@@gabrielasanchez2028 Haha lol like people expect so much when they hear our sleep schedule like nah fam we wake up in our bed, eat and go back to sleep right there das it lmaoo
@@zeea4533 dude sometimes i'd wake up at 4 am, still do nothing all day, i honestly realize the only thing that works for me is external deadlines to shake me up and actually be productive
if not careful, self help books can be toxic and get you overwhelmed. Productivity is not the same for everyone. Sometimes talking a walk can feel productive and working for 3 hours wont. Its the result that matters.
I would defo see a walk as productive For me personally there is one thinv that doesn't count as productive going on my phone (totally doing that rn 😂) There are plenty of things where I feel my time could have been better spent but I was doing something so I think it should still count as productive 🤷 I also see as going out with friends as being productive lol
I totally agree. No self-help book will ever take into account your personality, background, finances, etc. What worked for the authors did so mainly because of their unique situations and only slight because of the factors they mention.
I definitely stopped reading them because theyre always a load of bullshit. Not every single one is bad of course and I prefer to read self help books by professionals but still, I dont think ive ever remembered their advice and lived by it lol
"Self help books almost assume that you're already middle class" A lot of self help books rub me the wrong way for this reason. I mostly dislike the ones that promote waking up early as the core, seemingly ignoring the huuuuuuuge portion of working class citizens who get up before 5am every day of their working life and are miserable. Me included!
They are also completely ignoring the people who, by no fault of their own, aren't able to go to bed early. Plenty of my friends who work in supermarkets/restaurants arrive home well after midnight. 🌛
I also hate the waking up early thing bc there are the same amount of hours in a day no matter when you sleep. So if someone’s brain works better at night then logically it would make sense for them to sleep in later so they can do the things at night. Idk I think telling ppl to wake up early plays in to our aggressive capitalism. If these books were actually trying to help ppl they would be more individualized bc ya know… people aren’t all the same. So working 5am to 6pm isn’t logical, healthy, or best in general for most people… it is pretty good for capitalism though.
A small detail about Marie Kondo: her main philosophy is indeed to keep items that spark you joy but she also acknowledges that some items are here because they are useful, even if they don't spark you joy, so you can keep your underwear no problem
And it did work for me to decluttering my stuff, i used to have way too many stuff that i save even though they doesn't make me feel any spark of joyfulness by having them. And i still using that rule whenever i need reduce my stuff, either it is books or anything
I am a long time Konmari method believer. Marie Kondo brings up items like this in the book and she questions why you would keep a rusty pair of scissors when you could replace them with some that bring you joy to use. You can use this mindset for all your useful items, and to your own liking (maybe you like the rusty scissors, idk). For me, having tools I enjoy using improves my chances of using them in my house my a lot. I have nice dish scrubbies and yummy dish soap,, so I now enjoy washing my dishes. My laundry room is set up for maximum enjoyment, so I enjoy doing my laundry. Call me weird, but maybe you should try it😁
@@laralepo1071 that's just lies of today's society and "influencers" the great genio is of our times despite the field used to work up to very late and wake up somewhat late as well.
@@vekkdrums I have no idea tbh. I'm just clarifying what these "self improvement gurus" mean when they say wake up early. In my opinion best waketime varies from person to person. I personally like to sleep late and wake late cause i get more productive at night. Tho this is usually impossible to do cause we as a civilization are required to function coordinately.
Bcz the book will not help you if you don't help yourself. It will only give you advice. Only you can help yourself by following or not following those advices. You read them, and get to self help. That's why they are called self help books.
@@user-mc6zk8tc8c that applies to regular help as well. Most of the time, you don't drag your feet when you get help. You do your part to use the advice and learn.
"if you want something. You should act like you already have it" Ok ok, introducing myself now as Mrs. Momoa. Yes I'm jason momoa's wife. No one can tell me otherwise
@@vavet39 not always, if you jave everything they require for but you have an "exotic" appearance they can hire someone less talented than you just cause the other person looks "normal". This happens A LOT with people who have colored hair, face tattoos...
As an Indian, I agree so much Also Robin Sharma LMAO My dad gifted me his book to make me wake up at 5am but I just ended up going to sleep at 5am instead
A book telling me it can fix my eyesight kinda feels like my parents telling me eating carrots will enable me to see in the dark. The betrayal runs deep.
My eyesight corrected itself (somehow) and my mom was like "oh it has to be because you're taking vitamins!" uhhhh sorry mom but I don't actually take vitamins
Vitamin A (which is found in carrots) deficiency can cause 'night blindness' though. That doesn't mean you can see as well as nocturnal animals, just that you can see at all in the 'dark'.
I actually drank carrot juice and ate a lot of carrots for a year and my weaker eye did improve substantially. Both my eyes are less than 20/20 but now they are matched as far as weakness goes. So I think the beta carotene does help. It is one of several things that does but will not always 100% reverse myopia. And for conditions like astigmatism...that has a physical aspect to due with the shape of the cornea so I can see depending on why a person has poor vision...they might not get the benefits they had hoped for...
@@elainaregier8830 yeah I’ve heard from a doctor that that can happen with age. My mom was like 6 in both eyes and then went down to 0.18 or summ with age.
"He covers a lot of ground, but without saying anything groundbreaking" has got to be the best comment i've ever heard about self help books, my compliments to the chef 😂😂
Exactly. I don't understand why all the self-help books promote waking up earlier. I can be productive and get my work done later too. Whenever I tried to force myself to wake up at 5, I remained tired the whole day. Get up as per your own biological clock and then get to work.
It’s more about wanting to be up at 5 am. It won’t make us productive if we resent waking up that early. But at the same time it is true that people have different biological clocks and it’s very useful to listen to our own body. For me I hated waking up early but when I had to start waking up at 5 to get to school on time I learned that I actually do enjoy it so much more. I felt way more productive and like I have much more time. I found this being true for me only because during the train ride I would let my mind stop and look through window at nature’s beauty. +Going back home at 2 and feeling like I have already done so much and still have so much time. - That’s how I realized I like it. But that is a personal thing to examine.
I usually like to sleep at 10pm or 11pm and ended up waking up at 5am without alarms, but ITS JUST ME, its not for everybody i dont like books to tell me what the path is... every millionare made their own path. Some things might works for ones and not for other
In a sense, what i feel is that people who wrote self help books that promote waking up at 5am are either a morning person or someone that sleeps early around 10pm, so theoretically by 5am they have at least 7 hours of sleep (this also inffy if they have quality sleep and literally go to deep sleep stage within an hour intl sleep etc). I'm a night person and generally wake up around 9-10am because i sleep late. Plus there are people that work night shift. Honestly we should just try to have a better quality sleep and wake up when it is needed for us or our own ideal waking time.
@@CherryBerryFashion yep agree. During my school time days, primary till secondary school time even in my form 6 foundation year, i wake up around 5am and have to get ready within 2 hours because the first class of school start around 8am. I hated it, even in Uni time, i hate morning class but if the class start around 10am or the afternoon for that course i generally love the lecturer more because i dont grumble waking up early lol.
The Marie Kondo book and the act of talking to your possessions and thanking them is based of the Shinto beliefs of animism, that some intimate objects can obtain a soul. To acknowledge items and thank them for sparking joy, with that in mind, makes complete sense. It’s part of Japanese culture, and I get that it may seem strange to someone outside of this cultural or belief system, but it deserves respect all the same and not have her advice be alluded to poor mental health.
I came to say the exact same thing - Kondo’s advice really leans hard into Shinto and Japanese tradition and culture, and there has been a lot of “that’s insane” over the years as a result. It’s not insane, it’s culture. And honestly, it’s pretty helpful to the West, especially for people who anthropomorphize or have hoarding tendencies, as each individual item becomes real in a personal way for them.
This is really interesting. Thank you for pointing this out! For me, a lot of the advice in her books can be boiled down to being thoughtful about the things that you choose to surround yourself with. It's frustrating to see people missing the point and just dismiss it as, "she wants people to talk to objects and throw out all their books"
The Shinto belief is about taking care of your belongings to extend their lifespan as much as possible. Not replacing them with things that bring you ‘joy’, that’s capitalism.
the most frustrating thing about that is that Rhonda Byrne genuinely believes it’s THEIR FAULT for being homeless because their negative energy brought it about - it’s awful !!
@@jack_edwards a lot of bad things in our life are awful? And we bring a lot of that about, even psychologically from badly formed programs which you've learned in your formative years. It's OK to take responsibility for us fucking up. I agree that sometimes it's outside forces, but that's only because you don't take control of your emotions and are never taught on how to handle yourself. I think of it a bit like not having education about drugs. You might have a go at heroin and not know the long term effects, and it's gonna mess you up. Same with your mindset. Extremely hard to look at it though and take responsibility for a lot of it. Granted, there are exceptions as always... But the majority applies. Especially if you were born in a decent country.
This!! A secret believer once told me my mum had manifested her psychosis and dementia at 46 because either she must have thought about it too often or I must have thought too often about losing her which... I can't fathom!! At this point, I feel like either all of it is bullshit or assholes feel welcome in the "secret"-community and have taken it over.
I'm surprised you didn't read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Such a great refreshing read and it highlights a lot of issues you mentioned with the self-help industry.
It's a great one! I love how realistic and practical the advice given by the author sounded, definitely a lot more realistic than Robin Sharma's books and a couple more self-help books I have read.
yesssss omg I love that book so much! The principles the author introduced seemed so counterintuitive at first but then it clicked in me and I was knocked out! He has a second book now I think
It's my very first self-help book I've read . After that I read some other self-help books but those weren't realistic as this . Please suggest me some other books like the subtle art
Honeslty, 'manefesting' helped me a lot with personal things, like confidence etc. A 'fake it till you make it' kinda thing. But honestly, i don't think it goes very much further than this. Thought processes etc can be changed like this, but lots of things are in fact beyond our control, and accepting that helps more than trying to change it
I agree but then it's not really 'manifesting' is it? it's just active intent and that's not the same things as some universal powers helping you out. But I understand the placebo itself can make people happier so whatever yk
@Hannah Mae I had my doubts with that too!! but the I thought: how would you explain placebo then? it’s technically a “hidden” manifestation where you change the state of your health by believing you’re being cured by the medicine you’re given while you’re actually being cured by your positive mindset.
