My hole was created long ago in childhood by different sources and many years later I've only began to realize that the hole is mine to heal. It takes a lot of time to reflect
My mother once told me that the only time I was happy was when I had a boyfriend. She was right. I was totally dependent on external validation. I am FINALLY learning to love ME. It has been a long, lonely road and there IS a bright light within me that now loves ME.....most of the time now anyway. Thank you so much Michele for guiding me through this journey of learning to love myself. It only took 60+ years. Couldn't have done it without you.
Sending you a huge hug!!! I received your email recently - it brought tears to my eyes!!! Stay strong, focus on the positive, I hope and pray nothing but the best for you. 😀😃🤗
@@sirjustis Sure, didn't she condition you to think about her and her needs 24/7, always jumping through hoops to try to please the person who was never going to be happy with you?
Life After Grey Narcissist Divorce yeah... I used to asked her if she was ok so many times, all day, everyday... and yes, I eventually saw where is was like a hamster in a wheel.
So what if I need real kindness in my life? What if I need a really strong social network? Is there a way to meet other people who suffer from Codependency or who are recovered and want to build healthy relationships? In regular society I have the impression that it is still expected of me to pretend and play a role on order to be accepted. I am reallyfrustrated by that. I want real compassion and not return to old habits of communicating and living. I just need others to help me survive 21st century society. Does anyone have similar problems and challenges? Can we set up self help groups and also help lines for codependents? Or centers to welcome codependents looking for a new way of life? There is not that much out there and I am concerned and afraid I may not survive my waking up from Codependency. Can anyone help?
The unworthiness feels like it’s ingrained in me from an emotionally absent, toxic mother. Thank you for highlighting these feelings and our subconscious co -dependent need to seek external validation. It’s such a work in progress but, for me personally, I feel more empowered when I carve out time for myself to give me what I need. Although it can sometimes make my feelings of social anxiety worse , it feels somewhat safer to go within. I hope everyone reading this finds the inner and outer peace that you crave and deserve. Thank you Michelle! 💕
Yes so true - the unworthiness feels ingrained, hard wired in our DNA - I’m so glad to hear you give yourself the time you need and deserve. For so long our caregivers didn’t give us what we needed and deserved, then we wound up in relationships with people who didn’t give or care about what we needed or deserved.... sadly the tendency is to then self abandon and not give ourselves what we need and deserve! The more we care about our needs, listen to our inner guy and develop a compassionate dialogue - the more empowered we become. Sending good vibes and a huge hug 🤗 😊
I had a psychologist tell me that our brains are like a computer and the only way to get over the C-PTSD of a toxic relationship is to literally write a new program around the old way of thinking. It takes time and effort, but it's worth it.
Very good advice, as if we try to fill the loneliness hole from only what others give us, or with unhealthy coping habits, we will never be able to fill that hole. So you are right we need to be willing to put in the hard work to be able to fill that loneliness hole from within our own self in a healthy way. I love you as my sister Michele and thank you for all you do for all of us narcissist abuse survivors 🙂🤗😏
I have learnt more from RUclips and the Internet in 23 years than my Narc Parents could have teached me in a lifetime. I learnt what Boundaries were from one of Michels videos. Mention the word Boundaries to my Dad and he would have a Panic Attack.
Michele truly knows her subject material. Thanks again for communicating with me. Yes Narcissist would hate you setting boundaries because they are parasites 🦠 and parasites need a host. Boundaries are the insecticide that prevents the parasite being able to clamp onto the host. Once again thanks for your response.
I had that hole inside all my life until I did the meditation about hugging yourself as a child then I had a ball of fireworks in my belly for a week, it was incredible. Realising the narcs don’t care about me, healing my traumas and deciding to take control of how I feel every day (instead of reacting to how they feel) has given me the strength to be me for the first time ever. Still learning and healing, but it is awesome. Michele is a Godsend!
I think its a misconception that we should be entirely independant and self sufficient. We need others, for love and support. We shouldnt feel guilty for feeling we need others. We have needs which we cant entirely meet ourselves, and that is okay. Just felt it was important to point that out.
Yes! The pain after leaving a toxic relationship, such as one with a covert narcissist, is something that cannot just be simply explained away. 30 years of exposure has left me dealing with psychological withdrawal that had me questioning my sanity for 8 months straight. Thanks for sharing. I definitely do not want to find myself with another person of such ilk ever again!!! Thanks for putting this video together....I’m going to do the work you suggest. I cannot experience such a situation ever again.
Everyone I know wants you to give your life for them but they cannot even hold something for 10 seconds so you can hang it up. But I'm the lazy selfish one. Better off just me and God. I will not even try again. Just me, my dogs, and most importantly God. That's it.
@@SoapsLuvr I could give you a list as long as my arm for the things i got called by my Narc Parents. I am Lazy, Selfish.Crazy, and Stupid to name a few. I think the stupid phrase they used against me has been proven wrong by myself over the years but i am still the stupid one according to them.
So simple but totally totally true. It also works the other way but if we make the Narcissist feel bad we get devalued & discarded. They really cannot handle the truth and would sooner end a relationship or a marriage than deal with their issue's. So immature.
It took me over 7 years to go completely no contact, I was thinking to myself for all that time it is only once a week so i can deal with it it is not like i am living with them 24/7 now and have to put up with Narrsistic BS for that long. It carried on though even after saying something to them still nothing changed so i closed the door for good.
Michele I enjoy and appreciate your delivery in your videos. Informative and humorous at the same time. No matter how serious or painful the subject I almost always come away with a smile. Thank you.
The fact that I have started feeling healing within and realized it is a beautiful thing. It single handedly has brought me unexpected feelings of joy that I haven’t felt in ages. I can’t even remember when.
Loneliness is NOT caused by a lack of other people - it's caused by a lack of SELF usually due to abuse/neglect/control/dismissal by narcissistic person or persons - the ONLY cure for 'loneliness' is solitude so that the sense of sense can be regained - it's really not possible to start another relationship during this period although a restrained social life may make solitude more acceptable - solitude is an important factor throughout life for keeping us self-centered & self-aware but NOT selfish.
Such a good explanation love this video helps a lot but it's very hard to correct those feelings and just really give it to yourself all the love that dont make dependent on an outside validation trying my best 7 months without this toxic narcissist girl and still hurting, thank you for the video lots of kisses
This is one of the most comforting videos I have listened to in a long time. It's hard to talk about feeling lonely without fear of someone judging me or giving these cliche responses that just don't help. I knew there would come a day when I'd have to be alone for a while. It sucks. I hate it but I've noticed after listening to it that this video helps deal with the pain of loneliness. I hope it won't take too long to get past though. I am, however, am afraid of getting too used to being alone and never letting anyone in. I don't want to be that person either. So I hope I don't have to be alone for too long.
