Exactly what I’m going through living in the country in MS. It’s hard to find people I actually click with on a personal level, so I’ve been isolating and drinking heavily. It’s hell, feel like I can’t even think straight cause my heavy drinking. But everything u said hits the nail on the head for my situation. I’m horrible at social speaking and sharing my feelings with people. Feel like the drinking or drugging relates heavily to stress in a person’s lives. My biggest problem I’ve had really bad experiences in my life with myself and family. Just living in a dysfunctional house puts a-lot of stress on me mentally. Usually I do good once I have built up clean time, just can’t fall for that first drink on it all goes out the window. Here I just had 7 months clean from alcohol last year and stress from this new welding job, I quit due to lower back problems and it being alittle too far. I like that Aprilia. I ride sport bikes as well, had a gsxr 1000 and a R6 was good therapy. I’m currently detoxing off drinking is a nightmare.
Good shit, thanks for sharing. I'll add to it: I used to be addicted to heroin for 10 years or so. One day I just decided to quit, so I did--cold turkey. I had to literally cut off every single person I knew (except my immediate family, of course). All of my friends were toxic and detrimental to my sobriety, so I had to leave them behind. Idle time is your #1 enemy. You have to have a reason for quitting in the first place, something you can cling onto and never look back. You have to quit because you want to quit, not because other people want you to quit. I prayed to God as I hit an absolute rock bottom, and begged Him to give me something to fight for so I could leave that life behind. Next thing you know... I bootstrapped a startup, and i worked my ass off on it. Literally putting in 36-48hr days multiple days/week. I'm basically retired now at 38. The company is still going strong. It took me over 3-4 months just to come up with the name of the company. I had a whiteboard and went HAM on the business plan, the entire business model, etc. I became obsessed. I disagree with people that "count the days" of their sobriety. It's like you're subconsciously not able to let go. I couldn't tell you when I quit, but it was some time around 2014 lol. I have no desire to ever do that shit again. Anyway, the loneliness factor you're describing is basically a symptom of idle time. Keep yourself busy, pick up new hobbies, and be careful with the new people you meet. Virtually every new acquaintance I'd meet started out cool, then I'd eventually learn they were either drug dealers or were doing drugs to an excessive degree. No bueno. You always want to stay tf away from any sort of clubbing or party scene as that's a recipe for disaster and you'll relapse with the quickess. I never went to rehab, never relapsed, etc, because I made my mind up the day I quit. I was tired of being a slave to the drug, my entire life revolved around getting high and waiting in parking lots for hours. The repeat cycle, downward spiral into oblivion was insane. I was stuck in a loop that gradually got worse as time progressed. I was a highly "functional addict" and hardly anyone knew about my addiction. Like you mentioned, another reason is people don't want to deal with the emotions that begin to bubble up to the surface once you become sober. You can no longer hide from them, you can't bury and suppress them by your substance of choice. Depending on people's life experience, this can be difficult to deal with initially. This is why you need to keep yourself busy. Find some heavy interests and passions and submerge yourself in them. You'll eventually replace your destructive habits with more productive ones over time. I disagree with the entire AA philosophy and that's how a lot of drug addicts network with each other, same with rehab places. I know from seeing many of my friends go in and out of those places for years, only to have a larger network of contacts than they had prior to entering rehab. My ex gf was on Suboxone for years and years. It just replaced heroin for her. Saw the same thing with people getting methadone. They are taken advantage of and gaslit by Big Pharma thinking that they're getting sober when in reality they're replacing a street drug with a pharmaceutical grade, synthetic variant of opioids. Most of us started on OxyContin anyway. If you truly want to be sober, it's as simple as just deciding to quit, but, again, you need something to fight for, you need a reason as to why you're quitting.
@@hodlwise2470 I appreciate you taking the time to watch my video and leave your comment. You obviously know what you’re talking about and I agree with your points. I’m proud of you man 👊🏼 keep it up
@@The_Man_Welding You as well, man. It's not easy to leave a lifestyle of addiction. Takes a lot of will power. Unfortunately, a lot of people get trapped into the world of addiction. I'm proud of you for kicking your habit(s) and wish nothing but the best for you. I'm about to buy an Aprilia RS660 as my first bike, too. It's how I found your channel. Ride safe, my dude. God bless 🙏
Awesome video Steven! Loneliness in sobriety is a real concern for many people, and can be a trigger to relapse. You need to build a lot of fortitude to re-frame how you feel and take active measures to avoid isolation by engaging with people in other fulfilling ways. Relapse is a common occurrence on the path to recovery, and it should be seen as an opportunity to learn and adjust treatment strategies rather than as a personal failure. Many thanks for the very helpful video Steven! 🙌❤👍
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Exactly what I’m going through living in the country in MS. It’s hard to find people I actually click with on a personal level, so I’ve been isolating and drinking heavily. It’s hell, feel like I can’t even think straight cause my heavy drinking. But everything u said hits the nail on the head for my situation. I’m horrible at social speaking and sharing my feelings with people. Feel like the drinking or drugging relates heavily to stress in a person’s lives. My biggest problem I’ve had really bad experiences in my life with myself and family. Just living in a dysfunctional house puts a-lot of stress on me mentally. Usually I do good once I have built up clean time, just can’t fall for that first drink on it all goes out the window. Here I just had 7 months clean from alcohol last year and stress from this new welding job, I quit due to lower back problems and it being alittle too far. I like that Aprilia. I ride sport bikes as well, had a gsxr 1000 and a R6 was good therapy. I’m currently detoxing off drinking is a nightmare.
