Survivor's Guilt-Rose

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  • Опубликовано: 28 янв 2025

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  • @amandaalvarez6931
    @amandaalvarez6931 10 месяцев назад +579

    I hope the lady who caused the accident watches this. I’m proud of you Rose ❤️

    • @NilDreams
      @NilDreams 10 месяцев назад +10

      The lady did not cause the accident. It was obvious from the beginning of the story that she was at fault. She ran a stop sign and the blood tests proved she was intoxicated.

    • @ministryofpeacekmk
      @ministryofpeacekmk 10 месяцев назад

      ✔️

    • @lientran071989
      @lientran071989 10 месяцев назад +34

      @@NilDreamsthe lady that hit her had to be driving to fast to have that kind of an impact to kill someone in a residential area. Makes sense that she was reckless and she was at fault. I don’t think it was Rosie.

    • @Kirkland-rv5jf
      @Kirkland-rv5jf 9 месяцев назад +14

      Every now and then, we meet someone here. You just feel like scooping them up, holding them tight and telling them it's ok.
      I'm so sorry this happened to you Rose 😢

    • @80club45
      @80club45 9 месяцев назад +2

      Remember the cops drew her blood meaning she was intoxicated

  • @nicconway647
    @nicconway647 10 месяцев назад +313

    Love that this was posted on Oscar’s angelversary. Rest in peace.

  • @janedoe1573
    @janedoe1573 10 месяцев назад +660

    Can't tell you how many times the thought of my pets not being cared for has stopped me from making a permanent choice... They really are the best antidepressant!

    • @BeccaJean415
      @BeccaJean415 10 месяцев назад +20

      This is very true. They would miss me. My 🐕 & tortoise 🐢. Ok, maybe the dog lol.

    • @Juneebug18
      @Juneebug18 10 месяцев назад +9

      ​@@BeccaJean415 yeahhh maybe just the dog. Although yurtle would miss the grand salads! ♥

    • @daveforeman6931
      @daveforeman6931 10 месяцев назад +20

      Everyone needs a pet. Dogs are my best therapy.

    • @trent3872
      @trent3872 10 месяцев назад +21

      I recently thought what if something happened to me, who would take care of my 2 cats?

    • @jerryhatrick5860
      @jerryhatrick5860 10 месяцев назад

      Same. But lately I'm. Planning on who will take care of them.
      I don't like this planet anymore. Society is worse eland worse and I'm tired. Being used screwed lied about and basically. Humans are inhumane. And I'm tired.

  • @alheli0909
    @alheli0909 10 месяцев назад +415

    I Known Rosy since she was 15 and when I'm telling you she is a beautiful soul, pure, and just a good person by nature, and she is a true warrior, she deserves only the best, life has giving her so many obstacles and reasons to just quit and she won't , she can bve bitter just for all that has happend to her and still she is an amazing kind human been.

    • @Kirkland-rv5jf
      @Kirkland-rv5jf 9 месяцев назад +24

      The picture you paint is exactly how Rose comes across. I hope things work out for her. She didn't deserve any of these things

    • @DramaMustRemainOnTheStage
      @DramaMustRemainOnTheStage 9 месяцев назад

      Agreed. What a sweet lady ❤ she seems to be​@@Kirkland-rv5jf

    • @patjones5723
      @patjones5723 6 месяцев назад +1

      Ty 💝

    • @ccaruso8293
      @ccaruso8293 3 месяца назад +2

      She seems like a sweet person

    • @BERNARDO712
      @BERNARDO712 3 месяца назад +1

      Teach her how to breathe.

  • @cm1642
    @cm1642 10 месяцев назад +190

    Rose, i am so happy that you had your cat and dog at the time you needed them the most...
    I wish you a long and happy life!

    • @lildai1535
      @lildai1535 9 месяцев назад +1

      That part brought tears to my eyes. I had a close family member in the same situation and our family dog saved her life 💕

    • @michaelparker8603
      @michaelparker8603 6 месяцев назад +1

      pets can definitely help

  • @robyngillum8577
    @robyngillum8577 10 месяцев назад +530

    The hospital and/or physicians who cared for her after the accident really didn’t do their job. How do you almost die and get out of care the next day? No one set her up with therapy? Disability for her job? The police didn’t help. Shame on the system.

    • @Mackb077
      @Mackb077 10 месяцев назад +25

      It’s because she was found at fault. She’s lucky she didn’t end up in prison

    • @Saer-s9u
      @Saer-s9u 10 месяцев назад +8

      buried in the story is bipolar...her words,not mine.

    • @dianabailey5175
      @dianabailey5175 10 месяцев назад +14

      The hospital can only give resources and it’s up the the patient and family to do the rest. I also died in an accident , coma for a couple of weeks and when I was deemed able to go home to 6 children, I was only given my discharge papers and that’s it!

    • @adr8264
      @adr8264 10 месяцев назад +16

      Hospital discharge papers give medical instructions. Everything else is up to adult.

    • @melissamartinez3593
      @melissamartinez3593 10 месяцев назад +7

      Same I got into a pretty bad accident got hit by a drunk driver , I broke my ankle completely all my toes and my sternum
      .. I went home 6 days later I got physical therapy but it was just very minimal for my foot to make sure I can move my toes but that’s it !

  • @roland1912
    @roland1912 10 месяцев назад +279

    There's no statute of limitations on grief. Loss is real, it's a fact, and it doesn't stop being a fact. People who say "get over it" really don't understand loss at all. You don't ever really get over it, you just learn how to live with it and learn how to ignore it.

    • @davidbanner9344
      @davidbanner9344 10 месяцев назад +11

      Thank you for this comment, it's very much appreciated!

    • @G_Widdicombe
      @G_Widdicombe 10 месяцев назад +14

      Yes, I agree with. What used to really frustrate me was people saying ‘you need to move on with your life’. I know they meant well, but ‘move on’ implied forgetting, and that’s impossible. I know it’s only a word, but I prefer ‘move forward’, as I’m taking the memories of my wife with me in what I do.

    • @brandylovechild5548
      @brandylovechild5548 10 месяцев назад +5

      I totally agree!!😢😢

    • @shelbyw6135
      @shelbyw6135 3 месяца назад +1

      I agree to the point where, had the woman who t-boned their vehicle was honest at the time, the outcome would definitely be different but it wasn't. I hope the woman was charged for causing the accident.

