I’m questioning a relationship I’m in… I don’t know how to explain it on here to get a response. Is there a way I can connect with you to talk it through other than on a open forum
What about the 4:30 AM text when they get up for work ans text you??? as I am dating many men in their excitement of newly dating will text in the wee hours in the morning. However, I need my rest and rather they wait till say 8 am for new love 💕 interest until we build to the earlier morning. Your thoughts please?
I agree with you..If both r working professionals they have thr own things to deal with at office ..If one can make time to text or to reply ! Why can't he make out ?? We are not asking thr whole 24hrs in a day ! It takes sec to reply.. even after addressing ppl will do the same thing then ?? Sply the guy keeps thr phone 24/7 in hand.. do this and give reason saying busy ! Don't accept n bare such a shit.. Just move on.... No one can be so so so much busy 24/7 everyday!
Not always true, really depends on your expectations though. If you're getting flustered about a 24 hour response rate and you don't live together, you are the issue. If he's taking 3 days to get back to you, especially if it's still happening after you've had an honest conversation about it, then I agree with you. Part of the territory of qualifying a man based on his passions means accepting that they are going to keep him busy.
When my wife and I dated long distance, she let me know how important it is we communicate consistently. We talked everyday because she kept my attention. I loved talking to her because her conversation was stimulating
Ladenna Young In this day and age, marriage is not a requirement! 🙄 People can rightfully choose not to marry or remarry. Like for me, I chose not to remarry. I just want a long term boyfriend who is my life partner. Kinda like the Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn type of relationship. We can fall in love without going into a marriage thing. I have seen success in relationships that have endured beautifully long term without marriage. It works for some people and others just prefer marriage. To each and their own. Whatever works for each person and relationships between two consenting adults. And it looks like you didn’t read carefully, he said his wife. He’s married. Next! 👉🏻
I know how painful it is to wait for someone's texting back. It just simply drains your emotional health as you try to read someone's else mind. The reasons could be anything from good to bad and sadly, we-the receiver will never know exactly what and why because we are not that person. I guess I will have to be braver and talk out about what I want. I usually say nothing and just let the relationship wither away though I still want to have that someone in my life. It hurts but with time, it will get easier. Anyway, thank you so much for making this video. It feels relaxing and calm to listen to. Simply thank you!
Way too much energy is wasted on wondering why another grown individual isn’t responding quick enough or at all. If you’re in a relationship I get it. If not, he/she ain’t the one to keep entertaining. Use your energy on someone else who feeds you the same energy you feed them and I would apply this same thing if you’re in a relationship and the communication isn’t up to par.
This is the story of my life. I love the iPhone feature where you can hold down the text notification and see what it says without them seeing you saw it, gives me the option to decide if I have time to respond or hold a conversation. I also like for the text to remain unopened so I remember to respond later when I have time. Don’t expect me to respond right away. I’m generally doing something and I hate for people to expect me to be paying my phone attention all the time. Calls will surprisingly get you a faster response vs. a text.
I don’t think people are expecting a reply right away but I’m a reasonable time. I think anything over 2-3 hours is clear they’re not that interesting and ignoring you.
idk about other people, but whenever there is someone i take longer to reply to, its cause there is no actual bond or adhesion. sometimes i even read it but forget to reply... and then there are those people i like a lot and i reply imediately. i dont even think about it.
Honestly I think at times he could be busy .if that man really loves you he will find the time to let you know whats up regardless.once that person takes forever all the times to rely just kick back and give him space that could be a sign and youre just ignoring it that he's not that into you .always follow your feelings .
I always let people know whether it's friends or a guy that I'm dating at work my texts are a little delayed but that doesn't mean I'm ignoring you. Men they see the texts they just set on them. Then you have the guy that's like I'ma make her wait I'll respond to her when I'm ready..... 🙄 I'm just going to put it like this no matter what it takes a second to say hold tight I'm busy I'll text you when I get a chance other than that it's a bunch of hogwash if he's talking anything else
I was confronting a guy about why he’s not responding and I asked if everything was okay and he literally responded with “I cbf” “I’m lazy” lmaooo girls if he WANTED to he WOULD. Don’t make excuses for him it’s just a TEXT
@@elliekatx I started ignorning him because its getting to me. I dont like anyone doing that to me, now hes starting to text back faster now and he admitted hes always thinking about me. Smh, idk what to believe. These men are crazy lol
@@Izatrinigal100 girl distance yourself because he doesn’t know what he want. I went through the same thing. You can talk to him about it to resolute it which is what I did but don’t repeat yourself. If nothing changes or he doesn’t take you serious move on.
@@neyosega4330 I moved on trust me. Hes immature and he does not know how to communicate at all. I dont need that in my life. He can waste someone else time.
I'm supposed to be in a relationship but the guy Says he wants us to be boyfriend & girlfriend but he doesn't want everyone to know that we are together .I go to the same church as him & he wants people to think we are just friends . He works alot. I sometimes feel I have to go to his job to see him . He's always busy with work or other things. He does find time to text & call but we have never yet gone out to eat or go out to do anything I can't even get him to come to my apartment to eat dinner& a movie. He's new at relationship we have never hugged & Kisses or he's 45 years old and Is a virgin . I don't know what to do ? I feel every Friday he never find time to hang out with me.
I dated a delayed texter for 2+ years. He was definitely busy with the type of work he does. I understood that but it gets old. We’ve remained cool over the years so now years later he wants to be exclusive but I’m so turned off by the lack of communication he’s no longer appealing to me. Once the switch is off that’s it!!
I agree, now he is asking what happened and saying he thought we were fine. I was turned off by the delayed response and told him no hard feelings but I am just not interested.
Personally I just don’t invest my feelings on wondering why a person doesn’t text me back. I just move forward. If they text back great if they don’t oh well. I adjust accordingly.
Same...its better to not take things like that personally bcuz your mind will keep ruminating trying to make up reasons why...and its usually not anything.
Lazy communications happens when you allow it regardless of the technology or the times we are living in. It's funny sometimes at the beginning a person can respond quickly but once they get comfortable with you they are "Busy".
I understand tht ppl can be busy, and ppl have jobs and can’t be texting all the time. I also don’t expect an immediate response. But what bothers me is when I message you and you don’t respond for hours and hours....but then I see tht you’ve been active on social media. I don’t have a problem with you being on there. I have a problem because you felt like my message wasn’t important enough for u to respond back. Even if it was a simple good morning or how’s your day?.....2 seconds.....thts all it takes.
Anyone can text on the toilet. He is texting people, or somebody, just not you. Maybe he’s scared of being hurt because you’re everything he ever wanted and didn’t expect to fall for you. Maybe he is emotionally attached to somebody else an is delaying his decision because he doesn’t want to lose you. He needs to get clarity and show up mature in his communication or I have no interest in entertaining a man who can’t (for whatever reason) prioritize me. Eventually he’ll come back and mansplain himself. 🙄
yess, or even be blunt with not being interested ! My god i just cant deal with pll that dont communicate correctly . My pet peeve is delayed message..
Have you considered sending a voice memo over a text message. Same message can be delivered just another style that is preferred by him / the recipient
As a young man I have learned that sometimes people are busy and everyone doesn’t have the time to be responding back to a message as fast. I look at it like this, anyone that makes you a priority, they see you as important. If they don’t make you a priority and they can’t message you. They don’t see you as a priority. But that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you ♥️
Owning Purpose I’m always busy and still have the respect to answer at least to say, “I can’t respond right now” message. If I do t response, I do it as soon as I’m able to. But some people just don’t have that respect or like to play games. Im very straight forward person, if the person does not want to talk to me, just say it and stop playing games.
