Body Image and Self Confidence - Beautiful Twin Sisters Podcast #3
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- It's about to get so real rn. We've had our fair share of issues with body image, confidence, and our relationships with food. That's just how life works when you're a beautiful twin. No shame here!!! Join us for an honest conversation about... many things...
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0:00 intro
3:28 parents boosting our confidence as kids
6:32 amber got chubby (asian families can be judgmental af)
8:40 Ashley was skinny af
10:25 amber and her chips
12:06 oil phobia
13:18 cheerleading
14:36 amber comparing herself to Ashley
15:30 flat assley
17:16 dealing with racism
24:17 how our parents got us to eat veggies
25:01 amber’s past issues with eating
29:11 veganism can be problematic
41:25 it’s inescapable
42:23 hormones affecting ur self image
44:40 exercise
50:21 the kardashians are…. awesome????
52:57 how youtube has boosted our confidence
53:56 feeling like the world is gonna end when you’re 12
58:28 Madison beer DM’ed Ashley
1:01:16 favs of the week
the perspective differences between someone who has struggled with weight all her life (Amber) and someone who was skinny all her life (Ashley) is crazy. Everything Amber was saying was striking a chord with me, especially when she said “You have to give yourself the freedom to not scrutinize every single inch of your body…” She has wisdom beyond her years and I can tell she’s still very much in the middle of her journey. It would be so cool to see her come back to this episode and do another in her late 20s
yeah that would be cool. Even since the last body positivity podcast they did in 2020 I feel like ambers outlook has changed a lot and it’s good to see
I feel as though this entire episode should be redone because Ashley immediately cuts off Amber & seemingly dismisses her experiences with self image by interjecting. 😕 Amber saying that her family would point out her slight weight change only to be cut off by Ashley talking about how she never experienced that because she was always thin, it’s lowkey tone deaf. Would’ve loved to hear more from Amber, from what she did manage to get in she seems extremely wise and I like the way she articulated herself!
the amount of times ashley interrupted amber with her POV when amber was sharing experiences was a lot!! let her speak!
I WAS ABOUT TO COMMENT THE SAME THING
i agree i was looking forward for amber to share her pov on comparing herself with her older sister because ive had the same experience and felt sad she was cut off i know that they’re sisters and obv amber wasnt offended but i hope ashley realizes it affects the viewers too with how she acted, when amber was speaking i felt like she was telling my story and i was able to relate and ashley cutting her off (i know it wasn’t intentional) lowkey made me feel i was cut off from hearing a story i can relate to i love them both but it would be nice to avoid these stuff in the future especially with these kind of heavy topics
that's so true i luv them both and i relate to amber sooo bad i want to hear her stories BUT ashley is so excited that she cut her off multiple times @@nayzwan3963
she got called out for doing that on the urmomshouse podcast too 😭😭
In the beginning ya but the rest of the pod it was pretty good back and forth.
I think you're gonna get a lot more of these comments so ill just say it rn when it's still early. I am genuine supporter of both of you, you guys are probably my no.1's rn so believe me when I say this is coming from a good place because other people might fully attack ya'll but Ashley was cutting off amber quiet a bit and its just uncomfortable and awkward to watch as a viewer. Specially when its a topic as sensitive as this and amber's trying to get her story across. I know for a fact that Ashley does not mean any ill intent and you guys have a very real dynamic but maybe something you can work on as new podcasters
i agree and i wanted to say something but i think you said it so well!!
