secret to not get attached (in my opinion) : what's meant for you will be for you, will be attracted to you, will run to you because you're being your true authentic self💙
@@liliabelkacem6958You’re only asking yourself this because you believe deep down that you’re not worthy. You are, you just have to believe it and feel it for yourself. You don’t even need somebody to affirm you for this to be true.
it kinda makes me sad for us girlies that we feel like we need to ice our mind and be so strong and in control of our emotions to such a high level to protect ourselves against manipulating and cheating men. they take out the survival in us.. sigh
If men need to control the emotions then control yours first dont through your anger onto her just because you don't understand what she said .She clearly said manipulating and cheating men are you one of them ?? Why are you so triggered??@@trad428
I really needed to hear this. There's this guy I was friends with. Trust me, it's only friendship and nothing else. But we would speak to each other non stop. Whether be it on the phone, on text, whatever. And then suddenly since last week he isn't talking to me. I sensed the energy and that triggered my anxiety. I rarely ever let people into my life but when I do, I really care for them and want them to be okay. So I keep texting, calling, making sure they're okay. And they don't give a shit about me. Clearly I just reduced myself into nothing but a pushover. I'm really attached to this person and I've been a mess since the past one week. It felt so good to hear this. Puts a lot of things into perspective.
This is the phase that I am exactly in right now and it's making me go crazy. I'm just not able to focus on anything. This feeling is just the worst. I hope things are now okay with you :)
I met a guy online on January, we talked for a month, we were planning for not talking longer from the very beginning. We tried to not talk again for many reasons but we kept talking. He finally told me that he would delete his account on 6th of February this year. I couldn't believe I won't know anything about him again in my whole life. He was only like my old brother but I got attached to him and couldn't believe I won't ever know anything about him ever again. I got very depressed for nearly four months. I cried in every single day I had the worse days someone can ever have. I met another guy when I was very depressed. It was on May, when I had the worst days in my life. We were friends till we fell in love. He was so adorable and before we knew each other's feelings I was afraid that I got attached to him and one day we will stop talking and it will hurt and I was even fully recovered from everything happened. But before I knew his feelings I felt I was already attached to him. I still don't know what I got attached so easily. Anyway we got into a relationship for two months. I broke up with him 9 days ago after two months of a relationship and I'm glad the attachments didn't effect me at all. Stay strong girll. It's so hard cuz I've spent months crying and wondering why that January guy didn't care more about some certain things, but he was the most caring person I have ever met more than anyone else but I knew he didn't know how much he meant to me. Stay strong and things will get better and think if he doesn't want u in his life anymore, u shouldn't also think to keep him in your life. Once u realize u will find other better/ serious people u will feel so much better. If u need to talk about anything I'm here xx
This is great advice! I definitely get attached way too easily....and what I've learned the hard way is: most men (at least most masculine men) actually don't get that attached from talking to us a lot. They can talk to a woman every single day for a decade and still not want to move the relationship with her forward. That's why it's important like you said to recognize it's most likely chemicals in the brain and not a true genuine attachment/love coming from his side.
Yeah it does to someone who is totally fine with their emotions but tbh in this generation you can't be totally bitchy neither totally loving , it's more like protect and detach from wrong ones and give all yours in a right one !!!
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
It's also happened with me but mine was 9 year's the boy didn't even want me anymore he is happy on his instagram he has followed many others girl's he is traveling he is happy with his friend's and I still don't know the reason of breakup🙂
okay so when I was dating this guy, I used to fantasize A SHIT TON about him. Like- him doing ‘gentleman’ stuff, putting the bare minimum efforts and made a version of him in my head which wasnt even real. I expected him to live up to my expectations so it wss harder for me to detach. So keep this in mind +thewizardliz has a video on this!❤
I struggle with the “fantasy” aspect so much too!!! Like making a person out to be someone they aren’t or creating a version of them in my head. And it may be based off of certain things they’ve done but it isn’t an accurate depiction of them as a whole
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I use to buy into these videos but sometimes I feel like a lot of the relationship videos are mind games that’s just ugly to me. If you like someone act on it if it’s reciprocated then continue if they act like they don’t or don’t period or fizzles out then leave them alone. Simply the right one will come to you of course and it’ll flow, grow, and it will show. There is a balance too, don’t be clingy either, to where you are dependent, do your own stuff too
AGREED! Everyone is different. Some things may work for others and some won't. I say to definitely learn how to detach but to the degree that the wonderful woman in the video was explaining might be a little extreme for some.
@@mistastealyogirlll exactly all these relationship advice videos can just get confusing when you don’t know and love yourself to be comfortable in your single state. You got to know yourself be healed enough to be ready for a relationship. If you don’t have that or not actively working on that, shouldn’t even think of dating but fixing yourself first. Learn self care. Start there and then you will know what to look for and what you won’t stand for. If not it will lead to clinging onto someone because the idea of wanting someone out of desperation ( in turn getting into bad relationships/situations) Vs finding a true connection.
But it isn’t that easy for a lot of people. Some of us struggle A LOT with relationships and how to have a healthy relationship where we aren’t codependent or anxiously attached and these videos help us learn how to have healthier habits
I wish I had listened to advice like this when I was 19. I was in the talking stage with my ex that I met in college for 1 and a half yrs before we started dating officially (bc of lockdown) and he was doing hot/cold most of the time. It’s one of my biggest regrets bc I could’ve saved myself from so much pain and suffering had I just chosen not to ignore the red flags. 🥴
As a college student, at least you have your studies to focus on. If any time you are forced into a solitude life, your educational goals is your backup plan because in the future, you will at least use your educational background to get a job someday. In life, we needs something to fall back on in case social life is dead.