Yes, and narcissists do this as well. Intentionally to get someone hooked and addicted to them. They call it intermittent reinforcement, and it is similar to how people get hooked on gambling. Key word here is inconsistent. Like with the slot machines, you can’t rely on when you’ll get a payout or even IF you’ll get a payout, but they def want us to keep putting our coins in and gambling our lives away hoping for one. I think with a good man, you can rely on him. A good man isn’t confusing or back and forth or hot and cold or on and off etc. He is reliable and steady.
@@freshmanjeans Yep, one guy started doing this and I didn’t reply to his text. Another guy who claims he wants me to give him a chance. He said Tuesday he wants to take me out. We had a brief text Wednesday. Afterwards, he waited 5 days to text me. He said “ how are sweetheart? “. He is playing games. There were other red flags. E.g. , after I asked him for pictures to an event we went to. He had we wait for 4 days. He only sent the pictures because I brought it up when we where talking. He is already showing bad behavior .GOOD BYE ✌🏽
There is no such thing as "too busy". When you are invested/interested in something/someone, you will find/MAKE time. When you are not, the task becomes burdensome/faintly irritating and excuses abound. If you have time to go buy/make a cup of coffee, take a bathroom break, go buy lunch and eat lunch, reply to emails etc. Then you have the time to check your phone and take however many seconds it takes to send a SHORT reply text. It shows respect. That you value the other person enough to prioritise them into your busy day and respect their time enough not to leave the hanging.
Nowadays most people, including men are virtually WELDED to their phone. Unless they are a surgeon and are doing several hour surgeries, they can respond. There is nothing wrong with needing time to respond to a complex text. As you suggested, simply text to say you are really caught up and will get back to the other person later. And women, stop peppering men during the working day with useless short texts. Ask a key question and leave the conversation texts to the end of the day. During the day, busy people do struggle with multiple texts.
What if I'm at work and have to google something, I go online, and then I se a message at messenger, read it, and see that is is no hurry to answer, since I'm really stressed at work. Then I am to busy.
SashaSamara How long does it take you to text : really sorry. Am caught up at work at the moment. Will get back to you later this afternoon. Or to send an emoji. How many seconds? Time yourself and see. It all comes down to priorities. If it's not a priority, you can make an excuse for it. Simple as that. But don't fool yourself into thinking that you are "too busy", so much so that you can't spare the 30 seconds or less it takes to type that message within 7-8 hours during the working day. (Unless you were so busy you skipped lunch and bathroom breaks of course) I work in the medical profession. I sometimes consult up to 40 patients in a day. Or I have a full day of operating. Sometimes I run late and skip lunch to make up for time. Funnily enough, like now, I can spare the few seconds it takes to answer.
Yes that is true. If I like a girl, I would always make the time to write to her and on the other side I want the same from her. If this not happen, then I know she is not interested and is writing with other guys.
Ladies, The truth is if he doesn't text you fast enough, its because he is not interested!!! Period. That should of been number one. If they want you, believe me, he will be there. No busy, no BS.
I hear ya as a guy I want to be that person who cares and takes time out of their day to ask how yours was and be a caring person and who will love you, but if we do that we come off as needy and desperate then that only drives the girl away further, both sides can play games, but it feels like when a guy who wants to be there for you and be loving and caring girls just don’t want that I’m 20 years old and the people I care about I want to make them happy but girls just don’t seem to want to make the same effort towards me they cut it off after the first couple weeks, this is my personal experience so I don’t like the player mind set, I don’t like playing games with peoples hearts because it’s happened to me and it hurts hard, but when girls shut you out because you really care about a girl and can picture a future with them and would do anything for them you come off needy and desperate
Can someone give me advice pls , this guy responded to one of my Instagram stories so we began sort of chatting from there and he responded at a reasonable time but suddenly on the 2nd day he's texting slower and even ghosting me is he just not interested? Or could there be something wrong with the way I'm chatting ?
I am the same way I am 59 years old however I realize that all the time to hear a persons voice is not practical, just in a healthy way express that to the person you love. Tell them I prefer to hear your voice or a voice note as opposed to a text
When you have several options, you don't care when one doesn't reply. You're not his only... Respect acknowledges and calls back as soon as possible. Texting is not proper communication anyway. 🤷🏾♀️
Period!so many misunderstanding can happen with texts messages especially at a beginning of a relation, lot of people read things based on their own mood ends up fighting over a damn message! Plus you can not build a relationship based only on texting, I need to speak with you, phones calls are better if you can not catch up!
I don’t know why men do this. I’ve been on the dating scene for two years, have probably gone out with 30 guys and almost all of them delay texts or seem to passively create space by refusing to communicate. Look, I’m not an impatient communicator, and I’m also a career woman so I don’t require constant texting and attention. But sweet lord, what the hell is going on here??
Yes they lack basic manners respect if they will call here and there it's a different story but only texting and reply 3vdays later They say then he is not inrerested but 3vdays ago he wrote he missed having me around bc he is abroad for starting new business so yes very busy, which I believe and he said " no worried write it out if you are having doubts, I understand it's a bad timing for our contact but im confident we will meet soon and build from there". He didn't text anymore since thursday it's monday now 😢 it hurts. I think he's gone i don't need much attention or daily text but this was a pattern. I feel so sad. He seemed genuine. Still hopijg he will text but also angry. I sent him a sweet text tyat if we meet I will cook for him. No reply. That hurts. So after 2vdays I told him how zi felt and I'm through. That was saturday and he is still quiet.
Not gonna lie, if I don’t hear anything back, I am not trying to find out anything. I’ve already checked out and keeping it moving. I don’t have time lol! 😆
If a man is busy, a woman is busier. For example, If a single mother can take care of the kids, cook, clean, work a full-time job, and put out life's "fires," and STILL take the time to pick up the phone and take 3 seconds to reach out to someone she is interested in, so can a man. Period.
Texting should be a supplement, but not the main form of communication in a relationship. Real grown people talk. If the man is too busy to respond and he needs six to eight hours to reply, that's not a problem as long as you can take what you dish out. I don't appreciate the double standard. If you're too busy to respond then accept that I was too busy to respond before six or eight hours as well. I'm never going to prioritize anyone who acts as if I'm an option. In fact you will be replaced with someone who appreciates the position in my life with a quickness. I will talk to you calmly and express how I feel and give you a chance to correct your actions, but I'm not going to sound like a broken record. I will do the K.I.M. and keep it moving.....NEXT!!
I agree. But some people don’t know how to have conversations. Too much silence in between.. listening to your background to create conversations. Talking with or gossiping about others or situations irrelevant to the both of you. I don’t mind speaking on the phone . But make it quick. Text works !
@@diamondunicorn2421 if the person isn’t capable of having a conversation that doesn’t work for me. I don’t have any interest in being in a texting relationship with anyone. I definitely text especially when I can’t answer my phone, but it’s not my primary form of communication in an intimate relationship.
Im not a texter. Lets video chat or phone call. Texting just not my thing. I just don't think men be texting like that. Ill use text as a way to share a encouraging/affirmations message "Good morning sweetie, you're an amazing lady. Hope you have a good day. Remember the joy of the lord is your strength" But I aint gon be on my phone going back and forth. Thats my take on texting.
