I might try to find some flats with black toe. I have seen them in another French ladys RUclips chanel, and they are really nice. My crocs are only for the garden, I then chose comfort over elegant. In the cold winter of Norway I will still chose warm over elegant too, I have my very frown upon seal skin boots, but I need them to keep warm in the winter.
What is crazy to me is the defensive comments I see on videos about elegance that read like they're being attacked?? They say they're not trying to be elegant always and defending crocs or uggs. No one is expecting anything of anyone, the lady is just trying to help you lol 😅 why even watch these videos if you are so sensitive?? 🤧 love your videos
I agree w/ you. She was just explaining how to be more elegant . Not everyday you need to have elegance in the way you dress ( gardening/ picnics/ hiking, etc. )
Wow… what a refreshing take on how to style oneself in an elegant, tasteful way. Also, I appreciate how she provides alternatives in case a viewer likes a particular look.
Your perspective is amazing and timeless, because you value (like some of us) the notion that people ought to look their best, be their best, and do their best both at home, and in society. This value system is worth preserving, and I could not be more grateful to you.
Great video. The keywords here are French elegance. Going to a prize ceremony, first dinner with potential in-laws, job interview at a fancy workplace, upmarket art gallery opening... these kinds of occasions. We don't have to be elegant all the time, but when we need to be, these are perfect tips. I have lived in France - outside Paris - and you are absolutely right. I feel that nowadays people are trying too hard to express their personality through flashy clothes. Elegance is not boring, nor is it taking away one's personality - it's letting your intellect, kindness and other qualities shine. But when you don't have those, it's true that the clothes need to do all the 'shouting'. Keep up the great work.. Loving your videos so far 🙂
Or maybe it's quite the opposite. A well-thought-out style with bright accents requires much more intelligence, erudition and courage than dressing in clothes with a complete lack of any character. Elegance is a good word to cover up your mediocrity and at least due to this to feel a little higher than others, which these people who wrinkle their noses at any bright accessory clearly really want. And of course, the more complexes a person has in his head, the more he tries to go out of his way to give the impression of belonging to a higher economic stratum.
Well -6C is actually when it's warm in a Québec winter perspective 😅 so I will stick to my timberlands laced boots that covers all of my calf. You are right though that they are not in the classy side, but they are on the survival side when you walk a lot outside in Québec winter 😂 I discovered you recently and I love your videos! You are really good at explaining without judging, and I find your vibe quite comforting ❤ I would love to see a video on makeup! 😊
Nothing speaks "class & elegance" like keeping all 10 toes intact, even if it means you're wearing your grandma's natural wool felted Valenki, as you're stomping through Siberian blizzards in -40 °C
I am so amazed at the way you describe controversial topics in a subtle way. This is how an elegant woman do this. Really liked your movies and staying for longer 🙂
I really appreciate how clear and straight forward you are. It might be a cultural thing but I have noticed that french people don't pull their punches as much and are less apologetic when explaining themselves than English speakers. Don't let people being offended change the way you give your information. I thought it was very helpful and straight to the point.
I agree about so many points, but I think there is a couple of warnings to underline. First one: classic is classy, but it always needs a touch of fresshness not to become old and a little boring, expecially if you're in your sixties and over. Second one, what you wear needs to be coherent with who you are. As an artist I feel the need to always have a "point of interest" in my outfit, may be just an unconventional jewel or a surprising colour in my very classic shoes or bag, for example . It might as well be anything else, but I need it. And you have to cope with your body, too. For example I love flats and ballerinas and wouldn't wear anything else... but I'm petite: if I wear too low heels with a formal dress I don't look elegant at all and seem to be wearing slippers. So sad but so true! 🥹 Thank you for your video, it's always a pleasure to have a nice talk about style, isn't it? 🌹
I'm 68, and I can certainly relate. I'm actually afraid of falling if my heels are too high! My way of coping is wearing a flat with just a hint of a heel - maybe one inch. I just bought a pair of shoes that have a heel of over two inches, and will probably save them for dressier occasions, but the heel that they have is a bit chunkier than most, and, therefore gives me a bit more confidence than a skinnier high heel would.
Classic isnt boring it is timeless. Thats why its classic. There is a difference between old frumpy and stuffy ... and classic. If you believe in yourself you dont need flashy. If you are very artistic and expressive it could be you dont want to express yourself as understated which is perfectly wonderful and fits your style and creative intelligence. Classic is understated and maybe understated doesnt reflect the freedom you want to express who you are. What is considered elegant does have a constricting restricting element to it as its associated with money status and certain restrained inhibited behaviour relegated to societal constructs and expectations. At the same time plastic carries a cheap image not just related to price but to its identity, and lack of innate value and beauty.
@@FuchsiaFire444 a personal touch can be a silk foulard, a bag or a pair of shoes with a surprising color or pattern, as Pucci teached us many years ago. Or a vintage jewel, as well. As for plastics... Iris Apfel nobilitated it, with her unique talent for mixing and matching rich and poor materials. She was a queen of style and followed her own personality, I don't think it's a good idea to try and clone her. But one of her incredible pieces alone is able to upgrade an outfit, even the most classic of them.
I love watching these videos, but I think I will always have an element of artsy/chunky/bright to the way I dress. Fortunately nothing in my life needs 100% elegance 100% of the time.
I love this and agree with you! I also think nails are a great way to add that fun pop of colour/artsy vibe whilst still wearing sophisticated outfits. I do this all the time with my elegant/ elgant-ish fits
I really like your videos, so nicely put together, thank you! Here in Australia, where Ugg boots originated, they are mostly worn INDOORS!!!! I cringe every time I see people wearing them in the street, especially in UK. It's a big NO! Mind you having said that, we do have people who wear pyjamas and ugh boots to do a late night shop and think they won't be noticed!! It's very entertaining!