I feel like amber is v relatable and I like how open she is and then Ashley just kinda interrupts and be like nah never had that issue :((( feels bad for amber
fr it’s really invalidating… you can tell Ashley was really favored as the oldest sibling
Amber comes off as confident and comfortable in her skin that it hurts my heart to think she had any kind of body issues. Society and Social Media can be so harsh. I'm sure sharing your stories will help others.
she is still confident and comfortable in sharing a lot of her insecurities when some people are not comfortable sharing those details. The fact she said she doesn’t workout every single day and why she went vegan at such a young age and quit that diet shows that she is comfortable in telling people how she was at a young age and how she’s grown from that
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Ashley bulldozing the conversation was tough to watch not gonna lie. Being vulnerable about body image is tough and she wasn’t trying to actually listen to Amber. She was eager to talk about herself the entire time but like pls let’s have some empathy. I think also because she didn’t have the same struggle with weight as Amber she doesn’t feel the weight of this topic as much
she definitely was listening. she sat and listened to amber for very decent stretches of time, and it was clear that she was sympathizing and understanding. there were some interruptions, but they were triggered from things amber said that she played off of. they both went back and forth throughout the video. ashley was barely able to talk in depth about her experience with body image when she reached puberty, but she was totally there for amber during her sections of the video when she talked about her experience with eating as a child and veganism.
“He was old, he was like 30” me crying in 32
I think what Amber means is that you're so insignificant in this world because we're sooooooooooo small compared to the universe and solar system. Not that you don't literally matter. But knowing that you're so insignificant reminds you to be so thankful for being alive.
omg 13:14 made me so sadddd amber we value your voice and your thoughts!! i love this podcast so much but the dynamic felt off on this one since ashley wasn't taking the time to listen to amber but was focused on saying what she wanted to say. i know u can do better!!
Never related to something more when amber talked about being the "chubby" sister. It's so messed up that society always puts sisters against each other and compares them, even the own family sometimes. I honestly think you guys are one of the most beautiful girlies I have ever seen (no 🧢), I would've never imagined you guys being insecure (especially amber) because you are both so beautiful - on the inside and outside. I am glad you're both confident in yourselves right now ❤❤
Ashley please listen to listen..not listen to respond ASAP!🥺
It’ll only be a successful podcast when you let the other person speak as much as you speak🤗
Class cancelled, breakfast served, BTSP upload = perfect start to my day
AW YAYYYY!!!❤️
MY clASS GoT Cancelled TOOOO
MINE TOO!!!@@squishybean2653
@@BeautifulTwinSistersPodthe Hispanic culture is the same!!! They just don’t have a filter 😂 doesn’t matter if your skinny or chunkier they have something to say lol😂😅
Mine was canceled too 😹😹 exact morning for me too
Ashley please let Amber finish her thoughts or listen to respond to her instead of just waiting to talk about yourself. But good topic to be taking about, ladies!
Ashley I love you queen but PLEASE let Amber talk 😭😭
I feel like we both cut each other off equally LMAOO ik I cut Ashley off a ton in these episodes so I don’t want all the blame to go on her but we’ll def work on that for future episodes🙏🙏
@@amberalexander it's okay queen!! I guess it's a normal (beautiful twin) sister thing
@@amberalexander I think you guys are so cute!!!
@steffi7190 y’all don’t have sisters and it shows 😅
@@Rabyahmed nah you got some shit sisters if you think this is normal...😕
Petition for amber to have a solo ep bc of da amount of interruptions
I don't think Ashley takes seriously what Amber is trying to say when she talks about her experiences. I get that it must be uncomfortable to hear but that's the point of this podcast. If not, it's pointless to have these topics.
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especially if you listen through the end....😭😭😭😭😭😭
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@@urmomashley I can’t wait for it to pass so you can fully talk about it 🤣
would've been especially enjoyable if you let Amber talk and not intercept every time she's trying to complete a thought. no favorites here, you were just being annoying so
Almost teared up on the amber and her chips part 😢
I absolutely love how natural Amber always looks and I've definitely noticed her not wearing makeup or care how she looks and tbh I've always admired that. And I think that also makes her deadass so pretty. She has such a child-like beauty and easiness to her :') I hope she stays healthy and happy and herself because she's absolutely stunning as a person
it’s so comforting to hear amber’s story, she speaks for a lot of the majority’s shared experience ❤️
I really like your podcast, but I noticed since the first episode that Ashley tends to cut Amber off quite often (which is more noticeable in this episode but did happen in the previous ones as well). Just a friendly observation !
