Why Girls Flake

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @Commissar1973
    @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад +125

    Important rule here: If you text a woman about a potential date after finding out schedule and logistics and it works for both of you, but she claims she cannot attend because of XYZ reasons, but offers an alternative, then she is interested. Make it work. HOWEVER; If she claims she cannot attend because of XYZ reasons and does not offer an alternative, then you need to move on immediately. The onus is on her at that point to make it work. If you are getting that little effort already, then odds are overwhelming in the favor of it not working at all.

    • @SterlingCooper21
      @SterlingCooper21 3 месяца назад +2

      Good point. I’ve been guilty of asking a girl to reschedule on the spot after she canceled the date since I logically thought “maybe she’s shy”, “maybe she did not think to bring that up”, or as the man, I have to shoulder the burden of the relationship at first. But I still have not been out with that girl, so I’ve learned that lesson the hard way.

    • @universojose89
      @universojose89 3 месяца назад

      Facts bro

    • @Commissar1973
      @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад +9

      @@SterlingCooper21 You can probably offer an alternative time/setting, but you have to do so in a non needy fashion. Either way, you asked her out, got her number, and did the approach. The least she can do is say “shoot, hmmm… what about breakfast early Monday morning, instead of Lunch on Saturday?”
      Have to look at this from her POV. If A list celebrity asked her out on a date, she would cancel original plans to see him or immediately offer an alternative. She got cold feet. Move on.

    • @MrMeddyman
      @MrMeddyman 3 месяца назад +4

      Eh, well that's the thing though. Once you've been on enough dates/ have the experience, does it really matter. I just want the result. Work the set until it's 100% assured it's not going down, getting butthurt like the guy did and then posting on social media in the AITAH (Am I the asshole?) format accomplishes nothing. (Unless someone breaks it down for you like Todd did so I guess he might learn something if he finds this video)
      Attitude is something that game's gotten away from unfortunately judging by the comments below. Guys getting mad at being stood up or complaining that women don't have to live by these rules like that isn't obvious. It's detrimental. Maybe in a perfect world the onus is on the girl sure, but like Todd just said, women and accountability don't exactly mix and if you want to have that attitude you just assure you don't get laid. She can make a post about how she stood up for herself and doesn't tolerate men that make her wait and etc etc to make herself feel good, you get nothing and I personally don't care about being a GI in the culture war (not saying you took it to that level but some guys always do and it's annoyingly pointless, without leverage women have no impetus to change stop wasting energy and adapt guys). Be process-oriented, not reactive. Nothing is a big deal.

    • @llewylnmoss
      @llewylnmoss 3 месяца назад +5

      @@MrMeddyman NO. You simply move on tot he next girl. Stop simping and trying to squeeze juice out of stone. Men need to stop chasing

  • @drewbear17
    @drewbear17 3 месяца назад +31

    Keep in mind women don’t have to live by these rules.

    • @edub8803
      @edub8803 3 месяца назад +3

      Exactly

    • @JamJar61RS
      @JamJar61RS 3 месяца назад

      Would you rather be a woman or a man tho ..

    • @dreamawake2670
      @dreamawake2670 3 месяца назад

      Women are irrational.

  • @mgtowabbott6924
    @mgtowabbott6924 3 месяца назад +44

    She literally TOLD him what he did wrong.

  • @whitecrossredground8820
    @whitecrossredground8820 3 месяца назад +7

    Texting in the intervening days (at least once) to confirm some details makes sense. If she's ready to flake, she probably won't text back at that point, and you've got your answer. If she does, you can assume she's genuinely interested. Female psychology still requires the man to take greater initiative in the early stages.

  • @fuzzypanda1684
    @fuzzypanda1684 3 месяца назад +7

    There are arguments both for and against a lot of these. If you text right away, you could either come off as desperate, or you could be striking while the emotions are hot. If you wait a few days, she might have forgotten about you, or she might have been waiting for your text if you made a solid first impression.
    If you text during the days leading to date, it might make her more committed, or she might stop responding. If you don't text, it might fade in her memory and she ghosts, or it might build up the anticipation.
    Basically, you can win with any strategy, or lose with any strategy, most of it comes down to what difficulty setting your life is set to.

    • @blasphemer_amon
      @blasphemer_amon 2 месяца назад

      You can bring the greatest Brazilian national football squad and still lose because it was a game of basketball

  • @charlesb3348
    @charlesb3348 3 месяца назад +9

    The pain of being rejected and feeling alone most of my life feels like a hopeless cycle to get out of. I'm exhausted of trying to rebuild after another let down

    • @KaleemIV
      @KaleemIV 3 месяца назад +5

      You gotta reframe your mindset!
      Your mindset makes or breaks your success with women...hell, Todd addresses this within the video at 10:57 and 11:26: "How you handle them (the actions, reactions or behavior from women) can make a huge impact in your success"
      Ask yourself this: Why do the rejections matter to you so much? Why do you crave being valued? Why do YOU LET WOMEN determine your emotional state, in this case your happiness?
      Rejection is blessing. It's a form of incompatibility and if she was interested, she'd make the effort to make it work.
      I said all this, not to insult or make light of your situation because I've been through it too. But as a man it's imperative you do not be over invested with the idea that women are your source of inner value.
      Whether you accept this or not, your situation WILL NOT change until you do as Todd suggested and ask yourself what isnt working and how to fix it.

