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  • Опубликовано: 14 авг 2024
  • If you liked the content in this video, you should check out my complete online dating system: toddoda.com/
    📑Outline
    00:00 - Intro
    00:43 - This strategy has worked for 22 years
    02:24 - My planned final message
    04:04 - The 3 things you need to close online
    08:25 - Messaging her first…
    09:35 - Standards.
    11:36 - Finding out, not sure
    13:30 - Comfort seeking
    14:32 - “Challenge accepted.”
    #ToddVDating #Dates #OnlineGame

Комментарии • 478

  • @ToddVDating
    @ToddVDating  Год назад +28

    My complete online dating system, coming soon at: toddoda.com

    • @leonflows
      @leonflows Год назад +2

      when i sign up for the online msg guide i dont get an email

    • @Fred-zt5ky
      @Fred-zt5ky Год назад +2

      @@leonflows same

    • @bigmikeobama5314
      @bigmikeobama5314 Год назад +1

      watching all of these videos......its exhausting. I literally feel drained just attempting to learn any amount of this stuff. why are women so needy that they require all this placation just to start getting to know them? i feel like being born a western woman is the ultimate privilege. life is handed to them on a silver platter. they have never had to live and die by the sword or the sweat of their brow to earn anything. they have never had to hang on for dear life to the back of a 30mph garbage truck to earn their keep, or risk death building a high rise building. a serious lack of adversity is exactly what creates this insane sense of entitlement and privilege that would lead modern women to think so highly of themselves that they would require all of this nonsense in the first place. and after putting in all of this effort, even IF youre successful...is the juice worth the squeeze? we get women who are more opinionated than they have ever been, more entitled than they have ever been, and less useful than they have ever been. and they have higher body counts than they ever have. the average body count of a woman over 25 is nearly 20! we used to get virgins who wanted to bond solely to us, and fill our households with love and care, and not even they required this much nonsense, and they didnt whine and complain about the tiniest little discomforts life has to offer. the bottom line here is that the civilization that men have built has made women too comfortable, which has made them weak. if any of you have a grandma thats still alive better enjoy her cooking while you can, its all down hill from here, the days of any woman of the house being able to cook well or be the glue that holds a family together are gone, in fact the woman is usually the wedge that drives the family apart these days.

  • @CarloRizzante
    @CarloRizzante Год назад +1231

    Men's strategy in dating: a 12 books encyclopedia. Women's strategy in dating: Swipe left, swipe right.

    • @PremiumUserUltra
      @PremiumUserUltra Год назад +39

      I can tell you're failing lmao

    • @Gillecriosd
      @Gillecriosd Год назад +16

      Bravo! Funny as Hell and true. Perfect

    • @tl3119
      @tl3119 Год назад +23

      That's good, it means men are improving and women are not

    • @thattrashb0i122
      @thattrashb0i122 Год назад +29

      @@PremiumUserUltrawhy are you here 💀

    • @Sumtrip799
      @Sumtrip799 Год назад +5

      5-7 messages max get on the phone/ video call to avoid catfishes! Disagree go drive 1 hour to comeback 5 minutes later or sit with a monster 😂🎉

  • @ron357
    @ron357 Год назад +319

    Bro said “it isnt complicated” then gives us a long ass breakdown

    • @thebatman7347
      @thebatman7347 5 месяцев назад +25

      Step one: get the ring
      Step 2: go to mordor
      Step 3: throw the ring into the pits of m8jnt doo.
      Step 4: talk to a girl

    • @nickk7425
      @nickk7425 5 месяцев назад +6

      The guy talks way way to much I honestly can't ever learn anything

    • @user-uc2kc1lt1k
      @user-uc2kc1lt1k 4 месяца назад

      😂😂😂😂

    • @delavan9141
      @delavan9141 4 месяца назад +2

      Have you ever put effort into learning something worthwhile?

    • @HusnaMohammed-p5f
      @HusnaMohammed-p5f 20 дней назад

      😂😂😂​@@nickk7425

  • @nikolozkiziria419
    @nikolozkiziria419 Год назад +256

    5 to 10 times more dates, 0x5x10 = 0 😬

    • @antiderrida2117
      @antiderrida2117 Месяц назад

      Use Terrence Howard math

    • @ewr7291
      @ewr7291 Месяц назад +1

      I immediately scrolled the comments knowing I’d find this joke

    • @nikolozkiziria419
      @nikolozkiziria419 Месяц назад

      Update about Todd. 2 years ago I discovered Todd. If you are a bit technical guy, Todd will get you laid for sure, if you take a bit of bravery and also listen to him carefully. 2 years in, lost v card after 10 months, now I'm in a LTR for the past 10 months as well and I'm very satisfied with this aspect of life, even thinking about family and stuff at the age of 26. It turned out that I'm not that into having one night stands, but hey, wouldn't even knew it if not Todd.
      Thanks todd