@@istdochscheissegal1 I've read that placebos working has got something to do with the fact that your mental health influences your physical health. If you're mentally healthy, it helps your physical health, too.
I totally agree! When I hear someone who truly believes that everyone should just manifest what they want, it starts to feel a bit like toxic positivity. I am totally fine with an individual "manifesting" some things in their life to put intent in the places that matter to them, but once they start telling others who are having a rough time to "just manifest it!", it takes many different types of privilege to be able to do that.
right?? unless we’re talking abt religious manifesting (which i’m p sure we’re not lol) then manifesting isn’t an actual thing but a good of a way of changing ur mindset. i still think it’s good tho!
Hey Jack! Marie Kondo probably talks to her possessions because of the influence of Shintoism in Japan. In this religion, the objects/nature are Kamis (or gods) and they are cherished as such. For example, the famous expression "itadakimasu" is said before a meal not only to express gratitude towards the people that were involved in the process of making that food but also to the ingredients themselves. Shintoism is also the reason why Japanese people are so respectful and kind to nature and each other, it's sacred for them.
ooh thank you for explaining this! i recently read marie kondo's book and was wondering how japanese culture influences her thoughts around organization :]
I've heard of that, very interesting. Are they actually respectful and kind to nature? Do they treat the animals made for slaughter better than other countries? Don't they have some dishes with live animals?
if you are making $0 you are definitely not part of the middle class i think he meant 'at least middle class' which also has a lower boundary basically having the extra resources to buy this to help yourself, buy that to replace something old, invest
@@musthavegadgets4440 What about family’s? $40K for 1 person is middle class $52K for 2 people is middle class $65K for 3 people is middle class $78K for 4 people is middle class $84K for 5 people is middle class $90K for 6 people is middle class $96k for 7 people is middle class $100k for 7 people is middle class
@@alexia-mariechan1277 I found creating a routine to be helpful. I go to sleep at midnight, so I reserved a one-hour window before bed to reading. I can't do it every day obviously. The important thing is trying. Before this, I tried setting a page number goal like "reading 20 pages everyday". It worked. You start with an easy page number but sometimes you just cannot put the book away and doulbe or triple your goal. But I find a schedule more helpful than a set goal
A lot of women coordinate their purses with their outfits. If you empty your purse each evening, your things are ready to go in the bag for tomorrow’s outfit. It also keeps you from accumulating a bunch of receipts and papers, etc., in the bottom of your bag. 😄 Many people feel guilt about getting rid of things, even if they’re being donated. Thanking the items seems to allow people to process the past history and memories with the items, so that people can let go and move forward.
Yes! I like to have like a bowl or dish to keep my purse things in - they go in it the minute I come home and it's easy peasy when I pick a different purse to go out. (Or at least it used to be, back when we regularly went out lol)
Not a fan of self-help books! From the ones I read, it was more about blocking out negative feelings rather than finding a way to cope or process them. It makes you feel like you are doing something wrong if you can't do that, which makes you feel guilty or emphasises the negative feelings lol
Finally somebody who agrees with me about The Secret! I found it so offensive with the whole curing cancer curing poor eyesight bullshit, I do believe in manifestation etc but I believe that it involves hard work & acceptance too! Trust me Rhonda I’ve been acting like a millionaire for years now and all it’s done is ✨ break the bank and make me take on extra shifts at Morrison’s while juggling uni work✨
Taking the idea of "thinking like a millionaire" more seriously may help. I don't mean acting entitled to everything, I mean budgeting, learning finance and business skills and working for a specific period of time with strictly capital formation in mind, then working towards investing in other businesses or looking into entrepreneurship
@@feb4305 that isn’t acting like a millionaire though. That’s working towards becoming a millionaire, like I said hard work is what it takes. Acting like a millionaire is spending money, and just acting like what you want isn’t going to bring what you desire into your life. It requires work, which is what you’re suggesting.
@@evegates7005 that's why I said thinking not acting. Obviously you aren't going to get anything by pretending you have it. The book should've talking about the mindset of a millionaire rather than telling us to manifest it
The Secret sounds like a books that targets people who would fall into conspiracies and dangerous beliefs. If you believe that you can cure your cancer on your own, you might not seek the care that could actually save you !
@@jackieweaver3884 Yeah but there are people believing that the earth is flat. Even the most unbelievable claims will be believed by some people and it is dangerous...
Not sure if it'll help, but if you have a way of creating a sense of urgency, I'd recommend trying that. When I got afraid (thanks horror movies) of stepping into the dark common area, when I thought I smelled fire, I completely forgot about my fear and just jumped into action. I'm trying to find a way to simulate this in a more productive manner
@@Whodjathink Hmm that's an idea. What has worked for me though is adopting a few mindset changes: 1. I don't have to do a project "All at once". I can break it up and spread it out across the day. 2. Have a time limit for work sessions. The smaller the time limit the better. 3. Accept and consult my anxiety instead of trying to turn it off. I try to think of it as my little secretary that tells me what I,m slacking on. The more I try to shut it up, the more anxious I become ironically. 4. Start easy: Starting is by far the hardest part of any project and once I start, It's kinda downhill from there so I just say "I'll just work for 1 minute" and I'm almost compelled to get my work done then. 5. Plan from the night before. It's very useful getting up with a plan already laid out and the specificity gives my mind something to latch onto. I've learned the opposite of anxiety is focus. Hope those help you as much as they helped me
With my anxiety I’ll think of everything single thing daily and it’s literally so draining. Lately I’ve been trying to write things down and then forgetting them (that lasts maybe a week). but that’s still progress bc I’m not feeling mentally exhausted from my thoughts 24/7 like before.
In a weird way, I love these types of videos where you show us what books NOT to read much more than actual book recommendations. You're saving my time with a little bit of comedy in between and I love you for that!
at least he is not bothering other in an uncomfortable way. So what he end up doing to satisfy his attention seeking issue is actually brilliant. Not every youtuber know how to do content that satisfied "other strangers" while the strangers attention satisfy his need in return.
Marie Kondo thanks things in her house as a sacred act - it's linked to shintoism. It might look strange from a western lens but they believe that every object is sacred and has its own spirit, so it's not crazy, just a spiritual practice.
If a self-help book doesn't include "If you are struggling, consider seeing a therapist, especially as they can work directly with your specific situation and personality to best tailor your recovery path, now here is a list of things to keep in mind when trying out different therapists" then it is a garbage book for help.
I mean you shouldn’t take for bad intention what you read, maybe they already think like you, but you are literally paying money to read some advice on financial or another self help constructs, I mean, all these books are very different on their own.
Self-help books are written for people in a good place in their lives, who want to "take it to the next level". If you are in need of real help, these books are definitely not for you. The dude in the video said it, as well, in case you missed it.
Therapists are worse than self help books . 3 therapists later I now understand that all of them are the same . They just listen to you for money and then at most give you breathing techniques or analyze how your brain works . They don't actually tell you anything of substance that can change things for you .
you should do a week reading all different genres, such as reading a surrealist then a physics theory book, then a comedy to horror! just an idea. your books videos are my favourite!
Marie Kondo's book really helped when we had to severely downsize. I recommend it for people who are moving house. Thanking the books I gave away made it easier because I love books and I want to keep all the books even though I don't read them.
In defense of Marie Kondo, I find her methods for staying tidy, organized, and appreciative really really helpful. I've got major adhd tho and if I don't do things like Empty My Bag, and Acknowledge The Locations And Existence Of My Possessions, I tend to just forget that my house is whack.
I used to watch self help youtubers when they popped up in my recommended, none of their methods ever worked. Then I got diagnosed with ADHD and I now realize there is a damn good reason they never worked. Imma try reading the marine kondo one though.
I absolutely love that you mentioned that most self help books inherently assume a level of privilege for the reader . If someone is working 3 jobs to get by and feed there kids ... waking up at 5 am and investing probably aren’t in their realm of possibilities at that moment .
Yes, for him but for most of us that aren't in those circumstances, those are the best decisions we could do, plus if he had done that before now he wouldn't have been in his situation.
After being obsessed with self-help books while in undergrad and grad school, the "secret" to success is just implementing whatever works for you. After reading a lot of this stuff, you just read more self-help for motivation when you have none left. Or after the winter holidays when you feel like a sack of potatoes.
In Japanese culture, some people believe that every individual item has its own god which is why I assume Marie speaks to all of her items? Whenever my Japanese friend throws any item out (like a used pen), she thanks it for the service….I always found it cute 😅
Taking this guy's interpretation of a self help book is like asking someone with an untutored palate to eat a fine meal and report back. You have to eat this stuff yourself to really get the flavours.
@@johngerring2505 Agree! Learning about finance isn't really comparable directly with "Secret". You might believe or not in law of attraction but knowing more about finance is something which we shouldn't be ignorant about.
My mom got The Secret as a gift a few years ago, and she read it and said it was okay. I read because I was curious, and three chapters in, I was like "what kinda bullsh*t" 💀💀 manifesting is one thing, this is insane
I'm the one who believed it. Spent 2 years practicing LOA watching many youtubers making videos, always thinking there is some subconscious block in my mind. Then moved to Reality Transurfing, spent time with no results now here I am after wasting 2 years imagining my future for nothing
Question I have about The 4 Hour Work-Week: He outsources his work to other people so he works less, has more time, and makes more money, but how much are the people who he outsourced to making and how much time are they spending doing his work?
Exactly my thoughts! I think he justifies it by saying he pays these people more than they would make typically in their land. But that is based on inherent inequality and it always leaves me conflicted.
Also if he encourages people to outsource everything where does it end? What if the people that he outsources his things to try to also live a 4 hour week and do the same (and then the next ones do the same etc.). There is just so much outsourcing you can do.