Thank you so much for creating such a positive and uplifting videos. Not long ago, I have been badly discarded by narc person. Your videos helping me to move on and to make sense of everything that just happened.
I remember a time when I felt I needed no one. Now there are so many times when I am so happy to have found people like minded. Tonight was one of those times. The question of external validation has been on my mind for some time. I spoke with my therapist about a related idea. To be seen as significant. I find within myself the need to feel seen by other people and when I get that I do feel happier. I think this subject is not an easy one to navigate for highly sensitive people and those that have been abused.
Michelle I don’t know you but I want to thank you for your great work , the last couple weeks I been watching your videos and I have to say you have decode it the narcissist DNA , your videos made me realize the depth of the narcissist mind , every thing you say about narcissist are all things that I am dealing with for the last 8 years but dint really know how to explain them , watching your videos I realized how paralyzed I have be come , and how hard it will be to move on but I am determined to move on I need to move on for my own health , and when my thoughts try to take me back to my wife to give in for a little fake loving attention like I am some kind of a puppet , I just listen to your videos and I get the straight I need to resist, so thank you again .
All the pain we feel because we always crave other person love instead of ourselves love.we should face the wound inside , no matter how hard work we need to do in order to heal it.
dsparks149 be free again! I know exactly how you feel! Fill that loneliness with friends, family and especially YOURSELF! Go do something you love! No one can take it away from you now 😎
dsparks149 I know what it’s like to be in the dark hole. I did little things to claw my way out. First look at your healing objectively. Start looking at yourself in the mirror and smile. It may bring you to tears and you may have to hold the sides of your mouth up at first. It will take a while to go from that to a fake smile to a real one to a cheesy grin and a spark in your eye. My Mum said in her dark days that she wasn’t ready to do this. I told her you can’t start thinking about healing when you feel better, you’ve got to start now. Give yourself compliments for absolutely everything, even putting on a sock. Dance to one of your favourite songs every morning. Be kind to you. Give yourself permission to do things your way with the phrase, “Don’t mind if I do.” Dance from one room to the other, make up parody songs about putting the dishes in the dishwasher as you’re doing it. Try to see the funny side of everything. Yoga is great (even if you’re like me and are as graceful as a rabid dog!) it changes your breathing. NET therapy is the greatest gift you can give yourself in healing your traumas. It strengthens your soul. I have done all of these things and can’t tell you how much of a difference it makes. Think of now as the start of your journey. I know it sounds like a massive contradiction but be excited and proud that you’re starting to heal. Take care of you. You deserve it. ❤️
Dsparks149 feequilts is right on the money. I know I'm late to the party, I will add my 2 cents any way. The best way out of this mess is to fall in love with your self. I know it sounds trite and over simplified but it is true. Feeguilts showed how to make it fun, I would like to have heard that years ago. Michele and her fellow travlers have been a great help to me. Listen to her and read the comments from the people who respond to the questions and comments. There are many more like feequilts that will help you. Fight like a ninja for your self love. YOU WILL WIN.
So good and well explaned 🙂 In the start of my relationshit, I dit let go of my fitness, becaurse she, was of that opinion that it was'nt a need for a good life and it only was busting the ego, and I dit let go of my fitness. And so on with many things down the road, becaurse in the love boming stage she wanted all of me, so even when I want to visit my adult children she said "cant it wait to Another day" and so it was with many things I wanted to do, and suddenly I was "alone" with a big hole in my heart, and she begin to brake me, with push me and pull me back again. I was losing my self and it was all about her, not intentionally, but it was her game to get me there, she is a demon, and I really sometimes believe that.
Your videos are helping me so much! You’re teaching me a lot and helping me deal with my narcissistic parents. I’d love to see more videos about healing!
You're a true miracle Michelle. I can't tell how much your videos mean to me. Compared to where I was, where I am now, I've made alot of progress. You've truly helped me to create the distance I needed to heal and work on myself by helping see. And the fact that you do it for nothing. You're an angel. Thanks for it all.
Hi Michelle, I've read that people are wired for connection and to depend on other people. It's totally normal to long for (healthy) connections. It's not normal to totally depend on just one person. You need a small community like a family and a village. Nothing wrong with that. You also need other people to define who you are. Maybe some people don't know how to connect in a safe way? Maybe some people are broken?
Thank God, that He has ultimately filled that painful and overpowering void, now that I have finally come to realise that God through his Holy Spirit is constantly pouring out His love like a river in my heart. First it was head knowledge, but it has now overtime become part of who I am. Romans 5:5
I don't think I have ever felt very lonely. This sounds a lot like what people with borderline personality disorder experience but maybe more extreme since they also have a fear of abandonment. I do worry about how I have allowed my career to go off course to some degree but that is more a financial issue that I am currently working on rectifying. One interesting way to tell if this really effects you is to ask yourself what would you do if you won the lotto? For me I would probably head off on my own and travel. So this does not apply and instead I have a financial fear of failure which is something I can fix. I do have anxiety but not in terms of being alone. Even so really insightful video as always. Also, I have heard codependency afflicts narcissists also correct? It is why they seek out relationships even though they can not connect with anyone and maintain a healthy relationship.
I agree with so much that you have to say. But if you were meant to be alone and independent you would never know anyone else existed. You were created by love to love and live for eachother. I do love myself but I love others more. The greatest gift you can give to someone is love and acceptance. We are damaged but I know that we can heal with truth, acceptance, and forgiveness. God is Love and if you love 1st, accept first, understand 1st, you will know. I will believe even if I believe all alone. There has to be a better way. I know there is a better way. We are not 1 right now but we can be. Love you Michelle and everyone else.
Thank you for the like, who or whom ever did that. We don't have to be ashamed for wanting to love and be loved. I won't be ashamed for being a "sucker". The question is why are we doing tricks to get validated in the first place.? Love, God.
I'm struggling... 5.5 years post narc abuse. I did therapy (still go) medication, meditation, EMDR. I dated some a few years ago and kept running into narcs so I've stayed single, focused on my own life and kids. But having nobody (adult) special just for me... I'm more lonely than ever. 😔
I feel vary vulnerable vary little support I'm acused of being delusional seeing things in my own understanding not leanent enough towards this narsises I went no contact so now narsises harrasses through other's if they will not liston I want them leave alone I understand now why they can't back off she's dead set on not letting go till death or what ?????
