Being "ugly" in this world is a blessing in disguise, for a man as a woman(and saying it as a man) After being operated for a brain tumor in 2014, I had multiple scars, had to wear glasses....changed unrecognizebly. But it was the best thing that ever happened to me, I realise now.
I married a pretty, but chubby gal that lost weight to find her man, which was me. She had trouble maintaining her weight, making her not full of herself. She became a fantastic wife until she died from cancer after 40 years. She was the best cook ever and I will never find another like her
It's funny I stumbled upon your comment, I was morbidly obese my whole life as a minor. (Parents fault etc...) And my main motivator to lose weight, was the rib pains I would get. I do got some subcutaneous fat still, but the visceral fat is gone. 😄 Took 2-3 years, of a gradual calorie control process. 🤠 I feel so healthy now! Like a new me!
Congratulations, that’s an amazing accomplishment. That’s the kind of thing that you can think of whenever you’re facing a challenge in your life as motivation to overcome whatever that challenges is.
@@fatcat5817 What I didn't mention was she replaced to food urge for sex, which was great for both of us. She also used Weight Watchers which I believe is a successful program. As a 15 year old girl she was 210 lbs. When I met her she was a gorgeous 140 lbs which she maintained for the rest of her life. I was encouraged to be her weight coach by her. It worked great. She was a fantastic woman
My mom divorced my dad for not signing his home under her name. When they divorced all she did was brag about how many men she had. My dad never brought another woman home cuz he didn’t want to expose that to his kids. All my mom did was talk bad about my dad in front of us. My dad never spoke bad about her nor did he let his kids do so. I’m glad I learned this from a young age. Thanks for ur content
My EX was like that. I bought her a brand new BMW and a few months later she was whining about how I never bought her any jewelry. She was like that with our kids too. Now my adult kids don't even speak with her.
Carl Jung’s last interview (Küssnacht, late May 1961, shortly before his death June 6): “To me, a particularly beautiful woman is a source of terror. As a rule, a beautiful woman is a terrible disappointment. Beautiful bodies and beautiful personalities rarely ever go together.”
That’s been My experience as well. Very hard to find an attractive woman that is fun to talk to. A surprising thing I noticed about attractive women is how deeply insecure they tend to be .. I mean, they are insecure about things we never even Think about
When they hit the wall, they lose their one and only value: their beauty. All that remains is their unbearable personality. And now they are bitter and depressed. This is how Karens are made.
@@jfkst1 That's not always true. A lot of women start looking old as early as in their late 20s, especially if they have been partying a lot and riding the c..k carousel.
@@plasmaarmelund Understanding averages is a very rudimentary pattern recognition. A person lacking that foundational intelligence shouldn't be trusted in judgement.
Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes to the bone. I'm 75 and every beautiful woman I've ever known has two personality traits in common: they feel entitled and they are very high maintenance. You step out of line and they are gone in a flash.
My wife was beautiful when I met her. Now she's a partially aged beauty. Been married 22 years. She's not perfect. Neither am I. I wouldn't call her entitled nor high maintenance. There are some negative things I could call her. But I'm not going to do that. Why dwell on her negatives when I can focus on her positives. The point being that there are plenty of beautiful women with nice enough personalities. And in my experience the proportion of beautiful women with nice enough personalities is about the same as for plain and ugly looking women.
A couple of years ago I managed to attract an extremely extremely pretty girl, pretty much a 10/10, way out of my league, and after a while she became my girlfriend. At first, I felt like I had won the lottery, not only she was super attractive, pretty and with a nice body, she was also well educated, came from a good family and wanted to marry me and have kids. I literaly felt she was perfect and I had found the love of my life. After some months with her, I started seeing everything you're saying in the video. Like every single thing you mention here she had it: The entitlement, the princess mentality, the complete lack of resilience, the extreme lack of empathy, the narcissism. Just to give an example, I have several cars that I rent to other people. At one time we were at a wedding party of a friend of mine, and I receive a call that one of my cars had been stolen. It was the first time this happened to me so I wasn't very sure how to act. But even I got nervous, I kept my composure and started making a bunch of calls: to the police, to the insurance company, to the gps tracking company, etc. Later, I got news that my car was found abandoned somewhere and I had to go there to get it, since the police was already there. So I told her that we had to leave. In the taxi she was cold and distant, and I asked her what was wrong. She said she felt embarrassed and uncomfortable by how I acted at the party, and that I ruined that party for her. Like, excuse me? My car was literally stolen and the problem for her was that SHE felt uncomfortable? I realize then she would never stand by me under any difficult situation in life, or give me any support whatsoever, or be of any help to solve any problem. There were plenty of situations like this with her. Everything was always about her and her needs and her wants. What I initially thought was going to be THE ONE relationship in my life became the worst relationship I ever had. I ended up dumping her.
I prefer(ed) having relationships/fwbs with attractive women----now days women who aren't so attractive are following suit with irrational and constant entitlement.
I had a very similar relationship like that. The highs were amazing but the lows were hell. And no support when problems or crises would arise. Entitled spoiled brat syndrome was eventually diagnosed as BPD, which I believe is a lot more common in women than most men realize. I’m much happier alone now and not even sure what a good match would look like for me today. She doesn’t have to be a 10, but there’s no point in dating someone I’m not attracted to. No longer holding my breath. The bachelor life is better than most of the alternatives.
If you're a working class guy with integrity and have good morals you can forget dating a pretty woman. I'm sure they're exceptions not the rule. They don't care about your struggles or hardships. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners.
I married a pretty woman. She was gorgeous to me. But into the marriage she refused to help with house projects like painting interior walls, gardening, simple tasks everyone has to do and many couples enjoy. She shunned "manual labor". When kids came she became super anxious about everything involving the kids. She would pile blankets on the baby and the baby would kick them off. I said "I think she is feeling hot" so removed the blankets. Kid was fine, but wife lost it with worry. Every gift was too little. Every vacation we had to have the best view room, and not facing a noisy pool. Hyatt in Poipu Beach she complained about. Eventually she left for a wealthier guy. Trying to fill an empty whole in her psyche with material items new car, bigger house, fancy clothes never ended. I live simply now and am way happier for it. By the way the old adage "you never know your wife until you face her and her lawyer in divorce court" is true.
3 weeks into my marriage my new wife stopped cooking. She didn't say why so I figured she just wasn't hungry so I steamed some vegetables for myself which I like but she didn't. She went ballistic and told me I had to cook what she liked. I said no way. I told her if she didn't want to cook that was fine, but cooking was not my forte' and I wasn't going to learn how to cook just to appease her. 6 months later we divorced.
My ex who looked like a Victoria Secret's model always said "I'm worth it" every time she made demands for me to buy her valuable gifts. That relationship was short lived. Poor sucker that married her.
I’m 58 now, divorced and much happier than I have ever been. I was dating a very attractive girl for about 2 years when I was around 35. She was 26 and one very important take away I observed was how many other men would flirt with and try to swoon her as soon as my back was turned. For example we may have been out at a pub and I would go to the bar to buy a drink, guaranteed upon my return there would be some guy with her trying to ‘cut my grass’. I wasn’t insecure at all but I did realise it would only be a matter of time before the right guy came along.
That's why I always advise men not to take a date to a bar. If you suggest dinner and a movie, and she insists on going to a bar, then that's a red flag she is only using you to attract the attention of other men. On the few times I took a date to bar with a group of friends, if some random guy (not part of the group) started taking to my date, I would get between them and start a conversation with the guy. If my date accused me of interfering with her private conversation, that was the red flag I was looking for. I would immediately tell her we are leaving the bar. If she said she didn't want to leave, then I gave her a choice, leave with me now, or I'm leaving by myself. If she chose to stay, that was confirmation she was just there to give out her number to random men. And I would just leave her there and never contact her again. The moral is, if you let them get away with disrespecting you in public, they will have no respect for you ever, and squeeze every penny they can out of you until you smarten up.
@@davidallchin9307 In my case my ex girlfriend was seeing another man when we were tigether, I caught her with him in her car. The guy even had another girl.he lived with for 10 years. I was supporting her financially for 2 years like a dummy. Last i heard after i dumoed her is that he knocked her up and she got an abortion....wow just wow!
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and I absolutely believe no matter what a man does, its mother nature throwing them through ' the wall ' that scorns them the most.
The phrase "out of your league" is a wise one. If you fall for someone who (for now) bathes in validation day after day, brace yourself for disaster later.
very true, stupid young men all always hype up the ugly or average guy that pulls hot chicks. if you see behind the scenes and how that girl actually treats that guy, or hear how women talk about guys like that, it's just pathetic lol women post their disgusting psychology all over social media these days, so you can literally see how they think about guys below their league, they say things like "i dated an average ugly guy and he actually doesn't worship me??", they lower their standards because they believe the guy will just be a pathetic simp, and when he just sort of treats her like a normal girlfriend they can't stand it. secondly, they just generally from what i've seen in actual relationship of people i knew personally, AND have been in with girls out of my league, they just generally aren't invested, they treat you like crap, barely try. the hottest girl i dated was my first gf, she used to literally just do awful shit and then say "so break up with me then" if i complained, it was actually unreal to see in action. of course i'm pathetic so i put up with that for way too long.
I'm 61 now but learned my lessons about gorgeous woman many years ago. The old saying that if you treat her like a star, she will treat you like a fan was true even back in the 80's.
as a 41 year old guy who meets a lot of women all the time and lives in LA with attractive women, everyone sees early signs. The problem is the S I M P mentality, fooling yourself and falling out of desperation. attractive women who have issues will show you little red flags on date 3 if you actually shut up and listen to them. Women tell me im attractive and so im used to getting their approval soon and I see the red flags very early on. Again it's desperate guys fooling themselves. The woman needs to show you she's willing to adjust for you and is super into you right away because she wants to connect with you. If you are the one making all the adjustments to fit into her mental state, this is stupid. Take accountability and accept that you as a guy enable this behavior by praising beauty as priority. I went out with 9s but I'd happily take a stable sweet 7. The most important rule to follow is that she has to see you as her first choice. If thats not the case, you are in for a long journey of feeling insecure.
@@justanotherguy469 pimps aren't some great psychological wise people, they literally just use threats and physical violence, they are psychopaths lol, i wouldn't idolize them or believe silly myths like that.
Well Said / I chased pretty girls in my teens & twenties married one at 27 she left me when I was in a work related TV stunt car accedent . 10 years later I met an attractive slim German girl she was not Beautiful but had all the good qualities you talked about . No body is perfect and we are still together after almost 35 years . Like you say beauty fads FAST and most women gain a lot of weight after childbirth. Im 74 now and my wife is 66 , she is fine with me pursuing my expensive hobbies and does not insist upon house upgrades. She does not ask for much but I do give her what she asks for, she is a simple german farm girl. When she was 16 The outhouse was in the barn . I spend lots on Cars and Airplanes and I'm Happy Man.
I was dating a beautiful woman, totally out of my league when I was in my early 20s. She was a money pit that bled me dry. Everyone thought she was perfect, all except my grandfather who saw past her beauty. He told me in confidence that “women who are pretty on the outside are seldom ever pretty on the inside”. Truer words were never spoken. She had everything handed to her since she was 16 and really didn’t appreciate it. I found out from the wife of a friend of mine that she had a couple of Chads on rotation while I was away, that was it. I was just being used for resources. I broke it off and never looked back. In time, I found my unicorn and lived a much better life than I would have had if I was solely letting the little head do my thinking for me.
Just out of curiosity, were you happy with her and your marriage before you found out about her cheating? Edit: I withdraw my question. I just re-read your comment. You weren't married to her, fortunatly.
You spent the money on her because you young and you thought she was out of your "league". She had chads in rotation because you were a beta toyboy. Your really didn't tame her.
The reason why women and in particular beautiful women are so evil and cruel is precisely becuase of how they are raised. If you wanted to change this, it can be changed quiet easily. If we simply changed the culture and changed how we view women and raise them as little girls. Hold them accountable, dont spoil them or treat them like they are perfect like a princess... But the majority of people will never understand this let alone fight for it. Never mind the resistance to change that would happen.
This makes total sense, and since I hit puberty I have always known that "the prettier they are on the outside, the uglier they are likely to be on the inside." I am now 45, and I believe that this is more true nowadays, with social media, the prevalence of internet porn, the relegation of religion, etc, than it has ever been. I might have a unique perspective to offer on the "Pretty Girl Paradox" because I happen to be the male equivalent of a pretty girl, with all due humility. From the time I hit puberty until now, I have constantly had girls of all ages and backgrounds chasing after me--married or otherwise. They've kissed me in the streets, taken pictures of me when I wasn't looking, propositioned me for threesomes, encouraged me to be a stripper or model, ... I can indeed say, as Jesus did: "It takes a steady hand to hold a full cup." When the opposite sex is constantly pining for you and worshipping you, it's very easy to take advantage of others, to selfishly utilize all that adoration for your benefit, etc. I get where these girls are coming from, but it still doesn't make it right, and I believe that giving in to such selfish actions is in large part a result of poor parenting. In my case, my parents raised me Catholic, and my mom made great efforts to teach me and my brother good character, and that beauty is only skin deep. Another reason girls become this way is because guys themselves do not have the right values. They put these girls on a pedestal, shamelessly chasing after them, as if their looks were indeed the most important aspect of who they are, hoping that they'll be able to sleep with them, validate their own worth, etc. Girls also become this way--no surprise here--due to the tendency of the media to champion physical attractiveness as the end all be all, as noted earlier. After all, sexual attraction is a human trait that is easy for Hollywood, advertizers, etc, to leverage so as to get into people's wallets. Again, none of this is to excuse such behavior from women. At the end of the day, we all have choices to make, but certainly it can be harder for some of us to make the right choice as a result of our life history and circumstances. And as suggested in this video, it goes both ways: vain women with relatively little character value have no power over us unless we let them.
