How To Forgive Anyone Who Hurt You - A Powerful Trauma Release Exercise

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  • Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
  • Forgiveness is a powerful technique for letting go old traumas and clearing bad air in your relationships. Here is the key to being able to forgive anyone of anything.
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  • @anisah8546
    @anisah8546 4 года назад +222

    Possibly the best video on RUclips I have ever clicked on. Life changing is an understatement. I cannot describe how I feel after doing this.

    • @NessaVibes2024
      @NessaVibes2024 4 года назад +9

      Def have the same thoughts, one of my new favorite videos of his. Put me in my place, for sure. I feel more capable.of compassion and understanding, and far less judgemrnt, bitterness and vengeance. He's helped me to understand the human condition and to look at the world thru the eys of others.

  • @aru2744
    @aru2744 4 года назад +197

    This guy is the best inexpensive yet super-effective therapy available online.. I love you, leo..

    • @SleightWryder
      @SleightWryder 3 года назад +4

      Oh no, there's price. It's just a more accessible 💲💵. We pay with our awareness.

    • @shefali567
      @shefali567 3 года назад +1

      @@SleightWryder care to elaborate?

    • @SleightWryder
      @SleightWryder 3 года назад +4

      @@shefali567 You've got to be ok with feeling the trauma and not using the hurt as an excuse to lash out. It also requires an absurd amount of courage to check yourself. You do and will act out biases learned through said trauma. See Aaron Abke's video on defense mechanisms and Teal Swan's video on parallel realities. Pairs up very well with Leo's thought experiment on you being the devil which he references here.

    • @SleightWryder
      @SleightWryder 3 года назад +2

      Also opportunity cost is a thing... First response to you was referring to the price of forgiveness which is very steep for one's ego.

    • @Seanthedon7
      @Seanthedon7 Год назад

      We love you too.

  • @LerenaHolloway
    @LerenaHolloway 4 года назад +129

    Wow, after this, I've mustered up enough courage to call my mom today whom I have struggled to have a good relationship with...this was a very powerful message on so many levels! Thank you, Leo!

    • @DashFilmsPaintingMore
      @DashFilmsPaintingMore 4 года назад +3

      Same here.

    • @eltontakam4174
      @eltontakam4174 4 года назад +2

      Hey Holloway lol

    • @eltontakam4174
      @eltontakam4174 4 года назад +2

      Add me on ig

    • @amb2952
      @amb2952 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/uxI61rB2N5g/видео.html

    • @thelegendkillersshittyduff1335
      @thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 4 года назад

      She should have called you shes your mom but of course shitty fucking humans are selfish and its always the other person that has to make the call. We need a genocide for uncompassionate pos humans.

  • @rashaalseleni6353
    @rashaalseleni6353 2 года назад +35

    I actually cried in every step. It’s hard. Too many people did too many things. Forgiving them makes me feel like I’ve failed myself when I know it’s the complete opposite.
    It’s not easy to forgive things that turn your life around and made your life a living hell every time.
    It needs courage and hopefully I’ll be up for it.

    • @Geo.T.
      @Geo.T. 7 месяцев назад

      @rashaalseleni6353
      It's going to be OK.
      You're going to be OK.
      Continue to heal and grow within yourself.
      Peace be with you

    • @wolfgang4468
      @wolfgang4468 6 месяцев назад +1

      I can absolutely empathize with you and subscribe to that.

  • @allysonedwards4792
    @allysonedwards4792 4 года назад +424

    The first person im going to forgive is MYSELF.

    • @tetruspetrus3775
      @tetruspetrus3775 4 года назад +17

      After only few minutes in contemplation I was able to forgive everyone. Or at least it started to appear like a realistic possibility to me. And it felt good.
      But when it comes to forgiving myself I completely shut down. This feels so far away for me.

    • @allysonedwards4792
      @allysonedwards4792 4 года назад +8

      @@tetruspetrus3775 agree its difficult bc of that constant undelying "hum" of negative self talk that sneaks out so often that we can be so unaware of (at least thats my excuse LOL) Peace and love to you my friend 🙏

    • @evian.
      @evian. 4 года назад +7

      Allyson Edwards
      The same way you forgive others the same way you forgive yourself. If you can explain other’s behaviour you can explain yours. Look, whatever you need to forgive yourself for, you are not the person who did it. Your level of consciousness is higher that’s why you think you need to forgive yourself. Love yourself instead. The more love you have for yourself the more you have for others.

    • @loganwolv3393
      @loganwolv3393 4 года назад

      Yeah it's hard to forgive others if you can't forgive yourself so.

    • @loganwolv3393
      @loganwolv3393 4 года назад

      @Alex Lambden Yeah,that's why Leo also said that you can't just say in your mind that you're gonna lie to others and not lie to yourself.Like yeah that makes sense in a non-dual perspective.

  • @realwillbee
    @realwillbee Год назад +8

    I won’t let unforgiveness rob me of any more time with those that I love! Thank you for this video. Truly life changing.

  • @audreygilsig6378
    @audreygilsig6378 4 года назад +30

    I have enjoyed many of your videos in the past but this one comes pretty close to perfection. I have been struggling with forgiving an ex for several months. As I began watching this video, I realized that I was not willing to let go of the anger and self-righteousness. As you began your talk, it was as if it was structured for me. After watching this video, I feel more self-aware, lighter, forgiving, as if a part of my anger has dropped away. You have an understanding of human nature that is impressive. This information is priceless. I have deep gratitude for you sharing it.

