Here's my take: elegance is not about what you wear, but how you treat others. You can take all the tips presented here to be "elegant," but if you treat people like trash, no amount of accessories or clothes can save you. Wear what you want and treat others with respect and kindness...that's the definition of elegance.
So true. Regardless of how one looks, beautiful or maybe not so much so, neither of us can help how we look. Everybody is accountable for their actions.
To have class is different from looking elegant. You can look very elegant and be an abhorrent person. Depending on the circles, carrying yourself with a certain arrogance might even be considered elegant by your peers (not that I agree, but it's a fact).
I remember the late author Erma Bombeck said in her last book that she wished she had bought a pretty yellow coat instead of being practical and buying a black one. She wished she had been more free with fashion over the course of her life. I never forgot that and I strived to wear what I love, not be afraid of color, and be open to try different styles. My wardrobe now is becoming one that I am most proud of and whether it is considered high class or not I love it and feel confident in my clothing and my style.
Wear whatever makes you comfortable and yes new things attract us too there's no need to feel ashamed of buying and wearing thinking that wether you will look elegant or not... Remember life is too short for these shit... Just enjoy😊
That’s sad, but wonderful that she shared that wisdom and now you dress yourself as you wish. Life is too short. We should wear sustainable, cruelty-free adornments that are as wild or delicate or masculine as we want. I wear glitter on my cheeks and nose everyday. If no makeup, I, at least, must have my glitter. I decided a long time ago too to let some part of myself shine, even if I can’t in every way that I’d like. 💕
She's talking about the fact that it's not over done and visible. Less is more. My motto is, I'd rather look like I need it than look like I've had it. There is a fine line between the two. There is nothing quite so tacky and unappealing than looking over done.
She is sharing insights of what elegance represents for the French because that is what she is. French. It’s a great opportunity to learn about cultural differences instead of being triggered. 😉
Totally. And, to tell the truth, majority of the takes she presented are already embedded in our heads - I don't consider Stanley cup as elegant. A lot of things that famous celebs do like countouring & the eyebrows definition also come as a bit trashy or sexy-trashy. Even when done well and on a beautiful girl. And the russian eye-lashes & fur coats - 100%. Am far from elegant but I can still imagine an elegant woman and its just like that - a rich princess to whom elegance comes effortlessly - not through botox or huge accessories. We already know what is elegant and its not Kim Kardasian, even if beautiful
I don't think the items she "X" are elegant looking in any culture, if I'm being completely honest. They might be fun and cute, but no, they're not elegant.
@@emarie107 am not French but they are pretty elegant to me. And the examples of the celebs were indeed more sexy rather than elegant - i think she is spot on. And that specific item - Stanley cup. It does look bulky and makes you think that one is easily influenced by the marketing rather than elegant.
Perhaps not, but it helps to realize that the upper echelons of American society also strive for the same aesthetic. I am referencing the TRUE upper class - NOT just the wealthy. The true upper class are those who may have generational wealth; they are well educated and well mannered. And the very last thing they want is to present themselves as flashy, crass, excessive, etc. Good taste is about refinement rather than creating something out-of-the-norm, disproportionate, superficial or false. If one appears fake (as people who wear designer labels and with excessive cosmetic procedures often do) - then that reads as “trying too hard” - insecure, needy, unbalanced and (contra-intuitively) as lacking the status that one desperately seeks. If one is confident in oneself, one needn’t try and prop up one’s image with garish displays of makeup, nails, revealing too much skin, etc. If you think about it, all of the points presented in this video follow this same sensibility - which transcends nationality.
And who does? I am a multicultural and I'am curious to know your point of view. Apparently it is for a lot of American women as there are a lot of videos on this topic.
I must not be an elegant lady. I refuse to let someone with a Mary Pickford circa 1925 hairdo tell me what doesn't look elegant. My Stanley cup is a necessity during 100+ degree humid summer days. As are my Scrunchies when the humidity gets a hold of my curly hair.
I don’t mean to be rude but as a brown woman from South Asia, I think the French need to stop defining it for the women of the world what it means to look elegant or dress elegantly. The fact that she keeps using French style interchangeably with elegance is so unbelievably arrogant. Women of color wear all sorts of things. Things with inscriptions. Big massive ethnic jewelry. There is often a lot of maximalism in south Asian style. We need not be told by French women that’s not elegant. And that point about LV bags honestly just made me physically cringe. It felt like the subtext was that probably an underdog or an outsider wore it a certain way so to the “elegant” old money women and french women (who it seems have dibs on elegance) instantly became gauche or unsophisticated. 😅 damn. I might be wrong but that’s how it came across to me. Why gate keep elegance so hard? I think we need to open our minds to what elegance can be and how it changes with time. And how it’s influenced by so many different ethnic groups and cultures.
You're spot on re: the LV bags! In my opinion, the most elegant outfits are the Indian Saree, and the ensemble is most definitely not "less is more", but it is absolute elegance.
You do realize that she's talking about FRENCH style, not what should be style or elegance the world over, right?? This is common known timeless French style that's been talked about for years, especially around when that book French Women Don't Get Fat came out quite some time ago. You wanna dress/act like/be like a French woman, then this is what's typical of classic French style. THAT'S IT. There's no gatekeeping, there's no "you must only do this or you're trashy" type of stuff. Again, this is FRENCH style, IF you want it. I have no doubt many would be interested in what's considered timeless style/elegance from where you live. You wouldn't be gatekeeping elegance, it's just different country to country.
The lv bags means trashy in the western world because trash ppl like the ones used in the examples and all the rap, hiphop and similar things use real and pirated ones. So if you like that i have bad news for you, you can wear it but is not “elegant” at all now. Though i also don’t agree with her in some points.
As a white woman from Eastern Europe, I think people of color need to stop trying to find things to be insulted by or trying to misinterpret them so they can complain about..smt..
@@Mrs_Beanbag yeah it's sad, and other countries probably think we are ugly or more politly "not an easy apparence", but i know they put so much mold in their beauty standards that very few people can be considered pretty there. Here, if you take care of yourself and are groomed and well-dressed, it's enough to get you compliments. I actually don't know any woman around me who do their makeup heavy. Most of them don't wear any, my mom just put mascara everyday and she's good to go (she would not be considered good looking in the US, but here she's a catch ngl). Botox, fillers and esthetic surgeries are even less common and very frown upon. Tbh, we don't always dress nice, but you know we are in a good mood when we do.
I’m a Russian woman and I don’t have neither botox nor false lashes. I’d say that only 5% percent of women here do what you say we do. And I wish I could wear an elegant coat with a puffer vest underneath but it’s impossible with our winter. Yes, I wear a puffer coat, puffer pants, thick gloves and pull my thick hat over my ears so that you can hardly see my eyes.
@@lenab.1401 I think she’s speaking in stereotypes, which is wrong. Throughout the video, she kept implying that Russian women are tasteless while saying, ‘we French are elegant’ 🤦♀️ Honestly speaking, it’s very silly video
I really need to stop clicking on these "elegant ladies do/don't" videos because they are always just one person's opinion of what looks bad vs. good. I appreciate that this one takes into account what is popular in France so as to not curate opinions based solely on the creator's tastes, but it's still inelegant (in my opinion) to talk negatively about choices that others make that they might like. I agree with a lot of these, but they also vary by person. Some women look very chic and cool wearing graphic tees and puffy coats. Some women are more at home in a long wool coat and nude short nails... Neither is better than the other, but one might be better for one person over the other. We all just need to do what makes us feel confident and not worry about what French women think of us or anything along those lines. Confidence is better than this version of elegance any day of the week. Seconding what another commenter said, kindness and treating others respectfully is better than elegance any day of the week as well. I will now be making a renewed effort to not watch this kind of content.
Elegance is an esthetic. She didn't say that style was better than any other style. She said people in France who dress that esthetic do not wear x, y, z.
I am a Certified nurses assistant. My idea of class and dignity is my daily outfit of "scrubs" and my hair in a ponytail, and taking care of the needs of the sick and terminal.
Hello Madam, I noticed you said elegant women won’t wear plastic, but suggested to wear vegan leather. I believe vegan leather is plastic. Companies now call it “vegan leather” to attract those who don’t know the difference.
The better vegan leathers are made from organic materials like apple peel, mushroom, pineapple which looks and last far better then the plastic version
Vegan leather is labeled as such because individuals who don't want to wear or carry animal flesh can quickly ID the products they are looking for when shopping.
exactly, it's really funny when Europeans come for the first time and they need to spend winter in that climate Had a French guy come and he was talking shit about what people were wearing and I'll never forget the first day it got super cold and him trying to stay warm with what he was wearing. It was the funniest thing ever, especially his realization that this was not a battle that could be won. He looked infinitely worse with his scarf that he used to try to cover his head. More like he'd got wounded in a war zone and was all baded up, lol Come on, when in Rome Speaking of which, had a friend whose future wife moved to Montreal also but from Italy. She showed up with those thin leather gloves and Italian leather boots, ready to face the cold. Oh, how we laughed.
100% agree with point number 10. In all my travels to France, I've always been amazed at how beautifully and gracefully the women age. They don't hide their wrinkles or laugh lines but rather embrace them. I've observed that the average woman doesn't use heavy makeup or contouring, etc. (Not talking of celebs or models or fashion rebels, etc) ... The joy in their face, the good skin, the slim physique, and the twinkle in the eye keep them looking young and graceful. These things are captivating enough for the viewer to forget everything else. ❤
I do agree it is a more desirable state of being - but you are wrong to believe French women don't get fat, or frumpy, and those who do not meet the standard pf elegance, or do not age gracefully, certainly can feel the absence of a warm regard from the world at large.
@karenkeith7558 lol, I never said that no one gets fat or overweight, etc! I was talking of the average ..... the french people I viewed on the streets, in the conference rooms, in cafes, in the theatre, my friends, my professional colleagues etc. I observed that French women, on average, were slender and seemed to take care of themselves... like they put in some effort to make themselves presentable and took good care of themselves in a more holistic way, rather than cosmetic/plastic surgery way. Such a wholesome approach is not often seen in many cultures or societies! Unfortunately, most societies today discriminate and marginalise overweight or unique looking people because of the new beauty standards commonly perpetuated by media..... in today's world, looking like either a beanpole or Jessica Rabbit is admired. It's the sad reality in many societies nowadays. Again, I never said that there were no fat people. And nor do I mean any disrespect to them. I was simply commenting about the majority of the ladies that I saw throughout my many travels in France as well as my interactions with international colleagues (some of who are French ladies).
Yes most of them look pulled together when they leave the house. As for obesity, many people in Europe walk or bike to destinations in their areas. Even using metro, they walk to station. Many other countries worldwide have also banned the use of many of the food additives that are in most things here in the states. There is sugar in everything here and/or GMO food. We also have growth hormone and antibiotics in most of the meat at store. There's a reason why many girls start their cycles as young as 9 now. 😡 Here in the states, we used to walk a lot more, be outside more. For the last 20 years, drive or Uber everywhere, glued to TV, phone or video games. I'm 58, and when I was growing up and into 20s, an obese kid or teen was a rarity. What we called baby fat in tweens was lost after puberty. While some adults were overweight, it wasn't an epidemic like it is now.
I live in Sweden and looks like almost every single girl has to wear orange foundation, tons of makeup, ultra filled in lips and horrible fake lashes. I think that the french elegance will always be the most iconic, simple and perfect. The ultimate bespoke elegance.
What you say makes sense. I will not however be giving up my puffer coat in a Canadian winter when it can sometimes be minus 35 Celsius with windchill. A wool coat with a little vest underneath won't be warm enough, and the down lined hood keeps me warm and dry in a blizzard. How cold does it get in Norway? Hate to say it I also wear dad shoes, so comfortable!
There is absolutely no obligation to change how you dress! My intention is to share a rulebook of elegant French fashion, but at the end of the day, fashion is an art, so it is impossible to go wrong. We had -20 (-4 F) this winter, but then I also wore a puffer coat ;) Under those temperatures, I don't think elegance is a priority 😂
Answer to that is wool! Best part is it's breathable so you can wear it comfortably from autumn to spring temperatures unlike puffers that are for specific temp ranges otherwise you'll be sweating your ass off. Also wool coats are a lot more durable. Touching something hot will not melt it like it does for plastic and tiny holes "heal" themselves while puffers (cheap ones especially) start bleeding stuffing fast. Mine is about 15 years old and looks brand new. That said wool is heavy and a lot stiffer than puffers. And can't wash it in your washing machine like other clothes. It needs to be looked after and you'll need to dry clean it which can be a pain in a world of fast fashion due to which dry cleaners are out of business and becoming harder and harder to find.