  • @aluumina
    @aluumina Год назад +212

    Timestamps and summary:
    2:24 the planned final message is (i.e. the CLOSE): "sounds good, my number is ####, what's yours?" You need to make your messages get to this point.
    4:04 The 3 key things to close a girl:
    1) attraction (fun, assertive, values in line with hers, physically ofc)
    2) comfort (let her get to know you a little bit at least, have some personality)
    3) commitment (mention plans before your close, or at least the CONCEPT)
    Note: after these buckets are filled, close. Time matters since she has more options than you. If you can't then move on since you're wasting both of your guy's time.
    7:48 The usual order/strat:
    open -> attraction -> comfort -> commitment -> close
    8:24 Example (hinge): (responses and my full analysis + notes)
    Tips:
    - don't kiss her ass and bow down to her and agree with everything she says
    - seed the plan early on. Be creative.
    HINGE CONVO
    prompt: the way to win me over is witty banter and intelligent conversations
    todd: I feel like you copied off my paper for this test ;)
    analysis:
    - Interesting response, it's not boring. it makes you stand out.
    - Being cocky (you cheated off MY TEST) = showing a bit of attraction (since it makes it seem like you're close, after all you're cheating off of each other)
    - playful, non serious attitude, esp with the ;) at the end
    - plays to the prompt
    girl: in this case we'll both past the test with flying colors
    todd: perhaps i'll take you for a celebratory drink as long as you don't copy my order and blindly agree with everything i say all night
    - keeps the playful attitude
    - plants the 'seed' of a hangout
    - a bit of push pull: let me take u out for a drink, but don't copy me and blindly agree (implying a bit of dumbness but in a playful, joking way)
    - Push: tells her 'you still have a standard to meet' with "don't blindly agree" (this is a qualifier - like she has to EARN a date with me)
    - Pull: I'll take you for a drink (adding more attraction)
    - She accepts the frame here too, with you leading and her following
    girl: maybe if you let me order first I'll blame you for copying me instead
    todd: only if you have very good taste, but i suppose it could be fun to find out
    - comfort (she can joke around) and commitment (plans are set) are good now, the aim is to generate more attraction
    - this is a shit test. the response still keeps the qualifier - i.e. you don't give up your frame or power.
    girl: i have a tendancy to go for less common items on the menu so be forwarned
    todd: i prefer the tried and true best over the flavour of the month in drinks as well as companions so perhaps we'll be good in all areas
    - her response is comfort - i.e. shes letting you know a bit about her
    - todds response is basically reciprocating her comfort, letting her know a bit about you, and also saying "I don't 100% agree with you, but i have values and will stick to them and they may align with yours"
    - reciprocating comfort: ensuring you'll stick around, it's not just a 1 night stand/for sex, etc.
    - note how this message reinforces commitment because it still talks about the plans indirectly
    girl: sounds wonderful, what are some of your tried and true methods in drinks as well as companions
    todd: I can't say it's particularly sophisticated, but i like wines that are a little bit sweet and fruity and mixed drinks with champagne. (100% logical, no game). As far as favourite companions, maybe i'll introduce you to some if you prove to be one also
    - this is a comfort seeking message, like "i want factual comfort with you"
    - she's looking to see how you respond, and if you'll stick around or not
    - give her what she wants (logical response if shes asking for it).
    - wow that last sentence is amazing. the confidence it takes to send something like that, without fear that it'll scare her off is... wow
    girl: challenge excepted
    todd: the closer
    - you send the closer when she shows attraction (she likes you), comfort (she wants to meet up), and commitment (let's do this soon vibes)

    • @TheCoresteps
      @TheCoresteps Год назад +10

      Thanks bro

    • @aluumina
      @aluumina Год назад +7

      @@TheCoresteps np man 🤙

    • @mehmetzorlu2195
      @mehmetzorlu2195 Год назад +8

      Legend for sharing this!

    • @DarelJettSmith
      @DarelJettSmith Год назад +4

      Write that down write that down! 😂

    • @Wolverich
      @Wolverich 10 месяцев назад +3

      I am proficent in C++ and talking to women is more complicated

  • @mynewname6806
    @mynewname6806 Год назад +218

    From a female perspective. Make sure you ask us out early. Too much messaging leads to boredom and we will be swiping elsewhere. Go for the date! Show confidence.

    • @pvtrichardsonbr
      @pvtrichardsonbr Год назад +63

      So why do they always act like you gotta talk more before?

    • @deadringer333
      @deadringer333 Год назад +25

      As a woman, asking out too soon is a turn off.

    • @connorlowis4774
      @connorlowis4774 11 месяцев назад +24

      It’s different for different girls, you can kinda feel when you’re good to set up the date. You need a good transition too, something relating to the context of what you were just saying… you can’t be talking about the weather and then say hey do you wanna grab a drink?
      Texting on these apps is so complicated and I hate that these are almost a necessity these days

    • @williamtim5893
      @williamtim5893 10 месяцев назад +13

      With inconsistent feedback, it’s best to stick with what Todd’s saying for a high success rate over time.

    • @Seven-pu5wj
      @Seven-pu5wj 9 месяцев назад +11

      Imo, set up a date within ~3 days of matching.
      Everyones different. But for every woman that thinks thats too soon, there's 2 other women who dont want you to wait too long.

  • @marioottaiano475
    @marioottaiano475 Год назад +285

    This video is essentially perfect also for cold approach, not just online dating, lately Todd is absolutely killing it

    • @hupat77
      @hupat77 Год назад +7

      absolutely..great to see at least ONE RSD guy still creating dating content lol

    • @rhobodub
      @rhobodub Год назад +1

      @@hupat77, Madison is also, but he’s a bit vague in it.

