My Brother Murdered Our Mom-Amy
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- Опубликовано: 6 фев 2025
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Amy, a woman whose mother was murdered by her brother.
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What a kind, sweet, and empathetic young woman. You seem like such a genuine and loving soul. I hope you find the peace and healing you need soon.
Great interview. Very candid and spoken well. Your mother would be proud of the woman you are im sure.
Thank you so much. In the absence of my mom’s encouragement, kind support, and loving words really help.
@@AmyBChesler52 Sending you hugs and positive vibes. We never know how trauma will affect us. You are so brave and strong to share such a heart wrenching story. I'm so very sorry for what you've been through and I have no doubt that your mother is with you every minute of the day. ❤
@@AmyBChesler52 Amy, you are a wonderful and beautiful person and soul. Trudging through all of the trauma and loss is so incredibly painful and frightening, and we know that is the only way forward to growth and evolution. I had a brother very much like yours. One gift that came out of that nightmare is that I have been a dedicated and determined rescuer of the innocent, vulnerable, weak and voiceless, mostly those on four legs, my entire life. Seeing the good that has come out of that horror provides comfort to me. Bless you, sweet one.
Well I would like to know if he was ever medicated and or at least prescribed medication and did he just refuse to take it? I'd also like to know if this young lady ever married and had children of her own. I'd also like to know the name of her book if it's not already listed in the comments.
Agreed!!! Very good interview. When she said “I’m sorry for jumping all over,” I didn’t think she was at all. Great recall and well spoken.
My mother's husband murdered her and my 9 year old cousin when i was 14 and my sister was 12. We were hoping her dad would step up and be a dad, but as a heroin addict and could not function out of prison, he choose not to. My sister went to live with my grandma 500 miles away and i bounced around until I got emancipated at 16. I know the loss of a mother and I'm so sorry and send you hugs and prayers. Thank you for sharing your story.
So he was a criminal to the very end, correct?
So sorry for your loss 😢that's really sad thank you for sharing ur story God bless u
My sister was murdered by our father, in a drug induced psychosis. He is now in a medical prison facility. She was about to turn 9. My other siblings and I survived the attacks.
Life is weird.
What a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your story, your Mum is proud of you.
Mental Illness is such a prison for everybody involved. Amy - Thank You for sharing. I am grateful for your bravery.
if you'd just mutate instead of resisting you could get out of it
You could NOT have said this better!
@@EmonteezI disagree. There’s certainly room for improvement. The statement was a little bit vague, yet (oddly) also slightly hyperbolic, in my opinion.
@@AntiPlatitude however you reword or define it, it’s definitely not easy or something most would sign up to for in life! I can assure you that.
So well said, thank you, I have a tool now to explain my thoughts
I raised a son with behavioral issues starting in the 1980s. Not much was known about treatment back then and as much as I tried to help him I didn't know what to do either. As he aged he became violent and we feared him too. Not only is the mentally unwell person in need of help and support, the families are too. It is a living hell to navigate life around a relative that is unhinged and a threat. I am so sorry, Amy, your story will reach many people out here including me. Thank you!
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How are things now with you and your son? -A mom of a defiant son on Autistic spectrum
@@Move-with-purpose, he was diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic as a young adult. He was chronically homeless, in and out of jail/prison, and psych wards. He went to prison for beating up his roommate in a psychotic rage, he was in ICU for several days (our fear was valid). He became so psychotic from mental illness that he no longer knew who we were or himself either. He had many grand delusions about his life. We could not force help legally and in 2023 the streets took him out, he overdosed on Fentanyl. The system is broken, some people need help, they don't get it and often they are too sick to seek it. It was devastating all the way around. I do appreciate you asking.
@@magzlomeli6110, thank you!
@, I replied but it didn't post, YT sometimes delays or censors posts. I'll wait a bit longer and if it doesn't show up I will repost.
For Amy: I admire your courage and your strength and I am deeply moved by your story and your loss. I wish you the best for the future.
I receive this very gratefully, thank you.
Darling Amy, you are a survivor of horrific trauma. I'm so glad you have insight and made it to where you are today. You are a strong woman and should be proud of your achievements. As difficult as it is for you to share your story, you are bringing awareness to others and hopefully making it easier for others to talk about their trauma.
Thank you so much, Ana. 17 years later and it’s still remains incredibly difficult to share. But I do so because of the impact we’re making, and the kind words and support I receive like the ones you’ve sent me. Hugs.
