Silence is a woman’s last form of trying to communicate to you just how much you hurt her.. When a woman no longer feels safe placing her heart in your hands, she uses silence as a way to heal and restore her peace..
So me. When I’ve exhausted myself explaining myself to a person with no changed behavior. It’s a wrap. I’m done. Silence becomes her. I don’t do emotional games.
literally going through this now. told him this was my last time expressing how i feel and im done with the mind games. Nobody is going to keep playing with my feelings
Most important give no reaction. Literally forget him, and whatever he does you are out of his game. Men go obsessing at times and do crazy stuffs, which here need to make him understand whatever he does will not play to his gate.
💯 🎯 perfectly said!! I’m done, exhausted of throwing 100% while he’d only throw 10%… he knew I liked him so he took advantage of that and stayed at 10% effort level.. mammi out🚪
I’m a very emotional person and if I feel like you are shutting me down or down playing how you make me feel when you do or say thing to hurt me….it causes me to start to move away slowly. You are on point about this.
@@alfhid1947 I would say work on your issues that led to making the other person feel alone, go to therapy. If you really want to get them back, give both of you time to heal and then reach out with an apology and tell them the things you've learned. Tell them you still care what them and that if they're willing to meet up and talk, you would love to. Go from there....
Currently on mute right now. You just described how I feel. The gravity of not talking and reaching out to him at this point is way heavier than the desire of knowing how he is or what he is up to today. Im soo done!
Being quiet means i tried to tell you how i feel i tried to communicate to fix it, i’ve come to a point now that i’m beyond hurt, i’m done. I’m letting you go
You hit the nail on the head 8 minutes in. Invalidating my emotional stability is so hurtful. I warned him how I was becoming detached due to lack of understanding and poor communication. Feeling lonely and alone in the relationship sucks. He didn't treat me like I was a priority.
I’ve been talking for 30 plus years, married to him 20 plus years, we raised 4 children they are in college & the military for United StAtes 🇺🇸 of American. Less then 3 years I will be 50. I STOPPED talking getting ready to transition out the marriage for life. ✌🏿
I’m gone keep telling you how I feel in different ways and keep repeating myself but once I feel like I am becoming a broken record and there’s no changes be done, Im being called out for feeling a way and wanting more than what I’m getting then I no longer speak. You will never hear me complain about the same thing again I’m just gone walk away. Me coming to you was your warning to fix it before I walk a way
When I go silent....I am done! Yes, everything is exactly as u described. It's time for the sunshine to come out!!! 😊 Thank u for being HONEST DERRICK...THATS PRICELESS
That's exactly what I do because I do t want to hurt anyone, or be hurt. And I have to get my feelings understood within myself so I don't react in an unkind way.
Did it yesterday ! My ex showed back up after 7 years talking about I’m the one! I admit I entertained him but I started getting anxiety and frustrated like I did when I was with him! I totally went silent and I feel so powerful
Every word is facts. He is correct, this absolutely is a warning she is starting to mentally and emotionally check out. I don't feel good being mean to anyone, I know I can do real lasting damage with my words. So if I don't have anything nice to say I try not to say anything at all.
I.. after a year. I blocked all contact. He did send a message on through FB messenger saying “ I don’t see how I was blocked, you’re definitely not a real friend “ ! Still no acknowledgement of what he did or how he treated me!
get tired talking , and being ignored. Then when you stop talking - throw insults and name calling. which is the reason you stop talking in the first place. mad cause they can not get their way and give bits but expect a pot of gold, services , etc.
Some men refuse to listen because they're flat out lazy! Listening means they maybe held accountable! They want to Breeze by in relationships behaving however they please. Even if it means throwing their woman and their relationship under the bus.