  • @G_Widdicombe
    @G_Widdicombe 10 месяцев назад +230

    12:52 this resonated. I held the hand of my wife nearly 10 years ago as she took her last breath. She was 38. Awful. This is a brave lady telling her story like this.

    • @thatpart
      @thatpart 10 месяцев назад +10

      Sorry you had to experience that. And sorry for your loss. 🙏

    • @Alaska-me5jc
      @Alaska-me5jc 10 месяцев назад +3

      I am so sorry for your loss

    • @michaelcampbell296
      @michaelcampbell296 10 месяцев назад +5

      I'm so sorry for your loss, I couldn't imagine

    • @RobertMajor-jq2ke
      @RobertMajor-jq2ke 10 месяцев назад +5

      Yes lost my wife to in 2018 it's been a struggle

    • @Juneebug18
      @Juneebug18 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@RobertMajor-jq2keto you and the OP. I am sorry for your loss!

  • @KHGSMel
    @KHGSMel 10 месяцев назад +931

    imagine killing someone and then blaming it on the grieving girlfriend... wtf

    • @evandykes5473
      @evandykes5473 10 месяцев назад

      Perception is wild man. Objective reality is fading. Trans women , ARE women

    • @Juneebug18
      @Juneebug18 10 месяцев назад +15

      Wasn't it the mom? The man's mom blames her.

    • @KHGSMel
      @KHGSMel 10 месяцев назад +74

      @@Juneebug18 the other woman in the accident said rose hadn't stopped at the stop sign, which is why the collision happened

    • @JLYT2024
      @JLYT2024 10 месяцев назад +18

      ​@KHGSMel have conflicted feelings about this one because if it's the truth then it's the truth 🤷‍♀️

    • @KHGSMel
      @KHGSMel 10 месяцев назад +27

      @@JLYT2024 I understand what you mean. however, all we have to go by is rose's words. and sadly, stuff like this does happen.

  • @Walkingwithjordan214
    @Walkingwithjordan214 10 месяцев назад +164

    I’m so sorry that you were treated this way. Please everyone, the ONLY word you ever have to say to the cops is LAWYER!

    • @brookebowers1229
      @brookebowers1229 10 месяцев назад

      I tried that in Ireland they broke my fingers and illegally beat and detained me same as the U$ ..you have the right not if you are handicapped or a woman-but in the states at protest always write down the number of a pro bono lawyer whom is backing the protest whom will you bail you out and bring a sharpie with you to copy it- why i left the U$ 20 yrs ago wtoseattle and tanks in my neighbourhood - prophetic but Ireland is BADD if you ar e an immigrant or not a white man

    • @SherryM1702
      @SherryM1702 10 месяцев назад

      Absolutely. Do not talk to the police they will they always seem to mess something up and make it worse for people.

    • @douglassnell408
      @douglassnell408 10 месяцев назад

      L

    • @beastinshow2362
      @beastinshow2362 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@douglassnell408 press F to L.
      also, original poster is absolutely correct.
      alternate versions; "Lawyer me.", "Lawyer me now", "Me needing lawyer a lot now", and.. oh, para-rephlecting as I am, you and your ingenous ways, go wild with those facts in contemplative form.

    • @brookebowers1229
      @brookebowers1229 10 месяцев назад +2

      NOT IN THE REPUBLIC OF IRELAND and ARE A WOMAN WHOM IS HANDICAPPED in County of Cork Cork Cty Garda Station bridewell garda station and Bantry town gardai if you - anyone were to ring and ask why i am denied these rights feel free - thee are huge race issues happening here immigration hate ... really there are no safeguards in place on paper yes bt really if you are not from here even if for 20yrs ... you will be denied basic rights - the gardai are vigilantes here since Covid we had the strictest lockdown in Europe and longest which gave the gardai too much power - plus my husband has family on the local force nepotism rules rural ireland - i am trying to get legal aid but am fighting to live daily

  • @jaebird8539
    @jaebird8539 10 месяцев назад +23

    Fellow sufferer of survivors guilt. Your story resonates deeply. Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities, strength, and story.

  • @jacquelinem3655
    @jacquelinem3655 10 месяцев назад +185

    Some of these comments. People are acting like they were there and knew what happened. Weird behavior towards a stranger. This could have happened to any of us. Thanks for sharing Rose. 🌹 I wish you well.

    • @hes9976
      @hes9976 10 месяцев назад

      NOT ANY OF US ......UNLESS YOU ARE AN UNACCOUNTABLE XANNY HEAD

    • @reneelibby4885
      @reneelibby4885 10 месяцев назад +9

      this coldness and judgmentalism is unfortunately way too common on the Internet. We don't know people or their stories, really. Be kind.

  • @sharonhutchins5784
    @sharonhutchins5784 10 месяцев назад +191

    My mother and 11 year old niece were killed when the driver of the other car fell asleep and hit them head on. His vehicle had drifted across the road and his foot had gone dead on the gas pedal causing him to hit them at 80 mph in a 30mph zone. He hit them so hard, the frame behind the front seat was broken. He survive with a couple broken ribs. My mom died on the scene. My niece died two days later. When we went to see the vehicle, the salvage yard worker thought we were just oglers. We were actually there to retrieve personal items from the trunk. But the salvage worker just started casually saying how, oh yeh, she was going over 80mph…making it her fault. I said, “Shut up! Just. Shut. Up! My mother NEVER broke the speed limit. She had her GRANDBABY in that car! A grandbaby that she loved DEARLY! So SHUT UP ABOUT THINGS YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT!” He slunk off somewhere. It’s disgusting how people will just assume. Or hear rumors without knowing facts and spread them.

