Please don't don't do it, take it from a person that did just that. I knew the person that I tried to date was not the one, but because I was impatient, and wanted what I wanted, I got hurt 🤕. It wasn't God's fault or that person's fault, It was all mine. Because I was given specific instructions, and I disobeyed them. Not because I was trying to be malicious, but because I am human. God doesn't need your help, to do what he said he is going to do. Step out of the way, and rest. So that God can work, as long as you are working, God is going to rest. When you stop working, then God will start working. Here is the key, you have to be sure that is what God told you, or is that what YOU wanted God to tell you.🙏
“Be open to dating, but dont go out and jump into serious relationships right now, because you just in a space that you want a serious relationship” thats what people really need to take in! Thankyou Shumake
If I was her I'd stay single and keep it moving. Why settle for the first guy if he's not ready/serious. And even if the second guy is ready/serious, if she doesn't feel the same way then why settle for him either. The desire has to be mutual on both ends.
Please wait on who God has ordained for you a man in the world will take you out of God's will for your life the enemy will send someone to waste your time self mastery 👑👑
As I always say if you'd love something set it free If it's yours it will come back Especially if God told you it was your wait on the Lord Just keep dating That's where some women and men go wrong And end up marrying the wrong person because They just want to be in a relationship or can't stand to be alone So they settle for anything As a person Instead of waiting on God If you stuck in this situation Love on yourself And date other people Just don't do the wrong thing By getting married allow yourself Date WHILE Waiting on your Person
I can't say what God told her or not. However, I know from scripture that He would not tell her that, without revealing it to the man as well. His revelation may come a little later as it did with Mary and Joseph, but He would definitely reveal that to the man if he intends for them to be a couple. Either way, I would not sit around waiting for anybody. She should continue with her education, career and the other things that God has put in her to do. We all have specific things we are on this earth to complete, she needs to focus on that. Who's to say that when this guy is ready for a relationship that he is going to choose her? It's a hard pill to swallow, but it happens all the time. God forbid he passes away, or what she thought was God was really her own desires and it never comes to pass. Hopefully she will not put her life on hold, especially being so young. Nor allow herself to be toyed with and time wasted. The fact that they have already been dating on and off is a red flag to me. God often has something better farther along down the line if we are willing to wait.
I have so many bm around me that are so negative and self hating, watching your show gives me hope that there are good bm out there I just might need to change where I live to experience men like you
This is why I respect our grannies coz they knew what they wanted....our generation is all about games that's why she ready and the man ain't.. it's alright...let the man figure out what he wants and she should also take sometime to herself...otherwise...if it's from God it will be...let the man get his own revelation too..otherwise this is why everybody is out here getting backup plans...a man determines whether it's time to marry or not
Perhaps he's not your husband then. A sister in a church I was at said something similar to me but she added this...God if he's the one he need to act like it and sure enough he stepped to her and they've been together ever since. The things/people that he needed to get out of his life he did it without her saying a word to him about it. He brought it up to her.
Don’t waste time on anyone other than who God chooses..! Especially if God has already told you.. if not.. ask for a sign from God.. Cos it will end in heartbreak.. he will continue to throw struggles in the way cos you not meant to be together!! Stay celibate and have faith in Gods plan!! Cos you just delaying the whole process!! SIMPLE !!
I agree with everything Shumake Way said. Just to add on: I would agree that life goes on and that one should date; but of God told you that said person is your husband or wife- date, but DO NOT have sex!!! Date, date, date have fun, travel, graduate, advance in your career, but please do NOT have sex until you and the potential prospect is truly ready to commit. Sex is spiritual and we leave residual aspects of our souls on the other. When we don’t spend enough time between sexual partners, we bring that residual energy into the next partner and it can taint and destroy, or at minimum, significantly delay what God had/s planned for you!! THINK with discernment and not be lead by your emotions/what you think you want. Always ask God to guide you the ways in which HE will have you go in ALL matters. 🙏🏽 PS. I am NOT religious.
God wouldn't reveal a husband that don't want a relationship... that's counterproductive to the whole marriage. What I think is that God showed her signs that he wasn't good for her ... that's why they were on and off. She wanted him to be, so bad that she forced herself to believe that God sent him but he didn't. She should leave him alone and find something new. When god gives you something...then it's for you and nobody else. She got the wrong message.