I am very petite (5'0") and hardly ever wear flats, but the thing is when it comes to a heel, a platform is much more comfortable. I like it best when they are an inner platform (meaning covered with leather and built into the shoe rather than stuck on the bottom) and this type of shoe does not have the look of stripper heels which is an extreme look. I've heard this before about platforms, and if comfort wasn't an issue, I like the look of sleeker shoes better probably, but they kill my feet in a fraction of the time.
I wasn’t aware of elegant style much, but somehow I always avoided crocs, uggs, bows and laces, and high heels. I will probably get a pair of shoes with black toe, loved those :) Thank you for the video!
Any boots that can keep me upright on icy concrete are the boots I will wear. For me, it's not about elegance, but traction. Now for the rest of the year, these tips are great.
Merrill if the hiking look is AOK for your use purpose (they’re 3 season, non-Alpine hiking boots). TODs, if price is no object and if not put off by their cautions on at least some boots and shoes (and handbags/briefcases), on “avoiding water.” Some TOD boots I got that look like some “young people’s” ideal of fashion, and that everyone I consulted told me to KEEP, including for wear under trouser suits etc. are superb in terms of COMFORT. The TODs boots are apparently often made with comfort in mind (and not only their flat “driving shoe” which is great if your feet aren’t already too far gone…). They don’t look like what to wear “for first impressions” unless rocking a “cool” vibe will work. They DO “fit” in multiple senses for other city/business use scenarios. They can be worn hiking but are not hiking boots… definitely rec serious hiking boots like LOWA, or MERRILL, for serious outdoor sports esp LOWA for Winter (made in or via Germany, available via CT and AZ stores and online in USA). GOOD LUCK.
Although I agree with the esthetic point of classy looking shoes, one thing a lot of these aren't is practical or better yet healthy for your body (we are talking joints, posture, bone structure etc.) I believe it is more than ok to wear them from time to time but is not something that should be worn daily 'cause in a long run they are not good for your body
Thank you for the guidelines! Comforting to hear that chunky boots are considered okay for snowy weather. Regarding that, could you perhaps do a video on how to dress elegant and feminine in harsher winters? The -15, -20 degrees type.
I never had a casual friday at work not one, until it snowed and I dressed for it with alpine boot, full climbing chic except the rope and my team was nearly cheering me, sometimes you just have to show up! with a bright lipstick of course!
Thrilled that you think VIVAIA are fashionable shoes. I’m in love with the waterproof boots I got from them. I get loads of compliments from my Parisian friends and colleagues. I splurged on summer shoes from them too. And I am highly tempted to grab a pair of black toed heals. Definitely recommend the brand. And no, I’m not working for them. Just a happy customer! J’adore vos vidéos ! Merci milles fois !
You do a great job of clearly explaining why certain articles in fashion are distasteful! I am 66 years old and I 100% live by your guidelines as taught to me be my mother as well!
I just binged your channel, i love your personality. Very honest and you have many tips I've not seen on other channels that reiterate rules my grandma and mother followed. Love it ❤
Much like the top comment i saw. When you have foot injury you are relegated to sports sneakers. I can't even go barefoot after major reconstructive foot surgery
I guess I won't be going for classy & elegant on my trip to the Olympic National Park in a couple of weeks. I just received a fantastic pair of Keen hiking boots, brown with green laces, and I am so excited to wear them! Also packing for chill and rain every day, lots of socks, hats, merino everything. And bug spray. I'm looking forward to hiking and reading and writing, and big trees and moss, lots of moss. When I get back to work I'll promptly return to my Burberry trench coat, jeans, ballet flats, and a lovely cashmere sweater.
VIVAIA shoes are superb in terms of comfort, and one can even wash them in a washing machine on their own of course. (One cannot dry them in a machine however… leave in a shaded place to dry). Most are made from recycled plastic (bottles etc), though they do not appear to be. Great shoes for feet healing from injuries, late recovery from surgery, bad bunions, etc. They are not THE most beautiful shoes, however I’m very glad these shoes made your list due to their simplicity and perhaps also to give those who can’t worry only about the appearance of their shoes an extra option… (with your mark of approval). PS VIVAIA doe shoes and boots come in many colors, which is “fun.” PLUS EASY TP SMASH INTO A SUITCASE without any worry about damaging them!
Thanks for the comment on Vivaia. I am a digital nomad , live out of a suitcase and typically find myself out walking around 4 miles a day. I want to look stylish and yet need comfort. Have been wanting to try them.
Hi, I love your videos. They’re so elegant and classy. I do have one thing to say about the Louboutin heels. I have the 3 inch black patent leather and they’re stunning and very elegant. They’re not too high. They’re just perfect and I always get compliments.❤
What I noticed about your makeup is the LACK of it. I am 68, and completely agree with this. It took me years to get here. When I was young, I wore WAY too much makeup, instead of just accenting my natural beauty. Now it's just a touch of concealer for my under eye circles, some cream blush, eyebrow pencil, and lipstick. For evening, I add a touch of eye shadow and mascara. And that's it! Oh, and sunscreen moisturizer - I have worn this for 40 years! By the way, Vivaia shoes are lovely, and they make them in Narrow width, if you need them! How refreshing! If you are also a Narrow foot, you could try Vaneli, although they are a bit pricey! (I get them vintage). For sneakers, I always order a regular width, but one half size up, allowing for movement when you walk fast, and, because you can pull the laces tighter, this pretty much takes care of the width issue. If you were a narrow width and ordered narrow in sneakers, you would find that the shoes would fit too tightly with a sport sock. I keep praying that shoe manufacturers don't stop making Narrow width shoes. They seem so hard to find!
in retirement my solution to not finding narrow has been the less than elegant but very comfy SLIDE in shoe with no back. That Vivaia sling back might work also.