    • @sorgutentarer
      @sorgutentarer 3 месяца назад

      Sign up to Todd's mentorship program, start learning how to get girls. If you can't afford it, work hard and improve your finances, if you can't do that either: you don't deserve girls: sit at home and watch porn.

    • @ChadBest-ug8uo
      @ChadBest-ug8uo 3 месяца назад +3

      Charles I feel your pain! I carry a similar mindset. However, if you truly want to meet someone, it has to change. Clean slate brother.

    • @inker1972
      @inker1972 Месяц назад

      I can relate man,it's not just you..and solid advice from the other comments.

  • @dlooper1
    @dlooper1 3 месяца назад +2

    Great video as always Todd, as an older guy but a beginner in the new age of proper dating procedures, I now can see all of his mistakes that he made. After watching all of your videos, his mistakes can easily be corrected.

  • @mtlicq
    @mtlicq 3 месяца назад +4

    Genius! Its about time! Sensible advice that is sociable, kind, practical, and anti-dysfunctional, and constructively BUILDS excitement and confirmation of interest for the get-together! ✅

  • @element720
    @element720 3 месяца назад +7

    Todd nails it once again here. The manner in which he communicates this area of study remains unmatched

  • @G2theE88
    @G2theE88 3 месяца назад +1

    Todd is always dropping gold out here for free. Master of his trade👌🏻

  • @r.h.8537
    @r.h.8537 3 месяца назад +44

    "I'm not a 10 yr old girl"....... goes to the interwebs and crys about life for validation😅

    • @jamesg1974a
      @jamesg1974a 3 месяца назад +4

      Also it isn’t 10 year old behavior to communicate, it’s adult behavior. So he has it backward

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад +1

      @r.h.8537 -
      _"I'm not a 10 yr old girl"_ ..... dresses like a 10 yr old girl -- pink blouse, no mammary pair yet

    • @Briman2052
      @Briman2052 3 месяца назад +2

      Tbf maybe he was just confused and wanted answers. Also tbf, he's probably really good in other areas like business or whatever. ALSO tbf, at the end he was at least open to the possibility that it was his fault.

  • @David-cc3un
    @David-cc3un 2 месяца назад

    When I am down about my dating life, I can always rely on you to logically explain things and give me hope 🙏

  • @MrGoodsalesman
    @MrGoodsalesman 3 месяца назад +21

    Because they don’t see the value in you

  • @mano40
    @mano40 3 месяца назад

    Tod’s advises were gold, the comment section is so informative 2

  • @DirtnapJack
    @DirtnapJack 3 месяца назад +2

    I’ve seen the opposite go wrong where too much contact in interim comes off bad. The woman does give the “do you thinkni am an idiot? I know what day and time.” On a separate note, it could also be she found a better option for a friday night. It’s not like that doesn’t happen either

  • @Cee_Eff
    @Cee_Eff 3 месяца назад +9

    Funny how Coach Corry says wait 3 days and DON"T text in between. Who's correct?

    • @Frank-os6gq
      @Frank-os6gq 3 месяца назад +5

      Dating AND dating advice are like snow flakes. Get it. The reason is cause people are like snowflakes, each is unique

    • @mgtowabbott6924
      @mgtowabbott6924 3 месяца назад +1

      That makes us have to think for ourselves.

    • @tomtownsend4210
      @tomtownsend4210 3 месяца назад +7

      What Todd is suggesting works to get “any” woman on a date. The outline of what the guy in the story did/Corey/old school style will get you partner/wife matches and eliminate lots of less reliable women.

    • @simhz2221
      @simhz2221 3 месяца назад +3

      Coach Cory and Doc Love are correct, Todd is wrong. Waiting a few days is NOT a big deal and actually increases Interest Level through Challenge but it will definitely weed out the bad dates, users, flakes, pro daters, .. .who only care about going out TODAY because they're hungry and they want a guy to pay for their food. Todd is much more focused on dating to close / ONS. Not finding a quality LTR.

    • @sorgutentarer
      @sorgutentarer 3 месяца назад +1

      Todd.
      I learned from him beginner to advanced. Don't listen to anyone else. Only Todd. Real results. Same day/hour/same 15 minute pulls from daygame every week, sometimes multiple times per week. 9s, 10s. The youngest and hottest girls I can legally have in my European country. You need to get on the program where a coach or Todd will listen to your infield audio and review it live, and tell you, without trying to be nice, what you're doing wrong, and assign you missions. James is the best coach for intelligent guys. Ask for James as your personal coach.

  • @geraldconde1
    @geraldconde1 3 месяца назад

    I always used to wait to define the exact place and time and would leave the possibility open for more activities. But it was more because of laziness on my part because I just didn't want to think about plans right away! Glad I got it right unintentionally!

  • @AsianClarkKent.
    @AsianClarkKent. 3 месяца назад

    Todd, your videos are absolutely amazing and incredibly insightful. I just signed up for your mentorship program and can't wait to talk with you!

