Don't go to the gym. Do something simple that is challenging enough to make you feel uncomfortable, like just going out for a jog or working out at home and join the gym when you feel ready for it. People are overloading their emoter by making too drastic of a change and can't handle it making the process unenjoyable so they quit. Just like it's foolish to overtrain, it's foolish to subject yourself to big psychological stresses and expect yourself to last. Minor changes to your lifestyle every day compound over time but they need to be small and frequent so that you can recover and adapt.
This guy hits right home. I tried to exercise everyday for many years, but always convinced myself after a few days that I'm thin and it won't make a difference. This year, after I started drinking more water, exercise came more naturally. Everyday I still think of exercise and how horrible it is, but once I get started I can't just stop. If I can give you any good advice, it would be to find out who you are. Spend some time with yourself. Just pick up one new habit thats easy, good for you and doesn't require thinking. From there you will see that your brain will keep looking for similar things. That's how I got from drinking more water, to exercising everyday and, my ultimate goal, to be more social and outgoing. Good luck.
Watching this in 2017 and I love the way Jeff Gaines shares information and the humor he uses. I can't believe people in the room weren't laughing out loud.
Thank you. I think what you said was that change is not created until our emotions are not in conflict with our thoughts. Everything must be aligned without being forced or co-erced in a way that creates a negative experience for us.
Aubrey Hart Cooking your own food is cheaper. You can make a larger portion at same time as dinner and have it in tupperwear for next two dinners. It takes same amount of time as one meal. Fast food prices keep going up. Plus we can watch the tv while cooking. When you get in the habbit it is easy.
I don’t think we can fully grasp how important this ted talk is wow. This is amazing for me. I don’t think we all process in the exact same way but this definitely speaks to me perception.
Empress Shona - you are also more likely to accomplish your goals when you are told and you tell yourself, you can succeed in spite of a process working against you.
It's all about adopting a new lifestyle and having grit. Yes change behavior, but not necessarily change your entire self immediately as that could be too difficult and too quick. You don't need to change all behaviors, just learn one or two new things. Make new habits, one at the time. Once your comfortable with a new habit and don't let it go, change other habits. Learn how to cook better, learn one new meal at the time. Learn how to walk more, one day a week at the time. Learn to buy healthier food, one veggie at the time. Depending where you live, you could use public transportation instead of a car to get to work. Or maybe you adopt a dog you always wanted, knowing it's a commitment and responsibility. Don't sign up for gym, just utilize what's free: walk in a park, go to a community swimming pool, utilize gym equipment in the park, go for a hike. Even if your saturdays or sundays could be improved, that can change your whole outlook.
i LOVE this talk. love love love it. i have been working to be more critical of my reactions and understand why i feel the emotions i feel, so i've been actively using my "thinker" a lot more lately. it's worked; ive so far managed to change my perception to be one that is much more empathetic of those around me, which in turn helps me to be kinder. it's really cool, how you can be in control of how you see things once you're aware of it all.
I enjoyed the analogy, and what he felt needs to be done, but stopped there, and didn't proceed on "how" to harmonize the "thinker" and "emoter", which is the hard part. More precisely, I feel the hardest part of the equation is the "emoter", or , "emotion". It's all about our mood really. I myself, will get back into daily meditation, which is something I let drop to the wayside in the last year or so. Going to have a talk with my emotions tonight 😊
'The thinker and the robot kidnap the emoter and throw him into a trunk, "We're going to the gym, every day for the rest of our lives, get used to it."' I have had this moment more than once, no joke, literally cried the whole way to the gym. But I go. But I've been going for 3 years, and lost 50 lbs. I do plan to do it for the rest of my life, because it's the only way for me to be healthy and happy with myself. Now, I want to go. : )
If you use these terms as you want to see a change in your life - don't try to change your feelings (the emotor does his job by giving you any old feeling that comes up, and all feelings are OK, not all behaviors, though) and don't rely on your "robot" to embrace new concepts or ideas on its own, it is its job to make fast connections to what has been. The thinker has to accept them as they are. It is her job to make smart decisions, to connect the dots, adapt to realities, foresee outcomes and change what is possible to change, without dismissing the two other functions. The thinker needs to help the robot learn new routines to run automatically. The thinker needs to help the emotor to feel good about the change. This may need highly individualized solutions - no one habit fits all persons' lives. Examples could be: * Your thinker says you need to eat more veggies. So you could start every second dinner with a cup of salad, but adjust the dressing so that it really is tasty for you - why not make it with healthy oil (one teespoon) and fresh lemonjuice (3 teaspoons) and a little basil? Or any tastier idea! Let your thinker figure the health out, and your emotor to tell what is really tasty, and your robot to make it a habit that is easy for you to follow. * Your emotor says you are tired of back-aches. Your thinker says you need yoga. Your robot cannot relate to it and assumes it is too complicated. Again the thinker has to solve the conflict so that it suits YOU. She needs her negotiation skills here, too. Why not start with doing a few bends and stretches in the comfort of your bed, five minutes? Adding more sofistication as you go along. Never do anything that hurts. The thinker can tell the emotor, let's do what any old cat would do, so the robot sees it does know something about that after all and so it isn't that scary anymore... THANKS for these tools Mr Gaines! Very helpful when speaking of these matters!
One December day, I weighed myself at 189 lbs. I realized that I was on my way to 200 lbs. or more, it was time to act. A child of the 60's, I had been raised to clean my plate whenever I eat, I decided to modify my behavior (this was my new year's resolution). These days the restaurant industry serves portions much bigger that most people should be eating. I started assessing whether or not my hunger was satisfied before each bite, if it was, then I was done eating. That year, I lost 10 lbs. The next year, I decided to stop drinking soda pop altogether, replacing it with Iced tea during meals instead. I lost another 10 lbs that year. The 3rd year I decided I should be drinking more water. 9 more pounds fell that year and I started having to wear a belt to keep my 36 inch (waist size) jeans from falling down. In total, 29 lbs. lost. Now weighing 160 +/-3 lbs. Yes, sometimes weighing in as low as 157, my only regret was having to buy smaller size jeans (34 inch waist). I have kept the weight off now, for over 2 years and my Type 2 Diabetes went into remission. As a result of my stomach shrinkage, I automatically started eating smaller portions, and sometimes, up to 4 light meals a day. During this time, much of my energy came back and I started exercising moderately, just because I felt like it. This was not done on a structured schedule or anything, just whenever I felt like exercising. This Jeff Gaines guy is absolutely right about behavior modification to control your weight. Stop drinking soda pop and forcing yourself to clean your plate and you'll be amazed at how easy it can be to get your weight down and keep it down. Drinking more water is also good for your overall health and helps control hunger. Best wishes!
i thought it was a very high-quality presentation... the ideas were very relatable and humorous and gave me a new outlook or new spin on a concept i thought i already knew about (subconscious vs rational mind, etc)... im not sure what about this talk you feel is low quality...? the graphics are a bit goofy but so what lol
That’s the most helpful explanation of our mind I’ve ever seen, and I have to admit I’ve been watching TedX talks for several weeks. I instantly had some explizit ideas how my thinker could change the screen. Thank you so much!
