I loved this. As an older gay man who worked for a long long time in mental health services this interview was like a clear echo of so many stories I’ve heard from boys and men over the years, professionally and personally. In fact I still hear so many heterosexual-identified men express serious doubts and trouble about their inner world and especially their feelings for and attachments to other men. These feelings are not passing or trivial, they’re profound but often catastrophically mismanaged. The closet is a very packed place and not a one-size-fits-all. Matt’s story voices a whole range of concerns that are much much more prevalent than most people imagine. Thanks.
I can’t speak for your personal situation, but I can say that for 99% or the men I’ve spoken to, hiding whatever it is and living in fear of the reaction is always much worse than the reality of coming forward and owning it. Wishing you well
Mate go get some counselling or talk to a professional. Matt’s journey shows how much therapy (talking to a professional) can help you. I went to see to see a psychologist about 15 years ago and it totally changed my life for the better. The first step is the hardest. Don’t look back when you’re 75 and wonder what life could have been like 😢Take care - Craig 😊
He is right. Coming out is the healthiest dividing line moving healthy, loving people closer to you and people who are not accepting moved out of your life. The truth does set people free.
Stumbled across this podcast by youtubes recommendation and its so great to see men actively listening to each other and promoting healthy living especially with mental health and being authentic to themselves! As women we especially see a lot of the harm from men who act toxic, and that behaviour affects all people, men and women alike. So it's very refreshing to see these conversations happening and to know that there are men out there putting in the work to make the world a better place for everyone!
It’s so amazing that he never realized that it’s just who you are. It’s your essence your being, it’s (being gay/bi) natural. It’s the idea that it’s a choice, or someone else convinced you you’re lgbtq that is false & unnatural.
WOW I can so relate to much of what was discussed in this vid. I am in my fifties and just accepting that I am gay. Have buried theses feelings all my life and felt so ashamed to have these feelings for guys. I am battling with the thought of coming out and how family and friends will react to this. Has taken a toll on my mental health but trying to stay positive that all will be ok when I can muster the courage to come out. Seeing vids like this is helping me to move forward and be the true authentic person I wish to be. Thank you.
I would like to thank him for speaking his truth,it could help someone else, being gay still has its struggles for me although it's easier being different is not easy,I really wish him the best in anything he does to help himself and the LGBTQI+ community we need more like you and well done for rising above your challenges you are making a big difference in many lives.
Age 53 now, coming from an Irish Catholic background, I thought that I was gay in my teens when in fact I was confused about my sexuality, which happened as a result of childhood sexual abuse and was vulnerable to deception and was taken advantage of by LGBT activists, where within LGBT circles, I also faced huge prejudice and discrimination because of my Catholic background - this confusion continued until 18 years ago when I finally realised the truth and removed myself from this lifestyle, returning to the traditional Catholic faith, where I was helped to “cop myself on” and I’ve never been happier
It sounds cold I suppose but the Catholic Church is, behind the facade, as gay as a parade. I know men who were on their way to the priesthood but left the church when they became aware of all of the homo sex that the others were having among themselves and with men from the surrounding community. The problem for them was the hypocrisy and deceit, not the sex. Then there are all of the wounded men who were sexually exploited by priests as boys. I mean, whatever gets you through the night but you're not kidding anyone but yourself. Then there's the Mormons; holy batshite! The tales I could tell.
I'm gay. I'm out of my family and friends, but I would not be out to my co-workers. I still have internal homophobia, so I don't like guys who look fem.
i came out as gay at 14 years old and then as trans when i was 19. It must be so painful to have to hide your identity and the shame would be crippling 😢
I loved this. As an older gay man who worked for a long long time in mental health services this interview was like a clear echo of so many stories I’ve heard from boys and men over the years, professionally and personally. In fact I still hear so many heterosexual-identified men express serious doubts and trouble about their inner world and especially their feelings for and attachments to other men. These feelings are not passing or trivial, they’re profound but often catastrophically mismanaged. The closet is a very packed place and not a one-size-fits-all. Matt’s story voices a whole range of concerns that are much much more prevalent than most people imagine. Thanks.
