Dear Colleen Ballinger, You are NOT the Victim...
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- Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024
- Dear Colleen Ballinger, You are NOT the Victim... | Deep Dive. We need to talk about Adam McIntyre, parasocial relationships, power dynamics, and how influencers are not your friends.
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Colleen literally committed a real crime sending p@rn to minors, she could face prison time or at least be put on a register. I hope people realise this isn't just “drama”
I did wonder about this element of it, I wouldn't be surprised if that's one of the main reasons why she's hooked up with the shady lawyers
The thing is that according to CA laws, if she sent p@rnographic materials to minors with the intent of having relations to said minors, she can face years in prison. A Police investigation need to be done on that matter.
Dude thats what I was thinking when Salem said, "the victims are only asking for a private and public apology," I was thinking how she got off so easy with that and she couldn't even do that.
i wonder what she can be charged with and how many years she can get
Can anyone tell me if the fact that he was (and is) living in Ireland prevent or hinder any charges? Are there any international laws of any kind?
Adam was not speaking "his truth" he was speaking the truth.
Yes. Exactly.
yes this. I’m so tired of this “my truth” and “their truth”. it’s either true or it isn’t.
Adam McIntyre is speaking what the truth actually is, not ‘truth according to him.
Right
And he does it intelligently and in a mature way! I was so happy he had fun at Disney last week with his mom!
@@kailahprice6792Yeah i think millions of people would get the ref but this really isn’t a joking matter
It makes me so mad when shes like “u ruined my reputation!!!🥺” like girl YOU ruined it by committing literal crimes😭like.. you are not the victim, you are a threat to any junior high😭
“they stabbed me in my bowny wittle back 🥺🥺”
Technically your reputation relies on the morals and judgement of people around you, so maybe she believes that if the people around her didn’t think what she did was bad then her reputation would be intact.
I personally like the phrase “you’re not ruining their reputation, you’re making it accurate”
If Colleen's definition of "perfect" is literally just not grooming children, actively bodyshaming a friend on their back, being racist, transphobic and having a weird fixation on gay/bi men then call me perfect.
im sorry she whated bi/gay non-women?? this is new
@@palemeadowsyeah, she had a weird obsession with gay and bi men with her alter ego calling all her gay/bi male friends her "bfs" 🌚 in one of her disgusting books. She also might have been one of the reasons why Shane Dawson came out. This is only speculation okay and ofc Shane still is an awful person but no one should be forced to come out yk.
@@shotaaizawaslay god queer people cant exist
Yikes, she really ticks all the boxes for being a terrible person.
@@TheCardboardStarship she also groomed jojo, which is sad no one is speaking on it
It's interesting how she initially made Miranda Sings to make fun of "mean girls" when she was secretly the meanest one of them all AND a creep on top of it. She even monetized the "Toxic Gossip Train" so be careful Salem about her trying to "copyright" claim you
Yes, but even Leagle Eagle had somethings to say about that. It an be used in fair use for educational purposes, which all of this is. "The song was copyrighted soon as she put out the video, automatically.... Additionally, it qualifies as fair use...if someone takes her to court, she is going to lose." So - yeah.
H3H3 already received a Cease and Desist order from Ballinger for the same reason and, like you pointed out, she's copyright claiming that horrendous 'song' from creators who reacted. The entitlement and egomania knows no boundaries with that psychopath.
@@victoriamartines5030 still cannot believe her legal team sent it to the wrong person at first 😂 poor dude runs a fan channel with reuploads of Ethan and got caught in the crossfire 😂
Yeah. Cease and Desist is a joke.
I don't even know if she really made the character to make fun of "mean girls," she just wanted to tease other girls she thought she was superior to
It did kinda bother me that this got categorized as a “youtuber apology” there was no apology. It was a diss track to her haters. She is not sorry.
Yeah, the only time she said sorry in that video was "sorry youre not getting an apology from me"
It was 100% a diss track, thank you for calling it what it is
It isn't an apology, but it's in the same format as other bad youtuber 'apologies'
It has the same energy as Karma by JoJo Siwa.
