What a great lesson for me ☕🤔 🏆 "Giving authentically without expectations is true giving from the heart." I've never realized why I felt a bit upset when my long distance partner (gf), most times ask me to take care of her home expenses 🙄 but I guess that is my role in my relation, to provide and protect the femme to feel safe and nurtured. We've been LDR for five years, but I visit and live in her country every year to be in close proximity. Anyone seeking a girl with good family culture, traditions and ethics...I've traveled and explored the asian countries but ended up meeting my partner in Indonesia 🌎🎯 not a fan of western culture
Today I was thinking and feeling a lot about this topic. Made some importante changes and felt much better. And then, when I came home and opened the Fearlessman channel, I see Brian talking about this very thing. Love it. Thank you !!
I've been doing this for this past month when I asked her on a date and she said she wasn't ready and wanted to just be friends. I think it's time to have the talk. I thought I could just be friends but I don't want to just be friends. See how it goes
🤔 I don't think it's possible for the masculine and feminine to be friends. Especially if you want to sleep with the girl. Plus, you don't want to become a girls emotional tampon, while shes sleeping with Tyron 🫥
Great Lesson! Being authentic is giving. Not hiding your feelings that can turn into resentment is giving. Being afraid but not backing down and stepping into the tension is giving.
Good lesson, shortly After I found this channel I found my girlfriend of two years and I’m still with her. The biggest thing was grounding out and feeling from my hips and learning a neutral energy
spolier alert: most women ARE "using" and "manipulating", doesn't take a dinner to "find that out" - you're just buying her company, if you can be honest with yourself, you know it's a losing move and this is ALL transactional, just like in childhood.
Giving comes out of fullness and abundance. If you believe that women are scarce, you have nothing to give, no matter how genuine you attempt to be. Also, in nice guy mode, it's extremely difficult to be honest, because honesty means telling her, "I felt rejected and inadequate when you moved away from me during the kiss.". That's a hard truth to convey.
I liked the whole leaning in from your back or your base explanation. When you showed the difference by getting in your head I tried it myself and felt exactly how I experience this. Thank you for the insight.
I'm happily married guy at 58. I was successful with women when I was single. I mostly inherently did the right things but after watching many videos I see I made a lot of mistakes. I wish you two existed and I learned these things before because it would have made life a lot better. I wish I could go back in my twenties and use many of these principles. I feel like a great warrior but there's no wars to fight lol
There is a LOT a married guy can do with your wife to increase masculine/feminine polarity and make the relationship even more fun and satisfying. Most of our clients are single but quite a few are married as well. One book you can read is The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. - Andrew, TFM Team
nice guys TAKE because they're super wounded and their cups are EMPTY, due to abuse, neglect, narcissistic abuse. It's not like NGs don't get it, they never GOT IT, where it=love.
It's incomplete. Nice guys do get love, but nice guys aren't so nice to appreciate it or realise it. They're unsatisfied all the time about love. They're greedy. They're wanting so many things from so many people(it's understandable), but when it comes to contribution, they make very little of it and get satisfied. Prime reason for this is that they're lonely from within. Not because they're not finding enough love, it's because such guys are not focussing on themselves to improve from within, to find a purpose and work on it, to get bold and face their fears, to go and take risks, to oppose their own people if need be, to workout and get disciplined, always waiting for motivation, when it's all around them, and to start pleasing themselves as well, just as a man should. Psychology of a man is very different from a woman's. It's very important for a man to have a strong purpose in life. It's okay to seek love. But to know that you can only get so much love from someone else as you can give to your yourself, that's when men would truly become 'nice' And it just happens that it is coming from a man who has been that kind. Stop making excuses to yourself and stop lying to yourself.
Great to hear it's helpful in a key moment. Don't overthink tension. You absolutely know what it means on a basic animal level. When shit is going down, that's high tension, when shit is chill, that's low tension lol - Andrew, TFM Team
I know this is a different topic, but I'm getting the impression that nce the girl is in your social circle, there is a time and place for high energy and grounded energy? I know approaching during the day, grounded energy is important, but all the time? Especially in your social circle, I'm thinking that will be boring if one is always grounded. Even when applying tension in conversations.
