Riley, Love and relationships can happen suddenly. It is true that some of the greatest joys come with family life, but there are adventures that are possible in this stage of your life that are less likely when you become a wife and mother. Trust in the Lord and love and serve others as He would have you do. You will be blessed to make friends and memories you will treasure the rest of your life. I’m glad Gordon (and I?) set the bar high for all the guys in your life. I love you - Dad.
Riley, I'm glad that you and your dad have the kind of father-daughter relationship where he can watch and comment on your RUclips channel like this. I honestly love this comment!
I am going to give you some advice you haven't asked for but you definitely need to hear. Stop obsessing so much about having a boyfriend, being married, how you look and most important of all how others perceive you. You are still way too young and you definitely shouldn't be worrying about any of that. You have your whole life ahead of you. For starters, become an independent woman, a strong minded person that can be comfortable being alone and going anywhere or doing whatever you want without the constant need of other peoples approval first. Learn, experience things, travel, live, grow, meet new people and eventually if it has to happen it will. Just because others are already together or even married doesn't mean you have to be too. Each person has a different path in life. Things doesn't happen when we want to or the way we want to and there is not just one way of living life either. In fact, there are 8 billion people in the world and each of those people live a completely different life than yours and all of them are perfectly fine as well, remember that.
I don’t mean to be rude but that was literally the whole topic of this video. You basically just made a comment about everything she already said she’d come to the realization of and just so you know for some people the biggest dream they have is for them to get married and just be a good mom and that’s okay. She’s realized there can be more to her life and she can have that in the right timing. I don’t know why you felt the need to tell her what she already figured out
she already knows all this. however, you can't say "stop obsessing so much about having a boyfriend." the average human is built to yearn for love relationships.
i didn't meet my husband til i was 21, and my life was a mess, i was barely working and was broke i dropped out of college after 1 year when i was 18 cause i didn't know what i wanted to do and i got lazy and i was trying to take care of my dad who was sick (and passed away that year that i met my husband) i wouldn't recommend it but after a year of dating we moved in together, we started dating in 2016 and then moved in together in 2017. then in 2018 my mom passed away in november from a sudden stroke (also my mom was in her 40s when she had me so her being older age did not help) but then after 2018 it turned into 2019 and that june of 2019 we were "officially" engaged (though we always knew we would get married, never thought of breaking up) and in september of 2019 we got married. your life (from what ive witnessed through your channel ) is a LOT more stable and i guess safer than mine was when i was your age. ive been married now for 4 or 5 years and it has been a journey especially during a pandemic, and in 2020 after we got married i became pregnant but we suffered a pregnancy loss due to pcos, so that was heartbreaking. this year we bought our first home together and im now going to start classes to go back to school next year (i want to be a teacher) and hubby got promoted to supervisor for his job and got a pay raise (the lord definitely provides at the right time) so as someone who is older and who has been in your position (i also never dated in high school or a large portion of my early adult hood) i would say that the best people come when you have been ok with being alone and have come to terms with what you want. i never thought i would be married, in fact during high school i actually never wanted to get married or even think about having kids and yet here i am, and its great even if i feel behind and am launching a career much later in life and it works out for the best.
I cannot stress how much I feel the same way right now. I'm about to graduate in 4 months, I have no job lined up, no boyfriend, not a big group of friends, hardly anything. I think something that keeps me going is how my mindset towards these items has shifted: I need to put more faith in God and let whatever happen happen. I've always been one to make schedules and expect the unexpected, but honestly, it feels like everything is so unexpected these days. 5 years ago I pictured myself with my first and only boyfriend still, going to a great school, and having a big group of amazing friends. Literally don't have any of these. Sometimes I wish I would've done differently with the knowledge I have now, but it is what it is and I'm riding the wave :)
this whole video fell like a refreshing glass of water. I’m going into my senior year of high school. and from time to time, it haunts me “I’ve never been in a relationship” (there were a couple of times people were hitting on me, but they were seeing someone on the side, so i didn’t commit to a relationship). but the conclusion I came to is exactly like yours. don’t panic about not being in a relationship. God will provide your partner in time, so all you can do now is just work on yourself. me personally, i’m going to become a EMT (because you can build yourself up to a paramedic from there, and then a PA) and try to get good at “Brazilian jiu jitsu”( I wrestle in high school, and love it). and try to grow in faith, and trust in God, that he’ll provide a partner.
I'm 16 and I've never had a bf. It's hard when everyone around you has had that... I am a Christian as well and it impowers me to hear girls close to my age talking about stuff like this especially in a faith based sense 💕
I'm also a Christian Sister ally but I will let the holy spirit take care of those situations I'm happy being a single Christian guy I just want to grow closer to our creator every thing else will take care of it self sister in Christ amen ✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏
I'm 18 and just finished my first semester of community college. I was honestly really hoping I could break out of my shyness and get a boyfriend, but I didn't even make any regular friends. it's so hard being the shy, awkward one among my friends while they all get boyfriends and fall in love.
I felt like this was a FaceTime call with you throughout the conversation and I loved it! I am totally one the same page with you on the topic of relationships. It's good to see someone else feel the same way.
