Life’s Greatest Paradox: What You Resist, Persists
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
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Quite logically, we can’t get rid of something if we don’t acknowledge its existence. But what would happen if we accept the reality and truth of the things we resist? Would acceptance make them worse? Or could it actually be the first step toward improvement and transformation? This video explores how things we resist persist and what we accept transforms.
Video: Life’s Greatest Paradox: What You Resist, Persists
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00:00 - Intro
01:42 - Resisting suffering
04:44 - Resisting ourselves
08:56 - Resisting reality
‘One cannot grow into their greatest self, without first acknowledging their greatest weaknesses in order to incorporate them into their being.’
Truth 😊
needed to hear that, thanks mate
When I acknowledged my weaknesses, my strength came in threefold through my grace from Heaven !
How’s your brain?
@@xobmw No seizures since the main tumor removed. Now it’s mostly just, dealing with other symptoms off and on.
"Even craving for something external is a form of suffering, it's the dissatisfaction with the present moment "
“In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.” - Carl Jung
Well said ma'am
This is true. Ever studied mathematics, especially iterative sequences and Newton’s method? Sometimes a sequence of numbers that short term looks to be going ‘random nuts’ converges to a fixed point. 🤣
@@JohnM...it’s just a different point of view that shifts the perception to another level, allowing new questions to arise and presenting an astounding answer
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I don’t know what that means
After being laid off twice in different cities, my life has had to start over from scratch each time. I'm turning 30 this year and will be flat broke because of leadership decisions that were wholly out of my control. I can either sit in sorrow and mourn the life I had envisioned for myself, or I can acknowledge it's painful and move forward. The "moving forward" part absolutely sucks, but I know future me will be grateful.
That's why I make plans that can't (cosmic interference be damned) fail, or make the plan after action (the plan was always this), or Plan to not have a plan. Then you just skip the whole moving forward since you were never stopped in your actions.
You´re so young!!! Life has a lot of awesome things prepared for you.
Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.
Great quote ❤
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"The craving for something external is a form of suffering; it is a dissatisfaction with the present moment."
It truly is, and this, I believe, aligns with the Stoic belief that we should cease to desire that which we lack, but instead appreciate that which we already have. I do this every day now, and it never fails to lift my mood.
I just got a dream job about 2 months ago and all of a sudden I knew that everyone I was working with was talking about me behind my back saying how I was a terrible person and fit for the job. I was convinced that I was going to be fired very soon so much so that I was looking into getting out of my lease and didn't even unpack after moving in. I struggle with mental health issues and severe paranoia at times, and I am always quick to isolate myself. I just realized that I resist the negative aspects of being human (like talking behind someones back, having negative and judgemental feelings towards others) so much that it started to take me down from the outside, and I resist because I believe people have done those things to me and I know how it feels. The self sabatoge mentioned in this video was going to be me acting cold and rude towards everybody, and asking my boss if I was going to be fired, which could have likely manifested into reality from my unconscious. I am greatful tho because I had been looking for my shadow for a while, experimenting a little here and there with no progress, but that experience revealed what part of it is, and this video allowed me to see it. Thank you.
I am forever indebted to this channel🥺❤️ the voice, the stoicism, the philosophy and the examples.. everything is a gem of its own. Im still in my 20s n already depressed like a patient n this channel was a saviour for me.. it came into my life like the right one at the right time.. thank you from the bottom of my heart❤
Likewise,,,and it makes me wanna thank some people that made me so miserable that it diverted me towards finding this channel...
Give yourself credit too for trying to understand where the bad feeling stem from and how to solve it ❤
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Do not even consider any religion and stay away from islam in all costs. Islam will corrupt your mind and turn you into a zumbie, the kind that looks normal somewhat but is really dangerous for humanity. Don't be fooled by religion of peace and harmony if you don't like raping robbing and stoning
I hope and pray you get better, dear, seek help and be strong.
Videos like this seem to appear right when I need them, like the universe is sending them to me for a reason
the gods speak to me
@@Va1demarRuination sure does
The universe is sending you videos about the universe being indifferent to you? Hmm....
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When I'm down, I tend to get these horrible videos too!
I'm already feeling bad, I don't need some depressing video.
Fully embracing one's dark side, allows us to eventually move on...and it only happens with "time"...thanks, Einzelganger...your books are great, too.
I always feel like I learn something new about myself after watching your videos
being determines consciousness, everything that we absorb from the outside determines our internal state, we are only a reflection of momentary reality in a distorted perception
@@lawngnome777 I still can't believe russia is such a joke military
I know I have to accept the reality as it is. Then only i can make things easier and do things that brings a change.