On another note I think you should really discuss going to the gym and learning how to dress. So much of my past success has to do with my confidence in myself. As a teenager I was very introverted but when I joined the gym (same as the one Lou ferrigno went to in Brooklyn by the way) my confidence grew with my muscles. I don't think I could have been as successful women if I didn't feel so powerful inside
Those things definitely contribute to feeling in the driver's seat of life. The thing is lots of other channels talk about that stuff. Brian focuses on the more rare stuff that he has to present. There are a couple older videos with Zan Perrion where he and Brian talk about style. - Andrew, TFM Team
Being healthy and working out are good for YOU personally and it does send of signals of health and well being which improve your chances of mating success. However, Inner game and Inner work is it's own battle. I see a lot of guys "rejecting" themselves before the girl has a chance to because they believe "i'm too tall/short/fat/skinny/ugly/pretty/old/young/rich/poor/brown/white/yada yada yada." PLENTY of gym ripped bros still can't do cold approach. Self image and recreating self image can be a complicated subject, too much to provide a short answer solution here, but the TLDR version is: it is better to believe something that benefits you which may or may not be true (EX: I'm super awesome and women love me) than to believe something which may be more accurate but only serves to prevent you from success (ex: women are not attracted to "(fill in the blank with what you believe about yourself here] guys )". What we believe tends to manifest, so better to believe the best thing possible.
but what if sex is traumatizing for the guy - you can't be radically honest about that, can you? you have to LIE then women sniff out the incongruence. or you trick her into having sex, have a terrible experience, then you never see her again. endless cycles of pain
Depends how you ask. Are you asking in order to make her do the work of taking away your fears of rejection or are you asking in a fun, vulnerable way? Same question goes for the not-asking approach. What is the energy you are acting from? - Andrew, TFM Team
Women are turned off by a guy who needs to ask permission for a kiss because it sends a signal to them that the man lacks social intuition. Going for the kiss is almost always a gamble, but so is asking for permission. Better to be rebuffed for bold action than be spotlighted as a weak or clueless dude. Going for the kiss sends the signal "I assume you like me because that is my normal experience with all other girls" (high value). Asking permission sends the opposite signal. You should be compliance testing (Hoop Theory) and building Kino compliance throughout the date too, so that going for the kiss is not a sudden big move, but just a small escalation. And a welcomed one.
Hey brian, i am watching your videos for last two years and also doing your exercises not fully but yes.... unfortunately not getting any results... I am 25 and still virgin...and i have no one here who can guide me..or tell me what am i doing wrong.. Im constantly seeking validation from everyone especially from women.... Im trying to stop that but not happening... I read no more mr. Nice guy...but i dont know... Nothing changing.. I want to change my life... I am so tied of this... Even i stopped doing every thing because i am going nowhere...i want to break this nice guy...want some results.... One more thing after reading no more mr. Nice guy.. I am constantly thinking every one surround me are using me... I am confused to make boundaries... If you are reading this and i hope you are... Then plz help me.. And reply.....maybe it will change my life...
Hi Steven, You need to be willing to continue your personal work. If you complain that it isn't working and give up, you lock yourself in place. If one thing isn't working try another. No one can do it for you. You are seeking a lot of attention with this post but attention and validation from others won't be the thing that makes real change in your life. You need to be willing to keep doing what you need to do no matter whether you get attention from other people or not. There is a huge amount of help available for anyone who is ready deep down to make changes. - Andrew, TFM Team
Hey man, Simply speaking Brian doesn't have a red pill mindset. I'm linking a video below he did roughly on that topic. Red pill philosophy puts men and women in a constant power struggle. At Fearless we focus helping clients make the most of the masculine / feminine polarity for maximum enjoyment by all parties. - Andrew, TFM Team
BRIAN… your story is exactly my situation right now. I need help. Everything about your story is my story. She’s my girl best friend and she’s in “the talking stage” with these other guys, but yet I still feel like there is something between me and her. I am scared of losing her as a friend, and I’m waiting for the perfect time to make a deeper move, but the truth is, like you said it hurts me to hear her talk about other guys, and all. My questions are first, what is your feedback and what do you think I should do ??
You have to be willing to look at the internal emotional reasons you are in this situation. It's not really about this specific girl. If she moved away and wasn't in your life, you would just find another one to repeat the cycle unless you understand the deeper reasons. - Andrew, TFM Team
What a great lesson for me ☕🤔 🏆
"Giving authentically without expectations is true giving from the heart."
I've never realized why I felt a bit upset when my long distance partner (gf), most times ask me to take care of her home expenses 🙄 but I guess that is my role in my relation, to provide and protect the femme to feel safe and nurtured.
We've been LDR for five years, but I visit and live in her country every year to be in close proximity.
Anyone seeking a girl with good family culture, traditions and ethics...I've traveled and explored the asian countries but ended up meeting my partner in Indonesia 🌎🎯
not a fan of western culture
Giving comes out of love not for approval
Today I was thinking and feeling a lot about this topic. Made some importante changes and felt much better. And then, when I came home and opened the Fearlessman channel, I see Brian talking about this very thing. Love it. Thank you !!
I've been doing this for this past month when I asked her on a date and she said she wasn't ready and wanted to just be friends. I think it's time to have the talk. I thought I could just be friends but I don't want to just be friends. See how it goes
🤔 I don't think it's possible for the masculine and feminine to be friends. Especially if you want to sleep with the girl.