The full answer takes longer than 18 minutes, but the short answer is to find purpose and meaning in the behavior you want to continue. If you don't like running on a treadmill, that's not the answer. Go for a run with a friend, try a Zoomba class. You have to find something that has a positive emotional payoff.
High def 56 inch flatscreen, power recliner with cup holder, roomba auto vacuum, snowblower, powerdrive lawnmower, over 15 carryout places within 3 miles of your home, now i see people eating while pushing a shopping cart at a grocery store. Pretty soon, ever store is going to need 400 of those power driven sit down shopping carts (with cupholders)Choose your poison.
Thank you very much. I have read and watch an n amount of books, videos, conferences and such, and heard this triad being called many sophisticated names. I needed your simple stick figures to know that the part I was missing was this: I need to observe myself very closely when my feelings are at odd with my thinker, simply because I am not aware of my feelings connecting to a past experience that I am not recalling at the moment. If I can find what bothers me clearly I can align the feelings and the thinker to cooperate and support a desire behavior! Thanks again!!
If you do what everyone else is doing, and what the media/experts are saying to do, you're going to end up in the same situation as everyone else. About a year ago I started eating only once a day, I've lost 70 pounds, my asthma and allergies are gone, and I feel better than I have in over 15 years. Didn't change the food or add any exercise, just the frequency in eating. Yet everyone said I would die, or lose muscle, or get some mysterious disease called protein deficiency, but here I am doing more than I have in years being stronger and healthier than I've been in years. Guess all the experts/media/collective wisdom isn't looking to good.
I'm not sure what you did (do) works on a mass scale. There's enough science though to suggest that intermittent fasting, like eating only between 11 am - 7 pm has strong benefits.Either way, Kudos on what you managed to do for your health and well being😄.
Yes, this is a terrible trap!!! We're so busy with so many things and we ignore our most prized possessions of health and family relationships. I see this everywhere. We grab junk food and fast food because we don't have time to cook healthy wholesome meals.
Thank you for your reply Doodle Freedom. But what you are explaining, is that not the same as trying to change the way you think about things? He said that it is not possible to change your self only by changing how you think, but you must change how you feel also. But changeing how you feel about things is the real challenge in my opinion.
It is about interpretation - if you are negative about an event, then the emotion will be accordingly. So, if you can't change your interpretation (why looking in one way is more authentic than another? - as in the example of cut off by car) then remains the willpower, which will not last... So, it's on you to find a good interpretation which will help you to get a new good habit, change your bad habits, at the end change your life or struggle and at the end giving up all the time.
I used to smoke cigarettes. A lot. For a long time. I thought that smoking brought me closer to myself. It was a time just for me. It made me feel strong, independent, self-sufficient. It wasn't until I realized that smoking actually took me away from myself. If I was in pain (angry, sad, etc), I'd smoke a cigarette and with the help of nicotine felt "better". Better was just not feeling that discomfort anymore. I also didn't get any closer to why I was upset. Cigarettes were a distraction from me, from my own pain, and from understanding myself. Once my Thinker understood that, it relayed it to my Emoter, and then my Robot kicked in and made quitting smoking super easy. Cold turkey and not a craving! The funny thing is, though I've quit for 5 months, the only time I've had cravings is around emotional issues I've yet to have closure on.
18 minutes is not enough to do this subject justice. Love the enthusiasm and creativity. I think a simplified approach (sans robot, etc) might have more impact. For me, the question isn't so much do we understand the schema (robots, thinkers, etc.) , but do we understand the beliefs that drive our behavior? Cutting down into core beliefs is the key to change. Peace.
I agree. I was attempting to capture our believe systems with the Robot. The Robot is the analogy for our "make sense of the world" mechanism. Paradigm. Context. Filters. Bias. All the same topic.
These days with so many distractions and “easy routes” it’s not hard to be programmed into robotic-emoter most of the time. Working hard isn’t easy, it’s not satisfying then and there you and failure is scary if you haven’t been taught it’s essential to success. Change one thing today that will make tomorrow you or your environment better
Thank you for this talk Mr Gaines. Truly one of the best TED talks I've ever watched. Your explanation gives me such a good understanding of why I struggel so much to follow through despite the very best intentions. Though any more advice on how to unite the Thinker and the Emoter going in the same direction?
Well. In the second half of the video I stopped it. Then did one hour of exercising (for the first time in a month and a half brake). And then later on I came back to finish the video. Somehow it influenced me!:) "If you want to make a change in life, change your behaviour". So I did not postpone and did smth straight away.
Those that do well at exercise are addicted to endorphins that make them feel better. That's the secret to doing well at anything: you have to enjoy doing it.
exactly, and that's why it is so hard for people to go to the gym or start anything that required an effort first. The 'emoter' must feel some 'pleasure' in order for us to get triggered to do anything. That's also why, any attemps at 'triggering' yourself to do something unpleasant will only work for a short while. What people need is something that feels as good as 'not doing it' or something that feels better than 'not doing it'. Being 'so proud of yourself' is a difficult feeling to put forward because this feeling is not so 'intense' as the negative feeling of pain, discomfort, exhaustion, etc... That's why it never worked. The way to do it is to have a negative feeling about something you hate AGAINST not doing something. When you convince yourself that you are going to die tomorrow if you don't exercise today, you are way more likely to do it EVEN if there is pain, discomfort, exhaustion, etc... Remember, Negative emotion are so much more powerful than Positive one that it takes 3 times more Positive affirmation to believe something than it takes negative ones... That should give you a clue. It is when you start feeling better about doing the exercises that you can start replacing negative thoughts by positive ones like 'Hey! I am starting to see results here!!! lost 10 pounds this week!!!' and so on. I also believe it is the only way to go to your job if you hate it. 'no pain, no check...' that should be a good one...
I guess, you cannot hope to succeed at anything, if even after to make the first 'effort' you do not also 'actively promote the pleasure of doing something WHILE DOING IT and for as LONG AS POSSIBLE' during and maybe even AFTER you do so. it is like the memory. the more senses affected by the pleasure, or at least the feeling of being 'proud', to be 'discipline', to be 'better day by day', etc...the more you can be 'compulse' to do something even if the first effort was difficult. Thinking about this and actually doing it is the key to anything you want to do but fail to apply to 'everyday'.