It’s disgusting how she feels like she’s the victim it’s just so wrong, she’s done vile acts. The line “I would never make a mistake like that” is just so funny because most people would definitely NOT make a choice (not a mistake she knew what she was doing) like that
I think it’s bold of her to say she wouldn’t make a mistake like that when there’s tons and tons of proof of her being gross
Who actually was hurt, in all this? Only Colleen. Adam says he was damaged. But, how?
@@craigharmon9494 the people who said they were hurt? Either way even if no one but Colleen was hurt I don’t and will not feel bad, she literally hurt herself by being a creep to literal children, since when do people wanna let pedophiles off the hook??
@@craigharmon9494hold on let me get my ukelele and I'll explain how exploiting your child audience for emotional labor is hurting them
@@craigharmon9494what. stay away from children creep
The thing that Adam’s pointed out recently is that Colleen has hired a Criminal Defense Lawyer. You don’t hire them to go after other people, you hire them because you’re worried about having charges brought against you.
The reason she hasn’t apologized is because that would mean admitting that she did some potentially illegal things, and in at least one instance actually broke a federal law that could result in a maximum of 10 years in prison (sending nude pictures to a minor under the age of 16).
@@Andromyway Exactly. There's a reason why she says at the beginning of her terrible ukelele video that her lawyers and PR team told her not to say anything...it's all on her that she did it anyway because her ego couldn't let it go.
@@brookeg5979 I don’t think she had a legal or PR team at that point. Like Runkle (one of the lawyers who reacted) said, it was probably just a bit for the video.
@@Andromyway but as far as I’m aware she didn’t admit to anything that she can be charged with in a criminal case. The lawyers I’ve seen react to it just said that if criminal charges were brought against her then that video can be used to essentially corroborate the victim’s stories, or discredit her because she lied about things that have physical evidence.
How many counts of exposing minors to revenge porn?
@@atanvardecunambiel8917 I think that would depend on how many screenshots Adam has saved.
Poor Adam; getting internet dragged by hoards of peers and well positioned adults for being used as child labor and subjected to adult themes, when he was literally just a little boy. So disgusting. I've shed several tears for him.
Adam....the teenager with the fake ID, out boozing all night, and trying to get connected with any celebrity, so he could set up a meal ticket? The trashy dude with lip gloss, hoop earrings and see-through blouses? ....Gee, you make him sound like a sweet ten year old, sitting at home in his bedroom with stuffed animals. Adam was NEVER like that. He was a foul-mouthed queen even before he started his teen years. Currently he is a 20 year old adult man who doesn't have a job, and seeks money and attention by gossiping and telling lies.
Right!
Same, I feel for him, 3 years of bullying, dragging him through the mud, that's gotta be tough for him, karma is a B.
@@0T772 I SHOULD'VE KNOWN BETTER 😈⚫✨🗣️🗣️📢📢‼️
a pedophile should never get redemption. victims carry our trauma with us every day. an apology will never be enough.
I feel you so hard on this. Unfortunately a lot of creeps and pedos don't get in enough trouble for what they did. I've even seen a "reformed offender" up and personal and even if they don't hurt others anymore- they still can't be fully redeemed in my eyes. It's crazy how people tend to beleive the abuser/offender over the victim.
Fr, even if she did actually genuinely apologize, it still wouldn't be enough
She literally committed two actual fucking crimes with what she did with Trisha's pictures. Not only does this qualify as revenge porn and Incitement of minors, but also copyright infringement, by leaking the Only fans pictures (and arguable invasion of privacy)
If Trisha pressed charges there is an actual tangible chance for legal repercussions Colleen could face. I really hope someone does press charges about at the very least incitement of minors.
My heart goes out to all of colleens victims.
On top of all the victims stories, finding out about Trisha and watching her video was honestly heartbreaking.
Imagine singing about being stabbed in your uwu smol back, right after having stabbed a person who considered you a friend, who has been at your house and held your child.
I never understood why people didn't believe Adam, when he had all the receipts to back his words up.
The story about her dog is as telling as it is disturbing. She took her anger out on the pet then lied about why she got bit. She jokes about it because it haunts her. That was a moment where by playing the victim, she gained power over something more helpless than her. This is a woman who had been stripped of power (probably in some really gross ways). She will do ANYTHING to feel powerful. And being a skinny pretty white girl, her tears are the most powerful weapon she has.