I truly believe that everything in life happens for a reason. I always was jealous of everyone around me having a boyfriend. But when I let that go, I met my first boyfriend. We ended our relationship after a year and I was really upset about that. But I tried to stay positive and I knew that somehow it would work out.. and it did. I'm twenty-nine right now and last june I met my current boyfriend. Life is not predictable or something you can plan. Right now, life has something else in store for you and there will come a moment that the right person is coming into you life, and most of the time its when you're not expect it. 💛
Riley!!! Someone else said this but this truly felt like a FaceTime with you! I’ve loved your videos since you started at SVU and I feel like we would be pals if we knew each other in real life. I’m 21, and my husband and I will have been married for a year this coming January. He was my first serious boyfriend and I struggled so much with comparison when I was single for all of High school and most of college. I’m sure you know this, but I just want to remind you to fix your eyes and Jesus & fight to fill this season with taking advantage of all the unique opportunities you have in this stage of life!!! love u ❤
As one who is twice your age (42) and has been through marriage, divorce, and a lot of hard times in life, I want to tell you that you've got a good head on your shoulders and a good perspective on life. Seriously, I mean it. Keep going on this path.
I loved this video! I feel like I was sat with you talking about this topic! It’s so important to understand your own personal value and understand how much you are worth! Thank you for sharing this video! It was so refreshing!
AHHHH I love this!!! Thank you so much for talking about this!! I literally turn 20 next year and am kinda in the same boat. I moved to uni this year and even though it's finished for the year i'm still learning about myself. Sometimes i literally feel like i'm the only one going through this so thank you for speaking up! As a young christian woman attending university in the city I've found it hard finding and maintaining friendships let alone relationships. Boyfriend never heard of that haha. It's a bit of a struggle finding people who have the same likemindedness and beliefs as me. I feel like in some ways we've been conditioned by church/society into believing/thinking you'll grow up go to uni/collage and find someone and get married all of which i thought i'd be halfway there now but the reality of it all for me at least is that not only do I have to accept being alone i have to learn to be okay with it. Its not a bad thing but I just feel like times have changed since this archetype was created and so we have to learn to adapt and adjust to the cards we've been dealt
Hey sister. Oh my goodness this was such a raw and real video and is something I admire about you. That you can be so genuine not only in front of the camera to so many people but I am sure to the people you even personally know. I am going to be 20 this may and I am in my second relationship with a young man that I love very much. We both still have room to grow and Lord willing are waiting to get married after he graduates college (which would be in 2 and a half/3ish years) but I will say, just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they are set and ready to go! That can be taken away just as well. So then this makes us (no matter our circumstances) put our trust in our sovereign Lord. and girl can I just say…I am the exact same way!! My dream since I was LITTLE was to be a wife and mom. Everyone who knows me knows it! And is still my number one dream. It is so funny the looks you get when people ask you what you want to do or your dream and you respond with wife and mom. These are not only one of the most important jobs ever but such a virtuous one. And believe it or not is a ministry to raise babies and love and honor a husband. So girl I get it! I love that you are expressing your struggles as well as the realizations in putting your faith and trust in what the Lord has verses your own plans and expectations. Keep it up! It inspires so many! And most importantly turns people back to our Heavenly Father!!❤️❤️❤️
riley!! this is so relatable. we seem to be waking in similar seasons of life & I just love your outlook and perspective on this…it’s so enlightening! thanks for sharing
Ah yes.. perfect timing! No joke whenever I have a bad week or have some type of trial going on in my life you happen to post a video that aligns perfectly! I’m actually shocked that you’ve never had a boyfriend. 👀 like what?? How? You have a great personality and are so so gorgeous so I’m genuinely blown way that no boy has taken the opportunity yet. Riley you are such a light!! Thank you for sharing your life especially the personal things. That isn’t always easy. I really needed this exact video this week! I’m 18 and haven’t even had my first kiss yet 😂 and I was all caught up in this mindset that I was the only one but ITS SO NORMAL! It’s normal to not kiss until after highschool, not date until university, get married after 24, have your first kid at or after 30! But it’s totally normal to have excitement for all those experiences too! And that makes waiting super hard.. 🥲 tv and movies make it seem so realistic but in reality there is no perfect age to have your first boyfriend or age to be married at, etc. my point is THANK YOU for being you! 🤍
i’ve been dealing with being single at 20 as well. my parents met in college & got married before my mom graduated. i thought that the same would happen for me. end of my freshman year i started dating this wonderful guy. we dated all throughout my sophomore year. we broke up after the first week of my junior year. i wasn’t mature enough for a long-term relationship and i pushed too many things on him that i wanted without considering what he needed. i had always planned on moving wherever my husband was and now that i’m single and will probably be for a while, it’s scary thinking about having to make decisions about where i want to live and getting an apartment on my own because i always assumed that i would have a husband to live with by then. thank you for talking about this topic, especially because in the Christian community i feel like we’re surrounded by a lot of couples who get married young, and there’s nothing wrong with that. but it’s hard when you hit 20 and you’re single and it feels like everyone else is settling down
Hi sister Katie I'm also a Christian and I'm happy just to stay single as a Christian guy U would prefer to grow closer to our creator it it's meant to be god is just protecting me in my faith amen ✝️✝️✝️👍🙏🙃🔥🔥
Thank you so much for this video. I relate to everything you are saying and I’m learning so many of the same things!! Especially the part about basing plans around a potential relationship that’s not promised. It’s so good to know that I’m not alone.
this was so sweet and comforting. your perspective and your strength are so fantastic! i'm at that dating point in my life (and have something kinda going with a guy who's going on his mission in a few months, LOL), and hearing you talk about all this is fortifying, if that makes sense 😂 it's also so great that you keep the Lord in your life and aren't afraid to talk about Him!
