40+5 today and I can’t believe I didn’t know about this before! Thank goodness baby is overdue because I have at least a few hours to read all about this!!
@@stfuporfavor9102 we have a 7 week old who wees after every nap and is dry during the night! We do use nappies when we’re out or in the car but we find he’ll often wait till over a potty! Can’t believe how easy it was/is to do
I’ve always thought that ppl generally don’t use the word or even think of the word ‘respect ’ in relation to children & babies; so it was very refreshing to *hear you mention that a few times.
I like it when mothers teach babies how to sign language too before they’re able to talk, it actually helps them to learn how to communicate earlier in their lives. Sign language could also help babies to understand how to go potty in a can.
Yeah! I love hearing this. I wasn't sure if I wanted to do this, and we ended up not doing it and using verbal cues instead or pointing or tapping the potty. I cover this in later updates. Our baby seemed to be quick to communicate verbally and therefore we didn't regret not using baby sign language (she started saying "psss" or "pou", but if things were different maybe we would have regretted not doing it. I'd love to hear more parents' views and experiences with this.
This is SO refreshing and stimulating, thank you for such a beautiful video ! Quick question : how do you manage times when for example the grandmother comes in to babysit for few hours ? Or once the baby goes to daycare ?
I wish I had known this with my first child. I’m in my first trimester now and I love this idea. It seems like such a great way to teach the little one to express themselves and their needs.
Thanks for these tips! Will add in trying different facing options, we tried from day 3 and were flabbergasted how easy it was to catch something and two weeks in we are still loving it!!
I am pregnant and would like to try this with our son once he's born. I am just wondering if you could comment about clean up? I was thinking of getting a hose to attach to the bath tub faucet and wash it off over the toilet. I'm worried it would be unhygienic to clean it in the sink? If you bring the potty with you when you are outside how do you clean it after? Also besides the towel do you also use disposable wipes to clean her up after?
Exciting and congratulations! Breastfed poop is very easy to clean. We have a bidet, but I didn't use it to clean the newborn potty. The newborn potty I would just run water from our basin faucet and pour the contents into the toilet. Every couple of days or when I thought necessary I would wash the whole potty with some all purpose cleaner and a cloth. I don't find it unhygienic to use the sink, but I do pour the content into the toilet and not into the sink. I recommend pouring the contents out very soon afterwards before it has a chance to dry, because if it is dry it might be slightly less easy to get the potty clean with just faucet water and pouring it out. When out - We do the same as above if there is a public bathroom. Run water into the newborn potty swirl it around and pour contents into toilet. If there isn't a bathroom around - use a compostable wet wipe (but most times there was a bathroom - I don't remember needing to do this) At home I use cloth wipes to wipe (she didn't like cold wipes and it was important to me that potty time be a nice time). I would prep them and put them in a wipe warmer. Out and about I used compostable wet wipes to wipe Elba clean or cloth wipes with a spray bottle. When she goes in the potty there is very little to wipe clean which makes it quite easy.
Wonderful video!!! I have a lot of confidence that my husband and i can do this! I am 5 months pregnant and I’ve always wanted to go diaper free. I am just wondering if you have any advice on going out in public and the baby staying with relatives - i am more comfortable right now with using disposable diapers because of convenience and comfort level of others (relatives). However, I don’t want to confuse the baby, so I’m wondering if you or the book you referenced has any info on this
How exciting! Out in public - I might make a separate video on. I speak about it a bit in my other videos. I have a spare potty I keep in the car and I do offer potty in the car and when we are out and about. If the weather is nice - I'll just offer outside on a nice grass area. If it's cold - I find somewhere warm inside that isn't too busy. I have only offered potty in public bathrooms a hand full of times. I stopped because the dryer noises scared Elba. I can't share much on personal experience with baby staying with relatives because I've not been away from Elba. But when my mom visits us and is with Elba she offers potty like we do (we didn't ask her to. She just did it because that's what we do & she saw how and when we do it). In the book she does covers this topic. You can choose to part time EC or make requests of the people caring for your baby to offer potty and explain to them how to do it. Random thing on the cloth diaper front - Having done cloth for over a year now the only "inconvenience" really is washing them. And if your baby is staying with relatives, they can just put the diapers in a container for you to wash and in that way it isn't an inconvenience for them. I think baby becoming confused/receiving mixed messages might depend on baby and/or their age. For example, maybe your baby comes to know that at home you potty but when at another house you don't. An experience I can share - when Elba was about 10 months old I was ready to move to diaper free during the day at home and was about to order tiny undies/ trainers. We got a cold snap and our furnace had issues for 2-3 days. In that time I didn't offer as much because it was cold. Those few days did result in Elba not waiting for potty and it took a while before I felt we were ready again for no diapers at home. I have found that when she was older (not newborn) it became more important to be consistent, because any time we weren't our mixed messages did seem to confuse her (but this could be baby and/or age specific). That all being said. Even if I could only part time EC, I would still do it. Hope this information is helpful. Exciting times ahead for you!