    • @psycho-logical3756
      @psycho-logical3756 Год назад +2

      lol lately

    • @avrilmedia
      @avrilmedia Год назад

      absolutely bro

    • @sushilegs6228
      @sushilegs6228 Год назад +1

      Cold approach doesn’t work

  • @randomname7739
    @randomname7739 5 месяцев назад +28

    Bro, I'm taking notes... Getting a degree in physics has been easier than going out with a girl

  • @ToddVDating
    @ToddVDating  Год назад +5

    Please use this information! It will make a ton of difference for you. Also, check out my FREE online messaging guide here: www.toddvdating.com/onlinemsg

    • @zvigel3128
      @zvigel3128 Год назад +5

      Hey Todd, The link does not send out the Guide... a few friends and me did not receive the-email after submitting it, maybe it needs to be fixed?

    • @user-lr2ez4ny2z
      @user-lr2ez4ny2z Год назад +2

      Doesn’t work

    • @tonycliftonshades
      @tonycliftonshades Год назад +2

      Hey Todd, some of us aren't being sent the guide after submitting our email. Might wanna have your team check on that.

    • @gonzalo6472
      @gonzalo6472 Год назад +1

      Same for me Todd, please let us know when it is fixed... This is very important information, I can work my weaknesses with this.

  • @prashunpcchakraborty70
    @prashunpcchakraborty70 Год назад +32

    Todd I have been watching your videos for years and my game has improved a lot. During the video I was testing myself with my responses, compared to yours, I still feel like I'm a novice, truly a master of the game man. Respect.

  • @spRas_
    @spRas_ Год назад +37

    Fun convos. Thats the key right there. Its less about what is said and more about how they felt saying/ hearing it.

  • @Viewable11
    @Viewable11 Год назад +92

    Todd,
    this is a great example of using subtext and frame control in communication.

  • @flashpeter91
    @flashpeter91 Год назад +21

    Todd is like Neo, when it comes to dating - he sees the code - whereas I'm still wondering around the matrix trying to make sense of it:) haha

  • @RichardBonn
    @RichardBonn 9 месяцев назад +16

    is there an AI for this?

  • @viktore1375
    @viktore1375 5 месяцев назад +23

    10 years ago: Hey ! Youre beautiful lets hang out
    now:

    • @asimpleguy9667
      @asimpleguy9667 5 месяцев назад

      It's easier being gay than dating and talking to girls for a hook-up, or spending money on an escort is much easier, nowadays with all the social media bullshit, these women's minds are f up, they always go for the best, the sexual demand for a woman is getting higher than men, it means a girl can get a good job just providing sex for her employer, the men are always hardworking, risking and sacrificing but we're the most avoided

  • @joepic85
    @joepic85 Год назад +13

    One word answers. = unmatch. Silence after trying to set up a date. = unmatch

    • @1bosstv
      @1bosstv Год назад +3

      Yeah, but she fundamentally unmatched you first. Those types of responses do warrant a block in light of her just wanting attention. Women win by getting attention. Men win with sex. A first date wasn't good unless you get a second date, which always hinges on what the girl does.

  • @WonderBlubber
    @WonderBlubber Год назад +39

    imagine getting matches to message

    • @mrbreeze40
      @mrbreeze40 2 месяца назад

      😂😂😂😂😂😂​@@zloungeact

    • @erenjaeger922
      @erenjaeger922 Месяц назад

      @@zloungeactan alternative to this would be being attractive as well in case yours is too hard

  • @anarchyking66698
    @anarchyking66698 Год назад +18

    I feel like being on a dating app for 22 years is opposite of the outcome of being on dating sites in the first place. I guess success on dating apps is based on what your looking for and not a forever partner

    • @D91Mart
      @D91Mart Год назад +7

      That’s what I was thinking, I feel like that’s not a brag about. 😂

    • @cherylt2823
      @cherylt2823 11 месяцев назад +1

      As a female I was thinking the same. He says he wants to make her feel comfortable that he’s not just after a fling, but it appears that is total misrepresentation. His banter is excellent, but the whole thing seems to be just a bit of a game with him. Surely in 22 years there have been women he considers worthy of a long-term relationship?

    • @thomasflores3066
      @thomasflores3066 7 месяцев назад

      There’s no proof that human beings are exclusively monogamous creatures.

  • @aaronjohnstone2800
    @aaronjohnstone2800 Год назад +7

    Attraction, comfort, and commitment

  • @PIXYBoy79
    @PIXYBoy79 7 месяцев назад +7

    I have been following Todd since almost day 1 and what he says he is true. BUT holy fuck. When it comes to online texting, why should it be that we have to have these well-thought-out clever lines with these fickle girls. When i approach one outside I just say 'hi', smile and talk to her normally, which works very well. Do that online and they instantly unmatch because you didnt follow the protocol of talking to the female online. So my strategy is just to talk to them as i would to the offline girl as a filtering system. If they didn't unmatch it typically means I got one that doesnt have a short attention span and values getting to know me, versus having to be entertained. Luckily i dont hv to rely on online dating apps as it would drive me fn mental

  • @Texas240
    @Texas240 Год назад +16

    Todd, good job on putting out a useful video with actionable info instead of just a teaser where you reiterate the video title for 5 minutes and say "if you want to learn the steps I said I'd explain join my program."

