Absolutely. If a man allows a woman to walk all over him, it is game over. The reason why this is the case is because the man has no boundaries. This means that he can easily give in to others. When a man establishes boundaries, she will feel safe.
I realized my wife was gone when was I sitting on a private beach on the island of Saint John in the Virgin Islands. We were staying at the Ritz Carlton in Saint Thomas for 5 days and I rented a boat at Red Hook Bay Marina to go island hopping and exploring. My 3 daughters were young under the age of 10. We took the boat to a little bay with a secluded beach and anchored off shore about 100 feet and we all swam to shore. I remember sitting on the beach, the sand was nice and warm, as my girls and their mother were playing down the beach a ways away from me. We had a beautiful Condo at the Ritz, which wasn’t cheap, a very romantic setting!!! My wife hardly knew I was there, needless to say there was no physical contact the whole time and my advances were spurned. As I sat on that beach I realized that it was over. She treated me like I was her step brother. I was crushed at realizing this, and how much like an idiot I felt. I had been chumped in the cruelest way that life could serve up. My biggest mistake? Was not leaving immediately. I stuck around for the children for a few more years and it was not a healthy household and being there just damaged me further. I took my vows to heart and they were sacred. But I must of missed the part where the priest said something about her changing her mind whenever she wanted with little consequences in those vows. I am fully Red Pilled now and happily single and have a much better understanding of female nature. Just made my last alimony payment this month October 2024! That was for 10 years BTW. I will retire one day with my integrity and honor intact. I wish I knew as a young single man what I know now about female nature. I was a lamb to slaughter when I got married in the early 90’s at the age of 31. Very naive!
Sorry to hear that Bro. I am kind of your situation but I don't think it is wrong to stay for the kids. I think it is important to tell your daughters about why she should stay with their husbands when they are married.
Perhaps this is somewhat true. I think it’s because women know other women can easily take their “man”. We are terrified of this! Terrified bc a broken heart from the loss of our man is devastating. 💔💔.
I admit I don't get this. It seems a lot of you have had horrible relationships. I get it, that's frequent, not judging. What was horrible for me though, was getting dumped. Not while the relationship lasted. I had constant great sex, great cooks, etc. Was it perfect? Oh no, far from it ha ha. But it was much better than single. For me anyway. I never had nagging GFs, I never tolerated that. Yet currently it seems I have a very hard time finding any gal that is GF material.
Whenever I got the "You ruined my life" accusation, I wouldn't argue and just say "Sorry to hear that; let me know what you want to do." So your final advice is spot on and accurate: don't argue with them. The whole "you ruined my life" allowed me to prepare for the inevitable and not fear it, and letting her go was the best thing to have happened.
Puts me in mind of my favorite Sam Clemmons quote. "It's very difficult to win an argument with an intelligent person, but it's impossible to win an argument with an idiot." If logic & facts don't work, what do you have left? Z
Actually as soon as his wife said she did not like being married, it was already over, she just played along till she was ready to go. Unfortunately this is what marriage means now.
Social media has destroyed relationships. Most women have orbiters in their life. These are guys she can use as plan B if her current guy is not working as planned
My younger son, who is 16, was having trouble with his girlfriend today. He talked to her on the phone and began having an existential crisis. His brother is 19 and has had his girlfriend for a couple years now. I told him to go talk to his brother. The first thing his brther said was, "you can't reason with women." LOL. I was so proud. He used to get mad at me when I told him that when he was 16.
yup , the old " blurt and slam " . she emits a stream of hatefulness ( usually nonsensical ) then you can almost hear her ears slam shut . my ex divorced me when i was 41 and for a couple of years i was pretty hurt by it but looking back , i was just as fed up as she was and she did me a favor .
@@searcymasonry my dad's second wife did that to him and I let her finish her lie and double down on it to set the hook then I proved her wrong it was like letting the fish run with the line then pulling and watching it fly out of the water.
@@Brent-z2s reasoning with an argumentive woman is like playing chess with a pigeon . you might be the worlds best chess player but heres whats going to happen ; the pigeon is going to knock over all the playing pieces , shit on the board and strut arount the table cooing triumphantly .
Here's the problem with this mentality that men can never understand women: it fosters a defeatist attitude toward everything else. Maybe it's difficult to understand women, but how long have you tried to understand it? Did you give up too early? I bet you did. I bet you gave up early because EVERYONE tells you that men just can't understand women. It greatly underestimates a person's capacity to learn. Men solve problems. This is just another problem that is solvable and when you do solve it, the world opens up. If it's too hard for you to solve problems, then accept the terms: eat the bugs and live in a pod. Because that's for you.
Australian, American and most western world women think the same now, self-obsessed, self-centered, self-important and after all that they can get from their ex-partners. In the past they were caring, loving and good people, now they are as above.
@@peterrech2307 I lived in 8 countries and in 3 continents. Women are the essentially the same everywhere. Female nature is female nature. The self importance is even more pronounced in Asia.
We had a young colleague talking about relationships. He said at least I know my wife loves me. I told him...she loves you today. Every woman in the room cracked up when I said it. Because, they know how they are.
@@funlife3484 Women are heavily backed by the laws, courts, police, society. Every man can be discarded and labelled an "abuser" or can have false accusations levelled against him. Not so for men. We have to play the higher ground, always. No one is going to help men in these situations. We've experienced it and we are passing the knowledge down, up, left and right! I have personally experienced it. Wouldn't bother being on here commenting if it weren't true, I'd be out 'partying', commiting crimes or womanising.
@@michaelwhite6614 see, the laws have deterred you from committing crimes, womanising. No doubt that some clever woman misuse laws. There are both evil men and woman in the world.
Loyalty means something different to women. “For better or worse, for richer or poorer” was written by a man. For women it is just an inspirational quote said at her big party.
As they say, men are loyal to the commitment, women are loyal only to their feelings. They really want the commitment early in the relationship for their safety , but feel free to dispose of the committment when they no longer feel the "fear" ? John, what do you think about this?
In society, Women are judged almost entirely on beauty. Men are judged on their virtue, status, ethics, morales and values. There is no need for a women to be virtuous.
@@neue01 now says you are correct but at one time women where judged on beauty virtue and how many children they had. A few men still judge on virtue it's just hard to find out. I picked up a woman once the first night we met but I wouldn't date her and that was one major factor so she had her neighbor come tell me I was the only man he had ever seen spend the night there and that when she ran for sheriff she would win.
Also, when I was divorcing, a wise friend told me that he had figured out what women want. MORE I said: more of what? He replied: More of whatever they already have.
There's a line casually spoken by Angelica Houston in Lonesome Dove where she responds to old flame Gus' praise of her virtue where she simply replies "you'd be surprised"
@@sosdada-x8 these women would throw their own kids under the bus for their own self gain. Look at how they are willing to have kids with an old man just for child support. That kid will most likely not have a father before the age of 10. But she’s getting child support, so who cares. Red Flag: Plus any woman willing to do an abortion is killing off a part of herself. Look into how abortions are actually done. Keep your legs closed and think before you do and you won’t be put into such a situation.
Glad to know someone else experienced the realization that the woman they fell in love with is gone. The change was gradual, but my wife slowly became a different person. Heart breaking to realize, but it returned sanity into my life… every board was replaced on that ship.
I’m sure there are huge numbers of women out there who would say that their husbands have changed over time. “He’s not the man I married”. People grow, change, sometimes grow apart. With enough work and communication and willingness to adapt, marriages can sometimes be saved. It’s rare, but possible.
Its almost impossible to see that when your a young man, like 20 years old. But by 40 a man should realize a woman’s striking looks are temporary, so a man doesn't get to keep the women, she changes into something he doesn't want and your expected to take care of her the rest of her life lmao. Arthur Schopenheur called it the comedy of reproduction.
If she flips the switch on any thing, the moment you learn of it, you just got to be ruthless and cut ties immediately. No need to rationalise or explain yourself in this case.
I admire your boldness in posting this. Your experience resonates strongly. "The only thing she loses when she walks away is that which she wants and hasn't yet received." - O.T. When the day comes that that thing is a divorce, as you said: don't argue. Be willing to just let her go, with as much equanimity as you can. The woman you married is dead or only existed in your head. "She's not yours, it was just your turn."
I "argued" and my ex had me thrown in jail. I never laid a hand on her. Got a restraining order and accused me of assault...that's how she GOT RID OF ME!
so true, in the great majority of cases. In the US, all men better get a vasectomy. Dont give ANY woman THAT club with which to beat you. If you're so determined to have kids, move to the third world and STAY there.
Sage advice. A wise man knows that should he embark on a relationship with a woman, he will always be outgunned and will always play second fiddle to her friends.
So true...they were all "our" best friends forever...until the day she decided she is not happy and does not want to feel that way anymore...she is not happy🤦♂️it is like they all have become clones...social network impact and brainwashing tv series maybe?
When my ex-wife filed for divorce 2 years ago, I pleaded with her to not do this. To think of our little children. We have a duty and a commitment to them before ourselves. She just looked at me with a blank look on her face, and reptile-like eyes. The entire shocking experience taught me that women evolved to monkey branch and use men to get what they want and need, and men evolved to be loyal to a woman and their children for their survival. I've just learned to accept it, like death and taxes.
I saw those cobra eyes when our daughter (14 then) pleaded with her mother not to file for divorce. The same reptilian stare greeted me from across the courtroom before many weeks passed.
Brother, it took getting married at age 53 (she was 5 years younger than me) to realize, if I got in a relationship, I was the biggest part of the problem. At that age i no longer "NEEDED" a woman in the ways I did when I was younger: as a desperate attempt at proving my own self-worth. But by then, i was too set in my ways by then and I began to resent her when she made demands (without providing anything in return except occasional sex).
Same here bro. I think it‘s even Nine years soon🤔 I don’t miss a thing. Almost 48 years old and I don’t even look at women older then 25 years old. Damn , things have change. Thank god Sex is easy to Access These days.
Was at the ancient city of Troy. The guide was going thru the tale. Got to the end, when city fell. All the females in group were worried about was Helen. The guide looked at me (because unlike most I knew the tale from the classics), said ‘You tell them.’ I said ‘She waited at the end and went home with the winner, what women have always done.’ The women were shocked.