As an attractive and handsome man, do you understand the wisdom behind the Islamic legislation of women covering up their beauty with a Hijab🧕 ? And also the preventive measure of not allowing men and women, who are strangers to one another, to mingle freely?
@@cultureofmen @cultureofmen Yes, I do understand the wisdom; but, in my humble opinion, such legislation is too extreme, and it is unnecessary. Human beings of all cultures will naturally value and endeavor to protect a degree of modesty, privacy, sacredness, etc., even if it's just a matter of a loincloth alone--there are always short-lived historical anomalies, of course. When the balance is upset, humans will naturally seek correction, since doing otherwise results in all sorts of problems. At the same time, there is certainly both objective and subjective physical beauty, and individuals should have the right to be able to select and advertise for a mate accordingly, just like all the other animals of the world. What this entails varies from one culture and one era to the next, but almost always involves coverage of the genitals at a minimum, presumably since they are directly responsible for the creation of life, which most cultures deem as sacred. There are many enforceable laws in Western, and nearly all cultures, that limit the "mingling" of the opposite sex; it's just a matter of choosing laws that are neither too restrictive nor too permissive. There must be a balance, and I think that Western Judeochristian culture has done a pretty good job at that. It's just that maintaining a balance between our animal nature and our human civility--especially with the advent of new technologies, ideologies, etc--is a difficult endeavor, and we are currently in need of a bit of correction.
I see a parallel with physically attractive women and high performance sports cars: You get lots of kudos having one and they are great fun to drive on the (perfectly flat) race track but they're completely useless when it comes to the challenges of day-to-day driving on ordinary roads, which have hills and hazards such as pot holes and speed bumps. And when things go wrong, which they invitably will do, you're going to PAY!
@@Raez_XL planet venus governs the sign of taurus according to astrology. Very sensual women if not pretty, the type of Gigi Gadid and Laetitia Casta, looking like a doll with a very strong female ego and a preference for luxury, cosmetics, perfume and jewlery. Born to experience all kinds of sensual pleasures, parties, celebrations, gardens, wine, chocolate. Jean Harlow's role in "Dinner at eight" is associated with this archetype. Besides the above, taurus men and women have the best understanding of love and the tragedy of it and they are very faithfull. In theory, it is not the law.
I'm going through a break up with a beautiful woman and she is EXACTLY how you describe. I've been binge watching your videos and they are really helping get through this. Thank you so much for your work.
Pretty girl syndrome is largely true. But it is not limited to "pretty" girls. All women will eventually develop it if you consistently nice and cater to them. You must learn to say NO and check them as necessary. Never be weak with them or you are toast.
I wondered about this since I was an elementary school kid watching the class pretty-girl being treated to everything (oversized stuffed animals, junk food, rides) at the town fair. I was jealous of guy who had Pretty Girl agree to go with him. Then I began observing it did not make that guy any happier. He got nothing except a momentary ego boost and an empty wallet. Lightbulb moment. 🎉
What I noticed was, WAIT for it: She had a "Bad Boy loser' that she seemed absolutely convinced of to be the perfect choice. Can you just imagine a conversation with her? Mostly what you get is a "chalk it up to experience" conclusion.
@@pbrucpaul I didn’t know the guy well. She and I were in fifth grade. The guy was in seventh or eighth grade, He was definitely bigger than us 11-12 year olds. As far as I could tell Pretty Girl just wanted to be seen with him buying her stuff. I am guessing he didn’t get anything other than the bill.
Amigo! Eu vou escrever em Português, pois será mais rápido para mim..... Pois bem!.... Eu estava na universidade, quando, de repente, eu vi uma moça simplesmente lindíssima, lindíssima, que eu nunca tinha sentido tamanho "estonteamento" antes. Eu senti me dizer interiormente, naquele momento, que eu tinha que, nalgum momento (algum dia), falar com aquela moça. Eu comecei a fazer planos, e meio que me preparar. Eu cheguei a vê-la acredito que mais uma ou duas oportunidades, só que, nessas ocasiões, ela estava ao lado de pessoas, e seria muito desagradável eu me intrometer e puxar conversa, isso poderia arruinar tudo para mim. Mas eu mantive o plano, eu só esperava uma oportunidade. Um dia, eu estava entrando numa biblioteca do prédio de Artes e Comunicação (meu prédio era o da frente, o de Ciências Humanas), quando eu abro a porta da Biblioteca, eu me deparo com ela VINDO EM MINHA DIREÇÃO! SOZINHA! Eu de imediato - gelo - e lhe pergunto: "Moça.... Eu poderia lhe dizer uma coisa? Eu lhe acho uma das mulheres mais lindas dessa universidade." Ela agradeceu e só. Eu me esqueci de pedir contatos dela, de tão encantado que fiquei! Um tempo passou, até que eu a vi novamente, e, dessa vez, não deixei passar! Eu falei com ela e lhe pedi o contato, e-mail, depois procurei no Facebook tudo mais.... Resumo: Eu cheguei a me declarar tempo depois para essa moça, pois não teria muitas oportunidades de encontrá-la, e daí que eu decidi dizer a ela o que eu sentia. A verdade é que, ela disse que namorava, mas, após isso, ela me aceitou no Facebook uma semana depois, e isso me levou a uma ruína psicológica ao longo de quase um ano ou dois anos, porque eu jurei que ela me queria, só que para depois! Ela não demonstrava nenhuma emoção, ela era emoção ZERO, sorria pouco, não a via conversar com as colegas, ela sempre andava com uma única pessoa: um colega homossexual igualmente de pouca expressão. Eu já era esperto a essa altura, e evitei dar presentes, mas observei uma vez um rapaz do prédio dela, observei à distância.... Era época que se aproximava de final de ano, acredito.... O rapaz comprou um panettone de luxo, aproximou-se dela, e lhe ofereceu de presente.... Eu observando TUDO!.... Ela simplesmente pegou o panettone, e nem sequer se levantou para dar um abraço no rapaz! Não era o namorado dela, o namorado dela lhe havia presentado com um buquê de flores imenso..... Com o tempo, eu me curei daquele sentimento, eu entendi que eu jamais seria feliz tendo uma mulher como aquela ao lado. Mulheres assim só lhe trazem infelicidade!
John is spot on...Give me an average looking woman who goes to the gym, read books, takes classes, goes to church, travels, and takes care of herself. They were always the most fun to be with. Pretty girls were high maintenance.. Also, 80% of the population of men and women are average in looks and intelligence.
@@RobertLloyd-c7p Average looking girls want above average looking guys. If you're an average looking guy that goes to the gym, you better aim for a below average looking girl that doesn't go to the gym. Sad to say, this is just the nature of women.
8-10's are to be avoided like the plague. The sweet spot is 6-7's with the characteristics that @RobertLloyd-c7p mentions. Heck, I have been around 3's that have those characteristics and become attractive over time due the beauty of their personality. There is nothing more beautiful than a beautiful soul!
My uncle Leo was shot and killed at a wedding over 60 yrs ago, breaking up a fight over a woman. His brother Bill took me aside at 18 and warned me the dangers of getting married. Read The Predatory Female in my early 20s.....and that was it! Done golfing just a bit ago. Shot a 75 today....one of my lowest scores! Timmy C Arizona
As a very average looking girl in high school I definitely noticed how the ''pretty girls'' had absolutly everything handed to them . And the huge sense of entitlement that went along with that. It always pissed me off!
In my church, a rather conservative one, there is an ultra-pretty 17 years old girl, well raised, but still entitled. I noticed how shamelessly she hit on a very very pretty guy who showed up in the church one day. She absolutely didn't care that it was so obvious nor did she care if any other girl would have liked to talk to that guy. No, she just saw her goal as if he was there just for her. I am 54 and I have seen these attitude with such girls all my life.
We now live in a day and age where even the dull ones think they’re a ten. Given the time gap between falling for them and then, ultimately (and after you’re trapped), seeing the true them it’s just not worth it. You’re spot on here.
I was a slightly above average-looking guy with an above average job, nothing spectacular, and I had always dated women who were slightly above average in appearance. Then I got involved with a beautiful woman and I saw for the first time all the advantages that are mentioned in the video. She would order dishes in restaurants that weren't on the menu and they would make them for her. Everywhere I went with her as a couple people would bend over backwards to please us, really her. It was bizarre. I ended up leaving her because I didn't trust her as she had so many people, men and women (she was bi), calling her all the time. I did get to learn something new, though.
I had sort of a similar experience. I dated a gorgeous curvy blonde, as smart and witty as her eyes were blue, and I remember being in a very slow moving line in a department store, and as she and I talked and flirted with each other, the people in the long line with us watched in a hushed way, that could have made someone think we were celebrities! Lol
you made the right choice. the last time i dated the stereotypical really hot girl, she kept cancelling our dates last minute to meet "friends" that she had "forgot" she had plans with. i called her out on it and she gaslighted me, but even if she isn't cheating it's just rude and she wasn't sorry about it, but i felt her defensiveness was bizarre. just ended up dumping her on her birthday
Here from Switzerland, 55: The problem is, many men fall out of character and simply allow themselves to be manipulated when they come into contact with an outstandingly attractive woman. The superweapon is to strictly refrain from giving such narcissistic women attention and validation and to remain indifferent and restrained. The better you see through people, the more insignificant and unimpressive external beauty becomes. Pretty women definitely don't impress me.
A pretty girl is like a European exotic car, high cost, high maintenance, requires a garage, special tools, straight roads, grabs too much unwanted attention, paranoid where you park it, hyper aware of curves and road bumps, afraid you might lose traction if you hit the gas too hard, obnoxiously loud, only drive it on sunny days, worry about putting too much mileage, etc. A normal guy with a normal income cannot handle all that bs. They also realize that just like how beauty is skin deep, this exotic car does what every other car does, point A to point B which is a cars purpose, a less attractive women has the same insides as an attractive one. Why deal with a troublesome exotic car when you can get an easy going affordable trouble free car that also takes you from point A to point B? The excitement of being with an attractive girl wears out when overshadowed with numerous stressors.
I recently dated a 10/10 for about 6 months and you couldn't be more spot-on about every single thing you said. I was fortunate enough to see these red flags pretty early. I was able to keep her at arms length and not get too attached. Even with this approach, and with the fact that I ended things with her, I STILL find it difficult not reaching back out to her sometimes. I miss the attention and pursuit from a very attractive woman. I learned a lot from the experience and still am learning and trying to grow from this. I moved on from her and decided to go with a 7/10 who is much more enjoyable to be around, has a healthy mind, truly desires me, and is 10x the woman. Good video
My first wife was not pretty on the outside. Turned out to be not pretty on the inside either. Second wife was good looker, but an awful person. First woman I dated after marriage was quite attractive, but good grief she wuz crazy, and not in a good way. I gave up ! Glad I did. That was 34 years ago.
Yeah, from a female who left the she-tribe 20 years ago. (Four years old is when they start their instincts to assimilate) It's what they will do during situations. It takes courage, and not many are born with it. To face off against a greater force, in the name of doing what you think is right. (Also you can just give them unchecked power and see how they handle it.) Who are you when nobody can stop you?
It's probably very difficult being lied to by every guy they meet. They get constant feedback that they are smart, funny, kind, .... even when they are clearly subpar. And it can be life-threatening. I've seen pretty girls in pilot training programs, scuba courses, sky diving, on top of the mundane stuff, who were given a pass by their male instructors, the latter who were acting in their own self interest. Aviation is full of well documented accidents with pretty girls beginning with Earhart and still showing up with today's popular pretty RUclipsr pilots.
I had the must beautiful woman in the world which her beauty got boring after couple months, after 8 years I ended up leaving her for our reasons. So I don't understand those men who worship beauty in women. ANY average looking woman with a pure and charismatic personality is the most beautiful.
I had a friend who married in his mid twenties to a woman who he described as having "the best ass that he had ever seen on a female!" She spent him into the poorhouse and would have a tantrum if she did not get her way. Getting rid of her proved very expensive...
I knew the reverse. An extremely handsome guy who married a cute gal, when he could have snagged a real beauty. But if you got to know her, you realized she was absolutely a keeper, and he was a very smart guy for his choice.
💯 on point. They’re a challenge. You gotta be strong af to date a pretty woman. You have to have the audacity to be willing to walk away from them, tell them what’s up or leave them for good and absolutely mean it. Nobody has the balls to do it and she will remember you and usually come back later. Pretty women in my experience reach a boiling point where they’re at their peak of feeling themselves and feel like they can do better than you and will test your strength periodically. You have to be willing to kick her to the curb and be secure enough in yourself to dump her and treat her like she doesn’t matter. Then when she goes back down to her regular self esteem she will see you as more valuable than her again and she’ll probably come back. Pretty women are usually very insecure so when you act like an unshakable rock they come back.
I think it boils down to attraction… there’s only one adorer & one adored….. everyone is happier being the adorer, not the adored… I think that’s the biggest problem is that they are always being adored so they aren’t able to be the ones that adore the other… I’ve been with both kinds… it’s way more fun for everyone letting the woman do the adoring… otherwise she will adore something or someone else eventually…. If a girl doesn’t basically drop the phone when I call it’s questionable… if she sounds annoyed at me or bossy to me at all she’s gone
Absolutely 100% TRUE. I would add that any man who dates a beautiful woman should know that whenever she is not in his sight, other men are trying aggressively to take her away from you. Everywhere. At work, men are offering to bring her coffee, inviting her to lunch, volunteering to help or solve problems; it will escalate into blatant courtship--giving flowers, gifts, sending emails, and so on. At the grocery store, men will flirt, offer their assistance, give business cards or cell numbers. As long as she is beautiful, she will be surrounded by suitors, always doing favors, offering to help or solve problems, playing the knight in shining armor and doing their best to impress her and convince her how much happier she would be with them than with you--and you will never know if any of them are having success--until it's too late.