I love your videos! I just ran across your channel yesterday, and I am enjoying it so much. I tend to be adventurous with my clothing choices and I do not always dress elegantly (sometimes I do), but I love fashion of all kinds and I love learning more about it all the time. Knowing all the ins and outs of the different looks and how to create them helps me make good choices, and helps me create the kind of vibe I'm going for every day. Thank you!
You should make some practical videos about the elagant look for the budget .. with h&m amazon etc links. So we can shop there and you can earn some affiliate commission
I loved this video and i would agree with most of it. I do wear a chuckie sneaker when i work out and when I am walking long distances. Mine are made of rubber not platic and they are vey expensive. I don't like the chuncky sneaker but this one is more like a platform and with a light bell bottm or boot leg it looks more refined. I do like the suede booties with the lace. I have them and pair them with a pair of jeans with a blazer or blazer like sweather with a nice loose scarf it is quite elegent I feel no to showy. Thank you for you videos I am on the right track it is good to know how my self respect has changed as I am more mature.
I have to defend Birkenstock a little-they offer a model called Madrid, which can look casual yet still elegant and feminine, especially in the big buckle version. The Arizonas mentioned in the video are just one of their designs. While they are iconic, I have to agree that they are indeed chunky :)
I don't wear Birkenstocks, but they look fine. I find it a bit ironic that the sandals she suggests instead don't look less chunky and are much less attractive.
Fun fact abour crocs, they went popular because of the film idiocracy, where you can see everyone wearing them. They wanted shoes that match the lazy vibe of the society portrayed in the film, and needed them to be extra comfortable, and they find those shoes made by an unfamous designer at the time.
Bought my first pair of Vivaia flats a couple of months ago. My only real complaint would be the “no blister” pad at the back, which actually gave me the worst blisters ever. The fake suede inside produced balls of lint that made my skin blister within 15 minutes during my first wear; they even rubbed holes into the protective skin tape I applied, and dislodged bandaids. I advise applying some friction prevention cream (got a stick from the pharmacy), VERY GENEROUSLY, so that it absorbs into the fake-suede fabric over the first few wears. Another minus would be that there’s no genuine leather at all, and I find the interior of shoes much more comfortable and breathable with leather insoles and lining. But they definitely feel great in the front part, especially not compressing my bunion. The rubber sole feels a bit heavy, but absorbs shock pretty well. Now that they don’t skin my heel raw, they’re great flats, and very stylish ✨
Loved this video! I am wearing boots with laces in winter as they have the right shape for my feet, other boots oftentimes look very chunky on my narrow feet, and I look sluggish. Unless I choose a classic boot with a heel, then it's perfect. Please make a review of your experience with the vivaia brand. 🌺
I am very much pro elegance ( strong Venus placements 😁 ), but with high arch and my love for 10-15k steps city walks - I don’t have much choice, but to opt for super comfortable NB shoes… 🤷🏻♀️
I agree w most of what she said…I personally never understood the L.Vitton craze..just never cared for the purses or the shoes w the red on the bottom…the stiletto type. 🤣🤣🤣
Just found your channel. Love the ideas in these videos. Re: Vegan shoes - Vegan shoes are typically made from plastic. I understand vegans believe we humans should not harm creatures for our pleasure (style, food, etc.). But vegan shoes (and handbags) put plastic into the oceans and landfills, so creatures are still being harmed. I hadn't given much thought to my beloved sneakers being mostly plastic. Food for thought. I will have to rethink the sneakers I buy. Thanks for your channel.
There are many vegan shoe and handbag options now that are not “plastic” (or are made from recycled plastic) and are beautiful! You just have to look for them.
As a vegan I weigh up the impact of everything I consume carefully. My main aim is not to eat anything made from animals because that is very much a daily decision that could cause the greatest harm. In the same way I try to buy my food plastic- free. My shoes are a quite different matter. I usually buy my hiking boots every seven years or so. Even if they are leather they often have plastic elements (for example - the soles). I wear canvas pumps throughout summer and they generally stay looking nice for several summers. They are machine-washable too! It is a challenge to be plastic-free. I imagine even you find it challenging to find berries in cardboard containers or to buy all your daily groceries plastic free. I'm incredulous that people always zoom in on vegans and the plastic shoes they may, or likely don't, buy once every few years.
Nice video and great info! Imho opinion ballet flats are not nice or flattering (pun inntended) at all, just a little better than crocs, but just as Lazy, sleepers that are somehow allowed to be worn outside. There are a thousand options to replace them (you showed them) it surprises me to see them in an elegant shoe list. Fortunately for me I don't see them often since they're not trendy anymore as they were a few years ago.
I'd love to see the Vivaia review. Great job doing all these videos. It's in fact what my mother told me, too. Although she's not French. Bisous Paulina
Hi dear, I loved this video! Just wanted to say that your videos are always so interesting and you can really sit back, enjoy and have a cup of tea and enjoy girly time haha😍💕 perfect for all women who enjoy fashion and elegance!
@@MademoiselleSpends I wear what is attractive, not detracting. Learned from My mother who was born in 1921 and Nana, Aunt and Great Aunt. I give credit to them.
Please do a video of brand recommendations for elegant shoes, accessories, and clothing! You mentioned a few but I’d love to learn more! A lot of products sold in America are not comfortable or well made and it’s hard to where to buy from!
I just received this video by accident, really love it, I AGREE with everything you just said, I do not understood the representation of classic of Harry’s wife, there is a lot of better classics woman representation out there, THANK YOU.