Amy, you have helped someone tremendously today by sharing your story. Thank you.
Thank YOU for listening. I am sending you infinite amounts of love and gratitude for your kindness
@@AmyBChesler52 ❤
Thank you for you ❤
Me my family is going through this 😢
This interview touched me deeply as a person who’s experienced sibling abuse and had to take on a responsible and have-it-all-figured-out type of role in my family to counteract my brother’s behaviour. Dear Amy, your courage to share your story is absolutely admirable and what a kind and beautiful soul you are. I wish you the very best so you can heal and keep honouring your amazing mother🩷🩷🫶🏻
I’m so sorry that you’ve faced similar abuse. My heart breaks for everyone that has had to navigate what we have, but I’m wrapping you in so much love and solidarity. I appreciate you sharing with me. The testimonies keep me going, and remind me that while the statistics support what I’m sharing, the souls behind our stories remind me I’m not alone either. Big, big hugs. 💜
I love how well spoken she is. I wish her the best in life.
This means the world to me, thank you. I’m often disheartened when people say I’m “too trained” when I speak about my trauma. 17 years offers a lot of time to reflect. 💜
@@AmyBChesler52Amy not sure if you saw my comment but if it makes you feel any better to know your mom didn't feel any pain. God took your mom before any pain was afflicted upon her. The soul leaves the body. It helps me know this bc this is how I deal with my brothers brutal murder. I do believe they don't feel any pain. Your such a sweetheart and your mom would be so proud of you. Your a very intelligent young lady. Bless your heart.
Happy Birthday to your mom. I know you've made her proud❤❤ many blessings to you 🙏
BUMP🙌🏼👏🏻
THANK YOU!!! This comment honestly means the world to me. It brings me so much joy and love to know that I have so many people celebrating her with me 💜
@AmyBChesler52 yes ma'am, you certainly do!! You're such a strong woman, and an inspiration to many!
Amy - you kept it together much more then I could. Thank you
You’re so beautiful Amy! Your mum would be so so proud of you! I bet you share a lot of her character traits. Thanks for sharing your story with such grace, intelligence, insight and vulnerability. Just beautiful.
Thank YOU for listening. I’m often told that Mom and I are a lot alike, and I definitely see that more and more as I get older. It’s an honor to evoke her memory. 💜
Killing your own mother is the most evil thing I can think of. I hope Amy can find peace and surround herself with a loving, chosen family.
What an insightful and strong woman she transformed into.
I think your mother would be truly proud of you. Sending my deepest condolences.
I appreciate the kind words and support more than you’ll know.
The way she talked about O.D.D was like she was talking about me, That attitude landed me in two mental homes before 12, juvenile and long term juvenile,county jails and then prison twice. Im 43 now, havent been in any type of trouble for many, many years, im a father now to the sweetest little 8 year old girl. I look nack at that life compared to the man I am now, its like i dont even know that kid or young man that i was anymore. Im very grateful i got thru that storm i put myself in. God bless yall and just know, everyone should be appreciated because we all have reason.Peace yall
Wow, what helped you? That’s wonderful
I’m sorry for everything you’ve been through, but I also appreciate you sharing. It’s important to hear all journeys and possibilities; I wish my brother could have reformed, but it brings me peace to know you’ve found healing. Hugs. 💜
@@sydneyfaysteiger I hope all is well with you and yours Sydney. I can tell you this, even in the darkest times in my life, being alone made me strong during those times, learning to love myself, respecting myself in a manner of making decisions in the proper, positive way. I was introduced to a way of life at a very early age, to where what came with that I thought was just the way it was,like socks and shoes. That Mentality may have taught me to always watch my back and front, to always know how to adapt to my surroundings, But it's a mentality that never rest, always on go,not enjoying the beautiful things in front of me. My violence wasn't towards family, it was to people I deemed as enemies and threats. What Amy and her lovely departed mother experienced was just evil, from a love one that took advantage of their love. He's where he needs to be, I've seen the other side of the fence, He will always been in strife and insanity.
@@AmyBChesler52 you taking the time to reach out is just awesome. We cried right with you during your story, and you never stop telling your story, you are a survivor, a warrior. You have a mission and you know that. I would like to give you my condolences Mam.You keep on cause the world needs you and your mother's story and memory more than ever You take care Hun!!