Hey bro just know I’m rooting for you and you can do it. Fellow welder and sport bike rider 👊🏼. Thanks for watching homie keep your head up!!!
Good shit, thanks for sharing. I'll add to it:
I used to be addicted to heroin for 10 years or so. One day I just decided to quit, so I did--cold turkey. I had to literally cut off every single person I knew (except my immediate family, of course). All of my friends were toxic and detrimental to my sobriety, so I had to leave them behind.
Idle time is your #1 enemy. You have to have a reason for quitting in the first place, something you can cling onto and never look back. You have to quit because you want to quit, not because other people want you to quit.
I prayed to God as I hit an absolute rock bottom, and begged Him to give me something to fight for so I could leave that life behind.
Next thing you know...
I bootstrapped a startup, and i worked my ass off on it. Literally putting in 36-48hr days multiple days/week. I'm basically retired now at 38. The company is still going strong.
It took me over 3-4 months just to come up with the name of the company. I had a whiteboard and went HAM on the business plan, the entire business model, etc. I became obsessed.
I disagree with people that "count the days" of their sobriety. It's like you're subconsciously not able to let go. I couldn't tell you when I quit, but it was some time around 2014 lol.
I have no desire to ever do that shit again.
Anyway, the loneliness factor you're describing is basically a symptom of idle time. Keep yourself busy, pick up new hobbies, and be careful with the new people you meet. Virtually every new acquaintance I'd meet started out cool, then I'd eventually learn they were either drug dealers or were doing drugs to an excessive degree. No bueno.
You always want to stay tf away from any sort of clubbing or party scene as that's a recipe for disaster and you'll relapse with the quickess.
I never went to rehab, never relapsed, etc, because I made my mind up the day I quit. I was tired of being a slave to the drug, my entire life revolved around getting high and waiting in parking lots for hours. The repeat cycle, downward spiral into oblivion was insane. I was stuck in a loop that gradually got worse as time progressed.
I was a highly "functional addict" and hardly anyone knew about my addiction.
Like you mentioned, another reason is people don't want to deal with the emotions that begin to bubble up to the surface once you become sober. You can no longer hide from them, you can't bury and suppress them by your substance of choice. Depending on people's life experience, this can be difficult to deal with initially. This is why you need to keep yourself busy.
Find some heavy interests and passions and submerge yourself in them. You'll eventually replace your destructive habits with more productive ones over time.
I disagree with the entire AA philosophy and that's how a lot of drug addicts network with each other, same with rehab places. I know from seeing many of my friends go in and out of those places for years, only to have a larger network of contacts than they had prior to entering rehab. My ex gf was on Suboxone for years and years. It just replaced heroin for her. Saw the same thing with people getting methadone. They are taken advantage of and gaslit by Big Pharma thinking that they're getting sober when in reality they're replacing a street drug with a pharmaceutical grade, synthetic variant of opioids. Most of us started on OxyContin anyway.
If you truly want to be sober, it's as simple as just deciding to quit, but, again, you need something to fight for, you need a reason as to why you're quitting.
@@hodlwise2470 I appreciate you taking the time to watch my video and leave your comment. You obviously know what you’re talking about and I agree with your points. I’m proud of you man 👊🏼 keep it up
@@The_Man_Welding You as well, man. It's not easy to leave a lifestyle of addiction. Takes a lot of will power. Unfortunately, a lot of people get trapped into the world of addiction. I'm proud of you for kicking your habit(s) and wish nothing but the best for you. I'm about to buy an Aprilia RS660 as my first bike, too. It's how I found your channel. Ride safe, my dude. God bless 🙏
Awesome video Steven! Loneliness in sobriety is a real concern for many people, and can be a trigger to relapse. You need to build a lot of fortitude to re-frame how you feel and take active measures to avoid isolation by engaging with people in other fulfilling ways. Relapse is a common occurrence on the path to recovery, and it should be seen as an opportunity to learn and adjust treatment strategies rather than as a personal failure. Many thanks for the very helpful video Steven! 🙌❤👍
Thank you for checking it out 👊🏼
dude you hit so many key points in ths video and a few others ive came across! Thank you man truly!!
Appreciate you watching 👊🏼