Exactly!! That's why I REFUSE to exercise in my house staring at a plain wall. Same with food. Diets don't work! Eat what you want and stop when you're SATISFIED! 😊 Still working on the money spending thing though. Anyone have a tip for that?? 🤔
Jeff Gaines, Intelligent Simplicity of Explaining The Basics of The Human Brain, how we can change the way we think about what we do everyday, thus changing our habits for the better, to live better and more productive lives. Excellent!! TEDxAlbany 2010 Thank You, Shelley Anne
All the present day problems of physical and psychological ill health is because of our so called misconception on 'development'. If you go after more wealth, you are never satisfied in your life time. You want to be one up than another fellow. There is will always be a person who has amassed better than you! You want to earn more and more with less and less effort. Result is not surprising.
Jeff, yr presentation was well done, superinteresting and very valuable to 100 % of western, working population. This topic deserves much more time to elaborate on. I will watch it a number of times to get the full value of yr knowledge. You should really make a more up to date presentation with better quality editing and view
There's no substitute or short cut to just doing the work. Too much information and not enough action. Discipline, drive, focus, flexibility, adaptability and resilience.
Did you know exercise isn't natural human behavior? A study of African tribes revealed that they don't consider exercise; they just live. Their way of living is the hunter/gatherer behavior, which is the natural activity of humans. They are in very good shape, and they haven't "exercised" a day in their life.
UltraTribes I've never heard that before but I bet you are right. I wonder if that's part of the reason all cultures have dance (to my knowledge); maybe it helps the other muscles to get their "fix" of movement that might not be possible through normal day to day activities like hunting, rearing children, etc.?? Just a thought a random thought of mine so I don't know if it holds any validity.
UltraTribes So true about the exercise for hunter gatherers but guess what...we are not hunter gatherers. Thus we need to augment with 'play' hunter gatherer movements and experiences.
Whatever your impetus: exercise is for cardio health and fitness. Diets (or much better yet, intermittent fasting) is for losing weight. Period. An hour on the treadmill gets you two cookies. Go do something fun outside instead and do I.F. Works like magic and is sustainable.
Read...I, Rigoberta Menchu.. The Maya woman from Guatemala, winner of The Nobel Peace Prize...talk about suffering, struggle...you will find your answer to this Ted Talk
They've all either quit or died. LOL. I totally agree though. Change starts with a desire to change and a follow through by changing your thoughts about something. I stopped giving emotions to my purchases, and then I stopped making useless purchases on clothing and shoes and trinkets that clutter up my life.
My Thinker does not believe all 50 people who cut me every day non stop for years are all heading to the hospital with a sick child. My robot sees them all the time texting and driving too... I am still cool though... I don't have to lie to myself to accept that the majority of jerks are big jerks.
Because today low wages dont increase, health insurance, housing insurance, car insurance, food costs, mortgage costs, rent. All these increase EVERY YEAR!!!! School didnt prepare us for real life. What do we have left? Breadcrumbs. You can be a functional normal person and be overwhelmed by todays responsibilities. Im overwhelmed.
Delayed gratification is easy -- it just happens to be counter productive and often self-destructive. Delayed gratification usually turns into no gratification -- the opportunity passes, future opportunities will likely be withheld as others assume you just weren't interested and won't be. I've learned this the hard way. Just indulge whenever you can, and be mindful that you may not have as many chances to do so as you'd like.
That's completely backwards. That's what people do too much, seek instant gratification. Delayed gratification is about being patient for a better reward in the future rather than a mediocre reward right away.
It's not HOW MUCH you eat. It's WHAT. Try eating a pound of raw carrots. You'll actually get full pretty fast if you were hungry to start. Junk? You DON'T GET full. Ever. Or very briefly. :) Watch those 600 pound people in tv. Everything the eat is BROWN. There ya go :) and that's what former 100-pounders will confirm.
This equation is not valid - the Thinker has to interrupt the Robot - so it stops repeating it as if it were true. The Thinker also has to help the Emotor to get happier and perceive the reality in another way. The Emotor will "report" back what feels OK. The Thinker should try to initiate a new process, new approaches, new ways to tackle problems. Never try to commandeer emotions, but try behavioural alternatives that are in line with your values and goals. It is a fact that are many ways to react to depression besides over-eating. Give the Thinker the task to come up with at least three other ways that would be sounder.
Oh yeah, and 'cutting off in traffic' was BS in the presentation. It can be seen as probability - likely an as%hole and less likely rushing to the hospital.
So, how do you validate psychological models? I can come up with an elaborate psychological scheme too. 1. The slacker. This part of your psyche tries to take the path of least resistance, is comfort driven, and looks to take short-cuts and the easy way out. 2. The go-getter. This part is responsible for ambition, motivation and getting things done. 3. The politician. This part negotiates between the slacker and the go-getter, and is overwhelmingly concerned with social networks and image. I'm sure I could come up with some psychological tests to justify this scheme I just fabricated out of thin air. Rhetorical question: Is a bad map better than no map? I have a hard time believing the complexities of human behavior can be adequately modeled by only three interacting parts and half a dozen rules.
Everything has become automated. Dinner plates are larger; therefore you put more food on the plate. People are lazy and don't exercise. People make excuses all the time. There is nothing scientific about it! Thanks. Suzanne
They told my father to have a cigarette. I think society is a major factor. Here's a quote from the back cover of my book: While most of us tell ourselves we simply lack will-power, the real problem is the sea of temptations we swim in every day. But given this is the world we live in, how do we lead lives that are Fit, Frugal and Free is the question. I wish society would change, but in the meantime, we have to deal with what we have.
Jeff Gaines Thank you for your kind response. A change in government will be required to affect any change in society. *Government intervention is a serious cause of many ills.* -- The private federal reserve system… keeping interest rates at or near 0% for an extended time (encourages banks to issue bad loans, and encourages people who shouldn't be taking out loans to take out loans and burden themselves with debt, or with more than what is appropriate). --Cutting the gold standard…US Dollar has lost over 97% of its value since that occurred. The inflation and resultant continuously-increasing prices not only discourages people from saving, but actively wipes out peoples savings. -- Government nonsubsidization/regulation of meat/animal product food processing and distribution but *subsidizing* wheat farmers (for example)... making nutrion-poor food (white bread, highly processed grains) relationally cheaper and more cost-attractive to consumers than nutrient-dense foods such as dairy, meat, cheese, fish, eggs etc. And many more. It's hard to "change the robot" when you are poor and unhealthy. Most of these issues can be solved by restricting the scope of government, or just simply adhering to the constitution faithfully. When I got married my spouse and I were both in our 20s, but we had been saving money since we were 16 - individually, separately, as we also didn't meet until our 20s. We were able to pay for a modest house with cash, in full. We never took out a credit card, nor had either of us done that individually. We also seek to minimize consumption of processed foods and especially complex carbs. But it's HARD. We had each worked very hard for a long time to save money. We could've gotten a bigger house in a nicer neighborhood, had we taken out a loan along with paying cash. But we restricted ourselves. We rarely ate out. We bought small fuel-efficient vehicles responsibly, and only when an older vehicle became too financially-burdensome to mechanically maintain. We *could have* had a lot of things like a nicer house, better and more stylish rides, credit cards with which to buy higher numbers and better versions of consumer items (we did splurge on a really nice washing machine), culinary nights out on the town 2-3x a week, etc. It was HARD doing all that. Throw in inappropriate government intrusion into our lives and existences that negatively influence behavior habits and choices, and it's no wonder that nearly everyone is sick, tired, and obese, or broke. I mean even if it was just limited to the few points I mentioned, just being broke or unhealthy by itself erases motivation or understanding of improvement possibilities or has a cascading effect that compounds into other problems, limiting realistic betterment opportunities.