Thank you so so much Simone!! The level of development and confidence that I have acquired after i started watching your videos , I just can't put it into words ...lots of love 💕
Getting attached fast & easily to people is largely due to unresolved childhood issues. Seek therapy for that, do the work and you won't even have to be telling yourself, "oh it's just oxytocin" every 5 minutes while you obsess over him because he's hot and cold to you. He's still "in control" even if he's not there and you're still likely to be obsessed with the next guy who does this even if ur over this one. He's still winning. All I see here is unresolved childhood issues trying to be pushed down by putting a bandaid over it that says "boss babe." Don't follow this individuals advice, follow the guidance of a good local doctor.
I love this! so true, knowledge is power - the last guy I was dating really exposed my attachment issues. This time was different though I was able to realize I was attached because of the hot and cold and it was the first guy I’ve really liked in a long time and he planned dates got me flowers on the first date we celebrated my bday with dinner and gifts and ended up having sex 🥹 when he started doing hot and cold a few weeks after us dating - I cut him off, I knew it was a mix of us spending so much time together and the hot and cold. My brain initially was like “he’s perfect omg” but then my rational side said - a perfect person wouldn’t be hot and cold, I was still single and I was confused = not the person for me. I didn’t want to ghost him but it made me feel powerful because I know if I didn’t he would keep toying with me
I totally agree with you! I liked a guy and thought that I really loved him. Like it's true and genius love. Blah blah blah. But now, I understand that it's all in my head and nothing else. Thank you, Simone< for this video! 💓
You know he could have loved you too.Just cause one lady gives advice out doesnt mean its true.I stopped listening to males advice on money,women,love and actually had a better life
so there’s this guy that I like and have been obsessing for a week now (mainly cause my delusional ass made scenarios with him everynight before going to bed, cause ofc i enjoyed and really wanted to recreate those moments with him) and he is kinda doing the hot & cold thing to me now. I mean, he’s so sweet and gives me all those princess treatment and talks all sweet n stuff when we’re together but as soon we’re away and texting, I feel like he’s only carrying the convo and not necessarily cares if i reply late. It makes my mind go numb, I really want this person in my life cause he’s greatly ambitious, sweet, kind, caring, super cool and understanding and everything one could be, it makes me sad he prolly doesn’t feel the same way for me ig? PS: i’ve known him for 3 months now and he isn’t looking for a relationship.
I have severe OCD. It’s where I obsess over things all day every day all year every month. I’m only in the first minute and this has nothing to do with the disorder itself but it has everything to do with how everything the experience it’s just a chemical reaction. I needed to hear that so thank you so much.
I tend to be empathetic& used to verbal &mental abuse from growing up in a big family-the youngest-I got talked down to & treated like CRAP a lot; so I used to be targets for narcissistic people-not anymore. I agree with you-I’m not going to waste my time on a lot of useless chatter with some stranger, only to find I don’t like him when we meet. If some jerk were to ever pull that hot & cold stuff on me, that would’ve the end of us very quickly. I now like myself, I now enjoy being by myself, and if someone were to come along that I enjoy being with, fine-but I’m never disrespecting myself again by letting anyone waste my precious time.
Thank you for validating that the youngest have a harder time…all my life I’ve heard the youngest get it the easiest. I’m like really? How did I end up with OCD, depression, other anxiety disorders before age 9? Yes, we get talked down a lot, and sometimes I think our parents forget we weren’t a toy to make them happy, we were real human beings. ❤
So this is the third video I saw on RUclips today (that I didn't searched for) that was about detachment, letting go, to not loose yourself over someone...And I actually deal with this stuff. Oh ok RUclips, thank you for the support I guess
OMG, thank you so much! Your tips really worked for me, and my friends have noticed some changes - it's incredible! I can't thank you enough for sharing this perfect video for my 2024 glow-up. While watching your tutorial, it reminded me of my life coach Lisa Haisha, who often shares insights about these things during her transformative retreats here in the Philippines. She emphasizes the power of self-discovery and embracing change for a true glow-up. Both you and Lisa truly inspire me!
As a clinical psychology student, and future therapist I do not approve this message and furthermore, this video screams “I need therapy and I need to heal from my relationship trauma!”
oh god, so relatable ... talking stage ruins it , I get attached and then boom , getting stuck in a relationship , because I are already attached to them... now that I am really focusing on myself, I can see that it was just the hormones... so true. it blurs our vision about somebody, and esp fr me , i feel bound to get into a relationship with them . Urgh it sucks, only I am separating myself and really thinking about it, I realize it was just the hormones, the feel good ones. Nothing more! I feel i am done with dating
I was feeling so low. No matter how hard I try, those negative thoughts come back to me. I am not able to end it. But I don't want to be miserable. I'll explain nothing to him. I've so much work to dom! 💅
It's funny, I've sometimes wondered if there's something wrong with me that I DON'T get attached to guys easily and that I have no problem cutting them off the second I see they're playing mind games because I can't be bothered rather than giving them a chance, the way society pushes women to do. I also refuse to settle for someone I'm not equally yolks to, I see so many women who could do better not only settle for much less, but then let these curmudgeon loses abuse and denigrate them to where she forgets what she is or maybe never knew (Jonah Hills girlfriend). I literally started to question why I don't have the relationship trauma most women seem to have. Listen carefully to what people, society, cultures say to girls and women: "Oh that's nothing, give him another chance", "they're all like that, not worth throwing the relationship away", "You're not gonna do better than him", "All men are bad at communicating so don't expect him to talk or meet your emotional needs the way you want" , "Looks and physical attraction don't matter in the long run, don't be superficial, just find a husband (no wonder so many wives don't want to sleep with their husbands once they pop out their kids, you would if you found him attractive!😅"). I am still single but it's because I look around and see so many women and hear so many stories of women getting with losers and/ or emotionally abusive, controlling, insecure, manipulative men. And I'm like is This what society wants me to settle for?? So I can be flucked up like every other woman who only after years of therapy after years of mistreatment, get to the level of high self-respect I ALREADY have?? This is what has been swirling in my head lately because I did start to feel Stockholm syndrome within society that looks at us women who still aren't married like we're strange for not settling for anyone who will have us like so many do so they can be married by 30. A lot of those women are divorced now and in the same boat as me except with children, little money or support and trauma.. Sooo, I'm good. Whew I almost got pressured into the dark, convulted side that I've managed to avoid thus far. And although it can be hard, I'd rather NOT have trauma than have it and have to fix it or learn the hard way by hitting rock bottom. I still know and hope to find a good man, a masculine, confident, mature man, a soulmate to love ❤. I have to believe they exist. Ps. I tried an app for the 1st time and it's soo odd to me that guys just want to message for 40 days and 40 nights about nonsense🙄. like I've swiped on you, what other signal do you need to ask for a date? Then when I stop responding, they write again like heyy how's your day? Wtf. You think I'm gonna sit here and tell you about my day everyday? I don't even know you like that, I have ish to do! So when you said, you're like why are you messaging me everyday, I was like😂, that's me! I've literally out loud to myself said ' uugh, Whaat? Stop messaging! This is a waste of time! " This is the pathetic state of dating for those under 40. I tried to avoid the apps as long as possible but unfortunately guys have lost any balls they may have had to approach women or ask them out even with a context. They'll give vines, sneak a glance but they're scared because of a certain movement that has just killed male female dynamics.