Could not agree more- I prefer phone calls that are scheduled during a time that will work for both parties. You can listen to tone of voice, ask for further context, simpler. Texting is okay, but the back and forth wastes more time.
And if you express yourself in a calm and loving manner. But they still disregard you. Block and delete them, and move on with your life. God bless everyone.
It’s just plain old fashioned rudeness. Most people are attached to their phones even while working, cooking, hanging out with others. They see the texts almost immediately, but choose not to reply even if the sender is not soliciting dialogue. I’ve learned and is learning to present the same damn nonchalant energy. FOH!
It’s so hard to get right, I feel like as a guy if we make you priority number 1 then we seem needy and desperate then that turns the girl away from us because we want to love and care for her but she just ends up playing games, of course there are tons and tons of good women out there who have good intentions and are honest and mature, but I’m speaking from personal experience a girl will go cold because we genuinely care about them and want to further the relationship they just flip a switch and everything changes, then we guys we get told how to re attract the girl, or how to get her back, what to and what not to do. There just doesn’t seem like there’s a right answer, but if I wanted to make a girl I’m talking to a priority then she gets distant and cold like she loses interest after the first 2 weeks so I understand where you’re coming from I’ve been there but as a guy it feels like you can’t win
I like what you said that instead of leaving a message on seen,just tell that you will get back to them whenever you're free. That's usually the issue with my bf, cause leaving a text on seen somehow sends a message of ignoring, and I always get triggered by that 😔
This mainly sucks when they’re not technically anything to you so they really don’t owe you anything. Calling it out would probably just cause them to completely ghost you lol
Exactly! However I feel is disrespectful! But you know what? Most relationships out there started with inconsistency, my ex husband was very consistent in the beginning and then use to take 3 days for communication, but when I called he always respond quickly! We were back and forth like that a lot! I have not idea how we make it work 😅 and ended up married! In marriage he was a great communicator, even when had to go for many hours he always called me 🤷♀️.
I was online dating and one of the last guys I messaged, I started to notice he would drop off sometimes. I started to dish out more what he give out hoping he’d get the hint. He’d take a day to reply, I take 2 days to respond and I don’t message after 9 pm. He also never asked me on a coffee date either. So I stopped talking to him. I got stuff to do, too booboo and only have a certain window to talk.
Your awesome, you have helped to understand myself better, lol didn’t realize how crazy I was until meeting you. Thank you so much for coming with the truth.
I'm going to assume this doesn't apply to full-blown relationships. You should be well beyond texting if you're dating someone exclusively. But in the early stages, people are not obligated to give you the boyfriend treatment. If you let him be, the issue will solve itself. If he doesn't respond after 24 hours, take that as lack of interest and move on. If he responds after that, he will probably apologize and give a brief explanation. Just say 'It's all good' and continue the conversation. If you don't get an explanation, don't ask for one. He's NOT your boyfriend. Don't be over-casual or try to out-busy him. Sound happy to hear from him. If he wants to go exclusive, delayed responses will be few and far between and for legit reasons. He knows he's not the only guy clocking you and will want to screen you off asap. But if you want exclusivity and he keeps up the lagging responses, say 'I'm feeling you but this seems like a casual thing to you, best thing for me is to step away'. You're not conceding points if you tell him how you feel. It's what you do that matters, and he needs to know you're not a plaything.
I like your response to lean back over trying to have someone your just getting to know corrected or correct themselves for you and he’s not your bf. I’m having this but he told me in the first 5 minutes “I am extremely busy, I have no time to date, I don’t like that word marriage” but he profess how much he likes me and thinks and talks about me all the time 🙄 I just won’t initiate texts. If he asks about it I will address it then…and let him know if we become exclusive I expect a response to acknowledge my text even if it’s an “ok”
Now we're talking! Love it. Concise and accurate. This is exactly what I did just 2 days ago. I felt like I was over reacting as its a delayed response but after 3 months of dating and asking why tge delayed response, turnaround time is generally 24-48hours! I had to say sorry but I gotta go! ✌🏾
The very real possibility that we ladies don't want to acknowledge is that he's just not invested enough to care if he texts back late or not at all! I mean , when you first start talking , dating , or whatever, it seems you can't even read his texts fast enough before you're bombarded with another. Once the " chase " is done , he's just not as responsive. Unfortunately , in my case I was involved with a straight up player! I thought I was different because he told me so. Well , I won't! I had my heart broken trying to " explain " away why he hadn't texted all day or answered back at all.
He starts a conversation i respond then he stops communicating for hours then wants to pick up hours later or sometimes he doesn't respond at all and he works from home 🤔
What people aren’t understanding is that people need to minimize texting and communicating via phone and put more emphasis on actually seeing each other. What’s the point of texting or talking on the phone all day but y’all never see each other in person
In my case, I believe he's in another relationship. Contacts me continually during his work hours and seldom any other time. We know each other(over twenty years) through a group we both participate in, but because of the pandemic, there have been no meetings. We're both seniors. I guess men never get tired of this game. SMH
This doesn't bother me so much. As long as I get my answer. I know when he can reply quickly he does, when he can't he apologizes for the delay. Thanks Stephan ❤️
Love that answer. That means when we go out on a date we have alot more to talk about because we haven't said every little thing through text or phone conversation
See , I like that response too. Also, the fact that my man can apologize about late texting is him realizing that it can be an issue, and he acknowledges you and your feelings for that. Alot of women play that game and don't even say "sorry, I was preoccupied etc.." they just play it off and use it as a test to see if we get too emotional about it. Dating has become mind game situation nowadays.
my ex-boyfriend use to say & I quote “I have 24hrs to 48hrs to get back to you” this happened frequently & one of the times I was stranded on the highway with flat tire going home from work late evening. I kindly ended the relationship after 2 years
I can relate. Esp when it’s the hardest of times and you really need someone to just be there...but they’re too busy to care or even notice seems like. I walked away also. I had just regular friends that cared more than he did really and who were there for me when he wasn’t. It was my wake up call. An invested man who REALLY cares would notice even the small things that bother us and would work to fix it or help us or simply just ease our worried minds. It was about nine months in for me.
Who cares why? Why is this even a question? The question I want to ask is why would women feel the need to fill in the gaps of a man lack of integrity?
I have heard stories where women were upset when the guys they are seeing isn’t replying her text but to find the guys have all the time to be on Facebook and Instagram. I’ve dealt with this before myself. I dump him fast if he makes excuses and see him on Instagram and Facebook carrying it on. And on that final note, you can tell if he’s “read” my text or messages after text is delivered and on social media “seen” but doesn’t respond. Boy bye!!!! Got no time for Tom and Jerry games! 🙄 NEXT! 👉🏻
Im a busy person and I have lost some women with this. Sometimes its me but sometimes I set dates and they think I don't like them or don't want to go and its like why would I set a date to take you out and just completely ditch you. Thats not integrity at all. Then I remember that some women haven't dealt with a man with integrity
@husband in Da making I agree. We have a habit of lumping ALL in the same boat. There are some ppl who have multiple things going on in their life other than babysitting their phone, looking every 5 mins to see who called/text. As Stephen mentioned, the biggest issue is Communication; we have All this technology, and many Still Don't/or can't Communicate effectively, if you're busy at the moment, and can't respond back immediately, why not just communicate that/say that? ... It isn't always that the person isn't a priority, smetmes (for some) it means that you have a Whole Life, you aren't attached to your phone. .... It boils down to ppl Communicating with each other, and not just jumping to conclusions & assumptions ...