ODD is what abusive authorities disagnose abused children with. Children who have constantly let down by adults don’t trust them or listen to their rules anymore. It’s a horrible made up illness to place blame on the child once again.
Such an amazing interview. I watch these interviews to empathize w others but after almost every one of them I can’t help but to feel a sense of gratitude for my life and the way things have turned out. What you do is truly a blessing, Mark. Thank you ! ❤
Wow this is by far one of the best interviews YET. This is unbelievably heartbreaking! My heart breaks for her 😢!
Thank you so much for listening and leaving yourself open to our story.
Finally someone that’s not 17 on the brink of death sitting right before him, while he makes unemotional comments about the stuff they go thru. And blaming them for it
@ like someone who has thoughtful, honest and genuine input on a seriously horrible trauma and tragedy but isn’t making excuses. My heart absolutely broke for her . I have to say I get a bit numb and almost intolerant to some of the reoccurring people on this channel unfortunately.
Girl you deserve a hug. I know your momma is with you still to this day. I’m so sorry you had to go through this.
I love hugs. And sometimes I lose sight of her presence, and comments like this remind me she isn’t far. Thank you 💜
Poor girl. She lost her whole family all at once: it’s got to have been incredibly difficult for her to pretty much raise herself from such young adulthood. I hope she has other family to be close with. Very brave to share, it’s also healing although it hurts really badly…
Amen, tough road.
I appreciate your kind words and your care. Healing is very helpful. But yes, it was my whole family all at once. I’m very lucky to have loving, supportive family otherwise, but they’re not my mom 💜
My heart breaks for her! Her story was so heartbreaking! I hope her brother never gets out of prison and she can somewhat move on from this tragedy she seen. God bless her! Her mother is looking down on her and is so proud of her!
I work with middle schoolers that are behavioral disorder special ed. We have students with a plethora of diagnosis. Autism, learning disabilities, ADHD, ADD, ODD. But man, oppositional difference disorder is a beast to deal with. I could not imagine being subjected to that highly charged, toxic, draining, and often abusive behavior 24/7 at home. My heart goes out to her
I first heard Amy’s story through the podcast something was wrong and it has always stayed with me. Such a brave, resilient survivor, she now helps other survivors get their voices heard while still fighting for hers. It’s awesome she got to be interviewed in this channel.
Amy, I recently just experienced something as awful and today is my mom’s funeral. I’m not sure if it’s a sign from her or god, but I thank you for sharing this story. This is the hardest thing I’d ever experienced in my life. You essentially lose two people and to preserve her memory is excruciating because she should be here. I send my deepest condolences and I am so sorry for your loss ❤
seeing her cry, I wanna give her a hug so bad 😞
I love hugs 💜 happy to receive it, even virtually.
That was my reaction too. Ran to the comments to give a virtual hug n some love. My heart hurts for her. But she is soooooo strong and continuing her mother's legacy to help others. She is so proud I just know it❤
You are so well spoken. I liked that they let you tell the story without interrupting. My brother has this and it’s been a terrible ride for me. The 80s were not a good time for these kids. You have honored your mom here and I’m so sorry for your loss. You have to live now the best life you can!
Mr Mark ....great interview...I can fully relate to her story after seeing and watching my father pass on and 2 of my children passing OMG the everyday grief on special days ..the young lady is amazing well spoken with maturity and tenacity my heart ❤️ goes out her ..bravo 👏 to you both thank you for being empathetic 🤛✌️🌹🙏
I am so, so sorry for your losses. The grief sticks with us forever. I started my writing and speaking career centering around grief alone, because my feelings were so big I needed to just process my sadness first. It took me years to even share about my mom‘s murder. You are not alone in your grief. Hugs.
“Internally, there is a huge chunk of responsibility in each person to do good and do better” very true.
Her mother sounds so much like my own. Pretty serious, straightforward but with the biggest heart you can imagine. My older brother was also diagnosed with bipolar disorder (at least that's what he told us). He also had behavioral issues but seemed mostly self inflicted in the way he made a lot of reckless, impulsive decisions and lived a fast life. I also felt the need to 'overcompensate' with my behavior because of this. He died of a drug overdose nearly two years ago. My heart and prayers goes out to Amy. It may be inappropriate for some, but there's certainly a level of peace that comes when such a chaotic person in your life is no longer among the living. My brother's addiction nearly destroyed our family. His passing still makes me sad at times but I'm at peace with it, knowing he's no longer able to hurt himself and others. As long as her brother is alive, Amy will have to keep dealing with him, as much as I know she doesn't want to. That is a burden I don't wish on my worst enemy.