It takes a very strong-willed gentleman in order to cohabitate. I've tried cohabitating in the past and only lasted a few weeks. My exes seemed to all be anti-peace. They always wanted problems.
I have lived with 5 women. Each had a different situation but the result was the same. I would rather she keep her place and I keep mine and we get together when it is convenient. The only companion I will live with moving forward is a dog.
After my divorce and a lot of dating and trying to make sense of female behaviour, I've come to the conclusion that you just have to ignore them and do whatever you want (for yourself) and they fall into place by themselves. I now have effortless and most enjoyable relationships without all the bs.
@@John_Wood_ Yes correct, and she will only have leverage if you give it to her or the state gives it to her through divorce ca-ching. So, staying single and no marriage is good advice.
@John_Wood_ That's why do not get married, do not let her move in with you and DO NOT get her pregnant. Do any of those and you've just invited the government to grape you!
Only wealthy or good looking men have leverage over women. Everyone else is always at risk of losing their girlfriends or wives at any time. Just depends on the woman's mood that day. It is freeing going into a relationship knowing this. So when she starts to act disrespectful to you, or announces that ahe is leaving, you can just nod your head and say bye. It infuriates women when the man doesn't get upset by this news
I'm 67 and never married. Been through quite a few women living here in southern california. The main thing I learned years ago was men fall in love, not women. That's the basis of it all.
SoCal is a Hades pit for finding decent women unless you are a pro / semi-pro level pick-up artist, in which case it’s probably pretty good terrain for pump-N-dump.
I recognize now that all women have a shelf life. It is not in their nature to do the”till death do we part” and all social media did was expose it. I only rent now.
Nothing is their fault because of distorted perception. Frankly, it's like you are dealing with a psychotic person. Their brains are simply distorted. They go in and out of psychosis. No reason, mo pattern. Bizarre.
It's essential to consider several factors when deciding whether to take someone seriously. Look into their upbringing-how their parents influenced them and their attachment style. Examine their relationship history, including the length of past relationships and the reasons for any breakups. Take note of the type of friends they surround themselves with and their career stability. Ultimately, focus on their actions rather than just their words; actions reveal true character.
This is good and wasn’t in the video. If her parents, friends, co workers have ever divorced and she’s hanging out with them when you feel your relationship is not well look out. When she’s talking to everybody but you get ready to leave.
Best comment!!! We ought to teach our sons. In essence, that is what 'arranged' marriage is: "Looking into the potential partner upbringing, frequentation, ideology and financial means, not only by the spouse, but also by the wiser individuals of both families.
Women & men are wired differently. He works off logic, she lives off emotion. Her emotions alone, will take your life on a ridiculous rollercoaster ride, based on her desires & selfishness. Remember for some women, it's all about them over you. She will want you to execute, commit, and sacrifice yourself to make her happy; just make sure she is also doing the work on her side of the fence. If you don't see that, don't waste your time, dump her & find someone who appreciates you.
28yr marriage, together since HS 34yrs. Divorced 2 years ago, because she wasn't "HAPPY". LOL Worked and provided an amazing life, house, kids, went to every sporting event, trips, the all american family. She says I want to be single. Im not happy anymore. I put up with decades of PMS, 5yrs of menopause and then lose 60% of everything.....WTF!!!!! Im 58, in another relationship, and evaluating whether to ever get married again. Its a very, very bad contract. I dont trust ANY OF THEM. Love this channel, women are users and John is 100% right on.
What purpose would getting married again serve? I’m 57 and I’d never do that again. I’ve realized they are all irrational, hypergamous, and downright crazy. Focus on your hobbies, career / business, and develop more meaningful relationships with your kids. That’s all that matters. Make yourself happy.
WTF?!!! Evaluating ??? Oh wait, now I understand ... Remembering what Charlie Manson once said: "You beat a man with a whip... and he likes the whip ..."
Wow, you've spent as much time married as I've been alive lol. I was with one woman for 13 years. That was the last straw. I've been free for two years. God bless brother
Thank you, John... By telling your story you gave me and lots of other men, the 'words' we weren't able to put together and express. Since my separation, I've been looking through the internet in order to find a way to recount my story to my daughters (sic.) as they grew older. What I found out is that I absolutely wasn't alone and that my 'unique' situation wasn't at all unique but daily bread and butter for men across the geographic and social spectrum. You have a compassionate way of analyzing and generalizing the traits of femininity that appeal to men. For men love women with all their positive and negative traits. Eventually, life is a long battle where everyone dies... so it's worth laughing about it even when in pain. I keep some of your vids in a playlist for my daughter. The other one cut all ties 9 years ago. *The crime of women is against their own children.*
A few weeks ago I was looking at some old pictures that I took of my wife when we were first dating. I was under no illusions that this happy, healthy and sensual woman was long gone and she's never coming back. Whenever I find myself thinking back to those happier times, I accepted some time ago that the man I used to be is dead as well. However, the way I see it is that he needed to die so that I could open my eyes and accept the many mistakes I made in picking the wrong girl and getting married. Now that my eyes are open, I can see the path forward to finding a new purpose without a lazy and nasty person holding me back from my true potential.
I think the easiest way to understand women is via job analogy: he's an employer, she's the employee. 1. First comes the interview process where she tries to present her best: dresses sexy, is fun, easy going etc. But only for the right employer - unless she's desperate (think single mother in late 30ies). 2. Then comes the job offer (marriage proposal). She can't hire herself - that's why man is the gatekeeper here. 3. The employment part where she provides her services in exchange for resources. Sometimes employers get the illusion that employees like it so much here and forget the nature of the relationship. Make no mistake - if checks stop comming, no amount of love will keep her from seeking better offers. 4. Once she gets the impression that she can get a better offer elsewhere, it will be a nagging feeling that she's not being appreciated enough. After all she's doing all the real work here and all her current boss does is pay all the bills. And he's paying not enough. So she starts an interview process elsewhere while maintaing minimal engagement in current job. So what happens when employer gives in to demands of the employee and tries to accommodate all her requests? One, she will think that she has all the power in that relationship. Second, it demonstrates that employer does not have a greater vision for the company and that it's essentially a dead end for her career. Third, counter-intuitively, she will think that she's too good for current relationship (otherwise he would not go out of her way to keep her) - thus her only prospects of advancement lie elsewhere.
Almost forgot the last part :) 5. Employment termination - it's in her natural interest to get biggest possible severance package. And if that employer goes bankrupt in the process, it's not her problem anymore. It will just prove that she was right to move away, as it was a failing company.
Bored, blindsided ,monkey branching, fomo all happened to me. Married 13 years,two of those were in separation.Most of this video was dead on what I went through. Been d over a year now. 90% of the time is all good now,took time to get to this point. Started cycling as a new hobby and it has really taken off. Met a whole new world of different people and friends. Not even thinking about bringing someone into my life. What I went through was the hardest lowest place I'd ever been. The whole time being married I sacrificed everything for the marriage, never bought anything for myself always preparing us financially for the future. 5 months after retiring to start a side business she was no longer happy.
What great insight! You’re absolutely right that the girl you had was completely invested in the relationship, but she changed her mind and now wants out. She has become a different person. The girl I loved is now gone. It took me years to come to this realization after my first love broke up with me. This perspective helped me move on from her. It’s refreshing to hear another guy express this. Thank you!
The vast majority of women are Relationship Traders, not Relationship Investors. And we all know only 1% of stock traders are successful in the market. It's similar in the relationship market.
Never show them any weakness, do not give them any reigns under any circumstance, do not be that stupid ‘vulnerable’ with them. They must only see strength and power from you 👊
@tropics8407 I'd rather stay single than having to walk on eggshells, conceal my nature, or have to take into account someone else's character instead of being myself. You are very mistaken.
Your idea for when they change and leave, to consider them as dead makes sense. Because, as you implied, the woman you fell in love with is gone. She may still be on the planet physically, but the personality that attracted you changed/evolved/devolved, no longer exists, and probably wont/can't return. Framing the situation this way can provide some solace. Thank you.
Going through a separation right now and your videos are a godsend. Love this content and it really resonates with me, especially the part about her changing from the person i once knew and loved. Thank you sir!
I think it helps when you know that other guys have gone through something similar. And when you can see that the person you married is not the person that you are with today it makes it much easier to end the marriage.
Us women also feel a deep need to belong, be accepted by friends, family, peer group. Fear of being alone, acceptance from the group. I watch this channel to understand a man’s perspective. You are right about the reactivity. Not looking so much into the future.
Women are creatures of emotion and whatever they feel they will justify mentally. A girl friend told me only about 20 percent of women love their husbands and the rest will do a risk benefit assessment of how goodlooking the new guy is verses how much they have to lose if their husband leaves. This is compounded by the court system which rewards them if they divorce.
I suspect female attraction is only as high as 20% during the engagement period. By the wedding day it’s already below 20%. Men disgust them… even Chad and Ray Ray.
@@WildMidwest1 Right. Each time you cater to them, they lose a chunk of respect for you. So by the time of the wedding day, you are already hanging on by a thread.
@BlackBoyKingTV the problems society is having is because we are now acting against nature: men are thinking we need to take women's emotions seriously.
I have been married to my husband over 35 years and I love hanging out with men. No drama....they live in the moment and most are pretty chill, very logical, people pleasing people. Most of my friends have also been married just as long or longer. What I have noticed about the women that are still married is, they don't take everything their husband does or says personally.
Yes! I agree. I love hanging out with my husband. We do a lot of sports together and have the best conversations about what’s going on in this crazy world.
As a young man who has experienced the cruel nature of women i finally understand why older men always tell me not to get involved with women. Their only goal is to extract resources from you before they get bored. No marriage no problems. Its too bad that this is how our society is going to fall apart.
I graduated from High School in 1958 and half of my class was married that summer. Within a year all the guys told me "Don't get married" so I took their advice. Taking that advice has worked well for me. A 1950s woman is no different than a 2020s woman. Women react to feelings and emotions. Men live with reality and common sense.
I look back now and realize every girl I have dated had one way or another to extract money from me. I have had five girlfriends that worked full time trying to get me to buy a house with them “together”. Four of the five had never even owned a house. Luckily I passed on all attempts. Had I done this, I would have had to buy the house twice.