Cancel culture is a terrible trend, but thats not what's happening to Colleen. She is finally having to face the consequences of years of abusive behavior.
Cancel culture is when a celebrity gives a bad take in less serious issue. Like, cancel culture would be if she said "veganism is nonsense". What she did is kinda the equivalent of force-feeding human meat to a vegan after kicking a puppy and spitting in their mother
It’s so annoying that people call literally everything cancel culture. People still need to be held accountable for the harm they cause as an influencer. Period.
@@aliciawistrand2014 exactly!!!
@@umi2751I should not have laughed lol
You cant apologize your way out of abusing a kid. Ya gotta wonder when people say things like she has already apologized, what skeletons are in their closet.
She didn’t even apologize. The victims NEED an apology! It can be a huge part of their healing journey.
Colleen’s apologies have to be done to heal the victims, not to heal Colleen’s public appearance, which is what she tried to do with that horrible ukulele joke of a response.
The only way she can truly take accountability is to turn herself into the police
@@anaunciabrazzeal4325 Most(and I don't like this myself...but it's a fact) of the crimes that she committed, were done by males...and they've been caught by police time and time again.
Not saying that it'll be a complete gamechanger if she turns herself in, but it'll make more of an impact than the weak song that she put out, to hide behind what she's done.
It can make police more aware that g__ming isn't just done by males. Both sexes have the potential to do this crime.
@@adu1991 out of all the male youtubers who've been called out for grooming minors only one of them was sent to prison and that was because he had actual cp in his possession. and that was only after the second time he was exposed for it because he apologized the first time and everyone forgave him. the rest of them got away with it.
My comment was just deleted because replying to someone making incredibly dangerous claims with what, a curse word? The horror. It is just so much worse than making dangerous claims and holding dangerous ideas based off of zero factual information. Decorum and all.
As someone with a personality disorder, Trish set a great example on how to actually handle things and not let emotions take over, Colleen's video SCREAMED resentment and sourness ❤
Yes, Trisha has grown, and CB peaked at, what, 8-9? I felt really bad for Trisha, she was so happy putting together the set and costumes for their podcast, and then wham, she is slapped across the face out of the blue.
@@justkiddin84yeah. Trish is not a good person, but I still felt bad for her that she was betrayed by someone who she thought was a safe friend, and a fellow mom of young kids.
@@ALT-vz3jn exactly
I can’t believe people are still supporting her. “Technically this, technically that” there are so many different things piling up about her that even if there was something that could possibly be forgivable there is at least 3 other completely disgusting and unforgivable things she’s done
Horrible people are everywhere. Lots of parents are still supporting Ballinger to this day. THAT makes them even more horrible.
If that's not appalling, I don't know what is
I believe everyone supporting her are either her newer audience, kids, or more terrible groomers
To add some perspective, a lot of her fans are kids. They probably aren’t old enough to comprehend what she’s doing.
@@moldycheese6635which is why knowing how she groomed them
The part where you talked about being singled out by a teacher hit me like a train. It happened to me this past year. I thought I was crazy, because everyone who had him as a teacher loved him. I had a meltdown after lunch period because my friends at the table were praising him. My mom even thinks I'm overreacting about it. But I have wonderful friends who made me feel validated in my experience and the dark emotions I felt in that time. To you, for anyone reading this, please tell someone you trust if something like this is happening to you. It's not right. And you're validated in your sleepless, tearful nights even when you're not being hurt anymore. It takes time to heal. Be gentle to yourself. You can get through this!
Hey hope you're doing good! This happened to me as well and lately I've been realizing how wrong they were and how singled out my experience was. Everyone around me, my classmates, my friends, even my brother and mother everybody loved that teacher or at least didn't think anything was seriously wrong with them. For them, we were just in a petty feud but goddamn he was creepy as hell to everyone and weirdly enough nobody picked up on it. Recently, when I've been talking about it, people around me have started to react as they should have. So I hope you realize that you were never overreacting and I get it. Take care.
Blessed Be ❤❤
Finally she's getting the critique she always deserved. Always hated her and never thought she was funny
Same here!