  • @bigvalexander8917
    @bigvalexander8917 Год назад +45

    Todd,
    Good video.. It's amazing how much on line dating and the sexual market place as a whole has evolved since I first got on tinder in 2014. I'd really like to see a video on methods for messaging a girl with no profile info. A find a lot of 8-10's on tinder have no profile info at all and just photos.. there's only so much you can play off pictures to use as an opener or to get the convo going.

    • @ScottRadkeMusic
      @ScottRadkeMusic Год назад +9

      Be careful homie….. those types of profiles are mostly “fake”….. especially when the only info is an IG or Snap and nothing else 🙌🏽

    • @davidpaxton6402
      @davidpaxton6402 Год назад +5

      Or they're just driving traffic to their Onlyfans.

    • @HusnaMohammed-p5f
      @HusnaMohammed-p5f 20 дней назад

      ​@davi😂😂dpaxton6402

  • @erich6096
    @erich6096 Год назад +33

    Depending on your natural ability this can actually be quite difficult. The fact it requires over 15 minutes of explanation I believe is a testament to that fact. The only real take aways I got from this are don't ask to go on a date right away, unless you can somehow cleverly wrap the suggestion into a challenge where you're not actually asking. Then to somehow frame that conversation within the framework of the same challenge until you provide your number then ask for her hers. That's not easy for everyone, including myself. Assuming it's successful, the next question becomes, if you're out on an actual date are you still expected to keep communicating like this in order to maintain her level of interest in you? I could not keep up a facade like that indefinitely.

  • @jacobknox9171
    @jacobknox9171 Год назад +13

    Used this today and it worked exactly like he said. Got a date for next Thursday after talking on the phone. She will show for sure. You need to think creatively though and pay attention to what’s missing attraction, comfort, or commitment to make sure all are there before you close. Took me 8 messages including my opener. This process makes so much sense yet I never thought of it or heard of it in this way before. Todd do you have a patrion or PayPal I can donate to? Your advice is always spot on and I’ve been using it for years.

    • @renegadezen7841
      @renegadezen7841 Год назад +19

      "She will show for sure" is an extremely bold statement in the world of women. Their opinions of you and emotions surrounding men change like the wind

    • @jacobknox9171
      @jacobknox9171 Год назад +2

      @renegadezen7841 Well thank you for the compliment yes I am extremely bold

    • @noah8236
      @noah8236 Год назад +1

      @@jacobknox9171 Ha, good answer.
      You got the spirit.

    • @itsnathanbrownornb
      @itsnathanbrownornb Год назад +1

      How did it go champ?

  • @LifestyleDJ
    @LifestyleDJ Год назад +20

    Amazing content. Please make more of exactly this! Online dating is confusing

  • @caescc5995
    @caescc5995 Год назад +4

    In my opinion, that was 15 minutes of texting where neither person learned anything at all about the other person. Sounds like this would work with shallow people that base just on looks?

  • @RandomGuy-ej9gr
    @RandomGuy-ej9gr Месяц назад +2

    Yes it works with women who have more depth than a dinner plate but the crappy ones (seems to be majority where I live) are literally shallower than the table the said dinner plate is on. If you’re hot it’s a match, if not doesn’t matter what you say, she lacks the mental capacity to process it anyway.

  • @witchreturns2263
    @witchreturns2263 Год назад +9

    Todds texting looks very thoughtful and very complicated to me, but it's his style. It's not my style to think that much. I feel like going with the witty dictionar of lines with me on date
    Yet, he's right, from a few texts, you can get the date. Mines are way shorter and more dumber, more simpler, but they do the job. Everyone has to find their own style, but they don't need Ph.D!!!
    What I learned is that if the girl wants more confort, she will ask the questions to get to know more about you. However the way to get good at this is trough a lot of trial and error. You need to do it a lot and take risks, to learn, some classes are not gonna be enough

  • @EuropeDatingOnlineTips
    @EuropeDatingOnlineTips Месяц назад +2

    *_make sure your profile stands out, otherwise you don't get any matches to text :)_*

  • @snoopybinkaofficial7563
    @snoopybinkaofficial7563 Год назад +22

    This man is very clever 🤗

    • @MrLopez-lm4jk
      @MrLopez-lm4jk Год назад +1

      You just found out my game tripled with this guy now I can pull any chick available

  • @TasmanianHillBilly
    @TasmanianHillBilly Год назад +7

    step one, be attractive

  • @elliotkouame3849
    @elliotkouame3849 Год назад +13

    Awesome content, mate. As someone who's getting a bit more activity on Hinge, this is very helpful!

  • @reikoxan
    @reikoxan Год назад +8

    well shit, i have a date now thank you Todd :O

  • @rwellz123
    @rwellz123 Год назад +3

    I needed this tbh, just got on Bumble and I'm starting to get more matches and there is a bit of a learning curve fr

  • @jessejamesthekid822
    @jessejamesthekid822 2 месяца назад +1

    I got one major question though how do you know if it's really a female

  • @nicholask8657
    @nicholask8657 Год назад +2

    Should I be taking dating app advice from a guy who's been on dating apps for 22 years?

  • @tommyjackson95
    @tommyjackson95 Год назад +1

    Good advice Todd, however, what I found that helped me the most was getting a guide or a course that helps you step by step.