I'm literally bawling right now, sending my husband your video, not that he will even watch it in it's entirety and absorb it's message, but it's another attempt to wake him up before I go completely "quiet". So much of your video hit home, thank you
Dear Derrick, Thank you for bringing up this important distinction between getting quiet for a reason and giving a toxic silent treatment. You have described what recently happened to me when expressed my emotional needs,my feelings in a distant relationship, he decided to dismiss them. He told me it is drama and he will not discuss it any further.I expressed myself and went quiet feeling completely emotionally neglected. Till now he is silent. It clear he does not care, therefore I'm working on my healing process.Your content is very helpful 🙌🏻
I am married to that person who has been the most toxic person I didn't know that someone could be that way I never knew what a narcissistic person was I'm going threw n I'm so thankful that u are the motivation for me to see me n what they are n began healing thanks keep being blessed n thanks again
Thanks I did I'm getting better just have to put the work in thanks again it's good to know that I'm not alone n that u took the time to let me know thanks n prayer is the best way I know to make a difference for a start to do whatever it takes stay strong n luv ❤
You are not alone. You give your very best and these jackals give their very worse. Wish I'd known about this disorder a lonnnng time ago. These people are desperately broken and will stop at nothing to put others in the same predicament. Let go and let GOD lead you as you start putting you and your self- worth first.
Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently! 💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
that be communicated between the two… there’s a chance it wont be an agreeable decision, but “taking a break” leaves room for a revolving door issues. My thought though.
its true .. I would be wanting to reach out more if he would make the effort to show he cares about my emotional well being.. he's not a total jerk but I do notice myself distancing when he's not doing this..
But some men can not show it the some with us. Make sure his personality type. Some men can be crazy in love with you but will never show you. Only actions show.
I have been threw it…. I felt alone and I rather be alone than to be with someone and feel alone and I got tired talking and it seems like it’s pointless
Derrick am going threw this at this moment and I am at the point of moving out. Breaking the lease and leaving. I cant deal with no one that not taking me seriously and someone playing on my phone. Its alot. Not calling me perfect, but I have took alot from him to the point its time for me to leave. Right now I'm silent in the home. I go upstairs each night and he's sleeps on the couch.
Yes I agree... I'm sick of men giving women the silence treatment or punishment treatment.. these men are a bunch of babies.. walking around like they're the prize.. God gave Adam a helpmate.. and soulmate... not a slave to be abusive. I'm better off alone.. men are to damaging to women. And they don't see what they're doing bc they are to busy complaining about it.
Communication is KEY! But I’m done trying, I’ve done everything to get in the same page and he just ain’t in it no more. I got that message loud and clear…. Now here’s mine…. *gone mute* 🤫 🤐
If you ignore/ghost. And I were a great person to them. I have given you everything that I had to give. My time, space, and heart with no change! Thank you for sharing ❤.
Thank you!! This is my situation, but after yesterday's silent treatment talk I was confused on how to better deal with crazy making conversations. Thank you for understanding
No how. Dont deal with crazy making, silence and close the door. If something keeps you in the situation, give very short, very clear, to the point answers, like, Yes, No, I dont know. Limit communication and distance yourself bit by bit.
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You know she's really hurt when she starts ignoring you...
W.O.R.D.
Silence is a woman’s last form of trying to communicate to you just how much you hurt her.. When a woman no longer feels safe placing her heart in your hands, she uses silence as a way to heal and restore her peace..
So me. When I’ve exhausted myself explaining myself to a person with no changed behavior. It’s a wrap. I’m done. Silence becomes her. I don’t do emotional games.
Silence Becomes Her is a great idea for a movie title.
@@reginayfavors I agree and a book 📕 too.
Exactly 💯 end of discussion no repeats.!
You're right that is a good movie title.
literally going through this now. told him this was my last time expressing how i feel and im done with the mind games. Nobody is going to keep playing with my feelings
I'm sick of people causing problems then playing the victim and gaslighting.
So am I. You kinda get sick of being blamed for everything, don't you?
When you've literally tried everything and you've got nothing left in your arsenal,silence out of sheer frustration is all that's left.
Yes indeed !!!!!!!!!!
Loved your post , nothing but the solid TRUTH!!!!!!!!!
THIS!!!!💯💯💯💯💯🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
When we reach this point we’re tired and we are planning our exit strategy. It’s a drag dealing with such immaturity.
A complete drag!!!!!!!!!!!
Many men don't deserve to have a woman in their life and should stay alone.
Damn straight
It goes both ways
Facts..when you keep getting the same results, it's time to walk.
Yes YES YES !!! I’m done when I go silent ! That doesn’t mean defeat that means I respect myself enough to walk away !