I think daily journaling will help me.
Thanks man for making these contents..
I always enjoy finding new content on this channel. This channel is both educational and inspirational. Grounded and existential. Simple to digest and at the same time profound. Thank you for your contributions!!
I know, right? It's explained so clearly in such an easily-digestible format.
If I go around all my nice people that I know, saying that, ''me, I'm just Mr Average." or, "Things just work out for me." It seems to help them. And, so too me. Peace be unto you.
A new hand touches the Beacon... and a new video drops just on the topic that I needed. Thanks, Einzelganger!
Now this is the type of content I was looking for. but you explained it 10 times better than other channels
The thought of that this channel has 2million followers of people, who try to find answer to their life and people, who use their minds gives me the absolute inner peace🙏🏼
Try Jesus
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I recognized since some time that accepting is the key(since some weeks a little deeper self accepting)this video ist totally right.
Love it
As a disabled(unseen) as well as when child. The games of artful psychological psychopathic narcissistic manipulating abuses on many levels never-ending! Denial is not cure!
But suffering is doubled when you focused on it too much too.
@@gee8883 You don't understand narcissistic abuse because you have not been through it. It is suffering that is imposed on you by the narcissist who ensnares you to let it drain and change you. It is difficult to escape narcissistic abuse especially if you live in the environment and they are your parents, family relatives.
Sigh, what to say Enzelganger..everyday we look in inward and outward trying to make sense of it all. Today video made me realize am so glad am single and without children. Plenty of time to look inward. Actually we need to laugh more 😊.Thanks for each video you post.
Someone told me the meaning of life is to experience life. Right now I’m experiencing nostalgia for the first time in my life. It’s a difficult feeling. I would describe it as a pleasant suffering. I’ve been dreaming to experience what feels like and now I’m glad that I have this opportunity now. At the same time I understand that when I get home I will miss the exact same life I’m living right now. So the answer remains the same simple one - the only moment we possess is now.
Never forgets to deliver. I'm truly grateful towards the didactic content. ❤🙏
So fast this became a top ranked channel in my mind. Filled with so many lifetime lessons.
I have been a follower of this channel since it began.High quality content. Thankyou sir.
I really needed this , Life in Mexico it’s pretty fckd up, hardcore mode type , but this knowledge makes a lot of sense in my self experience, thanks
"If you want to shrink something, you must first allow it to expand. If you want to get rid of something, you must first allow it to flourish."
- Lao Tzu
Tao Te Ching. Just re-read it recently
This channel is a treasure of philosophical wisdom. If you want to get a deeper perspective about your life, then this channel is for you. It can literally change your pattern of thoughts & subsequently your life will change too. 😊😊
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Thank you 🙏🏾 needed this one!
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Absolutely brilliant. Thanks for this soul enriching content.
Noticing how much I project my shadow has been illuminating over the last months. Thank you for these videos
Never give up! We are all truly limitless. Failure and success is all dictated by your own mind! Don’t let your mind control you! ❤
Accepting is only half of the solution, after acceptance and processing it, you must then let it go.
There's this counterpoint.
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” by George Shaw
The reasonable man accepts the fact that there always will be unreasonable men. It's external, so you don't have any influence on it. Steer around it and accept.
This is so deep. Thank you 💞
Longer I live I realize life is random luck I’m grateful I wasn’t born in North Korea or with a defect but at the same time not a genius or heir to a kingdom.
Great video. There is always a concept that reflects on me. Thank you!
Very good video. It's logical and one can relate to it. Keep up the good work
Forever grateful, Einzelganger.
Informative as always.
We need more Einzelganger in this world. Less politics.
What you accept transforms nothing, but more pain ! U must persist to resist to succeed !
Today, I had a session with my psychologist during which we discussed the concept of the shadow. It became evident that the shadow can greatly limit us if we refuse to acknowledge its existence. In my personal experience, I had been denying the presence of my femininity, which led me to construct a belief system aimed at rejecting it. I understand that terms and concepts related to this matter can be intricate, but that is not the focal point of the reflection I wish to share. I associated femininity with weakness and consequently, I resisted accepting aspects typically associated with women, such as traditional desires for a partner, family, and more. Confronting this reality can be a little uncomfortable, as it might initially appear contradictory and hypocritical. However, it is essential to recognize that denying the existence of our shadows can result in significant harm. It takes courage to acknowledge and accept them. Ultimately, embracing our shadows is the best course of action.
I feel like I have a problem with excepting feminity too.What should I do?how to fix it?