@@cv6176yeah exactly I see do Many guys that are obviously bitter and don’t think too highly of women that also don’t know why they can’t attract women or are invisible to them.. vibe and mindset have to be in tune to attract women and these guys have like negative vibe lol
In a similar vein people who are genetically intelligent and easily succeed in school, they begin to think their views are always right and as a result are often what I call Intelligent idiots. Many politicians especially the lawyer background kind are exude this characteristics.
And yet plain people born without money have had good lives because they learned to appreciate the good use of their minds. Not just for getting money, but to find their best place in the world.
Anyone remember the song that goes: If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. Words to live by. My ex soured me on pretty women. Over the ten years of bachelorhood I learned a lot about women & how to please them. My current partner & I recently celebrated 41 yrs of an equal partnership. Our household division of labor is based on abilities & fairness. "She ain't that pretty at all", but she's a solid person of good character, & I couldn't be happier. Z
It’s just like the song lyrics…”If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.” 🎼 There are exceptions, of course, but this is largely true. A pretty face and nice figure change with time, and it’s what’s in her heart, mind, and soul that will ALWAYS last a lifetime! ❤️
I searched for this lyric in the comments. It was a funny song - after it's original run, it even got play on the Dr Demento radio comedy show - but you knew there was a strong grain of truth to it.
I have noticed, because of social media, feminism and delusion, a girl that is not so pretty may think of herself as a 10 instead of a 5 or whatever she is and feel entitled the same way that the real pretty girl or a 10 would.
thanks to the internet the ugly basement dwellers/ serial killers applaud the average women online everyday so they think their value is so much higher before internet and cell phones people did not have much reach to find a mate Chad could only be at one bar at a time so Joe Blow had a good chance to get a pretty girl because he could work on his game but with tinder and swiping guys cannot build any game any more and Chad can order a pretty girl like ordering a pizza
I know, I think it’s hilarious. I guess we can all live in our own little fairytale if we want. What they don’t realize is that the rest of us aren’t participating in that story. So she’s inevitably gonna run into a few conflicts along the way.
" *... a girl that is not so pretty may think of herself as a 10 instead of a 5 or whatever she is and feel entitled the same way that the real pretty girl or a 10 would.* " This is VERY common.
I was in a cafe once with a mate when he said take a look at who just walked in , she was beautiful and the way she walked past us I said I have one word to describe her , he asked ,what ? I said TROUBLE
Manipulated man by esthar vilar changed my life. Once you know and can see it, you can never unsee it again. Feel bad for all the males out there getting dominated by a woman on all levels.
I've been both lucky and cursed because I've never had any girlfriends or lovers. I'm an unusual mix of characteristics that seem to switch them off, not ugly or toxic, just some sort of innate lack of human attractiveness... I'm working on it a bit more nowadays, but luckily I have no relationship based baggage.....
You did not mention the a$$ ache of dating a very pretty girl is the moment you turn your back or go to the john when out in public, some dude has already scoped her out and waited for his opportunity to swoop in quick and chat her up, get her number. If he’s still around when you come back he’s pulling an Alpha move, trying to show to both her and you how bold and assertive he is. It’s a pain in the a$$ all the time you are scanning for threats. The song “Never make a pretty woman your wife,” has some great insights. Only you can decide if it’s worth the constant interference.
Oh definitely that’s a big aspect of dating a very attractive woman. You will have to constantly defend her when you are out in public. That said, this is why many Men date attractive women in the first place - it’s to show her off to everyone else “oh hey everyone, see what i have? I have a beautiful woman by my side”.. many men derive most of their self worth from their ability to attract women. The amount of work these types of guys put in to not only attract but Maintain relationships with these women is immense.
If you go about worried you will lose a hottie to another guy you give off simp vibes. You have to believe in your core that you are the catch. That can only come from having drive, passion and purpose in life with a fun attitude and a “see you later” attitude if she is disrespectful. Set your boundaries quickly. A hot chick will test your masculinity but if you are solid, they want to be a part of your world if you have your mission set and are living it. 👊🏼
@@adamregan4921 Or if she sees something better come along given how many attractive upper income guys shot their shoot with her online. These same guys dont want anything long term either since they have many options in women, and she gets lured into their bed thinking she upgraded not knowing it is just going to be a bed
I agree I had a really pretty girlfriend and every dude was always hitting on her whenever we were out and she would "innocently flirt" with them I was just waiting for a dude to get into the RUT and make his move on her then things would get ugly I have read articles about guys getting killed over a woman so it is not worth it if you are protective of her she says you are controlling if you stay chill while she flirts then you are not "Alpha" enough for her it is a losing game, and it really is expensive money time emotion etc riding a pretty girl they take everything from you.
Not all gorgeous women are like that from my experience. Although, I do agree with you that there are some horrible ones out there, that are rotten to the core. My advice: Take your time fellas getting to know these beautiful women, remember time is on your side not theirs. Their looks are expiring and they know it.
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7-year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness , unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here .
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8-year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Bro is onto something. Truth is most of us know pretty don't equal good, but halo effect works like wonder. I myself never had a girlfriend (21yo) and I consider myself knowledgeable in the psicological tricks woman use to trick men, but I am pretty sure a pretty enough woman could make me forget all the redflags if I am not careful enough. I still tend to believe there are good girls out there, but the prettier they are, the greater the chance they are entitled about themselves, which is a bad thing like you said. On the other side, no man will feel attracted to a girl he doesn't think is pretty. To fall or not to fall, that is the real pretty girl paradox.
@@john-griffin Evolution shaped men to be bamboozled and used by women. Only gay men are generally immune, and yet even they can fall at times to feminine wiles...
It’s not a flaw…it’s a survival tool. It helps us identify physically healthy women to procreate with…from a time when there was no modern medicine or public health. The challenge is not letting beauty blind us to a woman’s character. Because that character is what determines what kind of wife/partner she will be. The problem is that men will throw the world at the feet of beautiful women, so they have no incentive to grow up or develop what’s on the inside. Until they hit middle age…that outer beauty has faded away…and there is nothing of any substance behind it. The world finally sees her for the selfish, entitled adolescent she has always been. A unicorn is the beautiful woman who has not let the power of her outer beauty corrupt her or dissuade her from a pursuit of inner beauty. “So complete is the illusion that beauty is goodness.”
One of the first things I ever wrote on the subject of gender was an essay about beautiful girls called "Victims of a Sexual Trust Fund." In so many ways, a girl born beautiful is like a boy born with a multimillion dollar trust fund.
And hitting the wall, but then wanting to marry a quality high smv man, is like that trust fund guy blowing most of his money, but then still wanting a beautiful woman to marry him! Lol Oh, is your essay online? I'd like to read it...
John, I just recently started watching your videos and all of them are SPOT ON!!! We are only about a year apart and we both faced similar circumstances in life. Keep up the good work and you will be at 100K in no time!
Thanks for the encouragement. You know, I am out walking the dogs anyway, so bringing a camera along isn't a big deal. Plus, getting these stories out is very therapeutic. Maybe one day, my great-grandchildren will watch them! Thanks
The problem today is that it's not only the good looking girls. Today most women are used to get an abundance of attention and validation from social media and apps. Guys just want to 'smash' and offer validation for nothing, so even medium or below medium looking women believe they are "high quality" when they have nothing to offer and are very entitled. But I'm 55 so before social media I agree it was more like this. And I also fell for this trap. And just like you the real person came out only after my daughter was born (and I had vetted her for over 2 years). The story of 'sirens' luring the man is ancient. I always had if fairly easy to get girls but am now single dad since 6 years and determined to keep it so! I need a date like I need an ashtray on my bike. Single is such freedom! It doesn't mean I don't like women, I know there are also good quality women out there (even if rare). But freedom is more beautiful.
Subscribed. Great perspective. Just got out of a situationship with a 'pretty girl' and man, the level of attention this girl would get throughout the day was staggering. Literally had a new dude asking her out almost ever single DAY. So, inevitably, she ended up finding a new shiny object to chase and basically just stopped engaging with me. My question is, how do you maintain the attraction from a girl that gets that much attention? It's super depressing to know that it's only a matter of time with most of these women.
With women things always working in reverse. I think you have to value them for the characteristics that are important to you, but don’t fall into the trap of valuing them for the characteristics. They’re important to them. Especially physical beauty. Our culture is so twisted in a knot over this topic and it causes so much pain and confusion in both men and women. if you have a woman who responds to attention from men because of her physical attractiveness, then you are in a relationship that can never work. It’s sad to say, but if that is in her character, then she will never be the kind of woman that any healthy man would want to keep around.
Oh yes, indeed. Pretty young women get a lot for free, especially from men. When I was only 21 and travelling in Spain, I actually met 2 pretty women, and they were telling me they did not have to spend a dime on their holidays, unlike me. So I called their bluff, and they accepted. So I went out with them and indeed they didn't spend a penny. Restaurant bill (free), that was on the house... then to a club again, free entrance and guy's paying for all their drinks all night long... I just couldn't believe it. However, 100% true story.
Their hotel and travel cost were paid by their father's, that's at least what they told me. I don't know for sure of course. I was just utterly shocked that they didn't have to pay for drinks, restaurants... Clubbing. By the way the owner of that restaurant was a guy. They both were blondes and Spanish men love blondes. We men have to build value, unlike young pretty women, they get a lot for free. (From men) @philipmartin708
@philipmartin708 Good question. They told me their father's paid for the hotel and travelling cost's. I am not sure of course. Both blondes with blue eye's and Spanish men love blondes. The owner of that restaurant was Spanish and in the club even the bartender gave them free drinks. I was utterly astonished. I just couldn't believe it, them getting all the freebies, no money needed. So I lost that bet. I do remember that for them it was like normal, even laughing they did not need money. So much for equality and being strong and independent. That was for me a wake-up call.
I knew this gorgeous full-figured lawyer who no one at my company would let go of, though her services were no longer needed. My then boss, a tough bastard, had no problem taking up the task, and 86ing her from the payroll! Lol She was dumbfounded that a man could stand up to her. Oh, but she was a beauty and knew just what to say to control men...
The old maxim, "Good judgment comes from experience, experience comes from bad judgment" has always been golden. You may sometimes be lucky enough to find an ugly duckling that blossomed into a beautiful swan when they entered adulthood, and has not been saddled with the "I, ME, MINE" complex....you'll know a winner quickly if she doesn't mind her hair getting messed up in your convertible. Leave the lookers for the CHAD'S and TYRONE"S, they deserve one another.
In my seventies now, I thought the pretty young ones were forever out of reach. Then I realized some of them were available if I was generous enough regardless of my age.. Since I am well off I could easily be generous if I felt it was worth it. I have what they want and they have what I want. This has changed my life. While not meaningful relationship in the ordinary sense, they are still pretty meaningful to an old man who appreciates them much more now then when I was young.
I'm an expat in the Philippines. I am relatively young, tall and fit, so for me it is decent looks plus money that help to attract women. But I was badly burned by the first gal I had a relationship with here. Four years wasted...
@@JohnGrigg-gz9gm "badly burned by the first gal I had a relationship" mind explaining a little bit about what happened? and what you would have avoided?
I can relate to what you are saying. I have married a woman that needs constant validation from me, as wherever she goes, random compliments from strangers follow. While she treats me like a dog, still expecting the same attention from me, with me, feeling disrespected and not good enough, it's rather difficult to maintain her demand for adoration and attention. Just because she is beautiful, I am always under pressure do try and keep her happy... No amount of money spent, overseas holidays, new houses can ever satisfy her, nor make her happy for any amount of time. I know it's time to let go, how many more yrs do I want to invest in her, only to be told that I am not offering her enough. I am gonna let her go. That is my only resolve. Thanks for your video.
As a fellow sufferer (in the past), I highly recommend viewing the following video here on RUclips. Channel: Lord Hybrid Video: Leave your wife It belongs in the men’s videos “Hall of Fame”!
Free yourself. I finally noticed at 40yo how much maintaining those kind of women affects my health. Everytime we break up, I naturally become healthier physically and mentally. Do it for you, not your "image"
With most women they are constantly moving the goalposts, it's enough to really wanna make you give up on life. ... Happily divorced 5 years now. 😁 Now I have a reason to thrive and live again, I have peace, a better career, doubled my salary, secured a better future and hoping to find that needle in the haystack someday, but until then life is still 100% better!
.....except that almost all of the women who espouse this verse are completely evil. Yes, it's true. The most reliable place to find female satanic narcissists is within the Christian community.....and you can quote me on that.
It’s knowledge of typical male weakness between knees for pretty privilege that’s brought about a new mantra; “Pretty wins a pause, not a free pass” Knowing how easily beauty can shatter our sensibilities makes it worth being extra careful around. Don’t gift pretty a free pass through your boundary layers just based on face value.
I am a slow learner, 3 beautiful women with passionate & torrid relationships over 20 years .....started out wonderful, I was tall, well built & not unattractive so we were dream couples ... until the narcissism & hypergamy rose to the surface ......thanks for the vid, it
Great video. The internet + simps have given these pretty women superpowers. I don't have a solution for this other than to say that exercising makes me feel better, normal/cute-enough women give me signs to approach when I'm out in public and I wouldn't say that I'm jacked yet, I could put a feel inches on my arms and shoulders yet, no back definition but huge pecs, I started on the bench. I'm focused on weighted pullups now with low weight (10-15lbs) that I throw in my cheap drawstring backpack and the stretch feels amazing, 198 pullups over the last few days but todays a rest day, I'm just having fun at this point. Weighted dips, weighted pullups, hammer curls, fat grips on everything, I'm not sure what's at the end of this road but I'm starting to get more signs to approach women so thanks for sharing your story and what you've lived through. 💯👍
Yesterday I had a buxom & attractive woman say hello to me and give me a big lingering smile on the sidewalk, and I said hello back and kept on walking. About ten minutes later, when she was out of view, my brain kicked in that she was quite possibly interested in me. Argh! Lol And this has happened to me before. I have been sort of brainwashed with the whole "women are just being nice to you" mentality. I need to always be ready to nicely approach when those situations happen (though rarely) to me!