  • @niallcarney9178
    @niallcarney9178 3 месяца назад +3

    This is the best shit of text game since 2012, 🎉 Thanks again good sir,

  • @guesswhat7770
    @guesswhat7770 3 месяца назад +5

    I’m getting rejected and flaked for 20 years what do I do wrong?

    • @dreamawake2670
      @dreamawake2670 3 месяца назад +1

      What do you do?

    • @SPACEDOUT19
      @SPACEDOUT19 21 день назад

      you are simply not attractive to women

  • @jballin2288
    @jballin2288 3 месяца назад

    I actually really appreciate this video. I broke up w my ex a few months back, and dating since then has sucked. But I notice, in watching this video, that when I get a girls number, I wait to text her, an when I make plans, I don't text her on in-between days, for the exact reasons he lists. An then I've gotten flaked on. So I'm gonna try what he's suggesting, really appreciate this video, hits home for my dating life rn

  • @josec705
    @josec705 3 месяца назад

    Great video as always Todd. Thank you

  • @bigrigbutters9255
    @bigrigbutters9255 3 месяца назад +31

    Not texting for a few days is kinda wild. All spark is gone essentially by then

    • @vtmegrad98
      @vtmegrad98 3 месяца назад +15

      Pre-Instagram and pre-Tinder, women weren't bombarded with attention as much as now, so texting/calling early stood out. It was a very solid concept for decades. It's just a concept that didnt' survive smart phones existing.

    • @GreatNon-pd5ig
      @GreatNon-pd5ig 3 месяца назад +7

      You’re afraid of losing ‘sparks’ and women can smell it

    • @kagi95
      @kagi95 3 месяца назад

      ​@@vtmegrad98Exactly

    • @zaubaschnutemajestat7796
      @zaubaschnutemajestat7796 3 месяца назад +1

      Once a girl wrote me after one year not texting.
      But she did Not want a Date still

    • @epicbehavior
      @epicbehavior 3 месяца назад

      I think it’s a different situation if she’s already attached to a degree. If she is, the days between helps. If not, it hurts.

  • @dedodge7322
    @dedodge7322 3 месяца назад +1

    Everything Todd says is correct in my experience. However, I think pick up knowledge can make you end up in unnecessary situations.
    If you have to do everything absolute right to get a girl, she probably is not for you. There’s any woman in my memory that worth this amount of effort.
    The best ones act with commom sense and opens her way for you. Even if It’s only for fun.

  • @adamshoop5140
    @adamshoop5140 3 месяца назад +3

    This guy definitely follows Corey Wayne who has some ok advice. Really I think it just depends on the girl. This same tactic may work well with other women.

  • @HOTSPURTAKES
    @HOTSPURTAKES 3 месяца назад +2

    Man....this is nothing if you like her and she likes you back just set the date and time and meet up. Any woman who doesn't show up or feels off wasn't meant for you and you don't deserve emotional torture.
    Just don't TRY HARD.
    What we want here is she opening up to you that's all. Cox women don't really open up to people just like that hence if she does...hit the nail on the head. Thanks.

  • @saphyrionelendilion7166
    @saphyrionelendilion7166 3 месяца назад

    What works in the world, works. Your last lines would be so useful to so many people.❤

  • @RedRumble14
    @RedRumble14 3 месяца назад +4

    in general if i wanna text a girl to ask her out, should i keep it as short as possible and nonchalant?
    “hey, a walk and a cool witty banter about life between two cool old friends this weekend. let’s roll the dice”
    type of stuff. also, shlould i reply to her story or write in direct on random day?
    i feel like when they post on stories they show that they want to be invited, but if i write on random days they may actually be busy.
    should i even write in general or wait for the girl to make a move/signs if we know each other and cool with each other?

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад

      you're overthinking and strategizing too much. Drop it. Just be sociable when its genuine, and without neediness or weirdness. That _"hey, a walk...."_ sentence is just weird.

    • @RedRumble14
      @RedRumble14 3 месяца назад

      @@mtlicq you are right man, i’m too much in my head.
      the thing is, we graduated and there won’t be any opportunities to see each other in daily life, so i should write smth to make it happen.
      my question is, should i be direct, start from far, or don’t write at all

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад

      @@RedRumble14 Definitely write, but keep it light, friendly, non-demanding, but suggest the option of getting together sometime for coffee. *Don't put too much in writing,* just something that shows interest and gives her option/opportunities to see you. • In real life, (not in texts), talk and be respectfully playful only as much as she's ready for, or experiment, just a tiny bit more. Be sociable with her, not tangled up in strategies and overthinking.

  • @AlpachinoHuSTle
    @AlpachinoHuSTle 3 месяца назад +1

    Todd is incredible ❤ 🔥

  • @prisonmike7930
    @prisonmike7930 Месяц назад +1

    if she feels lame and doesnt want to confirm she got some ego problems, and trust you dont want to date this type of women, big red flag. You want to date a woman whos confident enough to ask you if the date is on and everything is as planned

  • @calumogorman4953
    @calumogorman4953 2 месяца назад

    Todd, you are single handedly boosting population size with your content, haha ❤😝

  • @sutats
    @sutats 2 месяца назад

    He's structured and has the certainty and reliability to set and ensure that he'll be there at the agreed date. An organised person like him shouldn't be penalised for ensuring that he'll actually turn up at the date. He deserves a structured woman to mesh with his lifestyle.