I started at 2 months old and just within 3 or 4 days she is pooping 90% in the potty. Pee is more difficult since she does it so often hahaha but at least the poops are going in the potty which is amazing. She also has started to wait after waking up until I put her on the potty 😳 at least it seems to me so, because she used to wake up and poop in the diaper before I could pick her up. But now she wakes up and I take her and put on the potty and she immediately poops.
Best video I've found on EC so thankyou! Question, how do you prevent mess (pee/poop) from dripping after you take the baby off the potty? How do you position him to clean him up? Do you just lay him down on his back and wipe like you normally would? For some reason I thought you would have a different way of doing it, an easier way lol.
For newborn I would just lay baby on what I call a "bum towel" (a flat diaper or a cut up towel that I used for removing diaper, wiping after potty and putting diaper back on). As she got older, I could ask her to stand over the potty holding my shoulders and wipe while she stands. But often it is still easier to lie her down on a bum towel of sorts. With going in the potty there is thankfully very little wiping that needs to be done, so it's quick and not very messy.
Maybe one day if I have a son, I will make one :) But from my reading it is very similar expect you position p down with your finger so as to not have urine spill from the potty.
In your experience, how often a 6 month old will need to go potty? I’d be happy to hear more about your « cave » time. Thanks for the video, it’s really helpful
Hi there. My first 40 days video (cave time) has been uploaded :) When Elba was 6 months she would wee many times in a day. At least once after each feed. Poop change - As a newborn it was like 7 times a day, but around 6 months it was most often once a day.
Great video!! Thank you. Im wondering how many diaper you went through? Although you still changed the diaper and kept her dry, do you think you still saved a number of diaper changes by doing EC? Were there times where you offer the toilet and the diaper was still clean so you just put it back on?
Hi there - yes. So many times, where I would simply put the same clean diaper back on. We used cloth diapers so the actual number of dirty diapers doing EC was much less than if we didn't do EC, but there are more "changes" (taking clothes off and offering) because of the choice to offer potty during transitions or when it seems like she needs to go or if she went. People not doing EC may not immediately change or change as often. Where I did as part of the process. So initially it is more effort, but it becomes less and less because of that initial "investment". Elba is now 20 months old and her last poop in a diaper was around 8 months (and it was in the car because I couldn't pull over on the highway). She currently only wears a diaper for nighttime sleep. So over time it becomes less and less dirty diapers.
@@carmenfourie5346 amazing! Thanks so much for the reply. Last poopy diaper at 8 months?!? Amazing. My husband is on board with EC and cloth diapering, but I’m doing the research on this one so I’m just trying to set our expectations. We both mostly work from home so I’m excited to give this a go. All the best 🤗
My son is due really soon and I really wanted to try this with him. Do you have any tips or advice to safely potty train him without hurting him if he has been circumcised? Thank you for this very helpful video!
Exciting that you are due soon! I don't have personal experience with EC with a boy or with circumcision. I would assume touching the area as little as possible until it is fully healed and that it might be best to hold him in the shower or bath so that the wee can spray without messing and then you don't need to push on the area that is healing. Or just hold off on potting until it is fully healed.
Hello! I cover this a bit in my latest EC update video that will be live on Monday, but maybe it would be best if I did a separate tips video about EC out and about.