Two mistakes about generalized advice about people, experiences and relationships -- 1. You can't design a preferred type of person with any certainty at all. 2. People all behave differently with different people. So you must have particularly good insight into how you behave if you are particular about another's behavior towards you. Including the dynamic the two partners unintentionally and unconsciously create. Which is unknowable in advance.
I mirrored your experience and paid the price eventually. Now I understand I had my relationship, had my children, watched them grow to adulthood and all the joy and angst that goes with it. After a few years of being single now after nearly 30 years of marriage I have landed back on my own two feet, can see things in 20-20 vision and are now comfortable on my own in my own skin and own life.
There is also another truth that is as old as life: A beautiful woman dies twice! For me, I had 2 suitors when I was 21 and 1 suitor when I was 41. Nothing much changed! 🌹🌹🌹
I learned a lot from this video, especially through the comment section. Not about others but myself. I'm a pretty person from a wealthy family, and I don't want to be that person who craves validation (though I absolutely do), and I am not very resilient though I try. Empathy can be difficult sometimes too, but I have gotten a lot better about this. I'm dating a smart, homely, lovely girl, and she has humbled me and I am thankful for it, but am still learning.
Thanks for sharing! The most important thing you can do is wake up every morning and decide that you’re grateful for being alive and all the people that you have in your life. Then decide that you’re going to be happy regardless of what happens. You don’t seek happiness from others or from things outside of yourself. If you can do that, then you’ll stop seeking validation from others and you’ll develop a sense of empathy. Good luck.
The greatest causes of disappointment are unrealistic expectations and unfulfilled expectations. Virtually all women have lofty expectations. Woe to the man who can't deliver.
@@wisemanwalkingdowntheroad4275: One day I woke up and could clearly see that I wasn't a husband - I was my wife's domestic servant. It didn't matter how many things I did right, she cleared my history every night, and I had to begin fresh each morning. She didn't care about my track record, or all the fine things I had done for her in the past, when the only thing that mattered was what I had done for her that day. After our divorce, I walked away from women, and sex, and never looked back. 25 years and counting.
@@IAmTheEggMan111 I got lucky as well. My wife changed my perception on how a woman I’m dating should act. Her actions were always consistent in a good way. I had to unlearn a lot of negative stuff I learned in past relationships. Yes, there are good ones out there if you know how to look.
@@antonroux6737 When I met my wife I was not focused on dating but focusing on improving myself to be a better man. Start there. I also looked at my wife's actions and not what she said to me. Her parents are from another country and she was raised a bit different here in the states. You're already ahead because you know you can walk away when red flags appear (don't ignore red flags). Don't waste your time with women you don't want to be serious with also. There are good women out there so stay positive.
I always went for cute. I dated a few women who I would consider perfect 10's in the looks department. They didn't have bad personality traits but the relationships never got serious to the point of marriage. The cute girls might not have been as stunning as the 10's but they were attractive to varying degrees. I married one of them and we've been going strong for 18 years.
What a well done video. Right from the message to the scenery and videography. Yes I have observed this exact phenomenon, Most pretty ones drained me until I had nothing left. I called it my own personal radar problem. We live and learn. Everything is more clear in hindsight….there are some amazingly wonderful women out there in this world. You just need to take your time and not get blinded by appearances ……10/10 on this video and the most useful advice for all young men it there looking forward to…
Thanks for your input. Im glad you liked the videography. I really love shooting outside, it makes a big difference. Plus, it allows me to relax and hear my thoughts which allows me to communicate better. Thanks again!
I married a pretty girl. She was utterly useless. She didn't want to work, cook or clean. I didn't even bother trying and just let her leave me. Best thing I ever did
So, so very true my friend. I have seen it time after time after time. Like you said, it's not a achievement, or something they worked on for years, they just "got it" for free!! The sense of entitlement and narcissistic tendencies are truly innsufferable! After five minutes, I'm out. You can spot them a mile away too! All for looks?, not a chance. That beauty fades, and as they get older the "special treatment" they're used to, and expect becomes less and less, then they become bitter and angry because their "powers" are gone! Thanks for your story. No man needs to go down that path, and for what??
I think the “never again” attitude a lot of us older guys harbor is that many of us have been kicked squarely in the balls by the family court system and we’ve become quite dubious about it all brother John.
Yes, there was one good thing about dating a very pretty girl and marrying her and that is she was really dumb. She divorced me when I was unemployed. That means there was no money to take. And then she left the kids with me so she paid me child support. If she divorce me a few years earlier, she would’ve been rich for life. Go figure.
Like it or not, money is not everything. Women are sometimes more interested in getting out of a toxic situation than in getting money. If she has enough money to be paying you child support, I doubt she is that dumb.
@@user-nz6tq3vc5u if she divorced him when he was unemployed ($0 income) then she just need to make more than a $0 income. She could be working part-time at Starbucks and still have to pay child support since she's making more than $0. It's dumb that she divorced him when he was making $0 unemployed. She could have waited until he had a job, ---ANY job -- but was too dumb to even figure that out.
A pretty face is grossly overvalued. You can see that from the extremes of make-up women engage in. Personally, I always preferred girls that wore little to no makeup, but had healthy athletic bodies. I want a women that can do things like skiing, hiking, camping, etc. No prima donnas for me that just sit around painting their nails all day.
Just... I have a wife that "has to put her face on" every time. I mean every time to go out even for 5 minutes. Took 2 freakin' hours 'getting ready' which means I have to plan for this delay doing anything out of the house.
Where are you going to find older women with healthy, athletic bodies? I'm 63 & hardly ever find a woman in my age range with a fit, athletic body - whether on the dating apps I'm on or at my gym. And the very few women that meet this category will have many options with guys - especially younger guys. With a such a high obesity rate in this country, it really hits middle-aged women badly.
Thanks for this precious piece, brother. I once dated a pretty girl. She was a model. It was hell. But i learned a lot about myself and about life. My mum was furious, my sisters were veryyyy angry with her. My mentor was vexxxed. My mum told me "to desire the best thing for myself as the girl wants the best thing for herself." When i looked properly, she didn't fall within my definition of best. I broke up with her and saw how i gave her permission to treat me horrible. It was my mistake, not hers. My mentor asked me to create a negotiable and non-negotiable list. I was VERY intentional such that I interviewed ladies like I was hiring for the role of a wife. Shortly after, I found my wife. 4 years of marriage, and we share mutual love, respect, and affection for one another. I would say there are still good lovely girls out there, just that many bros just need to be patient, intentional, and stop looking for wives in the wrong places.
People use the "my cup is empty" thing the wrong way. That's why so many people view that concept in a bad way. Its not supposed to be used to justify selfishness.
@@BabyColinRobinson You are right. The original intent is you have to focus on yourself before you can consider others means work on yourself not make selfish demands on others to "fill your cup first".
I think it might be a generational thing, my Mother (born 1937) had film star looks and my Aunt (born 1934) was very attractive but both were not vein because their mother’s generation brought them up not to think too much of themselves and they were not praised. A harsh upbringing in many ways but then again it produced some decent people.
@@edm-london1660 Yes that is right, my mother never got any praise or encouragement from her mother and had a guilt ridden relationship with her, but she brought me up exactly opposite and we were great friends, she was a truly sweet person.
I had eliminated the possibility of having another woman in my life until I viewed this video. Single for 5 years. 2 marriages down. 45 years old. I thought I was done..... Maybe, just maybe there might be a chance. I would really like to own a dog though. Unfortunately my circumstances don't allow for that. Thanks for the video. You put everything into perspective. Ipswich, Suffolk, England.
This is so true ❤ Men go after 10’s not realizing, they did all that work to be a 10, to get what they want. If they don’t get it, you better watch out 😬
You're right about the parents not focusing on their daughter's attractiveness - my parents didn't focus on my appearance - and beauty magazines or the industry glorify outward appearance to sell products or ideas - found you today - enjoyed your thoughtfulness - I really enjoyed how you were able to move your camera in various angles - dogs are so adorable - take care -
Being born beautiful is like being born a millionaire and slowly getting poorer.
very insightful! Thanks
well said
Sometimes quickly getting poorer.
@@stuartmcpherson1921 Great summary ... that's it !
Being "ugly" in this world is a blessing in disguise, for a man as a woman(and saying it as a man)
After being operated for a brain tumor in 2014, I had multiple scars, had to wear glasses....changed unrecognizebly. But it was the best thing that ever happened to me, I realise now.
I have met not so pretty women. And they were still entitled.
That’s funny. But I think there’s some truth to it too.
At this point just existing as a woman makes them entitled. It's crazy.
Current era it exist regardless of the level of beauty
@@basicdose.9872 like always nuance and case by case but some generalities hold
They all think they are 10s.
I married a pretty, but chubby gal that lost weight to find her man, which was me. She had trouble maintaining her weight, making her not full of herself. She became a fantastic wife until she died from cancer after 40 years. She was the best cook ever and I will never find another like her
That’s a great story thanks
I feel for you as I want the same.
It's funny I stumbled upon your comment, I was morbidly obese my whole life as a minor. (Parents fault etc...) And my main motivator to lose weight, was the rib pains I would get. I do got some subcutaneous fat still, but the visceral fat is gone. 😄 Took 2-3 years, of a gradual calorie control process. 🤠 I feel so healthy now! Like a new me!
Congratulations, that’s an amazing accomplishment. That’s the kind of thing that you can think of whenever you’re facing a challenge in your life as motivation to overcome whatever that challenges is.
@@fatcat5817 What I didn't mention was she replaced to food urge for sex, which was great for both of us. She also used Weight Watchers which I believe is a successful program. As a 15 year old girl she was 210 lbs. When I met her she was a gorgeous 140 lbs which she maintained for the rest of her life. I was encouraged to be her weight coach by her. It worked great. She was a fantastic woman
My mom divorced my dad for not signing his home under her name. When they divorced all she did was brag about how many men she had. My dad never brought another woman home cuz he didn’t want to expose that to his kids. All my mom did was talk bad about my dad in front of us. My dad never spoke bad about her nor did he let his kids do so. I’m glad I learned this from a young age. Thanks for ur content
Great Dad. He deserved better.
@@dmil843 I know bro. It’s sad. He’s been gone for over 9 years and I miss that man more than words can describe
Incredible. They were married and she wanted it in her name. Wow. How is your relationship with her now?
@@rodbryant1928 horrible relationship. It all started when I was born. The farther away I am from my so called “mom” the better off I am haha
My EX was like that. I bought her a brand new BMW and a few months later she was whining about how I never bought her any jewelry. She was like that with our kids too. Now my adult kids don't even speak with her.
Carl Jung’s last interview (Küssnacht, late May 1961, shortly before his death June 6): “To me, a particularly beautiful woman is a source of terror. As a rule, a beautiful woman is a terrible disappointment. Beautiful bodies and beautiful personalities rarely ever go together.”
Wow. I have never heard that story. Thanks!
That’s been
My experience as well. Very hard to find an attractive woman that is fun to talk to. A surprising thing I noticed about attractive women is how deeply insecure they tend to be .. I mean, they are insecure about things we never even
Think about
Well she knows her looks will fade and she fears her rough personality being displayed on her face for the world to see.
What was it like to go on a date with Carl Jung?
@@brianmeen2158 im a reasonably learned n wise person. I’m curious? What would those insecurities be?
When they hit the wall, they lose their one and only value: their beauty. All that remains is their unbearable personality. And now they are bitter and depressed. This is how Karens are made.
Then they get a cat (or many cats!) Their only resort to get attention and purrs...I mean "love"!
Usually attractive women decline in attraction much later in life for obvious reasons.
@@jfkst1 That's not always true. A lot of women start looking old as early as in their late 20s, especially if they have been partying a lot and riding the c..k carousel.
@@tzeffsmainchannelthey get children that they mentally and spiritually dominate
@@plasmaarmelund
Understanding averages is a very rudimentary pattern recognition. A person lacking that foundational intelligence shouldn't be trusted in judgement.
Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes to the bone. I'm 75 and every beautiful woman I've ever known has two personality traits in common: they feel entitled and they are very high maintenance. You step out of line and they are gone in a flash.
You are so right
So what’s your experience with average-ugly women?
My wife was beautiful when I met her. Now she's a partially aged beauty.
Been married 22 years.
She's not perfect. Neither am I.
I wouldn't call her entitled nor high maintenance. There are some negative things I could call her. But I'm not going to do that. Why dwell on her negatives when I can focus on her positives.
The point being that there are plenty of beautiful women with nice enough personalities. And in my experience the proportion of beautiful women with nice enough personalities is about the same as for plain and ugly looking women.
@@lint8391 she is one in a million. Congrats on the happy marriage.
@@twofarg0ne763 at 41, i get to see “Flash” hit the wall online. 😂a small consolation i suppose.
A couple of years ago I managed to attract an extremely extremely pretty girl, pretty much a 10/10, way out of my league, and after a while she became my girlfriend. At first, I felt like I had won the lottery, not only she was super attractive, pretty and with a nice body, she was also well educated, came from a good family and wanted to marry me and have kids. I literaly felt she was perfect and I had found the love of my life. After some months with her, I started seeing everything you're saying in the video. Like every single thing you mention here she had it: The entitlement, the princess mentality, the complete lack of resilience, the extreme lack of empathy, the narcissism.
