If I Had ANXIETY, I'd Do This First...

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад +12

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    • @exploration-pioneer
      @exploration-pioneer 3 месяца назад +1

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  • @giulianoyula
    @giulianoyula 3 месяца назад +32

    I just remember my young me, being happy and smiling, what happened, why I lost that spark, that authenticity, I just wanna be me again.

  • @davidsworld3527
    @davidsworld3527 2 месяца назад +3

    Im not commenting often, surely also because im overthinking how i´m being perceived by others and also by not meeting my own standards as of thinking and expressionskills. I got lost in the bubble of selfhelp stuff on youtube, be it motivational stuff, philosophical, etc... To a point i feel, that all that stuff is actually destructive. But Julien always hits the point in such real and authentic dynamics. Watching and listening to him and his work opens so much empathy for the people on there but also for myself. I can connect with the people, see myself and hear julien speaking to me. It brings a lot of comfort and true reflection.
    Thank you Julien, and beautiful Leanna!

  • @TanweerAyman
    @TanweerAyman 3 месяца назад +66

    Do you have videos of people romanticising their crush, obsessing over them, putting them on pedestal, living in fantasy, never actually talking to them, feeling unworthy

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад +29

      Here: ruclips.net/video/3tt-L2pROgk/видео.html 👌

    • @TanweerAyman
      @TanweerAyman 3 месяца назад +13

      @@JulienHimself thank you julien
      Appreciate all your help so far

    • @amelie8326
      @amelie8326 3 месяца назад +1

      Self sabotage

    • @7difbz
      @7difbz 10 дней назад

      Limerence

  • @Hellorashmi
    @Hellorashmi 3 месяца назад +5

    Julien , I got bullied in school and part of me believe that my parents never believed in me,never accepted me as I am,(they actually are the best parents)
    I cried during this session thinking you are talking to me,You healed something I was trying to heal from long time.
    You are the best.Love you ❤️

    • @Diary_101
      @Diary_101 3 месяца назад

      same tho I was surrounded by peers that were very toxic and i never walked away and that is something i couldn't really forgive myself for. I also felt a lot of anger/resentment towards the people who did that to me. I am trying to let go of it bc I don't want it it to be my bitterness. ❤‍🩹

  • @galdevina1224
    @galdevina1224 3 месяца назад +8

    Julien is such a blessing! Much gratitude to him ❤❤❤

  • @krissifadwa
    @krissifadwa 3 месяца назад +3

    I never know what the hell this guy is rambling about but I still love this channel. I wish Julien much success. He and his family!

  • @kaoruzen9495
    @kaoruzen9495 3 месяца назад +26

    At the part where Julien said to hug yourself, I tried it and suddenly emotions and tears gushed out without any clear trigger🥺😯. What just happened?! I felt too much for a sec.

    • @ErosSetAblaze
      @ErosSetAblaze 3 месяца назад +4

      Your inner self (who you actually are, not who you perceive yourself to be) or a part of you needed that hug.

    • @dxfifa
      @dxfifa 3 месяца назад +3

      You were there for yourself for once

  • @truthseeker2248
    @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад +5

    Stepping out on stage and yelling is huge WIN, struggling to yell and still doing it multiple times come oon thats not easy to do, good job, when i see people who try and put in effort to become better it brings me hope and happiness for better future. We need more people like that in world. She did great

    • @GameOn0-d6d
      @GameOn0-d6d 3 месяца назад

      These people are strong and They are making me strong.

  • @SpAzMaNiK
    @SpAzMaNiK 3 месяца назад +3

    I just want to learn how to forgive myself. I feel like I can never forgive my own past and that it is an anchor holding me down and keeping me from growing as a person.

  • @Passport2Pleasure
    @Passport2Pleasure 3 месяца назад +5

    Anxiety and excitement are the same physiological response in our body - the story we tell about it / attach to it is what makes the difference.

    • @PandarenCH
      @PandarenCH 3 месяца назад +1

      You sure about that? Anxiety feels different than excitement no?

