Surviving With The Scars Of Child Sexual Abuse | Edan van Haren
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- Surviving With The Scars Of Child Sexual Abuse
Edan van Haren is one of bravest young men you’re ever likely to meet…
He's a survivor of child sexual abuse, one of many to be preyed upon by convicted paedophile, Maurice Van Ryn.
Ashamed and confused, Edan internalised the horrendous trauma and didn’t tell a soul for seven years, with the unimaginable pain manifesting in uncontrollable anger and deep depression.
When he was 21, he found the courage to tell his family what he endured. Now 27, spent years in court fighting for compensation he deserves and standing up for the rights of all child sexual abuse survivors.
TRIGGER WARNING This is an extremely heavy episode. If you or someone you know have been sexually assaulted, you can call 1800 RESPECT for support. Or call Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Sign the petition below to stand with Edan in his mission to change the law:
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i'm a 60 y/o man, and I know the sexual abuse I had as a child gave me extreme Dyslexia and other disorders like PTSD and depression.
Yes abuse can cause all kinds of mental issues like cptsd anxiety and depression. Victims can even become trauma bonded to the abuser and even when they get away from the abuser can still feel like they need to feel trauma bonded to a person to feel satisfied. It's like an addiction.
The younger the abuse happens the worse it can be. That's usually how people get narcissistic personality disorders like borderline personality disorder and a severe identity disturbance. A lot of narcissistic abusers were also the victims of a abuse at one time. The earlier the trauma and narcissistic wound happened the more narcissistic they will be. They become trapped in that trauma. Narcissists end up with a sadistic super ego that screams abuse at them 24/7 so they take it out on other people to get relief..their emotional development has been stunted at a very young age and they are unable to control or regulate their emotions or even understand or connect to their own emotions. Personality disorders are incurable because it develops before the personality and identity has started developing or is whiile it's still developing and before it has even formed yet. The personality ends up forming into it's dysfunction. There s no mental health to come back to it's how they have always been. You just have to learn to manage it as best you can, especially in your relationships with other people because narcissists are abusive by the nature of their disorder and how they relate to people. They haven't developed the capacity for true emotional empathy, i
that part of the brain is either missing or so dysfunctional it's ineffective No one is responsible for our own choices and actions or our well being but ourselves.
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Wow! How do you know all this? Are you a therapist?
@@janx8695I'm glad you took the time to write and understand how victims felt your so amazing dude❤
I was sexually abused by my parents and neighbors when I was 2-6. All my life I've been struggling with shame, anxiety, boundaries, sexuality and gender identity. Thank you so much for talking about this
I'm so sorry dude I hope you feel better now as know it's not your fault, they're horrible people for doing that and you don't deserve any of it, wishing you the best I hope your ok
Takes a lot of strength to survive and speak up about such unimaginable horror Mike. I hope you’ve been able to find some support. You’re not alone. Thanks for watching.
I completely understand and feel for you.
I was an abused child and teenager-
Sexually abused, raped, molested from 2 until 6 years young , physically abused, mentally abused, dismissed, emotionally neglected, by my father and mother- still was being abused and punished by my sister as an adult for being honest about my horrific abuse-she was also abused but didn’t seek therapy until a year ago. She still plays the victim- I was a victim- until I was powerless living with these sadists- I asked for professional help 35 years ago have learned and I understand so much about the roots of abuse and the abusers abuser- and so on- I made the choice to stop this insanity-I work on myself- however in every relationship emotional feelings and stuff resurfaces and one has to start the healing process with that person- if it’s important enough or not- I tend to go deep- for some relationships too deep- I am also learning to step back objectively-
But today I’m a victor 🏆not a victim-
In forgiveness lies strength-❤
No words to describe what you've had to endure. Incredible that you're still here and have the perspective you do. Thank you for sharing
What a beautiful soul. You are finding a selfless way of helping people that lived through this tragedy. I have always been a believer that a parent or parents have to take responsibility for there offspring. Im out of family of seven and second to youngest. For me my father worked 2nd shift and i was raised what seemed like my mother. Sexual abuse happened to me at a younger age. We both know not what a normal teen life is. The voice your given to us victims, you may never realize in this life time. At 20 years old i had gave my anger and devastation over to a higher power that made a relief in my mind and soul and gave me piece. I can tell you are moving that direction with the consulting to are receiving. I don't regret the day i stepped in that church and gave my everything to God. Within 2 years i was married to a beautiful women and had a girl and 2 boys and you can rest assured i was around for my kids in there teen years. Im 67 years old today and still occasionally have flash backs to abuse. My children are 40 42,44. And as far as i know i have ended that abuse for me and my family as i see you are ending it in your family to be.
Thank you for your message of support for Edan and for sharing your story. It's reassuring to hear you've managed to create a loving, rich life despite all you've been through.
Fucking brave keep your head up brother im in the same boat i was abuse when i was 16 17 he was my football coach afl Sport it happened to me in 2005 at hes place i hated myself everyday straight couldnt look myself in the mirror still cant some days i came out and told my family and friends and police 3 years ago " I WISH I TOLD SOMEONE WHEN IT HAPPENED i just couldn't and i run away from my problems and hit every day drinking and drugs hard for years straight thank god i have been clean at this time of my life
I’m so glad men are talking about this. Thank you!
Thank you for being vulnerable, strong and sharing you experience. It is really appreciated and will help others that do not yet have their voice. I was sexually abused from age 7 to 11. I truly understand the anger. It has presented itself on numerous occasions and directed towards those that didn't deserve it. I could always feel it coming up but couldn't always push it away in time.
Thank you for telling your story. I understand completely and have lived it
Thanks for Sharing Friend. Helps me get thru a bit today. T.S.
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I was sexually assaulted when I was young, once with a babysitter and then by an older man down the street from where I use to live as an adolescent that went on for years, now I live with another guy who was abused sexually as well, no close friends or family close by.
I agree , after watching i feel admiration for Edan too. What a courageous young man, with strength like steel and such a gentle soul too. Thank you for telling your story Edan. Could see it was difficult at times but you still told it. All the best mate.
Nice words Andrew. Glad Edan’s story made you feel that way. Cheers
55 year old survivor here.
Ugh stop interrupting him and let him talk!!! Goodness!!! So frustrating to watch.
I totally agree with you. Horrible interviewer.
No trauma is too big for Jesus Christ to heal (not ‘religion’ as we know it but Jesus Himself)
He is the Restorer.
Yesssss amen!!!!!