Just to give an example, I have several cars that I rent to other people. At one time we were at a wedding party of a friend of mine, and I receive a call that one of my cars had been stolen. It was the first time this happened to me so I wasn't very sure how to act. But even I got nervous, I kept my composure and started making a bunch of calls: to the police, to the insurance company, to the gps tracking company, etc. Later, I got news that my car was found abandoned somewhere and I had to go there to get it, since the police was already there. So I told her that we had to leave. In the taxi she was cold and distant, and I asked her what was wrong. She said she felt embarrassed and uncomfortable by how I acted at the party, and that I ruined that party for her. Like, excuse me? My car was literally stolen and the problem for her was that SHE felt uncomfortable? I realize then she would never stand by me under any difficult situation in life, or give me any support whatsoever, or be of any help to solve any problem. There were plenty of situations like this with her. Everything was always about her and her needs and her wants. What I initially thought was going to be THE ONE relationship in my life became the worst relationship I ever had. I ended up dumping her.
It sounds like so many of the experiences I had. You and I have lived paralell lives! Thanks!
I prefer(ed) having relationships/fwbs with attractive women----now days women who aren't so attractive are following suit with irrational and constant entitlement.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
I had a very similar relationship like that. The highs were amazing but the lows were hell. And no support when problems or crises would arise. Entitled spoiled brat syndrome was eventually diagnosed as BPD, which I believe is a lot more common in women than most men realize. I’m much happier alone now and not even sure what a good match would look like for me today. She doesn’t have to be a 10, but there’s no point in dating someone I’m not attracted to. No longer holding my breath. The bachelor life is better than most of the alternatives.
For moment I thought it was me who wrote this lol
My son told a girlfriend that if you’re looking for someone to buy you expensive gifts, I’m not your guy.
Good
Your son sounds like he is very wise. I wish him every success in life. ❤️
And he’s now single 😂
@@joebloggs8292 he may not be single for life but if he is attached, it won't be with someone who will take advantage of him.
Wow! He's very upfront; he will avoid alot of confusion in life
If you're a working class guy with integrity and have good morals you can forget dating a pretty woman. I'm sure they're exceptions not the rule. They don't care about your struggles or hardships. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners.
I married a pretty woman. She was gorgeous to me. But into the marriage she refused to help with house projects like painting interior walls, gardening, simple tasks everyone has to do and many couples enjoy. She shunned "manual labor". When kids came she became super anxious about everything involving the kids. She would pile blankets on the baby and the baby would kick them off. I said "I think she is feeling hot" so removed the blankets. Kid was fine, but wife lost it with worry. Every gift was too little. Every vacation we had to have the best view room, and not facing a noisy pool. Hyatt in Poipu Beach she complained about. Eventually she left for a wealthier guy. Trying to fill an empty whole in her psyche with material items new car, bigger house, fancy clothes never ended. I live simply now and am way happier for it. By the way the old adage "you never know your wife until you face her and her lawyer in divorce court" is true.
Sounds a bit like my ex wife. Thanks for sharing your story
3 weeks into my marriage my new wife stopped cooking. She didn't say why so I figured she just wasn't hungry so I steamed some vegetables for myself which I like but she didn't. She went ballistic and told me I had to cook what she liked. I said no way. I told her if she didn't want to cook that was fine, but cooking was not my forte' and I wasn't going to learn how to cook just to appease her. 6 months later we divorced.
OR beautiful Girl until she opens her mouth, and then Really listen to what comes next! It's a Bona Fide Trip!
💯🎯
@@lloydc3742 damn brother I’m sorry to hear about that. I’m glad ur happy tho bro
Kevin Samuels once said, 'Men pick a woman with your eyes closed'
Excellent advice
My ex who looked like a Victoria Secret's model always said "I'm worth it" every time she made demands for me to buy her valuable gifts. That relationship was short lived. Poor sucker that married her.
The more pretty privileged women hit the wall very hard.
Sucker yes. Poor? No way! 😄
I’m 58 now, divorced and much happier than I have ever been. I was dating a very attractive girl for about 2 years when I was around 35. She was 26 and one very important take away I observed was how many other men would flirt with and try to swoon her as soon as my back was turned. For example we may have been out at a pub and I would go to the bar to buy a drink, guaranteed upon my return there would be some guy with her trying to ‘cut my grass’. I wasn’t insecure at all but I did realise it would only be a matter of time before the right guy came along.
That's why I always advise men not to take a date to a bar. If you suggest dinner and a movie, and she insists on going to a bar, then that's a red flag she is only using you to attract the attention of other men. On the few times I took a date to bar with a group of friends, if some random guy (not part of the group) started taking to my date, I would get between them and start a conversation with the guy. If my date accused me of interfering with her private conversation, that was the red flag I was looking for. I would immediately tell her we are leaving the bar. If she said she didn't want to leave, then I gave her a choice, leave with me now, or I'm leaving by myself. If she chose to stay, that was confirmation she was just there to give out her number to random men. And I would just leave her there and never contact her again. The moral is, if you let them get away with disrespecting you in public, they will have no respect for you ever, and squeeze every penny they can out of you until you smarten up.
@@davidallchin9307 In my case my ex girlfriend was seeing another man when we were tigether, I caught her with him in her car. The guy even had another girl.he lived with for 10 years. I was supporting her financially for 2 years like a dummy. Last i heard after i dumoed her is that he knocked her up and she got an abortion....wow just wow!
@@bobblacka918 so true!
They say, Karen's are post wall girls who used to have pretty privileges.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned and I absolutely believe no matter what a man does, its mother nature throwing them through ' the wall ' that scorns them the most.
haven't heard that before but it kinda makes sense
Good point! I bet it's true
There's definitely something in that! ❤️
The phrase "out of your league" is a wise one. If you fall for someone who (for now) bathes in validation day after day, brace yourself for disaster later.
very true, stupid young men all always hype up the ugly or average guy that pulls hot chicks. if you see behind the scenes and how that girl actually treats that guy, or hear how women talk about guys like that, it's just pathetic lol
women post their disgusting psychology all over social media these days, so you can literally see how they think about guys below their league, they say things like "i dated an average ugly guy and he actually doesn't worship me??", they lower their standards because they believe the guy will just be a pathetic simp, and when he just sort of treats her like a normal girlfriend they can't stand it.
secondly, they just generally from what i've seen in actual relationship of people i knew personally, AND have been in with girls out of my league, they just generally aren't invested, they treat you like crap, barely try. the hottest girl i dated was my first gf, she used to literally just do awful shit and then say "so break up with me then" if i complained, it was actually unreal to see in action.
of course i'm pathetic so i put up with that for way too long.
No words every written more true!
I'm 61 now but learned my lessons about gorgeous woman many years ago. The old saying that if you treat her like a star, she will treat you like a fan was true even back in the 80's.
Thats a great saying!
or a better version: Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a peasant. 😂
as a 41 year old guy who meets a lot of women all the time and lives in LA with attractive women, everyone sees early signs. The problem is the S I M P mentality, fooling yourself and falling out of desperation. attractive women who have issues will show you little red flags on date 3 if you actually shut up and listen to them. Women tell me im attractive and so im used to getting their approval soon and I see the red flags very early on. Again it's desperate guys fooling themselves. The woman needs to show you she's willing to adjust for you and is super into you right away because she wants to connect with you. If you are the one making all the adjustments to fit into her mental state, this is stupid. Take accountability and accept that you as a guy enable this behavior by praising beauty as priority. I went out with 9s but I'd happily take a stable sweet 7. The most important rule to follow is that she has to see you as her first choice. If thats not the case, you are in for a long journey of feeling insecure.
A pimp is someone who has figured out the psychology of a woman, and uses it for his benefit.
@@justanotherguy469 pimps aren't some great psychological wise people, they literally just use threats and physical violence, they are psychopaths lol, i wouldn't idolize them or believe silly myths like that.
Well Said / I chased pretty girls in my teens & twenties married one at 27 she left me when I was in a work related TV stunt car accedent . 10 years later I met an attractive slim German girl she was not Beautiful but had all the good qualities you talked about . No body is perfect and we are still together after almost 35 years . Like you say beauty fads FAST and most women gain a lot of weight after childbirth. Im 74 now and my wife is 66 , she is fine with me pursuing my expensive hobbies and does not insist upon house upgrades. She does not ask for much but I do give her what she asks for, she is a simple german farm girl. When she was 16 The outhouse was in the barn . I spend lots on Cars and Airplanes and I'm Happy Man.
I was dating a beautiful woman, totally out of my league when I was in my early 20s. She was a money pit that bled me dry. Everyone thought she was perfect, all except my grandfather who saw past her beauty. He told me in confidence that “women who are pretty on the outside are seldom ever pretty on the inside”. Truer words were never spoken. She had everything handed to her since she was 16 and really didn’t appreciate it. I found out from the wife of a friend of mine that she had a couple of Chads on rotation while I was away, that was it. I was just being used for resources. I broke it off and never looked back. In time, I found my unicorn and lived a much better life than I would have had if I was solely letting the little head do my thinking for me.
Just out of curiosity, were you happy with her and your marriage before you found out about her cheating?
Edit: I withdraw my question. I just re-read your comment. You weren't married to her, fortunatly.
I bet the wife was jealous and lying
@@catcat9582 I can understand you thinking that, but she was proven to be 100% right, much to my chagrin.
You spent the money on her because you young and you thought she was out of your "league". She had chads in rotation because you were a beta toyboy. Your really didn't tame her.
The reason why women and in particular beautiful women are so evil and cruel is precisely becuase of how they are raised.
If you wanted to change this, it can be changed quiet easily. If we simply changed the culture and changed how we view women and raise them as little girls. Hold them accountable, dont spoil them or treat them like they are perfect like a princess...
But the majority of people will never understand this let alone fight for it. Never mind the resistance to change that would happen.
This makes total sense, and since I hit puberty I have always known that "the prettier they are on the outside, the uglier they are likely to be on the inside." I am now 45, and I believe that this is more true nowadays, with social media, the prevalence of internet porn, the relegation of religion, etc, than it has ever been. I might have a unique perspective to offer on the "Pretty Girl Paradox" because I happen to be the male equivalent of a pretty girl, with all due humility. From the time I hit puberty until now, I have constantly had girls of all ages and backgrounds chasing after me--married or otherwise. They've kissed me in the streets, taken pictures of me when I wasn't looking, propositioned me for threesomes, encouraged me to be a stripper or model, ... I can indeed say, as Jesus did: "It takes a steady hand to hold a full cup." When the opposite sex is constantly pining for you and worshipping you, it's very easy to take advantage of others, to selfishly utilize all that adoration for your benefit, etc. I get where these girls are coming from, but it still doesn't make it right, and I believe that giving in to such selfish actions is in large part a result of poor parenting. In my case, my parents raised me Catholic, and my mom made great efforts to teach me and my brother good character, and that beauty is only skin deep. Another reason girls become this way is because guys themselves do not have the right values. They put these girls on a pedestal, shamelessly chasing after them, as if their looks were indeed the most important aspect of who they are, hoping that they'll be able to sleep with them, validate their own worth, etc. Girls also become this way--no surprise here--due to the tendency of the media to champion physical attractiveness as the end all be all, as noted earlier. After all, sexual attraction is a human trait that is easy for Hollywood, advertizers, etc, to leverage so as to get into people's wallets. Again, none of this is to excuse such behavior from women. At the end of the day, we all have choices to make, but certainly it can be harder for some of us to make the right choice as a result of our life history and circumstances. And as suggested in this video, it goes both ways: vain women with relatively little character value have no power over us unless we let them.
Thanks for this.
As an attractive and handsome man, do you understand the wisdom behind the Islamic legislation of women covering up their beauty with a Hijab🧕 ?
And also the preventive measure of not allowing men and women, who are strangers to one another, to mingle freely?
Glad you like it, Thanks!
Thanks for your insight.
@@cultureofmen @cultureofmen Yes, I do understand the wisdom; but, in my humble opinion, such legislation is too extreme, and it is unnecessary. Human beings of all cultures will naturally value and endeavor to protect a degree of modesty, privacy, sacredness, etc., even if it's just a matter of a loincloth alone--there are always short-lived historical anomalies, of course. When the balance is upset, humans will naturally seek correction, since doing otherwise results in all sorts of problems. At the same time, there is certainly both objective and subjective physical beauty, and individuals should have the right to be able to select and advertise for a mate accordingly, just like all the other animals of the world. What this entails varies from one culture and one era to the next, but almost always involves coverage of the genitals at a minimum, presumably since they are directly responsible for the creation of life, which most cultures deem as sacred. There are many enforceable laws in Western, and nearly all cultures, that limit the "mingling" of the opposite sex; it's just a matter of choosing laws that are neither too restrictive nor too permissive. There must be a balance, and I think that Western Judeochristian culture has done a pretty good job at that. It's just that maintaining a balance between our animal nature and our human civility--especially with the advent of new technologies, ideologies, etc--is a difficult endeavor, and we are currently in need of a bit of correction.
I see a parallel with physically attractive women and high performance sports cars: You get lots of kudos having one and they are great fun to drive on the (perfectly flat) race track but they're completely useless when it comes to the challenges of day-to-day driving on ordinary roads, which have hills and hazards such as pot holes and speed bumps. And when things go wrong, which they invitably will do, you're going to PAY!
Depends on the sports car, I drove my RX-7 Turbo to work every day through the ice and snow for years :)
"Pity a man for the rest of his life...who takes for himself...a pretty wife"
-Old English truism.
I havent heard that before! Excellent stuff, thanks!
All about Eve.....character traits associated to a taurus woman the most beautiful in the zodiac.