I think the premise is if you're a writer and want to write a book, you can outsource editing, printing, publishing and only focus on writing which now has more quality and has better earning potential. Or if you're youtuber you also outsource editing and sponsoring and only focus on the content. Or if you're a lawyer you do someone else to copy and deliver files, prepare files, answer phone and emails that don't reqire you to do it. So basically, you should specialise in something and do that, outsource everything else. And if your outsourcers did that to, they are also making more money because they are best in their field not losing time on anything that is not their essential work. He's speaking to those people who try to do all by themselves, who try to do too many things and are not great in anything.
@@AnamariRukavina Agree with this 100%. Basically outsource everything you are not skilled at or do not enjoy doing yourself. I read that Tim Ferris is basically a super hard working guy but because he mostly does what he likes, it is not called "working" for him e.g. meeting with people, networking. For everyone else, it is still called working unfortunately.
Tim Ferris was making $70k a month when he decided he was working too long hours and decided to do 4hrs a week. He was already wealthy, but just delegated everything. It's a good idea if you're already minted.
Omg the assumption of being middle class is so real. I didn't realize that was a subminal tone to most books until you said it. It's like getting from lower class to middle is the real battle. Everything on top of that is a true blessing or excess... Dunno
@@abcxyz4653 They/We read books, but don't have enough money to truly fund the market usually and not enough time because we're working for the sake of existence. If you're technically well-off but not content with your life you have more resources to invest in aiding your problem - so you're a better goal for scammers feeding off of your problems. (Also the people who wrote it are usually middle-class and have an unreflected bias on their opportunities or got used to the money and security). Yes - the poor read. But more often free resources or when it comes to self-help: more researched titles of self-help books cause you won't buy all of them, just one that's a cost-use-win.
@@Nina-cd6uw Yeah, I know all that. All I said was low income people do read and do spend money on books, even though it’s less than high income people.
the comment he made about sleep made me jump to the comment section and recommend “Why we sleep” it’s absolutely fascinating and will fundamentally change the way you think about sleep. phenomenal read.
I haven't read the book, but if anyone wants an easy way into the authors points, I recommend listening to the Deliciously Ella podcast episode from June 18th 2019. It's basically a conversation between Ella, Matt (Ella's husband) and Matthew Walker (the author of why we sleep). I found this episode to be super interesting and easy to understand.
I actually really love Marie Kondo. I definitely stay on top of tidying up and decluttering more now because of her. I always stayed on top of cleaning but I am more organized now because of her. And she is a sweetheart.
I started watching The Secret once. I never got to know "the secret". I gave up halfway, tired of listening to claims of how "life-changing" the secret was.
It sounds like those RUclips ads that talk about weight loss or dating for 10 minutes, but never get to the point, because you're supposed to click on their link.
tldr; the 'secret' is glorified goal setting and positive thinking (but not necessarily with actual action taken towards those goals?), but they use enough snake oil language that people think its something so innovative. and then part of the secret is about how our brain waves literally form physical matter? so you can just, grow money and things and itll show up if you think hard enough. It is a lot of quack-talk to sell you more books and seminars.
Marie Kondo really helped me, especially with the paper section. She reminded me that none of these papers are important and I can shred everything. I'm a full-blown believer, and if she started a cult, I'd follow her into the desert. The Secret, however....what a fucking waste of my time.
I mean reading 300 pages is equal to like 7 hours of reading Those books were not humongous. And he reads fast. He basically earns money off of reading, why is it surprising
@@nikitashaitan9984 Does he not get bored of them? I can't even read for more than two hours without already falling asleep on the book. And I'm actually reading something I'm interested in...
It is possible to finish reading a book in one day, as long as you have time and nobody disturbing you, but it going to be so boring if the book you read is one that not suit your preference
I feel like the 5am club could be super useful, but only when adjusted to when you actually need to wake up (i.e. if you work at 9, maybe join the 7am club).
@Elegant Oprah actually it's a habit and it's bendable. Besides it's not a compulsory to wake up early. Some books don't suggest that that you have to rise early and many great people don't do. Good self help books try to give you a practical approach to life and it's kinda change your behaviour little good.
@@rahulkhatri3263 because humans enjoy sleeping and doing what makes them happy. If you’re happy with you job, why not sleep in if it makes you feel better? Hustle mentality is just as toxic as any other.
@@oh_kay2954 exactly but only if you're happy. This is all about when you're not. When you want something that'll make you happy.books are just a guidance.
this might be a harsh take, but I feel like 85-90% of self-help books range from being "meh" to actually harmful.The Secret, for example, claims that if you're struggling financially or get ill, it's your own fault and you're a terrible person. it's your fault that you're not "manifesting wealth". it's basically a whole "get rich quick"/toxic positivity cult, same with Rich Dad, Poor Dad. obviously there's nothing wrong with wanting to improve or getting advice on how to! but I feel like self-help books tend to have an extremely narrow perspective that ends up being unhelpful. I prefer to watch free youtube vids on self-help or read advice blogs, but that's just my preference. power to people who do benefit from self-help books tho! :) edit: ok but marie kondo's self-help book is the only one that gets a pass :p. thanking and talking to her possessions is a bit much, but I love her lol.
Tbh I talk to inanimate objects so much anyway that thanking them doesn’t even seem that far-fetched 😂Like, if I yell at my laptop for not working and cheer on my coffee machine to go faster, I might as well thank my jeans for keeping my ass in place so well. Barely makes any difference.
@@samiraansari5686 omg your comment made me realize I do the same thing. especially cheering on my coffee machine or some other appliance to go faster asdfjg. lol that's a great point! :p
I only read Marie Kondo mainly for the tips on decluttering. Especially because I'm a messy person and my house has so much stuff. I didn't go so far as thanking my possessions.
Why do people assume that you have to follow everything that self-help books say? I have been reading them for the last 5 years. I did not follow everything that they say. I only follow that hits. me hard. These small changes made me 500% better person than what I was.
Jack! Read the book Do Nothing. It’s more about how to unwind in meaningful ways and less of an academic drag like How To Do Nothing was. It has a sloth on the cover too, so what more do you need to know
The best part about Atomic Habits is that it's just a deep dive of his _free_ ebook on Habits which is literally just a 50-ish page book of just concepts. No unnecessary filler.
My biggest betrayal is that self help books focus too much over setting and following the goals, like it's a race. They promote overthinking and obsessing over the goals. I read Atomic Habits, and it solved many of my confusion. It is the only book I have read so far, that is actually helpful and highly practical.
Yah me too, it's so practical and I can say it worths ton of self book that Ive ever read, like this is the one and only book everyone need to be success
@@haryadita651 way better than overhyped books like start with why, magic of thinking big. The author of atomic habits James clear is such a down to earth person. Explained concepts and how they can be applied in a very elegant manner.
Marie kondo's book is the one and only, that can really stick in my mind. I read this book 2 years ago and since then I organize better to the level - I only took about 15 minutes every week to reorginize my things if my room got messed up.
Really enjoyed hearing your perspective on self help books. Ive always loved reading them but took them too seriously. It was really helpful seeing how critical you were & your tip of “take bits & adapt to your personality”. Enjoyed this video!
I started to binge watch your videos in my study break as it gives me a lot of motivation, and I have to say your humor is really immaculate and never fails to crack me up
I have read tons of self-help books and I have come to realize that not every advice they have can apply to your own life. Your mindset when reading such books can be very vital as well. Last year I’ve read more self-help books than ever before in my life, but given how disastrous 2020 was to both the world and my mental health, I barely applied anything to my day to day. If a certain passage in a self-help book doesn’t resonate with your values and morals, then don’t feel obliged to do it in any way. You know your own self the most, and you should be the one to decide on the lifestyle change that you want to pursue.
When the pandemic started and home office became a thing for us Brazilians, I set this goal of waking up early to be more productive during the day. So in the first month, I started my days at 5 am and did all those things positive people tell you to do in order to get your life together. But as the weeks went on, I began to wake up a little later. It wasn't much, just a few minutes more of sleep each time. So now, a year later, I go to sleep at 9 am and wake up around 17 pm. Screw the "think like a monk" and "5am club" mentality. I don't even see the sun anymore. Send help.
@Elegant Oprah for me personally you have to find a balance, honestly. I read those books and disagree with a lot just like the original comment did, the thing is that I found a "mid term" where I kinda apply it, but in a way that'll work for me so it's a lot of trial and error, took me one year to get to the current routine I'm at. So if you want, read those books! But remember to adapt it to *you* or not follow the tips at all if you feel it won't work for you. Good luck!
I absolutely hate the idea of people in the west utilising cheap labour and drop shipping services to make easy money. They find a cheap product that's likely being manufactured in a sweat shop > order stock > drop ship through a company like amazon. It's so so unethical, so so unsustainable, and just shit. It's peak consumption culture and I hate that people suggest these things as a way to make money.
@@borisjoffe the people making these products are forced into inhumane working conditions inorder to survive. It is only through consumer and company demand for sustainable and ethical manufacturing that their circumstances can change. They are not seeing an influx of money, they're seeing cents per day and intergenerational poverty. (Edit for spelling mistake)
@@sam-forshort have to do what it takes to make it :(, sadly that’s how the world is like, use or to be used. It is sad but to make it that’s what you have to do
"the first 20 minutes if your day you should move" I lay in my bed for 3 hours having to reconsider my life every morning, having to motivate myself to roll out of my bed just to sit at my pc and do nothing
@@fitnessforlife8966 He's a guru, if you don't want to waste years of your life on this self help nonsense like I did, put down all self help books you're reading, don't listen to other people and just go on your own journey to become the best version of yourself. Don't take anyone's advice including mine(after this comment that is), you'll be much happier and much better off.