I understand that
I’m so sorry that you understand my journey so intimately. But I am also appreciative that you left this comment. You’ve nailed so many of my sentiments. I’m sending you so much love and light.
Underrated part of her commentary at the end: “yes, he was bullied. So we put him in karate to ‘toughen him up’. And it did. He got tougher towards us.” That’s such an accurate way to describe what happens to people, especially young men, when instead of trying to solve the core issue & also get the person some help, we force them to push it down and cover it up with toxic masculinity. And by no means am I blaming them for his violence. I just thought that she worded that aspect of what happened to her brother over time very accurately and that it applies to so many people - especially young men
Interesting thought😢
While I mostly agree with your observation, it was absolutely the brother's choice to get tougher towards his own family, rather than his bullies. The same happened with my brother. He got bullied a little bit. I was there and supported him. Yet the number one person he got tougher towards was me because I was younger and smaller. Coward move. Revenge on the innocent, rather than on the guilty. If he was tough towards everyone, then OK maybe, generalized toughness. But he's a kiss ass towards strangers. He does have road rage and stuff, though.
I feel not only males have become more violent, so have young females. Females have become much many times more violent. People in general seem more aggressive.😢
Screw all of you attempting to blame single mothers for protecting their children from drunk, addict, abusive father's. Do better. Be better humans. Dads are accountable for their behavior.
Amy, thank you so much for sharing your story. I, too, grew up with an abusive sibling. When I was about 10 my parents had to have my brother institutionalized because it got to a point where he was going to hurt one of us. I spent most of my childhood seeing my parents in and out of his school and psychiatrists/psychologists and therapists for him. One went as far as telling my mother when my brother was around 7-8 years old that it would be best to institutionalize his as he showed signs of extreme violence and was concerned he would grow up to be a murderer. My mom always looked the other way when it came to him but it got to a point where she could not anymore. So from about 12-18 he spent his time as ward of the state. He is still angry at all of us to this day for this. He blames me, who was 10 at the time all of this began transpiring, for him being institutionalized. And what’s worse, is not too long ago, he moved back in with my parents. And is still the same terrible person. He has deliberately broken major large appliances, furniture and parts of our home claiming it was an accident. I could go on and on but I won’t. What I will say is that I feel so seen and heard from your story Amy and from th comments below. Amy, you’re so right, sibling abuse is an insidious monster that does not get talked about enough at all.
My daughter's best friend growing up had oppositional defiance disorder and until you see it in action you really can't imagine a child being so cruel. So just mean. They're still best friends. They're almost 30 now. She's better but she got better interestingly enough when her mother died suddenly .This is a very dark start to the day. Okay, let's go....
This is heartbreaking honey. He's not going to kill you. He's not getting out of prison but I just want to give you a hug.
You never know what happens behind closed doors, some parents who act nice in front of others are shockingly mean behind closed doors. Mental abuse can be the worst since there is no rescue from this. The damage can last a lifetime.
@@Paul-Meister-999
Exactly. Some people have no clue and especially in the case of boys where in single mother households there is this desire to try to rein in the natural emerging masculine spirit of a boy, instead of seeking out secure and proper mentorship for the boy, and in doing so, the parent may employ certain methods that's she might think on the surface is effective, but at a deeper level, is causing more damage and harm.
That's one aspect of it. Then there is just those flat out sadistic narcissistic parents who just enjoy destroying and rebuilding children just to destroy them again. Then there are the parents who are mad that they HAD TO have kids and have this eternal disgust for the child, subconsciously acting out their hatred without any awareness.
So yeah you're right, it's much more complex.
@ Very thoughtful answer. In my case my parents took out their anger towards each other on me, but it was so complicated I didnt figure this out at the time. This led to a lack of social skills which led to other problems. No easy answers, the best people can do is to try to care about people around you, especially to help younger people who have much more time to get things on track. If society cant reliably protect kids from physical abuse then mental abuse really gets neglected.