    • @Nina-dy8cm
      @Nina-dy8cm 10 месяцев назад +14

      Im sorry for your loss

    • @RobertMajor-jq2ke
      @RobertMajor-jq2ke 10 месяцев назад +20

      That's truly horrific I lost my wife and 2sons life is truly unpredictable I can't stand being alone with my thoughts I have been alone for the past 6years since losing them my friends say get over it and I say you never truly get over something like that you carry it with you Forever and always I am Dead inside a shell of a person

    • @Mr-Angelo0U812
      @Mr-Angelo0U812 10 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@RobertMajor-jq2ke😢

    • @sharonhutchins5784
      @sharonhutchins5784 10 месяцев назад +15

      @@RobertMajor-jq2ke Unless they’ve experienced a loss of this magnitude, there’s no understanding it. I had people tell me I should seek help three months after it happened!! Get out of here with that! I will always grieve their loss!

    • @christinerussell1132
      @christinerussell1132 10 месяцев назад +3

      🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💔

  • @lynnmarieanderson1744
    @lynnmarieanderson1744 8 месяцев назад +14

    I’ve become so addicted to this channel, new subscriber here! This woman’s story tugs at my heart. I’m older but someone who was my significant other for a very long time died not long ago and I still beat myself up because I always wished I could have done more for him. It’s the same kind of feeling. I have bipolar disorder myself. I’d honestly be willing to send her a card and some money to try to help her out in some way. This has also made me realize how judgmental I can be, because when I first saw her with the purple hair and tattoos I felt dismissive of her, but then when I listened to what happened I just want to give her a hug and let her know how much I care. This kind of thing could happen to anyone.

  • @WENCHintheTINFOILhat
    @WENCHintheTINFOILhat 10 месяцев назад +56

    Rose, before you told us what you do for a living, I noticed how beautiful your hair & nails are. Then, I noticed the candles on your arm.
    Ma’am, I’m in Texas. And proud to share my state with you. You are the opitome of survival beauty.
    I thought ptsd & then you said bipolar and I realized that someone could have both. Your strength is remarkable. To see you not only survive, but thrive is inspiring. Remember, it’s ok to have bad moments, hours, days sometimes. That’s part of grief and there is nothing abnormal about it. All the things you feel about the tragedy, is valid and completely natural. And there is no time limit on it. You process how you process and frankly, it was fantastic to hear your story to the end. Bravo.

    • @Litigator-4-life
      @Litigator-4-life 10 месяцев назад +2

      ❤❤❤

    • @vsmith4710
      @vsmith4710 7 месяцев назад +4

      Thats a beautiful thing to say ❤❤

    • @lesbianslipknotfan
      @lesbianslipknotfan 5 месяцев назад

      this is such a beautifully written comment. i hope she sees it

  • @LoloO42
    @LoloO42 10 месяцев назад +36

    "Survivor" being the operative word in this title! Good for you, Rose. I hope you live a long, happy life.

  • @mavisspringer2780
    @mavisspringer2780 10 месяцев назад +30

    Mark, thank you for sharing this inspiring story of survival.

  • @surfer19541
    @surfer19541 10 месяцев назад +232

    That psychiatrist who shamed her at the facility should loose his license...geeze

    • @jjkatz
      @jjkatz 10 месяцев назад +17

      She was in the wrong bringing drugs in.

    • @Maxcat22
      @Maxcat22 10 месяцев назад +7

      @@jjkatz and giving them to someone there

    • @LAan0201
      @LAan0201 10 месяцев назад +21

      I question this. I’ve worked with several psychiatrists and none have ever spoke to a person like this. This likely her interpretation of what he said….not reality.

    • @surfer19541
      @surfer19541 10 месяцев назад

      @@LAan0201 ruclips.net/video/jO9nzq9xfLA/видео.htmlsi=_uKu7nGBHTnJtLTB

    • @millenniumtowerskelton5143
      @millenniumtowerskelton5143 10 месяцев назад +1

      You are taking one side of the story… of course. Purple tattoo girl has the greatest memory. She just wants money. I know you all think the hospital and paramedics did her dirty. Typical.

  • @jackandlill
    @jackandlill 10 месяцев назад +156

    I can't believe her mom would let her go back to Mexico knowing her lunatic father would be waiting to do her unspeakable harm?!!

  • @cindygandara1059
    @cindygandara1059 10 месяцев назад +76

    I really hope that woman who hit them gets what's coming honestly...she destroyed so many lives and couldn't be accountable for it....thats frustrating...so sorry for your loss and I pray you have so many blessings coming to you ♡

    • @originalbluebuddha
      @originalbluebuddha 9 месяцев назад +3

      Only one woman was driving under the influence, and it wasn't the woman who hit them - who was also the woman with the right of way.

    • @_roshi
      @_roshi 9 месяцев назад +3

      @@originalbluebuddhacould you reference any proof

    • @maryreynolds5310
      @maryreynolds5310 7 месяцев назад +1

      I couldn’t finish watching, I was so mad that I know it’s not her fault and they blamed her. Please tell me, how was it found it wasn’t her fault..how did she find out? Thank you!

    • @AJ-hz3tx
      @AJ-hz3tx 6 месяцев назад

      In all fairness, she admitted to driving drunk many times after the accident.

  • @tammic2016
    @tammic2016 10 месяцев назад +83

    Rose was failed by so many people especially the professionals whose care she was in. A psychiatrist calling her a junkie?!?! Wtf. I’m so glad she survived all this and is thriving. Good for you Rose. Proud of you!

    • @bruce274
      @bruce274 10 месяцев назад +11

      do you really think the Psychiatrist said that to her? You don't have to believe everything you hear....

    • @Mr-Angelo0U812
      @Mr-Angelo0U812 10 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@bruce274wow....just.. Wow

    • @Natalieeesch
      @Natalieeesch 10 месяцев назад +6

      And prescribing her a shoebox full of medication right off the bat including xanax?? Wtf is that. Statistically speaking, people who are in poverty or are the most vulnerable get prescribed for the most drugs. This medical system needs to change

    • @l.obrien8341
      @l.obrien8341 10 месяцев назад +2

      he could have said it differently but that was the meaning

    • @Blu64oh
      @Blu64oh 10 месяцев назад +7

      Psychiatrist absolutely say that type of shit to people. And if you think they don't, you're part of the blind population that also thinks facilities are more helpful than hurtful.

  • @oceanstaiga5928
    @oceanstaiga5928 10 месяцев назад +102

    I survived childhood cancer. But many of the friends I made in hospital didn’t. Survivors guilt comes in many forms no matter how unreasonable it is when you think about it rationally. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the faces of my friends and still wonder sometimes why I was allowed to live and they weren’t.