This was a good read lol. A lot of women are now learning ahead of time how to have high sense of self worth. Also most men don’t care they will approach. Some have just admitted they don’t approach if you don’t look like an easy “catch” lol.
Being attached to someone is very hard to get out of. But you’re just have to wake up it might seems easy to say but just wake up. ITS NOT REAL look at them. Look, at them they’re not who you portray them to be your brain is creating a portrait of this person to correspond to your wants you crave attention he give you some salt of attention suddenly his such a good guy. Take a time take a deep breath and look at them you’ll realized this is all obsession or attachment it’s not real or founded into your reality YOU ALLOW IT TO EXIST. You allow him to have power over you the moment you understand that you’re what makes him special you’ll understand that he isn’t special
Attachment isnt a bad thing i think your demonizing the wrong thing. The problem is not being able to 'detach'. Attachment lets us live for us and other people, if you live a life of pure detachment or with a fear or refusal for attachment you'll never absorb the true potential of the feelings you're feeling
You realize the reason you can’t detach is because you’re attached. I get what you’re saying but what you’re saying makes no sense because it goes by the level of attachment, you don’t have to be cold to be detached. You just take things as they come but be fully present.
@@Esotericbarbiee I think attachment is paradoxical in essence it can be interpreted as unhealthy but like i said i think its needed to experience the depth of something. Obviously detachment is the key to pure peace but i think the pay off by letting yourself be lost in someone lets you feel all the euphoria.
THXX SO MUCH I really needed this because a guy who I was having a talking stage just disappeared like let me in seen and never respond to me and I was soo attached but this videos really help me ❤
I was talking to this guy online for years, and in my head imagined him to be a better guy than he was because he was good at lying. When we met in person, I didn't find him as physically attractive as in the photos and his personality was off. We fought the first day we met. & yet I still hooked up with them, then caught feelings, then ended up dating him for 3 years! By the end of our relationship, he told me that he lied to me the whole time & told me what I wanted to hear. I would continue to get overly attached so easily. Even if I didn't like the guy very much before having sex, I'd start obsessing over them after we hooked up. Part of why I chose to hookup with some of them was because I didn't see a future with them, but then it's like I became completely brainwashed & dickmatized. Anyways, I will never do online dating again (I just don't enjoy it) & won't hookup unless I'm prepared to walk away without exchanging information. I get so attached way to easily and it's very unhealthy.
JUST WHAT I NEED!! My ex broke up with me for someone from out long term rs (8 years), in short he cheated, and it's so unfair that they are so happy while I am suffering from this pain.
pls, i was just having a breakdown and thought i'd watch some detaching videos, and literally saw this!!!!!!!!!!! you are literally the best, thank you for this 😢
Thank you, I’m so into physiology and I was already learning about trauma bond etc etc but even tho it was not real and my brain does that I still ended up being in trauma bond 3times cos I get attached easily, but now got easier w me when a guy does hot and cold I’ll just run cos Ik it’s gonna get me in the hook.
This is so timely for my experience today! Thank you for this video! I need to save myself over those red flags. Early dating shouldn't be overnight beach dates gosh I felt traumatic for his messages even he lives in another place here in our province. I need to cut off this person. 😭🥺
A guy I had just started meeting up with stopped messaging me abruptly. It was only two months total. He hadn't messaged me for 6 days. All the advice says don't message that guy and move on. I'm so glad I messaged him. He immediately messaged me back to say he wasn't ready to get physical (for reasons I know). I'm so glad I did what I thought I should do. It made me feel so much better that I got a response and that I didn't just settle for feeling like I'd been ghosted. Even if he didn't message back (which is what I thought would happen) at least I could say to myself that I tried to get an answer.