We are very lucky as Canadians: It can go down to -35 C or less, so we wear basically a sub zero sleeping bag with arms, scarf over face and the equivalent of insulated boxes with ice grips on feet, so not only are we unrecognizable, everyone has polar bear proportions no matter how slim. Haha
I think she clearly has an issue with Russian women 😅, as she always speaks about them in a negative way. I live in the UK, and it’s very common here to see British women with noticeable eyelash extensions. It’s almost a pattern, or like a trend here. Also many layers of cosmetics. I’ve never seen as many Russian women wearing so vulgar eyelash extensions or much cosmetic as I have in the UK, so I don’t understand why she only mentions Russian women wearing them. I think it’s inappropriate to mention nationality in this context. You can find both elegance and the opposite in any country, also in France. It’s wrong to generalize. It’s just unfair to make generalizations based on nationality.
As a Russian woman, I’m very offended by her comments. What others choose to look like it’s their choice. If it doesn’t fit her French elegancy” doesn’t mean it is bad or ugly. What about that Olympic message of including everyone or it’s only about transgender and homosexuality?Hypocrisy and racism
I have definately seen russians with fat lips. Everytime i went on holidays in any country it was always the same including this year. I went to Poland and Thailand twice and nothing but rude women with big fat lips. How did I know they were russian? coz i waited for them to speak and it drove my father nuts also as they were rude and disrespectful to him when he was extremely tired and needed to sit.
Yes, this is something I more commonly notice in British and American women than other nationalities. Saying that, I've seen some very naturally beautiful British and American women too.
I was in a bar once wearing a plastic hair clip in my hair, and this guy pointed to it and said "My mom has one exactly like that!". He seemed genuinely delighted, like he hadn't expected to walk into a rock bar and see something that makes him feel safe. 😂 I don't wear those outside of the house anymore, not because of him but because years later they sort of went out of style for me. But I do think of him (and his mother) fondly.
@@3112isabel what a weird, childish and sarcastic response. Not at all what I meant. In the absence of your ability to comprehend, don’t burden me with your messed up nonsense.
Huh? This video is for people curious about classic fashion pieces. Of course authenticity matters. So does keeping hydrated. I don't see how these things are related.
Comfort should not demand a lack of culture. Additionally, it's much more comfortable to adopt the majority of the suggestions given in this video rather than trying to buy style, buy youth, buy beauty and wear clothes or shoes, which she pointed out are completely impractical by nature making you even walk poorly or slouch or worst of all self-conscious and/or in pain.
Notice all is "elegance" in FRANCE. Basically, her opinion on what is elegant. This life can be tough, make it happy however and whatever makes the wearer happy. 🌹
Yeah. What makes me smile is camp as heck outfit. I mean, I have an IKEA themed outfit with the IKEA bucket hat as a focus, if that gives an idea. And also ‘kawaii’ fashion and EGL fashion. I want to push my fashion as far as possible before it goes full costume.
Classy ladies do not use the term “call out”…it is perfectly acceptable to explain her culture and give an opinion, she did so in a polite and genteel manner…I’m guessing your feathers are a bit ruffled by the fact you may fall into some of the questionable categories???? By the way…she is and was spot on
I’m so tired of these channels. They are everywhere. There are beautiful classy ladies in all countries…including the US. The French don’t have a monopoly on elegance
Love the French or basically European idea of beauty: Be you, well groomed, quietly confident. You dont need to shout to be heard as someone who has their life togethe, instead of an avatar that looks like one of four avatars ( mob wife, Fox News anchor woman, Kardashian, professional sex worker) As we age, our character shows more in our faces: Embrace it!
@@alrunella No :). I mean garish jewelery, far too much hairspray, false eyelashes, overwhelming perfume, lots of designer labels.., Basically, a billboard to loudly show off how much (criminally sourced) money someone spends on her to show his earning power trying desperately to tackily buy their way into the elite.
@@alrunella Wife of a crime boss, including oligarch level. She exists in order to show what he can afford, so she is covered in obvious and garish jewelry, designer labels, unnatural makeup and generally over dressed for the occasion. Desperate bid to buy their way into elite class.
Agree with everything except the puffy coat. I used to be into layering, but it's so troublesome and my coat gets too tight. I bought a puffy coat, it's windproof and it's so nice and warm without all the drama. It brings me so much joy in the winter.
A puffy coat is a must in Scandinavia, I'm afraid. I live in Denmark, and for the better part of the year it's super windy and chilly here. I own a couple of nice wool and cashmere coats, but there are a lot of days when they simply don't cut it, layering or no layering.
Not a fan of puffer coats, but aside from the ecological consequences of the material , I live in the climate known as temperate rain forest. Pretty much as described. A sodden puffer coat can’t compete here with wool and layers of natural fibre. Warm even when wet.
@@kathygreer2097 I think it's because people don't realize how massive the United States is. She mentioned France and Norway I think? Well, each one of those nations are the size of a state, so it makes sense we would have a zillion different beauty cultures. 😊
@@kathygreer2097 it0s the general idea that is viewed. In furnace not every woman is elegant. But generally they are. The same with the US. I'm sure there are elegant people there but they are not the rule and the US is definitely not a reference in elegance.
@@heathersteelythe differences between each country in Europe are actual different cultures. Different languages, different times for lunch. You never cant compare the states of USA, where everybody speaks the same language and know the same supermarkets, etc same coins, with the concept of different culture. Then cultures are determined in most part for languages. That is something which only the people of USA think.
Elegance means withdrawing yourself from the devaluing comments about other nations. “Botox Russian wifes” would show more consideration. The kindness of the mind - that’s the true elegance.
While elegance can change from country to country, and even woman to woman, it is almost like it comes down to balance and not being pretentious. (For me, wearing hair clips is like that… I get so many compliments every time I throw my hair up in one.) Ultimately, it is about being comfortable in one’s own skin. Really appreciated the last part where you spoke about enhancing what we do have vs trying to change our appearance entirely.
While I appreciate your sentiment, elegance doesn't change from country to country. It's considered timeless for a reason. There is no place on earth where the dress code is formal attire/elegant and one would come in sneakers or would wear a plastic hair clip. It's true that beauty ideals and trends differ in every country, but the concept of elegance doesn't change x
@@alexandraneag1229 And I beg to differ! You must never have been to Seattle's Opera House for one of their operas: Jeans and sneakers abound. It's quite depressing. And the many American weddings where young men show up in jeans and runners (absolutely no clue regarding the meaning of 'formal').
Yeah I will not be giving up all my adorable/dorky hair clips. Working as a nurse, you don't have a lot of ways to be creative with clothing and a cute clip that'll keep all your hair up is great!
@@andreaandrea6716 I believe you tbh! I live in North of England and the same applies unfortunately. But I guess my point is that even if they don't care about respecting the dress code and the occasion, they know nonetheless that the way they show up is not elegant. So no matter how you choose to show up, people still have the same elegance definition and expectations.
I'm sure this has already been stated many times over, but there is an enviable freedom in a culture that allows a woman to age gracefully and look like a refined, polished version of herself at any age. Here in the United States, so many images from your "tacky", and "ungraceful" examples are common and exepected as symbols of wealth. It's almost as if the wealthier your are, the more manufactured you should look. As an American, however, I can also say that there will ALWAYS be a bit of irreverence in our popular style (branded jewelry, graphic shirts, general loudness) as we are a arrogant, young culture who like to be noticed for being "different". I so enjoyed this video, and the general encouragement to embrace womanhood and aging with grace and refinement. Thank you!
Why Always then? Do you think American culture will never age ?😂 I can say for example that old money Americans look much classier than the new money from other countries.
Just to say this piece was about looking *elegant*. She acknowledges that there are other ways to present, but this is how to project that certain vibe, which is understated and suggests wealth and refinement. You can look funky, fun, and maybe rich too - a common vibe in the US- but that is not elegance. I think in US English some think of elegance as somehow equalling being rich, but it is a real misunderstanding of the word.
Agree re how Americans dress more look at me. I drew the line when grocery shopping & an adult woman wore a saying on her shirt which included the f word. That is nasty & in your face!
@@g.flesch9731 I am an American millennial, and you are spot on. I do not wear t-shirts even though it is basically the accepted "mom uniform" and I have 4 little kids. They are the clothing version of a bumper sticker. There are so many better, simpler, more classic pieces available for a good price. It is more modest and respectful of those around you to not wear trash. I know a lot of people here are spun up and taking this video so personally (it's what's on the inside that counts) - well, when I have to look at your bum, your cleavage, your stomach, because you could not be bothered, that is not kind, respectful or considerate either. Right?
What I think is great about this fashion mindset is that it’s not at all about impressing and dressing others. As an American - and a psychotherapist - I see SO many people, the majority of people, living and dressing to fit in with the trends. And even though many of they may genuinely enjoy the trends and the changing fashion, I think that if they were to really sit down and reflect, they’d find they are being swept away by our capitalism and living/finding happiness for things and not experiences. I’d like to think I’m pretty aware and I still find myself choosing possessions over experiences. I’m a boho girl who can’t pull off blazers. Yet everyone at my previous job wore them. So out I went to buy some. 3 years later and they haven’t been touched. Even if you don’t like the elegant style, the main bullet points of not dressing to impress but to feel good for you can be taken to any aesthetic. Buying quality materials so your clothes last longer and lay nicely. Especially since you won’t be buying the new trends or replacing fast fashion that is fraying, you’ll want the pieces you love to last as long as possible. With this mindset you’ll feel comfortable and content with your wardrobe and social status. With our capitalism and celebrity culture, you’ll never feel good enough.
You mean we fall pray to consumerism, not capitalism. Capitalism gives people the choice to wear a blazer or not. Consumerism is the urge to buy things that you don't want or need.
As a woman with a disability, who lives in a cold country I think I will pass on parts of this. She is welcome to wear wool and heels with my injuries in -20 weather. Enjoy the pain, frostbite, etc. So tired of fashion influencers regulating women's feet.
She's not 'regulating' and you're free to do your own thing. Looking elegant matters sometimes and when it does, she gives good advice. I live in the country and most days practicality and dressing sporty is a better fit.
I am not French, but I can 100% relate to these rules and I have been following them forever. Plus another rule, my handbag and shoes always match in colour and style. Warm regards from a francophile Austrian woman ❤
Thank you very much for your support! Really appreciate it. I'm Russian, never had my nails done in a salon, no lash extensions, no botox. The reference to the video doesn't offend me a lot but still feels kind of unpleasant and not elegant
Agree! She talks about elegance and teaches women how to be elegant, but the way she speaks is neither elegant nor appropriate. It was a bit silly to mention Russian women in that way
I think she is referring to the style of lashes, they are called "Rusian lashes", I ignore the reason why; same for instance, with "French manicure", in her opinion it isn´t elegant, but it is how they call that style of manicure; I don't think it was a reference of nationality in a derogatory way.
@@cinziaalbini3676 well, I guess my mom, from Bergamo, is “flashy”, and I like it. She wore more colorful clothes with larger jewelry pieces. I love Bulgari just as much as Cartier.
@@karlaschmid8757I believe it has to do with the warmer climate which asks for brighter colors. I also wear bright colors in summer and the rest of the year go mostly for muted tones.