  • @archademy162
    @archademy162 Год назад +8

    This is the best video on forgiveness I have seen so far.. Nothing was working for me, I was so desperate to forgive so many people who wronged me.. HOW COULD THEY? these are the kind of questions I was stuck with and without realizing it I developed a pattern of being hateful and angry at everyone.. your understanding of human nature is truly awakening.. it has opened my mind towards forgiveness..and towards how the unconscious human being behaves.. thank you Leo.. you are doing very good work.. thank you...

  • @livingl6s
    @livingl6s 3 года назад +61

    9:14 for repeat customers doing the work and who know the preface.
    Phase 1 10:03 Feelings
    Phase 2 14:00 Do I want to forgive? What is forgiveness?
    Phase 3 22:18 The other persons POV, The 5 Key reasons they hurt you 🗝
    Phase 4 36:14 You did it too, so we're all human and it's not personal
    Phase 5 45:03 Are you ready to forgive (incl. yourself) and break the chain?
    1:03:10 Exentential level
    1:18:00 Note to women in abusive relationships
    1:21:21 Psychedelics

  • @papadoc3344
    @papadoc3344 4 года назад +13

    Forgiveness has not been a problem, but getting over the hurt from the betrayal is something that I am struggling with

    • @joeykoo3779
      @joeykoo3779 Год назад +2

      The thing about "betrayal" is that it is only in your head. Nobody betrayed you. Everybody is selfish, including yourself; even in a relationship, you and your partner are only in that relationship because you are both benefiting from it. If you stopped loving one another and became unhappy, you will want to leave or find someone to meet your desires. Open your eyes to the truth, maybe then you will be freed from this hurt of "betrayal".

  • @jm2389
    @jm2389 4 года назад +18

    I love how you didn't over-edit or jump cut. The silence has so much presence as well, it calms me.

  • @TRoducts
    @TRoducts 4 года назад +28

    I just bailed my eyes out doing this exercise. This is beyond powerful. I am so grateful for your wisdom, Leo.

  • @suzannel4407
    @suzannel4407 4 года назад +52

    I am moving on from a 17 year abusive relationship. It's been 4 years since I left. Lots of trauma and confusion and misery. Many of your videos and clear thought processes are the most valuable tools I have. Thank you.

    • @carl8568
      @carl8568 4 года назад +2

      Have you checked out Pia Melody?

  • @bernhardracher2510
    @bernhardracher2510 4 года назад +24

    I came up with a definition of love in my 20's: love is to give without expecting anything back. Thank you leo ❤

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  4 года назад +24

      That's in the right direction.
      But ultimately Love is EVERYTHING that is.

  • @doglover2269
    @doglover2269 Год назад +5

    I have found additional help in learning to forgive someone is to determine their personality type on the Ennegram. This tells you about what motivates them, their fears, how they think and operate in life. This has helped me understand why they did what they did that hurt me.
    Of course, in their state of consciousness, they felt like they made the right decision, while not owning up to their fears and immaturity.

  • @zakur0hako
    @zakur0hako 4 года назад +132

    i like how after very polarizing videos about 5-meo-dmt he came back with down to earth practical stuff

    • @glorykiller998
      @glorykiller998 4 года назад +10

      What we needed esp. Since this Dmt isnt readily available in these times lol

    • @amykoveyou7170
      @amykoveyou7170 4 года назад +1

      3d and 5d. We have to balance them here

    • @LittlePlant888
      @LittlePlant888 4 года назад

      I also realized this.

    • @15minuteenlightenment41
      @15minuteenlightenment41 4 года назад +12

      All of Leo's teachings are essentially practical...

    • @soullee1440
      @soullee1440 4 года назад +2

      I think 5meo contributed a lot of insights about love forgiveness and thankfulness

  • @tylerheiser6495
    @tylerheiser6495 4 года назад +10

    I just read something that really shook me. The brain doesn’t manufacture consciousness, it just tells it what’s going on.

    • @StompL7
      @StompL7 3 года назад

      I'm trying to decipher that phrase and i'm having a real hard time understanding this, it seems too abstract to me.

  • @now_im_here3661
    @now_im_here3661 4 года назад +87

    Forgivness is such a powerful tool... And a really high frequency. Excited for this one... Thanks for putting it out there

    • @vrilmaxxed
      @vrilmaxxed 4 года назад +1

      Bro I saw your comment last video😂

    • @vrilmaxxed
      @vrilmaxxed 4 года назад +2

      Brah I remember your other comments from other videos lol
      You said once something like : “doing 5 meo dmt you can transcend all human concepts” u even said that “infinity” or “god” are human concepts and eventually child’s play. U said that through 5 meo u can transcend all these concepts and go deep in the rabbit hole, which is deep AF.
      U also said that I already done dmt 9-10 times , but u said the first 10 times are still child’s play and you put an emphasis on how we don’t know anything etc.

    • @now_im_here3661
      @now_im_here3661 4 года назад +3

      @@vrilmaxxed lmao yup. Up to 13 breakthroughs now 💪

    • @Tangentbordsblues
      @Tangentbordsblues 2 года назад

      High frequency, exactly what is vibrating in high frequency? Your body?

  • @2times347
    @2times347 4 года назад +81

    I feel privileged to find leo..and that kind of knowledge spreading exists..