My FIL had quintuple coronary bypass surgery due to obesity. I was at the hospital during the 9hr operation. Doctor told him to exercise. Instead, he went right back to sitting in front of the T.V. all day where he ate & slept. I even tried to get him to go walk with me even a little, but he just got annoyed. He died in front of the T.V. of heart attack.
OUR GOVERNMENT: 1) 40 hour work week plus commute 2) We are taxed to death the income tax in the USA is illegal 3) Government subsidizes farms to sell to large corporations they hold stocks in. 6 companies own the global food industry. Thanks for coming to MY Ted talk.
Yes, this guy's talk is incomplete. One reason our emoter doesn't turn the key is the change we're trying to make is too big. Check out BJ Fogg's talk on tiny habits.
I agree! I'd add "change how you feel about something long enough for your brain to consider it new programming." The real challenge though is how to change how we feel about something.
@@wiseguidejdg Maybe seeing someone else enjoy a certain activity or someone telling you it's fun could have an impact. The Tom Sawyer story of him tricking some boys to paint a fence for him comes to mind. Also pretending to enjoy something and smiling while doing it may eventually lead to liking it. Getting lots of positive reinforcement as you are doing something could make you like it and eventually not need positive reinforcement.
“Nothing means anything until we decide what it means.” Seriously? Many, many things mean something before we decide what they mean. Most don’t even care what we decide!
Thanks for watching Marky. If only it was that easy. The point is that thinking alone doesn't get it done or we wouldn't have the problems we do. The science says thinking is not what drives our actions.
If you see there's a how. When you are trying to do something like go to the gym, your emoter is asking you to stop and look at all those other times when the experience wasn't good. You remember, and with your thinker talk to your emoter about your reasons (positive, even trying to prove somebody you can is a valid reason) and empower it. Make it change how it feels. That way it will cooperate with your thinker to take the robot and work all together as one! Lol... try it, you have nothing to lose and maybe tons to win... I'm ready to start working on those simple but crazy tasks I wasn't able to put myself to! I know how!
I think what he's saying is that you need to become 'happy' doing something, so your emotor's on board. So if you reward yourself for going to the gym, your emotor remembers that good feeling, and helps create the habit.
Is this why "losing weight" is a $100B industry? Losing something is a negative event that we most often try to reconcile / fix back to before we lost. Most everyone who "loses weight" actual finds that weight again, every time. Why not give it away?
Don't go to the gym. Do something simple that is challenging enough to make you feel uncomfortable, like just going out for a jog or working out at home and join the gym when you feel ready for it. People are overloading their emoter by making too drastic of a change and can't handle it making the process unenjoyable so they quit. Just like it's foolish to overtrain, it's foolish to subject yourself to big psychological stresses and expect yourself to last. Minor changes to your lifestyle every day compound over time but they need to be small and frequent so that you can recover and adapt.
Well Said! Exactly the point of the book. January in my gym is packed with overloaded Emoters that quit by February.
So true👍
This guy hits right home. I tried to exercise everyday for many years, but always convinced myself after a few days that I'm thin and it won't make a difference. This year, after I started drinking more water, exercise came more naturally. Everyday I still think of exercise and how horrible it is, but once I get started I can't just stop. If I can give you any good advice, it would be to find out who you are. Spend some time with yourself. Just pick up one new habit thats easy, good for you and doesn't require thinking. From there you will see that your brain will keep looking for similar things. That's how I got from drinking more water, to exercising everyday and, my ultimate goal, to be more social and outgoing. Good luck.
Caine K. How did you fair In your goals?
Your comment was more useful and practicable than that whole ted talk
Watching this in 2017 and I love the way Jeff Gaines shares information and the humor he uses. I can't believe people in the room weren't laughing out loud.
Thank you. I think what you said was that change is not created until our emotions are not in conflict with our thoughts. Everything must be aligned without being forced or co-erced in a way that creates a negative experience for us.
We work too hard, make low wages, and eat too much junk.
Yes, in capitalism if you aren't progressing forward somebody else will replace you either to save money or because they are more efficient than you.
Also, decent food costs too damn much. Not that we'd have the time to cook it anyway, for the above-mentioned reasons.
Aubrey Hart Cooking your own food is cheaper. You can make a larger portion at same time as dinner and have it in tupperwear for next two dinners. It takes same amount of time as one meal. Fast food prices keep going up. Plus we can watch the tv while cooking. When you get in the habbit it is easy.
We don't have unions and we do have fructose. That is what is up.
@@happygreenclean while the BPA in the Tupperware leeches into your food.
I don’t think we can fully grasp how important this ted talk is wow. This is amazing for me. I don’t think we all process in the exact same way but this definitely speaks to me perception.
Thank you so much! Check out the book!
In other words you are most likely to accomplish your goals when you feel good about the process. Abundant Love ❤️ Beloveds.
Empress Shona Some people are meant to follow their hearts and some people are pro duty first.
Empress Shona - you are also more likely to accomplish your goals when you are told and you tell yourself, you can succeed in spite of a process working against you.
Not sure if that is everything involved.....but I love your big heart.
Yes!! That explains why buying cleaning products that smell good to *me* make me want to clean more often! Well, I'll be darned! Lol
so true
He's talking about cognitive behavioural therapy... Good talk...
It's all about adopting a new lifestyle and having grit. Yes change behavior, but not necessarily change your entire self immediately as that could be too difficult and too quick. You don't need to change all behaviors, just learn one or two new things. Make new habits, one at the time. Once your comfortable with a new habit and don't let it go, change other habits. Learn how to cook better, learn one new meal at the time. Learn how to walk more, one day a week at the time. Learn to buy healthier food, one veggie at the time. Depending where you live, you could use public transportation instead of a car to get to work. Or maybe you adopt a dog you always wanted, knowing it's a commitment and responsibility. Don't sign up for gym, just utilize what's free: walk in a park, go to a community swimming pool, utilize gym equipment in the park, go for a hike. Even if your saturdays or sundays could be improved, that can change your whole outlook.
highly underrated...why doesn't this have more views??
i LOVE this talk. love love love it. i have been working to be more critical of my reactions and understand why i feel the emotions i feel, so i've been actively using my "thinker" a lot more lately. it's worked; ive so far managed to change my perception to be one that is much more empathetic of those around me, which in turn helps me to be kinder. it's really cool, how you can be in control of how you see things once you're aware of it all.