    • @nyahgirl4105
      @nyahgirl4105 9 месяцев назад

      Very deep.

    • @jamiemelissa7762
      @jamiemelissa7762 6 месяцев назад +1

      So true ❤

    • @blessedbythebest1003
      @blessedbythebest1003 4 месяца назад

      Live your life to the fullest!! For you and memory of them! Gods plan is real. You’re here for a grand purpose. Don’t waste it feeling shame, those feelings don’t come from the Lord. Live laugh and love!!!💗

    • @oceanstaiga5928
      @oceanstaiga5928 4 месяца назад +1

      @@blessedbythebest1003 I hate when people say it’s gods plan to have children suffer and die. How is that supposed to make anybody feel better? I’ve heard it often as a kid too that it was meant to be and that just made me mad towards a god who’d let that happen. Rather than say god somehow thinks it’s good to have kids suffer, I’d love if people just accept that terrible things happen and you can lean on god DESPITE that to get through the tough times. Not everything has to be rosy and not everything has a simple explanation, it’s better to say we don’t know why terrible things happen to innocent people but if god gives you strength to survive that then I’d rather say that is his plan.

    • @RebeKeys
      @RebeKeys 3 месяца назад

      @@oceanstaiga5928 Amen.

  • @CarlosRivera-si2ut
    @CarlosRivera-si2ut 10 месяцев назад +35

    I am so happy for you Rose. You 1000 percent deserve to do well.

  • @cstorres8243
    @cstorres8243 10 месяцев назад +26

    I lost 2 of my loved ones to a drunk driver. He ended up going to prison, but I felt such hatred for him. He never admitted or owned what he had done. Later we learned he had led a terrible life, left his children and a spouse - no reasons for driving drunk but gave us a bit of insight or reason for something that makes no sense at the time (if that makes sense). You never know what's going on in someone's life. I thank you for recognizing the part you had in these events. I wish you a good life, Rose.

  • @meggrim5993
    @meggrim5993 10 месяцев назад +38

    I relate to staying alive for your pets. Not too long ago I was in a really dark place. I kept reaching out for help and I wasn’t getting it. No one took me seriously. Anyway, one night I was screaming in my bed and sobbing about certain ideations RUclips doesn’t like. My dog came in the room, jumped on the bed, and licked my teary face and cuddled up on my lap. It was in that moment that I realized if anything happened to me, she would be so confused and sad. Her love for me knows no bounds. That’s what I needed. I owe my life to my Sunbeam💖

    • @MicheleOverton
      @MicheleOverton 10 месяцев назад +2

      Honey💖💖I pray if the same dark place ever happens to me I remember you and your story. You're brave, really brave for sharing and it's people like you we remember, and maybe you save lives and souls and you'll probably never know it. I'll remember you, with so much regard.

    • @meggrim5993
      @meggrim5993 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@MicheleOverton this comment meant more to me than you’ll ever know. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 💖

    • @MicheleOverton
      @MicheleOverton 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@meggrim5993 I'm so glad you feel that way! Because it's very true and I hope we stay in touch. We are friends now and this is exactly why I love RUclips 💖🍫 here is a Choco candy bar for you to enjoy and please give Sunbeam a kiss from me as long as she doesn't mind if I smell like kitties😻

    • @julianastarlight5097
      @julianastarlight5097 4 месяца назад

      I have a rescue/ex racer greyhound who literally changed my life/rescued me...

  • @latoyangawhika4506
    @latoyangawhika4506 10 месяцев назад +10

    Rose, your story has left me speechless and in awe of your courage and strength. Oscar would be so incredibly proud of how far you’ve come, even though you stumbled, you continued to get up and fight. An inspiration if I ever saw one.

  • @NickPappapetru
    @NickPappapetru 10 месяцев назад +34

    I am so sorry for your pain. When I lost my husband he was 28 and I was 24. Talk about trauma. No one can truly understand unless they have lived through it. Head up and try to stay strong. Sending love and prayers ❤❤❤❤ Lisa Las Vegas

    • @JBE608
      @JBE608 10 месяцев назад +1

      Hugs

  • @chiken__
    @chiken__ 10 месяцев назад +84

    I can’t imagine how terrifying it would of been to experience a car crash like that☹️

    • @Saer-s9u
      @Saer-s9u 10 месяцев назад +5

      it's one of the most surreal experiances_ traumas one can have. It happens in the blink of an eye but feels like it's slow motion,time almost stands still..

  • @SocketSilver
    @SocketSilver 10 месяцев назад +16

    What a freaking strong woman! These types of testimonies help me in my own struggles. I wish she would’ve showed off her tats and their stories. YOU GO GIRL! RIP Oscar. Big Ups to Fiancée for being strong for you also.

  • @TherealHRF
    @TherealHRF 10 месяцев назад +27

    Most people will not have to experience one of these traumatic events in their lifetime, yet she’s been able to survive multiple and also be clear, calm and articulate while reliving them to relay her story. She’s stronger and more resilient than most will ever be.

  • @cardura99
    @cardura99 10 месяцев назад +27

    We are looking forward to hearing how your next chapter goes. Truth be told, I don't think it would be possible to feel any other way than how you felt. What a horrible time for you to have to endure. Keep moving forward Rose.

  • @bonniemiller4041
    @bonniemiller4041 10 месяцев назад +51

    Shame on these entitled people who inflict this type of pain on others. What a horrendous and egregious act on another human being. This young woman just lost ten years of her life. I hope that she now really knows that she deserves to be happy and at peace. Her resilience is incredulous, but it’s also a beautiful thing. I would like to give her a piece of advice: Don’t let ANYONE play their movie on your screen. It’s all projection on their part. Please know that you are loved. Many thanks to Mark for letting you tell your story.