@@nataliyachepurnova29 You already know what you want and what is important to you, just focus on that and forget about this self help industry, don't read another book because all they do is prey on your insecurities to string you along forever, next thing you know you'll see yourself 5 years from now still excited about the next book or seminar that will finally unlock the secret of success for you when in reality you have absolutely nothing to show for the time you spent on it. Trust your own judgement and logic before any book because at the end of the day they won't help you when you screw up, you have the responsibility so only make decisions you have personally thought through and don't allow fear to be mixed in that equation.
I used to be a heavy self-help book reader and then I just changed and I think most self-help books are garbage. Maaaaany books are written by people who just wanted to "motivate" an audience, but in reality it's about selling ideas and ways to feed their own ego, aaaand a lot of those books can make you feel even more miserable than before. The ones I respect are the books by Cal Newport, Simon Sinek, and some other professionals... I'm done consuming stuff from people like Jay Shetty or from wealthy people who are far way from the reality of middle class people.
I'm so glad that you've used your platform to discuss self help books - this is a very good insight, done in a moderately unbiased way. Great video Jack, great video.
I had to wake up at 4 for a few months because of my job and I tell you I was becoming depressed and nervous. I think my body "felt" that waking up before sunrise was wrong
so glad you mentioned Atomic Habits, my fave self help book that has been so life changing for me. Also I never read her book but I adore Marie Kondo and her clothes folding technique has helped me in so many ways.
I think The Secret should be read in a broader perspective. Manifesting small things at first and then working bigger and bigger. I have done this for years and I keep being amazed of what I can manifest. Last year I lost my job in august. And I kept saying to myself, my friends and family that I would get a job before the year was over. Mid-December I got a job kind of out of nowhere. I have done the same with a new apartment, income, friendship, adventure... and I’m not saying that stuff will just magically appear, but as you said, if you put your mind to it, you will naturally do little things every day that will attract the things you want.
The description of 4-Hour Work Week makes it sound like "How to Exploit the Labor of People You Have Power Over" which, to its credit, is how the rich get richer so it's not technically wrong..
I cannot thank you enough for making this video, pretty much all of those books are on my ‘To Read’ list and you’ve just saved me a hell of a lot of time and money! Completely agree re Atomic Habits, my no. 1 so far
"Attention seeker who overshares on the internet for validation of strangers" is simply brilliant. Before, it was called "attention wh*re", but since everybody is doing it now, the term was dropped because it doesn't sound euphemistic enough.
As a psychology student I don’t believe in self help books and I wouldn’t recommend to anyone. I don’t know if there are any researches out there about the efficacy of reading self help books, but if there are, it would be interesting to make a video about. if it’s already hard to start and commit to therapy (it depends on each individual of course) imagine just reading a self help book and trying to commit to what the book tells you.
Yeah I agree I’ve noticed this in my own life too I’ve read a self help book that actually has a couple helpful pieces of advice but then I don’t actually try any of it so what was the point
The only self help book that worked for me wasn't even a standard self help book, lol. It was just to help you identify the cause/affect of anxiety and how it works. I still remember some of the tips and it helps me out. :)
@@dommanedounia164 It's "Rewire Your Anxious Brain" by Catherine M. Pittman and Elizabeth M. Karle. It has a lot of quizzes in the book to help you identify the main sources of your anxiety too, which I found really helpful. Hopefully it helps!
personally, i always research a self help book before buying them. my criteria: an author who is a psychiatrist/psychologist who has spent years of their life specializing on the topic their self help book is about (example, Mindset by Carol Dweck). They don't necessarily even have to be a professional psychiatrist as well--books like Atomic Habits (James Clear), Deep Work (Cal Newport), and Quiet (Susan Cain) are written by people who are ACTUALLY researchers not just the toxic positive "self-help" gurus who always suggest the same thing over and over again without actually providing heavy research. Reading the books of Clear, Newport, and Cain, it is very evident that they spend time to actually fact check their claims and provide scientific evidence. self-help books can actually be a double edged sword but when you find the right books written by actual researchers and not so-called gurus, they can actually be of big help. just be mindful, guys : )
Bonus points if they actually bother with a references page for the stuff they cite. At worst it shows you they care about looking scientific and at best it gives you more to read later
i watched all of these appear on your goodreads and assumed you were having some sort of crisis
LMAO
Me too 😂
😂😂😂
Haha
omg same XD
I wake up naturally at 5am and get nothing done all day, the self help writers want to silence me
Lol
Same lol I wake up at 5 and go to bed at 9, due to Corona I don't do shit all day lmao
@@zeea4533 lmao SAME
@@gabrielasanchez2028 Haha lol like people expect so much when they hear our sleep schedule like nah fam we wake up in our bed, eat and go back to sleep right there das it lmaoo
@@zeea4533 dude sometimes i'd wake up at 4 am, still do nothing all day, i honestly realize the only thing that works for me is external deadlines to shake me up and actually be productive
Antozent- they are selling around 150 self help books for the price of one (including this one)
if not careful, self help books can be toxic and get you overwhelmed. Productivity is not the same for everyone. Sometimes talking a walk can feel productive and working for 3 hours wont. Its the result that matters.
I would defo see a walk as productive
For me personally there is one thinv that doesn't count as productive going on my phone (totally doing that rn 😂)
There are plenty of things where I feel my time could have been better spent but I was doing something so I think it should still count as productive 🤷
I also see as going out with friends as being productive lol
yes !! sometimes the most productive thing you can do is just chill out and take a break
that's why i prefer author that actually know what they're talking about like haemin sunim
I totally agree. No self-help book will ever take into account your personality, background, finances, etc. What worked for the authors did so mainly because of their unique situations and only slight because of the factors they mention.
I definitely stopped reading them because theyre always a load of bullshit. Not every single one is bad of course and I prefer to read self help books by professionals but still, I dont think ive ever remembered their advice and lived by it lol
Wait ur telling me ive spent hundreds of pounds on glasses and contacts over the years when I could have just ✨decided I can see✨
the joke is on US !
Ikr i can ✨ r e l a t e ✨
We’ve been lied to. I spent most of my life struggling through incurable blindness, just to learn that the cure was there all along
I’m waiting on my new prescription and you’re saying I wasted all of that cash? 😔
@@august1837 Maybe the eyesight was the friends we made along the way 🥺
"Self help books almost assume that you're already middle class"
A lot of self help books rub me the wrong way for this reason. I mostly dislike the ones that promote waking up early as the core, seemingly ignoring the huuuuuuuge portion of working class citizens who get up before 5am every day of their working life and are miserable. Me included!
Only the middle class are gullible enough. That is why Eva Duarte said “Screw the middle classes. I will never accept them” in Evita, the musical.
Yes!!!! It astounds me how detached the authors can be.
So true!
They are also completely ignoring the people who, by no fault of their own, aren't able to go to bed early. Plenty of my friends who work in supermarkets/restaurants arrive home well after midnight. 🌛
I also hate the waking up early thing bc there are the same amount of hours in a day no matter when you sleep. So if someone’s brain works better at night then logically it would make sense for them to sleep in later so they can do the things at night. Idk I think telling ppl to wake up early plays in to our aggressive capitalism. If these books were actually trying to help ppl they would be more individualized bc ya know… people aren’t all the same. So working 5am to 6pm isn’t logical, healthy, or best in general for most people… it is pretty good for capitalism though.
The writer said: Think like a monk, act like a capitalist
Lol but yes
Opp-
You said it 🤣
lol yes
Fr!
A small detail about Marie Kondo: her main philosophy is indeed to keep items that spark you joy but she also acknowledges that some items are here because they are useful, even if they don't spark you joy, so you can keep your underwear no problem
And it did work for me to decluttering my stuff, i used to have way too many stuff that i save even though they doesn't make me feel any spark of joyfulness by having them. And i still using that rule whenever i need reduce my stuff, either it is books or anything
@@tjjordhen299 😂😂
This was funny
This was funny
I am a long time Konmari method believer. Marie Kondo brings up items like this in the book and she questions why you would keep a rusty pair of scissors when you could replace them with some that bring you joy to use. You can use this mindset for all your useful items, and to your own liking (maybe you like the rusty scissors, idk). For me, having tools I enjoy using improves my chances of using them in my house my a lot. I have nice dish scrubbies and yummy dish soap,, so I now enjoy washing my dishes. My laundry room is set up for maximum enjoyment, so I enjoy doing my laundry. Call me weird, but maybe you should try it😁
Why are “mental health” gurus so obsessed with waking up early? It’s like they’re racing with each other for who gets to sleep less lmao
You gotta sleep early if u want to wake up early tho. It doesn't have to do with the amount of sleep but with the timing of sleep.
@@laralepo1071 that's just lies of today's society and "influencers" the great genio is of our times despite the field used to work up to very late and wake up somewhat late as well.
@@vekkdrums I have no idea tbh. I'm just clarifying what these "self improvement gurus" mean when they say wake up early. In my opinion best waketime varies from person to person. I personally like to sleep late and wake late cause i get more productive at night. Tho this is usually impossible to do cause we as a civilization are required to function coordinately.
It feels good to rise with the sun ☀️
I experiment with waking up early so many times and sleeping less makes me was unproductive
"If you're looking for self-help why would you read a book written by somebody else. That's not self-help, that's help"
-George Carlin
Bcz the book will not help you if you don't help yourself. It will only give you advice. Only you can help yourself by following or not following those advices. You read them, and get to self help. That's why they are called self help books.
Lmao I've never seen that one. I'll remember that.
Lol true
thats based
@@user-mc6zk8tc8c that applies to regular help as well. Most of the time, you don't drag your feet when you get help. You do your part to use the advice and learn.
“For me it wasn’t my cup of tea, but for you it could be your whole kettle” is now what I’m going to answer everytime I’m asked my opinion
"if you want something. You should act like you already have it"
Ok ok, introducing myself now as Mrs. Momoa. Yes I'm jason momoa's wife. No one can tell me otherwise
I mean im sure if you went about meeting the expectations the job requires youd get it😉
@@vavet39 not always, if you jave everything they require for but you have an "exotic" appearance they can hire someone less talented than you just cause the other person looks "normal". This happens A LOT with people who have colored hair, face tattoos...