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Where have you been?! If only I knew all this earlier, would have saved me this heartbreak from getting attached. But it's good to know it now and to use this going forward. Thank you! So many tips and great advice :)
thanks for this cuz i just met this person online and we really connected and i was 100% positive we both liked eachother,, and then they started obsessing over this one guy they started to like and then they basically ghosted me and left me on seen all the time man
some notes i need to know and learnー * hot & cold works cz its a chemical reaction in our brain and its not real ( 01:13 !!!) * 01:51 talking stage u get attached easily cz u talk e/d & when u meet them in real life most of time they're not how they say they r I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 02:12 !!! you're likely already attached to them which means you're even more likely to ignore the red flags...ignore the fact that you don't like them that much in real life and then give them a chance and that's dangerous !!! IF INTERESTED ROMANTICALLY, PLAN A DATE! ❌NO TALKING STAGE ❌ ✔can briefly talk b4 meeting ✔ ❌NO MSG E/D ❌ (cz u ll get attached) 02:40 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 💭say to break talking stage and getting attached: me: why are you messaging me every day? him: oh I just want to talk and get to know you I'm like ME: 💭get to know me in real life 💭 * 04:15 don't put all ur egg in 1 basket y get to choose who y really like and not get obsess over 04:35 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 " you're single and not in a relationship until they ask you" THISSS 04:48 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 someone is obsessed with me and they're so needy I get really freaked out don't you have a life I don't want to get into a relationship with someone's entire life is me that's terrifying and unhealthy 05:05 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 if you're someone that finds themselves getting attached to people really easily you need to introspect on why that is uh you're probably missing something in your life which is why you're seeking it in another person and I think once you're able to identify this and work on it your obsession and attachment with other people will very quickly diminish 05:28 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑 they need to earn ur tust to know about ur personal info
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men get mad because they do already in fact feel free to roam about and talk to anybody when they're still in the "talking stage". but they just don't like that we've caught on and started doing it and now they no longer have the upper hand. then they throw temper tantrums because they are so used to getting coddled their entire lives. so of course anybody in that position would be a little salty
Yesterday, I broke up with my bf due to the red flags, however he was very caring and loving but he used to disrespect me when he gets angry. And since few days I was not feeling like talking, so I told him that I needed a break because it was unfair with him as well. But he didn’t understand he blamed me and said all the girls are same and said I’ll not be able to trust anyone however I didn’t do anything like that. And I cried the whole night thinking I made a mistake. I really needed this video, thank you❤️🥺
GURL YOU SLAYED BUT how do we know that we are in love with someone or not?? Cause literally the obssessed signs were the love signs on other yt channels so i was wondering how do we figure out if we actually like someone and its not just in our head 🥲
secret to not get attached (in my opinion) : what's meant for you will be for you, will be attracted to you, will run to you because you're being your true authentic self💙
Yessss what's meant to be for me, will be! Simple as that
But I keep asking myself " does that person truly exists?"
great way to sum it up tbh
i would think this but i would be delusional and think well how do i know if theyre not meant for me 🙄
@@liliabelkacem6958You’re only asking yourself this because you believe deep down that you’re not worthy. You are, you just have to believe it and feel it for yourself. You don’t even need somebody to affirm you for this to be true.
it kinda makes me sad for us girlies that we feel like we need to ice our mind and be so strong and in control of our emotions to such a high level to protect ourselves against manipulating and cheating men. they take out the survival in us.. sigh
Girl agreed!
Everybody needs to control the emotions, including men.
Stop blaming men and not look like a child for this.
@@trad428 I don’t blame men in general, don’t get me wrong here. like I said, against manipulating & cheating men :)
it goes w men too sometimes okay im a guy who goes thru this a lot (men who r emotionally sensitive to be specific )
If men need to control the emotions then control yours first dont through your anger onto her just because you don't understand what she said .She clearly said manipulating and cheating men are you one of them ?? Why are you so triggered??@@trad428
"because i know its just a chemical reaction in my brain, i dont let it affect me" soo true
so true
To the person reading this I am so grateful to share this world with you
I am too, sweet human ♡ sending positivity your way
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I needed this, thank you! Same to you beautiful soul 💕
What a sweet comment, caught me off guard! Sending virtual hugs all the way from Germany ❤🤗
Thank you so much
I feel like getting attached to someone/something is the worst thing ever.
I NEEDED THIS. I got myself into a scandal and there's so much rumors and hate about me on the internet, it's been wild and this came on time.
Are u a celeb??
@@muffincupcakeprincessshe is submaker .
nobody knows you
@@shtwrek5386 ??? I just have a massive twitter following lmao why would other people know me
Ok Michael Jackson
I really needed to hear this. There's this guy I was friends with. Trust me, it's only friendship and nothing else. But we would speak to each other non stop. Whether be it on the phone, on text, whatever. And then suddenly since last week he isn't talking to me. I sensed the energy and that triggered my anxiety. I rarely ever let people into my life but when I do, I really care for them and want them to be okay. So I keep texting, calling, making sure they're okay. And they don't give a shit about me. Clearly I just reduced myself into nothing but a pushover. I'm really attached to this person and I've been a mess since the past one week. It felt so good to hear this. Puts a lot of things into perspective.
This is the phase that I am exactly in right now and it's making me go crazy. I'm just not able to focus on anything. This feeling is just the worst. I hope things are now okay with you :)
I met a guy online on January, we talked for a month, we were planning for not talking longer from the very beginning. We tried to not talk again for many reasons but we kept talking. He finally told me that he would delete his account on 6th of February this year. I couldn't believe I won't know anything about him again in my whole life. He was only like my old brother but I got attached to him and couldn't believe I won't ever know anything about him ever again. I got very depressed for nearly four months. I cried in every single day I had the worse days someone can ever have.
I met another guy when I was very depressed. It was on May, when I had the worst days in my life. We were friends till we fell in love. He was so adorable and before we knew each other's feelings I was afraid that I got attached to him and one day we will stop talking and it will hurt and I was even fully recovered from everything happened. But before I knew his feelings I felt I was already attached to him. I still don't know what I got attached so easily.
Anyway we got into a relationship for two months. I broke up with him 9 days ago after two months of a relationship and I'm glad the attachments didn't effect me at all.