definitely an older sibling thing 😭 but yea she really needs to work on being more self aware about interrupting
Switching topics every 10 minutes is basically girl code 😂 me and friends take 3 hrs at a restaurant just talking lol
The intro song will slap each and every time!
finally ash gets to sit on her good side lol. No matter what side you sit on, you both are extremely GORG 💕 luv u!
i think it would be interesting to talk about your individual experience with race, cos ashley inherited more of her moms genes, but amber almost kinda passes as white, so it would be interesting to see ur perspectives on it
I don’t really think amber is white passing… but I see what ur saying
that’s interesting bc i think amber looks fully asian to me. she just has lighter skin but ashley intentionally uses tanning products which is why she looks darker
@@Ashley-fc7kdno Ashley’s skin tone is similar to her moms
@@Ashley-fc7kdwait may i know, in which vid/where did ashley mentioned about her using tanning products? since ive been watching her vids since 2019 and thought that she has always been naturally tanner than her family
@@Ashley-fc7kd no I’m like 99% sure that she is just naturally tan. She definitely likes the tan look but it’s all natural
sorry for commenting so much but there’s so much here. Ashley, i’m sorry that happened to you. That is absolutely horrible and i hope you can recuperate financially and emotionally as soon as possible. sending much love to the both of you. ❤
I love AMBER, she was truthful in sharing that the reason she became vegan was to not gain weight and she gave it up because she wanted to enjoy food and not think about weight. I think that shows a lot of growth in her however not hating on ASHLEY but when she said she doesn’t care about her weight - but girl you confessed you workout (PILATES..etc) everyday. People dont go to workout classes everyday if they are not trying to gain weight. Some people dont have time for hour long workout classes unless weight loss is a priority. Something is missing here lol
i mean ofc i don’t know the situation with what ashley feels, but in my case i strive to workout often to GAIN weight, it can be different for everyone 😊 also like u mentioned I LOVE AMBER as well, the way she expressed what she felt and experienced was very emotional to hear
Even as a dude, I starved myself as a child. Being the tubbier boy, was difficult. Then when I got too skinny girls said I was just skin and bones, so it was a lose-lose situation.
hey guys! I really love your energy!!! One thing i would say is i think yall should have a conversation about your dynamic on this podcast. It feels a little unbalanced at times. This was a great topic btw!! I related to a lot of what amber was trying to say. Thank you both for sharing. Much love!
I must confess, around 2020-2021 I had an unhealthy obsession with you guys where I constantly compared my body to yours! I remember watching Ashleys bikini videos as my inspo to lose weight and starve myself. So watching you both sitting there talking about insecurities made me realize how much we all have grown up and are in good places with our body image now. I also think that as women our bodies tend to change so much through our life because of hormones etc so I think it's just healthy for us to not be obsessed with every pound we gain or lose and just enjoy our life and our health! I started pilates because of ashley, unironically my body didn't changed much from the outside (I just love food to much 😛) - but I feel fitter and stronger than ever before, so I am more confident than ever. Thx Ashley
Aw sending u so much love!!! It’s such a hard thing to deal with but I hope we can all be free from comparing ourselves to others one day😅🩷🩷
also omg I can’t believe how much I relate to ambers story about being perceived when eating 😭😭literally me in middle school 💀
WOWWW. when people say they relate to what someone says in a youtube video i always take it with a grain of salt. but amber is literally the first person to put my exact feelings into words that i’ve never been able to describe ??? i have never met anyone in this entire world that has the same thoughts as me in terms of hating exercise and stuff but she phrased it EXACTLY LIKE MY THOUGHTS IM LIKE TWEAKINGNGNG RN BECAUSE HOW DOES SHE ACTUALLT THINK THE SAME AS ME THIS IS INSANEEE LIKE NOT REAL. HOW HOW HOW AND I FEEL SO BAD WE HAVE THE SAME MISERABLE BRAIN😭😭😭
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I just want to say that I never thought amber was fat or chubby or even "bigger" than ashley until I heard amber say it. I just thought that they had different body types. You are both beautiful in your own way and one shouldn't be compared to the other.