Then thank god that they don't have many pretty ones in England...
@@nina.cazimiI'm a Taurus man. Please tell me what makes a taurus woman beautiful.?
@@Raez_XL planet venus governs the sign of taurus according to astrology. Very sensual women if not pretty, the type of Gigi Gadid and Laetitia Casta, looking like a doll with a very strong female ego and a preference for luxury, cosmetics, perfume and jewlery.
Born to experience all kinds of sensual pleasures, parties, celebrations, gardens, wine, chocolate.
Jean Harlow's role in "Dinner at eight" is associated with this archetype.
Besides the above, taurus men and women have the best understanding of love and the tragedy of it and they are very faithfull.
In theory, it is not the law.
I'm going through a break up with a beautiful woman and she is EXACTLY how you describe. I've been binge watching your videos and they are really helping get through this. Thank you so much for your work.
You are so welcome. Some lessons are hard to learn, but you never forget them.
Pretty girl syndrome is largely true. But it is not limited to "pretty" girls. All women will eventually develop it if you consistently nice and cater to them. You must learn to say NO and check them as necessary. Never be weak with them or you are toast.
Good advice, thanks
@Dweeble233 : Nicely summed up, in a nutshell.
On first dates, guys get so caught up with their beauty that they overlook the red flags. And they are there.
I wondered about this since I was an elementary school kid watching the class pretty-girl being treated to everything (oversized stuffed animals, junk food, rides) at the town fair. I was jealous of guy who had Pretty Girl agree to go with him. Then I began observing it did not make that guy any happier. He got nothing except a momentary ego boost and an empty wallet. Lightbulb moment. 🎉
What I noticed was, WAIT for it: She had a "Bad Boy loser' that she seemed absolutely convinced of to be the perfect choice. Can you just imagine a conversation with her? Mostly what you get is a "chalk it up to experience" conclusion.
@@pbrucpaul I didn’t know the guy well. She and I were in fifth grade. The guy was in seventh or eighth grade, He was definitely bigger than us 11-12 year olds. As far as I could tell Pretty Girl just wanted to be seen with him buying her stuff. I am guessing he didn’t get anything other than the bill.
Amigo! Eu vou escrever em Português, pois será mais rápido para mim.....
Pois bem!.... Eu estava na universidade, quando, de repente, eu vi uma moça simplesmente lindíssima, lindíssima, que eu nunca tinha sentido tamanho "estonteamento" antes. Eu senti me dizer interiormente, naquele momento, que eu tinha que, nalgum momento (algum dia), falar com aquela moça. Eu comecei a fazer planos, e meio que me preparar. Eu cheguei a vê-la acredito que mais uma ou duas oportunidades, só que, nessas ocasiões, ela estava ao lado de pessoas, e seria muito desagradável eu me intrometer e puxar conversa, isso poderia arruinar tudo para mim. Mas eu mantive o plano, eu só esperava uma oportunidade. Um dia, eu estava entrando numa biblioteca do prédio de Artes e Comunicação (meu prédio era o da frente, o de Ciências Humanas), quando eu abro a porta da Biblioteca, eu me deparo com ela VINDO EM MINHA DIREÇÃO! SOZINHA! Eu de imediato - gelo - e lhe pergunto: "Moça.... Eu poderia lhe dizer uma coisa? Eu lhe acho uma das mulheres mais lindas dessa universidade." Ela agradeceu e só. Eu me esqueci de pedir contatos dela, de tão encantado que fiquei! Um tempo passou, até que eu a vi novamente, e, dessa vez, não deixei passar! Eu falei com ela e lhe pedi o contato, e-mail, depois procurei no Facebook tudo mais.... Resumo: Eu cheguei a me declarar tempo depois para essa moça, pois não teria muitas oportunidades de encontrá-la, e daí que eu decidi dizer a ela o que eu sentia. A verdade é que, ela disse que namorava, mas, após isso, ela me aceitou no Facebook uma semana depois, e isso me levou a uma ruína psicológica ao longo de quase um ano ou dois anos, porque eu jurei que ela me queria, só que para depois! Ela não demonstrava nenhuma emoção, ela era emoção ZERO, sorria pouco, não a via conversar com as colegas, ela sempre andava com uma única pessoa: um colega homossexual igualmente de pouca expressão. Eu já era esperto a essa altura, e evitei dar presentes, mas observei uma vez um rapaz do prédio dela, observei à distância.... Era época que se aproximava de final de ano, acredito.... O rapaz comprou um panettone de luxo, aproximou-se dela, e lhe ofereceu de presente.... Eu observando TUDO!.... Ela simplesmente pegou o panettone, e nem sequer se levantou para dar um abraço no rapaz! Não era o namorado dela, o namorado dela lhe havia presentado com um buquê de flores imenso.....
Com o tempo, eu me curei daquele sentimento, eu entendi que eu jamais seria feliz tendo uma mulher como aquela ao lado.
Mulheres assim só lhe trazem infelicidade!
@@o_ebrio Acknowledge the benefit: women like that bring joy to the panettone baker.
John is spot on...Give me an average looking woman who goes to the gym, read books, takes classes, goes to church, travels, and takes care of herself. They were always the most fun to be with. Pretty girls were high maintenance.. Also, 80% of the population of men and women are average in looks and intelligence.
My thoughts exactly. In fact, the most fun girl I ever met was just average looking, but she was really great to have sex with.
Excellent 😂🎉😂
Problem these days they all think they're hot AF, with the entitlement that goes with it.
@@RobertLloyd-c7p Average looking girls want above average looking guys. If you're an average looking guy that goes to the gym, you better aim for a below average looking girl that doesn't go to the gym. Sad to say, this is just the nature of women.
8-10's are to be avoided like the plague. The sweet spot is 6-7's with the characteristics that @RobertLloyd-c7p mentions. Heck, I have been around 3's that have those characteristics and become attractive over time due the beauty of their personality. There is nothing more beautiful than a beautiful soul!
My uncle Leo was shot and killed at a wedding over 60 yrs ago, breaking up a fight over a woman. His brother Bill took me aside at 18 and warned me the dangers of getting married. Read The Predatory Female in my early 20s.....and that was it! Done golfing just a bit ago. Shot a 75 today....one of my lowest scores! Timmy C Arizona
I guess that was a................shotgun wedding
She was to die for , LOL
seriously though yeah a sad happening , same a guy I met just once he committed suicide over his wife dumping him
Nice score! Sorry about your uncle. But, valuable lessons!
As a very average looking girl in high school I definitely noticed how the ''pretty girls'' had absolutly everything handed to them . And the huge sense of entitlement that went along with that. It always pissed me off!
Thanks for sharing with us. I’m glad the resentment is widespread. Thanks again.
What is the title of the classic song about such things?
@@JohnGrigg-gz9gm "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife"... by Jimmi Soul
In my church, a rather conservative one, there is an ultra-pretty 17 years old girl, well raised, but still entitled. I noticed how shamelessly she hit on a very very pretty guy who showed up in the church one day. She absolutely didn't care that it was so obvious nor did she care if any other girl would have liked to talk to that guy. No, she just saw her goal as if he was there just for her. I am 54 and I have seen these attitude with such girls all my life.
@@goranvuletic8873 And how old was he? Lol
We now live in a day and age where even the dull ones think they’re a ten. Given the time gap between falling for them and then, ultimately (and after you’re trapped), seeing the true them it’s just not worth it. You’re spot on here.
"... You've got to find the character first..." Best advice ever which seems incredibly obvious in the cold light of day.
It is obvious when you really stop and think about it with the right head. 😂
If this channel was a Stock I would be buying because it's definitely going to rise.
Thanks! I hope you’re right!
I was a slightly above average-looking guy with an above average job, nothing spectacular, and I had always dated women who were slightly above average in appearance. Then I got involved with a beautiful woman and I saw for the first time all the advantages that are mentioned in the video. She would order dishes in restaurants that weren't on the menu and they would make them for her. Everywhere I went with her as a couple people would bend over backwards to please us, really her. It was bizarre. I ended up leaving her because I didn't trust her as she had so many people, men and women (she was bi), calling her all the time. I did get to learn something new, though.
I had sort of a similar experience. I dated a gorgeous curvy blonde, as smart and witty as her eyes were blue, and I remember being in a very slow moving line in a department store, and as she and I talked and flirted with each other, the people in the long line with us watched in a hushed way, that could have made someone think we were celebrities! Lol
you made the right choice. the last time i dated the stereotypical really hot girl, she kept cancelling our dates last minute to meet "friends" that she had "forgot" she had plans with. i called her out on it and she gaslighted me, but even if she isn't cheating it's just rude and she wasn't sorry about it, but i felt her defensiveness was bizarre. just ended up dumping her on her birthday
Well that was her problem, sexual perversion.
Here from Switzerland, 55:
The problem is, many men fall out of character and simply allow themselves to be manipulated when they come into contact with an outstandingly attractive woman.
The superweapon is to strictly refrain from giving such narcissistic women attention and validation and to remain indifferent and restrained.
The better you see through people, the more insignificant and unimpressive external beauty becomes.
Pretty women definitely don't impress me.
In all fairness, I think you have a disproportionate number of pretty women in Switzerland. Thanks for your feedback.
How do you date someone you don't find attractive? I don't even feel like calling her and setting up a date.
Maybe you are too young and lack life experience, and don't understand the videos you see at FB ?
An attractive woman attracts the attention of so many men out there and the danger and risks will outnumbered the rewards
A pretty girl is like a European exotic car, high cost, high maintenance, requires a garage, special tools, straight roads, grabs too much unwanted attention, paranoid where you park it, hyper aware of curves and road bumps, afraid you might lose traction if you hit the gas too hard, obnoxiously loud, only drive it on sunny days, worry about putting too much mileage, etc. A normal guy with a normal income cannot handle all that bs. They also realize that just like how beauty is skin deep, this exotic car does what every other car does, point A to point B which is a cars purpose, a less attractive women has the same insides as an attractive one. Why deal with a troublesome exotic car when you can get an easy going affordable trouble free car that also takes you from point A to point B? The excitement of being with an attractive girl wears out when overshadowed with numerous stressors.
Fantastic analogy. I drive a 1969 Ford truck - I wonder what the equivalent would be?
One of the best metaphors I have read! Thanks
Hilarious!!!
I've been using the car analogy for as long as I can remember. They don't like being compared to cars one bit but as men we understand the parallels.
@@yeboscrebo4451 a 200# Polish woman
I recently dated a 10/10 for about 6 months and you couldn't be more spot-on about every single thing you said. I was fortunate enough to see these red flags pretty early. I was able to keep her at arms length and not get too attached.
Even with this approach, and with the fact that I ended things with her, I STILL find it difficult not reaching back out to her sometimes. I miss the attention and pursuit from a very attractive woman. I learned a lot from the experience and still am learning and trying to grow from this.
I moved on from her and decided to go with a 7/10 who is much more enjoyable to be around, has a healthy mind, truly desires me, and is 10x the woman.
Good video
It sounds like you escaped a potentially life-changing disaster. Congratulations.
My first wife was not pretty on the outside. Turned out to be not pretty on the inside either. Second wife was good looker, but an awful person. First woman I dated after marriage was quite attractive, but good grief she wuz crazy, and not in a good way. I gave up ! Glad I did. That was 34 years ago.
Maybe crazy knows all levels of attraction. Maybe it’s something else.
Good grief - you had every type of woman and it still didn't work out! Women are hard work.
Yeah, from a female who left the she-tribe 20 years ago. (Four years old is when they start their instincts to assimilate) It's what they will do during situations.
It takes courage, and not many are born with it. To face off against a greater force, in the name of doing what you think is right. (Also you can just give them unchecked power and see how they handle it.) Who are you when nobody can stop you?
It's probably very difficult being lied to by every guy they meet. They get constant feedback that they are smart, funny, kind, .... even when they are clearly subpar. And it can be life-threatening. I've seen pretty girls in pilot training programs, scuba courses, sky diving, on top of the mundane stuff, who were given a pass by their male instructors, the latter who were acting in their own self interest. Aviation is full of well documented accidents with pretty girls beginning with Earhart and still showing up with today's popular pretty RUclipsr pilots.
That’s true. I guess it’s easy to feel special when everyone tells you that you’re special.
I had the must beautiful woman in the world which her beauty got boring after couple months, after 8 years I ended up leaving her for our reasons. So I don't understand those men who worship beauty in women.
ANY average looking woman with a pure and charismatic personality is the most beautiful.
Great insight!
I had a friend who married in his mid twenties to a woman who he described as having "the best ass that he had ever seen on a female!" She spent him into the poorhouse and would have a tantrum if she did not get her way. Getting rid of her proved very expensive...
I knew the reverse. An extremely handsome guy who married a cute gal, when he could have snagged a real beauty. But if you got to know her, you realized she was absolutely a keeper, and he was a very smart guy for his choice.
@@JohnGrigg-gz9gm We should all be so lucky! Thanks
💯 on point. They’re a challenge. You gotta be strong af to date a pretty woman. You have to have the audacity to be willing to walk away from them, tell them what’s up or leave them for good and absolutely mean it. Nobody has the balls to do it and she will remember you and usually come back later. Pretty women in my experience reach a boiling point where they’re at their peak of feeling themselves and feel like they can do better than you and will test your strength periodically. You have to be willing to kick her to the curb and be secure enough in yourself to dump her and treat her like she doesn’t matter. Then when she goes back down to her regular self esteem she will see you as more valuable than her again and she’ll probably come back. Pretty women are usually very insecure so when you act like an unshakable rock they come back.
Brilliant!
If I may add, it’s best for one’s sanity to not to take her back.
@@Danny33777 💯
Great comment 👌
@@JJReal-m7x kudos to you! I am trying to get there with women!