Again I ask: what are your expectations? A baby cannot learn independent toileting until he can walk. A newborn is never going to be able to help himself potty. What is your expected goal for the baby?
Feel free to check out my other videos where I emphasize the point is not to be diaper free by a particular point. I cover many of the reasons why this, to me, is a respectful parenting approach. The point is enhanced connection & communication with your child. The point is - not to have a stark contrast of essentially encouraging or allowing them to pee or poop in a diaper and then changing this to a toilet, but rather have a gentle transition of what is age/developmentally appropriate. It definitely does lessen the number of diapers which is a nice benefit, but not really the main point. It also isn't about expecting them to independently toilet, it's awesome to have them toilet/potty with help of a parent and when they're able to go on their own then they do. But like with food and other needs we help and facilitate until they can do things on their own. I understand without a deeper understanding this may seem odd to do and maybe there is a resistance because it's contrary to the norm - so I encourage anyone who is curious to take the time to learn more about the theory of EC, because I don't want to cover the depth of it in a YT comment nor do I feel the need to convince anyone of its value. Hope that is helpful. This video is for people who want to do EC or want to learn about it, not to convince people to do it.
We are doing EC since day 3. It works well, but now she starts to ask to put her on the potty at nighttime. She feels good- eating half awake and in about 40-60min. "wiggling" for potty. For me it means 2x to wake up, and for potty for real 😅 How did you manage it with time? She is now 7 weeks
I did wake up and offer potty at night during the newborn phase and then after about 3 months our baby no longer woke to go potty (and she's 16 months now and still doesn't wake anymore in the night for potty). She will wake up early morning for poop and wake me to offer potty, but not during the night. I am curious if the experience is similar for you and if your baby also stops doing it after a few weeks.
So good to be aware of this! Thanks for your comment. In our experience - she was always well supported and not really sitting and we never put her spine into an unnatural position (as in maintained the curve). *during the newborn phase. As her body became stronger we supported less and less.
I'd recommend staying consistent with offering potty at times they may typically go. Make a sound that prompts them (they will likely learn to make that sound back to you) and just keep observing your baby to see how they communicate with you. :) And also no stress if your baby has communication that isn't very obvious.
Yeah maybe this is a great thing for people who want to save on diapers and/or laundry (cloth diapers), but the point is not for a newborn to use the toilet. I'll respond to your other comment about the point, but I do believe there is a lot of value for a baby when their parent is attempting to enhance communication and understanding to meet their needs, I think there is a lot of benefit to not sitting in their waste in a diaper and to have even a few of their outputs be into something and not a diaper. And to be diaper free a lot.
Esto es ridículo recién nacido comprende del.dia del nacimiento a 30 días de vida. No existe el depends that you undestand that is the reason why the world is so crazy now. 😒
My understanding is different countries have different definitions of what the "newborn" time is. But I appreciate knowing that it is 30 days from your perspective.
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40+5 today and I can’t believe I didn’t know about this before! Thank goodness baby is overdue because I have at least a few hours to read all about this!!
How exciting! Elba came at 40 + 6. Those days after 40 weeks I did my most baby reading 😂
Can I ask how it worked for you? Just genuinely wondering because I've never heard about it either until just recently.
@@stfuporfavor9102 we have a 7 week old who wees after every nap and is dry during the night! We do use nappies when we’re out or in the car but we find he’ll often wait till over a potty! Can’t believe how easy it was/is to do
How is EC going for you now Becky?
Can I do EC , my baby is 100 days old
Thanks for the time and effort to explain..its the first video that has given enough detail to prepare for the realities of the EC journey 🙏❤️
I am so glad to hear that! Wishing you all the best with your EC journey - what a beautiful journey to embark on with your baby :)
I’ve always thought that ppl generally don’t use the word or even think of the word ‘respect ’ in relation to children & babies; so it was very refreshing to *hear you mention that a few times.
I am glad you think so and yes - respect towards our daughter is so important to us.
I like it when mothers teach babies how to sign language too before they’re able to talk, it actually helps them to learn how to communicate earlier in their lives. Sign language could also help babies to understand how to go potty in a can.