I HIGHLY recommend Jeneba Barrie (she is also a lawyer) shoes; I own two pairs since I tan easily to match my skin in summer and winter. She offers a very large range of skin tones, in multiple heel heights including flats. I ordered the leather swatch book (the cost is credited to your first order) to be sure I got the best match. The shoes are beautifully made.
I'm enjoying your channel so much and, about this video, I'm stuck with the boots with laces. Not only because I love them too, but because of the sexy thing. I don't know... I feel more like sporty/traditional when using mine. Maybe not elegant, but definitely not sexy at all. They are not exactly soldier boots, they are dark-brown ankle oval lace boots and they evoke to me something earthbound, something solid, neutral and safe, and they flatter my silhuette in some balanced and discreet way. They are not chunky, you know? About the other items: I perfectly got your point and they all make sense to me and I couldn't agree more - there is a reason why I don't go outside with my home crocs after all. :D
It really depends on your lifestyle. I love my new balance 990v5. I wear it when I walk my dog or when I go food shopping. Of course I also wear sling backs, Mary Janes and boots when I go out but most of the shoes you’ve shown is either tacky or doesn’t suit many body types.
I think she did not refer to dog walking, or gardening (Crocs). That said, having worked for many years in France, their elegant shoes are designed for walking long distances, over cobblestone streets and up and down a lot of stairs. This means the arch is supported, the sole has discreet padding and the angle at ball of feet is not as sharp, even if the heel is high. The wonderful thing is that because they are easy to walk in, people walk A LOT. Taking elevators for less than three floors is considered morally lax. So, overall, you will see far fewer people having a certain body type.
There are certainly situations where being elegant is not a priority. For some people, it's never a priority. If being comfortable is your priority, go for it, especially when it comes to your feet. JMO, of course.
I live in Toronto and have noticed lately (since the pandemic) that sneakers, even chunky ones, are much more acceptable in the office. Even senior lawyers wear them sometimes to see clients, which I have a hard time doing myself. I wear sneakers to walk to work but change into more elegant shoes when I get there. I do own shoes in flashy colours but always in a classic style.
@@valerina01 The white sneaker (even clunky) are seen much more often since the pandemic in non-casual and non-sporty situations. However, senior lawyers in Toronto meeting clients is a surprise. Was surprised to see so many young women in dresses and large white sneakers in Italy last year and this, but they looked put-together and comfortable, though not exactly elegant.
@@hm4184 to be fair, I am referring to in-house corporate lawyers, not senior partners at law firms. But then again, the men hardly wear ties anymore so the whole business vibe is much more casual. Maybe the pendulum will swing back.
Great tips for those who like the "French", elegant, classy style but could never get it right. Of course there's no law that you should always look like that. Maybe that's just not who you are. Maybe you're an artist or an athlete or into subculture and that's ok! I never realized about the "teacher boots" btw, didn't even know that they're called that, so thank you
Excellent choices. Yet,I use platform boots and platform sandals which are aesthetic,not very high and definetelly not chunky.They are very comfortable and I can walk fast with them
What do you think? Any shoe you'll start/stop wearing?
Please review Vivala!
After watching your video I just deleted forever my old shoe wishlist and will start from scratch. 😅
Very high high heels. They are not so comfortable at all as I nearly stopped wearing them and after this video, it is justified as well. 😂
I might try to find some flats with black toe. I have seen them in another French ladys RUclips chanel, and they are really nice. My crocs are only for the garden, I then chose comfort over elegant. In the cold winter of Norway I will still chose warm over elegant too, I have my very frown upon seal skin boots, but I need them to keep warm in the winter.
@@MademoiselleSpends I will stop wearing the MK platform shoes and the Loboutains. No need to draw un-necessary attention..
What is crazy to me is the defensive comments I see on videos about elegance that read like they're being attacked?? They say they're not trying to be elegant always and defending crocs or uggs. No one is expecting anything of anyone, the lady is just trying to help you lol 😅 why even watch these videos if you are so sensitive??
🤧 love your videos
Agreed!
Totally agree! I’m here for the art of elegance…if I wanted to be basic I’d watch another channel🤷🏽♀️
Exactly it’s a personal choice for instance when I am away from home I take my flip flops to wear in a hotel room and the shower.
I agree w/ you. She was just explaining how to be more elegant . Not everyday you need to have elegance in the way you dress ( gardening/ picnics/ hiking, etc. )
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Finally, someone who doesn't like birkenstocks or crocs. Bless you
I really love the effort she makes for finding and presenting the looks. Lovely😍
Lol
Wow… what a refreshing take on how to style oneself in an elegant, tasteful way. Also, I appreciate how she provides alternatives in case a viewer likes a particular look.
Your perspective is amazing and timeless, because you value (like some of us) the notion that people ought to look their best, be their best, and do their best both at home, and in society. This value system is worth preserving, and I could not be more grateful to you.
Great video. The keywords here are French elegance. Going to a prize ceremony, first dinner with potential in-laws, job interview at a fancy workplace, upmarket art gallery opening... these kinds of occasions. We don't have to be elegant all the time, but when we need to be, these are perfect tips. I have lived in France - outside Paris - and you are absolutely right.
I feel that nowadays people are trying too hard to express their personality through flashy clothes. Elegance is not boring, nor is it taking away one's personality - it's letting your intellect, kindness and other qualities shine. But when you don't have those, it's true that the clothes need to do all the 'shouting'.
Keep up the great work.. Loving your videos so far 🙂
Elegant ladies don't say the f bomb either.
@@tamikaleeryker Yes they do. You will just never hear them say it. We are not monolithic and we are all human with faults.
Or maybe it's quite the opposite. A well-thought-out style with bright accents requires much more intelligence, erudition and courage than dressing in clothes with a complete lack of any character. Elegance is a good word to cover up your mediocrity and at least due to this to feel a little higher than others, which these people who wrinkle their noses at any bright accessory clearly really want. And of course, the more complexes a person has in his head, the more he tries to go out of his way to give the impression of belonging to a higher economic stratum.