It would help to be a really good-looking guy, which most of us aren't of course.
I think it boils down to attraction… there’s only one adorer & one adored….. everyone is happier being the adorer, not the adored… I think that’s the biggest problem is that they are always being adored so they aren’t able to be the ones that adore the other… I’ve been with both kinds… it’s way more fun for everyone letting the woman do the adoring… otherwise she will adore something or someone else eventually…. If a girl doesn’t basically drop the phone when I call it’s questionable… if she sounds annoyed at me or bossy to me at all she’s gone
You got some really excellent insights. Thanks for contributing.
-Orion Taraban
Absolutely 100% TRUE. I would add that any man who dates a beautiful woman should know that whenever she is not in his sight, other men are trying aggressively to take her away from you. Everywhere. At work, men are offering to bring her coffee, inviting her to lunch, volunteering to help or solve problems; it will escalate into blatant courtship--giving flowers, gifts, sending emails, and so on. At the grocery store, men will flirt, offer their assistance, give business cards or cell numbers. As long as she is beautiful, she will be surrounded by suitors, always doing favors, offering to help or solve problems, playing the knight in shining armor and doing their best to impress her and convince her how much happier she would be with them than with you--and you will never know if any of them are having success--until it's too late.
Lifelong bachelor. Rejected and ignored. Didn't know I was better off being invisible until I got older.
I hope you saved your money.
Negative attitude won't help
@@cv6176yeah exactly I see do
Many guys that are obviously bitter and don’t think too highly of women that also don’t know why they can’t attract women or are invisible to them.. vibe and mindset have to be in tune to attract women and these guys have like negative vibe lol
Lifelong bachelor. not ignored. I just put up a wall so I dont see it
I'm glad you know me so well. It's like we have 1 mind
It's sad that some of the worst people are the most enabled, starting with their family and them spilling over into our society.
In a similar vein people who are genetically intelligent and easily succeed in school, they begin to think their views are always right and as a result are often what I call Intelligent idiots. Many politicians especially the lawyer background kind are exude this characteristics.
Incredible insight. Great videography, beautiful surroundings.
I'm 59 and the advice I always give younger men is: Stop chasing Ginger. Go for Maryanne.
I always found Maryann to be way more attractive 😅
Stop chasng Marilyn Monroe. Go for Jayne Mansfield. :)-
And yet plain people born without money have had good lives because they learned to appreciate the good use of their minds. Not just for getting money, but to find their best place in the world.
Anyone remember the song that goes: If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. Words to live by. My ex soured me on pretty women. Over the ten years of bachelorhood I learned a lot about women & how to please them. My current partner & I recently celebrated 41 yrs of an equal partnership. Our household division of labor is based on abilities & fairness. "She ain't that pretty at all", but she's a solid person of good character, & I couldn't be happier. Z
“It’s my personal point of view
to get an ugly to marry you!
It’s just like the song lyrics…”If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.” 🎼
There are exceptions, of course, but this is largely true. A pretty face and nice figure change with time, and it’s what’s in her heart, mind, and soul that will ALWAYS last a lifetime! ❤️
I should listen to more country music! Thanks
It's a song by Jimmy Soul, from 1963...not country music, more pop for the time I'd guess...it's a classic!
@@adamjames1375 It's a calypso beat.
I searched for this lyric in the comments. It was a funny song - after it's original run, it even got play on the Dr Demento radio comedy show - but you knew there was a strong grain of truth to it.
I have noticed, because of social media, feminism and delusion, a girl that is not so pretty may think of herself as a 10 instead of a 5 or whatever she is and feel entitled the same way that the real pretty girl or a 10 would.
thanks to the internet the ugly basement dwellers/ serial killers applaud the average women online everyday so they think their value is so much higher before internet and cell phones people did not have much reach to find a mate Chad could only be at one bar at a time so Joe Blow had a good chance to get a pretty girl because he could work on his game but with tinder and swiping guys cannot build any game any more and Chad can order a pretty girl like ordering a pizza
I know, I think it’s hilarious. I guess we can all live in our own little fairytale if we want. What they don’t realize is that the rest of us aren’t participating in that story. So she’s inevitably gonna run into a few conflicts along the way.
" *... a girl that is not so pretty may think of herself as a 10 instead of a 5 or whatever she is and feel entitled the same way that the real pretty girl or a 10 would.* "
This is VERY common.
They are 49ers, Girls who are 4s but think they are 9s. Coach Greg Adams.
I was in a cafe once with a mate when he said take a look at who just walked in , she was beautiful and the way she walked past us I said I have one word to describe her , he asked ,what ? I said TROUBLE
Manipulated man by esthar vilar changed my life. Once you know and can see it, you can never unsee it again. Feel bad for all the males out there getting dominated by a woman on all levels.
I've been both lucky and cursed because I've never had any girlfriends or lovers. I'm an unusual mix of characteristics that seem to switch them off, not ugly or toxic, just some sort of innate lack of human attractiveness... I'm working on it a bit more nowadays, but luckily I have no relationship based baggage.....
You did not mention the a$$ ache of dating a very pretty girl is the moment you turn your back or go to the john when out in public, some dude has already scoped her out and waited for his opportunity to swoop in quick and chat her up, get her number. If he’s still around when you come back he’s pulling an Alpha move, trying to show to both her and you how bold and assertive he is. It’s a pain in the a$$ all the time you are scanning for threats. The song “Never make a pretty woman your wife,” has some great insights. Only you can decide if it’s worth the constant interference.
Oh definitely that’s a big aspect of dating a very attractive woman. You will have to constantly defend her when you are out in public. That said, this is why many
Men date attractive women in the first place - it’s to show her off to everyone else “oh hey everyone, see what i have? I have a beautiful woman by my side”.. many men derive most of their self worth from their ability to attract women. The amount of work these types of guys put in to not only attract but
Maintain relationships with these women is immense.
If you go about worried you will lose a hottie to another guy you give off simp vibes. You have to believe in your core that you are the catch. That can only come from having drive, passion and purpose in life with a fun attitude and a “see you later” attitude if she is disrespectful. Set your boundaries quickly. A hot chick will test your masculinity but if you are solid, they want to be a part of your world if you have your mission set and are living it. 👊🏼
@@adamregan4921 Or if she sees something better come along given how many attractive upper income guys shot their shoot with her online. These same guys dont want anything long term either since they have many options in women, and she gets lured into their bed thinking she upgraded not knowing it is just going to be a bed
very true
I agree I had a really pretty girlfriend and every dude was always hitting on her whenever we were out and she would "innocently flirt" with them I was just waiting for a dude to get into the RUT and make his move on her then things would get ugly I have read articles about guys getting killed over a woman so it is not worth it if you are protective of her she says you are controlling if you stay chill while she flirts then you are not "Alpha" enough for her it is a losing game, and it really is expensive money time emotion etc riding a pretty girl they take everything from you.
Not all gorgeous women are like that from my experience. Although, I do agree with you that there are some horrible ones out there, that are rotten to the core. My advice: Take your time fellas getting to know these beautiful women, remember time is on your side not theirs. Their looks are expiring and they know it.
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7-year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness , unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here .
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8-year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?
Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
This feels like marketing.
Bro is onto something. Truth is most of us know pretty don't equal good, but halo effect works like wonder. I myself never had a girlfriend (21yo) and I consider myself knowledgeable in the psicological tricks woman use to trick men, but I am pretty sure a pretty enough woman could make me forget all the redflags if I am not careful enough. I still tend to believe there are good girls out there, but the prettier they are, the greater the chance they are entitled about themselves, which is a bad thing like you said. On the other side, no man will feel attracted to a girl he doesn't think is pretty. To fall or not to fall, that is the real pretty girl paradox.
I think any guy here can be bamboozled by the right pretty girl. Its in our nature! Thanks
@@john-griffin Evolution shaped men to be bamboozled and used by women. Only gay men are generally immune, and yet even they can fall at times to feminine wiles...
It’s not a flaw…it’s a survival tool. It helps us identify physically healthy women to procreate with…from a time when there was no modern medicine or public health.
The challenge is not letting beauty blind us to a woman’s character. Because that character is what determines what kind of wife/partner she will be.
The problem is that men will throw the world at the feet of beautiful women, so they have no incentive to grow up or develop what’s on the inside. Until they hit middle age…that outer beauty has faded away…and there is nothing of any substance behind it. The world finally sees her for the selfish, entitled adolescent she has always been.
A unicorn is the beautiful woman who has not let the power of her outer beauty corrupt her or dissuade her from a pursuit of inner beauty.
“So complete is the illusion that beauty is goodness.”
As a single guy. I call pretty girls "EYECANDY " that's it nothing more !!!!
well done!
Eye Candy + Sugar Daddy = Danger Duo.
Pretty girls are just for temporary dating, don’t get emotionally attached and leave at the first warning sign
Pretty girls are heroin.
@@Omar_Zazzle Nah, just a one-way redistribution of wealth
One of the first things I ever wrote on the subject of gender was an essay about beautiful girls called "Victims of a Sexual Trust Fund." In so many ways, a girl born beautiful is like a boy born with a multimillion dollar trust fund.
That’s extremely insightful! Thanks for sharing that thought
And hitting the wall, but then wanting to marry a quality high smv man, is like that trust fund guy blowing most of his money, but then still wanting a beautiful woman to marry him! Lol
Oh, is your essay online? I'd like to read it...
John, I just recently started watching your videos and all of them are SPOT ON!!! We are only about a year apart and we both faced similar circumstances in life. Keep up the good work and you will be at 100K in no time!
Thanks for the encouragement. You know, I am out walking the dogs anyway, so bringing a camera along isn't a big deal. Plus, getting these stories out is very therapeutic. Maybe one day, my great-grandchildren will watch them! Thanks
The problem today is that it's not only the good looking girls. Today most women are used to get an abundance of attention and validation from social media and apps. Guys just want to 'smash' and offer validation for nothing, so even medium or below medium looking women believe they are "high quality" when they have nothing to offer and are very entitled. But I'm 55 so before social media I agree it was more like this. And I also fell for this trap. And just like you the real person came out only after my daughter was born (and I had vetted her for over 2 years). The story of 'sirens' luring the man is ancient. I always had if fairly easy to get girls but am now single dad since 6 years and determined to keep it so! I need a date like I need an ashtray on my bike. Single is such freedom! It doesn't mean I don't like women, I know there are also good quality women out there (even if rare). But freedom is more beautiful.
Subscribed. Great perspective. Just got out of a situationship with a 'pretty girl' and man, the level of attention this girl would get throughout the day was staggering. Literally had a new dude asking her out almost ever single DAY. So, inevitably, she ended up finding a new shiny object to chase and basically just stopped engaging with me. My question is, how do you maintain the attraction from a girl that gets that much attention? It's super depressing to know that it's only a matter of time with most of these women.
With women things always working in reverse. I think you have to value them for the characteristics that are important to you, but don’t fall into the trap of valuing them for the characteristics. They’re important to them. Especially physical beauty. Our culture is so twisted in a knot over this topic and it causes so much pain and confusion in both men and women. if you have a woman who responds to attention from men because of her physical attractiveness, then you are in a relationship that can never work. It’s sad to say, but if that is in her character, then she will never be the kind of woman that any healthy man would want to keep around.
Oh yes, indeed. Pretty young women get a lot for free, especially from men. When I was only 21 and travelling in Spain, I actually met 2 pretty women, and they were telling me they did not have to spend a dime on their holidays, unlike me. So I called their bluff, and they accepted. So I went out with them and indeed they didn't spend a penny. Restaurant bill (free), that was on the house... then to a club again, free entrance and guy's paying for all their drinks all night long... I just couldn't believe it. However, 100% true story.
I know! It's crazy to watch. People would not believe it!
What about their lodging and travel expenses? Did they have to put out for those?
Their hotel and travel cost were paid by their father's, that's at least what they told me. I don't know for sure of course. I was just utterly shocked that they didn't have to pay for drinks, restaurants... Clubbing. By the way the owner of that restaurant was a guy. They both were blondes and Spanish men love blondes. We men have to build value, unlike young pretty women, they get a lot for free. (From men) @philipmartin708
@philipmartin708 Good question. They told me their father's paid for the hotel and travelling cost's. I am not sure of course. Both blondes with blue eye's and Spanish men love blondes. The owner of that restaurant was Spanish and in the club even the bartender gave them free drinks. I was utterly astonished. I just couldn't believe it, them getting all the freebies, no money needed. So I lost that bet. I do remember that for them it was like normal, even laughing they did not need money. So much for equality and being strong and independent. That was for me a wake-up call.
I knew this gorgeous full-figured lawyer who no one at my company would let go of, though her services were no longer needed. My then boss, a tough bastard, had no problem taking up the task, and 86ing her from the payroll! Lol She was dumbfounded that a man could stand up to her. Oh, but she was a beauty and knew just what to say to control men...
The old maxim, "Good judgment comes from experience, experience comes from bad judgment" has always been golden. You may sometimes be lucky enough to find an ugly duckling that blossomed into a beautiful swan when they entered adulthood, and has not been saddled with the "I, ME, MINE" complex....you'll know a winner quickly if she doesn't mind her hair getting messed up in your convertible. Leave the lookers for the CHAD'S and TYRONE"S, they deserve one another.
Good advice
In my seventies now, I thought the pretty young ones were forever out of reach. Then I realized some of them were available if I was generous enough regardless of my age.. Since I am well off I could easily be generous if I felt it was worth it. I have what they want and they have what I want. This has changed my life. While not meaningful relationship in the ordinary sense, they are still pretty meaningful to an old man who appreciates them much more now then when I was young.
@@tubedude3 What type of women can you get? In terms of looks, type, etc?
I'm an expat in the Philippines. I am relatively young, tall and fit, so for me it is decent looks plus money that help to attract women. But I was badly burned by the first gal I had a relationship with here. Four years wasted...