Lots of people convince themselves that God spoke to them, especially when they want something ( not saying God didn't speak to her) we fool ourselves into 'taking ' what we want, in the name of God. If God told you, then God will tell the other person. Secondly, if you're a genuine child of God, he will not choose a non believer to be your mate. God never contradict himself. I agree with Shumake, don't wait for someone to make up their mind about a relationship with you.js
I do agree she needs to focus on finishing College and her career and getting settled and if God truly told her that she need to just be patient and wait and in the meantime of waiting she needs to be building her relationship with God by developing it by praying fasting and reading the word for example God has been dealing with me for the last 4 years about marriage and I've been running away from it and he told me in the beginning of last year that the man know who I am and I'm like God I don't talk to any man I really stay to myself and my focus is on God but I'm not ready to make that step towards marriage and God knows that so that's why he have not allowed the man to come to me cuz I'm nowhere near ready for it but you giving her good advice she just need to focus on her relationship with God finish school and begin to work on her career and if it is the person that God has chosen for her he may not come until about 4 or 5 years later God can tell you something this year and it won't manifest until years later
I agree with what you’re saying but that’s wher ethe world gets it mixed up… the Bible does not say to date… it says to wait on the Lord for instruction. Dating is the worlds way … unfortunately too many people follow that way bc the stayin single part seems too crazy for most. God doesn’t tell us to test the water or to give our hearts away over and over … no, instead she says seek me first … Matthew 6:33. Take the leading of the Holy Spirit to find the one and takes surrendering to really have that married in the most healed way possible though too… and that’s by just straight waiting. 💯🙏🏼🔥🕊️ It’s better to wait then to date and get hurt or hurt anyone else. God has to be your main relationship first and foremost.
Can you please do a video on self love for women and men. Waiting for your husband/wife no matter the age. I am young but I am willing to wait for my husband . Though I hear so much yapping about once women hit a certain age love and marriage is no longer an option. I beg to differ especially believing in God is supernatural but in this world it kinda makes you really worry.
Is she sure GOD gave that revelation? or is it her that is giving herself this revelation? When we want a person so bad that we interpret the wrong things of what GOD wants for us because we want it so badly for ourselves. IDK
It doesn't sound like the guy that she's dating has had any conversation with her about doing anything permanent.. She sees him as her husband, but has he told her that he wants to work towards marriage? She didn't mention that at all
She has time! I think she’s maybe 22 at the most. Being in a rush is what gets you in trouble. Slow down! It’s better to be older and single than older with a couple babies from a dude that turned out to be your worst nightmare.
Sounds like she needs therapy. Sometimes women feel like a man is the one for them and they are really not. Anxious attachment and codependency, among other issues, lead many to choose wrong or hold out on better options because of a trauma bond with someone who the Most High only sent to teach a lesson and not to be their forever.
I usually agree with Michael but I disagree with him telling her to date when the girl had already said that God told her the guy was her husband, That's like implying that God is wrong. Not only that but if the girl dates anyone else she won't get anywhere with them because they are not the guy. She will only have waited her precious time as well as any guys she attempted to date. Love you, Shumake, but I think you're wrong on this one.
This video just popped up in my feed. I wasn't looking for anything on this is the first time I've seen your channel. So it's crazy! But the situations you described about you and your wife, and when you gave the scenario what could happen if the lady got into a relationship with the new guy. ( Yeah been there lol). Both are just so similar, so I believe this was God because He will tell you something however He wants. The only thing is, I wouldn't recommend her to date anyone if she is absolutely sure if that man is her husband. Because what's the point? That's just a way to handle things yourself because you don't want to be alone. Dating is for a purpose and will always lead to something more good or bad.
Thank you lord for working through this man to help me. God bless you brother : ) May God be with you and your wife. Continue making content the wisdom is real.
Omg come on ladies god does not tell you that. It’s possible but extremely rare. It’s her telling herself that,she wants this man and desires him/marriage. 🤦🏾♀️please stop this ladies god rarely reveals that. If that was the case god would have told the man as well. This is getting ridiculous.
Sorry not true for everyone. I have heard from numerous some of them were told who their spouse was before the man and vice versa. God put Adam to sleep before he revealed eve to him.
Also God told me who my spouse is and right now were friends and I'm living my life and working on my goals. I'm not dating anyone because I want to be my best version of me before I'm ready to get marries
Love is Dead in the Black Community. So, it looks like Come Valentine's Day 2022, It's going to be iLL-legitimate Couples Occupying The Hyatt, Hilton, Marriot, fow Season's. These days everybody's cheating on somebody. No one is innocent. If He ain't married ya by now it's because he's cheating on you. Go see for ya-self.