  • @josephisenhower902
    @josephisenhower902 5 месяцев назад +2

    One that's been working for me...
    Me: "Have any tattoos?" or "What's your favorite tattoo"
    Her: "yes, no, blah blah"
    Me: variant of "Wanna get matching face tats saturday?"
    Her: hopefully "lol, no"
    Me: "Oh, too soon? How about just coffee, drinks, dinner, etc. And see what happens?"

    • @gesalbte
      @gesalbte Месяц назад

      Excellent strategy. If I were a girl and I see "Have any tattoos", I would assume that you have an upper class upbringing, and you are vetting girls based on that. And then the "Wanna get matching face tats saturday" is just so unexpected.

  • @thomasbolas
    @thomasbolas 3 месяца назад +3

    Interesting advice, but why are you still on dating apps after 22 years???

  • @mazinalbulushi8142
    @mazinalbulushi8142 Год назад +3

    What he also did in his first comment is create a frame where she can be creative in her responses

  • @komododragosh
    @komododragosh Год назад +6

    These techniques work only if the girl actually respond to you. If no girl responds to you at all or gives you a chance at all, then what? Game doesn't matter, only looks do, all the time.

    • @mojekonto9287
      @mojekonto9287 Год назад +1

      As he says in another video, looks do matter, but only to get your foot in the door. That is when you need to start using your game.

    • @komododragosh
      @komododragosh Год назад

      @@mojekonto9287 You are right, not saying game doesn't matter at all, but it does matter once you have the looks first, cause if you lack the looks, then no matter what gamne you got, you still will be ignored

    • @andreaspeters3773
      @andreaspeters3773 Год назад

      Or photos a bit more professional or with a friends opinion ....
      I've seen photos of a fem. friend of mine😁 she's not unattractive but wonders about only few likes. I said, jesus, what do you choose!!!! and search my phone for some better pics of her in my opinion . After the change she get way more likes.
      But i also see the men's pics 🤦🏻 mostly complete desaster... No live in them, static facial expression, too serious no joy.... like some bad stuff for a job interview😁

    • @komododragosh
      @komododragosh Год назад

      @@andreaspeters3773 I had professional photos taken of me and it changed nothing. There is only so much you can change with photos without alter8ng completely someone's looks. If you are an unattractive man and short, ots pretty much over. You just gave an example your female friend, for females it's a lot easier to get likes, you can literally look like shark as a woman and still get likes because men are not so fussy about looks

    • @andreaspeters3773
      @andreaspeters3773 Год назад +1

      @@komododragosh ok, mmh..
      I hope they(pics) are fun and positive.
      But in my opinion.. everyone does better in his own league.
      I have a friend who was very good at tinder, medium attractive, but very confident, lays nearly every girl he met there. But then he mets his true love in real live....
      I think do more things in your freetime, hobbies etc... to say it on point : Not ONE!!! guy of my friends met his love on a dating app or a club.... everytime it was in real life and mostly by accident not by hook-up.
      So, don't be discouraged look forward 👍

  • @Grimmers
    @Grimmers 2 месяца назад +12

    If it's worked for 22 years, then it sounds like it hasn't worked.

  • @marselshtylla
    @marselshtylla Год назад +2

    What a god you are i am so blessed to have known you when i reach a high lvl i definitely want to reward you one day you deserve it . I know it sounds like some shity thing to say but you are the father i never had with this stuff or the help i never knew I needed

  • @01141997
    @01141997 9 месяцев назад +2

    This really what women like haven't stopped rolling my eyes lol

  • @isaaccastillo5080
    @isaaccastillo5080 Год назад +2

    I am not getting the messaging guide, I have already tried with 3 different emails and still not receiving it. Anyone has it?

  • @lovetohate028
    @lovetohate028 Год назад +26

    When you are able to break down human interaction into a formulaic technique, how do you avoid being completely disgusted with others?

    • @dennisfabian2570
      @dennisfabian2570 Год назад +2

      Because everyone (also you and your beloved) acts in their best self interest.. and that’s good to a degree

    • @lovetohate028
      @lovetohate028 Год назад

      @@dennisfabian2570 oh, for sure. But self-interest is not what I'm referring too. I'm referring to being able to clearly lure and bait other people with formulaic tactics

    • @lifeskillsongs2510
      @lifeskillsongs2510 Год назад +5

      I hear ya. That's another reason I think Julien is the best coach. That focus on authenticity. However, OLD is bonkers and the point is to get together. So I think this is one area where the Uber analytical Todd stuff may have value for someone like me. It's such a time suck when women just drop off for no apparent reason. Sure some of them meet a guy they want to keep dating, but honestly most I talk to admit they just get overwhelmed and can't handle all the messages so they just fall back and stop using the app(s).

    • @mar.c1
      @mar.c1 Год назад +1

      @@lovetohate028 Thats just to lure. There is no script on the date you just be yourself. And if you want it to go well, you can make sure areas of the convo give her the sense of comfort, commitment etc.

    •  Год назад +1

      human are automats.What can you do about it? Embrace it.