I have to say I agree with everything you said. Elegance is the art of symplicity and understatement and never being too much.
Well -6C is actually when it's warm in a Québec winter perspective 😅 so I will stick to my timberlands laced boots that covers all of my calf. You are right though that they are not in the classy side, but they are on the survival side when you walk a lot outside in Québec winter 😂
I discovered you recently and I love your videos! You are really good at explaining without judging, and I find your vibe quite comforting ❤
I would love to see a video on makeup! 😊
Thank you for your kind words!
Yes! Make up.
Nothing speaks "class & elegance" like keeping all 10 toes intact, even if it means you're wearing your grandma's natural wool felted Valenki, as you're stomping through Siberian blizzards in -40 °C
I am so amazed at the way you describe controversial topics in a subtle way. This is how an elegant woman do this. Really liked your movies and staying for longer 🙂
I really appreciate how clear and straight forward you are. It might be a cultural thing but I have noticed that french people don't pull their punches as much and are less apologetic when explaining themselves than English speakers. Don't let people being offended change the way you give your information. I thought it was very helpful and straight to the point.
I agree about so many points, but I think there is a couple of warnings to underline. First one: classic is classy, but it always needs a touch of fresshness not to become old and a little boring, expecially if you're in your sixties and over. Second one, what you wear needs to be coherent with who you are. As an artist I feel the need to always have a "point of interest" in my outfit, may be just an unconventional jewel or a surprising colour in my very classic shoes or bag, for example . It might as well be anything else, but I need it. And you have to cope with your body, too. For example I love flats and ballerinas and wouldn't wear anything else... but I'm petite: if I wear too low heels with a formal dress I don't look elegant at all and seem to be wearing slippers. So sad but so true! 🥹 Thank you for your video, it's always a pleasure to have a nice talk about style, isn't it? 🌹
I'm 68, and I can certainly relate. I'm actually afraid of falling if my heels are too high! My way of coping is wearing a flat with just a hint of a heel - maybe one inch. I just bought a pair of shoes that have a heel of over two inches, and will probably save them for dressier occasions, but the heel that they have is a bit chunkier than most, and, therefore gives me a bit more confidence than a skinnier high heel would.
Standing ovation to you.
Very important, crucial! points 👏👏👏
Classy is never boring.
Classic isnt boring it is timeless. Thats why its classic. There is a difference between old frumpy and stuffy ... and classic. If you believe in yourself you dont need flashy. If you are very artistic and expressive it could be you dont want to express yourself as understated which is perfectly wonderful and fits your style and creative intelligence. Classic is understated and maybe understated doesnt reflect the freedom you want to express who you are. What is considered elegant does have a constricting restricting element to it as its associated with money status and certain restrained inhibited behaviour relegated to societal constructs and expectations. At the same time plastic carries a cheap image not just related to price but to its identity, and lack of innate value and beauty.
@@FuchsiaFire444 a personal touch can be a silk foulard, a bag or a pair of shoes with a surprising color or pattern, as Pucci teached us many years ago. Or a vintage jewel, as well. As for plastics... Iris Apfel nobilitated it, with her unique talent for mixing and matching rich and poor materials. She was a queen of style and followed her own personality, I don't think it's a good idea to try and clone her. But one of her incredible pieces alone is able to upgrade an outfit, even the most classic of them.
I love watching these videos, but I think I will always have an element of artsy/chunky/bright to the way I dress. Fortunately nothing in my life needs 100% elegance 100% of the time.
Love this!
I like your three personal style words.
@@softsophisticateI think overall they are comfortable/artsy/classic. My favorite outfits are a little bit of all of those.
I love this and agree with you! I also think nails are a great way to add that fun pop of colour/artsy vibe whilst still wearing sophisticated outfits. I do this all the time with my elegant/ elgant-ish fits
I really like your videos, so nicely put together, thank you! Here in Australia, where Ugg boots originated, they are mostly worn INDOORS!!!! I cringe every time I see people wearing them in the street, especially in UK. It's a big NO! Mind you having said that, we do have people who wear pyjamas and ugh boots to do a late night shop and think they won't be noticed!! It's very entertaining!
We get people walking around in slippers and dressing gowns in the UK and in the middle of the day
I am very petite (5'0") and hardly ever wear flats, but the thing is when it comes to a heel, a platform is much more comfortable. I like it best when they are an inner platform (meaning covered with leather and built into the shoe rather than stuck on the bottom) and this type of shoe does not have the look of stripper heels which is an extreme look. I've heard this before about platforms, and if comfort wasn't an issue, I like the look of sleeker shoes better probably, but they kill my feet in a fraction of the time.
I wasn’t aware of elegant style much, but somehow I always avoided crocs, uggs, bows and laces, and high heels. I will probably get a pair of shoes with black toe, loved those :) Thank you for the video!
Any boots that can keep me upright on icy concrete are the boots I will wear. For me, it's not about elegance, but traction. Now for the rest of the year, these tips are great.
Merrill if the hiking look is AOK for your use purpose (they’re 3 season, non-Alpine hiking boots). TODs, if price is no object and if not put off by their cautions on at least some boots and shoes (and handbags/briefcases), on “avoiding water.” Some TOD boots I got that look like some “young people’s” ideal of fashion, and that everyone I consulted told me to KEEP, including for wear under trouser suits etc. are superb in terms of COMFORT.