Donna thank you so much for the term NARSISES! It is perfect for that is who they really are. One of the narsises in my family told me that I make all this stuff up and then be live it to true. My nick name for them is jonny jedi, from the iconic seen in star wars movie circa 1977. My narsise can never take responsibility for what they say or do. It would sound like this" I did not say that I did not do that, these arn" t the droids you are looking for." If do not remember it look it up on UTUBE or better yet rent the blue ray. Darth Vader is the ultimate narsise. These clowns think they can say things then un- say them like it never happened. How aragant and stupid! Then of course it all your fault That you feel the way you do. I have found that that if you can see them in everyday situations saying the cockamamy BS they come up with It is just hilarious. Keep up the fight it does get better, easier and funnier as time goes on.
Thanks a lot for the video. I am still with the person but feel that hole inside me. After watching your videos I am trying to make myself strong.This person s presence affected my career. Now I am trying to pick up the fragments
I found myself seeking affirmation from a Psychetruth ASMR video today...at least it can't hurt me. On the other hand, that hole has led me into the paths of some VERY not-so-nice people, and that's my vulnerability as my own liability. I'm learning to be my own best friend, but as much as I do love myself, I still just want someone who wont play head games with me. I'm seizing my patterns, and shutting them down: facing my own worth has until now, been a foreign concept. I find myself Loving myself finally, and it's painful to see both how shut down I was externally and became internally.
Thank you, if not for your videos then I would probably be trying to get back with her. No love, no empathy, no validation, no accepting responsibility. Doesn't want to talk to my parent. Excuses galore for everything. Wish I listened to my gut more.
You are so beautiful and I want u to know I will forever be subscribed to ur channel. ur videos helped in the discovery and leaving of my ex husband and then in my healing. I wish u the best in all u do. Love ya girl.
I left a few weeks before my 18th birthday, my only family (immediate). I was the scapegoat, brother golden child, mums boyfriend enabler/joined in at times what my narc mother did and had younger half siblings who were the ignored children. I have no contact with my bio dad or his side of the family and my narc mother did not have contact with her family (so I lost contact as a child too as a result). Leaving me with NO ONE once I left her abusive household. Once I left at 17 in 2012 I was blessed enough to end up in a 10 room hostel for ages 16-18 (turned 18 a week after moving in) final straw was her taking the 💡 out my room for months and one time when I was trying to get ready for college in the morning I could not find my deodorant (wouldn’t be surprised if she hid it or took it out the tiny box room she forced me to stay in). I had to get dressed in the kitchen due to her removing the lightbulb from the box room so I said I can’t go to college with no deodorant on before I even get there I would start to sweat (2 buses and it was over an hour bus ride away and I was studying dance and had dance first thing that day). Narc mother then took my bus pass from me which meant I was not going to walk over 3 hours to college including country lanes (I’m in the UK). I ended up walking 30 minutes to the town centre and waited in McDonald’s (was not allowed a phone so had to keep asking strangers for track of time so when it gets to 9am I can go to a youth place to help me with homelessness as I was adamant that I was going to get out permanently after this final straw amongst many and years of abuse by her). Long story short I’ve spent my whole 20’s in cycles of hostels, shared housing from ymca’s (living with other young people who had there own childhood traumas), having ymca staff let me down and not help me and having to be on benefits (USA call it welfare) because the rent in these places are so high so I’m forced to either go part time work or not work at all and be stuck in poverty trap as a consequence. I went from being a teen who went out and socialized after I left the abuse at nearly 18 to spending my whole 20’s after college isolated in my bedrooms at different hostels or shared “supported” accommodations at the ymca over the years. I’m currently 29 and never got my 20’s as a consequence, developed social anxiety and even get my shopping delivered to the front door at another hostel I’m staying in. It also does not help that I hate the area I’m currently in because narc mother moved us to this place the end of 2010 after I finished high school, had to spend the whole of 2011 isolated with no college place enduring her abuse without being able to leave until 2012, so due to this current place being my local connection I’m forced to stay here despite not having any real friends and no family. Dealing with corrupt council housing staff who have even falsified my risk assessment and being bullied by the female staff at this hostel and just at a crossroads because any place I get allocated for housing would be in this area, the thought of shared housing with strangers scares me, especially with the crazy housemates I’ve had over the years up to currently. A few months ago a man tried to open my bedroom door twice at this current hostel so I still sleep with my suitcase and a chair against the door at this hostel. What makes me angry is growing up my narc mother used to tell me she wanted to f uck up my life and future and words are powerful. At 29 I shouldn’t be existing (not living) like this.
Our choices really reflect how we think of ourselves. We can adapt, conform, accept, transform for the sake of acceptance, love, approval, lose our true identity all because we don't know our true value and worth. I realized my worth when God revealed Himself as Father to me. I never had a father to love me or tell me I was his little princess girl. God's love continued to pour over me throughout the years until I finally realized His love is forever., He never let go of me. My worth came when I realized I was a princess daughter of my King. Many may not believe in God or His ways, but this is how I got healed. It's not wrong to desire a spouse or to find meaningful friendships, not to fill a void but to express our lives through one another, to be a friend that supports and want happiness for others. Those are normal emotions and desires. It's when we are driven by our needs... to the extent of losing our worth... we sabotage our own hearts. Thus the pain drives a stake home like a self fulfilling prophecy that we are not worthy to receive genuine sincere love. We begin with rejecting ourselves by our choices then end up being rejected which creates this cycle of pain. Many have not the knowledge we have now in regards to narcissists. So one can enter into a relationship and think things are going quite well until the interruptions begin to flow in by the narcissist. A person can turn away from the narcissist and say I have more worth than to accept this abuser's antagonism or they can let it all slide and accept their behavior. In the latter, pain will be knocking on your heart no sooner than you can tell the narcissist to change their ways.
That was perfectly worded and just what I needed to hear on a very dark night. My year and a half of being with a narcissist is now I believe over now for the healing to begin. I need to go back to looking to Jesus for all my strength I love
Hello, As if your talking right to me...like knowing me . THANK YOU! ☺ gosh, Only 8 min. you explaind the emotions of the pain. it's so nuts that somebody knows the same emptiness of what i was going through. Unfortunately it has me distrust certain people with certain situations because of my experience. at the same time also a positive ,i trust my gut a WHOLE lot more.. I've even said to a guy that i'd rather be single if he wasn't going to "put a label"...compliments but then saying i don't know if i want to be in a relationship ".😕 "i don't know who i am". bizare.. Which happened & it felt amazing.. to show my high value by not invest in communication if he's not going to reciprocate..👍🏼 to pour that self- love ❤ into myself. One step at a time everyone is how the better internal dialogue is built😃 You got this people!
