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Indeed, that falls under what you don't know you don't know for most people, even if they moved one level up to know that they do not know it'd still be a better place.
Well, from a different position, some are more aware of it, to keep some in trauma to control them. So, is it depends who should know about it and how to use this knowledge. But I agree to the intention but think in reality it is just wishful thinking. In the end I just wish I would have known more about trauma much more earlier, but I am grateful to know now.
The part about being yelled at is so true. As a child my father yelled at me so badly that i would freeze and have a physical fear of him. This carried with me into my adult years. And even to this day if someone yells at me i instantly get triggered and its bad from there on. Im only just starting to try to understand my fears and learn how to deal with people when they shout at you without having a nervous break down.
Your videos have helped me identify that I actually have social anxiety, all these years I have been living my life a certain way and I felt like I was the only person who was that way. I'm 42 years old and now have to try to figure out how to get my head out of this dark place. I have trauma that stems from my childhood that made me pull back from the world
1. 10:10 Following the trail of "WHY" 2. 16:37 Identify Your Triggers (Find In what situation you are triggerd and identify when was the last time you experienced that) 3. 18:17 - Shadow Questions 4. 21:40 Letting go mediations
You really know your stuff, Julien. I resonate with all of what your saying. After years of inner work with myself i recently had this beautiful experience of finding myself. Feeling at home within me. I healed my traumata after many years of pain and getting triggered. Its like, i can be myself now. Social interactions are getting a nice thing now more and more. And you, Julien, helped me a lot to get to the point, where i am today. Thank you from my heart❤
Hey Julian I’ve been struggling with social anxiety as long as I remember my Brian just kinda shuts off. Smoking pot is I think a huge contributor to social anxiety at least in my experience I’ve been trying to quit. Thanks again for the content Julian
I quit drinking and smoking for 7 months now and I feel like all my past traumas are coming up now and hitting me at once. Smoking can be suppressing your past traumas maybe quit for a while and deal with all your past issues. It might help with your social anxiety.
@@FNxmm Congrats fam keep at it some people use it to escape & don’t wanna face reality, but that only digs the hole deeper in the long run. The sooner you quit the sooner you can be completely free! 🙏🏾
Julien is helping me so much. Wish I found his channel years ago. He is teaching me more than my psychologist (no disrespect). I'm sure he realises how much he is doing. Thank you Julien if you read this. I'm so happy.
I have a great idea! you could hire a pianist for a seminar, who then organically plays while you talk and gesture and everything you usually do. I suppose it will take a couple of minutes before the two of you are in sync, but once you're in sync it could be amazing. Possibly adding to the degree of which the knowledge is absorbed. In a movie for example, the music helps greatly to pull the viewer into the experience, even making them forget that theyre watching a movie. Take it or leave it :)
I love that idea! He does some mini videos like that with video clips from movies too in the playlists section of his page. The playlist is “Motivational Videos” with Ben stiller as the cover. ruclips.net/p/PLeztx1--I_i9lr8QCKz44k7po4F2kWP69&si=OCt5o9l9MDyyp6r3
Whats this thing with people constantly standing up and leaving, coming into the room. Is it not possible to just sit down and listen? Edit: But thank you for your videos, theyre great!
This is the first time I understand that question thing, especially the shadow questions. Thanks for this. I jumped on the train and might feel I could go on with it. 😊
Heya, Julien. Veo regularmente tus videos y me encantan los consejos y cosas que dices y haces. ¿Has considerado hacer un canal en español o por lo menos poner subtitulos en español en tus videos? La verdad es que creo que así podrías llegar a mucha más gente, saludos👋.