I just hated her makeup and her face, thats why I never watched her when I eas younger
I know a girl who was incredibly obsessed with her unfunny ass... I wonder how she feels now 💀
She looked like a clown 🤡
“No relationship is ever going to be as important as the relationship you have with yourself”. THIS.
PERIOD
This is sickening. I've been groomed since the age of 11 and my groomer manipulated me into giving him 15.000 euros, drugged me for years and I WAS STILL "THE BAD ONE" no matter what I did so yeah I know how it feels.
I hope you are doing okay now .
@@Dojafish Thank you, I'm doing great actually. Just trauma dumping a bit on here LOL
@@skaio.5279 very glad to know you're better now ! Grooming is not a joke, and especially not a ukulele song
@@pandasan406 Thank you
im so sorry to hear that, it must've been so difficult to deal with such a situation. after reading through your responses im so glad you're doing okay now!
what colleen did is certainly not something to be taken lightly. she desperately needs to be held accountable and given the highest degree of the warranted consequences.
James Charles: “I did it because I’m desperate”
Shane Dawson: “I did it because that’s how my family is and I thought it was normal”
Sienna May: “I did it because I’m young”
Colleen Ballinger: “I did it because I’m just a loser and want to be everyone’s besties”
…anyone else seeing a bit of a trend here with being a RUclipsr and acting inappropriately with others?
I see no apologies, only excuses.
Just to be petty- why is NO ONE pointing out the obvious blur filter and mismatched foundation combo in Colleen’s video?! It is striking
If I remember correctly, Gabi Belle pointed that out!
Edit: I just checked and she did, I recommend her video
Her face being a completely different color from her body was all I could focus on when I first saw it
Her creepy psychopath stare distracted me from that😂
She looked like she threw up right before the video, she was so washed out, looked sweaty and sick.
@@justkiddin84 Exactly
i used to do acting classes with her and she used to sit in the back and make fun of everyone she was very mean and catty she’s older than me but acted like a mean teenager
And then used your classmates supposedly as the ‘inspiration’ for Miranda Sings🤮
OMGGG that’s crazy
The more everyone talks about Colleen, the more aghast and shocked I get at just how bad she is.
Same here
Same, I heard her awful "apology" and thought she was just annoying and cringy, but every time I see something new it's somehow worse every single time. At this point I'm shocked she hasn't been obliterated off the Internet.
An hour long video?! Thank you so much for all the hardwork that you do and for turning the garbage pile that is the Coleen controversy into a watchable and educational video. Every time I see a new video from you on my feed, I smile. Thank you so much Salem.❤
There are better videos out there about the Ballinger scandal than this one.
First of all, I’m sorry that you were manipulated by that teacher. Secondly, as someone who is neuro-divergent I’m glad that I was never a fan of Miranda sings because I always thought she was never funny and gave me the ick and her voice got on my last nerves.
EDIT: When Colleen mentioned how parents need to know that Miranda is PG-13, I can confirm that the MPAA rating of PG-13 applies to teenagers because teens are also children because that is what I learned in my film class last year. If she also says that she’s PG-13 and not for kids, maybe she shouldn’t have collaborated with Jojo Siwa, Maddie Ziegler, and Grace Vanderwaal.
Also, it’s actually listed under ‘family content,’ so she just lied.
The fact she’s still using her child audience even if indirectly to make group chats and silence people 💀like a personal mini army.
Yes, SWOOP addressed that-it is easy for us to feel like creators are actually our friends. And rarely, maybe they are, but the way these channels are set up, it’s easy to think you know the person.
Having said that, we can be fans and appreciate folks like Salem in a healthy way.✌️♥️
the energy of her "bony little back" and princess nokia's "little girl voice" being so similar is smth i would have never thought of and yet its so accurate 😬😬
I used to watch her as a kid and now at 18 these videos are making me remember all the inappropriate content she put out, and I don’t know how to feel about it, obviously I’m disgusted but at the same time I’m sad about it cause I used to enjoy her content to an extent.
Going into my second year of Junior High, I had already heard the rumours about a certain male math teacher. Imagine my surprise when he was my math teacher for that semester and he had assigned seating. I was front of class. The day he rubbed his junk on the corner of my desk proceeding around to make contact with my arm, I started to cry. I got sent to the principal who was convinced I was being hysterical because I had heard the "rumours". I spent the rest of the semester in remedial math with a small group of students and a kind teacher. Tears for the win! I can joke now, but I was genuinely freaked out at the time.