Stay strong girll. It's so hard cuz I've spent months crying and wondering why that January guy didn't care more about some certain things, but he was the most caring person I have ever met more than anyone else but I knew he didn't know how much he meant to me.
Stay strong and things will get better and think if he doesn't want u in his life anymore, u shouldn't also think to keep him in your life. Once u realize u will find other better/ serious people u will feel so much better. If u need to talk about anything I'm here xx
If he ain't the one no need to waste your time and energy and get attached . You will eventually find your match. Amen
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This is great advice! I definitely get attached way too easily....and what I've learned the hard way is: most men (at least most masculine men) actually don't get that attached from talking to us a lot. They can talk to a woman every single day for a decade and still not want to move the relationship with her forward. That's why it's important like you said to recognize it's most likely chemicals in the brain and not a true genuine attachment/love coming from his side.
Omg can't agree more😢
The only confusing thing about all of these is that it kinda sounds like a fear of getting hurt and therefore a fear of commiting to someone fully.
Yeah it does to someone who is totally fine with their emotions but tbh in this generation you can't be totally bitchy neither totally loving , it's more like protect and detach from wrong ones and give all yours in a right one !!!
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
It's also happened with me but mine was 9 year's the boy didn't even want me anymore he is happy on his instagram he has followed many others girl's he is traveling he is happy with his friend's and I still don't know the reason of breakup🙂
okay so when I was dating this guy, I used to fantasize A SHIT TON about him. Like- him doing ‘gentleman’ stuff, putting the bare minimum efforts and made a version of him in my head which wasnt even real. I expected him to live up to my expectations so it wss harder for me to detach. So keep this in mind
+thewizardliz has a video on this!❤
I struggle with the “fantasy” aspect so much too!!! Like making a person out to be someone they aren’t or creating a version of them in my head. And it may be based off of certain things they’ve done but it isn’t an accurate depiction of them as a whole
It's crazy how no one is talking about Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. This book has secrets that could change everything, but people seem blind to it. Wake up and see for yourself!
you are the best
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I use to buy into these videos but sometimes I feel like a lot of the relationship videos are mind games that’s just ugly to me. If you like someone act on it if it’s reciprocated then continue if they act like they don’t or don’t period or fizzles out then leave them alone. Simply the right one will come to you of course and it’ll flow, grow, and it will show. There is a balance too, don’t be clingy either, to where you are dependent, do your own stuff too
AGREED! Everyone is different. Some things may work for others and some won't. I say to definitely learn how to detach but to the degree that the wonderful woman in the video was explaining might be a little extreme for some.
@@mistastealyogirlll exactly all these relationship advice videos can just get confusing when you don’t know and love yourself to be comfortable in your single state. You got to know yourself be healed enough to be ready for a relationship. If you don’t have that or not actively working on that, shouldn’t even think of dating but fixing yourself first. Learn self care. Start there and then you will know what to look for and what you won’t stand for. If not it will lead to clinging onto someone because the idea of wanting someone out of desperation ( in turn getting into bad relationships/situations) Vs finding a true connection.
But it isn’t that easy for a lot of people. Some of us struggle A LOT with relationships and how to have a healthy relationship where we aren’t codependent or anxiously attached and these videos help us learn how to have healthier habits
I literally feel like i learn so much more from you than my therapist
bro period
Yup
I wish I had listened to advice like this when I was 19. I was in the talking stage with my ex that I met in college for 1 and a half yrs before we started dating officially (bc of lockdown) and he was doing hot/cold most of the time. It’s one of my biggest regrets bc I could’ve saved myself from so much pain and suffering had I just chosen not to ignore the red flags. 🥴
lmaoo ur story is just like mine
So choosing to be single and even then some ppl are unhappy about being single. Sigh sometimes you can’t win in life
As a college student, at least you have your studies to focus on. If any time you are forced into a solitude life, your educational goals is your backup plan because in the future, you will at least use your educational background to get a job someday. In life, we needs something to fall back on in case social life is dead.
Thank you so so much Simone!!
The level of development and confidence that I have acquired after i started watching your videos , I just can't put it into words ...lots of love 💕
I think its the people who are afraid of commitment but also want someone that will be prone to getting into situationships🙏🏽
Simone is literally a life saving goddess
Getting attached fast & easily to people is largely due to unresolved childhood issues. Seek therapy for that, do the work and you won't even have to be telling yourself, "oh it's just oxytocin" every 5 minutes while you obsess over him because he's hot and cold to you. He's still "in control" even if he's not there and you're still likely to be obsessed with the next guy who does this even if ur over this one. He's still winning.
All I see here is unresolved childhood issues trying to be pushed down by putting a bandaid over it that says "boss babe." Don't follow this individuals advice, follow the guidance of a good local doctor.
I love this! so true, knowledge is power - the last guy I was dating really exposed my attachment issues. This time was different though I was able to realize I was attached because of the hot and cold and it was the first guy I’ve really liked in a long time and he planned dates got me flowers on the first date we celebrated my bday with dinner and gifts and ended up having sex 🥹 when he started doing hot and cold a few weeks after us dating - I cut him off, I knew it was a mix of us spending so much time together and the hot and cold. My brain initially was like “he’s perfect omg” but then my rational side said - a perfect person wouldn’t be hot and cold, I was still single and I was confused = not the person for me. I didn’t want to ghost him but it made me feel powerful because I know if I didn’t he would keep toying with me
I’m glad you walked away early! Good job in being rational.
You came from a place of power, you are a Queen 👑.
and how are u now? are u healed?? u don’t miss him
im so proud of you!!! heres our queen knowing her own worth💗
I have learned all of this the hard way and let me tell you THIS WORKS so you better pay attention besties. Detached life is a happy life.
Sooo true. When she said you never really liked them and then you became so attached and ignore the red flags.
