How Race Has Affected Our Relationship | Interracial Dating in South Africa
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- Dating outside your race is and continues to be a big topic and we totally get it. We've obviously have had to have this conversation plenty of times in the 9years we've been together and today we thought we would share a bit of our experience with interracial dating in South Africa and how race has affected our relationship.
A lot of the issues we face as a mixed race couple usually come from strangers which is something we never expected but have had to deal with. We also talk about racism and how exhausting it can be just trying to live day to day as a POC. Having conversations about race with your partner is so important, even if you are in a same race and same culture relationship.
We're happy to open this space up to constructive conversation so let us know your thoughts and questions.
If there's ever been a vlog surrounding this topic that nailed it, with regards to the racism experience through the eyes of a black woman first, second as an interracial/cultural couple, and third the history of both cultures independently. In a nutshell.... KILLED IT💯😉
Thank you Lilley! Big and very charged topics to cover in a 30min video but glad we were able to communicate SOME of our perspective and experiences 😅❤️
First here yaay🎉So you know l love you guys to bits.lm from jamaica and because lm not well travelled l have not really experienced racism. In jamaica we have asians and indians that speaks the native lamguage patois just like us the blacks because a lot of them were born in jamaica with emmigrant parents or grandparents.Jamaicans also culturally are raised with a certain degree of confidence that we are more likely to cuss you out and keep it moving if you are racist toward us.but l know some ppls experience is really painful. I look at you guys and l honestly dont see color l instead see your loving dynamic and l wish we all could choose to see whats in front of you instead of reverting to social conditioning.l mean how much more evidence do you need to see different can be beautiful.lts why your platform is so important.Anyway Big up yuh nice clean self both of you and kiss my niece for me ♥️♥️
OMG KAREN PLEASE TAKE ME TO JAMAICA 🇯🇲 😍😍😍 Sounds wonderful and I'm so happy there's such a beautiful mix of culture. I really do wish that for South Africa and its people.
Thank you so so much. We appreciate you not only watching to listen and understand but also watching to share your experience. You're amazing.
I love your energy, you're so sweet to watch ❤
Thank you so much for tuning in and for being so kind. It's a big topic so your support means so much.
Mahn yall are stunning yazi, and not just on the outside(that too😂) but as people nje!! Yall are so sincere,authentic and hilarious.
Coming from the most sincere, authentic and hilarious herself 😭🩷🩷🩷
Randomly stumbled into this video & had to subscribe, also shocked to hear how CT is racist.. I was there for the first time last year & didn’t experience it ( had such a grand time I’m counting down to my next visit) but it was only for a week - I cannot imagine living there if race is still an issue in 2023! Whole video is so insightful 🙌
But now that I think back on my trip, most if not all the couples I saw were from the same race..so what you’re saying makes sense! Looks like picking your battles is the best way to go with this issue
I love Cape Town...being a tourist there qaa everything but moving there was a reality check 🙆🏾♀️ We haven't been in years and are moving back next year...hoping things have changed significantly.
The two of you are ridiculous 😂😂😂😂😂 your humour is top tier
Thank you...a lot of chaotic energy but we move 🙆🏾♀️😂😂😂
Alano and Khanya, you are a beautiful couple and therefore, you will have adorable children. May God Bless You. Amen
Amen 🙏🏾❤️
What a gorgeous couple. I wish y'all the best guys. 🥰❤️
Thank you, Asiphe. You're so kind!
Nah this is live the 5th comment on the 5th video😂 I see of u
Bro is that u on ur profile?? Ur hot asf😩😩😩😩
I remember another video whereby yal explained this in detail, I'm shocked that yal had to explain it to them again. At this point it's clear that they are just "less than smart"🤷♂️.
Senz 💯! And I remember responding to individual comments and leaving paragraphs explaining but...here we are...again 😂
Wow khanya, look so gorgeous in baby bump. Have been looking out for you guys surprised because one of your old videos i remember you saying that you don't think you'd have baby of your own but you'll love others. Though you said we'll see how it goes. And now rah rah.... congratulations, love you both!
Manda, we were just talking about this 😂 This pregnancy was the biggest surprise and we definitely have to do a storytime.
I love Cape Town, but the racism there makes me doubt going back. It's different for me, my boyfriend is dark-colored, and when we book places under his surname, people look at him and then question the surname. In addition, when I take my daughter to the doctor or clinic, they look at her and her surname as if I made it up.
SIVU 🙆🏾♀️ I'm SO stressed at the insensitive questions and experiences your kids are already being exposed to...I'm so sorry 😭
What's worse about Cape Town is that I actually love the lifestyle, scenery and activities... lived there for 7yrs and if there wasn't such a problem with racists I would've lived there forever.
- Khanya
Oh my word congratulations on your pregnancy!! 🥺🤎
Thank you Kabelo 🥹🩷🩷🩷
Congratulations guys🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊
Thank you so much...it's so wild 🙆🏾♀️😍🎊🎊🎊
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Thank you...I know it's not for everyone and we appreciate your comment
Very interesting conversation!
Thanks for watching and sharing. It's definitely interesting to talk about and live through
I enjoy your vlogs guys nitsho ngobu cute apha..🥰🥰🥰
thank you fam🥰
I think all the black people can relate. The struggle is real.
On a positive note, you are such a beautiful couple👌🏾
Thank you so much 😍🩷
My people!!❤
Hey bestie 🙋🏾♀️
I don’t think Coloured people are necessarily against dating Black people, it’s just that the Coloured community as whole purely as a generalization has strong Eurocentric preferences of beauty, fair skin, straight hair, sharp nose, etc something that has been conditioned into them from very young.
Totally hear you! Colourism is deeply entrenched in the Coloured community. Even darker skinned Coloured people with textured hair are discriminated against. I think it's a problem in many communities of colour.
All of what you have said is rooted in anti-blackness
Khanyi pls do a rate your outfits video pls i love the way u dress would like to see alano rate them
That is such a good idea!! I'm definitely putting that down as a video we have to make...I'm very curious as to what Alano would say 👀😂
Video quality though😭😭
Alano you still owe us gadget content from like 500 years ago😂😂 (no pressure though😂)
APPLY THAT PRESSURE 😂!! I been said this man is in content debt 🤣🤣🤣
@@alanoandkhanya content debt 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@whisperywind8768 but did I lie 👀😂😂😂
Yo, the challenges of white passing
Khanya it is so clear to me you have digested and reflected on microaggressions extensively.
I really and truly have. Having occupied so many white spaces growing up, it was unavoidable. Identifying those microaggressions was also a form of self-preservation so that I could avoid racist people, spaces & conversations.
@@SekaSetswana thank you so much for sharing your perspective! Please know that it will always be of value to share on our channel so you don't have to debate/ doubt.
Maar mense gee n man lelike kyke😂
Growing up I thought black women was attractive but never did anything about it
As a kid I thought albino people is what u get from imteracial babies so I stayed away😂😂😂
Hey bra 😂❤ doen wat maak jou gelukkig hond wees eerlik met jouself fok die mense bra