@@9annax imagine a bodybuilder wanting to become a kindergarten teacher. Gotta be suited for the job.
@@vavet39 that's prejudice
Laughed so hard at this 😂😂😂
As an Indian, Jay Shetty is saying everything my parents have been yelling at me each and everyday.
Atleast he is earning from it lol
@@HarshAnalysis lollx ikr
And Robin Sharma too, telling everyone to wake up at 5AM
As an Indian, I agree so much
Also Robin Sharma LMAO
My dad gifted me his book to make me wake up at 5am but I just ended up going to sleep at 5am instead
Haha true that!
therapy: expensive
jacks videos: free
think smarter not harder😌
HAHAHAHAHA
Better than any self help book I've read
This comment was so clever. 😭✋🏻
@@jack_edwards WHERE DID YOU GET YOUR SWEATER FROM DAY 3?!?
A book telling me it can fix my eyesight kinda feels like my parents telling me eating carrots will enable me to see in the dark. The betrayal runs deep.
hahahahahh hahahahha why are parents so predictable???! ahahhahah same...samee..
My eyesight corrected itself (somehow) and my mom was like "oh it has to be because you're taking vitamins!" uhhhh sorry mom but I don't actually take vitamins
Vitamin A (which is found in carrots) deficiency can cause 'night blindness' though.
That doesn't mean you can see as well as nocturnal animals, just that you can see at all in the 'dark'.
I actually drank carrot juice and ate a lot of carrots for a year and my weaker eye did improve substantially. Both my eyes are less than 20/20 but now they are matched as far as weakness goes. So I think the beta carotene does help. It is one of several things that does but will not always 100% reverse myopia. And for conditions like astigmatism...that has a physical aspect to due with the shape of the cornea so I can see depending on why a person has poor vision...they might not get the benefits they had hoped for...
@@elainaregier8830 yeah I’ve heard from a doctor that that can happen with age. My mom was like 6 in both eyes and then went down to 0.18 or summ with age.
"He covers a lot of ground, but without saying anything groundbreaking" has got to be the best comment i've ever heard about self help books, my compliments to the chef 😂😂
Exactly. I don't understand why all the self-help books promote waking up earlier. I can be productive and get my work done later too. Whenever I tried to force myself to wake up at 5, I remained tired the whole day. Get up as per your own biological clock and then get to work.
right !! you just have to shift your whole day forward and go to bed earlier to accommodate for the early rise
It’s more about wanting to be up at 5 am. It won’t make us productive if we resent waking up that early. But at the same time it is true that people have different biological clocks and it’s very useful to listen to our own body. For me I hated waking up early but when I had to start waking up at 5 to get to school on time I learned that I actually do enjoy it so much more. I felt way more productive and like I have much more time. I found this being true for me only because during the train ride I would let my mind stop and look through window at nature’s beauty. +Going back home at 2 and feeling like I have already done so much and still have so much time. - That’s how I realized I like it. But that is a personal thing to examine.
I usually like to sleep at 10pm or 11pm and ended up waking up at 5am without alarms, but ITS JUST ME, its not for everybody i dont like books to tell me what the path is... every millionare made their own path. Some things might works for ones and not for other
In a sense, what i feel is that people who wrote self help books that promote waking up at 5am are either a morning person or someone that sleeps early around 10pm, so theoretically by 5am they have at least 7 hours of sleep (this also inffy if they have quality sleep and literally go to deep sleep stage within an hour intl sleep etc).
I'm a night person and generally wake up around 9-10am because i sleep late. Plus there are people that work night shift.
Honestly we should just try to have a better quality sleep and wake up when it is needed for us or our own ideal waking time.
@@CherryBerryFashion yep agree. During my school time days, primary till secondary school time even in my form 6 foundation year, i wake up around 5am and have to get ready within 2 hours because the first class of school start around 8am. I hated it, even in Uni time, i hate morning class but if the class start around 10am or the afternoon for that course i generally love the lecturer more because i dont grumble waking up early lol.
The Marie Kondo book and the act of talking to your possessions and thanking them is based of the Shinto beliefs of animism, that some intimate objects can obtain a soul. To acknowledge items and thank them for sparking joy, with that in mind, makes complete sense. It’s part of Japanese culture, and I get that it may seem strange to someone outside of this cultural or belief system, but it deserves respect all the same and not have her advice be alluded to poor mental health.
I came to say the exact same thing - Kondo’s advice really leans hard into Shinto and Japanese tradition and culture, and there has been a lot of “that’s insane” over the years as a result. It’s not insane, it’s culture. And honestly, it’s pretty helpful to the West, especially for people who anthropomorphize or have hoarding tendencies, as each individual item becomes real in a personal way for them.
This is really interesting. Thank you for pointing this out! For me, a lot of the advice in her books can be boiled down to being thoughtful about the things that you choose to surround yourself with. It's frustrating to see people missing the point and just dismiss it as, "she wants people to talk to objects and throw out all their books"
Omg so that's really a thing ? I've been using talking to objects as a way to feel less lonely.
The Shinto belief is about taking care of your belongings to extend their lifespan as much as possible.
Not replacing them with things that bring you ‘joy’, that’s capitalism.
@@hani5383 I feel less weird for talking to my pillows now
my problem with manifesting is that like...imagine being homeless and someone tells you to manifest a home. it reeks a bit of privilege..
the most frustrating thing about that is that Rhonda Byrne genuinely believes it’s THEIR FAULT for being homeless because their negative energy brought it about - it’s awful !!
@@jack_edwards the word AWFUL suits so much!!
THISS!!!!
@@jack_edwards a lot of bad things in our life are awful? And we bring a lot of that about, even psychologically from badly formed programs which you've learned in your formative years. It's OK to take responsibility for us fucking up.
I agree that sometimes it's outside forces, but that's only because you don't take control of your emotions and are never taught on how to handle yourself. I think of it a bit like not having education about drugs. You might have a go at heroin and not know the long term effects, and it's gonna mess you up. Same with your mindset. Extremely hard to look at it though and take responsibility for a lot of it.
Granted, there are exceptions as always... But the majority applies. Especially if you were born in a decent country.
This!! A secret believer once told me my mum had manifested her psychosis and dementia at 46 because either she must have thought about it too often or I must have thought too often about losing her which... I can't fathom!! At this point, I feel like either all of it is bullshit or assholes feel welcome in the "secret"-community and have taken it over.
atomic habits is totally my fave self help book, I've lost count to how many people I've recommended it to
I am currently reading this one!
@@eveszs it's very practical.
Yesss it's amazing
Atomic habit is the real deal, i reread the book countless of times and it never feels like reading a self help book. A must read!
@@vukhiempham7213 let me go check it out then
I'm surprised you didn't read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Such a great refreshing read and it highlights a lot of issues you mentioned with the self-help industry.
It's a great one! I love how realistic and practical the advice given by the author sounded, definitely a lot more realistic than Robin Sharma's books and a couple more self-help books I have read.
Seriously I also loved that book
I love that book and 'can't hurt me' these two are very realistic and doesn't promote toxic positivity
yesssss omg I love that book so much! The principles the author introduced seemed so counterintuitive at first but then it clicked in me and I was knocked out! He has a second book now I think
It's my very first self-help book I've read . After that I read some other self-help books but those weren't realistic as this . Please suggest me some other books like the subtle art
Jack is really out here getting me through this pandemic
Same
Yes
He makes our lives better.
okay I need several of the shirts you’re wearing in this video
True
Me too!
That's a t-shirt 👕 lamo
Metoo . Lol his wardrobe is why Im here 😂 jk I love his videos too ❤️
you’re still around? :0 gotta sub.
"The rich stay rich because they pass down their values"
That's actually a typo, Kiyosaki meant to say valuables 💰💰💰
Just what i thought
fact.
i need to bookmark this comment
Hahaha very fucking true
Honeslty, 'manefesting' helped me a lot with personal things, like confidence etc. A 'fake it till you make it' kinda thing. But honestly, i don't think it goes very much further than this. Thought processes etc can be changed like this, but lots of things are in fact beyond our control, and accepting that helps more than trying to change it
I agree but then it's not really 'manifesting' is it? it's just active intent and that's not the same things as some universal powers helping you out. But I understand the placebo itself can make people happier so whatever yk
@Hannah Mae I had my doubts with that too!! but the I thought: how would you explain placebo then? it’s technically a “hidden” manifestation where you change the state of your health by believing you’re being cured by the medicine you’re given while you’re actually being cured by your positive mindset.
@@istdochscheissegal1 I've read that placebos working has got something to do with the fact that your mental health influences your physical health. If you're mentally healthy, it helps your physical health, too.
I totally agree! When I hear someone who truly believes that everyone should just manifest what they want, it starts to feel a bit like toxic positivity. I am totally fine with an individual "manifesting" some things in their life to put intent in the places that matter to them, but once they start telling others who are having a rough time to "just manifest it!", it takes many different types of privilege to be able to do that.
right?? unless we’re talking abt religious manifesting (which i’m p sure we’re not lol) then manifesting isn’t an actual thing but a good of a way of changing ur mindset. i still think it’s good tho!
Hey Jack! Marie Kondo probably talks to her possessions because of the influence of Shintoism in Japan. In this religion, the objects/nature are Kamis (or gods) and they are cherished as such. For example, the famous expression "itadakimasu" is said before a meal not only to express gratitude towards the people that were involved in the process of making that food but also to the ingredients themselves. Shintoism is also the reason why Japanese people are so respectful and kind to nature and each other, it's sacred for them.
ooh thank you for explaining this! i recently read marie kondo's book and was wondering how japanese culture influences her thoughts around organization :]
@@bearbear1668 It's really cool that you wondered why she acts the way she does, curiosity is awesome :D
thanks for this comment!
I've heard of that, very interesting. Are they actually respectful and kind to nature? Do they treat the animals made for slaughter better than other countries? Don't they have some dishes with live animals?
Not just that, KonMari herself was a Shrine Maiden. So it's pretty obvious where her influences lie.
