Im 34 years old homeless man. Said my shahadath 6 years ago Al Hamdulillah. It helped me to stay alive. I don't have any relatives from young age so no help. Only streets and travelling When i feel down and hopeless i try to remember those who have much harder life. It helps me to be grateful for what i already have. Dua in the night can help a lot. May Almighty open ways with barakah for you. You still are young and intelligent. May Almighty help you to find your peace. Amin
btw i hope couple years later you will stitch to this video and compare this with your future self. i am interested to see where you are going and of course i'm wishing the best of luck to come to your way :D
Look my daughter, I am married and I have four children aging between 19 to 8. I am 44 yo and four years ago I started working in a special school mainly with children with autism and cerebral palsy bless them. Alhamdulillah it is the best thing in the world. The interaction with the student and their pure hearts warms my heart every day, adding to that we do have a lot of holidays and rest especially during summer. If I would encourage someone to work it would be working at a school especially women. May Allah make everything easy for you sister and plz take care of your mental health don’t let these fears drag you into depression. Pray to Allah make duaa and be sure that Allah swt will answer them .
@@mohamedshakir1642 I’m going through the same situation, but here’s the thing, just keep in mind that allah is the best of planers, and we as humans can’t understand that because of our limited minds, make duae, pray, ask allah ,and always keep tawakul, may allah bless you and help you find your dream job.
I was in a similar situation until I placed my trust in Allah (Tawakkul) and took action. I went out and searched for a job. At first, I worked as a security guard, but within a week, I became a school principal. You just need to have Tawakkul in Allah and take the first step. Trust Him and move forward with faith, sister.
@@harrypewpew901 he never really expanded on his background, for all we know this brother was perusing a guardianship role or some sort of educational position.
Unfortunately, most people hate their jobs and have since the dawn of time. It’s hard when you’re young, fresh out of school, and you find the “reward” is a job you hate. Most people find meaning in the life the job finances. It can feel like this generation has it worse than any until we think about how past generations had no weekends; they literally worked every day. Millions of people have been slaves, working for nothing more than to stay alive in a miserable existence. We are not here to be happy. We are here to serve God and inshallah, find happiness in the eternal. In our lives on earth, we will find both moments of happiness and pain. We should grasp into the good moments when we can. I hope this sister can see a counselor because she does seem depressed. A different framing of her life would be helpful. She could also explore why she feels men are “sick” so she doesn’t end up unconsciously proving herself “right.”
Like what? Like saying 'all men are sick'? 'I want to have a kid but I'm too lazy to take care of them'? 'I want a job but I'm too lazy to work'? Basically, wanting the power and freedom of an adult, but with the perspective and responsibility of a 10-year-old kid. I can understand when a 10-year-old girl says something like 'Ewww, all boys suck,' but a grown adult, especially a Muslim, can't throw out this lazy conclusion and get a pat on the back. All men are sick right, may Allah make her responsible against all men that's alive today that she slandered. Get married, bros, so you can stop simping and recover your lost brain cells when you hear illogical things uttered by a woman. This is insanity.
May Allah ease your affairs, sister, grant you success in your studies, provide a job that suits you, and bless you with a righteous, wealthy husband you are pleased with. O Allah, manage her matters for her. Do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Life requires effort, perseverance, and reliance on Allah. You must not give up, just as a ship sails in the vast sea and only sinks if water seeps into it, a person must navigate through life without allowing fear to seep inside, lest they drown. Mary, the mother of Jesus (peace be upon them), was in a difficult situation when she said, "I wish I had died before this and was forgotten and out of sight." Yet her reassurance came with the message not to fear or grieve and to eat, drink, and find comfort. May Allah grant you success and bless you with everything you wish for.
@@Hekabok Likewise, the story of Moses, peace be upon him, if we reflect on it, we can derive benefits such as prayer and reliance on Allah. The Qur'an contains many supplications, and in these verses, there is a supplication. (Qur'an 28:22-27) And when he directed himself toward Madyan, he said, "Perhaps my Lord will guide me to the sound way." And when he came to the water [i.e., well] of Madyan, he found there a crowd of people watering [their flocks], and he found aside from them two women holding back [their flocks]. He said, "What is your circumstance?" They said, "We do not water until the shepherds dispatch [their flocks]; and our father is an old man." So he watered [their flocks] for them; then he went back to the shade and said, "My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need." Then one of the two women came to him walking with shyness. She said, "Indeed, my father invites you that he may reward you for having watered for us." So when he came to him and related to him the story, he said, "Fear not. You have escaped from the wrongdoing people." One of the women said, "O my father, hire him. Indeed, the best one you can hire is the strong and the trustworthy." He said, "Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on [the condition] that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be [as a favor] from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allāh wills, from among the righteous." Moses, peace be upon him, made this supplication: "My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need." After this supplication, if we reflect on the verses, we see that Allah blessed him with things everyone seeks: 1. He blessed him with tranquility. 2. He blessed him with marriage. 3. He blessed him with a job. There are supplications in the Qur'an and in the Sunnah. Through supplication, the servant draws closer to Allah, and Allah grants His servant. Supplication requires persistence, consistency, and certainty.
She isn't the problem, the world is the problem 🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂ The world is the world, it is older than the entire humanity race, it is some billions years old, we, along with our entire history but a very very very very small fraction of it, so it is no the world it is people who are making it crazy...
i know its comforting to know that there are many people in your boat but you should hope the best for others may this hoping for another helps you get what you wish for always wish the best for other people
You are the realest person out there. We all feel this way. 8 hours of your day 5 days a week for 30+ years... wasted to make a rich man richer is not a life most of us want to live.
lmao "a rich man richer" yeah cuz you simply being a good girl and refusing to be brainwashed with their feminist come work as a slave deception and find a good man to wife you up that part is not your fault at all?
I don’t usually comment, but this video made me realize that a pure and relatable human expression is sometimes more helpful than a self-help book or a prescription. Imagine that out of the 16,000 that watched your video, many (over a thousand, imagine a room full of them) found it painfully relatable and felt comforted by the fact that someone shares that struggle with them. I personally needed this video because I’m at a crossroads between choosing my passion and continuing in a major that I hate just for the prospect of a decent salary, and the fact that you powered through something you don’t like at all is admirable, cause I can’t do that at all (maybe cause I’m an infj lol). Anyways I wish you and everyone else that shares this struggle the best of success, may we all actually live life rather than waste it trying to.
It's incredibly relatable. Seems to be a generational issue. I'm late 20s now, and somehow navigated this situation now. Whatevr brings you money/security, use that for now, but always be on the lookout to get closer to your goals. Learn a skillset through your job that yiu can open a business with somebody, network, and meet business people (and when you do, have something that you can add value to them...a skillset, network, just likable maybe with some) And that could be it :) (Keep your job while building it!) It'll take longer but such is life Gives you lemons, make Lemonade:)
I'm an infj too, got paid so low and am thinking about quitting this job , I've tried my best and put all of myself to it just to know that they don't even care about me, they just give me more work to do I have some business ideas, i need to try this for my own sake, who knows how it will turn out?😂
@@Ashbahc 100% Best thing to do is see whatver you've learned from your job, then use that in a business. Maybe partner up with somebody who has the business knowhow/network, and you the skills, and thats a great start! (Dont quit your job just yet :))) What work do you do btw?
I was majoring in biology my first semester of college because I thought it would make money. I learned that I didn’t like it and it wasn’t my passion. I would complain to other people about biology class. I also found biology to be more confusing than chemistry because biology has all these complicated processes you have to remember such as mitosis. I choose in the end to switch my bio class next semester to political science because I don’t want to deal with the stress of bio again and I enjoy politics more so I was like I might take a class in it and see if I want to major in it. I am also in the first year of college so it would less likely affect my graduation date to change my major. If you’re thinking of changing it the earlier the better. I’d say go with your passion more than what makes money, If you are doing something that doesn’t make you happy then don’t do it because it could cause more harm than good.
This video makes me realize that many people my age feel this way. I wasted 4 years after my graduation feeling this way, until I started wishing I was dead or something. I hate being lazy, but I can't accept working for 8 / 12 hours in a job that won't give me anything except a few dollars that are not even enough for my transportation. People tell me I am wrong, it started this way but then the salary will improve, but I can't do it. I feel you, and I think this is our generation's issue.
I mean with all the ai technology and evolution how are we still doing all this work and why we’re still so backwards? How are we still living the same with all the new discoveries and technologies? Something is so wrong!
That's why we need to go back to root. Starting business and all. Especially I can relate to her in some way cause I found myself ended up studying something that I don't particularly enjoy regardless I'm still doing it. And that makes me often question my decision and life choice. Which is why I believe we as young adults who's stuck in a conventional trend of school/university structure should have plans and ambitions of initiating any sort of business as long as it's halal and fair. We can't just relay on typical 9-5 mundane jobs this day and age.
I am just curious you rather take zero salary, than a salary? Are you using that time to build your own business, or some other form of income, because if you are not working or at least trying to do something else, your setting yourself to be someone else's problem.
33 MALE here soon to be 34, basic labour job partly my fault partly whatever life handed to me, dealing with ADHD as an adult, had massive operation and learning to live life again, bolding, never had a single adult relationship. Love kids but doesn't look it is going to happen. The world continues to move without me. house prices in my area are 1.2mil to own. Currently living with family in a 3 bedroom half house paying 800 a week rent. I feel your pain but I also recommend not to give up LIFE IS LIFE Some days will be good some days will be bad, shit happens smile enjoy the little moments, cry later sleep and repeat. we will all die one day and perhaps than might we experience some kind of true freedom.
27 here soon to be 28, working in a field I don't even understand for 2.5 years now, all because I dropped out of engineering because I was just overwhelmed. Alhamdulilah I am blessed but this is the life we've been dealt. We must keep hope and persevere my brother, Insha Allah we will get through these times
@@user-ik8jz3sn6s I am giving up but also being realistic about life. Thank u for the reply. unfortunately it has become extremely expensive to bring up a child, it is also extremely hard to find a partner. I still have high hope so fingers crossed
This makes myself as a Muslim man want to work 10x harder so I know I can fully fully cover my future wife's financial desires and needs. Stay strong sis life sometimes throws you around but I'm sure you will figure it out, most of us do in the end.
@@wawawuu1514 they can plan whatever life they wanted. If you wanted an independent wife that's ok, it's your right. But you got no right to questioning ppl choices, they know better.
Please don't cry my dear. You're going through a phase of realization that life will not be easy. This is normal, we all go through this. You will soon change your ways, become more outgoing and more ambitious to earn. Some women simply give up too early and end up with the wrong man for the wrong reasons. Please don't think all men are sick, i understand that our culture allows us men to be more controlling, but you can't say that all of us are bad. I wish you well my dear. You will find the success and happiness you are looking for, i am certain of it!
I felt the same way after graduation. But here is what helped me. Keep tawakkul in Allah Ask him...he is the provider...trust me you will get a job once you turn to him ....and that job will be much better than anything you imagine May Allah make your life easier. Aameen
She has either a business mindset or art mindset but definitely not job oriented she is. She doesn't want to work under somebody else's control and act as per other conditions. But unfortunately she has financial responsibilities that she wants to meet. Here she is stuck. I have faced the same issue.
@@guada.muslimah there are ways of freelancing jobs available to us fortunately. Under freelancing jobs, we can give flexible hours as per our convenience. We can take those projects which match with our skills. She has Alhamdulillah engineering skills which can be utilised well by being at home . My relative FAMILY who are software engineers , they have been doing work from home simply by being their own boss. They basically doing business of providing solutions and provide teaching courses as well. Well, i also managed somehow this way.
It's inherent to capitalism. Marx and Engels described this as (capitalist) alienation. It stems from the fact that the worker is not the one in control of the work process (because the boss is the one saying when, how much, what, etc etc) and neither does the worker receive an appropriate compensation, because the vast majority of what they produce is absorbed by the boss/capitalist, who only gives back a tiny percentage of it (otherwise there wouldn't be *any* incentive whatsoever to work for the boss, also workers that starve to death obviously can't work). Under capitalism, workers are as much alienated from the work process as they are paradoxically chained to it. Only when the workers own the means of production themselves can work be free of alienation and feel as meaningful and life-enriching and fulfilling as the things we do of our own liking (that's also a reason why the "Do something you love as your job and you'll never have to work a day in your life" advice isn't the perfect solution one may think at first). This is why socialism is in the objective interest of every working class person to fight for.
It seems like you’re going through a lot: 1) You studied a major you do not enjoy. So the job will not be enjoyable. 2) The salary for the job is too low to pay for your living. So you can’t even accept the job for money, because the money is not enough. 3) You have been unemployed which makes living much harder since money is needed. 4) There are no men in your life, and the ones you have met are sick. So you feel as though you cannot trust any man. At the same time you are expect to marry. 5) Having a child isn’t an option given the low salary. Overall she doesn’t feel in control of anything. She studied a major she doesn’t like, is jobless, and the potential salary is too low with no man to rely on. It’s a product of society pushing her down a path she didn’t fully choose.
@@aiquesono of course because if her family die she won't have anyone to financially support her that's why her family is putting too much pressure on her
You worded this well.. I feel quite a portion of Muslim sisters, in western society probably share these issues; she's just the only person who made a video on it SubhanAllah.
But life is about work but not saying solely. You can’t just have fun without work. An example is the food you eat, can’t have food if you don’t hunt or farm. Both requiring hard work.
You're completely right, girl. A 9-5 is just soul-crushing and not human-like. I personally love technology and coding, but it is completely fine that you don't and never let someone tell you otherwise. You can start by figuring out what you like doing and what you don't like doing and put them both in a list, and one by one make that list smaller by sorting them until you have a few or even one thing that you could try, and then go on to the next item on the list if it doesn't work out. Best of luck, and keep your genuine spirit!