This is very much an eye opener. During an incident i did not run or fight i did this. Freeze response. The doctors called it ptsd but they didnt elobrate on it until i started researching because i had only ever heard of flight or fight not freeze. And it was one of the most herrendous things ive ever experienced. I literally could not speak for a few days and certain other embarrassing things happened. I felt like a corpse or something and that third person perspective is very true. I felt like my soul had left my body and i couldnt get back in. i was stuck on a loop of the event and couldnt accept any new information. I still think to myself what happens if a situation happens again and i am able to act. I dont want to ever be that helpless again especially if i have those that depend on me.
Llevo estudiando profundamente estos temas hace 3 años y hay data clave que me sigue impactando y que va más y más profuno, increíble video, gracias julien ❤️
This is very good one. And is helping me much as i was looking up carl jungs work before i watched this channel and i thought hang on a second this sounds very familiar. Love it. Its excellent to see that this is a path to follow. I started learning all these things once i did a personality test and found out i am an infp personality type which lead me down a very exciting path. Very good and should be known more by people. 😊😊😊
Hey Julien. I've been having this question for the longest. How do you know if a "bad interaction" with someone is your fault when you're being your most authentic self? I sometimes can be self conscious of my facial expression when it's at a resting state. I believe that people are taking it negatively and trying to figure out if i need to do something about it. Please help with any input. Your videos have helped me tremendously💪🏼
How should someone start shaking it out, if she cannot revisit those frozed, traumatizing moments? (Not remembering childhood from 4 years old til 15 years old, and just partly for next 2 years).
Great video - thank you for your work :) Vitamin C came to mind as you spoke of the deer "shaking off" trauma. A little insight I'd like to share on bio-chemical stress; Stress has many different forms of expression - one of which is bio-chemical. Free radicals. When you get into a high stress situation, your body boosts your energy to enable a fight or flight response. This energy boost has side effects, among others "free radicals" roam in your body afterward. They just fuck shit up. They are highly reactive and are looking to cool themselves down by pretty much hot-potatoing the destructive stress to the next molecule. Vit C is an antioxidant in three ways even I think. Meaning the hot potato movement stops when reaching Vit C. Now get this - most animals produce Vit C in their own bodies. (Humans are one of very few animals that survived the evolutionary process of not producing that stuff themselves.) Okay okay - when stressed animals produce a truckload of Vit C. Like wayyyy more than when they are chill. Why? Because Nature learned that stress chemically destroys our bodies and Vit C counters that. Those that produce Vit C on mass - when stressed - survive. Are you stressed? Get yourself a Vit C pill with 10x what you actually need and boom you helped yourself
What about trauma that happened a month and a half ago? I self sabotaged and lost my first real relationship and she already moved onto a guy that backstabbed me and they are dating. This is intense trauma and im just at my very lowest point.
@CsabaGamings yes everything was. I did shady stuff to her and i didnt show her enough affection and broke her trust. And i can't make it right and i gotta live this and its crippling me. I miss her so much 💔
@@aaron.social The first relationship rarely works out the way we want it. If she moved on that quick it's very unlikely that she's the one for you. Work on yourself. (body/mind) Try to heal from your past childhood trauma (we all had it) to not repeat any unhealthy relationship patterns that you picked up from your parents. Study deeply what the characteristics of a healthy relationship are. I know it's very hard but believe me - the right person for you will enter your life when you the least expect it. I recommend when the time is right to define the qualities of your ideal partner in your mind or even in written form. Wishing you all the best!
Divorce and loosing your spouse to cancer is trauma and not so easily to let go tho, even if you can the loneliness sets in - what to do about that? Answer: sit with the pain and experience the trauma the emotions that affect your health, you have no choice... but to re-experience trauma that happened long ago should be easy, you're 50 now n it happened when u were 12, let it go, sheesh...but even if you can, it's still your experience and the scab will always be there, why pick at it...but you can help make the payments for the Porsche your therapist drives if you wish.