Does it mean that our world consists of two kinds of people, the Narcissists, and the Healthy Ones? Does it mean that we have to spot the Narcissists wherever they are and do not have any connection with them especially in the marriages? Ohhhh poor world we are !!!!
yes this is true and it is more than just an empty acceptance of ourselves but a 'working on ourselves' and changing the things we don't want or need about ourselves! the narcissists have dumped unwanted 'garbage' into our lives; and this is why we struggle and have to do so much work to regain our sense of feeling good about ourselves or at least feeling 'good enough'! in my opinion it is a growing, changing and learning process that takes time and effort but it pays off in the long run! Marisa Peer is a very highly respected hypnotherapist and life couch from England! i like to listen to her often and she is very helpful! here is a link to one of her videos. ruclips.net/video/HzMXtu93iQI/видео.html
That home is created from being around the narcissist. A narcissists has that hole in their heart there entire life. They drain you of energy and create the black hole inside you.
I want to get this straight though: should we not feel lonely? I know we're codependent and I know we shouldn't *rely* on others, but are we not supposed to feel as though life should be shared with other people who lift us up? Are we not supposed to crave true connections that make us happy? A real version of the facade that the narcissist gave us? Or is that just something that doesn't exist and something I shouldn't strive for?
I was catfished 150.000.00 because Of this exact thing. The weirdest thing is that the narc didn’t make a big deal out of this. It’s what he did. The other person took money. He took my soul.
I think if knew what love is this would be easier to understand ..when my Mom Dad died I didn't feel a thing.. not one tear .. But when my dog died I cried every night .. I still get emotional .. I think that little shit showed me love.. I will never get another dog.. If love is that painful ..I don't want it.. I will give anyone the shirt off my back.. But to surrender that much of myself is out of the question .. I believe in God with all my heart and soul ..I asked him to show me his truth not mine.. He answered me within an hour.. It totally changed me. One thing I will never ask for is the truth about love...It's a shame but it is what it is
Hi Christiane. Please watch any video of Michele's whenever the title "speaks" to you. I have learned the most about recovering from narcissistic abuse, which IS so confusing, from watching Michele's videos. You are at the right place. Good luck and bless you too.
Ame is ABSOLUTELY right! I went back to very first one and watched almost all of them. If your just beginning on this adventure it takes awhile to sort things out. It is hard at times but so worth it. Michele is an awesome guide to lead you through the dark forrest of BS in the land of narsistic stupidity.
I was given the bpd diagnosis once but I don’t see how I can have a fear of loneliness when I’ve been lonely all along? A lot of the symptoms didn’t make sense to me anymore... maybe I just recovered from that aspect. My problem has always been empathy and really bad anxiety and manic depression. I care too much about everyone and the world that I get scared to leave my house. I just got diagnosed as bipolar after fighting the system way too long. Is this just an empath thing??
I’ve never been toxic as a borderline. Admittedly through the early phases I got jacked up on a bunch of unnecessary pills. I eventually stopped that mindset of playing games early on so it had was always offended me that I was getting the finger pointed at me.
Am I codependent? I know I have been what seems forever. Still I remain stuck in that old.... Yes I do give my time and energy in a positive healthy way yet I still remain alone and lonely....
One more thing. Divorced December. Youngest child lives with dad because mom literally can’t clean up after herself. Now he’s leaving on an LDS Mission. And Narc is moving out of the State. I really feel alone. Only child deceased parents. Lol. Divorced , living in hone that I raised kids in large. Triggers. Empty nester and divorced all in six months. I’m kind of tripping. I’m going on a trip. I need a vacation.
Janet Cole keep your head up don’t let it get to you. Smile more your a very pretty woman you deserve happiness get out there and be happy again I know it’s hard but do it for you
Excuse me... A psychiater told me I have some serios borderline and histrionic issues, still not fullblown disorder. I have gar many failed relationships, but I was never toxic for anyone. I know this because I was always the one wishing to end the relationship. My bff could have npd as a disorder, but she has never hurt anyone too much either. So before calling all this people toxic, which is pretty extreme, I suggest you should do some shadow work yourself
My hole was created long ago in childhood by different sources and many years later I've only began to realize that the hole is mine to heal. It takes a lot of time to reflect
My mother once told me that the only time I was happy was when I had a boyfriend. She was right. I was totally dependent on external validation. I am FINALLY learning to love ME. It has been a long, lonely road and there IS a bright light within me that now loves ME.....most of the time now anyway. Thank you so much Michele for guiding me through this journey of learning to love myself. It only took 60+ years. Couldn't have done it without you.
Sending you a huge hug!!! I received your email recently - it brought tears to my eyes!!! Stay strong, focus on the positive, I hope and pray nothing but the best for you. 😀😃🤗
*Pro 19:8 KJV*
He that getteth wisdom loveth his own soul: he that keepeth understanding shall find good.
Love Your Special Effects!!! Also, the narcissist trained our brains to focus on them all the time and we have to learn how to focus on ourselves!
So true!!!
Is that what is happening to me?! I can not stop thinking about her, and I made the right choice to leave her :(
@@sirjustis Sure, didn't she condition you to think about her and her needs 24/7, always jumping through hoops to try to please the person who was never going to be happy with you?
Life After Grey Narcissist Divorce yeah... I used to asked her if she was ok so many times, all day, everyday... and yes, I eventually saw where is was like a hamster in a wheel.
So what if I need real kindness in my life? What if I need a really strong social network? Is there a way to meet other people who suffer from Codependency or who are recovered and want to build healthy relationships? In regular society I have the impression that it is still expected of me to pretend and play a role on order to be accepted. I am reallyfrustrated by that. I want real compassion and not return to old habits of communicating and living. I just need others to help me survive 21st century society.
Does anyone have similar problems and challenges?
Can we set up self help groups and also help lines for codependents? Or centers to welcome codependents looking for a new way of life?
There is not that much out there and I am concerned and afraid I may not survive my waking up from Codependency.
Can anyone help?