@@WavesOfBelle pls recite LOTS of astaghfar, Allah says in Surah Nuh (Chapter 71: Verses 10-12): "And I said, 'Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is Forgiving. He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers and give you wealth and children and make for you gardens and make for you rivers.'" Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever increases his prayers for forgiveness, Allah will grant him relief from every worry, a way out from every hardship, and provide for him in ways he does not expect.” Musnad Aḥmad 2234
As a 34 year old, let me tell you it gets better. Main thing: don't give up, keep going, keep trying. Also, after some time, you'll see there was a lot of hidden benefit in a lot of things that you disliked but had to do. Like the Quran says, "Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know." Quran, 2: 216 rewording bc it was missing context: Every situation has pros and cons. I would say make the most of WHATEVER situation you are in. I keep missing my unemployed phase lately mainly because of the time I had!! I had time to reflect, time to take it easy . Now I have a job but NO time. But trying to be grateful that at least I can pay rent and afford basic necessities. rooting for you youngsters!! keep going.
You're saying a whole lot of nothing. In addition to that, what little actual advice you have is to hope the things she doesn't like may somehow turn out to be good. That's cynical and highly dubious advice, bordering on manipulative honestly: You're essentially saying she shouldn't trust her own feelings.
@@wawawuu1514 ?? what ???? i've been through those feelings too. it took me 12 years to finish college even though I was a star student top of the class in high school. YOUR comment is unnecessary. I was just trying to show there is light at the end of the tunnel
@@wawawuu1514 I have a job NOW in my 30s. I was unemployed and sitting at home for a year or two and that's not including the time I went back to school and also the minimum wage jobs I had. I'm not saying a whole lot of nothing everything I'm saying is based on experience.
@@wawawuu1514 crazy how people twist what you say. it aint manipulative. nobody needs to take my word and I'm not saying their feelings are invalid at all. it's just your negative lens interpreting it that way. honestly, was just trying to make it it easier to reframe the situation because it's easier to make progress when you are at peace. my life started changing when i practiced genuine gratitude even for the smallest blessings even in the most grim circumstances while still moving forward
Please this the same casce happend to me. So i can say u may have ADHD, u gatta start writting every tought u got even if u think that it may be silly if ur parents read it 😅, thats realy helped me thank god and start maniging ur thoughts better and get any think that is good to work as a muslim without thinking of how much mony it will get and allways be with god and understand why shoud u know more about him and be with him and work for the after life i'v been throw the same exactly the same even the level of english ur into 😅. And hope that allah will get us the best in this life and in the here after.
If you're feeling lost in your career search, the Japanese concept of ikigai can help guide you. Think of four overlapping circles: what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. Where all these intersect is your ikigai - your ideal path that combines passion, mission, profession, and vocation. Finding opportunities that check multiple boxes can help point you toward fulfilling work, even if you can't hit all four circles right away.
Why is this video so relatable? 😭😭 I cry about the same things, work, the system, men and marriage, career doubts, unemployed, I don't want to work either!! 😢 May Allah make it easy for us. Thank you for your vulnerability sis ❤
@@Stangirlgroups-e6h Are you Muslim? In Islam, it is encouraged to get married as soon as you can. You shouldnt delay it so that you can fulfill your desires in a halal way. Especially in this twisted world where things like p*rn are so widespread.
its quite interesting that this is the reality of so many youth nowdays. A life cycle of 9-5 everyday ,six days a week, its very tiresome and so many people are struggling with this. Belle , continue finding what might work for you.
1:00 Same here, girl ... I’m a doctor, I studied medicine and now every day I ask myself, what am I doing here? I don’t want to pursue this profession but what’s the solution? I have no alternative .. i share many tears with you .. 💔
Final year medical student here about to take his final exam. How I wish I'm at her place right now to be in the tech field and already own a decent job. At least that's what I think the situation she's in right now. Lecturers/ Supervisors/ Doctors have asked me before on why I wanted to become a doctor. Told them I wanted to help people. Like really help people. To join doctors without borders and do voluntary work or something similar. They told me I was lying, that I'm bullshitting. That most doctors would only seek for financial gain no matter what they tell other people. That being a doctor is only to specialize in the most competitive field and be the richest/coolest doctor from the rest. That regardless of my goal and intention, there is something inside me that only seek meaningless money than the pleasure of curing, easing patients' pain. I started asking myself. The more I ask, the more lost I feel. I'm trapped. Should I continue or should I drop it. If I continue and succeed what's the next one to come? Should I listen to people. If I don't, am I still naive to be thinking that my intentions were clear and genuine. Maybe they were right.
@@DaniZannie I am facing a very similar dilemma right now. I want to help people in my job, so I have been considering PA school, since its a lot shorter than the normal medical school route. But I am currently doing CS and Engineering (double major) and I am afraid of landing a job that I feel is very useless. However, I have also considered working in medicine related tech like engineering articifial hearts, x-ray machines, etc. because I feel like that work would be so fulfilling. I have also thought about being in the cybersecurity field for a hospital. After all, if they aren't digitally protected, then doctors and surgeons can't really do much.
@@daidai1048 if you are in your last year I say finish it. And then take a break to discover what you want to do. it doesn’t have to be in the medical field. it can be anything. but at least you will have your degree to fall back on if you decide later on you still want to continue that way.
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen, you are a brave and special woman, you are not crazy, this world is. We all have been through what you are going through right now, have trust in Allah and be patient, optimistic and positive about life. We Muslims never lose hope and faith in Allah, this is a test from Allah, Inna Maa Losri Yosra. It will surely get better in the future, mark my words, enjoy your journey, don't dread it or run away from it. May Allah SWT ease your pain and grant you whatever it is that you wish. Ameen.
Tbh I thought the opposite she looked like crazy(I'm serious) because there is sooo many problems of people on this world but they don't always cry and wine about it on RUclips
You are a free spirit! I can totally relate! I am INFJ personality type! A close demographic! You need time out of the system! Everyone is stuck in the system, most of them complain about it, yet they still contribute to make the system still function the same way! They’re trapped! You need to figure out an escape plan! A part time job for instance! Working from home! Content creation for instance! The best thing is that you are questioning the system aloud! This is courageous! You are on the right way!
Im a 32 year old male, INTJ and I can relate/feel your pain as well. working in tech dealing with stress and burnout not wanting to work but feeling the obligation from family and society to work. In addition the pressure to find a partner to marry as I am getting older. Life just sucks. :(
I feel the pressure too. My body and soul feel so tired. I'm 26 years old. I have a job but this job is not my real job. I' m working 6 days on the week and they pay a low wage. I can only rest ONE DAY.
I don't understand how people find their partner with truly . Will I find someone who I always love him and who always love me? I don't know. I have a anxious.
I understand what you are going through! I am 32 yrs old an INFJ-T & Pisces ♓️😂 in an enlightenment phase of my life where I know a 9-5 job is not humane! This video speaks my emotions. But anyway, in regards to your situation. I suggest checking the things you feel drawn to, go to places where you find ppl like you! you might find someone there! I hope you are not in a culture and society norms that limits your freedom? - I think if you live in Europe it is easier to go to social gatherings to meet someone in a place of common interest.
Girl the fact that I understood you perfectly 🥹 you're not alone in this, this is literally my everyday struggle. It's like we have two options, either get a job that's too stressful and exhausting to the point we barely have time and energy for anything else, or instead stay at home and thus have no money nor productivity (maybe even marry the wrong person and suffer).. it's pretty sad but I really hope things get better for you sis. Please stay strong!! ❤❤
What islamically the second point is better in my opinion as the problem lies with what the western narrative has fed us that MONEY MONEY it's nothing don't make it your God A man earns money for the family the money is for everybody and what do u mean by no productivity? And marrying the wrong person? Umm hello ever heard of divorce? I just wanted to say we all are suffering because we are not going according to god's plan
*I used to have burnout probelm. I wasn't able study at all.I couldn’t give invest my time on skill development. I literally used to cry for this burnout everuday😢.Then someone said,pray Tahajjud and Dua yunus that are very powerful and miraculous.Then I started to do it and pray with all my hearts😢.Alhamdulillah I feel some energy and confidence now.Everyday I'm having some appreciation and that is makeing me feel more passionate. So Trust on Allah and pray❤*
You should continue making videos like this, I am sure there are many people around the world who relate to your situation and can help you build a new path. Also, keep on expressing yourself freely don’t let these emotions accumulate inside yourself. Trust in the plan of Allah and no you are not a crazy person.
Why? So you can swim in negativity thinking you're being productive just so you have an excuse to run away from the things you need to do to get the things you want to have? No
I suffer from the same problem. I work 14 hours a day, and I do not like the job, and the salary is very low. Yesterday, I turned 23 years old, and I feel that I am losing a lot of my life and my passion, and I am moving away from doing the things that I love and in which I am creative. Edit : If you know of any good job opportunities I’m available and would also appreciate any help in supporting my brothers and sisters
Dear women, you have brain intelligence, talents and great capabilities to develop and advance in it not to suspresse it and cancel it. All of us have a fied where we are interested art science sport politics..... So, for example, if you like painting start paint and develop yourself to painting on canvas you can become a successful artist, if you like fashion you can learn how to design and make wandering fashion designs, if you like science invent scientific things or medicines... and so on, don't suspress and undermine and cancel your intelligence passion talents and great capabilities in the literary, scientific and artistic fields.
Dear women, you have brain intelligence, talents and great capabilities to develop and advance in it not to suspresse it and cancel it. All of us have a fied where we are interested art science sport politics..... So, for example, if you like painting start paint and develop yourself to painting on canvas you can become a successful artist, if you like fashion you can learn how to design and make wandering fashion designs, if you like science invent scientific things or medicines... and so on, don't suspress and undermine and cancel your intelligence passion talents and great capabilities in the literary, scientific and artistic fields.
@@Elizabeth78946 Yup we should try to use our individual skillset and talents we all have to make a good living for ourselves, but it is not always so easy in many countries especially in developing! On a different note, the videos on the playlist on my channel titled 'Purpose of Life?' might change someone's life for the better!
The money system isn't a fair system. It benefits a few , while most work their time away just so the system leaders will let them survive. It is normal to feel that this system is not normal.
لا تحزني يا اختي انا خرجت من المدرسة لهذا السبب والان بعد ٦ سنوات من تركي حالتي النفسية افضل بفضل الله . ادعي لله ان يخرجك من الغم الي انتي فيه و يختار لك الطريق و يعينك . لابد بعد العسر الفرج
You have no idea how much I can resonate with what you are going through. I hated coding at one point of my life, and then did IT systems which involves more of customer facing role rather than actual coding, it involves technology in an interesting way. I can say one thing for sure - NO you are not alone, and NO this situation won't last. You will ultimately come out of this bubble and will find something you will like to do.
one of the main struggles our generation, perfectly explained. Even if we get the job, most of us will get bullied, they also take advantage of you, they treat you disrespectful and pay you not enough to afford yourself an independent life, then health issues add up, and then you'll find yourself in a position where you ask yourself, is this shit I'm forcing myself through really worth my lifetime? Isn't there something that specifically for me to accomplish? Something that will also benefit other and myself? I'm currently in the same situation as this beautiful young woman. So I said to myself, I don't care anymore, I just do whatever I like. I take the risks. If I fail then so be it, Then I try something else. But every single day I have to force myself to not give up. And this is by far the hardest part. I wish really from my heart to everyone just the best, may whoever reads this, find success and fulfillment in whatever they are doing. May everyone be blessed and life in a home where they have peace, harmony, and happiness. It is not easy, it is hard but refuse to give up my friend. Keep going, keep trying, till you find what you have been looking for, and remind yourself to be patient because sometimes it can take years. This young beautiful woman had the guts to share such a heartfelt genuine message, I respect her for that very much. Not everyone has the courage to do that.
MashaAllah, sister. I felt stuck too, so I poured my heart out to Allah and found your video!! I truly understand what you're going through. As an INFP, I struggle with reality and feel like I'm losing myself, but I can’t quit my job, especially in these tough times. I honestly don’t know how I survived this year, especially with all the bad moments, but through it all, I’ve held onto the reminder that Allah is always with us. Life is difficult, so we need to take it one step at a time. Please don't feel like you're all alone. Keep holding on-you are stronger than you think. One step at a time, and trust that Allah will guide you through ❤
relatable , don't worry, it is the same everywhere, just keep in mind that you need to choose what you like and what you want to do with your life. May Allah guide all of us!
i am so glad that the algorithm led me to this video. it was on my recommended page, and i clicked initially because i thought it was just gonna be a simple rant video, but after watching i felt like my feelings were validated. i mean, i was already aware that people around my age must be going through this too but seeing someone out there, crying and talking about it, made me feel less alone. we are gonna get through this!!! i dont dream of labor too girl 😭
I can't put all my thoughts in this comment, but i want to tell you, the fact that you realize, and trust me when i say this as a fellow sister, so so so many sister do not realized this this and are happy or conditioned to waste their time and years into jobs and pleasing others without ever realizing what they are losing. So the fact that you realize this, is a blessing from Allah. May Allah guide you and guide us. And may Allah grant you ease.
الله ييسر أمورك حبيبتي. كثير منا مثلك نواجه هذه المشاكل. أعملي ما في وسعك، وتوكلي على الله. وإذا قررتي على فعل شيء لكسب وربح مال، إفعليه بإذن الله، وصلي استخارة. وإذا لديك شيء بسيط تعطين، تصدقي به. فالصدقة ترجع لك بأضعاف بإذن الله. حتى إذا لم تستطيعين فعل ما ذكرت، أنصحك خاصة قبل الفجر أن تصلي صلاة التهجد. هذا الوقت التي تكلمي ما في قلبك إلى ربك، وتبكين إليه، وتسألي منه. أسأل الله أن ييسر علينا، ويفرحنا، ويسهل علينا، ويقوينا في كل شيء، ويرزقنا، ويعطينا حتى نرضى. آمين.
My sister.. This is the first time I've seen you, you have a beautiful heart and believe me, you're not the only one feeling these disturbing emotions, I have 25 years and I completely understand you. But believe me, you have the time and opportunity to change your situation for the better!! God bless your age and health ❤❤
This is the most relatable video I have ever seen on RUclips. Thank you for making this video. ❤ Honestly I felt like I was the only one feeling like this, and I was too ashamed to speak about it.😢 May Allah ease your burden, and grant you success in both financially and socially.