@@JohnGrigg-gz9gm "badly burned by the first gal I had a relationship" mind explaining a little bit about what happened? and what you would have avoided?
Thanks for the encouraging news.
I can relate to what you are saying. I have married a woman that needs constant validation from me, as wherever she goes, random compliments from strangers follow. While she treats me like a dog, still expecting the same attention from me, with me, feeling disrespected and not good enough, it's rather difficult to maintain her demand for adoration and attention. Just because she is beautiful, I am always under pressure do try and keep her happy... No amount of money spent, overseas holidays, new houses can ever satisfy her, nor make her happy for any amount of time. I know it's time to let go, how many more yrs do I want to invest in her, only to be told that I am not offering her enough. I am gonna let her go. That is my only resolve. Thanks for your video.
So you know exactly what I’m talking about, thanks for your story man. Have a good one.
As a fellow sufferer (in the past),
I highly recommend viewing the following video here on RUclips.
Channel: Lord Hybrid
Video: Leave your wife
It belongs in the men’s videos “Hall of Fame”!
Free yourself. I finally noticed at 40yo how much maintaining those kind of women affects my health. Everytime we break up, I naturally become healthier physically and mentally. Do it for you, not your "image"
Get a divorce asap she’s never going to be happy she’s already show yuo I wish I had a good husband I would be great full
I walked away from a pretty woman because I always disappointed her. I’m much happier today with a 6. Much.
With most women they are constantly moving the goalposts, it's enough to really wanna make you give up on life. ... Happily divorced 5 years now. 😁 Now I have a reason to thrive and live again, I have peace, a better career, doubled my salary, secured a better future and hoping to find that needle in the haystack someday, but until then life is still 100% better!
Great story. I love a happy ending!
@@john-griffin That's why they don't like football, the goal posts can't be moved!
@@donaldoutterson3071 😁😁
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30.
.....except that almost all of the women who espouse this verse are completely evil. Yes, it's true. The most reliable place to find female satanic narcissists is within the Christian community.....and you can quote me on that.
.....that's where they find their newest victims
It’s knowledge of typical male weakness between knees for pretty privilege that’s brought about a new mantra; “Pretty wins a pause, not a free pass”
Knowing how easily beauty can shatter our sensibilities makes it worth being extra careful around.
Don’t gift pretty a free pass through your boundary layers just based on face value.
Very good advice
I am a slow learner, 3 beautiful women with passionate & torrid relationships over 20 years .....started out wonderful, I was tall, well built & not unattractive so we were dream couples ... until the narcissism & hypergamy rose to the surface ......thanks for the vid, it
Thanks for sharing your experiences. I think your stories are appreciated by everyone.
Great video. The internet + simps have given these pretty women superpowers. I don't have a solution for this other than to say that exercising makes me feel better, normal/cute-enough women give me signs to approach when I'm out in public and I wouldn't say that I'm jacked yet, I could put a feel inches on my arms and shoulders yet, no back definition but huge pecs, I started on the bench. I'm focused on weighted pullups now with low weight (10-15lbs) that I throw in my cheap drawstring backpack and the stretch feels amazing, 198 pullups over the last few days but todays a rest day, I'm just having fun at this point. Weighted dips, weighted pullups, hammer curls, fat grips on everything, I'm not sure what's at the end of this road but I'm starting to get more signs to approach women so thanks for sharing your story and what you've lived through. 💯👍
@@Luigi931 no offence but you have the most immature approach ive ever read.
Women could not care less on the size of your monkey muscles.
Yesterday I had a buxom & attractive woman say hello to me and give me a big lingering smile on the sidewalk, and I said hello back and kept on walking. About ten minutes later, when she was out of view, my brain kicked in that she was quite possibly interested in me. Argh! Lol And this has happened to me before. I have been sort of brainwashed with the whole "women are just being nice to you" mentality. I need to always be ready to nicely approach when those situations happen (though rarely) to me!
Two mistakes about generalized advice about people, experiences and relationships -- 1. You can't design a preferred type of person with any certainty at all. 2. People all behave differently with different people. So you must have particularly good insight into how you behave if you are particular about another's behavior towards you. Including the dynamic the two partners unintentionally and unconsciously create. Which is unknowable in advance.
Very true, thanks
point #2 is extremely valid and applicable in all sorts of scenarios, I noted a while ago
I mirrored your experience and paid the price eventually. Now I understand I had my relationship, had my children, watched them grow to adulthood and all the joy and angst that goes with it. After a few years of being single now after nearly 30 years of marriage I have landed back on my own two feet, can see things in 20-20 vision and are now comfortable on my own in my own skin and own life.
My ex was glamorous. She was NOT beautiful. She was ugly to the core. Glamour is NOT the same as beauty.
I've known very sexy women, yes, attractive, who were certainly not actually beautiful.
There is also another truth that is as old as life: A beautiful woman dies twice! For me, I had 2 suitors when I was 21 and 1 suitor when I was 41. Nothing much changed! 🌹🌹🌹
Many men are single and alone and are very high maintenance and have huge height requirements and money requirements.
I learned a lot from this video, especially through the comment section. Not about others but myself. I'm a pretty person from a wealthy family, and I don't want to be that person who craves validation (though I absolutely do), and I am not very resilient though I try. Empathy can be difficult sometimes too, but I have gotten a lot better about this.
I'm dating a smart, homely, lovely girl, and she has humbled me and I am thankful for it, but am still learning.
Thanks for sharing! The most important thing you can do is wake up every morning and decide that you’re grateful for being alive and all the people that you have in your life. Then decide that you’re going to be happy regardless of what happens. You don’t seek happiness from others or from things outside of yourself. If you can do that, then you’ll stop seeking validation from others and you’ll develop a sense of empathy. Good luck.
The greatest causes of disappointment are unrealistic expectations and unfulfilled expectations. Virtually all women have lofty expectations. Woe to the man who can't deliver.
very true
Where did they learned entitlement? Are taught by their mothers, spoiled by their fathers? Where?
Been there suffered that!
@@williamlouie569 society and friend for the most part
@@wisemanwalkingdowntheroad4275: One day I woke up and could clearly see that I wasn't a husband - I was my wife's domestic servant. It didn't matter how many things I did right, she cleared my history every night, and I had to begin fresh each morning. She didn't care about my track record, or all the fine things I had done for her in the past, when the only thing that mattered was what I had done for her that day. After our divorce, I walked away from women, and sex, and never looked back. 25 years and counting.
My wife is reasonably pretty but keeps in great shape and is very low maintenance. The unicorns are out there
@@IAmTheEggMan111 I got lucky as well. My wife changed my perception on how a woman I’m dating should act. Her actions were always consistent in a good way. I had to unlearn a lot of negative stuff I learned in past relationships. Yes, there are good ones out there if you know how to look.
The dream lives! Thanks!
@@Thatguyisnice-yf5nx any advice on how to look? not ready to give up beautiful at this point but did just get rid of a piece of work
@@antonroux6737 When I met my wife I was not focused on dating but focusing on improving myself to be a better man. Start there. I also looked at my wife's actions and not what she said to me. Her parents are from another country and she was raised a bit different here in the states. You're already ahead because you know you can walk away when red flags appear (don't ignore red flags). Don't waste your time with women you don't want to be serious with also. There are good women out there so stay positive.
@@Thatguyisnice-yf5nx your thoughts are much appreciated, thank you.
Here's a powerful concept for men to understand, internalize, and apply to their lives: Post-nut clarity.
You're only the cleanest after you've finished showering and you're only the wisest once you've finished Nutting!
i don't think it's about eliminating , I think it's about knowing that it is all part of the experience of being human
"It's always tempting to impute unlikely virtues to the cute" -- P.J.O'Rourke
I always went for cute. I dated a few women who I would consider perfect 10's in the looks department. They didn't have bad personality traits but the relationships never got serious to the point of marriage. The cute girls might not have been as stunning as the 10's but they were attractive to varying degrees. I married one of them and we've been going strong for 18 years.
What a well done video. Right from the message to the scenery and videography. Yes I have observed this exact phenomenon, Most pretty ones drained me until I had nothing left. I called it my own personal radar problem. We live and learn. Everything is more clear in hindsight….there are some amazingly wonderful women out there in this world. You just need to take your time and not get blinded by appearances ……10/10 on this video and the most useful advice for all young men it there looking forward to…
Thanks for your input. Im glad you liked the videography. I really love shooting outside, it makes a big difference. Plus, it allows me to relax and hear my thoughts which allows me to communicate better. Thanks again!
I just had a beauty move onto my street. I must remember this video. But yes, there are some good ones.
I married a pretty girl. She was utterly useless. She didn't want to work, cook or clean. I didn't even bother trying and just let her leave me. Best thing I ever did
Any women that places their looks on their self esteem is doomed. You are spot on.
So, so very true my friend. I have seen it time after time after time. Like you said, it's not a achievement, or something they worked on for years, they just "got it" for free!! The sense of entitlement and narcissistic tendencies are truly innsufferable! After five minutes, I'm out. You can spot them a mile away too! All for looks?, not a chance. That beauty fades, and as they get older the "special treatment" they're used to, and expect becomes less and less, then they become bitter and angry because their "powers" are gone! Thanks for your story. No man needs to go down that path, and for what??
I think the “never again” attitude a lot of us older guys harbor is that many of us have been kicked squarely in the balls by the family court system and we’ve become quite dubious about it all brother John.
Yes, there was one good thing about dating a very pretty girl and marrying her and that is she was really dumb. She divorced me when I was unemployed. That means there was no money to take. And then she left the kids with me so she paid me child support. If she divorce me a few years earlier, she would’ve been rich for life. Go figure.
Like it or not, money is not everything. Women are sometimes more interested in getting out of a toxic situation than in getting money. If she has enough money to be paying you child support, I doubt she is that dumb.
@@user-nz6tq3vc5u if she divorced him when he was unemployed ($0 income) then she just need to make more than a $0 income. She could be working part-time at Starbucks and still have to pay child support since she's making more than $0.
It's dumb that she divorced him when he was making $0 unemployed. She could have waited until he had a job, ---ANY job -- but was too dumb to even figure that out.
Prenup
@@marciamakoviecki3295 prenups are pretty useless. They can always be challenged by lawers after the fact, and the battle is super expensive.
A pretty face is grossly overvalued. You can see that from the extremes of make-up women engage in. Personally, I always preferred girls that wore little to no makeup, but had healthy athletic bodies. I want a women that can do things like skiing, hiking, camping, etc. No prima donnas for me that just sit around painting their nails all day.
Just... I have a wife that "has to put her face on" every time. I mean every time to go out even for 5 minutes. Took 2 freakin' hours 'getting ready' which means I have to plan for this delay doing anything out of the house.
Where are you going to find older women with healthy, athletic bodies? I'm 63 & hardly ever find a woman in my age range with a fit, athletic body - whether on the dating apps I'm on or at my gym. And the very few women that meet this category will have many options with guys - especially younger guys. With a such a high obesity rate in this country, it really hits middle-aged women badly.
The person who "wins" an auction is also the chump who was willing to pay the highest price.
Thanks for this precious piece, brother. I once dated a pretty girl. She was a model. It was hell. But i learned a lot about myself and about life.
My mum was furious, my sisters were veryyyy angry with her. My mentor was vexxxed. My mum told me "to desire the best thing for myself as the girl wants the best thing for herself." When i looked properly, she didn't fall within my definition of best.
I broke up with her and saw how i gave her permission to treat me horrible. It was my mistake, not hers.
My mentor asked me to create a negotiable and non-negotiable list. I was VERY intentional such that I interviewed ladies like I was hiring for the role of a wife. Shortly after, I found my wife.
4 years of marriage, and we share mutual love, respect, and affection for one another.
I would say there are still good lovely girls out there, just that many bros just need to be patient, intentional, and stop looking for wives in the wrong places.
People use the "my cup is empty" thing the wrong way. That's why so many people view that concept in a bad way. Its not supposed to be used to justify selfishness.
I agree with you 100%
@@BabyColinRobinson You are right. The original intent is you have to focus on yourself before you can consider others means work on yourself not make selfish demands on others to "fill your cup first".
A better analogy would be to fix your oxygen on a plane before helping anyone else.
I think it might be a generational thing, my Mother (born 1937) had film star looks and my Aunt (born 1934) was very attractive but both were not vein because their mother’s generation brought them up not to think too much of themselves and they were not praised. A harsh upbringing in many ways but then again it produced some decent people.
That's very interesting. Thanks
@@edm-london1660 Good point I suppose there we are always a reflection to some extent of bad or good parenting.
@@edm-london1660 Yes that is right, my mother never got any praise or encouragement from her mother and had a guilt ridden relationship with her, but she brought me up exactly opposite and we were great friends, she was a truly sweet person.
Honestly I never understood guys simping over a girl solely because she is attractive, I guess it's how some guys are wired?
I had eliminated the possibility of having another woman in my life until I viewed this video. Single for 5 years. 2 marriages down. 45 years old. I thought I was done..... Maybe, just maybe there might be a chance. I would really like to own a dog though. Unfortunately my circumstances don't allow for that. Thanks for the video. You put everything into perspective. Ipswich, Suffolk, England.
Thanks, I’m glad you got something out of the video. I appreciate your support.
This is so true ❤ Men go after 10’s not realizing, they did all that work to be a 10, to get what they want. If they don’t get it, you better watch out 😬
You're right about the parents not focusing on their daughter's attractiveness - my parents didn't focus on my appearance - and beauty magazines or the industry glorify outward appearance to sell products or ideas - found you today - enjoyed your thoughtfulness - I really enjoyed how you were able to move your camera in various angles - dogs are so adorable - take care -