I agree with you and as an American woman over 50, I started incorporating all of these points naturally and feel confident in my individual style and aesthetic. I wear minimal makeup and I op for clothes from natural fibers, I prioritize skin care over everything else and wear minimal makeup as I live in Florida and heavy makeup feels awful and makes me terribly uncomfortable. I wear jewelry that I love and usually holds some sort of story or sentimental value for me. For example, when my mother passed away it took me forever to go through her things with my sister but when we got to her jewelry box, I received the things she had picked out for me and unbeknownst to me my husband spotted an earring that was missing its mate so he asked my sister if he could have it and of course she said yes but neither said anything to me. He took that earring and had a necklace made for me and it is my absolute favorite piece of jewelry. It goes with everything and I wear it nearly everyday. It has special meaning to me and no one else on earth has a necklace like it. I am not a fan of looking like everyone else nor am I a fan of standing out for the wrong reasons. First impressions matter whether we like it or not! Be classy from the inside out! ❤
I clicked on this video out of curiosity like I’m sure some of you did and it’s interesting to see how many people watched just to comment in disagreement. She's just giving her opinion but really wants the point in watching style videos or what wear/ not wear videos if you’re just gonna disagree and say “elegance is wearing what you want” or “ elegant woman don’t care what others wear”. She may be giving the French perspective but some of the things she listed I think relate to class also. People in certain social circles and tax brackets aren’t going to wear certain things listed for the most part. Also I think graphic tees, yoga pants/leggings /sweatpants are just part of casual dressing down in the US. Not bashing it, it’s just what you will typically see. I agree about LV monogram bags. I think it’s been over consumed by the middle class to the point that it’s considered basic. I saw a meme that included the LV tote as part of the “baby mama starter kit” lol. Just my opinions.
And please don’t call a 3d volume eyelash extensions RUSSIAN. Women in Russia don’t even do them as they look ugly. If you go to Russia you will barely see anyone with those lashes, while in Canada there are soooooo many Canadians wear those terrible looking lashes. I think it’s a Hollywood culture not Russian to be honest. Maybe it was popular in Russia 10 years ago but not anymore
100% agree. I live in the UK, and there are so many girls and women wearing obvious eyelash extensions here. When I moved here, I was shocked by this trend because, in my opinion, it looks terrible. I’ve never seen so many Russian girls wearing such bad eyelash extensions in my life, so I don’t understand why Russians are being mentioned in this context. It’s unfair and not true at all
It's only the really young Canadian women that wear those lashes...Usually Gen Z. I'm in my 30s and don't because I don't think they look flattering, especially if too long.
French manicure, 60-70 years ago, was clear polish, and a special white pencil underneath the tip of your natural nails. Once they started painting a hard white line on plastic nails, it became very inelegant.
This is interesting. My mother grew up in a bi-lingual area (French/English) suburb in Canada (not an officially French speaking Province. The French speakers there and their descendants came straight France. So many of your recommendations have been passed down through several generations of our family even though (with the exception of my mother (and perhaps now me-I’m working on it) we were strictly Anglophone. It is that it is generational that surprises me a little. These ways stand the test of time, with very little deviation. I don’t always follow this rules but when I am being careful and I do, I get a very good reception everywhere and the one word I hear a lot is elegant. My mother is deceased so she is not here to remind me. Thank you for the refresher courses, during the lockdowns I became especially sloppy with the rules. I’m going to start practicing them again. ❤
I agree, if you want to follow these French guidelines move to France. I guess only French women are elegant. Wear what you want and what suits the climate you live in.
Then why did you even watch a video about French style by a French women with a French channel name?? Oh right, had to get your two cents in regardless. Ah well, it boosts the algorithm in her favor for her channel either way. 😉
Im Russian, and while I do not think we have any special “fashion tricks” as a culture, I personally found myself already following some of the “rules” you mentioned, as in: 1. I like Stanleys for their practicality, but I would never buy one, because the amount of craze associated with the brand is embarrassing. I wouldn’t want to be even remotely associated with it. 2. LV and other brands that love to display their logos everywhere on the piece, I would never buy, even when I would have a budget for it. Personally, the more discreet the logo the better, for me. Any luxury item you buy should speak for itself in how well-made they look, without the branding screaming “see, Im expensive”. P.S. you said it so much better “let people guess that you are wealthy, not put it into their face”. 3. Shoes is always kind if a sore spot for me, because I have a minor disability, that prevents me from being able to comfortably wear anything but sneakers. This is the only “sporty” item I wear in an outfit, ‘cause I don’t like the “sporty” vibe. 4. I like my ballerina-shaped short nails, I won’t change them for a world😂 5. I hate puffer jackets, and dream of obtaining a warm winter coat, but Russian winters are so hard on you without these monsters. They make you look like a donut, especially since Im petite😭. 6. As a MUA, I LOVE French philosophy on aging. When you study makeup/faces so closely, almost any filler, especially a lip filler, is always visible. Personally, I wouldn’t want to get any lip or cheek/face filler, other than, maaaybe a frown lines filler, cause I have a very active face. So, maaaybe when Im closer to 40s? But seeing 20s yo fill their faces being 22 myself is kind of crazy to me. 7. These “russian volume” (I didn’t know they are called that😂) lashes cheapens any face, for me. Stripper lashes. 8. As a MUA, I love a bright eye or a dark lip occasionally, and there is a way to make contouring look harmonious with your face. But I also love a very sheer coverage with pimples/anything like that still visible, so I do understand what you are talking about.
We don't call them Russian Lashes here in the UK, though I can understand why they can be called that. It's the New Money vibe rather than a Russian vibe really.
FYI you’d use Botox for frown/forehead lines 🙂 Unless you allow them to get so deep that the lined are permanent and you need to fill them. The goal of Botox is to prevent the very deep lines from showing. A little bit goes a very long way - especially when done by someone who knows what they’re doing. Kate Middleton, for example, has had quite a bit of Botox and filler in almost every area of her face, but you can’t tell.
Love the last one - a more natural look and learning how to enhance your natural features. I feel like America leans more toward how you described Norway - the emphasis on injectables, surgery, fake lashes, etc etc is almost overwhelming.
As an American from the south, I totally agree about the fillers and Botox. Ladies here are starting way too young with all that. I’m 44 and I think I go more towards the French idea of makeup and skin care. My every day makeup consists of eye brow pencil, since mine are very light, neutral eye shadow, brown eye liner, a little mascara, and I like to use a tinted moisturizer or a good bb cream for foundation. I’ve got freckles, there is no way to hide them, and I don’t like having a heavy foundation, I don’t think it’s great for your skin. I totally agree about the shoes too and the labels. If it has a label I’d like it to be small, unnoticeable. I do not like walking around as an advertisement for some designer.
As an American from Nebraska, this video made me feel like a slob 😂 I enjoy watching videos like this. I’m not putting down the video at all ❤ everything she said is everything the women here do. 😅 Fashion is so different in other cultures. It is so interesting to me . I wish we were more like the French culture in a lot of ways. I hate all the Botox! It just makes people look fake. And it is pretty funny to watch people walk around with those big Stanley Cups 😂 I have a beautiful stainless steel water bottle 💦. I’m going to get that one out and start using it. ☺️
I personally think elegance comes from the inside. A lot of ppl think they are elegant just because of them using “elegant” clothes. But in my opinion it is on the mannerisms. Maybe a lot of people disagree on that one but it is my personal opinion nonetheless.
Elegance is simplicity, no synthetic anything, beautiful manners, hygiene, and especially the way one speaks. You can look like a million dollars but if, when you open your mouth, you are loud, crude, use poor grammar or rudeness - no amount of designer clothes will help you. Also - avoid fads and trends. What you wear in 1990 should still look beautiful in 2024. Elegance is timeless.
I am French and I love the area where I live in the US. Everybody is wealthy, like crazy wealthy, the average income is 400k, and everybody wear fast fashion (Gap, HandM), not expensive, not looking good either, but nobody has to show off as everybody is wealthy... And they also all happen to have a PhD, so they don't care about what they look like, but more about what people think (not about them but about the world, the politics, the life). After living a few years in Paris, it feels very refreshing.
I just discovered your channel tonight. Even though I'm Anerican, I truly believe the French have the right idea when it comes to beauty. The whole enhancement of what you have and be yourself approach is much more inclusive of all women instead of the cookie cutter beauty we find in media today. My 12 yr old daughter is just becoming interested in fashion and makeup. I am trying to teach and model for her that being unique and natural is far more interesting than being like everyone else. As far as nail shapes go, in my opinion, as a licensed nail tech, squoval or rounded off square shapes can be very elegant and pretty. The more square a nail is, the stronger it is because more nail is left for structure. The rounded corners make for a safer nail with less scratching and poking of yourself, your loved ones, and things. Also, many women have square nail beds. It is always a good idea to match the shape of your free edge to the shape of your cuticle. This makes for a more natural looking nail, which I feel embraces the idea of natural beauty the French do so well 😉
@@sarahjohnson3092 My origin is irrelevant here. Everyone knows that all stupid, ugly and trashy trends come from the US. One has to live under the rocks to not know it.
What you said about Norwegian beauty standards for women is so spot on! It's exactly the same in Sweden, and I'm a Swedish woman living in Paris since just a few years. I always had an awkward feeling I look like a s*utty Viking in comparison to all these elegant French women but couldn't quite put my finger on why... but thanks to your advice now I can AND I have the tools to change my ways! Merci mille fois!!
I'm English, we too have mastered the 'Slutty Viking' look. Since most of the SVs' here seem to be about 16, I'm hoping they'll grow out of it. I'm just glad the internet wasn't around when I was that age; we were all dressed like the group Bross.
Women can wear anything they like or want…Regardless if they’re American, European, Asian, African or Mexican. Beauty and elegance exudes from the inside, how you treat others… Clothing and accessories are all material things. Wear whatever makes you comfortable, happy and satisfied!
All American young women who are stuffed with filler and Botox in their twenties and fake hair extensions and eye lashes need to see your page! Love It
I agree in general. Just to be remembered: vegan leather is also plastic (there are plant based vegan leathers, but they are not widely available, still being "tested" on the market; 90% of "vegan leather" products you find in retail are made from petrol-based synthetics)
Yep, vegan leather sneakers are vinyl ... Plastic!!! Looking extremely shiny and cheap, I have a pair that I only use for rainy days in town, when I don't wish to wear heavy wellies
I think she is just talking about the shoes that look obviously like cheap plastic, of which she showed examples. Shoes are your foundation - buy quality.
As someone who lived in France I saw a lot of these rules, I actually felt prettier living there, I could go effortless like the rest of the women and felt more myself as compared to Latin america where makeup trends are to overdo it and fashion doesn't feel very timeless New subscriber for sure ❤ I'm still keeping the claw clip, it's the only thing that can grab my hair without giving me a headache 😅
6:44 the photo on the left is from Moscow Red Square. Winter in Russia is -25 degrees so it’s difficult not to put this huge piece on and still keep warm . Still thank you for the recommendations we can use them from April to September 😂
-25 is winter in Moscow maybe but winter in another part of Russia is around -40 and we wear real fur coat not just because we have this misconception of elegance but just because it’s the only way to stay warm and safe, with ethical fur coat you would be frozen already. I found this video very silly because obviously this girl doesn’t prepare properly the information, especially about Russian women, she was always mentioning them in a negative way. If she had ever been to the UK she would never connect Russians with eyelash extensions as the number of British women wearing vulgar eyelash extensions is horrifying but in Russia it’s very rare. In all countries you can find elegant people and opposite, so I think it’s quite stupid and not ethical to mention nationality in this context
I CAN NOT roll my eyes hard enough. Here's another word I'd like to hear you explain: Pretentious🙄 Also, you'll have to pry my mink coat from my cold, dead hands.
Then why did you even watch the video? About classic French style by a French woman on a channel with a French name?? Oh that's right, your voice must be heard! Ah well, your pretentious contribution just gives her channel a boost in the YT algorithm. Cheers! 🥂😘
Try Dysport instead of Botox. It helps with my brow lines yet, I am able to raise my eyebrows and show expression on my face. My best experience was with a shopkeeper in Firenze while purchasing a silk scarf. I was expressing my concern about my neck wrinkles and she told me several times, “ it doesn’t matter”. She was very sincere. Mademoiselle, thank you for your words regarding aging.
@@BonnyP-69r I have been using it for the last 7 years. My dermatologist told me to use Dysport and yes, I can raise my eyebrows and yes, he injects my forehead.
I’m so glad this channel was recommended. In America, everything, including beauty is a way to convey status. So while the fillers, lashes and brows may not look great on everyone, it’s more about what it says about your status. It’s unfortunate and tacky but it’s a byproduct of our unrelenting capitalism.
I think the understated versions of many of the things she mentioned are also a way to convey status (depending on your particular culture that can vary, of course). In many circles, the idea is to look flawless but not be able to tell you had anything done (think Kate Middleton, who has had everything done but so minimally that you can’t tell) 😄
Your unrelenting capitalism allows you to have enviable comfortable lives, that the whole wants to migrate to. The French may be elegant, america is fun. And there is no need to put down your own country in order to praise another.