Türk olduğun oflamandan belli. Deli değilsin kız, sadece depresifsin. Çalışmadığın sürece işe yaramaz hissediyorsun. Bilgisayar mühendisi isen zekisin muhtemelen. Ya da çalışkan. İkisinden biri olmadan kazanıp okuman çok zor burda. Çok güzel bir meslek ama sevmemek elbette ki zor. Bir süre bir işe girip başka konularda ilerleyebilmek için para biriktirebilir ve daha mutlu olduğun şeyleri yapmaya gayret edebilirsin. Tertemiz birisin, hüsnüzanda bulunuyorum tabii ki seni tanımıyorum ama belli bence. Her neyse, duygusal zekan da yüksek. Herkesin peşinde koştuğu bir mesleğe sahip olmak ama onu sevmemek şükürsüz biriymişsin gibi hissettirip sende fazladan bir manevi yüke dönüşüyor olabilir. Bende olmuştu. Ama sevmiyorsan sevmiyorsundur, bu şekilde yaşamak yani ömrünce sevmediğin bir mesleği yapmak zorunda kalmak eminim ki çok zordur. Yaşamak istiyorsak alternatifler bulmaya çalışmalıyız. Hiç iş tecrüben oldu mu bilmiyorum? Belki de düşündüğün gibi olmayacaktır... Bu arada iş ortamı yani açıkçası benim kötü insanlarla tanıştığım yer oldu. Ama her yer benimki gibi olmak zorunda değil. Denemekten ne çıkar? Allah gönlüne ferahlık versin.
The state of confusion you're going through must be so so hard for you. like it's a point in life where you start doubting your decisions you start to think whether I've chosen the right field of study, whether it's the right job for me, whether I'm at the right stage of life. And also life around us is a hustle and everyone's after that. Hustle or else you're nothing! Aah this competition this hustle culture is literally robbing people out of happiness! It must be so so hard for you. And it's okay to feel this way, your feelings are genuine and I really appreciate the courage you have to be vulnerable and accept what you really feel! It takes a lot of courage to be honest with yourself. And yes it does happen that at stages of life you're so confused but that doesn't mean you're behind. Allah SWT blesses us at different stages in life and how and when someone will be blessed differs from others. You have your own pace girl, you're exploring, learning and you'll reach there at the place you're meant to be InSha Allah ❤. Don't care about others moving ahead! You're learning exploring, and it's not always necessary to make the right choices sometimes we make the wrong ones leading us to the right ones! One advice I would give you is to never stop learning, if you hate coding try some other creative ways to learn coding. Try doing free lance work and do home based jobs with flexy hours. Also you can take a break from your job as well! And relax at home. And it's entirely okay to feel confused at times. It is very normal. Do it one step day by day and InSha Allah you'll get there! I'll pray for you May Allah SWT make things easy for you and make your dreams come true Aameen SumAameen
لقد حاولت ترجمة ما كتبته للتو. أعتقد أن الكثير منا كانوا في نفس الموقف. يبدو أن حالة الارتباك التي تمر بها صعبة للغاية بالنسبة لك. إنها مرحلة طبيعية في الحياة حيث تبدأ في الشك في قراراتك وتبدأ في التفكير فيما إذا كنت قد اخترت مجال الدراسة الصحيح، وما إذا كانت الوظيفة المناسبة لك، وما إذا كنت في المرحلة الصحيحة من الحياة. كما أن الحياة من حولنا تتمحور حول العمل الجاد. العمل أو لا تعتبر شيئًا! آه هذه المنافسة، هذه الثقافة السامة تسرق الناس حرفيًا من السعادة! يجب أن يكون الأمر صعبًا للغاية بالنسبة لك. ولا بأس أن تشعر بهذه الطريقة، فمشاعرك صادقة وأنا أقدر حقًا الشجاعة التي لديك لتكون ضعيفًا وتقبل ما تشعر به حقًا! يتطلب الأمر الكثير من الشجاعة لتكون صادقًا مع نفسك. نعم، يحدث أنك في مراحل الحياة تكون مرتبكًا للغاية ولكن هذا لا يعني أنك متأخر. يباركنا الله سبحانه وتعالى في مراحل مختلفة من الحياة وكيف ومتى يبارك شخص ما يختلف عن الآخرين. لديك وتيرتك الخاصة يا فتاة، فأنت تستكشفين وتتعلمين وستصلين إلى المكان الذي من المفترض أن تكوني فيه إن شاء الله ❤. لا تهتمي بتقدم الآخرين! أنت تتعلمين وتستكشفين، وليس من الضروري دائمًا اتخاذ الخيارات الصحيحة، وأحيانًا نتخذ خيارات خاطئة تقودنا إلى الخيارات الصحيحة! إحدى النصائح التي أود أن أقدمها لك هي ألا تتوقفي أبدًا عن التعلم، إذا كنت تكرهين البرمجة فحاولي بعض الطرق الإبداعية الأخرى لتعلم البرمجة. حاولي القيام بعمل مستقل والقيام بأعمال من المنزل بساعات مرنة. يمكنك أيضًا أخذ استراحة من وظيفتك أيضًا! واسترخي في المنزل. ولا بأس تمامًا من الشعور بالارتباك في بعض الأحيان. إنه أمر طبيعي جدًا. افعلي ذلك خطوة واحدة يومًا بعد يوم وستصلين إلى هناك إن شاء الله! سأدعو لك، أسأل الله سبحانه وتعالى أن يسهل عليك الأمور ويحقق أحلامك آمين ثم آمين
@@Miranda-uf7xb what do you mean ? did spend 6 years drifting from one thing to another or did you pursue one goal and you are not remotely close to your goal ?
Soooo relatable. I think you are Turkish from your accent. Because I studied Industrial engineering in Turkey(I am Moroccan) and I feel the exact same way you feel about it. I tried an office job and that from 8 until 7 pm hhh and that really tired me. It feels like losing time and health at same time because of sitting all day facing the radiations of the screen. Just 2 months later I quiet. I really got it and I wish for me for you for any one who faces same feelings or bad situations peace, healing and receiving Allah gifts soon inshallah.You are not alone.
This is so relatable I feel like you're talking about what's on my mind these days. I just graduated from uni with a bachelor degree and before graduation, I already knew I'm not suitable to work on a career related to my degree. I still don't have a job to this day, and all I do to keep going and not losing my mind is to join online classes. I'm grateful that I'm fortunate enough to have parents who can support me enough financially to even be in this situation and not having to work my ass off immediately after graduation because I desperately need money. But it's really tough. The mental pressure is real. Just know that you're not alone, and this isn't entirely your fault that your life is this way. Thank you for sharing your life with this video, I hope life will be kinder to you in the future.
You’re not depressed. You’re trying to stay true to yourself in a world that thrives off people’s misery. I hope you find what you’re looking for soon ❤
You are not dramatic, you are not romanticizing everything, and I'm saying this because I'm going through the exact same pain despite the different circumstances and I really feel you, my eyes teared up too when I saw you crying. I'm like you, I hate working and studying and existing around strangers and the only thing I want at this point is to get married with a good man and raise my children and have them memorize all the quran insha'allah and fulfill the goal of being a good muslim woman and a wife. I'm a 19 yo girl and I have been working for the last 6 months of my life as well as go to university everyday as well as professional training. I hate my university major (industrial pharmacy) and I hate my job because I'm autistic and I hate talking to strangers especially men, I have chronic loneliness and I fall into autistic shutdown/meltdown every month due to stress of existing with strangers. The salary is considered low but I'm not a demanding person much so after I bought myself the necessary things like a coat for winter and house stuff for my family I stopped seeing the meaning in the money I own except for when giving it to other people. I don't see myself as a lazy person, I'm on the other extreme of being a bit workaholic juggling all my responsibilities even tho I hate every single one. I'm muslim and I'm considered attractive by men (personally I think I'm average looking but whatever) and I get a lot of confessions everywhere, in work in university in family and even in social media despite I never show my face (they say my personality is "unique" but it really is just autism) but I reject everyone because I hate how indirect some men can be and I would only accept someone who comes straight to my family and ask in a halal way because it's hard for me to understand the intentions of others due to my autism therefor I'm unable to trust any man and I want the direct and honest ones only not the cheesy flirty ones. I'm not writing this as a vent, but rather to explain to you that even if you had a job and you had the money and you had tens on men fawning over you you'd still hate existing in this world too. Because the way I think of it, is that the fault truly is within this life as it is not supposed to be what we exist for, it is but a mere temporary station to get tested in this life and so afterwards go to heaven with our creator insha'Allah where we truly belong. No matter what we have in this life, it will never make us feel good. The only thing that would make us feel good is our connection with Allah despite the hard situation we go through. And no matter what we have in this life, we all gonna die eventually and nothing is permanent, the money the job the people we love the pain the achievements we do the failures we do and even us our families and our loved ones. Everyone and everything will perish eventually, the only permanent being is Allah. Those who attach themselves for something temporary will perish with it as well, and those who attach themselves to something permanent (Allah) will stay permanent in heaven with him ameen May Allah easen your heart sister and make you feel better despite the hardships, I really understand you and I thought I was the only one but apparently not. May Allah grant us all jannah ameen
Same girl same You spoke all of us, literally I graduated as the top student in my class and the whole faculty so i have the chance to be tenured as a teaching assistant, which I'm really grateful to, but let's face it, i don't want it, i hate teaching, i hate dealing with students, i hate preparing notes and explaining the course in layman's term and then a sassy student shouts out saying he didn't understand or ask weird questions just to embarrass and bullies me, i hate them, i hate the higher ones in the uni and how they treat us, i hate my colleagues because some of them enjoy giving others especially the junior ones a hard time just to prove that they're the seniors and they're the best and I'm just a loser who don't know anything yet and gullible enough they laugh at But I'm doing master's, so i have to work, i have to accept this work because there are no available jobs here especially the tenured ones are super impossible it's only possible in cases like me, so it's a gift i worked hard for, but do i like it? No, do i enjoy it? No, does it satisfy me? Hell no, but i have to I hate it, i hate myself and hate myself more for not loving it, I'm even worried i may not do well in it so i panic more, but I'm doing master's which i love but at the same time is a big deal and a tremendous responsibility which i fear of because it all depends on me so i need to study for it very well and research more, and i have to work to spend on it and on ky expenses and so I hate going outside, i hate the sight of people, i just don't like it Too many hours to work and too little salary compared to the job done as well Imagine working 6 days a week, ranging between 8-6 and 9-4, just imagine, how come can i balance between these two and when i will reach home after this long day? 1-2 HOURS CAR RIDE! As if being exhausted from all this rough day isn't enough! But girl, i think we should leave emotions aside for a while and suck it up and just do it even tho we hate it, we need to face it just for the sake of the money to be financially independent and maybe afterwards we can switch gears or something, reality is tough but we have to do it, i ask Allah to ease it for us because suffer isn't avoidable but we can choose what we can suffer for on how much we can get from it, we have to choose our suffering very well that eventually will turns out good or will pay off well! Good luck to all of us!
I felt that I had to comment because I felt you on so many levels, sister. I'm also a hijabi Muslim btw, 23F. I've always hated the idea of being a slave in the corporate world, but I also know that for now, I have no choice since I was born in a financially struggling family. Just like you, I felt so hopeless many times but I'm also a very hopeful (a.k.a delulu) person. I hate working, but we need money, so I have to. What sucks though is that we are incredibly underpaid in our country. I'm in the accounting field but the salary is very low here especially for entry-level jobs (I live in Southeast Asia), even though I know that I'm a competent person. Sometimes I just wish to get married asap so I don't have to work.. lol. (I'm an INFP so I'm hopeless romantic too, lol). But yeah, I know marriage is scary, especially if you hasten it coz you won't know that person well. Also, I have high standards, but in order to meet my standards, I need to be of high standards as well.. Gotta build myself first, hence, I need to work, lol. Felt super anxious during those times when I just quit my job and was searching for new ones. I somehow realized that it's not really that I just hate working, it's probably that I'm not in the right field although I may be good at it.. I like fulfilling jobs where I could help people and feel their gratitude.. But yeah, then again, I have no choice right now but to make money, lol. May Allah make it easy for all of us. 🤲🥹🤍
I feel you, everybody goes through this stress especially those who hate their job. you're so brave for filming this & don't cry, you're strong, you got good energy. just follow you're passion. from a man who's not sick: YOU'LL SUCCEED, I HAVE TRUST IN YOU.❤
Hey, I'm your older sis (INFJ). Don't worry okay, everything will be alright. Yes you will earn money in a way that you enjoy!! There are so much nicer jobs than sitting at an office. I enjoyed teaching (adults). Enfp's are creative, just take your time, your youtube channel is already a great start. Also there are amazing men out there, and this is coming from someone who was in an abusive marriage and now happily married, with a husband who supports my dreams. I started my own company but it's not working out well. But I learned a lot and I will keep trying until I find out what I love most and what I'm best at. Please don't cry okay❤
@@zzz-wx7jr It takes time. For someone just starting out in life, give yourself some time and give yourself some grace. Everything works out well eventually. It may seem overwhelming in the beginning, it gets better with time. Don't give up!!! As a young person, time is your best resource, and time is all that you have, really.
Hey, I completely understand what you're going through because I feel the same way. At 24 I feel lost. I don't know what I should be doing with my life. I know I have to find a job, somehow earn some money so that I don't have to worry about the next meal. But life has been so overwhelming. I went through a very hard time, especially after my father had passed away. I had depression and I was in a very bad state for so many years. I've just started coming out of that state of mind. My advice is take one small step at a time. Do one thing that is gonna help you feel better, like you're actually doing something to improve your life. Even waking up early and praying a Sunnah prayer, or reading a bit of Quran helps. Even if it's cooking something you like, it helps. Anything to make you feel like you're doing something to improve your life bit by bit. I think this existential problem exists within our generation because life has become so hard these days. It's hard to live especially with skyrocketing expenses while earning a meagre salary. I feel you :( I wish I could tell something to comfort you but honestly, I feel terrible myself too. But let's not lose hope. In Sha Allah, everything will turn out well. We are not burdened more than what we can bear. May Allah make it easy for us, dear. Ameen.