@mamarobyn . It is. He needs to stay right where he is at. I am very surprised Amy was able to continue her education in psychology and that she may be able to help others. She deserves so much praise for being so strong. Even though there are tears(tears are healing) she was able to stay stable. I wish her all the best too. This was a very disturbing story and I agree with her as why it needed to be told. Hugs to you Amy. You are amazing. Sorry for your loss. 🌹🌻
Oppositional defiance disorder is one of many conditions that exclusively affect children of single mothers so it can be prevented
I am so sorry Amy. My Mom is a retired teacher I am going to go give her a hug today. Thank you for your story. You are beyond brave
Hug her double for me as well. 💜
Hi Amy thank you for sharing your story. It really touched me when you thanked Mark for giving you the space to talk about your mum and for asking about her. My mum was murdered and no one talked about her after that as if she had never existed and when I mention to people that my mum was murdered the conversation usually goes quiet so it’s lovely that you still talk about your mum and continue to be a voice for her. Xx
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Soemrry to hear that❤❤
Im sure it's got to be hard for people to know what to say about something like that. I honestly don't know how i would feel, although I would try to make a point to say something nice about that person. I cannot imagine what you have gone through. So sorry for your loss. ❤
@@Parrotgirl-tattoothank you for your kind words ❤
I am so sorry for your devastating loss, and I’m wrapping you in love and light. I’m also so grateful that you left yourself open to our story despite the fact that it may have been triggering. It means the world to me when we can find each other in our grief and revive our loved one’s memories. What was your mom’s name? And her favorite flower?
Thank you for having the courage to share your story, Amy. So sorry for the loss of your Mom. Sending a big hug to you. 🤗
He got 15 years to life for her mom's murder and then 30 to life for an *attempted murder* of a correctional officer... You call that justice???
What should he get????
He should get life without parole at the very least.
@ You take a life you should get either life in prison or the death penalty. In California, interestingly enough there are 3 strikes laws. They have people doing life there for drug offenses. I'm not sure if they've overturned these convictions now or what but back when her mother's murder happened they were standard. So to hear that this dude killed his mom and got 15 years - huh what?! If he wasn't so stupid he could've been out 15 years later. WILD
I think it was because if he violated his parole or does any more trouble while he’s in there, it only adds more time and things only get worse.
It’s because he’s white.
Bless you, Amy. Mom would be proud of the woman you've become. I'm so sorry for everything you and your family have been through...and for the loss of your beloved mother. {{{{{Hugs from New Hampshire}}}}}♥💕
Thank you so much. I do it all for her (and others I may help along the way). Big, big hugs back.
I pray her brother never gets released from prison. May he rot.
Rot for a mental illness?
He definitely deserves severe punishment. But why are women soo quick to wish misfortune upon Men ?
@@ChillSteve28Before men kills , rape , are violent , do robbery and are phedophile way higher than women . Thats the reason . Women are afraid of men , being killed or raped , just to be in the wrong place the wrong time .
@@Sheila-sv1uefor being a clear danger to society. There is a difference between mental illness and a natural born killer.
Yes you whack. Mental illness who killed someone.o@Sheila-sv1ue
this channel sets a standard in how to help people share their experience. Very tactful interviews and no story left untold. Thanks.
For the longest time I believed that aggressive, violent killers where made by their environment but stories like this and many other have shown me that it is also a biological/born like that. Thanks for sharing your story.
Some people are born with broken brains.
This could have come from stress in the womb, considering the mom endured abuse from the father.
@@xenasphinx3298are there data that support this theory? It sounds interesting, and I’ve never heard of it before.
There are bad seeds straight out of the womb. No one wants to believe it, which is understandable. But some kids are just rotten and they have no bottom to their cruelty.
I’m a licensed family therapist for over 15 years - Both are determining factors.
I hope he never gets out...some persons are just gone. So sorry for your loss and all the pain you have to go through. Big hug ❤ You are a great person and your mother would be SO proud of you! I wish you all the best 😢
I am living with a son with all of this. I served him with a 30 day notice to leave my home. I’m 4 days into the 30 days and I am so scared my son is so very mean !!!!!! My doctor knows 2 attorneys know I don’t know if I’m going to make it
Im praying you find a way out of this....
Please keep urself safe 🙏
I’m afraid for you. Please try to have you with you at all times if you can until he’s out.
I pray for you. From Sweden ❤
@@clover5914 thank you so much
@@GoldenBuddah1972thank you
Hi Mark. Amy.
A courageous woman to brave this experience all the way through.
Her breathing in between is a response to reliving this and powering through detail being spoken. It never goes away ...
Amy is a mighty woman.
SWU gave the BEST interview of her.