I'm sorry I call bullsh@t on this comment. Integrity is also following through with what you said you would do. Setting up dates then cancelling them on multiple occasions because you're "busy" doesn't show integrity. Everybody has multiple conflicting commitments. Whether is work, family, leisure or rest. It's very important to prioritise ALL your commitments accordingly. Building & maintaining relationships with family, friends & potential partners shouldn't always be taking a back seat to everything else. If you're constantly losing relationships with those around you then it's obvious that you don't have control over your own life.
Some people are really busy! I can't reply back as soon as I would like due to my profession. However if a man or woman is not interested then they should just be honest and say so. Stop playing games lol if you have a significant other than stop entertaining other people.
He has a Ego thing going on so he doesn’t want to seem that he obligated to put you as his main priority.So he won’t respond as quickly as you want .I’m remaining confident in my self 🤷🏽♀️So It goes both ways.
This is facts. The ego thing has them representing a false narrative of themselves. My ex has started doing this so that he is perceived to be less interested than he is. Mind games. However, I’m healed enough to see what’s taking place in my situation.
I made my comment when he said comment down below as to why “I” think men take so long to respond. Yes you are absolutely right some are just busy as well as myself. Everything he stated was valid in my book.
This is hard. We put way too much emphasis on texting but then againnnnn shouldn't we since it's literally our primary way of communicating, so shouldn't we put emphasis on it 🤷🏾♀️?
The guy I like acts like he's doing something and that I should know he cares and is availabile to me when in reality he ain't doing ish. How can our perceptions be so different?? I've gotten weary of trying to figure it out and am attempting to move on.
Hey Melynda.. You respond to him by living your life at the end of the day if a man is truly into he would respond to you in a sufficient amount of time.. if not move on its too much fish in the sea.. hope this helps
I look at it like this if you're too busy for me don't pursue or talk to me. Delaying texts arevan excuse. If you get a text from your mom that she's sick or your child you won't delay because they are your priority. I don't believe in being busy you make time for what's important to you. That's simple
Unless you are SUPER busy like say you're a celebrity, a politician, or owning a company I would understand your time is limited. However, If you're always reaching out to him and not him to you, He's not placing you as his priority
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I’m questioning a relationship I’m in… I don’t know how to explain it on here to get a response. Is there a way I can connect with you to talk it through other than on a open forum
I got told by my friend just a few mins ago to be careful and also i think we shold stop texting eachother yet i dont know what to do
What about the 4:30 AM text when they get up for work ans text you??? as I am dating many men in their excitement of newly dating will text in the wee hours in the morning. However, I need my rest and rather they wait till say 8 am for new love 💕 interest until we build to the earlier morning. Your thoughts please?
There 24 hours in a day , you are not busy 24 hours . It takes 1 minutes to touch base and let someone know that your busy. etc
I agree with you..If both r working professionals they have thr own things to deal with at office ..If one can make time to text or to reply ! Why can't he make out ?? We are not asking thr whole 24hrs in a day ! It takes sec to reply.. even after addressing ppl will do the same thing then ?? Sply the guy keeps thr phone 24/7 in hand.. do this and give reason saying busy ! Don't accept n bare such a shit.. Just move on.... No one can be so so so much busy 24/7 everyday!
@@LuxeStyleQueen Facts on facts
I couldn't agree more! No one is that busy that they can't reply back. If he's interested he will reply in a decent amount of time.
My point exactly
True on condition that he is not bombarded non stop with messages from woman who is acting like very needy.
He’s just not that interested. You’re not a priority in his life and it’s ok move on to someone who will make you a priority 🤷🏽♀️
Such as yourself. Make God and self a priority, and everything else will fall into place.
NiCole Jones - I agree with you, though if it's only 1 or 2 times out of 10; but if it's routine, nah.
@Paul Hogue This part!
Agreed.
Not always true, really depends on your expectations though. If you're getting flustered about a 24 hour response rate and you don't live together, you are the issue. If he's taking 3 days to get back to you, especially if it's still happening after you've had an honest conversation about it, then I agree with you.
Part of the territory of qualifying a man based on his passions means accepting that they are going to keep him busy.
When my wife and I dated long distance, she let me know how important it is we communicate consistently. We talked everyday because she kept my attention. I loved talking to her because her conversation was stimulating
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She kept your attention? Hmmm why was this her responsibility?
I know how painful it is to wait for someone's texting back. It just simply drains your emotional health as you try to read someone's else mind. The reasons could be anything from good to bad and sadly, we-the receiver will never know exactly what and why because we are not that person. I guess I will have to be braver and talk out about what I want. I usually say nothing and just let the relationship wither away though I still want to have that someone in my life. It hurts but with time, it will get easier. Anyway, thank you so much for making this video. It feels relaxing and calm to listen to. Simply thank you!
OH, MINE FINALLY COMES back with APOLOGISES, I don't have all day & besides he is taking my valuable time by keeping me waiting.
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Way too much energy is wasted on wondering why another grown individual isn’t responding quick enough or at all. If you’re in a relationship I get it. If not, he/she ain’t the one to keep entertaining. Use your energy on someone else who feeds you the same energy you feed them and I would apply this same thing if you’re in a relationship and the communication isn’t up to par.
Bieing late replying will damage the relationship. He’s not to busy to send a quick text of acknowledgment!... 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly
Never show a man how to behave. When he demonstrate to you, his low level of interest & disrespect. Keep it moving.
He's in another relationship
factsssssss
Great communication is the key for a good healthy relationship
The only thing I require is a simple response to say I can not talk right now and I would respect that more ...
This is the story of my life. I love the iPhone feature where you can hold down the text notification and see what it says without them seeing you saw it, gives me the option to decide if I have time to respond or hold a conversation. I also like for the text to remain unopened so I remember to respond later when I have time. Don’t expect me to respond right away. I’m generally doing something and I hate for people to expect me to be paying my phone attention all the time. Calls will surprisingly get you a faster response vs. a text.
I don’t think people are expecting a reply right away but I’m a reasonable time. I think anything over 2-3 hours is clear they’re not that interesting and ignoring you.
So disrespectful to not reply in a timely manner, if I'm not important enough to be replied to, them you have no place in my life..per
idk about other people, but whenever there is someone i take longer to reply to, its cause there is no actual bond or adhesion. sometimes i even read it but forget to reply... and then there are those people i like a lot and i reply imediately. i dont even think about it.
I have thought I hit send and will look at it later an i never sent it or it didn't go through 😔
Honestly I think at times he could be busy .if that man really loves you he will find the time to let you know whats up regardless.once that person takes forever all the times to rely just kick back and give him space that could be a sign and youre just ignoring it that he's not that into you .always follow your feelings .
Hello
I react calmly but still get no positive results . Smh
I always let people know whether it's friends or a guy that I'm dating at work my texts are a little delayed but that doesn't mean I'm ignoring you. Men they see the texts they just set on them. Then you have the guy that's like I'ma make her wait I'll respond to her when I'm ready..... 🙄 I'm just going to put it like this no matter what it takes a second to say hold tight I'm busy I'll text you when I get a chance other than that it's a bunch of hogwash if he's talking anything else
He's online. Messages seen and unread. No text or call , no reply . Never been to video calls. No visits. Is this normal?
I was confronting a guy about why he’s not responding and I asked if everything was okay and he literally responded with “I cbf” “I’m lazy” lmaooo girls if he WANTED to he WOULD. Don’t make excuses for him it’s just a TEXT
Am dealing with this right now but hes not my bf. Its still annoying though 🤷🏽♀️
Move while you are still unattached.