Hi Riley. I'm 30 and I'm still single (haven't met the right man yet either.) 20/21 is still very young, so you have a lot of time to meet the right person. Even though I'm a lot older and my time to find someone is (sort of) starting to run out, I'm trying not to worry about it too much either. I'm fully expecting that I may not meet someone for another year, and I am learning to accept that. I am actually considering moving myself to a new city, to attend grad school. Yes, so I think that God has a plan for our lives, and even though we may not understand why something didn't work out or why it's taken so long, the reason becomes clear as we continue on our journey. It's kind of cool to think that the right person is somewhere out there, but he's a mystery lol.
Amen sister Megan it's in gods time I'm also a Christian hated god but when I did decide to give my life to god it was so impowering being alone in our faith it's okay to be a Christian and single god has other plans for us I'm 50so iwould prefer to grow closer to our creator amen ✝️✝️👍🙏🙃🔥🙃
I can relate everything with you honestly. I am not surprised because you are a pisces like me and im turning 21 at the first week of march too. and looking through your vlogs I relate everything with you especially your personality. your not alone here. the time when I was in high school, I was obsessed with having relationships and I just wanted to be with someone forever. and i actually was in a long distance relationship from 2016 till 2021 all I though about is marriage. I had to sacrifice for my dream major I wanted to study in college but I let that go for my ex and just that I wanted to be with him and give him all he wanted to make him happy. love is blind. and my relationship went on through the phone and we use to meet up secretly for a coffee. but we stayed in touch for 4 years hoping for him to propose and get marriage as I finish high school. but one day this all disappeared. on January 2 2021, we broke up, the ending of our relationship didn't go well. in those 4 years, I lost have of my life obsessed with marriage and love. okay feeling loved and having a crush on someone as a simple relationship is fine and nice but I mean not a big one like mine. I wish I could go back and lie the life I was supposed to live as a teenager. I was insecure about myself, I hated my appearance and u had to look good when I go out but then as I started college everything changed. I started over and moved on, and realised all what I went through and how I used to think rather than dreaming for a real future. today being single is the best life ever, I started going out with my friends than I used to with my ex, my mind changed. and I think wisely now before attempting anything or deciding. I have the time to go out, travel, do whatever I like as a young lady. being a kid and a young lady is temporary so I don't want to miss the chance to explore this life before big responsibilities like marriage and relationships and kids. I do not regret what I have been through, however I did learn from that and trying to fix and change everything. today I am one of the happiest girl ever and im not that obsessed anymore like how I used to be. I did feel for someone when I started college till now and I do like em tbh, but I won't let that feeling out yet although we might share the same feelings him and I but we prefer to stay loved friends than having a relationship and its the best thing actually. but I don't think about marriage and all that now, because it will all come when its the right to come. thank you Riley for giving me this chance to speak and talk about what I used to be and what I have become now and share it with everyone. keep up Riley we love you and very proud of you. xxxx :).
off topic but you used to live so close to me like 30 minutes away and that's crazy to me. Also I understand what you mean because I have felt the same way before, I've been planning what i'm wanting to do in my future and sometimes I wonder is this actually going to happen or am I getting my hopes up high for me to get this certain thing or things done in my life. Then I think about how hard its going to get to get to that goal in life and I know that I might fail at times and I might just loose some friends in the process but you know you are not going to fail at it because you won't let yourself do that. At the end you know you only need yourself and not no one else because those people probably are not in your life anymore for a good reason. Heck i'm a junior in high school taking a medical class and some other hard classes and i don't have a boyfriend but i also wish i could but that's not what we should thinking about. we should only have to think about the things we want to accomplish in life. And maybe someday soon or in a couple years some very nice man might walk into your life right when you need it and at the right moment. But I hope your doing well and getting your goals accomplished and i hope you do accomplish your goals and I can't wait to see where you get in life.
I totally understand you Riley! I am 19, soon 20 and going to Uni hopefully in a couple of months and ever since I have been with Christ my GREATEST wish for my life is to have a family of my own and be a mother, tell my children about Jesus and all that. But also I realized, that in school I never even got close to have a male friend - almost as if God wanted to spare me. Idk I really had this phase after school, where I realized my situation and thought I might never end up finding someone that I truly love and the other way around. But at some point God really showed me that I simply need to trust him. He knows best, always! And I just know, that someone is out there for the both of us that God really wants for us in our future life, and until that we must not worry at all, Jesus will provide for us ♡. Remember: God created you as whole from the very beginning! I send u blessings from above ♡
Thank you for posting this today. I really needed to hear what you said. I was not going to get on this youtube account, but I am so glad I did. God has a plan and I appreciate your testimony in this video. I hope you find someone to love you the way you deserve to be. Enjoy being single and free the church of Jesus Christ of Latter day saints culture is wrong about being married young for some people. I know you are going to make a wonderful righteous man very blessed and happy one day.