I enjoyed the analogy, and what he felt needs to be done, but stopped there, and didn't proceed on "how" to harmonize the "thinker" and "emoter", which is the hard part.
More precisely, I feel the hardest part of the equation is the "emoter", or , "emotion".
It's all about our mood really.
I myself, will get back into daily meditation, which is something I let drop to the wayside in the last year or so. Going to have a talk with my emotions tonight 😊
I love learning about the brain. Somehow I think I'll still be fat, broke, and busy, but at least now I know why :)
Corey Wright you only are if you want to be 😀
'The thinker and the robot kidnap the emoter and throw him into a trunk, "We're going to the gym, every day for the rest of our lives, get used to it."' I have had this moment more than once, no joke, literally cried the whole way to the gym. But I go. But I've been going for 3 years, and lost 50 lbs. I do plan to do it for the rest of my life, because it's the only way for me to be healthy and happy with myself. Now, I want to go. : )
If you use these terms as you want to see a change in your life - don't try to change your feelings (the emotor does his job by giving you any old feeling that comes up, and all feelings are OK, not all behaviors, though) and don't rely on your "robot" to embrace new concepts or ideas on its own, it is its job to make fast connections to what has been.
The thinker has to accept them as they are. It is her job to make smart decisions, to connect the dots, adapt to realities, foresee outcomes and change what is possible to change, without dismissing the two other functions.
The thinker needs to help the robot learn new routines to run automatically.
The thinker needs to help the emotor to feel good about the change.
This may need highly individualized solutions - no one habit fits all persons' lives.
Examples could be:
* Your thinker says you need to eat more veggies. So you could start every second dinner with a cup of salad, but adjust the dressing so that it really is tasty for you - why not make it with healthy oil (one teespoon) and fresh lemonjuice (3 teaspoons) and a little basil? Or any tastier idea! Let your thinker figure the health out, and your emotor to tell what is really tasty, and your robot to make it a habit that is easy for you to follow.
* Your emotor says you are tired of back-aches. Your thinker says you need yoga. Your robot cannot relate to it and assumes it is too complicated.
Again the thinker has to solve the conflict so that it suits YOU. She needs her negotiation skills here, too.
Why not start with doing a few bends and stretches in the comfort of your bed, five minutes? Adding more sofistication as you go along. Never do anything that hurts. The thinker can tell the emotor, let's do what any old cat would do, so the robot sees it does know something about that after all and so it isn't that scary anymore...
THANKS for these tools Mr Gaines! Very helpful when speaking of these matters!
One December day, I weighed myself at 189 lbs. I realized that I was on my way to 200 lbs. or more, it was time to act. A child of the 60's, I had been raised to clean my plate whenever I eat, I decided to modify my behavior (this was my new year's resolution). These days the restaurant industry serves portions much bigger that most people should be eating. I started assessing whether or not my hunger was satisfied before each bite, if it was, then I was done eating. That year, I lost 10 lbs. The next year, I decided to stop drinking soda pop altogether, replacing it with Iced tea during meals instead. I lost another 10 lbs that year. The 3rd year I decided I should be drinking more water. 9 more pounds fell that year and I started having to wear a belt to keep my 36 inch (waist size) jeans from falling down. In total, 29 lbs. lost. Now weighing 160 +/-3 lbs. Yes, sometimes weighing in as low as 157, my only regret was having to buy smaller size jeans (34 inch waist). I have kept the weight off now, for over 2 years and my Type 2 Diabetes went into remission. As a result of my stomach shrinkage, I automatically started eating smaller portions, and sometimes, up to 4 light meals a day. During this time, much of my energy came back and I started exercising moderately, just because I felt like it. This was not done on a structured schedule or anything, just whenever I felt like exercising. This Jeff Gaines guy is absolutely right about behavior modification to control your weight. Stop drinking soda pop and forcing yourself to clean your plate and you'll be amazed at how easy it can be to get your weight down and keep it down. Drinking more water is also good for your overall health and helps control hunger. Best wishes!
The quality of the video makes me think this was recorded in 1999
Nefus1988 Be nice 😄😄
i thought it was a very high-quality presentation... the ideas were very relatable and humorous and gave me a new outlook or new spin on a concept i thought i already knew about (subconscious vs rational mind, etc)... im not sure what about this talk you feel is low quality...? the graphics are a bit goofy but so what lol
screen at start says 2010
@@yusifr287 I think the OP means the video quality rather than the content.
You have cataracts.. thats why
That’s the most helpful explanation of our mind I’ve ever seen, and I have to admit I’ve been watching TedX talks for several weeks. I instantly had some explizit ideas how my thinker could change the screen. Thank you so much!
Loved this session, and it ended with the introduction to the "solution" -- I'm dying to hear the rest of the story!
The full answer takes longer than 18 minutes, but the short answer is to find purpose and meaning in the behavior you want to continue. If you don't like running on a treadmill, that's not the answer. Go for a run with a friend, try a Zoomba class. You have to find something that has a positive emotional payoff.
You can also read the book...
High def 56 inch flatscreen, power recliner with cup holder, roomba auto vacuum, snowblower, powerdrive lawnmower, over 15 carryout places within 3 miles of your home, now i see people eating while pushing a shopping cart at a grocery store. Pretty soon, ever store is going to need 400 of those power driven sit down shopping carts (with cupholders)Choose your poison.
Well put. The very definition of affluent lifestyle. Something to think about.
Thank you very much. I have read and watch an n amount of books, videos, conferences and such, and heard this triad being called many sophisticated names. I needed your simple stick figures to know that the part I was missing was this:
I need to observe myself very closely when my feelings are at odd with my thinker, simply because I am not aware of my feelings connecting to a past experience that I am not recalling at the moment. If I can find what bothers me clearly I can align the feelings and the thinker to cooperate and support a desire behavior! Thanks again!!
If you do what everyone else is doing, and what the media/experts are saying to do, you're going to end up in the same situation as everyone else.
About a year ago I started eating only once a day, I've lost 70 pounds, my asthma and allergies are gone, and I feel better than I have in over 15 years. Didn't change the food or add any exercise, just the frequency in eating. Yet everyone said I would die, or lose muscle, or get some mysterious disease called protein deficiency, but here I am doing more than I have in years being stronger and healthier than I've been in years. Guess all the experts/media/collective wisdom isn't looking to good.
Why did you start eating only once a day?
or go vegan. i lost 35 pounds and have never felt healthier!