"Self-help books almost assume that you are already middle class."
I couldn't agree more.
Cuz all of us are, if you're making less than 50k a month you're apart of the middle class
if you are making $0 you are definitely not part of the middle class
i think he meant 'at least middle class' which also has a lower boundary
basically having the extra resources to buy this to help yourself, buy that to replace something old, invest
@@musthavegadgets4440
What about family’s?
$40K for 1 person is middle class
$52K for 2 people is middle class
$65K for 3 people is middle class
$78K for 4 people is middle class
$84K for 5 people is middle class
$90K for 6 people is middle class
$96k for 7 people is middle class
$100k for 7 people is middle class
😂 yes they all target certain class of people
u go through books so quickly I swear whenever I go on goodreads you’ve finished another book
i unfortunately have NO LIFE
@@jack_edwards honestly I’m just shook I find reading a book a month challenging lmao
@@alexia-mariechan1277 I found creating a routine to be helpful. I go to sleep at midnight, so I reserved a one-hour window before bed to reading. I can't do it every day obviously. The important thing is trying.
Before this, I tried setting a page number goal like "reading 20 pages everyday". It worked. You start with an easy page number but sometimes you just cannot put the book away and doulbe or triple your goal. But I find a schedule more helpful than a set goal
I wish I had good books to read cuz during a school day+studying I can go through 200-300 pages easily but my books are so trashy
@@jack_edwards writers and readers alike live hundreds of lives through the books they read
“A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between does what he wants to do.” Bob Dylan
A lot of women coordinate their purses with their outfits. If you empty your purse each evening, your things are ready to go in the bag for tomorrow’s outfit. It also keeps you from accumulating a bunch of receipts and papers, etc., in the bottom of your bag. 😄
Many people feel guilt about getting rid of things, even if they’re being donated. Thanking the items seems to allow people to process the past history and memories with the items, so that people can let go and move forward.
Yes! I like to have like a bowl or dish to keep my purse things in - they go in it the minute I come home and it's easy peasy when I pick a different purse to go out. (Or at least it used to be, back when we regularly went out lol)
@@liv97497 Ah, yes! Th good old days! 😄
Jokes, on you I only have one purse and it's black 😂😂
Yes, that's true!
am i the only one terrfied of reading self-help books? like i know i'm doing everything wrong, i just don't want to be told it
Hahahah yesss this is meee
same!!
Yes so much ahhh
Not a fan of self-help books! From the ones I read, it was more about blocking out negative feelings rather than finding a way to cope or process them. It makes you feel like you are doing something wrong if you can't do that, which makes you feel guilty or emphasises the negative feelings lol
LMAO I AGREE ignorance is bliss
Finally somebody who agrees with me about The Secret! I found it so offensive with the whole curing cancer curing poor eyesight bullshit, I do believe in manifestation etc but I believe that it involves hard work & acceptance too! Trust me Rhonda I’ve been acting like a millionaire for years now and all it’s done is ✨ break the bank and make me take on extra shifts at Morrison’s while juggling uni work✨
I agree. The Secret is not worth a penny.
Taking the idea of "thinking like a millionaire" more seriously may help. I don't mean acting entitled to everything, I mean budgeting, learning finance and business skills and working for a specific period of time with strictly capital formation in mind, then working towards investing in other businesses or looking into entrepreneurship
@@feb4305 that isn’t acting like a millionaire though. That’s working towards becoming a millionaire, like I said hard work is what it takes. Acting like a millionaire is spending money, and just acting like what you want isn’t going to bring what you desire into your life. It requires work, which is what you’re suggesting.
@@evegates7005 that's why I said thinking not acting. Obviously you aren't going to get anything by pretending you have it. The book should've talking about the mindset of a millionaire rather than telling us to manifest it
I read it few years back..can't even get to the second chapter..the writing was so boring for me and that was it.
The Secret sounds like a books that targets people who would fall into conspiracies and dangerous beliefs. If you believe that you can cure your cancer on your own, you might not seek the care that could actually save you !
Gonna be frank, The Secret is the most pretentious and dumb book I've ever read. The claims it makes are too far fetched to even fathom
@@jackieweaver3884 Yeah but there are people believing that the earth is flat. Even the most unbelievable claims will be believed by some people and it is dangerous...
@@alyssia7239 exactly, totally agree
It's for people who don't have a god to pray to so they gotta throw their prayers to the universe.
my friend bought this book and she keeps telling me to manifest for things but like nooooo
"...If you are constantly thinking about your goals, naturally you'll make steps to achieve them..."
My Anxiety: "Let me introduce myself"
My ADHD: "Share my beer"
Not sure if it'll help, but if you have a way of creating a sense of urgency, I'd recommend trying that. When I got afraid (thanks horror movies) of stepping into the dark common area, when I thought I smelled fire, I completely forgot about my fear and just jumped into action. I'm trying to find a way to simulate this in a more productive manner
@@Whodjathink Hmm that's an idea. What has worked for me though is adopting a few mindset changes:
1. I don't have to do a project "All at once". I can break it up and spread it out across the day.
2. Have a time limit for work sessions. The smaller the time limit the better.
3. Accept and consult my anxiety instead of trying to turn it off. I try to think of it as my little secretary that tells me what I,m slacking on. The more I try to shut it up, the more anxious I become ironically.
4. Start easy: Starting is by far the hardest part of any project and once I start, It's kinda downhill from there so I just say "I'll just work for 1 minute" and I'm almost compelled to get my work done then.
5. Plan from the night before. It's very useful getting up with a plan already laid out and the specificity gives my mind something to latch onto. I've learned the opposite of anxiety is focus.
Hope those help you as much as they helped me
@@christophermurdock7320 I often try doing number 1 myself. Especially for papers. I try to do one page a day
With my anxiety I’ll think of everything single thing daily and it’s literally so draining. Lately I’ve been trying to write things down and then forgetting them (that lasts maybe a week). but that’s still progress bc I’m not feeling mentally exhausted from my thoughts 24/7 like before.
Is it just me who watches these videos not to learn about literature, but just to watch Jack suffer?
HAHAHAHAHAHA
SIS SAME
BAHAHAHA
Ditto
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In a weird way, I love these types of videos where you show us what books NOT to read much more than actual book recommendations. You're saving my time with a little bit of comedy in between and I love you for that!
Exactly!
"I'm an attention seeker who overshares on the internet for the validation of strangers" I AM DYYYING
Jack is the best😂
That was really interesting! !
at least he is not bothering other in an uncomfortable way. So what he end up doing to satisfy his attention seeking issue is actually brilliant. Not every youtuber know how to do content that satisfied "other strangers" while the strangers attention satisfy his need in return.
oh noooo :( rip in piece
He described the entire Gen Z. 😭✋🏻
Jack Edwards: "because my self needs some help" Me: never related to something more
Marie Kondo thanks things in her house as a sacred act - it's linked to shintoism. It might look strange from a western lens but they believe that every object is sacred and has its own spirit, so it's not crazy, just a spiritual practice.
If a self-help book doesn't include "If you are struggling, consider seeing a therapist, especially as they can work directly with your specific situation and personality to best tailor your recovery path, now here is a list of things to keep in mind when trying out different therapists" then it is a garbage book for help.
This needs to be pinned
I mean you shouldn’t take for bad intention what you read, maybe they already think like you, but you are literally paying money to read some advice on financial or another self help constructs, I mean, all these books are very different on their own.
Self-help books are written for people in a good place in their lives, who want to "take it to the next level".
If you are in need of real help, these books are definitely not for you.
The dude in the video said it, as well, in case you missed it.
Therapists are worse than self help books . 3 therapists later I now understand that all of them are the same . They just listen to you for money and then at most give you breathing techniques or analyze how your brain works .
They don't actually tell you anything of substance that can change things for you .
@@Chim3983 ohh, are you ok now??
you should do a week reading all different genres, such as reading a surrealist then a physics theory book, then a comedy to horror! just an idea. your books videos are my favourite!
Marie Kondo's book really helped when we had to severely downsize. I recommend it for people who are moving house. Thanking the books I gave away made it easier because I love books and I want to keep all the books even though I don't read them.
"hi, i'm an attention seeker who overshares on the internet for the validation of stangers"
that's me in a sentence and i-
"Hi, I'm an attention seeker who overshares on the internet for the validation of strangers. It's got a ring to it!"
Same Jack, same.
😅☠️
so did all these likes helped you...?
In defense of Marie Kondo, I find her methods for staying tidy, organized, and appreciative really really helpful. I've got major adhd tho and if I don't do things like Empty My Bag, and Acknowledge The Locations And Existence Of My Possessions, I tend to just forget that my house is whack.
As a fellow ADHDer, her method is the only one that worked. I need to have less possesions or i lose my marbles.
I used to watch self help youtubers when they popped up in my recommended, none of their methods ever worked. Then I got diagnosed with ADHD and I now realize there is a damn good reason they never worked. Imma try reading the marine kondo one though.
i still fold my laundry how she showed how because it is the only way i enjoy doing laundry i actually love laundry now
Sorry but you have 8.75 in both your eyes?!? Bloody hell I thought -1.5 was unpleasant, I feel humbled
Yeah thats pretty bad lol
Lmaoo I've got 3.75 and I once swam straight to a pool's wall. It was not great.
I thought my 5.5/6.5 was horrible cause it’s the highest of anyone I’ve ever met lol
why do I feel like this is high-key insensitive..?
@@Kittikee10 no offense but how??
Can’t even tell you how stoked I am for this video #chinwag
OH HEY BESTIE
@@jack_edwards I’m crying 🥺
y'all know each other??? nah this is a dream come TRUE MY BAES
I shed a tear the moment i discovered this friendship. Now im surrounded by the smell of roses and honey is dripping on my mouth
I just found another reason to be happy. FINDING OUT THAT YOU BOTH KNOW EACH OTHER GIVES ME POSITIVITY 😭💖
I absolutely love that you mentioned that most self help books inherently assume a level of privilege for the reader . If someone is working 3 jobs to get by and feed there kids ... waking up at 5 am and investing probably aren’t in their realm of possibilities at that moment .