Es algo normal, a mi edad de 19 años nunca he tenido novia y la verdad no pasa nada, primero sería lograr metas a corto plazo, después el amor llegará a tu vida por si solo, me gustaría tener una chica a mi lado pero por desgracia no ha sucedido aún pero se que con el tiempo llegará. Confía en Dios.
Hi Riley happy vlogmas day and happy December and happy winter season and I hope you having amazing day today and this was amazing video I enjoy your channel because you are amazing Supporter
You really don't need to be married. Some people are single their whole life, and that is a good thing! Being single is actually a very Biblical thing and a gift from God- Paul wished for everyone to remain single if they could in 1 Corinthians 7! He wouldn't say that if marriage was necessary for everyone. I get that in LDS circles you get married young and teach you that marriage is vital for living in eternity but it is not! Be free and travel and learn and grow on your own, and if one day you get married then that's great but don't rely on that being a future reality
What I meant to say with this proverbe is that no one of us human beings can plan life. Life, the world, we humans are to complex. But what we need to have is a compass, are values, an attitude. I am old now, and what I had to learn is, that sometimes we all take wrong decisions. But if we have faith in God, he will give us the wisdom to recognise the errors of our ways - and the chance to change directions. As far as I can see in your videos there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just be yourself, there is no such thing as self-optimizing, because the concept of perfection is wrong in itself. We all are not perfect, but we are perfect for someone. Where I come from, we have a terrible history. The Nazis had this concept of the „Übermensch“, and it lead to a total catastrophe. And at last, let me tell you this: One time, when I was young, I felt a deep sadness because of an unrequited love, my Grandfather, who survived a concentration camp, told me, that he had held on to hope even in the darkest valley of desolation by telling himself „the sun will shine again for you“. I offer his words to you by wishing you a merry Christmas with all of my heart.
I don’t think you should feel guilty about wanting to focus on marriage and motherhood. Part of giving women choice to live their lives means not bashing them for wanting to do something different than you. You don’t know me but I’m 28, left an engagement at 21 the weeks after graduating college. I went from having my life set and my ties built to being free of any connections. I love to hear your attitude now, it’s okay to be afraid and it’s okay to change your mind and try new things. What I will say is that your work now, pursuing your career, travelling, finding yourself will make you even more of an attractive potential spouse when the right person comes. You are driven, hard-working, and introspective, and I promise you will be okay. Earlier this year I went on a random date and met my guy. Less than one year ago we met, fell head over heels and are now moving in. My life feels tied with his in the best way and I love every step of my journey, every “failed” relationship because it brought me to him. Embrace life, love it, live it to the fullest and have faith that at any moment your life can change.
Wow. It’s crazy to think there are pockets of the country that still think like this. Start your career, and get away from people who think life only happens one way and your life will actually start. It’s not the 1950s. You can have incredible adventures- with or without a man.
Maybe during the waiting time you can work on the attributes that would make you the best partner and the best mom. For example, you can work on your feminine energy and try to be more feminine in your outer and inner self a.k.a. clothing femininely acting femininely but at the same time being a good nurturer being a good empath yada yada
Would it be so bad if you ended up falling for someone that was not the same religion as you? Twice I've been to interfaith weddings. Jewish and Roman Catholicism both times. You'd still be in a spiritual path even if the belief system differs from your own.
I see a lot of comments that are kind of bashing the way you see things. I hope you can ignore them. I am in your same situation (possibly even worse). I’m a Christian college freshmen and have never had a boyfriend (or even a date). But I still want to find my other half. I think the “strong independent female” role that so many people encourage can be a lonely experience. It may sometimes be necessary but still can be lonely.
Riley, Love and relationships can happen suddenly. It is true that some of the greatest joys come with family life, but there are adventures that are possible in this stage of your life that are less likely when you become a wife and mother. Trust in the Lord and love and serve others as He would have you do. You will be blessed to make friends and memories you will treasure the rest of your life. I’m glad Gordon (and I?) set the bar high for all the guys in your life. I love you - Dad.
Riley, I'm glad that you and your dad have the kind of father-daughter relationship where he can watch and comment on your RUclips channel like this. I honestly love this comment!
That was so kind and thoughtful of you!
This is so encouraging! Thank you!!! ☺️
I am going to give you some advice you haven't asked for but you definitely need to hear. Stop obsessing so much about having a boyfriend, being married, how you look and most important of all how others perceive you. You are still way too young and you definitely shouldn't be worrying about any of that. You have your whole life ahead of you. For starters, become an independent woman, a strong minded person that can be comfortable being alone and going anywhere or doing whatever you want without the constant need of other peoples approval first. Learn, experience things, travel, live, grow, meet new people and eventually if it has to happen it will. Just because others are already together or even married doesn't mean you have to be too. Each person has a different path in life. Things doesn't happen when we want to or the way we want to and there is not just one way of living life either. In fact, there are 8 billion people in the world and each of those people live a completely different life than yours and all of them are perfectly fine as well, remember that.