omggg i feel like i can relate on the cultural aspect on body shaming bc as a mexican we literally give each other nicknames on how we look physically so I will never forget the first nickname I got as a kid "gorda!" (which means fat in spanish)😬
✨You girlies are literally the GLOWING, STUNNING, ONE-OF-A-KIND BEAUTIFUL twin SISTERS!❤✨
Tuesday is my new favourite day of the week🫶🏻👯♀️
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Watching y’alls channel vids and btsp is literally my comfort while studying and stressing over finals rn ly guys sm
You guys in the comments should be mindful that if someone sees multiple comments about them it can make them feel a certain way. If you see someone else address it then why comment it again? I’m sure amber would point it out to her sister if she felt a type of way about Ashley “cutting her off” which I don’t think she was.
Yes yes!!!😅❤️
because its important for ashley to know that multiple people have noticed this and that its not just a one off? its reasonable feedback
@@rowenfara I believe if amber felt a way she’s not scared to mention it off camera. So what you guys think is reasonable feedback probably isnt. Besides it’s both of their podcasts, they’re both sharing their experience.
she kinda was tho
I was really happy to see everyone notice it and voice concern for Amber tbh. I think the people downplaying it and saying “that’s how conversations work, that’s how I am with my sister, etc” are just normalizing an unbalanced conversation dynamic that can be really hurtful. Self-awareness in convo, leaving space for people to talk, listening to understand and allow the other person to feel seen and important, etc these are all skills learned so kudos to everyone for noticing and speaking up and doing so in a respectful way that didn’t bash Ashley. Lots of room for growth always ❤️
Thanks for sharing your stories beautiful twin sisters! I just wanted to say I really appreciate the openness in this episode because I struggled with my body image for as long as I can remember as well. We’re all in this together and we are all beautiful no matter what we or others think!! ❤❤
As a guy I’m glad body confidence continues to be talked about, it’s a hard experience. Supporting you both! Love the podcast ❤
Love the beautiful twin sisters but I feel like Amber had quite a lot of beautiful, interesting and really relatable things to say( to me ) and I would of loved to fully hear those thoughts without any interruptions. No horrid feelings towards Ashley though ! 🤍
I really enjoy listening to you guys talk! It reminds me of my sister and I. Honestly I like how comfortable you guys are with each other. Love itttttt!!!!
it's so epic that amber got cool with her body. I felt her experiences so much and aspire to be the absolute legend she is one day
Ahhh I love hearing from you both but I wish that amber got to finish her thoughts... I get so into what she's saying and I want to hear her side of the story but she gets cut off a lot 🥲
Amber I’m also going through the same thing with being active/working out. I want to workout because I enjoy it, not because I want to be skinny. Currently on my healing journey with my self esteem 💕
I love these personal deeper convos for the girlies i can really relate myself to you guys
I feel like they both listen to each other's stories ❤❤❤ Here's the love to this episode ❤🎉
so happy you covered this topic I resonate so much with what you covered and I always feel validated listening to you guys - tuesday is now my fav day of the week
Amber thank you for being so vulnerable with us!!!
why Ashley is cutting off amber when she starts talking about her struggles w body image :(((
which part?
Ik it was feeling “but I twig :(“. As someone who grew up similar to Ashley I understand how you can be insecure but it comes off as insensitive especially since it’s the beauty standard.
I agree. You can see Amber's face when Ashley started talking about how she struggled with being skinny when Amber was just saying that she struggled with weight gain.