    • @Passport2Pleasure
      @Passport2Pleasure 3 месяца назад +2

      @@PandarenCH psychologically it’s the same body systems - stress is stress. The emotional feelings are different due in the story we associate with the physical experiences. The physical experiences can manifest differently for different people depending on their body.

    • @kpaxian6044
      @kpaxian6044 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@Passport2PleasureI have never felt like I was dying when I was excited though. My anxiety felt different immediately.

    • @Passport2Pleasure
      @Passport2Pleasure 3 месяца назад +1

      @@kpaxian6044 what does "felt like I was dying" feel like in your body? Tight chest? Quickness of breath? Rapid heart rate?

    • @Passport2Pleasure
      @Passport2Pleasure 3 месяца назад

      @@kpaxian6044 What I'm talking about is the literally chemical reactions in the body. The physiology. You can check this out for some more info if it's helpful to you: www.hbs.edu/ris/Publication%20Files/xge-a0035325%20(2)_0287835d-9e25-4f92-9661-c5b54dbbcb39.pdf

  • @sno5951
    @sno5951 3 месяца назад +7

    Julien your my favorite therapist 👊

  • @emirhandemir3872
    @emirhandemir3872 3 месяца назад +2

    I never thought someone screaming could make me happy. Good job! I can understand what you felt at that moment 😅

  • @ShaBang910
    @ShaBang910 3 месяца назад +10

    Didnt even know i had this same problem until i started watching this

    • @PandarenCH
      @PandarenCH 3 месяца назад +2

      Alot of people have… especially in this day and age

  • @steve00alt70
    @steve00alt70 3 месяца назад +2

    The ego does not exist its not a thing its a social construct. You are just you, nothing more nothing less.
    Just like you r breathing without u realizing.

  • @ThunderSen
    @ThunderSen 3 месяца назад +2

    To be real she probs packing some traumatic tears and fear and anger. Very brave girl and beautiful.

  • @memm7846
    @memm7846 3 месяца назад +2

    Even tho in a way its one of my least favorite julien video because its not like drastic comple breakthrough, its also my favorite because it shows how real personal change look like: not complete, perect, black and white . Some progress, not as much as you want, and a good illustration of progress yet still lot to do and you ritisizing yourself. The disnay movie vs the inspirational but messy sport athlete documentar a la simone bile netflix docmentary where she has thw twisties

  • @lihuen-maka-sahel-fe1fy
    @lihuen-maka-sahel-fe1fy 3 месяца назад +1

    Hola Julien, te queria agradecer por todo este trabajo que realizas por la gente y hacerte saber que tambien hay gente de habla hispana como yo a la que has ayudado a ser mejor persona. Saludos desde Latinoamerica y te mando los mejores deseos para vos y todo aquello que defiendas. 🍀

  • @hypatch8014
    @hypatch8014 3 месяца назад +1

    Julien! I started accepting and embodying my feelings instead of just progressively desensitizing. My question is, will the gains I make with that method be permanent or does the permanency come from introspection and feeling the feelings that come up over the course of the introspection?

  • @practic4l349
    @practic4l349 3 месяца назад +2

    I'm not gonna lie the "avoiding dirt" part you mentioned I can see myself doing it watching this video. Even though it's not me that's on the stage, I feel uncomfortable and I want to click off. Some parts I just skipped because I couldn't take how embarrassing it was.

  • @suzanahas4740
    @suzanahas4740 3 месяца назад +7

    She is gorgeous..and blocked in shame and fear..

    • @thefeelingofunfair4052
      @thefeelingofunfair4052 3 месяца назад

      Sorry your probably not tall enough, make enough and for sure not confident enough for her. Shes on here to learn to attract the actual high-value men who would NEVER called her gorgeous without receiving something return

  • @Philllin
    @Philllin 3 месяца назад +1

    omg she screamed so much lol props to her tho, takes alot of bravery to stand in front of the audience...