Same. I’m really trying to get to know him, but it’s hard at times.
@@elliekatx I started ignorning him because its getting to me. I dont like anyone doing that to me, now hes starting to text back faster now and he admitted hes always thinking about me. Smh, idk what to believe. These men are crazy lol
@@Izatrinigal100 girl distance yourself because he doesn’t know what he want. I went through the same thing. You can talk to him about it to resolute it which is what I did but don’t repeat yourself. If nothing changes or he doesn’t take you serious move on.
@@neyosega4330 I moved on trust me. Hes immature and he does not know how to communicate at all. I dont need that in my life. He can waste someone else time.
I’m a busy person but I will make time if I’m into you.
I did talked about it he dont want me to. Wheni say something he doesnt respond he might take a while to talk its like he dont even care
You always give the best advice 😭
I'm supposed to be in a relationship but the guy Says he wants us to be boyfriend & girlfriend but he doesn't want everyone to know that we are together .I go to the same church as him & he wants people to think we are just friends . He works alot. I sometimes feel I have to go to his job to see him . He's always busy with work or other things. He does find time to text & call but we have never yet gone out to eat or go out to do anything I can't even get him to come to my apartment to eat dinner& a movie. He's new at relationship we have never hugged & Kisses or he's 45 years old and Is a virgin . I don't know what to do ? I feel every Friday he never find time to hang out with me.
You are just telling the truth
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What if he is the one who initiates the communication but afta you have replied to him he does not reply back
He's a fool nobody dont have time for Foolishness in 2020 just pure disrespectful.
Well he says " your mesage just came through now" after 16hrs of the text being delivered lol ( sc)
Ladies...if Stephan has time to reply to comments, there is no legit reason your man can't respond to your text😂 let that sink in
This hit deep 😂
@@victoriasmith2813
😂 ya know
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Wowwwwww...😂😂😂..that is wat I am usin on the next guy..if the dating coach from youtube can respond hell u can 2..straight up...I needed this laugh..
That don't count, this is his job lol
I dated a delayed texter for 2+ years. He was definitely busy with the type of work he does. I understood that but it gets old. We’ve remained cool over the years so now years later he wants to be exclusive but I’m so turned off by the lack of communication he’s no longer appealing to me. Once the switch is off that’s it!!
Gurlllllll yes I’m here at this point I’m turned off !!!!!
😮😮💯it happened to me!
Exactly
I agree, now he is asking what happened and saying he thought we were fine. I was turned off by the delayed response and told him no hard feelings but I am just not interested.
@@jasha5847 👍
I hate the men that say "I'm not a texter" but they on IG and more all the time. Lies. I tell you
That’s what the dude I’m into says.. it’s realllly hilarious. Not really..
It may mean he proffers to see you than build a relationship over text.
They said they’re not a Texter, doesn’t mean they’re not a liker, commenter, Follower and such… had to learn the hard way
The casual lying is unreal in this era it's like they can't even believe they're lying they're so off off
I'm an introvert over thinker! I cannot date a Man who does not know how to communicate effectively.
Me too!!! It drives you Nuts!!
Same!! 🙌🏼
I’m right with u
And sadly most dont know how !
Me literally
you're not important to him, not interested, simple as that
I agree. This is STRAIGHT BULL---T. If a person wants to talk they will talk.
@@Redflight8156 no social anxiety is a thing
Another reason is that he may be entertaining other women and can't keep up with communicating with all the women 🙄
Exactly
Yup.
THIS!!
Totally this!
Personally I just don’t invest my feelings on wondering why a person doesn’t text me back. I just move forward. If they text back great if they don’t oh well. I adjust accordingly.
Same...its better to not take things like that personally bcuz your mind will keep ruminating trying to make up reasons why...and its usually not anything.
This the one
Yeah. Everyone isn't the same.
I definitely feel this!!!
Same
Not a priority.
Yep, not a priority. I'm only addressing it if I'm invested.
Why would you be
Ladies, there’s at LEAST one gentleman who wants EXACTLY what you’re offering. Cut your losses FAST, keep it moving. NEXT!
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Lazy communications happens when you allow it regardless of the technology or the times we are living in. It's funny sometimes at the beginning a person can respond quickly but once they get comfortable with you they are "Busy".
This is so true and it gets so confusing because now, you on the other side do exactly the same or rather take the same amount of time to text back
So true
Should you end when they too busy and you’ve addressed it already ?
@@shea88barbie Why you have only one option?
There's nothing wrong with having multiple options
This! 💯
I understand tht ppl can be busy, and ppl have jobs and can’t be texting all the time. I also don’t expect an immediate response. But what bothers me is when I message you and you don’t respond for hours and hours....but then I see tht you’ve been active on social media. I don’t have a problem with you being on there. I have a problem because you felt like my message wasn’t important enough for u to respond back. Even if it was a simple good morning or how’s your day?.....2 seconds.....thts all it takes.
Facts!
Exactly ,you nailed it .
Anyone can text on the toilet. He is texting people, or somebody, just not you. Maybe he’s scared of being hurt because you’re everything he ever wanted and didn’t expect to fall for you. Maybe he is emotionally attached to somebody else an is delaying his decision because he doesn’t want to lose you. He needs to get clarity and show up mature in his communication or I have no interest in entertaining a man who can’t (for whatever reason) prioritize me. Eventually he’ll come back and mansplain himself. 🙄
Baby girl ur comment has stated it perfectly loved it
A lotttt of problems can be solved with proper communication😌
Maybe he just doesn’t want to.
yess, or even be blunt with not being interested !
My god i just cant deal with pll that dont communicate correctly .
My pet peeve is delayed message..
Preach girl! Say it louder for the other non communicating men in the back! Lol
Have you considered sending a voice memo over a text message. Same message can be delivered just another style that is preferred by him / the recipient
What she said
As a young man I have learned that sometimes people are busy and everyone doesn’t have the time to be responding back to a message as fast. I look at it like this, anyone that makes you a priority, they see you as important. If they don’t make you a priority and they can’t message you. They don’t see you as a priority. But that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you ♥️
I agree we have to stop putting pressure on everyone to be like you that’s why you should ask what’s your Communication style
Yep. We have to learn when and how to move on.
@@Mizzpinkperfect I don't think that is what he was saying.
Owning Purpose I’m always busy and still have the respect to answer at least to say, “I can’t respond right now” message. If I do t response, I do it as soon as I’m able to. But some people just don’t have that respect or like to play games. Im very straight forward person, if the person does not want to talk to me, just say it and stop playing games.
Exactly @owning purpose
Sometimes not responding in a timely fashion is intentional as a mind game. There are men teaching this method on youtube to get women to chase.
Yes, and narcissists do this as well. Intentionally to get someone hooked and addicted to them. They call it intermittent reinforcement, and it is similar to how people get hooked on gambling. Key word here is inconsistent. Like with the slot machines, you can’t rely on when you’ll get a payout or even IF you’ll get a payout, but they def want us to keep putting our coins in and gambling our lives away hoping for one.
I think with a good man, you can rely on him. A good man isn’t confusing or back and forth or hot and cold or on and off etc. He is reliable and steady.
There are women like us who not biting the bait
And I pay them zero mind and LOL❗️I love myself and a man it’s that important. I’m learning new things.