I totally agree with you! I liked a guy and thought that I really loved him. Like it's true and genius love. Blah blah blah. But now, I understand that it's all in my head and nothing else. Thank you, Simone< for this video! 💓
You know he could have loved you too.Just cause one lady gives advice out doesnt mean its true.I stopped listening to males advice on money,women,love and actually had a better life
OMGGG. QUEEN TANK YOU SO MUCH FOR UPLOADING. YOU HAVE ACTUALLY CHANGED MY WHOLE MINDSET AND I CAN NEVER THANK YOU ENOUGH
so there’s this guy that I like and have been obsessing for a week now (mainly cause my delusional ass made scenarios with him everynight before going to bed, cause ofc i enjoyed and really wanted to recreate those moments with him) and he is kinda doing the hot & cold thing to me now. I mean, he’s so sweet and gives me all those princess treatment and talks all sweet n stuff when we’re together but as soon we’re away and texting, I feel like he’s only carrying the convo and not necessarily cares if i reply late. It makes my mind go numb, I really want this person in my life cause he’s greatly ambitious, sweet, kind, caring, super cool and understanding and everything one could be, it makes me sad he prolly doesn’t feel the same way for me ig?
PS: i’ve known him for 3 months now and he isn’t looking for a relationship.
Watch mindful attraction 2.0 and detach asap, especially if he's not looking for anything serious with you. You're wasting your time
I have severe OCD. It’s where I obsess over things all day every day all year every month. I’m only in the first minute and this has nothing to do with the disorder itself but it has everything to do with how everything the experience it’s just a chemical reaction. I needed to hear that so thank you so much.
how do you handle your OCD?
@@superscience4817 drink
@@superscience4817 it’s 10am and I already got a few drink in me rn
@@superscience4817 I ended up in the mental hospital a month ago. I don’t wish this on anyone but hitler and Epstein
I tend to be empathetic& used to verbal &mental abuse from growing up in a big family-the youngest-I got talked down to & treated like CRAP a lot; so I used to be targets for narcissistic people-not anymore. I agree with you-I’m not going to waste my time on a lot of useless chatter with some stranger, only to find I don’t like him when we meet. If some jerk were to ever pull that hot & cold stuff on me, that would’ve the end of us very quickly. I now like myself, I now enjoy being by myself, and if someone were to come along that I enjoy being with, fine-but I’m never disrespecting myself again by letting anyone waste my precious time.
Thank you for validating that the youngest have a harder time…all my life I’ve heard the youngest get it the easiest. I’m like really? How did I end up with OCD, depression, other anxiety disorders before age 9? Yes, we get talked down a lot, and sometimes I think our parents forget we weren’t a toy to make them happy, we were real human beings. ❤
@@User_whatshisname I agree! The youngest is hard in a big family-the rest of the family is mad at you for just existing, and taking their spots!
So this is the third video I saw on RUclips today (that I didn't searched for) that was about detachment, letting go, to not loose yourself over someone...And I actually deal with this stuff. Oh ok RUclips, thank you for the support I guess
Attachement comes from seeking a feeling that's lacking, it's not about the person or the situation itself.
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Ladies and gen***s lmaooo I'm dying in stitches 🤣🤣🤣🤙
Honestly having to live with all these “rules” to not FEEL is too much.
Idk how you post exactly about the problem I'm going through at that moment. I needed this so much rn your such a life saver sometimes
I just love your videos it gives me everyday new confidence ❤❤
Some people hate people who are obsessed with them but what if its just a cute way of loving someone coming from a pure hearted loving soul
It's mad how accurate this video is to my life right now and I needed to know some of that. Thannnk you!!! Universe sent 🙏🏽🌼
OMG, thank you so much! Your tips really worked for me, and my friends have noticed some changes - it's incredible! I can't thank you enough for sharing this perfect video for my 2024 glow-up. While watching your tutorial, it reminded me of my life coach Lisa Haisha, who often shares insights about these things during her transformative retreats here in the Philippines. She emphasizes the power of self-discovery and embracing change for a true glow-up. Both you and Lisa truly inspire me!
As a clinical psychology student, and future therapist I do not approve this message and furthermore, this video screams “I need therapy and I need to heal from my relationship trauma!”
oh god, so relatable ... talking stage ruins it , I get attached and then boom , getting stuck in a relationship , because I are already attached to them... now that I am really focusing on myself, I can see that it was just the hormones... so true. it blurs our vision about somebody, and esp fr me , i feel bound to get into a relationship with them . Urgh it sucks, only I am separating myself and really thinking about it, I realize it was just the hormones, the feel good ones. Nothing more! I feel i am done with dating
I was feeling so low. No matter how hard I try, those negative thoughts come back to me. I am not able to end it. But I don't want to be miserable. I'll explain nothing to him. I've so much work to dom! 💅
Hey simone. I really appreciate you. You literally helped me to glow up. Keep it up queen
This is the advice I needed, girl thank you, you have helped me a lot, keep it up ❤
It's funny, I've sometimes wondered if there's something wrong with me that I DON'T get attached to guys easily and that I have no problem cutting them off the second I see they're playing mind games because I can't be bothered rather than giving them a chance, the way society pushes women to do. I also refuse to settle for someone I'm not equally yolks to, I see so many women who could do better not only settle for much less, but then let these curmudgeon loses abuse and denigrate them to where she forgets what she is or maybe never knew (Jonah Hills girlfriend). I literally started to question why I don't have the relationship trauma most women seem to have. Listen carefully to what people, society, cultures say to girls and women: "Oh that's nothing, give him another chance", "they're all like that, not worth throwing the relationship away", "You're not gonna do better than him", "All men are bad at communicating so don't expect him to talk or meet your emotional needs the way you want" , "Looks and physical attraction don't matter in the long run, don't be superficial, just find a husband (no wonder so many wives don't want to sleep with their husbands once they pop out their kids, you would if you found him attractive!😅").