  • @katherinefiori
    @katherinefiori 3 месяца назад +1

    I need Julien's answer to this: I sometimes come across with high positioned people at work - especially men. The thing is they are often arrogant, make me feel like they are something 'more' than me. I know they are absolutely not, that they are the very same human being as me. BUT in that moment, I feel like a little girl, unimportant, feel like I don't matter and also feel like I am loosing confidence in their presence, like I have to serve them with their requests. I hate that, I hate how they make me feel and I hate that I cannot change that. I wish I was emotionally stable in their presence and not be almost shaking with a trembling voice like I usually am.
    Also I sometimes interpret it like: OK, I am probably not even pretty when they are being arrogant or bossy or acting like they are more important than me. This also bothers me. And I do not know what to do about that. ....
    Anyways, you are a legend Julien, you already helped me a lot in general and I am super grateful for it, there in no one quite like you. THANK YOU! :) :) :) :)

  • @cazzywazzy25
    @cazzywazzy25 3 месяца назад +3

    Do you have any videos about feeling like you can’t have a good life while living with mental illness?

  • @KllswtchOvrDrv
    @KllswtchOvrDrv 3 месяца назад +1

    Julian, I feel like you expect people who have never screamed before to scream adequately, even though they basically NEVER use their diaphams. I think the last girl WAS holding back but NOT as much as you think.
    Me, personally I never yell, don't talk loud, etc, it's very hard to literally just turn it on like this. The diaphragm muscle is something you should go into more depth about

  • @lovelymix22
    @lovelymix22 3 месяца назад +1

    Her last scream made my heart jump ❤😊

  • @itgirl959
    @itgirl959 3 месяца назад +3

    It's so interesting to see the differences in how Julien tries to relate to girls vs guys. I think he is missing/over-respecting some of our defense mechanisms :) Even though he seems to understand quite a lot about girls

  • @bebeserio6072
    @bebeserio6072 3 месяца назад +1

    The worst case scenario that truly bothers me is they thinking that I'm going crazy or insane and that's making my mind goes blank and I don't even know what to do or how to act normally when this scenario pops up in my mind

  • @TechReviewTom
    @TechReviewTom 3 месяца назад +1

    I was picked on too bro you're not alone!

  • @EarlJohnson-h1w
    @EarlJohnson-h1w 3 месяца назад +3

    I never had a girlfriend nor a girl romantically interested in me and I'm over 30. I can't accept myself because I feel less of a person due not being able to have someone attracted to me. I'm a normal guy but rather ugly for conventional standards, and I've only been rejected and ignored my whole life. What can I do? People in your videos are always average to attractive, and some have mentioned to have partners, so it's difficult to relate to them. It feels overwhelming to try to accept myself with zero external reinforcement.

    • @silentcrow5926
      @silentcrow5926 3 месяца назад +1

      I am sorry to hear you're feeling like this. But it also sounds like you almost hate yourself, your looks and lack of confidence.
      I felt very simillar at one point in my life and what helped was changing the extrenal first. By that I mean, I looked up channels that deal with health (skincare, haircare, exercise), channels that deal with fashion & how to dress up nicely and comfortably according to my bodytype. This change (which is a process, you wont change overnight) was the beginning spark that helped my confidence. This boost then helped me looking deeper into my mental health which is how I discovered Julian.
      Also, be careful not to pity yourself too much. Self pity is a hell of a drug.
      This is just the beginning of your journey. I hope this helped and I believe you can heal to love yourself! When you accept yourself more, people will behave different towards you.
      By the way, i also never had a partner. And god, i wish i had. But now I see theres a reason i never had one - my own lack of confidence and everything, I sabotaged myself.

    • @merlosphoto
      @merlosphoto 3 месяца назад +2

      From experience, genuinely working on yourself is the best thing. Hit the Gym hard, change your hairstyle/ dress style. Learn how to communicate in a respectful manner. Be yourself through it and don’t be scared to ask the “out of your league “ person on a date. Get to know them a little at first whether it’s a coffee shop or somewhere you may run into them often. You will attract what you find attractive. So if you’re stuck in that mentality you gotta think about it a bit.
      That’s how I met my Girlfriend, she’s a 10 and I’m a 5 on a good day but I had the mentality of a 10!