Sounds like you both had emotional attachments xto_ each other while "dating" other people, wasting their time, & possibly leaving _them_ with emotional damage. 👍🏿😅🤣 You were _definitely_ pining over here, because you "dated" and compared them to her, so?you KNEW you were wasting their time AND tours. However oeolle are too SELFISH to just be alone....& wait for who they really want, and they SHOULD. ESPECIALLY if GOD told them. The collateral damage surely has a reverberation. But go ahead.
I asked God to show me my future husband in my dream he showed me my ex My first lover and ex👀👀👻 what he said in my dream was I'm here😂😂😂😂n disappeared ...that was crazy😂😂
Please don't don't do it, take it from a person that did just that. I knew the person that I tried to date was not the one, but because I was impatient, and wanted what I wanted, I got hurt 🤕. It wasn't God's fault or that person's fault, It was all mine. Because I was given specific instructions, and I disobeyed them. Not because I was trying to be malicious, but because I am human. God doesn't need your help, to do what he said he is going to do. Step out of the way, and rest. So that God can work, as long as you are working, God is going to rest. When you stop working, then God will start working. Here is the key, you have to be sure that is what God told you, or is that what YOU wanted God to tell you.🙏
"or is that what YOU wanted God to tell you" THIS! This spoke to me. Thank you.
@@xmswayzemx you are welcome.
WHEWWW THIS WAS WELLLL SAID 😮💨👏🏽
“God doesn’t need your help to do what he said he is going to do” 👏🏾🤍✨
We really must wait on the Lord & both parties must follow His lead.
“Be open to dating, but dont go out and jump into serious relationships right now, because you just in a space that you want a serious relationship” thats what people really need to take in! Thankyou Shumake
Omg yeesss
@@Afrocreolebombshelle 🙏🏾✨
If I was her I'd stay single and keep it moving. Why settle for the first guy if he's not ready/serious. And even if the second guy is ready/serious, if she doesn't feel the same way then why settle for him either. The desire has to be mutual on both ends.
Please wait on who God has ordained for you a man in the world will take you out of God's will for your life the enemy will send someone to waste your time self mastery 👑👑
I think if that would had been the case God would have told him as well
This is sooooo true I did this and it went so bad
As I always say if you'd love something set it free If it's yours it will come back Especially if God told you it was your wait on the Lord Just keep dating That's where some women and men go wrong And end up marrying the wrong person because They just want to be in a relationship or can't stand to be alone So they settle for anything As a person Instead of waiting on God If you stuck in this situation Love on yourself And date other people Just don't do the wrong thing By getting married allow yourself Date WHILE Waiting on your Person
11:27 - "Don't sit around and put your life on hold for this guy" Applies to all other guys too, if you hear me.
The Almighty does things in DECENCY AND IN ORDER. He'll never tell you one thing and tell that man something different..
I can't say what God told her or not. However, I know from scripture that He would not tell her that, without revealing it to the man as well. His revelation may come a little later as it did with Mary and Joseph, but He would definitely reveal that to the man if he intends for them to be a couple. Either way, I would not sit around waiting for anybody. She should continue with her education, career and the other things that God has put in her to do. We all have specific things we are on this earth to complete, she needs to focus on that. Who's to say that when this guy is ready for a relationship that he is going to choose her? It's a hard pill to swallow, but it happens all the time. God forbid he passes away, or what she thought was God was really her own desires and it never comes to pass.
Hopefully she will not put her life on hold, especially being so young. Nor allow herself to be toyed with and time wasted. The fact that they have already been dating on and off is a red flag to me. God often has something better farther along down the line if we are willing to wait.
8:05 - "We *never* wait on *anybody"* FACTS
I have so many bm around me that are so negative and self hating, watching your show gives me hope that there are good bm out there I just might need to change where I live to experience men like you
Change your circle👍
This is why I respect our grannies coz they knew what they wanted....our generation is all about games that's why she ready and the man ain't.. it's alright...let the man figure out what he wants and she should also take sometime to herself...otherwise...if it's from God it will be...let the man get his own revelation too..otherwise this is why everybody is out here getting backup plans...a man determines whether it's time to marry or not
Perhaps he's not your husband then. A sister in a church I was at said something similar to me but she added this...God if he's the one he need to act like it and sure enough he stepped to her and they've been together ever since. The things/people that he needed to get out of his life he did it without her saying a word to him about it. He brought it up to her.