OMAD LIFE there's evidence that eating once a day stabilizes your blood sugar which will lead to weight loss
I'm not sure what you did (do) works on a mass scale. There's enough science
though to suggest that intermittent fasting, like eating only between 11 am - 7 pm
has strong benefits.Either way, Kudos on what you managed to do for your health and
well being😄.
What he's doing (eating only once a day) is also a form of intermittent fasting.
Just came across your presentation. Excellent. I was sorry when it ended. I will need to look for more of your presentations.
Be discipline, be positive! Change your sad life to a happy one! Some people do this but most don't. Your choice!
Wow! When your logic and emotions are in agreement you can change. Powerful.
Yes, this is a terrible trap!!! We're so busy with so many things and we ignore our most prized possessions of health and family relationships. I see this everywhere. We grab junk food and fast food because we don't have time to cook healthy wholesome meals.
this was such a good talk. the mind is powerful, and understanding how to manage it can change your life
Luchia Young
Sean Hart
Leaky Lungs
I loved the presentation, but I think he failed to explain HOW you make the thinker and the emoter turn the key at the same time.
Vimsetutta I agree with you
Thank you for your reply Doodle Freedom. But what you are explaining, is that not the same as trying to change the way you think about things? He said that it is not possible to change your self only by changing how you think, but you must change how you feel also. But changeing how you feel about things is the real challenge in my opinion.
It is about interpretation - if you are negative about an event, then the emotion will be accordingly. So, if you can't change your interpretation (why looking in one way is more authentic than another? - as in the example of cut off by car) then remains the willpower, which will not last... So, it's on you to find a good interpretation which will help you to get a new good habit, change your bad habits, at the end change your life or struggle and at the end giving up all the time.
Like finding a justification that you genuinely feel positive about and then repeat that exposure over time?
I used to smoke cigarettes. A lot. For a long time. I thought that smoking brought me closer to myself. It was a time just for me. It made me feel strong, independent, self-sufficient. It wasn't until I realized that smoking actually took me away from myself. If I was in pain (angry, sad, etc), I'd smoke a cigarette and with the help of nicotine felt "better". Better was just not feeling that discomfort anymore. I also didn't get any closer to why I was upset. Cigarettes were a distraction from me, from my own pain, and from understanding myself. Once my Thinker understood that, it relayed it to my Emoter, and then my Robot kicked in and made quitting smoking super easy. Cold turkey and not a craving! The funny thing is, though I've quit for 5 months, the only time I've had cravings is around emotional issues I've yet to have closure on.
12 years ago??? WoWzerrR! desperately Needed in 2024 please LOUDerRR
18 minutes is not enough to do this subject justice. Love the enthusiasm and creativity. I think a simplified approach (sans robot, etc) might have more impact. For me, the question isn't so much do we understand the schema (robots, thinkers, etc.) , but do we understand the beliefs that drive our behavior? Cutting down into core beliefs is the key to change. Peace.
I agree. I was attempting to capture our believe systems with the Robot. The Robot is the analogy for our "make sense of the world" mechanism. Paradigm. Context. Filters. Bias. All the same topic.
These days with so many distractions and “easy routes” it’s not hard to be programmed into robotic-emoter most of the time.
Working hard isn’t easy, it’s not satisfying then and there you and failure is scary if you haven’t been taught it’s essential to success.
Change one thing today that will make tomorrow you or your environment better
480p... we meet again...
LOL! I organized the event and it was in the early days of TEDx. We have a very small budget. Sorry for the low quality recording. Did you like it?
It's great
Thank you for this talk Mr Gaines. Truly one of the best TED talks I've ever watched. Your explanation gives me such a good understanding of why I struggel so much to follow through despite the very best intentions. Though any more advice on how to unite the Thinker and the Emoter going in the same direction?
Well. In the second half of the video I stopped it. Then did one hour of exercising (for the first time in a month and a half brake). And then later on I came back to finish the video. Somehow it influenced me!:) "If you want to make a change in life, change your behaviour". So I did not postpone and did smth straight away.
Great talk
Liked the different narrative voices.
Those that do well at exercise are addicted to endorphins that make them feel better. That's the secret to doing well at anything: you have to enjoy doing it.
exactly, and that's why it is so hard for people to go to the gym or start anything that required an effort first. The 'emoter' must feel some 'pleasure' in order for us to get triggered to do anything. That's also why, any attemps at 'triggering' yourself to do something unpleasant will only work for a short while. What people need is something that feels as good as 'not doing it' or something that feels better than 'not doing it'. Being 'so proud of yourself' is a difficult feeling to put forward because this feeling is not so 'intense' as the negative feeling of pain, discomfort, exhaustion, etc... That's why it never worked.
The way to do it is to have a negative feeling about something you hate AGAINST not doing something. When you convince yourself that you are going to die tomorrow if you don't exercise today, you are way more likely to do it EVEN if there is pain, discomfort, exhaustion, etc...
Remember, Negative emotion are so much more powerful than Positive one that it takes 3 times more Positive affirmation to believe something than it takes negative ones... That should give you a clue.
It is when you start feeling better about doing the exercises that you can start replacing negative thoughts by positive ones like 'Hey! I am starting to see results here!!! lost 10 pounds this week!!!' and so on.
I also believe it is the only way to go to your job if you hate it. 'no pain, no check...' that should be a good one...
Your take on the secret to doing well is PROFOUND. :O
I guess, you cannot hope to succeed at anything, if even after to make the first 'effort' you do not also 'actively promote the pleasure of doing something WHILE DOING IT and for as LONG AS POSSIBLE' during and maybe even AFTER you do so. it is like the memory. the more senses affected by the pleasure, or at least the feeling of being 'proud', to be 'discipline', to be 'better day by day', etc...the more you can be 'compulse' to do something even if the first effort was difficult. Thinking about this and actually doing it is the key to anything you want to do but fail to apply to 'everyday'.
Exactly!! That's why I REFUSE to exercise in my house staring at a plain wall. Same with food. Diets don't work! Eat what you want and stop when you're SATISFIED! 😊
Still working on the money spending thing though. Anyone have a tip for that?? 🤔
Briana Molina watch Dave Ramsey hear on RUclips, follow his step process to stop spending and get out of debt
Jeff Gaines, Intelligent Simplicity of Explaining The Basics of The Human Brain, how we can change the way we think about what we do everyday, thus changing our habits for the better, to live better and more productive lives. Excellent!! TEDxAlbany 2010
Thank You, Shelley Anne
All the present day problems of physical and psychological ill health is because of our so called misconception on 'development'. If you go after more wealth, you are never satisfied in your life time. You want to be one up than another fellow. There is will always be a person who has amassed better than you! You want to earn more and more with less and less effort. Result is not surprising.
damn, my robot crashed, my emoter is out of order, my thinker is all that's left and it is suffering mental breakdown...I'm screwed
BIG D Cavanaugh
Lol
U still got God.