So spot on ! The End . Silence
So spot on ! The End . Silence
Spot on . The End Done .
exactly
Yes being alone in a relationship is the most crushing feeling!
Nothing but Facts! I can’t stand repeating myself especially if it’s about something that a grown up should already know.
Period
Facts! 👏
Queen!
yes because if somebody STILL needs parenting , then they have not done the relevant work on their selves to become a grown up
Thank you! It’s not the silent treatment! I’m trying to let you know to forget you even knew me.
Most important give no reaction. Literally forget him, and whatever he does you are out of his game. Men go obsessing at times and do crazy stuffs, which here need to make him understand whatever he does will not play to his gate.
Yassssssssssss
I felt this one!!!
Absolutely 💯…. It’s not silent treatment. It’s fed up!!! And men don’t understand emotional safety.
Truth silence means you’re exhausted of getting hurt.
💯 🎯 perfectly said!! I’m done, exhausted of throwing 100% while he’d only throw 10%… he knew I liked him so he took advantage of that and stayed at 10% effort level.. mammi out🚪
Facts ... Period
Good for you, you deserve better!😉
I’m a very emotional person and if I feel like you are shutting me down or down playing how you make me feel when you do or say thing to hurt me….it causes me to start to move away slowly. You are on point about this.
You just spoke my life. Word for word. No contact for 6months. Blocked all contact and went totally Silent. It feels soooo good. Thank you Derrick!
Amen a peace of mind is a beautiful thing
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Is there a way to fix it? I am the one that screwed up
@@alfhid1947 I would say work on your issues that led to making the other person feel alone, go to therapy. If you really want to get them back, give both of you time to heal and then reach out with an apology and tell them the things you've learned. Tell them you still care what them and that if they're willing to meet up and talk, you would love to. Go from there....
Getting ready to go no contact, you don't exist in my world mode. Hoping it'll be wonderful
Currently on mute right now. You just described how I feel. The gravity of not talking and reaching out to him at this point is way heavier than the desire of knowing how he is or what he is up to today. Im soo done!
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Yes! So, me. Give it back and move on. Let them fools think they win and realize they lose later on.
Being quiet means i tried to tell you how i feel i tried to communicate to fix it, i’ve come to a point now that i’m beyond hurt, i’m done. I’m letting you go
Emotional safety is Everything
Facts! When I'm no longer emotionally safe, I'm so gone.
@@ladyshenna967how are you today?
@@jd6331 I'm well. How are you today?
@@ladyshenna967 Do you feel emotionally safe now?
I'm not great tbh. My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday, and I'm just devastated. 😞
@@jd6331 I do not feel emotionally safe. No, I don't.
May I ask if you could share why he broke up with you?
What you said is true about being quiet, tired of talking etc is true. I’ll just quietly leave the relationship.
Communication that is clearly discussed and understood, yet ignored = silence +existing 💃🏾💃🏾
You hit the nail on the head 8 minutes in. Invalidating my emotional stability is so hurtful. I warned him how I was becoming detached due to lack of understanding and poor communication. Feeling lonely and alone in the relationship sucks. He didn't treat me like I was a priority.
I’ve been talking for 30 plus years, married to him 20 plus years, we raised 4 children they are in college & the military for United StAtes 🇺🇸 of American. Less then 3 years I will be 50. I STOPPED talking getting ready to transition out the marriage for life. ✌🏿
I’m gone keep telling you how I feel in different ways and keep repeating myself but once I feel like I am becoming a broken record and there’s no changes be done, Im being called out for feeling a way and wanting more than what I’m getting then I no longer speak. You will never hear me complain about the same thing again I’m just gone walk away. Me coming to you was your warning to fix it before I walk a way
This is the best explanation of the silence!!
I’m my silence, I’m found my peace and healing. The most important thing, I’m founding myself…
When I go silent....I am done!
Yes, everything is exactly as u described. It's time for the sunshine to come out!!! 😊 Thank u for being HONEST DERRICK...THATS PRICELESS
That's exactly what I do because I do t want to hurt anyone, or be hurt. And I have to get my feelings understood within myself so I don't react in an unkind way.