@@Sussana13 well, what my psicologist recommended to me is connect with some symbols associated with feminity, for example, I used to not to use earrings then I'm gonna trying again to use it. Actually I started to search for some recommendations online and I found that too, connect with some rituals, with your body, your intuition and so on
You are smart and intelligent.
THANK YOU for your videos!!! Forever in doubt
"What you resist, persists" is a glib and silly phrase. If you didn't resist gravity, you'd never make it out of bed in the morning. And if you've ever had to accomplish tasks in spite of crushing anxiety or depression, you know that sometimes you simply need to stand up against that which would defeat you--i.e., resist. In neither case do your efforts sustain that which oppresses you. In fact, that striving makes you stronger. It allows you to carry your physical and psychic loads more easily so you can better impose your will on any given situation.
Perhaps "what you resist acknowledging, persists" would be more apt. In the example cited of a partner's drinking negatively affecting a relationship, the alcoholism needs to be acknowledged. But in order for things to change, the alcoholic must resist to urge the drink. (With support, I'm not saying just to white-knuckle it.) It may *never* recede completely, but it can be held at bay via effort (and a healthy imposition of the sort of belief Camus would scoff at). Without that hard work, the drinking will continue, and destroy.
IFS Internal Family Systems deals with the inner parts acting out subconsciously.
Thank you for this, one of the few intelligent posts here
"Dont resist, fart it out" - Aristotle
Wise words
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In order to end suffering and the existence of the shadow we need to quit overindulging in self-importance. Once you come to the full realization that you (self/ego) are not important all internal and external conflict/competition will cease to exist. Intuitively I think the stoics understood this but were not able to completely articulate it. Every conceptual dogma that exists depends on self-importance to perpetuate itself and continue to manipulate and exploit others in the name of the selfish ego.
Thanks for the great video!😊
Ok my question is how do you integrate your shadow wanting to flirt with other women, but being in a relationship where you don’t want to break up, and feel miserable in the end
Well, you've taken the first step by accepting that you WANT to flirt with other women, rather than denying the feeling. Now integrating the shadow psychologically and acting on it are two different things.
Know what the urge is, what it feels like, and what triggers it, accept that you'll face it from time to time, and understand that not acting upon it actually makes your current relationship stronger. Over time, the neurological pathways that trigger the urge in your brain will change, and the urge will become a very passing thought.
Think of it this way: Who has a better relationship? A couple that has never seen hardship, doubt, and intrusion? Or one that has faced these things and stuck together in spite of them.
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@@n.s.mcmahon6180i struggle with the same thing in my relationship and you couldn't have explained it better.
Just bought your book 'Stoicism for Inner Peace'.!❤
Congrats on 2 Milli!!
wonderful, thank you so much.xx
Indeed, Dr. Evil did express himself well.
This is great!
This video was all over the place. Pick _one_ theme, don't jump around.
Yep. Lots of contradictions.
I accept going older, accept reality, try and see things in real terms - but I still get
disregulated when people treat me badly. I don’t think acceptance can stop you suffering.
then just accept that most poeple are trash. stop expecting good things from them
I need your opinion. When talking about coming to terms with ones own weaknesses or repressed feelings, it usually applies to instinctual or harmless cravings, right? And the Shadow is just it manifesting in a bad way. Like Yung isn't saying accept your urge to steal, manipulate, or cheat on someone compulsively, but to find the root of the urge, and feed *that* urge ethically? (Like maybe the shadow trait is stealing, but the cause is you aren't rich but feel inferior without the object, and "incorporating the shadow" by acting on the urge in just buying it or going shopping with people that will get it to you)?
Great video man! I really enjoyed this one.
Thank you! Nice to see you here!
Very good. Thank you!
Huh
Thank you 🙏
Love Steve!
Sometimes life gives such circumstances that it is very difficult to accept and impossible to change
Thank you ❤
Amazing video
Worst than war is very fear of war
Seneca
Very educational.
Another great video essay Einzel. However it did feel a little crammed with too many thinkers!
Good to see you talking about Buddhism....also keep listening to Acharya Prashant...to get more insights into Gita the oldest philosophical text of timeless relevance.❤
We seek qualities in others that gods in our subconscious self
‘Our longing for meaning in a meaningless universe is absurd. If we acknowledge this we can find authenticity’
Thanks
Reminded me of the term Gestalt in deutsch - in my language it is something about your unresolved desires you keep resisting.
Eine „Gestalt“ ist „geschlossen“, wenn Unangenehmes, dass stört und behindert, verarbeitet und somit erledigt ist
My view: instead of resisting, try to figure out why you need to resist, and if the reason aligns with your values, and those values are good, just keep the focus on your values.