  • @AcTaRus-fk6nj
    @AcTaRus-fk6nj 3 месяца назад +26

    A major rule of game/dating (rule no6 from Mystery): Don’t act as if anything is a big deal. Be fun and playful. Vibe with her, but don’t react to her. Be in the same way you would act with your eight year old niece.
    I'm 47 and I managed to get several dates with a 19 years old by playing it cool and setting unprecised date. She was the one texting me asking for more information. The girl is the one who must chase, leave room for her to chase you. If she doesn't chase you, she's not into you and you shouldn't waste your time.
    I ended up kissing her, it didn't go any further, but it boosted my self confidence :-)
    Guys, play it cool with girls. "Girls just wanna have fun" as Cindy Lauper said

    • @Commissar1973
      @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад

      This is fantastic advice in general. Most of game (roughly 75-80%) of game falls within three things. Confidence/self esteem, frame, and social calibration. You must have confidence and self esteem, non starter. The engine of attracting women. Frame is the next important condition. Have to be able to make the situation a win for her. If you chase and kiss her ass, it is not a win for her. You are taken for granted. However, if you make her uncertain and seem unsure of her qualities and overall makeup, she will begin to do the heavy lifting for you. Once she starts qualifying to you ie: “I started working out and have a bubble butt or I have visible abs, or I am back in school working on my bachelors” she is trying to win you over. You almost have to do this in order to get a woman to view you as attractive/valuable a WIN. Finally, being able to detect her and your own emotions and social cues is how you stop working game and start enjoying each other. Keeping things fun, lighthearted and interesting is a must because without that, you cannot get to the physical part, the connection part, and finally the relationship part.

    • @simhz2221
      @simhz2221 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly! Even though I didn't really follow Mystery, I'm a huge Coach Cory, Doc Love and Mark Manson follower. You're absolutely correct if she's not chasing you it's on to the next.
      Like Doc Love says "Girls who are interested in you actually make it easy for you".

  • @johnrusselljr2594
    @johnrusselljr2594 3 месяца назад

    Todd just straight up say it the best place to meet a girl is in a bookstore or library ps. Your hair grows damn fast

  • @ZorshaAndHerPharaoh
    @ZorshaAndHerPharaoh 3 месяца назад

    I still agree with the fact they both made concrete plans with a place and time. Ive dated women who don't want to be bothered during the week bc they are so busy. Texting thru the week can turn into long convos getting to know each other and ending up doing it through text instead of in person. Could be good or bad. If a job gives you an interview date and time, you commited to that time beforehand and show up if you want the job. It looks pretty bad if you flake because the company didn't confirm the interview with you in the days leading up. But I understand all of Todds advice as well.

  • @swaggybaconcheese1566
    @swaggybaconcheese1566 3 месяца назад

    Thanks Todd ❤️

  • @cosminbadea6337
    @cosminbadea6337 3 месяца назад +3

    I think is a matter also of status , if that guy was Brad Pitt she wodn t flake in this situation 1000% ! I do not agree that a woman can not keep her word … but yeah … anyway , is also the fault of all the guys who are accepting this … And unafortunatly this is the reality … and we men have to adapt . I personaly do not take seriously women who flake or change plâns in the last minute. I “enjoy” them and date others also !

  • @RedRumble14
    @RedRumble14 3 месяца назад +1

    if we had a date and it gone bad like 3/10 ( was terrible logistically cuz we both we tired)
    girl got more cold after it, yet we are cool generally. she made it obvious that we are not saying goodbye forever. should i try to revive it after like 3 months? i know i’m not her priority but one of the best options. maybe i can use come call back humour in asking out like “let see what would happen if 2 not tired versions of us would show up”

    • @user-ee1fn4vt8b
      @user-ee1fn4vt8b 3 месяца назад

      3 months??!? Why wait that long? Girl moved on by now.

  • @annnddy
    @annnddy 3 месяца назад +3

    How is confirming on the day of the date losing “value” when you said him not texting for days will make a girl feel insecure.
    I feel this overly focus on value has done more damage than good

  • @diegom1618
    @diegom1618 3 месяца назад

    Si deep an clever view Todd … thanks so much

  • @positive_vibes_2427
    @positive_vibes_2427 3 месяца назад

    1:04 “I’m available, can’t wait”…. 🚩🚩🚩

  • @LinusWilson
    @LinusWilson 3 месяца назад

    Also I find it v hard to set dates 2-days out. You get a lot of “No” when you don’t give online leads at least 4 days.

  • @simhz2221
    @simhz2221 3 месяца назад +4

    The only mistake this guy did what not weeding out this girl / flake fast enough. She just has no interest level or is a pro dater/ user. See Doc Love - The System.
    What Doc Love would have said to this guy:
    - Waiting a few days actually works in your favor as it is challenge, he did right here.
    - He's a few minutes late, even though it's preferable to not be late it happens. She's mad hence it means she's structured and probably not interested anyway. Huge red flag. At this point, it's over, she disqualified herself.
    - "Are you kidding?" for a few minutes late, you know this girl is trouble and most likely confrontational. It means she's structured and is going to be a nag. Another huge red flag but she's already history so whatever.
    - Girls who ask you to confirm twice is another huge red flag and are almost guaranteed flakes.
    This girl was trouble, she did him a solid by not coming to the date. Guys, you want a flexible giver with impeccable integrity. Did it sound like she is a flexible giver? No. Next.