Did it yesterday ! My ex showed back up after 7 years talking about I’m the one! I admit I entertained him but I started getting anxiety and frustrated like I did when I was with him! I totally went silent and I feel so powerful
Returned after that 7year itch why bc it didn't work out with who he was with and wanted to see if you'd take him back based on your trauma bound.
👏 we can feel it
Wow 7 years later and he didn't change is insane 😳. They never change I guess. Disappointing. Good for you
@@kikabeauty5 blocked ! Deleted. Unfriended! Moved on !
Every word is facts. He is correct, this absolutely is a warning she is starting to mentally and emotionally check out. I don't feel good being mean to anyone, I know I can do real lasting damage with my words. So if I don't have anything nice to say I try not to say anything at all.
I.. after a year. I blocked all contact. He did send a message on through FB messenger saying “ I don’t see how I was blocked, you’re definitely not a real friend “ ! Still no acknowledgement of what he did or how he treated me!
Relationship loneliness. I have felt that too, exactly.
I’ve been talking for 5 damn years. My vocabulary is almost depleted. 🥺
Gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllllllllllllll this is exactly me too right now! 😭
@@sonyamurray1108 😢
It’s been 15 years for me.
Emotional safety is attractive and necessary.
Yes, we reach a point where enough is enough. And, once I am done, there's no going back.
He knows what He's done...denies his wrong doings
get tired talking , and being ignored. Then when you stop talking - throw insults and name calling. which is the reason you stop talking in the first place. mad cause they can not get their way and give bits but expect a pot of gold, services , etc.
Some men refuse to listen because they're flat out lazy! Listening means they maybe held accountable! They want to Breeze by in relationships behaving however they please. Even if it means throwing their woman and their relationship under the bus.
I'm literally bawling right now, sending my husband your video, not that he will even watch it in it's entirety and absorb it's message, but it's another attempt to wake him up before I go completely "quiet". So much of your video hit home, thank you
Stop talking. That’s the problem. He knows.
@@AngelAngela pure facts!!!
IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII😓
You spoke my last relationship. Traumatized.
My pain and how hurt I was, ironically gave me all the strength to kept my silence and to leave that situation
You are the best big brother that I never had 💙
Thank you Derrick. Yes, that behavior is highly unattractive. It’s immature and abusive. A huge turn off.
I go silent, when I'm fed up. I'm silent when I'm tired. I go silent when the BS is just that. I go silent when my next move is through the door
He pushed me away, I'm not going back ,and I don't want him back,moving on ,to my happiness with someone else,
Dear Derrick, Thank you for bringing up this important distinction between getting quiet for a reason and giving a toxic silent treatment. You have described what recently happened to me when expressed my emotional needs,my feelings in a distant relationship, he decided to dismiss them. He told me it is drama and he will not discuss it any further.I expressed myself and went quiet feeling completely emotionally neglected. Till now he is silent. It clear he does not care, therefore I'm working on my healing process.Your content is very helpful 🙌🏻
This is one of your best messages yet! The distinction is critical.
When I go silent, it means I'm done done. He abused me, and now I know my worth.
Amen.. keep it up Derrick we're listening 🎧 to you..
I am married to that person who has been the most toxic person I didn't know that someone could be that way I never knew what a narcissistic person was I'm going threw n I'm so thankful that u are the motivation for me to see me n what they are n began healing thanks keep being blessed n thanks again
Listen to R C Blanks & Tiffany Buckner they are awesome as well. With these three people including Derrick we as women will win this WAR
Thanks I did I'm getting better just have to put the work in thanks again it's good to know that I'm not alone n that u took the time to let me know thanks n prayer is the best way I know to make a difference for a start to do whatever it takes stay strong n luv ❤
You are not alone. You give your very best and these jackals give their very worse. Wish I'd known about this disorder a lonnnng time ago. These people are desperately broken and will stop at nothing to put others in the same predicament.
Let go and let GOD lead you as you start putting you and your self- worth first.
@@goldenlady1213 very well said!
Thank you so much for your channel! You impact so powerfully the inner self talk not helping but you knife it all out and make so apparent. Thank you.
Definitely will be sharing. Needed this!!!
Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently!
💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
that be communicated between the two… there’s a chance it wont be an agreeable decision, but “taking a break” leaves room for a revolving door issues.