Plus, you don't want to become a girls emotional tampon, while shes sleeping with Tyron 🫥
Great Lesson!
Being authentic is giving.
Not hiding your feelings that can turn into resentment is giving.
Being afraid but not backing down and stepping into the tension is giving.
Best not to give at all.
Why do you say that? - Andrew, TFM Team
Good lesson, shortly
After I found this channel I found my girlfriend of two years and I’m still with her. The biggest thing was grounding out and feeling from my hips and learning a neutral energy
I push away before it even starts. I am not afraid to say hi and even chat a little.
hey love your content 💯
this nigga is A GOD BRO lmaooo
Love your content man❤❤❤....only the confident really live❤
This theme tune slaps
Hey man I’m a Marine, spec ops. I can probably put you in contact with that girl. Let me help?
I'll ask Brian - Andrew, TFM Team
spolier alert: most women ARE "using" and "manipulating", doesn't take a dinner to "find that out" - you're just buying her company, if you can be honest with yourself, you know it's a losing move and this is ALL transactional, just like in childhood.
Giving comes out of fullness and abundance. If you believe that women are scarce, you have nothing to give, no matter how genuine you attempt to be. Also, in nice guy mode, it's extremely difficult to be honest, because honesty means telling her, "I felt rejected and inadequate when you moved away from me during the kiss.". That's a hard truth to convey.
One of those videos to make you wish you could "Like" it twice.
I liked the whole leaning in from your back or your base explanation. When you showed the difference by getting in your head I tried it myself and felt exactly how I experience this. Thank you for the insight.
I'm happily married guy at 58. I was successful with women when I was single. I mostly inherently did the right things but after watching many videos I see I made a lot of mistakes. I wish you two existed and I learned these things before because it would have made life a lot better. I wish I could go back in my twenties and use many of these principles. I feel like a great warrior but there's no wars to fight lol
There is a LOT a married guy can do with your wife to increase masculine/feminine polarity and make the relationship even more fun and satisfying. Most of our clients are single but quite a few are married as well. One book you can read is The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. - Andrew, TFM Team
Long story short you get what you put up with.
woohoo, super hot, this restores my faith in all you masculine men; it makes me happy, thank you for that!
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Awesome video bro, clear and powerful 🤙
nice guys TAKE because they're super wounded and their cups are EMPTY, due to abuse, neglect, narcissistic abuse.
It's not like NGs don't get it, they never GOT IT, where it=love.
It's incomplete. Nice guys do get love, but nice guys aren't so nice to appreciate it or realise it. They're unsatisfied all the time about love. They're greedy. They're wanting so many things from so many people(it's understandable), but when it comes to contribution, they make very little of it and get satisfied. Prime reason for this is that they're lonely from within. Not because they're not finding enough love, it's because such guys are not focussing on themselves to improve from within, to find a purpose and work on it, to get bold and face their fears, to go and take risks, to oppose their own people if need be, to workout and get disciplined, always waiting for motivation, when it's all around them, and to start pleasing themselves as well, just as a man should. Psychology of a man is very different from a woman's. It's very important for a man to have a strong purpose in life. It's okay to seek love. But to know that you can only get so much love from someone else as you can give to your yourself, that's when men would truly become 'nice'
And it just happens that it is coming from a man who has been that kind.
Stop making excuses to yourself and stop lying to yourself.
@@shs9201 nah nice guys don't get love because they never got love.
@@_Trakman yeah, they got fear and excuses
So glad I clicked this video! Blown my mind but this makes so much sense. I needed to hear this. What do you mean by "tension" though?
Great to hear it's helpful in a key moment. Don't overthink tension. You absolutely know what it means on a basic animal level. When shit is going down, that's high tension, when shit is chill, that's low tension lol - Andrew, TFM Team
I know this is a different topic, but I'm getting the impression that nce the girl is in your social circle, there is a time and place for high energy and grounded energy? I know approaching during the day, grounded energy is important, but all the time? Especially in your social circle, I'm thinking that will be boring if one is always grounded. Even when applying tension in conversations.
They aren't mutually exclusive. You have to have both. - Andrew, TFM Team
@@TheFearlessMan Makes sense!