Yeah! I love hearing this. I wasn't sure if I wanted to do this, and we ended up not doing it and using verbal cues instead or pointing or tapping the potty. I cover this in later updates.
Our baby seemed to be quick to communicate verbally and therefore we didn't regret not using baby sign language (she started saying "psss" or "pou", but if things were different maybe we would have regretted not doing it.
I'd love to hear more parents' views and experiences with this.
@@carmenfourie5346 ❤️❤️
This is SO refreshing and stimulating, thank you for such a beautiful video ! Quick question : how do you manage times when for example the grandmother comes in to babysit for few hours ? Or once the baby goes to daycare ?
Great question!!
From what I've read, it's totally fine to do EC part time, and use nappies/diapers for those times when someone else is looking after them etc. 😊
Thank you for sharing! I tried it immediately, and it works right away! 24 days old boy.
Amazing!
Those baby noises are so precious❤ she’s so vocal and communicative. Soooo Cute!!! I was smiling this whole video 🥰🥰🥰
I wish I had known this with my first child. I’m in my first trimester now and I love this idea. It seems like such a great way to teach the little one to express themselves and their needs.
💜💜💜💜💜💜
I love that you know now and if you choose to implement it, I'd love to hear your experience with it. Congratulations!
@@carmenfourie5346 of course, it’s sweet of you to ask me to keep you posted. 🤗
Thanks for the great info 🥰
Thanks for these tips! Will add in trying different facing options, we tried from day 3 and were flabbergasted how easy it was to catch something and two weeks in we are still loving it!!
Amazing!!
The way she looks at you 😍
I am pregnant and would like to try this with our son once he's born. I am just wondering if you could comment about clean up? I was thinking of getting a hose to attach to the bath tub faucet and wash it off over the toilet. I'm worried it would be unhygienic to clean it in the sink? If you bring the potty with you when you are outside how do you clean it after? Also besides the towel do you also use disposable wipes to clean her up after?
Exciting and congratulations!
Breastfed poop is very easy to clean. We have a bidet, but I didn't use it to clean the newborn potty. The newborn potty I would just run water from our basin faucet and pour the contents into the toilet. Every couple of days or when I thought necessary I would wash the whole potty with some all purpose cleaner and a cloth.
I don't find it unhygienic to use the sink, but I do pour the content into the toilet and not into the sink.
I recommend pouring the contents out very soon afterwards before it has a chance to dry, because if it is dry it might be slightly less easy to get the potty clean with just faucet water and pouring it out.
When out - We do the same as above if there is a public bathroom. Run water into the newborn potty swirl it around and pour contents into toilet. If there isn't a bathroom around - use a compostable wet wipe (but most times there was a bathroom - I don't remember needing to do this)
At home I use cloth wipes to wipe (she didn't like cold wipes and it was important to me that potty time be a nice time). I would prep them and put them in a wipe warmer. Out and about I used compostable wet wipes to wipe Elba clean or cloth wipes with a spray bottle. When she goes in the potty there is very little to wipe clean which makes it quite easy.
I’ve also heard you can use a hose attachment onto the toilet, and spray the potty contents directly into the toilet!
Wonderful video!!! I have a lot of confidence that my husband and i can do this! I am 5 months pregnant and I’ve always wanted to go diaper free. I am just wondering if you have any advice on going out in public and the baby staying with relatives - i am more comfortable right now with using disposable diapers because of convenience and comfort level of others (relatives). However, I don’t want to confuse the baby, so I’m wondering if you or the book you referenced has any info on this
How exciting!
Out in public - I might make a separate video on. I speak about it a bit in my other videos. I have a spare potty I keep in the car and I do offer potty in the car and when we are out and about. If the weather is nice - I'll just offer outside on a nice grass area. If it's cold - I find somewhere warm inside that isn't too busy. I have only offered potty in public bathrooms a hand full of times. I stopped because the dryer noises scared Elba.
I can't share much on personal experience with baby staying with relatives because I've not been away from Elba. But when my mom visits us and is with Elba she offers potty like we do (we didn't ask her to. She just did it because that's what we do & she saw how and when we do it).
In the book she does covers this topic. You can choose to part time EC or make requests of the people caring for your baby to offer potty and explain to them how to do it.
