Some self-regulation tips: -Breathwork/Belly breathing - Moving slowly -Wrapping yourself in a blanket -Cold water exposure -Talking about your feelings with a friend or loved one Journaling or drawing - Warm shower or bath - Muscular relaxation - Hug yourself with compassion and kindness -Grouding (feet in the grass or sand) - Reading a comfortable book - Listening to lullabies - Recognizing your needs and meet them ofc Thank you for this precious video, dear :)
Thank you sooo much for this information. I get really hard on myself when I get emotional because all my life especially from family I have been told stop crying and keep going and if I slow down for just a minute I’m a failure. I completely abandoned the negative emotions that was telling me what I needed at that moment. I’m going to really start listening to my needs❤
I’m usually a podcast girly, but i was scrolling through YT not realizing that this is the podcast that i listen to. This was a much needed video especially after my therapy session. Cheers to everyone in their 20s just figuring it out as we go.
Eliciaaa when I tell you you’ve been dropping heat back to back 😩 literally each video is something I’m currently navigating through and lorrdt you put things into words that I struggle to put together myself
Confirmation because I just told myself to stop letting others control me and my day with my emotions. I’m learning to put my energy where it’s needed the most
Eliciaaa my girl thank you thank you!! Just got back from my first real solo trip and I am so proud of myself and how far I’ve come in the past year. Finding you was a fucking blessing and it’s because of your words that I’ve been able to sustain a strong relationship with my mind - something that has been a huge part of my healing journey. So excited for what’s coming in terms of your vids but also for life in general (for the first time in a long timeeee 😭!!). Sending you so much love and abundance cuz that shit really is all around and inside ❤❤❤
I could not have watched this episode at a more perfect time in my life. Amazing points today Elicia seriously. I felt like every point u made I was just going “omg you’re right- omggg you’re right- OMGGG YOU’RE SO RIGHT” especially at around the 22:23 minute mark. Fave episode so far.
omg i literally feel like we had the same upbringing because everything you’ve mentioned about your parents/childhood and how it’s affected your emotions and personality is JUST like me bdjzjdjd
That makes 3 of us cause literally EVERYTHING she said resonated thoroughly 🥲 its toughhhhh out here but kudos to us for breaking down these feelings that we were taught to think of as “wrong”
By far what I've heard from you has been great. I've always found it had to show up for my inner child but today you've digged deep and I fully understand and know what to do when I spiral out of control. Thank you so so much for what you are doing for us, you are truly a big sister I've never had and with what I've learned from you I can truly show up as a big sis to my younger siblings ❤❤❤
Just found your channel today and it’s GOLDDD. And then you just mentioned candy, it’s me! Feeling super seen and supported from your work. Powerful voice & story! Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I was listening to Tate McRae back when she was just posting on RUclips. Teenage Mind was one of the first songs I learned on the ukulele. I'm SO proud of how far she's come. Her music is AMAZING
Can you talk about maintaining healthy relationships with family and friends but also how to avoid the toxic ones, what flags should I consider to be the limit to detaching my peace from their toxicity.
OMG!! I had to stop and comment when you mentioned candy as a self soother! My goodness my addiction to candy, more specifically cheery candy, was and still is a self regulation!!! 😩 I mean at this point it’s also a bad habit and I’m in my 30s. Thank you sharing!
28:49 What ive done in the past with journaling these emotions is write over and over on the same sentence so it just turns to black ink that i can’t read even if i tried again lol
just wanted to say if you find yourself identifying with aspects of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles you may have a 'disorganized' attachment style (that's what i have lol) just something to look into if ur interested
Yes yes!! I was thinking of that in my head but was like omg if bring thag up I’ll want to deep dive into that and I need to stay on track but yessss you are right 😭🤍
I don’t have free guided meditations or breathwork affirmations! 🤍 I have 3 digital journal guides & my book that I published, which you will find links in the description. They aren’t free though 🤍
Love your stuff, but the “circumstances don’t matter” phrase is pretty dismissive and disrespectful to a lot of viewers. Some circumstances really do matter a lot.