If you want to ruin your life be miserable and broke get married. If you want to have a great life be happy and save money. Stay single. It really is that simple.
@supersteve8305 I love that all these older men are sharing so many gems for the 20 yr olds and late 30s like myself who feel I missed out on something important in life. I dodge a bullet and got sober and stopped porn mostly too.
Excellent observations. Hypergamy is very real and social media just facilitates the myriad of choices for these women. When you hear, 'i'm not happy,' it's a wrap bro. Thanks for the well done vids JG. Glad you're channel is growing.
Once she mentions divorce or that she is not happy start looking for a divorce attorney and start protecting you assets. Your marriage is over. It might take days or years but it over.
its funny too cause they were happy enough until the found their next "shiny new object" then they convince themselves that they're "unhappy" as justification to leave.
Don't become a slave to women for a piece of ass. I've been with enough of them to know it's a waste of time. Relationships NEVER last no matter how much effort you put into them.
I think you have to match their energy and let them do more and then when they decide to leave, you're already in that mindset of " okay it's time to go"
Exactly. Caught heaps of them over the years, often much younger. The catch was never as good as the chase after a few months. Bachelor life is be$t … 😎
@@GBU61The Simps and Cucks never will...untill they are broke homeless sleeping in their cars and for some six feet under...then some learn. But dont expect the schools or Big Daddy Government to teach these lessons.
It’s been carved on stone from the beginning of time, “seven year itch of a beach” meaning after seven years of marriage they get bored and want a divorce and this more true today than ever before. So kings never get married.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here , I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
37 years I spent living with woman, 18 years married then 5 years and 13 years relationships never hurt any of them and provided well even raised 3 kids that wasn't mine, all flipped out and left, my wife died 2 year's later chasing the guy she left us for other had a kid with a loser and last a nervous break down when I wouldn't take her back, l don't try anymore
You guys are late, I stopped dealing with women 20 years ago. I honestly believe they really don't like men, we're just a means to an end. Just about every couple I meet the guy is way more into the woman. I also say that women have very low sex drives, that's why sex stops after the marriage and kids.
Well in the modern world (built by men) they don't really need us, outside of emergency/disaster type situations. Between tech, infrastructure and the government it's all covered. Sets up a rather bleak outlook for society.
I’ve been in love twice. Both of them couldn’t get away from me fast enough 😆 The rest all pursued moi. The less you care, the more they do. It’s pretty much the opposite of what I want, so it’s enough))
A man thinks "I want that. I need that. I've got to have that. What do I have to do to get it?" A woman thinks "I want that. I need that. I've got to have that. Who can I get to get it for me?" Chris Rock.
To many drugs are taken today with the majority of women today to really understand what is going on upstairs of a woman. It has changed over the last 4 decades and men too are now being told to take drugs for things we dont need. My ex wife told me she needed to take her antidepressant, because if she did not, she would be nuts. Unfortunately she told me that after two years of marriage, we seperated on the third year.
This is a very good point that is rarely talked about. My wife takes prescription meds for "mental health issues" and after being around her for some years I don't think there is anything wrong with her brain. She's just an extremely lazy person with low self esteem who lacks the discipline needed to be a functional adult. A good diet and exercise routine would do wonders for her mental health and would most likely allow her to toss her meds. But I've given up trying to guide her towards this, once I'm gone she'll have to discover this on her own.
Sorry to hear. My ex wife had three kids and was completely lazy and did no parrenting. When i had left as i raised them for almost 8 years, they took over the house. She had no seniority or adult control and as a step dad, i also had non and they wanted me out of the house. The ex wife is a 9.5 on pretty and has no problem taking men home at any bar any night if that is what she wants. But her meds were a solution in her brain. Same with her oldes kid. She would put him on any drug they would perscribe and i would do reasearch on those and attempt to discuss the side effects and then he would get another drug to combat those side effects. Sad thing is, my ex was a navy wife and could get any drug she wanted as we were both in the healthfield and knew how to play the system. I do not take any drugs prescribed that is. But sorry to here you are coming to possibly and end of you union, but we all have to k ow when to tap out. My first wife went nuts and needed meds , but did not take them. So i have seen both sides.😊@ItalNico
It's funny how 17 years ago,before I got married, I would have thought you really didn't like women. Now, divorcing after 17 years, I so get it. Betrayal, not just to me, but to the kids and every other commitment surrounding marriage is so sad and a decision I sure can't understand.
The instinct to find the perceived Alpha Chad is strong as an industrial magnet when they are young to middle aged, and as they reach maybe 60, if they don't directly need the current husband financially, they'd just as soon live alone if you could read their mind. Thats when the hoarding, or romance novels, or blocked gutters really begins. 😅😅😅
I'm right there with you. 15 years married before D day. I stopped trying to figure out what happened, it just got me more agitated. This is because I thought I was doing everything right. Now single, I am at piece and without the anxiety worrying whether she is happy or not. Now I just make sure I'm happy and that is so much better.
And usually they’re not even “trading up” but are being fooled by the dopamine release of a new experience/guy. They are drug addicts and love the honeymoon feeling
An easy way to think about it is women are playing chess while men are playing checkers. The most valuable piece on the board is the King but he can only move one space. The queen can move anywhere on the board and can do the most damage. But it is the king who holds all the ultimate power since the goal is to capture him to win the game.
My *FIFTEEN* year old nephew turned me on to your content. Can you imagine how successful Gen Alpha is going to be if they're learning this stuff in HS?!
@MzAqua You misunderstood what I said. I said Gen Alpha because that's the generation that's going to learn from Gen Z. If the avg Gen Zer grasps this knowledge at at 20 something, imagine how early Gen Alpha is going to get it. We might be red pilled kindergartens
@@GreatPoss111 Please tell your nephew he is very very lucky to be able to access men's accumulated experience at such young age and that he should soak up as much as is sensible timewise, take it seriously, and ultimately make his own conclusions in time and in turn pass them on.
I’ve been saying that “women’s intuition” is really just a fear response. Because they’ll say their “intuition” told them not to trust something or someone. Okay but why doesn’t their “intuition” tell them who they CAN trust?
@@mrmoe110 their ideal fantasy that you create for them is what they latch their trust onto - they don’t live in our world that man built they live in the fantasy world that you create for them - the moment the fantasy goes away which is due to real world events like job changes, loss of income, less time spent with them because you have to handle your own shit, is when they believe the fantasy is no longer real
The brain of a woman, as of a man, is always changing. The brain of a young woman is to get done by good genes, she desires to have the best inside her. As time goes by, as she ages, she desires more and more material things, luxury, properties, power, money to make her life easier. There is time for everything under the Sun. As you said, we die from time to time. Women change all the time and she will do the things that it is better for her, it doesn´t matter who she hurts, she will always do things only for her benefit.
"I want a divorce. Your a narcissist, controlling, and sick and youll never have a healthy relationship until you get help." 2 weeks later I found out she had been in an affair for months
Lying, deception, gaslighting, and betrayal. I went through it too at the end. She was having an affair with an alcoholic on dialysis. Her leaving the kids and me was the best thing she ever did for me.
@racebannon96 For at least a year I thought it was the other way around. One day I decided to Google "when a narcissist calls you a narcissist" wow what a revelation that was.
The gaslighting is a real thing. It really messes your mind up if you haven’t experienced it before, or if you are not prepared. You have to be strong in yourself to not let it get to you or change you.
And that's why women are incapable of changing their behavior. They react automatically to their emotions. The only way their behavior changes is if they are forced to do so.
In society, women are judged entirely on their beauty. Men are judged on their ethics, morals, values and status. There is no need for women to develop these traits.
Not entirely true, but somewhat true. Now the other part of this is what caused this to be? It starts with the parents and the princess treatment and then continues with SIMPs sucking up to beautiful women and not holding them to proper standards. Weak men need to control themselves and not do this if we are to start changing these women. Will it happen? As likely as Democrats voters getting rational, so no it won't!
If Western culture held women socially accountable alone more things would be a bit different. But since they aren't as much as most men (with exception the men women give passes to and enable), women get any with more damage and their lack of responsibility. You could say simps and white knights do have some blame in this, but you also have to understand women can and could not engage in toxic mentality---but they do and rationalize it anyway.
When people give you everything, and you never struggle to succeed to have anything. You’re an egotistical monster, and have no idea of the way the world actually is. To give these people political power is insane
There's a line from the early 2000's TV series "Deadwood", which takes place in the mid-1800's during the Gold Rush time. It is two men talking, and it goes something like this: "I'd rather try to lassoo the fking moon & pull it down to earth than try to figure out the mind of a woman." Nailed it. Thank you for your channel. Just discovered it today & I'm hooked. 🙏🏻
When you say “that woman is gone” is literary true, especially after menopause kicks in. It is physically a different brain. Freud wrote on this matter: “quarrelsome, vexatious and overbearing.”
Wom3n are born with a million dollars if they are pretty. But if they don't play their cards right in their 20s, the wall is coming for them in their 30s. And then it's a lonely life with boxed wine, head meds, and cats. Men have to earn their value through grit, perseverance, and overcoming. Often times we don't peak until our 40s. But if you make it there, got your finances in order, your health, your mentality, and you're in good physical shape... life is good! You are now a high value man, free from the tyranny of marriage, free to live your life on YOUR terms. It's a blessing.
"But I don't think I'll ever fully understand it". That sums it up perfectly. It can be almost impossible to make sense of something that is nonsensical.
Just went out form a 4 year relationship. You opened my mind on things so much. Just wow. Now I consider myself lucky. Thank you for taking me out from a very dark place.
Hey John, thank you for this video. I’ve studied-or rather, I’ve tried to understand-women over the past 10 years, intellectually, philosophically, and emotionally. Long story short, women are craving the mythical man, the real man. Given the society we live in, and how it has transformed into something more feminized and more infantile, men have begun to change, becoming more and more like girlfriends, if I may put it that way. The two key things I’ve discovered are, first, that women are addicted to emotion-specifically, to the variation of emotion. Even if a woman has everything, she will perceive it as a flat line. She won’t feel fulfilled and will seek out more chaos or roller coasters in her emotions. For her, things need to move and change in order for her to find reconciliation. Women thrive on the variation of emotion, not on emotional stagnation. Any predictability is seen as boring, equating to death in their perception. Lastly, I believe women are in search of a sort of mythical man they can’t find in modern society. Modern society breeds men who are more like friends, collaborators, weak, lacking backbone, and afraid of their masculinity. That’s the world we live in. Thank you again.