Loving being skinny, rich and relaxed.
@Ambition Freeman Stevie never was relaxed and it killed him
Iain Dennis -agreed. lol
yeah but who asked
That was .... surprisingly excellent!
People are so busy because they are afraid if they stop working they will see how empty and bereft of meaning their lives actually are.
Brilliant talk, explains simply and clearly about the brain and motivation and change. I certainly recommend this video to watch. Does not waffle.
Instead of asking the barista for a lattes just ask the boss for a raise.
I like when youtube comment section is serious. Not a single troll out there.
So... why does every TED talk start with the word "so?"
Jeff, yr presentation was well done, superinteresting and very valuable to 100 % of western, working population. This topic deserves much more time to elaborate on. I will watch it a number of times to get the full value of yr knowledge. You should really make a more up to date presentation with better quality editing and view
There's no substitute or short cut to just doing the work. Too much information and not enough action. Discipline, drive, focus, flexibility, adaptability and resilience.
Totally, an excellent talk.
Simplified to the pure basics...100% effective...if acted upon.
Occasionally fasting for three or four days is healthy. It also saves on the food budget.
Charles Long 🤣couldn’t help but chuckle at your ‘simple’ truth.
The most interesting thing about this Ted talks is the comments afterwards people make. It's interesting how people respond to it.
So he proves that most of society is easily brainwashed.
so true
We humans can self actualize. Some can do it faster, some can do it better, but it doesn’t change the fact that we can all do it.
Thanks for the wonderful talk. it's time we get followup or say 2021 iteration of the talk.
Talking control of the emoter - yoga and mindfulness meditation. Done.
Did you know exercise isn't natural human behavior? A study of African tribes revealed that they don't consider exercise; they just live. Their way of living is the hunter/gatherer behavior, which is the natural activity of humans. They are in very good shape, and they haven't "exercised" a day in their life.
UltraTribes I've never heard that before but I bet you are right. I wonder if that's part of the reason all cultures have dance (to my knowledge); maybe it helps the other muscles to get their "fix" of movement that might not be possible through normal day to day activities like hunting, rearing children, etc.?? Just a thought a random thought of mine so I don't know if it holds any validity.
They don't "work out", but their lifestyle requires them to be active which pretty much means they get plenty of exercise
Uh their workout is chasing or growing their food. And one tribe is not indicative of the entire human species.
UltraTribes So true about the exercise for hunter gatherers but guess what...we are not hunter gatherers. Thus we need to augment with 'play' hunter gatherer movements and experiences.
Modern "exercise" is really only a construct to simulate an active lifestyle. Fortunately the body doesn't know the difference for the most part.
Whatever your impetus: exercise is for cardio health and fitness. Diets (or much better yet, intermittent fasting) is for losing weight. Period. An hour on the treadmill gets you two cookies. Go do something fun outside instead and do I.F. Works like magic and is sustainable.
Woohooo! 👍👍👍👍
Cool presentation. One of the best TED talks I've seen.
Read...I, Rigoberta Menchu..
The Maya woman from Guatemala, winner of The Nobel Peace Prize...talk about suffering, struggle...you will find your answer to this Ted Talk
Good to see Plato's 'Republic' is still getting a work-out.
That’s scary and sad that we have that many people out of shape.
Great title.
How can we have this conversation without mentioning Banks...
They've all either quit or died. LOL. I totally agree though. Change starts with a desire to change and a follow through by changing your thoughts about something. I stopped giving emotions to my purchases, and then I stopped making useless purchases on clothing and shoes and trinkets that clutter up my life.
Katherine Petersorgf
Jeff Gaines did a great presentation on what holds us back and he was really funny too.
Amazing speech
My Thinker does not believe all 50 people who cut me every day non stop for years are all heading to the hospital with a sick child. My robot sees them all the time texting and driving too... I am still cool though... I don't have to lie to myself to accept that the majority of jerks are big jerks.
Because today low wages dont increase, health insurance, housing insurance, car insurance, food costs, mortgage costs, rent. All these increase EVERY YEAR!!!! School didnt prepare us for real life. What do we have left? Breadcrumbs. You can be a functional normal person and be overwhelmed by todays responsibilities. Im overwhelmed.
Delayed gratification is easy -- it just happens to be counter productive and often self-destructive. Delayed gratification usually turns into no gratification -- the opportunity passes, future opportunities will likely be withheld as others assume you just weren't interested and won't be. I've learned this the hard way. Just indulge whenever you can, and be mindful that you may not have as many chances to do so as you'd like.
That's completely backwards. That's what people do too much, seek instant gratification. Delayed gratification is about being patient for a better reward in the future rather than a mediocre reward right away.
depression=overeating
It's not HOW MUCH you eat. It's WHAT.
Try eating a pound of raw carrots. You'll actually get full pretty fast if you were hungry to start.
Junk?
You DON'T GET full. Ever. Or very briefly. :)
Watch those 600 pound people in tv. Everything the eat is BROWN.
There ya go :) and that's what former 100-pounders will confirm.
This equation is not valid - the Thinker has to interrupt the Robot - so it stops repeating it as if it were true.
The Thinker also has to help the Emotor to get happier and perceive the reality in another way. The Emotor will "report" back what feels OK. The Thinker should try to initiate a new process, new approaches, new ways to tackle problems. Never try to commandeer emotions, but try behavioural alternatives that are in line with your values and goals.
It is a fact that are many ways to react to depression besides over-eating. Give the Thinker the task to come up with at least three other ways that would be sounder.
Great talk, a bit confusing, but gets the point across
His conclusion is solid: habits form the foundation. Form new habits by consistency and aligning both the 'thinker' (useful) and 'emotional' (fun).
Oh yeah, and 'cutting off in traffic' was BS in the presentation. It can be seen as probability - likely an as%hole and less likely rushing to the hospital.
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I'm happy to report I've lost my debt, my job I hated, and 53 LBS. Add about 400lbs more if you count my EX wife, another thing I didn't need.
Lesson learnt: Train the subconscious mind.
So, how do you validate psychological models? I can come up with an elaborate psychological scheme too.
1. The slacker. This part of your psyche tries to take the path of least resistance, is comfort driven, and looks to take short-cuts and the easy way out.
2. The go-getter. This part is responsible for ambition, motivation and getting things done.
3. The politician. This part negotiates between the slacker and the go-getter, and is overwhelmingly concerned with social networks and image.
I'm sure I could come up with some psychological tests to justify this scheme I just fabricated out of thin air.
Rhetorical question: Is a bad map better than no map? I have a hard time believing the complexities of human behavior can be adequately modeled by only three interacting parts and half a dozen rules.