Exactly it has to be mutual if it from God no games
That may be true but I rely on Gods divine timing✌
Don’t waste time on anyone other than who God chooses..!
Especially if God has already told you.. if not.. ask for a sign from God..
Cos it will end in heartbreak..
he will continue to throw struggles in the way cos you not meant to be together!!
Stay celibate and have faith in Gods plan!! Cos you just delaying the whole process!!
SIMPLE !!
I agree with everything Shumake Way said.
Just to add on: I would agree that life goes on and that one should date; but of God told you that said person is your husband or wife- date, but DO NOT have sex!!! Date, date, date have fun, travel, graduate, advance in your career, but please do NOT have sex until you and the potential prospect is truly ready to commit.
Sex is spiritual and we leave residual aspects of our souls on the other. When we don’t spend enough time between sexual partners, we bring that residual energy into the next partner and it can taint and destroy, or at minimum, significantly delay what God had/s planned for you!! THINK with discernment and not be lead by your emotions/what you think you want. Always ask God to guide you the ways in which HE will have you go in ALL matters. 🙏🏽
PS. I am NOT religious.
God wouldn't reveal a husband that don't want a relationship... that's counterproductive to the whole marriage. What I think is that God showed her signs that he wasn't good for her ... that's why they were on and off. She wanted him to be, so bad that she forced herself to believe that God sent him but he didn't. She should leave him alone and find something new. When god gives you something...then it's for you and nobody else. She got the wrong message.
Lots of people convince themselves that God spoke to them, especially when they want something ( not saying God didn't speak to her) we fool ourselves into 'taking ' what we want, in the name of God. If God told you, then God will tell the other person.
Secondly, if you're a genuine child of God, he will not choose a non believer to be your mate. God never contradict himself.
I agree with Shumake, don't wait for someone to make up their mind about a relationship with you.js
EXACTLY if God said it He will tell the other person as well it can't be one sided if God had spoken
She should wait on GOD PERIODT !!!!
I think when the message from God aint mutual it can't be God
Dude isn’t ready. Keep stepping right over him and look elsewhere.
She needs to ask God once again for confirmation. The Lord won’t leave her wrong
Go where u are loved.
I do agree she needs to focus on finishing College and her career and getting settled and if God truly told her that she need to just be patient and wait and in the meantime of waiting she needs to be building her relationship with God by developing it by praying fasting and reading the word for example God has been dealing with me for the last 4 years about marriage and I've been running away from it and he told me in the beginning of last year that the man know who I am and I'm like God I don't talk to any man I really stay to myself and my focus is on God but I'm not ready to make that step towards marriage and God knows that so that's why he have not allowed the man to come to me cuz I'm nowhere near ready for it but you giving her good advice she just need to focus on her relationship with God finish school and begin to work on her career and if it is the person that God has chosen for her he may not come until about 4 or 5 years later God can tell you something this year and it won't manifest until years later
I agree with what you’re saying but that’s wher ethe world gets it mixed up… the Bible does not say to date… it says to wait on the Lord for instruction. Dating is the worlds way … unfortunately too many people follow that way bc the stayin single part seems too crazy for most. God doesn’t tell us to test the water or to give our hearts away over and over … no, instead she says seek me first … Matthew 6:33. Take the leading of the Holy Spirit to find the one and takes surrendering to really have that married in the most healed way possible though too… and that’s by just straight waiting. 💯🙏🏼🔥🕊️ It’s better to wait then to date and get hurt or hurt anyone else. God has to be your main relationship first and foremost.
Can you please do a video on self love for women and men. Waiting for your husband/wife no matter the age. I am young but I am willing to wait for my husband . Though I hear so much yapping about once women hit a certain age love and marriage is no longer an option. I beg to differ especially believing in God is supernatural but in this world it kinda makes you really worry.
God ain’t tell her that, she told herself that
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God is not the author of confusion; also, from a biblical perspective, a man finds a wife, not the other way around.
Precisely. She may want disregard both guys, and look behind Door #3 instead.
Is she sure GOD gave that revelation? or is it her that is giving herself this revelation? When we want a person so bad that we interpret the wrong things of what GOD wants for us because we want it so badly for ourselves. IDK
Not my situation but I needed to hear this. Thank you.
It doesn't sound like the guy that she's dating has had any conversation with her about doing anything permanent.. She sees him as her husband, but has he told her that he wants to work towards marriage? She didn't mention that at all
But as a woman, we don’t have as much time as men do. She can’t wait forever especially if she wants to be married and have kids.