John, another great video, thank you! I am going to watch this again. I wanted to point out something additional from patterns of divorces I seen, including mine. There appears to be 2 points in time that women absolutely lose their handle on things: 1. When the marriage hits the 20 year mark (Mine at 21) or when the woman turns 40 (mine 41). I have observed this many times, but didn't put 2 and 2 together until it happened to me. Of course there is the loss of sex after the second child and so forth, but this is earlier in the marriage. And as you said, you can't let her get bored and that is Sooo true. Regarding your observations about the female amygdala and their fear response and FOMO, this is another eye opening observation right in front of our noses. What I wanted to add additionally , though, is that I have very recently heard on the channel "Happy Wife School" ( a female vlogger) that women go through neuro-chemical changes in the brain at about 40 years of age. According to the HWS Vlogger, women cannot understand what is happening in their heads, so they blame their man, as it MUST be his fault . Food for thought. Keep up the good work!
My ex met me in divorce court for our first hearing on our twentieth anniversary day. She said the date was just a coincidence. Blue pill as I was, I took her to coffee afterward and discussed how we would handle the children. She cleaned me out. Nearly six years and a couple LTRs later I am still in recovery. 😢 I almost never think about her. It’s been 100% no-contact since the kids turned 18. No woman will ever gain that kind of leverage over me again. I am getting better at kicking them to the curb at the first sign of disrespect.
Besides all official divorces. Just imagine how many people that are still married on the paper due to economy/kids/religious views but lives entirely in separate homes. Next stop, divorce I guess.
16:35 "she was bored" /"gets bored easily" yea man that's a major red flag for me. I ask a lot of women that and when they say yes they get bored easily, I mentally place them as "good time, not a long time, there's others in line" 😂
I think all men over a certain age can relate to this on some way. NEVER lose sight of hobbies, your job / career / business, and if you have kids - love them and foster good relationships with them. That’s all that matters in life anyway. Women sap your time, energy, emotions, and your money.
That observation “If you can find a woman with some courage, maybe you can settle down with her” is spot on. Alternatively you can try to find a woman with no friends in a country that doesn’t undermine men. A lot of all female gatherings are just like those camp fire, horror story telling get togethers where city slickers afraid of the dark try to scare each other. They magnify each other’s fears.
My mother would have aborted me if the state had been allowing her to at that time. I would have been a murder victim. She told me so when I was 20. Abortion isn't about rape victims. It's about women wanting to play fast and loose with the responsibility nature has given them. God doesn't have to punish us. Our society will eventually die out because of it.
On balance, I've spent very little time with a woman, lived with one for 6 months which felt like she was killing me, her words, they way she talked to me. Never married,I had no burning desire for kids, it is what it is. I've dodged many bullets, I am not Rich, like my IT job, working out, boxing, hiking, etc. But my house is only 1300 sq feet and that strangely enough saved me besides the fact im not rich, always paid cash for used cars, so not a flashy life. Oh. I have a KLR 650 motorcycle that I occasionally ride. I also ski in the winter, live next to the mountains
Are you me? About to turn 40, no wife, no kids, disillusioned with relationships, work in aerospace, modest living space, 17 year old Toyota truck and DR650 in the driveway
@@unskilledlabor1 for some reason my first reply was deleted. Yeah we are the same, stay strong brother 👍. I’ve been slowly updating my house over the years, do my own landscaping and lawn care. It’s just me so no rush
You nailed that one. When older women bitch about older men not being romantic, i tell them "5% are psychopaths and never were romantic and can never be, the rest have been in relationships with women and have learned better." Or as the weird Star Wars creature screamed: "IT'S A TRAP!"
these stupid comments dont help,. everyone changes, gets bored etc. This is how relationships work, they are all literally temporary regardless of male/female, some people stay longer for kids, financial convenience etc but most relationships are dead once they hilt the 4 year mark.
@@blobtv7444 True. Women won't fess up though, they generally have to cheat or create a strawman situation and then level false accusations against the man just to "get him good" and get a bigger share of the loot.
Me neither and it's so true most women might just want you bcuz of safety or validation like, I've experienced the fear part they start by saying I was in a toxic relationship always so believe all women at your own risk
How does that old song go….”if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, so from my personal point of view, get another girl to marry you.”
Wanna make a woman miserable? Give her everything she wants.
Perfect
Absolutely. If a man allows a woman to walk all over him, it is game over.
The reason why this is the case is because the man has no boundaries. This means that he can easily give in to others. When a man establishes boundaries, she will feel safe.
@@billreddy7593 Exactly. Because she doesn’t have anything to complain about. And that just won’t work for her.
*everything she thinks she wants
Totally agree!!!!
I realized my wife was gone when was I sitting on a private beach on the island of Saint John in the Virgin Islands. We were staying at the Ritz Carlton in Saint Thomas for 5 days and I rented a boat at Red Hook Bay Marina to go island hopping and exploring. My 3 daughters were young under the age of 10. We took the boat to a little bay with a secluded beach and anchored off shore about 100 feet and we all swam to shore. I remember sitting on the beach, the sand was nice and warm, as my girls and their mother were playing down the beach a ways away from me. We had a beautiful Condo at the Ritz, which wasn’t cheap, a very romantic setting!!! My wife hardly knew I was there, needless to say there was no physical contact the whole time and my advances were spurned. As I sat on that beach I realized that it was over. She treated me like I was her step brother. I was crushed at realizing this, and how much like an idiot I felt. I had been chumped in the cruelest way that life could serve up. My biggest mistake? Was not leaving immediately. I stuck around for the children for a few more years and it was not a healthy household and being there just damaged me further. I took my vows to heart and they were sacred. But I must of missed the part where the priest said something about her changing her mind whenever she wanted with little consequences in those vows. I am fully Red Pilled now and happily single and have a much better understanding of female nature. Just made my last alimony payment this month October 2024! That was for 10 years BTW. I will retire one day with my integrity and honor intact. I wish I knew as a young single man what I know now about female nature. I was a lamb to slaughter when I got married in the early 90’s at the age of 31. Very naive!
Sorry to hear that Bro. I am kind of your situation but I don't think it is wrong to stay for the kids. I think it is important to tell your daughters about why she should stay with their husbands when they are married.
Very true. We weren't able to share experiences so easily back then, so many of us just became another statistic of a broken system.
I enjoyed that read. Used to live in BVI so know the area.
We were all lambs to the slaughter when we got married. Wish I knew then what I know now.
I got slaughtered also. Just now coming back to life almost 3 years later. Stay strong bros we got this.
To quote Al Bundy: "Women understand women. And they hate each other.". That is a very accurate summary.
No, they like each other. But when I hear 2 women talking in a coffee shoppe, they're usually taking about another woman.
Perhaps this is somewhat true. I think it’s because women know other women can easily take their “man”. We are terrified of this! Terrified bc a broken heart from the loss of our man is devastating. 💔💔.
@@KB-ns4sn Al Bundy speaks Truth!!
No they don't.
@@DMuvvyAin’t that simple to „take“ their man. Men tend to be loyal. You draw conclusions from yourself about the world of men.
Once upon a time there was a man. He stayed single.....and lived happily ever after. The end.
😂
I find this very relatable. LOL
There were also many other men who divorced (and wished they had been that man who had stayed single).
I admit I don't get this. It seems a lot of you have had horrible relationships. I get it, that's frequent, not judging. What was horrible for me though, was getting dumped. Not while the relationship lasted. I had constant great sex, great cooks, etc. Was it perfect? Oh no, far from it ha ha. But it was much better than single. For me anyway. I never had nagging GFs, I never tolerated that. Yet currently it seems I have a very hard time finding any gal that is GF material.
You should write a book. I will buy it.
Whenever I got the "You ruined my life" accusation, I wouldn't argue and just say "Sorry to hear that; let me know what you want to do." So your final advice is spot on and accurate: don't argue with them. The whole "you ruined my life" allowed me to prepare for the inevitable and not fear it, and letting her go was the best thing to have happened.
I know, there’s no point in arguing
She heard that phrase from her girlfriends at Starbucks before using it on you.
@andre1987eph Yeah they usually just parrot whatever they heard someone else say. They lack original thought.
Puts me in mind of my favorite Sam Clemmons quote. "It's very difficult to win an argument with an intelligent person, but it's impossible to win an argument with an idiot." If logic & facts don't work, what do you have left? Z
Actually as soon as his wife said she did not like being married, it was already over, she just played along till she was ready to go. Unfortunately this is what marriage means now.
No woman, no cry.
Hm. And apparently a good number of fellas here have met what Billy Joel calls The Stranger-
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@@RTDF516great song
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Exodus!
Leaving Babylon!
You hit the nail on the head when you said “ you have to see the woman as a revolving entity, excellent analogy
An entity of chaos … 😵
All I'll say before yt shadowbans me is that our ancestors knew what they were doing when they all limited their rights.
E-X-A-C-T-L-Y. Exactly.
In islamic countries they had rights originally but they had to be taken away because of the degeneracy that followed
*Sphere of influence, not rights.
Social media has destroyed relationships. Most women have orbiters in their life. These are guys she can use as plan B if her current guy is not working as planned
They knew the deal.
My younger son, who is 16, was having trouble with his girlfriend today. He talked to her on the phone and began having an existential crisis. His brother is 19 and has had his girlfriend for a couple years now. I told him to go talk to his brother. The first thing his brther said was, "you can't reason with women." LOL. I was so proud. He used to get mad at me when I told him that when he was 16.
yup , the old " blurt and slam " . she emits a stream of hatefulness ( usually nonsensical ) then you can almost hear her ears slam shut . my ex divorced me when i was 41 and for a couple of years i was pretty hurt by it but looking back , i was just as fed up as she was and she did me a favor .
@@searcymasonry my dad's second wife did that to him and I let her finish her lie and double down on it to set the hook then I proved her wrong it was like letting the fish run with the line then pulling and watching it fly out of the water.