You are truly an inspiring and beautiful human. Thank you for caring, you have helped me heal the lost little girl inside ❤️
So happy I could be there for you! 😊🤗
@@FromSurvivingToThriving 🤗
The unworthiness feels like it’s ingrained in me from an emotionally absent, toxic mother. Thank you for highlighting these feelings and our subconscious co -dependent need to seek external validation. It’s such a work in progress but, for me personally, I feel more empowered when I carve out time for myself to give me what I need. Although it can sometimes make my feelings of social anxiety worse , it feels somewhat safer to go within. I hope everyone reading this finds the inner and outer peace that you crave and deserve. Thank you Michelle! 💕
Yes so true - the unworthiness feels ingrained, hard wired in our DNA - I’m so glad to hear you give yourself the time you need and deserve. For so long our caregivers didn’t give us what we needed and deserved, then we wound up in relationships with people who didn’t give or care about what we needed or deserved.... sadly the tendency is to then self abandon and not give ourselves what we need and deserve! The more we care about our needs, listen to our inner guy and develop a compassionate dialogue - the more empowered we become. Sending good vibes and a huge hug 🤗 😊
Michele Lee Nieves Coaching Thank you Michelle 🙏 You just made my day! Sending love and hugs to you and all 🤗 🤗
I had a psychologist tell me that our brains are like a computer and the only way to get over the C-PTSD of a toxic relationship is to literally write a new program around the old way of thinking. It takes time and effort, but it's worth it.
Can you explain how to do this? Also any books you recommend ?
@@minarose3193 You have to really be in touch with your symptoms and have a constructive series if thoughts you consciously go to. It does take time.
They say the psilocybin in mushrooms wipes the PTSD program off/clean...
Very good advice, as if we try to fill the loneliness hole from only what others give us, or with unhealthy coping habits, we will never be able to fill that hole. So you are right we need to be willing to put in the hard work to be able to fill that loneliness hole from within our own self in a healthy way.
I love you as my sister Michele and thank you for all you do for all of us narcissist abuse survivors 🙂🤗😏
I learned more from listening to you for a half hour than I have in years from elsewhere. Thanks again for another awesome presentation.
Michele thanks for your response.
Thanks for the thumbs up 👍. I appreciate all constructive feedback.
I have learnt more from RUclips and the Internet in 23 years than my Narc Parents could have teached me in a lifetime. I learnt what Boundaries were from one of Michels videos. Mention the word Boundaries to my Dad and he would have a Panic Attack.
Michele truly knows her subject material. Thanks again for communicating with me. Yes Narcissist would hate you setting boundaries because they are parasites 🦠 and parasites need a host. Boundaries are the insecticide that prevents the parasite being able to clamp onto the host. Once again thanks for your response.
I had that hole inside all my life until I did the meditation about hugging yourself as a child then I had a ball of fireworks in my belly for a week, it was incredible. Realising the narcs don’t care about me, healing my traumas and deciding to take control of how I feel every day (instead of reacting to how they feel) has given me the strength to be me for the first time ever. Still learning and healing, but it is awesome. Michele is a Godsend!
I think its a misconception that we should be entirely independant and self sufficient. We need others, for love and support. We shouldnt feel guilty for feeling we need others. We have needs which we cant entirely meet ourselves, and that is okay. Just felt it was important to point that out.
Self sufficiency is hard but is definitely possible
Agreed
Yes! The pain after leaving a toxic relationship, such as one with a covert narcissist, is something that cannot just be simply explained away. 30 years of exposure has left me dealing with psychological withdrawal that had me questioning my sanity for 8 months straight.
Thanks for sharing. I definitely do not want to find myself with another person of such ilk ever again!!!
Thanks for putting this video together....I’m going to do the work you suggest. I cannot experience such a situation ever again.
Everyone I know wants you to give your life for them but they cannot even hold something for 10 seconds so you can hang it up. But I'm the lazy selfish one. Better off just me and God. I will not even try again. Just me, my dogs, and most importantly God. That's it.
I've been called the same by my narc parents. Guilt-tripped my whole life.
@@SoapsLuvr I could give you a list as long as my arm for the things i got called by my Narc Parents. I am Lazy, Selfish.Crazy, and Stupid to name a few. I think the stupid phrase they used against me has been proven wrong by myself over the years but i am still the stupid one according to them.
If we depend on someone to make us feel good they also have the power to make us miserable we have given our power to someone else.
So simple but totally totally true. It also works the other way but if we make the Narcissist feel bad we get devalued & discarded. They really cannot handle the truth and would sooner end a relationship or a marriage than deal with their issue's. So immature.
It's not easy to leave your narcissist parents. The best I can do is low contact. It sucks and I don't think I'll ever truly be free.
It took me over 7 years to go completely no contact, I was thinking to myself for all that time it is only once a week so i can deal with it it is not like i am living with them 24/7 now and have to put up with Narrsistic BS for that long. It carried on though even after saying something to them still nothing changed so i closed the door for good.
Michele I enjoy and appreciate your delivery in your videos. Informative and humorous at the same time. No matter how serious or painful the subject I almost always come away with a smile. Thank you.
Everything you said is so true I know so hard I can even begin to tell you what I’m going through I thank you helped a lot
🙏❤️ it gets better when you go no contact. But it takes time. Keep watching these vids they help so much
The fact that I have started feeling healing within and realized it is a beautiful thing. It single handedly has brought me unexpected feelings of joy that I haven’t felt in ages. I can’t even remember when.
Loneliness is NOT caused by a lack of other people - it's caused by a lack of SELF usually due to abuse/neglect/control/dismissal by narcissistic person or persons - the ONLY cure for 'loneliness' is solitude so that the sense of sense can be regained - it's really not possible to start another relationship during this period although a restrained social life may make solitude more acceptable - solitude is an important factor throughout life for keeping us self-centered & self-aware but NOT selfish.
Such a good explanation love this video helps a lot but it's very hard to correct those feelings and just really give it to yourself all the love that dont make dependent on an outside validation trying my best 7 months without this toxic narcissist girl and still hurting, thank you for the video lots of kisses
This is one of the most comforting videos I have listened to in a long time. It's hard to talk about feeling lonely without fear of someone judging me or giving these cliche responses that just don't help. I knew there would come a day when I'd have to be alone for a while. It sucks. I hate it but I've noticed after listening to it that this video helps deal with the pain of loneliness. I hope it won't take too long to get past though. I am, however, am afraid of getting too used to being alone and never letting anyone in. I don't want to be that person either. So I hope I don't have to be alone for too long.
Thank you so much for creating such a positive and uplifting videos. Not long ago, I have been badly discarded by narc person. Your videos helping me to move on and to make sense of everything that just happened.
I remember a time when I felt I needed no one. Now there are so many times when I am so happy to have found people like minded. Tonight was one of those times.
The question of external validation has been on my mind for some time. I spoke with my therapist about a related idea. To be seen as significant. I find within myself the need to feel seen by other people and when I get that I do feel happier.
I think this subject is not an easy one to navigate for highly sensitive people and those that have been abused.