    • @amb2952
      @amb2952 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/uxI61rB2N5g/видео.html

    • @2times347
      @2times347 4 года назад +1

      Karan thank you..hope you’ll notice your comments come from low self esteem by yourself ❤️

    • @2times347
      @2times347 4 года назад +4

      Amberly Jane i saw that..and i feel sad for you ..you blindfolded believe a half ass research a teenage youtuber did🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @2times347
      @2times347 4 года назад +1

      Karan what do you mean serious..I simply replied..im a male

    • @2times347
      @2times347 4 года назад +1

      Karan yhea i got it..but tbh..i think you’re overrating your joke..cause i dont really care if it was or not..like..who are you..?no bad intention..

  • @ShaneCooley993
    @ShaneCooley993 2 года назад +7

    This may have been a final piece for me. I feel immediately ONE with the universe after this exercise. Absolutely incredible, my friend, Leo.

  • @tom_flame
    @tom_flame 3 года назад +4

    This is the most useful guide I've found. I was stuck in this loop where I was having negative thoughts every day about something heavy that happened to me this year. I can't thank you enough man, this is the best channel in the world!

  • @rebeccasnyder6719
    @rebeccasnyder6719 10 месяцев назад +2

    I believe I'll need to hear this often. Hearing this has made me humble and stronger in forgiving.

  • @vishnusharmamusic5166
    @vishnusharmamusic5166 4 года назад +19

    Leo.. u r love.
    I have been following your videos for almost 6 years by now..when i started watching your videos i was in class 11 and i was psychologically completely down..
    I was in a great depression, but as i watched your very first video"how to be yourself" i felt to begin my whole life started to change.
    Many a time, i felt like to say you thankyou through the comments n all, but my innervoice stopped me doing so just because i felt like just writing a comment cant b enough to say you thankyou.
    Brother, you deserve all the blessings of the world. I know I can just write a thankyou note, but you can never b thanked enough for making me learn 'how to live'.
    Keep up the great work
    From my side a very small effort to say you thanks.
    Love,
    From India🇮🇳

  • @lunaluvsya
    @lunaluvsya 2 года назад +4

    2 minutes in I'm struggling with believing this is possible. But I'm going to keep an open mind because I really need to find forgiveness

  • @vivek9chavan
    @vivek9chavan 4 года назад +147

    I forgive the rest of humanity for not listening to this man. 💚🙏🏼😌

    • @angelyeldellbey
      @angelyeldellbey 4 года назад +6

      For REAL. This Man Has The ANSWERS

    • @Kunal-gb5gp
      @Kunal-gb5gp 4 года назад

      So true 😁😂

    • @adhipnadkarni375
      @adhipnadkarni375 4 года назад

      Nice one!

    • @samadams84
      @samadams84 4 года назад +1

      I forgive you for saying that...no actually I don't

    • @amb2952
      @amb2952 4 года назад +1

      He is a drug cult leader... ruclips.net/video/uxI61rB2N5g/видео.html

  • @kianjodloski4221
    @kianjodloski4221 4 года назад +21

    Just turned 18. I have been watching you for four years. I wouldn’t be where I am now without you Leo. Thank you for all you do. Sending you love. :)

    • @truenorthaffirmations7049
      @truenorthaffirmations7049 4 года назад +1

      Always progressing 🔥

    • @Salman-Q
      @Salman-Q 4 года назад +4

      Been watching him since I was 15, I am 21 now (almost 22). My life would totally be different had I not stumbled upon this chanel, I also have changed many people's lives from the lessons I learnt!

    • @Imraan53
      @Imraan53 4 года назад

      HBD, enjoy your life.

    • @cherylruben5174
      @cherylruben5174 3 года назад +1

      @@Salman-Q Just read your comment and thought how lucky you are! I'll be 60 in September and spent almost 30 years keeping myself down, punishing myself for stuff that happened to me when I was a kid even though I know nothing was my fault.

  • @anise787
    @anise787 Год назад +4

    Couldn’t Thank You more for this! After 30 years of searching for this I can now be happy and love truly. Thank you Leo!

  • @VakmanCA
    @VakmanCA 4 года назад +105

    At the end, the only person you need to forgive is yourself.

  • @peekaxu4352
    @peekaxu4352 2 года назад +4

    this was a major confirmation in my life that i am on the right path to finding freedom and happiness....thank you 🙂🙂

  • @thevagabond4866
    @thevagabond4866 3 года назад +8

    I've been through this process of forgiveness for the last 5 years. It is so hard... but I came to forgive, to some extent, the people who hurt me. Not for them but for me. I needed to forgive . As Buddha said:" holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
    Thank you so much Leo for your valuable knowledge.

  • @MegaDimza
    @MegaDimza 4 года назад +17

    I actually cried at the ending the cycle, and it actually still feels powerful to realize that ability to forgive is possible.

  • @CB19087
    @CB19087 2 года назад +7

    Definitely took the sting out of the burn! Been grappling with morality and right and wrong, struggled to see why I should forgive... but this has definitely cleared up some of my misinterpretations. Thank you 🙏

  • @personaldevelopmentperspec4384
    @personaldevelopmentperspec4384 4 года назад +5

    We cannot give a thing to another which we do not first have for ourselves. Water, food, money, love, gratitude and forgiveness; if I do not have them, I cannot give them. Thank you Leo for reminding me of this.