@@Brent-z2s reasoning with an argumentive woman is like playing chess with a pigeon . you might be the worlds best chess player but heres whats going to happen ; the pigeon is going to knock over all the playing pieces , shit on the board and strut arount the table cooing triumphantly .
@@searcymasonry that's what my dad told me but I wasn't arguing with her I was calling her a liar and it shut her up.
Here's the problem with this mentality that men can never understand women: it fosters a defeatist attitude toward everything else. Maybe it's difficult to understand women, but how long have you tried to understand it? Did you give up too early? I bet you did. I bet you gave up early because EVERYONE tells you that men just can't understand women. It greatly underestimates a person's capacity to learn.
Men solve problems. This is just another problem that is solvable and when you do solve it, the world opens up.
If it's too hard for you to solve problems, then accept the terms: eat the bugs and live in a pod. Because that's for you.
Australian, American and most western world women think the same now, self-obsessed, self-centered, self-important and after all that they can get from their ex-partners. In the past they were caring, loving and good people, now they are as above.
@@peterrech2307 I lived in 8 countries and in 3 continents. Women are the essentially the same everywhere. Female nature is female nature. The self importance is even more pronounced in Asia.
Its a twisted world
We had a young colleague talking about relationships. He said at least I know my wife loves me. I told him...she loves you today. Every woman in the room cracked up when I said it. Because, they know how they are.
@@jamest2861 aren't some men like that too?. They want to leave when they get bored. Both men and women are likely to be victims.
Some men are like that. Men like Elvis, Brad, Rod, Mick, Frank. They can afford to get bored. Damn...that rhymed!
@@funlife3484 Women are heavily backed by the laws, courts, police, society. Every man can be discarded and labelled an "abuser" or can have false accusations levelled against him. Not so for men. We have to play the higher ground, always. No one is going to help men in these situations. We've experienced it and we are passing the knowledge down, up, left and right! I have personally experienced it. Wouldn't bother being on here commenting if it weren't true, I'd be out 'partying', commiting crimes or womanising.
@@michaelwhite6614 see, the laws have deterred you from committing crimes, womanising.
No doubt that some clever woman misuse laws. There are both evil men and woman in the world.
@@funlife3484yes, to return to being sacred with one another is the path
Loyalty means something different to women. “For better or worse, for richer or poorer” was written by a man. For women it is just an inspirational quote said at her big party.
As they say, men are loyal to the commitment, women are loyal only to their feelings. They really want the commitment early in the relationship for their safety , but feel free to dispose of the committment when they no longer feel the "fear" ? John, what do you think about this?
Yes sir.
Those vows where taken out most weddings in the 90s.
In society, Women are judged almost entirely on beauty. Men are judged on their virtue, status, ethics, morales and values. There is no need for a women to be virtuous.
@@neue01 now says you are correct but at one time women where judged on beauty virtue and how many children they had. A few men still judge on virtue it's just hard to find out. I picked up a woman once the first night we met but I wouldn't date her and that was one major factor so she had her neighbor come tell me I was the only man he had ever seen spend the night there and that when she ran for sheriff she would win.
This should be the talk all fathers give to their sons long before they think of marriage.
Also, when I was divorcing, a wise friend told me that he had figured out what women want. MORE I said: more of what? He replied: More of whatever they already have.
Yes, more. Or, something different. Smh...
More of everything
Dad did punch holes in walls. Never touched Mum. But at times silently put his fist thru the wall and walk out to his shed
More chaos
...and of course, it's never enough.
Many of us are raised brainwashed to think that women are sweet, beautiful, angelic…but they are human and come with flaws of all sorts.
They come with a lot of baggage...
There's a line casually spoken by Angelica Houston in Lonesome Dove where she responds to old flame Gus' praise of her virtue where she simply replies "you'd be surprised"
I came to conclusion that they are ironically exact opposite . They are " bitter " and " devious " at the same time . Prove me wrong
@@sosdada-x8 these women would throw their own kids under the bus for their own self gain. Look at how they are willing to have kids with an old man just for child support. That kid will most likely not have a father before the age of 10. But she’s getting child support, so who cares. Red Flag: Plus any woman willing to do an abortion is killing off a part of herself. Look into how abortions are actually done. Keep your legs closed and think before you do and you won’t be put into such a situation.
It's the perfect example of wolf in sheep's clothing basically.
Glad to know someone else experienced the realization that the woman they fell in love with is gone. The change was gradual, but my wife slowly became a different person. Heart breaking to realize, but it returned sanity into my life… every board was replaced on that ship.
@@Lucas-mf1tc yeah it really helps if you realize that this isn’t the same person anymore.
It's crazy how that happens. We only want the woman who we married. Then one day, who is this person?
@Lucas-mf1tc when you find a women as a young man she is like your cute little puppy. Later in your marriage, she can turn into a raging werewolf.
I’m sure there are huge numbers of women out there who would say that their husbands have changed over time. “He’s not the man I married”. People grow, change, sometimes grow apart. With enough work and communication and willingness to adapt, marriages can sometimes be saved. It’s rare, but possible.
Its almost impossible to see that when your a young man, like 20 years old. But by 40 a man should realize a woman’s striking looks are temporary, so a man doesn't get to keep the women, she changes into something he doesn't want and your expected to take care of her the rest of her life lmao. Arthur Schopenheur called it the comedy of reproduction.
If she flips the switch on any thing, the moment you learn of it, you just got to be ruthless and cut ties immediately. No need to rationalise or explain yourself in this case.
@@runners4tme immediate action can save a man’s soul.
And never take it personally
I admire your boldness in posting this. Your experience resonates strongly. "The only thing she loses when she walks away is that which she wants and hasn't yet received." - O.T. When the day comes that that thing is a divorce, as you said: don't argue. Be willing to just let her go, with as much equanimity as you can. The woman you married is dead or only existed in your head. "She's not yours, it was just your turn."
I "argued" and my ex had me thrown in jail. I never laid a hand on her. Got a restraining order and accused me of assault...that's how she GOT RID OF ME!
If you attempt to argue, you might end up in jail with a restraining order. That's what happened to me.
"When women leave we are relieved" - John Griffin
It's like you walk out of the house, see blue sky and just finally free.
so true, in the great majority of cases. In the US, all men better get a vasectomy. Dont give ANY woman THAT club with which to beat you. If you're so determined to have kids, move to the third world and STAY there.
Stay single kings. You do not have the power to make your marriage successful like you think you do.
Sage advice. A wise man knows that should he embark on a relationship with a woman, he will always be outgunned and will always play second fiddle to her friends.
True!!!
💯👍🏼🤝👊
So true...they were all "our" best friends forever...until the day she decided she is not happy and does not want to feel that way anymore...she is not happy🤦♂️it is like they all have become clones...social network impact and brainwashing tv series maybe?
A shifty and fickle object is woman. Always. Voltaire.
When my ex-wife filed for divorce 2 years ago, I pleaded with her to not do this. To think of our little children. We have a duty and a commitment to them before ourselves. She just looked at me with a blank look on her face, and reptile-like eyes. The entire shocking experience taught me that women evolved to monkey branch and use men to get what they want and need, and men evolved to be loyal to a woman and their children for their survival. I've just learned to accept it, like death and taxes.
Had an ex who later on told me why she divorced her husband. He didn’t do anything wrong she just wanted more from life.
I saw those cobra eyes when our daughter (14 then) pleaded with her mother not to file for divorce. The same reptilian stare greeted me from across the courtroom before many weeks passed.
They are, what they are, no changing that!
You need to learn to teach women responsibility, not to accept the lack of it.
@@dukewilliam3660I had one say that to me too.
8yrs single and starting to think I'm actually happier this way. It's just the Peace and Quiet and Freedom I don't want to lose now
Brother, it took getting married at age 53 (she was 5 years younger than me) to realize, if I got in a relationship, I was the biggest part of the problem. At that age i no longer "NEEDED" a woman in the ways I did when I was younger: as a desperate attempt at proving my own self-worth. But by then, i was too set in my ways by then and I began to resent her when she made demands (without providing anything in return except occasional sex).
I just think of all the boxes on the calendar that had to me filled out and it makes me weary.
Same here bro. I think it‘s even Nine years soon🤔 I don’t miss a thing. Almost 48 years old and I don’t even look at women older then 25 years old. Damn , things have change. Thank god Sex is easy to Access These days.
Was at the ancient city of Troy. The guide was going thru the tale. Got to the end, when city fell. All the females in group were worried about was Helen. The guide looked at me (because unlike most I knew the tale from the classics), said ‘You tell them.’ I said ‘She waited at the end and went home with the winner, what women have always done.’ The women were shocked.
@@vincewhite5087 and they all get pissed when you figure it out.
That’s exactly why we call it classic, right? 😉
It takes a very strong-willed gentleman in order to cohabitate. I've tried cohabitating in the past and only lasted a few weeks. My exes seemed to all be anti-peace. They always wanted problems.
American women are trained from cradle to grave that being rebellious is what it means to be a female.
😂 tried it once against my better judgement. They don’t like peace. That’s boring to them
I have lived with 5 women. Each had a different situation but the result was the same. I would rather she keep her place and I keep mine and we get together when it is convenient. The only companion I will live with moving forward is a dog.
After my divorce and a lot of dating and trying to make sense of female behaviour, I've come to the conclusion that you just have to ignore them and do whatever you want (for yourself) and they fall into place by themselves. I now have effortless and most enjoyable relationships without all the bs.
that only works if she has no leverage with you.
@@John_Wood_ Yes correct, and she will only have leverage if you give it to her or the state gives it to her through divorce ca-ching. So, staying single and no marriage is good advice.
@John_Wood_ That's why do not get married, do not let her move in with you and DO NOT get her pregnant. Do any of those and you've just invited the government to grape you!
Only wealthy or good looking men have leverage over women. Everyone else is always at risk of losing their girlfriends or wives at any time. Just depends on the woman's mood that day. It is freeing going into a relationship knowing this. So when she starts to act disrespectful to you, or announces that ahe is leaving, you can just nod your head and say bye. It infuriates women when the man doesn't get upset by this news
1000000% true
I'm 67 and never married. Been through quite a few women living here in southern california. The main thing I learned years ago was men fall in love, not women. That's the basis of it all.
