My advice is to find someone who is compatible with you. I have 2 children and have been working but have decided to stay home now that my husband’s earns a lot more. I know that I want to spend more time with my children and relax a little more, and would never feel like I cannot ask my husband for money (I just tap his card tbh) because we both don’t have to contribute financially. You can contribute it other ways. I do agree that lazy men is not okay. Even when I am home, my husband is still a big part of the household (with the kids, with cleaning etc)
It’s good to see an intelligent young sister delivering such wisdom about marriage and life. And it’s true 90% of people out there that always have opinion on marriage are not married or they had one terrible marriage experience.
I really like the fact that she explained what "young" might mean when someone recommends getting married young. A lot of people assume its early 20's right off the bat. However, you can also get married at 25, 28, or 30 and still be young. By then, you're frontal lobe has developed and you're more sure of who you are and what you want out of life. Young might not represent an age as much as it represents a mindset and phase in your life. It's important to be mature, but not so set in your ways that bringing someone into your life would cause problems. You want to be able to grow with someone, not set yourself up for growing apart. Important ideas to keep in mind when considering marriage. Great podcast!
That would be ideal...As a woman, I would say if you want to get married, aim by 30. As for men, I would say by early 30s. Life is short and goes by quickly. I am someone who is in her mid-30s and not married due to having a problematic circumstance. However, I feel like the most growth happened in my 30s,, and my EQ has dramatically improved.
Waiting till 30 is a bit of a stretch for women. We can say everything about maturity and brain development etc but the fact is a 30 year old woman is not as desired as a younger woman. I agree that the woman should be mature but not the extend that she is so set in her ways that a man can’t Tell her nothing, and not being submissive to him. Its a balance. I still believe that a woman that’s 23 can still be mature enough and not set in her ways either.
So many women have children by their early 40s. No birth defects issues or even fertility issues. However, it is essential to have a blood test and other tests to check fertility - once a year. I know someone who got married at 24 and had fertility issues, but not her 27-year-old cousin. Every woman's body is different. Becoming a parent is life-changing, and not everyone can handle it in their 20s.
I gotta say I also met my husband on one of these apps and we got married after 3 months and we are 2 years strong and enjoying our life together Alhamdulilah. I do want to say that we were blessed from Allah, there are MANYYY men on these apps that are not practicing, looking for green cards, or just want to date in the sense of western dating. Be careful sisters but never lose hope. Allah is with us ❤
I get married when I was 17 years old with out finished high schools I have five beautiful kids four boys and one girl she’s the youngest Alxamdullah my oldest son 27 youngest girl she’s 19 Alxamdullah ❤️
We married after just a month and a half and it was the best decision we have made. It felt like Allah was instantly happier with us, and we have a great relationship! Everyone is surprised when they hear that I am 21 and married my husband in such a short time, but I am surprised when I hear people who wait… this is a great video. Thank you!!
I know her and I am one of her RUclips subscribers. She is a great mentor in the area of research. Before this interview, I believed that she was Somali. Salute to both of you wonderful ladies.
I love this girl mashallah. I’ve been following her channel for many years and I love her mindset and eloquence. This podcast made me love her more alhamdulilah ❤
What an enjoyable conversation. I am watching it 3 days later. I wish she (Amina) could say how she manages such a busy life with 2 small children in a foreign country. That must be a real challenge.
Masha Allah, it's nice to see you Dr. Amina. You are my mentor and teacher. Greetings from Jijiga City Ethiopia. I really don't know how to thank you I have learned a lot from your RUclips educational channel
I live in Kenya and the reality she mentioned about having a house manager at home is quite the norm. However this type of help is a bit more expensive because the govt regulated how much they get paid. But it is the Norm more often than not to get paid help at home. With traffic in Nairobi, it is hectic coming from work to go home to cook, homework and laundry...
while,some people assume that if you reach 20's you should get married. I would argue that even if you are 20 or more,it requires maturity and the potential ability to be responsible
Respected sheen Asalamu Alikum Your this interview is super. I liked your channel very much. Love your interview. I appreciate you for this. May Almighty Allah bless you with endless happiness and fulfill all your dreams and aspirations. 5:44
U will lost and alot guys. This two are lost already. She not understand the roles of that she said his money is my money. Absolutly lost generation and ppl. Sad to hear this brain washing to young girl. And in the conversation I absolutly dont hear nothing about GOD. Live is hard and you will become lost, if you dont come to God back, what I mean with that is that you will play the role right and not only snake womans.Crazy.