  • @reachsuccessredlyrics4946
    @reachsuccessredlyrics4946 4 года назад +2

    I have followed ACTUALIZED.ORG for a long time and I can only say that this channel is AWSOME! This Actualized.org have inspired me to start my own channel, I have gotten great response on my videos and I get really happy every time I see that my channel has got a new subscriber

  • @jennygao826
    @jennygao826 4 года назад +47

    I recommend a book called “CPTSD from Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker”. I think before someone is truly ready for forgiveness (esp a lifelong history of being abused or severely traumatized by one’s family of origin/close relations), one might need to grieve first. It’s a very important step to first acknowledge how deeply you were abandoned. Also you could forgive but if they continue to abuse you due to unconsciousness you might have to set boundaries, you don’t have to put up with it anymore even if you choose to forgive them.

    • @SEsand86
      @SEsand86 4 года назад +6

      Yes, it's important to distinguish forgiving from enabling. And to decide when enough is enough. Moreover, forgiveness as not holding resentment is for ourselves and our own peace, despite what reasons others might have had to do or not do something that hurt us. Leo kind of gets to this after 1 hour and 18 minutes 😅 Blessings

    • @jennygao826
      @jennygao826 4 года назад +5

      Se.rena thanks yeah I did hear him talk about abusive relationships near the end there, I think it’s just less talked about when it’s your parents who are parasitic and manipulate you even after adulthood. Society has the “forgive your parents” attitude which isn’t just about forgiving but also to “get along” with them which can lead to more abuse. All Im saying is I guess if you still were to be in touch with such parents learning to set boundaries is so important.

    • @SEsand86
      @SEsand86 4 года назад

      @@jennygao826 I hear you, I feel that and I agree. Keep your center, protect and love yourself. Blessings

    • @saumitrsharma2816
      @saumitrsharma2816 4 года назад +1

      Exactly forgiveness Should be authentic , organic and should notbe forced.

    • @sylviamontero6030
      @sylviamontero6030 3 года назад

      That book changed me and helped me grief!!!

  • @iannmassoud
    @iannmassoud 4 года назад +4

    I opened to my parents a couple days ago about the bullying I experienced at school when I was younger. Talking helps if anyone out there is wondering but I'm going to see what Leo says about forgiveness. I'm actually so thankful that this was uploaded because the timing is perfect for me. Thanks, Leo, for helping us heal!

  • @perfectloveIAM
    @perfectloveIAM 4 года назад +9

    Thank you! This is beautifully inspired. Narcissistic relationships of any kind is not healthy to stay in. Love is leaving it.

  • @mandosarit
    @mandosarit 4 месяца назад

    Gold gold gold. Listened to this with eyes closed. Thank you Leo . Perhaps the best RUclips channel for self development. This is amazing to find this for free.

  • @SYW12345
    @SYW12345 3 года назад +4

    This exercise is amazing and really worked. After following this, I really feel like I’ve released childhood pain and have forgiven the person. Thank you so much.

  • @DavidMillerVideos
    @DavidMillerVideos 4 года назад +9

    Thank you so much Leo. The video distills healing down to its essence. During this exercise, I had the intuitive sense that my field of awareness was pure Love and that anything it touches is love. I know this is true because of previous awakenings, but I felt myself as love in a new, very tangible way. Thank you so much Leo. I love you and everyone reading 💜

  • @aru2744
    @aru2744 4 года назад +46

    Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they're doing..

    • @zain4019
      @zain4019 4 года назад +1

      Jesus

    • @775.-
      @775.- 4 года назад +5

      Jesus didn't say that , he actually said to god "Daddy , forgive those biatches, for they do not know what the fuck they doing"

    • @thunderrunner666
      @thunderrunner666 3 года назад

      Now I understand what he meant, let’s choose strength and break the cycle

  • @innerinsights224
    @innerinsights224 4 года назад +33

    I got my mother flowers for mothers day.. then contemplated whether i should actually give it to her or just throw them away. i went to wake her up and give it to her after crying all the way through this. Thanks once again, Leo.

    • @danielboomers
      @danielboomers 4 года назад +1

      so you killed a plant and gave this plant to someone to watch this plant die slowly and you call this LOVE? maybe its time to wake up ....

    • @kellidottridge2599
      @kellidottridge2599 4 года назад +4

      Sandro Love That’s harsh and very unkind!!!

    • @kellidottridge2599
      @kellidottridge2599 4 года назад +6

      Nice job Ethan! That’s a breakthrough for you both. ❤️

    • @danielboomers
      @danielboomers 4 года назад +1

      @@kellidottridge2599 this is reality my friend. a plant is used and killed to show love to another person? what fun does this other person gets to see a flower die? maybe you need to be locked down a little longer to wake up as well... thankx corona by the way... humans have still a long way to go so please stay here for a while...

    • @traumamom4338
      @traumamom4338 4 года назад

      @@kellidottridge2599 that person is trolling🤣

  • @rafaelhorvat446
    @rafaelhorvat446 4 года назад +7

    I went into forgiveness and even gratitude!
    I look forward for more content like this, I’ve waited a long time for this channel to get to this stage!

  • @drewsson
    @drewsson 4 года назад +57

    Forgiving yourself and others is a way to love yourself. Realize that people rationalize their behaviour based on past programming. They did what they thought was right with the information they have received in life so far, you are different. By forgiving you are also doing it for yourself as it is you who are carrying the negative emotional baggage of not forgiving, NOT THEM. 🌟🍀

    • @terriesmith8219
      @terriesmith8219 4 года назад +1

      Bingo!!🎯🎯
      You got it!! 👍👍

    • @claireelizabethcreates
      @claireelizabethcreates 4 года назад

      Wow yes.. powerful information, thank you 🙏🏻

    • @fezan173
      @fezan173 4 года назад +3

      Not every action is forgivable mind that..