SoCal is a Hades pit for finding decent women unless you are a pro / semi-pro level pick-up artist, in which case it’s probably pretty good terrain for pump-N-dump.
One hundred percent correct.
I recognize now that all women have a shelf life. It is not in their nature to do the”till death do we part” and all social media did was expose it. I only rent now.
Yup, men fall in love woman fall in business.
Except men are great shakes either. Most never fall in love with what's important: their life, and Jesus.
No woman will ever take accountability for their actions. They act on their emotions and feelings and as a result logic has left the building....
Hmm, this particular gender ain't the best candidate for US Presidency it seems
Nothing is their fault because of distorted perception. Frankly, it's like you are dealing with a psychotic person. Their brains are simply distorted. They go in and out of psychosis. No reason, mo pattern. Bizarre.
It's essential to consider several factors when deciding whether to take someone seriously. Look into their upbringing-how their parents influenced them and their attachment style. Examine their relationship history, including the length of past relationships and the reasons for any breakups. Take note of the type of friends they surround themselves with and their career stability. Ultimately, focus on their actions rather than just their words; actions reveal true character.
This is good and wasn’t in the video. If her parents, friends, co workers have ever divorced and she’s hanging out with them when you feel your relationship is not well look out. When she’s talking to everybody but you get ready to leave.
Best comment!!!
We ought to teach our sons.
In essence, that is what 'arranged' marriage is:
"Looking into the potential partner upbringing, frequentation, ideology and financial means, not only by the spouse, but also by the wiser individuals of both families.
How is your upbringing your actions?
Dude! That’s too much work. I just pay for play. Got better things to do
Women & men are wired differently. He works off logic, she lives off emotion. Her emotions alone, will take your life on a ridiculous rollercoaster ride, based on her desires & selfishness. Remember for some women, it's all about them over you. She will want you to execute, commit, and sacrifice yourself to make her happy; just make sure she is also doing the work on her side of the fence. If you don't see that, don't waste your time, dump her & find someone who appreciates you.
28yr marriage, together since HS 34yrs. Divorced 2 years ago, because she wasn't "HAPPY". LOL
Worked and provided an amazing life, house, kids, went to every sporting event, trips, the all american family. She says I want to be single. Im not happy anymore.
I put up with decades of PMS, 5yrs of menopause and then lose 60% of everything.....WTF!!!!!
Im 58, in another relationship, and evaluating whether to ever get married again. Its a very, very bad contract.
I dont trust ANY OF THEM.
Love this channel, women are users and John is 100% right on.
@@damonbalch you got married once. Don't ever do it again.
What purpose would getting married again serve? I’m 57 and I’d never do that again. I’ve realized they are all irrational, hypergamous, and downright crazy. Focus on your hobbies, career / business, and develop more meaningful relationships with your kids. That’s all that matters. Make yourself happy.
WTF?!!! Evaluating ??? Oh wait, now I understand ... Remembering what Charlie Manson once said: "You beat a man with a whip... and he likes the whip ..."
@@Dave-bz4pbAgree. When I am 70, put it all in a trust, get a asian girl.
You'd be a damn fool.
Ive been married 2 times 7years and 28 years you are on the mark with your insight
Wow, you've spent as much time married as I've been alive lol. I was with one woman for 13 years. That was the last straw. I've been free for two years. God bless brother
Thank you, John...
By telling your story you gave me and lots of other men, the 'words' we weren't able to put together and express.
Since my separation, I've been looking through the internet in order to find a way to recount my story to my daughters (sic.) as they grew older.
What I found out is that I absolutely wasn't alone and that my 'unique' situation wasn't at all unique but daily bread and butter for men across the geographic and social spectrum.
You have a compassionate way of analyzing and generalizing the traits of femininity that appeal to men. For men love women with all their positive and negative traits.
Eventually, life is a long battle where everyone dies... so it's worth laughing about it even when in pain.
I keep some of your vids in a playlist for my daughter. The other one cut all ties 9 years ago.
*The crime of women is against their own children.*
Laughing at life is the only way to live
A few weeks ago I was looking at some old pictures that I took of my wife when we were first dating. I was under no illusions that this happy, healthy and sensual woman was long gone and she's never coming back. Whenever I find myself thinking back to those happier times, I accepted some time ago that the man I used to be is dead as well. However, the way I see it is that he needed to die so that I could open my eyes and accept the many mistakes I made in picking the wrong girl and getting married. Now that my eyes are open, I can see the path forward to finding a new purpose without a lazy and nasty person holding me back from my true potential.
Well said!
Same thing here, brother!
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I think the easiest way to understand women is via job analogy: he's an employer, she's the employee.
1. First comes the interview process where she tries to present her best: dresses sexy, is fun, easy going etc. But only for the right employer - unless she's desperate (think single mother in late 30ies).
2. Then comes the job offer (marriage proposal). She can't hire herself - that's why man is the gatekeeper here.
3. The employment part where she provides her services in exchange for resources. Sometimes employers get the illusion that employees like it so much here and forget the nature of the relationship. Make no mistake - if checks stop comming, no amount of love will keep her from seeking better offers.
4. Once she gets the impression that she can get a better offer elsewhere, it will be a nagging feeling that she's not being appreciated enough. After all she's doing all the real work here and all her current boss does is pay all the bills. And he's paying not enough. So she starts an interview process elsewhere while maintaing minimal engagement in current job.
So what happens when employer gives in to demands of the employee and tries to accommodate all her requests? One, she will think that she has all the power in that relationship. Second, it demonstrates that employer does not have a greater vision for the company and that it's essentially a dead end for her career. Third, counter-intuitively, she will think that she's too good for current relationship (otherwise he would not go out of her way to keep her) - thus her only prospects of advancement lie elsewhere.
Almost forgot the last part :)
5. Employment termination - it's in her natural interest to get biggest possible severance package. And if that employer goes bankrupt in the process, it's not her problem anymore. It will just prove that she was right to move away, as it was a failing company.
Really does fit well..
Bro you dropped your crown. This was spot on
Bored, blindsided ,monkey branching, fomo all happened to me. Married 13 years,two of those were in separation.Most of this video was dead on what I went through. Been d over a year now. 90% of the time is all good now,took time to get to this point. Started cycling as a new hobby and it has really taken off. Met a whole new world of different people and friends. Not even thinking about bringing someone into my life. What I went through was the hardest lowest place I'd ever been. The whole time being married I sacrificed everything for the marriage, never bought anything for myself always preparing us financially for the future. 5 months after retiring to start a side business she was no longer happy.
What great insight! You’re absolutely right that the girl you had was completely invested in the relationship, but she changed her mind and now wants out. She has become a different person. The girl I loved is now gone. It took me years to come to this realization after my first love broke up with me. This perspective helped me move on from her. It’s refreshing to hear another guy express this. Thank you!
The vast majority of women are Relationship Traders, not Relationship Investors. And we all know only 1% of stock traders are successful in the market. It's similar in the relationship market.
I never thought of it that way before. Great analogy.
😂😂 to the moon aswell!.
These women all must be into wallsteeetbets
Good analogy.
Tip ..... never take them back when they return.
AGREE, NEVER!! Both ex- wives wanted back in. I blocked & basically never spoke to them again. BEST THING I EVER DID
@@bigthangz5489 absolutely I had one come back after she left me for dead I told her nope not after what you did and hung up
My ex failed in her second marriage, No surprise.
If you do they will bitch you 💯
Never show them any weakness, do not give them any reigns under any circumstance, do not be that stupid ‘vulnerable’ with them. They must only see strength and power from you 👊
@tropics8407
I'd rather stay single than having to walk on eggshells, conceal my nature, or have to take into account someone else's character instead of being myself.
You are very mistaken.
Your idea for when they change and leave, to consider them as dead makes sense. Because, as you implied, the woman you fell in love with is gone. She may still be on the planet physically, but the personality that attracted you changed/evolved/devolved, no longer exists, and probably wont/can't return. Framing the situation this way can provide some solace. Thank you.
Going through a separation right now and your videos are a godsend. Love this content and it really resonates with me, especially the part about her changing from the person i once knew and loved. Thank you sir!
I think it helps when you know that other guys have gone through something similar. And when you can see that the person you married is not the person that you are with today it makes it much easier to end the marriage.
@john-griffin Thank you John for helping me with Dad advice I never recieved.
If it's her idea to separate, NEVER GO BACK.
Wish you luck on this tough journey..
@@joshb8215 Appreciate that Josh
Us women also feel a deep need to belong, be accepted by friends, family, peer group. Fear of being alone, acceptance from the group. I watch this channel to understand a man’s perspective. You are right about the reactivity. Not looking so much into the future.
Women are creatures of emotion and whatever they feel they will justify mentally. A girl friend told me only about 20 percent of women love their husbands and the rest will do a risk benefit assessment of how goodlooking the new guy is verses how much they have to lose if their husband leaves. This is compounded by the court system which rewards them if they divorce.
Wow, she let you in on the dirty little secret huh? That’s scary.
I suspect female attraction is only as high as 20% during the engagement period. By the wedding day it’s already below 20%. Men disgust them… even Chad and Ray Ray.
@@WildMidwest1and they disgust me
@@WildMidwest1 Right. Each time you cater to them, they lose a chunk of respect for you. So by the time of the wedding day, you are already hanging on by a thread.
30 % of “fathers “ are unknowingly raising kids that are not theirs.
Men aren't supposed to pick up women's emotions or take them seriously . If we did the human species wouldn't have survived. Seriously.
Great insight
It is quite opposite, by nature.
We arent surviving now
Very true! We wouldn't have been able to kill the sabertooth tigers because they thought they were cute.
@BlackBoyKingTV the problems society is having is because we are now acting against nature: men are thinking we need to take women's emotions seriously.
I have been married to my husband over 35 years and I love hanging out with men. No drama....they live in the moment and most are pretty chill, very logical, people pleasing people. Most of my friends have also been married just as long or longer. What I have noticed about the women that are still married is, they don't take everything their husband does or says personally.
Yes! I agree. I love hanging out with my husband. We do a lot of sports together and have the best conversations about what’s going on in this crazy world.