Michelle I don’t know you but I want to thank you for your great work , the last couple weeks I been watching your videos and I have to say you have decode it the narcissist DNA , your videos made me realize the depth of the narcissist mind , every thing you say about narcissist are all things that I am dealing with for the last 8 years but dint really know how to explain them , watching your videos I realized how paralyzed I have be come , and how hard it will be to move on but I am determined to move on I need to move on for my own health , and when my thoughts try to take me back to my wife to give in for a little fake loving attention like I am some kind of a puppet , I just listen to your videos and I get the straight I need to resist, so thank you again .
All the pain we feel because we always crave other person love instead of ourselves love.we should face the wound inside , no matter how hard work we need to do in order to heal it.
I am all alone now and don’t know how to fix it
Meditate in nature and pray to God, you are not alone .
dsparks149 be free again! I know exactly how you feel! Fill that loneliness with friends, family and especially YOURSELF! Go do something you love! No one can take it away from you now 😎
dsparks149 I know what it’s like to be in the dark hole. I did little things to claw my way out. First look at your healing objectively. Start looking at yourself in the mirror and smile. It may bring you to tears and you may have to hold the sides of your mouth up at first. It will take a while to go from that to a fake smile to a real one to a cheesy grin and a spark in your eye. My Mum said in her dark days that she wasn’t ready to do this. I told her you can’t start thinking about healing when you feel better, you’ve got to start now.
Give yourself compliments for absolutely everything, even putting on a sock. Dance to one of your favourite songs every morning. Be kind to you. Give yourself permission to do things your way with the phrase, “Don’t mind if I do.” Dance from one room to the other, make up parody songs about putting the dishes in the dishwasher as you’re doing it. Try to see the funny side of everything. Yoga is great (even if you’re like me and are as graceful as a rabid dog!) it changes your breathing. NET therapy is the greatest gift you can give yourself in healing your traumas. It strengthens your soul.
I have done all of these things and can’t tell you how much of a difference it makes. Think of now as the start of your journey. I know it sounds like a massive contradiction but be excited and proud that you’re starting to heal. Take care of you. You deserve it. ❤️
Dsparks149 feequilts is right on the money. I know I'm late to the party, I will add my 2 cents any way. The best way out of this mess is to fall in love with your self. I know it sounds trite and over simplified but it is true. Feeguilts showed how to make it fun, I would like to have heard that years
ago. Michele and her fellow travlers have been a great help to me. Listen to her and read the comments from the people who respond to the questions and comments. There are many more like feequilts that will help you.
Fight like a ninja for your self love.
YOU WILL WIN.
Tom Smith Thanks, Tom for your kind words. I hope your life is everything you want it to be, more power to you! Have a great day!
So good and well explaned 🙂
In the start of my relationshit, I dit let go of my fitness, becaurse she, was of that opinion that it was'nt a need for a good life and it only was busting the ego, and I dit let go of my fitness. And so on with many things down the road, becaurse in the love boming stage she wanted all of me, so even when I want to visit my adult children she said "cant it wait to Another day" and so it was with many things I wanted to do, and suddenly I was "alone" with a big hole in my heart, and she begin to brake me, with push me and pull me back again.
I was losing my self and it was all about her, not intentionally, but it was her game to get me there, she is a demon, and I really sometimes believe that.
Your videos are helping me so much! You’re teaching me a lot and helping me deal with my narcissistic parents. I’d love to see more videos about healing!
I can’t wait for the self help/love series.
You have such a pretty/soothing speaking-voice. You sound professional, gentle, kind and wise.🌷
You're a true miracle Michelle. I can't tell how much your videos mean to me. Compared to where I was, where I am now, I've made alot of progress. You've truly helped me to create the distance I needed to heal and work on myself by helping see. And the fact that you do it for nothing. You're an angel. Thanks for it all.
Michele, you are doing AMAZING work. Thank you
Hi Michelle,
I've read that people are wired for connection and to depend on other people. It's totally normal to long for (healthy) connections. It's not normal to totally depend on just one person. You need a small community like a family and a village. Nothing wrong with that. You also need other people to define who you are. Maybe some people don't know how to connect in a safe way? Maybe some people are broken?
Thank God, that He has ultimately filled that painful and overpowering void, now that I have finally come to realise that God through his Holy Spirit is constantly pouring out His love like a river in my heart. First it was head knowledge, but it has now overtime become part of who I am.
Romans 5:5
I don't think I have ever felt very lonely. This sounds a lot like what people with borderline personality disorder experience but maybe more extreme since they also have a fear of abandonment. I do worry about how I have allowed my career to go off course to some degree but that is more a financial issue that I am currently working on rectifying. One interesting way to tell if this really effects you is to ask yourself what would you do if you won the lotto? For me I would probably head off on my own and travel. So this does not apply and instead I have a financial fear of failure which is something I can fix. I do have anxiety but not in terms of being alone. Even so really insightful video as always. Also, I have heard codependency afflicts narcissists also correct? It is why they seek out relationships even though they can not connect with anyone and maintain a healthy relationship.
I agree with so much that you have to say. But if you were meant to be alone and independent you would never know anyone else existed. You were created by love to love and live for eachother. I do love myself but I love others more. The greatest gift you can give to someone is love and acceptance. We are damaged but I know that we can heal with truth, acceptance, and forgiveness. God is Love and if you love 1st, accept first, understand 1st, you will know. I will believe even if I believe all alone. There has to be a better way. I know there is a better way. We are not 1 right now but we can be. Love you Michelle and everyone else.
Thank you for the like, who or whom ever did that. We don't have to be ashamed for wanting to love and be loved. I won't be ashamed for being a "sucker". The question is why are we doing tricks to get validated in the first place.?
Love, God.
Wonderful video, Michelle! I am so grateful !
I'm just reading about it in this book "whole again" by Jackson MacKenzie! Great read! Highly recommended
I have his first book!!!! I will have to get that one too!
You can not have true external stability until you first have internal stability ❤ thank you so much for your videos
I'm struggling... 5.5 years post narc abuse. I did therapy (still go) medication, meditation, EMDR. I dated some a few years ago and kept running into narcs so I've stayed single, focused on my own life and kids. But having nobody (adult) special just for me...
I'm more lonely than ever. 😔
Great video and you are so beautiful. Thank you so much.
😊🤗
You look good Michele.
Thank you for this video! Going through this right now.
I feel vary vulnerable vary little support I'm acused of being delusional seeing things in my own understanding not leanent enough towards this narsises I went no contact so now narsises harrasses through other's if they will not liston I want them leave alone I understand now why they can't back off she's dead set on not letting go till death or what ?????