  • @peachypeachy9658
    @peachypeachy9658 3 месяца назад

    I wish he would've shown her how to scream uncontrollably :D so we would hear the difference! She held herself back all the time. But it's hard to stand there in front of all those people and try to scream from heart. Great video 🥰

  • @user-gq1nm9ur3t
    @user-gq1nm9ur3t 3 месяца назад +3

    People are not good like your audience, they are haters, toxic, critisice alot, jeaulous, ..... I couldn' be real and hones t around them 😔

  • @Intensity764
    @Intensity764 3 месяца назад +7

    For me it's difficult to accept my anger, also the fact that it's hard for me to breathe correctly, I feel suffocated so it's difficult for me to speak, I'm silent most of the time, do you have a video about it Julien ?

    • @Bundo2024
      @Bundo2024 3 месяца назад +2

      be true to yourself

  • @dwikinugraha6804
    @dwikinugraha6804 3 месяца назад +1

    CRAZY BCOZ SHES SO BEAUTIFUL

  • @TechnoL33T
    @TechnoL33T 3 месяца назад +3

    Julien, what do I do at clubs? I went to one for the first time on Friday and i was a star in the dance floor and then the stage because I'm a flow artist, but I wouldn't talk to literally anyone. I've never been to a social place in my life before that.

  • @MrTiptopten
    @MrTiptopten 3 месяца назад +3

    Hey Julian, Do you have any videos about depression, and letting go of that ?

    • @truthseeker2248
      @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад +2

      I think there was raising your state to anger can get out of depression but you dont want to stay in anger he mentions it here and there.

  • @caidybos1283
    @caidybos1283 3 месяца назад +1

    I think when i have to scream on stage. I would fainth. Because all my emotions all comeout at once, so my body relax.

  • @you1thesound
    @you1thesound 3 месяца назад +1

    Think its more than Anxiety. Not going to judge, but think when she is talking about love. Julien u are saying it, she is setting her goals aside, she thinks she getting bullied rests of her life.
    Posetive people is needed.

  • @mindsetmotivation9124
    @mindsetmotivation9124 3 месяца назад +4

    Dude I'm fighting the need for control, I want people to like me etc.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад +5

      Don't fight it... Learn how to LET GO of it: www.julienhimself.com/8p 🙏

  • @calincristea99
    @calincristea99 3 месяца назад

    She is so beautiful

  • @Bundo2024
    @Bundo2024 3 месяца назад +6

    is it true that the most authentic people are those who don’t give a fluck about haters and judgers?😮

    • @parkouringmidget
      @parkouringmidget 3 месяца назад +4

      Yes but don’t get it mixed up. Being authentic is not a symptom of not giving a fluck. Not giving a fluck is a symptom of being authentic.

    • @Bundo2024
      @Bundo2024 3 месяца назад +1

      @@parkouringmidget wdymn?

    • @truthseeker2248
      @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад

      some people become badass ghetto attitude like i dont give afuk but thats not rly authentic self its a mask.

    • @parkouringmidget
      @parkouringmidget 3 месяца назад +4

      @@Bundo2024 Just because you stop caring about what other people think of you doesn't make you automatically authentic. "A doesn't come from B." Instead, it's the opposite. If you work on yourself and become comfortable with who you are, you'll automatically stop caring about what people think. I might have a bad cough, but that doesn't mean I have Covid.