I really feel you and this video was a little bit shocking for me since i thought i'm the only one who know this , but literally the comments here are so heartwarming and i realised it's a phase , i loved all the advices here , Allah bless you all جزاكم الله خيرا
Hi sister, I don’t know if you will see my message (I hope you do).. but I really relate to you in a deep level it is almost scary 😅I never thought someone out there had the same experience as me (let alone is able to talk about it, you are so brave because I am scared to even tell my family). I recently graduated from the world’s No. 1 university with a good degree in politics and finance, so AlhamduliAllah. But finance bores me and scares me and politics is stressful and frustrating with how the current world is going.. so.. I can’t see myself in either field. I am not money oriented but more value driven.. for years I followed what others thought is good for me, but now I am an adult and lost my sense of self completely. For the past year I have done nothing with myself except be very exhausted, lack any motivation and be extremely fearful about taking a step forward. I had an opportunity to go into a high paying field.. but the job conditions were highly stressful and not welcoming to my kind, so I declined even if I feel guilty for my family. I want to be a civil servant (in education or domestic policy related field) but I was too scared to take the exam.. I lack confidence in myself and feel very depressed, scared and hopeless. I don’t know why. I know this might be a momentary thing and I might feel better in the future but I sense my age increasing and my willingness to do anything decline as the months go by.. similar to you, I can’t think of marriage nor children even though I am nearing my mid-20s and have a responsibility of being oldest daughter of my family. I really want to cry sometimes but I can’t, I feel selfish if I try to complain to anyone or voice my opinion. You are so brave for having the courage to even record this and post it into the word, I wish I had a portion of your courage sister ❤ Thank you for being vulnerable and making me realise that I am not alone! Also, I am ENFP :) I think our kind value our freedom, are easily burnt out/ hurt and not like following a strict system with out decent values 😊 I wish both you and me the best and Inshallah we both find our calling sooner or later
Subhanallah this video was so relatable. I thought I was the only one with this problem but now I realize I'm not. In my case, I always give myself power thinking that this is only a passing life, where we won't be held accountable by the money we've made or how rich we've got, but by our actions and good deeds. I see you're a wonderful person sister, so stay strong, and keep Allah in your mind
Girl you're amazing and you don't even know it. I can relate to everything you're saying. No you're not crazy, this world is crazy. But you also might be experiencing a mild depression, or burnout or just a good old existential crisis cause you just graduated. I applaud you for being so honest with yourself, a lot of people just bury that deep down and then go about the rest of their lives miserable and on autopilot. Working 9-5 with a low salary is not it. It feels like you're just slaving away your whole life. You know what helped me get out of that crisis? Try to figure out what you really want to do, what's important to you, and what your dream life would be if you could choose freely. Then think about ways that you can make that life happen for yourself. And if you can use you software degree somehow to get that life, then why not? For me it took getting completely burnt out to realise what's important to me in my life. And now I'm determined to use my degree to fulfill those dreams. May Allah bless you and enlighten your journey dear. Don't forget to ask Him for guidance, He can turn every situation around, even when it feels really dark ❤
I loved the video, it has a lot of feelings and a lot and a lot of problems that all young people live through, but not many of them speak in front of the camera in this bold way, and I want to tell you not to worry, everything will be fine, God willing. I also hate work and jobs in general, and I also love money and I cannot do without it, so I must work and get a job and try as much as possible to love this job. I want to tell you something good, that this life is not for comfort and joy, but for work and diligence, and life is full of difficulties, and I want you to remember that comfort and eternal happiness will be in heaven, God willing.
I totally understand what you are saying my dear. I went through what you are going through now 3 years ago. I quit my job and now I make money from RUclips but it’s not as much as I did when I was working 9-5. But at least I have time for myself and I am not miserable because of working 5 days a week. Since you already have a channel you can continue to make videos and that way you can make money. You are very charismatic and I am sure you will get more subscribers with time. Good luck! ♥️
Don't cry and don't worry every thing will be ok , this life is not good for good people believe me , always remember that. Do what you can and Allah will help you.
Seriously girl, I was thinking all the stuff other night, I felt congested, no hope, I was talking to Allah for all my efforts and still getting nothing in life. You just spoke my heart out. I really liked you, you have the guts and you are original. I saw myself in you but you are much younger as compared to me. I have had been through a lot till now. Life is struggle. Every age group has their own insecurities. No one feels safe in this world.
I've spent the past seven years living under my parents' roof, avoiding work and major responsibilities. Next year, I'll turn 30, and it feels like time has slipped through my fingers. In Morocco, living with your parents until marriage is the norm, but marriage isn’t something I want either. Honestly, I struggle with laziness and the fear of taking on responsibilities I might not be able to handle. Life feels overwhelming and unpredictable. Money is essential to live with dignity, yet the job market is bleak, and even if opportunities existed, I lack the motivation to make a change. All I truly want is to feel mentally okay and have the support I need to navigate this uncertain path.
Man... our country is such a 💩hole , we literally have the worst educational system , not studying with our native language , 0 guidance and a toxic society.
@@fictionaddiction4706 I tried working online, it never worked, and i can't find work here in my country! so it leaves me with playing video games, and do nothing! i have no direction in life
You are not dramatic at all! In the world of too much chaos, loud noises and overly glamorous lifestyle of influencers, this video is pure human emotion and so raw. which I completely relate to. I am always asking the same questions, why do I need to work so much? Specially in this era the way everyone puts so much importance on making money and doing so much work, I never relate to this. I see so many young people making videos like I became a millionaire at the age of 20 ughh! Ok good for you.. but it makes me question a lot of things. Life is so uncertain, I have spent half of my life hustling. I had to move away from my family so I can make more money.. but in the end all I wanted was to spend more time with my family. I am always working and then I am so tired that I don’t get time to live. My parents are getting old, I am getting old. I sometimes feel like I want to disappear..all I wanted was to live but I am just surviving..
@@horroscopebyb778exactly, never understood this tendency to circle the edges and say something flawful is perfect. IT IS NOT, you should not lie like that, but it in fact is completely fine not being perfect. Kuddos man
My sister, the world is full of fatigue. I was also like you, but I came to the conclusion that there is only one thing: ALLH did not create the Donia for us to rest in. Rest is in Jnaa Inshaallh❤❤.
He also didn't create us to experience lifelong slavery. Why should the unique gifts He has bestowed on each one of us not be valued? Why should our value be determined by economic productivity and not who or what we are as people and the inherent value Allah swt gave us?
@AffectionateSeaOtter I don't disagree with you, but as for negative feelings, they exist so that we can be patient with them in this Donia and receive the reward in the Jnaa. ALLH did not create anything in vain, even negative feelings do not exist in us in vain.
That’s really not the problem at all, I’ve been thinking about everything you’ve said and I feel soo stressed and overwhelmed. I quit my difficult 12 hour shift to do something easy, then everyone started telling me and also myself that it’s not a real job. I’ve been jobless for almost 10 months now. I’m scared and I have mental health issues, I want to work but im scared of the commitment to work. I know I should prioritise other things but I want to live - I have one life (this one that I know now) and I want to prioritise myself in it. I am recently just finding myself, I lost myself for all these years and wanted to die. I recently started admiring life and want to be here. Actually here. I am so grateful but also feel like a burden. Thank you and I hope you will read this ❤️
I’m so stressed , life is stressful, studying is stressful but you are not stressful. You are raw and honest and a joy to watch❤ Sending you love sister
Only if u know what "not stressing consciously" will do to your whole self , u'll not be stressing right now. U got this dear❤ just remember no matter what worst happen in life , not stressing is the key
As someone else said in the comments, you are saying EXACTLY what most of us are thinking! May Allah (swt) help all of us in this situation. We understand you loud and clear!! Sending lots of Duas to everyone here!
Yeah, same thought. I am also a university graduate student. I don't want to work because it's so tiring but I have no option, there is only me and my mom, and my mom is getting older everyday and I am seeing her having pain as a sign of her aging. I want to give back to all those people who have helped me, especially my mom because she was the one who struggled the most for me. She has no job at all but she sells any food that she can make just for us to make a living. But also, of course I always thanked Allah for giving me ability to become a scholar in my school and was able to finish my studies tho life was for me, only Allah knows. Now, I have a job. But just like in her video, I don't want to work because it's tiring and has a low salary but still, I'm thankful. I will stay in my job for now until I found a better one, In sha Allah. I believe the help of Allah is near, just keep asking and don't give up. Allah Kareem.
I get you. I feel you. I spent 6 years in university and now halfway to completing my master’s degree. When I did internship I lost my passion because I hated how the reality of the industry is. So now I’m trying my best to figure out how to solve this problem I struggle with. I hate the idea of working under someone. I hate the idea of using my time and energy for “bosses”. I want to start my own thing but I suck at organizing. Maybe I need to find someone who can help me. InsyaAllah, may Allah easy our path in this cruel world, sister ❤️
These thoughts come to me almost everyday girl, the video is relatable for those who are in this confusion state. I entered my masters to delay that work hustle life, not that i don't like my masters but i question it too. At some point I know i have to find ways to make a stable income while living a fulfilled life. I am still searching and learning how to create that life. I wish you the best and thank you for this openness.
Trust me, you are not alone. Being an introvert and being a hijabi, I know how hard it is to look for a job. I have been looking for a job for over a year now and nobody wants to hire me. I have responsibilities of my parents and I cannot leave them. I cannot get married because I am scared of Men who pretend to be good but actually they are not. Corporate life sucks! Corporate life is not for hijabi girls. it is all about Chauvinism, Toxic feminism, Fake inclusivity, Fake laughs and meaningless work that doesn't help people who really need our help. Having said that, I'd still say - 'Stay Positive! And put your trust only in Allah. You never know when your life could change for something better and deserving of you. Think it this way - Allah is protecting you from bad people. Of course, there are good people too but they are negligible. They are managed by evil heads. Insha'Allah something good will find you. Pray and live in gratitude. May Allah make it easy for all of us!'
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Im 34 years old homeless man.
Said my shahadath 6 years ago Al Hamdulillah. It helped me to stay alive.
I don't have any relatives from young age so no help. Only streets and travelling
When i feel down and hopeless i try to remember those who have much harder life. It helps me to be grateful for what i already have.
Dua in the night can help a lot.
May Almighty open ways with barakah for you. You still are young and intelligent.
May Almighty help you to find your peace.
Amin
May Allah AZ provide you with home
Man, youre an inspiration to me. May allah make it easier for you brother❤
6 years homeless, brother.... Which country do you live?
I pray all the same for you brother! ❤🤲😭
Allah protect you brother
english fluency: 10%
understandable: 100%
relatable: 100%
btw i hope couple years later you will stitch to this video and compare this with your future self. i am interested to see where you are going and of course i'm wishing the best of luck to come to your way :D
Look my daughter, I am married and I have four children aging between 19 to 8. I am 44 yo and four years ago I started working in a special school mainly with children with autism and cerebral palsy bless them. Alhamdulillah it is the best thing in the world. The interaction with the student and their pure hearts warms my heart every day, adding to that we do have a lot of holidays and rest especially during summer. If I would encourage someone to work it would be working at a school especially women. May Allah make everything easy for you sister and plz take care of your mental health don’t let these fears drag you into depression. Pray to Allah make duaa and be sure that Allah swt will answer them .
I was about to tell her same thing work with children in a school ,easygoing hours and holidays is the best for her ❤
I'm a socially aukward perosn I'm unemployed after graduation feeling so lost in life how to get such a job can u help me pls ?
U are a brave and courageous women
@@mohamedshakir1642 I’m going through the same situation, but here’s the thing, just keep in mind that allah is the best of planers, and we as humans can’t understand that because of our limited minds, make duae, pray, ask allah ,and always keep tawakul, may allah bless you and help you find your dream job.
@mohamedshakir1642 Ask ChatGPT my friend, its so helpful, its like talking to a person about it who is very knowledgeable
I was in a similar situation until I placed my trust in Allah (Tawakkul) and took action. I went out and searched for a job. At first, I worked as a security guard, but within a week, I became a school principal.
You just need to have Tawakkul in Allah and take the first step. Trust Him and move forward with faith, sister.
MashAllah
From security guard to Proncipal in a week 😂😂😂😂 yea right
@@harrypewpew901 he never really expanded on his background, for all we know this brother was perusing a guardianship role or some sort of educational position.
She is putting it into words what everyone else is thinking. Working 40 hours a week for 40-45 years is the biggest scam ever.
@@hashimhassan7397 Are you thinking that men are sick? Because you're a man yourself...
Unfortunately, most people hate their jobs and have since the dawn of time. It’s hard when you’re young, fresh out of school, and you find the “reward” is a job you hate. Most people find meaning in the life the job finances.
It can feel like this generation has it worse than any until we think about how past generations had no weekends; they literally worked every day. Millions of people have been slaves, working for nothing more than to stay alive in a miserable existence. We are not here to be happy. We are here to serve God and inshallah, find happiness in the eternal. In our lives on earth, we will find both moments of happiness and pain. We should grasp into the good moments when we can.
I hope this sister can see a counselor because she does seem depressed. A different framing of her life would be helpful. She could also explore why she feels men are “sick” so she doesn’t end up unconsciously proving herself “right.”
@@hashimhassan7397 Everyone else don't think men are sick.
See how what happens to a society to people who don’t work, you’ll be living in tipi huts with a low life expectancy within a decade
Everyone else isn't thinking men are sick.
She is saying what most of us are only thinking.
Exactly
Sir I agree with critical thinking is a blessing but hers is madness
I’m from India and very famous poet of my country asad Ullah khan Ghalib said Raat din gardish main hain saat Asma
Ho rahega kuch na kuch ghabrai kya
Like what? Like saying 'all men are sick'? 'I want to have a kid but I'm too lazy to take care of them'? 'I want a job but I'm too lazy to work'? Basically, wanting the power and freedom of an adult, but with the perspective and responsibility of a 10-year-old kid.
I can understand when a 10-year-old girl says something like 'Ewww, all boys suck,' but a grown adult, especially a Muslim, can't throw out this lazy conclusion and get a pat on the back. All men are sick right, may Allah make her responsible against all men that's alive today that she slandered.
Get married, bros, so you can stop simping and recover your lost brain cells when you hear illogical things uttered by a woman. This is insanity.