Because it’s both of their podcasts so they’re both explaining their experiences
dont want to say that Ashley struggles nothing like amber but I felt like she couldn't relate to her the least she could do is listen to her
oh amber ur so eloquent with ur words i hope you strive towards your goal of being the happiest person ever, i have seen so much progress in you :)
I relate to Amber so much (being the youngest but also how she felt that she was the "chunkier" sister) and I'm thankful that I'm not the only way that feels/felt that way. Thank you for uploading the podcast!!
thank u guys for this!!! just finished college and been feeling really lost since finishing in december wahahaha and your content has been really reassuring and comforting as i navigate my life now!!! fr this is a podcast i wait on every week since release ❤️🔥
I love the self-confidence topic!! I'm feeling this topic a lot cause I came from a very Asian family and also being an Asian here!! I love you guysss so much!🥰
You guys are the reason why I love Tuesdays ✨🎀💓
i love that i can add ashley and amber to my tuesday podcast line up haha
getting me through the work day
YAYY!!❤️
This is slowly becoming my comfort podcast ❤
Amber, I related to your perspective so much! And even a same timeline! It is def something I still struggle with and might always struggle with slightly, but it can and does get a bit more manageable/less consuming. Shoutout our frontal lobes. I am so happy to hear you both have been able to work through these things though and I hope you continue to know you are loved and worthy no matter what you are perceived as.
I related to amber so much and it's really such a vulnerable and scary thing to share and I was waiting for her to finish her story awwww sending luv to u amber
56:50 AMBER BETTER PREACH!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️
no but seriously i love amber’s insight, she really knows how to articulate her words beautifully
Would love for Amber to talk more about body image (if she wants to). There's so much she didn't get the chance to get into and listening to her talk about it is so relatable and not so triggering for some reason
love vulnerable convos like this
Literally the only thing I look forward to every week 💕
Every Tuesday i'm here for THIS podcast 💘
i've never been into podcasts but that changed because of you !! i love you queensss
i looooooved this episode, it was so real, makes me feel validated❤️✨ Love u, beautiful twin sisters
Ashley thank you for being so vulnerable!!!
24:50 The eye sparkling 😂😂😂 That's genius mom and dad cause normally it's nearly impossible to get a child eat vegetables 😂
Thank you beautiful twin sisters for sharing your experiences and thoughts when it comes to body image and your relationship with food! As someone who's been recovered from an ED for almost 5 years (yay lol), I appreciate your perspectives! Im not sure if you guys may read this, however, what helped me get past my bad body image and negative relationship with food was a phrase I received during my recovery journey which was "Nourish to Flourish!" From that, I began to develop a positive relationship with food by finding a balance between the "unhealthy" and "healthy" foods. I started listening to what my body needed, felt less restrictive as I was allowing myself to have both kinds of foods, and to this day, (I used to be a vegetarian due to the same reasons you guys went vegan) I can now feel guilt feel when nourishing my body, which I thought would be impossible! I hope my words can be helpful for you guys to view foods in a more positive light! Of course we all have different perspectives! :)
I been watching a day late since I work from home. These have been such a nice addition to my workday. I can listen and do my work. Its kinda peaceful and chaotic all at once and I love it lol.
love you guys!! these topics are so important so thanks for talking about them 💕💕
This is easily my fav podcast already and I am not a podcast girly but I'm hooked.