  • @dewshine3359
    @dewshine3359 3 месяца назад +2

    Julian, do u have any videos about living with a toxic family member and not letting the toxicity get to u. Im now in suvh a situation where there is no other way but i have to live with my toxic grandma. She is constantly showering me with poisonous words and riddicule. Im not able to have my personal space and do the things i wanna do becoz she keeps putting her head in my business. Im on the verge of tears right now becoz i just can't take it anymore. But im not in my home country and i have no where else to go. Since i moved in with her, i haven't had an ounce of peace, all days im in negative headspace, filled with anger and resentment. I can't bear this life. This why i stopped trusting god and the universe. Becoz, why would it give me such a miserable life and deny me peace. Julian, i need help. Please talk on this topic.🙏

  • @mindsetmotivation9124
    @mindsetmotivation9124 3 месяца назад +4

    The man!

  • @111.1_The_Akaskic_Records_Show
    @111.1_The_Akaskic_Records_Show 3 месяца назад +3

    Control!!!!

  • @TechReviewTom
    @TechReviewTom 3 месяца назад +5

    Honestly your parents did you a disservice not teaching you to roast others. If you can roast and roast and roast you aren't bullied the bully is 😂😂.

  • @InTheAir-qu5tu
    @InTheAir-qu5tu 3 месяца назад +1

    I sometimes hug a unicorn. It's a large plush toy standing in the corner in my bedroom all the time. I am a 27 years old dude.

  • @veji_table
    @veji_table 3 месяца назад +5

    JULIANAAAAAAA WHAASAAPP

  • @KllswtchOvrDrv
    @KllswtchOvrDrv 3 месяца назад +1

    "The gates of Hell are locked from the inside."

  • @GameOn0-d6d
    @GameOn0-d6d 3 месяца назад

    Thank you Julian 🙏🏻

  • @1smg346
    @1smg346 3 месяца назад +4

    Bro I’m struggling to let go I’m not understanding the concept very well😢

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад +2

      Here's my step-by-step letting go system: www.julienhimself.com/8p

  • @alireal05
    @alireal05 2 месяца назад

    She's so cute ☺️

  • @rajdwipdutta4585
    @rajdwipdutta4585 3 месяца назад +2

    Jullien how you got so beautiful students man!
    BTW I love screaming in front of people do you wanna give me the opportunity? 😁

  • @XerissTheGhost
    @XerissTheGhost 3 месяца назад +1

    dude who is this girl ? she is sooooooooooo F ing beautifull :D

  • @SebastianRobles-ve9my
    @SebastianRobles-ve9my 3 месяца назад +3

    Gold 🔥

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад +2

      Thanks! Glad this resonates! 👊

  • @rishabhprajapati8423
    @rishabhprajapati8423 3 месяца назад +2

    In the initial few minutes of the video she allows stuff to come up and even in general when we allow ourselves to feel the things we've disowned, isn't it against the "put your foot down"? From what I've learnt from your videos is that, the initial presence is necessary to see the pain body for what it is but at the same time allowing it to take over seems like giving into the pain body (aka let wormtongue take over).
    My question is: If I'm feeling intense during introspection and guided meditation, how do I make sure I'm actually releasing it and not getting sucked into it (aka letting wormtongue take over)?

    • @parkouringmidget
      @parkouringmidget 3 месяца назад +2

      If you’re feeling anxious, you probably have to go deeper into yourself when you meditate. Sometimes we will become anxious about the deeper emotions. Being more in your body as opposed to your mind might help.

    • @flowerchasethesunshine9063
      @flowerchasethesunshine9063 3 месяца назад +2

      You need to let yourself feel fully without judgement. All the feeling are valid but you shouldn't incorporate thoughts and meanings into them. Wormtongue makes unnecessary judgements and incorporates sad and bad meanings. Instead you ask shadow questions to deepen your understanding about you feelings and inner state. (Observe wormtongue. Don't be him.) Yeah, you just lovingly and patiently let yourself feel and be there for yourself and find comfort in your own love and acceptance.
      I'm not sure but this is how I see it.