  • @DishLiquidGB
    @DishLiquidGB Год назад +3

    Other videos like this are usually really creepy
    Your very well spoken and helpful

  • @MedamineSlasla-su6mv
    @MedamineSlasla-su6mv 4 месяца назад +1

    I find this very complicated, and its for a specific case

  • @Davidsarcher
    @Davidsarcher 4 месяца назад +1

    I’m very successful on getting women attracted. This guy has good content.. and the reason it sounds complicated, is because women are complex. They are listening to their feelings in every way. Us men don’t feel what they feel…
    I use this stuff but I also throw in my own shit tests…
    When you date a lot of women you get to a point of being on top.
    I can date any woman I want….i need to make sure she has standards and she has confidence.

  • @rokdobravec8231
    @rokdobravec8231 5 месяцев назад +2

    Can anyone please explain why all these "dating gurus" want the phone number and not FB or IG ?

    • @alexmartins2418
      @alexmartins2418 4 месяца назад +2

      I believe its because of a few reasons:
      1: it is more personal. Usually, txt messages will stand out compared to ig notifications, etc. Girls usually have a lot of guys texting them on ig/Facebook.
      2: If you end up nit liking her or she not liking you after the date, you don't really want them in your friends list right?
      3: It also leaves some mystery, since they don't know as much about you as they would if they had you on social media.
      Hope this helps!

    • @rokdobravec8231
      @rokdobravec8231 4 месяца назад +1

      @@alexmartins2418 thank you 😁

    • @gesalbte
      @gesalbte Месяц назад

      FB and IG are for those who want to be friend-zoned. If you want to be her boyfriend, you have to ask her for her phone number.

  • @orionstar3310
    @orionstar3310 10 месяцев назад +2

    I’ve cold approached so many women and never gotten a date, always ghosted. This shit is like math to me and I’m failing miserably.

  • @youtube.commentator
    @youtube.commentator 5 месяцев назад +1

    I always say "I'd crawl through broken glass to hear you fart through a telephone"

    • @kylefracaro5087
      @kylefracaro5087 5 месяцев назад

      I usually say "How tall are you so I can order your coffin right away"

  • @Awesomeguy610987
    @Awesomeguy610987 8 месяцев назад +1

    All I need is 1 and I’m already 100% getting more dates

  • @raildude270
    @raildude270 Год назад +11

    One year, 400 matches, 1 date. Not going back 😂

  • @simonn6746
    @simonn6746 Год назад +2

    ya but how many matches does one have to go through to get this amazing interaction? the unpopular answer is a lot unfortunately

  • @williamgibbs71
    @williamgibbs71 Год назад +2

    This girl is now like I can't believe I went on a date with this guy. 😳

  • @clas683
    @clas683 Год назад +6

    The no 1 goal in interacting with women on apps (texting) is not to necessarily to get a date but to check her out. Who she is, get a better picture, does she seem fun and have some brains. If so, yes I’d like to date her. But don’t be afraid guys to have standards and ’test’ the woman just as she is checking you out.

  • @pierrebriquet
    @pierrebriquet 5 месяцев назад +3

    That's it. We as men are doomed to be single forever.

    • @SupSucka
      @SupSucka 5 дней назад

      Preach. I’ve been on dating sites since 2012 and I haven’t been on a single date and I’m 25. Some men just aren’t fortunate than other men are.

  • @robertoospina10
    @robertoospina10 Год назад +2

    Is it worth all the effort?

  • @karlissierins9895
    @karlissierins9895 5 месяцев назад +3

    working for 22 years? damn brother idk if it has if you are still on after 22 years

  • @norco1606
    @norco1606 2 месяца назад +1

    god this is so complicated... i could never come up with such lines...

  • @Taraquin83
    @Taraquin83 Год назад +7

    Good advice! On my current tinderdate which I'm still dating after a month and on the edge of being in a relationship woth it took me 7 messages to set up the first date. The previous date which I was in a relationship with for half a year it took 8 messages. I sort of applied some of your strategies unknowingly, and they worked. Rusty in the game after ending a 20 year relationship, but wxcitibg to be dating again.

  • @eqqq54
    @eqqq54 3 месяца назад

    The phone is for setting dates, don’t talk or text more than 5-10 minutes. I just text her my number and ask her to call me. She’ll either call or texted her number and asked me to call, or she’ll disappeared. The ones that disappeared which means she wasn’t that interested anyway, so my time is not wasted.

  • @Wobbothe3rd
    @Wobbothe3rd Год назад +5

    This was great, thanks!

  • @jaylonwilliams8964
    @jaylonwilliams8964 6 месяцев назад +3

    Know what screw it ill just die alone

  • @matkaczorowski
    @matkaczorowski Год назад +2

    Very insightful! Thank you.

  • @ALEXSW46
    @ALEXSW46 Год назад +6

    Just followed this method. My 5th message was the phone number and I got the text. Lol. Fastest I've ever gotten off the app

  • @isaacbored
    @isaacbored Год назад +2

    Hmm, what do you guys recommend on profiles with no bio,(they're verified so they're real) 1 picture, and it's just them holding coffee smiling

  • @Noah_Sanders
    @Noah_Sanders 6 месяцев назад

    At first I was really doubtful of the video . But by the end I had so much confidence and really got the ball rolling again . Appreciate you bro 👊🏽

  • @thefeelingofunfair4052
    @thefeelingofunfair4052 Год назад +9

    29 and I'm trying to end long 7 sexless years. What dating app do you think is better for someone who is young but not young young

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 Год назад

      Hinge, or bumble. My advice is pay for 30$ for unlimited messages as well. Also take professional pictures. Whether its your friend doing it or hiring someone

    • @WonderBlubber
      @WonderBlubber Год назад

      Don't bother if you're 5'10" or under btw

    • @tomasm6796
      @tomasm6796 Год назад

      I would suggest you to lose weight and get fit first

    • @ToddVDating
      @ToddVDating  Год назад +16

      I'm 5'7"... so...