I used to do the thinner winter jackets like suggested in Norway but honestly, once you get a well-fitting puffy jacket you’ll never go back. I even hated them before but seriously function over form is much more imperative in -20°. Nice content otherwise! 😊Stay warm!
Every time i watch a content on the topic of elegance, I realize that i am inherently elegant fashion-wise....😊 Many things that you mentioned are things that i would never dream of doing, like the dad shoes, or the infamous LV canvas bag... If it's too commonplace, them it definitely isn't for me.
Italian style (Southern) is trickier to pull. You have to have the right amount of sexiness but not look vulgar. The women (outside Italy) who try it usually end up looking slutty. It's not for everyone. As for the Northern Italian (ex. Milan) style it's very classy.
Is this Stanley not very heavy and unhandy to carry? I have no idea. I’m from Europe and never see somebody with this in my country. I always have a small Bottle Evian Water with me.
Hello from NC! OMG, I just got my first one from Starbucks. They had a seasonal collaboration with Stanley so I used couple of gift cards some clients gave me. Otherwise, I would've purchased it, but it is super heavy and cumbersome esply when its full! It's so tall esply with the straw adding extra height. The handle juts out like it's a Spartan sheild grip..lowkey a hot mess😂. And the colors/designs or bland but yet bold like a neon juggernaut..😂! If you have time and strength to hold it, tryst me youre in a class of your own!
Say it for the people in the back (USA) Stanley Cups are soooo cheap looking. And I'm American 🇺🇸. Those designer jewelry stacks look desperate. If you get a high-end down jacket, the puff is not out of control. I have one and need it for the long, cold New England winters. 😊
I think the big Stanley cups are great for long drives in the car. Or from and to yoga in a car. The US you sometimes have long distances in the car. Not for walking in the city or as i do to the gym on a bike in Amsterdam
Those New Balance shoes that she dismissed as plastic are in FACT Leather. This is so pretentious. Italian women have it all over French women.. I made these observations during a stint in tourism. Regular French people looked pretty ordinary compared to regular Italians who were far more innately elegant.
It's not elegant to wear shoes unsuited to what you are doing. If you're exercising, wear exercise shoes. A lot of this advice IS incredibly pretentious; you're right.
I made the same observation, I thought she was going for the boho style look initially. It's important for her to reconsider her own style before giving advice on her version of elegant style.
@@carlamata9617 not true. Every suburb in America has 2 dozen dermatologist that are BOOKED solid for fillers. Most women are just getting a pinch, not a full mL.
100% It is finding the pieces that express your personality and have fun creating your outfits! There is no requirement on planet earth to be dressed elegantly
Maybe not everyone thinks elegant is the same as what other people think is elegant.. I think being elegant is being a kind person to everyone , no matter what they wear, Flannel, ripped jeans, plastic shoes. If you are a kind, good person. then you are elegant to me❤❤❤❤🥳🥰
My Mom grew up in Los Angeles in the 1950s, and emulated the "Old Hollywood Glamour", much of which was similar to what you are talking about. Her family wasn't wealthy, but my Grandmother made her clothes out of good fabric, from patterns they chose for their tasteful and flattering looks. Natural fabrics, clean lines, classic color combinations, show style rather than 'fashion'. I grew up in the 1970s, so the more casual, natural look was popular. But the overdone botox, plastic surgery, fake lashes, etc. are everywhere now. I can't tell you how many times I've come across a young woman working working at a bank, a restaurant, or a store, who has those crazy butterfly eyelashes. They are so distracting, and I find it keeps me from taking her seriously, which when I was that age, was the one thing I wanted most. I hope more young women will see your videos and choose to dress with style and elegance.
2:40 It's not about what you are able to wear, but rather what making the material implies.... here it comes with cruelty, so someone who has the money for real (but horrible fur) and choose the fake one, should not be deemed unelegant, on the contrary! Wearing real fur also goes against your 1st argument of being simple and not too flashy...
I'm in America. 50 years ago, when hair clips first came on the scene, I saw a beautiful blonde with her hair casually pulled into a soft French roll, secured with an amber clip. It was so beautiful, I remember it to this day.
I’ve always felt the same way about graphic t-shirts, LV bags, and the *giant* Stanley cups. So, it was nice to hear the same sentiment echoed overseas, even if it is uncommon in the US.
Lol so many people in the comments offended by the video..nobody forces you to watch it. If you don't like the facts don't watch it. Elegance is subjective but it also has certain objective standards whether you like it or not. We will not call fugly things "elegant" just because some people are offended lol. You can be as offended as you wish.
I always thought Audrey Hepburn was very elegant and she thought the LV monogram speedy bag was very elegant. I bought one in 1998 and it still looks brand new. I don’t care what the treads are it is a very classic purse.
What would you like to see next? 😊
I would love to see a video about french style makeup!
how about advice on hairstyle?! l have always been using the plastic hairclips and now😢?! Are there more elegant alternatives?
@@MademoiselleSpends How to select and apply perfume :)
Elegant and suitable for norwegian winter shoes, please.😂 I struggle to find.👠🥾👢🥿👟
Men fashion advice might be also very interesting 😊 I would gladly share your opinion with my partner.
Here's my take: elegance is not about what you wear, but how you treat others. You can take all the tips presented here to be "elegant," but if you treat people like trash, no amount of accessories or clothes can save you. Wear what you want and treat others with respect and kindness...that's the definition of elegance.
Exactly
That's what class Is about
So true. Regardless of how one looks, beautiful or maybe not so much so, neither of us can help how we look. Everybody is accountable for their actions.
To have class is different from looking elegant. You can look very elegant and be an abhorrent person. Depending on the circles, carrying yourself with a certain arrogance might even be considered elegant by your peers (not that I agree, but it's a fact).
yes, correct. But here we talk about the look, not the personality
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I remember the late author Erma Bombeck said in her last book that she wished she had bought a pretty yellow coat instead of being practical and buying a black one. She wished she had been more free with fashion over the course of her life. I never forgot that and I strived to wear what I love, not be afraid of color, and be open to try different styles. My wardrobe now is becoming one that I am most proud of and whether it is considered high class or not I love it and feel confident in my clothing and my style.
Wear whatever makes you comfortable and yes new things attract us too there's no need to feel ashamed of buying and wearing thinking that wether you will look elegant or not... Remember life is too short for these shit... Just enjoy😊
@@edwinacriear2630 I loved her!
That’s sad, but wonderful that she shared that wisdom and now you dress yourself as you wish. Life is too short. We should wear sustainable, cruelty-free adornments that are as wild or delicate or masculine as we want. I wear glitter on my cheeks and nose everyday. If no makeup, I, at least, must have my glitter. I decided a long time ago too to let some part of myself shine, even if I can’t in every way that I’d like. 💕
Erma Bombeck was great 😌
Excellent point to keep in mind!
i rather be warm than freezing elegantly
Exactly!
I laugh to myself when I see someone dressed impeccably and Freezing. I have gone thru that myself....never again! I'm cozy in my parkas
😂😂..
You do realize that there are actually warm AND elegant clothes out there ...
@@garmtpug yeah, parkas
Elegant doesn't always equal french...
😂spot on
For sure
100% this 🙌 Exactly.. This video is too much 😂 Remember - No dad shoes!
Roasted 🤣
Thank you for saying this ❤
French women DO use fillers and botox, what are you talking about? They just don´t talk about it but its a FACT
She's talking about the fact that it's not over done and visible. Less is more. My motto is, I'd rather look like I need it than look like I've had it. There is a fine line between the two. There is nothing quite so tacky and unappealing than looking over done.
@@elfin1358 Oh! I absolutely agree on than. Hate the overdone results, lack of naturality
but they never look like botox russian wife.
@@ivanafikackova4302 What is that, please? Too much botox, you mean?
@@pichichipichi yes and other things as they look extremely artificial - like they are made from plastic and not living humans.
She is sharing insights of what elegance represents for the French because that is what she is. French. It’s a great opportunity to learn about cultural differences instead of being triggered. 😉
Reading these comments, I kept thinking the same thing. She is very educational.
Totally. And, to tell the truth, majority of the takes she presented are already embedded in our heads - I don't consider Stanley cup as elegant. A lot of things that famous celebs do like countouring & the eyebrows definition also come as a bit trashy or sexy-trashy. Even when done well and on a beautiful girl. And the russian eye-lashes & fur coats - 100%. Am far from elegant but I can still imagine an elegant woman and its just like that - a rich princess to whom elegance comes effortlessly - not through botox or huge accessories. We already know what is elegant and its not Kim Kardasian, even if beautiful
I don't think the items she "X" are elegant looking in any culture, if I'm being completely honest. They might be fun and cute, but no, they're not elegant.
@@emarie107 am not French but they are pretty elegant to me. And the examples of the celebs were indeed more sexy rather than elegant - i think she is spot on. And that specific item - Stanley cup. It does look bulky and makes you think that one is easily influenced by the marketing rather than elegant.
Blacks always get triggered
French women don't define elegance for me.
Sadly many opt for bling with tassels! It's sad that the basics need to be pointed out.
Perhaps not, but it helps to realize that the upper echelons of American society also strive for the same aesthetic.
I am referencing the TRUE upper class - NOT just the wealthy. The true upper class are those who may have generational wealth; they are well educated and well mannered. And the very last thing they want is to present themselves as flashy, crass, excessive, etc.
Good taste is about refinement rather than creating something out-of-the-norm, disproportionate, superficial or false. If one appears fake (as people who wear designer labels and with excessive cosmetic procedures often do) - then that reads as “trying too hard” - insecure, needy, unbalanced and (contra-intuitively) as lacking the status that one desperately seeks.
If one is confident in oneself, one needn’t try and prop up one’s image with garish displays of makeup, nails, revealing too much skin, etc.
If you think about it, all of the points presented in this video follow this same sensibility - which transcends nationality.
And who does? I am a multicultural and I'am curious to know your point of view.
Apparently it is for a lot of American women as there are a lot of videos on this topic.
Good for you?
What do you.... I'm sorry, what's your point?
Sorry, that was confusing. Let me rephrase. Why do we care what defines elegance FOR YOU? Who are you?
1) Stanley cups
2) Louis Vuitton monogram
3) branded jewelry stacks
4)cartoons or inscriptions on clothes
5) artificial fabrics or faux fur
6) plastic shoes - cloud shoes- bulky “dad” sneaker
7) scrunches or plastic hair clips
8) French manicure
9) waffle jackets
10) Botox, fillers, lash extensions a lot of makeup
I must not be an elegant lady. I refuse to let someone with a Mary Pickford circa 1925 hairdo tell me what doesn't look elegant. My Stanley cup is a necessity during 100+ degree humid summer days. As are my Scrunchies when the humidity gets a hold of my curly hair.
What a narrow minded non-elegant statement!😅
@@janettamcgee8124🎤 then you are free, to leave this 0-Dollar-Videocontent of this lady
Thanks!
I LOVE bulky "Dad" sweaters!
I don’t mean to be rude but as a brown woman from South Asia, I think the French need to stop defining it for the women of the world what it means to look elegant or dress elegantly. The fact that she keeps using French style interchangeably with elegance is so unbelievably arrogant. Women of color wear all sorts of things. Things with inscriptions. Big massive ethnic jewelry. There is often a lot of maximalism in south Asian style. We need not be told by French women that’s not elegant. And that point about LV bags honestly just made me physically cringe. It felt like the subtext was that probably an underdog or an outsider wore it a certain way so to the “elegant” old money women and french women (who it seems have dibs on elegance) instantly became gauche or unsophisticated. 😅 damn. I might be wrong but that’s how it came across to me.
Why gate keep elegance so hard? I think we need to open our minds to what elegance can be and how it changes with time. And how it’s influenced by so many different ethnic groups and cultures.
You're spot on re: the LV bags!
In my opinion, the most elegant outfits are the Indian Saree, and the ensemble is most definitely not "less is more", but it is absolute elegance.
You do realize that she's talking about FRENCH style, not what should be style or elegance the world over, right?? This is common known timeless French style that's been talked about for years, especially around when that book French Women Don't Get Fat came out quite some time ago. You wanna dress/act like/be like a French woman, then this is what's typical of classic French style. THAT'S IT.