So you came up with the Freudian trio? 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻
Not a "bad" map over no map... incomplete map over no map
Good analogy.
I just noticed that this post is 11yrs old!! How bad must it be in 2022?
Everything has become automated. Dinner plates are larger; therefore you put more food on the plate. People are lazy and don't exercise. People make excuses all the time. There is nothing scientific about it! Thanks. Suzanne
good talk but very clinical
My father had a stroke, the doctor told him "you need to eat more sugar and bread". Obviously, some of this is our medical establishment's fault
They told my father to have a cigarette. I think society is a major factor.
Here's a quote from the back cover of my book:
While most of us tell ourselves we simply lack will-power, the real problem is the sea of temptations we swim in every day.
But given this is the world we live in, how do we lead lives that are Fit, Frugal and Free is the question. I wish society would change, but in the meantime, we have to deal with what we have.
Jeff Gaines
Thank you for your kind response.
A change in government will be required to affect any change in society. *Government intervention is a serious cause of many ills.*
-- The private federal reserve system… keeping interest rates at or near 0% for an extended time (encourages banks to issue bad loans, and encourages people who shouldn't be taking out loans to take out loans and burden themselves with debt, or with more than what is appropriate).
--Cutting the gold standard…US Dollar has lost over 97% of its value since that occurred. The inflation and resultant continuously-increasing prices not only discourages people from saving, but actively wipes out peoples savings.
-- Government nonsubsidization/regulation of meat/animal product food processing and distribution but *subsidizing* wheat farmers (for example)... making nutrion-poor food (white bread, highly processed grains) relationally cheaper and more cost-attractive to consumers than nutrient-dense foods such as dairy, meat, cheese, fish, eggs etc.
And many more.
It's hard to "change the robot" when you are poor and unhealthy.
Most of these issues can be solved by restricting the scope of government, or just simply adhering to the constitution faithfully.
When I got married my spouse and I were both in our 20s, but we had been saving money since we were 16 - individually, separately, as we also didn't meet until our 20s.
We were able to pay for a modest house with cash, in full. We never took out a credit card, nor had either of us done that individually. We also seek to minimize consumption of processed foods and especially complex carbs.
But it's HARD. We had each worked very hard for a long time to save money. We could've gotten a bigger house in a nicer neighborhood, had we taken out a loan along with paying cash. But we restricted ourselves. We rarely ate out. We bought small fuel-efficient vehicles responsibly, and only when an older vehicle became too financially-burdensome to mechanically maintain.
We *could have* had a lot of things like a nicer house, better and more stylish rides, credit cards with which to buy higher numbers and better versions of consumer items (we did splurge on a really nice washing machine), culinary nights out on the town 2-3x a week, etc.
It was HARD doing all that. Throw in inappropriate government intrusion into our lives and existences that negatively influence behavior habits and choices, and it's no wonder that nearly everyone is sick, tired, and obese, or broke. I mean even if it was just limited to the few points I mentioned, just being broke or unhealthy by itself erases motivation or understanding of improvement possibilities or has a cascading effect that compounds into other problems, limiting realistic betterment opportunities.
My FIL had quintuple coronary bypass surgery due to obesity. I was at the hospital during the 9hr operation. Doctor told him to exercise. Instead, he went right back to sitting in front of the T.V. all day where he ate & slept. I even tried to get him to go walk with me even a little, but he just got annoyed. He died in front of the T.V. of heart attack.
OUR GOVERNMENT:
1) 40 hour work week plus commute
2) We are taxed to death the income tax in the USA is illegal
3) Government subsidizes farms to sell to large corporations they hold stocks in. 6 companies own the global food industry.
Thanks for coming to MY Ted talk.
This is fantastic! Very insightful.
Yes, this guy's talk is incomplete. One reason our emoter doesn't turn the key is the change we're trying to make is too big. Check out BJ Fogg's talk on tiny habits.
So True !
He just made me realize I haven't had a Sobe drink in years... when did they stope selling these? I loved these drinks my friends hated it.
misleading title. the whole thing could have been summarized into "change how you feel about something in order to change your behavior".
I agree! I'd add "change how you feel about something long enough for your brain to consider it new programming." The real challenge though is how to change how we feel about something.
@@wiseguidejdg Maybe seeing someone else enjoy a certain activity or someone telling you it's fun could have an impact. The Tom Sawyer story of him tricking some boys to paint a fence for him comes to mind. Also pretending to enjoy something and smiling while doing it may eventually lead to liking it. Getting lots of positive reinforcement as you are doing something could make you like it and eventually not need positive reinforcement.
@@botaine All excellent ideas for working with the Emoter. If the Emoter likes something long enough, the Robot takes it as programming.
I wish more people would tie up their emoters up when voting. Politics should not be an emotional choice.
I really enjoyed this presentation. Great message!!!
Janelle useless
@@matthewspear2355 you need to get to know yourself better.
“Nothing means anything until we decide what it means.” Seriously? Many, many things mean something before we decide what they mean. Most don’t even care what we decide!
yeah but he didnt tell you how to keep your thinker and emoter on the same page..
super and helpful!!!
Well said, from start to finish. This is one of my favorite TED talks so far.
I suggest watching more TED talks, then
Awesome vid.
I'm thin, middle class and like to sleep. I guess that makes me a rebel ;)
Fantastic
watching this for 18 mins only to learn that people who think are better off? wow. thats science at its best
Thanks for watching Marky. If only it was that easy. The point is that thinking alone doesn't get it done or we wouldn't have the problems we do. The science says thinking is not what drives our actions.
wth??? So thinker and emoter have to turn their keys at the same time. .... anybody try to get the emoter to do that? HOW???? This got me nowhere.
I thought the same thing. What's the point of the talk if he doesn't complete it by telling how to deal with the emoter?
+Michie B I guess he wants you to buy the book. I'm passing.
If you see there's a how. When you are trying to do something like go to the gym, your emoter is asking you to stop and look at all those other times when the experience wasn't good. You remember, and with your thinker talk to your emoter about your reasons (positive, even trying to prove somebody you can is a valid reason) and empower it. Make it change how it feels. That way it will cooperate with your thinker to take the robot and work all together as one! Lol... try it, you have nothing to lose and maybe tons to win... I'm ready to start working on those simple but crazy tasks I wasn't able to put myself to! I know how!
I think what he's saying is that you need to become 'happy' doing something, so your emotor's on board. So if you reward yourself for going to the gym, your emotor remembers that good feeling, and helps create the habit.
What are you guys talking about? Robot? Wtf is an emotor
This is a key lecture!
Congrats!
*10 years later...*
Is this why "losing weight" is a $100B industry? Losing something is a negative event that we most often try to reconcile / fix back to before we lost. Most everyone who "loses weight" actual finds that weight again, every time.
Why not give it away?