    • @jeffthomas905
      @jeffthomas905 4 года назад +3

      @@fezan173 It is possible to forgive every action. However, some are more difficult than others.

    • @muthu189
      @muthu189 4 года назад

      Very well said

  • @darvidtorres
    @darvidtorres 4 года назад +3

    This video just changed my life.

  • @nerad1994
    @nerad1994 4 года назад +2

    There is nothing quite like this channel, it is quite special and extremely unique in its depth.

  • @Angel-yq8jd
    @Angel-yq8jd 3 года назад +16

    "Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us."

  • @Ed-vi8lj
    @Ed-vi8lj 10 месяцев назад +1

    I realize I am unconscious of my selfishness. This was extremely helpful.

  • @n8g496
    @n8g496 3 года назад +4

    This one saved me. From the bottom of my heart - thank you!

  • @TheJellyinmybelly
    @TheJellyinmybelly 4 года назад +3

    When you got to the point where we had to forgive ourselves....I don't think I have cried that hard my whole life. Such hell to go through but so beautiful at the same time.

  • @litao3679
    @litao3679 4 года назад +2

    Yes Leo, I am willing to forgive, to understand, to sympathize, to love the people that have hurt me. They knew no better, so I must forgive. Thank you Leo, for such a beautiful mother's day present 💛🙏

  • @BOO512
    @BOO512 4 года назад +53

    Crazy cuz I broke down yesterday over my narc ex even tho I’m almost 2yrs narc free/no contact...like wtf... like a mourning, self pity, sad hard cry after watching how Stella got her groove back. Then u post this ... crazy

    • @JanniferStoddard
      @JanniferStoddard 4 года назад +2

      I've been no contact with my narc ex only a few months and was struggling so bad and then this video came along to help me.

    • @BananaBabys
      @BananaBabys 4 года назад

      I’m a narc and I approve this message 👍🏽

    • @michaelwatkins6511
      @michaelwatkins6511 4 года назад +3

      @OG LocIt may be used loosely but if ur in an a intimate relationship with one u fucking know 100 percent if they are one because all narcassists tend to do the same type of shit and theyre soooooooooooooooooooooooooooootoxic.

    • @BOO512
      @BOO512 4 года назад +4

      OG Loc ur defensive because ur probably a narc. A covert Narcissist is a personality disorder with distinct characteristics.

    • @BOO512
      @BOO512 4 года назад

      Karan and what do u deserve

  • @citreonz
    @citreonz 4 года назад +1

    Thank you leo. I've been watching for years, and I've never commented, but today was the day. Thank you for trying. Thanks for connecting. I'll continue to watch, and learn, and live. Peace brother

  • @niclas8117
    @niclas8117 4 года назад +3

    Path of forgivness is path to bliss. Healing of the heart, body and spirit. It did for me.

  • @Game_Wizard
    @Game_Wizard 4 года назад +2

    Thanks leo for all the great content. I've been on and off watching your videos for the last 5 years. Your videos have really helped me to not be a victim of life and to try my best to be all loving in as many situations I can. I'm grateful you opened my mind to what's really happening in reality.

  • @jessesanchez6887
    @jessesanchez6887 4 года назад +16

    Leo, if you’re reading this: Do a video on What The Point of Suffering
    I think it’s an idea everyone is stumped on

    • @CJ2K
      @CJ2K 4 года назад +2

      suffering is actually not something we are supposed to going through, the reason we suffer is because we see it from the perspective of it being horrible and bad when you have a choice where you can see nothing but bliss

    • @Karina_Engr
      @Karina_Engr 3 года назад

      Something motivational speaker mention all the time is when we suffer that's when we grow. That's a good explinatuon for the average person. You're most like shifting out of average in some way. I believe Leo has a video on resistance and detachment. Suffering is something we create. If we let go and practice detachment, what is meant for us will be.
      I had the most pleasant letgo from a job and it was beautiful. I wasn't attaching it to my identity, I understood business (no revenue = budget cuts, and thus had nothing to do with me) and I know my worth outside of this company. Practicinf detachment is easier said then done though because, as of this writing, I'm attached to love and relationships, so I'm being single until I heal that part of myself. I've made peace that I can die alone and single and that's ok. Beautiful people die all the time, it's a lesson in this earth school. #WGTOW #healing #BeTheChange

  • @brooketurner477
    @brooketurner477 4 года назад +1

    Thank you. Something I knew bothered me, but never really addressed brought me to tears as I began to see the truth. It's easy to skip yourself on the path to God. Thank you.

  • @arlenes6676
    @arlenes6676 4 года назад +13

    Leo ironically blessing us with this video on mothers day

    • @amb2952
      @amb2952 4 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/uxI61rB2N5g/видео.html

  • @gykg3202
    @gykg3202 7 месяцев назад +1

    “Do you want to be big or small?” Thank you!

  • @ZollerSimpson
    @ZollerSimpson 2 года назад +4

    Five reasons why someone hurt you:
    1. They hurt you out of ignorance.
    2. They were weak in that moment and succumbed to some kind of fear.
    3. They did it out of selfishness.
    4. They did it out of a desperate desire for love, because they lack love.
    5. They did it out of a lack of consciousness.