There's no gatekeeping, there's no "you must only do this or you're trashy" type of stuff. Again, this is FRENCH style, IF you want it. I have no doubt many would be interested in what's considered timeless style/elegance from where you live. You wouldn't be gatekeeping elegance, it's just different country to country.
The lv bags means trashy in the western world because trash ppl like the ones used in the examples and all the rap, hiphop and similar things use real and pirated ones. So if you like that i have bad news for you, you can wear it but is not “elegant” at all now. Though i also don’t agree with her in some points.
@@Bun777normalize not defining human beings as "trash"
As a white woman from Eastern Europe, I think people of color need to stop trying to find things to be insulted by or trying to misinterpret them so they can complain about..smt..
An elegant French lady will not laugh at other people’s style as it literally none of their business 🙂
She's from Norway 😊
@@amelialee7157 bro her accent is quite literally French
She's French living in norway @amelialee7157
❤️❤️❤️
@@amelialee7157nooooo. She’s French living in Norway
Love the French approach of enhance your beauty instead of looking "like everybody else"
It is originally not french, it was international common sense, but somehow it has been forgotten 🤷♀️
@@aya-chan4784 yeah well then I like about the french that they remember that 😂👍and its ironic that common sense is not that common (anymore)😅
@@Mrs_Beanbag yeah it's sad, and other countries probably think we are ugly or more politly "not an easy apparence", but i know they put so much mold in their beauty standards that very few people can be considered pretty there.
Here, if you take care of yourself and are groomed and well-dressed, it's enough to get you compliments. I actually don't know any woman around me who do their makeup heavy. Most of them don't wear any, my mom just put mascara everyday and she's good to go (she would not be considered good looking in the US, but here she's a catch ngl). Botox, fillers and esthetic surgeries are even less common and very frown upon.
Tbh, we don't always dress nice, but you know we are in a good mood when we do.
The main French rule in Styling Is one piece to stand out
Not overbearing and cluttering the appearance with many things
She should've mentioned that this video is specifically about french elegant women.
I’m a Russian woman and I don’t have neither botox nor false lashes. I’d say that only 5% percent of women here do what you say we do.
And I wish I could wear an elegant coat with a puffer vest underneath but it’s impossible with our winter. Yes, I wear a puffer coat, puffer pants, thick gloves and pull my thick hat over my ears so that you can hardly see my eyes.
You'd freeze otherwise. Lol. I see some Russian ladies in NYC dressed the way described in this video, but not too much. Very small percentage.
I think she was talking more about "rich Russian wives" living in France ;) I'm also Russian and I also don't have those)
@@lenab.1401 I think she’s speaking in stereotypes, which is wrong. Throughout the video, she kept implying that Russian women are tasteless while saying, ‘we French are elegant’ 🤦♀️ Honestly speaking, it’s very silly video
Well , maybe its about moscow or near parts of state. There rusian bottox wifes are 90% of women
You are right- Elegant people don’t speak in stereotypes. This is unfortunate.
I really need to stop clicking on these "elegant ladies do/don't" videos because they are always just one person's opinion of what looks bad vs. good. I appreciate that this one takes into account what is popular in France so as to not curate opinions based solely on the creator's tastes, but it's still inelegant (in my opinion) to talk negatively about choices that others make that they might like. I agree with a lot of these, but they also vary by person. Some women look very chic and cool wearing graphic tees and puffy coats. Some women are more at home in a long wool coat and nude short nails... Neither is better than the other, but one might be better for one person over the other. We all just need to do what makes us feel confident and not worry about what French women think of us or anything along those lines. Confidence is better than this version of elegance any day of the week. Seconding what another commenter said, kindness and treating others respectfully is better than elegance any day of the week as well. I will now be making a renewed effort to not watch this kind of content.
I agree because take the nail shapes, for instance, I hated every "acceptable" shape. lol
I love how people think Style theory is "an opinion."
Yeah it's giving "we think we're better than you" and lacking any personality or color 💀
You are right, RESPECT, IS the ultimate ELEGANCE!
Elegance is an esthetic. She didn't say that style was better than any other style. She said people in France who dress that esthetic do not wear x, y, z.
I am a Certified nurses assistant. My idea of class and dignity is my daily outfit of "scrubs" and my hair in a ponytail, and taking care of the needs of the sick and terminal.
Caregiving is always elegant ❤
Not RN, a CNA. Both a blessing to the world.@@bathemeinchampagne
@@bathemeinchampagneyou sound triggered 😂
Exactly!
You re atvwoek. Off course you need scrubs ...
Hello Madam, I noticed you said elegant women won’t wear plastic, but suggested to wear vegan leather. I believe vegan leather is plastic. Companies now call it “vegan leather” to attract those who don’t know the difference.
They are designed to look like leather, not see through str1pper shoes
@@Mindset_Mechanics haha
The better vegan leathers are made from organic materials like apple peel, mushroom, pineapple which looks and last far better then the plastic version
@@aimeegrant6039 oh, interesting
Vegan leather is labeled as such because individuals who don't want to wear or carry animal flesh can quickly ID the products they are looking for when shopping.
6:16 When it's -40 in Montreal, elegance isn't an option! Lol.
There is no elegance on the ice pack, only survival.
that's exactly what I thought lmao :p
Or Alaska 😂
exactly, it's really funny when Europeans come for the first time and they need to spend winter in that climate
Had a French guy come and he was talking shit about what people were wearing and I'll never forget the first day it got super cold and him trying to stay warm with what he was wearing. It was the funniest thing ever, especially his realization that this was not a battle that could be won. He looked infinitely worse with his scarf that he used to try to cover his head. More like he'd got wounded in a war zone and was all baded up, lol Come on, when in Rome
Speaking of which, had a friend whose future wife moved to Montreal also but from Italy. She showed up with those thin leather gloves and Italian leather boots, ready to face the cold. Oh, how we laughed.
@@i.t.t. Lol. I know, right? Thin leather boots and gloves in the cold? I'd have paid to see that!
100% agree with point number 10. In all my travels to France, I've always been amazed at how beautifully and gracefully the women age. They don't hide their wrinkles or laugh lines but rather embrace them. I've observed that the average woman doesn't use heavy makeup or contouring, etc. (Not talking of celebs or models or fashion rebels, etc) ... The joy in their face, the good skin, the slim physique, and the twinkle in the eye keep them looking young and graceful. These things are captivating enough for the viewer to forget everything else. ❤
Very well said!!! Nothing like natural beauty!!! Greetings from U.S.A.
I do agree it is a more desirable state of being - but you are wrong to believe French women don't get fat, or frumpy, and those who do not meet the standard pf elegance, or do not age gracefully, certainly can feel the absence of a warm regard from the world at large.
@karenkeith7558 lol, I never said that no one gets fat or overweight, etc! I was talking of the average ..... the french people I viewed on the streets, in the conference rooms, in cafes, in the theatre, my friends, my professional colleagues etc. I observed that French women, on average, were slender and seemed to take care of themselves... like they put in some effort to make themselves presentable and took good care of themselves in a more holistic way, rather than cosmetic/plastic surgery way. Such a wholesome approach is not often seen in many cultures or societies! Unfortunately, most societies today discriminate and marginalise overweight or unique looking people because of the new beauty standards commonly perpetuated by media..... in today's world, looking like either a beanpole or Jessica Rabbit is admired. It's the sad reality in many societies nowadays. Again, I never said that there were no fat people. And nor do I mean any disrespect to them. I was simply commenting about the majority of the ladies that I saw throughout my many travels in France as well as my interactions with international colleagues (some of who are French ladies).
Yes most of them look pulled together when they leave the house.
As for obesity, many people in Europe walk or bike to destinations in their areas. Even using metro, they walk to station.
Many other countries worldwide have also banned the use of many of the food additives that are in most things here in the states. There is sugar in everything here and/or GMO food.
We also have growth hormone and antibiotics in most of the meat at store. There's a reason why many girls start their cycles as young as 9 now. 😡
Here in the states, we used to walk a lot more, be outside more. For the last 20 years, drive or Uber everywhere, glued to TV, phone or video games.
I'm 58, and when I was growing up and into 20s, an obese kid or teen was a rarity. What we called baby fat in tweens was lost after puberty. While some adults were overweight, it wasn't an epidemic like it is now.
I live in Sweden and looks like almost every single girl has to wear orange foundation, tons of makeup, ultra filled in lips and horrible fake lashes. I think that the french elegance will always be the most iconic, simple and perfect. The ultimate bespoke elegance.
What you say makes sense. I will not however be giving up my puffer coat in a Canadian winter when it can sometimes be minus 35 Celsius with windchill. A wool coat with a little vest underneath won't be warm enough, and the down lined hood keeps me warm and dry in a blizzard. How cold does it get in Norway? Hate to say it I also wear dad shoes, so comfortable!
There is absolutely no obligation to change how you dress! My intention is to share a rulebook of elegant French fashion, but at the end of the day, fashion is an art, so it is impossible to go wrong.
We had -20 (-4 F) this winter, but then I also wore a puffer coat ;) Under those temperatures, I don't think elegance is a priority 😂
I agree with video, except for my Puffer coats, the older I get, the colder it is, LOL!
@@MademoiselleSpends survival first; elegance second! ♥☃ I will attempt a layered effect on warmer winter days though.
Answer to that is wool! Best part is it's breathable so you can wear it comfortably from autumn to spring temperatures unlike puffers that are for specific temp ranges otherwise you'll be sweating your ass off.
Also wool coats are a lot more durable. Touching something hot will not melt it like it does for plastic and tiny holes "heal" themselves while puffers (cheap ones especially) start bleeding stuffing fast. Mine is about 15 years old and looks brand new.
That said wool is heavy and a lot stiffer than puffers. And can't wash it in your washing machine like other clothes. It needs to be looked after and you'll need to dry clean it which can be a pain in a world of fast fashion due to which dry cleaners are out of business and becoming harder and harder to find.
We are very lucky as Canadians: It can go down to -35 C or less, so we wear basically a sub zero sleeping bag with arms, scarf over face and the equivalent of insulated boxes with ice grips on feet, so not only are we unrecognizable, everyone has polar bear proportions no matter how slim. Haha
I think she clearly has an issue with Russian women 😅, as she always speaks about them in a negative way. I live in the UK, and it’s very common here to see British women with noticeable eyelash extensions. It’s almost a pattern, or like a trend here. Also many layers of cosmetics. I’ve never seen as many Russian women wearing so vulgar eyelash extensions or much cosmetic as I have in the UK, so I don’t understand why she only mentions Russian women wearing them. I think it’s inappropriate to mention nationality in this context. You can find both elegance and the opposite in any country, also in France. It’s wrong to generalize. It’s just unfair to make generalizations based on nationality.
Yes, I have noticed that too.
I`m sure she is envy, because Russian women are more beautiful and feminine than French women)). I understand you, girl.
As a Russian woman, I’m very offended by her comments. What others choose to look like it’s their choice. If it doesn’t fit her French elegancy” doesn’t mean it is bad or ugly. What about that Olympic message of including everyone or it’s only about transgender and homosexuality?Hypocrisy and racism
I think we all pictured what she said 😂
It was obvious, only truth can offend, those that are not concerned shouldn’t react 😊
I have definately seen russians with fat lips. Everytime i went on holidays in any country it was always the same including this year. I went to Poland and Thailand twice and nothing but rude women with big fat lips. How did I know they were russian? coz i waited for them to speak and it drove my father nuts also as they were rude and disrespectful to him when he was extremely tired and needed to sit.
Yes, this is something I more commonly notice in British and American women than other nationalities. Saying that, I've seen some very naturally beautiful British and American women too.
I was in a bar once wearing a plastic hair clip in my hair, and this guy pointed to it and said "My mom has one exactly like that!". He seemed genuinely delighted, like he hadn't expected to walk into a rock bar and see something that makes him feel safe. 😂 I don't wear those outside of the house anymore, not because of him but because years later they sort of went out of style for me. But I do think of him (and his mother) fondly.
what do you use instead of clip claws? i'm looking for something different than them
Authenticity is what matters.
Yes because being fashionable and elegant automatically means the person is authentic.🥴
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what a weird, childish and sarcastic response.
Not at all what I meant.
In the absence of your ability to comprehend, don’t burden me with your messed up nonsense.