    • @simhz2221
      @simhz2221 3 месяца назад +2

      By the way, the answer to the question "Why Girls Flake?" It's because they have low interest level. There, it's not rocket science.

    • @Commissar1973
      @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад

      @@simhz2221 Yeah, flaky women are really just uninterested women. Todd does a great job of showing structure to prevent flake before it happens. Keeping plans undefined and pocketing texts to use in gaps between communication helps a ton. Once they flake it is pretty much over. Can really only get a low interest level girl into you through the date or with in person contact. Text is pretty useless as no one is good at text game, even the best are terrible. Text is just a vehicle to the date. Keep the wheels on it by staying undefined and retain value.

  • @herculeeza
    @herculeeza 3 месяца назад +3

    I've never been stood up, but most of the women who's numbers I get from cold approach usually flake

    • @kagan2712
      @kagan2712 2 месяца назад

      have you got any fc from daygame?

  • @theflyingsmiley01
    @theflyingsmiley01 3 месяца назад +2

    I made the mistake of making a date with a girl a week later and she offered me an an INSTANT DATE that same day!!! *sigh* I thought that she was testing me and I said "I have things to do" lol

    • @vtmegrad98
      @vtmegrad98 3 месяца назад

      message at 10:30 inviting her over for some wine? That worked pretty well when I was dating before (12 years ago). But I'm brand new to figuring out how it all works now.

    • @theflyingsmiley01
      @theflyingsmiley01 3 месяца назад

      @@vtmegrad98 Yeah, times change fast!

  • @DEADLY-LURES-AU
    @DEADLY-LURES-AU 3 месяца назад +14

    More sausage than they can handle. If he was famous none of this would apply

    • @PitbullofWallStreet
      @PitbullofWallStreet 3 месяца назад +8

      In 99% of cases they have no interest in the man. They just want to be able to brag to their gfs they went out on a “date”.

    • @TheWMBWLife
      @TheWMBWLife 3 месяца назад

      ​@@PitbullofWallStreetBingo! Or, it's a deceptive , fatally flawed "validation tool."

    • @Cee_Eff
      @Cee_Eff 3 месяца назад +3

      @PitbullofWallStreet Or how fun it was to play games and how he "didn't pass the test" or how fun it was to reject him.
      Been told that by a gal pal

  • @DEADLY-LURES-AU
    @DEADLY-LURES-AU 3 месяца назад +1

    Caveat if you send things in intervening days and she doesn't respond even if you are adding details assume date may not be solid

  • @dereklawrence5949
    @dereklawrence5949 3 месяца назад

    At a recent (spiritual sobreity meeting,)(it's so lame btw) the girl I like shared that she feels lost in life. She’s 23, a young single mother, and wishes someone could guide her "just telk her what to do" she said. Her ex, who had multiple businesses, wasn’t actually successful-he was dealing with manic episodes. She was attracted to him because of his intense confidence, not realizing it was a result of mental illness. People in manic states can seem incredibly smart and self-assured, which she found appealing, likely due to her difficult past. Unfortunately, her dad groomed her when she was 16.
    She’s trying to start a yoga class, with the first session tomorrow at 9 AM. I’m not planning to attend because recently she’s been distancing herself from me. She told me that she has to focus on her child and future, and she’s right. She worries that if we lived together, her baby daddy’s mom could look into my past-I have a felony-and use that against her in court to get custody. I’ve also struggled with drug use in the past but quit without meetings or support groups. I don’t talk about it much because it was a tough time, but I managed to stop on my own. She’s concerned about the idea of me being around her child and doubts we’re a good fit, even giving me reasons why I shouldn’t like her.
    Anyway, that’s why she’s been distant. This Saturday, she’s hosting a free yoga class at a studio. She doesn’t fully understand marketing, so I’ve been thinking about how I could help. I was considering buying a laser printer to print out around 20,000 flyers to promote her classes. I know she might be planning to hang out after the class, at a certain place, she didnt ask if we could hangout, and I want to suggest putting up these flyers together. I’d tell her that just one Facebook ad isn’t enough-people often don’t grasp the full picture of marketing. I’ll remind her of when she said she wished someone would guide her and offer to help by showing her how to get cold leads for her yoga business. Even though I know we might not be a good match, I genuinely want her free Saturday morning yoga classes to succeed. I’ve come up with a solid marketing plan for distributing the flyers. I know I shouldn’t try to date her or “save” her, but for now, I just want to help her make her classes a success.
    I know.. young single mother run. Run fast and far away. But shes my zombie and i found her first. Also it was at first moving fast, we talked on the phone at night. We walked around and held hands. She sent me a picture of her in her undies twice. She started to develop feelings and pulled away. I felt myself getting needy a.f. when she did thisnin person. So i cut it off fast. After like 4 days she contacted me and said she had to logically think about it all. She also said she really wants to take it really really slow. I agree because she oinda does have a shit ton of problems. Ive been out of the gamr for a while. But this experience has given me confidence and i want to find more hoes from different area codes. Im 38, i kinda want to settle down. I guess because she has a kid, i see myself as a protectro or father figure, never would imagine this. But it woukd suck to raise a bastard child all for her to leave in the end and they both hate you. .. run forrest run.