Ele era coach de sedução antigamente "PUA", exagerou muito fazendo um marketing agressivo e acabou proibido de entrar em diversos países, inclusive aqui no Brazil
I can't ever use a ruler to draw a straight line without remembering my 8th grade teacher yellin about how I can't draw a straight line with a ruler in front of the class. 😂😅
But I don't understand when to let go, because you said if you let go when you are triggered, you are only processing the drop in the reservoir. And at the same time, you're telling us to do something to get triggered and then let go
easy way out here is to sit still for a while and if you are anything like me, you might suddenly realize that you were tensed up for no reason at all and you try to consciously relax but it suddenly makes you unhappy and uncomfortable, THAT, there is your coping mechanism being challenged. Now, you are triggered. Most probably you will have one dominant negative thought,could be as simple as I hate my hair today. Now go to letting meditation of julien and do a release. Also, hang in there, tell yourself that YOU are there FOR YOU. Hope, it helps !
I have been used for sex, money, and as a mechanic of fixing emotionally bankrupt women who force upon me a financial slavery of sorts. Julien if you are reading this I would like to hire you as a coach to deal with the projections of self defeat that life has left me to ponder on. I would love more than ever to date a gorgeous woman that is of emotional sound mind and body. Add to my sanity please. And if you are that woman reading this, then get intouch with me. Sincerely PJBrown Aviator
Julian has no idea what it’s like to grow up with a mother who constantly belittles you on a daily basis from age 4 to 25. It creates shame and low self esteem that you can not think your way out if
Look at you belittling and underestimate Julien, using the same treatment as your mom used to with you. Get out of the victim zone and start self-reflecting.
This made me look up the scandal you've mentioned: puuuh - Julien - what in the fucking hell was that back then? Have you reflected/talked about that since then? I've really binge-watched your videos during the last weeks and was planning to join you in munich next year - but that Julien from 2014 just made me want to throw up to be honest... :/ Is that still you? Or was that just a phase of acting out your unenlightened shadow? You seem different from what I see today... and I really hope you are...
This is my contribution to the world of emotional health. I wrote this song for all those that suffer from C.P.T.S.D. This song is about my triumph over the tragedy of this affliction that plagues our society. I hope this gets out to those that need it. ruclips.net/video/sM87ZDkLsZk/видео.htmlsi=dXfxlsklVUEZ8Z39
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If only more people would be just *aware* of trauma, world would be such better place
Indeed, that falls under what you don't know you don't know for most people, even if they moved one level up to know that they do not know it'd still be a better place.
Well, from a different position, some are more aware of it, to keep some in trauma to control them. So, is it depends who should know about it and how to use this knowledge.
But I agree to the intention but think in reality it is just wishful thinking.
In the end I just wish I would have known more about trauma much more earlier, but I am grateful to know now.
The part about being yelled at is so true. As a child my father yelled at me so badly that i would freeze and have a physical fear of him. This carried with me into my adult years. And even to this day if someone yells at me i instantly get triggered and its bad from there on. Im only just starting to try to understand my fears and learn how to deal with people when they shout at you without having a nervous break down.
Damage can be done so easily, but it's healing what takes the longest💯
You didn't deserve the trauma but you're responsible for healing is what's most frustrating!
Or not? I got over a 10 year break up in 30 mins 😅 with hypnosis
Thank God that the algorithm brought me to your channel!
Your videos have helped me identify that I actually have social anxiety, all these years I have been living my life a certain way and I felt like I was the only person who was that way. I'm 42 years old and now have to try to figure out how to get my head out of this dark place. I have trauma that stems from my childhood that made me pull back from the world
1. 10:10 Following the trail of "WHY"
2. 16:37 Identify Your Triggers (Find In what situation you are triggerd and identify when was the last time you experienced that)
3. 18:17 - Shadow Questions
4. 21:40 Letting go mediations
Lots of love from india. I just love your classes. Now I becoming more authentic day by day
You really know your stuff, Julien. I resonate with all of what your saying. After years of inner work with myself i recently had this beautiful experience of finding myself. Feeling at home within me. I healed my traumata after many years of pain and getting triggered. Its like, i can be myself now. Social interactions are getting a nice thing now more and more.