I am still single but it's because I look around and see so many women and hear so many stories of women getting with losers and/ or emotionally abusive, controlling, insecure, manipulative men. And I'm like is This what society wants me to settle for?? So I can be flucked up like every other woman who only after years of therapy after years of mistreatment, get to the level of high self-respect I ALREADY have?? This is what has been swirling in my head lately because I did start to feel Stockholm syndrome within society that looks at us women who still aren't married like we're strange for not settling for anyone who will have us like so many do so they can be married by 30. A lot of those women are divorced now and in the same boat as me except with children, little money or support and trauma.. Sooo, I'm good.
Whew I almost got pressured into the dark, convulted side that I've managed to avoid thus far. And although it can be hard, I'd rather NOT have trauma than have it and have to fix it or learn the hard way by hitting rock bottom.
I still know and hope to find a good man, a masculine, confident, mature man, a soulmate to love ❤. I have to believe they exist.
Ps. I tried an app for the 1st time and it's soo odd to me that guys just want to message for 40 days and 40 nights about nonsense🙄. like I've swiped on you, what other signal do you need to ask for a date? Then when I stop responding, they write again like heyy how's your day? Wtf. You think I'm gonna sit here and tell you about my day everyday? I don't even know you like that, I have ish to do! So when you said, you're like why are you messaging me everyday, I was like😂, that's me! I've literally out loud to myself said ' uugh, Whaat? Stop messaging! This is a waste of time! " This is the pathetic state of dating for those under 40. I tried to avoid the apps as long as possible but unfortunately guys have lost any balls they may have had to approach women or ask them out even with a context. They'll give vines, sneak a glance but they're scared because of a certain movement that has just killed male female dynamics.
Hello pretty lady. I'm kinda in the same boat as you when it comes to relationships. But I do have the balls to ask you out on a date.
Youre so right
This was a good read lol. A lot of women are now learning ahead of time how to have high sense of self worth. Also most men don’t care they will approach. Some have just admitted they don’t approach if you don’t look like an easy “catch” lol.
exactly i mean there's a difference between dating someone and being in a relationship with someone...most men dont understand that and get offended
Being attached to someone is very hard to get out of. But you’re just have to wake up it might seems easy to say but just wake up. ITS NOT REAL look at them. Look, at them they’re not who you portray them to be your brain is creating a portrait of this person to correspond to your wants you crave attention he give you some salt of attention suddenly his such a good guy. Take a time take a deep breath and look at them you’ll realized this is all obsession or attachment it’s not real or founded into your reality YOU ALLOW IT TO EXIST. You allow him to have power over you the moment you understand that you’re what makes him special you’ll understand that he isn’t special
Wow!!! So well put
I literally needed such a video, thank you dearest simone ❤
ILY queen saving us from shitty experience fr
Attachment isnt a bad thing i think your demonizing the wrong thing. The problem is not being able to 'detach'. Attachment lets us live for us and other people, if you live a life of pure detachment or with a fear or refusal for attachment you'll never absorb the true potential of the feelings you're feeling
Attachment is bad. Its not healthy.
You realize the reason you can’t detach is because you’re attached. I get what you’re saying but what you’re saying makes no sense because it goes by the level of attachment, you don’t have to be cold to be detached. You just take things as they come but be fully present.
@@Esotericbarbiee I think attachment is paradoxical in essence it can be interpreted as unhealthy but like i said i think its needed to experience the depth of something. Obviously detachment is the key to pure peace but i think the pay off by letting yourself be lost in someone lets you feel all the euphoria.
@@steeeez you don’t need to be attached to feel something to it’s depth
@@Esotericbarbiee dont think you've experienced what you're talking about
This came at the perfect time you were so real and genuine ❤
THXX SO MUCH I really needed this because a guy who I was having a talking stage just disappeared like let me in seen and never respond to me and I was soo attached but this videos really help me ❤
JUST WHAT I NEEDED! I appreciate you so much. Every day, I'm grateful for your existence
I was talking to this guy online for years, and in my head imagined him to be a better guy than he was because he was good at lying. When we met in person, I didn't find him as physically attractive as in the photos and his personality was off. We fought the first day we met. & yet I still hooked up with them, then caught feelings, then ended up dating him for 3 years! By the end of our relationship, he told me that he lied to me the whole time & told me what I wanted to hear.
I would continue to get overly attached so easily. Even if I didn't like the guy very much before having sex, I'd start obsessing over them after we hooked up. Part of why I chose to hookup with some of them was because I didn't see a future with them, but then it's like I became completely brainwashed & dickmatized.
Anyways, I will never do online dating again (I just don't enjoy it) & won't hookup unless I'm prepared to walk away without exchanging information. I get so attached way to easily and it's very unhealthy.
This came up on my homepage randomly and i honestly think this was meant for me to watch. I cannot explain my situation but i needed this
I needed this. I don't like people talking to me every day
same. it almost annoys me but some people just assume that talking daily is necessary. just gotta let em know you don’t do that😊
JUST WHAT I NEED!! My ex broke up with me for someone from out long term rs (8 years), in short he cheated, and it's so unfair that they are so happy while I am suffering from this pain.
pls, i was just having a breakdown and thought i'd watch some detaching videos, and literally saw this!!!!!!!!!!! you are literally the best, thank you for this 😢
“it’s just a chemical reaction it’s not real” that changed my life.
Honestly, after all the bullsh*t I see on the internet, your videos are the most interesting, meaningful and useful ones. Ily, you such a girlboss❤
Thank you, I’m so into physiology and I was already learning about trauma bond etc etc but even tho it was not real and my brain does that I still ended up being in trauma bond 3times cos I get attached easily, but now got easier w me when a guy does hot and cold I’ll just run cos Ik it’s gonna get me in the hook.