Not bad, even though many parts of this video seem outdated to me.
Person could only change oneself by accepting oneself, by considering unpleasant possibilities.
Now I think that there are people who don't want to be good, only to seem good. And they consciously or unconsciously mimic the norms of society until they given enough power to reveal some of their true nature. But most of them are not too much into introspection.
If everything is meaningless, then meaninglessness is also meaningless, so we're free to see it as we wish.
I also believe that it is not truth itself that hurts. But the shattering of delusions hurts; that is required so we can see that truth. To remove us from the precursory erroneous perceptions that turn out to be false.
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I love u and i love your videos
I love this chanel
Me trying to resist the mountain of paper work on my desk pretending it will magically disappear on it's own.
So it will persist
It’s a simple way to look at it.
A more complex way is trying to stop resisting things in our life that we resist since nearly forever. Things that makes us anxious or things that we fear.
Blue?
it is not a mountain you need to obtain, just some time to waste for some paper
At least it’s paperwork in comfy AC and not physical work in torturous conditions.
I wrote this comment to help with the algorithm.
Anyone else have a shadow monster the size of three suns and twice as fierce?
I'm lucky I'm not locked up in a mental institution, thing is impossible to deal with. (On psychedelics)
Mine got me good. Im slowly accepting my reality and seeking enlightenment
"Nothing defines us more than that which we choose to ignore"
Do your shadow-work dear souls ☯️ 🙏 ♾
When I quit drinking beer and smoking cigarettes, I still drank and smoke in my dreams from time to time. When I woke up, my cravings were strong. I guess I was just resisting my shadow side. Now I'm back to drinking and smoking again, though less frequently (for now.) My only hope is that I will simply lose interest in these activities. No longer suppressing them, but simply having no interest in them.
Man i finally understood Jung. Thanks!
Turns out, not the shadow is the "other" part, the shadow is the real you repress, and your main identity is the fake one.
I already knew this, but this "shadow" concept was confusing me for some reason. You didn't tell me anything new, it just clicked. it finally make sense.
quite intense video, ngl
Yes, I have always felt that life was dukkha.
Or was that dookie?
I am building my armor for the second arrow, then when the arrows bounce off me I'll start shucking them back and eventually remove the source of the pain. But it feels like this is the 10th arrow about to be shot.
تشکر از شما
11:11 Wow.
the battles you win/overcome are the ones you don't engage in,
and even well-meant compassion is born out of egoism, and will often weigh heavy on the subject's soul. I made this statement some 35 years ago
these were the darker days in my life. while the theme song of MASH was playing in my mind for days.
glad to have survived it, one tip I can offer likeminded souls make a command that you will fulfill this one goal as long as it takes, to stick with it, and let only faith end your mortal coil.
it will give you peace. and eventually, some happiness comes with the territory, believe me.
Yes.
If i dont love people, if i dont care that they die, i wont suffer when they die.
If i dont care about anybody, and if i dont enjoy life, then i wont suffer.
What a great answer!
If a man knows more than others he becomes lonely . Carl Jung
Every time I hear about “the shadow” & Carl Jung, the Tool song “Forty Six and 2” pops into my head.
Where do you think those songs come from ?
I knew I’d spot a tool fan somewhere in the comment section lol
True
"Suffering" is desire. All animals experience desire, as that is what drives them to survive. Human beings experience desire much more, quantitively, than other animals as we are much more able to imagine sets of circumstances that do not currently exist, even to the degree that in the current world an enormous number of us are engaged in professions that purposely seek to engender in others the belief that your current existence is unsatisfactory and more needs to be done.
This makes us fantastic and terrible, even to ourselves.
Every video is a gem
The absolutist notions of enlightenment against suffering always strike me as anti-life, not that they are a bad meditation, but to resist vulgar pleasures and pursue productive suffering (work) is the way to love life
With all due respect, is it "unconscious" self or "subconscious" self?
YES
My greatest weakness is rumination. Wasting time and energy on thinking why wrongs done to me by people for no apparent reason.
How to let go faster?
Embrace pain as it is part of the most beautiful human transformation!
transformation into what?
@@Va1demar In a pervert-masochist of course;)
Do you even lift?
@@liafuentes326 For what? bodybuilders often spend too much time and energy on an unnatural physical condition to overcome their insecurities end up wearing out their health and not living to old age, ask those who lived to old age how many surgeries they went through to fix the exhausted blood pump
@@Va1demar Many scientific studies have proven that lifting weights has Amazing benefits for physical and Mental Health, just for you to know.