Huh? This video is for people curious about classic fashion pieces. Of course authenticity matters. So does keeping hydrated. I don't see how these things are related.
@@BeckBeckGo no you don't "get it." So don't burden me with your limited thinking and rudeness.
Sometimes you must rather think about comfort,and not elegance. Not all French are elegant,it's an illusion.
Thank you!
Amen
Comfort should not demand a lack of culture. Additionally, it's much more comfortable to adopt the majority of the suggestions given in this video rather than trying to buy style, buy youth, buy beauty and wear clothes or shoes, which she pointed out are completely impractical by nature making you even walk poorly or slouch or worst of all self-conscious and/or in pain.
Yes!!!
All nice tips for those whose goal is to look like that. Life is too short not to wear what makes you smile when reflected back.
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Notice all is "elegance" in FRANCE. Basically, her opinion on what is elegant. This life can be tough, make it happy however and whatever makes the wearer happy. 🌹
Yeah. What makes me smile is camp as heck outfit. I mean, I have an IKEA themed outfit with the IKEA bucket hat as a focus, if that gives an idea. And also ‘kawaii’ fashion and EGL fashion. I want to push my fashion as far as possible before it goes full costume.
Totally agree! Her: 'Just be beige'!
TOTALLY AGREE...Boring...so 1950's
Classy ladies don’t call out/put down other woman for their personal tastes.
AMEN.
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Classy ladies do not use the term “call out”…it is perfectly acceptable to explain her culture and give an opinion, she did so in a polite and genteel manner…I’m guessing your feathers are a bit ruffled by the fact you may fall into some of the questionable categories???? By the way…she is and was spot on
Agree!
I’m so tired of these channels. They are everywhere. There are beautiful classy ladies in all countries…including the US. The French don’t have a monopoly on elegance
The French manicure came in around 45 years ago, all my friends went every week to get our nails done. They were beautiful.
Love the French or basically European idea of beauty: Be you, well groomed, quietly confident. You dont need to shout to be heard as someone who has their life togethe, instead of an avatar that looks like one of four avatars ( mob wife, Fox News anchor woman, Kardashian, professional sex worker) As we age, our character shows more in our faces: Embrace it!
Brilliant 🎉: avatar descriptions 😂 so true
@@adriennebrown3778 Spot on, right?
By mob wife, you mean "angry mob" tight? Pitchforks, torches... ? ^^
@@alrunella No :). I mean garish jewelery, far too much hairspray, false eyelashes, overwhelming perfume, lots of designer labels.., Basically, a billboard to loudly show off how much (criminally sourced) money someone spends on her to show his earning power trying desperately to tackily buy their way into the elite.
@@alrunella Wife of a crime boss, including oligarch level. She exists in order to show what he can afford, so she is covered in obvious and garish jewelry, designer labels, unnatural makeup and generally over dressed for the occasion. Desperate bid to buy their way into elite class.
Agree with everything except the puffy coat. I used to be into layering, but it's so troublesome and my coat gets too tight. I bought a puffy coat, it's windproof and it's so nice and warm without all the drama. It brings me so much joy in the winter.
agree!!! don't mess with being warm and practicality :P (would try the vests thogh)
there are quality coats that are warm without the puffines. Surpisingly enough I got mine at sports shop but it doesn't look sporty at all.
A puffy coat is a must in Scandinavia, I'm afraid. I live in Denmark, and for the better part of the year it's super windy and chilly here. I own a couple of nice wool and cashmere coats, but there are a lot of days when they simply don't cut it, layering or no layering.
Not a fan of puffer coats, but aside from the ecological consequences of the material , I live in the climate known as temperate rain forest. Pretty much as described. A sodden puffer coat can’t compete here with wool and layers of natural fibre. Warm even when wet.
Wanted to say the same. Winter im Germany is a way too cold.😂
The US is hard to say, because it's such a huge country, every few hundred miles you find a different beauty culture.
Thank you! So tired of people lumping us all together.
@@kathygreer2097 I think it's because people don't realize how massive the United States is. She mentioned France and Norway I think? Well, each one of those nations are the size of a state, so it makes sense we would have a zillion different beauty cultures. 😊
@@heathersteely Yes! Funny, I was just talking about that very thing today with two of my grands. 😊
@@kathygreer2097 it0s the general idea that is viewed. In furnace not every woman is elegant. But generally they are. The same with the US. I'm sure there are elegant people there but they are not the rule and the US is definitely not a reference in elegance.
@@heathersteelythe differences between each country in Europe are actual different cultures. Different languages, different times for lunch. You never cant compare the states of USA, where everybody speaks the same language and know the same supermarkets, etc same coins, with the concept of different culture. Then cultures are determined in most part for languages. That is something which only the people of USA think.
Elegance means withdrawing yourself from the devaluing comments about other nations. “Botox Russian wifes” would show more consideration. The kindness of the mind - that’s the true elegance.
Yea i totally agree, russian wifes russian lashes and all she said 🫤
She said CLICHÉ Botox Russian wifes, big difference
@@Koteczek-t6k also „Russian lashes“ is literally the name for a specific technique for lash extensions
@@s-anyonno difference at all
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But she said absolutely true about Russian women 😅
I’m a Cuban-American. There is nothing about me that is French nor elegant, but I do appreciate the emphasis on natural beauty.
While elegance can change from country to country, and even woman to woman, it is almost like it comes down to balance and not being pretentious. (For me, wearing hair clips is like that… I get so many compliments every time I throw my hair up in one.) Ultimately, it is about being comfortable in one’s own skin. Really appreciated the last part where you spoke about enhancing what we do have vs trying to change our appearance entirely.
Yes! I love when women put their hair up! I find it very elegant (done well).
While I appreciate your sentiment, elegance doesn't change from country to country. It's considered timeless for a reason. There is no place on earth where the dress code is formal attire/elegant and one would come in sneakers or would wear a plastic hair clip.
It's true that beauty ideals and trends differ in every country, but the concept of elegance doesn't change x
@@alexandraneag1229 And I beg to differ! You must never have been to Seattle's Opera House for one of their operas: Jeans and sneakers abound. It's quite depressing. And the many American weddings where young men show up in jeans and runners (absolutely no clue regarding the meaning of 'formal').
Yeah I will not be giving up all my adorable/dorky hair clips. Working as a nurse, you don't have a lot of ways to be creative with clothing and a cute clip that'll keep all your hair up is great!
@@andreaandrea6716 I believe you tbh! I live in North of England and the same applies unfortunately. But I guess my point is that even if they don't care about respecting the dress code and the occasion, they know nonetheless that the way they show up is not elegant. So no matter how you choose to show up, people still have the same elegance definition and expectations.
I'm sure this has already been stated many times over, but there is an enviable freedom in a culture that allows a woman to age gracefully and look like a refined, polished version of herself at any age. Here in the United States, so many images from your "tacky", and "ungraceful" examples are common and exepected as symbols of wealth. It's almost as if the wealthier your are, the more manufactured you should look. As an American, however, I can also say that there will ALWAYS be a bit of irreverence in our popular style (branded jewelry, graphic shirts, general loudness) as we are a arrogant, young culture who like to be noticed for being "different". I so enjoyed this video, and the general encouragement to embrace womanhood and aging with grace and refinement. Thank you!
Why Always then? Do you think American culture will never age ?😂 I can say for example that old money Americans look much classier than the new money from other countries.
Just to say this piece was about looking *elegant*. She acknowledges that there are other ways to present, but this is how to project that certain vibe, which is understated and suggests wealth and refinement. You can look funky, fun, and maybe rich too - a common vibe in the US- but that is not elegance. I think in US English some think of elegance as somehow equalling being rich, but it is a real misunderstanding of the word.
I totally agree
Agree re how Americans dress more look at me. I drew the line when grocery shopping & an adult woman wore a saying on her shirt which included the f word. That is nasty & in your face!
@@g.flesch9731 I am an American millennial, and you are spot on. I do not wear t-shirts even though it is basically the accepted "mom uniform" and I have 4 little kids. They are the clothing version of a bumper sticker. There are so many better, simpler, more classic pieces available for a good price. It is more modest and respectful of those around you to not wear trash. I know a lot of people here are spun up and taking this video so personally (it's what's on the inside that counts) - well, when I have to look at your bum, your cleavage, your stomach, because you could not be bothered, that is not kind, respectful or considerate either. Right?
What I think is great about this fashion mindset is that it’s not at all about impressing and dressing others. As an American - and a psychotherapist - I see SO many people, the majority of people, living and dressing to fit in with the trends. And even though many of they may genuinely enjoy the trends and the changing fashion, I think that if they were to really sit down and reflect, they’d find they are being swept away by our capitalism and living/finding happiness for things and not experiences. I’d like to think I’m pretty aware and I still find myself choosing possessions over experiences. I’m a boho girl who can’t pull off blazers. Yet everyone at my previous job wore them. So out I went to buy some. 3 years later and they haven’t been touched. Even if you don’t like the elegant style, the main bullet points of not dressing to impress but to feel good for you can be taken to any aesthetic. Buying quality materials so your clothes last longer and lay nicely. Especially since you won’t be buying the new trends or replacing fast fashion that is fraying, you’ll want the pieces you love to last as long as possible. With this mindset you’ll feel comfortable and content with your wardrobe and social status. With our capitalism and celebrity culture, you’ll never feel good enough.
I think you mean they are swept away by consumerisn not capitalism!
You mean we fall pray to consumerism, not capitalism. Capitalism gives people the choice to wear a blazer or not. Consumerism is the urge to buy things that you don't want or need.
As a woman with a disability, who lives in a cold country I think I will pass on parts of this. She is welcome to wear wool and heels with my injuries in -20 weather. Enjoy the pain, frostbite, etc. So tired of fashion influencers regulating women's feet.
She's not 'regulating' and you're free to do your own thing. Looking elegant matters sometimes and when it does, she gives good advice. I live in the country and most days practicality and dressing sporty is a better fit.
I am not French, but I can 100% relate to these rules and I have been following them forever. Plus another rule, my handbag and shoes always match in colour and style.
Warm regards from a francophile Austrian woman ❤
Please stop referring to Russians in derogatory way. It is distasteful. BTW, am not Russian- for the conspiracy theorists out there…
I came to the comment section to write the same thing (but I'm Russian).
Thank you very much for your support! Really appreciate it. I'm Russian, never had my nails done in a salon, no lash extensions, no botox. The reference to the video doesn't offend me a lot but still feels kind of unpleasant and not elegant
Agree! She talks about elegance and teaches women how to be elegant, but the way she speaks is neither elegant nor appropriate. It was a bit silly to mention Russian women in that way
I think she is referring to the style of lashes, they are called "Rusian lashes", I ignore the reason why; same for instance, with "French manicure", in her opinion it isn´t elegant, but it is how they call that style of manicure; I don't think it was a reference of nationality in a derogatory way.
@@xamapola she mentioned not only Russian lashes, but also "botox Russian wives", not elegant at all
Love the simplicity and quiet elegance of French style, but I also adore the understated drama and elegance of Italian style.
Drama? Where I live, the style is like the one described in the video. Nothing more, if you don't want to be too flashy
@@cinziaalbini3676 well, I guess my mom, from Bergamo, is “flashy”, and I like it. She wore more colorful clothes with larger jewelry pieces. I love Bulgari just as much as Cartier.
it's originally English, Alain Delon normalised English or WASP fashions in France, that's why it's quite masculine like Burberry trenchcoats
@@karlaschmid8757I believe it has to do with the warmer climate which asks for brighter colors. I also wear bright colors in summer and the rest of the year go mostly for muted tones.
I couldn’t imagine life without my Salvatore Ferragamo shoes, all 26 pair bought for me by my late husband.