It makes me so happy whenever you guys post, love u!!🤍
How don't I love these two girls talking❤ Best podcast ever
I swear to God , I have never ever listened to a podcast freely, I have watched you guy’s RUclips since I can’t even guess anymore , like since you guys used to take pictures outside randomly with your cameras and so on. I always watch your videos including Andrew. This podcast shooked me first I was listening just because I love you guys , but especially Amber bro, the things she talked about I swear I never thought someone would even try to understand, and she understands 😮. Wow, keep this podcast its so important 😘🌹 I swear I have no words good job girls😘😘😘😘
Body image is a difficult conversation to have, so big props to the btsp !! Showing vulnerability or like talking about our own experiences in the internet is soooo hard nowadays because people have kinda adapted this black and white thinking ? Idk but seems like lately nobody listens with an open mind or something lols I hope it doesn’t bring you down! Always here to listen to my favorite sisters 🫶🏼
Ya'll don't know how comforting you both have been to meeeee 😭
Ashley your natural hair is such a pretty texture
It's like Zendaya's so pretty
YES YES I WAS LITERSLLY SEARCHING FOR SOMETHING TO LISTEN TO THIS CAME IN TIME THANK GOD
Omg, I'm feeling all the feels. I had a very similar experience as a kid to Amber's with food. I went Vegan as well for the same reason for a long time. I'm still struggling with eating in front of people, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one. ❤
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Such a needed podcast!!Love you guys soo much💕💕
omg this episode was SO GOOD, also love that i can enjoy this podcast every tuesday before work :')
Okay the setup looks good, Ashley sat on her good side, y'all hair looks good and today is my self care day! Happy happy BTSP
You know the day is going to be good when the beautiful twin sisters uploaddd!!!!
YAYYY!!!⭐️
Loved this topic, specially coming from you guys, as influencers you get to be role models for some of your viewers. Although i think there were some topics missing since you deal with social media in a different way than us as viewers (maybe insecurities so you can show that as beautiful as you are, you are still exposed to that not feeling pretty day) love you girls, such a pleasure to begin my day with your talks❤
Stumbled on this and immediately fell in love and had to listen to all the episodes that are out. You guys are wise beyond your years but so funny too!
i can relate to amber sm it's craazyy. actually it's not bc as y'all said a lot of people go thru stuff like this. that doesn't take away from anyone's personal experience tho. i'm currently in a healthier place with my eating (even tho the thoughts sometimes affect me) but i'm also still working on my relationship with working out. when i was a kid i always attached working out to wanting to be skinny so it's hard to have a healthy relationship with it now. i'm trying to focus on the inner aspect of it and the rush of happiness it gives you. baby steps but i believe i'll get there :') listening to this as a younger sister with a big sister was so relatable too.
it kind of bummed me out that amber was cut off when she was sharing her personal story because the topic is pretty heavy. i know it happens a lot with sisters (i have one too) and you can't really stop it completely but i hope you guys r more mindful of eachother's experience just for the future
you guys single handedly getting me through the work day every tuesday
i feel like they should have touched on the fact that u don't need to be skinny or fit to "serve". All body sizes are beautiful and slay 🩷
I honestly am not a podcast listener but I have yet to miss one these. BEAUTIFUUL TWIN SISTERSS
love you both so so much
Exactly what I needed. Thank you beautiful twin sisters 🙏
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idc how much better other youtubers are u both r my fav youtubers on the planet
i loveee this podcast and your dynamic (or should i say extra dynamic lol)! two of my fav youtubers eva
an idea i thought of, you should have a 'sleepover' episode with jasmine le! it could be a similar setup to her girl talk videos
First of all loved the podcast! I was around during the early vegan RUclips era and still am vegan to this day and plan to continue. But I definitely remember going into veganism to be ethical and somewhere along the line, I developed an eating disorder. Due to that my mental health definitely started to revolve around being super skinny and always eating healthy! Like no oil, raw til 4, no added sugar, no processed foods, etc! It was crazy looking back at how restrictive it got. I definitely had to self-assess and re-program my brain to not think that way and instead show gratitude for the food that I have access to. I'm vegan now for the right reasons and because the science behind it does show how horrible the industry is and 100% how horrible it is for the environment. But yeah I totally connected with your stories lol. Y'all are so beautiful! Keep slaying ✨
Can completely relate to feeling self conscious when eating, years before I knew I had disordered eating! Still years on, I still find it hard, but trying everyday to be like "it's okay, it's not "disgusting", my self worth doesn't depend on what this person thinks of me...", not always easy, depending on my mental state at a given time, but we try and push through! 💜💫
the freelee the banana girl lore was tooo relatable