May Allah ease your affairs, sister, grant you success in your studies, provide a job that suits you, and bless you with a righteous, wealthy husband you are pleased with. O Allah, manage her matters for her. Do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Life requires effort, perseverance, and reliance on Allah. You must not give up, just as a ship sails in the vast sea and only sinks if water seeps into it, a person must navigate through life without allowing fear to seep inside, lest they drown.
Mary, the mother of Jesus (peace be upon them), was in a difficult situation when she said, "I wish I had died before this and was forgotten and out of sight." Yet her reassurance came with the message not to fear or grieve and to eat, drink, and find comfort. May Allah grant you success and bless you with everything you wish for.
ameen. I have no idea how this got on my feed but this comment is the beat I've seen!
@@Hekabok Likewise, the story of Moses, peace be upon him, if we reflect on it, we can derive benefits such as prayer and reliance on Allah. The Qur'an contains many supplications, and in these verses, there is a supplication.
(Qur'an 28:22-27)
And when he directed himself toward Madyan, he said, "Perhaps my Lord will guide me to the sound way."
And when he came to the water [i.e., well] of Madyan, he found there a crowd of people watering [their flocks], and he found aside from them two women holding back [their flocks]. He said, "What is your circumstance?" They said, "We do not water until the shepherds dispatch [their flocks]; and our father is an old man."
So he watered [their flocks] for them; then he went back to the shade and said, "My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need."
Then one of the two women came to him walking with shyness. She said, "Indeed, my father invites you that he may reward you for having watered for us." So when he came to him and related to him the story, he said, "Fear not. You have escaped from the wrongdoing people."
One of the women said, "O my father, hire him. Indeed, the best one you can hire is the strong and the trustworthy."
He said, "Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on [the condition] that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be [as a favor] from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allāh wills, from among the righteous."
Moses, peace be upon him, made this supplication: "My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need."
After this supplication, if we reflect on the verses, we see that Allah blessed him with things everyone seeks:
1. He blessed him with tranquility.
2. He blessed him with marriage.
3. He blessed him with a job.
There are supplications in the Qur'an and in the Sunnah. Through supplication, the servant draws closer to Allah, and Allah grants His servant. Supplication requires persistence, consistency, and certainty.
Ameen
Ameen. Same goes to you too brother
Beautiful message. JazakAllah khayran for sharing
you are not crazy, this world is
It's not the world that's crazy, but the people living in it. What you think will be unreal is what's happening. It's real.
She obviusaly had a bad experience with some boys (not men) and now she thinks all men are the same way, a women really need a man to live her life.
She isn't the problem, the world is the problem 🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂🤦♂
The world is the world, it is older than the entire humanity race, it is some billions years old, we, along with our entire history but a very very very very small fraction of it, so it is no the world it is people who are making it crazy...
Not this world but people, companies and being forced for comstant competition in this short lofe.
your not crazy, this is capitalism
The algorithm knows me to well...
I feel like the weight of my heart has been lightened a little by knowing that there are many people who share the same problem as me.
i know its comforting to know that there are many people in your boat but you should hope the best for others may this hoping for another helps you get what you wish for always wish the best for other people
You are the realest person out there. We all feel this way. 8 hours of your day 5 days a week for 30+ years... wasted to make a rich man richer is not a life most of us want to live.
+1
But Socialism is bad. 🤔
lmao "a rich man richer" yeah cuz you simply being a good girl and refusing to be brainwashed with their feminist come work as a slave deception and find a good man to wife you up that part is not your fault at all?
I don’t usually comment, but this video made me realize that a pure and relatable human expression is sometimes more helpful than a self-help book or a prescription. Imagine that out of the 16,000 that watched your video, many (over a thousand, imagine a room full of them) found it painfully relatable and felt comforted by the fact that someone shares that struggle with them. I personally needed this video because I’m at a crossroads between choosing my passion and continuing in a major that I hate just for the prospect of a decent salary, and the fact that you powered through something you don’t like at all is admirable, cause I can’t do that at all (maybe cause I’m an infj lol).
Anyways I wish you and everyone else that shares this struggle the best of success, may we all actually live life rather than waste it trying to.
It's incredibly relatable. Seems to be a generational issue.
I'm late 20s now, and somehow navigated this situation now.
Whatevr brings you money/security, use that for now, but always be on the lookout to get closer to your goals.
Learn a skillset through your job that yiu can open a business with somebody, network, and meet business people (and when you do, have something that you can add value to them...a skillset, network, just likable maybe with some)
And that could be it :)
(Keep your job while building it!)
It'll take longer but such is life
Gives you lemons, make Lemonade:)
I'm an infj too, got paid so low and am thinking about quitting this job , I've tried my best and put all of myself to it just to know that they don't even care about me, they just give me more work to do
I have some business ideas, i need to try this for my own sake, who knows how it will turn out?😂
@@Ashbahc 100%
Best thing to do is see whatver you've learned from your job, then use that in a business. Maybe partner up with somebody who has the business knowhow/network, and you the skills, and thats a great start! (Dont quit your job just yet :)))
What work do you do btw?
I was majoring in biology my first semester of college because I thought it would make money. I learned that I didn’t like it and it wasn’t my passion. I would complain to other people about biology class. I also found biology to be more confusing than chemistry because biology has all these complicated processes you have to remember such as mitosis. I choose in the end to switch my bio class next semester to political science because I don’t want to deal with the stress of bio again and I enjoy politics more so I was like I might take a class in it and see if I want to major in it. I am also in the first year of college so it would less likely affect my graduation date to change my major. If you’re thinking of changing it the earlier the better. I’d say go with your passion more than what makes money, If you are doing something that doesn’t make you happy then don’t do it because it could cause more harm than good.
Ameeeeeennnnnnnnnnn
This video makes me realize that many people my age feel this way. I wasted 4 years after my graduation feeling this way, until I started wishing I was dead or something. I hate being lazy, but I can't accept working for 8 / 12 hours in a job that won't give me anything except a few dollars that are not even enough for my transportation. People tell me I am wrong, it started this way but then the salary will improve, but I can't do it.
I feel you, and I think this is our generation's issue.
I agree with you
Exactly!! I don’t know how people accept living like this.
I think it’s part of our evolution to change the scenario now.
I mean with all the ai technology and evolution how are we still doing all this work and why we’re still so backwards? How are we still living the same with all the new discoveries and technologies?
Something is so wrong!
That's why we need to go back to root. Starting business and all. Especially I can relate to her in some way cause I found myself ended up studying something that I don't particularly enjoy regardless I'm still doing it. And that makes me often question my decision and life choice. Which is why I believe we as young adults who's stuck in a conventional trend of school/university structure should have plans and ambitions of initiating any sort of business as long as it's halal and fair. We can't just relay on typical 9-5 mundane jobs this day and age.
I am just curious you rather take zero salary, than a salary? Are you using that time to build your own business, or some other form of income, because if you are not working or at least trying to do something else, your setting yourself to be someone else's problem.
33 MALE here soon to be 34, basic labour job partly my fault partly whatever life handed to me, dealing with ADHD as an adult, had massive operation and learning to live life again, bolding, never had a single adult relationship.
Love kids but doesn't look it is going to happen.
The world continues to move without me. house prices in my area are 1.2mil to own.
Currently living with family in a 3 bedroom half house paying 800 a week rent.
I feel your pain but I also recommend not to give up
LIFE IS LIFE Some days will be good some days will be bad, shit happens smile enjoy the little moments, cry later sleep and repeat.
we will all die one day and perhaps than might we experience some kind of true freedom.
27 here soon to be 28, working in a field I don't even understand for 2.5 years now, all because I dropped out of engineering because I was just overwhelmed. Alhamdulilah I am blessed but this is the life we've been dealt. We must keep hope and persevere my brother, Insha Allah we will get through these times
@@Danxsh17 I'm also 28 and just in Engineering third semester. It's quite hard but no always. You can do it and start again, brother.
@@Danxsh17 im 26, i went back to school to do engineering, with the right strategies it became easier. I wish I knew these strategies sooner.
much love to you from a fellow adhd adult. don‘t give up on the relationship or the children, you‘re young still!
@@user-ik8jz3sn6s I am giving up but also being realistic about life. Thank u for the reply. unfortunately it has become extremely expensive to bring up a child, it is also extremely hard to find a partner. I still have high hope so fingers crossed
This makes myself as a Muslim man want to work 10x harder so I know I can fully fully cover my future wife's financial desires and needs.
Stay strong sis life sometimes throws you around but I'm sure you will figure it out, most of us do in the end.
Work to help the whole community that’s Muslim men’s duty to protect the community
Wouldn't it be better if your future wife could cover her financial needs and desires herself?
@@wawawuu1514our men are getting shamed for having the desire to help their partners?
Yea
Inshallah
@@wawawuu1514 they can plan whatever life they wanted. If you wanted an independent wife that's ok, it's your right. But you got no right to questioning ppl choices, they know better.
Please don't cry my dear. You're going through a phase of realization that life will not be easy. This is normal, we all go through this. You will soon change your ways, become more outgoing and more ambitious to earn. Some women simply give up too early and end up with the wrong man for the wrong reasons. Please don't think all men are sick, i understand that our culture allows us men to be more controlling, but you can't say that all of us are bad. I wish you well my dear. You will find the success and happiness you are looking for, i am certain of it!
She's saying men are sick.
She's definitely crazy.
She's a misandrist.
I felt the same way after graduation. But here is what helped me.
Keep tawakkul in Allah
Ask him...he is the provider...trust me you will get a job once you turn to him ....and that job will be much better than anything you imagine
May Allah make your life easier. Aameen
Agree 💯 being with Allah and ask him talk to him whenever you want is the key for everything literally
I will try that..(
Aameen, Aameen.
She has either a business mindset or art mindset but definitely not job oriented she is. She doesn't want to work under somebody else's control and act as per other conditions. But unfortunately she has financial responsibilities that she wants to meet. Here she is stuck. I have faced the same issue.
How did you overcome being stucked if I can ask
@@guada.muslimah there are ways of freelancing jobs available to us fortunately. Under freelancing jobs, we can give flexible hours as per our convenience. We can take those projects which match with our skills. She has Alhamdulillah engineering skills which can be utilised well by being at home . My relative FAMILY who are software engineers , they have been doing work from home simply by being their own boss. They basically doing business of providing solutions and provide teaching courses as well.
Well, i also managed somehow this way.
Thx for the recap.
How did you handle it?
Can you help us with sharing how did you manage to overcome that please?
"i don't want to work"
Todays *work* is unjust, unfulfilling, and unnecessary stressful
It's inherent to capitalism. Marx and Engels described this as (capitalist) alienation. It stems from the fact that the worker is not the one in control of the work process (because the boss is the one saying when, how much, what, etc etc) and neither does the worker receive an appropriate compensation, because the vast majority of what they produce is absorbed by the boss/capitalist, who only gives back a tiny percentage of it (otherwise there wouldn't be *any* incentive whatsoever to work for the boss, also workers that starve to death obviously can't work). Under capitalism, workers are as much alienated from the work process as they are paradoxically chained to it.
Only when the workers own the means of production themselves can work be free of alienation and feel as meaningful and life-enriching and fulfilling as the things we do of our own liking (that's also a reason why the "Do something you love as your job and you'll never have to work a day in your life" advice isn't the perfect solution one may think at first).
This is why socialism is in the objective interest of every working class person to fight for.
its really not, back then it was much harder. ppl today are just used to not doing hard things
@@Evilevilmonkeyy Citation needed
@@Evilevilmonkeyy the issue is not how hard it is. Plz reread my comment.
@@manooxi327 oh ok lol
It seems like you’re going through a lot:
1) You studied a major you do not enjoy. So the job will not be enjoyable.
2) The salary for the job is too low to pay for your living. So you can’t even accept the job for money, because the money is not enough.
3) You have been unemployed which makes living much harder since money is needed.
4) There are no men in your life, and the ones you have met are sick. So you feel as though you cannot trust any man. At the same time you are expect to marry.
5) Having a child isn’t an option given the low salary.
Overall she doesn’t feel in control of anything. She studied a major she doesn’t like, is jobless, and the potential salary is too low with no man to rely on. It’s a product of society pushing her down a path she didn’t fully choose.
And probably her family is putting a lot of pressure on her
@@aiquesono of course because if her family die she won't have anyone to financially support her that's why her family is putting too much pressure on her
You worded this well.. I feel quite a portion of Muslim sisters, in western society probably share these issues; she's just the only person who made a video on it SubhanAllah.
As someone who is going through the same issue as her, your points are spot on 🥲🥲🥲
We should be living more than working 😢
So true
Live like how?
Live how? We should sit around and look at each other?
That's right. We work in order to live. The Protestant work culture of the West is hurting us at every level.
But life is about work but not saying solely. You can’t just have fun without work. An example is the food you eat, can’t have food if you don’t hunt or farm. Both requiring hard work.
Damn girl you are so relatable but actually brave to make a video about this as well 😂😂
why say that man
You're completely right, girl. A 9-5 is just soul-crushing and not human-like.
I personally love technology and coding, but it is completely fine that you don't and never let someone tell you otherwise.
You can start by figuring out what you like doing and what you don't like doing and put them both in a list, and one by one make that list smaller by sorting them until you have a few or even one thing that you could try, and then go on to the next item on the list if it doesn't work out.
Best of luck, and keep your genuine spirit!
Thank you for your support💖
@@WavesOfBelle pls recite LOTS of astaghfar, Allah says in Surah Nuh (Chapter 71: Verses 10-12):
"And I said, 'Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is Forgiving. He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers and give you wealth and children and make for you gardens and make for you rivers.'"
Ibn Abbas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever increases his prayers for forgiveness, Allah will grant him relief from every worry, a way out from every hardship, and provide for him in ways he does not expect.” Musnad Aḥmad 2234
"alienation under capitalism" it makes us feel like a robot, read more theory.