I agree with you and as an American woman over 50, I started incorporating all of these points naturally and feel confident in my individual style and aesthetic. I wear minimal makeup and I op for clothes from natural fibers, I prioritize skin care over everything else and wear minimal makeup as I live in Florida and heavy makeup feels awful and makes me terribly uncomfortable. I wear jewelry that I love and usually holds some sort of story or sentimental value for me. For example, when my mother passed away it took me forever to go through her things with my sister but when we got to her jewelry box, I received the things she had picked out for me and unbeknownst to me my husband spotted an earring that was missing its mate so he asked my sister if he could have it and of course she said yes but neither said anything to me. He took that earring and had a necklace made for me and it is my absolute favorite piece of jewelry. It goes with everything and I wear it nearly everyday. It has special meaning to me and no one else on earth has a necklace like it. I am not a fan of looking like everyone else nor am I a fan of standing out for the wrong reasons. First impressions matter whether we like it or not! Be classy from the inside out! ❤
What a lovely gift. Thanks for sharing 😊
I clicked on this video out of curiosity like I’m sure some of you did and it’s interesting to see how many people watched just to comment in disagreement. She's just giving her opinion but really wants the point in watching style videos or what wear/ not wear videos if you’re just gonna disagree and say “elegance is wearing what you want” or “ elegant woman don’t care what others wear”. She may be giving the French perspective but some of the things she listed I think relate to class also. People in certain social circles and tax brackets aren’t going to wear certain things listed for the most part. Also I think graphic tees, yoga pants/leggings /sweatpants are just part of casual dressing down in the US. Not bashing it, it’s just what you will typically see. I agree about LV monogram bags. I think it’s been over consumed by the middle class to the point that it’s considered basic. I saw a meme that included the LV tote as part of the “baby mama starter kit” lol. Just my opinions.
And please don’t call a 3d volume eyelash extensions RUSSIAN. Women in Russia don’t even do them as they look ugly. If you go to Russia you will barely see anyone with those lashes, while in Canada there are soooooo many Canadians wear those terrible looking lashes. I think it’s a Hollywood culture not Russian to be honest. Maybe it was popular in Russia 10 years ago but not anymore
100% agree. I live in the UK, and there are so many girls and women wearing obvious eyelash extensions here. When I moved here, I was shocked by this trend because, in my opinion, it looks terrible. I’ve never seen so many Russian girls wearing such bad eyelash extensions in my life, so I don’t understand why Russians are being mentioned in this context. It’s unfair and not true at all
It's only the really young Canadian women that wear those lashes...Usually Gen Z. I'm in my 30s and don't because I don't think they look flattering, especially if too long.
The Coco Chanel rule: “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory.” Less is more...elegant
Advice that I always stick to.
Coco Chanel was a Nazi collaborator. Let's not quote her.
I've found this to be good advice. It lets one piece be in the spotlight, instead of fighting with all the other shiny things
I only wear 1 as a rule.
I try to always add something instead. Just to spite Chanel, who was a Nazi collaborator
French manicure, 60-70 years ago, was clear polish, and a special white pencil underneath the tip of your natural nails. Once they started painting a hard white line on plastic nails, it became very inelegant.
A little pale pink powder on each nail and gently buffed with a manicure chamois.
Yes, the original french manicures are great. My mom taught me and i still have a pencil
@@AliciaGuitarI remember my mom's white pencil..and we were in the US Midwest! This was late 50s
I will never quit "waffle jackets", not only are they practical and warm, they look cool to me!
If you’ve lived in a place with cold winters then you can absolutely relate to this comment 😂 👏🏽
This is interesting. My mother grew up in a bi-lingual area (French/English) suburb in Canada (not an officially French speaking Province. The French speakers there and their descendants came straight France. So many of your recommendations have been passed down through several generations of our family even though (with the exception of my mother (and perhaps now me-I’m working on it) we were strictly Anglophone. It is that it is generational that surprises me a little. These ways stand the test of time, with very little deviation.
I don’t always follow this rules but when I am being careful and I do, I get a very good reception everywhere and the one word I hear a lot is elegant.
My mother is deceased so she is not here to remind me.
Thank you for the refresher courses, during the lockdowns I became especially sloppy with the rules.
I’m going to start practicing them again. ❤
Is true that elegance is not only what you wear, but is important as well to be simple and elegant. I appreciate your tips and advise. Thank you 🙏
Who cares about French woman anyway, and what makes them right? Comfort is key, life gets tough sometimes not everyone lives a fairytale
I agree, if you want to follow these French guidelines move to France. I guess only French women are elegant. Wear what you want and what suits the climate you live in.
Then why did you even watch a video about French style by a French women with a French channel name??
Oh right, had to get your two cents in regardless. Ah well, it boosts the algorithm in her favor for her channel either way. 😉
I mean, people will watch rage bait whether or not it boosts the video’s algorithm.
Being smug got you nowhere 😁
Thanks god I’m not the only one who think that all those overly pumped up lips and angry bird brows and the Botox all over aren’t pretty or elegant.
Im Russian, and while I do not think we have any special “fashion tricks” as a culture, I personally found myself already following some of the “rules” you mentioned, as in:
1. I like Stanleys for their practicality, but I would never buy one, because the amount of craze associated with the brand is embarrassing. I wouldn’t want to be even remotely associated with it.
2. LV and other brands that love to display their logos everywhere on the piece, I would never buy, even when I would have a budget for it. Personally, the more discreet the logo the better, for me. Any luxury item you buy should speak for itself in how well-made they look, without the branding screaming “see, Im expensive”.
P.S. you said it so much better “let people guess that you are wealthy, not put it into their face”.
3. Shoes is always kind if a sore spot for me, because I have a minor disability, that prevents me from being able to comfortably wear anything but sneakers. This is the only “sporty” item I wear in an outfit, ‘cause I don’t like the “sporty” vibe.
4. I like my ballerina-shaped short nails, I won’t change them for a world😂
5. I hate puffer jackets, and dream of obtaining a warm winter coat, but Russian winters are so hard on you without these monsters. They make you look like a donut, especially since Im petite😭.
6. As a MUA, I LOVE French philosophy on aging. When you study makeup/faces so closely, almost any filler, especially a lip filler, is always visible. Personally, I wouldn’t want to get any lip or cheek/face filler, other than, maaaybe a frown lines filler, cause I have a very active face. So, maaaybe when Im closer to 40s? But seeing 20s yo fill their faces being 22 myself is kind of crazy to me.
7. These “russian volume” (I didn’t know they are called that😂) lashes cheapens any face, for me. Stripper lashes.
8. As a MUA, I love a bright eye or a dark lip occasionally, and there is a way to make contouring look harmonious with your face. But I also love a very sheer coverage with pimples/anything like that still visible, so I do understand what you are talking about.
Вот ведь блин, Ваш английский капец как хорош, завидую 🙏❤️
@@daylighteater спасибо❤️. Я все еще над ним работаю, не смотря на то, что использую его ежедневно уже на протяжении лет 5(?)😂❤️❤️❤️❤️
We don't call them Russian Lashes here in the UK, though I can understand why they can be called that. It's the New Money vibe rather than a Russian vibe really.
@@r.brooks5287 “new money” make sense, too. Curious❤️
FYI you’d use Botox for frown/forehead lines 🙂 Unless you allow them to get so deep that the lined are permanent and you need to fill them. The goal of Botox is to prevent the very deep lines from showing. A little bit goes a very long way - especially when done by someone who knows what they’re doing. Kate Middleton, for example, has had quite a bit of Botox and filler in almost every area of her face, but you can’t tell.
I’m not wealthy, but according to this I’m elegant🎉
Love the last one - a more natural look and learning how to enhance your natural features. I feel like America leans more toward how you described Norway - the emphasis on injectables, surgery, fake lashes, etc etc is almost overwhelming.
As an American from the south, I totally agree about the fillers and Botox. Ladies here are starting way too young with all that. I’m 44 and I think I go more towards the French idea of makeup and skin care. My every day makeup consists of eye brow pencil, since mine are very light, neutral eye shadow, brown eye liner, a little mascara, and I like to use a tinted moisturizer or a good bb cream for foundation. I’ve got freckles, there is no way to hide them, and I don’t like having a heavy foundation, I don’t think it’s great for your skin. I totally agree about the shoes too and the labels. If it has a label I’d like it to be small, unnoticeable. I do not like walking around as an advertisement for some designer.
As an American from Nebraska, this video made me feel like a slob 😂
I enjoy watching videos like this. I’m not putting down the video at all ❤
everything she said is everything the women here do. 😅
Fashion is so different in other cultures. It is so interesting to me . I wish we were more like the French culture in a lot of ways. I hate all the Botox! It just makes people look fake.
And it is pretty funny to watch people walk around with those big Stanley Cups 😂
I have a beautiful stainless steel water bottle 💦. I’m going to get that one out and start using it. ☺️
I love the French’s natural approach to beauty and not the use of fillers etc 👏 enhancing natural beauty. Loving your videos!
Merci!!
I personally think elegance comes from the inside. A lot of ppl think they are elegant just because of them using “elegant” clothes. But in my opinion it is on the mannerisms. Maybe a lot of people disagree on that one but it is my personal opinion nonetheless.
Yes. True elegance has at its base, humility.
Elegance is simplicity, no synthetic anything, beautiful manners, hygiene, and especially the way one speaks. You can look like a million dollars but if, when you open your mouth, you are loud, crude, use poor grammar or rudeness - no amount of designer clothes will help you. Also - avoid fads and trends. What you wear in 1990 should still look beautiful in 2024. Elegance is timeless.
I love that the French celebrate a woman's individuality. Style vs. fashion gives one the freedom to create a unique look.
I am French and I love the area where I live in the US. Everybody is wealthy, like crazy wealthy, the average income is 400k, and everybody wear fast fashion (Gap, HandM), not expensive, not looking good either, but nobody has to show off as everybody is wealthy... And they also all happen to have a PhD, so they don't care about what they look like, but more about what people think (not about them but about the world, the politics, the life). After living a few years in Paris, it feels very refreshing.
What phd do they have which subject
Is that Jacksonhole Wyoming?😂
Probably silicon valley.
SVP, ou est-ce que vous habiter?
And your point?
I just discovered your channel tonight. Even though I'm Anerican, I truly believe the French have the right idea when it comes to beauty. The whole enhancement of what you have and be yourself approach is much more inclusive of all women instead of the cookie cutter beauty we find in media today. My 12 yr old daughter is just becoming interested in fashion and makeup. I am trying to teach and model for her that being unique and natural is far more interesting than being like everyone else.
As far as nail shapes go, in my opinion, as a licensed nail tech, squoval or rounded off square shapes can be very elegant and pretty. The more square a nail is, the stronger it is because more nail is left for structure. The rounded corners make for a safer nail with less scratching and poking of yourself, your loved ones, and things. Also, many women have square nail beds. It is always a good idea to match the shape of your free edge to the shape of your cuticle. This makes for a more natural looking nail, which I feel embraces the idea of natural beauty the French do so well 😉
Any country in the world would basically have a much more correct idea of beauty than the US 😅
@@noqueq9003 Ouch! Where are you from, making such a harsh comment?
@@sarahjohnson3092 My origin is irrelevant here. Everyone knows that all stupid, ugly and trashy trends come from the US. One has to live under the rocks to not know it.
What you said about Norwegian beauty standards for women is so spot on! It's exactly the same in Sweden, and I'm a Swedish woman living in Paris since just a few years. I always had an awkward feeling I look like a s*utty Viking in comparison to all these elegant French women but couldn't quite put my finger on why... but thanks to your advice now I can AND I have the tools to change my ways! Merci mille fois!!
Oooh this gave me the chills! I am so happy I could give you some tools to find your beauty 🥰
"Slutty Viking" 😂
So sad! You're all probably gorgeous, why would such beauty need to also become slutty viking? I hope that changes in the culture.
I'm English, we too have mastered the 'Slutty Viking' look. Since most of the SVs' here seem to be about 16, I'm hoping they'll grow out of it. I'm just glad the internet wasn't around when I was that age; we were all dressed like the group Bross.
Scandinavian women are naturally beautiful. You don't need to hide behind style or elegance to be beautiful. Nothing wrong with being stunning.
i’m french, and I just wanna say that this pov is very old fashioned. the rest of us don’t think france equals elegance like this gen x’er
Women can wear anything they like or want…Regardless if they’re American, European, Asian, African or Mexican. Beauty and elegance exudes from the inside, how you treat others…
Clothing and accessories are all material things.
Wear whatever makes you comfortable, happy and satisfied!
All American young women who are stuffed with filler and Botox in their twenties and fake hair extensions and eye lashes need to see your page! Love It
Not just American women, unfortunately, sporting the ultra fake look.
Not just American women
Why…. You assume they want to appease your demographic lol.
Plenty like that in the UK too. They look like clones. I wonder what they’ll look like in thirty or 40 years?