    • @joeykoo3779
      @joeykoo3779 Год назад

      how do you explain someone who decided to hurt you tenfold because they thought you owed them/ did something to purposely hurt them, when you didn't?

  • @carconvoswithmani2515
    @carconvoswithmani2515 4 года назад +1

    one of the best videos i have ever watched and has changed my life along with the 'not caring about what others think video'

  • @jytwinsasmr5569
    @jytwinsasmr5569 4 года назад +5

    Who else watch till the end without skipping? 🙋‍♀️ 🙋‍♂️ 🙋‍♀️ 🙋‍♂️ 🙋‍♀️ 🙋‍♂️
    Mostly everything Leo said is so true and always sync with what I think
    Thanks for sharing all these knowledge and let me to be a better person 😊

  • @niksplace5077
    @niksplace5077 4 года назад +1

    Thank you, once again, Leo. I've been struggling with forgive somebody very close to me, but after this exercise I feel so full of love and completely healed. When I saw this video pop up on the home page, I got very excited knowing it would be like the missing piece of this puzzle I've been suffering with for months now. Thank you for helping me forgive this person and myself. I'll undoubtedly be revisiting this one in the future. You're videos have provided me with such incredible and profound insights into the nature of reality for a little over a year now, the work you are doing in engaging humanity at this critical juncture in time is so important and I cannot thank you enough for your love.

  • @MichaelDeRusso
    @MichaelDeRusso 3 года назад +3

    This is a very powerful exercise for mankind's future. Peace and Love !

  • @NFSMAN50
    @NFSMAN50 3 года назад +1

    This video was so powerful, thank you my friend Leo. I feel like it's stupid and dumb just to have anger at someone who hurt you back in 2013, 2019 etc, when it such a long time ago, but my brain randomly brings it up as a protective defense mechanism. You are right, the people who offended me are not evil people, just very ignorant people who came from gritty grimey rough rugged backgrounds, grew up in rough gang neighborhoods in the inner city of Chicago, and they never experienced true love, and have known people who have been to jail, life ended, homeless, so they have that PTSD and trauma. Me, grew up in a privileged life, had 2 parents, had a normal upbringing etc. I had the education to find videos like this, not have to live in a dangerous neighborhood, single parents.
    Same with my Parents, grew up in a rough rugged upbringing, didn't have the same things I did.
    Thank you for this.

  • @ahakangard
    @ahakangard 4 года назад +3

    Thank You, Leo
    Just worked through some difficult events involving my mother, with the aid of this video. 🙏

  • @Vlad2005
    @Vlad2005 Год назад

    this actually made me really cry, it made me release and accept so many things about my life, so i thank you, Leo

  • @charleschaffanjon8864
    @charleschaffanjon8864 4 года назад +15

    NOTES / (The video is an exercice, notes can't be a substitute to it)
    The pillars of forgiveness :
    1/ Realize that all “evil” human actions stem from
    -Fear and Weakness
    -A desperate desire to be loved
    -Selfishness
    -Ignorance
    -Lack of consciousness.
    2/ Those people are different from you : they will act differently. They were raised differently, maybe they carry much trauma, have different values
    3/ YOU DO THE SAME ALL THE TIME. So the first step is indeed to forgive yourself !
    “Bring to mind all the times in your life where you acted out of ignorance, weakness, selfishness, unconsciousness and a need for love”. Draw the commonality between this person and yourself. These are universal dynamics of human behavior.
    Realize that you almost never intentionally hurt others, but that you sometimes do. We’re all struggling for love.
    The highest strength that you can possess is to be hurt by somebody and not need to retaliate.
    4/ Most of the time, when somebody hurt you, it is because he was hurt by somebody else before. It’s a chain of hurt.
    => “Are you strong enough to be willing to break this chain of hurt ?” or “Are you gonna be a link in this chain and pass it to somebody else ?” CUT THE CHAIN , RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW.
    5/ Everybody has to figure out how life works : you start from total ignorance. But life is complex and counter intuitive. It takes trial and error to correct your ignorance. So, “Are you going to judge yourself and others for being born out of ignorance ? ”. Mistakes are part of life.
    Forgiving that is like “Forgiving gravity” : it’s just a force of nature.
    DEEPER VERSION : (if you have experienced NON-DUALITY)
    1/ The boundary between Self and Others is not real. The person that you resent is literally YOU.
    2/ Reality, Self and God are completely inevitable : there is no other way that it could be. This situation was PERFECT. It was necessary for your awakening ( like every single detail of your life).
    3/ There is absolutely nothing to forgive because everything that ever happened to you was love. At this point, you have accepted yourself totally. And you’re completely healed.
    You will have to do this exercise multiple times. You don’t have to go through all the steps. You simply have to DRAW A COMMONALITY between the one who hurt you and you who got hurt.
    Practice this on multiple individuals.
    The degree of unconsciousness and ignorance of your father and your mother determines how traumatic your childhood was. But the deeper your lessons will be. Yes it was terrible, but if you’re able to overcome it, you’ll be extremely powerful.
    You have more people to forgive than you think. Try to write down all of those that are worth forgiving. Scan your Childhood, Scan your teenage years. Make the investment of forgiving those people now (it won’t take you forever) : it’s gonna free up your life going forward. It will improve all your relationships and make you more loving.
    Notice the power of understanding. A proper understanding of a situation removes all the emotional baggage that was there. This practice is simply based on understanding. And Complete Understanding entails Complete Heal.
    If you think life is terrible, it is simply because you don’t have a high level understanding of reality.
    WARNING : Be careful not to use this technique to tolerate people who are abusing you right now.
    You being loving doesn’t mean that you have to be a slave. Leaving a toxic relationship is love !