Karl Marx's theory, isn't it?@@comradejav
9-5 I very hard
*Realised when a woman cried about it on utube*
From centuries men have done all kinds of jobs
Daniel Haqiqatjou has some real advice for you
As a 34 year old, let me tell you it gets better. Main thing: don't give up, keep going, keep trying. Also, after some time, you'll see there was a lot of hidden benefit in a lot of things that you disliked but had to do. Like the Quran says,
"Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know." Quran, 2: 216
rewording bc it was missing context:
Every situation has pros and cons. I would say make the most of WHATEVER situation you are in. I keep missing my unemployed phase lately mainly because of the time I had!! I had time to reflect, time to take it easy . Now I have a job but NO time.
But trying to be grateful that at least I can pay rent and afford basic necessities. rooting for you youngsters!! keep going.
You're saying a whole lot of nothing. In addition to that, what little actual advice you have is to hope the things she doesn't like may somehow turn out to be good. That's cynical and highly dubious advice, bordering on manipulative honestly: You're essentially saying she shouldn't trust her own feelings.
@@wawawuu1514 ?? what ???? i've been through those feelings too. it took me 12 years to finish college even though I was a star student top of the class in high school. YOUR comment is unnecessary. I was just trying to show there is light at the end of the tunnel
@@wawawuu1514 I have a job NOW in my 30s. I was unemployed and sitting at home for a year or two and that's not including the time I went back to school and also the minimum wage jobs I had. I'm not saying a whole lot of nothing everything I'm saying is based on experience.
@@wawawuu1514 crazy how people twist what you say. it aint manipulative. nobody needs to take my word and I'm not saying their feelings are invalid at all. it's just your negative lens interpreting it that way. honestly, was just trying to make it it easier to reframe the situation because it's easier to make progress when you are at peace. my life started changing when i practiced genuine gratitude even for the smallest blessings even in the most grim circumstances while still moving forward
I think this is the best video I’ve ever seen in my life
me too
Me too
Me too
You definitely need to see more videos then
Please this the same casce happend to me. So i can say u may have ADHD, u gatta start writting every tought u got even if u think that it may be silly if ur parents read it 😅, thats realy helped me thank god and start maniging ur thoughts better and get any think that is good to work as a muslim without thinking of how much mony it will get and allways be with god and understand why shoud u know more about him and be with him and work for the after life i'v been throw the same exactly the same even the level of english ur into 😅.
And hope that allah will get us the best in this life and in the here after.
If you're feeling lost in your career search, the Japanese concept of ikigai can help guide you. Think of four overlapping circles: what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. Where all these intersect is your ikigai - your ideal path that combines passion, mission, profession, and vocation. Finding opportunities that check multiple boxes can help point you toward fulfilling work, even if you can't hit all four circles right away.
Thank you for sharing this! I’m definitely going to look into it
Amazing
Why is this video so relatable? 😭😭 I cry about the same things, work, the system, men and marriage, career doubts, unemployed, I don't want to work either!! 😢 May Allah make it easy for us. Thank you for your vulnerability sis ❤
Then maybe you have to LOOK INWARDS.
Don't cry on men they are not worth it. And nor on marriage seriously focus on your goals only
@@Stangirlgroups-e6h maybe she's the one not worth it and that's why no worthy man is taking her.
@@Stangirlgroups-e6h Are you Muslim? In Islam, it is encouraged to get married as soon as you can. You shouldnt delay it so that you can fulfill your desires in a halal way. Especially in this twisted world where things like p*rn are so widespread.
@@Stangirlgroups-e6h don't project your experiences on others. If you are hurt seek help.
this is actually so sad cause this would be the reality of many of us even after 12 years of studying you will NOT catch a break
its quite interesting that this is the reality of so many youth nowdays.
A life cycle of 9-5 everyday ,six days a week, its very tiresome and so many people are struggling with this.
Belle , continue finding what might work for you.
1:00 Same here, girl ... I’m a doctor, I studied medicine and now every day I ask myself, what am I doing here? I don’t want to pursue this profession but what’s the solution? I have no alternative .. i share many tears with you .. 💔
Final year medical student here about to take his final exam. How I wish I'm at her place right now to be in the tech field and already own a decent job. At least that's what I think the situation she's in right now.
Lecturers/ Supervisors/ Doctors have asked me before on why I wanted to become a doctor. Told them I wanted to help people. Like really help people. To join doctors without borders and do voluntary work or something similar.
They told me I was lying, that I'm bullshitting. That most doctors would only seek for financial gain no matter what they tell other people. That being a doctor is only to specialize in the most competitive field and be the richest/coolest doctor from the rest. That regardless of my goal and intention, there is something inside me that only seek meaningless money than the pleasure of curing, easing patients' pain.
I started asking myself. The more I ask, the more lost I feel.
I'm trapped. Should I continue or should I drop it. If I continue and succeed what's the next one to come? Should I listen to people. If I don't, am I still naive to be thinking that my intentions were clear and genuine. Maybe they were right.
@@DaniZannie finish your degree, then decide. the worst thing to do is relent at last step
@@DaniZannie I am facing a very similar dilemma right now. I want to help people in my job, so I have been considering PA school, since its a lot shorter than the normal medical school route. But I am currently doing CS and Engineering (double major) and I am afraid of landing a job that I feel is very useless. However, I have also considered working in medicine related tech like engineering articifial hearts, x-ray machines, etc. because I feel like that work would be so fulfilling. I have also thought about being in the cybersecurity field for a hospital. After all, if they aren't digitally protected, then doctors and surgeons can't really do much.
Ugh im a 4th year med student and i want to quit so bad its killing me and my mental health but my parents wants this and i have no other job
@@daidai1048 if you are in your last year I say finish it. And then take a break to discover what you want to do. it doesn’t have to be in the medical field. it can be anything. but at least you will have your degree to fall back on if you decide later on you still want to continue that way.
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen, you are a brave and special woman, you are not crazy, this world is.
We all have been through what you are going through right now, have trust in Allah and be patient, optimistic and positive about life.
We Muslims never lose hope and faith in Allah, this is a test from Allah, Inna Maa Losri Yosra. It will surely get better in the future, mark my words, enjoy your journey, don't dread it or run away from it.
May Allah SWT ease your pain and grant you whatever it is that you wish. Ameen.
This is just so beautiful thank you so much may Allah bless you🤍
Tbh I thought the opposite she looked like crazy(I'm serious) because there is sooo many problems of people on this world but they don't always cry and wine about it on RUclips
This is the most honest video out there, the reality is that most of us have been brainwashed into thinking we want these things but we don't
Who is here after Daniel Haqiqatzou's reaction video 🤚🏻
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@@daftka-ll3rn me. :D
You are a free spirit! I can totally relate! I am INFJ personality type! A close demographic! You need time out of the system! Everyone is stuck in the system, most of them complain about it, yet they still contribute to make the system still function the same way! They’re trapped! You need to figure out an escape plan! A part time job for instance! Working from home! Content creation for instance! The best thing is that you are questioning the system aloud! This is courageous! You are on the right way!
RUclips content creator pays more than any remedial jobs
الله يحفظك يارب ويكرمك ويفرج همك
لا تبكي ان شاء الله كل شي هيكون كويس ..
خليكي قوية هي الحياة كده فيها اوقات صعبة ان شاء الله ربنا ييسر امرك يارب
Aamiin❤
Im a 32 year old male, INTJ and I can relate/feel your pain as well.
working in tech dealing with stress and burnout not wanting to work but feeling the obligation from family and society to work. In addition the pressure to find a partner to marry as I am getting older.
Life just sucks. :(
I feel the pressure too. My body and soul feel so tired. I'm 26 years old. I have a job but this job is not my real job. I' m working 6 days on the week and they pay a low wage. I can only rest ONE DAY.
I don't understand how people find their partner with truly . Will I find someone who I always love him and who always love me? I don't know. I have a anxious.
I understand what you are going through! I am 32 yrs old an INFJ-T & Pisces ♓️😂 in an enlightenment phase of my life where I know a 9-5 job is not humane! This video speaks my emotions.
But anyway, in regards to your situation. I suggest checking the things you feel drawn to, go to places where you find ppl like you! you might find someone there!
I hope you are not in a culture and society norms that limits your freedom? - I think if you live in Europe it is easier to go to social gatherings to meet someone in a place of common interest.
Life don't suck
U do
Skull issue 😅
@@almighttube4776 thanks for your input habibti.
Girl the fact that I understood you perfectly 🥹
you're not alone in this, this is literally my everyday struggle. It's like we have two options, either get a job that's too stressful and exhausting to the point we barely have time and energy for anything else, or instead stay at home and thus have no money nor productivity (maybe even marry the wrong person and suffer).. it's pretty sad but I really hope things get better for you sis. Please stay strong!! ❤❤
What islamically the second point is better in my opinion as the problem lies with what the western narrative has fed us that MONEY MONEY it's nothing don't make it your God
A man earns money for the family the money is for everybody and what do u mean by no productivity? And marrying the wrong person? Umm hello ever heard of divorce?
I just wanted to say we all are suffering because we are not going according to god's plan
✌️ 🕊️ peace
*I used to have burnout probelm. I wasn't able study at all.I couldn’t give invest my time on skill development. I literally used to cry for this burnout everuday😢.Then someone said,pray Tahajjud and Dua yunus that are very powerful and miraculous.Then I started to do it and pray with all my hearts😢.Alhamdulillah I feel some energy and confidence now.Everyday I'm having some appreciation and that is makeing me feel more passionate. So Trust on Allah and pray❤*
She is literally saying what I think about all day all night
You should continue making videos like this, I am sure there are many people around the world who relate to your situation and can help you build a new path. Also, keep on expressing yourself freely don’t let these emotions accumulate inside yourself. Trust in the plan of Allah and no you are not a crazy person.
Why? So you can swim in negativity thinking you're being productive just so you have an excuse to run away from the things you need to do to get the things you want to have? No
The most relatable honest video I’ve seen. This is how some women/ girls feel but don’t have the courage to speak up openly about it.
I suffer from the same problem. I work 14 hours a day, and I do not like the job, and the salary is very low. Yesterday, I turned 23 years old, and I feel that I am losing a lot of my life and my passion, and I am moving away from doing the things that I love and in which I am creative.
Edit : If you know of any good job opportunities I’m available and would also appreciate any help in supporting my brothers and sisters
Dear women, you have brain intelligence, talents and great capabilities to develop and advance in it not to suspresse it and cancel it. All of us have a fied where we are interested art science sport politics..... So, for example, if you like painting start paint and develop yourself to painting on canvas you can become a successful artist, if you like fashion you can learn how to design and make wandering fashion designs, if you like science invent scientific things or medicines... and so on, don't suspress and undermine and cancel your intelligence passion talents and great capabilities in the literary, scientific and artistic fields.
Dear women, you have brain intelligence, talents and great capabilities to develop and advance in it not to suspresse it and cancel it. All of us have a fied where we are interested art science sport politics..... So, for example, if you like painting start paint and develop yourself to painting on canvas you can become a successful artist, if you like fashion you can learn how to design and make wandering fashion designs, if you like science invent scientific things or medicines... and so on, don't suspress and undermine and cancel your intelligence passion talents and great capabilities in the literary, scientific and artistic fields.
14 hours a day is insane, i hope the situation gets better for you
@@prph13 Inshallah after I reach a certain amount of money, I will take a break and focus on myself
@@Elizabeth78946 Yup we should try to use our individual skillset and talents we all have to make a good living for ourselves, but it is not always so easy in many countries especially in developing! On a different note, the videos on the playlist on my channel titled 'Purpose of Life?' might change someone's life for the better!
The money system isn't a fair system. It benefits a few , while most work their time away just so the system leaders will let them survive. It is normal to feel that this system is not normal.
You got the courage to speak, film, edit and up all you said literally all the things that I am living through. :)
لا تحزني يا اختي انا خرجت من المدرسة لهذا السبب والان بعد ٦ سنوات من تركي حالتي النفسية افضل بفضل الله . ادعي لله ان يخرجك من الغم الي انتي فيه و يختار لك الطريق و يعينك . لابد بعد العسر الفرج
You have no idea how much I can resonate with what you are going through. I hated coding at one point of my life, and then did IT systems which involves more of customer facing role rather than actual coding, it involves technology in an interesting way. I can say one thing for sure - NO you are not alone, and NO this situation won't last. You will ultimately come out of this bubble and will find something you will like to do.
one of the main struggles our generation, perfectly explained. Even if we get the job, most of us will get bullied, they also take advantage of you, they treat you disrespectful and pay you not enough to afford yourself an independent life, then health issues add up, and then you'll find yourself in a position where you ask yourself, is this shit I'm forcing myself through really worth my lifetime? Isn't there something that specifically for me to accomplish? Something that will also benefit other and myself? I'm currently in the same situation as this beautiful young woman. So I said to myself, I don't care anymore, I just do whatever I like. I take the risks. If I fail then so be it, Then I try something else. But every single day I have to force myself to not give up. And this is by far the hardest part. I wish really from my heart to everyone just the best, may whoever reads this, find success and fulfillment in whatever they are doing. May everyone be blessed and life in a home where they have peace, harmony, and happiness. It is not easy, it is hard but refuse to give up my friend. Keep going, keep trying, till you find what you have been looking for, and remind yourself to be patient because sometimes it can take years. This young beautiful woman had the guts to share such a heartfelt genuine message, I respect her for that very much. Not everyone has the courage to do that.
MashaAllah, sister. I felt stuck too, so I poured my heart out to Allah and found your video!! I truly understand what you're going through. As an INFP, I struggle with reality and feel like I'm losing myself, but I can’t quit my job, especially in these tough times.
I honestly don’t know how I survived this year, especially with all the bad moments, but through it all, I’ve held onto the reminder that Allah is always with us.
Life is difficult, so we need to take it one step at a time. Please don't feel like you're all alone. Keep holding on-you are stronger than you think. One step at a time, and trust that Allah will guide you through ❤
relatable , don't worry, it is the same everywhere, just keep in mind that you need to choose what you like and what you want to do with your life. May Allah guide all of us!
i am so glad that the algorithm led me to this video. it was on my recommended page, and i clicked initially because i thought it was just gonna be a simple rant video, but after watching i felt like my feelings were validated. i mean, i was already aware that people around my age must be going through this too but seeing someone out there, crying and talking about it, made me feel less alone.
we are gonna get through this!!! i dont dream of labor too girl 😭
somehow this video made me feel better, like hearing a long lost friend. Hope you’re doing better girl, you are too nice for this world.