  • @SatyaKaliYam
    @SatyaKaliYam 10 месяцев назад +14

    Perfect example of how a survivor’s journey turned thriver in life. Surrendering to what is the truth and letting go of the self blame for one’s actions takes strong grit and determination to know how you serve a purpose. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us and being alive today witnessing your presence that which gives us hope. Grateful and no longer hateful of life. Bless you on your journey as you have blossomed into the Rose you are. 🙌❤️☯️☮️💟✝️🕉️☸️💯

  • @EmEm872
    @EmEm872 10 месяцев назад +28

    Rose, thankyou for sharing your story and telling us about the loss of Oscar. You have overcome gigantic obstacles and finally are putting yourself and your health first. Your fiance sounds like an incredible and loving man and you deserve ALL of the good things that are happening. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. ❤❤❤❤

  • @yolandaponkers1581
    @yolandaponkers1581 10 месяцев назад +128

    No child should ever have to live with the fear that her own dad will find her and SA her. I wish I could give her a hug ❤❤❤

    • @Saer-s9u
      @Saer-s9u 10 месяцев назад

      didn't she say her father died?

    • @carolseven3802
      @carolseven3802 10 месяцев назад +6

      Exactly. Her pattern of anxiety was set in early life.

    • @nataliehulbert7096
      @nataliehulbert7096 10 месяцев назад

      Mine had threatened to SA when I turned 16....haunted me til 17.....that part of her story killed me. So grateful you are still here luv. So grateful❤

    • @moni1404
      @moni1404 10 месяцев назад +4

      What about her brilliant mom who sends her for the summer straight to where he was?

    • @Litigator-4-life
      @Litigator-4-life 10 месяцев назад +1

      You're right. That chronic anxiety and childhood trauma could have affected her response to therapy. So glad she made it through to share her story...

  • @Pkh1187
    @Pkh1187 10 месяцев назад +18

    I can relate to so much of your story rose, thanks for sharing. You're not alone.

  • @blessedbythebest1003
    @blessedbythebest1003 4 месяца назад +3

    Her voice transitions later in the video. Lighter,free, proud of sharing this story to the world. ❤
    Sorry that happened but happy you’re alive! Use your life to help others through your testimony.

  • @imzachwithanh
    @imzachwithanh 10 месяцев назад +8

    Incredible story. Very well told. Congrats on all your progress, Rose, and rest in peace, Oscar.

  • @heidi190
    @heidi190 10 месяцев назад +22

    Some people are so incredibly cruel when they pass moral judgement. Rose, you deserve to be loved and alive on this earth without so much pain. You will feel whole again one day

    • @reneelibby4885
      @reneelibby4885 10 месяцев назад

      It's just inflicting more wounds.

  • @Toonces666
    @Toonces666 10 месяцев назад +8

    Rose, I am so glad you have Carlos. He sounds like a good man and a keeper! You should be proud of yourself to have come so far and to have overcome so much. Oscar would want you to live a happy life. Keep going! Many, many blessings.

  • @CatherineMassey-mr6pl
    @CatherineMassey-mr6pl 10 месяцев назад +12

    I'm so happy to see that you succeeded in life after all of the trauma. Keep up the good work!

  • @JeffWallaceSpeaks
    @JeffWallaceSpeaks 10 месяцев назад +69

    Life is a delicate balance, where each moment holds the power to change everything in an instant. It can be unpredictable, leaving us questioning the reasons behind it all. But amidst the uncertainty, there is one thing that shines through - resilience. This story is a testament to the strength and courage it takes to share our experiences with the world. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏🏾

    • @JuliaPelio
      @JuliaPelio 10 месяцев назад +2

      this❤

    • @stacielewis4912
      @stacielewis4912 10 месяцев назад +2

      Beautifully written 🫶🏼😥

    • @jwallscott
      @jwallscott 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@stacielewis4912 Thank you for the kind words! We need more of those on this internet!!! ❤

  • @sharonherzog5740
    @sharonherzog5740 10 месяцев назад +67

    the police get the driver that hit her, and her husband (that was not at the scene of the crash as her witness) and blame her. priceless. no actual work done. The family lashing out is their way of grieving but totally not ok. She had a concussion, that goes with not remembering it. The truama of the entire thing....goes with blocking it out. Just wow, HUGS Rose

    • @AJ-hz3tx
      @AJ-hz3tx 6 месяцев назад

      They have accident investigators that use measurements to ascertain who was at fault and the speed of each vehicle. If the other lady was speeding, they would have known.
      It’s math, nothing personal.

  • @patriciawilson6978
    @patriciawilson6978 10 месяцев назад +13

    Thanks for sharing your story, Rose.

  • @Citrinelink9
    @Citrinelink9 10 месяцев назад +26

    To be 21 years old an experiencing a traumatic devastating event such as she describes is unimaginable; to even try figure out how you would have handled it & cast judgement is uncalled for. All of her actions after the crash was her way of trying to cope & deal with the emotional turmoil. Anyone that blamed & shamed her would not have been as strong as she was to get to where she is now today. She’s a beautiful strong wise intelligent smart woman who got through a nightmare that wouldn’t be wished on anyone. Thanks for sharing Rose you are a genuine caring person keep shining. 🌹

    • @originalbluebuddha
      @originalbluebuddha 9 месяцев назад

      She was loaded when the accident happened, she stayed loaded for years afterward. Your laughable attempt to justify a fatal DUI reveal your character, or lack thereof.

  • @Vis4vendetaaa
    @Vis4vendetaaa 2 месяца назад +2

    I lost my boyfriend in a motorcycle accident that we were in. My boyfriend didn’t make it and I did I definitely feel survivors guilt about it and I can’t even wrap my head around what happened but this video helped me so much to get a glimpse into the future of this grief that I’m going through!
    I admire you and I send you a big hug 🫂🫂❤️

  • @Monikquar
    @Monikquar 10 месяцев назад +8

    Thanks Rose! You showed us how resilient & strong you are, even with such adversities you've been through. Wishing you the best of a happy & healthy life.

  • @teriripley-ki3mg
    @teriripley-ki3mg 10 месяцев назад +4

    You have an amazing story and you tell it beautifully. You’ve been thru so much - thank you for sharing your very personal story.

  • @beckykee8196
    @beckykee8196 10 месяцев назад +17

    I feel for you. I'm so proud of you and don't even know you.
    My fiance shot himself in front of me . Soon after his ex started rumors that either his friend and I did it or that I did it myself. Drugs and alcohol was what caused it...not him or me. Thank you for sharing and encouraging me to make better choices and make something better out of my life.