I’ve always made it abundantly clear that when I’m saying circumstances don’t matter it’s not that they don’t exist or don’t actually matter. Coming from someone who’s withstood incredibly hard circumstances, I will agree to disagree with you on this one.
@@theglowupsecretspodcast I'm sorry, but I just don't quite understand what you're trying to say -- it's not abundantly clear. It seems that an effective paraphrase of your comment is "when I say circumstances don't matter, it's not that they don't actually matter." But there's no elaboration on what you really mean there. Every human goes through incredibly hard circumstances. And at least once, those circumstances will matter so incredibly much that life gets flipped upside-down. I stand by what I said -- you should clarify what you mean, because your statement comes off as dismissive and disrespectful.
I don’t think she meant it to be dismissive, but regardless of what we’ve been through we all have a responsibility to either heal from it and move forward or to stay stuck in it. I’m wishing you the best.
Maybe it would be easier to break down what Elicia has touched upon in several of her videos with this summary: Every person is born into a set of circumstances. And it's sometimes 'survival of the fittest' so there are bound to be many who have learnt to react, not respond, to certain stimuli with a pre-recorded set of actions because that's what they did to survive from a difficult childhood. But after a certain point in life, those recorded 'reactions' and the internal narrative surrounding those survival skills might not be self-sustaining anymore. So one of the questions that comes up is: is the person in question still expecting some sort of apology from those who have harmed them? But will that apology really give the person the closure that they seek? Or will it simply be a feel-good thing that happened, but didn't really address the core issues? All to say, any narrative that a person has about their life comes from them. Sure, there are certain circumstances that will require a lot of effort to navigate and it can feel like life is betting against them, which is also a narrative, but that doesn't mean no one person has to focus on what they can't do and can't try to do what they can do at the moment of crisis. Especially when the crisis does not constitute bodily harm or lack of bodily autonomy. The 'circumstances doesn't matter' means that a narrative can always be changed to what a person wants it to be to motivate themselves. Or don't. Since the choice of any narrative is up to the person living their life.
i love how you connected an individual and a relationship on what someone aka yourself needs. i think it’s very important to actually listen to your NEEDS and WANTS. taking care of business 🤍
Some self-regulation tips:
-Breathwork/Belly breathing
- Moving slowly
-Wrapping yourself in a blanket
-Cold water exposure
-Talking about your feelings with a friend or loved one
Journaling or drawing
- Warm shower or bath
- Muscular relaxation
- Hug yourself with compassion and kindness
-Grouding (feet in the grass or sand)
- Reading a comfortable book
- Listening to lullabies
- Recognizing your needs and meet them ofc
Thank you for this precious video, dear :)
It’s anything that relaxes you, but these are a few obvious ways yes.
Thank you sooo much for this information. I get really hard on myself when I get emotional because all my life especially from family I have been told stop crying and keep going and if I slow down for just a minute I’m a failure. I completely abandoned the negative emotions that was telling me what I needed at that moment. I’m going to really start listening to my needs❤
I’m usually a podcast girly, but i was scrolling through YT not realizing that this is the podcast that i listen to. This was a much needed video especially after my therapy session. Cheers to everyone in their 20s just figuring it out as we go.
Thanks girl and same 💗🥲
thank you so much, as someone who’ve been told “tears not gonna help you with current situation” i feel you 💔💔
Eliciaaa when I tell you you’ve been dropping heat back to back 😩 literally each video is something I’m currently navigating through and lorrdt you put things into words that I struggle to put together myself
I’m so happy my episodes are resonating babessssss 🥹🤍
Confirmation because I just told myself to stop letting others control me and my day with my emotions. I’m learning to put my energy where it’s needed the most
I hear the rumors are true, you do have perfect timing 😜
Love this episode! It will definitely be a multiple listen type of video. Thank you ❤
Hahaha I’m so happy you agreee ✨🥰🤍
this video made me cry so much bc I felt so heard, I love your chanel. You seem so genuine and sweet thank you for all your great advice 🥹💕
I’m so happy this episode helped 🥹 i appreciate you so so much 🤍
Eliciaaa my girl thank you thank you!! Just got back from my first real solo trip and I am so proud of myself and how far I’ve come in the past year. Finding you was a fucking blessing and it’s because of your words that I’ve been able to sustain a strong relationship with my mind - something that has been a huge part of my healing journey. So excited for what’s coming in terms of your vids but also for life in general (for the first time in a long timeeee 😭!!). Sending you so much love and abundance cuz that shit really is all around and inside ❤❤❤
Oh gosh I’m so honoured 🥹🤍 and SO PROUD OF YOU!!!!