The TODs boots are apparently often made with comfort in mind (and not only their flat “driving shoe” which is great if your feet aren’t already too far gone…). They don’t look like what to wear “for first impressions” unless rocking a “cool” vibe will work. They DO “fit” in multiple senses for other city/business use scenarios. They can be worn hiking but are not hiking boots… definitely rec serious hiking boots like LOWA, or MERRILL, for serious outdoor sports esp LOWA for Winter (made in or via Germany, available via CT and AZ stores and online in USA). GOOD LUCK.
Although I agree with the esthetic point of classy looking shoes, one thing a lot of these aren't is practical or better yet healthy for your body (we are talking joints, posture, bone structure etc.) I believe it is more than ok to wear them from time to time but is not something that should be worn daily 'cause in a long run they are not good for your body
Feels good I was already following these rules without realizing it. 😅
Thank you for the guidelines! Comforting to hear that chunky boots are considered okay for snowy weather. Regarding that, could you perhaps do a video on how to dress elegant and feminine in harsher winters? The -15, -20 degrees type.
I am also very interested in the topic. Waiting forward 🙂
I never had a casual friday at work not one, until it snowed and I dressed for it with alpine boot, full climbing chic except the rope and my team was nearly cheering me, sometimes you just have to show up! with a bright lipstick of course!
Thrilled that you think VIVAIA are fashionable shoes. I’m in love with the waterproof boots I got from them. I get loads of compliments from my Parisian friends and colleagues. I splurged on summer shoes from them too. And I am highly tempted to grab a pair of black toed heals. Definitely recommend the brand. And no, I’m not working for them. Just a happy customer! J’adore vos vidéos ! Merci milles fois !
You do a great job of clearly explaining why certain articles in fashion are distasteful! I am 66 years old and I 100% live by your guidelines as taught to me be my mother as well!
Please make a video talking about elegant hair styles for women… 😊
Only if she include women of color. There women of color all over the world including where she lives in Norway.
I just binged your channel, i love your personality. Very honest and you have many tips I've not seen on other channels that reiterate rules my grandma and mother followed. Love it ❤
Yes, please review Vivia! =)
Thank you for the great content!
Much like the top comment i saw. When you have foot injury you are relegated to sports sneakers. I can't even go barefoot after major reconstructive foot surgery
I’m so happy I found your channel! Keep thriving! ♥️
So true what you say about Louboutins. Unless you’re wearing all black or all cherry red, the red sole tends to really clash with a lot of outfits.
I guess I won't be going for classy & elegant on my trip to the Olympic National Park in a couple of weeks. I just received a fantastic pair of Keen hiking boots, brown with green laces, and I am so excited to wear them! Also packing for chill and rain every day, lots of socks, hats, merino everything. And bug spray. I'm looking forward to hiking and reading and writing, and big trees and moss, lots of moss. When I get back to work I'll promptly return to my Burberry trench coat, jeans, ballet flats, and a lovely cashmere sweater.
I would love a Vivía review! ❤ Thank you for your videos, they're great.
VIVAIA shoes are superb in terms of comfort, and one can even wash them in a washing machine on their own of course. (One cannot dry them in a machine however… leave in a shaded place to dry). Most are made from recycled plastic (bottles etc), though they do not appear to be. Great shoes for feet healing from injuries, late recovery from surgery, bad bunions, etc. They are not THE most beautiful shoes, however I’m very glad these shoes made your list due to their simplicity and perhaps also to give those who can’t worry only about the appearance of their shoes an extra option… (with your mark of approval). PS VIVAIA doe shoes and boots come in many colors, which is “fun.” PLUS EASY TP SMASH INTO A SUITCASE without any worry about damaging them!
Thanks for the comment on Vivaia. I am a digital nomad , live out of a suitcase and typically find myself out walking around 4 miles a day. I want to look stylish and yet need comfort. Have been wanting to try them.
I've just subscribed yesterday. Love the videos. Thank you.
Hi, I love your videos. They’re so elegant and classy. I do have one thing to say about the Louboutin heels. I have the 3 inch black patent leather and they’re stunning and very elegant. They’re not too high. They’re just perfect and I always get compliments.❤
What I noticed about your makeup is the LACK of it. I am 68, and completely agree with this. It took me years to get here. When I was young, I wore WAY too much makeup, instead of just accenting my natural beauty. Now it's just a touch of concealer for my under eye circles, some cream blush, eyebrow pencil, and lipstick. For evening, I add a touch of eye shadow and mascara. And that's it! Oh, and sunscreen moisturizer - I have worn this for 40 years! By the way, Vivaia shoes are lovely, and they make them in Narrow width, if you need them! How refreshing! If you are also a Narrow foot, you could try Vaneli, although they are a bit pricey! (I get them vintage). For sneakers, I always order a regular width, but one half size up, allowing for movement when you walk fast, and, because you can pull the laces tighter, this pretty much takes care of the width issue. If you were a narrow width and ordered narrow in sneakers, you would find that the shoes would fit too tightly with a sport sock. I keep praying that shoe manufacturers don't stop making Narrow width shoes. They seem so hard to find!
in retirement my solution to not finding narrow has been the less than elegant but very comfy SLIDE in shoe with no back. That Vivaia sling back might work also.
Wide shoes are hard to come by as well.
I love your videos! I just ran across your channel yesterday, and I am enjoying it so much. I tend to be adventurous with my clothing choices and I do not always dress elegantly (sometimes I do), but I love fashion of all kinds and I love learning more about it all the time. Knowing all the ins and outs of the different looks and how to create them helps me make good choices, and helps me create the kind of vibe I'm going for every day. Thank you!
I love how you put a good light on the promoted style without bringing the other styles down, each with their own likings :D
Please make a video on hairstyles. Many thanks for putting into words what we knew but didn’t know the “why’s”. Super!