  • @faithfullmess
    @faithfullmess 10 месяцев назад +16

    Thank you for sharing Rose 🌹
    Keep moving forward ❤

  • @katherinetreiman9480
    @katherinetreiman9480 10 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you for sharing your story. I think this will help others who experience survivors guilt. You deserve this happiness. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

  • @Callitout-kl1uq
    @Callitout-kl1uq 8 месяцев назад +5

    I just want to give her the biggest hug. She has had such a hard life at such a young age.

  • @surfer19541
    @surfer19541 10 месяцев назад +28

    Mark...more up lifting stories lie this...she's incredible, and it's such pleasure to hear her story and how it came together for her. Best of everything Rose!!

  • @bruklinw1
    @bruklinw1 10 месяцев назад +21

    I can relate to Rose so much. My first love also died in March of 2014 and my life spiraled out of control. His family treated me so bad and I wasn't even allowed to attend his funeral. Every year, I feel bad because I've managed to make it to 27 (I'll be 28 on Friday) and he died at 21. Life has a crazy way of teaching us lessons and revealing things to us. I'm so glad she's doing better and she took control of her life. I'm sure he's so proud of her ❤

  • @LimoneneDaddy
    @LimoneneDaddy 10 месяцев назад +22

    Cathartic watch.. my best friend in college hung himself and his girlfriend found him, she was calling me all night that night to come over and help her/not be alone. I remember her describing the color he was when she found him. I told her i was coming, id be there soon. I just couldnt bring myself to go there and see that whole scene. I still have so much pain and guilt from that situation, and thinking i somehow could have prevented it. even though i know he would have wanted the same thing - and she holds no grudges either. I know he was already gone but i still feel so badly sometimes. This was 10 years ago this year and im still undertanding it all. He was supposed to come over and hang out the day he passed and stopped answering everyone, it took me so many years of misdirected anger and selfishness, that eventually turned into empathy, and finally into compassion that i try and practice now.
    It didnt help that he was isolating a lot there at the end, and i was one of the few people he wanted to be around 😢. Some looked to me for answers or some type of sign as to why it happened - but i know thats not my weight to bare.
    Im an only child and always wanted a brother - he was like that to me. Its taken me this long just to understand how much he loved me. Love you, Patrick.
    When he passed was when my life transitioned from partying and having fun to using to fill a void that i had it was a very shifting moment, il never forget that night and how it changed the trajectory of my life.
    Better now, but it does take a long time to heal. I wouldnt say it gets "easier" as much as the pain becomes more familiar 🤔 and can be dealt w in that way. Just sharing my story.
    Thank you to anyone who reads for letting me share that, the 10 year anniversary of his death was a few weeks ago

    • @JLYT2024
      @JLYT2024 10 месяцев назад +4

      Appreciate you sharing 🙏
      R.I.P Patrick- til you meet again

    • @Rainorshine004
      @Rainorshine004 10 месяцев назад +2

      Hi there, hope u are holding up okay. My neighbors name is Patrick. I think ur friend is with you, watchingout 4 you. 🙏 🌈 ❤

    • @LimoneneDaddy
      @LimoneneDaddy 10 месяцев назад +1

      @GardenHomie thank you this means a lot!

  • @davidbanner9344
    @davidbanner9344 10 месяцев назад +5

    Though I don't know you personally Rose, still I'm so very happy for you and extremely proud of you. It brings joy to my heart to see you overcome loss and found redemption. You deserve everything great thing that life has to offer. Godspeed to you Rose! 🙏

  • @rhacindadouglas3069
    @rhacindadouglas3069 10 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you for your story. You were failed by so many people that are supposed to make sure that you are okay. I am so glad that you came thru the other side. You are a beautiful soul, inside and out.

    • @aquilinaciamacco2410
      @aquilinaciamacco2410 9 месяцев назад

      "failed by so many people".....this says a MOUTHFUL. Once people "make the connection" that there are VERY SPECIFIC PEOPLE in their lives who are bringing them to their knees and destroying their chances for happiness? That's when they can make BETTER CHOICES by ending contact with those people and cultivating relationships with people who positively impact their lives❤.

  • @shayl3098
    @shayl3098 9 месяцев назад +2

    never had the urge to comment on a youtube video but this.... im a psychologist whos recently found an interest studying the phenomenon of something called post-traumatic growth and this woman is the epitome of that term. as a survivor myself seeing the genuineness of her smile near the end of the video made me incredibly proud. no story can ever be lost to despair.

  • @leneo1731
    @leneo1731 10 месяцев назад +5

    What an amazing story about survival, courage and strength!
    You are so unbelievably strong, Rose!
    I thought I had it rough but your story really put things in perspective!
    Thank you so much for telling your story and being so honest ❤️
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your boyfriend.
    I can't even imagine losing the person you love the most so sudden and the way it happened.

  • @TheKendallBABY
    @TheKendallBABY 10 месяцев назад +3

    I’m so proud of her. I relate to a lot of her story and this video really helped me come to terms with what I’m feeling. I now know what I need to do in order to have a long happy life her. Keep going girl, you’re doing great at this life thing.

  • @DivaAlethia
    @DivaAlethia 10 месяцев назад +4

    I’m so sorry for everything that you went through. I hope you have complete healing. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @kennyblaha9620
    @kennyblaha9620 10 месяцев назад +2

    This interview is probably the one which hit me the hardest emotionally. Rose deserves to be happy and proud of what she has accomplished.

  • @bradleyozbun1012
    @bradleyozbun1012 10 месяцев назад +6

    Thank you for sharing your recovery with me ! 💯 ❤

  • @kimberlypainter5169
    @kimberlypainter5169 10 месяцев назад +4

    You are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you.

  • @jessicamerrell7192
    @jessicamerrell7192 10 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you Rose for sharing your story 🩵 Survivors guilt is so hard to explain to others, but you did such a great job at conveying it to people who may not understand. Don't stop being you, don't stop living❤

  • @NikkiBriar
    @NikkiBriar 10 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing outcome, I cannot imagine the last 10 years of what you endured.... thank you for sharing and so glad you fought through to get proper help, it started with YOU wanting the change and that is tremendous ❤🙏 ps MARK YOU ARE THE BEST! ❤

  • @brandimyhren6317
    @brandimyhren6317 10 месяцев назад +2

    Yes closing chapters in your life is the greatest feeling of freedom. You’re ready to elevate above the past and thank goodness for the little sister giving her that blessing to move on. So happy for her and proof work is therapeutic and when you work you achieve goals and have money to support yourself. Rose you are so strong and thank you for sharing your story with me and us. Also thank you to your fiancé for understanding you and allowing you to grieve in your own way and just being there because he cared. Beautiful.