Thank you.❤
You’re right: it never goes away. I appreciate you receiving me so thoughtfully, and leaving such a thoughtful comment of support. Thank you.
Thank you Amy. I was thinking about how messed up my family was/is. You've shown me I'm not the only one. YOU HAVE BEEN HEARD
Hi Amy! You are so incredibly brave to share your story. This interview may help someone else living with a similar situation SEE the danger before it’s too late. My heart breaks for you and everything you have had to endure. I wish you the very best of life for your future. ❤
Well said. Thank you for sharing your family's story. I wish you much peace.
Your mother sounds like a stand up individual! Sorry for your loss
Eyeroll
You’re an a-hole. Who hurt you?
@terrytownsend5583 hope you enjoy being you… good luck
Thank you for your kindness. She was pretty incredible. Everyone that knew her leaned on her. And something I love to mention that I often forget to say: she was THE BEST cook EVER.
Amy, you are so beautiful inside and out. Thank you for sharing your story. Your mom sounds like an amazing person. I’m honored you shared parts of who she was with us. I’m grateful you pursued understanding your story. It has made you an incredible woman. ❤
You are so articulate. So sorry for your suffering. You are strong. Keep telling your story. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. I pray others speak of their traumas of youth.
I am so sorry you went through this Amy. You are the sweetest soul. When I watch these videos, I am touched when I encounter a someone as intelligent, sensitive, kind and thoughtful as you are. God bless you dear ❤️
No one talks about sibliing abuse and the terror it brings within the family. Everyone is trying to contain the escalating violence, it seems normal to everyone in the home. Heartbreaking and cried most of the interview. So relatable. Wish she knew my depth of gratitude for sharing her story.
My sister even escaped from prison numerous times and came home to hide out blackmailing my parents. She got released and came home. She left after two years and finally turned that violence on herself. She could never function in the outside world and could only survive either within the prison system or within the family whose lives were formed dealing with such an individual (I refuse to call her a "person").
Yes, child to parent abuse and sibling to sibling abuse are not spoken of much. I think a lot of parents struggle to accept that their child is abusing them. I think a lot of the time it's a gradual thing and so it is hard to see what has happened from the middle of it.
It makes a deep impact on families. Maybe not the same as an abusive parent but still very serious and long lasting impacts.
Her brother sounds like he genuinely has antisocial personality disorder/sociopathy - the behaviour she described showed every symptom. Sending her strength and warm thoughts. ❤
Im so sorry that you had to go through this. He doesnt sound bipolar, he sounds psychotic and pure evil
I would agree, but as someone who is not a Dr of Psychology, I cannot make diagnostic statements. So, I simply repeat his current diagnoses.
Yes. He’s evil . And people like that prefer to be that way. They make their own choices in life. They’re on a road to destruction and they don’t care!
I first heard of Amy's story from the Something Was Wrong podcast, and it's truly heartbreaking. Her mom is shining down reveling in the work Amy continues to share her story. Amy is a strong woman.
I love that podcast
Thwrws nothing on that channel but 2 videos 😂
@@celticwarrior777 It's a podcast available on all podcast platforms. :)
I hope you’re right 💜 my undying duties as a daughter are one of my driving forces. I appreciate your continued support, listenership, and love.
@@AmyBChesler52 Your comment made me tear up. I will say I know they watch somehow. My son passed away when he was 3 years old in 2012 and he is always sending me lady bugs to let me know he is watching. Especially in those moments when I need to hear it. Thanks again for continually sharing your story.
This is so heartbreaking.
I hope she has lots of chosen mamas and sisters enveloping her with loving care. She doesn't deserve to be alone or live in fear.
What a kind comment. Thank you for your concern and thoughtfulness 💜 we make our own family when we need to
What a remarkable person telling her story. To me this is how these interviews should be conducted - with respect, listening and not interrupting or asking questions containing assumptions. I don’t watch much but I’m glad I chose this one to check out. Sending love and care her way.
Thank you for sharing your story. ❤ I’m glad he will sit in prison for a long time
You are so strong
Her strength is so admirable. The pain and constant fear she and her mom had to endure. I just want to give her a hug. Stay strong, beautiful. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I want to give this woman a hug:(
Thank you for sharing your story. Your mother would be very proud of you for spreading awareness. Many blessings to you.