Donna thank you so much for the term NARSISES! It is perfect for that is who they really are. One of the narsises in my family told me that I make all this stuff up and then be live it to true. My nick name for them is jonny jedi, from the iconic seen in star wars movie circa 1977. My narsise can never take responsibility for what they say or do. It would sound like this" I did not say that I did not do that, these arn" t the droids you are looking for." If do not remember it look it up on UTUBE or better yet rent the blue ray. Darth Vader is the ultimate narsise. These clowns think they can say things then un- say them like it never happened. How aragant and stupid! Then of course it all your fault That you feel the way you do. I have found that that if you can see them in everyday situations saying the cockamamy BS they come up with
It is just hilarious. Keep up the fight it does get better, easier and funnier as time goes on.
Thanks a lot for the video. I am still with the person but feel that hole inside me. After watching your videos I am trying to make myself strong.This person s presence affected my career. Now I am trying to pick up the fragments
I found myself seeking affirmation from a Psychetruth ASMR video today...at least it can't hurt me.
On the other hand, that hole has led me into the paths of some VERY not-so-nice people, and that's my vulnerability as my own liability.
I'm learning to be my own best friend, but as much as I do love myself, I still just want someone who wont play head games with me.
I'm seizing my patterns, and shutting them down: facing my own worth has until now, been a foreign concept. I find myself Loving myself finally, and it's painful to see both how shut down I was externally and became internally.
Thank you, if not for your videos then I would probably be trying to get back with her. No love, no empathy, no validation, no accepting responsibility. Doesn't want to talk to my parent. Excuses galore for everything. Wish I listened to my gut more.
You are so beautiful and I want u to know I will forever be subscribed to ur channel. ur videos helped in the discovery and leaving of my ex husband and then in my healing. I wish u the best in all u do. Love ya girl.
Great video...love the shirt, where did you get it? :D
Thank you 🙏 😊 honestly it’s my daughters shirt 😂 - I think she got it at Ross.
@@FromSurvivingToThriving awesome, she has good taste:)
I left a few weeks before my 18th birthday, my only family (immediate). I was the scapegoat, brother golden child, mums boyfriend enabler/joined in at times what my narc mother did and had younger half siblings who were the ignored children.
I have no contact with my bio dad or his side of the family and my narc mother did not have contact with her family (so I lost contact as a child too as a result). Leaving me with NO ONE once I left her abusive household.
Once I left at 17 in 2012 I was blessed enough to end up in a 10 room hostel for ages 16-18 (turned 18 a week after moving in) final straw was her taking the 💡 out my room for months and one time when I was trying to get ready for college in the morning I could not find my deodorant (wouldn’t be surprised if she hid it or took it out the tiny box room she forced me to stay in). I had to get dressed in the kitchen due to her removing the lightbulb from the box room so I said I can’t go to college with no deodorant on before I even get there I would start to sweat (2 buses and it was over an hour bus ride away and I was studying dance and had dance first thing that day).
Narc mother then took my bus pass from me which meant I was not going to walk over 3 hours to college including country lanes (I’m in the UK).
I ended up walking 30 minutes to the town centre and waited in McDonald’s (was not allowed a phone so had to keep asking strangers for track of time so when it gets to 9am I can go to a youth place to help me with homelessness as I was adamant that I was going to get out permanently after this final straw amongst many and years of abuse by her).
Long story short I’ve spent my whole 20’s in cycles of hostels, shared housing from ymca’s (living with other young people who had there own childhood traumas), having ymca staff let me down and not help me and having to be on benefits (USA call it welfare) because the rent in these places are so high so I’m forced to either go part time work or not work at all and be stuck in poverty trap as a consequence.
I went from being a teen who went out and socialized after I left the abuse at nearly 18 to spending my whole 20’s after college isolated in my bedrooms at different hostels or shared “supported” accommodations at the ymca over the years.
I’m currently 29 and never got my 20’s as a consequence, developed social anxiety and even get my shopping delivered to the front door at another hostel I’m staying in. It also does not help that I hate the area I’m currently in because narc mother moved us to this place the end of 2010 after I finished high school, had to spend the whole of 2011 isolated with no college place enduring her abuse without being able to leave until 2012, so due to this current place being my local connection I’m forced to stay here despite not having any real friends and no family. Dealing with corrupt council housing staff who have even falsified my risk assessment and being bullied by the female staff at this hostel and just at a crossroads because any place I get allocated for housing would be in this area, the thought of shared housing with strangers scares me, especially with the crazy housemates I’ve had over the years up to currently. A few months ago a man tried to open my bedroom door twice at this current hostel so I still sleep with my suitcase and a chair against the door at this hostel.
What makes me angry is growing up my narc mother used to tell me she wanted to f uck up my life and future and words are powerful. At 29 I shouldn’t be existing (not living) like this.
Love your videos thank you I was here 2 years ago after a discard it's been rocky because I have to co parent with him, had to re watch.
Our choices really reflect how we think of ourselves. We can adapt, conform, accept, transform for the sake of acceptance, love, approval, lose our true identity all because we don't know our true value and worth. I realized my worth when God revealed Himself as Father to me. I never had a father to love me or tell me I was his little princess girl. God's love continued to pour over me throughout the years until I finally realized His love is forever., He never let go of me. My worth came when I realized I was a princess daughter of my King. Many may not believe in God or His ways, but this is how I got healed. It's not wrong to desire a spouse or to find meaningful friendships, not to fill a void but to express our lives through one another, to be a friend that supports and want happiness for others. Those are normal emotions and desires. It's when we are driven by our needs... to the extent of losing our worth... we sabotage our own hearts. Thus the pain drives a stake home like a self fulfilling prophecy that we are not worthy to receive genuine sincere love. We begin with rejecting ourselves by our choices then end up being rejected which creates this cycle of pain. Many have not the knowledge we have now in regards to narcissists. So one can enter into a relationship and think things are going quite well until the interruptions begin to flow in by the narcissist. A person can turn away from the narcissist and say I have more worth than to accept this abuser's antagonism or they can let it all slide and accept their behavior. In the latter, pain will be knocking on your heart no sooner than you can tell the narcissist to change their ways.
That was perfectly worded and just what I needed to hear on a very dark night. My year and a half of being with a narcissist is now I believe over now for the healing to begin. I need to go back to looking to Jesus for all my strength I love
michele keep doing more such videos.Always waiting for them.
This is beautiful and totally helpful, to massively understate.