@@LadyJane222 Oh yes same here!
As a young man who has experienced the cruel nature of women i finally understand why older men always tell me not to get involved with women. Their only goal is to extract resources from you before they get bored. No marriage no problems. Its too bad that this is how our society is going to fall apart.
I graduated from High School in 1958 and half of my class was married that summer. Within a year all the guys told me "Don't get married" so I took their advice.
Taking that advice has worked well for me. A 1950s woman is no different than a 2020s woman. Women react to feelings and emotions. Men live with reality and common sense.
I’m 54 and am seeing this so clearly now.
I look back now and realize every girl I have dated had one way or another to extract money from me. I have had five girlfriends that worked full time trying to get me to buy a house with them “together”. Four of the five had never even owned a house. Luckily I passed on all attempts. Had I done this, I would have had to buy the house twice.
If you want to ruin your life be miserable and broke get married. If you want to have a great life be happy and save money. Stay single. It really is that simple.
@supersteve8305 I love that all these older men are sharing so many gems for the 20 yr olds and late 30s like myself who feel I missed out on something important in life. I dodge a bullet and got sober and stopped porn mostly too.
Excellent observations. Hypergamy is very real and social media just facilitates the myriad of choices for these women. When you hear, 'i'm not happy,' it's a wrap bro. Thanks for the well done vids JG. Glad you're channel is growing.
Once she mentions divorce or that she is not happy start looking for a divorce attorney and start protecting you assets. Your marriage is over. It might take days or years but it over.
its funny too cause they were happy enough until the found their next "shiny new object" then they convince themselves that they're "unhappy" as justification to leave.
Don't become a slave to women for a piece of ass. I've been with enough of them to know it's a waste of time. Relationships NEVER last no matter how much effort you put into them.
My thoughts exactly! When are men finally going to accept this about women?
I think you have to match their energy and let them do more and then when they decide to leave, you're already in that mindset of " okay it's time to go"
Exactly. Caught heaps of them over the years, often much younger. The catch was never as good as the chase after a few months. Bachelor life is be$t … 😎
Especially if she’s genuinely attractive. Almost 0% chance she’ll stay forever lol
@@GBU61The Simps and Cucks never will...untill they are broke homeless sleeping in their cars and for some six feet under...then some learn. But dont expect the schools or Big Daddy Government to teach these lessons.
To understand how a woman thinks imagine a man and then take away reason and accountability.
As Good As It Gets:)
There should be quotation marks around that line ;-)
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It’s been carved on stone from the beginning of time, “seven year itch of a beach” meaning after seven years of marriage they get bored and want a divorce and this more true today than ever before. So kings never get married.
The years before divorce happens is not good enough to be called marriage. So the time should be shorter than 7.
You know, punctuation matters sometimes, SunnyPai4031
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here , I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 6 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.
Never go back. Move on.
37 years I spent living with woman, 18 years married then 5 years and 13 years relationships never hurt any of them and provided well even raised 3 kids that wasn't mine, all flipped out and left, my wife died 2 year's later chasing the guy she left us for other had a kid with a loser and last a nervous break down when I wouldn't take her back, l don't try anymore
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God bless ya brother. F em all!
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
That is exactly why signing a marriage CON-tract is a Scam 😊
A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family. A woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.
@@Violet-uh9fj both my parents sacrificed their family for their happiness
Thank you so much. It gives me peace to know that I am not the only one who has gone through this experience. ❤
Women are a waste of time and money. Don't bother.
You guys are late, I stopped dealing with women 20 years ago.
I honestly believe they really don't like men, we're just a means to an end.
Just about every couple I meet the guy is way more into the woman.
I also say that women have very low sex drives, that's why sex stops after the marriage and kids.
Men want to get laid, women want to get paid.
I've been saying the same thing for years. Men want women, while women need men. Once that need has been satisfied, he is routinely shown the door.
@@kchall5: So true. Now that I think about it, the overwhelming majority of women are practicing prostitution in one way or another.
Well in the modern world (built by men) they don't really need us, outside of emergency/disaster type situations. Between tech, infrastructure and the government it's all covered. Sets up a rather bleak outlook for society.
I’ve been in love twice. Both of them couldn’t get away from me fast enough 😆
The rest all pursued moi. The less you care, the more they do. It’s pretty much the opposite of what I want, so it’s enough))
A man thinks "I want that. I need that. I've got to have that. What do I have to do to get it?"
A woman thinks "I want that. I need that. I've got to have that. Who can I get to get it for me?"
Chris Rock.
Perfect explanation
To many drugs are taken today with the majority of women today to really understand what is going on upstairs of a woman. It has changed over the last 4 decades and men too are now being told to take drugs for things we dont need. My ex wife told me she needed to take her antidepressant, because if she did not, she would be nuts. Unfortunately she told me that after two years of marriage, we seperated on the third year.
So avoid women that take mental meds thanks
This is a very good point that is rarely talked about. My wife takes prescription meds for "mental health issues" and after being around her for some years I don't think there is anything wrong with her brain. She's just an extremely lazy person with low self esteem who lacks the discipline needed to be a functional adult. A good diet and exercise routine would do wonders for her mental health and would most likely allow her to toss her meds. But I've given up trying to guide her towards this, once I'm gone she'll have to discover this on her own.
Sorry to hear. My ex wife had three kids and was completely lazy and did no parrenting. When i had left as i raised them for almost 8 years, they took over the house. She had no seniority or adult control and as a step dad, i also had non and they wanted me out of the house. The ex wife is a 9.5 on pretty and has no problem taking men home at any bar any night if that is what she wants. But her meds were a solution in her brain. Same with her oldes kid. She would put him on any drug they would perscribe and i would do reasearch on those and attempt to discuss the side effects and then he would get another drug to combat those side effects. Sad thing is, my ex was a navy wife and could get any drug she wanted as we were both in the healthfield and knew how to play the system. I do not take any drugs prescribed that is. But sorry to here you are coming to possibly and end of you union, but we all have to k ow when to tap out. My first wife went nuts and needed meds , but did not take them. So i have seen both sides.😊@ItalNico
If you try to demand logic from a woman, you're screwed.
It's funny how 17 years ago,before I got married, I would have thought you really didn't like women. Now, divorcing after 17 years, I so get it. Betrayal, not just to me, but to the kids and every other commitment surrounding marriage is so sad and a decision I sure can't understand.
The instinct to find the perceived Alpha Chad is strong as an industrial magnet when they are young to middle aged, and as they reach maybe 60, if they don't directly need the current husband financially, they'd just as soon live alone if you could read their mind. Thats when the hoarding, or romance novels, or blocked gutters really begins. 😅😅😅
I'm right there with you. 15 years married before D day. I stopped trying to figure out what happened, it just got me more agitated. This is because I thought I was doing everything right.
Now single, I am at piece and without the anxiety worrying whether she is happy or not. Now I just make sure I'm happy and that is so much better.
“Monkey Branching” happens a lot especially these days!
Perceived options in their head.
And usually they’re not even “trading up” but are being fooled by the dopamine release of a new experience/guy. They are drug addicts and love the honeymoon feeling
It's always been a thing.
An easy way to think about it is women are playing chess while men are playing checkers. The most valuable piece on the board is the King but he can only move one space. The queen can move anywhere on the board and can do the most damage. But it is the king who holds all the ultimate power since the goal is to capture him to win the game.
MEN ARE THE ACTUAL PRIZE.
John, you are crushing it with Truth and value to everyone who watches! Thank you!
Thanks!
Thank you!
John, I'll wait here safely on the outside while you go in there. Good luck.
I must say.. you have a very pleasant voice to listen to. No "uhhs" or fillers as well.. Good stuff John
My *FIFTEEN* year old nephew turned me on to your content. Can you imagine how successful Gen Alpha is going to be if they're learning this stuff in HS?!
I see it in the gym already, the young men put no pass on the attention seeking girls.
That’s Gen Z
@MzAqua You misunderstood what I said. I said Gen Alpha because that's the generation that's going to learn from Gen Z. If the avg Gen Zer grasps this knowledge at at 20 something, imagine how early Gen Alpha is going to get it. We might be red pilled kindergartens
@@GreatPoss111 Please tell your nephew he is very very lucky to be able to access men's accumulated experience at such young age and that he should soak up as much as is sensible timewise, take it seriously, and ultimately make his own conclusions in time and in turn pass them on.
Lucky they are
I’ve been saying that “women’s intuition” is really just a fear response. Because they’ll say their “intuition” told them not to trust something or someone. Okay but why doesn’t their “intuition” tell them who they CAN trust?
@@mrmoe110 their ideal fantasy that you create for them is what they latch their trust onto - they don’t live in our world that man built they live in the fantasy world that you create for them - the moment the fantasy goes away which is due to real world events like job changes, loss of income, less time spent with them because you have to handle your own shit, is when they believe the fantasy is no longer real
The brain of a woman, as of a man, is always changing. The brain of a young woman is to get done by good genes, she desires to have the best inside her. As time goes by, as she ages, she desires more and more material things, luxury, properties, power, money to make her life easier. There is time for everything under the Sun. As you said, we die from time to time. Women change all the time and she will do the things that it is better for her, it doesn´t matter who she hurts, she will always do things only for her benefit.
@@eliseuhackbarth7003 so true you nailed it
Essentially it is self preservation mechanism.
"I want a divorce. Your a narcissist, controlling, and sick and youll never have a healthy relationship until you get help." 2 weeks later I found out she had been in an affair for months
Lying, deception, gaslighting, and betrayal. I went through it too at the end. She was having an affair with an alcoholic on dialysis. Her leaving the kids and me was the best thing she ever did for me.
Projection, it is a standard tactic for Women and Liberals.
@racebannon96 For at least a year I thought it was the other way around. One day I decided to Google "when a narcissist calls you a narcissist" wow what a revelation that was.
@@Brucinator68 The only love is the Creator, our mothers, our kids that's it
The gaslighting is a real thing.
It really messes your mind up if you haven’t experienced it before, or if you are not prepared.
You have to be strong in yourself to not let it get to you or change you.
Men act /do. Women react/receive.
Yep
vvomen take take take.