I don’t mean to be rude but that was literally the whole topic of this video. You basically just made a comment about everything she already said she’d come to the realization of and just so you know for some people the biggest dream they have is for them to get married and just be a good mom and that’s okay. She’s realized there can be more to her life and she can have that in the right timing. I don’t know why you felt the need to tell her what she already figured out
she already knows all this. however, you can't say "stop obsessing so much about having a boyfriend." the average human is built to yearn for love relationships.
I dont know if I was meant for her or other people, but thank you I needed to hear that, thanks!
This is GREAT advice!!!
Best comment ever you made my day and mindset ❤
i didn't meet my husband til i was 21, and my life was a mess, i was barely working and was broke i dropped out of college after 1 year when i was 18 cause i didn't know what i wanted to do and i got lazy and i was trying to take care of my dad who was sick (and passed away that year that i met my husband) i wouldn't recommend it but after a year of dating we moved in together, we started dating in 2016 and then moved in together in 2017. then in 2018 my mom passed away in november from a sudden stroke (also my mom was in her 40s when she had me so her being older age did not help) but then after 2018 it turned into 2019 and that june of 2019 we were "officially" engaged (though we always knew we would get married, never thought of breaking up) and in september of 2019 we got married. your life (from what ive witnessed through your channel ) is a LOT more stable and i guess safer than mine was when i was your age. ive been married now for 4 or 5 years and it has been a journey especially during a pandemic, and in 2020 after we got married i became pregnant but we suffered a pregnancy loss due to pcos, so that was heartbreaking. this year we bought our first home together and im now going to start classes to go back to school next year (i want to be a teacher) and hubby got promoted to supervisor for his job and got a pay raise (the lord definitely provides at the right time) so as someone who is older and who has been in your position (i also never dated in high school or a large portion of my early adult hood) i would say that the best people come when you have been ok with being alone and have come to terms with what you want. i never thought i would be married, in fact during high school i actually never wanted to get married or even think about having kids and yet here i am, and its great even if i feel behind and am launching a career much later in life and it works out for the best.
I cannot stress how much I feel the same way right now. I'm about to graduate in 4 months, I have no job lined up, no boyfriend, not a big group of friends, hardly anything. I think something that keeps me going is how my mindset towards these items has shifted: I need to put more faith in God and let whatever happen happen. I've always been one to make schedules and expect the unexpected, but honestly, it feels like everything is so unexpected these days. 5 years ago I pictured myself with my first and only boyfriend still, going to a great school, and having a big group of amazing friends. Literally don't have any of these. Sometimes I wish I would've done differently with the knowledge I have now, but it is what it is and I'm riding the wave :)
this whole video fell like a refreshing glass of water.
I’m going into my senior year of high school. and from time to time, it haunts me “I’ve never been in a relationship” (there were a couple of times people were hitting on me, but they were seeing someone on the side, so i didn’t commit to a relationship).
but the conclusion I came to is exactly like yours.
don’t panic about not being in a relationship. God will provide your partner in time, so all you can do now is just work on yourself.
me personally, i’m going to become a EMT (because you can build yourself up to a paramedic from there, and then a PA) and try to get good at “Brazilian jiu jitsu”( I wrestle in high school, and love it). and try to grow in faith, and trust in God, that he’ll provide a partner.
I'm 16 and I've never had a bf. It's hard when everyone around you has had that... I am a Christian as well and it impowers me to hear girls close to my age talking about stuff like this especially in a faith based sense 💕
I'm also a Christian Sister ally but I will let the holy spirit take care of those situations I'm happy being a single Christian guy I just want to grow closer to our creator every thing else will take care of it self sister in Christ amen ✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏
Same but I’m 17. It’s sucks seeing everyone around me having what I wish I had. Regardless I wish the best and hope one day it’ll be my time.
I'm 18 and just finished my first semester of community college. I was honestly really hoping I could break out of my shyness and get a boyfriend, but I didn't even make any regular friends. it's so hard being the shy, awkward one among my friends while they all get boyfriends and fall in love.
I felt like this was a FaceTime call with you throughout the conversation and I loved it! I am totally one the same page with you on the topic of relationships. It's good to see someone else feel the same way.
I truly believe that everything in life happens for a reason. I always was jealous of everyone around me having a boyfriend. But when I let that go, I met my first boyfriend. We ended our relationship after a year and I was really upset about that. But I tried to stay positive and I knew that somehow it would work out.. and it did. I'm twenty-nine right now and last june I met my current boyfriend. Life is not predictable or something you can plan. Right now, life has something else in store for you and there will come a moment that the right person is coming into you life, and most of the time its when you're not expect it. 💛
Riley!!! Someone else said this but this truly felt like a FaceTime with you! I’ve loved your videos since you started at SVU and I feel like we would be pals if we knew each other in real life. I’m 21, and my husband and I will have been married for a year this coming January. He was my first serious boyfriend and I struggled so much with comparison when I was single for all of High school and most of college. I’m sure you know this, but I just want to remind you to fix your eyes and Jesus & fight to fill this season with taking advantage of all the unique opportunities you have in this stage of life!!! love u ❤
As one who is twice your age (42) and has been through marriage, divorce, and a lot of hard times in life, I want to tell you that you've got a good head on your shoulders and a good perspective on life. Seriously, I mean it. Keep going on this path.
I loved this video! I feel like I was sat with you talking about this topic! It’s so important to understand your own personal value and understand how much you are worth! Thank you for sharing this video! It was so refreshing!