@@freshmanjeans ✅
@@freshmanjeans Yep, one guy started doing this and I didn’t reply to his text. Another guy who claims he wants me to give him a chance. He said Tuesday he wants to take me out. We had a brief text Wednesday. Afterwards, he waited 5 days to text me. He said “ how are sweetheart? “. He is playing games. There were other red flags. E.g. , after I asked him for pictures to an event we went to. He had we wait for 4 days. He only sent the pictures because I brought it up when we where talking. He is already showing bad behavior .GOOD BYE ✌🏽
But he initiated the text 🙄 1st, then you respond, an he's delays. My question why text if you busy 🤔 then dissappear after immediately ahh response?
Games!
Or maybe he’s married 🙏🏽
Player. This is so ridiculous. Only wants to keep you around.
Yup. Games, players, cheaters, narcissists, etc.
Exactly’ it’s stupid! Unless you text and throw your phone somewhere? Does not make sense!
There is no such thing as "too busy". When you are invested/interested in something/someone, you will find/MAKE time. When you are not, the task becomes burdensome/faintly irritating and excuses abound.
If you have time to go buy/make a cup of coffee, take a bathroom break, go buy lunch and eat lunch, reply to emails etc. Then you have the time to check your phone and take however many seconds it takes to send a SHORT reply text.
It shows respect. That you value the other person enough to prioritise them into your busy day and respect their time enough not to leave the hanging.
Nowadays most people, including men are virtually WELDED to their phone. Unless they are a surgeon and are doing several hour surgeries, they can respond.
There is nothing wrong with needing time to respond to a complex text. As you suggested, simply text to say you are really caught up and will get back to the other person later.
And women, stop peppering men during the working day with useless short texts. Ask a key question and leave the conversation texts to the end of the day. During the day, busy people do struggle with multiple texts.
You hit that dead on the head
What if I'm at work and have to google something, I go online, and then I se a message at messenger, read it, and see that is is no hurry to answer, since I'm really stressed at work.
Then I am to busy.
SashaSamara How long does it take you to text : really sorry. Am caught up at work at the moment. Will get back to you later this afternoon.
Or to send an emoji.
How many seconds? Time yourself and see.
It all comes down to priorities. If it's not a priority, you can make an excuse for it. Simple as that. But don't fool yourself into thinking that you are "too busy", so much so that you can't spare the 30 seconds or less it takes to type that message within 7-8 hours during the working day. (Unless you were so busy you skipped lunch and bathroom breaks of course)
I work in the medical profession. I sometimes consult up to 40 patients in a day. Or I have a full day of operating. Sometimes I run late and skip lunch to make up for time. Funnily enough, like now, I can spare the few seconds it takes to answer.
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He talk to other females
Yes that is true. If I like a girl, I would always make the time to write to her and on the other side I want the same from her. If this not happen, then I know she is not interested and is writing with other guys.
Looks like I am going to be the cat lady lol
Meow! 😁
You and me both
Guuuuurl 😔
Ikr!!!! I want 2 of those big fat Maine coons!
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Ladies,
The truth is if he doesn't text you fast enough, its because he is not interested!!! Period. That should of been number one. If they want you, believe me, he will be there. No busy, no BS.
100% otherwise it seems like you mb fwb
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It fucking sucks.. the ones that I like just don’t like me back, ever.. and take too long to respond.. makes me feel some type of way
I hear ya as a guy I want to be that person who cares and takes time out of their day to ask how yours was and be a caring person and who will love you, but if we do that we come off as needy and desperate then that only drives the girl away further, both sides can play games, but it feels like when a guy who wants to be there for you and be loving and caring girls just don’t want that I’m 20 years old and the people I care about I want to make them happy but girls just don’t seem to want to make the same effort towards me they cut it off after the first couple weeks, this is my personal experience so I don’t like the player mind set, I don’t like playing games with peoples hearts because it’s happened to me and it hurts hard, but when girls shut you out because you really care about a girl and can picture a future with them and would do anything for them you come off needy and desperate
Can someone give me advice pls , this guy responded to one of my Instagram stories so we began sort of chatting from there and he responded at a reasonable time but suddenly on the 2nd day he's texting slower and even ghosting me is he just not interested? Or could there be something wrong with the way I'm chatting ?
I am not a texter I want to hear your voice. I guess I'm old school.
Ditto!
Yes but you probay make it clear and don't just disappear
@@yellowbabymarshmellow3040 Does that mean that most guys who feel this way don't text girls much, even if they're interested?
@@Angelica-vu3nk apparently.
I am the same way I am 59 years old however I realize that all the time to hear a persons voice is not practical, just in a healthy way express that to the person you love. Tell them I prefer to hear your voice or a voice note as opposed to a text
When you have several options, you don't care when one doesn't reply. You're not his only... Respect acknowledges and calls back as soon as possible. Texting is not proper communication anyway. 🤷🏾♀️
Hello this is true
Period!so many misunderstanding can happen with texts messages especially at a beginning of a relation, lot of people read things based on their own mood ends up fighting over a damn message! Plus you can not build a relationship based only on texting, I need to speak with you, phones calls are better if you can not catch up!
Having options doesnt mean you focus on many at the same time. I have options sure, but I pick best one and focus on it
Sounds like I need more options
@@ancconsultant8667you do! I have so I will do it! I don’t stack with a poor response, move, next! 😅
I don’t know why men do this. I’ve been on the dating scene for two years, have probably gone out with 30 guys and almost all of them delay texts or seem to passively create space by refusing to communicate. Look, I’m not an impatient communicator, and I’m also a career woman so I don’t require constant texting and attention. But sweet lord, what the hell is going on here??
Ghetto out here
Yes they lack basic manners respect if they will call here and there it's a different story but only texting and reply 3vdays later
They say then he is not inrerested but 3vdays ago he wrote he missed having me around bc he is abroad for starting new business so yes very busy, which I believe and he said " no worried write it out if you are having doubts, I understand it's a bad timing for our contact but im confident we will meet soon and build from there".
He didn't text anymore since thursday it's monday now 😢 it hurts.
I think he's gone i don't need much attention or daily text but this was a pattern. I feel so sad. He seemed genuine. Still hopijg he will text but also angry.
I sent him a sweet text tyat if we meet I will cook for him.
No reply. That hurts. So after 2vdays I told him how zi felt and I'm through. That was saturday and he is still quiet.
Not gonna lie, if I don’t hear anything back, I am not trying to find out anything. I’ve already checked out and keeping it moving. I don’t have time lol! 😆
Yep
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this is me too!! lmaooooo
If a man is busy, a woman is busier. For example, If a single mother can take care of the kids, cook, clean, work a full-time job, and put out life's "fires," and STILL take the time to pick up the phone and take 3 seconds to reach out to someone she is interested in, so can a man. Period.
Comment of the day!
Facts!
THIS THE ONE ☝🏾
Say it again!
Facts
When the behavior is addressed, He still makes no effort. It's safe to say the best thing is to move on.
Texting should be a supplement, but not the main form of communication in a relationship. Real grown people talk. If the man is too busy to respond and he needs six to eight hours to reply, that's not a problem as long as you can take what you dish out. I don't appreciate the double standard. If you're too busy to respond then accept that I was too busy to respond before six or eight hours as well. I'm never going to prioritize anyone who acts as if I'm an option. In fact you will be replaced with someone who appreciates the position in my life with a quickness. I will talk to you calmly and express how I feel and give you a chance to correct your actions, but I'm not going to sound like a broken record. I will do the K.I.M. and keep it moving.....NEXT!!
I agree. But some people don’t know how to have conversations. Too much silence in between.. listening to your background to create conversations. Talking with or gossiping about others or situations irrelevant to the both of you. I don’t mind speaking on the phone . But make it quick. Text works !