And that's why women are incapable of changing their behavior. They react automatically to their emotions. The only way their behavior changes is if they are forced to do so.
Point blank! Exactly.
Men give while women take - exactly!
In society, women are judged entirely on their beauty. Men are judged on their ethics, morals, values and status. There is no need for women to develop these traits.
That’s an excellent point
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Not entirely true, but somewhat true. Now the other part of this is what caused this to be? It starts with the parents and the princess treatment and then continues with SIMPs sucking up to beautiful women and not holding them to proper standards. Weak men need to control themselves and not do this if we are to start changing these women. Will it happen? As likely as Democrats voters getting rational, so no it won't!
If Western culture held women socially accountable alone more things would be a bit different. But since they aren't as much as most men (with exception the men women give passes to and enable), women get any with more damage and their lack of responsibility. You could say simps and white knights do have some blame in this, but you also have to understand women can and could not engage in toxic mentality---but they do and rationalize it anyway.
When people give you everything, and you never struggle to succeed to have anything. You’re an egotistical monster, and have no idea of the way the world actually is. To give these people political power is insane
Pretty women die twice.
You should be very proud of yourself John Griffin. Your videos..
Thanks, I’m glad you’re finding them useful. Talking these things through actually helps. Give me clarity as well.
@@john-griffin plus I love the production quality of the hiking and the pups and the drone. It’s really cool. Good choices
There's a line from the early 2000's TV series "Deadwood", which takes place in the mid-1800's during the Gold Rush time. It is two men talking, and it goes something like this:
"I'd rather try to lassoo the fking moon & pull it down to earth than try to figure out the mind of a woman."
Nailed it. Thank you for your channel. Just discovered it today & I'm hooked. 🙏🏻
That’s a good one, John.
Logic vs emotion.
When you say “that woman is gone” is literary true, especially after menopause kicks in. It is physically a different brain. Freud wrote on this matter: “quarrelsome, vexatious and overbearing.”
Wom3n are born with a million dollars if they are pretty. But if they don't play their cards right in their 20s, the wall is coming for them in their 30s. And then it's a lonely life with boxed wine, head meds, and cats.
Men have to earn their value through grit, perseverance, and overcoming. Often times we don't peak until our 40s. But if you make it there, got your finances in order, your health, your mentality, and you're in good physical shape... life is good! You are now a high value man, free from the tyranny of marriage, free to live your life on YOUR terms. It's a blessing.
Getting there 37 minimal cc debt and average 7 to 8 k a month and thankfully not attracted to women very much.
"But I don't think I'll ever fully understand it".
That sums it up perfectly.
It can be almost impossible to make sense of something that is nonsensical.
Just went out form a 4 year relationship. You opened my mind on things so much. Just wow. Now I consider myself lucky. Thank you for taking me out from a very dark place.
Hey John, thank you for this video. I’ve studied-or rather, I’ve tried to understand-women over the past 10 years, intellectually, philosophically, and emotionally. Long story short, women are craving the mythical man, the real man. Given the society we live in, and how it has transformed into something more feminized and more infantile, men have begun to change, becoming more and more like girlfriends, if I may put it that way.
The two key things I’ve discovered are, first, that women are addicted to emotion-specifically, to the variation of emotion. Even if a woman has everything, she will perceive it as a flat line. She won’t feel fulfilled and will seek out more chaos or roller coasters in her emotions. For her, things need to move and change in order for her to find reconciliation. Women thrive on the variation of emotion, not on emotional stagnation. Any predictability is seen as boring, equating to death in their perception.
Lastly, I believe women are in search of a sort of mythical man they can’t find in modern society. Modern society breeds men who are more like friends, collaborators, weak, lacking backbone, and afraid of their masculinity. That’s the world we live in. Thank you again.
Good comment
I have had similar thoughts about some mythical man that they are looking for, I agree.
John, another great video, thank you! I am going to watch this again. I wanted to point out something additional from patterns of divorces I seen, including mine. There appears to be 2 points in time that women absolutely lose their handle on things: 1. When the marriage hits the 20 year mark (Mine at 21) or when the woman turns 40 (mine 41). I have observed this many times, but didn't put 2 and 2 together until it happened to me. Of course there is the loss of sex after the second child and so forth, but this is earlier in the marriage. And as you said, you can't let her get bored and that is Sooo true. Regarding your observations about the female amygdala and their fear response and FOMO, this is another eye opening observation right in front of our noses. What I wanted to add additionally , though, is that I have very recently heard on the channel "Happy Wife School" ( a female vlogger) that women go through neuro-chemical changes in the brain at about 40 years of age. According to the HWS Vlogger, women cannot understand what is happening in their heads, so they blame their man, as it MUST be his fault . Food for thought. Keep up the good work!
@@ThomasLincoln-ng5lz I sa that HWS video too. Mine had extreme attitude changes around 40 as well.
My ex met me in divorce court for our first hearing on our twentieth anniversary day. She said the date was just a coincidence. Blue pill as I was, I took her to coffee afterward and discussed how we would handle the children.
She cleaned me out. Nearly six years and a couple LTRs later I am still in recovery. 😢 I almost never think about her. It’s been 100% no-contact since the kids turned 18. No woman will ever gain that kind of leverage over me again. I am getting better at kicking them to the curb at the first sign of disrespect.
Perimenopause.
@@WildMidwest1glad to hear that
Those are excellent insights. Obviously lessons learned from experience are the ones we don’t forget. Thanks.
Besides all official divorces. Just imagine how many people that are still married on the paper due to economy/kids/religious views but lives entirely in separate homes. Next stop, divorce I guess.
True. I would venture to say that only 20% of married couples are still in love with each other. The rest are just living like roomates
16:35 "she was bored" /"gets bored easily" yea man that's a major red flag for me. I ask a lot of women that and when they say yes they get bored easily, I mentally place them as "good time, not a long time, there's others in line" 😂
My ex totally destroyed my life. I can't seem to get over it. Still in shock! Can any other guys out there relate to this?
I think all men over a certain age can relate to this on some way. NEVER lose sight of hobbies, your job / career / business, and if you have kids - love them and foster good relationships with them. That’s all that matters in life anyway. Women sap your time, energy, emotions, and your money.
I never had a gf.
Of course we do, the details of the story might change but the finale' remains the same -
@@karlhans6678 sorry dude, but at least when you do get one you'll be fore-armed with knowledge hopefully.
@@robertmaybeth3434 i got a lot of knowledge of women through school, work etc. Western women are very full of themselves.
Freud tried to understand women, so did every other philosopher. They all gave up, basically called them children. Which they generally are.
I wouldn't take Freud's advice even on dining out. Gtfooh!
Trying to flip the switch back to s3xual desire is like trying to put that fancy multi-coloured toothpaste back into the tube in its original form.
That observation “If you can find a woman with some courage, maybe you can settle down with her” is spot on. Alternatively you can try to find a woman with no friends in a country that doesn’t undermine men. A lot of all female gatherings are just like those camp fire, horror story telling get togethers where city slickers afraid of the dark try to scare each other. They magnify each other’s fears.
My mother would have aborted me if the state had been allowing her to at that time. I would have been a murder victim. She told me so when I was 20. Abortion isn't about rape victims. It's about women wanting to play fast and loose with the responsibility nature has given them. God doesn't have to punish us. Our society will eventually die out because of it.
None of my exes gave me any warning before ending the relationships.
Studies have shown that when a woman leaves you - she's been planning it for two years.
@@jacksquat4140 wow
Thank you, I have been divorced for 23 years & this video brought me more clarity about it.
On balance, I've spent very little time with a woman, lived with one for 6 months which felt like she was killing me, her words, they way she talked to me. Never married,I had no burning desire for kids, it is what it is. I've dodged many bullets, I am not Rich, like my IT job, working out, boxing, hiking, etc. But my house is only 1300 sq feet and that strangely enough saved me besides the fact im not rich, always paid cash for used cars, so not a flashy life. Oh. I have a KLR 650 motorcycle that I occasionally ride. I also ski in the winter, live next to the mountains
That's a solid life. Drive on...
Are you me? About to turn 40, no wife, no kids, disillusioned with relationships, work in aerospace, modest living space, 17 year old Toyota truck and DR650 in the driveway
@@unskilledlabor1 also sold my 22 year old Honda crv earlier this year. Loved that car. Bought a low miles 2019 Toyota rav4 last year.
@@unskilledlabor1 for some reason my first reply was deleted. Yeah we are the same, stay strong brother 👍. I’ve been slowly updating my house over the years, do my own landscaping and lawn care. It’s just me so no rush
@starriderstudios_at least your home is all your space. There are many married men living in a small corner of a large house they call a man cave.
0:32 seconds in and this is frightening, great video for Halloween 🦇.
Men are in love ,women are in business when it comes to marriage.
You nailed that one. When older women bitch about older men not being romantic, i tell them "5% are psychopaths and never were romantic and can never be, the rest have been in relationships with women and have learned better." Or as the weird Star Wars creature screamed: "IT'S A TRAP!"
So that makes Marriage sex work and the highest form of Prostitution...then along the way they use the laws and pull the sex...but not for Chad.
these stupid comments dont help,. everyone changes, gets bored etc. This is how relationships work, they are all literally temporary regardless of male/female, some people stay longer for kids, financial convenience etc but most relationships are dead once they hilt the 4 year mark.
@@blobtv7444 True. Women won't fess up though, they generally have to cheat or create a strawman situation and then level false accusations against the man just to "get him good" and get a bigger share of the loot.
@@blobtv7444 yep, marriage today is temporary but in any case men have to pay the price regardless.
Two books that have helped me: The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine M.D. and The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar.
The Rational Male is a must too from Rollo Tomassi.
Your best lecture my man thank you
Thanks, I really appreciate that
The tie clip bar story was really insightful. Made sense. I wont forget that.
Me neither and it's so true most women might just want you bcuz of safety or validation like, I've experienced the fear part they start by saying I was in a toxic relationship always so believe all women at your own risk
Excellent video! And spot on!
Glad you enjoyed it
"Monkeybranching" is just a cute term for protracted deceit.
Men do this as well!!!
It’s quite rare.
How does that old song go….”if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, so from my personal point of view, get another girl to marry you.”