Hi! I don’t know you personally but I love how real and honest you are. Thank you for this video 🤗
AHHHH I love this!!! Thank you so much for talking about this!! I literally turn 20 next year and am kinda in the same boat. I moved to uni this year and even though it's finished for the year i'm still learning about myself. Sometimes i literally feel like i'm the only one going through this so thank you for speaking up! As a young christian woman attending university in the city I've found it hard finding and maintaining friendships let alone relationships. Boyfriend never heard of that haha. It's a bit of a struggle finding people who have the same likemindedness and beliefs as me. I feel like in some ways we've been conditioned by church/society into believing/thinking you'll grow up go to uni/collage and find someone and get married all of which i thought i'd be halfway there now but the reality of it all for me at least is that not only do I have to accept being alone i have to learn to be okay with it. Its not a bad thing but I just feel like times have changed since this archetype was created and so we have to learn to adapt and adjust to the cards we've been dealt
Hey sister. Oh my goodness this was such a raw and real video and is something I admire about you. That you can be so genuine not only in front of the camera to so many people but I am sure to the people you even personally know. I am going to be 20 this may and I am in my second relationship with a young man that I love very much. We both still have room to grow and Lord willing are waiting to get married after he graduates college (which would be in 2 and a half/3ish years) but I will say, just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they are set and ready to go! That can be taken away just as well. So then this makes us (no matter our circumstances) put our trust in our sovereign Lord. and girl can I just say…I am the exact same way!! My dream since I was LITTLE was to be a wife and mom. Everyone who knows me knows it! And is still my number one dream. It is so funny the looks you get when people ask you what you want to do or your dream and you respond with wife and mom. These are not only one of the most important jobs ever but such a virtuous one. And believe it or not is a ministry to raise babies and love and honor a husband. So girl I get it! I love that you are expressing your struggles as well as the realizations in putting your faith and trust in what the Lord has verses your own plans and expectations. Keep it up! It inspires so many! And most importantly turns people back to our Heavenly Father!!❤️❤️❤️
Girl I love this video. I can relate to you so much!
riley!! this is so relatable.
we seem to be waking in similar seasons of life & I just love your outlook and perspective on this…it’s so enlightening! thanks for sharing
Ah yes.. perfect timing! No joke whenever I have a bad week or have some type of trial going on in my life you happen to post a video that aligns perfectly! I’m actually shocked that you’ve never had a boyfriend. 👀 like what?? How? You have a great personality and are so so gorgeous so I’m genuinely blown way that no boy has taken the opportunity yet.
Riley you are such a light!! Thank you for sharing your life especially the personal things. That isn’t always easy. I really needed this exact video this week! I’m 18 and haven’t even had my first kiss yet 😂 and I was all caught up in this mindset that I was the only one but ITS SO NORMAL! It’s normal to not kiss until after highschool, not date until university, get married after 24, have your first kid at or after 30! But it’s totally normal to have excitement for all those experiences too! And that makes waiting super hard.. 🥲 tv and movies make it seem so realistic but in reality there is no perfect age to have your first boyfriend or age to be married at, etc.
my point is THANK YOU for being you! 🤍
i’ve been dealing with being single at 20 as well. my parents met in college & got married before my mom graduated. i thought that the same would happen for me. end of my freshman year i started dating this wonderful guy. we dated all throughout my sophomore year. we broke up after the first week of my junior year. i wasn’t mature enough for a long-term relationship and i pushed too many things on him that i wanted without considering what he needed. i had always planned on moving wherever my husband was and now that i’m single and will probably be for a while, it’s scary thinking about having to make decisions about where i want to live and getting an apartment on my own because i always assumed that i would have a husband to live with by then. thank you for talking about this topic, especially because in the Christian community i feel like we’re surrounded by a lot of couples who get married young, and there’s nothing wrong with that. but it’s hard when you hit 20 and you’re single and it feels like everyone else is settling down
Hi sister Katie I'm also a Christian and I'm happy just to stay single as a Christian guy U would prefer to grow closer to our creator it it's meant to be god is just protecting me in my faith amen ✝️✝️✝️👍🙏🙃🔥🔥
Thank you so much for this video. I relate to everything you are saying and I’m learning so many of the same things!! Especially the part about basing plans around a potential relationship that’s not promised. It’s so good to know that I’m not alone.
thank you so much for posting this riley! i really needed to hear that i don’t need to change for others to like me
Thank you Riley! This is a great message for all of the strong, independent women out there!
Thank you for this real talk, Riley! I‘ve been struggling with similar emotions and you just put it so well.♥️ Thx a lot!!
this was so sweet and comforting. your perspective and your strength are so fantastic! i'm at that dating point in my life (and have something kinda going with a guy who's going on his mission in a few months, LOL), and hearing you talk about all this is fortifying, if that makes sense 😂
it's also so great that you keep the Lord in your life and aren't afraid to talk about Him!
Hi Riley. I'm 30 and I'm still single (haven't met the right man yet either.) 20/21 is still very young, so you have a lot of time to meet the right person. Even though I'm a lot older and my time to find someone is (sort of) starting to run out, I'm trying not to worry about it too much either. I'm fully expecting that I may not meet someone for another year, and I am learning to accept that. I am actually considering moving myself to a new city, to attend grad school.
