I feel bitter about going through nobody mentioning me a lack of self love during my 10 year journey with depression and anxiety, hating myself, suicide attempts... I have always been a people pleaser, going against my nature. My natural personality is very intense, very emotional and assertive. Or at least it was that way when I was a child and in periods without the depression. I tried to push this personality down the best I could, to be lovable. When I heard I have the right to not be responsible for feelings of others (in another Carl's video), I finally felt free for a moment. Jorney is so long, but I have hope. Catastrophizing is particularly difficult to deal with, for me at least. Thank you for your gentle approach, this channel feels like a safe place.
I have watched a lot of therapy videos/ therapists on youtube.....you are the best for me....you are a balm for my sorrowful soul. Thank you, Counselor Carl. THANK YOU.
Thank you so much as a young woman I wish I saw these videos years ago. Glad I am seeing them now. Transforming our own pain into healing for self and others is the power of love.
Great video Carl, thank you. What about if many of ones unhelpful beliefs are held subconsciously and so are much more difficult to tease out and verbalise?
+Counselor Carl thanks for your comment. I guess that's the key point with therapy, hearing your story reflected back to you by a qualified therapist allows you to 'hear' your stories for the first time.
Hi, Arnie. That is the good news because now you can be more mindful of not believing these stories you tell yourself that are self-defeating. With practice, it will get better.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy you are a great help for me. When I think back, my father has installed a deep conviction into my brain, that there is something wrong with me. I criticized me for every word a said, and every deed I did. So I kind quit talking. I hate being with people. I am afraid of making phone calls. I am afraid of making mistakes, at work and everywhere. I can not recall having received approval from my father. Only blame for everything, and being compared to everybody. I am deeply convinced that I am special in a negative sense. I never receive a warm touch or hug. Only blame. I had to know everything how it's done, without having been thought. I was not allowed to for exemple drive his car a few meters. Or anything else. I could not been trusted with anything. I never felt accepted. So I didn't accept myself. And that's why nobody accepts me.
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I feel bitter about going through nobody mentioning me a lack of self love during my 10 year journey with depression and anxiety, hating myself, suicide attempts... I have always been a people pleaser, going against my nature. My natural personality is very intense, very emotional and assertive. Or at least it was that way when I was a child and in periods without the depression.
I tried to push this personality down the best I could, to be lovable.
When I heard I have the right to not be responsible for feelings of others (in another Carl's video), I finally felt free for a moment.
Jorney is so long, but I have hope.
Catastrophizing is particularly difficult to deal with, for me at least.
Thank you for your gentle approach, this channel feels like a safe place.
Thank you for sharing, Isidora! I wish you the best on your journey to healing, growth, and your True Self.
I have watched a lot of therapy videos/ therapists on youtube.....you are the best for me....you are a balm for my sorrowful soul. Thank you, Counselor Carl. THANK YOU.
You're welcome, Pip! And thanks for your kind words. I wish you the best.
Thank you so much as a young woman I wish I saw these videos years ago. Glad I am seeing them now. Transforming our own pain into healing for self and others is the power of love.
You're welcome, Teresa! I wish you the best.
This is a blessing to me...thank you, you are helping people all over the world, what a priceless gift!
You're welcome, Karina! And thank you so much for your kind words.
I have been searching for this information for years. Now I’m enlightened I can start my healing journey from day forward. Thank you
You're welcome, Florence! I wish you the best!
Thank you Counselor Carl.
Your videos are very helpful.
I'm trying to gradually change my personality from co-dependency to normal.
Wish me luck
Thank you! And I wish you the best of luck!
Thank you for your videos they are very helpful for my self growth and healing
You're very welcome, Emma! Best wishes!
LOVE your channel! What a gift for many! Thank you for your work Counselor Carl! :)
Nirali Cooks. You're very welcome. Best wishes!
Excellent presentation.
Thanks Counselor Carl.💙💫✨
Oh my gosh. It's like your in my brain. Every. Single. Video. Thank you so much!!!
You're welcome! Best wishes!
Thank you....every video is so simple yet so in tune with me...very helpful and comforting
You're welcome! Best wishes!
Just GREAT!!!!!! Thank you SO MUCH!!!! God Bless 😍
You're welcome, Mike!
what wonderful information.....very specific yet comprehensive, thank you
You're welcome!
Great video Carl, thank you. What about if many of ones unhelpful beliefs are held subconsciously and so are much more difficult to tease out and verbalise?
Great question! Therapy can help with this. You have to learn to listen to the stories you tell yourself, particularly in times of stress.
+Counselor Carl thanks for your comment. I guess that's the key point with therapy, hearing your story reflected back to you by a qualified therapist allows you to 'hear' your stories for the first time.
+Kerry C. Exactly, and then learning to hear the story yourself gives you options you never had before.
I love your videos they are helping me so much. Thank you!!
You're welcome, Jayde! Best wishes!
it is so easy to fall back into old schemas....thank you for the great insights...i will author my own stories as the endings are much nicer heehee.
Thank you! Best wishes!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. The video's are so clear and helpful.
Have a very nice day.
mc dijkhuizen. You're welcome!
Wow! That really hits home with me.
Very interesting video. like your other videos this too opens up the deep the world of psychology in easy and comprehensible language . Thank you dr
You're welcome! And that is my goal.
Thankyou your videos are very good
Hi, Liz. Thank you! And you're welcome.
Thanks 🥺❤️
enjoyed this video very much. thank you.
You're very welcome!
Know what would be a good video . Storys that are helpful to us the turn around
Nice suggestion! Thanks!
Hi, Sam. Here is a video that does some of what you are asking for. ruclips.net/video/22xlNYB9cP4/видео.html
Ur videos are so helpful thank u
You're welcome! Best wishes!
Great video, I love it.
Thank you for your kind words!
Good news: I scored 100%!
Bad news: That’s the worst possible score.
I hope to figure this stuff out some day.
Hi, Arnie. That is the good news because now you can be more mindful of not believing these stories you tell yourself that are self-defeating. With practice, it will get better.
Wow. This is me
Now you know what to work on. Best wishes!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy yes. Thank you
@@theforeigner6988 You're welcome!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy you are a great help for me.
When I think back, my father has installed a deep conviction into my brain, that there is something wrong with me. I criticized me for every word a said, and every deed I did. So I kind quit talking. I hate being with people. I am afraid of making phone calls. I am afraid of making mistakes, at work and everywhere. I can not recall having received approval from my father. Only blame for everything, and being compared to everybody. I am deeply convinced that I am special in a negative sense. I never receive a warm touch or hug. Only blame. I had to know everything how it's done, without having been thought. I was not allowed to for exemple drive his car a few meters. Or anything else. I could not been trusted with anything. I never felt accepted. So I didn't accept myself. And that's why nobody accepts me.
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