She has time! I think she’s maybe 22 at the most. Being in a rush is what gets you in trouble. Slow down! It’s better to be older and single than older with a couple babies from a dude that turned out to be your worst nightmare.
@@TheShumakeWay Thank You Sir.
Girl people are having babies healthy in their 50s now what’s meant for you will be for you also travel maybe your husband is in a different state ❤
@@GHO5tMod3 That’s extreme, dangerous & extremely rare.
Sounds like she needs therapy. Sometimes women feel like a man is the one for them and they are really not. Anxious attachment and codependency, among other issues, lead many to choose wrong or hold out on better options because of a trauma bond with someone who the Most High only sent to teach a lesson and not to be their forever.
Hey! Do you sell the sweatshirt you're wearing?
I usually agree with Michael but I disagree with him telling her to date when the girl had already said that God told her the guy was her husband,
That's like implying that God is wrong.
Not only that but if the girl dates anyone else she won't get anywhere with them because they are not the guy.
She will only have waited her precious time as well as any guys she attempted to date.
Love you, Shumake, but I think you're wrong on this one.
I believe that if she got the message the guy would have gotten it too fom God otherwise it can't be from God.
This video just popped up in my feed. I wasn't looking for anything on this is the first time I've seen your channel. So it's crazy! But the situations you described about you and your wife, and when you gave the scenario what could happen if the lady got into a relationship with the new guy. ( Yeah been there lol). Both are just so similar, so I believe this was God because He will tell you something however He wants. The only thing is, I wouldn't recommend her to date anyone if she is absolutely sure if that man is her husband. Because what's the point? That's just a way to handle things yourself because you don't want to be alone. Dating is for a purpose and will always lead to something more good or bad.
This was so good Shumake! And so relatable.
Wow you have a similar story to me and the man God told would be my spouse. I'm going to be emailing you tomorrow to ask you some questions
I love your merch! That hoodie is nice 👍🏻
I think when God tells you that God tell the other person as well it cannot be one sided.Otherwise it cant be God.
No one story is the same with same outcomes just make sure you really ask God and it's him talking back
Thank you lord for working through this man to help me. God bless you brother : ) May God be with you and your wife. Continue making content the wisdom is real.
Omg come on ladies god does not tell you that. It’s possible but extremely rare. It’s her telling herself that,she wants this man and desires him/marriage. 🤦🏾♀️please stop this ladies god rarely reveals that. If that was the case god would have told the man as well. This is getting ridiculous.
Sorry not true for everyone. I have heard from numerous some of them were told who their spouse was before the man and vice versa. God put Adam to sleep before he revealed eve to him.
Also God told me who my spouse is and right now were friends and I'm living my life and working on my goals. I'm not dating anyone because I want to be my best version of me before I'm ready to get marries
God can tell you
Just cause you don't believe doesn't make it untrue
Hi, please help me to understand this. God revealed who my husband is 10 years ago but last marry someone else. What do I do now?
Love is Dead in the Black Community. So, it looks like Come Valentine's Day 2022, It's going to be iLL-legitimate Couples Occupying The Hyatt, Hilton, Marriot, fow Season's. These days everybody's cheating on somebody. No one is innocent. If He ain't married ya by now it's because he's cheating on you. Go see for ya-self.
Even if he is married to you , he could still be cheating 🤷🏽♀️
Sounds like you both had emotional attachments xto_ each other while "dating" other people, wasting their time, & possibly leaving _them_ with emotional damage. 👍🏿😅🤣
You were _definitely_ pining over here, because you "dated" and compared them to her, so?you KNEW you were wasting their time AND tours. However oeolle are too SELFISH to just be alone....& wait for who they really want, and they SHOULD.
ESPECIALLY if GOD told them.
The collateral damage surely has a reverberation. But go ahead.
The devil plays w us, if these men aren't giving u a ring n commting to a wedding date, naw, u got nothing guy
Real sound advice...👏👍🙏💐😊💖👑
My story is soooo similar & this is such great advice
Great video!
Why did this pop up today of all days? This title? 😩 Shit is craaaazy.
Hello Friend
I asked God to show me my future husband in my dream he showed me my ex
My first lover and ex👀👀👻 what he said in my dream was I'm here😂😂😂😂n disappeared ...that was crazy😂😂
Ask in your head dont ask outloud .. cause the devil can hear and give confirmations to 🎀
Whew!
More stalling.
I see.