  • @friskysoftpaws2412
    @friskysoftpaws2412 9 месяцев назад +1

    This hit me so hard. I felt her pain through the screen. Rosy we wish you the best in your healing and journey in life. You deserve the whole wide world

  • @PsychonauticalSiren
    @PsychonauticalSiren 10 месяцев назад +6

    ❤ Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
    I hope the good samaritan guy that drove you home sees this and reaches out to you. What a trip that would be! 😊

  • @leasha356
    @leasha356 10 месяцев назад +1

    You’re such a strong person for enduring all that heartache and sadness and still being able to pull yourself up and push forward. You do deserve happiness. Congratulations on your engagement, and on the new chapter in your life.

  • @rebeccastuck7414
    @rebeccastuck7414 10 месяцев назад +58

    Good Morning Mark from Sunny San Diego! I just recently purchased and received your signed book and i cannot tell you how super pleased i am with it- gorgeous photos!!!! Also whoever does your packing foe shipping- hats off. It was impecable and ao carefully and thoughtfully done. I thank you Sir- it will be a cherished part of our collection 🌈🥰

    • @reneelibby4885
      @reneelibby4885 10 месяцев назад +7

      oh cool ! I purchased one a couple of weeks ago. can't wait to get it. thanks for the feedback.

    • @rebeccastuck7414
      @rebeccastuck7414 10 месяцев назад +1

      Hey Rene!! Trust me your book will arrive in mint condition!! It would be an amazing coffee table display and ice breaker/conversation starter!! Mark is a genius and we are all indebted to him for all these eye opening life lessons and for bridging the gaps of humanity. God Bless you Rene & Mark L.🌈💚🥰

    • @reneelibby4885
      @reneelibby4885 10 месяцев назад

      Blessings to you as well!@@rebeccastuck7414

  • @medokarbo
    @medokarbo 10 месяцев назад +1

    I’m in tears at 1:07:00 because of how staggeringly beautiful forgiveness is. Of course we can all understand the pain and even the undeserved resentment Oscar’s mom and sister and family might have felt. What is difficult to understand is forgiveness, and I say “staggering” because it has the ability to trip us up in an unexpected and good way. It has the power to bring us to a new realm of being. Thank you Rose for living your best life and for honoring your love; thank you Oscar’s mom and sister for blessing the happiness of your son’s love.

    • @SSpirited-q4m
      @SSpirited-q4m 10 месяцев назад

      Absolutely. Well said- forgiveness can be so healing. Rose living her best life and truly doing better and her gratefulness for the good things in her life is beautiful to see. The human spirit is resilient- you can go through Hell and claw your way back if you truly want it and work for it like she has done.

  • @Msellasempiricalexperiences51
    @Msellasempiricalexperiences51 10 месяцев назад +20

    It’s So Crazy how you can be going through something and hear someone else’s story and Realize just how Blessed and Protected You Really Are. Thank you Rose for your Courage and Strength. For telling the Truth about your Poor Choices and Owning up to the Decisions you made whether good or bad. I feel so much better about what is happening in my life right now after hearing how you fought against your addiction and are continuing to push through No Matter What. You’re Truly an Inspiration ❤

    • @la3800
      @la3800 10 месяцев назад +1

      Random capitalization detracts from your statement.

    • @Mr-Angelo0U812
      @Mr-Angelo0U812 10 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@la3800no it doesn't😂 but so glad you are perfect.

  • @SuzyQ1129
    @SuzyQ1129 10 месяцев назад +3

    Ugh this was so painful to watch, I can only imagine how painful it was to live it and retell the story. Thank you for sharing, Rose

  • @InternetPersond
    @InternetPersond 10 месяцев назад +7

    It is so nice that this video came out on the anniversary of Oscar’s death because it helps a bereaved person to memorialize their loved ones. I’m so sorry for your loss Rose. Thank you Mark.

  • @brendarobinson1723
    @brendarobinson1723 6 месяцев назад +2

    This episode was so sad. I cried at the end because I'm so happy for her. To be treated the way she was and her strength to come back from it all ❤

  • @rosalind442
    @rosalind442 10 месяцев назад +5

    You’re an amazing woman, Rose. You have the strength to get your life back and you did! I wish you all the best of luck.

  • @kyliejones8910
    @kyliejones8910 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thankyou Rose, for sharing, so sorry for your loss, but a wonderful story of courage and determination you are extremely gifted and successful. To hear your recovery helped me greatly in my life at this time, thankyou x Kylie Perth Australia

  • @conniehanses
    @conniehanses 10 месяцев назад +7

    You are a brave, strong woman. And you are not only honoring but yourself too. You deserve it. You are brave and a warrior for going through all of that, and going to get help is huge! Brave to come on here as well... peace and love to you, my dear. 💙🌎
    You are inspiring...

  • @m1ssjuju
    @m1ssjuju 10 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you so much for sharing! Love the ending and i dont usually sit for long listening to addiction stories as I struggle myself. Much love xox

  • @taylorslikklewifeeeyyy
    @taylorslikklewifeeeyyy 10 месяцев назад +19

    Seeing that it’s the 28th of March today..I hope Rose is doing better🥹

  • @aimeealyse3115
    @aimeealyse3115 2 месяца назад

    Bless the program and bless this woman. Keep going on day at a time 🤍 you deserve all good things. Thank you for sharing.

  • @exsecror78
    @exsecror78 10 месяцев назад +8

    Damn that was a bad one. Poor Rose. I’m glad she has mostly recovered from that nightmare. Sounds like she got the Texas treatment through the help she was getting. Kudos to you Rose. You do deserve to be happy and healthy. Big hug.

  • @ellengarcia4041
    @ellengarcia4041 8 месяцев назад +1

    This is a very heartfelt and moving story the pain Rose has endured from a young age, the rejection, the pain, humiliation but then the accusations, injustice, the horrific treatment and throughout she keeps her composure and suffers in silence. She has been blessed. A true survivor.