And you, Julien, helped me a lot to get to the point, where i am today.
Thank you from my heart❤
Hey Julian I’ve been struggling with social anxiety as long as I remember my Brian just kinda shuts off. Smoking pot is I think a huge contributor to social anxiety at least in my experience I’ve been trying to quit. Thanks again for the content Julian
It's brain, hopefully things get better
Quit the pot fam it’s not worth throwing your life & $ away 🙏🏾
I might need to stop too or at less cut back
I quit drinking and smoking for 7 months now and I feel like all my past traumas are coming up now and hitting me at once. Smoking can be suppressing your past traumas maybe quit for a while and deal with all your past issues. It might help with your social anxiety.
@@FNxmm Congrats fam keep at it some people use it to escape & don’t wanna face reality, but that only digs the hole deeper in the long run. The sooner you quit the sooner you can be completely free! 🙏🏾
Julien is helping me so much. Wish I found his channel years ago. He is teaching me more than my psychologist (no disrespect). I'm sure he realises how much he is doing. Thank you Julien if you read this. I'm so happy.
I have a great idea! you could hire a pianist for a seminar, who then organically plays while you talk and gesture and everything you usually do. I suppose it will take a couple of minutes before the two of you are in sync, but once you're in sync it could be amazing. Possibly adding to the degree of which the knowledge is absorbed. In a movie for example, the music helps greatly to pull the viewer into the experience, even making them forget that theyre watching a movie. Take it or leave it :)
I love that idea! He does some mini videos like that with video clips from movies too in the playlists section of his page. The playlist is “Motivational Videos” with Ben stiller as the cover. ruclips.net/p/PLeztx1--I_i9lr8QCKz44k7po4F2kWP69&si=OCt5o9l9MDyyp6r3
Really interesting idea but don't think it would work here
Ive been living with CPTSD, and had a panic attack the other day. Its been tough shaking this out of me
Felt a sudden urge to say I love you!
❤❤
Whats this thing with people constantly standing up and leaving, coming into the room.
Is it not possible to just sit down and listen?
Edit: But thank you for your videos, theyre great!
resonates, uncomfortable painful inner work! much appreciated. 💯
This is the first time I understand that question thing, especially the shadow questions. Thanks for this.
I jumped on the train and might feel I could go on with it. 😊
Heya, Julien. Veo regularmente tus videos y me encantan los consejos y cosas que dices y haces. ¿Has considerado hacer un canal en español o por lo menos poner subtitulos en español en tus videos? La verdad es que creo que así podrías llegar a mucha más gente, saludos👋.
JulienHimself, This is fantastic! I subscribed right away!
Thank you! And welcome to the channel! 🙏
Big respect Julien! I LOVE your uniqueness!!! ❤
This is your best video. Thank you for what you do for us.
Thank you so much! I'm glad this video resonated with you so deeply! 🙏
This is very much an eye opener. During an incident i did not run or fight i did this. Freeze response. The doctors called it ptsd but they didnt elobrate on it until i started researching because i had only ever heard of flight or fight not freeze. And it was one of the most herrendous things ive ever experienced. I literally could not speak for a few days and certain other embarrassing things happened. I felt like a corpse or something and that third person perspective is very true. I felt like my soul had left my body and i couldnt get back in. i was stuck on a loop of the event and couldnt accept any new information. I still think to myself what happens if a situation happens again and i am able to act. I dont want to ever be that helpless again especially if i have those that depend on me.
You good now?
Llevo estudiando profundamente estos temas hace 3 años y hay data clave que me sigue impactando y que va más y más profuno, increíble video, gracias julien ❤️
I almost shared this with a friend who is suicidal from cptsd, but then I heard the chimp hunt story.... that was traumatizing to listen to...