Sorry you had to go through that
Im so glad you used Jenna Marbles as an example. Her accountability video (before she left the internet), she made no excuses, took full responsibility for all the bad content she did back in the day, and she went as far as to show which clips she was addressing. The things Jenna did were completely unacceptable, but she admitted too. I feel like this could've gone so different had Colleen gone this route. Although these things are just as bad IF NOT WORSE, than Jenna. I just hope that after this, Colleen goes away, and the survivors get justice.
No. What Colleen did is not forgivable.
@@Aster_Risk 100% agreed!
if not?? _of course_, what Colleen did was worse (i.e. crimes). you can’t compare those two ever.
Pedophilia is never forgivable.
I always love Salem's take on things like this, it's always level and respectful. You're always a loving queen, and love the makeup SLIVING as usu.
When you get people from all over the political spectrum agreeing and conterversal persons like Tanya and Trisha looking like the mature ones. So much of her behavior was recorded for everyone to see. I fear what is coming next.You know she won't go down without taking others with her.
I’m glad you mentioned the obnoxious tiny bony back part. Like GIRL we don’t care how bony you are, or small, you’re a grown woman. 😂
Omg i can seriously relate to your teacher story Salem. i had a teacher that everyone loves cause he was “funny” and “sassy” but he made the class living hell for me as an autistic student. he just said things that lead me to have breakdowns and barely even gave me accommodations when i had a huge psychotic break that lead to me to miss so much school and homework. it was awful but everyone loved him. i hated it.
Damn. It’s sad how common this is. I still have a core memory of asking a question in astronomy class about some star system, and the teacher responding by asking if my parents gave me enough attention over thanksgiving break. Same kind of sassy, rude-but-somehow-funny to neurotypical people, teacher. It sure didn’t help that all his favorite students were male who would regularly ask the same kind of passionate or detail-oriented questions.
I’m so glad I clicked on ur story! I’ve been against her since Adam first cried out. I’m a theatre kid, actress, and a director who works with kids of all ages, and their was no way I could support her! I’ve seen tons of these and urs is great! Thanks!!
She doesn’t seem to understand that she isn’t owed a career. People can stop paying attention to her anytime they want for any reason. They could decide they don’t like people with “bony little backs” and boycott her videos. And she can do nothing about it.
I think she understands and that's why she feels the need to gr😳m fans and silence whistleblowers instead of just making something worth watching
@@alrighttumbleweed4782and had to get a literal child to run her twitter because she doesn't know how to retain an audience without exploiting people.
"I can see you all think you're perfect, so criticize me."
Colleen...we're not perfect, but not all of us send l3ngerie to minors...
who's trying to hop on the toxic gossip train with me rn? we're headed to apple bees, what ya'll ordering?
Chicken maybe
nothing last time i was there were flies in my dads drink and his burger wasn’t cooked 😭
a mcdouble and some waffle fries😋
bony little chicken backs
Thank god I never watched her. She looked annoying to me and at 13, it would have been IMPOSSIBLE to annoy me.
I hate that people threw out so many uninformational videos as soon as possible so this one doesn’t get as much recognition. I believe it is so much better than most videos out there about colleen. it’s the best one i’ve seen
If you want another very good one-Ryan Beard’s is beautiful. And all of Adam’s, of course. SWOOP and iNabber did it well, also.
@@justkiddin84 ryan beards "cover" of the song was also the funniest response I've seen
@@jules8273 it is! And poignant. One of their best.
There are several well-done videos on this subject. You just haven't seen them.
If the whole thing wasn’t bad enough, the way she ended it really just sealed the deal that she’s truly evil and I think she knows that this is her last video on the internet and out of severe spite, really wanted to get in the last jab at all her victims
Also I can’t help but think that this stupid song especially the second verse is basically the same tune as the duck lemonade stand song 😂
@@chlolunaa ooh, good job. If she starts trying to copyright punish folks, that can be used to defend those who used it.
Narcissists and psychopaths don't say they're sorry. Psychopaths hurt children and animals from a young age like she did. She might fake an apology, like in 2020 with all of the hidden 'it's really their fault' parts, but she can't feel remorse.