Yes, so I think that God has a plan for our lives, and even though we may not understand why something didn't work out or why it's taken so long, the reason becomes clear as we continue on our journey. It's kind of cool to think that the right person is somewhere out there, but he's a mystery lol.
Amen sister Megan it's in gods time I'm also a Christian hated god but when I did decide to give my life to god it was so impowering being alone in our faith it's okay to be a Christian and single god has other plans for us I'm 50so iwould prefer to grow closer to our creator amen ✝️✝️👍🙏🙃🔥🙃
Wow loved your thought process on intricacies and purity of relationship and self realization 👏👏keep it up♥️
I can relate everything with you honestly. I am not surprised because you are a pisces like me and im turning 21 at the first week of march too. and looking through your vlogs I relate everything with you especially your personality. your not alone here. the time when I was in high school, I was obsessed with having relationships and I just wanted to be with someone forever. and i actually was in a long distance relationship from 2016 till 2021 all I though about is marriage. I had to sacrifice for my dream major I wanted to study in college but I let that go for my ex and just that I wanted to be with him and give him all he wanted to make him happy. love is blind. and my relationship went on through the phone and we use to meet up secretly for a coffee. but we stayed in touch for 4 years hoping for him to propose and get marriage as I finish high school. but one day this all disappeared. on January 2 2021, we broke up, the ending of our relationship didn't go well. in those 4 years, I lost have of my life obsessed with marriage and love. okay feeling loved and having a crush on someone as a simple relationship is fine and nice but I mean not a big one like mine. I wish I could go back and lie the life I was supposed to live as a teenager. I was insecure about myself, I hated my appearance and u had to look good when I go out but then as I started college everything changed. I started over and moved on, and realised all what I went through and how I used to think rather than dreaming for a real future. today being single is the best life ever, I started going out with my friends than I used to with my ex, my mind changed. and I think wisely now before attempting anything or deciding. I have the time to go out, travel, do whatever I like as a young lady. being a kid and a young lady is temporary so I don't want to miss the chance to explore this life before big responsibilities like marriage and relationships and kids. I do not regret what I have been through, however I did learn from that and trying to fix and change everything. today I am one of the happiest girl ever and im not that obsessed anymore like how I used to be. I did feel for someone when I started college till now and I do like em tbh, but I won't let that feeling out yet although we might share the same feelings him and I but we prefer to stay loved friends than having a relationship and its the best thing actually. but I don't think about marriage and all that now, because it will all come when its the right to come. thank you Riley for giving me this chance to speak and talk about what I used to be and what I have become now and share it with everyone. keep up Riley we love you and very proud of you. xxxx :).
off topic but you used to live so close to me like 30 minutes away and that's crazy to me. Also I understand what you mean because I have felt the same way before, I've been planning what i'm wanting to do in my future and sometimes I wonder is this actually going to happen or am I getting my hopes up high for me to get this certain thing or things done in my life. Then I think about how hard its going to get to get to that goal in life and I know that I might fail at times and I might just loose some friends in the process but you know you are not going to fail at it because you won't let yourself do that. At the end you know you only need yourself and not no one else because those people probably are not in your life anymore for a good reason. Heck i'm a junior in high school taking a medical class and some other hard classes and i don't have a boyfriend but i also wish i could but that's not what we should thinking about. we should only have to think about the things we want to accomplish in life. And maybe someday soon or in a couple years some very nice man might walk into your life right when you need it and at the right moment. But I hope your doing well and getting your goals accomplished and i hope you do accomplish your goals and I can't wait to see where you get in life.
I enjoyed this so much❤️ Thank you for the small encouragement&advice bit at the end, and merry Christmas time to you too!!
I totally understand you Riley! I am 19, soon 20 and going to Uni hopefully in a couple of months and ever since I have been with Christ my GREATEST wish for my life is to have a family of my own and be a mother, tell my children about Jesus and all that. But also I realized, that in school I never even got close to have a male friend - almost as if God wanted to spare me. Idk I really had this phase after school, where I realized my situation and thought I might never end up finding someone that I truly love and the other way around. But at some point God really showed me that I simply need to trust him. He knows best, always! And I just know, that someone is out there for the both of us that God really wants for us in our future life, and until that we must not worry at all, Jesus will provide for us ♡. Remember: God created you as whole from the very beginning!
I send u blessings from above ♡
You are so right, this is God opening a door for you! Besides they always say love find your when you aren’t looking ;)
Everything comes at its time ✨️
We're on the same page. Completely agree.
Thanks for sharing! I am a senior in college and feel the same way.
Thank you for posting this today. I really needed to hear what you said. I was not going to get on this youtube account, but I am so glad I did. God has a plan and I appreciate your testimony in this video. I hope you find someone to love you the way you deserve to be. Enjoy being single and free the church of Jesus Christ of Latter day saints culture is wrong about being married young for some people. I know you are going to make a wonderful righteous man very blessed and happy one day.
What song is in the beginning!! I love it
I linked it in the description 🫶🏻
Es algo normal, a mi edad de 19 años nunca he tenido novia y la verdad no pasa nada, primero sería lograr metas a corto plazo, después el amor llegará a tu vida por si solo, me gustaría tener una chica a mi lado pero por desgracia no ha sucedido aún pero se que con el tiempo llegará. Confía en Dios.