On another note I think you should really discuss going to the gym and learning how to dress. So much of my past success has to do with my confidence in myself. As a teenager I was very introverted but when I joined the gym (same as the one Lou ferrigno went to in Brooklyn by the way) my confidence grew with my muscles. I don't think I could have been as successful women if I didn't feel so powerful inside
Those things definitely contribute to feeling in the driver's seat of life. The thing is lots of other channels talk about that stuff. Brian focuses on the more rare stuff that he has to present. There are a couple older videos with Zan Perrion where he and Brian talk about style. - Andrew, TFM Team
Being healthy and working out are good for YOU personally and it does send of signals of health and well being which improve your chances of mating success. However, Inner game and Inner work is it's own battle. I see a lot of guys "rejecting" themselves before the girl has a chance to because they believe "i'm too tall/short/fat/skinny/ugly/pretty/old/young/rich/poor/brown/white/yada yada yada." PLENTY of gym ripped bros still can't do cold approach. Self image and recreating self image can be a complicated subject, too much to provide a short answer solution here, but the TLDR version is: it is better to believe something that benefits you which may or may not be true (EX: I'm super awesome and women love me) than to believe something which may be more accurate but only serves to prevent you from success (ex: women are not attracted to "(fill in the blank with what you believe about yourself here] guys )". What we believe tends to manifest, so better to believe the best thing possible.
Thank you for this 🙏
Another banger from Brian, keepin it 💯
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but what if sex is traumatizing for the guy - you can't be radically honest about that, can you?
you have to LIE then women sniff out the incongruence.
or you trick her into having sex, have a terrible experience, then you never see her again.
endless cycles of pain
Thanks Mr White 😁😁 u're Heisenberg in this dating game man!! Keep the good work Brian...love from India ❤️
💫
How do you feel about asking a girl to kiss or cuddle etc. Instead of just acting on it until she rejects you?
Depends how you ask. Are you asking in order to make her do the work of taking away your fears of rejection or are you asking in a fun, vulnerable way? Same question goes for the not-asking approach. What is the energy you are acting from? - Andrew, TFM Team
@@TheFearlessMan is there a video for this explanation, if not, welcome it. Keep up the great content👍
No specific video but Brian discusses it a lot in various videos. - Andrew, TFM Team
Women are turned off by a guy who needs to ask permission for a kiss because it sends a signal to them that the man lacks social intuition. Going for the kiss is almost always a gamble, but so is asking for permission. Better to be rebuffed for bold action than be spotlighted as a weak or clueless dude. Going for the kiss sends the signal "I assume you like me because that is my normal experience with all other girls" (high value). Asking permission sends the opposite signal. You should be compliance testing (Hoop Theory) and building Kino compliance throughout the date too, so that going for the kiss is not a sudden big move, but just a small escalation. And a welcomed one.
Hey brian, i am watching your videos for last two years and also doing your exercises not fully but yes.... unfortunately not getting any results... I am 25 and still virgin...and i have no one here who can guide me..or tell me what am i doing wrong.. Im constantly seeking validation from everyone especially from women.... Im trying to stop that but not happening... I read no more mr. Nice guy...but i dont know... Nothing changing.. I want to change my life... I am so tied of this... Even i stopped doing every thing because i am going nowhere...i want to break this nice guy...want some results.... One more thing after reading no more mr. Nice guy.. I am constantly thinking every one surround me are using me... I am confused to make boundaries... If you are reading this and i hope you are... Then plz help me.. And reply.....maybe it will change my life...
Hi Steven, You need to be willing to continue your personal work. If you complain that it isn't working and give up, you lock yourself in place. If one thing isn't working try another. No one can do it for you. You are seeking a lot of attention with this post but attention and validation from others won't be the thing that makes real change in your life. You need to be willing to keep doing what you need to do no matter whether you get attention from other people or not. There is a huge amount of help available for anyone who is ready deep down to make changes. - Andrew, TFM Team
Brian do you have a red pill mindset? Has the red pill made your mindset more masculine? How do you feel about it now?
Hey man, Simply speaking Brian doesn't have a red pill mindset. I'm linking a video below he did roughly on that topic. Red pill philosophy puts men and women in a constant power struggle. At Fearless we focus helping clients make the most of the masculine / feminine polarity for maximum enjoyment by all parties. - Andrew, TFM Team
BRIAN… your story is exactly my situation right now. I need help. Everything about your story is my story. She’s my girl best friend and she’s in “the talking stage” with these other guys, but yet I still feel like there is something between me and her. I am scared of losing her as a friend, and I’m waiting for the perfect time to make a deeper move, but the truth is, like you said it hurts me to hear her talk about other guys, and all. My questions are first, what is your feedback and what do you think I should do ??
Be direct with her about what you want.
If its not reciprocated, move on.
Thats it.
You have to be willing to look at the internal emotional reasons you are in this situation. It's not really about this specific girl. If she moved away and wasn't in your life, you would just find another one to repeat the cycle unless you understand the deeper reasons. - Andrew, TFM Team
Thank you so much, Amazing video ❤️
Just don't give at all.
The key thing is Brian is referring to things that grow when you give them, not things that you can run out of. - Andrew, TFM Team