I can't put all my thoughts in this comment, but i want to tell you, the fact that you realize, and trust me when i say this as a fellow sister, so so so many sister do not realized this this and are happy or conditioned to waste their time and years into jobs and pleasing others without ever realizing what they are losing. So the fact that you realize this, is a blessing from Allah. May Allah guide you and guide us. And may Allah grant you ease.
الله ييسر أمورك حبيبتي. كثير منا مثلك نواجه هذه المشاكل. أعملي ما في وسعك، وتوكلي على الله. وإذا قررتي على فعل شيء لكسب وربح مال، إفعليه بإذن الله، وصلي استخارة. وإذا لديك شيء بسيط تعطين، تصدقي به. فالصدقة ترجع لك بأضعاف بإذن الله. حتى إذا لم تستطيعين فعل ما ذكرت، أنصحك خاصة قبل الفجر أن تصلي صلاة التهجد. هذا الوقت التي تكلمي ما في قلبك إلى ربك، وتبكين إليه، وتسألي منه. أسأل الله أن ييسر علينا، ويفرحنا، ويسهل علينا، ويقوينا في كل شيء، ويرزقنا، ويعطينا حتى نرضى. آمين.
استعيني بالله .. صلي قيام ليل واطلبي من الله كل ما تتمني واشتكي له من كل شيء يقلقك
omg i feel you plz stay strong you're not alone , just know that ,
My sister.. This is the first time I've seen you, you have a beautiful heart and believe me, you're not the only one feeling these disturbing emotions, I have 25 years and I completely understand you. But believe me, you have the time and opportunity to change your situation for the better!! God bless your age and health ❤❤
This is the most relatable video I have ever seen on RUclips. Thank you for making this video. ❤ Honestly I felt like I was the only one feeling like this, and I was too ashamed to speak about it.😢
May Allah ease your burden, and grant you success in both financially and socially.
Türk olduğun oflamandan belli. Deli değilsin kız, sadece depresifsin. Çalışmadığın sürece işe yaramaz hissediyorsun. Bilgisayar mühendisi isen zekisin muhtemelen. Ya da çalışkan. İkisinden biri olmadan kazanıp okuman çok zor burda. Çok güzel bir meslek ama sevmemek elbette ki zor. Bir süre bir işe girip başka konularda ilerleyebilmek için para biriktirebilir ve daha mutlu olduğun şeyleri yapmaya gayret edebilirsin. Tertemiz birisin, hüsnüzanda bulunuyorum tabii ki seni tanımıyorum ama belli bence. Her neyse, duygusal zekan da yüksek. Herkesin peşinde koştuğu bir mesleğe sahip olmak ama onu sevmemek şükürsüz biriymişsin gibi hissettirip sende fazladan bir manevi yüke dönüşüyor olabilir. Bende olmuştu. Ama sevmiyorsan sevmiyorsundur, bu şekilde yaşamak yani ömrünce sevmediğin bir mesleği yapmak zorunda kalmak eminim ki çok zordur. Yaşamak istiyorsak alternatifler bulmaya çalışmalıyız. Hiç iş tecrüben oldu mu bilmiyorum? Belki de düşündüğün gibi olmayacaktır... Bu arada iş ortamı yani açıkçası benim kötü insanlarla tanıştığım yer oldu. Ama her yer benimki gibi olmak zorunda değil. Denemekten ne çıkar? Allah gönlüne ferahlık versin.
The state of confusion you're going through must be so so hard for you. like it's a point in life where you start doubting your decisions you start to think whether I've chosen the right field of study, whether it's the right job for me, whether I'm at the right stage of life. And also life around us is a hustle and everyone's after that. Hustle or else you're nothing! Aah this competition this hustle culture is literally robbing people out of happiness! It must be so so hard for you. And it's okay to feel this way, your feelings are genuine and I really appreciate the courage you have to be vulnerable and accept what you really feel! It takes a lot of courage to be honest with yourself. And yes it does happen that at stages of life you're so confused but that doesn't mean you're behind. Allah SWT blesses us at different stages in life and how and when someone will be blessed differs from others. You have your own pace girl, you're exploring, learning and you'll reach there at the place you're meant to be InSha Allah ❤. Don't care about others moving ahead! You're learning exploring, and it's not always necessary to make the right choices sometimes we make the wrong ones leading us to the right ones! One advice I would give you is to never stop learning, if you hate coding try some other creative ways to learn coding. Try doing free lance work and do home based jobs with flexy hours. Also you can take a break from your job as well! And relax at home. And it's entirely okay to feel confused at times. It is very normal. Do it one step day by day and InSha Allah you'll get there! I'll pray for you May Allah SWT make things easy for you and make your dreams come true Aameen SumAameen
لقد حاولت ترجمة ما كتبته للتو. أعتقد أن الكثير منا كانوا في نفس الموقف.
يبدو أن حالة الارتباك التي تمر بها صعبة للغاية بالنسبة لك. إنها مرحلة طبيعية في الحياة حيث تبدأ في الشك في قراراتك وتبدأ في التفكير فيما إذا كنت قد اخترت مجال الدراسة الصحيح، وما إذا كانت الوظيفة المناسبة لك، وما إذا كنت في المرحلة الصحيحة من الحياة.
كما أن الحياة من حولنا تتمحور حول العمل الجاد. العمل أو لا تعتبر شيئًا! آه هذه المنافسة، هذه الثقافة السامة تسرق الناس حرفيًا من السعادة! يجب أن يكون الأمر صعبًا للغاية بالنسبة لك. ولا بأس أن تشعر بهذه الطريقة، فمشاعرك صادقة وأنا أقدر حقًا الشجاعة التي لديك لتكون ضعيفًا وتقبل ما تشعر به حقًا! يتطلب الأمر الكثير من الشجاعة لتكون صادقًا مع نفسك.
نعم، يحدث أنك في مراحل الحياة تكون مرتبكًا للغاية ولكن هذا لا يعني أنك متأخر. يباركنا الله سبحانه وتعالى في مراحل مختلفة من الحياة وكيف ومتى يبارك شخص ما يختلف عن الآخرين. لديك وتيرتك الخاصة يا فتاة، فأنت تستكشفين وتتعلمين وستصلين إلى المكان الذي من المفترض أن تكوني فيه إن شاء الله ❤. لا تهتمي بتقدم الآخرين! أنت تتعلمين وتستكشفين، وليس من الضروري دائمًا اتخاذ الخيارات الصحيحة، وأحيانًا نتخذ خيارات خاطئة تقودنا إلى الخيارات الصحيحة! إحدى النصائح التي أود أن أقدمها لك هي ألا تتوقفي أبدًا عن التعلم، إذا كنت تكرهين البرمجة فحاولي بعض الطرق الإبداعية الأخرى لتعلم البرمجة. حاولي القيام بعمل مستقل والقيام بأعمال من المنزل بساعات مرنة. يمكنك أيضًا أخذ استراحة من وظيفتك أيضًا! واسترخي في المنزل. ولا بأس تمامًا من الشعور بالارتباك في بعض الأحيان. إنه أمر طبيعي جدًا. افعلي ذلك خطوة واحدة يومًا بعد يوم وستصلين إلى هناك إن شاء الله! سأدعو لك، أسأل الله سبحانه وتعالى أن يسهل عليك الأمور ويحقق أحلامك آمين ثم آمين
what if I have been like this 6 years....
@@Miranda-uf7xb what do you mean ? did spend 6 years drifting from one thing to another or did you pursue one goal and you are not remotely close to your goal ?
Soooo relatable. I think you are Turkish from your accent. Because I studied Industrial engineering in Turkey(I am Moroccan) and I feel the exact same way you feel about it. I tried an office job and that from 8 until 7 pm hhh and that really tired me. It feels like losing time and health at same time because of sitting all day facing the radiations of the screen. Just 2 months later I quiet. I really got it and I wish for me for you for any one who faces same feelings or bad situations peace, healing and receiving Allah gifts soon inshallah.You are not alone.
😂😂😂 you thought that staying in front of computer after 2 months was hard job?
@@SaidMetiche-qy9hbfor long periods of time? YES
it’s not natural to spend 13 hours a day sitting down staring 30cm in front of you
@@walkingguy6409 but programmers do that every day to keep world working
This is so relatable I feel like you're talking about what's on my mind these days. I just graduated from uni with a bachelor degree and before graduation, I already knew I'm not suitable to work on a career related to my degree. I still don't have a job to this day, and all I do to keep going and not losing my mind is to join online classes. I'm grateful that I'm fortunate enough to have parents who can support me enough financially to even be in this situation and not having to work my ass off immediately after graduation because I desperately need money. But it's really tough. The mental pressure is real.
Just know that you're not alone, and this isn't entirely your fault that your life is this way. Thank you for sharing your life with this video, I hope life will be kinder to you in the future.
You’re not depressed. You’re trying to stay true to yourself in a world that thrives off people’s misery. I hope you find what you’re looking for soon ❤
You are not dramatic, you are not romanticizing everything, and I'm saying this because I'm going through the exact same pain despite the different circumstances and I really feel you, my eyes teared up too when I saw you crying.
I'm like you, I hate working and studying and existing around strangers and the only thing I want at this point is to get married with a good man and raise my children and have them memorize all the quran insha'allah and fulfill the goal of being a good muslim woman and a wife.
I'm a 19 yo girl and I have been working for the last 6 months of my life as well as go to university everyday as well as professional training. I hate my university major (industrial pharmacy) and I hate my job because I'm autistic and I hate talking to strangers especially men, I have chronic loneliness and I fall into autistic shutdown/meltdown every month due to stress of existing with strangers. The salary is considered low but I'm not a demanding person much so after I bought myself the necessary things like a coat for winter and house stuff for my family I stopped seeing the meaning in the money I own except for when giving it to other people. I don't see myself as a lazy person, I'm on the other extreme of being a bit workaholic juggling all my responsibilities even tho I hate every single one. I'm muslim and I'm considered attractive by men (personally I think I'm average looking but whatever) and I get a lot of confessions everywhere, in work in university in family and even in social media despite I never show my face (they say my personality is "unique" but it really is just autism) but I reject everyone because I hate how indirect some men can be and I would only accept someone who comes straight to my family and ask in a halal way because it's hard for me to understand the intentions of others due to my autism therefor I'm unable to trust any man and I want the direct and honest ones only not the cheesy flirty ones.
I'm not writing this as a vent, but rather to explain to you that even if you had a job and you had the money and you had tens on men fawning over you you'd still hate existing in this world too. Because the way I think of it, is that the fault truly is within this life as it is not supposed to be what we exist for, it is but a mere temporary station to get tested in this life and so afterwards go to heaven with our creator insha'Allah where we truly belong. No matter what we have in this life, it will never make us feel good. The only thing that would make us feel good is our connection with Allah despite the hard situation we go through. And no matter what we have in this life, we all gonna die eventually and nothing is permanent, the money the job the people we love the pain the achievements we do the failures we do and even us our families and our loved ones. Everyone and everything will perish eventually, the only permanent being is Allah. Those who attach themselves for something temporary will perish with it as well, and those who attach themselves to something permanent (Allah) will stay permanent in heaven with him ameen
May Allah easen your heart sister and make you feel better despite the hardships, I really understand you and I thought I was the only one but apparently not. May Allah grant us all jannah ameen
Same girl same
You spoke all of us, literally
I graduated as the top student in my class and the whole faculty so i have the chance to be tenured as a teaching assistant, which I'm really grateful to, but let's face it, i don't want it, i hate teaching, i hate dealing with students, i hate preparing notes and explaining the course in layman's term and then a sassy student shouts out saying he didn't understand or ask weird questions just to embarrass and bullies me, i hate them, i hate the higher ones in the uni and how they treat us, i hate my colleagues because some of them enjoy giving others especially the junior ones a hard time just to prove that they're the seniors and they're the best and I'm just a loser who don't know anything yet and gullible enough they laugh at
But I'm doing master's, so i have to work, i have to accept this work because there are no available jobs here especially the tenured ones are super impossible it's only possible in cases like me, so it's a gift i worked hard for, but do i like it? No, do i enjoy it? No, does it satisfy me? Hell no, but i have to
I hate it, i hate myself and hate myself more for not loving it, I'm even worried i may not do well in it so i panic more, but I'm doing master's which i love but at the same time is a big deal and a tremendous responsibility which i fear of because it all depends on me so i need to study for it very well and research more, and i have to work to spend on it and on ky expenses and so
I hate going outside, i hate the sight of people, i just don't like it
Too many hours to work and too little salary compared to the job done as well
Imagine working 6 days a week, ranging between 8-6 and 9-4, just imagine, how come can i balance between these two and when i will reach home after this long day? 1-2 HOURS CAR RIDE! As if being exhausted from all this rough day isn't enough!
But girl, i think we should leave emotions aside for a while and suck it up and just do it even tho we hate it, we need to face it just for the sake of the money to be financially independent and maybe afterwards we can switch gears or something, reality is tough but we have to do it, i ask Allah to ease it for us because suffer isn't avoidable but we can choose what we can suffer for on how much we can get from it, we have to choose our suffering very well that eventually will turns out good or will pay off well!
Good luck to all of us!
Girl! I’m exactly like you right now. Thank you for being brave and speaking you. Went from being hopeful to hopeless.
I felt that I had to comment because I felt you on so many levels, sister. I'm also a hijabi Muslim btw, 23F. I've always hated the idea of being a slave in the corporate world, but I also know that for now, I have no choice since I was born in a financially struggling family. Just like you, I felt so hopeless many times but I'm also a very hopeful (a.k.a delulu) person. I hate working, but we need money, so I have to. What sucks though is that we are incredibly underpaid in our country. I'm in the accounting field but the salary is very low here especially for entry-level jobs (I live in Southeast Asia), even though I know that I'm a competent person. Sometimes I just wish to get married asap so I don't have to work.. lol. (I'm an INFP so I'm hopeless romantic too, lol). But yeah, I know marriage is scary, especially if you hasten it coz you won't know that person well. Also, I have high standards, but in order to meet my standards, I need to be of high standards as well.. Gotta build myself first, hence, I need to work, lol. Felt super anxious during those times when I just quit my job and was searching for new ones. I somehow realized that it's not really that I just hate working, it's probably that I'm not in the right field although I may be good at it.. I like fulfilling jobs where I could help people and feel their gratitude.. But yeah, then again, I have no choice right now but to make money, lol.
