in a clinical/appointment or friendship type of way I mean

  • @Crazy4mypets
    @Crazy4mypets 2 года назад

    Besides these 4 words , I detest the phrase "a cry for help."

  • @cyrus972
    @cyrus972 2 года назад

    Can you do a video on emotional blunting? 🙏

  • @hallepashkin7735
    @hallepashkin7735 2 года назад

    Hey kati! Wanted to start off by saying how much your videos help me and thank you!!! I was wondering if you could explain/share your thoughts as a therapist on the assisted suicide law for people with BPD, Bipolar, and other mental heath diagnosis. How is it going to be legal?? Should it be?? Why is it becoming legal?? Your thoughts??? Thanks so much!!!

  • @vividgreenvegan9286
    @vividgreenvegan9286 2 года назад

    There is the German word "harmoniesüchtig". It means someone doesn't want to get in a fight and is doing everything to avoid it, basically. And for me that is a Triggerword. Because I feel it's being used to call someone passive and avoident and maybe even cowardly when they just don't want to yell at people all the time.

  • @jacqueb1441
    @jacqueb1441 2 года назад

    I think I under react. I hold everything in.

  • @angiejones968
    @angiejones968 Год назад

    Katie this is off topic but I’d like to know if you studied/ worked/ intern at at Vanderbilt? You remind me of a Casemanager I had there. I sadly can’t remember her name but you remind me so much of her. Either way you or her really helped me. It would have been some time between 2001- 2003.

  • @thathurt
    @thathurt 2 года назад +2

    I own my anger. It's free. 😁

  • @runeseaks
    @runeseaks 2 года назад

    To some extent, society has made anger gendered.
    I've heard an explanation that as children we learn how to identify our emotions from the adults in our lives. Males have traditionally been discouraged from expressing many emotions (like crying or being vulnerable in some way). We learn this young and pick up what emotions are acceptable, and one such emotion is anger. So, for some it became the default emotion to go to. So, like, If they feel like crying, they might get angry instead. Or if they are in pain or not feeling well, they might respond with anger.
    I've never been the angry sort. It's very hard to make me angry. But, my dad responds to SO many things with anger, even when--to me--it doesn't warrant it, and it seems exhausting. It's impacted his health as he's gotten older and it's just not an ideal state of being; but, hearing this explanation that maybe he's responding with anger because that's what he has defaulted to as an acceptable reaction opened my eyes to what his anger might actually mean. He might not actually be angry, he's just not comfortable reacting another way (or feels like that's not an option if he wants to avoid being ridiculed).

  • @johanattangonzalez8165
    @johanattangonzalez8165 Год назад

    I used to get attention like that by my case managers team lead I'm glad she's not working there at anymore the service that I'm receiving when it comes to crisis and one day suicide I'm in the crisis center for a week and she will super worry about me and she'll tell me oh I'm concerned about you and she'll repeat herself over twice I know how that attachment is like there's only one trigger that I have but I can't discuss it

  • @carly1954
    @carly1954 2 года назад

    Hi Kati, I was wondering about what you were saying about anger being a secondary thing?
    So basically I’m really not an angry person and I avoid conflict at all costs, if I’m in an argument with someone there is nothing I’d rather do than hear their side, tell my side and then figure it out so that we can move on from the tension. I’ve been this way all my life. However, more recently I sometimes find that I get really frustrated and it’s never in situations where I’m arguing with someone, it’s always in situations where for instance, my dad is being a dick to me or my siblings but I don’t see him anymore so I just hear about it and the anger kind of just goes into the abyss lol. Is this secondary anger? It’s not me defending myself in an argument so I’m wondering if that’s the same type of thing bc it’s the only time I really get angry rather than upset I think. Sorry for the long comment, I appreciate ur videos and am very interested in ur content

  • @stoneyvowell1239
    @stoneyvowell1239 Год назад

    My main trigger word is "Normal".

  • @kellyatkinson6643
    @kellyatkinson6643 2 года назад

    "Too sensitive" should be considered an oxymoron. Thank you for the relevant content as usual, Kati.

  • @madisenbarnes8465
    @madisenbarnes8465 2 года назад

    I’m probably to late to ask but how do I get questions answered in the podcasts

  • @ttimusic9336
    @ttimusic9336 2 года назад

    Omg this is so funny I'm sorry but I have to point out, Kati Morton speaks like Anna Faris's character in The House Bunny and that is also somehow very comforting!
    "Can I have the Maki-maki but one Maki?" 🤣🤣

  • @illiengalene2285
    @illiengalene2285 2 года назад

    Attention... yeah, people thought as a person with ADHD I need attention from others...

  • @thathurt
    @thathurt 2 года назад

    My employers current trigger words for me are " you need to do X for the mental health benefits". That's not how mental health works😆, that's control. And recently a very senior person at work said people who want a pay rise should have tried harder at school. That went down well with the workforce. 😂

  • @j0.ZEF-Who
    @j0.ZEF-Who 2 года назад +5

    Life is hard for everyone -- just look at Britney Spears - BiSs had a great life , BiSs has a great life , BiSs is happy.... i dunno y'all seems like BiSs got a lot of issues that I'm glad i don't have to deal with personally

  • @dobro.don87
    @dobro.don87 2 года назад

    Being triggered by words is a sign that a person has handed control of their emotions to another. Words inherently are just words. We as humans give them meaning and power, and therefore giving power to those who may use ‘words’. Perhaps if you are ‘triggered’ by a word or phrase, you should evaluate yourself or your perspective to see why and take that power back. Being triggered is a sign of weakness

  • @KittyCandyCat21
    @KittyCandyCat21 2 года назад

    What if you are a kid and need therapy what sould I do?

  • @lestudio76
    @lestudio76 Год назад

    Adults don’t understand the impact of their words

  • @beautifullove6625
    @beautifullove6625 2 года назад

    I need someone to talk I’m so suicidal but I can’t afford to pay for therapy I don’t have insurance idk what to do

  • @KC-ep1yu
    @KC-ep1yu Год назад

    Is it possible that I’m not here ? Why do I think I’m not real or any of you? Am I crazy?

  • @illiengalene2285
    @illiengalene2285 2 года назад

    Excuse.
    The things you are experiencing are just an excuse to not do as everyone else or as we tell you!
    Often linked to my disabilities and diagnosis.

  • @mackfam9798
    @mackfam9798 2 года назад

    sorry my comment is so late we are sick and i had to put our dog down this week and we are sad

  • @antbanks415
    @antbanks415 2 года назад +1

    I hope you apologized to Sean. :(

  • @robot7759
    @robot7759 Год назад

    All these terms are highly subjective. And the people who use those are usually insensitive jerks.

  • @kylekeen3497
    @kylekeen3497 Год назад

    Your teacher was wrong to say that about you

  • @kaderguerrab6073
    @kaderguerrab6073 2 года назад

    can you make a video on being successful with a low iq

  • @benedixtify
    @benedixtify 2 года назад

    Don’t get hangry! 🫢