I could not have watched this episode at a more perfect time in my life. Amazing points today Elicia seriously. I felt like every point u made I was just going “omg you’re right- omggg you’re right- OMGGG YOU’RE SO RIGHT” especially at around the 22:23 minute mark. Fave episode so far.
Aww I’m so happy this resonated with you!!! 🥹🥹🤍🤍
I don't know how but you're ALWAYS right time right place! Enjoy watching your videos while doing my daily routine and it always feels so refreshing ❤
I love u 🥹🤍
omg i literally feel like we had the same upbringing because everything you’ve mentioned about your parents/childhood and how it’s affected your emotions and personality is JUST like me bdjzjdjd
That makes 3 of us cause literally EVERYTHING she said resonated thoroughly 🥲 its toughhhhh out here but kudos to us for breaking down these feelings that we were taught to think of as “wrong”
@ exactly. breaking the cycle 😌🩷✨
Wow, speaks so loud and made so much sense for me. Re-parent myself, definitely. Accountability is important ❤
Omg I’ve been needing this pod thank you girly💖
I got you babes 🥰
This is what I've been listening to everytime I workkkk
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By far what I've heard from you has been great. I've always found it had to show up for my inner child but today you've digged deep and I fully understand and know what to do when I spiral out of control. Thank you so so much for what you are doing for us, you are truly a big sister I've never had and with what I've learned from you I can truly show up as a big sis to my younger siblings ❤❤❤
Love you so much 🥹🤍🤍
thank you for this
You’re so welcome babe!! 🥰
Wow, the timing is insane ❤
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Just found your channel today and it’s GOLDDD. And then you just mentioned candy, it’s me! Feeling super seen and supported from your work. Powerful voice & story! Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I was listening to Tate McRae back when she was just posting on RUclips. Teenage Mind was one of the first songs I learned on the ukulele. I'm SO proud of how far she's come. Her music is AMAZING
Ugh yes I would die for her in truly obsessed 🙏🏼🤍
When I’m triggered, thinking about what my higher self would think, say, feel, works SO well for me! When I can 😂
You give me hope.
Can you talk about maintaining healthy relationships with family and friends but also how to avoid the toxic ones, what flags should I consider to be the limit to detaching my peace from their toxicity.
11:12 not an easy situation for anyone, but I wonder if this section would help you also. Wishing you the best!
OMG!! I had to stop and comment when you mentioned candy as a self soother! My goodness my addiction to candy, more specifically cheery candy, was and still is a self regulation!!! 😩 I mean at this point it’s also a bad habit and I’m in my 30s. Thank you sharing!
Do you still crave candy???
The part about projecting!! Omgggg SO GOOD!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is exactly the messaging I needed to start my day on a positive note! ❤
I help students with their assignments: essays, thesis, dissertation and any other paper.
Love your videos. Such a great episode, appreciate you sharing and giving us insight on healing ❤️
This is too good can’t miss these talks ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊
Hope you loved it 🥹🤍
@@theglowupsecretspodcast I surely did everything you said is 💯💯💯💯💯 correct 🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😩😩😩
God I’m so glad I found this channel !!
What's better than waking up to this 😍. ❤❤❤❤❤
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28:49 What ive done in the past with journaling these emotions is write over and over on the same sentence so it just turns to black ink that i can’t read even if i tried again lol
i do this too!!
just wanted to say if you find yourself identifying with aspects of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles you may have a 'disorganized' attachment style (that's what i have lol) just something to look into if ur interested
Yes yes!! I was thinking of that in my head but was like omg if bring thag up I’ll want to deep dive into that and I need to stay on track but yessss you are right 😭🤍
I found your RUclips channel about 2 nights ago and decided to subscribe. I want to practice the things you suggested.