Amy, you are incredible. I, too, want to give you a hug. I lost my mom, who I adored, to cancer and it gutted me… I cannot imagine the kind of loss you went through and I am so sorry. You’re an inspiration - your strength, resilience, composure, and authenticity. Your mom would indeed be so incredibly proud of the person you are, and you and the life you live are a beautiful tribute to her.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. The grief of a parent who deeply loved us never dies. I appreciate you leaving yourself open to our story despite its potential to be triggering, and for your kind words too. Thank you. Hugs. 💜
What a wonderful interview with Amy. I first heard of Amy and her story when her season premiered on SWW with Tiffany. I still remember folding laundry and crying with her over her mother’s death. I just lost my own mother in 2023 to brain cancer and the daily struggle with her not being here is constant. I cannot even wrap my head around your mother being murder and by your own brother. It’s horrific and just makes your chest heavy. I’m so proud of Amy and her accomplishments with her podcast What Came Next, which I listen to every week. The world you navigate for your survival and other survivor shows your grace and strength. Thank you Amy! ♥️
So refreshing to see that despite the horrific trauma she experienced she is resilient and strong and has not become addicted to drugs and alcohol. She is compassionate and kind and a good example of what is possible.
Your kind words of support MEAN the world to me.
i’m at work watching this on my lunch break and i have verbally said out loud i hate this man…. babe your mother would be SO proud im typing this with tears in my eyes… you deserve the WORLD
I truly hope the tears you’ve shed while telling your story, help you heal. Sending you the biggest hug you beautiful, strong soul. ❤️🙏❤️
Absolutely heartbreaking. The heavy things we carry, that others don’t know about. Amy did a wonderful job honoring her mother. I hope someday, she will find peace. It’d be great to find a lawyer who would be willing to navigate the process for her. Sending love and light! 💕
Thank you for your kind support. Thankfully, in the most recent leg of my criminal justice journey, I have somewhat teamed up with the DA charged my brother with the most recent 36 year sentence. He has been extremely helpful since we began navigating things together. 💜
Congratulations on your first full length film Mark, very excited to see it. I know it will be a success.❤
The unwavering strength in the way you continue to speak even thru tears ❤
This was told so eloquently. Her history is so tragic, I hope she finds peace one day🥺 I’m sure her mom will always live through her.
I remember seeing you and your story on the ID Channel. This interview made me so much more emotional because you talked about your mom. I truly am so sorry that she got taken away from you because she seemed like such a lovely woman. She was the community mom. I am sending you so much love.
Each interview is so, so different. I do appreciate the personal side that a more intimate/less rigid interview offers. Thank you for leaving yourself open to our story continuously. And yes, she was the community mom. Thank you for recognizing that and sending us love 💜
I teared up while listening to this interview 😢 I feel so sorry for her and her mom. 😢
You were in survival mode Amy. None of this is your fault.
I wish you well.
I appreciate that, and I understand it too. I do feel some survivor’s guilt, but yes, this was of my brother’s making. I appreciate you.
Such an important point to make for Amy.
Thank you Amy and thank you Mark🙏
Thank you for sharing your story. I know you make your mama proud. I pray for your protection all the rest of your days.❤❤❤❤
Amy this was beautiful! I can relate so much on the sibling roles defining you I almost cried when you said that. Thank you for sharing your raw beautiful story! Sending hugs and prayers! 🖤🙏🏽
I’m so sorry you can relate, and I’m wrapping you in love and light. It’s so sad to me that so many people can relate, but the prevalence is also fuel to my fire. Hugs. 💜
Wow. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for sharing your story Amy. Your mother sounds like a very special, lovely lady. It’s clear your love for her runs deep and that you miss her dearly. I hope moving forward you’ll get the justice and protection you deserve from the courts and authority figures. Sharing your story, teaching folks the warning signs about these kinds of abuse and violence within families is a commendable way to honor your sweet mother.
Wishing you all the best and safety as you continue your fight in the courts. And I hope you’re able to find joy healing and peace in your life now after enduring such trauma. Sending so much love your way sweet lady. ❤✨
Great interview. My heart goes out to you
I identify so much with Amy, especially when she described and talked about her beautiful mother, sounded like my mom that died to early in life!
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and light.
Im a survivor of sexual abuse and I wanted to point out here that sexual abuse is a CONTROL, sexual abuse is forcing you to do things against your will, the word FORCE is key here, her brother was smart indeed, he didn't physically touch her, he forced his s will onto her without leaving EVIDENCE. I just wanted to put this statement out here for people to understand
Sexual abuse is about perverted people who gets off by degrading others.