@@diamondunicorn2421 if the person isn’t capable of having a conversation that doesn’t work for me. I don’t have any interest in being in a texting relationship with anyone. I definitely text especially when I can’t answer my phone, but it’s not my primary form of communication in an intimate relationship.
Now this is the 1🤗
Yeah I hope he can take this reciprocity I’m about to give him
Im not a texter. Lets video chat or phone call. Texting just not my thing. I just don't think men be texting like that. Ill use text as a way to share a encouraging/affirmations message "Good morning sweetie, you're an amazing lady. Hope you have a good day. Remember the joy of the lord is your strength" But I aint gon be on my phone going back and forth. Thats my take on texting.
I'm curious whatever happened with you and the pretty lady in the comment section of another one of Steps vids?😊
@@angelbabyg1 Oh that lady! Didn't hear from her.
Could not agree more- I prefer phone calls that are scheduled during a time that will work for both parties. You can listen to tone of voice, ask for further context, simpler.
Texting is okay, but the back and forth wastes more time.
@@RocSkater09 Awww.. well her lost!😊
@@angelbabyg1 awe no worries 😊
And if you express yourself in a calm and loving manner. But they still disregard you. Block and delete them, and move on with your life. God bless everyone.
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Thanks i just did that 🙏🏻❤️
He too busy with him other women
You are right, I noticed when I E-mailed him & his address came up as another add., Just 2 letters changed...Then I knew!
It’s just plain old fashioned rudeness. Most people are attached to their phones even while working, cooking, hanging out with others. They see the texts almost immediately, but choose not to reply even if the sender is not soliciting dialogue. I’ve learned and is learning to present the same damn nonchalant energy. FOH!
So true
Same🤣
Nonchalant energy all the way! TF
This video help me realize if he not treating you like a priority than we should treat him like a option 🤷🏾♀️
☝🏾 this one
UniverSoul Queen I’m saying like I rather a guy be honest then lie
Just forget him
Facts
It’s so hard to get right, I feel like as a guy if we make you priority number 1 then we seem needy and desperate then that turns the girl away from us because we want to love and care for her but she just ends up playing games, of course there are tons and tons of good women out there who have good intentions and are honest and mature, but I’m speaking from personal experience a girl will go cold because we genuinely care about them and want to further the relationship they just flip a switch and everything changes, then we guys we get told how to re attract the girl, or how to get her back, what to and what not to do. There just doesn’t seem like there’s a right answer, but if I wanted to make a girl I’m talking to a priority then she gets distant and cold like she loses interest after the first 2 weeks so I understand where you’re coming from I’ve been there but as a guy it feels like you can’t win
I like what you said that instead of leaving a message on seen,just tell that you will get back to them whenever you're free. That's usually the issue with my bf, cause leaving a text on seen somehow sends a message of ignoring, and I always get triggered by that 😔
How re you doing wonderful, hope you good, lots of love from 🇺🇸...
Me too. It is beyond rude. Lol
We make time for what we want
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
He’s controlling, avoidant and narcissistic. He’s putting out bread crumbs and keeping me on a string and dangling a carrot. I’m completely over it!
“Nobody is as busy as a man who doesn’t want you”. (Not my quote)
Not responding causes a lot of problems. Don’t expect the woman to reply right back if you can’t do the same. Communication is key.
This mainly sucks when they’re not technically anything to you so they really don’t owe you anything. Calling it out would probably just cause them to completely ghost you lol
Exactly! However I feel is disrespectful! But you know what? Most relationships out there started with inconsistency, my ex husband was very consistent in the beginning and then use to take 3 days for communication, but when I called he always respond quickly! We were back and forth like that a lot! I have not idea how we make it work 😅 and ended up married! In marriage he was a great communicator, even when had to go for many hours he always called me 🤷♀️.
I was online dating and one of the last guys I messaged, I started to notice he would drop off sometimes. I started to dish out more what he give out hoping he’d get the hint. He’d take a day to reply, I take 2 days to respond and I don’t message after 9 pm. He also never asked me on a coffee date either. So I stopped talking to him. I got stuff to do, too booboo and only have a certain window to talk.
The fact that you have to look up this video to see what’s going on in your relationship speaks volumes. Just saying. I’m guilty too lmao.
#3 Is the truth and reality of the whole situation... He's just not into you
He is playing games or he has no game ....or you need to get a life yourself if he is not that into you. I'm simply to busy myself to even notice.
Every time I have an issue you pop up with the answer
Thank you! I was going through that , however after communicating he is doing better!
Rachel Salinas , Mr. Stephan is awesome
Your awesome, you have helped to understand myself better, lol didn’t realize how crazy I was until meeting you. Thank you so much for coming with the truth.
I struggle with this with the current guy I've been seeing since last July
Stephanie me too
I'm going to assume this doesn't apply to full-blown relationships. You should be well beyond texting if you're dating someone exclusively. But in the early stages, people are not obligated to give you the boyfriend treatment. If you let him be, the issue will solve itself. If he doesn't respond after 24 hours, take that as lack of interest and move on. If he responds after that, he will probably apologize and give a brief explanation. Just say 'It's all good' and continue the conversation. If you don't get an explanation, don't ask for one. He's NOT your boyfriend. Don't be over-casual or try to out-busy him. Sound happy to hear from him. If he wants to go exclusive, delayed responses will be few and far between and for legit reasons. He knows he's not the only guy clocking you and will want to screen you off asap. But if you want exclusivity and he keeps up the lagging responses, say 'I'm feeling you but this seems like a casual thing to you, best thing for me is to step away'. You're not conceding points if you tell him how you feel. It's what you do that matters, and he needs to know you're not a plaything.
@Joyce Johnson
Love, Love! Your comment. ... Thank you! Exactly! ... 💕
Dang wish I had seen this three days ago. Your wording is so much better than mine.
I like your response to lean back over trying to have someone your just getting to know corrected or correct themselves for you and he’s not your bf. I’m having this but he told me in the first 5 minutes “I am extremely busy, I have no time to date, I don’t like that word marriage” but he profess how much he likes me and thinks and talks about me all the time 🙄 I just won’t initiate texts. If he asks about it I will address it then…and let him know if we become exclusive I expect a response to acknowledge my text even if it’s an “ok”
Now we're talking! Love it. Concise and accurate. This is exactly what I did just 2 days ago. I felt like I was over reacting as its a delayed response but after 3 months of dating and asking why tge delayed response, turnaround time is generally 24-48hours! I had to say sorry but I gotta go! ✌🏾
Thanks so much love your comment gave me a positive insight on a similar situation am facing. I feel good and empowered.
Everyone sees 👀 their text and calls...He not gonna keep ignoring me...it only takes a few minutes
The very real possibility that we ladies don't want to acknowledge is that he's just not invested enough to care if he texts back late or not at all!
I mean , when you first start talking , dating , or whatever, it seems you can't even read his texts fast enough before you're bombarded with another. Once the " chase " is done , he's just not as responsive. Unfortunately , in my case I was involved with a straight up player! I thought I was different because he told me so. Well , I won't! I had my heart broken trying to " explain " away why he hadn't texted all day or answered back at all.
I just don’t hear back for a week. Then he got mad at me for addressing it. Starts saying I need validation 🤯. Just need communication.