  • @carynmartin6053
    @carynmartin6053 10 месяцев назад +8

    Carlos sounds like such a great boyfriend for you! 🎉❤ I can relate to a lot of your story, having lost my soul mate to HIV and me not ever even contracting it myself. Then turning to self destructive behaviors and in and out of rehabs, on meds, and getting arrested in NY for having a loose pill in my purse after a traffic stop. My mother left me there overnight and then told me on the ride home that I should have just offed myself years ago bc all I am is an embarrassment to her😮😢. You are such a strong willed successful survivor, and thank you for sharing your journey with us 🎉❤😊 You look a lot like my beautiful Mexican soon to be daughter in law🎉😊

    • @Rainorshine004
      @Rainorshine004 10 месяцев назад

      🙏 🌈 ❤ hang in there. They r always with you.

  • @leahrobinson9800
    @leahrobinson9800 5 месяцев назад

    Such a healing video not only for herself but I’m sure plenty of others… one of my favorites and I’ve never felt happier for a stranger 💜

  • @nhlibra
    @nhlibra 10 месяцев назад +9

    That's quite a story, Rose. I liked the way you explained things, it wasn't confusing to understand. Wouldn't it be cool if Oscar was the one that sent Carlos to you? I'm one of those people that thinks in terms like that. Well, you've been through a 10-year process and have learned much about yourself. Hope you have a wonderful wedding coming up! Best wishes for continued blessing and success and the mindset to always stay grateful. 🙂💒👩‍❤‍👨♥

  • @jrahn66
    @jrahn66 Месяц назад

    Rose, you a beautiful and resilient young lady. Remember, you are strong, loving, beautiful and compassionate. You have come a long way, sister. You are uplifting and you would be a great mentor for folks going through psychological shifts due to trauma. God bless you!

  • @barikitchens6383
    @barikitchens6383 10 месяцев назад +5

    So proud of you Rose. You persevered through so much. Stay strong! Wishing you the best ❤

  • @Dalester1979
    @Dalester1979 10 месяцев назад +5

    God bless and God speed you in your life's journey!! So proud and amazed by your strength and ability to pick yourself up from all that grief and misery!! So happy for you!!

  • @magdabak5797
    @magdabak5797 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for sharing this very difficult story

  • @filsolano5465
    @filsolano5465 10 месяцев назад +3

    Never expect any type of privacy, on personal stuff posted on social media. I’m glad that Rose finally got her act together and is finally for once truly happy

  • @Rainorshine004
    @Rainorshine004 10 месяцев назад +1

    Hi Rose, thank you for sharing your story. You know, ive seen so many things that are not mere coincidences. Seeing the name Mark recently. I went to a creative writting workshop, and was thinking of the playwright Oscar Wilde. I went to the library, and a young man that looks like him points me in the directionof the meeting.. Today i wear a purple pony tail holder. I see your hair is a pretty purple. I too had ptsd., and i know what thats like. Survivors guilt, i know alot of people that have had that over a passing of a childhood friend. I had it too. I think your story will help so many people feel that they are not alone. I think you are brave and courageous, and you give alot of hope to others. I think Oscar is a guardian angel for you, watching out for you always. ❤ 🌈 And a very special thank you to Mark for letting us hear your story. 🙏

  • @kathyreardon4222
    @kathyreardon4222 10 месяцев назад +2

    Awesome Story in the end.. so far. Good Job forgiving yourself 💜 You are worth having a great life!

  • @marshamccarthy2054
    @marshamccarthy2054 6 месяцев назад

    Congratulations. This is the best story I've heard on this channel. You do deserve to be happy. I'm glad you chose to live.

  • @gallerysevenmaynard
    @gallerysevenmaynard 10 месяцев назад +3

    Wow, she has been through so much. So happy that she’s come out on the other side and is doing well. It’s great to hear a story of triumph ❤

  • @juliemackenzie1978
    @juliemackenzie1978 10 месяцев назад +2

    So glad that you are doing better after your diagnosis & you are no longer addicted. Congratulations on your engagement. 🎉🎊 I hope your journey continues to move forward. 👍😊👏 You are certainly goal orientated & motivated. Grief will take as long as you need...there is no time limit on grief. Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊 Life is about the choices we all make. Just as there are consequences for all of those choices.
    Here's a great quote that someone wrote about grief....it hangs on my fridge...so, that I can look at it every day. 👍😊
    "Grief, I've learned, is really love. It's all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go." J.W.A.

  • @tnnh123
    @tnnh123 10 месяцев назад +6

    You are a truly beautiful soul. My heart goes out to you and what you’ve been through.

  • @fearless79
    @fearless79 10 месяцев назад

    Rose, thank you so much for sharing. When you said “I am not ashamed of what I did, was it the best thing? No, but I did what I needed to do at the time to survive.” you don’t know how healing that was for me. Thank you 🤍

  • @Gemini_blue
    @Gemini_blue 10 месяцев назад +6

    I lost my soul mate 9.22.23 I just turned 32 on 3.28, he was only 46, together for almost 11 years. He had a heart attack while driving his dump truck. They couldn’t save him. I miss him so much. I’m soooooo lost. My family just doesn’t understand my grief, doesn’t help that my mom and brother are both narcissistic. I’m super depressed & also just lost my job. I’m really having a hard time. This world can be so cruel.

    • @alessandroorru2165
      @alessandroorru2165 10 месяцев назад

      Sending you much love and blessings

    • @aquilinaciamacco2410
      @aquilinaciamacco2410 9 месяцев назад

      Don't lose hope. Keep getting up everyday! Keep practicing "self care" and make yourself and your "healing" your number one priority in life. You are enough. You are worth it. You deserve healing and happiness and a blessed future ❤. One day at a time, you can do this ❤.

    • @brittaniereed5031
      @brittaniereed5031 9 месяцев назад

      Praying for you. I’m so sorry

    • @elisiacleland446
      @elisiacleland446 9 месяцев назад +1

      Take care of you like he would. Oxoxo

    • @marlismueller4496
      @marlismueller4496 9 месяцев назад

      Sending you love and healing