  • @Briman2052
    @Briman2052 3 месяца назад +4

    The problem is that the guy is treating her like a man, like "if we confirmed the first time we must meet" blah blah blah yeah she's a girl bro, not a man. Men make solid plans, women are much more distractible, like you really think some girl who just wants fun and lightness from a guy is gonna be all serious and on time as if it's a serious business meeting or something? His energy is way too heavy and serious, that's the problem I'm seeing. Keep it light man, keep it carefree. Relax. Also, honestly, just the fact that this guy went on tiktok or whatever just to complain about this is very effeminate behavior.

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад

      ...and also wearing the pink blouse too

  • @JoelKoppel
    @JoelKoppel 3 месяца назад +1

    One of your best vids, such good technical advice, we have to walk the tightrope with no room for error haha

  • @qwirtz2002
    @qwirtz2002 3 месяца назад +4

    Todd quickly got his hair back)

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад +2

      who cares about a dude's hair

  • @swaggybaconcheese1566
    @swaggybaconcheese1566 3 месяца назад

    Thanks todd

  • @tubaenthusiast9610
    @tubaenthusiast9610 3 месяца назад

    Could you guys please share recommendations on videos /playlists for beginners?

  • @differentone_p
    @differentone_p 3 месяца назад +1

    for a woman it's like you're going on a date just for "a date", without needing her, without her, you don't need to confirm with her that you're going

  • @joewauters9065
    @joewauters9065 3 месяца назад

    "I think of a man and take away reason and accountability" - that's too funny!

  • @DivineLogos
    @DivineLogos 3 месяца назад +1

    The guy underestimates female insecurity.
    She is much quicker to think the date won't go through for even tiny reasons like not getting a text or confirmation the days inbetween.

  • @dreamawake2670
    @dreamawake2670 3 месяца назад

    Always confirm the date the day before and after. Women are emotional.

  • @TomBorgstroem
    @TomBorgstroem 3 месяца назад +2

    I am just tired of how complicated women are. Its almost like you have to follow a complete schedule, and if you make one step off the "correct" path she is gone. Thats why I am out of the game.

    • @Commissar1973
      @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад +1

      Ehhh, I don’t think this is the right mindset. First off, men need to realize that there are an endless number of women out there and having an abundance mindset fixes so many things.

    • @TomBorgstroem
      @TomBorgstroem 3 месяца назад +1

      @@Commissar1973 Of course it isn't. But when watching these videos and hearing .... you did this wrong and did that mistake its just not worth it for me. Love happens if it happens. And if it doesn't I am focusing on myself.

  • @xLoSxZoMBiE
    @xLoSxZoMBiE 3 месяца назад

    Todd i need help im 29 years ago never been on a date. Im on dating apps but not getting nowhere

  • @jialian93
    @jialian93 3 месяца назад +2

    This just happened to me today. A girl told me she wanted to be fwb, we send nudes. We scheduled a date to meet and have sex ...flaked. we reschedule for 2 days later. Flake again. I did all the steps here but alas. It still happens. Then she blames me for wanting to meet up and have sex in the first week. She's the one that said she wanted to with the 3rd message.

    • @blacktortoise6812
      @blacktortoise6812 3 месяца назад

      Are you complaining or problem solving?

    • @DEADLY-LURES-AU
      @DEADLY-LURES-AU 3 месяца назад +1

      @@jialian93 let her chase you

    • @jialian93
      @jialian93 3 месяца назад +1

      @@blacktortoise6812 idk I guess both? This just happened so I guess I wanted to vent

    • @mtlicq
      @mtlicq 3 месяца назад

      f that's not a woman, that's a psychopath. Watch your back for blackmail.

  • @GCOUNDOU
    @GCOUNDOU 3 месяца назад

    i do agree that there need to be a couple of texts prior to the date, however each text also opens the opportunity for her to flake!

  • @Mordal1222
    @Mordal1222 3 месяца назад

    Waiting a few days before texting is a way to confirm interest.
    Sure you'll get more dates by texting early, but by waiting you select the girls who really have a high level of interest.

  • @johnmorrison7205
    @johnmorrison7205 3 месяца назад +1

    I don't think the guy did anything too egregious but as todd said you have to adapt to the way the world ACTUALLY works not the way it SHOULD work.

  • @LinusWilson
    @LinusWilson 3 месяца назад

    The video needed to be more concrete and structured. Todd is disagreeing with Corey Wayne on this, but I would have to rewatch to see what Todd v is actually saying.

  • @ChadBest-ug8uo
    @ChadBest-ug8uo 3 месяца назад

    One thing I learned is dating should never feel like an obligation. It should be fun and easy going. This gentleman's interaction seemed mechanical and stiff. Almost like setting up a business meeting.

  • @tobisteffen
    @tobisteffen 3 месяца назад +10

    Totally feel this guy. If women only accept players and simps, they are so welcome to live without me. I don't chase any girl and I don't play any game.