Coz he slept with u and sees no point in trying to please you 🤷♀️
They do it even when they haven’t slept with you..🤷🏽♀️
He starts a conversation i respond then he stops communicating for hours then wants to pick up hours later or sometimes he doesn't respond at all and he works from home 🤔
If he text you now, don’t respond period!
What people aren’t understanding is that people need to minimize texting and communicating via phone and put more emphasis on actually seeing each other. What’s the point of texting or talking on the phone all day but y’all never see each other in person
That's true we need to improve our intimacy but you know due to COVID everything is virtual LOL
@@AlmasiDodson That’s facts but let’s be honest people been having this problem way before COVID.
Don't start a conversation if it takes too long for him to REPLY back, The computer says he is away,...SO ..I GO AWAY!
@@AlmasiDodson Can't catch COVID by chating...lol,lol
He with another woman most of the time
In my case, I believe he's in another relationship. Contacts me continually during his work hours and seldom any other time. We know each other(over twenty years) through a group we both participate in, but because of the pandemic, there have been no meetings. We're both seniors. I guess men never get tired of this game. SMH
Immature and broken people never get tired of playing games. It don't have anything to do with age.
Don't accept and enable this behavior!
That's mah smart girl hahaha
This doesn't bother me so much. As long as I get my answer. I know when he can reply quickly he does, when he can't he apologizes for the delay. Thanks Stephan ❤️
How re you doing wonderful, hope you good, lots of love from 🇺🇸...
Love that answer. That means when we go out on a date we have alot more to talk about because we haven't said every little thing through text or phone conversation
@@apostleinthemaking That's right, let's save some for the face to face conversation.
See , I like that response too. Also, the fact that my man can apologize about late texting is him realizing that it can be an issue, and he acknowledges you and your feelings for that. Alot of women play that game and don't even say "sorry, I was preoccupied etc.." they just play it off and use it as a test to see if we get too emotional about it. Dating has become mind game situation nowadays.
Apologizing for bad behavior is the norm and is accepted. Behavior must be corrected. Watch the apologies pile up.
He wasn't that interested... Thank you for the post it was confirmation for me.
Same 🥲
my ex-boyfriend use to say & I quote “I have 24hrs to 48hrs to get back to you” this happened frequently & one of the times I was stranded on the highway with flat tire going home from work late evening. I kindly ended the relationship after 2 years
I can relate. Esp when it’s the hardest of times and you really need someone to just be there...but they’re too busy to care or even notice seems like. I walked away also. I had just regular friends that cared more than he did really and who were there for me when he wasn’t. It was my wake up call. An invested man who REALLY cares would notice even the small things that bother us and would work to fix it or help us or simply just ease our worried minds. It was about nine months in for me.
Girl Good for you. You deserve someone who cares.
Straight up deleting his number right now thanks his not serious🙌🙌
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Fr lol
My favorite ones are the ones who wait 3-4 days to reply and all you get back for a reply is WYD.....
True❣
Who cares why? Why is this even a question? The question I want to ask is why would women feel the need to fill in the gaps of a man lack of integrity?
I have heard stories where women were upset when the guys they are seeing isn’t replying her text but to find the guys have all the time to be on Facebook and Instagram. I’ve dealt with this before myself. I dump him fast if he makes excuses and see him on Instagram and Facebook carrying it on. And on that final note, you can tell if he’s “read” my text or messages after text is delivered and on social media “seen” but doesn’t respond. Boy bye!!!! Got no time for Tom and Jerry games! 🙄 NEXT! 👉🏻
And when he do reply sometimes it's with the thumb deal like he can't talk or something like someone else is in his presence or something
Im a busy person and I have lost some women with this. Sometimes its me but sometimes I set dates and they think I don't like them or don't want to go and its like why would I set a date to take you out and just completely ditch you. Thats not integrity at all. Then I remember that some women haven't dealt with a man with integrity
@husband in Da making
I agree. We have a habit of lumping ALL in the same boat. There are some ppl who have multiple things going on in their life other than babysitting their phone, looking every 5 mins to see who called/text. As Stephen mentioned, the biggest issue is Communication; we have All this technology, and many Still Don't/or can't Communicate effectively, if you're busy at the moment, and can't respond back immediately, why not just communicate that/say that? ... It isn't always that the person isn't a priority, smetmes (for some) it means that you have a Whole Life, you aren't attached to your phone. .... It boils down to ppl Communicating with each other, and not just jumping to conclusions & assumptions ...
@@jazzyladyjae7669 o yeah I feel you on this.
bunneh87 big facts
Boom
I'm sorry I call bullsh@t on this comment. Integrity is also following through with what you said you would do. Setting up dates then cancelling them on multiple occasions because you're "busy" doesn't show integrity.
Everybody has multiple conflicting commitments. Whether is work, family, leisure or rest. It's very important to prioritise ALL your commitments accordingly. Building & maintaining relationships with family, friends & potential partners shouldn't always be taking a back seat to everything else. If you're constantly losing relationships with those around you then it's obvious that you don't have control over your own life.
Some people are really busy! I can't reply back as soon as I would like due to my profession. However if a man or woman is not interested then they should just be honest and say so. Stop playing games lol if you have a significant other than stop entertaining other people.
Yup! They’d rather you just “take the hint.”
Douchebags....
You never disappoint with your delivery!....am so glad I subscribed.....You really know how this works....I appreciate your indirect help..
He has a Ego thing going on so he doesn’t want to seem that he obligated to put you as his main priority.So he won’t respond as quickly as you want .I’m remaining confident in my self 🤷🏽♀️So It goes both ways.
This is facts. The ego thing has them representing a false narrative of themselves. My ex has started doing this so that he is perceived to be less interested than he is. Mind games. However, I’m healed enough to see what’s taking place in my situation.
He’s not interested!
You didn't even watch the video? Some men are really just that busy
I made my comment when he said comment down below as to why “I” think men take so long to respond. Yes you are absolutely right some are just busy as well as myself. Everything he stated was valid in my book.
@@jalyce ok I got you
Facts
This is hard. We put way too much emphasis on texting but then againnnnn shouldn't we since it's literally our primary way of communicating, so shouldn't we put emphasis on it 🤷🏾♀️?
The guy I like acts like he's doing something and that I should know he cares and is availabile to me when in reality he ain't doing ish. How can our perceptions be so different?? I've gotten weary of trying to figure it out and am attempting to move on.
Very important point on # 1 *Courtesy!* it goes a long way!
What annoys me is that he gets so annoyed if I do it to him and it's not even intentional, I might just be too busy too!
Uh, how are we supposed to talk to him about it if he won't even respond??!!
Hey Melynda.. You respond to him by living your life at the end of the day if a man is truly into he would respond to you in a sufficient amount of time.. if not move on its too much fish in the sea.. hope this helps
If a man takes so long to reply he doesn't love you that is why I started my channel to point all this out
Nice plug, sis....Lol😆
@@atlantasfaithsmom thank you..
Well how about if you are just getting to know him and didn’t meet in person yet? Obviously we are not talking about love!
I look at it like this if you're too busy for me don't pursue or talk to me. Delaying texts arevan excuse. If you get a text from your mom that she's sick or your child you won't delay because they are your priority. I don't believe in being busy you make time for what's important to you. That's simple
Unless you are SUPER busy like say you're a celebrity, a politician, or owning a company I would understand your time is limited. However, If you're always reaching out to him and not him to you, He's not placing you as his priority
How about Dr? He's taking two days reply 😕
Since when do women express themselves in a calm loving manner when they are pissed??
😂😂😂😂 C'mon @stephanspeaks LOL
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