My thought though.
True.
If I'm wrong I will admit to it but if you wanna be in denial about never being wrong we have a problem because no one is perfect
Derrick you're so on point 💯💫💞
💯 % ..... Loving Me & Moving Forward.... Better Things 🙏
its true .. I would be wanting to reach out more if he would make the effort to show he cares about my emotional well being.. he's not a total jerk but I do notice myself distancing when he's not doing this..
But some men can not show it the some with us. Make sure his personality type. Some men can be crazy in love with you but will never show you. Only actions show.
@@nataliatorkhova8793 thank you.. yeah I don't want to give up on him. he still shows effort.
Thank you for this vid. It certainly spoke volumes to me. I will for sure be sharing this. Thank you again.
I have been threw it…. I felt alone and I rather be alone than to be with someone and feel alone and I got tired talking and it seems like it’s pointless
You've hit the nail on the head. Thank you.
Amen amen and amen! I don't know how you do it but this is thr truth, whole truth nothing but the truth. Amen!!!
I have. He wasted 6 mo of my time. But I got wise and ended it. It was exhausting to be with him.
passive aggressive narcs are toxic - immature - and freakin manipulators. I can't stand them they r toxic
Thank you SOOOOO much for these words of truth and wisdom. ❤
Derrick am going threw this at this moment and I am at the point of moving out. Breaking the lease and leaving. I cant deal with no one that not taking me seriously and someone playing on my phone. Its alot. Not calling me perfect, but I have took alot from him to the point its time for me to leave. Right now I'm silent in the home. I go upstairs each night and he's sleeps on the couch.
I was forced to repeat almost every word I said to him. I now know how a parrot feels. 😆
This is really good ! Keep them coming
silence is what it is no is a full sentence. more importantly :
when I”m done ✅ I”m done ✅!!
Exactly, nothing but truth. Thank you!!
You Nailed It!
You have been preaching the words of a woman!!!!
I am living this exact situation. Ty for postinv this n i shared it to him.
I went silent. I had to. Blocked and coded I relate to all this.
Crownz...on time with this one my G
Thank you.📣
I/We needed this Video right now.🧠🔥💪
This is exactly me I screwed up. She told me I was screwing up and didn’t listen to her until I really screwed up with a drunk txt
I'm quiet because I'm moving out asap
Ty for making this distinction ❤
He’s always speaking facts. Thank you!!!
Why would anyone tolerate a 'silent treatment'? Communication is vital
Yes I agree... I'm sick of men giving women the silence treatment or punishment treatment.. these men are a bunch of babies.. walking around like they're the prize.. God gave Adam a helpmate.. and soulmate... not a slave to be abusive. I'm better off alone.. men are to damaging to women. And they don't see what they're doing bc they are to busy complaining about it.
Like when you speak to them or ask them a question and they pretend not to hear. That burns me up.
@@None-of-yours22. Wow !!!!
I thought I was the only one dealing with this stupidity.
Communication is KEY! But I’m done trying, I’ve done everything to get in the same page and he just ain’t in it no more. I got that message loud and clear…. Now here’s mine…. *gone mute* 🤫 🤐
Thank you!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I went silent when I started developing my exit strategy.
If you ignore/ghost. And I were a great person to them. I have given you everything that I had to give. My time, space, and heart with no change! Thank you for sharing ❤.
I just subscribed ❤ you are the best relationship coach I’ve come across. Thank you
I absolutely relate to everything you said.
You got it correct! Facts.
These videos really help
So many mixed messages,
Hot and cold,
It’s exhausting.
You are correct
100 💯 factssss ❤ Los Angeles CA
Perfectly said 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I love you guys so much ❤️❤️
Thank you!! This is my situation, but after yesterday's silent treatment talk I was confused on how to better deal with crazy making conversations. Thank you for understanding
No how. Dont deal with crazy making, silence and close the door.
If something keeps you in the situation, give very short, very clear, to the point answers, like, Yes, No, I dont know. Limit communication and distance yourself bit by bit.
I feel better alone
I'm dating a covert narcissis. I so needed to watch this.
You are speaking facts.
No point in talking. Nobody listens. Nothing changes.
I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️
💯%Perfectly Explained Sir👍🏻
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