May Allah make it easy for all of us. 🤲🥹🤍
I feel you, everybody goes through this stress especially those who hate their job. you're so brave for filming this & don't cry, you're strong, you got good energy. just follow you're passion.
from a man who's not sick: YOU'LL SUCCEED, I HAVE TRUST IN YOU.❤
Your vulnerability as a human is so relatable to me. Thank you for sharing your feelings and tears. I pray we can get through this patch.
Hey, I'm your older sis (INFJ). Don't worry okay, everything will be alright. Yes you will earn money in a way that you enjoy!! There are so much nicer jobs than sitting at an office. I enjoyed teaching (adults). Enfp's are creative, just take your time, your youtube channel is already a great start. Also there are amazing men out there, and this is coming from someone who was in an abusive marriage and now happily married, with a husband who supports my dreams. I started my own company but it's not working out well. But I learned a lot and I will keep trying until I find out what I love most and what I'm best at.
Please don't cry okay❤
Remember that a job is just one aspect of your life. Engage in hobbies, volunteer, and nurture relationships to create a fulfilling life.
How will we have time for that when a job is occupying all that
@@zzz-wx7jr It takes time. For someone just starting out in life, give yourself some time and give yourself some grace. Everything works out well eventually. It may seem overwhelming in the beginning, it gets better with time. Don't give up!!! As a young person, time is your best resource, and time is all that you have, really.
Get off job at 5pm, home at 6, 1 hour for hobby, 1 hour to cook/eat, 1 free hour then sleep. So 2 hours free per day? Still insane
Many hobbies are expensive
Hobbies are expensive and some strict Muslim settings don't give us females freedom
Hey, I completely understand what you're going through because I feel the same way. At 24 I feel lost. I don't know what I should be doing with my life. I know I have to find a job, somehow earn some money so that I don't have to worry about the next meal. But life has been so overwhelming. I went through a very hard time, especially after my father had passed away. I had depression and I was in a very bad state for so many years. I've just started coming out of that state of mind. My advice is take one small step at a time. Do one thing that is gonna help you feel better, like you're actually doing something to improve your life. Even waking up early and praying a Sunnah prayer, or reading a bit of Quran helps. Even if it's cooking something you like, it helps. Anything to make you feel like you're doing something to improve your life bit by bit. I think this existential problem exists within our generation because life has become so hard these days. It's hard to live especially with skyrocketing expenses while earning a meagre salary. I feel you :( I wish I could tell something to comfort you but honestly, I feel terrible myself too. But let's not lose hope. In Sha Allah, everything will turn out well. We are not burdened more than what we can bear. May Allah make it easy for us, dear. Ameen.
I really feel you and this video was a little bit shocking for me since i thought i'm the only one who know this , but literally the comments here are so heartwarming and i realised it's a phase , i loved all the advices here , Allah bless you all جزاكم الله خيرا
Hi sister, I don’t know if you will see my message (I hope you do).. but I really relate to you in a deep level it is almost scary 😅I never thought someone out there had the same experience as me (let alone is able to talk about it, you are so brave because I am scared to even tell my family). I recently graduated from the world’s No. 1 university with a good degree in politics and finance, so AlhamduliAllah. But finance bores me and scares me and politics is stressful and frustrating with how the current world is going.. so.. I can’t see myself in either field. I am not money oriented but more value driven.. for years I followed what others thought is good for me, but now I am an adult and lost my sense of self completely.
For the past year I have done nothing with myself except be very exhausted, lack any motivation and be extremely fearful about taking a step forward. I had an opportunity to go into a high paying field.. but the job conditions were highly stressful and not welcoming to my kind, so I declined even if I feel guilty for my family. I want to be a civil servant (in education or domestic policy related field) but I was too scared to take the exam.. I lack confidence in myself and feel very depressed, scared and hopeless. I don’t know why. I know this might be a momentary thing and I might feel better in the future but I sense my age increasing and my willingness to do anything decline as the months go by.. similar to you, I can’t think of marriage nor children even though I am nearing my mid-20s and have a responsibility of being oldest daughter of my family. I really want to cry sometimes but I can’t, I feel selfish if I try to complain to anyone or voice my opinion. You are so brave for having the courage to even record this and post it into the word, I wish I had a portion of your courage sister ❤ Thank you for being vulnerable and making me realise that I am not alone! Also, I am ENFP :) I think our kind value our freedom, are easily burnt out/ hurt and not like following a strict system with out decent values 😊 I wish both you and me the best and Inshallah we both find our calling sooner or later
omg same person👭 i dont know your name but i will include you my prayers with your youtube nickname😂
Subhanallah this video was so relatable. I thought I was the only one with this problem but now I realize I'm not. In my case, I always give myself power thinking that this is only a passing life, where we won't be held accountable by the money we've made or how rich we've got, but by our actions and good deeds. I see you're a wonderful person sister, so stay strong, and keep Allah in your mind
Girl you're amazing and you don't even know it. I can relate to everything you're saying. No you're not crazy, this world is crazy. But you also might be experiencing a mild depression, or burnout or just a good old existential crisis cause you just graduated. I applaud you for being so honest with yourself, a lot of people just bury that deep down and then go about the rest of their lives miserable and on autopilot. Working 9-5 with a low salary is not it. It feels like you're just slaving away your whole life. You know what helped me get out of that crisis? Try to figure out what you really want to do, what's important to you, and what your dream life would be if you could choose freely. Then think about ways that you can make that life happen for yourself. And if you can use you software degree somehow to get that life, then why not? For me it took getting completely burnt out to realise what's important to me in my life. And now I'm determined to use my degree to fulfill those dreams. May Allah bless you and enlighten your journey dear. Don't forget to ask Him for guidance, He can turn every situation around, even when it feels really dark ❤
I refuse to work, even my body can’t handle that type of life.
I loved the video, it has a lot of feelings and a lot and a lot of problems that all young people live through, but not many of them speak in front of the camera in this bold way, and I want to tell you not to worry, everything will be fine, God willing. I also hate work and jobs in general, and I also love money and I cannot do without it, so I must work and get a job and try as much as possible to love this job. I want to tell you something good, that this life is not for comfort and joy, but for work and diligence, and life is full of difficulties, and I want you to remember that comfort and eternal happiness will be in heaven, God willing.
I totally understand what you are saying my dear. I went through what you are going through now 3 years ago. I quit my job and now I make money from RUclips but it’s not as much as I did when I was working 9-5. But at least I have time for myself and I am not miserable because of working 5 days a week. Since you already have a channel you can continue to make videos and that way you can make money. You are very charismatic and I am sure you will get more subscribers with time. Good luck! ♥️
Don't cry and don't worry every thing will be ok , this life is not good for good people believe me , always remember that. Do what you can and Allah will help you.
You are right,this comment makes me best
Seriously girl, I was thinking all the stuff other night, I felt congested, no hope, I was talking to Allah for all my efforts and still getting nothing in life. You just spoke my heart out. I really liked you, you have the guts and you are original. I saw myself in you but you are much younger as compared to me. I have had been through a lot till now. Life is struggle. Every age group has their own insecurities. No one feels safe in this world.
I've spent the past seven years living under my parents' roof, avoiding work and major responsibilities. Next year, I'll turn 30, and it feels like time has slipped through my fingers. In Morocco, living with your parents until marriage is the norm, but marriage isn’t something I want either. Honestly, I struggle with laziness and the fear of taking on responsibilities I might not be able to handle. Life feels overwhelming and unpredictable. Money is essential to live with dignity, yet the job market is bleak, and even if opportunities existed, I lack the motivation to make a change. All I truly want is to feel mentally okay and have the support I need to navigate this uncertain path.
الله يجبر بخاطرك ..هاد الشعور بالضياع والخوف ..عم عاني منه أيضا لكن الحمد لله على كل حال ..أن شاء الله الايام الجاي خير لنا جميعا
Work online. sit with yourself and decide what you really want in life.
Man... our country is such a 💩hole , we literally have the worst educational system , not studying with our native language , 0 guidance and a toxic society.
@@fictionaddiction4706 I tried working online, it never worked, and i can't find work here in my country! so it leaves me with playing video games, and do nothing! i have no direction in life
"Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease." Quran[94:6].
Keep your head high sister, make dua and do not worry much. May Allah make things easy for you.
Follow the Qur'an fully
If you don't want to work, it's simple. Become a farmer to live like our grandparents. There was never a time that nobody didn't need to work.
You are not dramatic at all! In the world of too much chaos, loud noises and overly glamorous lifestyle of influencers, this video is pure human emotion and so raw. which I completely relate to. I am always asking the same questions, why do I need to work so much? Specially in this era the way everyone puts so much importance on making money and doing so much work, I never relate to this. I see so many young people making videos like I became a millionaire at the age of 20 ughh! Ok good for you.. but it makes me question a lot of things. Life is so uncertain, I have spent half of my life hustling. I had to move away from my family so I can make more money.. but in the end all I wanted was to spend more time with my family. I am always working and then I am so tired that I don’t get time to live. My parents are getting old, I am getting old. I sometimes feel like I want to disappear..all I wanted was to live but I am just surviving..
Your EngIish is perfect and you are 100% correct. They give you a saIary so that you forget your dreams.
Her English isnt perfect and thats okay. Shes aware of it which is good for her to constantly improve.
@@horroscopebyb778exactly, never understood this tendency to circle the edges and say something flawful is perfect. IT IS NOT, you should not lie like that, but it in fact is completely fine not being perfect. Kuddos man
My sister, the world is full of fatigue. I was also like you, but I came to the conclusion that there is only one thing: ALLH did not create the Donia for us to rest in. Rest is in Jnaa Inshaallh❤❤.
He also didn't create us to experience lifelong slavery. Why should the unique gifts He has bestowed on each one of us not be valued? Why should our value be determined by economic productivity and not who or what we are as people and the inherent value Allah swt gave us?
@AffectionateSeaOtter
I don't disagree with you, but as for negative feelings, they exist so that we can be patient with them in this Donia and receive the reward in the Jnaa. ALLH did not create anything in vain, even negative feelings do not exist in us in vain.
so we're all universally crying about hating computer science
That’s really not the problem at all, I’ve been thinking about everything you’ve said and I feel soo stressed and overwhelmed. I quit my difficult 12 hour shift to do something easy, then everyone started telling me and also myself that it’s not a real job. I’ve been jobless for almost 10 months now. I’m scared and I have mental health issues, I want to work but im scared of the commitment to work. I know I should prioritise other things but I want to live - I have one life (this one that I know now) and I want to prioritise myself in it. I am recently just finding myself, I lost myself for all these years and wanted to die. I recently started admiring life and want to be here. Actually here. I am so grateful but also feel like a burden. Thank you and I hope you will read this ❤️
You are soooo adorable girl MashaAllah
These are the kind of videos that I make in my room after every bad or good feeling 😂😂😂
I’m so stressed , life is stressful, studying is stressful but you are not stressful. You are raw and honest and a joy to watch❤ Sending you love sister
Only if u know what "not stressing consciously" will do to your whole self , u'll not be stressing right now.
U got this dear❤ just remember no matter what worst happen in life , not stressing is the key
this video is so relatable😭 may Allah make it easy for you sis
As someone else said in the comments, you are saying EXACTLY what most of us are thinking! May Allah (swt) help all of us in this situation. We understand you loud and clear!! Sending lots of Duas to everyone here!
Yeah, same thought. I am also a university graduate student. I don't want to work because it's so tiring but I have no option, there is only me and my mom, and my mom is getting older everyday and I am seeing her having pain as a sign of her aging. I want to give back to all those people who have helped me, especially my mom because she was the one who struggled the most for me. She has no job at all but she sells any food that she can make just for us to make a living. But also, of course I always thanked Allah for giving me ability to become a scholar in my school and was able to finish my studies tho life was for me, only Allah knows. Now, I have a job. But just like in her video, I don't want to work because it's tiring and has a low salary but still, I'm thankful. I will stay in my job for now until I found a better one, In sha Allah. I believe the help of Allah is near, just keep asking and don't give up. Allah Kareem.
I get you. I feel you. I spent 6 years in university and now halfway to completing my master’s degree. When I did internship I lost my passion because I hated how the reality of the industry is. So now I’m trying my best to figure out how to solve this problem I struggle with. I hate the idea of working under someone. I hate the idea of using my time and energy for “bosses”. I want to start my own thing but I suck at organizing. Maybe I need to find someone who can help me. InsyaAllah, may Allah easy our path in this cruel world, sister ❤️
These thoughts come to me almost everyday girl, the video is relatable for those who are in this confusion state. I entered my masters to delay that work hustle life, not that i don't like my masters but i question it too. At some point I know i have to find ways to make a stable income while living a fulfilled life. I am still searching and learning how to create that life. I wish you the best and thank you for this openness.
The cost of figuring it out is emotional pain and tears, keep going...
Trust me, you are not alone. Being an introvert and being a hijabi, I know how hard it is to look for a job. I have been looking for a job for over a year now and nobody wants to hire me. I have responsibilities of my parents and I cannot leave them. I cannot get married because I am scared of Men who pretend to be good but actually they are not. Corporate life sucks! Corporate life is not for hijabi girls. it is all about Chauvinism, Toxic feminism, Fake inclusivity, Fake laughs and meaningless work that doesn't help people who really need our help. Having said that, I'd still say - 'Stay Positive! And put your trust only in Allah. You never know when your life could change for something better and deserving of you. Think it this way - Allah is protecting you from bad people. Of course, there are good people too but they are negligible. They are managed by evil heads. Insha'Allah something good will find you. Pray and live in gratitude. May Allah make it easy for all of us!'
Me too😢
VISUAL DEMONSTRATION OF : "WOMP ! WOMP !!"
Insane level of self-awareness. very observative. well done.