How do u let go of the fear of being alone? If u ask why, its because i wont survive alone and its true, i wont. So that has to be ok?
That’s a good explanation.
Glad this was insightful!
This is very good one. And is helping me much as i was looking up carl jungs work before i watched this channel and i thought hang on a second this sounds very familiar. Love it. Its excellent to see that this is a path to follow. I started learning all these things once i did a personality test and found out i am an infp personality type which lead me down a very exciting path. Very good and should be known more by people. 😊😊😊
Lots of love from india. I just love your classes ❤❤❤
TRE, IFS and EFT are some good methods to work with trauma.
Hey Julien. I've been having this question for the longest. How do you know if a "bad interaction" with someone is your fault when you're being your most authentic self? I sometimes can be self conscious of my facial expression when it's at a resting state. I believe that people are taking it negatively and trying to figure out if i need to do something about it. Please help with any input. Your videos have helped me tremendously💪🏼
Love the shoes! And the pants. And the hair. And the neck. The while outfit. Damn you look good! Thank you ❤
How should someone start shaking it out, if she cannot revisit those frozed, traumatizing moments? (Not remembering childhood from 4 years old til 15 years old, and just partly for next 2 years).
Great video - thank you for your work :)
Vitamin C came to mind as you spoke of the deer "shaking off" trauma.
A little insight I'd like to share on bio-chemical stress;
Stress has many different forms of expression - one of which is bio-chemical. Free radicals. When you get into a high stress situation, your body boosts your energy to enable a fight or flight response. This energy boost has side effects, among others "free radicals" roam in your body afterward. They just fuck shit up. They are highly reactive and are looking to cool themselves down by pretty much hot-potatoing the destructive stress to the next molecule. Vit C is an antioxidant in three ways even I think. Meaning the hot potato movement stops when reaching Vit C.
Now get this - most animals produce Vit C in their own bodies. (Humans are one of very few animals that survived the evolutionary process of not producing that stuff themselves.) Okay okay - when stressed animals produce a truckload of Vit C. Like wayyyy more than when they are chill. Why? Because Nature learned that stress chemically destroys our bodies and Vit C counters that. Those that produce Vit C on mass - when stressed - survive.
Are you stressed? Get yourself a Vit C pill with 10x what you actually need and boom you helped yourself
Thanks I really needed this today
What about trauma that happened a month and a half ago?
I self sabotaged and lost my first real relationship and she already moved onto a guy that backstabbed me and they are dating.
This is intense trauma and im just at my very lowest point.
Would you like to talk about it.
How did you self-sabotage, did you learn from it...?
Was it even your fault?
@CsabaGamings yes everything was. I did shady stuff to her and i didnt show her enough affection and broke her trust. And i can't make it right and i gotta live this and its crippling me. I miss her so much 💔
@@aaron.social The first relationship rarely works out the way we want it. If she moved on that quick it's very unlikely that she's the one for you. Work on yourself. (body/mind) Try to heal from your past childhood trauma (we all had it) to not repeat any unhealthy relationship patterns that you picked up from your parents. Study deeply what the characteristics of a healthy relationship are. I know it's very hard but believe me - the right person for you will enter your life when you the least expect it. I recommend when the time is right to define the qualities of your ideal partner in your mind or even in written form. Wishing you all the best!
Divorce and loosing your spouse to cancer is trauma and not so easily to let go tho, even if you can the loneliness sets in - what to do about that? Answer: sit with the pain and experience the trauma the emotions that affect your health, you have no choice... but to re-experience trauma that happened long ago should be easy, you're 50 now n it happened when u were 12, let it go, sheesh...but even if you can, it's still your experience and the scab will always be there, why pick at it...but you can help make the payments for the Porsche your therapist drives if you wish.
Unfortunately, I didn't find this helpful for my specific situation.
Getting over prolonged childhood trauma is the hardest of all.
Such a nice video - like always!
Thank you!
Why are you wearing so often sunglasses?