Yes, for him but for most of us that aren't in those circumstances, those are the best decisions we could do, plus if he had done that before now he wouldn't have been in his situation.
“It’s not because I don’t know how to do nothing. I want something that validates doing nothing is good”
Couldn’t agree more
Ooh that hits
Meditation is that tho
After being obsessed with self-help books while in undergrad and grad school, the "secret" to success is just implementing whatever works for you. After reading a lot of this stuff, you just read more self-help for motivation when you have none left. Or after the winter holidays when you feel like a sack of potatoes.
Pin this comment please
In Japanese culture, some people believe that every individual item has its own god which is why I assume Marie speaks to all of her items? Whenever my Japanese friend throws any item out (like a used pen), she thanks it for the service….I always found it cute 😅
Jack has just saved everyone £76.25 due to not buying these books 👏👏 #HeroOf2021
omg
Taking this guy's interpretation of a self help book is like asking someone with an untutored palate to eat a fine meal and report back. You have to eat this stuff yourself to really get the flavours.
I wouldn’t go that far. Every wealthy/financially independent person I know has read Rich Dad Poor Dad.
@@johngerring2505 Agree! Learning about finance isn't really comparable directly with "Secret". You might believe or not in law of attraction but knowing more about finance is something which we shouldn't be ignorant about.
"He covers a lot of ground without being ground-breaking."
I spit my coffee
My mom got The Secret as a gift a few years ago, and she read it and said it was okay. I read because I was curious, and three chapters in, I was like "what kinda bullsh*t" 💀💀 manifesting is one thing, this is insane
Same omg I've never read a worst self help book
I'm the one who believed it. Spent 2 years practicing LOA watching many youtubers making videos, always thinking there is some subconscious block in my mind. Then moved to Reality Transurfing, spent time with no results now here I am after wasting 2 years imagining my future for nothing
Lmao the way ppl promote that trash
@Roronoa Zoro yes I did, visualizations, affirmations, and all that stuff. Nothing happened.
@@ralsei7170 yup loa is bullshit
Question I have about The 4 Hour Work-Week: He outsources his work to other people so he works less, has more time, and makes more money, but how much are the people who he outsourced to making and how much time are they spending doing his work?
Exactly my thoughts! I think he justifies it by saying he pays these people more than they would make typically in their land. But that is based on inherent inequality and it always leaves me conflicted.
Also if he encourages people to outsource everything where does it end? What if the people that he outsources his things to try to also live a 4 hour week and do the same (and then the next ones do the same etc.). There is just so much outsourcing you can do.
I think the premise is if you're a writer and want to write a book, you can outsource editing, printing, publishing and only focus on writing which now has more quality and has better earning potential. Or if you're youtuber you also outsource editing and sponsoring and only focus on the content. Or if you're a lawyer you do someone else to copy and deliver files, prepare files, answer phone and emails that don't reqire you to do it. So basically, you should specialise in something and do that, outsource everything else. And if your outsourcers did that to, they are also making more money because they are best in their field not losing time on anything that is not their essential work. He's speaking to those people who try to do all by themselves, who try to do too many things and are not great in anything.
@@AnamariRukavina Agree with this 100%. Basically outsource everything you are not skilled at or do not enjoy doing yourself. I read that Tim Ferris is basically a super hard working guy but because he mostly does what he likes, it is not called "working" for him e.g. meeting with people, networking. For everyone else, it is still called working unfortunately.
Tim Ferris was making $70k a month when he decided he was working too long hours and decided to do 4hrs a week.
He was already wealthy, but just delegated everything.
It's a good idea if you're already minted.
Omg the assumption of being middle class is so real. I didn't realize that was a subminal tone to most books until you said it. It's like getting from lower class to middle is the real battle. Everything on top of that is a true blessing or excess... Dunno
I think it is because this is the audience they target,as lower income groups would not spend money on books.
@@aditi5134 ?? Poor people read books.
@@abcxyz4653 They/We read books, but don't have enough money to truly fund the market usually and not enough time because we're working for the sake of existence.
If you're technically well-off but not content with your life you have more resources to invest in aiding your problem - so you're a better goal for scammers feeding off of your problems. (Also the people who wrote it are usually middle-class and have an unreflected bias on their opportunities or got used to the money and security).
Yes - the poor read. But more often free resources or when it comes to self-help: more researched titles of self-help books cause you won't buy all of them, just one that's a cost-use-win.
@@Nina-cd6uw Yeah, I know all that. All I said was low income people do read and do spend money on books, even though it’s less than high income people.
keep this mentality, trust me
"What is the secret? well first it's just good marketing"
Alyssa Edwards rn: 👁👄👁
Omg. 😂😂
"I suffered so you dont have to " - sounds like something Jesus would say
The first instant I saw the thumbnail, I literally thought it was a devotional religious video
Ahahahaha
That's hilarious and so accurate.
He died for our sins-
@@jameskallely9776 if anything was missing it was him shining with the rays
the comment he made about sleep made me jump to the comment section and recommend “Why we sleep” it’s absolutely fascinating and will fundamentally change the way you think about sleep. phenomenal read.
I haven't read the book, but if anyone wants an easy way into the authors points, I recommend listening to the Deliciously Ella podcast episode from June 18th 2019. It's basically a conversation between Ella, Matt (Ella's husband) and Matthew Walker (the author of why we sleep). I found this episode to be super interesting and easy to understand.
thank you!
Omg yes this book was so insightful and just a great read overall!
I actually really love Marie Kondo. I definitely stay on top of tidying up and decluttering more now because of her. I always stayed on top of cleaning but I am more organized now because of her. And she is a sweetheart.
I started watching The Secret once. I never got to know "the secret". I gave up halfway, tired of listening to claims of how "life-changing" the secret was.
It sounds like those RUclips ads that talk about weight loss or dating for 10 minutes, but never get to the point, because you're supposed to click on their link.
ohmygod that made me laugh out loud XD
tldr; the 'secret' is glorified goal setting and positive thinking (but not necessarily with actual action taken towards those goals?), but they use enough snake oil language that people think its something so innovative. and then part of the secret is about how our brain waves literally form physical matter? so you can just, grow money and things and itll show up if you think hard enough. It is a lot of quack-talk to sell you more books and seminars.
@@redwineandagingerale are you talking about mind valley
@@whywhat5457 I have no idea, I've seen quite a few and usually don't bother checking the names of the programs
Marie Kondo really helped me, especially with the paper section. She reminded me that none of these papers are important and I can shred everything. I'm a full-blown believer, and if she started a cult, I'd follow her into the desert. The Secret, however....what a fucking waste of my time.
@Elegant Oprah by searching her name you can get a summary of her work, but if you want I can copy and paste it here :)
My ex was a big big fan of the secret... what a red flag lol
I thought you were gonna read a little bit of each book every day but then I realized you read A WHOLE BOOK IN ONE DAY?
I mean reading 300 pages is equal to like 7 hours of reading
Those books were not humongous. And he reads fast. He basically earns money off of reading, why is it surprising
@@nikitashaitan9984 Does he not get bored of them? I can't even read for more than two hours without already falling asleep on the book. And I'm actually reading something I'm interested in...
It is possible to finish reading a book in one day, as long as you have time and nobody disturbing you, but it going to be so boring if the book you read is one that not suit your preference
@@luckani3320 reading is super fun for me, so I think it just depends on the person
That’s Jack Edwards for you. 💀✋🏻
I feel like the 5am club could be super useful, but only when adjusted to when you actually need to wake up (i.e. if you work at 9, maybe join the 7am club).
Why don't you use those two extra hours to learn some new skill and start a side hustle?
@Elegant Oprah actually it's a habit and it's bendable. Besides it's not a compulsory to wake up early. Some books don't suggest that that you have to rise early and many great people don't do. Good self help books try to give you a practical approach to life and it's kinda change your behaviour little good.
@@rahulkhatri3263 because humans enjoy sleeping and doing what makes them happy. If you’re happy with you job, why not sleep in if it makes you feel better? Hustle mentality is just as toxic as any other.
@@oh_kay2954 exactly but only if you're happy.
This is all about when you're not. When you want something that'll make you happy.books are just a guidance.
I somehow feel self help books drain my energy and my mental health gets worst
Well because they assume that there is something wrong with you
"Are you being productive or just active ?"
"What if I am being neither timothy ferris?"
ME
"You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems." - James Clear, Atomic Habits
Didn’t James quote it from someone else? Don’t remember who, probably some Greek philosopher
this might be a harsh take, but I feel like 85-90% of self-help books range from being "meh" to actually harmful.The Secret, for example, claims that if you're struggling financially or get ill, it's your own fault and you're a terrible person. it's your fault that you're not "manifesting wealth". it's basically a whole "get rich quick"/toxic positivity cult, same with Rich Dad, Poor Dad.
obviously there's nothing wrong with wanting to improve or getting advice on how to! but I feel like self-help books tend to have an extremely narrow perspective that ends up being unhelpful. I prefer to watch free youtube vids on self-help or read advice blogs, but that's just my preference. power to people who do benefit from self-help books tho! :)
edit: ok but marie kondo's self-help book is the only one that gets a pass :p. thanking and talking to her possessions is a bit much, but I love her lol.
Tbh I talk to inanimate objects so much anyway that thanking them doesn’t even seem that far-fetched 😂Like, if I yell at my laptop for not working and cheer on my coffee machine to go faster, I might as well thank my jeans for keeping my ass in place so well. Barely makes any difference.
@@samiraansari5686 omg your comment made me realize I do the same thing. especially cheering on my coffee machine or some other appliance to go faster asdfjg. lol that's a great point! :p
I only read Marie Kondo mainly for the tips on decluttering. Especially because I'm a messy person and my house has so much stuff. I didn't go so far as thanking my possessions.