  • @JugglernautNr9
    @JugglernautNr9 3 месяца назад

    true words. thanks!

  • @westonstevens3239
    @westonstevens3239 3 месяца назад

    To get a girl almost never flake on you always 1) call/text the night before the date and 2) call/text to confirm a few hours before the date. If she doesn't respond or says she can't make it then you don't go, it's really that simple. Otherwise almost 100% chance she will be there.

  • @westonstevens3239
    @westonstevens3239 3 месяца назад

    Had one girl tell me that "oh I can't make it because my boss unexpectedly said I have to work tomorrow" and gave me a sob story that "well I'm sorry, I understand if you don't want to see me anymore". This was after I called her just before the date confirming if she was going to be there (so she was about to no-show). And basically politely trying to get rid of me lol. If she's interested in seeing you and she has to cancel 100% she will propose a reschedule, anything else is just pure BS.

  • @Dan_the_cobbler
    @Dan_the_cobbler 3 месяца назад

    Do you ever follow up or give the girl a second chance after a flake? Assuming she didn't have an honest reason and it was a genuine flake, do you write them off entirely as they seem disinterested, or do you reflect on your side of the game and persist one more time?

    • @Commissar1973
      @Commissar1973 3 месяца назад

      @@Dan_the_cobbler Pretty wild to keep persisting. Really low value too. Anecdotal, but some of ones I moved on from after a flake that ran into me again felt much more attracted to me because they knew I was not a guy that wasted time. IE: High Value.

  • @philmickraken2
    @philmickraken2 3 месяца назад +2

    I mostly agree with this advice, with the exception of the texting on the intervening days. Yes, this guy should have texted her that same day he met her. Yes, he should have confirmed the date the day of. Alslo, I have personally have found that women appreciate when you text them when you are on the way.
    All that being said, I have ruined more situations by overtexting. I'm a big believer in texting being for setting dates. Thats it. If you text her a lot she'll see that as being overly needy and will flake on you. She doesn't know you and most women don't want to be pen pals after just meeting you. Tell her you are going to text her in a couple of days and set up plans with her. Then you do exactly that. Then you wait till the day of the date and confirm. That is my formula and I have had no problems with it. And honestly, I disagree that if you dont' text a girl in the intervening days between setting up the plans and the date that she'll forget about you. If she forgets about you in that time, she was never that excited about you to begin with.

  • @charthers8903
    @charthers8903 3 месяца назад

    That look of desperation with "age" being the social reinforcer, dude ive been there, its hell - The one thing I would've told myself is it takes TIME - you can work on it and date and go out but this will take at least a year or two - going into todays market with really horrible women and looking for a result is brutal

  • @MrAdversarie
    @MrAdversarie 3 месяца назад +7

    The only thing i don’t agree with Todd about is Texting her up everyday until the day of the date, I think that just kills the mystic about you and the women are just not as excited to see you. But I think women are extremely flaky in general, so you can do all these steps and still have a high flake rate.

    • @Alland-xw6nk
      @Alland-xw6nk 3 месяца назад +1

      Yess!!! Ur speaking fax!!

    • @markthesolarexpert
      @markthesolarexpert 3 месяца назад +1

      *NOT if you text fun (& even mysterious) things! Todd is correct.*

    • @Alland-xw6nk
      @Alland-xw6nk 3 месяца назад

      @@MrAdversarie no todd is wrong bcz they will just take all the attention and they will use you for ur conversation and then she will flake. It makes no difference

  • @RegnaSaturna
    @RegnaSaturna 3 месяца назад +1

    If you need to confirm, she's the one who's a little insecure. Not you. So that's always good.

  • @Diao7
    @Diao7 Месяц назад

    What I do is text her the day of the event and invite her last second. "Hey want to join me for some drinks at X place at 7?" She will minimum think about it and text back.

  • @Nate-r3f
    @Nate-r3f 2 месяца назад

    "How do you write women so well?" "I think of a man and take away reason and accountability." LOL so true...

  • @BS_Profile
    @BS_Profile 3 месяца назад +1

    That's what's annoying about dating these days. In the early stages, you're basically dealing with a Tomagotchi on hard mode. Lame.

  • @RedRumble14
    @RedRumble14 3 месяца назад

    on a scale 1-10 how idiotic i was to talk about girls exes on a date with her?
    we even talked about the fact that she has a bf currently…
    i’m a solid guy generally, she keeps me as an option, but should i try reviving it even or just take my L?
    i’m just too depressed when i think about the fact that it’s over, but if we go out again im sure could run an amazing date and have her interest again! don’t ask me how, i was just on 1 hour of sleep when we had that bad date and now i’m in a better place in life and mentally

    • @user-ee1fn4vt8b
      @user-ee1fn4vt8b 3 месяца назад

      Why do you want to date a girl with a boyfriend?