    • @zion367
      @zion367 3 года назад +2

      Thank you so much for the effort you made to note all this in a nutshell💖🙏

  • @federeeco3198
    @federeeco3198 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks Leo for this… and thanks me for having found you !
    Everything is LOVE

  • @migdaliamarrero
    @migdaliamarrero 4 года назад +3

    Thank you!!! I’ve been struggling to forgive my husband. Thank you, I’m ready to forgive.

  • @x_z0mb1_x
    @x_z0mb1_x 4 года назад

    Thank you for this Leo I called my father tonight because of this and he wasn't even the one I did the exercise thinking about. I appreciate everything I have learned from you and your channel . You are a true inspiration please keep things coming for all of us. We need more people like you in this world.

  • @MrZega000
    @MrZega000 4 года назад +3

    Lessons in forgiveness keep coming back to me. The universe is telling me something.

  • @alyssapuletz4274
    @alyssapuletz4274 6 месяцев назад

    So much of what you say brings me to tiny tears I really appreciate the work you do. Thank you

  • @AboodCohen
    @AboodCohen 4 года назад +29

    "I forgive but I will never forget" is just another way of saying "I will never forgive"

    • @adamruzenec-freerunning9838
      @adamruzenec-freerunning9838 4 года назад +9

      This is not the same thing, forgiving doesnt mean becoming doormat. You forgive, but that certain thing you are forgiving, still have consequences, but the difference is, when you forgive, then you treat the person with love and understanding.

    • @AvanzadaDental
      @AvanzadaDental 4 года назад +6

      If you forget that fire can burn you, It will do It again. To forgive is not to erase what happened, but to learn from It and keep the knowledge, not the feelings.

    • @jeffthomas905
      @jeffthomas905 4 года назад +3

      Fortunately, they are not the same. You can forgive and still recall the experience. However, it will no longer have power over you.

    • @AboodCohen
      @AboodCohen 4 года назад

      @@adamruzenec-freerunning9838 sure,that's the right forgetting then.

  • @JanniferStoddard
    @JanniferStoddard 4 года назад +2

    Love and appreciate you so much Leo. You are truly changing the world. Don't heed any haters for they know not what they do.

    • @JanniferStoddard
      @JanniferStoddard 4 года назад

      @-mia Back when Google+ was upstarting and I was into online marketing, I gave Google my personal identification information which proves I am using my real name and then my account was verified.

  • @claireelizabethcreates
    @claireelizabethcreates 4 года назад +5

    Every action taken in this universe is done with a positive intention behind it.
    People only do 'bad' things because they think it will make them feel better.
    Understanding this allows us to practice forgiveness and have empathy towards others 🙏🏻❤️✨

    • @fezan173
      @fezan173 4 года назад +1

      Evil deeds make you feel good only when you have guts to do

    • @stevenewsom3269
      @stevenewsom3269 4 года назад +1

      Hanlon's law. Dont mistake incompetence for malice.

    • @claireelizabethcreates
      @claireelizabethcreates 4 года назад

      @@samved8099 yes absolutely.. 'good' and 'bad' are simply mental labels we attach to things

  • @joshuamihok1651
    @joshuamihok1651 4 года назад +1

    When I first saw this video, I was hesitant to go through what seemed to be a long process for what seemed to me to be an uncertain outcome. I had resistance for about a day. But, this was more powerful than I thought, more profound than I thought, and totally worth the work. Thank you once again, Leo.

  • @bananeneter999
    @bananeneter999 4 года назад +6

    Leo, thank you so much for more practical videos again. They're much appreciated ⭐.

  • @jewelnavarrete3829
    @jewelnavarrete3829 4 года назад +2

    This video was so helpful for me to finally understand how to forgive this person and myself. I feel so much better now. Blessings to you always

  • @nickmakris2971
    @nickmakris2971 4 года назад +6

    There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

  • @litao3679
    @litao3679 4 года назад +2

    But now you get to the part about me forgiving myself. That's so much harder than forgiving others, and seeing through the eyes of compassion towards my beautiful Soul Sisters and Brothers.

    • @imhypers
      @imhypers 4 года назад

      So you deserve to suffer, is that what you're saying? As in, what would your life be like if you didn't have this negative view towards yourself?

    • @litao3679
      @litao3679 4 года назад

      @@imhypers I don't know how my life would be, because I've been hard on myself , I would say all my life. I don't expect you, or anyone else to understand, or to even sympathize. But I can imagine that it would be very peaceful accepting myself. I'm trying to integrate a spiritual practice, so I can learn to love and accept myself exactly how I am. That's all I can do. Sorry if it doesn't make sense to you, but it would be understandable.

  • @pkennett72
    @pkennett72 4 года назад +6

    Thank you Leo. Once again a life changing video. Appreciate your work.
    I am struggling hard with procrastination, can you please make an advanced video on this topic please . Thanks

    • @CruzWithMe
      @CruzWithMe 4 года назад

      prince kennett I struggle a lot too

    • @cherylruben5174
      @cherylruben5174 3 года назад

      @@CruzWithMe me too...any ideas?