My advice is to find someone who is compatible with you. I have 2 children and have been working but have decided to stay home now that my husband’s earns a lot more. I know that I want to spend more time with my children and relax a little more, and would never feel like I cannot ask my husband for money (I just tap his card tbh) because we both don’t have to contribute financially. You can contribute it other ways. I do agree that lazy men is not okay. Even when I am home, my husband is still a big part of the household (with the kids, with cleaning etc)
It’s good to see an intelligent young sister delivering such wisdom about marriage and life. And it’s true 90% of people out there that always have opinion on marriage are not married or they had one terrible marriage experience.
I really like the fact that she explained what "young" might mean when someone recommends getting married young. A lot of people assume its early 20's right off the bat. However, you can also get married at 25, 28, or 30 and still be young. By then, you're frontal lobe has developed and you're more sure of who you are and what you want out of life. Young might not represent an age as much as it represents a mindset and phase in your life. It's important to be mature, but not so set in your ways that bringing someone into your life would cause problems. You want to be able to grow with someone, not set yourself up for growing apart. Important ideas to keep in mind when considering marriage. Great podcast!
Precisely! Thank you
That would be ideal...As a woman, I would say if you want to get married, aim by 30. As for men, I would say by early 30s. Life is short and goes by quickly. I am someone who is in her mid-30s and not married due to having a problematic circumstance. However, I feel like the most growth happened in my 30s,, and my EQ has dramatically improved.
You should be married by 25 at the latest. 28-35 you might experience fertility problems. And birth defects possibly.
Waiting till 30 is a bit of a stretch for women. We can say everything about maturity and brain development etc but the fact is a 30 year old woman is not as desired as a younger woman. I agree that the woman should be mature but not the extend that she is so set in her ways that a man can’t Tell her nothing, and not being submissive to him. Its a balance. I still believe that a woman that’s 23 can still be mature enough and not set in her ways either.
So many women have children by their early 40s. No birth defects issues or even fertility issues. However, it is essential to have a blood test and other tests to check fertility - once a year. I know someone who got married at 24 and had fertility issues, but not her 27-year-old cousin. Every woman's body is different. Becoming a parent is life-changing, and not everyone can handle it in their 20s.
Dr Amina...the part where you said you just did a nikkah won my heart. The simple things are the best.
Appreciate that - I didn't want anything more!
I have the same feeling 🥹
I gotta say I also met my husband on one of these apps and we got married after 3 months and we are 2 years strong and enjoying our life together Alhamdulilah. I do want to say that we were blessed from Allah, there are MANYYY men on these apps that are not practicing, looking for green cards, or just want to date in the sense of western dating. Be careful sisters but never lose hope. Allah is with us ❤
I get married when I was 17 years old with out finished high schools I have five beautiful kids four boys and one girl she’s the youngest Alxamdullah my oldest son 27 youngest girl she’s 19 Alxamdullah ❤️
This is the way !
Western world has gone deep into Islamic women brains. They switched the way to build a family , literally !
Very lucky
Where are you from I think you are Somali 😂
@@shueibmaow Calmo Down😂
@@najibfaysal4259 muuse iga wareji 😂😁
We married after just a month and a half and it was the best decision we have made. It felt like Allah was instantly happier with us, and we have a great relationship! Everyone is surprised when they hear that I am 21 and married my husband in such a short time, but I am surprised when I hear people who wait… this is a great video. Thank you!!
I Never married But I Got more Advantage To this Narrative thank you sister
This women is so wise ngl I am so admired from all these wisdoms😮💨
Dr Amina is amazing women, educator, and mentor.
I know her and I am one of her RUclips subscribers. She is a great mentor in the area of research. Before this interview, I believed that she was Somali. Salute to both of you wonderful ladies.