Love this 🤍
You just said a word Amen 🎉
literally watched this twice and took notes it's soooo good 😭🤍
You’re my new bestie ❤
MANIFESTED THIS EPISODE ❤
Perfect 😍
Me too!!!
Same here!! ❤️
Thank you ❤
Can you do a episode where you talk about how to market yourself/brand in the professional world ?
If I ever do another episode on business & content creation I can touch on this yes!!
@@theglowupsecretspodcast thank you 💘
44:48 hi! You mentioned you would share links to your favorite affirmations/ meditations. Can you share please
Good video very helpful! God Bless!
So glad you enjoyed 🤍
Will you please let me know where the links to your free guided meditations, breath work and affirmations are?
I don’t have free guided meditations or breathwork affirmations! 🤍 I have 3 digital journal guides & my book that I published, which you will find links in the description. They aren’t free though 🤍
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Thank you
@@theglowupsecretspodcast Thank you.
Who's the artist?
Hey, i don t see where you linked the meditations you have used 😢
Hiii sorry just type in “the mindful movement” on RUclips!! I listen to all of their guided meditations ☺️
Can u please link your mic Elicia ?
I got you! it's linked in my description now 🥰
@@theglowupsecretspodcast thank u giiirll 🥹❤️
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Love your stuff, but the “circumstances don’t matter” phrase is pretty dismissive and disrespectful to a lot of viewers. Some circumstances really do matter a lot.
I’ve always made it abundantly clear that when I’m saying circumstances don’t matter it’s not that they don’t exist or don’t actually matter. Coming from someone who’s withstood incredibly hard circumstances, I will agree to disagree with you on this one.
@@theglowupsecretspodcast I'm sorry, but I just don't quite understand what you're trying to say -- it's not abundantly clear. It seems that an effective paraphrase of your comment is "when I say circumstances don't matter, it's not that they don't actually matter." But there's no elaboration on what you really mean there. Every human goes through incredibly hard circumstances. And at least once, those circumstances will matter so incredibly much that life gets flipped upside-down. I stand by what I said -- you should clarify what you mean, because your statement comes off as dismissive and disrespectful.
I don’t think she meant it to be dismissive, but regardless of what we’ve been through we all have a responsibility to either heal from it and move forward or to stay stuck in it. I’m wishing you the best.
Maybe it would be easier to break down what Elicia has touched upon in several of her videos with this summary:
Every person is born into a set of circumstances. And it's sometimes 'survival of the fittest' so there are bound to be many who have learnt to react, not respond, to certain stimuli with a pre-recorded set of actions because that's what they did to survive from a difficult childhood. But after a certain point in life, those recorded 'reactions' and the internal narrative surrounding those survival skills might not be self-sustaining anymore. So one of the questions that comes up is: is the person in question still expecting some sort of apology from those who have harmed them? But will that apology really give the person the closure that they seek? Or will it simply be a feel-good thing that happened, but didn't really address the core issues?
All to say, any narrative that a person has about their life comes from them. Sure, there are certain circumstances that will require a lot of effort to navigate and it can feel like life is betting against them, which is also a narrative, but that doesn't mean no one person has to focus on what they can't do and can't try to do what they can do at the moment of crisis. Especially when the crisis does not constitute bodily harm or lack of bodily autonomy. The 'circumstances doesn't matter' means that a narrative can always be changed to what a person wants it to be to motivate themselves. Or don't. Since the choice of any narrative is up to the person living their life.
🙏🏿 beautiful ❤️
Ok not tryna be negative just helpful but the mic is ringing a little bit after you speak idk how to fix that but yes thank you for your videos
Algorithm, why now?! If I had watched this podcast months ago, my relationship might have survived 😮💨
I love your RUclips content but you have too many ads
my bad, if I don't manually place them than youtube adds literally 500 ads and I guess when I posted this episode I gapped it- fixed it now lol sorry
i love how you connected an individual and a relationship on what someone aka yourself needs. i think it’s very important to actually listen to your NEEDS and WANTS. taking care of business 🤍
41:40 yessss girl circumstances don’t matter yikyk 🥰🩷
ILY 😍😍