Colleen's goal is power over other people, and vulnerable people are the easiest ones to overpower. So they are her chosen targets. Miranda helped her to get away with doing that. She's never ever going to stop trying to have power over those people because it's the only way she can lift herself up and make herself feel like she's better than other people.
It's essential to her, to feel like she is smart, they're dumb, she's strong, they're weak. She has to put people down and gain power that way, or she will feel completely insignificant.
She doesn't care about other humans. If you watch enough of her content, she makes it crystal clear that she just doesn't care. She's dangerous for children and animals. She's using children as sexual objects whether she goes all the way or not. We've always been told that The act doesn't have to be complete for it to be an assault.
She sexually bullies those weaker than her to make herself feel more powerful. She's scum of the earth.
i already know this video is full of facts, all her videos are 🫶🏻
I mean, you could’ve found out all the same facts two weeks ago. This video is really late to the game. 🙌
@@oceans6515 honestly i’m glad she made her video later, something new has been coming out everyday😭😭
I wasn't really a fan of Colleen/ Miranda when I was little. I just watched some of her videos. But then I grew up and I noticed the things she does and did as Miranda. She got exposed by her ex-fans because they grew up and noticed her behavior. The only way she escapes from this is if she knows a charm to change the mind of people or time travel
Not on topic i just wanted to say we appreciate you so much Salem! 💖💖 genuinely you are so so talented i hope you know that your hard work in making these videos is appreciated!!! 🫶
thank you all sm!
I thought her eyes looked dead too, but I came across a post online saying she had the 'Narcissistic Stare' which indicated a wide array of emotions. I couldn't see a single emotion! I'm autistic so I thought maybe I couldn't read her emotions especially considering I rarely look at peoples eyes.
I think it projects zero emotion, as well. Other than hate.
one of your best video essays yet! i personally really enjoy the ending messages. i've been in a lot of fandoms and obsessed to the point that it's taking over my life. like i'm upset because i'm missing a stream on twitch or a youtube video in premiere. but lately, i've realised that i needed a healthy balance. there's nothing wrong with engaging with the internet, as long as its not controlling you. anything can be an obsession or addiction. moderation is key.
Your little speech about how we deserve to take a break from relationships which drain us, resonated in the deep levels of my soul.
Not even regarding a parasocial relationship, but a real-life dilemma I've recently had... And I love your voice, so it was especially pleasant to hear 🫰
What makes me so angry about these predators is that I've reached the age of my groomer and I can't even imagine feeling attracted to a 14 y/o.
She made a video victimizing herself and demonizing everyone who criticized her for being a creep. Wtf…
salem i love your vids, your voice is so calming and you always say funny things to make us laugh AND you have the best takes on commentaries. thank u for your hard work!!
Let this be a compliment train for Salem’s beautiful makeup! Always on point! ❤❤❤
Yess so skilled and pretty!!!
she’s literally so gorgeous!!😩💗
Her best look yet!
its giving mermaid fairy vibes and i love it❤
i have already went through the stages of disbelief, anger, disappointement and just full on writing her off. then i checked the timestamp- only 20 min in and im done with all the messed up stuff thats been said only so far😤
glad to have you fully update us on the whole debacle, salem!
I agree.
I used to love Miranda sings, but I could never keep up with all the internet drama so I didn't know there were even people who didn't like her. I haven't even thought about her for years until all this popped up.
Edit: omg I never got more than 5 likes thank y'all!!
I’m glad you are seeing this now. It’s important to learn how grooming and manipulate work, so you can hopefully spot it in the future.
@justkiddin84 thank you for the good advice :)
I’m going through a breakup and the parting words made me cry. He broke up with me today on are 3 year anniversary. Definitely a message I needed❤
Aww I’m sorry! 🥺 Forget him, one day you’ll find someone truly special 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Remember, sometimes the trash takes out themselves 🤭
The ability to have this kind of insight and maturity is a gift of yours. What an antidote to the rampant toxicity we are submerged in
Just a correction, Parasocial relationship doesn't just happen when someone overshares and fans loose themselves to this relationship. What Colleen did actually went over what a parasocial relationship is.. She chatted with these kids, she shared things, she talk TO THEM, WITH THEM.. She had a power-imbalanced relationship with them. Parasocial happens with anyone famous, weither the famous person tries not to let it, anything they share, makes some, feel like they know them..