Currently I'm too much upset i delete all my social media and i search how to be mentally strong and now u got you ❤️ thanks a lot
This is so timely for my experience today! Thank you for this video! I need to save myself over those red flags. Early dating shouldn't be overnight beach dates gosh I felt traumatic for his messages even he lives in another place here in our province. I need to cut off this person. 😭🥺
i appreciate u sm, tysm for making all these videos. ilysm simone
Straight forward and honest - I love it!
The secret is to surf the urge,in order to not let that addiction define you...Progress is not linear
simoneeeee, these new videos with subtitles is even more amaaaazing, thank u sis!
A guy I had just started meeting up with stopped messaging me abruptly. It was only two months total. He hadn't messaged me for 6 days. All the advice says don't message that guy and move on. I'm so glad I messaged him. He immediately messaged me back to say he wasn't ready to get physical (for reasons I know). I'm so glad I did what I thought I should do. It made me feel so much better that I got a response and that I didn't just settle for feeling like I'd been ghosted. Even if he didn't message back (which is what I thought would happen) at least I could say to myself that I tried to get an answer.
Simone is the revolution 🌷
The silence around Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest is unbelievable. This book reveals powerful techniques, yet people remain unaware. Don't miss out - discover what everyone's ignoring!
I love you , thx for everything really , you make me change my mindset and stop hanging with toxic friends
I was literally thinking yesterday to search this, 'How to detach videos?' And I am glad this popped up on my feed today. 💜💜☺️
The lack of buzz around Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest is baffling. This book holds the key to amazing secrets, but no one seems to care. Don’t stay in the dark - find out what everyone’s missing!
"There must be something so special if I like him" this the one😂
A pretty psychology student giving me great advices, I'm definitely a subscriber!
You're the big sis we all need
Thank you for sharing this girl, even tho I'm a guy but I appreciate it 🙏🏿💯 I needed to hear this....
Where have you been?! If only I knew all this earlier, would have saved me this heartbreak from getting attached. But it's good to know it now and to use this going forward. Thank you! So many tips and great advice :)
She’s very real. Thank you
thanks for this cuz i just met this person online and we really connected and i was 100% positive we both liked eachother,, and then they started obsessing over this one guy they started to like and then they basically ghosted me and left me on seen all the time man
People should start courting .
some notes i need to know and learnー
* hot & cold works cz its a chemical reaction in our brain and its not real ( 01:13 !!!)
* 01:51 talking stage u get attached easily cz u talk e/d & when u meet them in real life most of time they're not how they say they r
I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
02:12 !!! you're likely already attached to them which means you're even more likely to ignore the red flags...ignore the fact that you don't like them that much in real life and then give them a chance and that's dangerous !!!
IF INTERESTED ROMANTICALLY, PLAN A DATE!
❌NO TALKING STAGE ❌
✔can briefly talk b4 meeting ✔
❌NO MSG E/D ❌ (cz u ll get attached)
02:40 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
💭say to break talking stage and getting attached:
me: why are you messaging me every day?
him: oh I just want to talk and get to know you I'm like
ME: 💭get to know me in real life 💭
* 04:15 don't put all ur egg in 1 basket
y get to choose who y really like and not get obsess over
04:35 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
" you're single and not in a relationship until they ask you" THISSS
04:48 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
someone is obsessed with me and they're so needy I get really freaked out don't you have a life I don't want to get into a relationship with someone's entire life is me that's terrifying and unhealthy
05:05 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
if you're someone that finds themselves getting attached to people really easily you need to introspect on why that is uh you're probably missing something in your life which is why you're seeking it in another person and I think once you're able to identify this and work on it your obsession and attachment with other people will very quickly diminish
05:28 I HAVE TO LEARN THIS 👑
they need to earn ur tust to know about ur personal info
It’s shocking how Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest isn’t being discussed. The book is full of life-changing insights, yet no one seems to notice. Time to break the trance and read it yourself!
Love you queen, the consistency>>>>>
I think I'll give up ever trying to find anyone after watching this.
it's the aussie, "I knorr"
Can you do videos over the attachment styles and what goals each of them needs when single or in a relationship?
Realisation hit harder when she said " its just dopamine and oxytocin"
Another lesson i learned from simone, thankyou.❤💋
men get mad because they do already in fact feel free to roam about and talk to anybody when they're still in the "talking stage". but they just don't like that we've caught on and started doing it and now they no longer have the upper hand. then they throw temper tantrums because they are so used to getting coddled their entire lives. so of course anybody in that position would be a little salty
....and in a related story...the sky is blue, water is wet and the grass is green.😂
I have borderline and it’s so hard to let go because abandonment is so painful
Yesterday, I broke up with my bf due to the red flags, however he was very caring and loving but he used to disrespect me when he gets angry. And since few days I was not feeling like talking, so I told him that I needed a break because it was unfair with him as well. But he didn’t understand he blamed me and said all the girls are same and said I’ll not be able to trust anyone however I didn’t do anything like that. And I cried the whole night thinking I made a mistake. I really needed this video, thank you❤️🥺
The texting part, mysterious is attractive
You're just amazing 😍
Thank you as I needed this advice coz I attached people so easily when I like someone
GURL YOU SLAYED BUT how do we know that we are in love with someone or not?? Cause literally the obssessed signs were the love signs on other yt channels so i was wondering how do we figure out if we actually like someone and its not just in our head 🥲
What is meant to be yours is already yours ❤️
detachment is such an important skill
I claim this ❤ detached for life now !!!!! Thanks Simone
I'm afraid of commitment, but most importantly? I'm terrified of losing you❤