Random thing on the cloth diaper front - Having done cloth for over a year now the only "inconvenience" really is washing them. And if your baby is staying with relatives, they can just put the diapers in a container for you to wash and in that way it isn't an inconvenience for them.
I think baby becoming confused/receiving mixed messages might depend on baby and/or their age. For example, maybe your baby comes to know that at home you potty but when at another house you don't.
An experience I can share - when Elba was about 10 months old I was ready to move to diaper free during the day at home and was about to order tiny undies/ trainers. We got a cold snap and our furnace had issues for 2-3 days. In that time I didn't offer as much because it was cold. Those few days did result in Elba not waiting for potty and it took a while before I felt we were ready again for no diapers at home. I have found that when she was older (not newborn) it became more important to be consistent, because any time we weren't our mixed messages did seem to confuse her (but this could be baby and/or age specific).
That all being said. Even if I could only part time EC, I would still do it.
Hope this information is helpful.
Exciting times ahead for you!
I started at 2 months old and just within 3 or 4 days she is pooping 90% in the potty. Pee is more difficult since she does it so often hahaha but at least the poops are going in the potty which is amazing. She also has started to wait after waking up until I put her on the potty 😳 at least it seems to me so, because she used to wake up and poop in the diaper before I could pick her up. But now she wakes up and I take her and put on the potty and she immediately poops.
Thats awesome, thanks for sharing!
Best video I've found on EC so thankyou! Question, how do you prevent mess (pee/poop) from dripping after you take the baby off the potty? How do you position him to clean him up? Do you just lay him down on his back and wipe like you normally would? For some reason I thought you would have a different way of doing it, an easier way lol.
For newborn I would just lay baby on what I call a "bum towel" (a flat diaper or a cut up towel that I used for removing diaper, wiping after potty and putting diaper back on). As she got older, I could ask her to stand over the potty holding my shoulders and wipe while she stands. But often it is still easier to lie her down on a bum towel of sorts. With going in the potty there is thankfully very little wiping that needs to be done, so it's quick and not very messy.
Very useful video! Thanks
I am glad to hear!
Need video on EC with boy baby.
Maybe one day if I have a son, I will make one :) But from my reading it is very similar expect you position p down with your finger so as to not have urine spill from the potty.
In your experience, how often a 6 month old will need to go potty? I’d be happy to hear more about your « cave » time. Thanks for the video, it’s really helpful
Hi there. My first 40 days video (cave time) has been uploaded :)
When Elba was 6 months she would wee many times in a day. At least once after each feed. Poop change - As a newborn it was like 7 times a day, but around 6 months it was most often once a day.
Great video!! Thank you. Im wondering how many diaper you went through? Although you still changed the diaper and kept her dry, do you think you still saved a number of diaper changes by doing EC? Were there times where you offer the toilet and the diaper was still clean so you just put it back on?
Hi there - yes. So many times, where I would simply put the same clean diaper back on. We used cloth diapers so the actual number of dirty diapers doing EC was much less than if we didn't do EC, but there are more "changes" (taking clothes off and offering) because of the choice to offer potty during transitions or when it seems like she needs to go or if she went. People not doing EC may not immediately change or change as often. Where I did as part of the process. So initially it is more effort, but it becomes less and less because of that initial "investment". Elba is now 20 months old and her last poop in a diaper was around 8 months (and it was in the car because I couldn't pull over on the highway). She currently only wears a diaper for nighttime sleep. So over time it becomes less and less dirty diapers.
@@carmenfourie5346 amazing! Thanks so much for the reply. Last poopy diaper at 8 months?!? Amazing. My husband is on board with EC and cloth diapering, but I’m doing the research on this one so I’m just trying to set our expectations. We both mostly work from home so I’m excited to give this a go. All the best 🤗
My son is due really soon and I really wanted to try this with him. Do you have any tips or advice to safely potty train him without hurting him if he has been circumcised? Thank you for this very helpful video!
Exciting that you are due soon!
I don't have personal experience with EC with a boy or with circumcision. I would assume touching the area as little as possible until it is fully healed and that it might be best to hold him in the shower or bath so that the wee can spray without messing and then you don't need to push on the area that is healing.