Would n it be better to see your eyes if you talk to someone specific?
What happened at 2014
Ele era coach de sedução antigamente "PUA", exagerou muito fazendo um marketing agressivo e acabou proibido de entrar em diversos países, inclusive aqui no Brazil
Will you be coming to England any time soon?
That helps so much ❤
I am superior to my faults.
I am dealing with extreme tension in my shoulder and neck. It's really hard for me to relax. Is this trauma?
you can ask somebody to massage your shoulders. I used to have a strong tension due to stress, but you can deal with the physical tension easily
Hi Julien:)
👋
haha my man said Shhh at the restaurant, he hasn't heard of the 'tied up whipped with a belt combo
I feel like I still get lonely as day goes by so maybe people dont like my authentic self. Oh well..
I wish people would understand being relinquished at birth for adoption is trauma. It is a primal wound that lasts a lifetime.
Don’t reinforce the event like that. It’s apart of your journey embrace it. Cherish the people who love you now
I don't understand why people like Julien exists but I understand that is all my fault.
I would never go to a public conference in slippers.
Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥
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@@JulienHimselfany video on lgbt anxiety and acceptance
This is by far one of the most effective techniques. Also now I cannot unthink of the poor monkey’s balls getting ripped off 🙈:(
I can't ever use a ruler to draw a straight line without remembering my 8th grade teacher yellin about how I can't draw a straight line with a ruler in front of the class. 😂😅
But I don't understand when to let go, because you said if you let go when you are triggered, you are only processing the drop in the reservoir. And at the same time, you're telling us to do something to get triggered and then let go
easy way out here is to sit still for a while and if you are anything like me, you might suddenly realize that you were tensed up for no reason at all and you try to consciously relax but it suddenly makes you unhappy and uncomfortable, THAT, there is your coping mechanism being challenged.
Now, you are triggered. Most probably you will have one dominant negative thought,could be as simple as I hate my hair today.
Now go to letting meditation of julien and do a release.
Also, hang in there, tell yourself that YOU are there FOR YOU.
Hope, it helps !
@@UPSC_Unlock Thanks for your attention, but I meant that I don't know how to tackle the "reservoir"
edward scissorpants
I have been used for sex, money, and as a mechanic of fixing emotionally bankrupt women who force upon me a financial slavery of sorts. Julien if you are reading this I would like to hire you as a coach to deal with the projections of self defeat that life has left me to ponder on. I would love more than ever to date a gorgeous woman that is of emotional sound mind and body. Add to my sanity please. And if you are that woman reading this, then get intouch with me. Sincerely PJBrown Aviator
Girl?
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Julian has no idea what it’s like to grow up with a mother who constantly belittles you on a daily basis from age 4 to 25. It creates shame and low self esteem that you can not think your way out if
Why do you think he has no idea ?
Sorry about that..she probably grew up with the same problem.
@@equalityforunborn that’s great, when you date confident attractive guys who won the life jackpot and had loving parents just remember he got lucky
Look at you belittling and underestimate Julien, using the same treatment as your mom used to with you. Get out of the victim zone and start self-reflecting.
I'm early
This made me look up the scandal you've mentioned: puuuh - Julien - what in the fucking hell was that back then? Have you reflected/talked about that since then? I've really binge-watched your videos during the last weeks and was planning to join you in munich next year - but that Julien from 2014 just made me want to throw up to be honest... :/
Is that still you? Or was that just a phase of acting out your unenlightened shadow? You seem different from what I see today... and I really hope you are...
Im truly not trying to be negative or anything but your content is getting repetitive.
This is my contribution to the world of emotional health.
I wrote this song for all those that suffer from C.P.T.S.D. This song is about my triumph over the tragedy of this affliction that plagues our society. I hope this gets out to those that need it.
ruclips.net/video/sM87ZDkLsZk/видео.htmlsi=dXfxlsklVUEZ8Z39