Love watching your videos. You express each point very well. Thank you for this great content
You should make some practical videos about the elagant look for the budget .. with h&m amazon etc links. So we can shop there and you can earn some affiliate commission
I loved this video and i would agree with most of it. I do wear a chuckie sneaker when i work out and when I am walking long distances. Mine are made of rubber not platic and they are vey expensive. I don't like the chuncky sneaker but this one is more like a platform and with a light bell bottm or boot leg it looks more refined. I do like the suede booties with the lace. I have them and pair them with a pair of jeans with a blazer or blazer like sweather with a nice loose scarf it is quite elegent I feel no to showy. Thank you for you videos I am on the right track it is good to know how my self respect has changed as I am more mature.
I have to defend Birkenstock a little-they offer a model called Madrid, which can look casual yet still elegant and feminine, especially in the big buckle version. The Arizonas mentioned in the video are just one of their designs. While they are iconic, I have to agree that they are indeed chunky :)
oui oui!
l also defend my Birkenstock Gizehs. If wearing them for example in gold its not elegant, but a kind of comfortable chic. Ok, for me..🤷♀️😉
Birkenstocks rock. Anywhere. Subvert the norm.@@j.p.p.1964
I don't wear Birkenstocks, but they look fine. I find it a bit ironic that the sandals she suggests instead don't look less chunky and are much less attractive.
I agree with you.
Fashion is art.
Great video!❤
You’re funny 🤩 I love your commentary and accent
I absolutely love your videos you are right on!
Amazing !
I love it! Thanks
i still love sneakers esp new balance. I have to be comfy when i work and travel. I agree with most
Fun fact abour crocs, they went popular because of the film idiocracy, where you can see everyone wearing them. They wanted shoes that match the lazy vibe of the society portrayed in the film, and needed them to be extra comfortable, and they find those shoes made by an unfamous designer at the time.
I really love this series! And your videos are amazing! Please keep it up!
Amazing, I agree with every single one. Very nice.
I love your channel! Very helpful with elegant, classy and respectable dressing. Thank you for reminding and informing others about modesty.
The complete professional wardrobe for a serious woman. love it
Merci 🙋🏻♀️ I loved this video. Can’t wait to see your next one 🥰
Happy to have found your channel honestly. Thank you for sharing and being a breath of fresh air ❤
Thank you for your kind words!
I think I found what I needed for years. Thank you a lot for your videos.
Yes please do a review of VIVAIA🤩 I've been thinking for a long time of buying
Bought my first pair of Vivaia flats a couple of months ago.
My only real complaint would be the “no blister” pad at the back, which actually gave me the worst blisters ever. The fake suede inside produced balls of lint that made my skin blister within 15 minutes during my first wear; they even rubbed holes into the protective skin tape I applied, and dislodged bandaids. I advise applying some friction prevention cream (got a stick from the pharmacy), VERY GENEROUSLY, so that it absorbs into the fake-suede fabric over the first few wears.
Another minus would be that there’s no genuine leather at all, and I find the interior of shoes much more comfortable and breathable with leather insoles and lining.
But they definitely feel great in the front part, especially not compressing my bunion. The rubber sole feels a bit heavy, but absorbs shock pretty well. Now that they don’t skin my heel raw, they’re great flats, and very stylish ✨
I have 4 different styles of Vivaia shoes. They are absolutely lovely and comfortable! ❤
I couldn't agree more with this entire video. Great post!!
Love your videos! ❤
Perfect!!
Love your videos
Please do a review of the Vivaias! I've been eyeballing them but prioritize comfort and support over most other factors in shoes.
Wunderbar erklärt! So schön dass jemand versucht die Eleganz zu retten! Leider, die jungen gehen einfach mit dem Trand, ohne viel nachzudenken......
i am definitely looking forward to the review video. pls ignore the defensive comments, i love this video
Loved this video! I am wearing boots with laces in winter as they have the right shape for my feet, other boots oftentimes look very chunky on my narrow feet, and I look sluggish. Unless I choose a classic boot with a heel, then it's perfect. Please make a review of your experience with the vivaia brand. 🌺
Great info! Thanks! ☺️
I am very much pro elegance ( strong Venus placements 😁 ), but with high arch and my love for 10-15k steps city walks - I don’t have much choice, but to opt for super comfortable NB shoes… 🤷🏻♀️
I just took a pick of the VIVAIA shoes and they have very nice and chic models. I will try a pair!
Yes, please do a review for the shoes you ordered. Love your videos.
Great tips!!!❤❤
I agree w most of what she said…I personally never understood the L.Vitton craze..just never cared for the purses or the shoes w the red on the bottom…the stiletto type. 🤣🤣🤣
I love my Vivaia. Very comfortable. They should sponsor a video!
I love your video's! Thank you so much!!
It was two decades ago but hooray for living in Norway! It’s very special.
Just found your channel. Love the ideas in these videos. Re: Vegan shoes - Vegan shoes are typically made from plastic. I understand vegans believe we humans should not harm creatures for our pleasure (style, food, etc.). But vegan shoes (and handbags) put plastic into the oceans and landfills, so creatures are still being harmed. I hadn't given much thought to my beloved sneakers being mostly plastic. Food for thought. I will have to rethink the sneakers I buy. Thanks for your channel.
There are many vegan shoe and handbag options now that are not “plastic” (or are made from recycled plastic) and are beautiful! You just have to look for them.
As a vegan I weigh up the impact of everything I consume carefully. My main aim is not to eat anything made from animals because that is very much a daily decision that could cause the greatest harm. In the same way I try to buy my food plastic- free. My shoes are a quite different matter. I usually buy my hiking boots every seven years or so. Even if they are leather they often have plastic elements (for example - the soles). I wear canvas pumps throughout summer and they generally stay looking nice for several summers. They are machine-washable too! It is a challenge to be plastic-free. I imagine even you find it challenging to find berries in cardboard containers or to buy all your daily groceries plastic free. I'm incredulous that people always zoom in on vegans and the plastic shoes they may, or likely don't, buy once every few years.