Beautifully articulated comment Martin thanks
Hearing this is hard. Im 38 and still in the closet... I have a mental block stopping me from being open about it
I can’t speak for your personal situation, but I can say that for 99% or the men I’ve spoken to, hiding whatever it is and living in fear of the reaction is always much worse than the reality of coming forward and owning it. Wishing you well
Thanks buddy@@youngbloodmensmentalhealth
Mate go get some counselling or talk to a professional. Matt’s journey shows how much therapy (talking to a professional) can help you. I went to see to see a psychologist about 15 years ago and it totally changed my life for the better. The first step is the hardest. Don’t look back when you’re 75 and wonder what life could have been like 😢Take care - Craig 😊
He is right. Coming out is the healthiest dividing line moving healthy, loving people closer to you and people who are not accepting moved out of your life. The truth does set people free.
Stumbled across this podcast by youtubes recommendation and its so great to see men actively listening to each other and promoting healthy living especially with mental health and being authentic to themselves! As women we especially see a lot of the harm from men who act toxic, and that behaviour affects all people, men and women alike. So it's very refreshing to see these conversations happening and to know that there are men out there putting in the work to make the world a better place for everyone!
Thanks for watching and for those kind words. Great to hear that’s how it comes across :)
It’s so amazing that he never realized that it’s just who you are. It’s your essence your being, it’s (being gay/bi) natural. It’s the idea that it’s a choice, or someone else convinced you you’re lgbtq that is false & unnatural.
WOW I can so relate to much of what was discussed in this vid. I am in my fifties and just accepting that I am gay. Have buried theses feelings all my life and felt so ashamed to have these feelings for guys. I am battling with the thought of coming out and how family and friends will react to this. Has taken a toll on my mental health but trying to stay positive that all will be ok when I can muster the courage to come out. Seeing vids like this is helping me to move forward and be the true authentic person I wish to be. Thank you.
Thanks for watching Ben. Good to see it was helpful for you to hear Matt's story. Wishing you well.
13:49 WoW I hate people like this 😢glad he’s aware of it and fixed it
Subscribed cuz the host is gorge 😮💨
I would like to thank him for speaking his truth,it could help someone else, being gay still has its struggles for me although it's easier being different is not easy,I really wish him the best in anything he does to help himself and the LGBTQI+ community we need more like you and well done for rising above your challenges you are making a big difference in many lives.
Love this episode !
Great! Thanks so much for watching and letting us know :)
We don't need the SIDE ANGLE camera views. Thanks
Age 53 now, coming from an Irish Catholic background, I thought that I was gay in my teens when in fact I was confused about my sexuality, which happened as a result of childhood sexual abuse and was vulnerable to deception and was taken advantage of by LGBT activists, where within LGBT circles, I also faced huge prejudice and discrimination because of my Catholic background - this confusion continued until 18 years ago when I finally realised the truth and removed myself from this lifestyle, returning to the traditional Catholic faith, where I was helped to “cop myself on” and I’ve never been happier
It sounds cold I suppose but the Catholic Church is, behind the facade, as gay as a parade. I know men who were on their way to the priesthood but left the church when they became aware of all of the homo sex that the others were having among themselves and with men from the surrounding community. The problem for them was the hypocrisy and deceit, not the sex. Then there are all of the wounded men who were sexually exploited by priests as boys. I mean, whatever gets you through the night but you're not kidding anyone but yourself. Then there's the Mormons; holy batshite! The tales I could tell.
I'm gay. I'm out of my family and friends, but I would not be out to my co-workers. I still have internal homophobia, so I don't like guys who look fem.
i came out as gay at 14 years old and then as trans when i was 19. It must be so painful to have to hide your identity and the shame would be crippling 😢
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