    • @ToddVDating
      @ToddVDating  Год назад +15

      I would suggest he get fit and work on his appearance IN ADDITION... but why wait?

  • @gottrekk5798
    @gottrekk5798 11 месяцев назад +1

    How can someone be successful at dating and be single?

  • @damirbaj
    @damirbaj 8 месяцев назад

    This guy knows what he is talking about, one minute in, and you know it... I give a like, than i watch the rest of the video :)

  • @jonb8633
    @jonb8633 Год назад +1

    The more atraction she has the easier will be. I had a few dates where I was able to seal the date in few ramdom texts.

  • @contextualmedia
    @contextualmedia Год назад +1

    Dude I was missing a certain jenesepa in my texting game and this video stepped up my game tenfold thanks brother

    • @JohnSmith-gp4kj
      @JohnSmith-gp4kj Год назад +9

      I’m fucking DEAD🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
      It’s ‘je ne sais quoi’ and its French my guy

    • @andreaspeters3773
      @andreaspeters3773 Год назад +2

      ​@@JohnSmith-gp4kjI've reading it twice🤔 to get it😂...

  • @foreignlovedreams
    @foreignlovedreams Год назад +12

    As a woman, I can say for myself: the advice is great, and the techniques are great.
    I hope the guys who watch the video will be able to use them wisely and get the desired date. And the main thing is not to screw up on a date. You need to accept these tips and implement them in your life. Because if the guy was frankly an introvert and communicated at the level: Hey, what's up? So such a drastic change in communication will be very noticeable.

    • @realfan91
      @realfan91 Год назад +11

      Introverts are bad?
      Should they never get girls?
      😂
      Should they force themselves to act as an extrovert?

    • @AV-kr6gc
      @AV-kr6gc Год назад +10

      I’m an introvert and have a 95% success rate on first dates lol. Problem is since I am an introvert I mainly rely on dating apps to get dates

    • @gottrekk5798
      @gottrekk5798 11 месяцев назад +1

      As a man I tell you, keep in mind, that confident and good at flirting relationship material men are not on dating apps because they are not single. Those that are good at flirting and are on dating apps are not looking for anything long term. So if you want to find long term partner on dating apps , he's going to be shy and awkward.

  • @8triagrammer
    @8triagrammer Год назад +2

    You need to address all the fakes and bots on there.

  • @user-mv8hl3mo1w
    @user-mv8hl3mo1w Год назад +10

    the most important thing with relationships is escalation: to know what it is and how to do it... Todd is great at explaining what the different stages of escalation is and what the sufficient conditions for it are, but usually how someone gets to understand how all the elements should be integrated together so he can capitalize potentiality and momentum in as many scenarios as possible is difficult to explain by nature; hence whether someone can really understand it is a totally different matter... also Todd's personality cannot be transplanted to all men even though his conceptualizations are accurate and much of the US culture behind his tips is not globally accepted... and I know Todd has videos on how to get good fast, but I would say that people should understand the non-technical aspects of game that usually circumscribe the technical utility of game which likely leads to failure of improvement... if you are already awesome (even just being normal in front of a woman of your true desire before trying to demonstrate your personality and maintain attraction is hard for learners), a few techniques simply help you standout and make deals, otherwise techniques and outergame can only go so far if not becoming an obstacle to your dream goal.

    • @ThomasKop
      @ThomasKop Год назад +1

      honestly it's more about finding the dating coach that fits your own personality most! If a man can recognise himself in Todd personality-wise then Todd is the right guy for him. that's the beauty of variety

  • @Fxx308
    @Fxx308 Год назад +3

    Todd can you please make a video how the woman change over the past 20 years in their behaviour, sexual freedom, moral etc

  • @gonzalo6472
    @gonzalo6472 Год назад +2

    Awesome video, I'm trying to get the guide with the link in the description but I'm not receiving it. Am I the only one or what...

  • @codis1625
    @codis1625 Месяц назад

    Sad part is you have to ask certain questions to find out if there scammers and it scares the normal ones away.

  • @Timefades1
    @Timefades1 Год назад +1

    actually very solid video man,

  • @konstantinpetelin
    @konstantinpetelin Год назад +4

    Pure gold!

  • @tmac2368
    @tmac2368 Год назад +1

    Thanks for the info brother.

  • @brutalbrainwash
    @brutalbrainwash 5 месяцев назад +1

    Good advice bro

  • @RandomVelocity
    @RandomVelocity Месяц назад

    The first scenarios never happened to me cause I’m not gonna text a woman for three weeks. That’s never gonna happen several messages you exchange numbers and now you’re in the real world couple of texts a phone call. Decide if you wanna meet simple as that if you’re both interested in each other, that’s it there’s no strategies just be yourself

  • @kathleenschwegel9627
    @kathleenschwegel9627 3 месяца назад

    Does this only work for young folks? Have you seen this work for older men and women? Curious. To me it seems like you’ll only get a certain type of woman with this. However the comments seem to prove me wrong. I’m a 48 year old woman and that would not work with me. Either I’m not typical or it’s not the way for an older man to get a woman close to his age. Wondering what you think about that.