Or just hold off on potting until it is fully healed.
How is it going?
Thank you so much for this. Do you have tips for traveling with the potty? How to use it when your out and about or in the car?
Hello! I cover this a bit in my latest EC update video that will be live on Monday, but maybe it would be best if I did a separate tips video about EC out and about.
what are the timings whitin the day when u let the baby on the potty?
especially if u start it as early as days old or weeks old
During the newborn phase babies sleep a lot, so most of the potty offering was immediately after a nap or after breastfeeding.
Thank you! Going to try this!
Again I ask: what are your expectations? A baby cannot learn independent toileting until he can walk. A newborn is never going to be able to help himself potty. What is your expected goal for the baby?
Feel free to check out my other videos where I emphasize the point is not to be diaper free by a particular point. I cover many of the reasons why this, to me, is a respectful parenting approach. The point is enhanced connection & communication with your child. The point is - not to have a stark contrast of essentially encouraging or allowing them to pee or poop in a diaper and then changing this to a toilet, but rather have a gentle transition of what is age/developmentally appropriate. It definitely does lessen the number of diapers which is a nice benefit, but not really the main point. It also isn't about expecting them to independently toilet, it's awesome to have them toilet/potty with help of a parent and when they're able to go on their own then they do. But like with food and other needs we help and facilitate until they can do things on their own.
I understand without a deeper understanding this may seem odd to do and maybe there is a resistance because it's contrary to the norm - so I encourage anyone who is curious to take the time to learn more about the theory of EC, because I don't want to cover the depth of it in a YT comment nor do I feel the need to convince anyone of its value.
Hope that is helpful. This video is for people who want to do EC or want to learn about it, not to convince people to do it.
Will this still work if I have her in daycare and they don’t continue it while she is in someone else’s care?
I don't have personal experience with this, but I assume it will and it does feature in the book.
We are doing EC since day 3. It works well, but now she starts to ask to put her on the potty at nighttime. She feels good- eating half awake and in about 40-60min. "wiggling" for potty. For me it means 2x to wake up, and for potty for real 😅 How did you manage it with time? She is now 7 weeks
I did wake up and offer potty at night during the newborn phase and then after about 3 months our baby no longer woke to go potty (and she's 16 months now and still doesn't wake anymore in the night for potty). She will wake up early morning for poop and wake me to offer potty, but not during the night.
I am curious if the experience is similar for you and if your baby also stops doing it after a few weeks.
Doesn't this cause issue with their spine sitting up so young?
So good to be aware of this! Thanks for your comment.
In our experience - she was always well supported and not really sitting and we never put her spine into an unnatural position (as in maintained the curve).
*during the newborn phase.
As her body became stronger we supported less and less.
I appreciate this comment for us all to be aware of how we hold and support baby over the potty. 🤍
Mam my baby will do potty often and often and does not show any behaviour plz tell me what to do
I'd recommend staying consistent with offering potty at times they may typically go. Make a sound that prompts them (they will likely learn to make that sound back to you) and just keep observing your baby to see how they communicate with you. :) And also no stress if your baby has communication that isn't very obvious.
Poteeeee poteeeee poteeeee
It’s cute 😊
Maybe this is for people who cant afford to pay for diapers? I really dont see how it helps a baby. They cannot learn to use a toilet at this age.
Yeah maybe this is a great thing for people who want to save on diapers and/or laundry (cloth diapers), but the point is not for a newborn to use the toilet. I'll respond to your other comment about the point, but I do believe there is a lot of value for a baby when their parent is attempting to enhance communication and understanding to meet their needs, I think there is a lot of benefit to not sitting in their waste in a diaper and to have even a few of their outputs be into something and not a diaper. And to be diaper free a lot.
Try the tummy massage potty training method
Esto es ridículo recién nacido comprende del.dia del nacimiento a 30 días de vida. No existe el depends that you undestand that is the reason why the world is so crazy now. 😒
My understanding is different countries have different definitions of what the "newborn" time is. But I appreciate knowing that it is 30 days from your perspective.
@@carmenfourie5346 I am a doctor is like that in all countries. ridiculous