I've had some entirely unrelated stuff going on but you saying the things you have about how you see conflict and stuff has literally brought me to tears. It made me feel less crazy. I appreciated that.
i think a thing that wasn't touched on that made this so shocking is that it was an adult women. we are so desensitized to men in power taking advantage of minors or women in general, the gender reversal where there was a male victim and female power-abuser i think made many people just tune out or minimize which is disgusting but also understandable. incoming: trauma dump I've never written anywhere...
my worst parasocial relationship was with an adult audio creator who presented themselves as the sweetest most innocent man on earth, even though he knew his largest audience was/is teen girls. i had a crush on him heavvyyy & he chatted with me a bit and although nothing unconsentual happened, you can imagine my surprise when he uploaded footage of him (38m) engadged sexually with 18/19 year old girls on an adult website.
this was his first non-solo content & he literally bragged about them "worshipping" him. he knew what he was doing was grooming but hid behind a kink & felt no remorse. i sent a very heated dm & blocked him . i still feel ashamed for "falling" for the facade he portrayed. even though nothing was technically illegal it felt very gross to make the decision to proudly display that sort of power dynamic & content. i wouldn't have had as much of an issue with it being done in private but to monetize barely legal activities like that was shocking to say the least.
all this to say people only show you the sides of them they want to. & victims will always feel stupid for "falling" for it, so to act like she's the real victim in this situation just ads another layer of trauma to the victims coming forward. i wish all the victims the best of luck searching for inner peace & casting out the shame colleen created in their very natural instincts to connect with someone you like or look up to.
Looking at the picture of Adam and her makes me so uncomfortable, he was so young it’s just sick, I’m 26 and I would and could never even think about talking to a SMALL CHILD about those inappropriate topics of discussion
I as a traumatized person with very many issues argue that this makes you even worse sometimes. Because you only know how to deal with things in a toxic way. For a long time I would victimize myself cus I saw that from my mother even against her. I would bring in the same anger the same toxicity cus its the only thing I saw growing up. And to chance that you need to go through aaaaaalllll of your behavioural and mental patterns and actually practice not victimizing yourself. 5 years in therapy and still going. Cus I dont want my kids adopting that behaviour
youre doing great! keep going love
Good work!
Thank you for speaking out about this. It’s truly a disgusting situation and she needs to be held accountable
In the final part of the video. Excellent analysis and perspective as a social worker. Also, your makeup looks never cease to amaze. Glad you had your camping trip to step away from the mess😅
Drop everything!!! Salem just posted 😩🙌🏻
the fact that BOTH shane and jeffery star hated her ages before all of this was released got me thinking and more people should be talking about that fact.
And like i cant get over the fact Colleen has kids like I genuinely feel so bad for her kids
Influencers are doomed. Absolutely agree with you: people are not meant to be famous, and the proof we have is how many people LOSE THEIR MINDS when becoming famous. BTW, I'm a massive fan of your videos, I usually play them while I work so I feel like I'm not alone, so thank you for being my companion
Thank you so much I desperately needed something to listen to/watch
Ditto! I’ve been looking for good content lately and not a lot of ppl are delivering…
Just like every other abuser, she deflects and is absolutely not sorry about anything else but getting caught 🙄🙄
what you said about parasocial relationships really resonated with me. awesome video, thank you!!!
Agreed ❤️
Honestly, I find parasocial relationships fascinating and your video very educative. Thank you for taking the effort to go into such detail about this topic.
The amount of times that blank-stare image in black and white jump-scared me-
It´s like her face is reflecting her true, insanely creepy and disturbing self (especially her "character´s" face), and every time I see I just 😬😖
It's really too much to hope that someone like her would ever truly apologize.
I’m so glad my mom made me stop watching Maranda Sings while I was still young
W mum
thank you salem!! i really needed an eloquently spoken and wise person like you to speak on this, colleen is a disgusting predator who doesnt deserve a platform.
i’m so glad you said that you called out creators that said the song was good or camp are liars the song is disgusting and she tried to gaslight the world which she failed at
People know this isn't stupid RUclips drama like we've had in the past right? This is a crime she will most likely serve time for or be put on a register.