  • @Kemachris
    @Kemachris 6 месяцев назад

    I have had a lot more success just entirely dropping the smalltalk on the apps, and just going straight for the meetup talk, after a funny opener of course.

  • @chiefjudge8456
    @chiefjudge8456 Год назад +15

    There isn't much utility in this without knowing how old the match is, and how attractive she is. You can use bad game on a fat woman or a post wall woman and it doesn't really mean much. Ideally if you want to pitch a text framework as more or less universal due to being based on solid game principles, you need to show that it works on more than one girl, AND you need to show that the girls it works on are prime girls (18-24 and HB7+).

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Год назад +1

      Women are naive when young. It’s why they are married from 28-35+ in the west and not from 20-24 (when they arent being taken seriously for the most part). They are the easiest. If you can’t get a girl in her ‘prime’ your pretty much doomed. Girls in their ‘prime’ / my age group do not know that they are in their ‘prime’. We don’t see it that way 😂😴

    • @AlfredoSaintYT
      @AlfredoSaintYT Год назад +1

      @Jake And mostly, it's free. What a fabulous gift from Todd! We should just be grateful
      the other rsd guys don't do that

  • @mrwazo
    @mrwazo 7 месяцев назад

    You use 'perhaps' and the smiley emoji a lot! lol does that work well for you? Good to hear your perspective on this.

  • @markmaisner2724
    @markmaisner2724 19 дней назад

    great info

  • @alexanderv4609
    @alexanderv4609 10 месяцев назад +1

    Pretty often it turns out that the woman you matched has 2 or 3 children and no job. If you don't clarify these thing before the date you just waste your time.

  • @damcism
    @damcism Год назад +6

    This video is absolutely useless. First part is that you need to build attraction and comfort which is obvious. Second part is an example, but I still don't know how to come up with what I write. This example doesn't teach me anything. It's like if you have a task to come up with a random prime number that is higher than 1000, if you give me an example of a prime number like that, I still don't know how to come up with a next prime number like that. Tell me the algorithm, not an example of a result.
    Edit:
    Sorry for the negative comment. I think it's just stuff that it is difficult to teach.

    • @c4thenerd171
      @c4thenerd171 Год назад +1

      That’s cause you’re boring

    • @damcism
      @damcism Год назад

      @@c4thenerd171 I'm not boring

    • @damcism
      @damcism Год назад

      Sorry, this video is all right. I still agree with what I wrote in my critique, but I understand that the videos have to be a bit like that, 99% of videos on RUclips are worse, so your video is still good.

    • @mojekonto9287
      @mojekonto9287 Год назад +1

      That is typical for any type of expert on youtube. You are given clues and hints for free. That is already pretty useful, but if you want to get everything laid out clearly with a lot of real life examples and even more tips, buy their course :) I fully understand it and I support such approach. We can't expect to be given knowledge entirely for free when that knowledge took a lot of time and effort to be acquired.

  • @roryjohnstone7558
    @roryjohnstone7558 Год назад +4

    So it worked so well that he has been a single player for 22 years! Are you Fing serious right now?!

    • @mojekonto9287
      @mojekonto9287 Год назад +5

      Maybe he just sacrificed his relationships to stay single for a continuous mission of teaching us, so that we don't stay single, Todd the Jesus of Dating ;)

    • @Joe-ct4yq
      @Joe-ct4yq Год назад +1

      Last I saw he was dating a smokeshow and in an open relationship

  • @momen78699
    @momen78699 Год назад +4

    @Todd V Dating - can you please please please do a video explaining how to get a girl to your place first time from Instagram ideally or dating apps in general? Getting a girl to your place without a date is super convenient and helps with sex but it seems harder to do and makes girls defensive cause it can seem like you only want sex, what are your thoughts on this? Appreciate the content as always!

    • @AsPEctFAm
      @AsPEctFAm Год назад +1

      Bro, if you invite a girl to yours without taking her on a 1st date, it's obvious you just wana have sex. Girls aren't stupid, you might as well be open and honest in the first place.

  • @LuisHernandez-gs6yr
    @LuisHernandez-gs6yr Год назад +1

    What's are good first text ?

  • @andykins118118
    @andykins118118 13 дней назад

    Each of her messages I was like "how tf are you supposed to respond to that" and nothing I thought of was remotely close to his replies -_- I seriously find this more difficult than building robots, writing songs, and outdoor rock climbing. I can't believe how effortless it seems for some guys

  • @alexsaraceno6144
    @alexsaraceno6144 Год назад +1

    Oh I'm the king of two word, 3 word answers on dating websites. That's all I get. If I get a few sentences, it's usually by a woman in her 40's with multiple kids. They love me. But if a girl is in her late 20's, 30's and even with one kid, I'll still get nothing or 3 word messages. Whenever I say, "you can do better than that," they unmatch me. Haha !

  • @solomonsanabria7092
    @solomonsanabria7092 Год назад +3

    Quantum mechanics easier got damn

  • @tmoney6534
    @tmoney6534 8 месяцев назад

    This video needs more views

  • @Emma_Willow_Makila
    @Emma_Willow_Makila 5 месяцев назад

    Nice video!