    • @kristofferrobinhaug8029
      @kristofferrobinhaug8029 3 месяца назад

      Dude, if she has a bf currently and is entertaining other men (you in this case) this is not a high value woman. You not meeting her is not a loss for you, it is saving yourself a massive load of trouble.
      I would suggest doing some inner work to see which parts of your system are attracted to low value women, so you can give your value to a woman who deserves you🙏

  • @chr1staki
    @chr1staki 3 месяца назад

    Great advices ✍️

  • @derek_underwood
    @derek_underwood 3 месяца назад

    To say "I'd never be in this situation" is a stretch bud 😂

  • @Nykoooo1
    @Nykoooo1 3 месяца назад +1

    Why do we assume HE fucked up, and not that SHE fucked up? Honestly she sounds crazy to me. Maybe he dodged a bullet. Trying to salvage bullets might not be a great idea. But then again I don't know. Maybe she was fine.

    • @PhsychoSomatic
      @PhsychoSomatic 2 месяца назад

      Her reasoning for flaking is that he didnt txt on the intervening dates 🤦‍♂️
      This woman is for the streets my man

  • @DEADLY-LURES-AU
    @DEADLY-LURES-AU 3 месяца назад +17

    You were not her first option. Perpetual problem for older guys who aren't Chad

    • @blacktortoise6812
      @blacktortoise6812 3 месяца назад +2

      Waaaaah

    • @michaeljjt1976
      @michaeljjt1976 3 месяца назад +6

      He would have been her first option if he didn't screw up perpetually

    • @hugotavaresgomes9539
      @hugotavaresgomes9539 3 месяца назад +2

      the guy was literally the definition of "chad".
      he just did badly all the stuff.

    • @martinsvensson6884
      @martinsvensson6884 3 месяца назад

      Quite the opposite. If you dont screw up yourelf you get an advantage with age.

    • @Elsalvadorh
      @Elsalvadorh 3 месяца назад

      Ypungerguys who are not Chad are also not first option

  • @drwayne_carter9115
    @drwayne_carter9115 3 месяца назад +9

    I understand where he's coming from because i HATE small talk via text. It interrupts the flow of your day. Especially with a person i dont even know. The date is where you are supposed to get to know them, not via text. However, unfortunately, women dont think this way, and they consider the small talk as an effort to chase them. Therefore, we unfortunately have to play their game if we want to get laid.

  • @jamesg1974a
    @jamesg1974a 3 месяца назад +2

    He made a ton of mistakes. His attitude sets him back. You don’t over text but you do text and Friday morning he says good morning but is too arrogant/set in his beliefs that he’s can’t add “looking forward to seeing you tonight”. That’s insane

  • @rozzmillions2550
    @rozzmillions2550 3 месяца назад

    You should reach out to that guy and give him a lesson. Could be good exposure for you 👀

  • @LinusWilson
    @LinusWilson 3 месяца назад

    It was your turn until it was not.

  • @LinusWilson
    @LinusWilson 3 месяца назад

    I text early to see if get women will flake so I can make other plans.

  • @suryanarayanan5158
    @suryanarayanan5158 3 месяца назад +8

    The solution to flaking is soft-closing basically

  • @jeremyhelbing
    @jeremyhelbing 3 месяца назад +4

    Dude that guy has no game. I tell every guy I know that needs help dating to watch this channel. I've told some girls too.

  • @LinusWilson
    @LinusWilson 3 месяца назад

    If she cancels go to the gym duh

  • @nicholasingratta423
    @nicholasingratta423 3 месяца назад +3

    He really shoulda called her , problem solved

    • @jialian93
      @jialian93 3 месяца назад +1

      Girls these days won’t answer the call

  • @BornSenior
    @BornSenior 3 месяца назад

    How about if we just all decide together we dont care the slightest bit about women anymore. They would all have to chase us😮

  • @urdadshusband781
    @urdadshusband781 3 месяца назад

    Guy seems waaaayyy too arrogant, dramatic, and egotistic. None of that is gonna help him the overwhelming majority of the time
    There's a huge difference in texting constantly like a 10 year old girl and sending literally 1-2 value texts during the intervening days before your date.
    That's ALL you need. If it's Monday and date is on Friday sending something Tuesday evening and responding to her response Wednesday evening (makes 2) is all you need plus something on Thursday saying you're looking forward to seeing her tomorrow
    Or something like that

  • @happymiro
    @happymiro 3 месяца назад

    Todd. You are my hidden gem. Honestly.
    So sad that I didn't watch you videos about what to do to keep my new coming partner to keep her in my life.
    That's very important, because most of us are getting excited by winning her over, but no-one talks about how to keep her interest.

  • @ernest2123
    @ernest2123 3 месяца назад

    Can I lie to a woman about my job?

  • @petesmt
    @petesmt 3 месяца назад +9

    So she can flake, but if he gets angry then he is completely in the wrong. Well done, women

  • @soulsee9620
    @soulsee9620 3 месяца назад

  • @wielkimishu
    @wielkimishu 3 месяца назад

    He was acting like a victim. To me, it seemed like he was explaining himself on front od her."i did this cose of ... I did that cose of.... He failed that test. She was probably testing him before.

  • @josephgegelashvili
    @josephgegelashvili 2 месяца назад

    🎉🎉

  • @string2155
    @string2155 3 месяца назад +1

    This is because of Corey Wayne’s stupid dating advice of no contact until the day the of the date. Tried it before and it didn’t work. “I’m a man of my word” is exactly his line.