Edit: Idc about an apology, she's a CHILD PREDATOR. Look a long time Family friend of my family recently got jailed for sexually abusing children. It's so infuriating irl and disgusting. Doing a proper apology would be getting off light. She needs to be added to a register or serve jail time, like every other child predator. Some might say this is "cruel" but personally idc if a child predator is getting harassed online, should've thought about that before preying on children. I also know for a fact the only reason people are saying "well don't flood her dms with hate" is because she's a well known youtuber, any other story you hear of a predator that someone tells online (and people only know that person as a predator) is filled with hate, no one ever defends that.
I’m sorry that you feel like the black sheep of RUclips. Just know that I appreciate your video uploads and content, glad you exist
I'm late to the conversation, but you covered this heavy topic so eloquently and I have so much respect for the amount of time and thought you put into this❤ Also your makeup look is so lovely
The world needs young women like you. Really apreciate your work. 🦆
Xxx from Germany
48yr old mom of a 20yr old daughter.
Just found out you are from San Jose CA. I lived there as a kid for 2 years when my stepdad worked for IBM. 83-85 we had a house in Morrow Ct. right next to my school Los Paseos. Yay!
You nailed it, it's not a character, that's who she really is and lies about it being fake... yet literally says, "omg yeah I said what I thought but normally wouldn't say, he he."
This would definitely be an interesting character study of the psychology of influencers except there are real live people being victimized and hurt. I remember thinking to myself "why is it that every couple of years or so a major celebrity or influencer is called out for some craziness?" I definitely agree that celebrity and influencer culture is so abnormal and does a number on the minds of these people.
oh my god im glad somebody else noticed how absolutely souless her eyes were. i literally made her into a mandela catalouge alternate because of how disturbing they were 💀
"this- ..be nice Salem, be nice.... This woman" eye twitch. OMFG THE EYE TWITCH! I LOVE IT!! ❤❤
The eye twitch was everything! 😂
Listening to your videos helps me get up and do my chores and have a little self love. Thank you ♡
so glad to see you're back and came to commentate on this trainwreck (the toxic gossip trainwreck)
I loved the part about parasocial relationships, I feel like we should talk more about parasocial relationships because it's been so normalized through fandom culture, and it's almost looked at as a good thing inside of the fandom. It's not just kids either. It scares me what people are willing to do for their "favs". I know a lot about it because I was in one of the fandoms known for how toxic they can be on behalf of their favs, but most people don't know the half of it. That's why I had to leave that fandom. I've seen people do pretty extreme stuff for someone they've never known and most likely will never know. We need to see the signs of a person in this kind of relationship and we need to start stopping it. It's horrible.
When you said we were going for a DEEP DIVE I got so excited because I LOVVVVEEEEE your longer videos!!! Thank you so much for all your hard work and amazing commentary!! ❤️
The last part of the video really hit home :’) thank you really needed to hear this today
babe wake up, salem posted
44:44 this quote is even more fitting when you remember the full version of it is "birds of a feather flock together until the cat comes".
Colleen Ballinger's dead, cold stare in that video will probably continue to haunt my nightmares for the next few weeks
Thank you, i really appreciate your commentary videos because you do not judge needlessly, and make valid criticisms. I never see anyone talk about the importance of bringing awareness to parasocial relationships. ❤
Everytime she says "I'm just a loser" I think of that video of a 2 year old yelling "I'm just a baby!!" after she gets in trouble.
But it's understandable for the 2 year old and technically she is a baby.
The online personality “Colleen Ballinger” is as much of a character as “Miranda Sings” is. Keep that in mind.
Imagine the irony, and audacity of Jeffree Star calling somebody toxic or sick…..🤡
And saying he never supported her when he did, repeatedly.😂
When she said that victims can go on and create more victims reminded me of the factor that there are people who think I went through this why shouldn’t others too
Ohh it’s great to hear what you have to say about this as your videos are always very thoughtful
It's stuck in my head in the worst way possible. And every video I click on I hear the song over and over and over and over and over... I'm feeling crazy