She is talking about mortgages
Appreciate that! East Africans look very similar :)
Lemme know her RUclips.
@@DrAminaYoniswhich part of east Africa are you from Amina ?
I also thought that she was a Somali Ethiopian from the Somali region in Ethiopia.
Please have her again she soo good ❤
Aw appreciate you :)
I love this girl mashallah. I’ve been following her channel for many years and I love her mindset and eloquence. This podcast made me love her more alhamdulilah ❤
What an enjoyable conversation. I am watching it 3 days later. I wish she (Amina) could say how she manages such a busy life with 2 small children in a foreign country. That must be a real challenge.
It isn't easy but much easier than London!
I am satisfied with the answers of Dr.Amina Harari.Allah bless her
my two mentors in one frame. Allahuma baarik
Dr. Amina your so well spoken and inspiring, allahumabarik💞🌸
Thank you!
I saw the tumbnail and start watching because of my Ethiopian Sister. I thought it was podcast from Ethiopia💖
Thank you!
I think you are Somali isn't it?@DrAminaYonis
I enjoyed every second of this video. Thank you for sharing this perspective.
Mnshallah Dr. Amina Harari❤
Masha Allah, it's nice to see you Dr. Amina. You are my mentor and teacher. Greetings from Jijiga City Ethiopia. I really don't know how to thank you I have learned a lot from your RUclips educational channel
I live in Kenya and the reality she mentioned about having a house manager at home is quite the norm.
However this type of help is a bit more expensive because the govt regulated how much they get paid.
But it is the Norm more often than not to get paid help at home.
With traffic in Nairobi, it is hectic coming from work to go home to cook, homework and laundry...
Love herrr, she's sooo motivational !! MashAllah 💗
I loved Dr Amina's insights ❤
First time here since when you were with Ali abdaal
She's my blood🇸🇴💙
Is she Somali? I think she's Ethiopian.
She’s Ethiopian.
Sure, she looks like Somali. I am Somali❤.
She’s harari ethiopian
For your information she is Ethiopian, for detailed information see her Marriage video.
while,some people assume that if you reach 20's you should get married. I would argue that even if you are 20 or more,it requires maturity and the potential ability to be responsible
It's a wonderful topic. Thank you both! Dr. Amina, I always follow your insightful content on RUclips and benefit from it.
Thank you for this conversation. It's really eye opening. I find myself agreeing with everything.
She is oromo
@@mohamedfaysal5406 I'm not
No
13:53 Doing work in the cafe together to get to know one another is too cute😭❤️
Smart lady. That’s why she’s married and her peers are spinsters
Somali 🇸🇴 woman ❤️
Delete ethiopia woman
She is Ethiopian, harari
@hibakahin1994 really wow ❤️
Respected sheen
Asalamu Alikum
Your this interview is super. I liked your channel very much. Love your interview. I appreciate you for this. May Almighty Allah bless you with endless happiness and fulfill all your dreams and aspirations. 5:44
I think she's 🇸🇴
From Ethiopia
Nice🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
والله i like to interview is suber love you sheen
She was 25 I think that’s reasonable
When she got married ?
@@tull1207yes
Free Palestine
Dr amine i know her and i each her youtube
She look like somali
She is Ethiopian
Yeah I think she is Somalia
She is somali her name is somali there're some somali regions in Ethiopia so she is somali ethiopian
@@JuweeriyaJuwo Ty so much ❤️
@@JuweeriyaJuwo No. She’s not Somali.
Three months is crazy and she’ll learn the hard way
She’s been married over 7 years and has 2 kids… what will she learn? 🙄
@@fatima4404 as if years determine anything nowadays🤓
25 is reasonable
Someone’s jealous
💙💙💙
She .is somali
Nope she's Ethiopian habeshi
26 year is a young age nooo
😂😂
U will lost and alot guys. This two are lost already. She not understand the roles of that she said his money is my money. Absolutly lost generation and ppl.
Sad to hear this brain washing to young girl. And in the conversation I absolutly dont hear nothing about GOD.
Live is hard and you will become lost, if you dont come to God back, what I mean with that is that you will play the role right and not only snake womans.Crazy.