Weren't you used to being alone when your parents shipped you off to a private boarding school in order to be rid of you?
Hi Riley happy vlogmas day and happy December and happy winter season and I hope you having amazing day today and this was amazing video I enjoy your channel because you are amazing Supporter
Hey what mascara do you use! you're so pretty girl :)
I didn't have my first one until I was 22!
Am I the only one who saw the guy checking her out? I hope he has curly brown hair hahah
I appreciate this comment a lot. I do not blame him she is gorgeous!
what about that tall bou who went to some church activity( idk the name) for like an year or so..?
Okay Riley beautiful that's all right!
You are fabulous 🎉I watch every video of yours ❤
You really don't need to be married. Some people are single their whole life, and that is a good thing! Being single is actually a very Biblical thing and a gift from God- Paul wished for everyone to remain single if they could in 1 Corinthians 7! He wouldn't say that if marriage was necessary for everyone. I get that in LDS circles you get married young and teach you that marriage is vital for living in eternity but it is not! Be free and travel and learn and grow on your own, and if one day you get married then that's great but don't rely on that being a future reality
What I meant to say with this proverbe is that no one of us human beings can plan life. Life, the world, we humans are to complex. But what we need to have is a compass, are values, an attitude. I am old now, and what I had to learn is, that sometimes we all take wrong decisions. But if we have faith in God, he will give us the wisdom to recognise the errors of our ways - and the chance to change directions. As far as I can see in your videos there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with you. Just be yourself, there is no such thing as self-optimizing, because the concept of perfection is wrong in itself. We all are not perfect, but we are perfect for someone. Where I come from, we have a terrible history. The Nazis had this concept of the „Übermensch“, and it lead to a total catastrophe.
And at last, let me tell you this: One time, when I was young, I felt a deep sadness because of an unrequited love, my Grandfather, who survived a concentration camp, told me, that he had held on to hope even in the darkest valley of desolation by telling himself „the sun will shine again for you“. I offer his words to you by wishing you a merry Christmas with all of my heart.
I'm going to be by myself for 30 days
Stay blessed Riley, i want your cookies
This video made for me
It was a fun conversation
I don’t think you should feel guilty about wanting to focus on marriage and motherhood. Part of giving women choice to live their lives means not bashing them for wanting to do something different than you.
You don’t know me but I’m 28, left an engagement at 21 the weeks after graduating college. I went from having my life set and my ties built to being free of any connections.
I love to hear your attitude now, it’s okay to be afraid and it’s okay to change your mind and try new things. What I will say is that your work now, pursuing your career, travelling, finding yourself will make you even more of an attractive potential spouse when the right person comes. You are driven, hard-working, and introspective, and I promise you will be okay.
Earlier this year I went on a random date and met my guy. Less than one year ago we met, fell head over heels and are now moving in. My life feels tied with his in the best way and I love every step of my journey, every “failed” relationship because it brought me to him.
Embrace life, love it, live it to the fullest and have faith that at any moment your life can change.
Really nice🧡🧡💚💙
hi
Wow. It’s crazy to think there are pockets of the country that still think like this. Start your career, and get away from people who think life only happens one way and your life will actually start. It’s not the 1950s. You can have incredible adventures- with or without a man.
Maybe during the waiting time you can work on the attributes that would make you the best partner and the best mom. For example, you can work on your feminine energy and try to be more feminine in your outer and inner self a.k.a. clothing femininely acting femininely but at the same time being a good nurturer being a good empath yada yada
Would it be so bad if you ended up falling for someone that was not the same religion as you?
Twice I've been to interfaith weddings. Jewish and Roman Catholicism both times. You'd still be in a spiritual path even if the belief system differs from your own.
Are you interesting in making a new D&M video? Your last one was so relatable. Hope you’re doing well :)
I see a lot of comments that are kind of bashing the way you see things. I hope you can ignore them. I am in your same situation (possibly even worse). I’m a Christian college freshmen and have never had a boyfriend (or even a date). But I still want to find my other half. I think the “strong independent female” role that so many people encourage can be a lonely experience. It may sometimes be necessary but still can be lonely.
I like your video
Are you ready to Christmas 🎄 party 🎉💐🎆🎉
I thought you travelled to see your boyfriend a couple of videos back. He was on mission, you said
Relationships change 🤷🏻♀️
Hey listen.. You are so beautiful. Don't worry about it. Whoever finds you, will be very lucky( Mark My Words) ☺️😜
Hey riley I recommend you watch "relationship goals" by mike todd.. If you haven't watched it yet, it will be an amazing lesson I promise you😊
Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll check it out!
Wow
Just one thing to say “ GOD’S Timing is always perfect”
Hello world 🌍
Its better
There‘s a proverb of the ancient Greeks: If you want to make the Gods laugh, tell them about your plans…
You Are So Beautiful Everyday The Beautiful Queen Riley You will always be Beautiful Everyday I hope you have a wonderful day take care ♡♡♡♡♡
Am I the only one who saw the guy checking her out? I hope he has curly brown hair hahah
Lol saw that too