I agree in general. Just to be remembered: vegan leather is also plastic (there are plant based vegan leathers, but they are not widely available, still being "tested" on the market; 90% of "vegan leather" products you find in retail are made from petrol-based synthetics)
The term is weird…it’s vinyl, there is nothing leather about it “vegan” leather…just appeals to a certain crowd
Uhhh vegan leather is plastic 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly! Back to leather, silk , cashmere, etc.natural materials ! Red nails is classic !
Most of the time yes, but there are more and more leather-like materials made from cactus, cork, mushroom, pineapple, and other plants.
Yep, vegan leather sneakers are vinyl ... Plastic!!! Looking extremely shiny and
cheap, I have a pair that I only use for rainy days in town, when I don't wish to wear heavy wellies
I think she is just talking about the shoes that look obviously like cheap plastic, of which she showed examples. Shoes are your foundation - buy quality.
@6:45 in the US 🇺🇸 , we wear them because it's so freezy 🥶 and it's worth it!
I appreciate the effort to include women of color in examples of positive light. As an African American we are typically depicted in negative context.
The only style you need to follow is the one that brings out the best features in you and makes you feel good about yourself.
Fake nails, hair extensions, false eyelashes, fillers, gym wear all the time, in my opinion very common and not elegant ❤
Agreed
all those things bagged jeff bezos so clearly it doesnt matter
I love gym wear and athleisure wear. Not only is it comfy and shows off my curves but I’m ready for the gym any time.
As someone who lived in France I saw a lot of these rules, I actually felt prettier living there, I could go effortless like the rest of the women and felt more myself as compared to Latin america where makeup trends are to overdo it and fashion doesn't feel very timeless
New subscriber for sure ❤
I'm still keeping the claw clip, it's the only thing that can grab my hair without giving me a headache 😅
Maybe a metal claw clip is ok?
6:44 the photo on the left is from Moscow Red Square. Winter in Russia is -25 degrees so it’s difficult not to put this huge piece on and still keep warm . Still thank you for the recommendations we can use them from April to September 😂
-25 is winter in Moscow maybe but winter in another part of Russia is around -40 and we wear real fur coat not just because we have this misconception of elegance but just because it’s the only way to stay warm and safe, with ethical fur coat you would be frozen already. I found this video very silly because obviously this girl doesn’t prepare properly the information, especially about Russian women, she was always mentioning them in a negative way. If she had ever been to the UK she would never connect Russians with eyelash extensions as the number of British women wearing vulgar eyelash extensions is horrifying but in Russia it’s very rare. In all countries you can find elegant people and opposite, so I think it’s quite stupid and not ethical to mention nationality in this context
I CAN NOT roll my eyes hard enough. Here's another word I'd like to hear you explain: Pretentious🙄
Also, you'll have to pry my mink coat from my cold, dead hands.
To sum it up: "ugh"
Yes but mink is cruel
Then why did you even watch the video? About classic French style by a French woman on a channel with a French name??
Oh that's right, your voice must be heard! Ah well, your pretentious contribution just gives her channel a boost in the YT algorithm. Cheers! 🥂😘
I love that you showed examples of coily-haired women. Thank you for being inclusive!
True. Elegance transcends race.
Inclusive = disgusting 🤮🤮🤮🤮
Try Dysport instead of Botox. It helps with my brow lines yet, I am able to raise my eyebrows and show expression on my face. My best experience was with a shopkeeper in Firenze while purchasing a silk scarf. I was expressing my concern about my neck wrinkles and she told me several times, “ it doesn’t matter”. She was very sincere. Mademoiselle, thank you for your words regarding aging.
There’s no functional difference between dysport and botox, I think you have been misinformed.
@@BonnyP-69r I have been using it for the last 7 years. My dermatologist told me to use Dysport and yes, I can raise my eyebrows and yes, he injects my forehead.
I’m so glad this channel was recommended.
In America, everything, including beauty is a way to convey status. So while the fillers, lashes and brows may not look great on everyone, it’s more about what it says about your status. It’s unfortunate and tacky but it’s a byproduct of our unrelenting capitalism.
I think the understated versions of many of the things she mentioned are also a way to convey status (depending on your particular culture that can vary, of course). In many circles, the idea is to look flawless but not be able to tell you had anything done (think Kate Middleton, who has had everything done but so minimally that you can’t tell) 😄
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@@karenhanson359 exactly!
Your unrelenting capitalism allows you to have enviable comfortable lives, that the whole wants to migrate to.
The French may be elegant, america is fun. And there is no need to put down your own country in order to praise another.
I used to do the thinner winter jackets like suggested in Norway but honestly, once you get a well-fitting puffy jacket you’ll never go back. I even hated them before but seriously function over form is much more imperative in -20°. Nice content otherwise! 😊Stay warm!
Every time i watch a content on the topic of elegance, I realize that i am inherently elegant fashion-wise....😊 Many things that you mentioned are things that i would never dream of doing, like the dad shoes, or the infamous LV canvas bag...
If it's too commonplace, them it definitely isn't for me.
Weird enough your pic is the least elegant thing I ever seen. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I prefer Italian women fashion..,
Me too! More flamboyant and fun
Amen Amen…this is borrrriiiinnnggg
Italian style (Southern) is trickier to pull. You have to have the right amount of sexiness but not look vulgar. The women (outside Italy) who try it usually end up looking slutty. It's not for everyone. As for the Northern Italian (ex. Milan) style it's very classy.
@@cruisingmimi9319 it's only boring if you don't understand it.
D'accordo...per me sono troppe regole assurde 😀
I’m thrilled to hear about the Stanley …it’s a ridiculous trend anyway !
Is this Stanley not very heavy and unhandy to carry? I have no idea. I’m from Europe and never see somebody with this in my country. I always have a small Bottle Evian Water with me.
Hello from NC! OMG, I just got my first one from Starbucks. They had a seasonal collaboration with Stanley so I used couple of gift cards some clients gave me. Otherwise, I would've purchased it, but it is super heavy and cumbersome esply when its full! It's so tall esply with the straw adding extra height. The handle juts out like it's a Spartan sheild grip..lowkey a hot mess😂. And the colors/designs or bland but yet bold like a neon juggernaut..😂! If you have time and strength to hold it, tryst me youre in a class of your own!
@@jaytaylor2090 😂😂😂😂
@@Twiggs2562 🤗
It’s just a cup I drink water constantly for my bad kidney so I couldn’t care less what she thinks
I am not an elegant lady and I am not French, so I wear whatever I like and comfortable 😂😂😂
Yah coz you're body shamed American 😂😂😂😂😂
Don’t watch this video 🤷🏻♀️
@@cinc180 because I have a strong personality, nothing can influence me for having or not having things, understood ? Anyway this video just pop up !
@@Xobaba22 Having a strong personality and being elegant are not mutually exclusive.
In the US, the fillers abound as do the awful fake eyelashes. Both are just terrible looks, IMO.
The LV bag, the nails, botox/ corrections- I agree since forever. Unique, natural beauty rocks the most! Merci
Say it for the people in the back (USA) Stanley Cups are soooo cheap looking. And I'm American 🇺🇸. Those designer jewelry stacks look desperate. If you get a high-end down jacket, the puff is not out of control. I have one and need it for the long, cold New England winters. 😊
Love this!
I have one also. its so thin and light everyone assumes its not warm!! I really dont care about others judgements, I am very warm and cosy!! LOL.
@@MademoiselleSpendsThank you! I cannot STAND STANLEY cups!
I think the big Stanley cups are great for long drives in the car. Or from and to yoga in a car. The US you sometimes have long distances in the car. Not for walking in the city or as i do to the gym on a bike in Amsterdam
It’s a cup. Not meant to look expensive how silly.
Not everybody wants to look like the a french woman, and thats okay too.
Just wear what you like and feel comfortable wearing. My opinion🤷🏽♀️
Those New Balance shoes that she dismissed as plastic are in FACT Leather. This is so pretentious.
Italian women have it all over French women..
I made these observations during a stint in tourism. Regular French people looked pretty ordinary compared to regular Italians who were far more innately elegant.
Italians look very fashionable
Agree
It's not elegant to wear shoes unsuited to what you are doing. If you're exercising, wear exercise shoes. A lot of this advice IS incredibly pretentious; you're right.
The French appear very dull and uninteresting to me. I preferred the look of the Spanish and Italian women. Their robust confidence is unmatched.
I’m not trying to g be mean, but is the creators look supposed to be “elegant”??🤔
Exactly
I made the same observation, I thought she was going for the boho style look initially. It's important for her to reconsider her own style before giving advice on her version of elegant style.
Why are you so critical of the Russian style? It seems like a pattern.
Simple. Just be yourself, not flashy or like the box. Love it!
Here's the thing about fillers: If they're obvious, they've been done wrong. Done right, you'd never know the face has been treated.
but most of them are detectable. You can see it in even rich people.
@@carlamata9617 not true. Every suburb in America has 2 dozen dermatologist that are BOOKED solid for fillers. Most women are just getting a pinch, not a full mL.
True style is wearing what you love.
100% It is finding the pieces that express your personality and have fun creating your outfits!
There is no requirement on planet earth to be dressed elegantly
Except when 'what you love' looks ridiculous. Just sayin'.
But it's not always elegant.
Maybe not everyone thinks elegant is the same as what other people think is elegant.. I think being elegant is being a kind person to everyone , no matter what they wear, Flannel, ripped jeans, plastic shoes. If you are a kind, good person. then you are elegant to me❤❤❤❤🥳🥰
It gets much colder in Chicago than Paris. I’ll keep my. Bulky down coat for those super freezing days.
American women could care less what the French think.
My Mom grew up in Los Angeles in the 1950s, and emulated the "Old Hollywood Glamour", much of which was similar to what you are talking about. Her family wasn't wealthy, but my Grandmother made her clothes out of good fabric, from patterns they chose for their tasteful and flattering looks. Natural fabrics, clean lines, classic color combinations, show style rather than 'fashion'. I grew up in the 1970s, so the more casual, natural look was popular. But the overdone botox, plastic surgery, fake lashes, etc. are everywhere now. I can't tell you how many times I've come across a young woman working working at a bank, a restaurant, or a store, who has those crazy butterfly eyelashes. They are so distracting, and I find it keeps me from taking her seriously, which when I was that age, was the one thing I wanted most. I hope more young women will see your videos and choose to dress with style and elegance.
2:40 It's not about what you are able to wear, but rather what making the material implies.... here it comes with cruelty, so someone who has the money for real (but horrible fur) and choose the fake one, should not be deemed unelegant, on the contrary! Wearing real fur also goes against your 1st argument of being simple and not too flashy...
Watching this video with a plastic hairclip in my hair 😄
Hahaha!
And that’s fully allowed, there is no obligation to dress elegantly every second of every day 😉♥️
Me too 😊
I'm in America. 50 years ago, when hair clips first came on the scene, I saw a beautiful blonde with her hair casually pulled into a soft French roll, secured with an amber clip. It was so beautiful, I remember it to this day.
Me three
Not allowed.
Style does not equal fashion - period. Thank you for that valuable lesson on what a style is and what isn't!
I’ve always felt the same way about graphic t-shirts, LV bags, and the *giant* Stanley cups. So, it was nice to hear the same sentiment echoed overseas, even if it is uncommon in the US.
Hate Louis Vuitton. And Stanley ...
Same here.
Elegant ladies are elegant in their own opinion
Lol so many people in the comments offended by the video..nobody forces you to watch it. If you don't like the facts don't watch it. Elegance is subjective but it also has certain objective standards whether you like it or not. We will not call fugly things "elegant" just because some people are offended lol. You can be as offended as you wish.
No! There are norms for a reason. Every trashy dressed person believes they are elegant. Doesn’t apply here.
6:49 I see your point about the coat, but I don't think a tapered warm coast would do the job in Scandinavia. Perhaps you're cold-resistant.
I'm not giving up my pouffy long coat, I'm too cold otherwise 😅
@@labradoritefeldspath4445 no hate, just respect for this lovely lady, I'm just too cold in the winter, I tried everything.
I always thought Audrey Hepburn was very elegant and she thought the LV monogram speedy bag was very elegant. I bought one in 1998 and it still looks brand new. I don’t care what the treads are it is a very classic purse.
The hair is not elegant