As another comment stated, part of the reason as to why Marie talks to objects might come from Shinto beliefs. :)
@@crypticcorvid my ignorant ass hadn't thought of that! that makes sense :)
Why do people assume that you have to follow everything that self-help books say? I have been reading them for the last 5 years. I did not follow everything that they say. I only follow that hits. me hard. These small changes made me 500% better person than what I was.
Jack! Read the book Do Nothing. It’s more about how to unwind in meaningful ways and less of an academic drag like How To Do Nothing was. It has a sloth on the cover too, so what more do you need to know
The best part about Atomic Habits is that it's just a deep dive of his _free_ ebook on Habits which is literally just a 50-ish page book of just concepts. No unnecessary filler.
My biggest betrayal is that self help books focus too much over setting and following the goals, like it's a race. They promote overthinking and obsessing over the goals. I read Atomic Habits, and it solved many of my confusion. It is the only book I have read so far, that is actually helpful and highly practical.
Yah me too, it's so practical and I can say it worths ton of self book that Ive ever read, like this is the one and only book everyone need to be success
@@haryadita651 way better than overhyped books like start with why, magic of thinking big. The author of atomic habits James clear is such a down to earth person. Explained concepts and how they can be applied in a very elegant manner.
@@shivensaini3643 yeah exatcly as you said brother
the joy that these bring me...🥰
Marie kondo's book is the one and only, that can really stick in my mind. I read this book 2 years ago and since then I organize better to the level - I only took about 15 minutes every week to reorginize my things if my room got messed up.
Definitely gonna read it now, thanks
Wow you’re one of the most sane and balanced voices on the Internet. Thank you from saving me from going down a rabbit hole.
"If you leave that grain of salt lying around she will tidy it up" lol
😂😂
Really enjoyed hearing your perspective on self help books. Ive always loved reading them but took them too seriously. It was really helpful seeing how critical you were & your tip of “take bits & adapt to your personality”. Enjoyed this video!
I started to binge watch your videos in my study break as it gives me a lot of motivation, and I have to say your humor is really immaculate and never fails to crack me up
I have read tons of self-help books and I have come to realize that not every advice they have can apply to your own life. Your mindset when reading such books can be very vital as well. Last year I’ve read more self-help books than ever before in my life, but given how disastrous 2020 was to both the world and my mental health, I barely applied anything to my day to day. If a certain passage in a self-help book doesn’t resonate with your values and morals, then don’t feel obliged to do it in any way. You know your own self the most, and you should be the one to decide on the lifestyle change that you want to pursue.
When the pandemic started and home office became a thing for us Brazilians, I set this goal of waking up early to be more productive during the day. So in the first month, I started my days at 5 am and did all those things positive people tell you to do in order to get your life together. But as the weeks went on, I began to wake up a little later. It wasn't much, just a few minutes more of sleep each time.
So now, a year later, I go to sleep at 9 am and wake up around 17 pm.
Screw the "think like a monk" and "5am club" mentality. I don't even see the sun anymore. Send help.
@Elegant Oprah for me personally you have to find a balance, honestly.
I read those books and disagree with a lot just like the original comment did, the thing is that I found a "mid term" where I kinda apply it, but in a way that'll work for me so it's a lot of trial and error, took me one year to get to the current routine I'm at.
So if you want, read those books! But remember to adapt it to *you* or not follow the tips at all if you feel it won't work for you. Good luck!
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” Never doubt yourself
I kind of think self-help books - the author had one good idea, and then tries to form an entire book/philosophy around it to make money. NOT WURF IF
Spot on !!
I absolutely hate the idea of people in the west utilising cheap labour and drop shipping services to make easy money. They find a cheap product that's likely being manufactured in a sweat shop > order stock > drop ship through a company like amazon. It's so so unethical, so so unsustainable, and just shit. It's peak consumption culture and I hate that people suggest these things as a way to make money.
I'm pretty sure the people in the east appreciate the influx of money into their countries. And if you think a product is crap, don't buy it.
@@borisjoffe the people making these products are forced into inhumane working conditions inorder to survive. It is only through consumer and company demand for sustainable and ethical manufacturing that their circumstances can change. They are not seeing an influx of money, they're seeing cents per day and intergenerational poverty.
(Edit for spelling mistake)
stay poor then lol, gotta step on people to make it in this world
@@connie6381 that's a pretty sad mindset :(
@@sam-forshort have to do what it takes to make it :(, sadly that’s how the world is like, use or to be used. It is sad but to make it that’s what you have to do
"the first 20 minutes if your day you should move"
I lay in my bed for 3 hours having to reconsider my life every morning, having to motivate myself to roll out of my bed just to sit at my pc and do nothing
Imagine how Robert's dad must feel about his son's book
"did you just really write a book to show the world how poor and invalid i am?"
@Munnawar Khan plz elaborate i am curious
@@fitnessforlife8966 He's a guru, if you don't want to waste years of your life on this self help nonsense like I did, put down all self help books you're reading, don't listen to other people and just go on your own journey to become the best version of yourself. Don't take anyone's advice including mine(after this comment that is), you'll be much happier and much better off.
@@naturalstrength8393 how do I know what I want?????
@@nataliyachepurnova29 You already know what you want and what is important to you, just focus on that and forget about this self help industry, don't read another book because all they do is prey on your insecurities to string you along forever, next thing you know you'll see yourself 5 years from now still excited about the next book or seminar that will finally unlock the secret of success for you when in reality you have absolutely nothing to show for the time you spent on it. Trust your own judgement and logic before any book because at the end of the day they won't help you when you screw up, you have the responsibility so only make decisions you have personally thought through and don't allow fear to be mixed in that equation.
The 4-hour work week sounds like a how-to guide on exploiting workers
Giving people jobs that pay more than most people make in their country is exploitation?
Yeah its crap
@@borisjoffe exactly how do people not understand this 🤦
Go and Start living in communist chyna then don't beg to Trump if they put you in some jail
I used to be a heavy self-help book reader and then I just changed and I think most self-help books are garbage. Maaaaany books are written by people who just wanted to "motivate" an audience, but in reality it's about selling ideas and ways to feed their own ego, aaaand a lot of those books can make you feel even more miserable than before. The ones I respect are the books by Cal Newport, Simon Sinek, and some other professionals... I'm done consuming stuff from people like Jay Shetty or from wealthy people who are far way from the reality of middle class people.
I'm so glad that you've used your platform to discuss self help books - this is a very good insight, done in a moderately unbiased way. Great video Jack, great video.
I had to wake up at 4 for a few months because of my job and I tell you I was becoming depressed and nervous. I think my body "felt" that waking up before sunrise was wrong
so glad you mentioned Atomic Habits, my fave self help book that has been so life changing for me. Also I never read her book but I adore Marie Kondo and her clothes folding technique has helped me in so many ways.
I think The Secret should be read in a broader perspective. Manifesting small things at first and then working bigger and bigger. I have done this for years and I keep being amazed of what I can manifest. Last year I lost my job in august. And I kept saying to myself, my friends and family that I would get a job before the year was over. Mid-December I got a job kind of out of nowhere. I have done the same with a new apartment, income, friendship, adventure... and I’m not saying that stuff will just magically appear, but as you said, if you put your mind to it, you will naturally do little things every day that will attract the things you want.
So true 🙌
The description of 4-Hour Work Week makes it sound like "How to Exploit the Labor of People You Have Power Over" which, to its credit, is how the rich get richer so it's not technically wrong..
"In Marie Kondo's case, if you leave that pinch of salt laying around, she will tidy it up." 😂😂. I just found your channel and love your videos.
Please don't stop with these style of videos!! They're my favourite ever!!
I cannot thank you enough for making this video, pretty much all of those books are on my ‘To Read’ list and you’ve just saved me a hell of a lot of time and money! Completely agree re Atomic Habits, my no. 1 so far
"Attention seeker who overshares on the internet for validation of strangers" is simply brilliant. Before, it was called "attention wh*re", but since everybody is doing it now, the term was dropped because it doesn't sound euphemistic enough.
I find that every single self help book regurgitate the same advice but just in different flavours
As a psychology student I don’t believe in self help books and I wouldn’t recommend to anyone. I don’t know if there are any researches out there about the efficacy of reading self help books, but if there are, it would be interesting to make a video about. if it’s already hard to start and commit to therapy (it depends on each individual of course) imagine just reading a self help book and trying to commit to what the book tells you.
Yeah I agree I’ve noticed this in my own life too I’ve read a self help book that actually has a couple helpful pieces of advice but then I don’t actually try any of it so what was the point
The only self help book that worked for me wasn't even a standard self help book, lol. It was just to help you identify the cause/affect of anxiety and how it works. I still remember some of the tips and it helps me out. :)
@@crypticcorvid can you please give me the name of the book. Thank you !
@@dommanedounia164 It's "Rewire Your Anxious Brain" by Catherine M. Pittman and Elizabeth M. Karle. It has a lot of quizzes in the book to help you identify the main sources of your anxiety too, which I found really helpful. Hopefully it helps!
@@crypticcorvid thank you ! Have a great day !
personally, i always research a self help book before buying them. my criteria: an author who is a psychiatrist/psychologist who has spent years of their life specializing on the topic their self help book is about (example, Mindset by Carol Dweck). They don't necessarily even have to be a professional psychiatrist as well--books like Atomic Habits (James Clear), Deep Work (Cal Newport), and Quiet (Susan Cain) are written by people who are ACTUALLY researchers not just the toxic positive "self-help" gurus who always suggest the same thing over and over again without actually providing heavy research. Reading the books of Clear, Newport, and Cain, it is very evident that they spend time to actually fact check their claims and provide scientific evidence.
self-help books can actually be a double edged sword but when you find the right books written by actual researchers and not so-called gurus, they can actually be of big help. just be mindful, guys : )
Bonus points if they actually bother with a references page for the stuff they cite. At worst it shows you they care about looking scientific and at best it gives you more to read later
@@SydneySininen i agree with you!
The only reason I read self-help books is to vicariously feel motivated for a few minutes