    • @Karina_Engr
      @Karina_Engr 3 года назад

      He has a video on procrastination, how to stop backsliding, and how not to be the victim. I recommend those videos. I hope comment helps.

    • @pkennett72
      @pkennett72 3 года назад

      @@Karina_Engr
      Thank you so much. Appreciate your reply.

  • @vickimoore871
    @vickimoore871 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Leo. Love this video helped me tremendously.
    Feeling confused and lost my whole life you have help me makes sense of this confusing world and myself. No words can describe the appreciation and gratitude I have for you. You're an amazing man and I love your beautiful mind. I wish I could give you a hug in person but since I can't, sending hugs and love from a distance ❤️

  • @aaronbravo6381
    @aaronbravo6381 4 года назад +5

    Bro Leo is pioneer in his time trust

  • @controversykeyes227
    @controversykeyes227 3 года назад

    I have never needed to learn anything more than I needed to learn this. Mind BLOWN.

  • @5sctid
    @5sctid 4 года назад +6

    Perfect timing as usual!! Thanks Leo 🙌

  • @rkchauhan4541
    @rkchauhan4541 4 года назад +2

    This channel is goldmine

  • @klewis9152
    @klewis9152 4 года назад +12

    You helped me at my lowest point a few years ago ❤️ I’ll do this

    • @MikeJackson690
      @MikeJackson690 4 года назад +1

      Same here. It sounds corny, but Leo was there for me last year when I was really struggling to want to live. This year hasn't been easy so far, but I have learnt so much about life and behaviours since discovering this channel. We are lucky to have this sort of support when we need it.

    • @klewis9152
      @klewis9152 4 года назад +1

      General Waste I was having similar thoughts and I wholeheartedly agree

  • @happylatina9920
    @happylatina9920 4 года назад +1

    POWERFUL! have listened twice and will play it weekly.

  • @ismaelmarksteiner
    @ismaelmarksteiner 8 месяцев назад +3

    “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
    ~ Lewis B. Smedes

  • @joshtheegotist
    @joshtheegotist 4 года назад +2

    Leo is just freaking Godtier at this point. Forgiveness is so, so, so essential, I need charts to explain it.

  • @New_Talent
    @New_Talent 4 года назад +5

    Dear Leo, please make sure to have a safe backup to your videos. Many high rising consciousness channels and profiles in Instagram, fb, etc., are being taken down these days; and the reasons are obvious: they don’t want us to awake.

  • @MaeBelleArt
    @MaeBelleArt 3 года назад +2

    I forgive people so many that i beleive is good and healthy for me .♥️♥️

    • @trendingviral474
      @trendingviral474 3 года назад +1

      That true cause it easy then to move forward.

  • @sujata_155
    @sujata_155 4 года назад +4

    I cried while doing this meditation and I forgave my mother and also forgave myself. I am gonna do it on other traumatic events that happened in my life because this exercise is so helpful. Thank you so much Leo ❤️

  • @priyanshiSharma21
    @priyanshiSharma21 4 года назад

    I dont remember when was the last time i felt so light hearted.
    Thankyou

  • @RaffaellaIT
    @RaffaellaIT 4 года назад +6

    Leo, could you explain the difference between forgiveness, forgetting and condoning? Suppose you have forgiven someone and that someone continues his/her behaviour next time you have to meet him/her. How can you forgive someone you still have to relate to or deal with?

    • @andrewfox3327
      @andrewfox3327 4 года назад +5

      You can forgive someone for their low-consciousness failings .. And Also consciously refuse to accept that same treatment going forward by telling them that you've made the decision that you simply can't accept it from them any longer. Set the boundary(s) and inform them if/when they are starting to cross the boundary(s). Hopefully they pull back a bit at that point and become more civil with you. But If they keep going then there must be negative consequences for them and you must tell them what those consequences will be (when you tell them of the new boundarys, i.e. right from the outset). You must enforce the consequences if they keep on unreasonably crossing your boundaries. Consequences can be e.g. to go Low Contact with them or to go No Contact with them. Or you can decide on something else- whatever you think will be appropriate negative consequences for them.. Setting boundaries and enforcing them will be challenging .. Stay firm! Stay Strong! You Can do it and you Will do it- for yourself, because you are most definitely worth it!
      Namaste, Raffaella 🙏

  • @endlessadventure541
    @endlessadventure541 2 года назад +1

    Most of this discourse is very intuitive and I already understood. I am not a vengeful person. I always forgive. What I am glad you mentioned, though, is the part about cutting ties. Most of the abusers in my life never change, and they just keep on hurting. One has to know when enough is enough and walk away. I do wish you would have talked about how to communicate your hurt to the abuser to see if you can help them see what they are doing and thus salvage the relationship.

    • @joeykoo3779
      @joeykoo3779 Год назад

      do you track those abusers for the rest of their lives to know that they never change and kept on hurting?

  • @truenorthaffirmations7049
    @truenorthaffirmations7049 4 года назад +5

    We let go of self and walk into truth, higher levels of truth, higher levels of freedom...big love from another youtuber 🤘🔥❤🤘🔥

  • @AmjadX
    @AmjadX 4 года назад +2

    Big Large THANK For your LOVE Leo you make me so happy and wise more, And From NOW, And I AM Full Choose That Choice, I will forgive EVERYTHING.

  • @ravempowers
    @ravempowers 4 года назад +9

    The meditation starts at 07:25