Excellent, outstanding, enlightening, useful & very very helpful video 👏👏👏👏Thank you very much😊
Hello, As if your talking right to me...like knowing me . THANK YOU! ☺
gosh, Only 8 min. you explaind the emotions of the pain. it's so nuts that somebody knows the same emptiness of what i was going through.
Unfortunately it has me distrust certain people with certain situations because of my experience.
at the same time also a positive ,i trust my gut a WHOLE lot more.. I've even said to a guy that i'd rather be single if he wasn't going to "put a label"...compliments but then saying i don't know if i want to be in a relationship ".😕 "i don't know who i am". bizare..
Which happened & it felt amazing.. to show my high value by not invest in communication if he's not going to reciprocate..👍🏼
to pour that self- love ❤ into myself. One step at a time everyone is how the better internal dialogue is built😃
You got this people!
Does it mean that our world consists of two kinds of people, the Narcissists, and the Healthy Ones? Does it mean that we have to spot the Narcissists wherever they are and do not have any connection with them especially in the marriages? Ohhhh poor world we are !!!!
yes this is true and it is more than just an empty acceptance of ourselves but a 'working on ourselves' and changing the things we don't want or need about ourselves! the narcissists have dumped unwanted 'garbage' into our lives; and this is why we struggle and have to do so much work to regain our sense of feeling good about ourselves or at least feeling 'good enough'! in my opinion it is a growing, changing and learning process that takes time and effort but it pays off in the long run! Marisa Peer is a very highly respected hypnotherapist and life couch from England! i like to listen to her often and she is very helpful! here is a link to one of her videos. ruclips.net/video/HzMXtu93iQI/видео.html
That home is created from being around the narcissist. A narcissists has that hole in their heart there entire life. They drain you of energy and create the black hole inside you.
Excellent msg, great video, keep up the good work, and you look sharp.
I am enough.
Great video. Hits home.
Thanks Michele , you help me more each day,
Thank you you’re so sweet and genuine ...love it!
I want to get this straight though: should we not feel lonely? I know we're codependent and I know we shouldn't *rely* on others, but are we not supposed to feel as though life should be shared with other people who lift us up? Are we not supposed to crave true connections that make us happy? A real version of the facade that the narcissist gave us? Or is that just something that doesn't exist and something I shouldn't strive for?
This was extremely helpful to me.
I've been strong for almost 4 months. But I heard they are leaving the state and all I want to do is call them so bad.
You heal.
Open eyes.
Thnx.
I love your shirt 🤗 and this video
Ty for making this video
Thank you. 🙏💗
Love you Michele.
I was catfished 150.000.00 because Of this exact thing. The weirdest thing is that the narc didn’t make a big deal out of this. It’s what he did. The other person took money. He took my soul.
I think if knew what love is this would be easier to understand ..when my Mom Dad died I didn't feel a thing.. not one tear .. But when my dog died I cried every night .. I still get emotional .. I think that little shit showed me love.. I will never get another dog.. If love is that painful ..I don't want it.. I will give anyone the shirt off my back.. But to surrender that much of myself is out of the question .. I believe in God with all my heart and soul ..I asked him to show me his truth not mine.. He answered me within an hour.. It totally changed me. One thing I will never ask for is the truth about love...It's a shame but it is what it is
Thank u for this video it makes me realize my whole life..
And I'm learning to be there for myself and being alone is ok.
Michelle thank you God bless you! Please what is the link to the follow up video on this subject?
Your an angel from god....thnx michele
I've tried to fill the void with myself, but it's not working. I still feel that I need outside validation. What do I do???
I hear. But am confused. Maybe the next video wil explain.
Hi Christiane. Please watch any video of Michele's whenever the title "speaks" to you. I have learned the most about recovering from narcissistic abuse, which IS so confusing, from watching Michele's videos. You are at the right place. Good luck and bless you too.
Ame is ABSOLUTELY right! I went back to very first one and watched almost all of them. If your just beginning on this adventure it takes awhile to sort things out. It is hard at times but so worth it. Michele is an awesome guide to lead you through the dark forrest of BS in the land of narsistic stupidity.
Why do I feel like i never ever going to overwin this..😥 i make the right dissions but in my head it is such a mess.
But it is fun to do things with another person that appreciates you and loves you
Hiking is alot more fun with someone who enjoys it with you
Mine is a big scar. Seems I try to hide it now. My days are better but past comes back in my mind sometimes. And I just get buisy. And it goes away.
I miss you already friend♡
I was given the bpd diagnosis once but I don’t see how I can have a fear of loneliness when I’ve been lonely all along? A lot of the symptoms didn’t make sense to me anymore... maybe I just recovered from that aspect. My problem has always been empathy and really bad anxiety and manic depression. I care too much about everyone and the world that I get scared to leave my house. I just got diagnosed as bipolar after fighting the system way too long. Is this just an empath thing??
I’ve never been toxic as a borderline. Admittedly through the early phases I got jacked up on a bunch of unnecessary pills. I eventually stopped that mindset of playing games early on so it had was always offended me that I was getting the finger pointed at me.
break the cycle
Strangers to me are like playing Russian Roulette, toxicity of some type just waiting in the chamber.
Can u do a video on how to overcome fear of abandonment after several toxic relationships
Am I codependent? I know I have been what seems forever. Still I remain stuck in that old.... Yes I do give my time and energy in a positive healthy way yet I still remain alone and lonely....
I want that shirt. (Sorry off topic)
One more thing. Divorced December. Youngest child lives with dad because mom literally can’t clean up after herself. Now he’s leaving on an LDS Mission. And Narc is moving out of the State. I really feel
alone. Only child deceased parents. Lol. Divorced , living in hone that I raised kids in large. Triggers. Empty nester and divorced all in six months. I’m kind of tripping. I’m going on a trip. I need a vacation.
Janet Cole keep your head up don’t let it get to you. Smile more your a very pretty woman you deserve happiness get out there and be happy again I know it’s hard but do it for you
You know you’re getting over it when you start not wanting to watch these and other videos anymore
Thank you so much. Can I work with you?
Excuse me... A psychiater told me I have some serios borderline and histrionic issues, still not fullblown disorder. I have gar many failed relationships, but I was never toxic for anyone. I know this because I was always the one wishing to end the relationship. My bff could have npd as a disorder, but she has never hurt anyone too much either. So before calling all this people toxic, which is pretty extreme, I suggest you should do some shadow work yourself
wow this is so me
Good video
My God, what happened? Was anyone killed? Yes...
I did the opposite. I isolated myself for 2 years
Now i feel like a sucker
she is crying as she is saying this
Michelle, I'm assuming you speak Spanish... if you do, you should do some videos in Spanish. Your healing help would be so welcome!