I have many vegan shoes. They are made with textiles.
Nice video and great info! Imho opinion ballet flats are not nice or flattering (pun inntended) at all, just a little better than crocs, but just as Lazy, sleepers that are somehow allowed to be worn outside. There are a thousand options to replace them (you showed them) it surprises me to see them in an elegant shoe list. Fortunately for me I don't see them often since they're not trendy anymore as they were a few years ago.
Well said! Love your tips! I agree with everything… your elegance tips are spot on . Thank you!
Thank you so much for all this information and advice. You present it in such a lovely way too 😊
I'd love to see the Vivaia review. Great job doing all these videos. It's in fact what my mother told me, too. Although she's not French.
Bisous Paulina
Wonderful video. So far, I'm making good choices.
Hi dear, I loved this video! Just wanted to say that your videos are always so interesting and you can really sit back, enjoy and have a cup of tea and enjoy girly time haha😍💕 perfect for all women who enjoy fashion and elegance!
Thank you so much for your kind words!
I have watched many elegant videos non compares to the settled silent style you mention I love it
I have never worn these ugly shoes, so I do not have to stop wearing any of them. Thank you for the video, agree with you.
Sounds like you've always had an eye for elegance!
@@MademoiselleSpends I wear what is attractive, not detracting. Learned from My mother who was born in 1921 and Nana, Aunt and Great Aunt. I give credit to them.
Please do a video of brand recommendations for elegant shoes, accessories, and clothing! You mentioned a few but I’d love to learn more! A lot of products sold in America are not comfortable or well made and it’s hard to where to buy from!
Hi. New sub. I’m French and Portuguese and love all your elegant tips, do you have a video on technology, I wonder what phone you carry etc. ❤
yes on the review!
I love my ballerina flats with black toecaps. A friend once called them “princess shoes”.
Thanks very helpful.
I just received this video by accident, really love it, I AGREE with everything you just said, I do not understood the representation of classic of Harry’s wife, there is a lot of better classics woman representation out there, THANK YOU.
I HIGHLY recommend Jeneba Barrie (she is also a lawyer) shoes; I own two pairs since I tan easily to match my skin in summer and winter. She offers a very large range of skin tones, in multiple heel heights including flats. I ordered the leather swatch book (the cost is credited to your first order) to be sure I got the best match. The shoes are beautifully made.
I just took a look at her site. What a fantastic recommendation, thank you! I love her innovation of the leather swatch.
great tips, thank you! I agree with all you said.
I'm enjoying your channel so much and, about this video, I'm stuck with the boots with laces. Not only because I love them too, but because of the sexy thing. I don't know... I feel more like sporty/traditional when using mine. Maybe not elegant, but definitely not sexy at all. They are not exactly soldier boots, they are dark-brown ankle oval lace boots and they evoke to me something earthbound, something solid, neutral and safe, and they flatter my silhuette in some balanced and discreet way. They are not chunky, you know? About the other items: I perfectly got your point and they all make sense to me and I couldn't agree more - there is a reason why I don't go outside with my home crocs after all. :D
Very nicely put, especially in today's world!
Totally with you about all the points ❤
Please do the review video on vivaia shoes. I'm looking at them for the last year but don't feel comfortable enough to buy them
I would be happy to see your vivia shoes review. As they are very unique in material.
It really depends on your lifestyle. I love my new balance 990v5. I wear it when I walk my dog or when I go food shopping. Of course I also wear sling backs, Mary Janes and boots when I go out but most of the shoes you’ve shown is either tacky or doesn’t suit many body types.
I think she did not refer to dog walking, or gardening (Crocs). That said, having worked for many years in France, their elegant shoes are designed for walking long distances, over cobblestone streets and up and down a lot of stairs. This means the arch is supported, the sole has discreet padding and the angle at ball of feet is not as sharp, even if the heel is high. The wonderful thing is that because they are easy to walk in, people walk A LOT. Taking elevators for less than three floors is considered morally lax. So, overall, you will see far fewer people having a certain body type.
There are certainly situations where being elegant is not a priority. For some people, it's never a priority. If being comfortable is your priority, go for it, especially when it comes to your feet. JMO, of course.
I live in Toronto and have noticed lately (since the pandemic) that sneakers, even chunky ones, are much more acceptable in the office. Even senior lawyers wear them sometimes to see clients, which I have a hard time doing myself. I wear sneakers to walk to work but change into more elegant shoes when I get there.
I do own shoes in flashy colours but always in a classic style.
@@valerina01 The white sneaker (even clunky) are seen much more often since the pandemic in non-casual and non-sporty situations. However, senior lawyers in Toronto meeting clients is a surprise. Was surprised to see so many young women in dresses and large white sneakers in Italy last year and this, but they looked put-together and comfortable, though not exactly elegant.
@@hm4184 to be fair, I am referring to in-house corporate lawyers, not senior partners at law firms. But then again, the men hardly wear ties anymore so the whole business vibe is much more casual. Maybe the pendulum will swing back.
Great tips for those who like the "French", elegant, classy style but could never get it right. Of course there's no law that you should always look like that. Maybe that's just not who you are. Maybe you're an artist or an athlete or into subculture and that's ok! I never realized about the "teacher boots" btw, didn't even know that they're called that, so thank you
Excellent choices. Yet,I use platform boots and platform sandals which are aesthetic,not very high and definetelly not chunky.They are very comfortable and I can walk fast with them
Yes, please do a review! ✨
Yes, I’m interested in hearing what they’re like in real life before ordering any. Thanks!
Just discovered your channel today, loving your videos! 💙🤗🥰