  • @Aleks_Mechanics
    @Aleks_Mechanics 3 месяца назад +1

    Hello there!🤘

  • @damson9470
    @damson9470 3 месяца назад +29

    good lord she's gorgeous

    • @mnguitar1
      @mnguitar1 3 месяца назад +15

      Simp

    • @rajdwipdutta4585
      @rajdwipdutta4585 3 месяца назад +18

      ​@@mnguitar1bro he tells the truth she is beautiful what's wrong with it?

    • @truthseeker2248
      @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад +4

      @@mnguitar1 he didnt send money he only said what he sees, sigma dont care and compliments girls cus he wants to expecting nothing in return is the key, its a free gift costs me nothing

    • @SleepyGuitarPedals-pb6si
      @SleepyGuitarPedals-pb6si 3 месяца назад +1

      Now days14 years old boys are obsessed with silly names ​@@mnguitar1

    • @matthewbritt8498
      @matthewbritt8498 3 месяца назад +2

      Totally average which is good! But ever go outside ? Theres good looking ladies everywhere

  • @fishfryer87
    @fishfryer87 3 месяца назад

    Hey Julien! I’ve been trying to get ahold of Ramiro because he tried sending me login info for a mini course but I haven’t received it. Do you mind asking him to check for missed calls or something?

  • @gregolejniczak5631
    @gregolejniczak5631 3 месяца назад

    Is this in Poland?

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  3 месяца назад

      Germany

    • @iamthefiremanjj
      @iamthefiremanjj 2 месяца назад

      ​@JulienHimself do you ever go to poland i wanna come next time

  • @Bundo2024
    @Bundo2024 3 месяца назад

    Can i get bully without letting myself to get the feeling of being bullied??😁

    • @truthseeker2248
      @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад +1

      everything is possible

    • @hypatch8014
      @hypatch8014 3 месяца назад +1

      Yeah that's called suppression, I wouldn't recommend you do that

  • @ISTP8w9
    @ISTP8w9 3 месяца назад +10

    Julian is a million times better than psychotherapists like Jordan Peterson who are narrowminded.

    • @parkouringmidget
      @parkouringmidget 3 месяца назад +1

      Alllllrighty then.

    • @truthseeker2248
      @truthseeker2248 3 месяца назад +4

      comparing will only bring up egos to fight for right and wrong, people are different. Example, mechanic better than doctor, not rly it depends on what needs to be fixed. Julian is great and Peterson is great.

    • @ISTP8w9
      @ISTP8w9 3 месяца назад

      @truthseeker2248 Peterson is great? The professional psychologist who, at the age of 50, resorted to taking drugs to "fix" his mental health and suffered withdrawals. That's like a mechanic who can't fix their own car. Are you going to take your car to them?
      Those with higher spiritual awareness can easily tell people like Julian and Gabor Maté are on whole other level. Just search what Gabor says about JP. He is 100% correct.
      This is all without going into his "giv-em hell" support and shaking of hands with war criminal Net and Yoohoo.

    • @niellalien
      @niellalien Месяц назад +1

      Yes

  • @Makenotez603
    @Makenotez603 3 месяца назад

    Thought he was a rizzard

  • @Blaze_815
    @Blaze_815 3 месяца назад +4

    First

  • @TechReviewTom
    @TechReviewTom 3 месяца назад

    🙋‍♂️

  • @deboyskyswuzzz
    @deboyskyswuzzz 3 месяца назад

    6:00

  • @DoanMocMien
    @DoanMocMien 3 месяца назад +87

    its kinda crazy how nobody is talking about the forbidden eBook Magnetic Aura from Borlest

    • @hypatch8014
      @hypatch8014 3 месяца назад

      What a scammy looking comment

    • @bathlar
      @bathlar 3 месяца назад +3

      No comment? This is cap 🧢

    • @adnan6406
      @adnan6406 3 месяца назад

      Nekker pls

  • @golutaneja6839
    @golutaneja6839 3 месяца назад

    she looks like my classmate

  • @juniadi282
    @juniadi282 3 месяца назад

    bullssyet

  • @victorbrown6622
    @victorbrown6622 3 месяца назад

    Hug me ❤