Strong and beautiful lady. So courageous to.speak of this and honour her mother. Must have been so hard for her growing up with her brother being so violent and verbally abusive - torture! Amy you are amazingly resilient and strong! Sending cheers and hugs from Oz 🦘
That treasure map story was powerful. Sometimes parents think what the child is doing when young is cute but if you look a little closer it is the first sign of trouble.
Yeah true. We know something id wrong with them. we can see it during childhood
My mom would be shocked that I’m sharing it at-mass as the beginning of the warning signs. But I think it’s important to highlight. Thank you for listening.
@@AmyBChesler52 3 years old showing that kind of manipulative behavior. Wanting to take advantage of other people. A lot of narcissist are attracted to the profession of being a lawyer. I wonder if he didn't get his lack of empathy And wanting to take advantage of other people from his dad. He certainly sounds more like a psychopath than bipolar from your description period And I think all the School shooters have a lack of empathy and a lack of connection.
She shared her story on the podcast, This is actually happening. It's so heartbreaking but also inspiring in the end! All the love and good vibes to Amy!
Thank you so much for your courage to share your story. Statistics Statisticly, bipolar disorder is not associated with violent behavior. Im a therapist, and i would diagnose him as a psychopath. Additionally, the behavior begins early in childhood unlike bipolar.
Your openess is indeed the healing elixor. Thank you again, and to you, Mark as well.❤
Great interview. You can tell she still has a lot of pain and trauma and definitely loved her mom. Girl I wish you the best and hope you kick ass in everything you do in life. Sorry a lot of that happened to you.
This poor woman 19:06 , the mom, was living a nightmare. I’m so sorry she had to go through that.
Such a beautiful, brave soul! I'm so sorry for your pain, your "saudages" a Portuguese word we don't have in English, but it's the name of that emotion/that ache that unique pain that we feel in our souls longing for something or someone that we will never experience them again.
Saudades. Not saudages
@b.m.jmooren3973 I knew that looked wrong! Thank you! Obrigado!!
Dear Amy, I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Mother. Sending you sincere condolences and hugs. Thank you for sharing your life. 🫂
Thank you for listening with compassion 💜
I have a family member with oppositional defiance disorder (among other mental health diagnoses). It really is the worst thing our family has gone through. What’s tough, too, is that when they are “progressing” or “healing,” it more often than not has been a phase or an act.
Amy, you're so very brave for sharing this. It sounds so much like my youngest son, he's 17. Started when he was 3, he would hurt himself to start(beat his head on anything). Then it would turn on his older brother(busted his head with a toy gun which resulted in staples). By the time he was 5 he had been doagnosed with odd and adhd. If he heard "no" he would lose it, his favorite target was me. Raising him was so very hard, meds helped for a short time then didn't, as he got older it went from loving me one day to the next telling me he hates me and hopes i die. He recently ran away because he punched his step dad 13 times and his step dad restrained him (never hit or assaulted him back) but my son is a compulsive liar and said he chocked him unconscious (i was there and it was a huge lie) Had him arrested (thankfully we got it dismissed because judge said if it were true my son would have had some marks on him. Anyway my son ran away and turned on me so hard, calling cps with bs accusations, making fake complaints at my job, just trying to destroy my life. I love this kid with my entire soul but ive had to walk away due to the fear i have of him. Thank you for sharing, im so sorry you had to deal with this but you speaking out has helped me realize you cant fix someone like this with love. Thank you
My Grandma (My mom's Mommy) was murdered by my Step-Grandpa. My Mom & Dad was on their way to TN to pick her and her other three children. God bless you, Amy❤
I’ve heard Amy tell her story on one or two different podcasts, and I know it will be different getting to see her face as she tells it this time… thank you for sharing this with the world, Amy!
Thank you so, so much for listening and leaving yourself open to receiving our story repeatedly. Each interview experience is so, so different. Sending you love and light.
Such a breath of fresh air. Beautiful being, a bright light... extremely incredible vocabulary, relatable vulnerability. Your mother is proud, and she's your guardian angel. I'm so sorry for your pain. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤❤❤
He cannot be let out.
I’m so very sorry for her loss and her pain. Her poor Mom. 💔 Sending love and peacefulness and a big hug.
It's too bad that Mark doesn't put a link under the videos of the interviewee's books 😢
What an insightful,intelligent and mature young lady. God bless her